That's me, on every level. I constantly compare my recovered body with everyone else's, it's so exhausting. I am at this point when I just avoid looking at my body, and I can see why acting like this isn't helping me at all.
Omgosh, this could not have come at a better time! I'm chained down in the struggle bus when it comes to crappy body image and weight gain right now. I finally gave up fighting weight gain and am trying to accept it, but it's been a hellish couple of weeks. Like, absolute rubbish. It sucks. So thank you for this video.
Kitty Kat in the same boat as you! Although mine has been a hellish 9months but I’ve come so far to give up now and I’m hoping that this will all be worth it in the end
I needed to rewatch this video ♥ In the last couple of months I was able to gain a lot of weight - finally! I don't weigh myself anymore, but I get weighed regularely by my GP. Atm I look like the Pillsbury Doughboy 😅 All the weight I've gained is at my body's core. I've got asked a lot if I'm pregnant. There are no clothes which fit, since I really look kind of unproportional. I listen to my thoughts closely and of course - A part of me wants to be thin again. A part of me wants to be less noticable. There may be more reasons why I am thinking this way, which go way deeper than society's definition of beauty. But to be honest: I'm much happier than I have been the last 13 years. There are so many things I did this year with the people I treasure, I have been at a concert of my favourite band, I have been on a weekend trip all alone, I am working full-time again. All these things were not even thinkable just a year ago. I still have to focus on my recovery a lot. I know that I am still hesitating to acknowledge my mental and physical hunger. But I won't give in. I'm actually too happy in comparison to the person I was the lomgest part of my life. I won't give this freedom away anymore! ♥
Thank you so much that's so true! The worst thing in this situation are other people comments. Just if I made one step to accept by new body a bit more, someone tells me how "bigger" I like now or ask me whether I'm pregnant. That hurts so much an makes recovery really hard. There some really body society influences about body image, cause I'm still not overweight at all.
That happened to me a lot at the start of recovery trust me. I once got asked at Aldi if i was pregnant by the shop keeper and i was that embarrassed that i said i was and made up a whole story about how far along I was and the gender of my "baby" and that 😂😂 Its because what little weight you have put on has probably gone to your stomache or if you bloat a lot as i did, or hold water weight you might look a little out of proportion for a while which other people may unnasumingly ask about, not knowing how badly it affects people with eating disorders but trust me, it does even out sweetie. Stay strong xx ❤
I am coming from a totally different place. I have been overweight my entire life. I was 120 lbs at 8 years old, 225 at 21, up to 368 in 2003 when I had a gastric bypass. I as a lot of folks have been on every possible diet as well. So I lost down to 260 with the surgery, then went to 220 and back up to 260. Some think this should be easy having a 1 1/2 cup sized stomach but it hasn’t ever been easy. I had several friends who wound up dropping to the low 100,s with this surgery and for years I felt like such a surgery failure because, even though my health has greatly improved with the weight loss, I am still fat. I went through a lot of bullying as a child and never came to a point where I could embrace my body as is. This notion of years of starving myself on different “plans” and then going off of them and eating everything in sight rings true with the knowledge that my poor body thinks it lives in Famine World. I guess I am asking if this whole way of not restricting and rewiring my brain works for people like me who are on the weighty end of things? It didn’t take but a few hours on the first day of non restriction to notice that everything I put in my mouth came with a complete program guide in my brain of whether it was a good or bad food, what the calorie count was, the carb count, were they good or bad carbs and how ( If I ate this thing) could I compensate for it. That was eye opening and discouraging at the same time. Thank you for posting these videos. Maybe at last with this and my favorite book “The Fuck it Diet” I will be able to heal my relationship with my body and with food. I am 66 and have wasted a lot of my life wandering from one land of famine to another. I would like to settle in a neutral food land! That would be paradise!
How are you doing? I read your comment just now and I really wanna send you a hug It must had been such a hard life, I cannot even imagine. I hope you found respect and acceptance for your body, I hope you are done with diets, I hope you are smiling now
all this time I've been trying to protect my brilliant 13 year old, straight A student, from going what I went through....and then I find a book fiiled with calories and meals. Turns out she's been forced to do it for mandatory homework from her "health" class at school......What do I do?!!
car. A omg that is so scary hat they are doing that in schools. Unfortunately most people don’t know better. I researched fitness and health for YEARS and I’ve only come to this information recently after realizing I’ve had an eating disorder this entire time
Talk to the school and give them resources that show how damaging that kind of thing can be to young kids. Health At Every Size, The Fuck It Diet, and Tabitha's blog all have evidence and studies that show how calorie counting can trigger eating disorders. Inform the school.
But sometimes you're NOT doing behaviours or actions anymore. It can be hard to just see yourself as different or feel different in a new body. My skin actually felt stretched and I had stretch marks and I felt weird crossing my legs, laying on my side, walking. Everything felt wrong about the new weight gain, plus psychological traumatic events involving body image. I totally understand your set philosophy of rewiring and eating without restriction, the inate processes we have etc.... But sometimes it doesn't seem to account for everything I feel?
@@harmonyhope1709 hey, I'm experiencing all the things you mentioned above too. I'm sorry to hear it's been hard for you and I just wanted to ask how you're doing currently in recovery? Sending hugs!
@@ivanalol7512 aww bless you thank you so much.... I'm so sorry to hear that you're experiencing all of the horrible feelings of weight gain too. I'm actually doing OK in recovery at the moment thank you... I'm in a good headspace. Really wishing you the best in your recovery journey too xx
I hope you'll have an enjoyable and relaxing weekend to recharge your batteries 💕 And wow.... I was acting on your advices today... and I'm overwhelmingly shocked about how often I compare myself with others... "I wish I would have such a hot ass like her!" 😂😅 "Will the people also talk bad about me when I continue gaining weight as my recovery continues?" Or while I'm looking in the mirror inside the elevator at work with eyes full of disappointment, full of shame and sadness. Really... Yesterday in the evening I was crying because I just realized these eyes of mine, with which I look at myself every f!#ng day 😔😕
Would still drinking Diet Coke be one? I do sort of drink my calories, but 9/10 times I don’t. Or not having something even if you’re thinking about eating it, because you don’t want to run out, etc...? I feel like other than that (and body image/size) is my only remaining restraints to my eating disorder.
That's me, on every level. I constantly compare my recovered body with everyone else's, it's so exhausting. I am at this point when I just avoid looking at my body, and I can see why acting like this isn't helping me at all.
Same :(
@@RenopunkJo we can't give up tho. We're gonna be alright! ❤️ I wish you well
@@lorenadias6730 Thanks! And the same to you ☺️❤️
Hey Lorena, I have got exactly the same problem as you have. I'm curious how you are doing now?
Same!! Gah!!!!
Omgosh, this could not have come at a better time! I'm chained down in the struggle bus when it comes to crappy body image and weight gain right now. I finally gave up fighting weight gain and am trying to accept it, but it's been a hellish couple of weeks. Like, absolute rubbish. It sucks. So thank you for this video.
Kitty Kat in the same boat as you! Although mine has been a hellish 9months but I’ve come so far to give up now and I’m hoping that this will all be worth it in the end
Excellent. I need to listen to this daily.
I needed to rewatch this video ♥
In the last couple of months I was able to gain a lot of weight - finally! I don't weigh myself anymore, but I get weighed regularely by my GP. Atm I look like the Pillsbury Doughboy 😅 All the weight I've gained is at my body's core. I've got asked a lot if I'm pregnant. There are no clothes which fit, since I really look kind of unproportional.
I listen to my thoughts closely and of course - A part of me wants to be thin again. A part of me wants to be less noticable.
There may be more reasons why I am thinking this way, which go way deeper than society's definition of beauty.
But to be honest: I'm much happier than I have been the last 13 years. There are so many things I did this year with the people I treasure, I have been at a concert of my favourite band, I have been on a weekend trip all alone, I am working full-time again.
All these things were not even thinkable just a year ago.
I still have to focus on my recovery a lot. I know that I am still hesitating to acknowledge my mental and physical hunger. But I won't give in. I'm actually too happy in comparison to the person I was the lomgest part of my life. I won't give this freedom away anymore! ♥
Hey, how are you going? Please, do not desapair!😊
Thank you so much that's so true! The worst thing in this situation are other people comments. Just if I made one step to accept by new body a bit more, someone tells me how "bigger" I like now or ask me whether I'm pregnant. That hurts so much an makes recovery really hard. There some really body society influences about body image, cause I'm still not overweight at all.
That happened to me a lot at the start of recovery trust me. I once got asked at Aldi if i was pregnant by the shop keeper and i was that embarrassed that i said i was and made up a whole story about how far along I was and the gender of my "baby" and that 😂😂 Its because what little weight you have put on has probably gone to your stomache or if you bloat a lot as i did, or hold water weight you might look a little out of proportion for a while which other people may unnasumingly ask about, not knowing how badly it affects people with eating disorders but trust me, it does even out sweetie. Stay strong xx ❤
I am coming from a totally different place. I have been overweight my entire life. I was 120 lbs at 8 years old, 225 at 21, up to 368 in 2003 when I had a gastric bypass. I as a lot of folks have been on every possible diet as well. So I lost down to 260 with the surgery, then went to 220 and back up to 260. Some think this should be easy having a 1 1/2 cup sized stomach but it hasn’t ever been easy. I had several friends who wound up dropping to the low 100,s with this surgery and for years I felt like such a surgery failure because, even though my health has greatly improved with the weight loss, I am still fat. I went through a lot of bullying as a child and never came to a point where I could embrace my body as is. This notion of years of starving myself on different “plans” and then going off of them and eating everything in sight rings true with the knowledge that my poor body thinks it lives in Famine World. I guess I am asking if this whole way of not restricting and rewiring my brain works for people like me who are on the weighty end of things? It didn’t take but a few hours on the first day of non restriction to notice that everything I put in my mouth came with a complete program guide in my brain of whether it was a good or bad food, what the calorie count was, the carb count, were they good or bad carbs and how ( If I ate this thing) could I compensate for it. That was eye opening and discouraging at the same time. Thank you for posting these videos. Maybe at last with this and my favorite book “The Fuck it Diet” I will be able to heal my relationship with my body and with food. I am 66 and have wasted a lot of my life wandering from one land of famine to another. I would like to settle in a neutral food land! That would be paradise!
How are you doing? I read your comment just now and I really wanna send you a hug
It must had been such a hard life, I cannot even imagine. I hope you found respect and acceptance for your body, I hope you are done with diets, I hope you are smiling now
This one dislike is probably a dying eating disorder
I know this is old but thank you this is helpful x
all this time I've been trying to protect my brilliant 13 year old, straight A student, from going what I went through....and then I find a book fiiled with calories and meals. Turns out she's been forced to do it for mandatory homework from her "health" class at school......What do I do?!!
car. A omg that is so scary hat they are doing that in schools. Unfortunately most people don’t know better. I researched fitness and health for YEARS and I’ve only come to this information recently after realizing I’ve had an eating disorder this entire time
Talk to the school and give them resources that show how damaging that kind of thing can be to young kids. Health At Every Size, The Fuck It Diet, and Tabitha's blog all have evidence and studies that show how calorie counting can trigger eating disorders. Inform the school.
But sometimes you're NOT doing behaviours or actions anymore. It can be hard to just see yourself as different or feel different in a new body. My skin actually felt stretched and I had stretch marks and I felt weird crossing my legs, laying on my side, walking. Everything felt wrong about the new weight gain, plus psychological traumatic events involving body image. I totally understand your set philosophy of rewiring and eating without restriction, the inate processes we have etc.... But sometimes it doesn't seem to account for everything I feel?
What do you mean by account?
@@lorenadias6730 like this theory doesn't explain everything always
@@harmonyhope1709 hey, I'm experiencing all the things you mentioned above too. I'm sorry to hear it's been hard for you and I just wanted to ask how you're doing currently in recovery? Sending hugs!
@@ivanalol7512 aww bless you thank you so much.... I'm so sorry to hear that you're experiencing all of the horrible feelings of weight gain too. I'm actually doing OK in recovery at the moment thank you... I'm in a good headspace. Really wishing you the best in your recovery journey too xx
@@harmonyhope1709 that's so nice to hear! I'm glad you're continuing on your journey and doing good
I hope you'll have an enjoyable and relaxing weekend to recharge your batteries 💕
And wow.... I was acting on your advices today... and I'm overwhelmingly shocked about how often I compare myself with others...
"I wish I would have such a hot ass like her!" 😂😅
"Will the people also talk bad about me when I continue gaining weight as my recovery continues?"
Or while I'm looking in the mirror inside the elevator at work with eyes full of disappointment, full of shame and sadness.
Really... Yesterday in the evening I was crying because I just realized these eyes of mine, with which I look at myself every f!#ng day 😔😕
Exactly where i am. Eating tons...but feel total shite on body image and end up isolating a lot
Hey Nisha, this is me as well. How are you doing now?
Thank you. Need this.
This is so helpful, thank you!
Thank you so much for this video Tabitha
Helpful- thanks!
Would still drinking Diet Coke be one? I do sort of drink my calories, but 9/10 times I don’t. Or not having something even if you’re thinking about eating it, because you don’t want to run out, etc...? I feel like other than that (and body image/size) is my only remaining restraints to my eating disorder.
How long did it take you to recover and rewire ?