Ever feel unattractive or unlikable because you think you lack personality? In our last video, we explored how personality affects your love life. Some of you feel alone, thinking no one is interested, while others doubt your uniqueness. But what if you're wrong? Maybe you have a unique personality, you just don't know it. Let's delve into why you feel this way and offer new perspectives. Ever considered if you might be underestimating your own charm? Let's talk about it below :)
Exactly this. I was raised constantly being told my interests were "wastes of time" or "weird" literally just a kid who enjoyed cartoons, anime, video games and drawing. I was always nudged towards more conventional intreasts like cars and sports. While I've grown and found a common intreast with this person, being movies and animation, I still can't bring up anything related to gaming or art without an eye roll or a "u don't make any money from it, its pointless." This is what makes me hesitate to explore my intreasts with people I meet because when they ask "What are you into" I always feel they are expecting me to say sports or partying and when it's not that, suddenly we can't relate. So I dodge the question and make It seem like I just work and sleep. I've become rather self conscious of my image too. I was once a goofy and jolly person who tried what I could to make people laugh. But lately I've been feeling pressured to act more stoic which then makes people assume I'm boring.
Culture is also important to consider. In the West we define someone with personality as being louder, more bold, and expressive. That’s not really the case in other cultures where they see that as an outlier or even rude, like in Japan
“Everyone alive has a personality. It’s just more obvious with some people than with others.” - Haruki Murakami, Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki and His Years of Pilgrimage
I was told all my life to "give a good impression" and that I should always "act my best" because people treat you depending on how they perceive you, as such, my personality remains chained most of the time, I play but a character for most interactions.
What if you are also unsure of the character you play, so unsure of yourself that even if you know what must be presented in front of others, you are unable to and make a fool of yourself because of it
@@squeaksp3324 That'd be pretty rough not gonna lie. In such a case you either drop the act entirely, optimize it so you don't look like a fool or ignore the fact you look like a fool.
@@ilck-ym-blals7385 It certainly does, but I guess overtime I convinced myself that whatever act I put is an extension of me, and thus, if people like my act they like me too. Beats being rejected or facing adversities for being genuine.
Timestamps 1). Team low self-esteem 1:37 2). Stone faced 2:28 3). Cater to the masses 3:21 4). Build confidence and self-esteem 4:45 5). Who am i 5:28 6). Don't chit just to chat 6:05 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I think the biggest part is to know yourself and know how you are personality-wise. That's more important than anyone's judgement of you. We live in a world where people judge you from the first 30 seconds which isn't enough to understand you (as a person) properly. You're not going to please everyone and some people are going to sometimes hate you for arbitrary reasons. The other problem is we're told to do certain things to suppress the personality on purpose, and there are instances where you showing your personality (even when it's not obnoxious or negative) can get you into trouble disqualifying you from some things (for example screw you over in a job interview and etc). Being able to know your personality and show your personality is hard lol.
Honestly, I think anyone who is accusing others of having no personalities is a jerk themselves …. I think psych2go should discuss “projecting.” Also the person insulting you could be jealous of your status. You’re someone who can boast of being brave, athletic , and hardworking. I bet the person insulting you barely had anything to be proud of. 😚
Well it's better to have "no personality" than an obnoxious one where you constantly talk all the time without having anyone else giving the chance to talk. So yeah, I'd rather be around someone with "no personality" than someone that is obnoxious, annoying, and/or desperate and last time I checked no one wantes to be around individuals that are any combination of the three.
I've been told multiple times by a friend that I have no personality. Other people have told me this too, and I honestly don't know what to think. Other friends say I have a great personality. My own opinion probably isn't even fair because my self-confidence has dropped so low recently I can hardly look into a mirror without bursting into tears. Ridiculous, probably, but I don't know what to do. I assume it's because I'm quiet and I'm kind of a people-pleaser. Honestly, I think the whole idea of "no personality" versus "personality" is ridiculous, because everyone is different, and how can you judge someone based on how bubbly or confident they are? If you did, thanks for reading my rant.
Your personality/character is usually based on how people view you. So sometimes it does feel like i don’t have any personality or that people dont know who i really am, but your thoughts and feelings are not your personality, however it is the way you express them physically with others.
Hyperbolic logic right here. (your) personality is first and foremost shaped by the experiences you are subjected to. While these can be the effect from what others might say, those are not defining, just contributing, enhancing or negating a trait already present. Using your logic: someone calling me boring to talk to would define me as having no personality, which couldn't be further from the truth even if you tried. I have my own experiences that shaped how I view them and thus characterizing a pesonality on my part. Wether or not I choose to let you get to know it a whole other story. Ergo: you are mostly wrong and have it backwards.
@@skorpion7132 im not saying its what they think or say about you. Im saying its how people experience you in a physical form. Thats why i say its about how you express your feelings and thoughts physically to others. Yes no one can tell you who to be or who you are on the inside but they can observe what your characteristics are. So if someone thinks your boring its partly on you and partly on them. You might not have similar interests so you just dont connect. Or you might have similar interests, you just arent expressing them enough.
I think me suppressing my emotions began during my childhood. I was always scolded or punished when I showed negative emotions like sadness, anger or irritation. With time I began to learn to never show my negative side to others regardless of how close I was to a person. It would pent up and I was left with it all on my own behind closed doors. I've learnt that its okay to cry and be angry just not in a destructive way, it's perfectly fine to FEEL. I used to be a perfect people pleaser now I'm slowly learning to say 'no'. Good luck on your journeys!
Honestly, been trapped in the belief that I have no personality because of being made fun of at a young age,feeling outcasted as a kid, it affects someone, it made me surpress all my emotions, stay quiet as much as possible and hide away so as not to draw attention and be made fun of again, it is so bad, I lost myself over the last year and am glad I found this video
Personally, I get told I don't have a personality since I always mirror the person I'm talking to or imitate their ideal person. It's honestly something I do subconsciously, and I wonder if there's more information on this type of thing?
Well, we're full of surprises! 😄 Is there anything specific about boosting confidence or staying true to yourself that you'd like to share or discuss? We're here for unexpected conversations too!
@@Psych2go I don't have one.. when I'm alone.. I feel nothing but anger, frustration, irritated, or boredom. Nothing interests me anymore and everything annoys me.
I have a great personality. I know because I worked really hard on it because when I first hit puberty I didn't feel physically attractive. The only times when I feel like I don't "have" a personality have always been the times when I've hung out with a large circle of "friends." I never seem to get a word in. Or my opinion isn't valued. It made me appreciate 1 on 1 or 1 on 2 friendships a lot more.
Reminds me of something I've been accused of a couple of times. In a couple of online conversations about attraction and orientation, I mentioned that I'm a Demiromantic Ace. For some reason, some random person accused me of making my Asexuality my entire personality. It is an aspect of who I am, not the whole. I know some people will accuse the same of people who are vegetarian, or of a different religion, or happen to enjoy a specific series. When someone accuses someone else of "making something their whole personality", more often than not, they're just saying "I feel like I can Other you and complain with no repercussions". No-one is only one thing. We are all collages of our experiences and perspectives. You, yes, you reading this now, are a person and should not feel like you are anything less.
Why did you take it that personally though? Some people are always gonna think less of you, it's not like you can stop them and make them "think". You know you are a whole person, right? Go with it. You don't need others' feedback on who you are. Also, people who just attack others because they feel entitled by being anonymous are just what I call "am empty shell". So yeah, congratulations: you've been deemed as not personalyzed enough by people which are virtually non-existent in the spectrum of personality🎉
@@nonserviam.1574 Thank you. I'm getting better at ignoring and blocking those people, but it's not easy for me. Might be because I have a fairly literal mind (I'm on the Autism spectrum, and that's fairly common), so it's harder for me to recognize sarcasm or not take insults personally. It's a skill I'm still developing. Part of it at the moment is probably that I'm having anxiety issues. They're unrelated to the online stuff, part of it is the fact we're in brown snake season (brown snakes are an Australian species, second most toxic snakes in the world, and not unusual to see on my family's property), which always gets me nervous. My brain just connects that anxiety to anything that's going poorly. No idea how to stop it. Sorry if I'm oversharing or rambling. Thanks for listening. It helps.
I think when people say that that something is someone's "entire personality" is because their lives revolve around that one particular thing and it's the only thing that seems to be what the person wants to express. Nothing else matters except for that one thing, so others will observe this behavior and interpret that outside of the one singular aspect of the person, nothing else about them stands out. Hope this helps
@@cynthx True. Though it is unfair when someone assumes that after only a single, indirect interaction. Especially when what's being mentioned has to do with the topic of conversation.
@@cynthx Exactly: it's the only thing the person wants to express. We choose what to express. We can also express nothing at all, if that makes us feel secure. That's about people. They might not fully expose themselves to others, and that's fine.
If you're trying to make other people like you, all they're going to like about you is your attempts to seem likeable and not who you really are. Become a nobody for real, it feels like you're going insane but you're actually healing
Well it feels like all my friends naturally disappeared from my life cause I am not interested in any of the things they were. Including bad habits like drinking and even gaming. I feel like I haven't changed much just became a lot more quiet. Maybe everybody goes through a period like this in their life unless they resist it and hold onto people. I hope life takes me where I need to be and WHEN I need to be there
I suppressed my personality as a result of getting bullied during most of my schooling years and I never want that to go on any further. So I did that, which actually made me less likely to get picked on but I became almost socially inept for the last 3 years. I recognize the need to express the improved version of my personality and stop being tied down by the chains of fear.
Same exact situation from first to last sentence of ur comment, honestly, the fear of showing your true self, drawing attentions and being made fun of again is the worst but eventually we need to be our true selves, it's gonna take a while though, we can do this :)
@@Psych2go I just met some girls when I went back to school and we started hanging . I'm actually pretty popular now I think. I have about 7 friends and have a nice relationship with most of the class. My friends kinda made me make friends but I'm okay with it. I'm still an introvert tho so it's annoying sometimes😅
I feel like I have no personality at all. That makes me stay away from conversations or any other interaction with people. It’s like in the video sad. Pleasing everyone is all I can do to come along with some people, and I completely lose myself and hate me for that. Just 30 min ago I rejected an Invitation to a pub. I don’t even know why they invited me. I don’t have an idea how people see me. I fear that other people could finde out that I’m boring, not so smart or to sensitive. And I fear the awkwardness, where I don’t know what to say. That’s keeps me in a cage. A part of me really wanted to go. I’m feeling so lonely that it’s hurts, but I just can’t overcome that fear.
This reminds me of Steven Universe Future, they say that Steven was there for them, but there was no Steven for Steven, which lead to his mental breakdown
You make a valid point. "No personality" is indeed a subjective and abstract concept. How do you think society's perception of personality influences individuals' self-perception?
It's okay to be more reserved and silent when needed. Everyone expresses themselves differently. What aspects of your personality do you feel make you unique, even in your quieter moments?
this was me some time ago, i just got more socially active and i felt like i fit in like a glove!! maybe you have to discover who you are through social interaction
Thank you Psych2Go for making these videos!! Having "no personality" Has been on my mind lately but after you guys explained it in this video that explains all of my concerns, and you guys gave solutions too🎉🎉🎉 Thank you Psych2Go for making these accessible and educational vids🙇♀️💞💞💞
Busted! This is one of my go to bland sarcastic explanations to colleagues in the clique. I just unapologetically with a matter of fact tone tell them I have a birth defect… born with no personality. Upside is I can pick whichever personality I choose, tho I prefer the one my BANG energy drink constructs; just wished it lasted longer thru the shift.😜
I definitely feel like I sometimes resonate with this. Not very often, but BOY OH BOY does it feel weird responding to people with a null tone that has little emotion in it! Though I have found a couple quick-ish go to options that help me get out of that emotionless pit which I’m very glad for 💜
@@luckygold777 I either slap my earbuds in, listen to some lo-fi, and draw illustrations for a Minecraft AU I’m writing, or if I’m really feeling brave that day, I talk about it with my bestie. I should probably talk about it more often, buuut, this emoji ;w; should explain everything lol
My mother punished me each time I expressed my emotions so I suppressed them even after she died, 16 years ago. Now I'm 35, and just barely understanding how to release them.
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@@Psych2go I feel like you should make some interaction with the community! Such as making a video about how to send fan arts or some appreciation token for your hard daily work! 🦆✨
I think that the first part of the video that says: "everybody has personality" is what we should hold on to. The rest of the video, is regarding how to show/not show it. It doesn't matter what a random stranger thinks about you, as long as you don't care what others are thinking. Even if a person tends to: agree from politeness, like pickles or be more introverted/extroverted I argue that its part of their personality. Changing that means also changing your personality. You should only try to "show yourself" when you truly want to. When someone who doesn't know you says you are boring or have no personality, just remember its their own perspective. Focus on what you truly feel and the direction you want to grow as individual. Not what society norms dictates.
Honestly, thank you for making this video. I've felt like this for a long time & been worried 'cause I felt like it was incurable... But with this video I now know that it is curable & I won't be cut off from everyone for the rest of my life.
It's not that I don't have a personalilty, I just generally don't show much of it unless I'm around people I consider friends, at least to some extent. That number is, shall we say, very low at the moment.
I don't have a personality though. When people ask what my hobbies are I don't know how to answer. All of my time goes to my career right now. I don't know what I like and dislike and I feel apathetic about everything. I don't even know myself. I just sort of exist
I have a myriad of mental things going on with me. buT.. my anxiety, depression and scherzo affective disorder are going out of control. i find myself day dreaming about ways i can k*ll my roommate; they are horrendous. he's constantly yelling, never apologizes when he's wrong, never says please or thank you. makes me do all the chores, including taking care of his 3 dogs. the list goes on and on. i've been in a psych ward before, they always say let it go, there's nothing wrong with you. i cant vent, can't yell, can never talk back. more stuff, but not getting into it. what the hell am i supposed to do? they won't increase my medication.. ps. i've gotten high blood pressure now because of it all.
I honestly don't care if people say "I don't have a Personality", Most people are morons anyway, As far as far i know most people are aggresive or toxic.
6:15 I hate "what was your favourite part of..." questions. I never know what to say, so I just give a facetious answer like "all of it" or "when it finished"
I used to be a big people pleaser. I've been working on not being one for years and now that im not actively trying to be accommodating all the time, im no longer well received by anyone... I can also go all day without saying much and they don't seem to like that either. Im not entertaining anymore and i feel so bland as a person now because im no longer performing.
If I was disappointed, very disappointed and ignore or not reacting to everything just happen around me and thought bout "how pointless I am", "I'm tired to feel feeling", is that make me not personality?
I also struggle with some emotion's like anger. I tend to be way to angry with many things and do show it from time to time but then I feel like I killed a nice conversation between other people and I do want to avoid that so I suppress my anger and try to not think about it. I do want to improve myself by simply not being as angry as I am because I think that would make me likable, but I didn't find a solution... Well one thing I did improve. I moved away from one of my sources of anger and live on my own for now. But it's only been a few day's, time will tell if I change for the better.
So some might say "No Open Emotion No Feelings, Personality"? But Introverts do Not Extrovert their Feelings thoughts emotions that much, but If you dare to ASK them, they might Tell you. 😊
The problem is i do show my personality or at least i try, but i don't really have friends who are interested in the same things, so we don't do a lot together or are able to talk about the same things.
Ive actually never ever thought this sentence in my entire life. The title should actually be do you think you are boring. Cause I have never ever not once felt I had no personality. That's someone that feels boring.
So basically I don't have a personality I don't like or dislike things Maybe I hate preppies But it won't affect or be my whole personality And the other things I might not like or dislike anymore after five minutes And I don't know what happens in my life how am I supposed to have a person
One of the most regarded aspects of a person's personality is commonly (regardless of accuracy) the idea that a person's personality level (better or worse) is in a contrasting relationship to that person's physical attractiveness. That is, the less attractive someone is, the better their personality will naturally be in order to compensate for their less than desirable physical qualities, and opposite to that, of course, is that a physically attractive person has a lesser adequate personality. Of course, there is no true validity to this idea, but it has perpetuated as a social myth throughout popular culture/media.
I always try being true myself, but people always say I act like a child & I am very insensitive 🙄. I don't wanna be nice and kind because i feel like i'm just forcing myself to be nice & kind 😅, i just do what i feel like i want to do...i guess
Do you think you can make a video about like traits of an autistic person or how to tell if your autistic or something like that because I’m so convinced and scared that I’m potentially autistic and I almost went to go to a psychiatrist multiple times but backed out last second😭 if not it’s okay but it’d really help😭🫶
@@manzidavid-on8wi I've looked. There IS no bright side to having high self-esteem. Therefore, it is only logical to assume that the benefits lie in having LOW self-esteem, or better yet, NONE.
I always thought that I don't have any personality, recently I get to know that maybe I do have borderline personality disorder and I was quite happy that finally I got a personality.
I often find myself here. Because I am alone. I always have been. Every circle I was in I was a guest. Nobody wanted me there they just pitied me. I struggled all my life and it always seemed like everyone hated me. And it still does. It’s a shame to realize that you’re an invisible person. But some people are just likable. Others are just… not… It’s an isolating existence..
I feel like I have almost no personality because I have no real meaningful experiences in anything, so there is not much to sum or supress, and those small bits that I do have I either avoid showing because of a force of habit or it seems like I can't present them and they not define me in any meaningful way
At one point, I felt that I had no personality and people noticed that because I suppressed my feelings too much. Now I’m trying to be more social than before.
It sounds like you're adaptable and can connect with different personalities. Have you noticed any consistent traits or preferences that might give you insights into your core personality?
@@Psych2go im generally chill i guess, my bare minimum with friends is if youre not an a-hole, im gonna be friends with you and i wont question and judge your beliefs
If I met someone with no external signs of personality? I would just let them be, but still help them if their friendly. Hope Psych2Go use Limbus Company characters as visual references.
Hey there 👋🏽 & I just recently found out that I am not a narcissist person. Who does not tend to judge, criticize, belittling, swearing, cursing, name callings & even by insulting other people. Just quite literally because I am actually a type of person who is also a very smart, 🤓 clever, intelligent sociable, loving, caring, gentle, helpful passionate, & even too a very uplifting type of a an autistic type of a 23 year old girl. And even too that I do tend to make a very loving kind compliments which also does mean that I don't tend to make any sort of hurtful comments about anybody's weight just quite literally because I am actually a very accepting type of person who won't put any one down for no matter what. So ppl stay well & safe journey sending everyone a very big nice warm group hug 🤗 from your most very sweet lovely best friend Chaleika Ester Rose 🌹 Edwards. 🌸🌸🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🌸🌸🥀
My dad just told me to stop detaching myself from emotion in front of other people. He said he's sick of it, that i act like a robot, and that i mustn't expect anyone to want to be around me. Abd he said other stuff Im very sad , 😢😢😢😢😢😢
Ever feel unattractive or unlikable because you think you lack personality? In our last video, we explored how personality affects your love life. Some of you feel alone, thinking no one is interested, while others doubt your uniqueness. But what if you're wrong? Maybe you have a unique personality, you just don't know it. Let's delve into why you feel this way and offer new perspectives. Ever considered if you might be underestimating your own charm? Let's talk about it below :)
okay thank you what is it tell me☕
I do know that I'M...cha cha cha, Charmin...😅💃🏻🎉
Sometimes i feel like maybe social anxiety is affecting my personality
It happens probably because of insecurity,ur judged badly, u think what everyone thinks about u 😊@@Mariam-qu9hm
@@Mariam-qu9hmno, anxiousness as in neuroticism is among one of the big 5 personality traits.
Many of us suppress our emotions because we get mocked, scolded, or even punished for showing them.
Ain’t that the truth! I hate the “real men don’t cry” line and similar narratives.
Yeah
Exactly this. I was raised constantly being told my interests were "wastes of time" or "weird" literally just a kid who enjoyed cartoons, anime, video games and drawing.
I was always nudged towards more conventional intreasts like cars and sports. While I've grown and found a common intreast with this person, being movies and animation, I still can't bring up anything related to gaming or art without an eye roll or a "u don't make any money from it, its pointless."
This is what makes me hesitate to explore my intreasts with people I meet because when they ask "What are you into" I always feel they are expecting me to say sports or partying and when it's not that, suddenly we can't relate. So I dodge the question and make It seem like I just work and sleep.
I've become rather self conscious of my image too. I was once a goofy and jolly person who tried what I could to make people laugh. But lately I've been feeling pressured to act more stoic which then makes people assume I'm boring.
That is what is like back at my father’s house. When you live with a narcissistic control freak, you have to learn to do that for your own sanity.
So true :( It's tough when emotions are met with negativity. Have you found ways to navigate or express your emotions despite this?
Those titles are getting really personal lately
Fr I feel I am being watched.
We hope this video helps you change your self perception :) Did you resonate with this video?
Ya .... True that😂😂
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on bro 😂
Culture is also important to consider. In the West we define someone with personality as being louder, more bold, and expressive. That’s not really the case in other cultures where they see that as an outlier or even rude, like in Japan
That's a good point!
Yeah that's interesting, I heard that in Russia people don't smile to show politeness to others but just when they're happy
being extroverted is valued. being introverted is devalued.
@@Kytetiger I relate to that. Usually I try to be very social even though I feel Very tired after hanging out and feel like I need breaks
“Everyone alive has a personality. It’s just more obvious with some people than with others.” - Haruki Murakami, Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki and His Years of Pilgrimage
I was told all my life to "give a good impression" and that I should always "act my best" because people treat you depending on how they perceive you, as such, my personality remains chained most of the time, I play but a character for most interactions.
What if you are also unsure of the character you play, so unsure of yourself that even if you know what must be presented in front of others, you are unable to and make a fool of yourself because of it
@@squeaksp3324 That'd be pretty rough not gonna lie. In such a case you either drop the act entirely, optimize it so you don't look like a fool or ignore the fact you look like a fool.
@Ambardel I do the same and I just ignore
Be careful , doing that can lead to depersonalisation which is like hell on earth.
@@ilck-ym-blals7385 It certainly does, but I guess overtime I convinced myself that whatever act I put is an extension of me, and thus, if people like my act they like me too. Beats being rejected or facing adversities for being genuine.
Timestamps
1). Team low self-esteem 1:37
2). Stone faced 2:28
3). Cater to the masses 3:21
4). Build confidence and self-esteem 4:45
5). Who am i 5:28
6). Don't chit just to chat 6:05
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
😒 it's alright.
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I think the biggest part is to know yourself and know how you are personality-wise. That's more important than anyone's judgement of you. We live in a world where people judge you from the first 30 seconds which isn't enough to understand you (as a person) properly.
You're not going to please everyone and some people are going to sometimes hate you for arbitrary reasons. The other problem is we're told to do certain things to suppress the personality on purpose, and there are instances where you showing your personality (even when it's not obnoxious or negative) can get you into trouble disqualifying you from some things (for example screw you over in a job interview and etc).
Being able to know your personality and show your personality is hard lol.
I'm former military. Someone once told me I had the personality of a wall, and that made me smile and reminded me of home. 😊
Walls also have their own unique personalities :)
Honestly, I think anyone who is accusing others of having no personalities is a jerk themselves ….
I think psych2go should discuss “projecting.”
Also the person insulting you could be jealous of your status. You’re someone who can boast of being brave, athletic , and hardworking.
I bet the person insulting you barely had anything to be proud of. 😚
Well it's better to have "no personality" than an obnoxious one where you constantly talk all the time without having anyone else giving the chance to talk. So yeah, I'd rather be around someone with "no personality" than someone that is obnoxious, annoying, and/or desperate and last time I checked no one wantes to be around individuals that are any combination of the three.
I've been told multiple times by a friend that I have no personality.
Other people have told me this too, and I honestly don't know what to think. Other friends say I have a great personality.
My own opinion probably isn't even fair because my self-confidence has dropped so low recently I can hardly look into a mirror without bursting into tears. Ridiculous, probably, but I don't know what to do.
I assume it's because I'm quiet and I'm kind of a people-pleaser.
Honestly, I think the whole idea of "no personality" versus "personality" is ridiculous, because everyone is different, and how can you judge someone based on how bubbly or confident they are?
If you did, thanks for reading my rant.
Ditch the “friend” that insults you and just keep the friends that make you feel great about yourself.
Your personality/character is usually based on how people view you. So sometimes it does feel like i don’t have any personality or that people dont know who i really am, but your thoughts and feelings are not your personality, however it is the way you express them physically with others.
Hyperbolic logic right here.
(your) personality is first and foremost shaped by the experiences you are subjected to. While these can be the effect from what others might say, those are not defining, just contributing, enhancing or negating a trait already present.
Using your logic: someone calling me boring to talk to would define me as having no personality, which couldn't be further from the truth even if you tried.
I have my own experiences that shaped how I view them and thus characterizing a pesonality on my part.
Wether or not I choose to let you get to know it a whole other story.
Ergo: you are mostly wrong and have it backwards.
@@skorpion7132 im not saying its what they think or say about you. Im saying its how people experience you in a physical form. Thats why i say its about how you express your feelings and thoughts physically to others. Yes no one can tell you who to be or who you are on the inside but they can observe what your characteristics are. So if someone thinks your boring its partly on you and partly on them. You might not have similar interests so you just dont connect. Or you might have similar interests, you just arent expressing them enough.
I think me suppressing my emotions began during my childhood. I was always scolded or punished when I showed negative emotions like sadness, anger or irritation. With time I began to learn to never show my negative side to others regardless of how close I was to a person. It would pent up and I was left with it all on my own behind closed doors. I've learnt that its okay to cry and be angry just not in a destructive way, it's perfectly fine to FEEL. I used to be a perfect people pleaser now I'm slowly learning to say 'no'. Good luck on your journeys!
Honestly, been trapped in the belief that I have no personality because of being made fun of at a young age,feeling outcasted as a kid, it affects someone, it made me surpress all my emotions, stay quiet as much as possible and hide away so as not to draw attention and be made fun of again, it is so bad, I lost myself over the last year and am glad I found this video
Same dude 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂
Personally, I get told I don't have a personality since I always mirror the person I'm talking to or imitate their ideal person. It's honestly something I do subconsciously, and I wonder if there's more information on this type of thing?
I believe what you are referring to is fawning
That is a question that I never thought anyone would ask, especially from Psych2go.
Well, we're full of surprises! 😄 Is there anything specific about boosting confidence or staying true to yourself that you'd like to share or discuss? We're here for unexpected conversations too!
@@Psych2go I don't think so, but I'll let you guys know if I do
I'm usually like a chameleon personality, i mimic those around me, but when there is no one.. i am nothing.
It sounds like you're adaptable in different social settings. How do you feel about embracing your unique self even when you're alone?
@@Psych2go I don't have one.. when I'm alone.. I feel nothing but anger, frustration, irritated, or boredom. Nothing interests me anymore and everything annoys me.
@@Vurdunrielsame but only the boredom
I have a great personality. I know because I worked really hard on it because when I first hit puberty I didn't feel physically attractive. The only times when I feel like I don't "have" a personality have always been the times when I've hung out with a large circle of "friends." I never seem to get a word in. Or my opinion isn't valued. It made me appreciate 1 on 1 or 1 on 2 friendships a lot more.
You may be reacting too much to the external world and not focusing enough within.
Reminds me of something I've been accused of a couple of times. In a couple of online conversations about attraction and orientation, I mentioned that I'm a Demiromantic Ace. For some reason, some random person accused me of making my Asexuality my entire personality. It is an aspect of who I am, not the whole.
I know some people will accuse the same of people who are vegetarian, or of a different religion, or happen to enjoy a specific series. When someone accuses someone else of "making something their whole personality", more often than not, they're just saying "I feel like I can Other you and complain with no repercussions".
No-one is only one thing. We are all collages of our experiences and perspectives. You, yes, you reading this now, are a person and should not feel like you are anything less.
Why did you take it that personally though? Some people are always gonna think less of you, it's not like you can stop them and make them "think". You know you are a whole person, right? Go with it. You don't need others' feedback on who you are. Also, people who just attack others because they feel entitled by being anonymous are just what I call "am empty shell". So yeah, congratulations: you've been deemed as not personalyzed enough by people which are virtually non-existent in the spectrum of personality🎉
@@nonserviam.1574
Thank you. I'm getting better at ignoring and blocking those people, but it's not easy for me. Might be because I have a fairly literal mind (I'm on the Autism spectrum, and that's fairly common), so it's harder for me to recognize sarcasm or not take insults personally. It's a skill I'm still developing.
Part of it at the moment is probably that I'm having anxiety issues. They're unrelated to the online stuff, part of it is the fact we're in brown snake season (brown snakes are an Australian species, second most toxic snakes in the world, and not unusual to see on my family's property), which always gets me nervous. My brain just connects that anxiety to anything that's going poorly. No idea how to stop it.
Sorry if I'm oversharing or rambling. Thanks for listening. It helps.
I think when people say that that something is someone's "entire personality" is because their lives revolve around that one particular thing and it's the only thing that seems to be what the person wants to express. Nothing else matters except for that one thing, so others will observe this behavior and interpret that outside of the one singular aspect of the person, nothing else about them stands out. Hope this helps
@@cynthx
True. Though it is unfair when someone assumes that after only a single, indirect interaction. Especially when what's being mentioned has to do with the topic of conversation.
@@cynthx Exactly: it's the only thing the person wants to express. We choose what to express. We can also express nothing at all, if that makes us feel secure. That's about people. They might not fully expose themselves to others, and that's fine.
If you're trying to make other people like you, all they're going to like about you is your attempts to seem likeable and not who you really are. Become a nobody for real, it feels like you're going insane but you're actually healing
That's a good point. How has this shift impacted your sense of self and well-being?
Well it feels like all my friends naturally disappeared from my life cause I am not interested in any of the things they were. Including bad habits like drinking and even gaming. I feel like I haven't changed much just became a lot more quiet. Maybe everybody goes through a period like this in their life unless they resist it and hold onto people. I hope life takes me where I need to be and WHEN I need to be there
So many facts
I suppressed my personality as a result of getting bullied during most of my schooling years and I never want that to go on any further. So I did that, which actually made me less likely to get picked on but I became almost socially inept for the last 3 years. I recognize the need to express the improved version of my personality and stop being tied down by the chains of fear.
Same exact situation from first to last sentence of ur comment, honestly, the fear of showing your true self, drawing attentions and being made fun of again is the worst but eventually we need to be our true selves, it's gonna take a while though, we can do this :)
I just don't like to be with people so i just don't talk to them and so they think I have no personality.
-me two years ago.
That kind of how I feel now. How did you fix it?
Thanks for sharing :) How have you changed after two years?
@@Psych2go I just met some girls when I went back to school and we started hanging . I'm actually pretty popular now I think. I have about 7 friends and have a nice relationship with most of the class. My friends kinda made me make friends but I'm okay with it. I'm still an introvert tho so it's annoying sometimes😅
I think it depends on who you’re around. Some of my co-workers are super talkative with some people and completely silent with others
for some reason whenever i see a psych2go video it is extremely accurate and personal and i am concerned that they are stalking me 😨
I feel like I have no personality at all. That makes me stay away from conversations or any other interaction with people. It’s like in the video sad. Pleasing everyone is all I can do to come along with some people, and I completely lose myself and hate me for that.
Just 30 min ago I rejected an Invitation to a pub. I don’t even know why they invited me. I don’t have an idea how people see me. I fear that other people could finde out that I’m boring, not so smart or to sensitive. And I fear the awkwardness, where I don’t know what to say. That’s keeps me in a cage. A part of me really wanted to go. I’m feeling so lonely that it’s hurts, but I just can’t overcome that fear.
This reminds me of Steven Universe Future, they say that Steven was there for them, but there was no Steven for Steven, which lead to his mental breakdown
I think the term “no personality” is even nonsensical to exist, as it’s not something you can “count”
You make a valid point. "No personality" is indeed a subjective and abstract concept. How do you think society's perception of personality influences individuals' self-perception?
I don't know why but i keep falling asleep with your voice, so relaxing yk😴💤
That survey sounds like the respondents basically described introverts as having "no personality" and extroverts as having "a lot of personality".
I've got no personality. I'm silent when I need to be silent.
It's okay to be more reserved and silent when needed. Everyone expresses themselves differently. What aspects of your personality do you feel make you unique, even in your quieter moments?
this was me some time ago, i just got more socially active and i felt like i fit in like a glove!! maybe you have to discover who you are through social interaction
Being sort of a" hidden" person I know that other quiet types also have a rich inner life and personality that I'm interested in. I see you guys! ❤❤❤
Thank you Psych2Go for making these videos!! Having "no personality" Has been on my mind lately but after you guys explained it in this video that explains all of my concerns, and you guys gave solutions too🎉🎉🎉 Thank you Psych2Go for making these accessible and educational vids🙇♀️💞💞💞
underrated video
thank you :) we hope this helped
Busted! This is one of my go to bland sarcastic explanations to colleagues in the clique. I just unapologetically with a matter of fact tone tell them I have a birth defect… born with no personality. Upside is I can pick whichever personality I choose, tho I prefer the one my BANG energy drink constructs; just wished it lasted longer thru the shift.😜
why is this available only with a link?
Very interesting video. I went through this and finally understand my personality.
Thanks :) We hope this video helped.What did you learn about your personality?
Why calling me out like that 😳
I definitely feel like I sometimes resonate with this. Not very often, but BOY OH BOY does it feel weird responding to people with a null tone that has little emotion in it! Though I have found a couple quick-ish go to options that help me get out of that emotionless pit which I’m very glad for 💜
what worked out for you?
@@luckygold777 I either slap my earbuds in, listen to some lo-fi, and draw illustrations for a Minecraft AU I’m writing, or if I’m really feeling brave that day, I talk about it with my bestie. I should probably talk about it more often, buuut, this emoji ;w; should explain everything lol
My mother punished me each time I expressed my emotions so I suppressed them even after she died, 16 years ago. Now I'm 35, and just barely understanding how to release them.
I like your voice, as a non native English speaker it sounds clearer to me
Sometimes I am glad that I have no personality. No one can judge me for smth serious.
It's a unique perspective! How does not having a defined personality affect your interactions and sense of self?
@@Psych2go people that really knows me and need me are always with me. Thank you
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@@Psych2go I feel like you should make some interaction with the community! Such as making a video about how to send fan arts or some appreciation token for your hard daily work! 🦆✨
I think that the first part of the video that says: "everybody has personality" is what we should hold on to.
The rest of the video, is regarding how to show/not show it.
It doesn't matter what a random stranger thinks about you, as long as you don't care what others are thinking.
Even if a person tends to: agree from politeness, like pickles or be more introverted/extroverted I argue that its part of their personality.
Changing that means also changing your personality.
You should only try to "show yourself" when you truly want to.
When someone who doesn't know you says you are boring or have no personality, just remember its their own perspective.
Focus on what you truly feel and the direction you want to grow as individual. Not what society norms dictates.
10 things what I like about my life? That's way too much! Can 2 or 3 things be enough? On the other hand 10 5hings I hate is too short...
I don’t like to share my personality. Cause I’m weird, sad etc.
Why would you say so? :(
But sad isn't a mood? Even with depression is hard always been sad in my experience. I don't think you should consider that your personality
I gatekeep my personality from people who don’t deserve it (people who exploit personal details)
Honestly, thank you for making this video. I've felt like this for a long time & been worried 'cause I felt like it was incurable...
But with this video I now know that it is curable & I won't be cut off from everyone for the rest of my life.
This video is actually really helpful for me to self-reflect. Thank you!
Thanks for useful and valuable video as always ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Glad you found the video useful! Any topics you'd like us to cover in future videos? Your feedback means a lot! ❤
Why do these videos get made the perfect time for me tf? 💀
how are these videos so well timed😭
Sounds like our sixth sense is right on point! 😄 What's the most impressively timed video you've seen lately?
It's not that I don't have a personalilty, I just generally don't show much of it unless I'm around people I consider friends, at least to some extent. That number is, shall we say, very low at the moment.
I don't have a personality though. When people ask what my hobbies are I don't know how to answer. All of my time goes to my career right now. I don't know what I like and dislike and I feel apathetic about everything. I don't even know myself. I just sort of exist
Me personally, vanilla is one of my favorite flavors
I love vanilla too :)
I have a myriad of mental things going on with me. buT.. my anxiety, depression and scherzo affective disorder are going out of control. i find myself day dreaming about ways i can k*ll my roommate; they are horrendous. he's constantly yelling, never apologizes when he's wrong, never says please or thank you. makes me do all the chores, including taking care of his 3 dogs. the list goes on and on. i've been in a psych ward before, they always say let it go, there's nothing wrong with you. i cant vent, can't yell, can never talk back. more stuff, but not getting into it. what the hell am i supposed to do? they won't increase my medication.. ps. i've gotten high blood pressure now because of it all.
I honestly don't care if people say "I don't have a Personality", Most people are morons anyway, As far as far i know most people are aggresive or toxic.
6:15 I hate "what was your favourite part of..." questions. I never know what to say, so I just give a facetious answer like "all of it" or "when it finished"
These... are getting.... personal...real personal
I used to be a big people pleaser. I've been working on not being one for years and now that im not actively trying to be accommodating all the time, im no longer well received by anyone... I can also go all day without saying much and they don't seem to like that either. Im not entertaining anymore and i feel so bland as a person now because im no longer performing.
If I was disappointed, very disappointed and ignore or not reacting to everything just happen around me and thought bout "how pointless I am", "I'm tired to feel feeling", is that make me not personality?
I’m being called out in this video.
I was about to put my phone down, when I saw this notification..never clicked so fast
Talk about perfect timing :) How do you feel about this video ?
Welp, i feel attacked. My entire lack of personality has been presented on a silver platter, and i can’t help but fear it
I was told i have no persobslity by multiple people. I kinda agree.
I also struggle with some emotion's like anger. I tend to be way to angry with many things and do show it from time to time but then I feel like I killed a nice conversation between other people and I do want to avoid that so I suppress my anger and try to not think about it. I do want to improve myself by simply not being as angry as I am because I think that would make me likable, but I didn't find a solution...
Well one thing I did improve. I moved away from one of my sources of anger and live on my own for now. But it's only been a few day's, time will tell if I change for the better.
I have a personality, but I'm boring.
Everyone has unique qualities! What are some things you enjoy or are passionate about?
So some might say "No Open Emotion No Feelings, Personality"? But Introverts do Not Extrovert their Feelings thoughts emotions that much, but If you dare to ASK them, they might Tell you. 😊
This made me realize that this is totally my problem. I need more information please!
The problem is i do show my personality or at least i try, but i don't really have friends who are interested in the same things, so we don't do a lot together or are able to talk about the same things.
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Ive actually never ever thought this sentence in my entire life.
The title should actually be do you think you are boring.
Cause I have never ever not once felt I had no personality.
That's someone that feels boring.
Since I stopped drinking I've felt EXACTLY like this. like Fun Bobby from Friends!
So basically I don't have a personality
I don't like or dislike things
Maybe I hate preppies
But it won't affect or be my whole personality
And the other things I might not like or dislike anymore after five minutes
And I don't know what happens in my life how am I supposed to have a person
One of the most regarded aspects of a person's personality is commonly (regardless of accuracy) the idea that a person's personality level (better or worse) is in a contrasting relationship to that person's physical attractiveness. That is, the less attractive someone is, the better their personality will naturally be in order to compensate for their less than desirable physical qualities, and opposite to that, of course, is that a physically attractive person has a lesser adequate personality. Of course, there is no true validity to this idea, but it has perpetuated as a social myth throughout popular culture/media.
I always try being true myself, but people always say I act like a child & I am very insensitive 🙄. I don't wanna be nice and kind because i feel like i'm just forcing myself to be nice & kind 😅, i just do what i feel like i want to do...i guess
Animator has done a great job! These figures are super cute 😊
1:42 GOAT mentioned, based
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Do you think you can make a video about like traits of an autistic person or how to tell if your autistic or something like that because I’m so convinced and scared that I’m potentially autistic and I almost went to go to a psychiatrist multiple times but backed out last second😭
if not it’s okay but it’d really help😭🫶
Would you all be able to make a video about the BENEFITS of low self-esteem?
If I were you I would not bother to know cause you will start to see it's bright side
@@manzidavid-on8wi I've looked. There IS no bright side to having high self-esteem. Therefore, it is only logical to assume that the benefits lie in having LOW self-esteem, or better yet, NONE.
I always thought that I don't have any personality, recently I get to know that maybe I do have borderline personality disorder and I was quite happy that finally I got a personality.
I often find myself here.
Because I am alone.
I always have been.
Every circle I was in I was a guest. Nobody wanted me there they just pitied me. I struggled all my life and it always seemed like everyone hated me. And it still does. It’s a shame to realize that you’re an invisible person.
But some people are just likable. Others are just… not…
It’s an isolating existence..
I feel like I have almost no personality because I have no real meaningful experiences in anything, so there is not much to sum or supress, and those small bits that I do have I either avoid showing because of a force of habit or it seems like I can't present them and they not define me in any meaningful way
At one point, I felt that I had no personality and people noticed that because I suppressed my feelings too much. Now I’m trying to be more social than before.
I dont even know my personality, it varies on whoever im socializing or around with
It sounds like you're adaptable and can connect with different personalities. Have you noticed any consistent traits or preferences that might give you insights into your core personality?
@@Psych2go im generally chill i guess, my bare minimum with friends is if youre not an a-hole, im gonna be friends with you and i wont question and judge your beliefs
I also make sure other people around me are ok before myself
I got tons of personality and wits
I have been told I am emotionless. I’ve fixed that though. I smile wider and laugh more often.
Is everyone supposed to have an endless amount of energy, enthusiasm, and ideas?
Great question!
I've been battling with this for a while and honestly it's like the universe was like here you go. Here's some answers💀
I NEED a video about having too many personalities.
If I met someone with no external signs of personality? I would just let them be, but still help them if their friendly. Hope Psych2Go use Limbus Company characters as visual references.
Hey there 👋🏽 & I just recently found out that I am not a narcissist person. Who does not tend to judge, criticize, belittling, swearing, cursing, name callings & even by insulting other people. Just quite literally because I am actually a type of person who is also a very smart, 🤓 clever, intelligent sociable, loving, caring, gentle, helpful passionate, & even too a very uplifting type of a an autistic type of a 23 year old girl. And even too that I do tend to make a very loving kind compliments which also does mean that I don't tend to make any sort of hurtful comments about anybody's weight just quite literally because I am actually a very accepting type of person who won't put any one down for no matter what. So ppl stay well & safe journey sending everyone a very big nice warm group hug 🤗 from your most very sweet lovely best friend Chaleika Ester Rose 🌹 Edwards. 🌸🌸🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🌸🌸🥀
My dad just told me to stop detaching myself from emotion in front of other people. He said he's sick of it, that i act like a robot, and that i mustn't expect anyone to want to be around me. Abd he said other stuff
Im very sad , 😢😢😢😢😢😢
This video is resonating with me
Thanks for sharing :) how do you feel after watching this video?
@@Psych2go I feel like I should be more expressive
wow i actually just have no personality
this topic hits home to much more me.. :(
Please make a video to find out my real personality
Why of course I know him, he’s me!
I feel like I’ve lost my personality, because I suppressed it a very long time ago, and I don’t know where to find it.