@@willbournerv2259 My parents have been supportive so far, but my mom did ask how I know because she didn't see signs. And I had to explain I had a lot of thoughts and feelings I never talked to then about. Mine was mostly internal while externally I felt afraid, like I had to try to be what everyone else around me was.
Hope all is well....you seemed a bit upset. I just wanted say thank you...why you ask?? Watching your videos helped me be more accepting of my coworker who is transgender. I was once a biased hater but since I've watched your videos. My eyes and heart are wide open. She is truly one of many coworkers I hold dear to my heart. And you, sweet Maya, I love you for your beauty, your strength, your❤, for being real. Love you😘.
For me it was Gigi gorgeous who made me realize I am trans . My whole teenage years being confused of who I am and a good part of my 20s . Luckily now I don't feel that same confusion. Still have alot of dysphoria days but I'm not even a year into my journey yet so hopefully that will become less and less as the years roll by. I love these videos because I don't know any other trans women in my RL so hearing other women talk about their experiences is nice . Don't feel so alone in the world . It's nice to relate . Your awesome Maya 💛🧡
Thank you so much, you validate how I feel every day, I just don't want to be in a man's body any more. I've always wanted to be a woman and I always felt like a woman my whole life. I've been considering bottom surgery ❤🥰💃❤
Thankyou so much.. I have gone through stuff for decades feeling in the wrong body etc, and in 2014 I was chastised for it so I shrunk back into a cocoon. My best friend told me I'm transgender maybe a year ago but because it didn't fit exactly what I felt in 2014 I ignored it. But I need to embrace this now. At 47, I only have half my life left and it's a waste to lose the chance to be me. BUT, while I don't care what people think, my experiences make me cautious. What is sharing too much? Etc. I was encouraged to change gender on social media and I was unsure but to tell the truth I'm glad it was done
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭you look so beautiful , no one in the earth would say that you are trans without knowing it you look like a women more than any biological women
Hey gorgeous looking fresh as always. I watch you're video because you are very strong person and that inspire me a lot but I'm not trans or anything lol I just love how you express you're life and experience with such confidence also you're helping so many people like you and that's a good thing...keep it up girl, you are doing a good work.
I have only recently been coming to terms with what I have felt for so long but didn't realize there was a word for it. I identify with Androgyny and being Androgynous. I am still trying to figure out how to express it outwardly but, I at least have something now. I stumbled upon your videos when I was looking up videos about others who identify with Androgyny and while that isn't the case for you, I still find you and your story very compelling and really interesting.
Such a clear cut explanation 🥰 we need less labels and more freedom of expression of self whether feminine or masculine whether you are biological male or female.
Hey love I'm trans and quite binary so I totally get what you're saying, but I also have two AFAB NB friends that get dysphoria to the point they've had top surgery and a hysterectomies and could never fathom being pregnant. Contrapoints got a lot of flak for her non-binary video so brace yourself and I hope the mob is understanding - love you sis! You were my Kim Petras moment btw!
Yeah I felt a bit uncomfortable there :/ not wanting to cancel anyone but I'm not relating to the feeling seen thing that everyone is talking about in the comments...
I was 18 when I moved from Scotland to Blackpool in England and wow because Blackpool at this time was big on the gay screen. I've always been attracted to TV's and transgender. But being so young and my family would have never expected me. Been hiding it for years. Xxxx. Am so proud of you.
You are a great speaker, with great articulation and command of your discussion. I really appreciate this talks as a middle age man, I find that I want to learn more, judge less, understand more and accept those that are part of the whole ecosystem we call humanity. Cheers.
I am non-binary and transgender. We exist, and it’s not any more strange than being binary and trans. I’m terrified to say so because of the tendency of truly awful people to have strong opinions about who is and isn’t valid. It’s okay if it doesn’t make sense to you, but it’s definitely not okay to decide that other people’s experience of being transgender isn’t valid because it is different to yours or what you expect. I’ve got some things to say about dysphoria, but I’ve already got enough of my blood in the water and I’m not looking to invite any more abuse than what I’m already braced for.
Good thoughts, please keep them coming. As a nonbinary trans woman on hormone therapy, I'll say you make an interesting point about nonbinary vs. trans and I acknowledge its validity... some of the time. There are those like myself who are a little of column A, a little of column B (if we're honest isn't that all of us?) but leaning strongly toward the column B. That said, disclaimer: please DO NOT start hormone therapy unless you're serious, have been feeling this way for a while (I'd say five years is bare minimum here) and are fully prepared for the consequences, both physiologically and socially. It was not an easy decision to make, and certainly one I wish I'd made in the first few decades of my life, but other than that I have no regrets.
As a member of Gen X there weren't many options and my gender dysphoria didn't even have a name. I was a 'tomboy' whose mother tried to get me to wear makeup and heels and criticized my looks at every opportunity. I hated makeup and felt like a circus clown with even a small bit of blusher and lipstick. I wasn't into jewelry or fashion. But I tried to fit in, I tried so hard and I was frickin' miserable. Didn't know what was 'wrong' with me. I couldn't even get pregnant. It's like my whole body rejected every aspect of femininity right down to having babies. Few years ago I finally realized I'm agender. I came out on fb and everyone was so supportive, a lot of people weren't even surprised. I got some backlash from new wave feminists who said I was opting out of gender based oppression but, meh. You can't fight who you are. I don't have a gender so I'm not opting in or out of anything. I'm so much more comfortable knowing I don't have to confirm one way or the other. I'm so proud of Millennials and Gen Z who fight for their personal right to identify as their authentic selves. 👏
I’ll never forget being about a 9-11 year old child in the grocery store in Pittsburgh, that I saw a mother pushing a small boy in a shopping cart. He said “mom, I want to be a girl!” His mother replied, “you’ll never be a girl. Your a boy.” And the boy was so upset and said “but why? I wanna be a girl!!” I thought the conversation was odd and it always stuck out in my mind. This would have been in about 1995-1997, so these types of things weren’t discussed as openly or widely accepted as they are today.
I tried living with my birth sex, it damn near killed me. Im arriving late to my transition. My biggest regret is not doing it sooner. I knew I was different, didn't exactly know what transgender was at age 6 when I said I wanted to grow up and be a girl. I didn't realize it til I was 15 and knew that I wasn't in the right gender body. I always hoped I'd grow up and be a mommy. When my body changed to the opposite of that, I was too ashamed of being in crowds and around other people. Everytime I looked in the mirror, I cried because I wasn't dead. I didn't want to live anymore, I turned to drugs and tried to pretend transgender wasn't a real thing and I wasn't. The more I told myself that and the more drugs I took, I couldn't lie to myself anymore. It didn't work anymore. I came to the realization and tried looking for ways to transition on my own. My boobs grew but the hair didn't go away. I started researching and found FOLX HEALTH. Most of my youth past me by and at 38, I started the process with Estradiol and Spironolactone. Im up to a b cup and my hair hasn't totally gone but it's slowing down from the usual overnight beard. I got the diagnosis of gender dysphoria, im in the process of my WPATH letter then im going for the bottom surgery. My boobs are growing but really slow. They might do the breast augmentation at the same time. Im getting close to the body I should have already had. The envy for women who didn't have to try and was born with it still gets me but I'm working on it
I need to see a therapist. It might just be DID (dissociative identity disorder) and a female alter, but I feel that I’m wrong in this body. Normal people don’t have these feelings. They might feel that they need to lose weight, but this is different. I feel wrong and isolated. I would never trust my family with this information as they wouldn’t understand it at all, maybe even kick me out (to be fair, I should get out on my own anyway). I’m a mess. I’m glad you were able to find your true self and was able to attain that. I wouldn’t pass, so I’ll probably just suffer in silence.
@@hq4287 There’s been quite a lot of character growth since the post I made. I don’t think it’s DID anymore. I see why I was so confused. I couldn’t believe that I could be experiencing gender dysphoria. It was impossible for me to see, so I came up with the only logical explanation. Anyway, I know I’m a trans girl. I don’t have any immediate plans to transition, but at least I know who I am.
Sometimes you don't feel dysphoria. As a child I felt no dysphoria about my gender, I just wanted more. As an adult dysphoria has been a problem, because the inability to pass makes me very dysphoric.
You are either a a banana or a squash. Sticking a squash In a banana peel does not make it a banana. Coloring the banana a color doesn’t make it squash. Injecting the banana with squash juice does not make it a squash
I’m non-binary Ever since I was younger,I didn’t really act all girly,I would hang out with the boys and do sports,I was always a tomboy,I would play family and I wanted to be the brother or father,and I tried to act girly and look girly,I did cheer I started feeling awkward but never knew what gender dysphoria was I started using nicknames and I have always liked role playing,and I would act as the boy characters I thought I was just gay But then I researched transgender and I thought I was trans but then I asked myself “do I want to be a boy” And I thought “idk what I want but I don’t want to be a “girl” or a “boy” I kinda just want to be me And then I figured out that I was non-binary and I have dysphoria and I’m often uncomfortable I also have homophobic and transphobic parents...so I can’t tell them
Hi Jessie... Please tell everything to your family and be yourself, Don't be scared about something you don't know about, you don't know how they going to react, This kind of thing and thoughts can destroy your life. Be yourself please and don't think about anyone. Remember, this is your life, not anyone else. I hope you find your way.
Itz_sunrise .Jessie Take your time, friend.💜. Keep reading and talking to others, and be-ing. Who you are will become clearer to you day by day...write...draw...dance...sing...dance...climb a tree...pick a flower... Deeply BE... You will find yourself in there. Right there. Right there. 💫
Since I was four I knew my body was wrong, and I was so jealous of the girls around me. I'm 40ish now and just accepting that I am and always have been a transgender woman. I still have lots of hard things to come (coming out will cost me dearly) but I was dying inside with my dysphoria and living a false life. It is a long process to get my full surgery and still waiting to get into a GODD Dr who helped my friend transition. If you are SURE I encourage anyone reading to start steps towards your transition. As she said it takes years most places, and if you are like me with a "ceiling" on your happiness every day counts.
Everything you said makes sense to me, I've felt like this my whole life but buried it away. But it truly never goes away and it's killing me inside. I fear it's too late for me as I now am married with a kid.
HOLY CRAP I've never seen a video where the person talks about not recognising yourself in the mirror before! I always watch these videos when I'm questioning and I hear people say they hated their bodies when I don't - I just don't see it as mine
Man that is tough! It is already hard to be insecure for being too short or too tall, too fat or too skinny and have to deal with all of that! Crap!!! Tough life! Just saw that an actress came out as transgender and wanted to understand more about it!
@@Mayavhenry and yet your newest comment is, _rn,_ or 2 weeks ago, or last month, etc. Looks like you not only have "skeletons in your closet" views that you had just decided not to back down from when responding, but ya lost a potential subscriber and the views that would have come with it (plus all who didn't voice). Maybe don't work against yourself and your community.
As a non binary person, and I can only speak for myself, I have never wondered if I am transgender or thought I was in a similar space of those that are transgender 🤟🤟
Hi Maya. I am a hetero cisgender male. I had become friends with a person I met through my hobby who claimed to be transgender. At first I was very impressed with how this person presented as female. I was so impressed that at one point I had asked her to be a spokes person for my You Tube channel. As time went on I did some research and found that this person had 4 other fictitious identities, along with his own. In one identity claiming to be a cross dressing gay guy looking for action. This identity has a Twitter account that is directly tied to a gay porn site. It is people like that that make life hard for people like you who are legitimately trans and have done a fantastic job of becoming the person you should be. Good luck, be safe and keep being you, thanks Paul
I currently identify as transgender and non binary, I personally think non binary people are under the umbrella term of transgender, since the gender that was assigned to us at birth is not the one we are inside, I will only talk about my personal journey, but I surely experience gender dysphoria and im going to start HRT hopefully soon. I very much relate to other trans people and their struggles so I identify under the same term as them, I hope it helps to start a conversation or to make you see my personal point of view. Other than that I loved this video and it was very much very close to home, thanks for sharing your personal story to help us.
interesting that you omitted therapy (in this discussion) - I really feel everyone could benefit from therapy. Also I find it interesting that people assume that hormones are “easy” to get. Birth control pills maybe; but testosterone and estrogen? last I checked were not over the counter.
Wow... I may have different experiences from you but what you said makes a lot of sense but doesn't apply to me, despite me thinking I'm trans. I guess I need a lot more time to think about it.
Thanks. For me I was afraid of saying anything because of what has happened to others and how people like us was treated. Now the world is a little more understanding to a point. But those fears are still there and I have a problem with people looking at me. I know most of them aren't looking but my brain feels they are and it makes me ashamed to be seen. I try to stay covered as much as possible at all times. And going to the pool I really hate. I like small streams and places like that because many people aren't always there and I can have one what ever I want. I have spent most my life with a don't touch me attitude, glaring at people that give me dirty looks. I'm so tired of holding on to this hatred and anger. I like this mask policy now. It's a bit easier to go out. No one really pays attention because everyone else is wearing a mask. But it's still just a mask. I can't help but laugh when someone calls me ma'am. I can't exactly scream yes in their faces lol. As much as I'd like to it would be rude. Good luck and have fun.
I have always thought I should have been born a girl. Growing up I was well rounded. More girls as friends than guys. Still had that feeling wrong sex. As I grew older I kind of shelved that thought, married raised a family but still have that feeling. Thank you for your UA-cam post.
5:20 - 6:40 I think you're simply having the wrong idea about nonbinary folks. It's not just "having gender-nonconforming style", but we too experience mental, physical and social gender dysphoria when misgendered. It's a common misconception that we're just "tomboys and flamboyant guys and androgynous/alternative style people". And I can even understand that misconception, since the expression is the only thing that is visible about us to people, they don't see inside our heads. This all said, I do think that binary and nonbinary trans are two different things. This is only my personal observation based at online discussions, but especially when it comes to physical gender dysphoria, it seems to be more intense for the binary trans people, sometimes to the point of danger of suicide. While nb trans people might recognize it, but it does not seem to cause such an unbearable feeling to all of us that medical transitioning was as necessary as it is to most of binary trans people. Anyhow, if being trans is defined as "not identifying with your assigned-at-birth gender" and requires the experience of gender dysphoria, I think it's misleading to say nb folks couldn't be trans as well. I'm not sure where to place the nb people who say they don't experience gender dysphoria - if: they haven't already found a way to alleviate it - (I personally don't understand how these people experience their identities). But at least the ones who do, and possibly also transition, socially and/or medically, should be recognized as trans, since they meet the definition. Not doing so due to fear of "words losing meanings" is not a good argument. Just come up with more specific terms (such as "binary and nonbinary trans"), instead of excluding some group of people from the recognizion and support they need. Thank you if you read all of this :D Btw, I highly suggest Ash Hardell's videos and the book (the ABC's of the LGBT+) about the subject!
I agree with her and as much as I know people like Blair white can be like controversial I agree with NB not being part of the Transgender community. I’m not saying they are invalid because they are they should just be non binary in it’s own umbrella. The same way pansexual and bisexual are. That being said most people argue NB is part of the Trans umbrella so I’ll agree to disagree. I just view it as totally different desires and needs. Different enough to be their own thing.
i think she ment what i also think ( not sure). The overal cattegory. Lets put it this way. You can be bisexual, hetreo or gay. Yes there are many version that fall under the main groups. But the main groups are: you like to play with vagina's, penisses or both. And in my eyes they are 2 different things. 1 is about the main group you where sadly not born into. But belong....nope...yeah belong 2. You see yourself as a man ( or women ) but are the other one. And yes, some will have a more...manly women look, or feminin man look. But in the end you are trying to go from 1 end of the spectrum to the other. where you want to end/end is not the point. But i agree that there is a group of people who fit not right in with trans m>f or f>m. And that is okay. All though i feel like a lot of them are there to seek conflict. If you do not say the correct thing they go off on you.
@@elliekim6666 thanks for the reply :) Can you specify, how are the desires and needs of the nb people "different enough" to not be called trans? If they fit for the definition of trans, after all? Imo, it's simply not rational to not call an nb (who has gender dysphoria) a trans person. Obviously nb trans is not the same as binary trans... but whats the reason to separate nbs who meet the criteria of trans, from the umbrella term trans?
@@baskkev7459 thanks for the reply! Well, if nb fits for the definition of trans, despite not going "from one end of the spectrum to the other end", why not call them trans? What's the reason to especially deny them being trans? Especially when some people need that label to get medical help they need? As an nb, I have to say that the stereotype of "angry SJWs who claim to be trans despite not being, to get into political arguments as an oppressed person" is well emphasized by certain political groups and has hurted nbs a lot. My gender is not a political matter any more than a gender of binary trans person - even if some also claim so, talking about "the trans agenda". And regardless of how badly some people behaved, whether or not they're binary or nonbinary, that does not invalidate the gender of every individual in that group (or even their gender). May I also add, that a lot of people who cause harm to nbs are not nbs but "allies" who talk about things such as "gender is a social construct", and interpret us as nothing more than advocates of that ideology (not trans but political activists who just want to break the gender norms).
Being a WOMAN is a question of science. Silly things like Biology, Chemistry, Evolution, Mathematics, Physics, DNA, RNA and Chromosomes decide if you are a Woman. - Not "feelings".
I am 14 and when I was 9 0r 8 I started trying on my mom's old dresses that were in my closet that are to small but can't be let go along with a few of my dad's old clothes to but I tried on the dresses and it felt right at a young age I had a understanding of female clothing so when I was in 2 grade 7yrs I found one of her bras trashed and tried it on looking back it felt right I've always been drawn to girls toy comercials more than boys when shopping I have to force myself not to look at the girls stuff but know I'm starting to think I might know the answer also the songs fergilicous and pour some sugar on me stick in my brain and I dj weddings so I know what a drunk dancing girl looks like and the personalitys match
You lived with a single mom with sisters. You had no male role model who played with your sisters. Nothing wrong with it. I had different life who has different perspective.
Thanks, as a non trans person this video actually did a lot to help me understand what trans people go through 👍 Does anyone know if there is anything such as wanting to become MORE male/female? Like they were born a female but they want a more 'feminine' body so could they use estrogen? Or the same with males and testosterone?
I let alcohol take away my dysphoria. When i ran out of booze, it came back, and here i am about to start hormones next week! That's the simple version
Well now that I listen and think, I believe instead of a couple of years it took me a decade in a half to two to figure it out and realize and except who I am BeCaUsE in the 70s and 80s I had no idea what Transgender was then I think in the 90s and 2000s I started to suspect but I think my seizure time lapse along with brain problems is way it took so long.. LuV Ya Sister 💞
I am still questioning, and up until recently I've never had a close connection to my sex or my perceived gender. There are I think pretty big signs that I am trans tho, like how I felt a huge amount of euphoria rush through me the first time I looked at myself in the mirror after I put on lipstick and made my self look like a girl(doing my hair, posing etc), it was a feeling that I never felt before that point, and I got... "something" that I've heard was typical for transwomen when they feel that amount of euphoria. I feel euphoria when I've used those websites that "turn you into a girl". And when I refer to myself as a "she" I feel euphoria. Until I started elementary school I loved watching Barbie movies, I loved playing with my sister's old "girly" toys/dolls. And yet I'm questioning... I don't know exactly why I typed this, I think maybe because even tho I have the signs, like how I want to be referred to as a woman because it makes me feel euphoric. I also have signs that tell me that I'm not trans. Like how I don't hate my body(I don't love it either tho, really only care about the "feminine" parts), I didn't know from an early age that "I was supposed to be born in a female body", even tho I may have idealised about it, especially when I turned 12 or 13. I guess this was just a rant huh. Maybe someone will find this useful... /:
I want to know - how are you all coping with society? Doesnt society makes you scared? I relate to this vid a 100% and I have wanted to transsision in many years now, but honestly im just fucking scared of the response. ❤
In view of all the recent events around the trans community, and how information has been spread through Internet, magazines, news, etc. Could you predict, how the trans community will be in 5-10 years? How will be the interaction with those who are against, it is possible that the society turns to be more inclusive, job opportunnities of any kind, how the sciencie will evolve to help transition becomes safe, less expensive, faster, etc. This could be an interesting topic for a future video. Cheers!
Thank you for sharing your perspective. I enjoy the way that you express yourself. I especially like your advice for people to be with the experience of dysphoria for a while before they consider medical transition. One little thing I take issue with is this self-referencing definition of ‘Woman.’ You can certainly change your physical traits to be ‘Female Presenting,’ but I just cannot help but feel that your experience of what it means to be a ‘Woman’ is VERY DIFFERENT from the experience of growing up as a girl, going through female puberty, and living your entire life with the identity of ‘girl/Woman.’ I respect your journey, I am happy that Trans people are achieving visibility and recognition - of course you are 100% valid, and that is not because I say so. But please … a Trans Woman is going to have much more in common with other Trans Women than you do with Women who have grown up their entire lives with all of the female anatomy and social experience. “Womanhood’ is not a homogenous experience, but there are certain things - like menstruating (the vast vast majority of women menstruate) - that you will never experience. You may experience hormonal menopause, but it won’t be the same psychological experience (knowing your childbearing years and ALL THOSE YEARS OF BLEEDING are over) . You have never been somewhere without a pad or tampon and suddenly started bleeding everywhere. You didn’t grow up as a girl and have everyone PUSHING pink and dolls and girly things on you. You didn’t experience being a Tomboy, and knowing that even though you played sports and liked some masculine things you were still a girl through and through when covered in mud and sweat. As far as reproduction goes, unlike women who go through puberty, menstruate, Experience sexism, mysogyny, dismissal and discrimination and THEN discover they cannot reproduce, your entire experience of “Womanhood” contains the knowledge that you CANNOT reproduce as a woman …. though you would have been able to reproduce as a Man. A WOMAN has never had to choose between using their penis and sperm to create children and giving up that ability in order to assume another identity. Never. No other “Woman” will EVER have that in common with you. So what are we talking about, here? I cannot help but to feel that for all the academic/ intellectual semantics around ‘Sex’ and ‘gender’ being separate everyone who is actually medically transitioning from ‘one’ sex/gender to the ‘other’ is actually reinforcing and confirming the fact that Feminine Gender Identity also corresponds to a desire to have a ‘Female’ body …. which implies that Sex and Gender are much more intertwined than modern woke-ness would have us believe (know). And suddenly … yes…. “Womanhood” means nothing. It is erased. Anyone can be a ‘Woman.’ Well, Friend, I celebrate your Happiness …. but you will always be a Trans Woman. What you are experiencing is “Trans Womanhood.” Why do we have to debate about it? You Transitioned. You spent most of your life at odds with your body for very different reasons that a lot of young women are at odds with our bodies - we feel sexualized, we feel dismissed, we’re frustrated about being automatically smaller and weaker (in most cases), we have this blood thing that happens every single fucking month! YOUR struggles with your body…. and even your relationship with whichever genitals (I’m not asking) you have …. Is DIFFERENT than what a Biologically Born Woman experiences. Why can’t you give us that? If you want so badly to BE one of us … why would you simultaneously want to diminish the potency of “Womanhood” by now expanding it to include the experience of NOT being a Woman and then choosing to become one? Does this make ANY sense to you??? Again: I honor our journey. Most people don’t have to arrive at the kind of Clarity of Self that you do. Most people don’t have to go through such dramatic experiences to express who they are as they choose. And THAT is why YOUR experience will ALWAYS be that of a “Trans Woman”, rather than that of a “Woman.” Can you PLEASE STOP trying so hard to claim that there is no difference between your “Womanhood” and mine? Because it is OBVIOUS that there is. Please be well.
What the actual fuck? Did you even watch my video? Of course being a TRANS woman comes with an entirely separate array of life experiences to a cisgender woman. I would never claim that. You act like having a period is running in the trenches of WWII? Just get a hysterectomy if it bothers you so much! That’s what trans people go through… and minimizing the fact that we are forced to choose between staying sterile with suicidal ideation or transitioning and sacrificing biological children… messed up! We are resilient survivors who have chosen life over death. I am proud to be a trans woman. It’s who I am and it is my life experience. Part of that means I share many similarities with cis women as we both present as women in society. My version of womanhood will never be the same as someone else’s. There are masculine trans women and feminine trans women, just as with our cisgender counterparts. It’s all a spectrum. You think you were called weak? Or unable to express certain interests because of being pigeonholed as a feminine specimen (woman)? Try being forced into boys gym class. Bullied. Called a fag before you even knew what sex was. Ostracized from your peers. I’m not here to have victim olympics with you. Because being a woman is not about being a victim-though it seems to be the defining trait in your descriptions. I am so happy to be where I am, to have found my voice, and share my knowledge with my community and beyond. I also know many women who were completely unbothered by having their periods and it’s not this all defining, life altering monthly event you make it out to be. And btw I’ve had to use feminine products during my recovery from vagina surgery. I know what it’s like to struggle with blood and discharge. Many mothers commented saying my experience sounds like a c-section they had. Some of my most profound connections to womanhood have come from the cisgender woman who share their experiences and likeness to my own. There is so much overlap. Though aspects may be different, the destination is the same, and there is this thing called empathy that bridges the gap. I hope you can find peace in your reality of womanhood, and not be so hyper fixated on mine or any other trans woman’s. We are all the makers of our own destiny, and in the end, man or woman, we all meet the same fate.
@@Mayavhenry Good for you following your own path that makes you feel whole and happy. Physically as a woman your pretty hot although as a christian I disagree with the LGBTQ stance, but dont let my beliefs intrude on your freedom to pursue your own kind of happiness.
Not all of trans people conform to the norms either. There are butch trans women and feminine trans women. I liked both boy and girl toys, usually dolls and computers. The thing that made it feel obvious that there’s something wrong (aside body dysphoria) was the friendship between girls. It felt like something you wanted to have but never could. I didn’t have much of friends at all since I was bullied and beaten by the boys. I could only make friends with people in BBSes (before the internet). Oddly enough I knew many transgender people (even dated one in the 90s), dozens before attempting to transition. I felt that I wanted to be a woman but I’m not and that transitioning wouldn’t change it. That I would never pass as a woman and nobody would ever perceive me as a woman. Fortunately I could transition, much later and have gained a lot of friends, most of them women. Feels a lot more empowering when they perceive me as one of them and trust me. Some non-binary people undergo surgeries as well. I know some transgender people who go all the route and after that end up being non-binary.
Maya, you are beautiful inside & outside. I sent a text & didn’t mean to send them. I lovingly, disagree. Life has viewpoints. We are on a journey. We are Spirits in a mortal body. You are very mature & honest to yourself & others. Your blogs are helpful to those w gender dysphoria. Focusing on our purpose in life &/or careers, can be fulfilling & all encompassing. Meaning: our life is so full, sexual pleasure isn’t in the agenda. Pleasure comes from discovering that purpose. Naive! You may say? We are not sex toys. The media pushes its agenda. We think we need what it is offering. In a non-sexual life or need for belonging is fulfilled w colleagues & non-sexual friends. We can go from birth to death w/o sex & be happy. Really! As you said, there are consequences for all our actions. I’m not ignoring the psychological pain that can be felt w not liking or understanding who we are. We all have moments of body dysmorphia. We all, can see a gorgeous female & desire to look like that as a female & male. A male w a six pack can get the girls a Twitter & guys. We will need to train our expectations about life on many issues. You are, finally, feeling a spot of “authenticity w your vagina after 2 yrs. I noticed you went on a date. What happened to your boyfriend? You were both guys in a relationship. After you became a female, did his feelings change? I can see this happening. A trans Hx Professor on the Hx channel transitioned. She feel in love w a woman after the surgery & they married. Now, he’s still attracted to a woman but now they have to buy toys to achieve orgasm. How does your ‘clitoris’ work? There is no G spot in your vagina. The nerve tissue from your glans is all that is left. Yes, there is deconstructing sites . There is complication sites. One guy had the surgery & became a psychiatrist & realized it’s gender/body dysphoria. Treat your spirit & follow your DNA… You had to be a tiny male. Some trans have size 15 shoes, enormous hands $/or thick, bull necks. They will NEVER look female. Then, trans women in female sports-can’t happen. Horribly, out dating in a heterosexual community puts you at risk. You may look beautiful & female but when your scars are seen & the truth is out, you’re in danger. ID understand attraction completely. My breath can be taken away looking at beauty, sexual or not. Men chose a heterosexual marriage to have children & family. Surely, an orgasm occurs making love w his wife. Summary: we are complicated, insecure SPIRITS on a journey. The first relationship is w God. 2-accept we cannot achieve happiness in all areas of our lives. 3- follow the DNA. 4-train the brain to be as you were born in body. 5 fulfill your life in education, career, family & hobbies. The Bible says sex is in marriage & for children. Herero & Homosexual ppl get to suffer together unless I’m a heterosexual marriage. TEEHEE. Sex has become a god now. We’re taught we can’t live w/o it. We’re taught we can’t control it. As ppl at the top of the food change, We can make choices. SMILE. You mentioned anal sex has its draw backs. Heck! Vagina sex has its drawbacks. I wish you love & peace. I’m glad you’re blogging your experience. Love yourself in whatever form to LIVE! Be they voice to chose LIFE. God bless Alice
I’m all about people being who they are and I can’t imagine being trapped in a body I don’t identify with. I’d only ask my child wait till at least 20 before making any permanent changes. Sometimes people just go thru phases. If my 13 year old son said he wants to be a woman I’d say, “Ok” and let him live that way until he grew out of it or told me it’s permanent.
@@TreyParkersBitch Correction: I'm comparing apples to APPLES. That's right, the topic is transitioning into some other biological entity. A person is biologically different from a canine just the same as a boy is biologically different from a girl. BUT, I don't expect you to connect the dots...
@@jakejones5736 They’re still HUMANS. They’re not transitioning into a different species. That’s the problem with you people...you de humanize transgender people and I don’t know why. My son living as a woman is nothing like living as a dog. You’re weird.
@@TreyParkersBitch They’re still MALE. They’re not transitioning into a different gender. That’s the problem with you people...you de humanize transspecies people and I don’t know why. My son living as a dog is nothing like living as a woman. You’re weird.
as young as 8 years old I would lay in bed all night just wishing and hoping I would wake up a girl. not because I thought it would make my life easier or better. it just felt like right for me and I had these thoughts for almost 10 years I got over it for a time but about 4 years ago at 28 the feelings and desire came back. I waited for a couple more years before making a final decision been on hormones for 8 months now and I'm happier than ive ever been. my only regret is i waited til 31 years old to finally transition.
OMG, same I've been feeling that aswell, it stopped for a while but then it came back, I still am waiting to make a choice because I have freinds both genders and I sometimes play sports because its enjoyable, but at the same time I like wearing dresses and wanting to be a girl when I wake up. Now I know somone I can finally relate to, tysm.
I developed depersonalization/derealization around 13 or 14, I never recognized it as dysphoria until recently. The idea of me turning into an old man is unacceptable to me. Not being old in itself but an old man? Absolutely not. I could def see myself as a cute lil grandma making cookies and talking shit on the front porch 🤷🏽♀️
As a cisgender person, and one who doesn't about my gender much one way or the other, I find statements like these extremely interesting in my quest to relate to people better.
When I really look back I see all the signs too. I always was jealous of my sisters because they got to do what I wanted to do. They got to dress the way I wanted to. They got to act a certain way without being looked at as weird or “gay” and it just wasn’t fair to me and it really got to me especially when my dad would constantly say “I need to man you up!” 🤮 but it was so much more than being feminine for me. I had body parts that didn’t make sense to me and didn’t match how I felt on the inside and I thought if I told my parents or anybody they wouldn’t understand and probably would disown me because of the way they talked about people in the LGBTQ community and I didn’t want that to happen to me. I hated being a boy so much I would live my life in fantasy. I would pretend I was a pretty girl and had all the right parts and people thought I was just really gay and effeminate but I would just shake it off because I didn’t like being called a man period. Then around 17 I developed my first actual crush and thought maybe I could be a gay man but be a girl on the inside and him be my man and I be his girl but he had to be masculine and only play the male roles in the relationship which was a terrible idea because it literally didn’t feel any different from being a guy with a guy who kept calling me “handsome” and admiring my male genitalia which was a total turn off to me! I knew of trans people I saw on tv but didn’t think I could ever be trans because I couldn’t express myself like that without the fear of losing those I loved and most importantly it I even had access to the hormones or the surgeries to help affirm my true gender identity. But at 20 years old I’m tired of lying to everybody and most importantly myself! I’ve never been happy with who I was or what I was and I know after faking it for so many years that this is the pathway I must take to be truly happy and live my life to the fullest. I’m done living my life as a man. And I don’t care who I have to lose to get there! This is my life and I know this is what I’m supposed to be and who I am. And I don’t care what I have to do to become the woman I have always wanted to be. I’ve only been out for a month but I’ve always been this way and now I’m free to be who I want to be and live my truth!
@@993LD Thank you! It’s going on almost 5 months now and so far I’ve lost a lot and gained so little. But that’s fixing to turn around bc once I get on hrt I’ll finally start to look more like the woman I am and less like this person I don’t even recognize anymore that’s supposed to be me. It’s been really hard but it’ll all be worth it in the end 🥰.
This comment helps me too even, I’m in a similar situation and am worried to lose most of those in my life but I can’t lie to myself. Just have to start living the way i know will make me happy
🥺🥺 thank you for sharing. I'm in a similar situation, I'm always in my very own fantasy thinking I'm a beautiful girl with the body that I'm comfortable with. and this kind of helped. Thank you 💞
A word from GOD ALMIGHTY in Prophecy 153 at amightywind.com. Thus sayeth GOD ALMIGHTY " And I have another thing to say to you who think you can just change your sexes. Though I created you to be a man and gave you all the sexual equipment to prove it, plus the DNA, the hormones and you women who say, "I want to be a man," I have a secret for you. You will appear before the FATHER OF CREATION-in the sex that I decreed that you were to be from the moment that you were implanted inside as an egg in that mother's womb. You'll not fool Heaven. So repent while you can. For you're not fooling Heaven. You can fool the earth, you can fool yourself, but you're not fooling your CREATOR. I tell this world to repent. “ GOD ALMIGHTY will accept you if you repent and change your old ways. Everyone is making reservations for HEAVEN or hell. You decide.
@@yc8679 have you seen these ladies and gentleman, pretty sure most of them could “fool” heaven, they’re all angels already anyway. Also keep your opinions to yourself 🏳️🌈 😘
@@yc8679 , So if you can't change your sex, than God has no problem with a transgender because HE will always see that person as the original assigned sex. He has said " if your eyes offend you , cut it out. It's better to enter the Kingdom of God blind than.... So, extrapolating to the genitals, He shouldn't have a problem with cutting things off. I believe God judges your soul, not your physical body. Any temporal things we do to our bodies, whether it be a tattoo, or a sex reassignment surgery, I believe will not prevent a person from gaining God's favor in the afterlife.
@@yc8679 Oh FFS!! Haven't you got a life?? It's sad that you were indoctrinated so very easily. That's why you and your ilk are referred to as "the flock". You're a sheep 🐑. Stop drinking the Kool Aid and actually use your brain instead of spouting your unfounded dogma and acting like a trained animal in response to a stimulus. NOTHING about anything you've just spewed all over this posting is even remotely accurate or true. Take your rubbish elsewhere, troll.
In kindergarten, when I found out I'm actually a boy, I was crushed cuz I just identified myself as female. Since then I'm confused... I ignored it somehow until my graduation year and now I just got that feeling back from kindergarten. I always felt different in a way. Things like masturbation don't feel right in a way that the dick is not me. I look in the mirror and don't see me but also don't know what I want to see. I struggle with my sexuality but also with my body itself. I stopped living since Kindergarten and just lived for school after being sort of rebellious in primary school... I got good grades cuz it distracted me from my problems. Never trusting anyone cuz I don't want to get personal. That meant for me to be myself. Wich I couldn't. I'm going to be 20 this year and just started putting all the pieces together. Just to sum up the picture about myself, I don't necessarily look female. Nor stereotypically gay. I don't have to of course but that alone made it even worse because of the social construct of girls and boys. For instance I played with legos and sat in a sandpit for hours... I was building huts in the woods. But also played with dolls when i got the chance to. I loved it so much. I didn't necessarily fit into either one of the two. But with what i played with doesn't matter but as what i felt like doing all if this mattered. I know that know. I listen to Kim Petras' music and one of my favorit UA-camrs in trans but your video is the first i watched on my jurney to educate myself more about being trans and to finally fullfill myself. As I said I just started to put all the pieces together. Thank you for sharing your experience! Great video!
@@ebogar42 It validated my feelings. It's affirming to have someone express very similar feelings to you about something especially when it was never talked about when you started having them. It doesn't prove i'm transgender but it gives me a frame of reference (for lack of better words) to understand them & not feel alienated. I'm not saying this is a definitive moment that's validated the whole thing to me but it's very comforting to share thoughts & feelings with people regardless of if they end up meaning the same thing to you. I'm very appreciative of the open discussion & attempts to understand each other (& ourselves) that have come about in the last decade. Regardless of how valid you think peoples feelings & thoughts are around this it's a fact people have them & not by choice. So i don't understand why you dispute it i suppose. I don't think anyone is claiming it's anything more than their thoughts & feelings. If what ever level of transitioning is what makes someone happy, for whatever reason why would it bother you ?
These two dumb dumbs right here commenting why in the hell are u watching this if u don’t agree with the way SHE lives or what she is saying !(do we have secret closet trans) don’t watch it if u don’t like it this is what blows my mind !
You seem such an incredibly smart, pretty and wonderfully articulate young lady that - even if an accident of birth stole your true physical identity in your earlier years - today you are clearly simply a very special human being and a credit to womanhood - full stop. Dave (using my wonderful late husband's youtube account)
A word from GOD ALMIGHTY in Prophecy 153 at amightywind.com. Thus sayeth GOD ALMIGHTY " And I have another thing to say to you who think you can just change your sexes. Though I created you to be a man and gave you all the sexual equipment to prove it, plus the DNA, the hormones and you women who say, "I want to be a man," I have a secret for you. You will appear before the FATHER OF CREATION-in the sex that I decreed that you were to be from the moment that you were implanted inside as an egg in that mother's womb. You'll not fool Heaven. So repent while you can. For you're not fooling Heaven. You can fool the earth, you can fool yourself, but you're not fooling your CREATOR. I tell this world to repent. “ GOD ALMIGHTY will accept you if you repent and change your old ways. Everyone is making reservations for HEAVEN or hell. You decide.
@@TheJokezOver They promote a radical expressive individualism in which people are free do to whatever they want and define the truth however they wish, yet they try ruthlessly to enforce acceptance of transgender ideology. The challenge for activists is to explain why a person's "real" sex is determined by an inner "gender identity," but age and height and race and species are not defined by an Inner sense of identity. Why accept transgender but not Trans-racial Trans-species or Trans-abled reality why can't I be a disabled Black Women if I want to regardless of reality? Gender identity can sound alot like religious identity, which is determined by beliefs. But those beliefs don't determine reality someone who identifies as Christian believes Jesus is the Christ. someone who identifies as a Muslim believes that Mohammed is the final prophet but Jesus is or is not the Christ and Mohammed either is and isn't the final prophet, regardless of what anyone else believes. If those who identify as transgender are the sex with which they identify, why doesn’t that apply to other attributes or categories of being? What about people who identify as animals, or able-bodied people who identify as disabled? Do all of these self-professed identities determine reality? If not, why not?
@@xXxSephirothAmirxxXx I think you've described the situation pretty well overall. Your examples of trans-racism/species/ability vs changing religious identity are exactly right. The first group is just about physical features, while the second are mainly about cultural differences. What you've missed is that gender is MAINLY about cultural differences. Gender roles are something civilization has instilled in us over time, and now humanity is beginning to reflect on why we have those roles. Race, species, and ability are NOT directly about cultural differences. There is no point in being "transracial", as you can adopt the culture of another nation with being of the same race. Don't get hung up on the surgeries and hormones. Maybe one day, if society is a little more permitting, they won't be necessary.
As a CIS female, does she seem female to you? Not about appearance and how she sounds but in viewpoints and attitudes? I think we can all say that she definitely looks and sounds female in her videos.
you are NOT a sic women, you’re a women, Real women are not changing their name on behalf of these men dressed as women you’re not a sick woman you are a real woman a woman.
It is the same for most trans. I, myself, am and I knew around the same time. It's really only a matter of realizing what it is, but the feeling is usually there.
@@xoshiin yeah, I didn't understand I was transgender until I finally heard the word for the first time probably not until my late-pre-teen years or early teenage years, but I then immediately, finally understood the dysphoria I had ALWAYS felt and everything finally clicked for me. I think there's a transgender tennis player or body builder, I can't remember her name, but she was similar but she didn't finally know until her 20s simply because she had never heard the phrase "transgender" up until that point, and then from there everything she felt throughout her life until that point made sense to her.
I absolutely support her and I am so happy that she's happy. BUT she has had a negative impact on the transgender community. She made transitioning look so easy. She won the lottery with her supportive parents, supportive online presence, fast transition and easy access to medical and surgical transition. I'm in no way trying to say her transition, or anyone's transition, was easy. I'm saying her presence made the difficulties of being a transgender person very difficult to understand. Sorry for kinda rambling but I'm glad this topic was brought up. Thanks for reading (:
As a nonbinary person, i think nonbinary people fit under the trans umbrella. Dysphoria isnt just about feeling a disconnect between you and your body, its about people not seeing you for you. One could just say binary trans people and nonbinary trans people as a way to define them. The definition of being trans is not identifying with your gender assigned at birth and gender isnt always binary. Also some binary trans people dont have dysphoria about their body and dont medically transition and they are still valid. Thats my thoughts on that, thank you for sharing tho.
Hi! Been watching your videos for a few months here while starting on hrt and they’ve been really helping me feel less alone in that process. I do have some thoughts on your comments about non-binary not being trans. I’m a non-binary person and prefer they/them pronouns. However, I am currently in the process of transitioning and developing more feminine features, and being able to present as female is more in line with how I see myself and feel comfortable. I heavily relate to a lot of the things you said here about being trans, but see myself more as a non-binary person although I may be viewed as more traditionally trans mtf down the line. That’s what I feel fits with how I see myself. Honestly had I been born female I still feel as though there would be a bit of a disconnect with gender identity for me. Yes trans people are trans, but your definition I feel sort of removes people like myself who feel a lot of those same feelings, but I’m not confused about my identity. In that I know the non-binary label feels right and provides me the least discomfort. I feel as though the rigid definition that trans people can’t be non-binary isn’t exactly accurate. That is to say, in my opinion with my life as an ultimate example: Trans people are trans, non-binary people are non-binary, but trans people can also be non-binary and exhibit the ideals of being gender non-conforming, while also being more comfortable often being perceived as a gender opposite of which they were born. Gender identity is a spectrum, and I don’t think the label of trans has to mean the same thing for everyone, so long as at the end of the day we get to feel more comfortable in our skin. 🖤
I’ve always considered “transgender” to be a flexible umbrella term which includes both binary and non-binary people. It covers persons that do not identify with the gender assigned at birth/gender associated with their sex. After all, a non-binary AMAB person, for example, doesn’t identify with male gender, thus, they are transgender, but in a way that’s not fitting in either of binary categories. For many folks it’s an outdated term, but I’ve seen a plenty of people use “transsexual” to specifically refer to themselves as binary trans people. Cause, technically, it’s a transition from a gender associated with one sex to a gender associated with the opposite sex. Plus, many people who medically transition from point A to point B use it to highlight their experiences. I’ve heard people use both labels to identify themselves, with one being more specific than the other, which is cool. People who do not like the “transsexual” label are entitled to do so and it’s perfectly fine. I do relate to a lot of things in the video, so thank you a lot for sharing. I wanted to share my perspective too, especially since a plethora of my friends are non-binary and I identify with their experiences even as a pretty binary person, from self-perception to dysphoria. Plus, many of them seek a certain degree of medical transition. They just have a different goal in mind.
People, gender is a social construct. It doesn’t matter if trans people offend you. Get over it. Yes, you have freedom of speech and you don’t have to use a trans person’s pronouns, but they also don’t have to use your pronouns. It’s better if everybody just grows up and learns to respect other people.
@rustydop If you look at a dictionary, you’ll realize that gender doesn’t have to correlate with your sex. It doesn’t matter if you can’t handle it. Your feelings won’t change facts. If you can’t respect other people, then you don’t deserve to have other people respect you.
Parents: there was no signs
Me when 7/8yo: buying femme clothes in club penguin cuz I wanted to be a girl
There doesn’t even need to be any childhood signs, you can still be trans without any early signs
Thing is I also prefered barbies over cars and I liked dressing as a "girl" when I was young but I still identify as a cis male.
@@willbournerv2259 My parents have been supportive so far, but my mom did ask how I know because she didn't see signs. And I had to explain I had a lot of thoughts and feelings I never talked to then about. Mine was mostly internal while externally I felt afraid, like I had to try to be what everyone else around me was.
same here , I am 22 year old . In earlier days I had no words to explain those felling but now I can say that I am a girl .
Hope all is well....you seemed a bit upset. I just wanted say thank you...why you ask?? Watching your videos helped me be more accepting of my coworker who is transgender. I was once a biased hater but since I've watched your videos. My eyes and heart are wide open. She is truly one of many coworkers I hold dear to my heart. And you, sweet Maya, I love you for your beauty, your strength, your❤, for being real. Love you😘.
For me it was Gigi gorgeous who made me realize I am trans . My whole teenage years being confused of who I am and a good part of my 20s . Luckily now I don't feel that same confusion. Still have alot of dysphoria days but I'm not even a year into my journey yet so hopefully that will become less and less as the years roll by. I love these videos because I don't know any other trans women in my RL so hearing other women talk about their experiences is nice . Don't feel so alone in the world . It's nice to relate . Your awesome Maya 💛🧡
My partner is trans. Thankyou for sharing your story. It's really good to gain a better understanding from others 💜
Thank you so much, you validate how I feel every day, I just don't want to be in a man's body any more. I've always wanted to be a woman and I always felt like a woman my whole life. I've been considering bottom surgery ❤🥰💃❤
This is such an articulate and enlightening explanation of your experience, thank you.
Thankyou so much.. I have gone through stuff for decades feeling in the wrong body etc, and in 2014 I was chastised for it so I shrunk back into a cocoon. My best friend told me I'm transgender maybe a year ago but because it didn't fit exactly what I felt in 2014 I ignored it. But I need to embrace this now. At 47, I only have half my life left and it's a waste to lose the chance to be me. BUT, while I don't care what people think, my experiences make me cautious. What is sharing too much? Etc. I was encouraged to change gender on social media and I was unsure but to tell the truth I'm glad it was done
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭you look so beautiful , no one in the earth would say that you are trans without knowing it you look like a women more than any biological women
Hey gorgeous looking fresh as always.
I watch you're video because you are very strong person and that inspire me a lot but I'm not trans or anything lol I just love how you express you're life and experience with such confidence also you're helping so many people like you and that's a good thing...keep it up girl, you are doing a good work.
I have only recently been coming to terms with what I have felt for so long but didn't realize there was a word for it. I identify with Androgyny and being Androgynous. I am still trying to figure out how to express it outwardly but, I at least have something now. I stumbled upon your videos when I was looking up videos about others who identify with Androgyny and while that isn't the case for you, I still find you and your story very compelling and really interesting.
This is the best video I have listened to. Thank you, Maya. Beautiful name, by the way.
Such a clear cut explanation 🥰 we need less labels and more freedom of expression of self whether feminine or masculine whether you are biological male or female.
Thank you for that, it was very informative to hear a first hand experience/reflexions over this topic. Hugs!
I love the candid honesty of your videos. Thank you for being a truly balanced voice for the transgender experience.
Hey love I'm trans and quite binary so I totally get what you're saying, but I also have two AFAB NB friends that get dysphoria to the point they've had top surgery and a hysterectomies and could never fathom being pregnant. Contrapoints got a lot of flak for her non-binary video so brace yourself and I hope the mob is understanding - love you sis! You were my Kim Petras moment btw!
Yeah I felt a bit uncomfortable there :/ not wanting to cancel anyone but I'm not relating to the feeling seen thing that everyone is talking about in the comments...
I was 18 when I moved from Scotland to Blackpool in England and wow because Blackpool at this time was big on the gay screen. I've always been attracted to TV's and transgender. But being so young and my family would have never expected me. Been hiding it for years. Xxxx. Am so proud of you.
You are a great speaker, with great articulation and command of your discussion. I really appreciate this talks as a middle age man, I find that I want to learn more, judge less, understand more and accept those that are part of the whole ecosystem we call humanity. Cheers.
I am non-binary and transgender. We exist, and it’s not any more strange than being binary and trans. I’m terrified to say so because of the tendency of truly awful people to have strong opinions about who is and isn’t valid.
It’s okay if it doesn’t make sense to you, but it’s definitely not okay to decide that other people’s experience of being transgender isn’t valid because it is different to yours or what you expect.
I’ve got some things to say about dysphoria, but I’ve already got enough of my blood in the water and I’m not looking to invite any more abuse than what I’m already braced for.
Also, the white stripe in the middle of the trans pride flag is literally there to represent non-binary people.
Good thoughts, please keep them coming. As a nonbinary trans woman on hormone therapy, I'll say you make an interesting point about nonbinary vs. trans and I acknowledge its validity... some of the time. There are those like myself who are a little of column A, a little of column B (if we're honest isn't that all of us?) but leaning strongly toward the column B. That said, disclaimer: please DO NOT start hormone therapy unless you're serious, have been feeling this way for a while (I'd say five years is bare minimum here) and are fully prepared for the consequences, both physiologically and socially. It was not an easy decision to make, and certainly one I wish I'd made in the first few decades of my life, but other than that I have no regrets.
As a member of Gen X there weren't many options and my gender dysphoria didn't even have a name. I was a 'tomboy' whose mother tried to get me to wear makeup and heels and criticized my looks at every opportunity. I hated makeup and felt like a circus clown with even a small bit of blusher and lipstick. I wasn't into jewelry or fashion. But I tried to fit in, I tried so hard and I was frickin' miserable. Didn't know what was 'wrong' with me. I couldn't even get pregnant. It's like my whole body rejected every aspect of femininity right down to having babies.
Few years ago I finally realized I'm agender. I came out on fb and everyone was so supportive, a lot of people weren't even surprised. I got some backlash from new wave feminists who said I was opting out of gender based oppression but, meh. You can't fight who you are. I don't have a gender so I'm not opting in or out of anything. I'm so much more comfortable knowing I don't have to confirm one way or the other. I'm so proud of Millennials and Gen Z who fight for their personal right to identify as their authentic selves. 👏
I’ll never forget being about a 9-11 year old child in the grocery store in Pittsburgh, that I saw a mother pushing a small boy in a shopping cart. He said “mom, I want to be a girl!” His mother replied, “you’ll never be a girl. Your a boy.” And the boy was so upset and said “but why? I wanna be a girl!!” I thought the conversation was odd and it always stuck out in my mind. This would have been in about 1995-1997, so these types of things weren’t discussed as openly or widely accepted as they are today.
This was so helpful, thank you so much beautiful ❤️
Maya, its people like you who give trans folks like myself hope 💜
I tried living with my birth sex, it damn near killed me. Im arriving late to my transition. My biggest regret is not doing it sooner. I knew I was different, didn't exactly know what transgender was at age 6 when I said I wanted to grow up and be a girl. I didn't realize it til I was 15 and knew that I wasn't in the right gender body. I always hoped I'd grow up and be a mommy. When my body changed to the opposite of that, I was too ashamed of being in crowds and around other people. Everytime I looked in the mirror, I cried because I wasn't dead. I didn't want to live anymore, I turned to drugs and tried to pretend transgender wasn't a real thing and I wasn't. The more I told myself that and the more drugs I took, I couldn't lie to myself anymore. It didn't work anymore. I came to the realization and tried looking for ways to transition on my own. My boobs grew but the hair didn't go away. I started researching and found FOLX HEALTH. Most of my youth past me by and at 38, I started the process with Estradiol and Spironolactone. Im up to a b cup and my hair hasn't totally gone but it's slowing down from the usual overnight beard. I got the diagnosis of gender dysphoria, im in the process of my WPATH letter then im going for the bottom surgery. My boobs are growing but really slow. They might do the breast augmentation at the same time. Im getting close to the body I should have already had. The envy for women who didn't have to try and was born with it still gets me but I'm working on it
I need to see a therapist. It might just be DID (dissociative identity disorder) and a female alter, but I feel that I’m wrong in this body.
Normal people don’t have these feelings. They might feel that they need to lose weight, but this is different.
I feel wrong and isolated. I would never trust my family with this information as they wouldn’t understand it at all, maybe even kick me out (to be fair, I should get out on my own anyway).
I’m a mess. I’m glad you were able to find your true self and was able to attain that.
I wouldn’t pass, so I’ll probably just suffer in silence.
You are a wonderful being 💕
@@hq4287 There’s been quite a lot of character growth since the post I made. I don’t think it’s DID anymore. I see why I was so confused. I couldn’t believe that I could be experiencing gender dysphoria. It was impossible for me to see, so I came up with the only logical explanation.
Anyway, I know I’m a trans girl. I don’t have any immediate plans to transition, but at least I know who I am.
@@oliviapenelopehope4497 I'm so glad to hear that ☺️
Sometimes you don't feel dysphoria. As a child I felt no dysphoria about my gender, I just wanted more. As an adult dysphoria has been a problem, because the inability to pass makes me very dysphoric.
You are either a a banana or a squash. Sticking a squash In a banana peel does not make it a banana. Coloring the banana a color doesn’t make it squash. Injecting the banana with squash juice does not make it a squash
I’m non-binary
Ever since I was younger,I didn’t really act all girly,I would hang out with the boys and do sports,I was always a tomboy,I would play family and I wanted to be the brother or father,and I tried to act girly and look girly,I did cheer
I started feeling awkward but never knew what gender dysphoria was
I started using nicknames and I have always liked role playing,and I would act as the boy characters
I thought I was just gay
But then I researched transgender and I thought I was trans but then I asked myself “do I want to be a boy”
And I thought “idk what I want but I don’t want to be a “girl” or a “boy” I kinda just want to be me
And then I figured out that I was non-binary and I have dysphoria and I’m often uncomfortable
I also have homophobic and transphobic parents...so I can’t tell them
Hi Jessie...
Please tell everything to your family and be yourself,
Don't be scared about something you don't know about, you don't know how they going to react,
This kind of thing and thoughts can destroy your life.
Be yourself please and don't think about anyone.
Remember, this is your life, not anyone else. I hope you find your way.
Tomgirls exist you know
Itz_sunrise .Jessie Take your time, friend.💜. Keep reading and talking to others, and be-ing. Who you are will become clearer to you day by day...write...draw...dance...sing...dance...climb a tree...pick a flower... Deeply BE... You will find yourself in there. Right there. Right there. 💫
Are you diagnosed with gender dysphoria?
Lemonwr not by an actual doctor, my cousin said that’s what it is
(She’s 24 and her mom is a nurse)
All I can say is, "WOW". You are so cute! Good job. And good luck in the future.
michael Bishop good luck spreading propaganda and fake science
Carson Shift “fake science” and yet trans people’s brains are more similar to they gender they identify with.
Since I was four I knew my body was wrong, and I was so jealous of the girls around me. I'm 40ish now and just accepting that I am and always have been a transgender woman. I still have lots of hard things to come (coming out will cost me dearly) but I was dying inside with my dysphoria and living a false life. It is a long process to get my full surgery and still waiting to get into a GODD Dr who helped my friend transition. If you are SURE I encourage anyone reading to start steps towards your transition. As she said it takes years most places, and if you are like me with a "ceiling" on your happiness every day counts.
I'm a straight guy from the middle east, I would love to date a trans woman one day, there might be some in my country but I never met one
Look up Chaser of urban Dictionary
Stick to ciswomen and leave LGBTQ+ alone.
Everything you said makes sense to me, I've felt like this my whole life but buried it away. But it truly never goes away and it's killing me inside. I fear it's too late for me as I now am married with a kid.
HOLY CRAP I've never seen a video where the person talks about not recognising yourself in the mirror before! I always watch these videos when I'm questioning and I hear people say they hated their bodies when I don't - I just don't see it as mine
You’re so inspiring!
People over 20; can you remember even ONE "trans" kid growing up? Me neither.
I think l fell for this maya when l first saw this video back then. ❤
Man that is tough! It is already hard to be insecure for being too short or too tall, too fat or too skinny and have to deal with all of that! Crap!!! Tough life! Just saw that an actress came out as transgender and wanted to understand more about it!
Ya lost me at "nonbinary peep aren't trans" 5:26, down voooote
This is such an old video lmao
@@Mayavhenry and yet your newest comment is, _rn,_ or 2 weeks ago, or last month, etc. Looks like you not only have "skeletons in your closet" views that you had just decided not to back down from when responding, but ya lost a potential subscriber and the views that would have come with it (plus all who didn't voice). Maybe don't work against yourself and your community.
As a non binary person, and I can only speak for myself, I have never wondered if I am transgender or thought I was in a similar space of those that are transgender 🤟🤟
Your aren’t non-binary you are what you were born as
Carson Shift exactly! I was born non binary 😁
jme so you aren’t male or female?
It’s so interesting as an ftm I had the exact opposite experience with femininity 😂
Hi Maya. I am a hetero cisgender male. I had become friends with a person I met through my hobby who claimed to be transgender. At first I was very impressed with how this person presented as female. I was so impressed that at one point I had asked her to be a spokes person for my You Tube channel. As time went on I did some research and found that this person had 4 other fictitious identities, along with his own. In one identity claiming to be a cross dressing gay guy looking for action. This identity has a Twitter account that is directly tied to a gay porn site. It is people like that that make life hard for people like you who are legitimately trans and have done a fantastic job of becoming the person you should be. Good luck, be safe and keep being you, thanks Paul
I love how you explained it ♥️ thank you!
you have a lot of courage, your honest I don't agree but I certainly will do my best to understand
Surgeries can now be covered by your medical insurance though in America i'm pretty sure. Well most of it.
Thanks for taking the time to talk about this
no female who 'trapped in the wrong body' EVER seems to wear their hair long, so...
The mind is a powerful instrument think about what the great creator of all has given us.
Who is a Tyler? Was that Maya's previous name? I don't understand your comments. What I was proposing was purely metaphorical
I currently identify as transgender and non binary, I personally think non binary people are under the umbrella term of transgender, since the gender that was assigned to us at birth is not the one we are inside, I will only talk about my personal journey, but I surely experience gender dysphoria and im going to start HRT hopefully soon. I very much relate to other trans people and their struggles so I identify under the same term as them, I hope it helps to start a conversation or to make you see my personal point of view. Other than that I loved this video and it was very much very close to home, thanks for sharing your personal story to help us.
Watched your videos over the years n they've always helped me, thank you 💜
You are so beautiful 😍😍 all along I couldn’t stop but look at your face!
interesting that you omitted therapy (in this discussion) - I really feel everyone could benefit from therapy. Also I find it interesting that people assume that hormones are “easy” to get. Birth control pills maybe; but testosterone and estrogen? last I checked were not over the counter.
can you be transgender if you only start feeling gender dysphoria when you start puberty
yes
@@blacksepikseye7300 ok
I just watched this for the second time ! You are so clear that you should be a head schrinker !! Besides you are pretty !! And sound great voice !!
Wow... I may have different experiences from you but what you said makes a lot of sense but doesn't apply to me, despite me thinking I'm trans. I guess I need a lot more time to think about it.
You're destined to be a girl biological sex doesn't define who you are a body is a trap for beautiful souls
Great advice. You are beautiful inside and out. Love your channel
I have the biggest existential crisis people
It’s so stressing for me
I consider myself non-binary but I don't consider myself trans.
Having said that I do think you can be non-binary and trans.
I like the color green, I must be a plant!
Thanks. For me I was afraid of saying anything because of what has happened to others and how people like us was treated. Now the world is a little more understanding to a point. But those fears are still there and I have a problem with people looking at me. I know most of them aren't looking but my brain feels they are and it makes me ashamed to be seen. I try to stay covered as much as possible at all times. And going to the pool I really hate. I like small streams and places like that because many people aren't always there and I can have one what ever I want. I have spent most my life with a don't touch me attitude, glaring at people that give me dirty looks. I'm so tired of holding on to this hatred and anger. I like this mask policy now. It's a bit easier to go out. No one really pays attention because everyone else is wearing a mask. But it's still just a mask. I can't help but laugh when someone calls me ma'am. I can't exactly scream yes in their faces lol. As much as I'd like to it would be rude. Good luck and have fun.
technically it's not gay unless u think it's gay
I have always thought I should have been born a girl. Growing up I was well rounded. More girls as friends than guys. Still had that feeling wrong sex. As I grew older I kind of shelved that thought, married raised a family but still have that feeling. Thank you for your UA-cam post.
5:20 - 6:40 I think you're simply having the wrong idea about nonbinary folks. It's not just "having gender-nonconforming style", but we too experience mental, physical and social gender dysphoria when misgendered. It's a common misconception that we're just "tomboys and flamboyant guys and androgynous/alternative style people". And I can even understand that misconception, since the expression is the only thing that is visible about us to people, they don't see inside our heads.
This all said, I do think that binary and nonbinary trans are two different things. This is only my personal observation based at online discussions, but especially when it comes to physical gender dysphoria, it seems to be more intense for the binary trans people, sometimes to the point of danger of suicide. While nb trans people might recognize it, but it does not seem to cause such an unbearable feeling to all of us that medical transitioning was as necessary as it is to most of binary trans people.
Anyhow, if being trans is defined as "not identifying with your assigned-at-birth gender" and requires the experience of gender dysphoria, I think it's misleading to say nb folks couldn't be trans as well. I'm not sure where to place the nb people who say they don't experience gender dysphoria - if: they haven't already found a way to alleviate it - (I personally don't understand how these people experience their identities). But at least the ones who do, and possibly also transition, socially and/or medically, should be recognized as trans, since they meet the definition. Not doing so due to fear of "words losing meanings" is not a good argument. Just come up with more specific terms (such as "binary and nonbinary trans"), instead of excluding some group of people from the recognizion and support they need.
Thank you if you read all of this :D
Btw, I highly suggest Ash Hardell's videos and the book (the ABC's of the LGBT+) about the subject!
I agree with her and as much as I know people like Blair white can be like controversial I agree with NB not being part of the Transgender community. I’m not saying they are invalid because they are they should just be non binary in it’s own umbrella. The same way pansexual and bisexual are. That being said most people argue NB is part of the Trans umbrella so I’ll agree to disagree. I just view it as totally different desires and needs. Different enough to be their own thing.
i think she ment what i also think ( not sure). The overal cattegory.
Lets put it this way. You can be bisexual, hetreo or gay. Yes there are many version that fall under the main groups. But the main groups are: you like to play with vagina's, penisses or both.
And in my eyes they are 2 different things. 1 is about the main group you where sadly not born into. But belong....nope...yeah belong 2. You see yourself as a man ( or women ) but are the other one. And yes, some will have a more...manly women look, or feminin man look. But in the end you are trying to go from 1 end of the spectrum to the other. where you want to end/end is not the point.
But i agree that there is a group of people who fit not right in with trans m>f or f>m. And that is okay. All though i feel like a lot of them are there to seek conflict. If you do not say the correct thing they go off on you.
@@elliekim6666 thanks for the reply :)
Can you specify, how are the desires and needs of the nb people "different enough" to not be called trans? If they fit for the definition of trans, after all? Imo, it's simply not rational to not call an nb (who has gender dysphoria) a trans person. Obviously nb trans is not the same as binary trans... but whats the reason to separate nbs who meet the criteria of trans, from the umbrella term trans?
@@baskkev7459 thanks for the reply!
Well, if nb fits for the definition of trans, despite not going "from one end of the spectrum to the other end", why not call them trans? What's the reason to especially deny them being trans? Especially when some people need that label to get medical help they need?
As an nb, I have to say that the stereotype of "angry SJWs who claim to be trans despite not being, to get into political arguments as an oppressed person" is well emphasized by certain political groups and has hurted nbs a lot. My gender is not a political matter any more than a gender of binary trans person - even if some also claim so, talking about "the trans agenda". And regardless of how badly some people behaved, whether or not they're binary or nonbinary, that does not invalidate the gender of every individual in that group (or even their gender). May I also add, that a lot of people who cause harm to nbs are not nbs but "allies" who talk about things such as "gender is a social construct", and interpret us as nothing more than advocates of that ideology (not trans but political activists who just want to break the gender norms).
bask kev There are people who undergo all the treatments including GRS but still identify as non-binary. I know several.
Being a WOMAN is a question of science.
Silly things like Biology, Chemistry, Evolution, Mathematics, Physics, DNA, RNA and Chromosomes decide if you are a Woman.
- Not "feelings".
I'm so proud of you I Cry
I am 14 and when I was 9 0r 8 I started trying on my mom's old dresses that were in my closet that are to small but can't be let go along with a few of my dad's old clothes to but I tried on the dresses and it felt right at a young age I had a understanding of female clothing so when I was in 2 grade 7yrs I found one of her bras trashed and tried it on looking back it felt right I've always been drawn to girls toy comercials more than boys when shopping I have to force myself not to look at the girls stuff but know I'm starting to think I might know the answer also the songs fergilicous and pour some sugar on me stick in my brain and I dj weddings so I know what a drunk dancing girl looks like and the personalitys match
Well spoken. Good video, thank you very much for sharing
I can help with the science and the medical point
You lived with a single mom with sisters. You had no male role model who played with your sisters. Nothing wrong with it. I had different life who has different perspective.
Thanks, as a non trans person this video actually did a lot to help me understand what trans people go through 👍 Does anyone know if there is anything such as wanting to become MORE male/female? Like they were born a female but they want a more 'feminine' body so could they use estrogen? Or the same with males and testosterone?
Yes, very much so
You look natural and happy.
Damn girl, your beautiful.
Always lovely. Wise words from you. Hope your life is going well for you 🙂
I let alcohol take away my dysphoria. When i ran out of booze, it came back, and here i am about to start hormones next week! That's the simple version
Well now that I listen and think, I believe instead of a couple of years it took me a decade in a half to two to figure it out and realize and except who I am BeCaUsE in the 70s and 80s I had no idea what Transgender was then I think in the 90s and 2000s I started to suspect but I think my seizure time lapse along with brain problems is way it took so long.. LuV Ya Sister 💞
Transaction is hard. I was 50 and it was hard
I am still questioning, and up until recently I've never had a close connection to my sex or my perceived gender.
There are I think pretty big signs that I am trans tho, like how I felt a huge amount of euphoria rush through me the first time I looked at myself in the mirror after I put on lipstick and made my self look like a girl(doing my hair, posing etc), it was a feeling that I never felt before that point, and I got... "something" that I've heard was typical for transwomen when they feel that amount of euphoria. I feel euphoria when I've used those websites that "turn you into a girl". And when I refer to myself as a "she" I feel euphoria. Until I started elementary school I loved watching Barbie movies, I loved playing with my sister's old "girly" toys/dolls. And yet I'm questioning...
I don't know exactly why I typed this, I think maybe because even tho I have the signs, like how I want to be referred to as a woman because it makes me feel euphoric. I also have signs that tell me that I'm not trans. Like how I don't hate my body(I don't love it either tho, really only care about the "feminine" parts), I didn't know from an early age that "I was supposed to be born in a female body", even tho I may have idealised about it, especially when I turned 12 or 13.
I guess this was just a rant huh. Maybe someone will find this useful... /:
I can only see a woman when I watch your videos Maya.
I want to know - how are you all coping with society? Doesnt society makes you scared? I relate to this vid a 100% and I have wanted to transsision in many years now, but honestly im just fucking scared of the response. ❤
When I see this girl I cannot possibly see her as a boy at all
In view of all the recent events around the trans community, and how information has been spread through Internet, magazines, news, etc. Could you predict, how the trans community will be in 5-10 years? How will be the interaction with those who are against, it is possible that the society turns to be more inclusive, job opportunnities of any kind, how the sciencie will evolve to help transition becomes safe, less expensive, faster, etc. This could be an interesting topic for a future video. Cheers!
Maya Henry you look so good it is hard to see you were a male person aloha
Thank you for sharing your perspective.
I enjoy the way that you express yourself.
I especially like your advice for people to be with the experience of dysphoria for a while before they consider medical transition.
One little thing I take issue with is this self-referencing definition of ‘Woman.’
You can certainly change your physical traits to be ‘Female Presenting,’ but I just cannot help but feel that your experience of what it means to be a ‘Woman’ is VERY DIFFERENT from the experience of growing up as a girl, going through female puberty, and living your entire life with the identity of ‘girl/Woman.’
I respect your journey, I am happy that Trans people are achieving visibility and recognition - of course you are 100% valid, and that is not because I say so. But please … a Trans Woman is going to have much more in common with other Trans Women than you do with Women who have grown up their entire lives with all of the female anatomy and social experience.
“Womanhood’ is not a homogenous experience, but there are certain things - like menstruating (the vast vast majority of women menstruate) - that you will never experience. You may experience hormonal menopause, but it won’t be the same psychological experience (knowing your childbearing years and ALL THOSE YEARS OF BLEEDING are over) . You have never been somewhere without a pad or tampon and suddenly started bleeding everywhere. You didn’t grow up as a girl and have everyone PUSHING pink and dolls and girly things on you. You didn’t experience being a Tomboy, and knowing that even though you played sports and liked some masculine things you were still a girl through and through when covered in mud and sweat.
As far as reproduction goes, unlike women who go through puberty, menstruate, Experience sexism, mysogyny, dismissal and discrimination and THEN discover they cannot reproduce, your entire experience of “Womanhood” contains the knowledge that you CANNOT reproduce as a woman …. though you would have been able to reproduce as a Man.
A WOMAN has never had to choose between using their penis and sperm to create children and giving up that ability in order to assume another identity. Never. No other “Woman” will EVER have that in common with you.
So what are we talking about, here?
I cannot help but to feel that for all the academic/ intellectual semantics around ‘Sex’ and ‘gender’ being separate everyone who is actually medically transitioning from ‘one’ sex/gender to the ‘other’ is actually reinforcing and confirming the fact that Feminine Gender Identity also corresponds to a desire to have a ‘Female’ body …. which implies that Sex and Gender are much more intertwined than modern woke-ness would have us believe (know).
And suddenly … yes…. “Womanhood” means nothing. It is erased. Anyone can be a ‘Woman.’
Well, Friend, I celebrate your Happiness …. but you will always be a Trans Woman.
What you are experiencing is “Trans Womanhood.” Why do we have to debate about it? You Transitioned. You spent most of your life at odds with your body for very different reasons that a lot of young women are at odds with our bodies - we feel sexualized, we feel dismissed, we’re frustrated about being automatically smaller and weaker (in most cases), we have this blood thing that happens every single fucking month!
YOUR struggles with your body…. and even your relationship with whichever genitals (I’m not asking) you have …. Is DIFFERENT than what a Biologically Born Woman experiences.
Why can’t you give us that?
If you want so badly to BE one of us … why would you simultaneously want to diminish the potency of “Womanhood” by now expanding it to include the experience of NOT being a Woman and then choosing to become one?
Does this make ANY sense to you???
Again: I honor our journey. Most people don’t have to arrive at the kind of Clarity of Self that you do. Most people don’t have to go through such dramatic experiences to express who they are as they choose.
And THAT is why YOUR experience will ALWAYS be that of a “Trans Woman”, rather than that of a “Woman.”
Can you PLEASE STOP trying so hard to claim that there is no difference between your “Womanhood” and mine? Because it is OBVIOUS that there is.
Please be well.
What the actual fuck? Did you even watch my video? Of course being a TRANS woman comes with an entirely separate array of life experiences to a cisgender woman. I would never claim that. You act like having a period is running in the trenches of WWII? Just get a hysterectomy if it bothers you so much! That’s what trans people go through… and minimizing the fact that we are forced to choose between staying sterile with suicidal ideation or transitioning and sacrificing biological children… messed up!
We are resilient survivors who have chosen life over death. I am proud to be a trans woman. It’s who I am and it is my life experience. Part of that means I share many similarities with cis women as we both present as women in society. My version of womanhood will never be the same as someone else’s. There are masculine trans women and feminine trans women, just as with our cisgender counterparts. It’s all a spectrum. You think you were called weak? Or unable to express certain interests because of being pigeonholed as a feminine specimen (woman)? Try being forced into boys gym class. Bullied. Called a fag before you even knew what sex was. Ostracized from your peers. I’m not here to have victim olympics with you. Because being a woman is not about being a victim-though it seems to be the defining trait in your descriptions.
I am so happy to be where I am, to have found my voice, and share my knowledge with my community and beyond. I also know many women who were completely unbothered by having their periods and it’s not this all defining, life altering monthly event you make it out to be. And btw I’ve had to use feminine products during my recovery from vagina surgery. I know what it’s like to struggle with blood and discharge. Many mothers commented saying my experience sounds like a c-section they had. Some of my most profound connections to womanhood have come from the cisgender woman who share their experiences and likeness to my own. There is so much overlap. Though aspects may be different, the destination is the same, and there is this thing called empathy that bridges the gap.
I hope you can find peace in your reality of womanhood, and not be so hyper fixated on mine or any other trans woman’s. We are all the makers of our own destiny, and in the end, man or woman, we all meet the same fate.
@@Mayavhenry
Good for you following your own path that makes you feel whole and happy. Physically as a woman your pretty hot although as a christian I disagree with the LGBTQ stance, but dont let my beliefs intrude on your freedom to pursue your own kind of happiness.
Thank you for sharing your story. You look and sound beautiful! 💙💖🤍💖💙
Not all of trans people conform to the norms either. There are butch trans women and feminine trans women. I liked both boy and girl toys, usually dolls and computers. The thing that made it feel obvious that there’s something wrong (aside body dysphoria) was the friendship between girls. It felt like something you wanted to have but never could. I didn’t have much of friends at all since I was bullied and beaten by the boys. I could only make friends with people in BBSes (before the internet).
Oddly enough I knew many transgender people (even dated one in the 90s), dozens before attempting to transition. I felt that I wanted to be a woman but I’m not and that transitioning wouldn’t change it. That I would never pass as a woman and nobody would ever perceive me as a woman.
Fortunately I could transition, much later and have gained a lot of friends, most of them women. Feels a lot more empowering when they perceive me as one of them and trust me.
Some non-binary people undergo surgeries as well. I know some transgender people who go all the route and after that end up being non-binary.
Maya, you are beautiful inside & outside. I sent a text & didn’t mean to send them. I lovingly, disagree. Life has viewpoints. We are on a journey. We are Spirits in a mortal body.
You are very mature & honest to yourself & others. Your blogs are helpful to those w gender dysphoria.
Focusing on our purpose in life &/or careers, can be fulfilling & all encompassing. Meaning: our life is so full, sexual pleasure isn’t in the agenda. Pleasure comes from discovering that purpose. Naive! You may say? We are not sex toys. The media pushes its agenda. We think we need what it is offering. In a non-sexual life or need for belonging is fulfilled w colleagues & non-sexual friends. We can go from birth to death w/o sex & be happy. Really! As you said, there are consequences for all our actions. I’m not ignoring the psychological pain that can be felt w not liking or understanding who we are. We all have moments of body dysmorphia. We all, can see a gorgeous female & desire to look like that as a female & male. A male w a six pack can get the girls a Twitter & guys. We will need to train our expectations about life on many issues. You are, finally, feeling a spot of “authenticity w your vagina after 2 yrs. I noticed you went on a date. What happened to your boyfriend? You were both guys in a relationship. After you became a female, did his feelings change? I can see this happening. A trans Hx Professor on the Hx channel transitioned. She feel in love w a woman after the surgery & they married. Now, he’s still attracted to a woman but now they have to buy toys to achieve orgasm. How does your ‘clitoris’ work?
There is no G spot in your vagina. The nerve tissue from your glans is all that is left.
Yes, there is deconstructing sites . There is complication sites. One guy had the surgery & became a psychiatrist & realized it’s gender/body dysphoria. Treat your spirit & follow your DNA… You had to be a tiny male. Some trans have size 15 shoes, enormous hands $/or thick, bull necks. They will NEVER look female.
Then, trans women in female sports-can’t happen. Horribly, out dating in a heterosexual community puts you at risk. You may look beautiful & female but when your scars are seen & the truth is out, you’re in danger.
ID understand attraction completely. My breath can be taken away looking at beauty, sexual or not. Men chose a heterosexual marriage to have children & family. Surely, an orgasm occurs making love w his wife.
Summary: we are complicated, insecure SPIRITS on a journey. The first relationship is w God. 2-accept we cannot achieve happiness in all areas of our lives. 3- follow the DNA. 4-train the brain to be as you were born in body. 5 fulfill your life in education, career, family & hobbies.
The Bible says sex is in marriage & for children. Herero & Homosexual ppl get to suffer together unless I’m a heterosexual marriage. TEEHEE.
Sex has become a god now. We’re taught we can’t live w/o it. We’re taught we can’t control it. As ppl at the top of the food change, We can make choices. SMILE. You mentioned anal sex has its draw backs. Heck! Vagina sex has its drawbacks.
I wish you love & peace. I’m glad you’re blogging your experience. Love yourself in whatever form to LIVE! Be they voice to chose LIFE.
God bless
Alice
I’m all about people being who they are and I can’t imagine being trapped in a body I don’t identify with. I’d only ask my child wait till at least 20 before making any permanent changes. Sometimes people just go thru phases. If my 13 year old son said he wants to be a woman I’d say, “Ok” and let him live that way until he grew out of it or told me it’s permanent.
And what if he said he wanted to be a dog. Would you let him eat dog food and crap on the front lawn?
@@jakejones5736 You’re comparing apples and oranges and oh, you’re also an idiot
@@TreyParkersBitch Correction: I'm comparing apples to APPLES. That's right, the topic is transitioning into some other biological entity. A person is biologically different from a canine just the same as a boy is biologically different from a girl. BUT, I don't expect you to connect the dots...
@@jakejones5736 They’re still HUMANS. They’re not transitioning into a different species. That’s the problem with you people...you de humanize transgender people and I don’t know why. My son living as a woman is nothing like living as a dog. You’re weird.
@@TreyParkersBitch They’re still MALE. They’re not transitioning into a different gender. That’s the problem with you people...you de humanize transspecies people and I don’t know why. My son living as a dog is nothing like living as a woman. You’re weird.
as young as 8 years old I would lay in bed all night just wishing and hoping I would wake up a girl. not because I thought it would make my life easier or better. it just felt like right for me and I had these thoughts for almost 10 years I got over it for a time but about 4 years ago at 28 the feelings and desire came back. I waited for a couple more years before making a final decision been on hormones for 8 months now and I'm happier than ive ever been. my only regret is i waited til 31 years old to finally transition.
Congratulations for this step :)
OMG, same I've been feeling that aswell, it stopped for a while but then it came back, I still am waiting to make a choice because I have freinds both genders and I sometimes play sports because its enjoyable, but at the same time I like wearing dresses and wanting to be a girl when I wake up.
Now I know somone I can finally relate to, tysm.
Dont feel too bad, I waited longer, but every minute is so much more enjoyable.
Any tips how to forget about it?
Yeah, but it WOULD make your life much easier and better!
I developed depersonalization/derealization around 13 or 14, I never recognized it as dysphoria until recently. The idea of me turning into an old man is unacceptable to me. Not being old in itself but an old man? Absolutely not. I could def see myself as a cute lil grandma making cookies and talking shit on the front porch 🤷🏽♀️
1 year later update; I’m 3 months on HRT 🙏🏽👩🏻 let’s GOOOOOOO
Could you share what depersonalization/derealization was like?
As a cisgender person, and one who doesn't about my gender much one way or the other, I find statements like these extremely interesting in my quest to relate to people better.
Just reading this right now but indeed thinking about being an old man or having like very masculine facial features specially sounds horrible to me.
When I really look back I see all the signs too. I always was jealous of my sisters because they got to do what I wanted to do. They got to dress the way I wanted to. They got to act a certain way without being looked at as weird or “gay” and it just wasn’t fair to me and it really got to me especially when my dad would constantly say “I need to man you up!” 🤮 but it was so much more than being feminine for me. I had body parts that didn’t make sense to me and didn’t match how I felt on the inside and I thought if I told my parents or anybody they wouldn’t understand and probably would disown me because of the way they talked about people in the LGBTQ community and I didn’t want that to happen to me. I hated being a boy so much I would live my life in fantasy. I would pretend I was a pretty girl and had all the right parts and people thought I was just really gay and effeminate but I would just shake it off because I didn’t like being called a man period. Then around 17 I developed my first actual crush and thought maybe I could be a gay man but be a girl on the inside and him be my man and I be his girl but he had to be masculine and only play the male roles in the relationship which was a terrible idea because it literally didn’t feel any different from being a guy with a guy who kept calling me “handsome” and admiring my male genitalia which was a total turn off to me! I knew of trans people I saw on tv but didn’t think I could ever be trans because I couldn’t express myself like that without the fear of losing those I loved and most importantly it I even had access to the hormones or the surgeries to help affirm my true gender identity. But at 20 years old I’m tired of lying to everybody and most importantly myself! I’ve never been happy with who I was or what I was and I know after faking it for so many years that this is the pathway I must take to be truly happy and live my life to the fullest. I’m done living my life as a man. And I don’t care who I have to lose to get there! This is my life and I know this is what I’m supposed to be and who I am. And I don’t care what I have to do to become the woman I have always wanted to be. I’ve only been out for a month but I’ve always been this way and now I’m free to be who I want to be and live my truth!
This is beautiful ❤ thank you so much for sharing your story
@@993LD Thank you! It’s going on almost 5 months now and so far I’ve lost a lot and gained so little. But that’s fixing to turn around bc once I get on hrt I’ll finally start to look more like the woman I am and less like this person I don’t even recognize anymore that’s supposed to be me. It’s been really hard but it’ll all be worth it in the end 🥰.
You say it girl!!!🥰
This comment helps me too even, I’m in a similar situation and am worried to lose most of those in my life but I can’t lie to myself. Just have to start living the way i know will make me happy
🥺🥺 thank you for sharing. I'm in a similar situation, I'm always in my very own fantasy thinking I'm a beautiful girl with the body that I'm comfortable with. and this kind of helped. Thank you 💞
100% its validating to hear how similar it is for so many of us.
A word from GOD ALMIGHTY in Prophecy 153 at amightywind.com. Thus sayeth GOD ALMIGHTY " And I have another thing to say to you who think you can just change your sexes. Though I created you to be a man and gave you all the sexual equipment to prove it, plus the DNA, the hormones and you women who say, "I want to be a man," I have a secret for you. You will appear before the FATHER OF CREATION-in the sex that I decreed that you were to be from the moment that you were implanted inside as an egg in that mother's womb. You'll not fool Heaven. So repent while you can. For you're not fooling Heaven. You can fool the earth, you can fool yourself, but you're not fooling your CREATOR. I tell this world to repent. “
GOD ALMIGHTY will accept you if you repent and change your old ways. Everyone is making reservations for HEAVEN or hell. You decide.
@@yc8679 have you seen these ladies and gentleman, pretty sure most of them could “fool” heaven, they’re all angels already anyway. Also keep your opinions to yourself 🏳️🌈 😘
@@yc8679 , So if you can't change your sex, than God has no problem with a transgender because HE will always see that person as the original assigned sex. He has said " if your eyes offend you , cut it out. It's better to enter the Kingdom of God blind than.... So, extrapolating to the genitals, He shouldn't have a problem with cutting things off. I believe God judges your soul, not your physical body. Any temporal things we do to our bodies, whether it be a tattoo, or a sex reassignment surgery, I believe will not prevent a person from gaining God's favor in the afterlife.
YC you're pretty sad copy pasting your hatred around.
@@yc8679 Oh FFS!! Haven't you got a life?? It's sad that you were indoctrinated so very easily. That's why you and your ilk are referred to as "the flock". You're a sheep 🐑. Stop drinking the Kool Aid and actually use your brain instead of spouting your unfounded dogma and acting like a trained animal in response to a stimulus. NOTHING about anything you've just spewed all over this posting is even remotely accurate or true. Take your rubbish elsewhere, troll.
In kindergarten, when I found out I'm actually a boy, I was crushed cuz I just identified myself as female. Since then I'm confused... I ignored it somehow until my graduation year and now I just got that feeling back from kindergarten. I always felt different in a way. Things like masturbation don't feel right in a way that the dick is not me. I look in the mirror and don't see me but also don't know what I want to see.
I struggle with my sexuality but also with my body itself. I stopped living since Kindergarten and just lived for school after being sort of rebellious in primary school... I got good grades cuz it distracted me from my problems. Never trusting anyone cuz I don't want to get personal. That meant for me to be myself. Wich I couldn't. I'm going to be 20 this year and just started putting all the pieces together.
Just to sum up the picture about myself, I don't necessarily look female. Nor stereotypically gay. I don't have to of course but that alone made it even worse because of the social construct of girls and boys. For instance I played with legos and sat in a sandpit for hours... I was building huts in the woods. But also played with dolls when i got the chance to. I loved it so much. I didn't necessarily fit into either one of the two.
But with what i played with doesn't matter but as what i felt like doing all if this mattered. I know that know.
I listen to Kim Petras' music and one of my favorit UA-camrs in trans but your video is the first i watched on my jurney to educate myself more about being trans and to finally fullfill myself.
As I said I just started to put all the pieces together.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Great video!
i'm like 3 minutes in & i just want to cry because i feel so validated.
Validated about what? Nothing he said proved shit. What you think in your mind doesn't prove shit.
@@ebogar42 It validated my feelings. It's affirming to have someone express very similar feelings to you about something especially when it was never talked about when you started having them. It doesn't prove i'm transgender but it gives me a frame of reference (for lack of better words) to understand them & not feel alienated. I'm not saying this is a definitive moment that's validated the whole thing to me but it's very comforting to share thoughts & feelings with people regardless of if they end up meaning the same thing to you. I'm very appreciative of the open discussion & attempts to understand each other (& ourselves) that have come about in the last decade. Regardless of how valid you think peoples feelings & thoughts are around this it's a fact people have them & not by choice. So i don't understand why you dispute it i suppose. I don't think anyone is claiming it's anything more than their thoughts & feelings. If what ever level of transitioning is what makes someone happy, for whatever reason why would it bother you ?
@@Lilacil feelings dont change chromozones
These two dumb dumbs right here commenting why in the hell are u watching this if u don’t agree with the way SHE lives or what she is saying !(do we have secret closet trans) don’t watch it if u don’t like it this is what blows my mind !
@@sheena8157 nothing wrong with telling the truth
You seem such an incredibly smart, pretty and wonderfully articulate young lady that - even if an accident of birth stole your true physical identity in your earlier years - today you are clearly simply a very special human being and a credit to womanhood - full stop. Dave (using my wonderful late husband's youtube account)
"That moment. Everything clicked" we never forget that
Yes, yes, yes...but it took me until 53 years to start transitioning. 💕 4 years ago.
A word from GOD ALMIGHTY in Prophecy 153 at amightywind.com. Thus sayeth GOD ALMIGHTY " And I have another thing to say to you who think you can just change your sexes. Though I created you to be a man and gave you all the sexual equipment to prove it, plus the DNA, the hormones and you women who say, "I want to be a man," I have a secret for you. You will appear before the FATHER OF CREATION-in the sex that I decreed that you were to be from the moment that you were implanted inside as an egg in that mother's womb. You'll not fool Heaven. So repent while you can. For you're not fooling Heaven. You can fool the earth, you can fool yourself, but you're not fooling your CREATOR. I tell this world to repent. “
GOD ALMIGHTY will accept you if you repent and change your old ways. Everyone is making reservations for HEAVEN or hell. You decide.
@@yc8679 bro God isn't real chill
@@yc8679 God isn't real.
@@TheJokezOver They promote a radical expressive individualism in which people are free do to whatever they want and define the truth however they wish, yet they try ruthlessly to enforce acceptance of transgender ideology. The challenge for activists is to explain why a person's "real" sex is determined by an inner "gender identity," but age and height and race and species are not defined by an Inner sense of identity. Why accept transgender but not Trans-racial Trans-species or Trans-abled reality why can't I be a disabled Black Women if I want to regardless of reality? Gender identity can sound alot like religious identity, which is determined by beliefs. But those beliefs don't determine reality someone who identifies as Christian believes Jesus is the Christ. someone who identifies as a Muslim believes that Mohammed is the final prophet but Jesus is or is not the Christ and Mohammed either is and isn't the final prophet, regardless of what anyone else believes. If those who identify as transgender are the sex with which they identify, why doesn’t that apply to other attributes or categories of being? What about people who identify as animals, or able-bodied people who identify as disabled? Do all of these self-professed identities determine reality? If not, why not?
@@xXxSephirothAmirxxXx I think you've described the situation pretty well overall. Your examples of trans-racism/species/ability vs changing religious identity are exactly right. The first group is just about physical features, while the second are mainly about cultural differences.
What you've missed is that gender is MAINLY about cultural differences. Gender roles are something civilization has instilled in us over time, and now humanity is beginning to reflect on why we have those roles.
Race, species, and ability are NOT directly about cultural differences. There is no point in being "transracial", as you can adopt the culture of another nation with being of the same race.
Don't get hung up on the surgeries and hormones. Maybe one day, if society is a little more permitting, they won't be necessary.
I'm a cis female but you're so well spoken and your voice is so soothing so here I am binging your videos during quarantine
As a CIS female, does she seem female to you? Not about appearance and how she sounds but in viewpoints and attitudes? I think we can all say that she definitely looks and sounds female in her videos.
you are NOT a sic women, you’re a women, Real women are not changing their name on behalf of these men dressed as women you’re not a sick woman you are a real woman a woman.
@@victoriaarcturus203 sir, who asked you
@@victoriaarcturus203 No I'm pretty sure your just not intelligent
@@jonahsuddeth5893 And I’m pretty sure that you’ve been chemically castrated by the Satanic agenda
"I am jazz". Is transgender. She said she knew when she was 3 or 5 years of age.
It is the same for most trans. I, myself, am and I knew around the same time. It's really only a matter of realizing what it is, but the feeling is usually there.
@@xoshiin yeah, I didn't understand I was transgender until I finally heard the word for the first time probably not until my late-pre-teen years or early teenage years, but I then immediately, finally understood the dysphoria I had ALWAYS felt and everything finally clicked for me. I think there's a transgender tennis player or body builder, I can't remember her name, but she was similar but she didn't finally know until her 20s simply because she had never heard the phrase "transgender" up until that point, and then from there everything she felt throughout her life until that point made sense to her.
I absolutely support her and I am so happy that she's happy. BUT she has had a negative impact on the transgender community. She made transitioning look so easy. She won the lottery with her supportive parents, supportive online presence, fast transition and easy access to medical and surgical transition. I'm in no way trying to say her transition, or anyone's transition, was easy. I'm saying her presence made the difficulties of being a transgender person very difficult to understand. Sorry for kinda rambling but I'm glad this topic was brought up. Thanks for reading (:
As a nonbinary person, i think nonbinary people fit under the trans umbrella. Dysphoria isnt just about feeling a disconnect between you and your body, its about people not seeing you for you. One could just say binary trans people and nonbinary trans people as a way to define them. The definition of being trans is not identifying with your gender assigned at birth and gender isnt always binary. Also some binary trans people dont have dysphoria about their body and dont medically transition and they are still valid. Thats my thoughts on that, thank you for sharing tho.
Hi! Been watching your videos for a few months here while starting on hrt and they’ve been really helping me feel less alone in that process. I do have some thoughts on your comments about non-binary not being trans.
I’m a non-binary person and prefer they/them pronouns. However, I am currently in the process of transitioning and developing more feminine features, and being able to present as female is more in line with how I see myself and feel comfortable. I heavily relate to a lot of the things you said here about being trans, but see myself more as a non-binary person although I may be viewed as more traditionally trans mtf down the line.
That’s what I feel fits with how I see myself. Honestly had I been born female I still feel as though there would be a bit of a disconnect with gender identity for me. Yes trans people are trans, but your definition I feel sort of removes people like myself who feel a lot of those same feelings, but I’m not confused about my identity. In that I know the non-binary label feels right and provides me the least discomfort. I feel as though the rigid definition that trans people can’t be non-binary isn’t exactly accurate.
That is to say, in my opinion with my life as an ultimate example:
Trans people are trans, non-binary people are non-binary, but trans people can also be non-binary and exhibit the ideals of being gender non-conforming, while also being more comfortable often being perceived as a gender opposite of which they were born. Gender identity is a spectrum, and I don’t think the label of trans has to mean the same thing for everyone, so long as at the end of the day we get to feel more comfortable in our skin. 🖤
I’ve always considered “transgender” to be a flexible umbrella term which includes both binary and non-binary people. It covers persons that do not identify with the gender assigned at birth/gender associated with their sex. After all, a non-binary AMAB person, for example, doesn’t identify with male gender, thus, they are transgender, but in a way that’s not fitting in either of binary categories.
For many folks it’s an outdated term, but I’ve seen a plenty of people use “transsexual” to specifically refer to themselves as binary trans people. Cause, technically, it’s a transition from a gender associated with one sex to a gender associated with the opposite sex. Plus, many people who medically transition from point A to point B use it to highlight their experiences. I’ve heard people use both labels to identify themselves, with one being more specific than the other, which is cool. People who do not like the “transsexual” label are entitled to do so and it’s perfectly fine.
I do relate to a lot of things in the video, so thank you a lot for sharing. I wanted to share my perspective too, especially since a plethora of my friends are non-binary and I identify with their experiences even as a pretty binary person, from self-perception to dysphoria. Plus, many of them seek a certain degree of medical transition. They just have a different goal in mind.
People, gender is a social construct. It doesn’t matter if trans people offend you. Get over it. Yes, you have freedom of speech and you don’t have to use a trans person’s pronouns, but they also don’t have to use your pronouns. It’s better if everybody just grows up and learns to respect other people.
@rustydop If you look at a dictionary, you’ll realize that gender doesn’t have to correlate with your sex. It doesn’t matter if you can’t handle it. Your feelings won’t change facts. If you can’t respect other people, then you don’t deserve to have other people respect you.