tips for transmasc people pt. 2!

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  • Опубліковано 26 гру 2024
  • FINALLY i'm doing another one of these! yay i hope it helps someone
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  • @phant0m_p195
    @phant0m_p195 6 років тому +65

    My best trick I’ve found for voice dysphoria is to put on headphones and sing/lip sync along to a male singer with the voice you want. Might not work for everyone but I find this really soothing to imagine my voice is deep

  • @420jerm
    @420jerm 7 років тому +143

    WELL WHAT IF I WANT TO NAME MY LAMP

  • @uglyteenageboy97
    @uglyteenageboy97 7 років тому +112

    I'm a boy with freckles and you've made my day honestly I thought people hated freckles on guys

    • @smoothgroovesgirl
      @smoothgroovesgirl 7 років тому +11

      Freckles are adorable!! I wish I had freckles tbh

    • @PeachyRambles
      @PeachyRambles 7 років тому +4

      Solome Wlodarczyk same!

    • @tannerz7411
      @tannerz7411 7 років тому +4

      I would love to have freckles! (:

    • @forestkid7346
      @forestkid7346 7 років тому +5

      Nikki GUYS WITH FRECKLES ARE HOT !! legit the only reason i like summer is bcus my freckles come out

    • @uglyteenageboy97
      @uglyteenageboy97 7 років тому +2

      Forest Kid AHA REALLY THANKS

  • @thegingerborn
    @thegingerborn 7 років тому +34

    Trans femme here. Will just remind you peeps, if you're ever feeling dysphoric that your body does not define you. Being around a bunch of trans masc people irl a load, all at various states of "passing", I can only see you guys as guys. Genuinely x
    As for tips on when you're feeling dysphoric, remember to look after yourself. Do things that make you feel good and distract you.
    Here's things I do. Watch youtube vids, play a video game, eat, wear more gendered clothing, play with figdet toys if feeling panicy because of dysphoria. You could take a walk. Just do anything to keep you feeling better NOW. Distract as many of your sences to give your brain less chance to wander back to the present.
    But if you can't do any of that, say you are trapped in a social situation, remember you are strong enough to tough it out. Cause the feeling will pass eventually
    And remember, you are all valid. Always xx

  • @Karen-ex5tg
    @Karen-ex5tg 7 років тому +155

    Aah Ashton I really love your videos. I'm about as cisgender as it gets but I still find it interesting how people deal with being trans and it's very sad how people misgendering you and others. Being trans should not be a problem anymore...it's 2017. Yet people are just so rude.

    • @uglyteenageboy97
      @uglyteenageboy97 7 років тому +9

      Lyka The world needs more people like you dude!

    • @Karen-ex5tg
      @Karen-ex5tg 7 років тому +9

      Nikki thanks haha. I have caught myself being confused with trans people but made a bit of effort to look into it and it's just become normal to me now. Everyone who has problems with understanding trans people should try a bit of research.

    • @PeachyRambles
      @PeachyRambles 7 років тому +2

      same here! lol

    • @tannerz7411
      @tannerz7411 7 років тому +1

      You are so kind (:

    • @alexdavis2828
      @alexdavis2828 5 років тому

      Its 2019, and we have to put up with Trump.....

  • @jazzyjezza3858
    @jazzyjezza3858 5 років тому +21

    "Name your lamp."
    XD
    Dad: Laticia why are you awake-
    Me: Dad, stop talking to my lamp
    Dad: *confusion*

  • @lemonzaura6707
    @lemonzaura6707 5 років тому +7

    "Hey -Deadname- !"
    Me: Why are you talking to my pencil?

  • @echoliegh4924
    @echoliegh4924 6 років тому +30

    So, I got a stuffed animal a few weeks ago, and I needed a name, so I named it my deadname.

  • @inevergetenoughsleep7994
    @inevergetenoughsleep7994 6 років тому +8

    A tip I very commonly use to present in a more masculine way is something I saw in a body language video or something, but it really helps me, especially when I need to FEEL more masc.
    So, it is seen as more feminine in your body posture when you walk with your palms facing your thighs, y'know? Not completely parallel, of course, but in that general direction.
    On the other hand, it is seen as more masculine when you walk with your palms facing behind you, the front of your hands in the direction you are facing. Again, it shouldn't be DIRECTLY in that direction, but just vaguely. I've found it helps make my shoulders feel broader, which is something I have bad dysphoria about. It also feels like I'm presenting more confidently too, which, like he said, is commonly associated with masculinity.

  • @molbert9200
    @molbert9200 6 років тому +23

    why is ur voice like rly attractive
    is that just me
    edit: WOW ASH JUST PINNED THIS COMMENT ON TOP
    wow ilysm

  • @coneshaped_frog
    @coneshaped_frog 6 років тому +9

    I (sadly) was in choir for two years and I have a tip for lowering your voice. Try doing the scale (do re me....) In reverse. So it would be (do ti la so fa me re do) if you start with your natural voice tone and go down as far as you can without it hurting or as far as it's comfortable it can help you lower your voice but still sound natural. It would also apply for mtf people. But instead of in reverse just do it regularly (do re me fa so la ti do)

  • @Doveghost
    @Doveghost 2 роки тому +3

    That's a good idea, when someone deadnames me I'll ask "what relevance does the queen of England have in this conversation?"

  • @manon-lb5zl
    @manon-lb5zl 6 років тому +10

    this goes for both trans femme and trans masc people, but it can be really helpful to find food that for example increases T and decreases estrogen or increase estrogen and decrease T if you can't/havent gone on hormones yet

  • @stinkylittleman709
    @stinkylittleman709 7 років тому +17

    I actually used the hair tie trick before and didn't even remember where I got the trick from. Thank you for making these videos. Have a good day!

  • @teesmith3460
    @teesmith3460 7 років тому +23

    I like the new setup with the flag xx

  • @charlie-yd7fi
    @charlie-yd7fi 7 років тому +75

    The original version of this video was how I actually found you. (:

  • @arloe6737
    @arloe6737 7 років тому +76

    I have a little tip for fellas with hair dysphoria! There’s a good chance this was covered in the first one, but I forgot.
    This’ll work even if you have hair down to your ass, like me.
    So basically, get a snapback (or a beanie. not sure how well it works with beanies.)
    If you have longer hair, I’d recommend tying it up in a bun or ponytail.
    Then, just stuff your hair inside your hat and stuff as many stray hairs as you can inside it.
    Boom! You can barely feel your hair. (Some of your hair may kinda just poke out the back, but it’s not noticeable unless you touch or look at it.)
    I wouldn’t try this in public, since it can look a little messy, but it’s perfect if you’re dealing with dysphoria at home! If your parents ask you why your hair is shoved in your hat, say you’re trying to keep your hair out of your face!
    I hope this helped!

    • @forestkid7346
      @forestkid7346 7 років тому +6

      bale beanies work pretty well! if you want your hair to lay flat you can use wig caps :) there are plenty of youtube videos of how to make your hair flat for wigs. sometimes it helps to have the end of ur hair stick out the front so you look like you have shorter hair

    • @mushroomislands3432
      @mushroomislands3432 7 років тому +5

      I do this all the time and it makes me feel so good.

    • @laineemaupin
      @laineemaupin 6 років тому +1

      arloe I did this today, and I immediately felt more masculine and neutral like I wanted to! This is so amazing

    • @kaykaymiles4688
      @kaykaymiles4688 6 років тому

      Or
      MAN BUSSES
      I LOVE THEM

    • @auriah934
      @auriah934 5 років тому

      this is what i do except i use a baseball cap=)

  • @rowynn3445
    @rowynn3445 7 років тому +11

    Yes! Another day another video by Ashton I have have a hard day with moving, having a migrain and once I saw that you uploaded I clicked so fast I cracked my wrist lol

  • @kenn_dot_pdf
    @kenn_dot_pdf 7 років тому +7

    honestly every time someone talks about freckles i get so happy because i have so many freckles honestly

  • @jules34678
    @jules34678 6 років тому +3

    YOU ARE SO HANDSOME OH MY GOD
    Im a closeted trans guy and you are an inspiration to meee

  • @cornbred8977
    @cornbred8977 6 років тому +7

    I love freckles too, but I have freckles. I have freckles underneath my eyes, but there not the most prominent, so you'd have to see them up close.

  • @mint7442
    @mint7442 3 роки тому +3

    Ngl im so jealous, you look super handsome dude

  • @Alexander-du9lb
    @Alexander-du9lb 7 років тому +8

    Ashton you look really good in this video and all the time

  • @cherryhaag7582
    @cherryhaag7582 6 років тому +1

    ive found that (bc im only 13) when trying to deepen ur voice, when not on T, find ur origins (for ex. im scottish), if u talk w/ a slight accent, it can help deepen ur voice

  • @smoothgroovesgirl
    @smoothgroovesgirl 7 років тому +9

    I just wanted to say thank you for making videos and just being you, because I've started to learn more about myself and realize that I might not be cis. Right now I go by he/him or they/them pronouns and I go by Micah. Thanks for helping me out even if you didn't know it.

  • @itsafishie7923
    @itsafishie7923 4 роки тому +1

    Tip: If you are trying to get used to your new chosen name, name like a little charm or something to carry around and name it your new chosen name. This way you can start by talking to the object when you would be talking to yourself so you don’t deadname yourself. I don’t know if this makes sense but it works for me.

  • @Calaverasdemon
    @Calaverasdemon 2 роки тому +1

    I just recently found out I'm a Demiboy, and this video is SO HELPFUL! Thank youu🖤💙🖤

  • @shiq7490
    @shiq7490 5 років тому +1

    UR HAIR IS SO CUTE WHEN IT WAS LIKE THIS EEK

  • @lettarose7100
    @lettarose7100 6 років тому +2

    oh my god your VOICE i came here from an older video and this makes me so HAPPY

  • @mx._.sinister187
    @mx._.sinister187 5 років тому +1

    I'm in marching band too :) I was taught to march on my toes because I'm on drumline and it's easier to do transitions with a drum on and when I feel self conscious about my walk, I'll start doing that lmao

  • @nonameavailable-u7o
    @nonameavailable-u7o 3 роки тому +1

    Your videos help me A LOT with my journey

  • @ClownGathering
    @ClownGathering 7 років тому +7

    nice video ashton, thanks a lot for making it

  • @lemonylimeboi
    @lemonylimeboi 5 років тому +2

    I have the resting b*$h face thing and I look angry all the time qwp. I kinda hate it because it kinda tells people that I'm glaring at them or something but I think it helps make me look more like a guy. But still, my baby face always tells people ;^;

  • @sugarcookiedolls7539
    @sugarcookiedolls7539 6 років тому +1

    the beginning is a whole mood

  • @bnnuy
    @bnnuy 7 років тому +8

    thanks, I love your videos
    xx
    -luca

  • @kaykaymiles4688
    @kaykaymiles4688 6 років тому +1

    I totally get the makeup thing
    And Kpop idols

  • @nicotheniner
    @nicotheniner 5 років тому +3

    i have a pin for pronouns but i also have like 30 other pins on the same arm so its like a needle in a pinstack

  • @_Wh00p_
    @_Wh00p_ 7 років тому +4

    my best friend at school told me I would be trans in the future and he's right he's so right but I'm too scared to tell him anything and then like yesturday he told me that he wouldn't be able to call me a girl bc i wasn't girly enough and he just doesn't see me as a girl which made me really happy but he also said that he's just gonna call me they them bc I'm not masculine enough to be a man and ahhh he wasn't trying to be rude but rip me

  • @Antistudios9900
    @Antistudios9900 3 роки тому

    For me, I like to where heavier t-shirts or a jacket for my chest 👍

  • @sveajarre2008
    @sveajarre2008 6 років тому +2

    Lol since I started changing to someone else I've lost all my friends
    And everytime is see them in school or sth I'm just like: "and without you is how I disappear... and live my life alone... lol shit"

  • @rob0t9
    @rob0t9 7 років тому +3

    (hi hello i'm emerging from the sewer as a friend to give help assist, not to criticize or belittle at all hooty hoo) (i bring eyebrow tips and trickeroos up my sleeve)
    (this is with a pencil btw) (it's the easiest)
    start in the middle, go light on the end
    lightly fill in the front, draw some vertical stokes if ya want
    make em shapey
    make em bushy
    make em however you like
    you'll look really cool whatever way
    comb through them w the cylinder brush thingy on the end that may or may not be there bc not all brow pencils have them
    ps colourpop has a really good real thinn brow pencil that's perfect for freckles and it's deadass like $7 CAN (trudeau squadd up) (it's not the regular one it's the thin/precise one)

  • @dasty3314
    @dasty3314 7 років тому +12

    Bro, I’m so jealous of your hair. I’m a cis female, but I’ve wanted a short masculine hairstyle, except I don’t feel like getting called a d*ke ._.

    • @graveyardpansy
      @graveyardpansy  7 років тому +16

      get a haircut! fuck the homophobes!! be your best you!

    • @thegingerborn
      @thegingerborn 7 років тому +4

      maddiesux Live how you want to live, not how someone else wants you to!!
      And if it turns out you don't like the hair cut guess what? Hair grows back ;)

  • @mileszzz4493
    @mileszzz4493 5 років тому +2

    I have frecklEs and I'm a bOi

  • @lydiarusin
    @lydiarusin 7 років тому +7

    ashton did you move your bed?!?! or am i just an idiot lmao

    • @graveyardpansy
      @graveyardpansy  7 років тому +4

      ahah it's just the angle of my camera!!

  • @serenadams8588
    @serenadams8588 5 років тому +1

    I've never been to your channel or this video before but I made a pronoun pin like 2 days ago and feel happy just having it

  • @flynn9666
    @flynn9666 6 років тому

    I only get dead named by my family because my parents don't accept me and I can't tell the rest of the people in my family

  • @rory5586
    @rory5586 7 років тому +1

    Yay!

  • @jojeli1316
    @jojeli1316 5 років тому +1

    I have freckles :P

  • @kayleighwilson3444
    @kayleighwilson3444 5 років тому +2

    are you okay....your voice sounds really shacky plz correct me if I'm wrong
    I don't want to worry about you😁😔

  • @DeLizardKING
    @DeLizardKING 5 років тому

    I need a cat now to name it my real name

  • @None-dk2dq
    @None-dk2dq 3 роки тому

    I’m a transgender guy

  • @pxtxrparkxrcos2172
    @pxtxrparkxrcos2172 7 років тому +1

    I love this videos I love you yes goodnight

  • @KoatsNGoats
    @KoatsNGoats 6 років тому +5

    He sounds like he's about to cry.

    • @semenandgayuncle
      @semenandgayuncle 5 років тому

      Especially when he’s talking about freckles lol

  • @lizzieowo3494
    @lizzieowo3494 2 роки тому +1

    I'm the 100th comment 🤭🤭

  • @yeiiid6633
    @yeiiid6633 7 років тому +4

    Im not trans, but hello, i am here 😂

  • @TheBiancap
    @TheBiancap 3 роки тому

    Boooring