Coming Out

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  • Опубліковано 5 січ 2012
  • Other channel: / agaytale
    Sorry I sound so sleepy! I didn't realize until afterwards.
    My webcam died half way through so I lost alot of the story but you can see that on my other channel eventually

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  • @ForGaySake
    @ForGaySake  12 років тому +26

    Many older men come from a generation when coming out and being open would mean persecution and alienation. They may find solace in seeing how things are changing and hearing young people's stories about living life in a way they could only ever dream of. We shouldn't just assume they're all a bunch of old perverts.

    • @drewmonroe3747
      @drewmonroe3747 3 роки тому +3

      I'm writing a book series called 'Dogwood' that takes place in the 80's and it deals with how different and dangerous it could be to come out. Great vid. I'm in Vancouver.

    • @josephlloyd9636
      @josephlloyd9636 Рік тому +1

      I really appreciate your bravery & taking power in being yourself! Its the road to everything good in life. I wish you did updates on progress through life. 👍👉💕🌼🍃

  • @lukeb8045
    @lukeb8045 9 років тому +5

    It is almost like coming out from a "rural" perspective which we don't really hear a lot of. Thanks for sharing.

  • @ComingOutBuddy
    @ComingOutBuddy 9 років тому +1

    I've seen a number of coming out videos and similarities between them... you've done a great job with your video, the tone of your voice and your patience with the subject matter really enhances your story in a way that people can also "feel" your message!

  • @johnmoyer4745
    @johnmoyer4745 4 роки тому +1

    Really liked your coming out video
    I think that I was in a coma from 2011 up until about a month or two ago. I'm a lot (and I mean, A LOT) older than you. And that's a really good thing for me now. And so was watching your story. Hope all's good with you. Love ya', Jay

  • @daviddimascio2338
    @daviddimascio2338 12 років тому +3

    Thank you for posting this! You should really be proud of yourself and I'm proud to have watched this video of you telling your story.

  • @dleimkuehler
    @dleimkuehler 11 років тому +4

    You seem so kind and wonderful--stay that way, I wish you everything in life!! David xx

  • @CanadaKeith
    @CanadaKeith 10 років тому +6

    I know Kelowna. I like it. I like you Chris - a brave fellow taking a brave step. Good on you! I wish you all the very best in a long and happy life.

  • @YugeYun
    @YugeYun 9 років тому +13

    I love the honesty of these coming out videos.

  • @jamesknight3738
    @jamesknight3738 4 роки тому +7

    I'm gay too and I come out in the 1990's it was so challenging back then. You got it I wish you the very best

  • @JamesCourse66
    @JamesCourse66 10 років тому +2

    Kelowna!! Canada represented!! This guy is a hottie. Thank you so much man for sharing this video!! It's so important for kids who haven't come out are scared. I'm so glad you came out and starters living in your own freedom.

  • @tpvc
    @tpvc 12 років тому +2

    wanting to be them not be with them is a perfect description of how I was before I realised haha

  • @chrisyoung3082
    @chrisyoung3082 3 роки тому +1

    Sending love out to you ... ❤

  • @alastarter
    @alastarter 10 років тому +14

    as a hetro woman. best of luck to you. never mind the haters.

  • @paulrodgers7228
    @paulrodgers7228 7 років тому

    Hey Chris! 4-5 years ago, your video was one of many videos I saw that gave me the courage to come out! Thank you for posting this!!!

  • @starfleetvulcan
    @starfleetvulcan 12 років тому

    You are a beautiful brave young man who is honest with himself and others, and that's awesome, in today's world. I hope that it's a quality that you never lose. You are Loved.

  • @gamblerssurf
    @gamblerssurf 12 років тому +1

    Stay true to you and everything else will fall into place. Great story/video !

  • @AngryCeliac
    @AngryCeliac 11 років тому

    Thanks for sharing your story. You were brave in doing so, and I found that I could relate to it.

  • @magnum2424kc
    @magnum2424kc 6 років тому

    Hey Chris, you are just the coolest guy, you have a special gift and is the way you communicate with your messages you come across so sincere and so honest that it makes me even just want to shake your head and and thank you for posting this video it is very helpful to a lot of guys thanks man peace out
    U

  • @openlyme
    @openlyme 9 років тому +17

    aw! welcome out, bro.

  • @homemadehuman
    @homemadehuman 11 років тому +1

    this kid had it easy, all he had to say was..mom..dad..look at me, no straight man can be this gorgeus!

  • @chiragyaar
    @chiragyaar 11 років тому +1

    Thanks for sharing!

  • @tiktokcok6107
    @tiktokcok6107 7 років тому

    So proud of you for "Coming Out" eventually, I will too it's hard because my family is so against it :(

  • @Owlwriter16
    @Owlwriter16 11 років тому +1

    We all have stories to share. Some better than others.

  • @Video182
    @Video182 11 років тому +1

    very interesting what he said about wanting to BE other people rather than being WITH other people. I would kind of idolized individuals who I would think are perfect or good looking or that I admired because they have it together.

  • @puyipopo
    @puyipopo 12 років тому +1

    Hi, "ForGaySake" ... When we accept our sexual orientation, for be gay, the first step if you have or know a friend when may exist any atraction, its knowing together and only the time must say if both will be more closed. Thanks for your comment, my friend and recieve a big hug from Costa Rica, Central America !! :-) :-)

  • @kerrydawson1256
    @kerrydawson1256 4 роки тому +1

    I just saw your video. Very nice. it would be very interesting to see what you’re like today. I hope you’re doing well. You mentioned a little consideration for the homophobe and I hope you feel different about that. Never tolerate discrimination. We have as much right to be here and live our lives as anyone else. However, it’s not always easy. I knew always but fully came out to others in university in 1972. Everyone was fine. It was different then in how you met people. However, I related to everything you said.

  • @delightglow
    @delightglow 10 років тому

    You are so honest and amazing. You are a real inspiration to troubled kids who are recognizing their sexuality and coming to grips with it. Keep up the great work!!

  • @warrenpaine
    @warrenpaine 4 роки тому +1

    You didn't choose who you're attracted to, and you can't change who you're attracted to, so the rational choice is to accept who you are. Good for you that you haven't wasted years trying to be something you're not. I hope you have a wonderful life.

  • @lonewolff3390
    @lonewolff3390 12 років тому

    i knew way back in first grade and it still wasnt easy to deal with if anything it was harder for me cause my family so you stay strong and youll push through any problems

  • @ersonthemesa
    @ersonthemesa 8 років тому

    Good share, Chris. I defiantly could relate.

  • @jeancolapierrearmande3326
    @jeancolapierrearmande3326 4 роки тому

    You’re an angel, a movie star! Good vid as well, congrat!

  • @callysto_ii
    @callysto_ii 10 років тому +1

    I'm quite sad, because you're really cute, but I'm also really proud of you ! congrats mate ! ^^

  • @MARTINMEX
    @MARTINMEX 11 років тому +1

    Thankfully nowdays is easier to come out than it was 20 years ago..... great!

  • @eradmo89
    @eradmo89 11 років тому

    OMG!!! I love you for using David Crowder Band for the intro!!

  • @FurkanKhan100
    @FurkanKhan100 12 років тому

    i so understand that part when he says "u wanna be like them, and not be with them" thats so me.

  • @georgeworley6927
    @georgeworley6927 8 років тому +1

    Thanks for posting this video. Awesome.

  • @daviemx51234
    @daviemx51234 12 років тому

    i am so proud you are being you. you are a great guy. you are part of proud and vibrant community. i love you

  • @atravist
    @atravist 12 років тому

    "you'd see guys and you'd think, wow that's a really good looking guy, but u'd think more, you want to be them, not that you'd want to be WITH them"

  • @oldfoxbob1
    @oldfoxbob1 9 років тому +6

    bravo for coming out. Brave, smart, and cute. Welcome to the world where there are LOTS just like you. I My self have housed many teens who received the worse side of coming out. That being the parents tossed them out on to the street. I clothed, fed, housed, educated them all for free and no strings attached. Now that I am getting too old to do that I hope there are others out there who will do that. Best wishes to you.

  • @Xamot1980
    @Xamot1980 12 років тому

    Good job. Coming out is hard. Then after you do it and some time have past you feel that it was not as hard as you thought it was going to be. And being yourself is always easier than being someone else!!!!

  • @enkii82
    @enkii82 11 років тому +1

    Stay strong, vanguard!! and Thank you.

  • @rjbob50
    @rjbob50 11 років тому

    Agreed 100%! Although I told my parents in 1968. it just got worse.At 30, I finally told my siblings and freinds, and most of them disappeared.
    Started going to bars at 18, which made life easier, but a week didn't go by without
    hearing about another kid getting killed or maimed with a baseball bat. by bashers, or was thrown out of their parents house for coming out, until my dad kicked me out. After I went to a shink for 3 years my mom finally let me go back to college. Terror?. I lived it.

  • @TheWildmanjesse
    @TheWildmanjesse 10 років тому +1

    My story is almost identical to yours and I totally think your a inspiration because I am still closeted because of my families religious views

  • @kne92
    @kne92 12 років тому

    i love watching these types of videos because they make me feel normal.

  • @KittenKodersViews
    @KittenKodersViews 12 років тому

    UA-cam ... where people can be themselves in spite of social pressures to be otherwise. It still takes courage, so it's good to see people coming out more, that is a strength of character that the majority people lack.

  • @petitamipremier
    @petitamipremier 12 років тому

    Where is this suburban town - in middle America or another country such as Canada? I don't quite understand your story or cannot totally relate but I subscribed and can listen to what you have to say.

  • @Wisdom..knowledge
    @Wisdom..knowledge 12 років тому

    Omg u posted this on my birthday! Ure so adorable!!

  • @frank6th
    @frank6th 10 років тому

    Yes i'm thinking wow that's a good looking guy... thanx and i wish you every happiness.

  • @CoachmakeyourMark
    @CoachmakeyourMark 12 років тому

    Nice Work Chris!
    Way to be real and way to Keep Moving Forward!
    Be happy... it's your birthright!

  • @gagaloverr143
    @gagaloverr143 11 років тому +2

    Oh my god, His eyebrows are actually what makes him hot!

  • @iluvium
    @iluvium 11 років тому

    You will be posted all over the world, thank you!!! Be very, very happy, u deserve it!

  • @paulaidan8079
    @paulaidan8079 6 років тому

    What/ where is your other channel? Give us a link.

  • @davislevy6182
    @davislevy6182 9 років тому

    These are motivating!

  • @ganapathykarthikeyan1786
    @ganapathykarthikeyan1786 9 років тому

    May your life be as peaceful as it can be. You are a human, remember that and be yourself. Being kind and gentle to everyone, I mean everyone is the key to joy. :) All the best.

  • @smashbrosbrawler93
    @smashbrosbrawler93 11 років тому

    I love this! Where is this quoted from?

  • @Angel12595
    @Angel12595 11 років тому

    This is so beautiful.

  • @PeteDonahoo
    @PeteDonahoo 10 років тому

    Thank you so much for your story!
    only a bit over 2 years for me, i still have never felt welcome in the gay community around here so it really hits my heart to hear others stories; i guess i feel more normal :)
    thank you *****

  • @3FromTheOutside
    @3FromTheOutside 12 років тому

    Damn dude, you are beautiful looking! Just had to get that off my chest first. Man, I personally knew I was attracted to other boys when I was only six. I suppose I was lucky, at least in that respect. I am glad that at last you came to your truth once and for all. Also, putting ourselves in "their" shows might not be a such bad idea. However, in turn we should always remember to require them to do the same for "us". They might think differently as well.Thanks for a really COOL coming out story.

  • @sassy12696
    @sassy12696 11 років тому

    hehe you're really funny and cute and openminded. I really admire that about you :D

  • @sloughery
    @sloughery 12 років тому

    Wow!!! I felt like I was looking in a mirror!! I had the same thoughts of confusion.

  • @holyfuck444
    @holyfuck444 11 років тому

    I'm sorry to hear that. :( But I bet its made you a stronger individual that you are now. :)

  • @Myrdes
    @Myrdes 12 років тому +2

    "Is this how we say Hi here?" He killed me !

  • @leonaderby1998
    @leonaderby1998 10 років тому

    What is ur other channel? I cant find it

  • @gagaloverr143
    @gagaloverr143 11 років тому

    AHH i wanted to hear the story!! D:

  • @wilsixone
    @wilsixone Рік тому

    I'm getting all these "coming out" videos. I'm 60 years old! Definitely interesting to hear, but I did notice one thing: they're all 10-12 or so years ago. I guess it was a thing those days. So, where are you now?? It would be great to hear where you're at now 11 years after the fact.

  • @tomgordebeke
    @tomgordebeke 12 років тому

    He's face look so Amazing !!! but totally looking good as well !!! :P i liked it .

  • @simplysarahhere
    @simplysarahhere 12 років тому

    You're awesome don't listen to people that say horrible things about you! Do not listen to them you are a great person be you're self and be happy!

  • @TomMFAO
    @TomMFAO 8 років тому

    awesome video!

  • @ElFif
    @ElFif 10 років тому

    I know Kelowna! I use d to live in Penticton and went tp K-town once in a while. Do they still do gay dances on saturday nights at PimaDonna's restaurant? Is it where you went? :P Btw youre very cute :P

  • @tiktokcok6107
    @tiktokcok6107 4 роки тому

    You should be EXTREMELY proud of yourself!!!

  • @xtremelycra2i
    @xtremelycra2i 12 років тому

    @ForGaySake what's the Song at the beginning?

  • @muhammadmuhaiminhisham7387
    @muhammadmuhaiminhisham7387 4 роки тому +1

    Peace be upon you, as a human who has a conscience, you must to listen to me, I just want to say that:-
    If you got anyone in your life that ever said to you ''how did it come to this'' in the unkind ways, you know what I mean. This is what you tell them, you look at straight into their eyes and you saying:
    1. Humanity is about as long as we bring ourselves to loves someone else, no matter what colour, no matter what race, no matter what religion, and no matter what gender. Humanity just want us to be loved, and to be able to love somebody back.
    2. I believe that God will please, and embraces with ours' kind and loving spirits.
    3. And in God's eyes kindness and love are what it’s all about.

  • @TonyGarciaamg
    @TonyGarciaamg 11 років тому

    Your immaturity is evident-grow up and be tolerant & kind. This takes real strength to be gay with so much prejudice in the world. In my day - it was tougher. This is a very together young man for living his life out in the open & proudly!

  • @gregg6975
    @gregg6975 11 років тому +1

    Thanks for sharing. Well done :-)

  • @Jessolor
    @Jessolor 12 років тому

    Where did you go to that gay dance at? My university has a 'coming out ball' that I was thinking about going to. Sounds interesting!

  • @MannyRodriguezbruh
    @MannyRodriguezbruh 12 років тому

    your so amazing and your really cute

  • @raymondmcmichael1415
    @raymondmcmichael1415 12 років тому

    you are a smart guy, is not a problem being who you are

  • @vinnpu
    @vinnpu 12 років тому

    Even though I can tell you don't want to, you're gonna break a lot of hearts! It's not your fault tho.

  • @caterahmayfield8661
    @caterahmayfield8661 12 років тому

    Lolz no u didn't do the peace sign right Llz....u r beautiful inside & out (and brave) :) gr8 job!! i luved itt

  • @KittyFister
    @KittyFister 11 років тому

    What state is Kalona in?

  • @trebmalebok1259
    @trebmalebok1259 4 роки тому

    I'm on the longest streak of just jumping from one coming out vid to another and idk why.

  • @pointout098
    @pointout098 11 років тому

    Does anyone know what song is in the last part?

  • @ososiete
    @ososiete 11 років тому

    Congratulations, you are very brave and doing the right thing.
    I was born in a conservative family and after 30 years I had a deep depression and did not know the cause, after several weeks in therapy with a psychiatrist, he told me that I did not accept my homosexuality.
    Now I know who I am and I accept myself, this is the most important, know who we are and accept yourself.

  • @macman6531
    @macman6531 12 років тому

    love your hair

  • @GothPolarBear
    @GothPolarBear 12 років тому

    WHOO! I LOVE YOUUUU~

  • @Vapor_Man650
    @Vapor_Man650 11 років тому

    I subscribed to your other channel. I agree with "I wanna be them, not necessarily be with them"....

  • @msscott73
    @msscott73 12 років тому

    that is funny, he's like in high school. good vlog.

  • @reevesc1986
    @reevesc1986 12 років тому

    Well said.

  • @markpark9539
    @markpark9539 9 років тому

    i had crushes in grade school. i never came out. i had flings but now i am without friends and i am alone. once i get too old to take care of myself i think car+garage+whiskey will be my out.

  • @Mackayguy89
    @Mackayguy89 12 років тому

    What is your personal channel

  • @dallas1dude
    @dallas1dude 12 років тому

    stay true to yourself and believe in who you are. you're on the right track. ignore the haters.

  • @dbart4711
    @dbart4711 12 років тому

    . Humans have to learn to be compassionate. Most human are just mean, opinionated and have egos to big to admit their frailty.. Why is there wars, and rumor of wars all through history of man? egos..control.. power.. money. Strength is not in the fist, strength is in your heart!

  • @danielwilda8167
    @danielwilda8167 9 місяців тому +1

    You are OK. Society & religious biggot have tried to instill guilt in regular Men like us who were programmed by birth to love intimacy with our own gender. Stay strong and find true love with the man you choose 🏳️‍🌈🇺🇸💪👍⭐️💜💙🌈

  • @Mrjaviii1
    @Mrjaviii1 12 років тому

    im happy for U!

  • @TJM-yq2ui
    @TJM-yq2ui 10 років тому +2

    Hi. Whats the address of your other channel?

    • @donaldstorm4959
      @donaldstorm4959 6 років тому

      TJM1928 yeah I'm curious myself I'm saying this video 3 years after the fact. Who knows probably has a boyfriend for 3 years now.

  • @Wontcryforu
    @Wontcryforu 12 років тому

    You know I could say 'oh your really cute and really good looking' but on a video like this it's kind of rude so all I wanna say to you man is: 'You're gonna be alright.' Best of luck to you. Live strong, rock on

  • @CrazyhorseMaddy14
    @CrazyhorseMaddy14 12 років тому

    Good for you!! :)

  • @jason59101
    @jason59101 12 років тому

    whats your other channel???

  • @dharmenchand3675
    @dharmenchand3675 4 роки тому

    Be good as ur be proud who are you today nothing wrong in who are you it's creation from god love ur life always god bless you

  • @TheRetaliator99
    @TheRetaliator99 12 років тому

    Just watched this vid . I have a couple of gay friends , both great guys . They took some crap , mostly from ignorance but are not bitter about it . Just be the best you can bro , and for the record you never have to apologize for being who you are !