Grateful for this video. I have avoided therapy as an adult. I was scared of scratching the surface and not being able to deal with a diagnosis. I realized I was a child and most of my trauma was not my fault and I was relieved to have grieved my past and learn to forgive myself and others.I am grateful for everything I have overcome and learned from my past trauma and pain. I feel a sense of peace I also know I have more emotional turmoil to process and now I don't feel so hopeless.
Thanks a lot for sharing your story. It's awesome that you faced your fears and realized that most of the tough stuff wasn't your fault. Good on you for finding peace! Healing takes time, but you're not alone. We're here to support you on this journey. Keep being strong,
If only these words could reach & teach someone that was near & dear to me. A willingness to hear & learn the most helpful of truths. TY gentleman, & I mean that in a very gentle way. So profound s message
BLESS YOU DR. !!!! At this late stage in my life *72*....after a lifetime living this way, my health tried to tell me.,,,, finally had to have an adrenalectomy.....inside torn apart through years of cortisol overload.....who knew.....born 2 mos. premature.....on it went....bless you for KNOWING the trouble this causes from infancy onward!!
Thank you so much for taking us along on your adventure! It takes courage to face such challenges, and your story may inspire others who are dealing with similar health issues. I'm sending you all of my best wishes for a continued recovery and overall well-being. You truly are a warrior! 🙏💪💕
Updating your RAS (reticular activating system) in the brain, (which is the filtering net of incoming stimuli) allows you to shift at what and where: you are looking... You have a limited number of choices... Updating the RAS shifts your consciousness...
You absolutely nailed it. It is the process of acknowledging the system and making a personal commitment to create change. We can make a difference if we work together🙏✨💖
Gabour yr messages always reach me in my own truest understanding and in a heartfelt place ❤ thank u for putting out all this in such terms as to open up trauma and its effects on body mind spirit that's not been my fault !!! Ever !!, though I've listen heard believed the many who have tried to take me down before I began my own healing journey from the ground upwards ❤❤🧸👏👏 I dream to meet u one day 🔮🎯🎆
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughtful message. It's wonderful to hear how Dr. Gabor Maté's messages have touched you and provided a deeper knowledge of trauma and its impacts on body, mind, and spirit. You are completely right; it is important to acknowledge that things that happened were never your fault. It takes great courage and determination to start on your healing journey, and I admire you for taking those big first steps. Your courage and desire to face the past is very inspiring. The dream of meeting someone who has had such an important impact on your life is a beautiful one, and I hope it becomes a reality for you one day. Please continue to take care of yourself till then, and know that you are not alone on this path. We'll be there for you every step of the journey. 💕🌈🤗 Sending you a lot of love, positive energy, and best wishes for your continuing healing and growth.. 🌠💖🌻
Thank you for sharing this Conversation… Doctor Gabor is Real! filled with Humility mixed with Knowledge and Wisdom that resonates Straight to One’s Heart…Your Right- Diagnoses can give a Label- to some it can cast negative shadow- Labels don’t explain the Cause, Look what your enlightening us with, Hope for one…Our Mind is Precious to each one of Us-other than our heart -it navigates us through Life, it’s not easy to open up, it’s why so many run from their truth, and pain….You shed Light into our deepest parts that we hide, no one wants to be Labeled, yet everyone is designed for connection, we can’t connect if we aren’t seen….You’re a Breath of Fresh Air into Our Lives- Understanding Is so Key - thank you for Gifting all of Us in this Lifetime, and may your work Grow to touch Everyone as Life is Precious, through the Understanding we’ve the Ability to set ourselves Free in our Truth A Beautiful Gift of Peace to find within, Your work is Amazing ….a Grateful ❤
I cry most days and cry like a boss cos I've been doing it that long. I just imagine it flowing through me and put up no resistance. I've collapsed in tears before and just lay there. The main cause is parental alienation from my daughter by my ex. 20 years. Thought it was over but she had a baby at the start of the year and I've seen him for a week. It's the saddest thing. I've learnt some kind of acceptance though, which involves the crying. It's our built-in release mechanism.. The problem, as always, is what we've been taught. Unlearn it ❤
I'm very sorry to hear about the challenges you are facing. Your honesty and resilience come through your comments, and I salute your courage in the face of such a difficult situation. Parental alienation is a very difficult experience, and your journey has clearly been filled with heartache. Your capacity to embrace your feelings, even to tears, shows your authenticity and maturity in emotions. It's encouraging to hear that you've found acceptance in this challenging situation. Acceptance can be a great tool for healing and growth. You are completely right that sobbing is a built-in release mechanism, a way for us to process and release our pain. Keep in mind that you are not alone on this path. Many people who watch this video and read your comment will definitely find strength and comfort in your comments. And your lesson about unlearning what we've been taught is a powerful reminder that we have the ability to break away from patterns that no longer benefit us. thank you for sharing your story with us. Your bravery in being vulnerable here may benefit others going through similar situations. Please continue to be kind with yourself and reach out to those who can help you in your time of need. I wish you healing and peace.
Thank you Dr Gabor for your wonderful explanation on borderline neurosis and why we shouldn't rush to the diagnosis. I can completely relate to this as I carry the similar approach in my therapy while dealing with my clients
Thank you very much for your nice words! It's fantastic to learn that you and your therapist have a similar approach. Dr. Gabor's thoughts are absolutely priceless, and it's amazing to see how they've touched with others in the field. Keep up your wonderful work with your clients, and here's to nurturing a better awareness of mental health.🙌
Right !?! I can’t seem to get enough ! Everything he speaks on makes the best sense !! I love his common sense and his expertise along with a bit of humor here and there ! ;)
Rachel Yehuda, MD, a pioneer in the field of PTSD says research shows we are 3 times more likely to experience symptoms of PTSD if one of our parents suffered from depression or anxiety. I got a double whammy. My mother was pregnant with me during the war, and she and my father were miserable ppl. I had no chance to be normal and healthy, and neither did my sons. Tragic!
@@peterhoatson it wasn't easy....no docs helping me ... isolated myself and began titration of each drug DAILY.... VERY HARD, PAIN in more ways than one through the body,but totally worth it to be FREE!!!
i feel like the majority (if not all) young people (teens,20s) just kind of live life with the assumption that depression is just a part of life. something needs to change. modern society just feels so unnatural. of course these beings dont feel good in it.
I completely get where you're coming from, and it's very concerning how many young people are suffering feel hopeless as if it's a normal part of life. You are completely correct that something needs to change. Our modern civilization is frequently separated from what our human nature craves most: meaningful connections, purpose, and a sense of belonging. It is important to recognize that the pressures of modern life can weigh heavy on the shoulders of young people. But keep in mind that by sharing your opinions and starting this conversation, you're already contributing to the change you want to see. We can work together to create a society that places importance on mental health, supports one another, and promotes a more natural, fulfilling way of life. Continue to raise awareness, and let us work for a brighter, more compassionate future.💙🌟
Thank you very much Gabor Mate - and its a very sad fact that those psychiatrists today have no education at all about trauma. The last one that I met, was always trying to read out of his fu...bible for me...told me only a God could solve my trauma.!! I did try very hard to suppress my impulse to give him a uppercut right into his puss! They are taking your money but they are not able to help you at all - that´s pure madness, right. All my life I was trying to get some help bc of my complex ptsd - but all I did find is a whole bunch of really uneducated therapists, coaches or psychiatrists like the guy with his bible....since I turned 64 years lately, I gave up for searching outside - will try to help myself with the help of those videos of yours.
Thank you for sharing your story, and I'm sorry to hear of the difficulties you've encountered in trying to find for help. It's heartbreaking to hear of a lack of trauma-informed practitioners and some people in the mental health industry taking a mistaken approach. I hope that by sharing content and concepts like those provided by Dr. Gabor Maté, we can raise awareness of the importance of trauma-informed care as a group. Please keep in mind that you are not alone, and that there are communities and services available to help you. Healing is a unique process, and I'm happy to hear you're looking into self-help options. Continue to focus on what works best for you, and remember that your insights and experiences can be helpful to others going through similar challenges.Wishing you strength and resilience on your path to healing💖🙏🧘♀️
an honest girlfriend"? the same would go for an honest friend,partner of any sex,its about having supportive relationships and depnding or expecting from a girlfriend to be a healer,therapist,carer is never usual a good or fair expectation.Who is "us"anyway and also,we are all dealing with various traumas because we have not had supportive enough or adequate parenting
An honest friend or partner is no help to us if we can't treat them properly due to our issues. 3 and a half years in therapy; it was very rough at times; but re-parenting your inner child ain't easy; as your parents probally helped you find out as a child. A good therapist will show you and your inner child what you needed/ deserved as a child; and help you learn to be kind and patient with yourself; until; one day; you are able to give yourself the Love you didn't get as a child.
Traumas do not sleep, even with death, but rather, continue to look for fertile ground of resolution in the children of the following generations. That's so depressing! One of my estranged sons has five children, maybe six. These unfortunate children will suffer the traumas of my past, as well as their father's. No one is to blame, they simply lacked the insights to know what they're doing.
“The diagnosese dont explaine anything. They explain nothing. They describe something. It’s useful to describe things, as long as we don’t confuse a description with an explanaition…. “I’ve said that I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD. So Gabor’s been diagnosed with ADHD, How do we know? Cause he tunes out, and he tends to be restless. Why does he tune out and tend to be restless? Because he’s got ADHD. How do we know that he’s got ADHD? Because he tunes out and tends to be restless. Why does he tune out and tend to be restless? Because he’s got ADHD. [repeat and insert diff diagnosis and traits] They dont explaine a thing! They describe things. And the explanaitions, have to do with a persons life in a certain culture. And these so called abnormalities are actually normal responses to an abnormal situation. “
I've had questions just like this when it comes to why certain physical traits are unacceptable/seen as unattractive. If i get into a question loop like this with no real answer in sight, then it means nothing!
"It's not your fault". That movie scene has always stuck with me. I grew up Catholic, where they teach that we are inherently guilty, everything is our fault, our "sins", the "sins of our fathers". And then Robin Williams character acts out more empathy and true healing/forgiveness than an entire religion. Great video/reference!
Unfortunately, the reparenting so many of us require to move beyond the natural self-blame abused children live with cannot be achieved in individual therapy and group therapy is necessary. This is the experience of a retired psychiatrist and abuse survivor who has participated in thousands of therapy groups/12-step groups, when individual therapy was a waste of time and "managed care" won't allow it anyway. Stress R Us
A wonderful psychiatrist worked with me often and for a long time to get me through a crisis. The reparenting he did was life changing and I will always be grateful.
Thanks for that and kudos for that psychiatrist. Such reparenting from a single therapist/psychiatrist has been rare, in my experience. Personally, I was so filled with toxic shame that only the revelations of similar feelings and experiences in my 12-step groups could achieve my recovery into total honesty, although only a handful of my fellows seem to get to this same level of honesty and freedom from shame in all its manifestations. BTW, I am quite familiar with fibro and its recovery. In my experience as a physician and psychiatrist, fibro is an autoimmune condition and indicative of adrenal fatigue/failure and recovery is the result of stress management and adrenal gland recovery. I've been through it myself. Best Wishes!@@fibrocoach.online3630
Is there also a version without the stock images? They are very distracting to me. I just want to see the real people in the conversation. But thanks anyway for this upload. 🙂
It's as if our society is a human and our collective nervous system is in a constant state of high alert. We can't experience love or community because we tell ourselves we can't- because that's how we were raised from birth. The myths in this society are toxic, toxic people raise toxic people. Our entire society needs to teach our collective and individual unconcious brain that we are actually safe, as Dr. Sarno postulated. Then we can abandon fear and welcome safety and trust and stop the cycle of trauma- thereby mitigating the brain's unconcious overreaction to suppressed emotional pain that manifests as physical pain.
You've wonderfully expressed the important effect that our society may have on our emotional well-being. Indeed, the stories we grow up as children can have an important influence on our perceptions. Your insight into the importance of safety, trust, and breaking the trauma cycle is both compassionate and thought-provoking. Thank you for expressing your point of view; it is important to foster these discussions in order to create positive change.💕🙏✨💖
Wonderfully produced/presented video featuring my hero Gabor Mate'. However, population density stress is the source of all childhood trauma, as in the case of my two unwanted parents giving birth the an unwanted only child, me, now a retired psychiatrist, addiction medicine specialist, stress researcher and recovering alcoholic/addict. Details may be found in the free online e-book, "Stress R Us". Really good, supportive 12-step group therapy has healed me from my own childhood sexual/emotional/physical abuse and alcohol/substance dependence. Gabor's new book, "The Myth of Normal" is a treasure.
First of all i would like to thank you for your kind words about the presentation, thank you so much. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability in here, Sorry to hear all the hard time you went through, sending virtual hugs right now, hoping and praying for your full recovery. Stay positive, strong... Bless you dear!
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thanks for your kind words as well! My experience has been that in some, not all, 12-step meetings those of us who are childhood trauma survivors finally get the protection and care we were not given in childhood, which allowed my lost traumatic memories to surface and heal. You're doing a GREAT job! What the heck, I'll sign on! Stress R Us
@@StressRUs happy for you dear. What is the name of the organization you joined which helps childhood trauma survivors?, i want to help them by adding in fund raising in some of my videos.
@@yourinnerchildmatters Actually, my profound healing took place in "Open" 12-step meetings, where I finally received the "protection and care" I had sought my entire life, which then allowed me to have the reliving dreams that tied together all the other subtle symptoms of childhood sexual abuse. I live in a small Ohio city where no dedicated trauma therapists practice, so the $0-1-2 12-step groups were all I had available. Sadly, not all 12-step groups are this welcoming to trauma survivors, so pick wisely. Thanks for your kind offer, but AA is self supporting and does not accept outside contributions. Stress R Us
It's not my fault...try to tell my sons that. They're filled with blame and vitriol...😢and it is my guess they'll never choose to know better...not in my lifetime, anyway. My adoptee son came into my life when he was 27. It turns out he was interested in two things: money and retribution. He made me sick...more trauma.🙁
Glad someone here is calling that out. She's casually introducing divisive, ideological language where it has no place being, but of course, it's deliberate.
Borderline personality disorder might better be called "Extreme rejection sensitivity", as an individual who experienced a terrifying loss of a nurturing, loving, protective parent (usually mother) NEVER wants to re-experience the excruciating soul rending pain of such an early loss again. Thus, the slightest suggestion of a potential abandonment in a relationship, however trivial to the uninformed observer, may lead to an explosion of rage and a compensatory rapid rejection of the other person to protect against the far worse pain of a feared imminent abandonment. This is a real condition and effects millions. Any former public office holders come to mind? Gabor, as much as I respect him and his valuable work/writing, is not a trained mental health professional, rather a well-meaning insightful and intuitive general practitioner. His rejection of many elements of a thorough mental health education and work experience is arrogant on his part. A bit more humility would be helpful here. Many thanks to YICM for these well produced interviews! Stress R Us
I've gone to 4 mental health "experts" in my life didn't feel they dug any deeper than their pages. Gabor is a master at healing, he takes everything he's learned and synthesizes it all making it a part of his body and soul, like my medicine man.
Beautifully said and felt. I have never met another psychiatrist who "dug" as deep as myself with my 25K pts. over 42 yrs. Gabor is a genius and sympatico. I am, also, of Hungarian descent. However, he lacks humility and has a domineering style that I do not. I am a childhood abuse survivor and related closely with my patients, most of whom had similar stories. I loved that work and now find a similar atmosphere in my 12-step mtgs, which Gabor never addresses. My recovery has been through the "reparenting" I've received on a mostly unconscious level in many hundreds of such meetings, again with fellow suffering souls. Best wishes!@@MariaBaca-r8r
Absolutely, it seems like you've made a deep and significant connection with Gabor's approach to healing. It's truly motivating when you see that his passion and knowledge integration resonates so deeply with you. It's important to find a practitioner who truly understands and empathizes with your journey, and Gabor appears to have done just that for you. Remember that everyone's healing journey is unique, and finding the appropriate fit might be the difference between success and failure. Continue to embrace the wisdom that speaks to your spirit and prioritize your mental health. Thank you for sharing your experience and insights!
Thanks for your reply and video. However, as much as I respect and appreciate Gabor's work and writing, I do not lionize him as you seem to. He is just one of many trauma therapists and mental health experts in this area of practice and research. Broaden your scope a bit and you'll discover many more of us out here.@@yourinnerchildmatters
Oof not a fan of how he made that first woman’s voice smaller and then didn’t listen to her and interrupted her before she finished her sentence. But I appreciate his sharing nonetheless.
I think the message is great but personally I find the video presentation too glib and cosmetic. It has me wondering how much money is being made from all this and who.
"Glib" and "cosmetic" don't really go together.. As I said I prefer JP's style (he's more charismatic & about as articulate as people get) but Gabor is better with trauma & addiction.
Gabor Mate may you live 200 years..
May his works live forever
Amen 🙏🏽 ❤
Amen 🙏 we should be so lucky 🍀 ❤😂
He likely will...look at all the accolades he gets. I'm sure he feels well nurished.
Dont curse him
Grateful for this video. I have avoided therapy as an adult. I was scared of scratching the surface and not being able to deal with a diagnosis. I realized I was a child and most of my trauma was not my fault and I was relieved to have grieved my past and learn to forgive myself and others.I am grateful for everything I have overcome and learned from my past trauma and pain. I feel a sense of peace I also know I have more emotional turmoil to process and now I don't feel so hopeless.
Thanks a lot for sharing your story. It's awesome that you faced your fears and realized that most of the tough stuff wasn't your fault. Good on you for finding peace! Healing takes time, but you're not alone. We're here to support you on this journey. Keep being strong,
Thank you Gabor Mate for voicing this pain 💙
thanks for watching
So wise, gentle and kind.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ✨💖🙏
I see your pain Gabor, thank you for your work and humility 💜
Doctor Gabor, after listening to your words I have been felt much less alone! You are to deepest part of our abandoned selves!?
thank you for watching, glad this helps ❤❤
If only these words could reach & teach someone that was near & dear to me. A willingness to hear & learn the most helpful of truths. TY gentleman, & I mean that in a very gentle way. So profound s message
BLESS YOU DR. !!!! At this late stage in my life *72*....after a lifetime living this way, my health tried to tell me.,,,, finally had to have an adrenalectomy.....inside torn apart through years of cortisol overload.....who knew.....born 2 mos. premature.....on it went....bless you for KNOWING the trouble this causes from infancy onward!!
Thank you so much for taking us along on your adventure! It takes courage to face such challenges, and your story may inspire others who are dealing with similar health issues. I'm sending you all of my best wishes for a continued recovery and overall well-being. You truly are a warrior! 🙏💪💕
Updating your RAS (reticular activating system) in the brain,
(which is the filtering net of incoming stimuli)
allows you to shift at what
and where: you are looking...
You have a limited number of choices...
Updating the RAS shifts your consciousness...
Thanks for sharing your insights on updating the RAS! I appreciate,
Thank you Dr. Mate for your perspective and expertise.
🙏✨💖 thanks for watching 🙏✨💖
It's nobody's fault. It is just how it is when a society is functioning this way.
Be the change you wish to see. It will be.
You absolutely nailed it. It is the process of acknowledging the system and making a personal commitment to create change. We can make a difference if we work together🙏✨💖
Bravo Gabor, he is indeed the Beethoven of physician’s.
thanks for watching
Haha well said maestro 👋
I feel like becoming a therapist again❤. I love this is some of what I’ve always thought, but didn’t have his mind or words to describe it:).
thanks for sharing
Gabour yr messages always reach me in my own truest understanding and in a heartfelt place ❤ thank u for putting out all this in such terms as to open up trauma and its effects on body mind spirit that's not been my fault !!! Ever !!, though I've listen heard believed the many who have tried to take me down before I began my own healing journey from the ground upwards ❤❤🧸👏👏 I dream to meet u one day 🔮🎯🎆
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughtful message. It's wonderful to hear how Dr. Gabor Maté's messages have touched you and provided a deeper knowledge of trauma and its impacts on body, mind, and spirit. You are completely right; it is important to acknowledge that things that happened were never your fault. It takes great courage and determination to start on your healing journey, and I admire you for taking those big first steps. Your courage and desire to face the past is very inspiring. The dream of meeting someone who has had such an important impact on your life is a beautiful one, and I hope it becomes a reality for you one day. Please continue to take care of yourself till then, and know that you are not alone on this path. We'll be there for you every step of the journey. 💕🌈🤗
Sending you a lot of love, positive energy, and best wishes for your continuing healing and growth.. 🌠💖🌻
Thank you for sharing this Conversation… Doctor Gabor is Real! filled with Humility mixed with Knowledge and Wisdom that resonates Straight to One’s Heart…Your Right- Diagnoses can give a Label- to some it can cast negative shadow- Labels don’t explain the Cause, Look what your enlightening us with, Hope for one…Our Mind is Precious to each one of Us-other than our heart -it navigates us through Life, it’s not easy to open up, it’s why so many run from their truth, and pain….You shed Light into our deepest parts that we hide, no one wants to be Labeled, yet everyone is designed for connection, we can’t connect if we aren’t seen….You’re a Breath of Fresh Air into Our Lives- Understanding Is so Key - thank you for Gifting all of Us in this Lifetime, and may your work Grow to touch Everyone as Life is Precious, through the Understanding we’ve the Ability to set ourselves Free in our Truth A Beautiful Gift of Peace to find within, Your work is Amazing ….a Grateful ❤
thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Excellent message as always. Great video production the quality keeps getting better!
Glad you think so!
I cry most days and cry like a boss cos I've been doing it that long. I just imagine it flowing through me and put up no resistance. I've collapsed in tears before and just lay there.
The main cause is parental alienation from my daughter by my ex. 20 years. Thought it was over but she had a baby at the start of the year and I've seen him for a week. It's the saddest thing. I've learnt some kind of acceptance though, which involves the crying.
It's our built-in release mechanism.. The problem, as always, is what we've been taught. Unlearn it ❤
I'm very sorry to hear about the challenges you are facing. Your honesty and resilience come through your comments, and I salute your courage in the face of such a difficult situation. Parental alienation is a very difficult experience, and your journey has clearly been filled with heartache. Your capacity to embrace your feelings, even to tears, shows your authenticity and maturity in emotions. It's encouraging to hear that you've found acceptance in this challenging situation. Acceptance can be a great tool for healing and growth. You are completely right that sobbing is a built-in release mechanism, a way for us to process and release our pain.
Keep in mind that you are not alone on this path. Many people who watch this video and read your comment will definitely find strength and comfort in your comments. And your lesson about unlearning what we've been taught is a powerful reminder that we have the ability to break away from patterns that no longer benefit us. thank you for sharing your story with us. Your bravery in being vulnerable here may benefit others going through similar situations. Please continue to be kind with yourself and reach out to those who can help you in your time of need.
I wish you healing and peace.
💫 Thank-you for sharing ♥️ May you and yours, be blessed with good health and Happiness Today Tomorrow and Always 🙏
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@@donnadory7482 thank you very much 💕🙏✨
Thank you Dr Gabor for your wonderful explanation on borderline neurosis and why we shouldn't rush to the diagnosis. I can completely relate to this as I carry the similar approach in my therapy while dealing with my clients
Thank you very much for your nice words! It's fantastic to learn that you and your therapist have a similar approach. Dr. Gabor's thoughts are absolutely priceless, and it's amazing to see how they've touched with others in the field. Keep up your wonderful work with your clients, and here's to nurturing a better awareness of mental health.🙌
It’s a lifetime of healing ❤️🩹 just never ever ever give up! All I can say ❤
Very true, thanks for sharing your insights.💖
@@yourinnerchildmatters your very welcome! namaste 🙏
I love you sm Gabor !!. God bless you ⚘️💕
thank you very much for watching!
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you for your work 😊💙
Thankyou for video.
thanks for watching
How many different disorders in kids last 30
Years numbers 🙏🏽learning this is blowing my mind 😮
thanks for watching, bless you 💕✨
Thanks you. I simply heal by myself because his wisdom.
thank you for watching. hoping and praying for your full healing. sending love and bless you.
Right !?! I can’t seem to get enough ! Everything he speaks on makes the best sense !!
I love his common sense and his expertise along with a bit of humor here and there ! ;)
Rachel Yehuda, MD, a pioneer in the field of PTSD says research shows we are 3 times more likely to experience symptoms of PTSD if one of our parents suffered from depression or anxiety. I got a double whammy. My mother was pregnant with me during the war, and she and my father were miserable ppl. I had no chance to be normal and healthy, and neither did my sons. Tragic!
Almost same thing happened to many people of us, right. Thanks for your sharing.
Gabor Mate❤️🙏🏻
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Thank you sooooo much!!! They had me on over32 different pharmaceuticals and I almost died!!!....I take only natural meds now & am happy
thanks for watching, thanks for sharing your thoughts.
That's great news! Care to share how you did it?
@@peterhoatson it wasn't easy....no docs helping me ... isolated myself and began titration of each drug DAILY.... VERY HARD, PAIN in more ways than one through the body,but totally worth it to be FREE!!!
@@dr.bunnywilson8321 You're a legend having the conviction and courage to do what you knew to be the most profitable course of action
i feel like the majority (if not all) young people (teens,20s) just kind of live life with the assumption that depression is just a part of life.
something needs to change. modern society just feels so unnatural. of course these beings dont feel good in it.
I completely get where you're coming from, and it's very concerning how many young people are suffering feel hopeless as if it's a normal part of life. You are completely correct that something needs to change. Our modern civilization is frequently separated from what our human nature craves most: meaningful connections, purpose, and a sense of belonging.
It is important to recognize that the pressures of modern life can weigh heavy on the shoulders of young people. But keep in mind that by sharing your opinions and starting this conversation, you're already contributing to the change you want to see. We can work together to create a society that places importance on mental health, supports one another, and promotes a more natural, fulfilling way of life. Continue to raise awareness, and let us work for a brighter, more compassionate future.💙🌟
Thank you very much Gabor Mate - and its a very sad fact that those psychiatrists today have no education at all about trauma. The last one that I met, was always trying to read out of his fu...bible for me...told me only a God could solve my trauma.!!
I did try very hard to suppress my impulse to give him a uppercut right into his puss! They are taking your money but they are not able to help you at all - that´s pure madness, right. All my life I was trying to get some help bc of my complex ptsd - but all I did find is a whole bunch of really uneducated therapists, coaches or psychiatrists like the guy with his bible....since I turned 64 years lately, I gave up for searching outside - will try to help myself with the help of those videos of yours.
Thank you for sharing your story, and I'm sorry to hear of the difficulties you've encountered in trying to find for help. It's heartbreaking to hear of a lack of trauma-informed practitioners and some people in the mental health industry taking a mistaken approach. I hope that by sharing content and concepts like those provided by Dr. Gabor Maté, we can raise awareness of the importance of trauma-informed care as a group.
Please keep in mind that you are not alone, and that there are communities and services available to help you. Healing is a unique process, and I'm happy to hear you're looking into self-help options. Continue to focus on what works best for you, and remember that your insights and experiences can be helpful to others going through similar challenges.Wishing you strength and resilience on your path to healing💖🙏🧘♀️
Go to Bessel Van der Kolk..he is better than Gabor.
If we have no Parents, having an honest Girl Friend, could be a life sav ér for many us.
Absolutely, having a supportive partner can be a wonderful source of strength and relationships in our lives🙏✨💖
an honest girlfriend"? the same would go for an honest friend,partner of any sex,its about having supportive relationships and depnding or expecting from a girlfriend to be a healer,therapist,carer is never usual a good or fair expectation.Who is "us"anyway and also,we are all dealing with various traumas because we have not had supportive enough or adequate parenting
An honest friend or partner is no help to us if we can't treat them properly due to our issues.
3 and a half years in therapy; it was very rough at times; but re-parenting your inner child ain't easy; as your parents probally helped you find out as a child.
A good therapist will show you and your inner child what you needed/ deserved as a child; and help you learn to be kind and patient with yourself; until; one day; you are able to give yourself the Love you didn't get as a child.
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Traumas do not sleep, even with death, but rather, continue to look for fertile ground of resolution in the children of the following generations.
That's so depressing!
One of my estranged sons has five children, maybe six. These unfortunate children will suffer the traumas of my past, as well as their father's.
No one is to blame, they simply lacked the insights to know what they're doing.
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“The diagnosese dont explaine anything. They explain nothing. They describe something. It’s useful to describe things, as long as we don’t confuse a description with an explanaition…. “I’ve said that I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD. So Gabor’s been diagnosed with ADHD, How do we know? Cause he tunes out, and he tends to be restless. Why does he tune out and tend to be restless? Because he’s got ADHD. How do we know that he’s got ADHD? Because he tunes out and tends to be restless. Why does he tune out and tend to be restless? Because he’s got ADHD. [repeat and insert diff diagnosis and traits] They dont explaine a thing! They describe things. And the explanaitions, have to do with a persons life in a certain culture. And these so called abnormalities are actually normal responses to an abnormal situation. “
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@@manjariR108 thanks for watching
I've had questions just like this when it comes to why certain physical traits are unacceptable/seen as unattractive. If i get into a question loop like this with no real answer in sight, then it means nothing!
That right there was the light bulb moment I needed
"It's not your fault". That movie scene has always stuck with me. I grew up Catholic, where they teach that we are inherently guilty, everything is our fault, our "sins", the "sins of our fathers". And then Robin Williams character acts out more empathy and true healing/forgiveness than an entire religion. Great video/reference!
Religion is bs just like George Charlin use to say.
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You are so welcome
How is someone who isn’t financially stable able to afford a good quality experienced therapist? It’s almost impossible.
Try to help yourself with It Didn't Start With You, by Mark Wolynn. He has very good suggestions which helped me.
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Thank you. God bless
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I would like to watch the whole session…could you provide a link?
Healing Trauma in a Toxic Culture - with Dr. Gabor Maté: ua-cam.com/video/gPU0JcjybkY/v-deo.html
Unfortunately, the reparenting so many of us require to move beyond the natural self-blame abused children live with cannot be achieved in individual therapy and group therapy is necessary. This is the experience of a retired psychiatrist and abuse survivor who has participated in thousands of therapy groups/12-step groups, when individual therapy was a waste of time and "managed care" won't allow it anyway. Stress R Us
thank you for sharing your thoughts as always.♥
A wonderful psychiatrist worked with me often and for a long time to get me through a crisis. The reparenting he did was life changing and I will always be grateful.
Thanks for that and kudos for that psychiatrist. Such reparenting from a single therapist/psychiatrist has been rare, in my experience. Personally, I was so filled with toxic shame that only the revelations of similar feelings and experiences in my 12-step groups could achieve my recovery into total honesty, although only a handful of my fellows seem to get to this same level of honesty and freedom from shame in all its manifestations. BTW, I am quite familiar with fibro and its recovery. In my experience as a physician and psychiatrist, fibro is an autoimmune condition and indicative of adrenal fatigue/failure and recovery is the result of stress management and adrenal gland recovery. I've been through it myself. Best Wishes!@@fibrocoach.online3630
This is deep. ❤
Do you have any live therapy session of gabor mate so we can apply on our own
First of all would like to thank you for watching this video ❤.
You can directly contact him here: drgabormate.com/contact/
Website: drgabormate.com
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Beautiful mind GABOR MATE!
Many thanks for watching. Bless you
Is there also a version without the stock images?
They are very distracting to me.
I just want to see the real people in the conversation.
But thanks anyway for this upload. 🙂
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Ayahuasca is crazy as a choice of psychedelic for treatment of childhood trauma!!
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Totally agreed...ppl with sensitive nervous systems should NEVER take psychedelics.
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It's as if our society is a human and our collective nervous system is in a constant state of high alert. We can't experience love or community because we tell ourselves we can't- because that's how we were raised from birth. The myths in this society are toxic, toxic people raise toxic people. Our entire society needs to teach our collective and individual unconcious brain that we are actually safe, as Dr. Sarno postulated. Then we can abandon fear and welcome safety and trust and stop the cycle of trauma- thereby mitigating the brain's unconcious overreaction to suppressed emotional pain that manifests as physical pain.
You've wonderfully expressed the important effect that our society may have on our emotional well-being. Indeed, the stories we grow up as children can have an important influence on our perceptions. Your insight into the importance of safety, trust, and breaking the trauma cycle is both compassionate and thought-provoking. Thank you for expressing your point of view; it is important to foster these discussions in order to create positive change.💕🙏✨💖
Wonderfully produced/presented video featuring my hero Gabor Mate'. However, population density stress is the source of all childhood trauma, as in the case of my two unwanted parents giving birth the an unwanted only child, me, now a retired psychiatrist, addiction medicine specialist, stress researcher and recovering alcoholic/addict. Details may be found in the free online e-book, "Stress R Us". Really good, supportive 12-step group therapy has healed me from my own childhood sexual/emotional/physical abuse and alcohol/substance dependence. Gabor's new book, "The Myth of Normal" is a treasure.
First of all i would like to thank you for your kind words about the presentation, thank you so much.
Thank you for sharing your vulnerability in here, Sorry to hear all the hard time you went through, sending virtual hugs right now, hoping and praying for your full recovery. Stay positive, strong... Bless you dear!
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thanks for your kind words as well! My experience has been that in some, not all, 12-step meetings those of us who are childhood trauma survivors finally get the protection and care we were not given in childhood, which allowed my lost traumatic memories to surface and heal. You're doing a GREAT job! What the heck, I'll sign on! Stress R Us
@@StressRUs happy for you dear. What is the name of the organization you joined which helps childhood trauma survivors?, i want to help them by adding in fund raising in some of my videos.
@@yourinnerchildmatters Actually, my profound healing took place in "Open" 12-step meetings, where I finally received the "protection and care" I had sought my entire life, which then allowed me to have the reliving dreams that tied together all the other subtle symptoms of childhood sexual abuse. I live in a small Ohio city where no dedicated trauma therapists practice, so the $0-1-2 12-step groups were all I had available. Sadly, not all 12-step groups are this welcoming to trauma survivors, so pick wisely. Thanks for your kind offer, but AA is self supporting and does not accept outside contributions. Stress R Us
It's not my fault...try to tell my sons that. They're filled with blame and vitriol...😢and it is my guess they'll never choose to know better...not in my lifetime, anyway.
My adoptee son came into my life when he was 27. It turns out he was interested in two things: money and retribution. He made me sick...more trauma.🙁
How to heal the wound?
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Hard to take this seriously with the fancy editing/production and the lady at 1:03 using "decolonizing" in reference to methods of psychotherapy.
Glad someone here is calling that out. She's casually introducing divisive, ideological language where it has no place being, but of course, it's deliberate.
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Borderline personality disorder might better be called "Extreme rejection sensitivity", as an individual who experienced a terrifying loss of a nurturing, loving, protective parent (usually mother) NEVER wants to re-experience the excruciating soul rending pain of such an early loss again. Thus, the slightest suggestion of a potential abandonment in a relationship, however trivial to the uninformed observer, may lead to an explosion of rage and a compensatory rapid rejection of the other person to protect against the far worse pain of a feared imminent abandonment. This is a real condition and effects millions. Any former public office holders come to mind? Gabor, as much as I respect him and his valuable work/writing, is not a trained mental health professional, rather a well-meaning insightful and intuitive general practitioner. His rejection of many elements of a thorough mental health education and work experience is arrogant on his part. A bit more humility would be helpful here. Many thanks to YICM for these well produced interviews! Stress R Us
I've gone to 4 mental health "experts" in my life didn't feel they dug any deeper than their pages. Gabor is a master at healing, he takes everything he's learned and synthesizes it all making it a part of his body and soul, like my medicine man.
Beautifully said and felt. I have never met another psychiatrist who "dug" as deep as myself with my 25K pts. over 42 yrs. Gabor is a genius and sympatico. I am, also, of Hungarian descent. However, he lacks humility and has a domineering style that I do not. I am a childhood abuse survivor and related closely with my patients, most of whom had similar stories. I loved that work and now find a similar atmosphere in my 12-step mtgs, which Gabor never addresses. My recovery has been through the "reparenting" I've received on a mostly unconscious level in many hundreds of such meetings, again with fellow suffering souls. Best wishes!@@MariaBaca-r8r
Absolutely, it seems like you've made a deep and significant connection with Gabor's approach to healing. It's truly motivating when you see that his passion and knowledge integration resonates so deeply with you. It's important to find a practitioner who truly understands and empathizes with your journey, and Gabor appears to have done just that for you. Remember that everyone's healing journey is unique, and finding the appropriate fit might be the difference between success and failure. Continue to embrace the wisdom that speaks to your spirit and prioritize your mental health. Thank you for sharing your experience and insights!
Thanks for your reply and video. However, as much as I respect and appreciate Gabor's work and writing, I do not lionize him as you seem to. He is just one of many trauma therapists and mental health experts in this area of practice and research. Broaden your scope a bit and you'll discover many more of us out here.@@yourinnerchildmatters
Yeah, I wondered about that...how come then, he is training PhD psychologists?
5 generation s of borderline wow intelligent people wow very smart but no focus on life the game blows up 😢what age do schools need to teach empathy
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Female`s Question is somewhat silly...... it is the private question as a therapist, she does not need to ask Gabor publicly.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts!.
it's not your fault, Chief.
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Oof not a fan of how he made that first woman’s voice smaller and then didn’t listen to her and interrupted her before she finished her sentence. But I appreciate his sharing nonetheless.
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thanks for watching
I think the message is great but personally I find the video presentation too glib and cosmetic. It has me wondering how much money is being made from all this and who.
Have you tried healing before posting this comment?
I love Gabor for his approach to addiction but if I had the choice of him and Jordan Peterson, I'd go JP. I just prefer JP's personality.
"Glib" and "cosmetic" don't really go together..
As I said I prefer JP's style (he's more charismatic & about as articulate as people get) but Gabor is better with trauma & addiction.