But what if everything was ok she said things that clearly meant age actually liked you AT LEAST as a friend and said things like "yo i really think we have a lot in common" but then *suddenly* she just wont text me back even tho we were having a conversation today What happened? She couldnt get mad at anything cuz we re only friends
@@pyrefly7575 Girls are fickle like that bruh.. I had countless same situations. She would invite me somewhere, then give me excuse and never reply again. Or what I thought was a great conversation and interest, turned into ghosting the next second.. Just move on mate, if she cared enough she would never be too busy to reply to you.
I agree. Move on and don't catch feelings. Even if you have to see her at a particular place just ignore her. Don't ignore her in hopes that she will chase you. Just do it to bring closure. She will eventually know you're no longer interested. It does not make a man weak when he realizes it's not worth his time.
Move the fuck on. You do not want to be platonic friends with every women you meet. She gets all of the attention, affection and emotional benefits while you get nothing in return. I have platonic female friends that I've known since high school and that is because we have a lot of the same friends. Your end game is to get laid. Not be a sucker or slave to her. @@pyrefly7575
The thing is, women can change their minds in half a second, for any number of reasons (a friend of theirs says something to them, their mood changes, what seemed fun a few hours earlier suddenly isnt anymore...etc etc......) guys, you're dealing with flaky fickle females...get used to it :)
Tried twice, no reply. One of them was a congratulatory text. Never texted her again. It’s was clear her interest on me was nonexistent. Told myself “ bye Felicia!!!!” and moved on. No grudges.
9:04 is actually such a major point. I gotta work on nailing that first interaction and let her know why you're both exchanging contact details (to meet up later and hang out). Great video
I liked what he said about rapport, if I find someone with common interests and I draw her out and she comments on how great the conversation is, they always remember me, smile when they see me, approach me, etc. So what he said about that is really good advice. It's not a guarantee, it simply increases the good feelings on her part and increases the likelihood she will reply, it's all based on how she feels, the better she feels about you the more likely it is she will feel motivated to reply.
Texting is to invite a girl out that you have just met. If she doesn’t respond don’t message her it’s just that simple. Communication is sexy. How many people like talking to a wall?
When it comes to text game Todd Valentine has a system for turning numbers into dates Messages are categorised in 4 different ways 1- silence 2 - shit test 3 - platonic / friend to friend 4 - positive Don't make plans if she doesn't respond to you or gives something negative. Start making plans if she's eager to respond. However, it's a smart move to first ask about schedule before meeting with a girl.
Ima save each guy here a whole lot of trouble. Go to a country outside the U.S. with favorable echange rates, visit a brothel, get it out your system, focus on career development. Remember that a hooker is more honest about wanting your money and never forget that.
un fecking believable! this girl hasnt returned my txts in over a week! so i just let her stew for a bit. after a little thought, decided to send her the dog meme, OMG she replied in 20secs with "oh how adorable" how are you?!!! :-)
I think you're right about this, I guess with most guys too. Women weren't flakey like this 20 years ago before they shopped for men on the internet dating sites
i use to text "guess what?!" to all my contacts and never reply. i got about 2-3 texts back from each and they they would ask in person the next time i saw them. lol
The majority of cases is that she’s not interested. I usually end up friendzoning guys because I’m too nice to cut them of and because guys often react badly if I tell them the truth. It actually seems like they prefer the friendzone instead of getting the confirmation that there’s really no chance...I personally take quite some time to reply, but if I’m interested you will get a message in a 24h timeframe. So guys, do yourselves a favour and just move on. It’s her loss.
So basically after all the theorising...she just doesn't fancy you! There are 3 reasons she doesn't text/message back..1. She is dead. 2.She's in prison. 3. She doesn't fancy you!.. Guys,message 3 times,if she doesn't reply move on!
Yeah pretty much. If she likes you she responds; If she doesn't respond, she doesn't like you. We already knew that. But we need a more precise answer than that. We need to know WHY. We need to know what processes are happening to make it play out this way. Men need to know how to interpret the mixed signals. How can a girl who liked you enough to offer her number at 12:00 AM this morning not like you at 12:00 noon today. I like the video because it does attempt to tell us WHY. He tries to tell us what going on that we can't see. The useful part off the video is about how to build rapport from such a short interaction, that's what we need to know. You meet a girl for a few minutes and get her number and start texting. It is not possible to have honest rapport that soon. That's no fault of yours or hers; neither of you know enough to care. What is needed is knowledge of how to build that bridge as quickly as possible.
@@darriuscole8544 all you have said is valid if you were deali ng with a girl/woman who was polite and grown up enough to reply in the first place. If guys and girls stopped being so childish and had the common courtesy of replying to a message, be honest and up front the question wouldn't arise. The original question is valid but the answer is over Analysed, way too deep. Again.... She ain't interested!!! I have asked many a female this question over the years... Its what they say 'because i' m not interested '.. "I have changed my mind"... The end!
@@darriuscole8544 Ive had that experience a lot.....from one day to the next they can lose interest..it's like a friend of theirs says something in passing, or they wake up and their mind has altered....so so friggin fickle :) expect nothing is my advice
Met a girl I knew from Elementary School in college, we were flirting back and forth , she was being really sweet and giggling blushing and being super flirty, I didn’t even ask her for her number she gave it to me. Both sober. Texted her 2 days later, Nothing. Texted her again, waited 12 days, tried again in the evening aroun 8:30 Nothing. Texted her one last time a week after the 12 days just saying they were giving free massages at the college today for students and that the girls there were awesome and I felt great and that she should check it out. Then maybe 20 minutes later a fun gif of a dog massaging aggressively another dog . No response yet but pretty sure I’ll get nothing, should I call and then give up or just give up now. We’re going on a pretty cool field trip with free pizza and beer and we get to see a bunch of cool metals Melting and freezing , it’s gonna be awesome. Wanted to bring her, looking for another girl to bring because it’s just such a cool date thing to pass up and it’s free! So amped for it. What do you guys think Should I call?
You were supposed to call her not text her. A real man calls to see what's going on not to guess and look all confused and stupid. And she probably gave the wrong number but you took to long to make up your mind.
Garra mon No I don’t anybody whose going to flip on a dime like that isn’t somebody I want to ask out. Actually going to an opera house to see a magician now with a different girl in a couple weeks. Should be fun.
What works really well for me is to wait like a day or two and then send her a whole paragraph. Well written and funny, second degree humor, to say that she abandoned me or something like that. Without too much emojis or stuff like that, just a sober little piece of a novel that will make her laugh or react. If she's not totally uninterested she usually replies and the conversation can start again. Try it folks, it requires a bit of imagination but I swear it's fun to do.
I went on a date with my best friend we have been friends since grade school and I finally got my chance but now she doesn't even talk to me I don't know what I did
It probably got weird for her because yall were friends for so long, if you wanna still pursue her as a partner you should stop being her best friend for awhile and treat her like you wanna bang the hell out of her, flirt , touch more often
OR I could just be an adult and not be upset that my girlfriend doesn't like to be disturbed during the day. We run 2 companies together we have better things to do than worry about personal messages during work hours.
@@SchoolOfAttraction huh, my first instinct is to talk shit or make a joke but since ur the channel owner it seems rude. I do question this comment tho.
BrianStyleDeath They see each other frequently so why does it matter. You clearly don’t understand what he’s saying. Your initial comment was more rude than his response. If you can’t take the heat don’t go to hell 🤷🏽♂️you receive the energy you put out
Hi Damien. One thing I wanted to mention that got missed in your video (I've been listening to the podcast) is that on occasions, some women will provide a phone number (either their real one or a fake one) and then never reply, in order to avoid a face to face conflict with a man they do not have an interest in. Some women want to avoid a face to face conflict because there is a subtle ingrained fear of being physically harmed if they "reject" the man asking for their number. Assaults on women after rejections are highly publicised, and this spreading of "news" can create a disproportionate level of fear within a woman. Couple these stories with the long held societal notion of women being physically overpowered by men in terms of domestic violence and sexual assault and you have a number of women feeling like their safety could be threatened if they were to upset the man by declining his request. I want to reinforce that this feeling within women is disproportionate to the actual assaults committed on women by men experiencing rejection. It is just something that sits in the back of your mind as a woman; that you should "risk mitigate" the circumstance, in order to best self preserve. I'm not saying that thinking this way is right, and I understand it could definitely be seen as a disrespect towards men in terms of supporting the toxic notion that men are incapable of controlling their emotions (ie: rejection) and are only capable of acting out their emotions in a violent way. I think it's important to look at it from both perspectives in terms of a human's hierachy of needs. Safety sits at the base level of the pyramid, whereas emotional support and fulfillment sits much higher up the list. I'd like to think that most men could understand that due to long-running and ingrained societal conditioning, she COULD have felt that giving you her number was the safest option in her mind at the time. That's not to say YOU did anything to make her feel unsafe or threatened. You could have been as nice as pie but if she wasn't interested, she resolved the "issue" of that conflict in a way in which she thought was the safest for her. Even if it meant feigning interest and handing over her number. I just wanted to chuck that in there because I think it's a really crucial occurrence that gets overlooked. It's an ingrained belief or learning that still gets taught to this day as a form of toxic masculinity perpetuated by women more than men during parenting. Onc we as a society stop telling men not to cry, not to show their emotions and to "man up", we may teach them how to better process and deal with their emotions, instead of telling women we must cater to a their aggression and not provoke them, like men are incapable of having reasonable and rational thought, and can only express themselves by being violent.
Absolutely! I avoided covering this mostly because every time I do, I get something of an uproar from men who feel triggered by sentiments like this - but I definitely agree - thank you for sharing.
First number I got, I took what I learnt from swinger's: "don't text her immediately, it looks desperate". Didn't text her for ten days... ...Don't do what I did! 👌
Do you have on opinion on whether it is better to ask them for their number or just give them my number? I have the impression that giving them my number gives them more space and removes all the pressure from their side. They can freely decide whether they want to text me or not. In the latter case I'll never actually have their number. But if they decide to text, it means that they are really interested. I just did not factor forgetting in, but is that a real concern? If we clicked, there would be no forgetting. So would you think that this makes it easier or us rather unusual and does not work in most cases?
Hey Martin, I can see your rational on this, but in reality most women don't want to have to make the first move, they want the guy to make the first move - So you'll miss out on a lot of opportunities that way.
@@SchoolOfAttraction Yeah, they even did not write when I thought we had clicked. Now I might see a woman again at a recurring event and I'd like to follow up and ask for their number, but them not texting could already be a signal of no interest. So take it lighthearted with a "I noticed you did not text, shall I make it easier for you and you give me your number?" perhaps?
I'd word it slightly differently - "Aww its' so cute, you're too shy to send the first message - Here, send me you're number and I'll be the brave one to text first :P"
Hi man, like your channel and your vibe, got a question. When it comes to a girl genuinely forgetting to text you back, or randomness getting in the way. What should you so then if she has seen/read your text?. Do you text again? Or wait for her response?. I'm very insecure about being forgotten/left behind/replaced, it's very hard for me to think that if a girl likes me, she will eventually reach out.
So you need to think of course - Would a girl genuinely forget to reply to a guy she REALLY liked? The answer is usually No. But maybe she liked yoiu, like 7/10 with potential for more, but that's not enough to make her remember to message back. This will happen a LOT of if you do lots of dating. It's common place - So that's why you re-engage, make it fun and light hearted and work on building more rapport.
@@SchoolOfAttraction hey man thanks for the reply. I'm sure you get alot of these, but I thought you may like some context. I hooked up with a girl on Tinder. The initial date was amazing, because we knew beforehand we were meeting to hook up and that we were both seeing other people. The sex was great too and she alluded to 'next time' that night and also when I texted her the next day. A week later I see her with another guy at the nightclub I work at, which is fine as we aren't exclusive. The next morning I ask if she wants to hook up the next weekend. She says 'maybe, that would be nice' when I ask her availability, she doesn't respond. Three weeks later, I re engage, I make it fun, saying there's this fantasy I want to try out, this gets a response, we have great flirty banter, and agree to meet up when her coursework is done. Two weeks later, i see her in town, we have a nice talk, I make my leave, I text saying. Nice to see you, she replies saying you too! But now, the last two times I've texted her it's been ignored. So I don't know what to do dude.
@@SchoolOfAttraction true. I did actually re engage her the other day, I made it sexual, calling back to our last meet, I was sure to add a question on the end... or bait. This time she responded, so i guess last time was reason 1. A good quality she has is that she replies in the same minute she 'sees' the message on whatsapp. But she said she is busy atm. So I said I'd reach out again in two weeks. She said that sounds good. I think we're ok, I hope.
Guys just go ahead and delete these fake stuck ups immediately these helfers know exactly what there doing. Most of them are broke and looking a handout anyway so your only dodging unwanted stress
So how to get a girl to reply... Ive been dating alot for awhile now and do pretty damn well for myself. i tend to write when i get really stressed. I have about 10-15 different good poems and will occasionally write something special if i really like the person, or even if feel like i fucked up somehow ill write about how i fucked up. I will nicely tell them ive started writing not long ago (and i wanted to share this one with you. I hope you like it. Will kinda throw in the i hope this isnt too much or think im crazy, but i genuinely enjoyed meeting you last night. If they dont respond which most do ill say, i know this is spontaneous but would you like to grab a drink with me tonight or maybe grab some coffee somtime?
I never text a woman. I give her my card and tell her to text me. Then I split. Then if she’s interested, she will call and then it’s game in. Why waste you time. Women should be chasing and bonding anyway. Kinda girlie to be texting and chasing.
This is a very low results strategy man... I understand why you want to do things this way - but it has a terrible conversion rate compared to a man taking action.
so its 5 reasons you have listed, when in fact you just meant 2 xD -forgets to reply (happen to us all) -she doesnt like you enough (the other 3 reasons are just variations of "she doesnt like you enough"...so can we stay with the truth :P)
This bs stop making excuses for these girls grow a pair respect yourself everyone is on their phones all day! If she don't reply eh I'm turned off it's her loss
I Receive messages all the time on my phone I don't want to respond to right then and there - Since I run a company I have a reminder system set up for myself to get back to them so I can remain professional - But most people don't have such a system - so.. Since I do it all the time - why wouldn't women?
Fellas if a girl like u she would always respond faster then you think! If she don't like u yet you give her a chance show her what great dude u r bla bla. If that don't work over time move on. Woman knows asap if she wanna f u or not usually...
I woulnt answer then back right away make yourself look more busy instead of texting her goodnight stop texting around 8 pm 9 MIA then when u wake up u will have a text about w e ya talked about u pick up next day then she feels like ya been talking more days therefore she is more comfortable. Yet you do less work. Guys don't get discouraged these girls talk to 10 guys plus at once inbox overflowing
Damien-I love your material and admire how secure you are in yourself without having to be macho. I just had ONE question. This girl I met at a coffee shop , I began texting her and she has not seemed very responsive, although she was at first. but when I told her that if she was no longer interested to meet up just to let me know and I would be fine either way. She said to me, "I have to tell you I am seeing someone, but I would still be interested to meet you for coffee sometime", how should i respond and what do I do?
I did not reply to someone. Coz he send me with just heart eyes emoji. And I don't know how to respond with that text. But first comes to mind was he's not that interested to talk to me. So I just let it go.
no date in almost 2 yrs. stalkin n hangup calls almost 2 yrs.she needs a head check im 63 shes 60 lost her husband in nov.2017/weird,police blow me off,hm.
Wouldn't this provoke the idea to start testing women (or call her bluff)/play hard-to-get before getting their number, since the number doesn't guarantee anything?
You completely left out the part for repor. You gotta give some repor techniques and advice so that we actually have something to say that's worthwhile. While learning my text game, I can get almost every dead convo back started, but building the repour back up is the challenge. The problem hasn't changed.
One thing i noticed is that they always use the excuse of "Hey sorry I'm not trying to ignore you my life is kinda hectic atm and it's really hard to reply to people all the time It takes me awhile to respond bc of time zones and work and everythibt" even when it is not as you would have no idea if it is true and they usually say that after i get onto them about always ghosting me and usually after saying "You know silence hurts more than being told no and thats true for just about any Human but mostly for those that can't take hints" Like don't say that you are going to be my friend or help me not to be lonely if you are going to ghost me months on end and give me a excuse like that especially after telling you that i grew up with no friends and have no hobbies so i might blow up your inbox as i literally have nothing better to do or can do because i never felt validated once in my useless meaningless life
Mr. Crack I’m in the same boat man... I’m just the type of guy where if you don’t fw me just say it... I don’t get females fr man good girls, bad girls, hoes, etc... 🤷🏾♂️
Treat the girl like a friend at first , jokingly tease her but from time to time follow it up with a compliment. Do not be needy by texting her back every single time she messages you , keep her guessing. Whether us men like it or not we HAVE to play a game that’s just the way it is nowadays. I’m all for being yourself and you should be ! But just with a little twist at first ! By playing these so called “games” Edit : I wanna emphasize on the “don’t message her back every single time she messages you “ obviously you’re gonna have to start texting her first and get the conversation going, BUT once you do odds are it’s gonna die down at some point during the convo so when you feel like it is, you end the conversation by not responding if she already hadn’t. Think about it, when a girl doesn’t text you back we all think “ damn wtf did I do wrong” or “why did I say that ? I should’ve said something better or more interesting “ odds are if we stop responding they’re gonna be thinking the same thing! Thus making them want you more. For the love of god don’t end the convo by saying some gay shit like “ok I have to go I’ll talk to you later! “ that is VERY needy or she’ll think you’re a loser. don’t say ANYTHING along those lines unless she is your gf. Once you end the convo ( by simply not responding ) text her the next day or the day after and go from there. I promise you that she will think you’re more interesting and mysterious. Think about it who’s she gonna wonder about more ? The guys who ALWAYS respond to her texts or the guy who doesn’t and keeps her guessing ?? You have to be able to back this method up though, you’ve gotta be funny and interesting while you guys are texting say something that will for sure get a response. maybe after a week or two of doing this and if you guys are still texting set a date to hangout. And boy oh boy please be fun because if she doesn’t have a good time you’ll never see or hear from that girl again.
Bullshit !!! Women are on the phone 24/7 give me a break !!! If she doesn’t respond that’s mean she doesn’t respect you ! Or she is busy to text an other 40 man !!! If she doesn’t text back in 20 minutes then get rid of her number and never contact her again !!! She is a player !!! MGTOW
Become the best version of yourself. Get up a bit earlier and get a clean workout before work. Use your job as a stepping stone to the next best job. Get a new vehicle and do something impressive that'll get her attention. Once she sees other girls chasing you. She's going to want to know what your up to, but by then. Your already going to be dating new women.
Met a Girl in Travelling,we talked too much,later on we gone for Coffee I asked for number,she gave me her number.We were talking 2 days before. Later no rply!!!🙄😂
No particular reason, it's just my choices of words - remember, I'm 36 so I have had many other girlfriends other than this one in my life - and in other videos I speak about past girlfriends. But yeah nothing else going on there.
What women wants from men 1) Make her laugh every day like if you are a fusion of Jim Carrey and Kevin Hart 2) Fuck her like King Kong 3) Be savage like King Kong 4) Be strong like King Kong 5) Have 12 packs abs 6) Have a beautiful face like an angel 7) Be a guy who they never get bored 8) Be a millionaire but its better to be a billionaire cause they might abandon you What men wants from women 1) Be beutiful and have a nice personality
To be honest bud - many guys have so few 'wants' from women because they're desperate and they'll take alomst any woman so long as she's nice to him - But once you have the ability to 'choose' because you have choices and aren't desperate, your list of wants in a partner as a man will expand out as well.
Don't nobody have time for games communication is key point blank that's why a lot these females are by them self's or men will do them the same way because they don't know what they want smh 😒
Absolutely correct a bunch of females are by they self cause guys are refusing to chase them down on 2019 guys barely even asking for there number cause its a waste of time
In my reading studies and personal experiences, I've gathered that women are highly sociable. To a woman, it's nothing to hand out your cell phone number. As men, we falsely interpret that the handing out of a cell phone number= unlimited contact. This is far from the truth. Why? She's zoning in on her next sociable contact. Think of a woman as a wallet. She wants as many business cards as possible. You're just one of five hundred other business cards. The key is to make yourself stand out, but not to make an ass of yourself by constantly messaging her. Find out by asking her what part of the day is less hectic for her. Secure that spot for texting her. It's all about strategic application.
Crazy story: I used to be friends with a hot chick. She was telling me a story and she goes “I have like 70 unread texts”. I stopped her I go no you don’t. She pulls out her phone and starts counting. We counted 84. That’s 84 UNREAD texts from different dudes. God knows how many unanswered texts she had, prob hundreds. Guys hit on her all the time. She was gorgeous yet seemed approachable. I never double texted any girl after I saw that. In fact after that night if I ever met a girl I liked I’d keep spending time with her until we made out. If we don’t make out I don’t bother taking a number because it’s useless. I cant tell you how many times I’d spend an amazing hour with a girl chatting about something deep and she’d say “I had an amazing time chatting with you” then SHE would ask for my number and never text me back. But. If we make out or hook up they always text back.
She doesn't reply because she ain't interested. End of. Move on. If she's playing games, don't bother your arse, they'll never end.
But what if everything was ok she said things that clearly meant age actually liked you AT LEAST as a friend and said things like "yo i really think we have a lot in common" but then *suddenly* she just wont text me back even tho we were having a conversation today
What happened? She couldnt get mad at anything cuz we re only friends
@@pyrefly7575 Girls are fickle like that bruh.. I had countless same situations. She would invite me somewhere, then give me excuse and never reply again. Or what I thought was a great conversation and interest, turned into ghosting the next second.. Just move on mate, if she cared enough she would never be too busy to reply to you.
@@alexchuprin8786 she talked to me at school next day to ask to go home together after school, everything is fine but thank i very much
I agree. Move on and don't catch feelings. Even if you have to see her at a particular place just ignore her. Don't ignore her in hopes that she will chase you. Just do it to bring closure. She will eventually know you're no longer interested. It does not make a man weak when he realizes it's not worth his time.
Move the fuck on. You do not want to be platonic friends with every women you meet. She gets all of the attention, affection and emotional benefits while you get nothing in return. I have platonic female friends that I've known since high school and that is because we have a lot of the same friends. Your end game is to get laid. Not be a sucker or slave to her. @@pyrefly7575
The thing is, women can change their minds in half a second, for any number of reasons (a friend of theirs says something to them, their mood changes, what seemed fun a few hours earlier suddenly isnt anymore...etc etc......) guys, you're dealing with flaky fickle females...get used to it :)
Tried twice, no reply. One of them was a congratulatory text. Never texted her again. It’s was clear her interest on me was nonexistent. Told myself “ bye Felicia!!!!” and moved on. No grudges.
Dang.. lol one of mine was congratulatory too.. 👋🏾
Those images are great. It's shows you care but it's still carefree and has a sense of humor to it. At least that's how I viewed it
Man, you are a legend. Sent a giphy to a girl who stopped responding me in like five days and she replied to me instantly
Congrats mate!
You smashed her but hole yet?
@@neilarora7919 💀😭💀😭💀
9:04 is actually such a major point.
I gotta work on nailing that first interaction and let her know why you're both exchanging contact details (to meet up later and hang out). Great video
"Do you have any secret strategies of getting women to reply?"
NOPE.
I liked what he said about rapport, if I find someone with common interests and I draw her out and she comments on how great the conversation is, they always remember me, smile when they see me, approach me, etc. So what he said about that is really good advice. It's not a guarantee, it simply increases the good feelings on her part and increases the likelihood she will reply, it's all based on how she feels, the better she feels about you the more likely it is she will feel motivated to reply.
@@mscir 💯💯💯💯💯
Memes are gold, nice hack! If you’re good on the phone, a phone call is always a nice way to reenergise her interest in you.
🤙🏾🤙🏾🤙🏾
Texting is to invite a girl out that you have just met. If she doesn’t respond don’t message her it’s just that simple. Communication is sexy. How many people like talking to a wall?
Sometimes you get a number by lucky, not bcoz you real made her get attracted to you.
When it comes to text game Todd Valentine has a system for turning numbers into dates
Messages are categorised in 4 different ways
1- silence
2 - shit test
3 - platonic / friend to friend
4 - positive
Don't make plans if she doesn't respond to you or gives something negative.
Start making plans if she's eager to respond. However, it's a smart move to first ask about schedule before meeting with a girl.
🔑🔑🔑
Ima save each guy here a whole lot of trouble. Go to a country outside the U.S. with favorable echange rates, visit a brothel, get it out your system, focus on career development. Remember that a hooker is more honest about wanting your money and never forget that.
Why not encourage the local market?
un fecking believable! this girl hasnt returned my txts in over a week! so i just let her stew for a bit. after a little thought, decided to send her the dog meme, OMG she replied in 20secs with "oh how adorable" how are you?!!! :-)
haha, i know! Guy say that it's tacky, but damn me if it doesn't work a charm!
What do I type in the GIF search bar for this meme?
@@SchoolOfAttraction How can I send these members on tinder? They're not available as built in gif, please help!
💀💀💀💀💀
Probably the most obvious one is they don't want to turn you down face to face
I think you're right about this, I guess with most guys too. Women weren't flakey like this 20 years ago before they shopped for men on the internet dating sites
She does not want you .Men are direct logic mind it. Is yes or no...
i use to text "guess what?!" to all my contacts and never reply. i got about 2-3 texts back from each and they they would ask in person the next time i saw them. lol
🤣🤣🤣
Being Jason Momoa would probably guarantee a response.
LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
@@SWAGLIKEIS 💀💀💀💀💀
The majority of cases is that she’s not interested. I usually end up friendzoning guys because I’m too nice to cut them of and because guys often react badly if I tell them the truth. It actually seems like they prefer the friendzone instead of getting the confirmation that there’s really no chance...I personally take quite some time to reply, but if I’m interested you will get a message in a 24h timeframe. So guys, do yourselves a favour and just move on. It’s her loss.
So basically after all the theorising...she just doesn't fancy you! There are 3 reasons she doesn't text/message back..1. She is dead. 2.She's in prison. 3. She doesn't fancy you!.. Guys,message 3 times,if she doesn't reply move on!
Yeah pretty much. If she likes you she responds; If she doesn't respond, she doesn't like you. We already knew that. But we need a more precise answer than that. We need to know WHY. We need to know what processes are happening to make it play out this way. Men need to know how to interpret the mixed signals. How can a girl who liked you enough to offer her number at 12:00 AM this morning not like you at 12:00 noon today. I like the video because it does attempt to tell us WHY. He tries to tell us what going on that we can't see.
The useful part off the video is about how to build rapport from such a short interaction, that's what we need to know. You meet a girl for a few minutes and get her number and start texting. It is not possible to have honest rapport that soon. That's no fault of yours or hers; neither of you know enough to care. What is needed is knowledge of how to build that bridge as quickly as possible.
@@darriuscole8544 all you have said is valid if you were deali ng with a girl/woman who was polite and grown up enough to reply in the first place. If guys and girls stopped being so childish and had the common courtesy of replying to a message, be honest and up front the question wouldn't arise. The original question is valid but the answer is over Analysed, way too deep. Again.... She ain't interested!!! I have asked many a female this question over the years... Its what they say 'because i' m not interested '.. "I have changed my mind"... The end!
@@darriuscole8544 Ive had that experience a lot.....from one day to the next they can lose interest..it's like a friend of theirs says something in passing, or they wake up and their mind has altered....so so friggin fickle :) expect nothing is my advice
Met a girl I knew from Elementary School in college, we were flirting back and forth , she was being really sweet and giggling blushing and being super flirty, I didn’t even ask her for her number she gave it to me. Both sober. Texted her 2 days later, Nothing. Texted her again, waited 12 days, tried again in the evening aroun 8:30 Nothing. Texted her one last time a week after the 12 days just saying they were giving free massages at the college today for students and that the girls there were awesome and I felt great and that she should check it out. Then maybe 20 minutes later a fun gif of a dog massaging aggressively another dog . No response yet but pretty sure I’ll get nothing, should I call and then give up or just give up now. We’re going on a pretty cool field trip with free pizza and beer and we get to see a bunch of cool metals Melting and freezing , it’s gonna be awesome. Wanted to bring her, looking for another girl to bring because it’s just such a cool date thing to pass up and it’s free! So amped for it. What do you guys think Should I call?
I am The Batman Batman would never be begging a woman like that.
We all have done it. Stop texting her. Never call her again
You were supposed to call her not text her. A real man calls to see what's going on not to guess and look all confused and stupid. And she probably gave the wrong number but you took to long to make up your mind.
Garra mon actually did call her bro. Was her on the phone. She told me to text her instead and at that point I just stopped .
@@i_am_thebatman good move my friend don't regret it cuz it wasn't meant to be. And you don't have to waste your time thinking about it.
Garra mon No I don’t anybody whose going to flip on a dime like that isn’t somebody I want to ask out. Actually going to an opera house to see a magician now with a different girl in a couple weeks. Should be fun.
What works really well for me is to wait like a day or two and then send her a whole paragraph. Well written and funny, second degree humor, to say that she abandoned me or something like that. Without too much emojis or stuff like that, just a sober little piece of a novel that will make her laugh or react. If she's not totally uninterested she usually replies and the conversation can start again. Try it folks, it requires a bit of imagination but I swear it's fun to do.
Awesome video as always...👌
I went on a date with my best friend we have been friends since grade school and I finally got my chance but now she doesn't even talk to me I don't know what I did
It probably got weird for her because yall were friends for so long, if you wanna still pursue her as a partner you should stop being her best friend for awhile and treat her like you wanna bang the hell out of her, flirt , touch more often
If she's not talking to you btw, give her space, could take anywhere from a couple of weeks to months
Check DanBacon channel. You will have your answers
If your current girlfriend does it all the time maybe u haven't solved this problem and shouldn't give any advice.
OR I could just be an adult and not be upset that my girlfriend doesn't like to be disturbed during the day. We run 2 companies together we have better things to do than worry about personal messages during work hours.
@@SchoolOfAttraction huh, my first instinct is to talk shit or make a joke but since ur the channel owner it seems rude. I do question this comment tho.
BrianStyleDeath
They see each other frequently so why does it matter. You clearly don’t understand what he’s saying. Your initial comment was more rude than his response. If you can’t take the heat don’t go to hell 🤷🏽♂️you receive the energy you put out
He’s tappin dat azz that night
@@1010DoorsAreAlwaysOpen 💀🤣💀😭💀
Hi Damien.
One thing I wanted to mention
that got missed in your video (I've been listening to the podcast) is that on occasions, some women will provide a phone number (either their real one or a fake one) and then never reply, in order to avoid a face to face conflict with a man they do not have an interest in. Some women want to avoid a face to face conflict because there is a subtle ingrained fear of being physically harmed if they "reject" the man asking for their number. Assaults on women after rejections are highly publicised, and this spreading of "news" can create a disproportionate level of fear within a woman. Couple these stories with the long held societal notion of women being physically overpowered by men in terms of domestic violence and sexual assault and you have a number of women feeling like their safety could be threatened if they were to upset the man by declining his request.
I want to reinforce that this feeling within women is disproportionate to the actual assaults committed on women by men experiencing rejection. It is just something that sits in the back of your mind as a woman; that you should "risk mitigate" the circumstance, in order to best self preserve.
I'm not saying that thinking this way is right, and I understand it could definitely be seen as a disrespect towards men in terms of supporting the toxic notion that men are incapable of controlling their emotions (ie: rejection) and are only capable of acting out their emotions in a violent way.
I think it's important to look at it from both perspectives in terms of a human's hierachy of needs. Safety sits at the base level of the pyramid, whereas emotional support and fulfillment sits much higher up the list. I'd like to think that most men could understand that due to long-running and ingrained societal conditioning, she COULD have felt that giving you her number was the safest option in her mind at the time. That's not to say YOU did anything to make her feel unsafe or threatened. You could have been as nice as pie but if she wasn't interested, she resolved the "issue" of that conflict in a way in which she thought was the safest for her. Even if it meant feigning interest and handing over her number.
I just wanted to chuck that in there because I think it's a really crucial occurrence that gets overlooked. It's an ingrained belief or learning that still gets taught to this day as a form of toxic masculinity perpetuated by women more than men during parenting. Onc we as a society stop telling men not to cry, not to show their emotions and to "man up", we may teach them how to better process and deal with their emotions, instead of telling women we must cater to a their aggression and not provoke them, like men are incapable of having reasonable and rational thought, and can only express themselves by being violent.
Absolutely! I avoided covering this mostly because every time I do, I get something of an uproar from men who feel triggered by sentiments like this - but I definitely agree - thank you for sharing.
First number I got, I took what I learnt from swinger's: "don't text her immediately, it looks desperate". Didn't text her for ten days...
...Don't do what I did! 👌
She forgot who u are right..?
I texted a girl a month after getting her number once, she still remembered who I was
Ghosted me swiftly though lol
Do you have on opinion on whether it is better to ask them for their number or just give them my number? I have the impression that giving them my number gives them more space and removes all the pressure from their side. They can freely decide whether they want to text me or not. In the latter case I'll never actually have their number. But if they decide to text, it means that they are really interested. I just did not factor forgetting in, but is that a real concern? If we clicked, there would be no forgetting. So would you think that this makes it easier or us rather unusual and does not work in most cases?
Hey Martin, I can see your rational on this, but in reality most women don't want to have to make the first move, they want the guy to make the first move - So you'll miss out on a lot of opportunities that way.
@@SchoolOfAttraction Yeah, they even did not write when I thought we had clicked. Now I might see a woman again at a recurring event and I'd like to follow up and ask for their number, but them not texting could already be a signal of no interest. So take it lighthearted with a "I noticed you did not text, shall I make it easier for you and you give me your number?" perhaps?
I'd word it slightly differently - "Aww its' so cute, you're too shy to send the first message - Here, send me you're number and I'll be the brave one to text first :P"
I need advise regarding messaging women you haven't met in person...ie, no cold approach ever took place because I met them online, on tinder, etc.
Hi man, like your channel and your vibe, got a question.
When it comes to a girl genuinely forgetting to text you back, or randomness getting in the way. What should you so then if she has seen/read your text?.
Do you text again? Or wait for her response?.
I'm very insecure about being forgotten/left behind/replaced, it's very hard for me to think that if a girl likes me, she will eventually reach out.
So you need to think of course - Would a girl genuinely forget to reply to a guy she REALLY liked?
The answer is usually No.
But maybe she liked yoiu, like 7/10 with potential for more, but that's not enough to make her remember to message back. This will happen a LOT of if you do lots of dating. It's common place - So that's why you re-engage, make it fun and light hearted and work on building more rapport.
@@SchoolOfAttraction hey man thanks for the reply. I'm sure you get alot of these, but I thought you may like some context.
I hooked up with a girl on Tinder. The initial date was amazing, because we knew beforehand we were meeting to hook up and that we were both seeing other people. The sex was great too and she alluded to 'next time' that night and also when I texted her the next day.
A week later I see her with another guy at the nightclub I work at, which is fine as we aren't exclusive. The next morning I ask if she wants to hook up the next weekend. She says 'maybe, that would be nice' when I ask her availability, she doesn't respond.
Three weeks later, I re engage, I make it fun, saying there's this fantasy I want to try out, this gets a response, we have great flirty banter, and agree to meet up when her coursework is done.
Two weeks later, i see her in town, we have a nice talk, I make my leave, I text saying. Nice to see you, she replies saying you too!
But now, the last two times I've texted her it's been ignored. So I don't know what to do dude.
Sure well in that case - it can also be that she met some other guy she actually wants to date.
Honestly there can be a tonne of reasons
@@SchoolOfAttraction true. I did actually re engage her the other day, I made it sexual, calling back to our last meet, I was sure to add a question on the end... or bait.
This time she responded, so i guess last time was reason 1. A good quality she has is that she replies in the same minute she 'sees' the message on whatsapp. But she said she is busy atm.
So I said I'd reach out again in two weeks. She said that sounds good. I think we're ok, I hope.
Social media is one reason
Guys just go ahead and delete these fake stuck ups immediately these helfers know exactly what there doing. Most of them are broke and looking a handout anyway so your only dodging unwanted stress
So how to get a girl to reply... Ive been dating alot for awhile now and do pretty damn well for myself. i tend to write when i get really stressed. I have about 10-15 different good poems and will occasionally write something special if i really like the person, or even if feel like i fucked up somehow ill write about how i fucked up. I will nicely tell them ive started writing not long ago (and i wanted to share this one with you. I hope you like it. Will kinda throw in the i hope this isnt too much or think im crazy, but i genuinely enjoyed meeting you last night. If they dont respond which most do ill say, i know this is spontaneous but would you like to grab a drink with me tonight or maybe grab some coffee somtime?
I never text a woman. I give her my card and tell her to text me. Then I split. Then if she’s interested, she will call and then it’s game in. Why waste you time. Women should be chasing and bonding anyway. Kinda girlie to be texting and chasing.
This is a very low results strategy man... I understand why you want to do things this way - but it has a terrible conversion rate compared to a man taking action.
@@SchoolOfAttraction -card- MasterCard
so its 5 reasons you have listed, when in fact you just meant 2 xD
-forgets to reply (happen to us all)
-she doesnt like you enough (the other 3 reasons are just variations of "she doesnt like you enough"...so can we stay with the truth :P)
This bs stop making excuses for these girls grow a pair respect yourself everyone is on their phones all day! If she don't reply eh I'm turned off it's her loss
I Receive messages all the time on my phone I don't want to respond to right then and there - Since I run a company I have a reminder system set up for myself to get back to them so I can remain professional - But most people don't have such a system - so.. Since I do it all the time - why wouldn't women?
brs rafal tbh it’s true bro I agree, kinda sad but fuckk that we just gotta move on cause fuck it
Fellas if a girl like u she would always respond faster then you think! If she don't like u yet you give her a chance show her what great dude u r bla bla. If that don't work over time move on. Woman knows asap if she wanna f u or not usually...
I woulnt answer then back right away make yourself look more busy instead of texting her goodnight stop texting around 8 pm 9 MIA then when u wake up u will have a text about w e ya talked about u pick up next day then she feels like ya been talking more days therefore she is more comfortable. Yet you do less work. Guys don't get discouraged these girls talk to 10 guys plus at once inbox overflowing
brs rafal thx for the tips 👍🏼
Damien-I love your material and admire how secure you are in yourself without having to be macho. I just had ONE question. This girl I met at a coffee shop , I began texting her and she has not seemed very responsive, although she was at first. but when I told her that if she was no longer interested to meet up just to let me know and I would be fine either way. She said to me, "I have to tell you I am seeing someone, but I would still be interested to meet you for coffee sometime", how should i respond and what do I do?
We had our 1st call and the next day she didnt reply my message.. until now we had no contact to each other.. what should i do?
Delete number immediately she saw your text the first time
@@neilarora7919 i see your point less stress
I did not reply to someone. Coz he send me with just heart eyes emoji. And I don't know how to respond with that text. But first comes to mind was he's not that interested to talk to me. So I just let it go.
Well mostly, he's just being lazy AF heh...
5:50 Yup
no date in almost 2 yrs. stalkin n hangup calls almost 2 yrs.she needs a head check im 63 shes 60 lost her husband in nov.2017/weird,police blow me off,hm.
I give them 3 strikes and never text them again if they don't respond by then
NEVER double text man, makes you come off as desperate
@@londonwatson7342 ....Well doesn't really matter if they don't text back lol
You right that is the true anwser...
@@londonwatson7342 what if THEY double text first..? 👀
Wouldn't this provoke the idea to start testing women (or call her bluff)/play hard-to-get before getting their number, since the number doesn't guarantee anything?
3:40 he's saying his girlfriend doesnt rly like him lol
You completely left out the part for repor. You gotta give some repor techniques and advice so that we actually have something to say that's worthwhile.
While learning my text game, I can get almost every dead convo back started, but building the repour back up is the challenge. The problem hasn't changed.
Collin Rohwer it’s rapport 🤗
@@taniawilliams14 ya that...
One thing i noticed is that they always use the excuse of "Hey sorry I'm not trying to ignore you my life is kinda hectic atm and it's really hard to reply to people all the time
It takes me awhile to respond bc of time zones and work and everythibt" even when it is not as you would have no idea if it is true and they usually say that after i get onto them about always ghosting me and usually after saying "You know silence hurts more than being told no and thats true for just about any Human but mostly for those that can't take hints"
Like don't say that you are going to be my friend or help me not to be lonely if you are going to ghost me months on end and give me a excuse like that especially after telling you that i grew up with no friends and have no hobbies so i might blow up your inbox as i literally have nothing better to do or can do because i never felt validated once in my useless meaningless life
I have been waiting for a reply for a week
Mr. Crack I’m in the same boat man... I’m just the type of guy where if you don’t fw me just say it... I don’t get females fr man good girls, bad girls, hoes, etc... 🤷🏾♂️
@@lb_3rdg actually just found out her parents grounded her so she couldn't text for a week
Mr. Crack 😂 oh lucky you
@@lb_3rdg oof. F
Where the is dog image???
Where the is english???
Treat the girl like a friend at first , jokingly tease her but from time to time follow it up with a compliment. Do not be needy by texting her back every single time she messages you , keep her guessing. Whether us men like it or not we HAVE to play a game that’s just the way it is nowadays. I’m all for being yourself and you should be ! But just with a little twist at first ! By playing these so called “games”
Edit : I wanna emphasize on the “don’t message her back every single time she messages you “ obviously you’re gonna have to start texting her first and get the conversation going, BUT once you do odds are it’s gonna die down at some point during the convo so when you feel like it is, you end the conversation by not responding if she already hadn’t. Think about it, when a girl doesn’t text you back we all think “ damn wtf did I do wrong” or “why did I say that ? I should’ve said something better or more interesting “ odds are if we stop responding they’re gonna be thinking the same thing! Thus making them want you more. For the love of god don’t end the convo by saying some gay shit like “ok I have to go I’ll talk to you later! “ that is VERY needy or she’ll think you’re a loser. don’t say ANYTHING along those lines unless she is your gf. Once you end the convo ( by simply not responding ) text her the next day or the day after and go from there. I promise you that she will think you’re more interesting and mysterious. Think about it who’s she gonna wonder about more ? The guys who ALWAYS respond to her texts or the guy who doesn’t and keeps her guessing ??
You have to be able to back this method up though, you’ve gotta be funny and interesting while you guys are texting say something that will for sure get a response. maybe after a week or two of doing this and if you guys are still texting set a date to hangout. And boy oh boy please be fun because if she doesn’t have a good time you’ll never see or hear from that girl again.
Well said TANS 12!!! Very brilliant advice!! Thank you. It will be implemented precisely!
Tans 12 are you me?
Bullshit !!! Women are on the phone 24/7 give me a break !!! If she doesn’t respond that’s mean she doesn’t respect you ! Or she is busy to text an other 40 man !!! If she doesn’t text back in 20 minutes then get rid of her number and never contact her again !!! She is a player !!! MGTOW
Become the best version of yourself. Get up a bit earlier and get a clean workout before work. Use your job as a stepping stone to the next best job. Get a new vehicle and do something impressive that'll get her attention. Once she sees other girls chasing you. She's going to want to know what your up to, but by then. Your already going to be dating new women.
Met a Girl in Travelling,we talked too much,later on we gone for Coffee I asked for number,she gave me her number.We were talking 2 days before. Later no rply!!!🙄😂
She forgot is on page one of the stalkers handbook,careful with that one fellas
Why do you say in this video ''my current girlfriend'', while in another video you said you are in a relationship with her for 10 years?
No particular reason, it's just my choices of words - remember, I'm 36 so I have had many other girlfriends other than this one in my life - and in other videos I speak about past girlfriends. But yeah nothing else going on there.
@@SchoolOfAttraction Alright, thanks :).
What women wants from men
1) Make her laugh every day like if you are a fusion of Jim Carrey and Kevin Hart
2) Fuck her like King Kong
3) Be savage like King Kong
4) Be strong like King Kong
5) Have 12 packs abs
6) Have a beautiful face like an angel
7) Be a guy who they never get bored
8) Be a millionaire but its better to be a billionaire cause they might abandon you
What men wants from women
1) Be beutiful and have a nice personality
To be honest bud - many guys have so few 'wants' from women because they're desperate and they'll take alomst any woman so long as she's nice to him - But once you have the ability to 'choose' because you have choices and aren't desperate, your list of wants in a partner as a man will expand out as well.
1st base
2nd base
3rd base
Homerun
F you mean ....
What are you saying ..
Always get the no return response.
Validation : you getting played
Nope : Plies " issues " listen to it.
Don't nobody have time for games communication is key point blank that's why a lot these females are by them self's or men will do them the same way because they don't know what they want smh 😒
Absolutely correct a bunch of females are by they self cause guys are refusing to chase them down on 2019 guys barely even asking for there number cause its a waste of time
No its too much work
In my reading studies and personal experiences, I've gathered that women are highly sociable. To a woman, it's nothing to hand out your cell phone number. As men, we falsely interpret that the handing out of a cell phone number= unlimited contact. This is far from the truth. Why? She's zoning in on her next sociable contact.
Think of a woman as a wallet. She wants as many business cards as possible. You're just one of five hundred other business cards. The key is to make yourself stand out, but not to make an ass of yourself by constantly messaging her. Find out by asking her what part of the day is less hectic for her. Secure that spot for texting her. It's all about strategic application.
The mob is fickle brother
Crazy story: I used to be friends with a hot chick. She was telling me a story and she goes “I have like 70 unread texts”. I stopped her I go no you don’t. She pulls out her phone and starts counting. We counted 84. That’s 84 UNREAD texts from different dudes. God knows how many unanswered texts she had, prob hundreds. Guys hit on her all the time. She was gorgeous yet seemed approachable. I never double texted any girl after I saw that. In fact after that night if I ever met a girl I liked I’d keep spending time with her until we made out. If we don’t make out I don’t bother taking a number because it’s useless. I cant tell you how many times I’d spend an amazing hour with a girl chatting about something deep and she’d say “I had an amazing time chatting with you” then SHE would ask for my number and never text me back. But. If we make out or hook up they always text back.
Hmmm. Sounds like dealing with flaking is a huge deal
It's a hugely frustrating deal for many guys.
Woah, many agressive replies here. Seek counselling.