For anyone reading this who has a baby who takes a little (or a lot) longer to sleep through- sonetimes you do everything right and they just aren't ready. We followed all the advice for baby 1 and she took 18 months +. She also couldn't be put down for the first 6 months. She was just that kind of baby. My second was chill and she slept through at 8 months. Every baby is different. People told us "we do x y z and our baby sleeps through" but we did all the same things. Some babies are good sleepers.
Hi just want to say my baby has been sleeping 12 hours at night since she was 3 months and that’s just who she is and I’m extremely lucky. Some things help, like having a consistent bedtime routine. Most of it is the baby, however. It’s just luck. If your baby isn’t sleeping through the night at 3, 6, 9, 12 months, it’s not you, it’s your baby. Do whatever you can to meet their needs. Trust your gut.
I completely agree! Tips and tricks help but each kiddo is so different. It’s not cause = effect. These videos help for ideas. Our kids are like little experiments 😆
@@chocolatelover4695 yeah so have we and she went from sleeping through the night very early up to the first 6 months of her life, to now (12 Months old) waking up hourly or even more often in really bad nights.. she is doing everything by the book she is supposed to for good night sleep and she is confirmed healthy by the doc. Unfortunately the routine is not the magic solution for everyone.
You’re such a great mom! Helping your daughter become an independent sleeper will definitely improve her independence in the long run. I wish my parents did this with me. They would have slept more and fought less.... I wouldn’t have been so terrified of being alone as I got older and older. Definitely going to do assisted sleep training with my children :)
I'm so glad my baby is not an early riser lol! She goes to bed around 11 pm and wakes up at 10 am. It works wonderfully for us. Bed sharing has been the key for us
Raised 6 kids that are all now grown and have to say every single thing Nikole said is bang on to teach your child to be a good sleeper. Like breastfeeding, sleep is something you and baby need to learn together and it takes time to create a good routine and habits. Just on the stuffie or blankie (comfort object) make sure if you are having 2 to alternate them regularly because Baby loves the smell of the comfort object and will surely notice if you replace it with one that doesn't smell right. Also the overnight nappy we would put an overnight sanitary pad in the nappy to last 12hrs but sizing up is perfect. Great advice Nikole 👍
Just wanted to comment to say you're a great mom and doing an amazing job!! We all have to do what's right for us and our family! Sage seems like such a sweet and happy little peanut and she's so lucky to have you and Matt! I LOVE your videos and you have given me so much confidence as a mama to do the best I can with my little boy! Thank you so much for everything you do to try to shed light and help all us mama's out! ❤️
I followed you during my pregnancy and you were so good to watch for ideas for baby and motherhood (sometimes advice from friends and family is too opinionated or close for comfort). Our baby girl is 3 months tomorrow and has naturally gotten into this most nights, so we're just waiting on the possible sleep regression to see what happens next. She's only a small day napper and is very excited by everything which we love (and is ahead of her game, which shows it's all up for interpretation). I was surprised by the 12 hour video when I first watched, it seemed negative (in UK culture), until Ophelia, our baby, started to do it. She nearly wakes for feeds when she needs them, she gives us cues in her sleep (I'm told by everyone I know with babies or kids that this is rare). I know everyone's different but it's good that your video housed discussions to it, whatever parents' belief systems people hold. Don't let people get you down, like you say, everyone is doing what is best for their kids. I'm really grateful for your mum videos, they're refreshing 🥰💗☺️ Ps. I also get the mental health side from my past, kudos to you getting through it and continuing filming/working/being a solid mum and partner! 👍🏼
Love it! These tips will be so helpful to some moms! My kid is like, the opposite😅 she nurses to sleep every time, her bedtime is 11pm and she sleeps till 11am (which was on purpose due to our work schedules) she was sleeping 8 hours straight by 2 months and it was AMAZING! We did keep a strict dinner/bath/book/bed routine from like month 1 tho! Sleep sacks, comfy jammies, dark rooms and sound machines are clutch!
The sleep course was great! highly recommend! Our baby is now sleeping 12 hours and napping independently. We are all more rested and in better moods! Thank you for the suggestion
We got a Slumberpod (a blackout tent) and it makes traveling with a baby SO MUCH BETTER. We've been in shared rooms and we can have the lights on and she can sleep undisturbed.
Bedsharing has been amazing for me and my third baby. She’s 5 months old now and wakes up a few times during the night to nurse but goes right back to sleep, I have never felt so rested after having a baby! I can’t imagine not bedsharing but eventually I’d like to transition her to a crib.🥰
19 months and still waking multiple times and bed sharing. For me, it was still really tough around 5 months as she needed to be burped and took forever. Now, it is much easier and goes right back.
Hi Nicole. Thank you very much for choosing this topic. I have been working with many children throughout my life and can say that all of them are different. When majority are good sleepers, there are certainly some who need support with having a good sleep routine. The sleep therapist are therefore of a great help. It makes a huge difference for a child to be guided with their sleep and gives them their energy back. Not even mentioning the effect on the rest of the family and peers if they attend nursery setting. Please, can you invite a speech therapist in your videos, as I have burning questions and would appreciate having a professional’s opinion too. Once again, my gratitude for choosing real topic for real life experiences.
How does this video not have more likes?! Great take on this sometimes divisive subject, Nikole! You’re a beautiful mama and I’m so glad I found your channel before having my first baby! 😊❤️
Nicole, this is all gold!!! Pretty much exactly what we have done for our 3.5 year old and 15 month old. The reading… totally agree we read to my oldest since he was born and now at 3.5 hrs old it’s our favorite time of the day. We all get in his bed and read few books , snuggle and kisses. Best times ❤️
I’m in the middle of month 5 and feeling these struggles! Waking up every few hours at night and really working to implement these tips to encourage healthy sleeping practices! Thanks.
This is the most timely video! We were discussing this morning that we need to start putting our 8 month old to bed earlier to get him to sleep longer! So counterintuitive!
I started a routine literally as soon as we came home and everyone thought I was insane. Idk what people think a routine is or why they think it's so hard but I do know for me it helped I started right off the bat. Every single night at 6:00 I began a routine. I would get him ready for bed, fresh diaper and massage every night. Sometimes it's a longer more intense massage but I always rub him down with lavender lotion and then put on jammies.. and then I would spray lavender essential oil spray in the room. We pick 1-3 books to read and cuddle up with the books and I read them. Then I turn on the sound maching and hand him his bottle and it's night out ❤️ He's always slept good! But he's starting to wake up with what seems to be night terrors! So that's stressful to me! Anyone else experiencing that?? He's about to be 1 on may 5th ❤️
I discovered your channel when i got pregant 9 months ago im due a c section on the 4th and honestly i love and have binge watched all your videos.. thank you so much for sharing all your tips and being honest because life isnt always perfect and you show very raw truths and i love it ❤️ thank you
Hey Nikole! Thanks for all the tips! You’re an amazing, loving Mum and I hope you keep doing what you’re doing. Remind yourself that haters are only projecting their own lives at you and their opinion of you and your life has nothing to do with you nor do you have any control over it. Our opinions are entirely based around our own personal experiences and trauma, controlling how we perceive things regardless of the reality so try not to let it get to you x If that doesn’t reassure you, babies at Sage’s age are generally developmentally able to sleep through the night without needing a feed so do not let people say you’re neglecting your child’s needs because that is simply not true. Plus, you’ve obviously put a lot of care and consideration into Sage’s needs when implementing a night time routine and sleep training so neglect is far from your reality as a parent. Some people are so dramatic with their words. One last thing: whatever is considered “normal”, ie people referring to babies waking up through the night, does not directly correlate to what is healthy. It also used to be “normal” for cots to have bumpers but we know now that it increases the risk of SIDS. So forget normal and continue to listen to your own baby’s needs as attentively as you are and do what you feel is best for Sage and your family. Hopefully this reassured you even a little, and maybe even some other Mums in the comments too. I’m so grateful for your videos and hope you continue making them! Thanks so much from us here in Australia ❤️
You are my favorite UA-camr because I feel like I relate to you so much as a mom. I also love seeing your realistic family routine/schedule while traveling full time. It’s inspired me to travel even more with my family!
I have some night time routines and 24 hours with a newborn, 6 month and crawling baby on my channel you can check out! I'll do an updated one soon though :)
YES! On the bedtime routine & the song before bed. As soon as I start singing “Twinkle Twinkle” my little one pops her thumb in her mouth and knows that it’s time to sleep. I can only second all of these tips.
Wow that's great. My first did not want to be put down in the crib in spite of song, routine etc My second did. Some are better sleepers and more indepependent than others.
I'm surprised you had a lot of criticism for this video. You weren't even that in-depth (like a specific how to on how to sleep train) and you didn't even say anything controversial (not that you needed to be in-depth! I know this was great tips you've found! I also agree the awake to sleep is a good tip I've read and didn't know about before but makes sense and my favorite tip was the buttery soft pajamas and how switching from day clothes to night clothes is important which I didn't think about and I have not read anywhere for babies (just adults lol) but makes sense and I'm going to do that now). Every thing you said is in line with that I've read. Maybe because you weren't that in-depth people just started making up "child trauma" in their mind and came with a judgmental heart. Love getting to know you and your family through your videos! Thank you!
Your videos in the past encouraged me to sleep train and I’m glad you continue to post about it as it helps so many parents. Thankful for moms like you who are so vulnerable to put yourself out there. I am so thankful that I sleep trained, and there is actual clinical evidence that sleep training does not affect a child’s growth and development and actually can improve it. I love your content and hope the uneducated vultures don’t make you second guess yourself when you put yourself out there with parenting!
So nice to see that somebody went through the same.. Chloe (our daughter) is 3,5 months and I believe she is experiencing sleep regression. She is taking ONLY short naps during the day, she is falling asleep ONLY if I rock her (daddy’s rocking doesn’t work) and she is up frequently. I feel like going backwards (as you said in one of the videos).. 🥹🥹 How did you start putting her to sleep awake? If I put her in the crib awake, she will just cry her lungs out..
My son did something similar where he would only take short 20 or 30 minute naps around 5-6 months old. We stretched his wake windows (kept him awake for longer periods between naps) and he went back to taking longer naps. I hope this helps you 😊
My 19-month-old still wakes up every two hours in the night (sometimes more). There is absolutely no way I could put her down awake, she just jumps up in her cot and up and down screaming And I would never leave her to cry. She absolutely refuses to sleep in a cot so she’s in bed with us but she still wakes constantly. We never dealt with sleep regressions because there is nothing to regress from LOL her sleep is always just been permanently awful. I’ve tried absolutely everything from a really strict routine to no routine, I spent hundreds of pounds on sleep consultants and osteopath appointment absolutely nothing works unfortunately. Some kids are just bad sleepers And sleep is developmental sometimes they just need time. X
Hello! Thank you for this! My baby is 5.5 mos and I’m trying to implement better sleep habits. I think we’re on our way to better night time sleep but he also will only sleep on me for naps. What is your routine for naps? Is it the same or shortened? Would love some tips for nap time😊
12 hours at night and 3 during the day makes her above average (which is 11-14 hours sleep for the whole day for babies between 1-2 years according to the American Academy of Pediatrics) it shouldn't be the expectation for all babies (I know nobody says it is). Good for you.
Yes! Baby “sleep culture” would say this is normal, but it’s not. Some babies need more sleep than others. Definitely creates a false expectation for parents.
Came here to mention this too. My daughter at about 1 y.o. sleeps 11.5 hours maximum over 24h, so there's no way she can sleep for 12 just at night. And we never had naps over 1.5h as well. And even that usually leads to her waking up at night all bright and ready to play 🙈 So it's 10-10.5h at night + 30-50 mins naps for us and there's not much that can be done about it, whether or not I pay a sleep consultant 🤷🏻♀️ There's a very wide window of normal for sleep.
I feel like someone needs to say this…. People always try to pitch and sell something or make a video out of it BUT the reality is if your baby isn’t sleeping… nothing u do will make them sleep 12 hours… thats a large chunk of time, they need to be ready for that. And guess what? When my son finally started sleeping 12 hours, I did nothing, he did that all on his own!
Some babies yes. But some babies need a little help to figure it all out. The truth is if baby isn’t ready, nothing will make it so. But if baby is ready, sometimes they need a little help to get there.
I really think working with a sleep consultant brings so much awareness on the tons of information and studies they have to share to help you teach kids how to sleep. It’s a habit they learn just like everything else and just like starting solids, building correct sleeping habits goes a long way. That’s why we have adults who just can’t sleep or have sleeping problems , it goes back to some of the poor sleeping habits they picked up right from birth! It’s a really interesting topic and so much studies are done to help us learn and teach our babies sleep! And no I’m not referring to cry it out methods, babies don’t have to cry to learn to sleep especially if you start from early on
When it comes to making sure not to skip dinner, even if we’re getting home late and kiddo is eating close to or after bed time, do you wait a certain amount of time to let her food settle before putting her to bed? I’m also wondering when is a good time to transition to a toddler bed. I’ve read that could happen anytime after about 18 months. I would love to hear your thoughts on that and what your plans are for Sage if she’s still sleeping in a crib. What are the signs of readiness you might look for? Thank you 🙏🏼 💗
@@HealthNutNutrition and how long do you let her sleep while her naps ? Do you wait for her to wake up or do you wake her up after some time ? Your tips are great, I’m due in august and I can’t wait to use those tips for real haha
My LO is 16 months and I've been struggling with the 1 nap transition for 4 months! Can you share you current schedule for naps/ dinner and bedtime pls
Yes but let’s keep in mind wake ups are normal until 24 months! And they do have a purpose. Risks of SIDS rise when babies sleep longer. So when they are little, they are supposed to wake up.
@@courtneyc17 I also followed sleep training accounts when I was pregnant and got most of my info from them, but after my baby was born, I found most of their info doesn’t represent what is normal, at least for my baby, and that it went against my instincts as a mother. They also put so much pressure on parents to do things in certains ways, making you feel like you’re doing it all wrong if you do things differently, even if what you do works for you. The names I mentioned above support biologically normal infant sleep, and give information that make sense and support your journey as you navigate and learn the best ways to support your baby in his/her sleep.
@@courtneyc17 I can definitely find the links, I can’t remember if it was American pediatrics association website or something off of my hospitals info pages!
Very on point for our family right now ☺️ our baby is about to turn 6 months old and I'm about to get back to work, and the night feedings and wakes have got to stop... Although, we're kinda lucky as he'll go to sleep really well and by himself. But inevitably he wakes up, sometimes up to 5x/night. Goes right back to sleep after breastfeeding but still. I guess sleep is the n*1 question for families, I feel less alone in this 😅
My baby didn't even take naps ... he was not ready to sleep train but at 11 Months, I am gently working on it. Every child is different and so is their story .
I've seen the "awake to sleep" suggestion so often, but both my babies would absolutely not fall asleep again after being woken and put into bed, away from me. I always wonder how the heck it works for others 🙈
I put my girl into her crib awake. And I let her self soothe her self to sleep. That's how the awake to sleep works. Not letting them fall asleep on you first.
Sage didnt do it right away at first. We had some cries and did the gentle sleep training with Lily and got to a point that we could do the awake to sleep with very little crying or at all.
We did Pick Up Put Down method but it took about 2 weeks until we got him to fall asleep on his own. We started this around 6 months and it can be really frustrating at first but it gets better, you just need to stick with it I think
I just want to say Thankyou! Navigating sleep is soo hard as a new parent and i love how you explain each tip and trick so well. Definitely will try some of these out and hopefully I can get my little one to fall asleep!
Haha same here. When i see babies falling asleep on their own it is such a shocking thing i immediately text my husband to tell him. Hopefully one day it will happen to us too
This is just to clarify and I’m not saying this to judge Nikole at all, but her daughter puts herself to sleep because of the sleep training, which “teaches” babies how to fall asleep independently. Without it, most babies can’t put themselves to sleep without parental support, and that support is totally normal and natural. All babies learn to put themselves to sleep naturally in their own time, so please don’t feel like there’s anything wrong because your babies don’t sleep independently just yet 💕
@@giselle_b i struggled initially with this a lot but luckily with a lot of nice instagram pages who tell all the details about what is normal baby sleep & how it happens eventually on baby’s own time helped me overcome this. Now i just live in the moment & consider everything to be a phase. My son is definitely getting better each month
@@abeerasif8276 exactly the same here, also struggled in the beginning but all the phases were temporary and my baby sleeps much better now at 10 months.
I think sleep topic is very sensitive to parents. Some parents who Co-sleep or choose to avoid any form of sleep training and attend their child 20 times at night judge the parents who choose sleep training and actually get sleep 😂 And some parents who follow any form of sleep training and follow a more disciplined routine tend to judge the other types of parents who just go with the flow or get defensive and tend to justify why they do it Chill guys no one really cares what ur doing at home. If ur interested in the video then watch it, if it’s not ur cup of tea then search for a different video. STOP HATING!
Solid tips for all, though sleep training does not work for us as a method, we just have a different mindset and a different baby. 🤷♀️ You really are such an amazing mom, I have to say I do not know how you do the WFH with a toddler around 24/7, hats of really. 🙌 Love your videos,have stumbled upon your channel whilw my baby was sleeping in my arms during a nap and have been looking forward to your videos for a year now. Really love your content and everything you do for Sage, you really are an inspiration. I just have a qq as I've always been wondering - with the sleep training you did what happends during the night if she wakes up and is upset and can't put herself back to sleep - do you come get her or no?
Someone here says it could not be true that “baby” is sleeping for 12 hours and Nicole is lying or so …. Just want to let you know I have no reason to lie here and I have a baby boy now 17 months and slept 12 hours long time now it’s 11 hours and 2 to 3 hours nap so it is possible if you find tips and routine which works for you and baby.. also someone says it is not ok to let them sleep 12 hours - why???? So u waking a baby up and that’s normal???? I really don’t understand some comment doesn’t make any sense sorry Maybe it was some moms who are envying … I have no other explanation
I think I missed the perfect stage for sleep training my son because of teething a cold and then an ear infection. He is now 14 months and we are still struggling... As soon as he seems to be on somewhat of a schedule it's switched... We have a great bedtime routine, aside from he cannot put himself to sleep! The biggest factor in my book... I'm afraid there is no solution for us that isn't going to be a little traumatic for all involved ...
You still can, just babies become more resistant as they age. Do you like to read?. The books by ferber and mark weissbluth are life changing on sleep training. They list all possible causes what you must be doing wrong and why it's not working. Even they have age specific suggestions and many use cases. Yoy would even know how baby psychology works. So get them.
Hi Nikole, may I ask if you are worried about thumb sucking for too long? I know parents who struggled with getting their children off the thumb since the thumb is always there...we introduced the pacifier due to this reason, thinking that the pacifier can dissapear at a certain point. But our babygirl is still trying to suck on her fist as well...Thank you!
I’m not because it’s a way for her to self soothe without a pacifier, nipple or bottle and she only does it briefly as she doses off to sleep. She doesn’t do it during the day or the whole time she’s sleeping so luckily I think we’ll be in the clear
I'm going away this weekend and I'm worried about the complete change of routing for my little one she's 1, we will be going out for some later dinner etc, any tips? ❤
All I can think of is bring food or make food for baby so she can eat at her regular dinner time. My toddler gets upset when hungry. If she is sleepy, we always bring a carrier so that in case she wants to sleep, she can hang in there or sleep while adults chat and do their thing. Husband will be the "carrier" at this age 😊
Also good books to get that aren't long and if your baby grabs them they won't rip : the Joyce wan board books! I got the entire collection. The book good night sweetie is Eros favorite ❤️🥰
U reminding me when my son was boring years back then he didt sleep up to 5am haha 😄 once I nodded off on his rocking cradle and woke up next day with pain on my chest because I pushed on my muscle too long in one position haha 😄 someone asked maybe I drinked alot of coffee haha coffee reduces magnesium haha
Can you send me the link where you buy that teddy bear ? Want my 11 month to start that habit cause he enjoys something that’s close to his face and might help for bedtime
Just last night my baby ate at 10:50 pm and went to sleep. I thought “oh good she will sleep much longer and I can sleep in.” NOPE she woke up twice in the middle of the night loll!
My 5-month old baby recently learned how to roll on his tummy. However now he does it even when he is sleeping- he sort of rolls on his tummy half- asleep which wakes him up and he starts crying. He woke up about 7 times last night. Any ideas what to do? I tried rolling him back on his back, sometimes he will fall back to sleep, sometimes not. But still, he wakes me up and I am quite exhausted the next day.
It's quite normaln for this to happe when they reach a new milestone. mine did the same, but they get used to it, it just takes some time for not to surprise them anymore :)
Not throughout the night but before bed, when she wakes up and during the day. We always have a water available for her to grab and reach if she’s thirsty outside of milk
It may be best to wait until she is 18 months before trying to night wean. My son has been nursed to sleep and still nurses through the night at 17 months. We plan to night wean at 18 months. We read the book “Nursies when the sun rises” every night right now to help prepare him. Toddlers develops a ton more understanding between 12 and 18 months. Starting a bedtime routine (if you don’t have one) is great though and introducing a lovie!
Its never too late to sleep train! My son only slept on the boob until he was 1. Then I decided to sleep trained him and it changed my life. He started sleeping through the night and doing great naps :)
I think it’s important to mention that not all babies will sleep 12h. My girl is 1 year old. She sleeps good, but her night is 10h and she has 1,5h nap. And that’s normal for her
Please do your research before “gently” sleep training your child. Any form of sleep training is, in fact, ignoring your child’s cry for help. Wake ups have a purpose, for little ones. SIDS prevention being one. Sleep is developmental, not something that can be taught. Look into biologically normal infant sleep. To each their own, Nikole’s content is still great and I am going to keep following. But please don’t base something as important as your baby’s sleep on a UA-cam video.
that's what my pediatrician said also..it is normal/natural for babies or toddlers to cry because it means they need help or need your attention of something and it shouldn't be ignored.. our kids will eventually grow, they don't stay babies forever..we should shower them with our love ❤️💕🤱
I think it's just the wording she used that's not accurate. She didn't "teach" Sage, but provided the opportunity for Sage to learn in a safe loving environment. There are cries for help and cries just because. I'm never one to just let my baby cry but I listen to her "tone" carefully and know when she is asking for me or just wants to yell for 30 seconds. Those sleeps with the "last stand", as we call it, typically end up being her best. I think of it as providing an opportunity for her to learn. I don't want to rob my baby of an opportunity for growth as long as it isn't causing her stress. If I pick her up when her tone isn't saying pick me up she actually gets more upset and wants to be put back down. She was confident working it out on her own I just got in her way. I nurse her to sleep every time and make sure I'm attentive and respond to her every need in the day. I make sure to listen closely to what she is actually saying with her body language and tone of cry. I don't think it has to be either or. Your baby will tell you what to do if you listen.
Well if sleep is not something you can teach my baby is out of this world lol, she sleeps 12 hours at night at 4 months and I slept trained her, babies do not know how to fall sleep,you can have babies at 2 years old that still wake up throughout the night, if moms are ok with that that’s fine but I couldn’t function and I taught my baby, she goes to sleep on her own at 4 months awake in the crib wakes up once at night before she used wake up 4,5,6 times and this is the best decision I could’ve ever made!
Everything was great up until the “gentle” sleep training. I challenge anyone to post a video about how their infant sleeps 12 hours WITHOUT sleep training. The word “gentle” is clearly there to make the parent feel better, but let’s be honest, you let your baby cry to sleep. Babies are supposed to wake up during the night, and as you recognized yourself, she still wakes up during the night. The only difference is that now she knows no one will come for her, so she learned to ignore her instincts. So is she really having a better sleep? Or is she just not bothering you about it anymore? Studies show that sleep trained babies wake at night just as often, if not more, than babies who are not sleep trained. People need to be realistic about infant sleep and stop trying to put the adult needs above their babies. This is no shade to you, Nicole, but more to our culture.
Thank you for saying this!! It’s so well said! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 our western culture pits so much pressure on babies/toddlers to sleep “right” and creates a lot of false expectations for parents (and a lot of frustration). Also, the baby sleep industry is a huge money maker preying on desperate parents. I would discourage anyone from buying any sleep program or sleep coaching.
How and why are you assuming she let her baby cry? My son started sleeping through the night at 7 weeks on his own without sleep training, and now at 18 months still sleeping through the night. Everyone parents differently. Try supporting parents instead of bringing them down.
@@tjb7283 I don’t think the original commenter was trying to bring Nikole down. Most of us here love and appreciate her content and that’s why we’re here. Also, it’s none of our business how she chooses to parent her daughter or what works for her in terms of sleep, but this video is intended to provide advice to Nikole’s many followers, and the last tip being sleep training serves to perpetuate the sleep training industry’s controversial practices that cause new parents so much stress and anxiety and is often at odds with biologically normal infant sleep. I experienced the stress caused by such detrimental advice when I became a mom 9 months ago, until I followed my instincts and did what worked best for my baby and my family and tossed the sleep training narrative out of the window. I’m not an exception and many new parents feel exactly the way I do, and that’s why we’re trying to voice our concerns and speak out that sleep training is not the only option or solution to babies’ sleep challenges, as the sleep training industry would want you to believe. And to answer your question, she mentions that the consultant taught her how to distinguish between the different types of cries, which means there was crying involved, and sleep training needs a week or longer of crying to start working. Again to each their own and it’s Nikole’s business how she handles her baby’s sleep, but when her method is given as advice or a hack for everyone, people have the right to respond to it, and it’s not hate or “bringing down” by any means.
مرحبا ياصديقى كيف حالك أتمنى أن تكون بصحة شكرا لمشاركة مدونه المحتوى الرائع الخاص بك لقد أستمتعت بالمشاهدة👍قناتك جميلة تستحق الدعم الفديو ابقى على اتصال تمنياتى لك بالنجاح والتوفيق حفظك الله ورعاك ياصديقى
Please check the work of doctors Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate. They are Canadian doctors who are experts in child development and follow evidence based practices, and they caution against sleep training in any form. Their studies have shown that sleep training harms the attachment between infant and parent. They dedicated their careers to studying child development, so their word should be more trusted than any so-called sleep consultant who take their knowledge from outdated non-evidence based courses that are not regulated by any governing body. Both doctors have books that can be purchased anywhere and also a lot of lectures and interviews on youtube if anyone is interested.
Can we please normalize normal infant & toddler wakings? 12 hours of sleep is not normal biologically & ST babies still wake up, they just aren’t calling out because they have learned their cries aren’t responded to. Most babies are hungry during the night, 12 hours is way too long to go without food or drink in their tiny bodies. This really breaks my heart that this is sleep training culture is becoming normalized, when it is not normal & goes against our natural paternal instincts.
I'm sorry, but it's completely normal for little ones to sleep 12 hours at night. When my daughter was around 1.5 years old, she started sleeping 10-12 hours at night without waking. There was no crying and when there was, I always responded because it usually meant something was wrong (poopy diaper). I took my cues from her and if she didn't wake up throughout the night then I wasn't about to go wake her up just to see if she was hungry. Every baby/toddler is different and you shouldn't criticize someone for sharing their sleep hacks that worked for their little one. Also, did you even watch the video? Her hacks are very useful and mentioned nothing about ignoring your babies cries or letting them go hungry. She even said she didn't like the cry it out method which is why she chose not to use it.
My baby started sleeping 12 hours straight at 3 months without a feed. Now she is 7 months and when she screams at night I know she needs a feed and I get up to feed her. About once a week. Babies know what they need and every baby is different.
I didn't sleep for 4 months. My baby hardly slept and i almost went mad. I picked Ferber book on sleep training and mark weissbluths book, they are both doctors any have done years of research on sleeping. If you read those you would know how much sleep is essential for a baby, if not it can affect their brain development, social activities etc. I implemented ferber and my life changed, my baby changed from this always fussy to best baby ever. But ya so many bashed us, my in laws etc etc. But who cares if it's good for your baby, you will have to do it. For those who tried and failed, dont loose heart. Read these books because they list what you are doing wrong. If your child says they want to go on a cycle ride without helmet, would you let them, even if they cry? Because it's not safe. Similarly proper sleep is essential for healthy growth. And remember the more you wait, the more difficult it will get
Nobody is ripping her apart. It’s great that those hacks work for Nikole but this video is also intended to provide hacks for people to use, so viewers are allowed to respectfully disagree and inform that there are other ways of handling baby sleep. Sleep training is a controversial topic, and much of the advice provided by sleep training culture causes anxiety and stress to new parents, and you can see it’s parents like those who are voicing their opinions and also facts about sleep training. There’s maybe one rude comment that I see and it’s not even about baby sleep, the rest are all respectful. Why is it seen as hate when we disagree? Especially about something as baby sleep where there is so much conflicting information, others have to share that in order for viewers to know that sleep training is the not only option, and that they should do their own research to make an informed decision about something so important before following advice simply because it worked for somebody else.
Babies are supposed to wake up. This is to nurse, get love and comfort. Adults don't sleep through, why would babies. Babies also wake to help them prevent SIDS. If they sleep for 12 hours and don't nurse or get a bottle, I feel terribly sorry for that child. It's bad advice to give moms
For anyone reading this who has a baby who takes a little (or a lot) longer to sleep through- sonetimes you do everything right and they just aren't ready. We followed all the advice for baby 1 and she took 18 months +. She also couldn't be put down for the first 6 months. She was just that kind of baby. My second was chill and she slept through at 8 months. Every baby is different. People told us "we do x y z and our baby sleeps through" but we did all the same things. Some babies are good sleepers.
thanks ! Important comment!
Exactly
Thank you, 19 month old here and still waking multiple times for feeds.
@@dawnforlife ❤️
@@dawnforlife how much does she eat during night feeds? If it's less than 90ml might be something else that is waking her up and not hunger...
Hi just want to say my baby has been sleeping 12 hours at night since she was 3 months and that’s just who she is and I’m extremely lucky. Some things help, like having a consistent bedtime routine. Most of it is the baby, however. It’s just luck. If your baby isn’t sleeping through the night at 3, 6, 9, 12 months, it’s not you, it’s your baby. Do whatever you can to meet their needs. Trust your gut.
Yes! I kept a schedule for my baby since birth and she's so good at sleeping at night.
I completely agree! Tips and tricks help but each kiddo is so different. It’s not cause = effect. These videos help for ideas. Our kids are like little experiments 😆
@@chocolatelover4695 yeah so have we and she went from sleeping through the night very early up to the first 6 months of her life, to now (12 Months old) waking up hourly or even more often in really bad nights.. she is doing everything by the book she is supposed to for good night sleep and she is confirmed healthy by the doc. Unfortunately the routine is not the magic solution for everyone.
You’re such a great mom! Helping your daughter become an independent sleeper will definitely improve her independence in the long run. I wish my parents did this with me. They would have slept more and fought less.... I wouldn’t have been so terrified of being alone as I got older and older. Definitely going to do assisted sleep training with my children :)
I'm so glad my baby is not an early riser lol! She goes to bed around 11 pm and wakes up at 10 am. It works wonderfully for us. Bed sharing has been the key for us
Raised 6 kids that are all now grown and have to say every single thing Nikole said is bang on to teach your child to be a good sleeper. Like breastfeeding, sleep is something you and baby need to learn together and it takes time to create a good routine and habits. Just on the stuffie or blankie (comfort object) make sure if you are having 2 to alternate them regularly because Baby loves the smell of the comfort object and will surely notice if you replace it with one that doesn't smell right. Also the overnight nappy we would put an overnight sanitary pad in the nappy to last 12hrs but sizing up is perfect. Great advice Nikole 👍
Just wanted to comment to say you're a great mom and doing an amazing job!! We all have to do what's right for us and our family! Sage seems like such a sweet and happy little peanut and she's so lucky to have you and Matt! I LOVE your videos and you have given me so much confidence as a mama to do the best I can with my little boy! Thank you so much for everything you do to try to shed light and help all us mama's out! ❤️
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I followed you during my pregnancy and you were so good to watch for ideas for baby and motherhood (sometimes advice from friends and family is too opinionated or close for comfort). Our baby girl is 3 months tomorrow and has naturally gotten into this most nights, so we're just waiting on the possible sleep regression to see what happens next. She's only a small day napper and is very excited by everything which we love (and is ahead of her game, which shows it's all up for interpretation). I was surprised by the 12 hour video when I first watched, it seemed negative (in UK culture), until Ophelia, our baby, started to do it. She nearly wakes for feeds when she needs them, she gives us cues in her sleep (I'm told by everyone I know with babies or kids that this is rare). I know everyone's different but it's good that your video housed discussions to it, whatever parents' belief systems people hold. Don't let people get you down, like you say, everyone is doing what is best for their kids. I'm really grateful for your mum videos, they're refreshing 🥰💗☺️
Ps. I also get the mental health side from my past, kudos to you getting through it and continuing filming/working/being a solid mum and partner! 👍🏼
Love it! These tips will be so helpful to some moms!
My kid is like, the opposite😅 she nurses to sleep every time, her bedtime is 11pm and she sleeps till 11am (which was on purpose due to our work schedules) she was sleeping 8 hours straight by 2 months and it was AMAZING! We did keep a strict dinner/bath/book/bed routine from like month 1 tho!
Sleep sacks, comfy jammies, dark rooms and sound machines are clutch!
The sleep course was great! highly recommend! Our baby is now sleeping 12 hours and napping independently. We are all more rested and in better moods! Thank you for the suggestion
I’m genuinely surprised anyone would say anything negative about this? Really sound and solid tips🙏🏻 Love this video!
We got a Slumberpod (a blackout tent) and it makes traveling with a baby SO MUCH BETTER. We've been in shared rooms and we can have the lights on and she can sleep undisturbed.
Bedsharing has been amazing for me and my third baby. She’s 5 months old now and wakes up a few times during the night to nurse but goes right back to sleep, I have never felt so rested after having a baby! I can’t imagine not bedsharing but eventually I’d like to transition her to a crib.🥰
I wonder if it would have the same effect if the baby was formula fed instead of breastfed?
@@purplecowmovement7677 I bedshare and formula feed
19 months and still waking multiple times and bed sharing. For me, it was still really tough around 5 months as she needed to be burped and took forever. Now, it is much easier and goes right back.
Saaaaame.
Did your lo transition to the crib
Hi Nicole. Thank you very much for choosing this topic. I have been working with many children throughout my life and can say that all of them are different. When majority are good sleepers, there are certainly some who need support with having a good sleep routine. The sleep therapist are therefore of a great help. It makes a huge difference for a child to be guided with their sleep and gives them their energy back. Not even mentioning the effect on the rest of the family and peers if they attend nursery setting. Please, can you invite a speech therapist in your videos, as I have burning questions and would appreciate having a professional’s opinion too. Once again, my gratitude for choosing real topic for real life experiences.
My baby is due is October and I’m so thankful for all your videos!
How does this video not have more likes?! Great take on this sometimes divisive subject, Nikole! You’re a beautiful mama and I’m so glad I found your channel before having my first baby! 😊❤️
Omg same.
Nicole, this is all gold!!! Pretty much exactly what we have done for our 3.5 year old and 15 month old. The reading… totally agree we read to my oldest since he was born and now at 3.5 hrs old it’s our favorite time of the day. We all get in his bed and read few books , snuggle and kisses. Best times ❤️
I’m in the middle of month 5 and feeling these struggles! Waking up every few hours at night and really working to implement these tips to encourage healthy sleeping practices! Thanks.
I hope they help! They seriously saved me and I knew I needed to share them all in one video.
This is the most timely video! We were discussing this morning that we need to start putting our 8 month old to bed earlier to get him to sleep longer! So counterintuitive!
Let me know how it goes!
I started a routine literally as soon as we came home and everyone thought I was insane. Idk what people think a routine is or why they think it's so hard but I do know for me it helped I started right off the bat. Every single night at 6:00 I began a routine. I would get him ready for bed, fresh diaper and massage every night. Sometimes it's a longer more intense massage but I always rub him down with lavender lotion and then put on jammies.. and then I would spray lavender essential oil spray in the room. We pick 1-3 books to read and cuddle up with the books and I read them. Then I turn on the sound maching and hand him his bottle and it's night out ❤️ He's always slept good! But he's starting to wake up with what seems to be night terrors! So that's stressful to me! Anyone else experiencing that?? He's about to be 1 on may 5th ❤️
I love using lavender as well to wind everyone down. Routine is everything!
I discovered your channel when i got pregant 9 months ago im due a c section on the 4th and honestly i love and have binge watched all your videos.. thank you so much for sharing all your tips and being honest because life isnt always perfect and you show very raw truths and i love it ❤️ thank you
Thank you for following along xo Im so grateful for this amazing mommy community
Hey Nikole! Thanks for all the tips! You’re an amazing, loving Mum and I hope you keep doing what you’re doing. Remind yourself that haters are only projecting their own lives at you and their opinion of you and your life has nothing to do with you nor do you have any control over it. Our opinions are entirely based around our own personal experiences and trauma, controlling how we perceive things regardless of the reality so try not to let it get to you x
If that doesn’t reassure you, babies at Sage’s age are generally developmentally able to sleep through the night without needing a feed so do not let people say you’re neglecting your child’s needs because that is simply not true. Plus, you’ve obviously put a lot of care and consideration into Sage’s needs when implementing a night time routine and sleep training so neglect is far from your reality as a parent. Some people are so dramatic with their words.
One last thing: whatever is considered “normal”, ie people referring to babies waking up through the night, does not directly correlate to what is healthy. It also used to be “normal” for cots to have bumpers but we know now that it increases the risk of SIDS. So forget normal and continue to listen to your own baby’s needs as attentively as you are and do what you feel is best for Sage and your family.
Hopefully this reassured you even a little, and maybe even some other Mums in the comments too. I’m so grateful for your videos and hope you continue making them! Thanks so much from us here in Australia ❤️
You are my favorite UA-camr because I feel like I relate to you so much as a mom. I also love seeing your realistic family routine/schedule while traveling full time. It’s inspired me to travel even more with my family!
Hi Nikole! Thx for all the tips! I wonder if you could do a bed time routine vlog? I have an almost 5 month old and we r struggling...
I have some night time routines and 24 hours with a newborn, 6 month and crawling baby on my channel you can check out! I'll do an updated one soon though :)
YES! On the bedtime routine & the song before bed. As soon as I start singing “Twinkle Twinkle” my little one pops her thumb in her mouth and knows that it’s time to sleep. I can only second all of these tips.
Its the small things!
Wow that's great. My first did not want to be put down in the crib in spite of song, routine etc My second did. Some are better sleepers and more indepependent than others.
I'm surprised you had a lot of criticism for this video. You weren't even that in-depth (like a specific how to on how to sleep train) and you didn't even say anything controversial (not that you needed to be in-depth! I know this was great tips you've found! I also agree the awake to sleep is a good tip I've read and didn't know about before but makes sense and my favorite tip was the buttery soft pajamas and how switching from day clothes to night clothes is important which I didn't think about and I have not read anywhere for babies (just adults lol) but makes sense and I'm going to do that now). Every thing you said is in line with that I've read. Maybe because you weren't that in-depth people just started making up "child trauma" in their mind and came with a judgmental heart. Love getting to know you and your family through your videos! Thank you!
Your videos in the past encouraged me to sleep train and I’m glad you continue to post about it as it helps so many parents. Thankful for moms like you who are so vulnerable to put yourself out there. I am so thankful that I sleep trained, and there is actual clinical evidence that sleep training does not affect a child’s growth and development and actually can improve it. I love your content and hope the uneducated vultures don’t make you second guess yourself when you put yourself out there with parenting!
So nice to see that somebody went through the same.. Chloe (our daughter) is 3,5 months and I believe she is experiencing sleep regression. She is taking ONLY short naps during the day, she is falling asleep ONLY if I rock her (daddy’s rocking doesn’t work) and she is up frequently. I feel like going backwards (as you said in one of the videos).. 🥹🥹
How did you start putting her to sleep awake?
If I put her in the crib awake, she will just cry her lungs out..
My son did something similar where he would only take short 20 or 30 minute naps around 5-6 months old. We stretched his wake windows (kept him awake for longer periods between naps) and he went back to taking longer naps. I hope this helps you 😊
Parenting is such a delicate balance. Thank you for sharing.
My 19-month-old still wakes up every two hours in the night (sometimes more). There is absolutely no way I could put her down awake, she just jumps up in her cot and up and down screaming And I would never leave her to cry. She absolutely refuses to sleep in a cot so she’s in bed with us but she still wakes constantly. We never dealt with sleep regressions because there is nothing to regress from LOL her sleep is always just been permanently awful. I’ve tried absolutely everything from a really strict routine to no routine, I spent hundreds of pounds on sleep consultants and osteopath appointment absolutely nothing works unfortunately. Some kids are just bad sleepers And sleep is developmental sometimes they just need time. X
Give her some benadril
Hello mom. Love the video! Thank you! What’s temperature do you keep in your baby’s room?
Hello! Thank you for this! My baby is 5.5 mos and I’m trying to implement better sleep habits. I think we’re on our way to better night time sleep but he also will only sleep on me for naps. What is your routine for naps? Is it the same or shortened? Would love some tips for nap time😊
So happy she is sleeping good! Great video!
12 hours at night and 3 during the day makes her above average (which is 11-14 hours sleep for the whole day for babies between 1-2 years according to the American Academy of Pediatrics) it shouldn't be the expectation for all babies (I know nobody says it is). Good for you.
Yes! Baby “sleep culture” would say this is normal, but it’s not. Some babies need more sleep than others. Definitely creates a false expectation for parents.
I'm sure Sage is not such a perfect sleeper as Nicole says she is. Sometimes Nicole approaches videos like a sales person...
Came here to mention this too.
My daughter at about 1 y.o. sleeps 11.5 hours maximum over 24h, so there's no way she can sleep for 12 just at night. And we never had naps over 1.5h as well. And even that usually leads to her waking up at night all bright and ready to play 🙈
So it's 10-10.5h at night + 30-50 mins naps for us and there's not much that can be done about it, whether or not I pay a sleep consultant 🤷🏻♀️
There's a very wide window of normal for sleep.
I feel like someone needs to say this…. People always try to pitch and sell something or make a video out of it BUT the reality is if your baby isn’t sleeping… nothing u do will make them sleep 12 hours… thats a large chunk of time, they need to be ready for that. And guess what? When my son finally started sleeping 12 hours, I did nothing, he did that all on his own!
Yes!!
Some babies yes. But some babies need a little help to figure it all out. The truth is if baby isn’t ready, nothing will make it so. But if baby is ready, sometimes they need a little help to get there.
@@thepicgamerOHIO 100% agree with you
I really think working with a sleep consultant brings so much awareness on the tons of information and studies they have to share to help you teach kids how to sleep. It’s a habit they learn just like everything else and just like starting solids, building correct sleeping habits goes a long way. That’s why we have adults who just can’t sleep or have sleeping problems , it goes back to some of the poor sleeping habits they picked up right from birth! It’s a really interesting topic and so much studies are done to help us learn and teach our babies sleep!
And no I’m not referring to cry it out methods, babies don’t have to cry to learn to sleep especially if you start from early on
When it comes to making sure not to skip dinner, even if we’re getting home late and kiddo is eating close to or after bed time, do you wait a certain amount of time to let her food settle before putting her to bed?
I’m also wondering when is a good time to transition to a toddler bed. I’ve read that could happen anytime after about 18 months. I would love to hear your thoughts on that and what your plans are for Sage if she’s still sleeping in a crib. What are the signs of readiness you might look for?
Thank you 🙏🏼 💗
Can you do a video on how you transitioned Sage to 1 nap?
Awesome tips ! Thank you so much for sharing with us . I was just curious , how long is sages wake window from her last nap until bedtime ?
About 4 hours!
@@HealthNutNutrition and how long do you let her sleep while her naps ? Do you wait for her to wake up or do you wake her up after some time ? Your tips are great, I’m due in august and I can’t wait to use those tips for real haha
Please can you share the pajamas type or where you buy.your such an inspiring mum to us.
My LO is 16 months and I've been struggling with the 1 nap transition for 4 months! Can you share you current schedule for naps/ dinner and bedtime pls
Yes but let’s keep in mind wake ups are normal until 24 months! And they do have a purpose. Risks of SIDS rise when babies sleep longer. So when they are little, they are supposed to wake up.
Yes and it all depends on the baby.
Where are you getting this info? Asking because I’m 37 weeks pregnant and this is contradictory to what I’ve been reading.
@@courtneyc17 Look up Lyndsey Hookway, Rachael from Hey Sleep Baby and Michelle from Babies and Brains
@@courtneyc17 I also followed sleep training accounts when I was pregnant and got most of my info from them, but after my baby was born, I found most of their info doesn’t represent what is normal, at least for my baby, and that it went against my instincts as a mother. They also put so much pressure on parents to do things in certains ways, making you feel like you’re doing it all wrong if you do things differently, even if what you do works for you. The names I mentioned above support biologically normal infant sleep, and give information that make sense and support your journey as you navigate and learn the best ways to support your baby in his/her sleep.
@@courtneyc17 I can definitely find the links, I can’t remember if it was American pediatrics association website or something off of my hospitals info pages!
Very on point for our family right now ☺️ our baby is about to turn 6 months old and I'm about to get back to work, and the night feedings and wakes have got to stop... Although, we're kinda lucky as he'll go to sleep really well and by himself. But inevitably he wakes up, sometimes up to 5x/night. Goes right back to sleep after breastfeeding but still. I guess sleep is the n*1 question for families, I feel less alone in this 😅
My baby didn't even take naps ... he was not ready to sleep train but at 11 Months, I am gently working on it. Every child is different and so is their story .
Hey!!! Just a quick question! Is this sleep routine for the nap during the day as well as the sleep at night? Xx
I've seen the "awake to sleep" suggestion so often, but both my babies would absolutely not fall asleep again after being woken and put into bed, away from me. I always wonder how the heck it works for others 🙈
Same here! I tried and tried, mine just freaked out and screamed bloody murder
I put my girl into her crib awake. And I let her self soothe her self to sleep. That's how the awake to sleep works. Not letting them fall asleep on you first.
Some babies need more help with falling asleep and that’s ok!
Sage didnt do it right away at first. We had some cries and did the gentle sleep training with Lily and got to a point that we could do the awake to sleep with very little crying or at all.
We did Pick Up Put Down method but it took about 2 weeks until we got him to fall asleep on his own. We started this around 6 months and it can be really frustrating at first but it gets better, you just need to stick with it I think
Hi Nikole, where did you get the pajamas from?
I just want to say Thankyou! Navigating sleep is soo hard as a new parent and i love how you explain each tip and trick so well. Definitely will try some of these out and hopefully I can get my little one to fall asleep!
What were the cozy pajamas that you mentioned? I didn’t see the link? Thanks!
FTM here - sorry if I missed it in case you mentioned it but at what age is this 12hour sleep feasible?
Thankyou Nicole😍ur hacks r always superb nd very much helpful 🥰
Great Job 😍
Thank you for this video😍😍😍
I have watched this 3 times already, I just cannot get over how she puts herself to sleep. This has never happened to me ever.....wow
Haha same here. When i see babies falling asleep on their own it is such a shocking thing i immediately text my husband to tell him. Hopefully one day it will happen to us too
This is just to clarify and I’m not saying this to judge Nikole at all, but her daughter puts herself to sleep because of the sleep training, which “teaches” babies how to fall asleep independently. Without it, most babies can’t put themselves to sleep without parental support, and that support is totally normal and natural. All babies learn to put themselves to sleep naturally in their own time, so please don’t feel like there’s anything wrong because your babies don’t sleep independently just yet 💕
@@giselle_b i struggled initially with this a lot but luckily with a lot of nice instagram pages who tell all the details about what is normal baby sleep & how it happens eventually on baby’s own time helped me overcome this. Now i just live in the moment & consider everything to be a phase. My son is definitely getting better each month
@@abeerasif8276 exactly the same here, also struggled in the beginning but all the phases were temporary and my baby sleeps much better now at 10 months.
Do people who sleep Train their kids do night time snuggles?
I think sleep topic is very sensitive to parents.
Some parents who Co-sleep or choose to avoid any form of sleep training and attend their child 20 times at night judge the parents who choose sleep training and actually get sleep 😂
And some parents who follow any form of sleep training and follow a more disciplined routine tend to judge the other types of parents who just go with the flow or get defensive and tend to justify why they do it
Chill guys no one really cares what ur doing at home. If ur interested in the video then watch it, if it’s not ur cup of tea then search for a different video. STOP HATING!
❤❤❤❤ thanks !!
Nikole, how did you stop breastfeeding Sage at night? I suppose you did, Lilly helped you with that during the sleep training or how? Thanks!
thanks for your video! how did you stop breastfeeding at night?
You always have great content. Have you ever thought about writing a book based on some of this content? Maybe putting your most popular vlogs in it?
Solid tips for all, though sleep training does not work for us as a method, we just have a different mindset and a different baby. 🤷♀️
You really are such an amazing mom, I have to say I do not know how you do the WFH with a toddler around 24/7, hats of really. 🙌 Love your videos,have stumbled upon your channel whilw my baby was sleeping in my arms during a nap and have been looking forward to your videos for a year now. Really love your content and everything you do for Sage, you really are an inspiration.
I just have a qq as I've always been wondering - with the sleep training you did what happends during the night if she wakes up and is upset and can't put herself back to sleep - do you come get her or no?
Someone here says it could not be true that “baby” is sleeping for 12 hours and Nicole is lying or so …. Just want to let you know I have no reason to lie here and I have a baby boy now 17 months and slept 12 hours long time now it’s 11 hours and 2 to 3 hours nap so it is possible if you find tips and routine which works for you and baby.. also someone says it is not ok to let them sleep 12 hours - why???? So u waking a baby up and that’s normal???? I really don’t understand some comment doesn’t make any sense sorry
Maybe it was some moms who are envying … I have no other explanation
Agreed l raised 6!!! All slept 12hrs
Good Hacks Nikole!! I'm Very Glad It Helps Baby Sage!!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️
I think I missed the perfect stage for sleep training my son because of teething a cold and then an ear infection. He is now 14 months and we are still struggling... As soon as he seems to be on somewhat of a schedule it's switched... We have a great bedtime routine, aside from he cannot put himself to sleep! The biggest factor in my book... I'm afraid there is no solution for us that isn't going to be a little traumatic for all involved ...
You still can, just babies become more resistant as they age. Do you like to read?. The books by ferber and mark weissbluth are life changing on sleep training. They list all possible causes what you must be doing wrong and why it's not working. Even they have age specific suggestions and many use cases. Yoy would even know how baby psychology works. So get them.
Can you link where you purchased your little 2-piece yoga outfit? I saw it in one of your last videos.
Babies don't self soothe, they just stop coming to you when you stop responding
Hi Nikole, may I ask if you are worried about thumb sucking for too long? I know parents who struggled with getting their children off the thumb since the thumb is always there...we introduced the pacifier due to this reason, thinking that the pacifier can dissapear at a certain point. But our babygirl is still trying to suck on her fist as well...Thank you!
I’m not because it’s a way for her to self soothe without a pacifier, nipple or bottle and she only does it briefly as she doses off to sleep. She doesn’t do it during the day or the whole time she’s sleeping so luckily I think we’ll be in the clear
🌙 thank you for this video😍
I'm going away this weekend and I'm worried about the complete change of routing for my little one she's 1, we will be going out for some later dinner etc, any tips? ❤
All I can think of is bring food or make food for baby so she can eat at her regular dinner time. My toddler gets upset when hungry. If she is sleepy, we always bring a carrier so that in case she wants to sleep, she can hang in there or sleep while adults chat and do their thing. Husband will be the "carrier" at this age 😊
Nicole, where is your beautiful oil diffuser from please? 🙂
Also good books to get that aren't long and if your baby grabs them they won't rip : the Joyce wan board books! I got the entire collection. The book good night sweetie is Eros favorite ❤️🥰
I’ll check them out! I love board books
@@HealthNutNutrition yes I think you'll appreciate them for sure! Wish I could show you a pic but yes look them up! They are super cute!
U reminding me when my son was boring years back then he didt sleep up to 5am haha 😄 once I nodded off on his rocking cradle and woke up next day with pain on my chest because I pushed on my muscle too long in one position haha 😄 someone asked maybe I drinked alot of coffee haha coffee reduces magnesium haha
Sorry if I missed it but what time do you put her down for her nap?
Nap time is 12:30pm sometimes 12 if she woke up a bit earlier and she’ll sleep for about 2-2.5 hours
🌙 thank you this is very helpful 👌🏼
Never happens to me. This sounds too easy. my 11 month baby still cries. This lady is just lucky.
I’m not pregnant but I love this video. Where were you 13 years ago. Lol.
Can you send me the link where you buy that teddy bear ? Want my 11 month to start that habit cause he enjoys something that’s close to his face and might help for bedtime
Everything is linked in my blog post! Check the info box 🥰
I don’t see it :(
@@HealthNutNutrition please if you can link it to me :) I don’t see it on the description
Just last night my baby ate at 10:50 pm and went to sleep. I thought “oh good she will sleep much longer and I can sleep in.” NOPE she woke up twice in the middle of the night loll!
My little one sleep but she wake up 30 min to 1 hour later, and then 2 to 3 hours passed she Don't want to sleep. What to do?
My 5-month old baby recently learned how to roll on his tummy. However now he does it even when he is sleeping- he sort of rolls on his tummy half- asleep which wakes him up and he starts crying. He woke up about 7 times last night. Any ideas what to do? I tried rolling him back on his back, sometimes he will fall back to sleep, sometimes not. But still, he wakes me up and I am quite exhausted the next day.
It's quite normaln for this to happe when they reach a new milestone. mine did the same, but they get used to it, it just takes some time for not to surprise them anymore :)
Thank you! It's a relief that I'm not the only one who has this problem a that it will solve itself.
hi I didn't see night book recommendations in the description as was promised in the video
They are linked in my blogpost linked in the info box ☺️
Thank you for such constructive tips! Do you give water to Sage throughout the night?
Not throughout the night but before bed, when she wakes up and during the day. We always have a water available for her to grab and reach if she’s thirsty outside of milk
How do you navigate a routine when you need to run errands? My baby will instantly fall asleep in the car?
It’s the only way it works when you start routines when their young!
Fabulous tips.
Thank you!
Please share sagees nite tym routine 😍
I just give my baby a warm bath and makes sure she eat extra . Solid food of course and extra milk if your baby can tolerate it
Thank you for this! My daughter still sleeps on the boob up to now.. is it too late to start this routine even though she’s turning 1 next week? 😬
It might be harder now that she’s older but you definitely start working at it
Does she wake up throughout the night still? If not I mean if it works it works!
It may be best to wait until she is 18 months before trying to night wean. My son has been nursed to sleep and still nurses through the night at 17 months. We plan to night wean at 18 months. We read the book “Nursies when the sun rises” every night right now to help prepare him. Toddlers develops a ton more understanding between 12 and 18 months. Starting a bedtime routine (if you don’t have one) is great though and introducing a lovie!
Its never too late to sleep train! My son only slept on the boob until he was 1. Then I decided to sleep trained him and it changed my life. He started sleeping through the night and doing great naps :)
I think it’s important to mention that not all babies will sleep 12h. My girl is 1 year old. She sleeps good, but her night is 10h and she has 1,5h nap. And that’s normal for her
Please do your research before “gently” sleep training your child. Any form of sleep training is, in fact, ignoring your child’s cry for help. Wake ups have a purpose, for little ones. SIDS prevention being one. Sleep is developmental, not something that can be taught. Look into biologically normal infant sleep. To each their own, Nikole’s content is still great and I am going to keep following. But please don’t base something as important as your baby’s sleep on a UA-cam video.
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that's what my pediatrician said also..it is normal/natural for babies or toddlers to cry because it means they need help or need your attention of something and it shouldn't be ignored.. our kids will eventually grow, they don't stay babies forever..we should shower them with our love ❤️💕🤱
I think it's just the wording she used that's not accurate. She didn't "teach" Sage, but provided the opportunity for Sage to learn in a safe loving environment. There are cries for help and cries just because. I'm never one to just let my baby cry but I listen to her "tone" carefully and know when she is asking for me or just wants to yell for 30 seconds. Those sleeps with the "last stand", as we call it, typically end up being her best. I think of it as providing an opportunity for her to learn. I don't want to rob my baby of an opportunity for growth as long as it isn't causing her stress. If I pick her up when her tone isn't saying pick me up she actually gets more upset and wants to be put back down. She was confident working it out on her own I just got in her way. I nurse her to sleep every time and make sure I'm attentive and respond to her every need in the day. I make sure to listen closely to what she is actually saying with her body language and tone of cry. I don't think it has to be either or. Your baby will tell you what to do if you listen.
Child’s cry for help is sometimes just a child’s cry. Crying doesn’t mean something is wrong.
Well if sleep is not something you can teach my baby is out of this world lol, she sleeps 12 hours at night at 4 months and I slept trained her, babies do not know how to fall sleep,you can have babies at 2 years old that still wake up throughout the night, if moms are ok with that that’s fine but I couldn’t function and I taught my baby, she goes to sleep on her own at 4 months awake in the crib wakes up once at night before she used wake up 4,5,6 times and this is the best decision I could’ve ever made!
Which sleep sack is this??
Everything was great up until the “gentle” sleep training. I challenge anyone to post a video about how their infant sleeps 12 hours WITHOUT sleep training. The word “gentle” is clearly there to make the parent feel better, but let’s be honest, you let your baby cry to sleep. Babies are supposed to wake up during the night, and as you recognized yourself, she still wakes up during the night. The only difference is that now she knows no one will come for her, so she learned to ignore her instincts. So is she really having a better sleep? Or is she just not bothering you about it anymore?
Studies show that sleep trained babies wake at night just as often, if not more, than babies who are not sleep trained. People need to be realistic about infant sleep and stop trying to put the adult needs above their babies. This is no shade to you, Nicole, but more to our culture.
Thank you for saying this!! It’s so well said! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 our western culture pits so much pressure on babies/toddlers to sleep “right” and creates a lot of false expectations for parents (and a lot of frustration).
Also, the baby sleep industry is a huge money maker preying on desperate parents. I would discourage anyone from buying any sleep program or sleep coaching.
Wonderfully said!!
Amen sister, no such thing as gentle sleep training or ‘controlled crying’, what a joke!
How and why are you assuming she let her baby cry?
My son started sleeping through the night at 7 weeks on his own without sleep training, and now at 18 months still sleeping through the night.
Everyone parents differently. Try supporting parents instead of bringing them down.
@@tjb7283 I don’t think the original commenter was trying to bring Nikole down. Most of us here love and appreciate her content and that’s why we’re here. Also, it’s none of our business how she chooses to parent her daughter or what works for her in terms of sleep, but this video is intended to provide advice to Nikole’s many followers, and the last tip being sleep training serves to perpetuate the sleep training industry’s controversial practices that cause new parents so much stress and anxiety and is often at odds with biologically normal infant sleep. I experienced the stress caused by such detrimental advice when I became a mom 9 months ago, until I followed my instincts and did what worked best for my baby and my family and tossed the sleep training narrative out of the window. I’m not an exception and many new parents feel exactly the way I do, and that’s why we’re trying to voice our concerns and speak out that sleep training is not the only option or solution to babies’ sleep challenges, as the sleep training industry would want you to believe.
And to answer your question, she mentions that the consultant taught her how to distinguish between the different types of cries, which means there was crying involved, and sleep training needs a week or longer of crying to start working. Again to each their own and it’s Nikole’s business how she handles her baby’s sleep, but when her method is given as advice or a hack for everyone, people have the right to respond to it, and it’s not hate or “bringing down” by any means.
مرحبا ياصديقى كيف حالك أتمنى أن تكون بصحة شكرا لمشاركة مدونه المحتوى الرائع الخاص بك لقد أستمتعت بالمشاهدة👍قناتك جميلة تستحق الدعم الفديو ابقى على اتصال تمنياتى لك بالنجاح والتوفيق حفظك الله ورعاك ياصديقى
How old is sage?
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Please check the work of doctors Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate. They are Canadian doctors who are experts in child development and follow evidence based practices, and they caution against sleep training in any form. Their studies have shown that sleep training harms the attachment between infant and parent. They dedicated their careers to studying child development, so their word should be more trusted than any so-called sleep consultant who take their knowledge from outdated non-evidence based courses that are not regulated by any governing body. Both doctors have books that can be purchased anywhere and also a lot of lectures and interviews on youtube if anyone is interested.
Can we please normalize normal infant & toddler wakings? 12 hours of sleep is not normal biologically & ST babies still wake up, they just aren’t calling out because they have learned their cries aren’t responded to. Most babies are hungry during the night, 12 hours is way too long to go without food or drink in their tiny bodies. This really breaks my heart that this is sleep training culture is becoming normalized, when it is not normal & goes against our natural paternal instincts.
I'm sorry, but it's completely normal for little ones to sleep 12 hours at night. When my daughter was around 1.5 years old, she started sleeping 10-12 hours at night without waking. There was no crying and when there was, I always responded because it usually meant something was wrong (poopy diaper). I took my cues from her and if she didn't wake up throughout the night then I wasn't about to go wake her up just to see if she was hungry. Every baby/toddler is different and you shouldn't criticize someone for sharing their sleep hacks that worked for their little one. Also, did you even watch the video? Her hacks are very useful and mentioned nothing about ignoring your babies cries or letting them go hungry. She even said she didn't like the cry it out method which is why she chose not to use it.
My baby started sleeping 12 hours straight at 3 months without a feed. Now she is 7 months and when she screams at night I know she needs a feed and I get up to feed her. About once a week. Babies know what they need and every baby is different.
I know a lot of babies (including my own) who haven't been sleep trained and sleeps 12 hours at night.
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Every baby is different… some naturally are better sleepers than others.
Great hacks
I didn't sleep for 4 months. My baby hardly slept and i almost went mad. I picked Ferber book on sleep training and mark weissbluths book, they are both doctors any have done years of research on sleeping. If you read those you would know how much sleep is essential for a baby, if not it can affect their brain development, social activities etc. I implemented ferber and my life changed, my baby changed from this always fussy to best baby ever. But ya so many bashed us, my in laws etc etc. But who cares if it's good for your baby, you will have to do it.
For those who tried and failed, dont loose heart. Read these books because they list what you are doing wrong.
If your child says they want to go on a cycle ride without helmet, would you let them, even if they cry? Because it's not safe. Similarly proper sleep is essential for healthy growth. And remember the more you wait, the more difficult it will get
Yikes.
Omgg every baby is different! If it doesn’t work for you that’s okay. Why rip her apart? Lol calm down crazies.
Noone is ripping her apart. And yes precisely- every baby is different.
@@surlespasdondine maybe read the comments.
@@monzerratemarrano5904 I did.
Nobody is ripping her apart. It’s great that those hacks work for Nikole but this video is also intended to provide hacks for people to use, so viewers are allowed to respectfully disagree and inform that there are other ways of handling baby sleep. Sleep training is a controversial topic, and much of the advice provided by sleep training culture causes anxiety and stress to new parents, and you can see it’s parents like those who are voicing their opinions and also facts about sleep training. There’s maybe one rude comment that I see and it’s not even about baby sleep, the rest are all respectful. Why is it seen as hate when we disagree? Especially about something as baby sleep where there is so much conflicting information, others have to share that in order for viewers to know that sleep training is the not only option, and that they should do their own research to make an informed decision about something so important before following advice simply because it worked for somebody else.
Babies are supposed to wake up. This is to nurse, get love and comfort. Adults don't sleep through, why would babies. Babies also wake to help them prevent SIDS. If they sleep for 12 hours and don't nurse or get a bottle, I feel terribly sorry for that child. It's bad advice to give moms
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