Role REVERSAL KINGS: How to Spot a Feminine Man!

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  • @tenwaystowearit
    @tenwaystowearit 5 років тому +1757

    Feminine men can be dangerous too because they often equate leadership with abusive behaviors and because they’re not living their purpose, they’re usually angry and resentful toward their women. So they’re quicker to put hands on a woman. I’ve dated feminine males in the past and they don’t take rejection well when you decide to move on. They’re the type to make your life a living hell because they have the “how dare you” mentality. A lot of women who end up murdered dealt with these types of lost, empty and overly-emotional men. You have to bounce when the red flags start popping up. Don’t ignore them.
    These men also tend to move very fast and want to get into relationships really quick before you see who they really are. Be careful of that.

    • @naisis23
      @naisis23 4 роки тому +90

      Ten Ways To Wear It Omggggg they always quick to get in a relationship ewwww

    • @theSpiritofTamzin
      @theSpiritofTamzin 4 роки тому +97

      That last paragraph describes covert malignant narcissists to a T...

    • @Italiza587
      @Italiza587 4 роки тому +10

      So true

    • @jenkinscourtney11gmailcom
      @jenkinscourtney11gmailcom 4 роки тому +24

      @Princess 123 I'm convinced of that must dusty are abusive towards women.

    • @ST-yc7uj
      @ST-yc7uj 4 роки тому +34

      Let's say it's a childish, narcissistic man. Man-boy, who never stepped in his masculinity properly.

  • @tabithalaegel7919
    @tabithalaegel7919 5 років тому +2027

    I was married to one for 17 long years. I'm now married to a provider. I don't even work anymore.

    • @Melanie-le6mw
      @Melanie-le6mw 5 років тому +65

      Tabitha Laegel good for you!!!! ❤️❤️♥️♥️💕💕

    • @XOXO___3
      @XOXO___3 5 років тому +108

      A testimony 👏🏾, how did you find your way out?

    • @divine1111.
      @divine1111. 5 років тому +12

      👏👏👏

    • @stellank7931
      @stellank7931 5 років тому +141

      "I dont even work anymore" I felt THATT girl

    • @jesuswilljudge7296
      @jesuswilljudge7296 5 років тому +49

      But yall raise these bm as single parents now u mad at the outcome

  • @TatiSaysSo
    @TatiSaysSo 5 років тому +2596

    My mom never taught me these things. I had to figure it all out on my own. I was dating a feminine man years ago and once it finally clicked in my head that he was never going to be a provider, I dried up. Literally 🤣🤣🤣 I instantly stopped being attracted to him and couldn’t even stand to be around him.

    • @Melanie-le6mw
      @Melanie-le6mw 5 років тому +136

      I have been there before but I dropped him real fast when I peeped how he rolled and he was broke.

    • @Melanie-le6mw
      @Melanie-le6mw 5 років тому +53

      N.W.A. Stop hating 🙄 Angel Nicole is gorgeous.

    • @TatiSaysSo
      @TatiSaysSo 5 років тому +31

      Tn Girl54 thanks babe 🥰

    • @BLURRRULB
      @BLURRRULB 5 років тому +114

      My mom never taught me this because she is still w/ my feminine acting father

    • @Melanie-le6mw
      @Melanie-le6mw 5 років тому +8

      Ms. Audrey Rugburn ohh no 👀

  • @goldenticket9211
    @goldenticket9211 5 років тому +2273

    If he not embarrassed to be around me empty handed. I don't want him.

    • @ant123924
      @ant123924 5 років тому +48

      That

    • @J-T46
      @J-T46 5 років тому +65

      Golden Ticket I wish I could like this 10 times more!

    • @DollMeUpp
      @DollMeUpp 5 років тому +18

      Golden Ticket 😂😂😂

    • @KEESWAY
      @KEESWAY 5 років тому +166

      I feel you! Lol I was on a date with this guy and he kept talking about how much money he didn't have and what he wish he could buy, but simultaneously talking about wanting kids...Fast forward, he was really confused when I stopped talking to him! He needed to get his life together, but I was distracting him so I left! 😂😂😂

    • @SpenserRoger
      @SpenserRoger 5 років тому +8

      @@Alyssaj1236 yea...we wouldnt want company now would we.

  • @etrusiagibbs8214
    @etrusiagibbs8214 5 років тому +1902

    I dated him, I married him, I had a beautiful daughter with him and I’m proud to say that I just divorced him.

    • @ladykhustle
      @ladykhustle 5 років тому +59

      Yass girl! Was it hard? How long did you plan this? I don't regret my daughter but I'm scared of the smear campaign and co-parenting bullshit. I also need to be financially independent before leaving...

    • @sweetpeaj1952
      @sweetpeaj1952 5 років тому +13

      Girl same✌

    • @nubiandarkie
      @nubiandarkie 5 років тому +19

      Same! Please let us know your process.

    • @GoldSkye
      @GoldSkye 5 років тому +11

      In a very similar boat

    • @ceeceeobh2707
      @ceeceeobh2707 5 років тому +9

      Etrusia Gibbs good for you baby

  • @Zikomo7
    @Zikomo7 5 років тому +3327

    A feminine man gets angry when he's told he should be a provider.

    • @sugarcrush780
      @sugarcrush780 5 років тому +109

      You are so right

    • @BayouBarbie504
      @BayouBarbie504 5 років тому +166

      FURIOUS😂😂

    • @Clank-rn1fk
      @Clank-rn1fk 5 років тому +320

      And women get angry when they're told they're prostitutes.

    • @makaylataylor8491
      @makaylataylor8491 5 років тому +124

      Or they play dumb like they never heard of the concept before 😒

    • @Zikomo7
      @Zikomo7 5 років тому +302

      Anonymous spoken like a feminine man

  • @mochamommyATX
    @mochamommyATX 5 років тому +2091

    Ladies. Delete comments from the men and do not respond. "A cold shoulder is better than a heated argument" your time and energy is worth so much more. Words will not strengthen a weak man.

    • @Unearthedcandleco
      @Unearthedcandleco 5 років тому +115

      Couldn't have said it better myself. I cannot bring myself to respond to these imbeclies. Preach sis x

    • @stanfatou2002
      @stanfatou2002 5 років тому +11

      Got it dude

    • @reedlyanne
      @reedlyanne 5 років тому +157

      “Words will not strengthen a weak man” whewwww Chile you ate your Wheatie’s today

    • @nietzschesmuse
      @nietzschesmuse 5 років тому +54

      If a guy insults me on line I just block him.

    • @Anna-st5dm
      @Anna-st5dm 5 років тому +72

      CD M in real life, those men who make those comments don’t get attention from women. The only way they can get attention is to come to feminine online spaces and argue with women who post. If these underachieving mediocre men used that time and energy to pursue more education, get a second job, start a business, get a side hustle, they wouldn’t have any extra time to argue with women online. They’d be busy with their own real live woman and their money. It’s unfortunate. I’ve given them too much energy and attention writing this. I agree. Delete. We shouldn’t argue with any man, especially a broke dusty feminine one.

  • @Italiza587
    @Italiza587 5 років тому +666

    Yes, I divorced a feminine man almost a year and a half ago, what a nightmare. I married him when I was young and naive. When I decided to leave him. He went to different people (gossiping) and started asking them about our relationship and their thoughts on if I should be leaving him. He then came back and told me “see you are wrong for leaving me , I talked to all these different people that we know and they agreed with me. You have no right to leave me”. I am very HAPPILY divorced. He was very stagnant no goals or drives. He was always the victim.His biggest goal was playing video games. He complained and spoke badly about woman very often. He would cry and literally throw himself in floor when faced with a situation. He wanted me working as much as he did, he didn’t care if it was late night etc. He would always overspend money because he wanted to eat out all the time. Very immature and narcissistic and he could not stand his mother. They have had physical altercations with each other, he was rude and would loud talk me out in public (ghetto). When I would tell him about being to loud. He would say” girl please, you know I am loud”. A relationship like this ,not only stressed me out but temporarily ruined my sex drive. I found it very difficult to be intimate with him because he was so femme and he acted like a kid. After, going through professional counseling I am doing much better. RUN LADIES !! Chloe is telling you the truth.

    • @nafisatuumar7535
      @nafisatuumar7535 5 років тому +26

      God Almighty...the mess..child I'm glad you left..🗣️🗣️

    • @Jessipooh21
      @Jessipooh21 5 років тому +25

      Chile it sounds like you married my damn ex! So much happier since I dropped that dead weight LOSER!

    • @daniellem578
      @daniellem578 5 років тому +53

      Girl that sounds like me & my EX!! A mistake I made 10 years ago! I left him after dating for 5 years. He didn’t want to work at all!! He lied to me for years about working but his mom told me he never had a job!! I was paying for everything & I was so naive. He used me. My parents never taught me anything about dating so I just dared w/ no wisdom in my 20’s! Now I’m in my 30’s & super selective who gets my time!! I refuse to date a broke cheap victim man!

    • @ladyteeismegibbs6808
      @ladyteeismegibbs6808 5 років тому +48

      Same. My ex was not abusive or loud. In fact, he was the opposite he barley talked at all. However; his long term goal was a new next phone. Couldnt care less about the bills or our child in Catholic School. He was concerned with a phone. Walks around with 2 phones and don't have a car. Rides the bus with 2 phones!!

    • @Italiza587
      @Italiza587 5 років тому +38

      @@nh55871 LOL! I know exactly what you mean! My ex mother in law trained him to be femme. He as a young boy had to go to the corner store and buy her panty hose, sanitary napkins and he knew her hair weave number and color. During intimacy he would hold his legs back like he was waiting for me to change his diaper and sprinkle baby powder on his butt. Smdh..I just cant!😁😂

  • @kayf661
    @kayf661 5 років тому +453

    I'll never forget the day my ex told me he was jealous of me. I was confused and so turned off. I've been allergic to feminine men since. I can't do it.

    • @raybuscus8257
      @raybuscus8257 4 роки тому +6

      jealous of what? The fact you can falsely accuse him of rape and he's immediately condemned based on your words alone and no actual facts are needed? Yea, I'm not surprised he'd be jealous.

    • @amib6887
      @amib6887 4 роки тому +18

      Raybuscus ??? Rape?

    • @marsantos81
      @marsantos81 3 роки тому

      I got a bit jealous when my ex was talking about other guys tattoos. Is that the same thing or no?

    • @kingalphaman9735
      @kingalphaman9735 3 роки тому +87

      @@raybuscus8257 Bro your comment is FEMININE!!! You are crying about something she isn't even talking about! Why are you offended? The reason you're offended is because you are exactly the type of feminine man she's talking about!

    • @kingalphaman9735
      @kingalphaman9735 3 роки тому +5

      @@marsantos81 Naw Bro that ain't the same thing. Most of us wouldn't like that

  • @Tamisha710
    @Tamisha710 4 роки тому +786

    Ladies, please avoid the feminine men who say “ I’m just looking for a woman who can make me happy” wrong answer. No one cane make him happy. He has to find his own happiness. All of us are responsible for our own happiness.

    • @muskanhira763
      @muskanhira763 4 роки тому +5

      Yes!

    • @deletetruth8771
      @deletetruth8771 3 роки тому +16

      Well a man can be happy supporting a women and his family, so yes a man can be happy because of a women.

    • @muskanhira763
      @muskanhira763 3 роки тому +33

      @@deletetruth8771 she's talking about the emotionally unstable man. Not the one who receives pure ecstasy after providing for a high quality woman

    • @deletetruth8771
      @deletetruth8771 3 роки тому +11

      @@muskanhira763 You’re assuming what you think they meant. You’re assuming what I meant, I never said the women was high quality, as theirs plenty of average men providing for low quality women. Because women usually date at or above their social status not the opposite. Plenty of emotionally unstable women out their too but that doesn’t ruin their quality if they’re attractive. It’s quite funny that a man needs to be wealthy, attractive, nice, while a women just needs to be attractive to advance in her social status.
      Just because you get likes in this comment section doesn’t mean you’re right in everything you say, 90% of the people in this comment section are female and a lot of them biased, including the channel owner, deleting comments that she doesn’t agree with. While liking the ones that she agrees with, I had multiple comments deleted, it’s quite funny, enjoy your, Ecstasy from receiving likes from a biased comment section.

    • @muskanhira763
      @muskanhira763 3 роки тому +12

      the fact that you have so much time to write such a long-ass comment.
      Lol. Good luck dust 🐰 bunny

  • @LoveOlivie
    @LoveOlivie 5 років тому +399

    " Men who are more interested in chasing gossip then chasing A CHECK should be avoided at all costs." - A SCRIPTURE!✨✨✨💝

  • @ThestorytellerofKatunga
    @ThestorytellerofKatunga 5 років тому +1251

    I used to announce my raise, or achievements. Now I keep shut. I have really learned. Thank you

    • @goodbyefornow7800
      @goodbyefornow7800 5 років тому +21

      Me too!

    • @ThestorytellerofKatunga
      @ThestorytellerofKatunga 5 років тому +117

      @@bnwo I thought I was giving testimony to being blessed , only to see that it was counter productive. I don't and won't even shop in front of a man. I learned.

    • @ThestorytellerofKatunga
      @ThestorytellerofKatunga 5 років тому +133

      @@bnwo I have a friend. The more she gets , the more her husband is laid back, lazy and full of excuses. She is tired.

    • @ms.bubs4fun506
      @ms.bubs4fun506 5 років тому +125

      Very good! Black women are conditioned to think that having a college degree, a good career, and having money and luxuries is a way to woo a man. We need to remember that the male bird builds a nest to woo the female bird.

    • @ThestorytellerofKatunga
      @ThestorytellerofKatunga 5 років тому +2

      @Zedic Black Well , I answered a question.

  • @jasu5142
    @jasu5142 5 років тому +1416

    Too many men out here complaining that women should do more ...ewww🤮

    • @jasu5142
      @jasu5142 5 років тому +68

      Women Are Property 69 with a title like women are property clearly u are the stupid one 🙄

    • @jasu5142
      @jasu5142 5 років тому +44

      Love Less Lmfaoooooo , clearly you attract what you are 🤗

    • @briannajohnson85
      @briannajohnson85 5 років тому +22

      @@XxSupernatural21xX you clearly didn't watch this video based on your comment, you should really watch it you may learn something😊

    • @XxSupernatural21xX
      @XxSupernatural21xX 5 років тому +10

      @mizzmolly First of all, I'm not black. Second of all, if you can cook, clean, and take care of a family, then why are you working?

    • @jasu5142
      @jasu5142 5 років тому +34

      Love Less and you being on the channel makes u a ... Feminine one .. here’s some 💄 to impress the Dominicans

  • @vaniathomas8859
    @vaniathomas8859 5 років тому +557

    More to look out for. 👀👀
    1. The men that's scared to stand up to their MOTHER , but will stand up to YOU for any little thing..
    2. The men that ask for their money back after lending it to you.
    3. Men that question your finances, income tax return
    4. Men that complain how much you spend to get your hair done but never offer.
    5. Men that always wanna include you on loans and such. 😖

    • @mementomorgan6721
      @mementomorgan6721 4 роки тому +27

      You described my dusty 🤢

    • @crownjewel9602
      @crownjewel9602 4 роки тому +15

      this vid and this list helped me recognize a few too many of these traits in my own father... got a feeling so complicated, but the clarity is relieving. I want to have an honest talk with my mother. And I now know that I do NOT want to spend my life with a man like my father or worse.

    • @Tojoj22
      @Tojoj22 4 роки тому +6

      #2 I'll just give him back a tampon

    • @bagels3050
      @bagels3050 4 роки тому +2

      Vania Thomas ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @anitaford2944
      @anitaford2944 4 роки тому +5

      #1!!!!

  • @purplekitty
    @purplekitty 5 років тому +157

    Basically stay away from jealous, entitled and hateful people. You don’t need them as partners, friends and if you have family members like that keep them at a distance. These types of people hold you back because they are to cowardly to move forward.

  • @oshun2866
    @oshun2866 5 років тому +393

    These types are not hard to detect. They usually spend lots of time on social media arguing and putting down women. Complain about child support. Try to trick women into house dates. 😂😂😂😂

    • @audreyc1091
      @audreyc1091 4 роки тому +10

      omg you just described man

    • @kaylam8707
      @kaylam8707 4 роки тому +1

      🎯💯

    • @mamamagere
      @mamamagere 3 роки тому

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @selenabaez4996
      @selenabaez4996 3 роки тому

      I know someone JUST like this

    • @bvishal2kn
      @bvishal2kn 3 роки тому +8

      Just look at these comments from women LOL
      If you want Traditional Men back then we want traditional women back.
      Sure we'll be traditional masculine "Providers" & you be a traditional feminine "Dependent".
      # Always cook & Clean.
      # Don't try to make decisions.
      # Don't raise your voice at your man.
      # Always do the wifely duties in the bedroom.
      # Take full care of the children.
      # Obey the husband
      How traditional do you want to take this exactly????
      women want all power men have & none of the responsibility.

  • @nafisatuumar7535
    @nafisatuumar7535 5 років тому +421

    Where was this channel 10 years ago 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭...so much truth and facts..you could have saved a lot of us....thank for doing what you do...Soo much love from Nigeria 🤗🤗🤗

    • @l3arn1ng2l0v3m3
      @l3arn1ng2l0v3m3 5 років тому +17

      I was literally thinking the same thing.. I would have saved a lot of my time, money, resources, and mental health!!! 😩😩😩😭

    • @nafisatuumar7535
      @nafisatuumar7535 5 років тому +18

      @Joyous Davis... whenever I watch her videos..I feel very empowered....at the same time I feel like a caged bird.. because my gut tells me she's right..but the society here will say better to have a man than none at all..even if he isn't living up to expectations..a lot of women in marriages here are more or less single mothers...I wish the youth would take advantage of the advice she's giving.. wallahi the world would be a better place...😓

    • @l3arn1ng2l0v3m3
      @l3arn1ng2l0v3m3 5 років тому +3

      @@nafisatuumar7535 You are not alone. We all get that sense of lack, when people are putting their judgement upon us. But just think, you can create your own headaches (if you want to, #choices). You can, also, create your own happiness (the way you want and should be treated, #choices).. We all need this channel to understand our value.
      SIDE NOTE: You should share this channel with some of those women that have chosen unhappiness, over being alone. They may find their self-worth here, as well. 🙏🏽🤗

    • @izzylabor2606
      @izzylabor2606 5 років тому +2

      Nafisatu Umar nafisatu, I feel your pain, thankfully I was able to escape mine. I wish you the best

    • @toast932
      @toast932 5 років тому +3

      Nafisatu Umar my Nigerian Sis😘

  • @KeepPixieRoseOnTheLo
    @KeepPixieRoseOnTheLo 5 років тому +2296

    Glad us women are waking up from the curse! Let's bring in 2020 strong!!!!

  • @_Demii
    @_Demii 5 років тому +302

    Chloé girllllllll shoutout to you I’ve deleted and blocked my narcissistic ex. He had to go.

    • @ilovechicago21
      @ilovechicago21 5 років тому +11

      CatEyeDemi so did i about a month ago

    • @munarellatv
      @munarellatv 5 років тому +12

      same here. blocked deleted

    • @_Demii
      @_Demii 5 років тому +3

      Sharema S thank you very much and I’m so sorry this happened to you.

    • @_Demii
      @_Demii 5 років тому +5

      Zedic Black thank you I’m making sure I watch everything! Got my pepper spray and everything remind you this man is a body builder and about 6’8 so I’m kinda on the edge.

    • @aminah761
      @aminah761 4 роки тому +1

      CatEyeDemi yes Chile me too 6 years wasted with a dusty

  • @fahren299
    @fahren299 5 років тому +65

    They also don’t take criticism well and respond by being petty. Told a dude that his breath smelled and he brought it up daily but wouldn’t fix his breath.

    • @DenaKaye13
      @DenaKaye13 3 місяці тому +2

      OMG I can’t 😂🤣😅

  • @MyCrownstar
    @MyCrownstar 5 років тому +539

    I MARRIED a feminine man. I owed a home already when we met, when we got married he moved in (HUGE mistake). We agreed to go 50/50 on the mortgage (I now know how stupid of me). When we get into an argument he’d say, why am I paying for YOUR house. I’d say because you are LIVING here, wtf....Besides his credit was so bad he couldn’t buy a house much less rent a decent studio apartment. Here I am thinking we are working together to build something and I’d do my share. I could go on with the bs that went on over finances and his feminine ways about paying other bills, cutting the grass, his getting off work and keep going for 6 hours later AND I’m still working a full time job, cooking, cleaning and basically working like a mule to be married. I’m divorced now, the best decision I ever made. Young ladies please don’t waste your youth on a dusty. You will wake up one day, old and worn out, haggard looking and nothing to show for your efforts trying to support your Black Kang. We MUST stop with the struggle love. Where is he? Married to someone else doing the same shit. There are man gold diggers out here, will use your pretty and then move on!

    • @shanicesm6208
      @shanicesm6208 4 роки тому +32

      I’m glad you left him!!

    • @SonjaElizabethTeal
      @SonjaElizabethTeal 4 роки тому +27

      Congratulations on your New Journey!

    • @LibertyMadison
      @LibertyMadison 4 роки тому +10

      This!!

    • @BrendaBaBoom
      @BrendaBaBoom 3 роки тому +6

      He’s not a King if you STRUGGLE with support ... nor deserves to be one. This bad credit 49 year old dude whose still living with his mom is engaged to marry a homeowner who has put this fool on her DEED. She hasn’t done any due diligence on him bc she would know he’s trifling! All she wants is some busted D in her house.

    • @ms.playgirl4235
      @ms.playgirl4235 3 роки тому +3

      he was a feminine homosexual !

  • @tajthegreatone9326
    @tajthegreatone9326 5 років тому +263

    Chloe this video is right on! The problems that come with a feminine man are ENDLESS. The excuses, the poverty, the lack of accountability, the sheer hopelessness will literally drain your happiness and ruin your life. Ladies, the only way to deal with a feminine man is to leave him. It comes down to your life or his. 💯

    • @marioluigi9599
      @marioluigi9599 Рік тому +3

      Are the problems with masculine women also ENDLESS? Or do they not exist?

    • @kimwexler6083
      @kimwexler6083 Рік тому

      What if I'm a feminine gay man?

  • @pop8612
    @pop8612 5 років тому +426

    I dated a feminine man. He complained about living with mother but would never move out. He has all kind of excuses for not having his own apartment ( he look down on people who had studio apartments or roommates) and he was mad that his mother charged him rent. Even his mother called him feminine. 😆

    • @MrSivram28
      @MrSivram28 5 років тому +27

      Why were you dating him in the first place? Women prefer feminine men because you're intimidated by successful masculine men

    • @MrSivram28
      @MrSivram28 5 років тому +12

      @BubonicTonic Women do not want a man that will provide for her. She's wants a man that will depend on her. Men who provide and take care of families are seen as weak and pushovers. Women reject these types of men or use them. It's the truth. They are boring to women. Look at who Nicki Minaj is dating. Thats the type of men women like

    • @MrSivram28
      @MrSivram28 5 років тому +6

      @BubonicTonic I'm embarrassed to accept money from women.

    • @wethepeople3765
      @wethepeople3765 4 роки тому +6

      i have a mother who at times asked me if i was gay. it made me so angry and you feel imasculated. some of us have manipulative mothers who were not good people in their entire lives, and they have secret resentment toward their children so sabotage their life by calling them feminine. this video and comment section is the largest gathering of cruel hearted people i have ever seen. like seriously this is the most blatantly hateful shit and its surprising that its not coming from an isis network, or some white hate group, but rather a bunch of black women. you all make me fucking sick

    • @MrSivram28
      @MrSivram28 4 роки тому +7

      @Doven Ro Galus Why should I accept money from a woman? a woman that I'm dating? I would rather take out a loan. You're a beta male.

  • @sabias3932
    @sabias3932 5 років тому +463

    Yuuuup. Sort of dated a feminine man who had an easy, lazy job and wanted an easier, lazier government job, had a truck that would constantly break down but couldn’t afford a new one, called himself a feminist, complained about being a victim due to his race, parents, WOMEN. I wondered why I was so turned off by him and couldn’t put my finger on it. 😂 I’m glad I ran as far and fast as I could once I saw it 🏃‍♀️ 💨

    • @Popoutrockout
      @Popoutrockout 5 років тому +11

      Yuk!!!

    • @sabias3932
      @sabias3932 5 років тому +16

      Sharema S wow! I’m so sorry you went through all that! I’m glad you’re safe now and that you were able to get him locked up.
      Yours is a cautionary tale that all women need to hear cus we’ll let them into our lives because we don’t want to hold their struggle against them. We want to empathize with their complaints. But I’ve come to learn that men, and people, like that are going nowhere and want to drag you down with them. Smh.

    • @sabias3932
      @sabias3932 5 років тому +8

      Sharema S I’m so sorry you experienced that violence, Sharema 😔 I really admire you for overcoming that! And I totally agree with your mentality now, keep spreading your wisdom far and wide! 👏 💕

    • @sabias3932
      @sabias3932 5 років тому +15

      TheRachPatch the weather 😂 for real, when I hear a man call himself a feminist now I run run run! Like you said, they want to be applauded for everything. There is no making sense of their BS 🤦‍♀️

    • @nimanixo
      @nimanixo 5 років тому +1

      Sabia S called himself a feminist 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @muressamanwaring3281
    @muressamanwaring3281 4 роки тому +160

    omg, I just realized I've never been with a masculine man before.

  • @kirkworthley3221
    @kirkworthley3221 5 років тому +202

    The illegitimacy rate in the african american community is nearly 75%. A majority of black men never grew up learning what real masculinity looks like in the context of a relationship. They subconsciously see their partner as an extension of their mother...someone who provides for them, protects them, etc.

    • @ag425
      @ag425 4 роки тому +25

      Absolutely! Very true, unfortunately

    • @shekinahfire5936
      @shekinahfire5936 4 роки тому +23

      You hit the nail on the head; it's an epidemic, especially in the AA community. We must be the change to see it!

    •  3 роки тому +4

      That's black.mens fault. They leave and abandon their children and families for dead.

    • @kingalphaman9735
      @kingalphaman9735 3 роки тому +11

      🗣️🗣️🗣️Read the Willie Lynch letters...it is very powerful and explains the dynamic you just mentioned.

    • @kingalphaman9735
      @kingalphaman9735 3 роки тому +5

      Systemic racism plays a HUGE ROLE in the degeneration in the African American community to keep the STRONG black male out of the home!!! Look at the history of this country and the atrocities it has committed against the very people they kidnapped and brought here! WHY DON'T YOU POINT OUT THE STATISTICS ON SYSTEMIC RACISM!!!

  • @browneyenrs76noel34
    @browneyenrs76noel34 5 років тому +613

    Yes! Yes! I dated a feminine man for years! What a complete nightmare!!!!

  • @joelgarcia4165
    @joelgarcia4165 2 роки тому +52

    I’ve never been i a real relationship as a man. Recently one of my friends told me because I was too feminine. I was completely embarrassed since I’m straight I like to think of myself as masculine . However I’m here to learn I’m glad that there is still time for me to grow before I get into a serious relationship

    • @theccanyon
      @theccanyon 2 роки тому +18

      You got this, Joel! Honesty is a form of bravery. Coming to terms with a part of yourself you want to improve AND doing something about it (action) is very masculine already! You came here to learn with an open mind and will for self-improvement. You'll do just fine💜

    • @simmetriad
      @simmetriad 9 місяців тому +2

      You should value your own dignity and freedom more than the opinions of other people, particularly those of random internet women. You don't need to learn how to be masculine, at least not in a narrow sense of the word "masculine". What you need is some basic self-respect.

  • @Me-fy8ue
    @Me-fy8ue 5 років тому +205

    Preening peacocks who stay in the mirror more than women

    • @vaniathomas8859
      @vaniathomas8859 5 років тому +12

      And care about their own hair more than yours.

    • @sunchild9709
      @sunchild9709 5 років тому +14

      Twisting in their hair and rubbing dirt off of their shoes 🙃

    • @nubiandarkie
      @nubiandarkie 5 років тому +4

      sunchild I just saw mine do that and it’s not even shoes he was going to wear...

    • @aminah761
      @aminah761 4 роки тому +1

      Me yes the worst

    • @CC-wu4ue
      @CC-wu4ue 4 роки тому +1

      Lmaooooo 😂 😂

  • @mrs.6766
    @mrs.6766 5 років тому +322

    I’ve never worked a day in my life. Never paid a single bill. My husband who I’ve been with since 18 has always paid for everything and will always pay for everything. I busy myself with caring for my children, house, and keeping myself pretty. He PREFERS it that way and so do I. Date with a purpose ladies. You don’t have to settle for a grandpa but don’t settle for the dusties either. There are young men out here in their mid 20’s to mid 30’s who are successful and going to keep getting more successful and serious about maintaining a stable family.

    • @excuseme1911
      @excuseme1911 3 роки тому +39

      @Devil Eye lmao weak feminine man trigger alert.Calm those balls if you have them.

    • @ShizunaxMisora7
      @ShizunaxMisora7 3 роки тому +13

      So you’re a lazy, golddigging leech... yet you women complain about men not “providing” if they’re “feminine”, yet you women don’t even want men to provide for you. You basically want a Prince Charming without any of the hassle or work, just sitting there and existing. Sadly, not gonna happen. I’m a woman and I’m sick of the whole “men should provide for women” shit. LMAO my father couldn’t even provide for my mother as she got older. There is a reason men say women should work harder, it is because women lack happiness and empathy as they get older (my mother was a shining example of this). Men don’t want to be stuck with you complaining nags and wonder why he wants other women, especially porn of all things, more then you. Because they will fuck off faster to the moon then you leeches.

    • @ShizunaxMisora7
      @ShizunaxMisora7 3 роки тому +2

      @Excuse Me - How is he weak if he’s just telling what she really is? A leeching parasite?

    • @kanjunior1019
      @kanjunior1019 3 роки тому +11

      is this a pride? I love my woman working and hustling!! If you cant take care of yourself as an individual financially!! You are not worth it!!

    • @kanjunior1019
      @kanjunior1019 3 роки тому +3

      @@mumzi07 That's the problem! When men want to have valid conversation based on reality and not fantansy! You call them names to undermine them, feminine men, boys, not real men!! Actually she seems nice and I think I had a god chart with her!! And this is not even a woman's business, it is SOCIAL business, civilized conversation and RESPECT is important!! Self respected people don't demand much!! You don't need to be salty!! And I still believe women should contribute to the relationship FINANCIALLY!! Great conversation is not a crime!

  • @cwc6781
    @cwc6781 5 років тому +43

    Men who talk about white supremacy and who is not concerned weather you want to talk about this subject or any subject, he is just talking to you as if your an audience and he is making a speech.

  • @plaineblaine2757
    @plaineblaine2757 5 років тому +371

    The man that I’m currently dating asked me if my ex paid all the bills. My response...”uh, yeah.” Of course he did. I date MEN not boys! TF?” I make it plain from the beginning.

    • @candacejones1439
      @candacejones1439 5 років тому +55

      Yeah, don't tell him that he didn't or he will do the same...you can't be honest if he didn't... it's just what it is.

    • @thrilla72
      @thrilla72 5 років тому +16

      @@jthompson4916 naa don't be so negative, otherwise you'll become what you dislike. I've said it before and will say it again. A man in his 30s has grown up hearing mantra from feminists and the women in his age bracket have been spouting said doctrine.
      Now they want even more women in top jobs and sports. Imagine now for the men who were raised by a single mother. Things are different.
      Women now will reach 25, having slept with 100 different man and expect a masculine man to marry her...why!?
      It will take time for things to change.

    • @plaineblaine2757
      @plaineblaine2757 5 років тому +9

      J Thompson we were having a conversation about “gender roles” and the fallacy of 50/50 relationships. It was a valid question given the subject of the convo and it was my prime opportunity to tell him where I stand.

    • @thrilla72
      @thrilla72 5 років тому +14

      @@plaineblaine2757 my thing is, 50/50 was likely born out of women wanting to sleep around. A man can't demand loyalty if he ain't paying for her. Also, there are plenty of men who have taken women out on several dates, expensive ones. Only for her to be sleeping with another man/men.
      So it's a difficult situation. What of he says that he wants a virgin if he's going to be provider and protector?

    • @romanticcomety8004
      @romanticcomety8004 5 років тому +21

      wow I looove your response! 😊 I need to remember that!
      When a man asks me about 50/50 scam, I ask him in return - if he ever tried it himself and why these relationships never worked?
      The answer tells a lot about the man...🙄

  • @galaxy_rae
    @galaxy_rae 5 років тому +562

    Chloe I just saw a thread on Twitter and it was all these black women talking about how they go 50/50 with their man and how she doesn't expect him to pay their bills like the provider he's supposed to be. I'm so thankful for you teaching us better. 😭🤢

    • @naiya.nicole__
      @naiya.nicole__ 5 років тому +112

      Princess Galaxy the pickme brigade and Babara the builder LLC will learn when their dusty upgrades on them and leave them high and dry or continuously be a mammy.

    • @XxSupernatural21xX
      @XxSupernatural21xX 5 років тому +41

      You better know how to cook, clean, and takr care of a family if you want a man to pay for you. You should also be a virgin until marriage to keep your femininity

    • @Melanie-le6mw
      @Melanie-le6mw 5 років тому +86

      I’m so tired of struggle love being promoted. It’s nauseating

    • @Melanie-le6mw
      @Melanie-le6mw 5 років тому +78

      Naiya Nicole exactly. They want a woman that looks like Beyoncé, Halle Berry, Rihanna or JLO but they ain’t got they own shit together. You have to live a certain lifestyle to be with certain types of women.

    • @naiya.nicole__
      @naiya.nicole__ 5 років тому +39

      Tn Girl54 exactly you see no response 😂 these dusties are truly pitiful and lackadaisical

  • @Amber-lj5ld
    @Amber-lj5ld 5 років тому +178

    I’ve dated one of these men. He was a straight up dusty with lack of motivation wasn’t a provider and wanted to whine and complain like a woman. He even became jealous of me (he’s currently abroad with peace corps and I’m in the states) of my situation and would compare and whine. These men also love to sell dreams with what they will do (future wise) that clearly goes again the reality of their situation. It was so bad he even would think he should have my time and attention on a regular basis (straight turnoff) finally he broke up with me. And I quickly begin by hypergamous journey. I am so happy now and have been on my own hypergamous journey ever since.

    • @shanicesm6208
      @shanicesm6208 4 роки тому +2

      Yes, like a breath of fresh air!!! 😊🙂

    • @deletetruth8771
      @deletetruth8771 3 роки тому +5

      Yeah sometimes you have to step over losers to better yourself.

    • @TheDM-ug7ft
      @TheDM-ug7ft Рік тому

      How dare your boyfriend expect you to spend time with him and give him attention on a regular basis. You'll clearly be happier if you just find yourself a man that wants nothing to do with you.

  • @jamaicanflavor3737
    @jamaicanflavor3737 5 років тому +88

    I've been married to a feminine man for over two decades. The marriage is very toxic because I have to act like the male. I was thinking he might be gay because he would compete, complain, and expect to be pampered 24/7. He's a better provider now but he still has feminine qualities.

  • @bignie823
    @bignie823 5 років тому +56

    I dumped another guy who wanted me to move in with him to split everything 50/50 and he made double my salary. His reason: because he pays child support

    • @bignie823
      @bignie823 4 роки тому +7

      Blue Finally Gets A Clue Oh Hunny. He’s a con man indeed and I caught in to him. He has 2 kids, one he has full custody of and gets no support. The mother of the other, who is his ex wife...a valid source told me while they were married she was the breadwinner and he had a secret apartment in another state so him and his best friend can go to the bar n take them back to the apartment to screw them. So glad the trash took itself out and I didnt fall for that mess.

  • @asiablackgrl6482
    @asiablackgrl6482 5 років тому +327

    Omg I had to dismiss a feminine man this summer! He had the audacity to tell me that a man leading is an outdated social construct. And he was broke. I chucked up the deuces! Peace homie ✌🏿!

    • @angelzanetti-1947
      @angelzanetti-1947 4 роки тому +12

      Woman still exist ??! Yes!! The man must lead!! Too many bitchified men have fallen victim to feminist rhetoric unfortunately

    • @ishaw500
      @ishaw500 4 роки тому +4

      AsiaBlackGrl this made me cackle

    • @ForTheDivine_2000
      @ForTheDivine_2000 11 місяців тому +1

      Lmao 😂😂😂 run girl
      It's 2023 we're not dealing with betas

  • @l3arn1ng2l0v3m3
    @l3arn1ng2l0v3m3 5 років тому +341

    I literally just went on date with a guy with these same EXACT traits. I couldn't get his number out of my phone fast enough after the date.. 😂😂

  • @TikaRoxanne
    @TikaRoxanne 4 роки тому +103

    The part about them liking low maintenance women..wow that was me 😒 Never again I swear on my life!....if yall can hear how my ex talked he was a A1 dusty feminine man...he was all about 5050 and called me a dependent because I wanted a provider...he was extremely extremely selfish and wanted me to jump threw hoops for him meanwhile he did the bare minimum...he really thought providing drinks and weed was some type of token of love smh he would complain all day about how I didn't spend enough on him ugh I have never met a man with such a bitch mentality..

    • @kingalphaman9735
      @kingalphaman9735 3 роки тому +9

      At least you woke up and quit dealing with dudes like that! Some females never see the light of day

  • @danashaw8463
    @danashaw8463 5 років тому +37

    You are on point.Even some men who work do the same thing. I have experienced this. They will rash out the pipe they start pulling back when you get emotionally involved. When they see you detaching they will try to put it on you again. Recognize the game ladies!

  • @erikcolon3753
    @erikcolon3753 5 років тому +173

    A masculine man in 2019 needs to be owning his own home or working on it, working full time, working on himself physically (gym), mentally (reading), spiritually (church or other spiritual pursuits), and they need to unplug from materialistic and consumer society, as well as social media. However a man like this is not necessarily what certain women are looking for. Guys like this may not catch your eye. They're too busy building for themselves.

    • @jayhillz3705
      @jayhillz3705 4 роки тому +1

      Erik314 true

    • @willemsleveille314
      @willemsleveille314 3 роки тому

      EXACTLY..

    • @crystalianike
      @crystalianike 3 роки тому

      I hear you

    • @C9980-c2e
      @C9980-c2e 3 роки тому

      You know the real estate is no good for men trying to be young and successful ie.self-made other than trust fund and inheritance. Women like that will end up being a back scratcher for old geezers like trump who they like to diss on apperance due to scarcity and she will be eating the very words she throws in this video. Learn the system then you'll know the game. You will be giving the same guys you trash talk about age a pre-burial orgasm. Looking at your hot young flesh his need for viagra will cease.
      Lets take a scenario. She is well into her 40s and got a really old guy on his death bed and the kids barely finished highschool. She is just a single mother/widow with high inheritence (she had control over it too). Even with him if her libido rose she will passively admire the guys she was with in her prime or pre-selected. That old guy probably will know the meaning of "she's not yours it's just your turn" and live the happy harem with a smile on his face before being buried. Your not different to a woman who fell with a dusty but at a more convient angle that only benefits you even exclusively more than your nest. They also learn to grow up from parental behavioural traits. They too can rinse and repeat the cycle if the time, place and psychology later demands it.
      The only way you will get what you want is if you changed the dynamics of wealth and earnings as a whole and biology as a determining factor. You can't socially engineer something to fit your premise then contradict it with more passive agressive rationalisation than looking at it from connecting time dots onto time grids.
      She is not investing to build in the first place, she's gotta wait to be a back scratcher
      time is required for earnings, two heads are better than one. Also time means her clock is dcking and it mean he goes elsewhere for dicking

    • @PerlaKozmike33
      @PerlaKozmike33 2 роки тому

      True.

  • @CiaobellaAmour
    @CiaobellaAmour 5 років тому +41

    It’s like the minute I walk away from my device,here comes Chloe with the bomb upload dropping gems 💎

  • @MsKitty-hv5rx
    @MsKitty-hv5rx 4 роки тому +21

    My ex was a feminine man. I honestly thought he was gay! I couldn't understand his disdain for women. This was spot on about him. I had another ex that was jealous of my accomplishments during our relationship. Now I realize it was my low maintenance and masculinity that was attracting them. I've been tapping into my femininity more and things are starting to change for me. I came across this page at the right time.

  • @mnorwo2
    @mnorwo2 5 років тому +42

    Feminine Men LACK PURPOSE!!!! Good one Chloe_

  • @ladykhustle
    @ladykhustle 5 років тому +198

    I started to realize that he is a just good actor. He was projecting his insecurities onto me. I have plenty of business ideas and he always tried to encourage me. I was indecisive about which one to start (analysis-paralysis phase lol). Now that I'm married and asking what him what business he wants to do, all of the sudden he has none.....I think that narcissists see the potential in you and want to reap the benefits as well as your soul. Lack of ambition got my p**** dry real quick. Too young to be a suga mama. I'm going to plan my exit and bounce with my daughter.

    • @briana14333
      @briana14333 4 роки тому +4

      Good for you! Any update?

    • @Tifffffffffffffany
      @Tifffffffffffffany 3 роки тому +5

      yes girl what’s the update? We here for you.

    • @ladykhustle
      @ladykhustle 3 роки тому +44

      Well, a lot has changed since this comment. I had to figure out what made me attract this man. I learned how to be self-accountable for my own mess. I had to learn how to become more soft and feminine. I set the record straight with him and told him what i was excepting for our family. Now, i'm resting in my feminine energy, working on my online business while he is taking care of all the bills. When you are focused in your purpose and getting your own money, they know that you have no time for their games. Either, they catch up to your level or bounce! Self-love is the key ❤ Self-awareness is everything.

  • @chasitylarson218
    @chasitylarson218 4 роки тому +96

    Been there...dated a man who wanted to be my wife. He would cook, clean, pack my lunch and take of of the kids but would not work a job. When the kids grew up I put him out... he's been looking for a new female husband ever since.

  • @lefigleaf
    @lefigleaf 5 років тому +184

    You described the narcissistic behavior in a man. I met one at the age of 67 and I could not believe what I was witnessing and hearing from the mouth of this older men. He was always the victim. Always needed his ego stroked by women I called pigeons. Being close in age as we were I just assumed that he was mature enough to have a grown-up relationship with me but that was not the case. I was not the supplier he thought I would be and so his only resource was to try to crush my opinion of myself and try to make me doubt where there was no need for me to be doubting myself. It only took 8 months for this non friendship relationship to just dissolve into nothing. Sisters be aware these men prey on your strenghs but prefer the weak.

    • @lefigleaf
      @lefigleaf 5 років тому +2

      @@qayn7617 Either sex can display narcissistic behavior.

    • @p_tiffanii
      @p_tiffanii 4 роки тому +2

      @@qayn7617 Exactly!

  • @Angela.Empressive
    @Angela.Empressive 5 років тому +215

    I clicked so fast 💨 ❤️❤️❤️👌🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
    Yes, I’ve dated (married) a man who was (is) feminine. #7 really hit home for me. Lack of determination and being stuck is definitely the truth. Ladies, listen to Ms. Chloe and take heed. Run far away from the feminine man.

    • @AlisonRyce
      @AlisonRyce 5 років тому +4

      Girl, yes!!!! I did the same thing! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

    • @nitabe8653
      @nitabe8653 5 років тому +3

      Me too...

    • @KEESWAY
      @KEESWAY 5 років тому +2

      Same!!! 😳

    • @gh2543
      @gh2543 5 років тому +6

      @Honey Love Same here! Unfortunately, I've learned the hard way. Going through a divorce right now. You live and you learn!

    • @l3arn1ng2l0v3m3
      @l3arn1ng2l0v3m3 5 років тому +8

      My track shoes stay strapped!! 🏃🏾‍♀️💨

  • @thewholeyou
    @thewholeyou 5 років тому +88

    Love Chloe! Keep them coming they are helping me! ❤

    • @Moesie
      @Moesie 3 роки тому

      And they keep saying women know better what they want because theyre women adn i am men.
      At the end they keep rejecting femenine men

  • @interestinglyenough7601
    @interestinglyenough7601 5 років тому +35

    Don’t forget the ones who try to “outwoman” women. I.E. “I do this, that and the other too or better than her”. So basically, they are competing with their partner, instead of embracing and celebrating her complementary attributes. While at the same time having a certain disdain for women and feminine qualities/power they seem to so desperately want to possess themselves.

  • @jeffreysmith5175
    @jeffreysmith5175 4 роки тому +75

    Real men work. They will do whatever need to do to provide for the family. They don't gripe about their job even though they don't like it. Real men work around the house as well. Take care of everything. Make his wife a beauty queen. He will make her feel pretty. He will romance her. He will do whatever it takes to get it done.

    • @MrBrachiatingApe
      @MrBrachiatingApe 3 роки тому +4

      Are you describing a man or a beast of burden?

    • @Artist_of_Imagination
      @Artist_of_Imagination 3 роки тому +6

      Dude.... Men are human beings too.....

    • @sarthakgothwal909
      @sarthakgothwal909 3 роки тому +4

      Define a real woman?? The one who just sit back and relax.. Feminists should read the comments here, look like they don't read this side of woman.

    • @thewizard555
      @thewizard555 Рік тому

      Youre parasite , feminine doesnt mean CHILD

  • @MissssTai
    @MissssTai 3 роки тому +29

    ☹️my bf is a feminine man. It breaks my heart because I care about him so much. But I’m losing respect she attraction for him. He thinks he’s a victim. Sadly I’ve been taking on the masculine role and I’m grossed out. This is not the life I want.

  • @neishaj4453
    @neishaj4453 5 років тому +37

    I clicked so fast on this video. I went through a similar situation like this and it's not worth your peace and self esteem. Dealing with males like this is so draining. So glad I had the courage to leave.

    • @neishaj4453
      @neishaj4453 5 років тому +1

      @Trey Diggz Aww someone's triggered!🤣

  • @redroselace9545
    @redroselace9545 5 років тому +210

    Can you do video on spotting a REAL masculine man some guys ACT like one but which one is the real deal!

    • @666numberofthebeast
      @666numberofthebeast 5 років тому +25

      That's my wanna be boyfriend.
      He swears hes some alpha male but his ass still lives with mommy, cant cook or help around the house.
      He does work but money goes to his DUI fees and ALWAYS has excuses .
      I don't even get turned on by him anymore.
      He grosses me tf out

    • @kwameopoku3576
      @kwameopoku3576 5 років тому +3

      Look at the size of his nose

    • @missme9650
      @missme9650 5 років тому +6

      Redrose Abd it's impossible to "spot" them, you have to get to know him and watch how he moves.

    • @zil5296
      @zil5296 4 роки тому +1

      @@FarroWife you can't be a female! Unless maybe your of an older generation.

    • @FarroWife
      @FarroWife 4 роки тому +1

      @@zil5296 Yes I am a woman and I am from the older generation. The photo I have up was taken when I was 40 before I had my first child. That child is 10 now.

  • @terraca7963
    @terraca7963 5 років тому +45

    I dated a guy whose motto was, "If you can't offer assistance, keep your distance." This guy is almost fifty, a single parent of a 2 year old son and didn't have a job until recently. He has issues with his mother and would revisit childhood traumatic memories alot. That relationship was very exhausting...... I believe he was basically looking for a roommate/live in babysitter. I walked away.....

  • @melissam6037
    @melissam6037 5 років тому +39

    This channel is providing a real service to women! I gave up dating broke/unemployed guys in my early 20’s after a couple of deadbeat boyfriends,
    BUT sadly some men can trick you by being employed, so they hold out an illusion that they could provide
    Some of the things that resonated with me from this video are traits I’ve run into with successful, employed men:
    - Happy to see you working like a workhorse. Full time job, bringing home $$$, handling all the child care, keeping the house clean, getting dinner ready, bringing back them their beer on the couch, keeping your looks up, and being able to feel like a sexy playmate at the end of all that.
    - Complaining about how unfair being a man is, wanting to make sure women don’t get any unfair advantages. This is their way of trying to groom on you to expect nothing from them.
    - Diligent about fairness, 50/50, even Steven - this always means they want to put in LESS than 50/50, a.k.a. the bare minimum. I dated someone who after the first date tried to get me to drive their town, whining and complaining about how i should drive to him, and it wasn’t fair for him to have to drive. That ended pretty quick lol.
    -Acting like THEY are the prize. This is the big one. They have it backwards and get (some) women to fall for it. Think about it, there is a reason why the oldest profession is the oldest. It’s because vajayjay is the highest value commodity, and always has been for thousand of years.
    I used to wonder how guys like this could not feel some kind of remorse, I would feel bad about taking advantage of someone like that. I like to do nice things for people I care about, and I care if they are happy, be it friends family or a relationship, so I can’t fathom how some guys can be so ruthless.
    I don’t waste my time wondering anymore, I just stay FAR away from these guys and I can sleep like a baby lolz.

    • @ozstyl
      @ozstyl 5 років тому +6

      Men that think they are the prize are a major turn off.

  • @ChrisC808
    @ChrisC808 5 років тому +205

    Love your posts, I had to click straight away...👏🏾☕

    • @jassh2610
      @jassh2610 5 років тому +6

      The first video I clicked on my tv upon waking up lol

  • @zephyrs9222
    @zephyrs9222 5 років тому +199

    Every single thing you said was RIGHT! My kids father is the exact same way & he is narcissitic. I see it so clearly now that we're not together & I've been watching hypergamy vids. I kick myself for being so blind...but hey, know better, do better

    • @patriciaattah849
      @patriciaattah849 3 роки тому +5

      Same here my ex husband kept asking me to pay 40% of the bills I did was taking care of the house bills and food yet he kept complaining and still left was terrible narcissistic. Was Barbra the builder wife now he made a lot of money and left the marriage

  • @juneofspades2374
    @juneofspades2374 5 років тому +45

    I ENJOY BEING THE PROVIDER. AND MY WIFE IS MY HELP MATE WHEN I START TO SLOW DOWN IN PRODUCTION

  • @VisionOfThePhoenix
    @VisionOfThePhoenix 7 місяців тому +2

    Yep, my ex was jealous of me always resentfully saying how easy I have it. he couldn't notice all the sacrifices I made for him and our family. he quit his job and wanted to be a stay at home dad while I worked. the bills fell behind and was homeless. he blamed me. he was always the victim. had us in a van with bald brakes, he never got in it tho and had me run all the errands. asked his family and friends for money. he was very abusive finally and I ran away for my life with the children. he was very narc. I never allowed me to do any self care or get my hair and nails done. he complained any time I asked for anything even a flower. it was a nightmare. I'm glad it happened because that's how I learned self worth, value, boundaries, self respect. never again.

  • @yabe1496
    @yabe1496 5 років тому +27

    Worst even when you not only married a femenine man, but also get a femenine father in law, a TOTAL NIGHTMARE!

  • @ingood0867
    @ingood0867 5 років тому +38

    Yes, I've dated a feminine man. It took a while before his true colors came out. I'm saving this video for future reference.

  • @MissMaweja
    @MissMaweja 5 років тому +62

    I dated one nearly a decade ago, he lost my house keys and when I asked him to replace the lock he took his money bought a new phone and told me to solve it on my own. He also wanted to go on holiday on my dime (so I went alone), was jealous of broke men with rich girlfriends and joked about him becoming my sugar baby. Of course we broke up. Of course he got very emotional, petty and argumentative smdh, we didn't make it beyond a year.

    • @MissMaweja
      @MissMaweja 5 років тому +2

      @Sky Dream terrible huh?

    • @MissMaweja
      @MissMaweja 5 років тому +1

      @@MsCeCe-lt1zg lol well I was not the one he learned that the hard way.

    • @MissMaweja
      @MissMaweja 5 років тому +2

      @Shay Berry yeah come to think of it he had friends who had their phone bills etc paid by wm which already put me off...

    • @smiles9599
      @smiles9599 4 роки тому +2

      Eww my soul vomited out disgust

  • @beebeeguest
    @beebeeguest 4 роки тому +62

    I’ve been leveled up (mentally) for about 6 months now. I just discovered this video and breaks my heart, a person I was with for so long literally was all of these things. He really convinced me for years that me wanting more was wrong. If he never cheated I’d probably still be with his bum ass. These type of men described in this video are masters of manipulating weak women. I’m proud to say I’m 100% reformed. Never f*cking again!! 🙅🏽‍♀️

  • @Maytiez
    @Maytiez 4 роки тому +89

    Never understood the whole half and half bull people like to scream, Infact when I take my girl out it slyly irritates me when I go to pay and she insists on splitting the bill or paying for her self, I’m only 21 so I’m not rich (YET!) so sometimes I don’t mind but I aim to be the man who’s bank account is big enough for the both of us so that all her money is purely for her own leisure

    • @Maytiez
      @Maytiez 4 роки тому +13

      The only thing I don’t like is women who feel entitled and make financial demands from the jump when your only just getting to know them, of course have standards but don’t demand a £500 date, loubs and LV bags from me just because “men are supposed be providers” when I just met you 3 weeks ago😂😂😂

    • @deletetruth8771
      @deletetruth8771 3 роки тому +2

      Why doesn’t she find a better provider?

    • @sleepyhallows6572
      @sleepyhallows6572 3 роки тому +5

      SIMP

    • @asta_6832
      @asta_6832 2 роки тому +1

      Simp 😂, so u aim to work your ass off so your girl can enjoy the money that she didn’t do shit for. Call me dusty or whatever but that’s weak, get some self respect man.

    • @mimia.4810
      @mimia.4810 2 роки тому +5

      @@asta_6832 He's more of a man then you'll ever be. Men like him are respected for providing for their families. This isn't a new concept. Only in the modern age are men mocked for doing something so natural.

  • @Chamsiee
    @Chamsiee 4 роки тому +7

    Honestly, many people criticised UA-cam channels about feminity, but they changed my life. I never understood the notion of feminine and masculine energies. It helps me so much to understand my issues and my incapacity to receive. I am working on myself since 2018 and deconstructing what I saw in my family and what I thought was ordinary to me. Today I understand that my stepfather is very feminine even if he looks masculine. As a result, my mom developed her masculine energy through time, whereas initially, she is very feminine. I don't want that for myself I want a provider, and I'm so thankful that I understand English and have access your channel and others that are educating me to make better choices in my relationships.

  • @NickiTedesco
    @NickiTedesco 5 років тому +77

    I’m so glad you included “many men” because Italian mammones (mommas Boys) ARE feminine and it’s EXACTLY because they were coddled and so they act just like this... Chloe, THANK YOU for your videos!!

  • @tokinaharris
    @tokinaharris 5 років тому +32

    My morning treat! Love your videos!

  • @deborahg427
    @deborahg427 4 роки тому +104

    AMAZING! My ex made 5 times the amount of money that I did when we were together. He tried getting as much money out of me as possible when we lived together. I took care of all the domestic responsibilities and worked full time! He was a masculine man in every way but wanted a 50/50 financial split. I regret the 4 years that I wasted with him. Disgusting

    • @deborahg427
      @deborahg427 3 роки тому +4

      @C I do have degrees and was not poor. LOL

    • @patriciaattah849
      @patriciaattah849 3 роки тому +8

      Exactly my case my ex made three times as much as me but wanted me to pay a lot of the bills and do all the housework too I spent five years with him what a terrible waste

    • @deborahg427
      @deborahg427 3 роки тому +6

      @@marquezmercado1480 try applying some mathematics if that’s not too difficult for you. 5 times more equals???? I was working as much as he was but his salary was 5 times higher. Are you just pretending to be dumb?

    • @prosperasortuda
      @prosperasortuda Рік тому

      He was looking for a good deal and was a predator.

    • @sarahjaynescott545
      @sarahjaynescott545 10 місяців тому +1

      sorry, I don't understand why you were living and splitting bills with a male

  • @jassh2610
    @jassh2610 5 років тому +74

    I unfortunately recently had a child with a feminine male. I for sure ignored all the signs. I can honestly say I was in a needy place and today I am taking care of my son alone because of my haste to feel "love". My son is not the unfortunate part BTW.

    • @kwameopoku3576
      @kwameopoku3576 5 років тому

      Jass H loool if u say so maaam

    • @norelle8705ify
      @norelle8705ify 5 років тому +10

      kwame opoku such a coward. Are you that feminine mouse?

    • @AC-fs8ec
      @AC-fs8ec 4 роки тому +13

      Please don't raise your son to be a feminine man. Make him work for everything. A lot of these feminine men are products of single mothers

    • @mimose5747
      @mimose5747 4 роки тому +1

      Be proud of yourself for getting out when you did...I put myself in the same boat and am now working my way out after 8 (!!!) years 😩.

    • @kingalphaman9735
      @kingalphaman9735 3 роки тому +1

      At least you can admit your failures instead of making excuses for it like so many single mothers do!

  • @suelamalasi8654
    @suelamalasi8654 5 років тому +24

    Chloe you are precious in this stage of my life. I cut off even the friends with those traits. They shut you down, shrink you and are a total waste of time. Especially when you're a visionary woman, they smell what they lack ;) especially when you are very empathic :) is in our DNA as mothers. Cut off and save you're life! Once again thank you

  • @KK-bq3ns
    @KK-bq3ns 5 років тому +20

    Damn you just described my Narcissist ex husband. Absolutely unbelievable! I couldn't have said this better after being married to this individual for 10 years!! 🐐🐐🐐🐐🐐

  • @Kiki-jx6by
    @Kiki-jx6by 5 років тому +193

    This is down right pathetic. So so sad we have to be schooled on how men ought to be these days. It’s a shame I have to share these types of videos with other men and women who I care about. Thanks Chloe. Keep rising

    • @XxSupernatural21xX
      @XxSupernatural21xX 5 років тому +18

      Cook, clean, take care of a family, stay a virgin until marriage and I promise you'll find a masculine man

    • @all4salam
      @all4salam 5 років тому +1

      Ardissia Thompsom how do you know that???

    • @MyronsBaldspotLovesKevSamuels
      @MyronsBaldspotLovesKevSamuels 5 років тому

      Str8upBAMABOI 😅because his verbiage exposed him. Are you not paying attention?

    • @all4salam
      @all4salam 5 років тому +1

      Tyson's Speech Impediment Critical thinking is critical darling. What about his statement implies how he looks, his financial status, or whether or not his father left his family??

    • @shaytaylormade5244
      @shaytaylormade5244 4 роки тому

      Ardissia redditProudlightskinblack hell yeah thats why the hurt hit dogs are barking now. You already know

  • @itsallgood2206
    @itsallgood2206 5 років тому +59

    I'm kinda sad. So since watching your videos I've been paying attention to the feminine tendencies in men I meet.
    All of them, I mean ALL OF THEM are feminine. I'm beginning to think most black men are. I pick their brains regarding 50/50, what they feel a mans role is and it's always the same. They say, women should contribute, what does she bring to the table or its 2019 things have changed. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I know firsthand that what you're saying is true. I took care of my ex husband and he resented me for it and acted out like a child. I guess I'm sad because I feel like most men I meet or date I need to walk away from. I'm afraid theres really no other options in our community.

    • @kgoddess2017
      @kgoddess2017 5 років тому +19

      Jays Life I never really thought about dating outside my race until I ran into her videos & a couple other UA-camrs like her. I think it’s a lost cause for black men. Most of them think like what you described & it’s sad.

    • @itsallgood2206
      @itsallgood2206 5 років тому +5

      @@kgoddess2017 I understand. I scroll right past other races on dating apps. I really dont wanna give up on them. I'm just not attracted to other men. Sigh

    • @MsCeCe-lt1zg
      @MsCeCe-lt1zg 5 років тому +2

      Your exactly right!!!!

    • @Richjunior1
      @Richjunior1 5 років тому +6

      Glad to here women choking on their own medicine! This is beyond poetic justice!

    • @MyronsBaldspotLovesKevSamuels
      @MyronsBaldspotLovesKevSamuels 5 років тому +14

      MP you are one of the evil, feminine, emasculated whiny bitches mentioned in this video. Go figure!😂

  • @LG-bx3wl
    @LG-bx3wl 5 років тому +14

    Wow! This was in my suggested videos. You’ve got a new subscriber. Thank you for putting a spotlight on this and educating women. I couldn’t figure out what was up with a lot of men I’ve been meeting. Looking for me to pursue and even chase them.

  • @naturalbodyandskincare9965
    @naturalbodyandskincare9965 5 років тому +16

    I notice a femme/soyboy man as soon as he complains about paying for the dinner bill

  • @Kissmycrown
    @Kissmycrown 5 років тому +75

    I call these men sassy 💁🏾‍♀️

  • @35cheeky
    @35cheeky 5 років тому +46

    Chloe, I was married to a feminine man about 15 years ago. Just recently he had the nerve to call me and say he needed gas money and food. I told him he should go to the nearest plasma center and sell his blood. It's a shame 15 years later he is still looking for a handout. Ladies please listen to Chole, she knows what she is talking about.

    • @Madajai88
      @Madajai88 5 років тому +3

      😂🤣😅

    • @janaystewart184
      @janaystewart184 5 років тому +3

      Lol

    • @rubymcpartland5774
      @rubymcpartland5774 3 роки тому +4

      I do not Like how whenever she talks about a feminine man there is a picture of a man crying, it basically replicates the act of a weak women which is the exact ideology that us strong women are trying to get away from. Why is it different for men. We are not weak because we cry or show emotions, neither are men, so this is bullshit! Personalities differ without thinking of gender, some of us are strong willed others are not, it’s the same no matter what sex u are, everyone is different. Instead why not judge a person on how much they love you and care for you, instead of how manly or feminine they are. If they love you unconditionally that’s all that matters, if you don’t feel the same, talk it through, if it doesn’t work. end it! Don’t blame it on sexuality traits likes girly or manly, treat people how you want to be treated, and with love and compassion. If it’s not working, finish it and be glad it ended without judgement and end it with kindness, you wouldn’t want to be broken up with because you were too needy, judgy too girly too argumentative to bitchy. Men are in the same boat and I’m a woman saying this. So don’t judge too quick

  • @moyndebs6759
    @moyndebs6759 3 роки тому +12

    As a Black guy I agree 👍. I myself am trying to improve. Enjoy your Christmas /New Year

  • @EbonyEyes00
    @EbonyEyes00 5 років тому +62

    I watched my mom do 50/50 , role reversals my entire life. I mean cut grass, take the trash out, pay more than half the bills etc all while living with a man.Naturally I wowed to be that way.

    • @shanicesm6208
      @shanicesm6208 4 роки тому +2

      😱 😩

    • @God.sDaughter
      @God.sDaughter 4 роки тому +6

      A relationship is a partnership.
      A man has his duties to undertake and a woman has hers. Financial aspect of a relationship shouldn’t be all placed on a man.

    • @lordbeaky3496
      @lordbeaky3496 2 роки тому +1

      I remember my mom cutting the grass cause my dad didn’t felt like it calling her horrible names and so on

  • @mellyjelly3331
    @mellyjelly3331 5 років тому +95

    All facts! I know toooo many feminine men. Very much a turn off! They really feel they are the prize.

    • @raybuscus8257
      @raybuscus8257 4 роки тому +8

      A guy once told me that Men ARE the prize, Men age like fine wine whereas Women age like milk, you start to lose your physical beauty as you get older and your biological clock starts ticking and all of a sudden you can't find a man to settle down with you because all the Males, who have steady jobs, have built a career for themselves, have worked on their body are off dating Women in their 20s and sometimes early 30s, suddenly you need them far more then they need you and if you haven't done anything for yourself career wise then you might be in for a bit of trouble, just saying.

    • @mellyjelly3331
      @mellyjelly3331 4 роки тому +6

      Raybuscus every older woman I know has men still at their feet. Listen, as long as you have a vagina you will get men come after u and want to provide for u. My mother is 60. She’s on her third marriage with a provider, she doesn’t work, she’s spoiled as heck lol... women do not decrease in value as we age, whether your old young, fat or skinny, dark or light. We good! Trust me you’ll see.

    • @igotnext930
      @igotnext930 4 роки тому +1

      Taurus Dime your mom dates men who don’t have options. Most women in there 30s-40s with children by other men have a hard time finding love from a guy with his shit together in the year 2020. Dudes are starting to build themselves and work on there career if a woman can’t bring her ideas, drive and ambitions to match his wealth then why would a wealthy man with options waste all his money on 1 woman who wants to be taken care of cause she’s pretty and can cook 🤣 wake up its 2020 not 1920

    • @igotnext930
      @igotnext930 4 роки тому +1

      Taurus Dime if a woman doesn’t have her own career her own money her own ambitions and jus seeks in hopes a man will swoop her off her feet one day and pamper her forever 🤣🤣 good luck to you.

    • @missandry2669
      @missandry2669 Рік тому +5

      @@raybuscus8257 Men aren’t the prize stop thee damn lies. Men chase women women don’t chase men stop it!!

  • @juniorcardenas98
    @juniorcardenas98 5 років тому +9

    As an ex-gay is good to hear this. I am really trying to build the masculinity I was born to have.

  • @debmckoy
    @debmckoy 5 років тому +32

    How do single mothers avoid raising feminine men?

    • @HeavenlyAmil
      @HeavenlyAmil 5 років тому +52

      debmckoy make your son work for EVERYTHING ! Give him nothing ! Don’t make anything easy on him , let him do things & get things on his own . Don’t spoil him . Teach him that a woman is the prize . Don’t give him money for dates if he wants to date a girl he needs a job ! Don’t rob him of being a man before he can even know what it truly means . Have him open doors for you and other women ! It’s plenty that you can do !

    • @Mrs.Fineapple
      @Mrs.Fineapple 5 років тому +42

      Chloe needs to do a video on this because here lies the actual problem. Too many single mothers are raising their sons like entitled bitches. They forces their young daughters to cock and clean up after them and treat them like babies. I’ve witnessed this in countless homes. These little boys grow up to be feminine men. All they do is leech off of women and expect everything to be handed to them in life. It’s a cycle that needs to end now.

    • @bleepbleep7638
      @bleepbleep7638 5 років тому +3

      Fineapple Felicity PREACH! You’re definitely not lying about that one!

    • @Mrs.Fineapple
      @Mrs.Fineapple 5 років тому +10

      @ Toast: Thank you for sharing that. It takes guts to speak candidly about the toxicity within your own family. I hate to put the blame on single moms but we must partially hold them accountable for the upbringing and uprise of feminine men within the past three decades. We must put an end to settling and procreating with feminine lowlifes. It’s unnatural and not what was intended for us. I’m so grateful that Chloe created this space for us to have such dialogue and break the cycle.

    • @jahrules8674
      @jahrules8674 5 років тому +18

      By not becoming single moms 😀

  • @be.nca.1079
    @be.nca.1079 4 роки тому +28

    This video has saved my life.
    My ex did all the above: 50/50, competing with me over my achievements, felt entitled, was an embarrassing taker but always reminded me about what he gave me etc etc. I knew something was wrong but couldn't put it into words. Thank you Chloe and & all the women in the comments. Dusties suck!!

  • @haziqkamaruddin1631
    @haziqkamaruddin1631 8 місяців тому +2

    To all guys here, let’s strive to be masculine men ! it’s not too late to make a change

  • @shygirlcomplex
    @shygirlcomplex 5 років тому +82

    When ever I meet a man that says “what are you bring to the table “ or they say I’m the prize and y’all said y’all wanted equality ... I just laugh and the conversation stops right there ... these men want you to date them ... and sweep them off their feet 😂😂 bring them flowers and tell them they’re pretty .... no thank you ☝🏾

    • @chinaking918
      @chinaking918 4 роки тому +6

      shygirlcomplex sis I died laughing at the “ bring them flowers and tell them they’re pretty” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @loveinautumn3978
      @loveinautumn3978 4 роки тому +2

      Lol@ tell them they're pretty🤣

    • @raybuscus8257
      @raybuscus8257 4 роки тому +7

      Oh so I assume that you don't want them to sweep you off your feet, bring you flowers or tell you you're pretty? Seems fair to me, means I get to save my strength, money and breath for more important things :)

  • @mercyivudria
    @mercyivudria 4 роки тому +11

    I’m a teen but this channel has opened my eyes

  • @cherylmia
    @cherylmia 4 роки тому +73

    I remeber my mom saying, "I have been asking your father for the last 20 years of our marriage what is the vision for our family? And he has nothing!" I knew that this would be one of the signs you would use because lack of vision is such a big indicator! The problem is my dad knew how to talk big, (Mercury in Leo) but there was no action and my mom bought into that when they were dating. Now 23 years into it and he has been going from job to job that doesn't pay enough, and all they do is fight... My parents turn 50 this year and there are no goals, visions or accomplishments! Only fights and arguments! Its really sad to say the least...

    • @warriorhippie
      @warriorhippie 4 роки тому +18

      Cheryl D my parents have a similar dynamic. My mother was always the bread winner and the sad part is that she prided herself in being that. She always bragged about she has the “upper hand” so she didn’t care what my dad did (lie, cheat, don’t provide or protect etc). Consequently she has always been physically overworked and always lacked basic femininity (especially in appearances and attitude). Like yours, my parents now argues non stop because now my mother don’t work as much and my father is forced to pull his weight. My mother now realizes how much she enabled him over the years.

    • @shawnakayeglester
      @shawnakayeglester 4 роки тому +6

      This is so sad. Thanks for sharing. I understand her pain.

    • @briana14333
      @briana14333 4 роки тому +9

      Same here, sis. My father is such a pathetic excuse for a human. My new motto to keep my sanity is "not my monkeys, not my circus."

    • @thelasthourgetready
      @thelasthourgetready 3 роки тому +3

      Go easy on your Dad its not easy out there for men to lead and make alot of money. If making lots of money was easy then we would all be rich. Being a provider is a very tough role. Most of the women saying the man should have alot of money are struggling themselves

    • @isabella6075
      @isabella6075 Рік тому +4

      @@thelasthourgetready Bla bla if you don’t have money as a man don’t have a family simple

  • @shirlsshirls8594
    @shirlsshirls8594 5 років тому +8

    Clicks “like” then hits “play.” I already know this is going to be informative and real. I despise feminine men.

  • @ayanayasmine5934
    @ayanayasmine5934 3 роки тому +8

    wow i just fully realized that I was in a relationship with a non-working, non-driven, playing the victim, feminine man.... Im so glad I got out of that relationship. I tried to push him to be the King in his legacy, he said he was okay being number 2...

  • @solinvictus77
    @solinvictus77 3 роки тому +12

    Me after every relationship : broke and sad.
    Me single : happy and successful.
    Lesson no1 : NEVER GET MARRIED

    • @kingalphaman9735
      @kingalphaman9735 3 роки тому +1

      I'm in the same boat where I get to KEEP ALL of my MONEY because I don't have a woman or kids to worry about!
      The best position any man can find himself in is a situation of complete FREEDOM!

  • @traceywalker6304
    @traceywalker6304 4 роки тому +27

    Chloe u are a godsend for me!! Im in a 24 yr relationship with a narcissistic feminine man. I could write a best selling novel on all the bad he has done in our relationship. I thought if I was showing love and caring he would change. WRONG!!! YOUR videos are helping me to move forward with my life ALONE and gain my femininity. Words can't express my gratitude.

  • @BL-N3xus
    @BL-N3xus 3 роки тому +12

    True story... I broke up with my ex because I told her I don't believe in 50/50 relationship and I'd be happy to provide for both of us once we get married.

  • @Monrentho2008
    @Monrentho2008 5 років тому +22

    Dating one right now, and everything mentioned in the video is so accurate! It is time I start the removal process! 😂

  • @vanessa.tercero
    @vanessa.tercero 2 роки тому +2

    I love you Chloe… the only female that subscribes to you is one that’s ready to grow. I’m 25 and I’m taking notes, I’m glad I’m not in ruins to have gotten here, I have my experiences with men but thanks to you, I’m learning and taking notes for my future daughters. ❤️ thank you

  • @sexyladyakb
    @sexyladyakb 5 років тому +16

    Minus the gossip you just made me realize I’ve been dating a feminine man for the past two years ... we are separated but yeah

  • @igor9360
    @igor9360 3 роки тому +15

    There are channels out there that teach women how to be even more hypergamous? It's over.

    • @OwleLeg
      @OwleLeg 3 роки тому +4

      It never began

  • @asmahassan909
    @asmahassan909 5 років тому +4

    I know too well this man. So happy to have found your channel, right in time. I was in the beginning of the end in my marriage with my feminine man that I've gave 6 years of my life. Your videos helped me have the courage and to mostly trust my femininity to take actions and divorce. Thank you again @Chloe_ 🙏🏾

  • @dangerzzzone2925
    @dangerzzzone2925 4 роки тому +10

    I had a high value man. Too bad I was so damn broken and dumb. I am not ready for a relationship right now but this guy raised the bar after my ex AFTER one date I had forgotten my ex. I felt like such a woman in his presence. That beautiful dance of yin and yang. So enticing, it really just flows. He was such a healthy masculine I had no idea what to do with it. Ladies don't settle! I almost did with my ex till I met this guy and learned what it felt like to just be turned on by a masculine presence and seduced. Forget the fact he was 6'2, rich, and a cutie lmao. Energy does not lie!

  • @glowinthedarkministry
    @glowinthedarkministry 7 місяців тому +2

    Awesome video! You hit the nail on the head!!! Thank you for breaking it down.😊