Confession #1: Insecurity & Comparison | Postpartum Confessions w/ Anjelah Johnson-Reyes
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- Опубліковано 2 вер 2023
- Welcome to the premiere episode of 'Postpartum Confessions' with me, Anjelah Johnson-Reyes! Join me as I candidly share my thoughts and experiences navigating the challenging world of postpartum life. In this episode, my first confession addresses my feelings of accomplishment, insecurity, and the common tendency to compare myself to other new moms.
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Anjelah Johnson-Reyes was born and raised in San Jose, California where she grew up with four siblings in a large extended family to which she remains close. Anjelah found herself an internet sensation and pioneer in viral UA-cam videos when her notorious “Nail Salon” bit from a local comedy show was posted and received over 100 million views! Shortly thereafter she was added to the cast on the original MADtv where she trademarked her legendary character, Bon Qui Qui. Similar to the nail salon video, the Bon Qui Qui sketch caught on and have been viewed by over 75 million people. The multi-hyphenate’s popularity has translated into four successful comedy specials: That’s How We Do It” (Comedy Central), The Homecoming Show (NUVO TV), Not Fancy (Netflix) and Mahalo & Good Night (Epix). She has displayed her acting prowess both on TV and film. Some of her credits include “Curb Your Enthusiasm,” “Superstore,” “Moms’ Night Out,” and “Alvin & the Chipmunks: The Squeakquel.” Her first book was published in 2022, Who Do I Think I Am: Stories of Chola Wishes and Caviar Dreams, a hilarious and touching memoir full of memorable anecdotes on how a Latina dynamo was able to forge ahead and become successful. - Комедії
Rest assured that your precious little one hasn't a single care of what any other mom is doing. All she knows is that her awesome Mommy is blanketing her with love and security, and that is the world to her.❤❤❤
Truth 😊
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Absolutely!!!❤
This is the truth. ❤
Perfect reply!
Girl, you got me crying with you. Celebrate those small victories. Taking care of an infant 24/7 is HARD. What’s that saying? “Comparison is the thief of joy.”Don’t let what some other mom is doing take away from your personal victories. Everyone is on their own journey. You are worthy & you are enough, Mama! 🫶🏼
Beautifully said!
I love that you say that comparison is the thief of Joy. It's such a true statement!!! Thank you!!
Hi! Grandma Pam here! Thanks for sharing how you're feeling about yourself. I'm sorry that feeling hit you. You're doing perfectly, Mama. I want to share unsolicited, loving, general advice: First... newborns really shouldn't be in public the first month after birth. Also, fresh mommies are still recovering from childbirth and should claim their postpartum period for THEMSELVES. Easing back into life has NO timeline. It's what works best for YOU. ❤❤❤
Absolutely, I agree completely! Hang in there Anjelah, I promise things will get better and better but give it time and don't be so hard on yourself.
I was thinking that same thing. Keep your Princess away from the germs for as long as possible. You are doing amazing, and thank you for sharing your journey with us❤
Aren't grandmas sooo smart!
100% agree, no judgement on the mom who is at the beach.. but my first thought was the same. Postpartum is such an important time and should be focused on resting. 💞
Seven words for you………DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF TO ANYONE ELSE. You are doing everything right for you and your daughter! I got soooooo tired of being in the same three places day after day after day!!! Couch to nurse, changing table, baby bath…..REPEAT! I had family that would take their newborn to the movie theater still in their car seat. I just COULD NOT do it. They would ask, “why can’t you just take the baby with you?” That made me feel so horrible about myself. Sister in law once said, “I don’t want to ride in the car with you because you’ll probably have to stop or go back home because of your baby”. Uugh!!! Anjelah……things get better and easier as time goes on……seriously. Do what you can, do what you need to do for TODAY. you’re doing a GREAT JOB. Remember…..no comparing. ☺️👍🏼🙏🏼❤️
I completely relate to you. I’m 52 now but when I had my first baby I didn’t like taking my baby all over in the early months. Especially to movie theaters. Nursing and carrying supplies all over so I could meet at the mall or bookstore just made me a nervous wreck. I’m not a fast paced person who has be doing all the time. Later taking her out got easier and became more often but it took time.
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I am a mother of three grown kids and a grandma of 3 beautiful grandkids. So here it goes.
Every time I had a baby I myself did not want to go out because I wanted my baby to be comfortable. Did I eventually get out with the baby, yes. On due time. When you breastfeed, it is tricky because as soon as the baby cries, the milk.comes down. Then there is the changing of the diaper and so on.
It is a big task and all you can do do is down the street🎉🎉👏👏👏 that is great.
If no one wants to offer babysitting so you can get out, they need to shut the f@#$ up.
You are putting your daughter first and your needs first. You are doing SOOO good.
That mom you saw, that is just a moment in time. You don't see if she is crying for being overwhelmed or the help she has. You don't know.
Please stop judging yourself mama, you are doing FABULOUS AND THAT IS 2 SNAPS AND A CIRCLE. 😂😂😂😂😂
One piece of advice I can give you is DO NOT compare yourself to others. This is YOUR journey. My son is 16 and it’s always going to be something. Embrace where you are and enjoy every good bad and ugly moment because it flys by fast. It’s all temporary even when it feels like it’s not. You got this! Sending love !
Yes, this, too, shall pass. There's nothing new under the sun. But we are individuals and our stamp will always be on our endeavors.
You should be proud of yourself!! I have a 3 and 4 year old and just prefer not to go out AT ALL if I can avoid it, I'm a single mom, and it is tough!! That other momma might have had other children before, unlike you, who is new to all of this, so don't be too hard on yourself. Sending hugs and keep going at your own pace with God at the forefront ❤
PLEASE continue to make these invaluable vids 🙏🏾 if you’re comfortable doing so. Every new Mom/parent needs to know how individual this process is; there is no ‘standard’ to be held to, despite what social shows us. This is strictly your journey, honey. Have faith you know how to walk it.💜
Try not to do the comparison thing. There is no real “mark” out there to reach in a certain period of time. You and baby Rosie map out your own journey and be OK feeling GOOD about it. It truly is an individual journey. All the Mamas know it and are cheering you on 🎉🎉🎉
I needed this! 5 months postpartum and I still feel the challenge of balancing naps, feedings and my baby's overall temperament of being out in public. I've gone out to restaurants only 3 times since she's been born and I still get anxiety not knowing how it's going to go. Yet, I also find myself comparing my journey to others who seem to go out all the time without any issue, and I seemingly have no life outside of taking care of baby. So thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your journey, helps me feel not so alone in a very lonely world that is postpartum. Hang in there mama, we are the strongest warriors on this planet and can overcome anything God puts in front of us!
We are all made different. We can not compare. Easier said than done, I know. Big hugs. You are enough!!! ❤
Hear, hear!
Only Christ can make you enough.
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As a single mom I can tell you, schedules can be good but don’t let it become like a thing that rules your life. I go out with my baby all of the time now. First month I did not go out at all but for me it was because I wanted to keep him away from germs. It gets easier and you will be able to do more. Just takes time to adjust to mommy hood. Also, remember, babies cry. My son is 5 months and every single time the car stops at a light he starts screaming 🙊 at first I used to get desperate… now I’m like boy you need to chill 😂 It gets easier. Hang in there mama!! Be proud of the little things because those are YOUR wins! You learning to figure it out. None of us are ready for this. We learn as we good. ❤❤❤
Hugs, Momma. I was super proud when I got my baby to a restaurant when he was two months old too. That was all I could handle!!! Kudos to people who vacation with newborns. I couldn't do it.
Girl, you went to a restaurant! Yay! Every mother's journey is so different. You're amazing, honor those victories!
It's all gonna b ok we're all different your hormones r good I've felt a lot of different things your ok in what your feeling
Don't compare yourself to others, you've made big strides! As you learn and adapt with your baby look at everything you can do 😘💗 your great 👍❤
You feel what you feel! I’m super proud of you! One step at a time
Your vulnerability is admirable. Like everyone else said in the comments, you can’t compare yourself to others. It’s so hard to do especially with social media. You’ll see that it continues to happen as your child gets older too…in school, sports, and life. Create your own path, always!
It is good to acknowledge all your emotions. You put a tear in my eye because I remember even with my second son (and my boys are 32 and 28) that i had a lot of panic and feelings of worry and even remember that i almost had a panic attack when i went with my mom and my firstborn to a Shoprite. I couldn’t wait to get us all back to the “safety” of our home. Remember not only is being a mother new to you but your have a ton of hormones that are going wild. I will give you a prhase that my late mom used to say to me all the time “this too shall pass”. You are a strong person and you are allowed to feel what you are feeling. And yes be proud. My word for this summer has been “progress” because i spent a good number of months from january to june sick with various issues including ashtma, pneumonia and even having my gallbladder removed. So for me getting trhough the sunmer feeling stronger (i walked and swam almost every day) has made me proud! My friends and family humor me when i send them the number of laps I did etc. But No mind because i know it was a huge accomplishment! And so is every step you take 😊
Ps your baby is adorable and i have loved and followed your standup for years and happy for your success. 😊
You pushed a human being out of your body less than 3 months ago…..be gentle with yourself! This is a BIG DEAL and you ARE figuring it out one day at a time. Please try to not compare yourself to anyone else….you are YOU and will work it out in YOUR time. Peace and love to you and your sweet family.🙏🏼💕
Oh, honey, I'm so proud of you! 💜💜💜 You're doing absolutely seismic things, and your path is unique to you, your baby, and your family. IG isn't real life, and that's so important to keep in mind. Being honest and vulnerable is helpful in so many ways, to yourself and to everyone watching who's struggling in some way and thinking that they're the only one. I don't have kids, but I'm struggling in different ways, and seeing your honesty is so refreshing and uplifting, even though I'm sure that's not how it feels in the moment. Be proud of yourself! I'm proud of you. 😎
In tears I utterly echo this!!! Love and light to you also Sheila!! 🥰
@@trinityPhDAnd to you, too! 💜
Girl!! You are not alone…
My baby girl is 10.5 months and today by first time, I went to the grocery store with her and without my husband.
I feel so proud of myself 🙌🏼 I did it all by myself 👍🏼
7.5 months pp and it still feels hard. Hugs!! WE GOT THIS! ❤
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Remember we all went through this, you're not alone. You are doing amazing and are a great mama!! Much love ❤
Okay my Mexican side of me is like no way a two week old baby doesn’t need or want to be at the beach 🤣🤣 Also I was bleeding for like 4-6 postpartum so again the beach was no where I wanted to be. 🤣 Your journey is your own. That’s awesome that mama was able to do that. But you’re awesome too for making it to dinner with your Hunny. Absolutely be proud of the wins no matter how big or small. You’ve got this mama. ❤️❤️
This is absolutely the most positive, supportive, kind, life affirming community I’ve ever come across on UA-cam and you did that Angelah!
Your sweet baby is so lucky to have you as her mama! Every woman's journey is different, even with each child. I didn't go out much after my daughter was born. I remember being so proud of myself for showering and eating lunch when it was just she and I at 3 months postpartum. God chose you to be her mom, He knows you can do this and will love her well.
You *should* be proud of yourself! I'm proud of you for doing what you can. Everyone's journey is different; every baby is different. My first was EASY, just a super chill, easy baby. I had full on conversations with her at 18 months old. My second, Ugh. She was preemie, and not easy. I'd go to the movie theater by myself sometimes, and sit and cry in the dark when the lights went down😭 Then go home and keep trying to be a good mom. You're doing GREAT!💜
You should be so proud of yourself for being able to make a you tube video about this. I am a 65 year old nanny of 5 grandchildren. I was very proud of you when you were telling your story. It does get easier, I promise. ❤
My youngest is 29, but hearing your postpartum confession today brought many memories rushing back. You are doing great! Being a new Mom is an emotional journey and challenging every day. It’s hard to be vulnerable, stressed and tired. You are doing really great!❤
You feel what you need to feel. Even being a mom of 4, it's still hard. My youngest just turned 2 and it was really hard adjusting. You do things in your own time and however you need to.
One step at a time and nobody should ever make you feel insignificant. You matter too mom! ❤️ Sending you love!
I had my one kid at 23, and it was hard because I still felt like a kid. I cannot BEGIN to imagine what a huge change motherhood is at 40, 41. Are you kidding me?! And you're doing it! You be kind to yourself, because you are phenomenal. ❤
OMG thank you for sharing! You should be so proud of yourself, there are moms who take years to get out. I'm 7mo pregnant now, but when I had m 7 yr old I was sick the whole pregnancy and couldn't do anything. I got cabin fever so bad I went to the movies when she was 2 weeks and some ppl made me feel guilty about leaving her for 2 hours.
I just needed to feel normal for a few before I exploded. Now I am so glad I advocated for my mental health and didn't let others pressure me. I recognized a need thay I had that maybe differed from other parents. To this day when I need a break, travel, spa day or whatever without my kid my husband is so supportive and encouraging and I return a better mother and wife for my family.
I wish I had this when I had my kids. You are helping so many people!❤
Girl you are doing just fine. When I had my first baby I was a nervous wreck in the beginning. But at about 4 months things got easier. The first baby is always nerve wracking, everything is new. I learned not to compare yourself with other moms because everyone's journey is their own and you do what you can handle. Celebrate those small victories because they are important. It gets easier, you will have the nap schedule, feeding all that down before you know it. Take it day by day, you are doing great. When you started to cry I wanted to give you a hug and girl you had me tearing too because I completely get it. Everything will be ok. You got this! I'm cheering for you. ❤ Hugs Isabel
My dear sweet @Anjelah❤
Don't ever compare yourself with others. You are a firsttime mom and you are only two months a mom! Give yourself time to cope. You are a strong woman because your share this with us. The courage to do that is massive. So proud of you.
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Oh dear sweet girl. As a grandma, I'm still insecure about my abilities and handling every day tasks. Hang in there beautiful. You got this!
You hit the nail on the head when you said it's your journey. No two people are the same. Even twins have separate distinct personalities. You do YOU, better than anyone else.
Your feelings of anxiety with going out with baby are soooo valid!!!
I feel this too and I am a mom of three. So this is a totally normal feeling. As someone who does not have a huge group of mom friends, thank you for sharing your journey with us! It definitely makes me feel less alone in these weird moments of motherhood!
Sending you a big hug. Hang in there, you’re doing great 💜💜💜
Give yourself grace. You do things at your pace and remember everyone is going through their own journey. IG and Facebook are not reality. You just do what's best for you and Rosie. She is happy wherever you are. ❤
I remember breaking down in tears, once, thinking I'd never be able to go out without a diaper bag ever again. Your journey is your own, and I know you know that what you see on social media is never the person's full story. It's clichéd but true: hang in there. Your family has its own unique journey. *hugs*
Give yourself compassion and love. Being a new mom is a journey.
No one is the same, remember that and when you have a hard time, give yourself a break!! You did these milestones faster than someone else. Take your time, mama! You GOT THIS!!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
I literally got chills. I thought you guys had decided not to have kids. So happy God has blessed y’all with a wee bairn!
They did not want kids until a couple years ago when Anjelah had realized that she may actually want to have kids, so she did tests, etc. and decided to try, after all :)
You can look up the videos to see what she had shared regarding this :)
@@kerenolivero7097 Hey, thanks for fillin in the gap for me. I’m just glad they went forward and everyone is basically fine! I think she’d be a great Mom!
@@alexrodgers9247 You are welcome. I think she is an awesome Mom :)
Firstly I want to say thank you for being transparent & vulnerable with us viewers & fans. My momma's heart goes out to you. I have been through the "adjustment period" thrice, each time it's been different with my children who are now all adults on their own (another adjustment for a momma to go through in its own right).
What I've learned over the years is that, Everyone handles the parenting transitions and postpartum blues differently. For one person just getting out in public is a big accomplishment, for another just doing self-care, or continuing to do what a person normally does ie trips, is the accomplishment. It definitely looks different for everyone. As women & people in general, we need to give ourselves the time, space, and respect we deserve instead of comparing ourselves to others especially when adjusting to parenthood & it's ins & outs.
All this to say, you're doing well as a first time momma. Be kind to yourself, don't compare yourself to what you see on social media or others doing. What we see on social media is only a glimpse & usually the best parts of a person's life, not the whole picture.
You are so right and thanks for being honest. The stress of leaving the house and wanting to be able to do it well without breaking a sweat has been my struggle too. I’m better at it than I was a month, a week or even a day ago. It is a proud moment when you learn how to put all the fires and logistically make it through each situation. ❤️
Take the time you need. You celebrate your achieving moments in this parenthood journey. You are on your timeline and comfort level. You are very brave to be so vulnerable and it will help many women.
You did great!! We all know social media is the devil 😈 a habit I can spend more hours than I care to confess. One day at a time 🌷
Thank you for sharing. I been there and understand where you are coming from. You're baby is so adorable.
First babies are hard!!! You hold onto that good feeling and pat on the back. It does get easier with time and as your confidence grows. Sending you love little Mamma❤
We had no choice to go out at the early stages because she had so many appointments, and it was tough even with my husband. The first time we went out without him, I was so proud as well! Be proud!
You had me tearing up. Everyone's journey is different, and you need to celebrate yours. Your baby girl is smiling and cheering you on. You've got this❤
Never feel dumb, we are all different from one another. Post baby is different for everyone. You got this.❤❤❤
Ita been 18 months and I'm still trying to figure out going outside of the house, just me an the peanut. It's the little things! Your doing great momma. All will be figured out eventually, just be happy with little steps and small milestones. Life is different now. You got this.
You go girl! Be proud of what you were able to do! All moms have their moments of comparison, but that doesn't make you any less of a wonderwoman! Each person's life is unique, so live your unique life at the pace you need. ❤
Sweetie you are a great mom and a wonderful human being because you’re sharing your experiences. The world is filled with fear and you may have made it possible for someone else who is struggling to cope with motherhood so much better and easier. You are a blessing. ❤
Small steps are ultimately glued together to make a path. The journey is your destination. Be proud for every small step. You’re a mom who cares big and that’s a great thing. Here’s a big hug.
omg this made me cry, please don't feel bad. I couldn't move for a month after giving birth as I didn't have enough energy and was really weak. Don't let people make you feel bad, every birth is different and you are doing great. Just take the time that you need to recover in all aspects mentally and physically. You will be able to do all the things you want really soon.
Recovery can depend on many factors. Took *me* four months to walk correctly after my first kid, and I was fine two weeks after my third kid. You look great, so hopefully your feelings will match that soon!
It will get better my friend. Who knows? One day you might even do a stand-up routine about it. It is all so new to you. Balance these days with things you enjoy. Favorite food; favorite music; fav friends over, etc. Believe in yourself. ❤❤❤❤❤
Anjelah, you are a magnificent Goddess on your own! You can be proud of anything you want! You did it! You are a great mom, woman, comedian, and human being!
I love the affirmations I’m hearing you share with yourself in this video. Speaking truth against the negative self-talk or overly critical thoughts is so great and I’m proud of you! Dumb…not dumb…something else…you are doing this thing!! If a “dumb” person makes it out of the house after having a baby while their body isn’t feeling it, I’m all for them feeling good about themselves for it. You’re killing the game, mama! ❤
Oh my goodness precious mama! You are more the norm than not! You are doing an amazing job just if you can get out of your pajamas by one in the afternoon when you are a new mama! So yes it’s hard not to compare but because you did and are sharing your experience on “postpartum confessions “ you get to hear just how wonderful and normal you are! Hang in there love! It gets so much easier with time 😊
God bless you Mama ❤ Love and prayers and hugs to you 💛
Congratulations on your baby Angelah!!! ✨💖👶✨
Motherhood can be so hard. There is a lot of judgment from everyone, including ourselves, about what we “should” be doing and how. Please believe me, there is no one way to do anything in motherhood. Just continue loving your baby and being gentle with yourself during this postpartum time. You got this!
You created Rosie and she is perfect and beautiful ❤You're a wonderful little mommy.
Going to a restaurant with a baby is a HUGE deal! It is hard! We have to think about so many detailed things. You should most definitely be proud of yourself! It takes time. You love your child and want the best and nothing is wrong with that at all. I have a feeling these postpartum confession videos are going to be so helpful and eye opening to others. To those who need them in the midst of their own struggles so they know they aren’t alone, and also to those who just have no clue what all new mothers go through and the challenges that are faced daily.
Your baby is so very cute!😊
Give yourself grace. You are speaking truth that many of us experienced but had no one to share the struggle. You are doing good things.
Hey lovely mama……I am now 65 and in 1990 I had my first baby. I couldn’t even conceive of leaving him….we didn’t have all the social media you have, but I did have this thought that I should be doing ‘mommy’ better’. I never pumped,I was always there. Well it was when he turned 1 year that I left him with a babysitter and went to my husbands work event. I rushed home so worried…but at the same time enjoyed being out! So, moral of that story is that you have time…you will figure it out, and your baby will thrive… 💜💕💜 (p.s. - he is now 33 and for better or worse by me, he is thriving, married, successful and so happy. Just love your baby, that is all. 💕)
Love the idea of this series! People (especially on social) tend to make being a new mom look easier & more magical than reality. I appreciate your honesty about it, being a new mom is HARD & we should all give each other & ourselves more grace❤️
Baby steps are still worthy of praise. You did a great thing. Your friends post was a brief moment in time and after that picture was taken she may have felt disappointed for what ever reason, and been upset. You don’t see what happens after that camera click. Don’t put negative pressure on yourself. Look at it this way, your little one didn’t get a rash on its butt cause of sand in its diaper 😆 You are smart and you are doing things at your pace and your baby’s pace. As my handle on UA-cam says Go with the flow! Just breathe❤
I still remember the first time I took my 2 1/2 year old and my newborn to CVS by myself…I was so proud of myself for doing that! I TOTALLY get it. What you feel is normal for new moms. You can do this! Bonus…your baby is soooooo purty! 👶🏽👩🏽🍼💕
Aw! It IS so hard to get out 🤪 I have definitely been proud of myself for getting out to a restaurant 🙌🙌 Thanks for sharing and being so raw and relatable ❤️
I’m so proud of you. From we’re not gonna have kids to being an amazing momma! U are amazing. Nope it’s not easy but ur knocking it out the park baby girl
This is sooooo realllll!!! Thank you so much for sharing. You should absolutely be proud of yourself. I didn’t start going out regularly until like 4 months!
You have got this mamma! I was so depressed during my pregnancy because I was so sick the whole time, and I saw other women performing and traveling while I didn’t even want to be seen by my husband. Much less the world. You are already doing the best thing you can do by sharing your vulnerabilities and making someone else feel better who’s struggling with the same thing!
You are amazing! 🎉 the baby is just so cute and adorable.. she shows it all in the picture.. how happy she is !
You are doing great! Please stay proud of yourself ❤❤❤
EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT, and I am SO proud of you!
God bless you, girl! My baby is almost 1.5 years old and im still trying to figure stuff out! Its hard. But God's grace is sufficient every step of the way 🙏❤️
From a 66 year old mom of three who also started having babies late…..I was 34, 36, and 43…… please don’t do that to yourself.
Had you not scrolled Instagram you wouldn’t have felt that way.
Put on blinders. Cover your ears and do YOU.
Omg we are the saaaaame! Had my baby on Father’s Day and I still am apprehensive about being out and about. My husband is way more chill about it all which brings some balance. I do feel anxious at time though. Thank you for sharing ❤️ I’m in tears with you. We’re gonna get better at this thing!!
Girl i am so proud of you. You've been so brave in sharing. I look to you to make me laugh and you so DO. Here for you girl ❤
As a parent of two daughters , who are ready to go to college in a few years , time goes by so quickly , one day we see them come from the hospital after being born and then they are ready to start driving and are teenagers. Cherish every moment with you kids , because these moments go by so quickly. Take a lot of photos and videos , kids grow up so fast.
Your beautiful with your small human !!
First thing don't compare yourself to other moms. Everyone is different. You are a GREAT MOM already. I am proud of you for sharing your vulnerability. And just know, as a parent you will make mistakes but that's ok. I have 2 adult children and 5 grand kids so I've seen a bunch. Hold your chin high and be that proud momma that you are!!!
Not comparing is SO HARD! But I promise you, that mom has her struggles too. You are not held to a timeline for anything. Do what you’re comfortable with and each time it will get easier. You don’t have to go anywhere to be the very best mom for Rosie. Loving her is enough ♥️
What’s the saying, God gave your children the perfect mother for them. Being a parent is so hard and overwhelming and it’s so easy to compare and doubt. You have only been a new mommy for a couple months. Trust me you will get into your own rhythm that works for you and your child. Everyone’s is different. Heck it’s different with each child. You’re doing great and Rosie is so lucky to have you as her mommy❤️
Anjelah, IDK if you read these comments, but what you have is a blessing. As a 44 y/o gay man, being a parent wouldn't come easy, so I never did get to have kids, and I closed that door. I have to live being a father vicariously, lol!
I can't thank you enough for all the laughter you've made me experience. Greetings from Florida, where we all Puerto Ricans come from, as you said 😊 Lots of love to you all and thank you for the best medicine, laughter.
Awww!! Girl! I'm right there with you! Same happened to me. I finally went to the grocery store when my baby was around 4ish months. You should be proud for going to a restaurant! My kids are 4 and 2 now and I see moms with their 5 day old babies at the pool. And I just think "I couldn't do that!". But I can do other things! My kids are the only kids that nap for 3 hours a day!! All the moms are like "how did you train them that way?!" I just did. It's what I knew how to do. And only you will know what to do with your baby. And it will be amazing and such an accomplishment. Maybe you breastfeed for 2 years. Maybe you get the baby to have amazing naps and sleep through the night. You are working with your mental and physical health as well as baby's. ❤❤ you'll find your path. For some of us, it just takes more time.
Celebrate your small victories. She is so beautiful!!! like Mom!! Congratulations!! We love you.
Your baby is safe, fed, and loved. You are doing a fabulous job! Try to see the value in each stage-you’re not ready to go out yet? Great, comfy clothes and no makeup! Each stage seems to last forever but are really so short. You’ll be comfortable going out before she goes to prom 😊. That was always my mantra when I worried about not being the same as all the “other” families. Not potty trained at 2yo? It’s okay, he’s not going to go to prom with a diaper. Still sleeping in our bed? It’s okay he’s not going to come home from prom and crawl in bed with us. It’ll all work out.
It's the little things in life that bring us pride!! Just know you got this momma! ❤
Every mom is on a different journey and you SHOULD be proud of yourself for your journey!! 👏👏
Oh I just want to give you a hug. I’m old enough that I wasn’t raising my kids when the gram was a thing and I just feel sure it contributes a ton to a new mom feeling less secure about where she is at in her and her child’s journey. There will always be people “ahead” and “behind” where you currently find yourself. This is a marathon and not a sprint. And all I can say is when you get to the point where you look back on how you raised that sweet peanut you will know that those little moments you celebrate are incomparable and they mean the world. Keep celebrating, always! You are doing GREAT!
The worst part about being a woman is the UNREASONABLE habit of comparing ourselves to others. I stand by real people, perceived flaws and all, because even the ones that claim their lives are so perfect are lying about something that is not. Hang in there and know that you are the best you and no one can be you better. P.S. a billion Mama hugs to store in reserve for those moments of doubt. You Anjelah, GOT THIS!
I am so glad to know you have a healthy little girl. I had my son at 35 and my daughter at 40. I didn’t bounce back like the younger moms . I took took a while to get out. Sometimes we want to get out because the days and nights can become never ending, but time goes by before you know it. I am now 52, and what I have learned is not to compare my self to others.
Your baby your life your choice. You are a good momma most people these days just take a pill and don't even have babies. You did good choosing to be a mom! Your heart is in the right place. You care... you are protecting that baby and that's the right thing to do.U rock Momma❤
Everyone's journey is different and that's ok. Post partum depression and feeling insecure is a thing. Don't feel dumb because I promise you are not alone. Your fan base is so proud of you. Sending you a big mommy 🫂 for your bravery because this is something that women in past generations never talked about. You're doing GREAT. Be kind to yourself. ❤
You are doing great! Your baby crying means she feels safe and loved enough to cry in front of you. Keep it up, and cry if you need to cuz this stuff is hard. My kids are in college and I now have to go back and try to be me without them, so this crying always is around.❤
You are being too hard on yourself. Everyone’s post partum journey is different. You are doing an amazing job, you to take life one day at a time and no comparing yourself to others. We are amazing women in our own ways! God bless you 🙏🏻