Fake Growth vs Real Growth - What If You're Just Tricking Yourself?
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This man is saving lives.
This man is brutal at getting deep at psyches!!!
brother Leo is awesome
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I notice if I become too attached to the future it takes away from the present moment. I think its a balance of being present in the moment and then taking action and having a desire for progression. Great video Leo.
I think desire is still a bad thing. We should just do things without desiring their bringing us whatever at all. The word "progression" in itself is a trap because it forces you to make comparison. When you compare, you judge, when you judge you're fucked.
It can also be de-motivating because you'll just start thinking how far it is.
@@zeedo666 How does one improve if you cannot compare yourself to who you were before?
Lmao i know that name glad to see the connection between you two
@@zeedo666 Desire is your spirit wanting to express itself
This reminds me on one of the best quotes:"If you are not ashamed of a person you were a year ago, you're not growing enough, you're not pushing yourself hard enough"
+vrstovsek amen
why would you to spend your time being ashamed of the past though?
it's a fancily-written quote, not literal advice...
then you are linked with the wrong quotes and you got the wrong idea because its about living the present more and just let things go by focusing on what you want not what the external world gives you the idea what you want. pushing yourself is like the super ego telling you what you should do and that makes you even feel worse. its really simple : live present its something so simpel yet so hard for some people.
Dude, this quote is all wrong. Guilt and shame are garbages fed to us by dellusional society!
26:38 Real growth isn't about getting what you want externally, but about releasing the need for it internally
Perfect essence of this speech.
Thank you for posting,
Thank you Leo
Sometimes getting what you need is the best way to understand that you don't need it at all to be happy.
For me it often works this way
This is so true, the problem will never go away until you address it specifically.
For example: You're worried about people not liking you.
Result: You put on a fake persona to be liked. (Meanwhile deep inside you are not happy because you know you're faking it and kills you slowly cause you aren't truly happy even though you practically got what you wanted - acceptance.)
To truly fix the problem you need to let go of the belief that you are not a likable person and just let go of the thought in general that you are not a likable person and eliminate it from your reality in general. Release the need to be accepted internally and just do 'you' instead.
Thee'Unequeltv How would you stop worrying about no being liked?
You can't just stop thinking about it.
Perfect summary
It gives so much freedom to not care what ppl think
I can not say enough to express how grateful I am to watch your videos for free! Thank you Leo for making me a better person!
For *helping you to be a better personn,to *contribuate to your personnal growth,you wanna say?
I feel the same!!!
I totally agree. I'd be nothing without people like him.
I am leos big fan I am super lucky that Allah have given me the opportunity to meet such kind of wise person.These leos content is so good.thank you boss
same from me Leo is boss good,wise person .Alhamdhulillah
I have been following you for a few months now but by far this is the most powerful video I've seen in the series. I've lived in the lie of fake growth for 8 years and it's left me with heartbreak and emptiness. I want to thank you so much for this particular video. You've saved me from myself numerous times, but this video, you gave me another chance at life.
Sweet!
Wow that almost made me tear up. Good for you. Keep growing.
idk his ZEN DEVIL vid is good too
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Leo, u talk 90% truth and 10% crap. That makes you one of best thinkers/gurus I have encountered in lifetime. Thank you.
What's the 10% crap?
I doubt that there is any
🤣 that’s funny. But for real Leo is OG
U don't have a brain.
It took me 6 or 7 LONG roads of success to realize that when you get there you brought "you" with you, and it still sucks :) There is nothing wrong with success per se, but it won't make you happy the way you think it will. What makes you unhappy is not your lack of success, it is your need for success in the first place. Please love yourself right now (this takes actual work; work that feels both tiring and scary... with a typical upbringing you don't have the tools to love yourself yet... Leo is a great start)
Im like that guy who "works at home". I got big social anxiety issues (it started after making some big changes in my life) and im very good at convincing myself that i dont need any social interactions.I think personal development is like an escape for me in many ways.its like im saying to myself "i dont need anyone or anything else other than daily personal growth".But now after year and a half of personal development im starting to see this is not the way to do it,got to find my way back into the society as the new me.
+Thomas Evolve I feel ya!
How did u do it
How is it that you always seem to put out videos that address the most pressing issues in my life. You have changed me so much Leo, for the better
I have been putting off watching this video because I knew instinctively that I've been fake growing. Time to dig deep. Thanks Leo
I am amazed by how focused I am when I am watching your video. Before I didn't think that I would watch a video of someone talking for 40 minutes. But with your videos I do it without even noticing how time passes.
+Sabaca I feel the same way. Even when I get very unfocused and cought in really exhausting thinking over the course of several days, I just need to watch some of his videos and I get kicked back on track. Amazing how this works.
fantastic something I have personally experienced. This relates so much to men who get into pick-up artistry. I love that your videos are long and full of value.
Don't worship them. They are friends. Take their advice. Thank them for what they have offered you.
Johny Berba's here too! :D
Now I really understand what Tyler Durden meant by "Self-improvement is masturbation. Now self-destruction is the answer." Oh boy, do I have a lot of work to do... Thanks Leo.
+Kelvin is Free You could say that self-improvement IS self-destruction.
Or Self deconstruction* 🔥
Wow thank you for this, I've found this quite beneficial. Its added
clarity to and reminded me of a verse in the Quran I think of quite
often and I'm realizing how little I understand it!
"Indeed, God will not change the condition of a people until they change
what is in themselves." -Surah Ar-Rad, 13:11 [Quran]
#viciouscycle #neuroticpatterns #illusions #internalissues
#externalachievements #frightening #deeplevel #awareness
Life belongs to those who give no fucks.
kinda
Hardik Jain totally!
Enlightment --- Not giving a fuck at the deepest level of being.
Ugh Leo I love and hate you right now. I've made real growth, I think. But not as MUCH real growth as I thought especially in my depression/anxiety and addictions... my distractors are higher quality and the problems are less frequent.. but the tendancy to lapse back into old habits tells me you are right. As does my deisre to swear when watching this video. Something in me hates it. which means its dead on.
Your egoic defence walls
I feel you on that 💯
You hit it on the target again! Now when I think about it, I succeed more when I don't even stress about something! I succeed more when I have the balls to actually face an issue and fail until I succeed at it. It's very easy to mask a problem, it's extremely hard to admit you did the wrong thing and learn it the right way. Well said.
So true! In my younger years,I had huge eating problems ( even with no weight gain) and tried everything, from dieting, to crazy exercising, to fasten to other fancy stuff. One day, I realized that I ate to cover unpleasant feelings; once I knew I had to feel them and not avoid them, eating problems vanished. I am healthy and fit, enjoy every meal and let myself feel bad feeling as well, when they show up!
Well said man.
You really know how to put the finger on the sore wound.
Thank you for making me realise the basic fundaments.
My biggest problem in life is that I don't have anyone around me to talk about 'deep' topics with.
If only I had a friend I could share this kind of stuff with...but I don't...
At the beginning this video hurt my feelings, so rage quit at 9mins and went to bed, I woke up my friend persuaded me to watch it and this is one of my fav video's. I was even scared to click on the video at first because I wanted live in the illusion that I was actually progressing, but I had the courage to watch till the end. I want a cookie.
+zakariya mohamud good job :)
Hey! Don't forget!
Great,muhammud,you had courage! keep it up!You can do it!
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Cookie = achievement, but here your cookie! 😂😂😂 you are doing it for yourself! It sounds now ironical but I mean it seriously!🍪🍪🍪🍪
Hey thanks for sharing! Needed a reality check actually. It´s so easy to fall into the ego trap, huh? Singning to your newsletter casue I "need" (lol) some tools and guidance to keep myself aware of the ego. Much love and thx again :)
Heeeeey this is Leo!=Awesome!
Real growth isn't about changing who you are. It's about discovering who is the real you, by doing deep inner work and slowly letting your gentle light of your true self come out again. It's about changing and removing from your life and personality all the things you are not.
There isn't a single reason to be scared of the resolt of the change, because your core stays the same. You are just letting yourself to be who you are. The real you instead of the former fake you.
I see soo much of me in fake growth.. now I understand.. love you man! Great-full to have come across your page.. you helping me out alot. 🙏🏽
You saved me from emotional roller-coasters. God bless you man.
Léo you are great giving advice !!! thank you !!
When I started to feel better and do Meditation (Inner Work) i left my boyfriend - which was a ''fake growth'' one.
I was wirh him because I was afraid of being alone.
Afraid of being alone with myself.
Now i feel much better. I am not needy anymore.
8 years later, and only now im really grasping the gravity of this insight.
What needs to be changed is the relationship between every situation and your emotional state, that's the work, a journey of self descovery and self mastery.
I like it, you're telling people to treat the problem instead of just treating the symptoms.
This might be my favorite video of yours. You already do a good job with taking a massive amount of information and condensing down to something that is easily consumable. However, the points you made and the examples you gave were absolutely perfect in helping illustrate the points you were making. Thank you Leo
This path of deep transformational growth I have started a couple years ago when I started a gap year after high school graduation. Most of this time my intuition has told me that this is important so I have disconnected from the external world a lot more to then reprogram myself on my own terms. Now I am at a stage where I am slowly re-integrating into the "external world" by going to college and soon a job. I have learned many things but most of them I can't put to words as clearly as you have put here because they are more of a feeling. This video helped me put more words to why I am where I am and why I am doing what I am doing. I am faced with more controversy about what I have been doing and am still doing when I talk to more people, which calls for a more strongly defined explanation of what I am doing, to not get sucked into their perception of me. Thanks for this video, and I am so grateful that I have followed my intuition (and plan to continue) ^_^
Leo, just want to say I think it is great that you record your videos in full. It makes them seem more honest. I'm tired of seeing videos where every 1 second has been edited because god forbid someone might judge the person in the video for stumbling over a word or showing their bad side... Thank you for your ongoing honesty and groundedness. It is such a breath of fresh air to watch your videos.
"Real growth is not about getting what you want externally but about releasing the need for it internally." Totally share man.
Best quote in the video good catch dude!
Leo once again you have read my mind, thank you for your wisdom!
Leo you're a god man. I just wrote to myself in my journal. It is hard to explain but what it is; it's coming home, doing your destiny, peace of mind and it's heal all these neuroses we have. It became my impression that it is necessary to live an authentic life.
Great video, I've been job hopping for years thinking If i get a better job then my life will be better, I realize now the problem is me.
You deserve so many more subscribers, you've helped me realize a lot of things I'm doing wrong in my life. Good thing I caught the fake growth as I'm young
The most brilliant and amazing video I have ever watched. I'm regretful that I did meet up with it earlier, but I'm really happy to come it cross today. I totally agree with the guy above, "This man is saving lives."
As this journey continues... So does the truth... Don't ever think that the matrix will give your mind happiness... Only by being true you will find fulfillment... And all of your Life's purpose will be fully answered of you who are TRUELY meant to be. absolutely inspiring video 😌
i didn't notice that this video is actually 40mins long but after i watched the whole video and i realised these elements are essential to real life problems, I'm so graceful that i can have the chance to hear someone actually know things.
I may just be going through a self imposed bad time but I feel like this guy was talking directly too me. great advice.
Hey Leo for real you are the fucking king of self development, you have the most quality content I've ever seen
I love this tough love. Gonna set a reminder to keep coming back to this one. If you're reading this and don't already set reminders on your mac, please start, it'll keep you in check.
You're so talking about me! I've known for some time that I'm a realization junkie. I also know that sooner or later I'll fail once the temporary high that comes with that realization fades. I habitually get disappointed in myself because deep down I see myself as a failure, and sooner or later that "truth" that I know about myself reasserts itself and fulfills that habit of disappointment and failure when the realization inevitably doesn't fundamentally change my life and my bad habits because I haven't accepted a true change in who I know myself to be. The idea of letting go of who I know myself to be, to literally change myself and the habits and emotions that I think of as the core of who I am is so revolutionary to me that it scares me! Almost as if I'd be taking a knife and slitting my own throat. Then I realized that if I change my thinking and choose to no longer see myself as this weak failure and disappointment, no longer know myself as someone who lives into these fears and weaknesses because that's who I truly believe I am, then what have I really given up? A part of me doesn't die, because those are beliefs, not who I am! How can I ever truly change unless I'm willing to let that mindset die? I'm a firm believer in the power of forgiveness. Forgiveness has truly changed my life, but I believe it has taken me as far as it can with my present mindset and habits. Endlessly forgiving me for being weak makes that weakness easier to live with, but it's also reinforcing it as a part of me and something I must accept rather than change. Mind BLOWN! Anyway, can I really just turn away from a lifetime of negative programming? Time, I'm sure, will tell. Thank you for your videos and website. You have definitely given me much to think about!
I am 20 years old, this last year I have looked at life completely different, Ive found my inner sanity and I have realized life is about doing what is right and following your heart, by following my heart ive found the ability to change into a more compassionate, understanding, empethetic human being, ive found my true aspirations, but ive also found that noone is even close to perfect, we have to continually progress in our hearts and minds daily!!! It is necessary to accept change if we wish to become our potentials, it can all be so simple, my advice for you, follow your heart my friends. Once you realize if its possible for one, its possible for me!!! I was once in a dark place, but my desire to change guided me into the light, the past is irrelevant, im better than ever baby, but im not done yet, Im going to be the worlds most profound program developer, I want to inspire others to create and follow their hearts, im telling you, once you follow your heart and let go of all these negative thoughts of judgment and rejection, something happens inside of you, you become a better person, you grow, and by being yourseld, it gives others confidence to grow aswell, we are on this earth to spread love and help each other become aware to the inevitable reality that we can all attain through a little determination and alot of willpower
I swear 3 weeks ago, I got this motto on myself "follow yourself, but never trust her loyalty". And today I'm watching this video for Leo talking about self loyalty!!!! Serendipity!!!!
THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU, PLEASE DON'T EVER STOP DOING THIS WORK!!!!!!!
One question: How do you make these long videos and look at the camera all the time without cuts?
+MikkroBitti passion for his work
+MikkroBitti because he love so much what he is doing :)
+MikkroBitti - Lots of practice, being very comfortable with the subject and lots of preparation in advance. I suspect he creates an outline in advance and has that and any quotes in front of him.
+MikkroBitti I've been wondering about that aswell. My guess is that it's free talk. He knows his stuff so well that he can just talk about it. He might be putting down some points before the making of the video, though.
+MikkroBitti He's in a flow state.
Leo's voice is so soothing, and calm. It doesn't matter what video I'm watching, his voice instantly relaxes me and grabs my attention so I can try to get everything I can from his videos... just thank you for what you do Leo, I need these videos.
only an hour a week? I watch and rewatch old videos sometimes multiple a day. In 6 months i have made leaps and bounds personally. Love this video because it proved to me that i really am growing. Thank you Leo.
You talk so much truth all the time. I've realized this thing kind of too. But you put it so well and easy to grasp.
This is very useful, thank you. I'm forcing myself, I'm getting success, but I'm still feeling insecure anytime it comes again. Fake growth, this is brilliant!
LEO,
WTF. This message is awesome. Are you channelling this stuff? You are so compassionate and real. You really have a talent for this human condition. I say a HUGE THANK YOU!
Best to you,
TOM
I came to realize most of what you talked about from my recent personal experience, and that made me think like man I wish I listened to him earlier, but reality is if I came across this earlier, I wouldn't have listened 5 minutes into it. Yet I still wish all my loved ones would listen to it.
Reminds me of "letting go" by David Hawkins
Sick video as always!
Its funny, last night I had the thought "Is looking back at your previous actions/behaviour and 'knowing better' a legitimate gauge of personal progress?"...
woke up this morning to this video! haha awesome :D
+Conscious Encounters law of attraction :)
+Conscious Encounters stuff like that has been happening to me!
+Conscious Encounters "Sick"?! Is that from teenager slang?
yessir, that would be notorious teenage slang
The only criticism I have is very often Leo give too many examples to drive a point. But principally, I like his ideas/concepts of many things. Keep up the excellent job bro...
This video made me sad, but as I'm always saying that I prefer harsh truths instead of sweet lies, a big thank you!
These videos should get more views, thanks Leo for helping me better understand my psychology
I cannot thank you enough for all the support you provide. Been following you for about six months now and already I am feeling so much more free in myself, hard work though and not one person even understands why I 'bother' doing all this inner work, ha ha.
PS: still learning on being able to read others' comments without getting wound up, lol.
I really liked how long this video was. When you get hit by truth bomb, after truth bomb, after truth bomb and feel like you've torn into yourself and seen who you really are.
PS I love watching your videos. You're making me think.
First time I started watching you was about a year ago.. Happy that I did
That was the most intense change that I've gone through till now, the concept of identity. I believe today that egocentrical problems are the most common and central personal issue of our society, it is everywhere. Love to watch you talking about that. Till the next topic.
thank you Leo your videos are the deepest about psychology and self developpement. you bring a real new vision about that.
wow! it was really eyes-opening for me! Was in deep fake growth, but I understand it and will change it from now.. Thank You Leo!
I really feel happy for the time I spent on this video. Leo, you are just awesome.
you made me quit my job thank you for that it was the best decision i made. i was living my whole life in a fake growth while i was keep trying to better my self
a bit repetitive but I love this video, definitely drills the point in. So many people think real growth is fake growth!! I want to learn how to grow FOR REAL
My Gosh! I have had fake growth .... I’ll admit it .... I need Soo much work to be done. Plus, I realised I am a little frightened with true growth....
Leo, I realised this thing-- I need to completely obliterate my old self.... completely obliterate my old self
Thanks for this video.... u r the best! Ur hardwork in creating these videos helped me a lot
Truth pours from your mouth bro and your so articulate with it.
Very powerful. And scary you are sooo right inner growth is really the biggest challenge in my life right now...
True growth really is unglamorous and takes lots of patience. The result is often an arbitrary moment when you strangely realize a significant difference in the people and happenings around you, without feeling you have put in massive effort. Hope I understood it correctly.
This was the exact thought that I have when I am working on improving myself. I feel like I'm making progress but I can't evaluate whether that's progress or I'm just deceiving myself. Thanks for talking about it Leo!
Leo what are you're thoughts on psychotherapy? Isn't the right kind of psychotherapy one of the best tools to overcome "root issues"? Why don't you speak about it much at all even though many of you're videos seem to speak about issues that psychotherapy could heal?
+Rian Doris Sure, therapy and coaching are great ways to do real growth.
The reason why real change is difficult is because it requires you to deal with emotions that come from the subconscious. It requires you to accept negative emotions and not run away from them. Many people would seek a quick fix over having to deal with negative and uncomfortable emotions. However if you can just accept a negative emotion instead of letting it control your actions, it eventually fades away and stops coming up under similar circumstances. At that point you've changed.
Great message, Leo. It's as simple as accepting, embracing, and extending our God-given gifts, talents, and strengths, rather than looking for approval outside ourselves through achievement, control, and power. We just need to accept our God-given love on the inside, and allow it to extend out into the world. Simple, just not easy...
This is for the person who actually wants to become the best them they can be. Thank you Leo.
Leo you are so woke. This video really helped me distinguish whether or not I'm on the right path to reshaping my character, and you've reassured me that I indeed am, while also teaching me other points to keep in mind while I'm on this journey. Keep being awesome!
The guy's a fucking genius. A fucking genius at psychology. I am convinced now there can be prodigies at psychology just like in maths, physics, the arts... This is the best life advice I've ever heard.
I love all the brutal honesty of these videos.
Truth! It's amazing to see how you've grown yourself, Leo, over the last couple of years.
You are saving my life man! I hope I manage to workout the willpower and practice the solutions externally and with people which is the most difficult part for me. I think you're an angel! this video was insanely good!
I discovered your channel just over 2 weeks ago, and you made such a huge impact on my personal development!!! Thank you!!!💎
A good and relevant message for when the frustrations of life make me think I should just go live in the mountains working seasonal jobs for the rest of my life.
I’m so happy I found you. Writing some of your words down tonight 💛 you are inspiring and I am grateful. I will always be watching your videos!
THANK YOU!!!! I've really been trying to live this. And I think in general, I do. But I've been trying to work on one thing in particular the past couple months, and the past week and a half or so, I feel myself really slipping into this idea of "fake growth." And I know I'm doing it. I see it. I know where the real growth would take place. But goddammit; it's so hard sometimes. Thank you for the reminder and the push in the right direction.
So true! Iternal growth cant be instagrammed but it's more significant than any external achievement. Getting to the roots is way harder but it's better than treating symptoms temporarily. Thank you for this ❤💯🙏🏾
Hi, Leo!
I have watched almost all your videos in Actualized.com. Honestly, I just want to say: you do a great work picking up serious topics and suggesting unique approaches of dealing with them. This is powerful. This is worth doing it.
You stimulate to see the world in its whole diversity. You ideas are profound, mature, wise, compact and inspiring. Your passion to learning such complicated issues allows to identify and afterwards to realize human potential. To feel the life.
The ways you deliberately analyzed the palpitating human beings' mental and emotional problems and shared with people make me think completely in a different way: considerably deeper not being satisfied with top-iceberg answers.
There are so many inner and external stereotypes, that rule our lives... With your help, I systematically eliminate the shit and the adverse effects of ego out of my life.
The first time I saw your video I said: this skinny and bald egg-head man seems to be so miserable and incompetent. I was totally wrong. You are highly mature, you are highly developed.
It is interesting to what extent you implement your concepts beyond the camera and black t-shirt. Not theoretical aspect, but in real life. Skill, practice, dealing with reacting environment.
Let me ask you:
Are you happy?
I know that it is so general question and the answer is mainly depended on the concrete situation and daily feelings. but though, Leo, are you happy?
Leo you are like my favourite book over psychological buddhism. After listening to you it shifts my mind and I am thinking clear!
Awesome video Leo.
Glad to as your back doing videos again
Very good points. You might as well have named this video "False Self vs. Real Self". Thank you.
Insightful , so many truths . It is definitely interesting this internal journey of self and how easy it can be to get lost and as you said tricked by the external .Grateful for this it was much needed. Thank you
this is a strike lightning wisdom to me. I was like "yeah of course , it's all about the emotions release". Leo hit the point again, and it will be my treasure for the rest of my life:)
Awesome teaching Leo! This may help keep me alive literally..I’m so exhausted with everything and this has given me real hope for real change...internal change
This is it, no defence, no offence, no resistance.
+Actualized.org
Shouldn't one do both? Work at the inner. But then finding what we truly like to do and then doing this. That would be external growth but from an internal space of Love. Otherwise one would just do nothing all day long and be happy.
I think this is one of the paradoxes that exist in life.
I would really like to hear your thaughts on this Leo. I guess not just I struggle with this point.
Once you are free of everything, what do then. The way I think now is you find what you truly love to do and you just do it.
Thank you for the content Leo :)
+IceCrasher That's impossible. If you did nothing all day long you would not be happy. You might be for a few days or weeks if you needed space apart from some activity. Just look at people on welfare. They don't have to do anything, but do they look happy? Hell no. You're body is built in such a way that it has to have activity & stimulation.
+IceCrasher You will of course still take action in the external world. My point was not to call that action real growth.
Insightful and profound. Thanks, Leo!