One day I apologized to my then 17 year old son for not being a better mom as I was raising him and his two siblings as a single mom-their dad barely in the picture. To my huge surprise he said he thought he had a wonderful childhood. I’m thankful for the Holy spirit who obviously led me along the way-even when I didn’t see it at the time. Hope in God! He will help you.
I have 4 boys as well! This was very inspiring especially since I homeschool so I am always with my boys raising them up in the way they should go to the best of my ability with Gods strength. It’s hard but this is what God has called me to do. I’m just trying to be obedient even though I have struggles but I trust Him.
I tip my hat off to those godly moms who not only raise their children on their own and even homeschool them yourselves!Amazing!when u are obedient to the LORD,I’m sure HE will give u double portions of His blessings.Shalom!🕊🕊🕊
Love this!! As a mother of two young children. One thing I do, often… is apologise. Without a “but”. I explain, I am the adult, and adults aren’t perfect and we make mistakes too… and we own them. I grew up in a family where I never heard my parents apologise or admit they were wrong and that is something we have actively changed in our home…. Oftentimes, kids are the best of us. So pure and loving. We also, get each child to say they’re own prayer before bed each night, saying what they’re thankful for, and what they’re hopeful for. It’s always so interesting to hear in their own words what they’ve enjoyed that day. Even on the days I feel I’ve failed, I’m always amazed the things they’ve enjoyed and it ends the day on such a positive and loving note ❤
I grew up in a home were my parents rarely apologized. I think I can remember 2 or 3 times where my mom came up to my room and apologized but that's it. I don't remember a lot about how we were disciplined as children, but once I became a teenager I remember I always felt like a failure and was shamed when I didn't make good grades, made mistakes, or even just didn't do what my parents dreamed that I would be doing with my life. I never felt heard because it was moms way or the highway and there was never a reason for why something was being done or why we were being punished. There was so much yelling and arguing. My mom threatened to throw me out of the house multiple times even. We would fight and never resolve anything and then wake up the next day and pretend like it never happened... Don't get me wrong, I fully realize that I made many mistakes and did not always honor my parents... It just felt like their love was very conditional. We didn't discuss big issues and didn't share personal stuff often. My mom would be screaming at me on our way to church and then once we got there she would act like I was the biggest blessing and the best kid she could have ever asked for. I quickly realized her image meant more to her than anything else. I stopped going to church as soon as I turned 18 and made some choices I deeply regret in college. I don't blame my parents for my choices; I just wish more parents would think about the big picture and have more empathy and understand that what you say to your kids becomes their inner monologue. I do believe my parents did the best they could at the time and I do know they love me. Looking back, I believe my mom was going through depression due to different circumstances and I think she just didn't know how to deal with things. Perhaps she was just treating us the way she was treated as a child. I don't know. Thankfully, overall, I have had a pretty good relationship with my parents through most of my adult life. It's definitely not perfect but it is much better. However, now, I am a mom of a 4 year old son and I am struggling. I think I buried a lot inside instead of actually dealing with it. Recently, as my husband and I have been discussing how we want to raise our son and discipline him as he gets older a lot of the things that I went through growing up are coming back to me. I'm now dealing with anger, resentment and bitterness towards my parents that hasn't been there for years because I hadn't really thought about it. I never want my son to feel the way I did and I have been struggling with how to discipline him due to that. I hate that lately I have had a hard time coming up with good things from my childhood. It shouldn't be that way. I was so blessed. We had a great house, plenty of clothing, lots of food, plenty of play time, vacations and good times with friends and extended family. But this anger and resentment is over shadowing a lot and I don't know how to let it go. I am trying to give it over to God and move on but it keeps coming up. I don't know if I should confront my parents, talk to a counselor, or just keep praying till I can let it go. I found this channel yesterday and stayed up way too late binge watching it last night. Thank you for these Moms of Men videos, especially the ones on discipline!! They give me hope that I can do things differently and raise a man who loves God and treats others with love and respect.
So many useful points thank you, but from my experience I concur most with: Let them play outside❤🎉 🙌🏾🙌🏾 it made my life easier this works well for me because: 1.) They have fun and explore 2.) They come back inside with just about enough energy for bathing, dinner, then sleep doesn't become n issue at all. I "visit" them outside with my cup of coffee in between their play😂😂😂😂😂, that's when they'll take a brief break from playing to flock around mom and back at it. I really don't think kids are meant to be indoors on sunny days
It is hard. But you can also model what Lisa said about making up in front of them (apologizing to each other) and apologize to them. I told my husband that we need to go into another room and not talk loud enough for them to hear us. Hope that helps.
When I had 4 little boys back in 90’s , I found you, Lisa. I was so happy that I’am not the only one on the whole. I red your books, try to listen what you preach ( back then it was not so easy😃) Till now, I am doing it, as a Gmother, preacher and preacher’s, wife. Thank you for who you are! For what you were going through, for what you are shearing and helping others to move forward! …. and your sons are lovely. God Bless You and Your family.
Wow that was very encouraging, I have a 33 yr old Son, that I asked for forgiveness my Son replied “Why my child hood was good mom. Thank you Jesus for your Grace and Mercy even though I was not a believer🤗
Glad to find Lisa Bevere again, I remember going through "Kissed the Girls and Made them Cry" as a teen with girls from my church. Now I'm a mom with 4 kids of my own! Thanks for this encouragement!!
Cared for my ill son for 6 years... and I lost him last April.... I miss him so much... he had moved out into his dream apartment and I had to stand back to let him spread his wings... he got engaged had a sudden heart issue..fiancé wanted to care for him he went home thurs and we lost him Friday... he was alone she had gone to pick up prescriptions...I have guilt I didn’t insist to be there to care for him.... my heart is shattered💔💔💔💔
My brother lost his young son last year. Don't feel guilty God has a destiny for everyone. He is in heaven because God called him at that time . Trust in God even hard time's God is in control over our lives. Focus on him to overcome all this.. God bless you.
This was so good- thank you for sharing! Looking back at raising my kids ( who are now 22 & 23), I walked in what I knew and what I learned- it wasn’t pretty a lot of the times- but the outcome was awesome! Thank you again, you brought me tears ( good ones), peace and definitely grace to parenting!!! 🥰❤️✅
Thanks Lisa for sharing. I hope many parents could hear this because we have lots of problematic attention seeking children at school. Many Parents do not spend time with their children . It's so sad to see children going down the wrong road. Your boys are handsome young men. Love from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤
This content was so encouraging I’m a mom of 2 toddlers just praying to walk this out right. It’s encouraging seeing your children speak about you in such an honoring way!
I am a single momma to a 21/2 year old Sassy Princess who I spent an hour fighting with to get her dressed and in the car to go to daycare and me to work, her screaming at the top of her lungs, only to realize that the paving crew was in front of my house and the windows are open... this was so helpful. All I can do is laugh and learn and literally lean on Jesus and be grateful I didn't lose my cool, and being okay with not knowing when we washed our hair last. With that being said... I'm also single.
Wow, what a beautiful way to put this segment and a very teachable moment. I'm a mom of 3 boys ages 13,10&5 years old and I'm praying that we continue to grow closer first with the Lord, with each other and in the future be able to hear positive words from my kids. I sometimes find myself beating myself up to be the perfect mom. Thank you so much for putting your heart out and testimony. God bless you and continued to use you.
Lots of Love from SA🇿🇦. Yup we have many challenges here and appreciate that we're close to your hearts as a Nation.💝 Love our young adult girls to bits, but definitely raise them different, than in the rest of the world... Appreciated all your input and advice so much. Thank you. Blessings. 💕
I definitely feel that I missed the mark. I worked long hours during the day and was too tired to spend more time with my two grown children. Thanks for this topic 🙂!
Thanks Lisa! This helped me on so many levels!!! I have a toddler and a 5 yr old and the mom guilt is huge! I know I need to do better but just seeing this makes you realize that it is all worth it and they don’t stay this little always💜
Please is there an episode on how to teach your kids the word of God? When to start and what method you use for different age groups plus dos and don'ts ect. I want to start with my toddler but I'm really struggeling with inconsistency and her picking the same story every time 😂
One day I apologized to my then 17 year old son for not being a better mom as I was raising him and his two siblings as a single mom-their dad barely in the picture. To my huge surprise he said he thought he had a wonderful childhood. I’m thankful for the Holy spirit who obviously led me along the way-even when I didn’t see it at the time. Hope in God! He will help you.
The family that prayed together, stayed together !!
I am a triplet and have two other younger brothers, armed with this knowledge, I truly understand what she is going through.
I have 4 boys as well! This was very inspiring especially since I homeschool so I am always with my boys raising them up in the way they should go to the best of my ability with Gods strength. It’s hard but this is what God has called me to do. I’m just trying to be obedient even though I have struggles but I trust Him.
Wow, same here on everything!! God bless you!!
I tip my hat off to those godly moms who not only raise their children on their own and even homeschool them yourselves!Amazing!when u are obedient to the LORD,I’m sure HE will give u double portions of His blessings.Shalom!🕊🕊🕊
Love this!! As a mother of two young children. One thing I do, often… is apologise. Without a “but”. I explain, I am the adult, and adults aren’t perfect and we make mistakes too… and we own them. I grew up in a family where I never heard my parents apologise or admit they were wrong and that is something we have actively changed in our home…. Oftentimes, kids are the best of us. So pure and loving. We also, get each child to say they’re own prayer before bed each night, saying what they’re thankful for, and what they’re hopeful for. It’s always so interesting to hear in their own words what they’ve enjoyed that day. Even on the days I feel I’ve failed, I’m always amazed the things they’ve enjoyed and it ends the day on such a positive and loving note ❤
I grew up in a home were my parents rarely apologized. I think I can remember 2 or 3 times where my mom came up to my room and apologized but that's it. I don't remember a lot about how we were disciplined as children, but once I became a teenager I remember I always felt like a failure and was shamed when I didn't make good grades, made mistakes, or even just didn't do what my parents dreamed that I would be doing with my life. I never felt heard because it was moms way or the highway and there was never a reason for why something was being done or why we were being punished. There was so much yelling and arguing. My mom threatened to throw me out of the house multiple times even. We would fight and never resolve anything and then wake up the next day and pretend like it never happened... Don't get me wrong, I fully realize that I made many mistakes and did not always honor my parents... It just felt like their love was very conditional. We didn't discuss big issues and didn't share personal stuff often. My mom would be screaming at me on our way to church and then once we got there she would act like I was the biggest blessing and the best kid she could have ever asked for. I quickly realized her image meant more to her than anything else. I stopped going to church as soon as I turned 18 and made some choices I deeply regret in college. I don't blame my parents for my choices; I just wish more parents would think about the big picture and have more empathy and understand that what you say to your kids becomes their inner monologue.
I do believe my parents did the best they could at the time and I do know they love me. Looking back, I believe my mom was going through depression due to different circumstances and I think she just didn't know how to deal with things. Perhaps she was just treating us the way she was treated as a child. I don't know. Thankfully, overall, I have had a pretty good relationship with my parents through most of my adult life. It's definitely not perfect but it is much better. However, now, I am a mom of a 4 year old son and I am struggling. I think I buried a lot inside instead of actually dealing with it. Recently, as my husband and I have been discussing how we want to raise our son and discipline him as he gets older a lot of the things that I went through growing up are coming back to me. I'm now dealing with anger, resentment and bitterness towards my parents that hasn't been there for years because I hadn't really thought about it. I never want my son to feel the way I did and I have been struggling with how to discipline him due to that. I hate that lately I have had a hard time coming up with good things from my childhood. It shouldn't be that way. I was so blessed. We had a great house, plenty of clothing, lots of food, plenty of play time, vacations and good times with friends and extended family. But this anger and resentment is over shadowing a lot and I don't know how to let it go. I am trying to give it over to God and move on but it keeps coming up. I don't know if I should confront my parents, talk to a counselor, or just keep praying till I can let it go.
I found this channel yesterday and stayed up way too late binge watching it last night. Thank you for these Moms of Men videos, especially the ones on discipline!! They give me hope that I can do things differently and raise a man who loves God and treats others with love and respect.
So many useful points thank you, but from my experience I concur most with: Let them play outside❤🎉 🙌🏾🙌🏾 it made my life easier
this works well for me because:
1.) They have fun and explore
2.) They come back inside with just about enough energy for bathing, dinner, then sleep doesn't become n issue at all. I "visit" them outside with my cup of coffee in between their play😂😂😂😂😂, that's when they'll take a brief break from playing to flock around mom and back at it. I really don't think kids are meant to be indoors on sunny days
My husband and I argue in front of the kids. We have for years and the kids have even told us they hate it. It’s so hard!
It is hard. But you can also model what Lisa said about making up in front of them (apologizing to each other) and apologize to them. I told my husband that we need to go into another room and not talk loud enough for them to hear us. Hope that helps.
Mom guilt is always hard and its so difficult to find the good that you do, but God really helps to calm you down🌺
When I had 4 little boys back in 90’s , I found you, Lisa. I was so happy that I’am not the only one on the whole. I red your books, try to listen what you preach ( back then it was not so easy😃) Till now, I am doing it, as a Gmother, preacher and preacher’s, wife.
Thank you for who you are! For what you were going through, for what you are shearing and helping others to move forward!
…. and your sons are lovely.
God Bless You and Your family.
Wow that was very encouraging, I have a 33 yr old Son, that I asked for forgiveness my Son replied “Why my child hood was good mom. Thank you Jesus for your Grace and Mercy even though I was not a believer🤗
I have two year old twin boys. It’s so overwhelming sometimes. Thank you for this.
I feel you sister! I have 8 months twins and a four year old... It is difficult
I have 2 month old twins and a 2 year old so overwhelmed…
💖 *These young boys are blessed for their gracious very lovely only sister.*
Glad to find Lisa Bevere again, I remember going through "Kissed the Girls and Made them Cry" as a teen with girls from my church. Now I'm a mom with 4 kids of my own! Thanks for this encouragement!!
And we always eat meals together❤
So I have 4 daughters and this was so encouraging to me. Thank you for this 😊
I am raising 3 boys under 3 and I thank you for this message💚
Cared for my ill son for 6 years... and I lost him last April.... I miss him so much... he had moved out into his dream apartment and I had to stand back to let him spread his wings... he got engaged had a sudden heart issue..fiancé wanted to care for him he went home thurs and we lost him Friday... he was alone she had gone to pick up prescriptions...I have guilt I didn’t insist to be there to care for him.... my heart is shattered💔💔💔💔
I will pray for you! He is your refuge
I'm sorry for your loss. He is and will always be with you. He will be waiting for you to reunite one day.
My brother lost his young son last year. Don't feel guilty God has a destiny for everyone. He is in heaven because God called him at that time . Trust in God even hard time's God is in control over our lives. Focus on him to overcome all this.. God bless you.
This was so good- thank you for sharing! Looking back at raising my kids ( who are now 22 & 23), I walked in what I knew and what I learned- it wasn’t pretty a lot of the times- but the outcome was awesome!
Thank you again, you brought me tears ( good ones), peace and definitely grace to parenting!!!
🥰❤️✅
Thank you for this and i'm a single mom of a teenage girl😅. I'm taking notes
I have 3 sons ..16, 13 & 5 ..glad I came across this channel.
Thanks Lisa for sharing. I hope many parents could hear this because we have lots of problematic attention seeking children at school. Many Parents do not spend time with their children . It's so sad to see children going down the wrong road. Your boys are handsome young men. Love from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤
This content was so encouraging I’m a mom of 2 toddlers just praying to walk this out right. It’s encouraging seeing your children speak about you in such an honoring way!
I am a single momma to a 21/2 year old Sassy Princess who I spent an hour fighting with to get her dressed and in the car to go to daycare and me to work, her screaming at the top of her lungs, only to realize that the paving crew was in front of my house and the windows are open... this was so helpful. All I can do is laugh and learn and literally lean on Jesus and be grateful I didn't lose my cool, and being okay with not knowing when we washed our hair last. With that being said... I'm also single.
yes be home with your kids so so important
Wow, what a beautiful way to put this segment and a very teachable moment. I'm a mom of 3 boys ages 13,10&5 years old and I'm praying that we continue to grow closer first with the Lord, with each other and in the future be able to hear positive words from my kids. I sometimes find myself beating myself up to be the perfect mom. Thank you so much for putting your heart out and testimony. God bless you and continued to use you.
It is very helpful to hear these men speak. Blessings to your family
Thank you so much for this. I think this video will age well. This honest conversation is such a blessing.
Lots of Love from SA🇿🇦. Yup we have many challenges here and appreciate that we're close to your hearts as a Nation.💝
Love our young adult girls to bits, but definitely raise them different, than in the rest of the world... Appreciated all your input and advice so much. Thank you. Blessings. 💕
I definitely feel that I missed the mark. I worked long hours during the day and was too tired to spend more time with my two grown children. Thanks for this topic 🙂!
Thanks Lisa! This helped me on so many levels!!! I have a toddler and a 5 yr old and the mom guilt is huge! I know I need to do better but just seeing this makes you realize that it is all worth it and they don’t stay this little always💜
Please is there an episode on how to teach your kids the word of God? When to start and what method you use for different age groups plus dos and don'ts ect. I want to start with my toddler but I'm really struggeling with inconsistency and her picking the same story every time 😂
Thank you for this ! I have 4 boys all under the age of 7 , so it's good to hear these type of conversations now ;)
Learnt a lot from the episode, thanks Godly family
Beautiful guys 😍! U did a great job mama Lisa! You are a great teacher ☺️!
very good
So powerful and helpful 🇨🇦♥️
This helped me a lot
This was great!
This is beautiful
Beautiful
Love you guys
This is good
Alec who was spanked the most lol
Blesssssssssssssing. God. 🙏🙏❤️🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️😥😥😥❤️❤️🙏❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏Amen. Famili. Amen. 🙏❤️❤️❤️🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️