The Internet called me a "bad mom” (I have never been this emotional before)
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- Опубліковано 18 чер 2024
- In today’s video I share my early morning routine, a recap on my live cook with me and a very open and honest response to my “How my baby sleeps 12 hours a night” video. I share my response to the negativity and the honest truth about how I’ve decided to sleep train Sage my 18-month-old daughter, and how it’s been the best decision for Sage and our family.
CHAPTERS:
0:00 - intro
0:15 - Good-morning with me
2:47 - Sage wakes up
4:28 - Live stream done
5:23 - Quick morning clean up
6:04 - New table
7:28 - Lets talk about the comments on the "How my baby sleeps 12 hours a night" video
12:45 - Self soothing
14:02 - Being told I'm a bad parent
20:24 - What I'm doing with the pumpkin
20:35 - Summing everything up
23:33 - What my channel is really for
24:40 - Sage is awake
25:34 - Outro
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I just wanted to say thank you to all the positive support out there! Every mom is entitled to their own opinion and that’s completely okay! 🥰 What isn’t okay however, is hateful comments telling me I’m giving my baby trauma 🤯.
You’re a great mom Nikole, don’t listen to the silly comments.
You are a great mom!!! Dont Listen to bulls***and have confidence that you are doing your best!
Everyone is so critical and no one is perfect hence why we are humans.
You’re awesome & people are jealous. Your daughter is super cute.
Omg who in the world are giving you hateful comments 😭 we are sooo greatful for your videos! Stay strong as you are ❤️
I cant even...
It’s embarrassing that as women we are shaming each other. Motherhood is the hardest job itself. You are doing an amazing job, you motivate me to eat healthier and feed my girls healthier food. Keep doing what your doing Queen! Some people are just miserable.
Woman shame other women especially in motherhood is just how it is. I am sure Nicole did it as well do not let her fool you. And I can pretty much guarantee it. She breast feed for a while. She probably shamed other moms who did/could not. That is life what goes around comes around .
@@colleendianuzzo don't put your assumptions onto other people. Just because you think it doesn't make it reality. That's awfully mean, and as mothers we should be supporting one another, not finding any opportunity to knock each other down.
@@Astarothiart its not mean or an assumption. Breat feeding mother are the meanest and most judgemental people. I have see it with my own eyes.
@@colleendianuzzo were you with her everyday of her life? You're guessing and spreading negativity about a stranger based on experiences with unrelated people, makes no sense.
@@daisiesandpandas1218 your defending her and you have no idea how she is off camera. Also breastfeeding moms are the nastiest, meanest woman there are. I have witnessed it. Just because she has this online persona doesn't mean she is this person. Do you spend time with her? Do you know her life? I'm guessing not.
You could be the juiciest, sweetest peach in the world & there will still be someone who doesn't like peaches. Keep doing YOU! Sage is a happy, healthy, loved girl and you guys are doing a great job. Thanks for sharing & have a good week!
love that saying! So true
Love this saying! Off topic but I think ripe/overripe fruit it too drippy and gooey (because sensory issues) and don’t get me started on how eating a peach feels like chewing a sock because of the furry skin…. (Again, sensory issues). 😬
Every kid is different. Everyone parents differently. No one thing works for every family & hearing someone say it must be done a certain way or you’re a bad person just screams “I have 0 perspective & don’t understand that realities other than my own exist”
You keep doing you 💕 your daughter is lucky to have you as her mommy.
Please do not listen to the "mom-police". Insecure women need to attack other women because they are defending the method they have been told is right instead of using their own brain and intuition... You are doing a fantastic job! The fact that you have a toddler that sleeps for that many hours says it all. You know your baby the best. Listen to your heart, brain and intuition ❤
Thank you so much for saying that. Weve had so many struggled with the sleep area in the past and I'm so happy were in a good place with it now. Sage is a trooper and truly loves her sleep now.
I couldn’t agree more.
I also sleep trained and I didn't know until recently how much controversy there is over it. I am getting my graduate degree in Mental Health Counseling and child development emphasis in trauma. I have done many presentations and papers surrounding childhood trauma, and there was not 1 study I read that said long-term or short-term trauma can happen from sleep training. When doing my clinical hours I worked with parents, children, and toddlers. We had lots of parents come in who brought their children 5 years and younger, and they were having trouble getting their children to sleep through the night. This type of disruption at night can cause children to oversleep during the day, we also see that disrupted sleep is correlated to obesity and often the children were having a hard time staying focused in school. We would then work with the parents to create a schedule and routine to help get children into a habit of sleep at night, and a schedule for the day. We didn't have parents lock them in the room and ignore them, we would work on interventions and ways to get sleep associations down. I sleep-trained my daughter and she is a healthy, active, and intelligent toddler. (I decided to sleep train after my clinical hours b/c of my experience). When I use the word "sleep training" I mean setting a schedule, working on sleep associations, and getting down a consistent safe routine! Sounds like you did the same. Much love and know you are not a horrible parent. As a former teacher and now counselor for children you raise no concerns!
There's no way I would even call you a bad mom or terrible mom.. I feel like you're an amazing mother and person. I love watching your videos and learning.. I don't have kids or anything but I do want them.. don't listen to the hate!!
Thank you! I'm so happy I've been able to inspire you 🥰 and I appreciate the support!
I so 100% agree - I don't have kids either...never wanted to.... I applaud any woman that puts them self at risk and changes their life so much. I think you are a phenomenal mom...and Matt a phenomenal dad. It's your job to train and or teach young human beings to do certain things. I personally believe that if more parents cared to make their children more self-sufficient....we'd not have so many mental health problems in the world as we do now nor so many whiners! Again - just my opinion. Are you and your family....happy.... if the answer is yes...you are doing a fantastic job.........period!
You address this so kindly. I have straight up just told people to mind their business and that they aren’t aware of the 25/8 demand moms are going through and that any form of sleep training that fits the child is an absolute blessing for the entire family.
The internet is full of judgey people who believe themselves to be experts - do what is right for you and your family, you’re the expert on your own fam and what is best for you all, not them! ❤️
thank you!
Yes absolutely!
Exactly!
Yesss
It’s absolutely disturbing that people can call you a bad mom. You’re freakin amazing!! I have a 8 month old and I learnt a lot just by watching your channel and taking your FREE advice. Please don’t let those individuals discourage you from making content. You’ve been really helpful to first time moms such as myself. ❤️❤️
I almost never leave comments on UA-cam but I saw this and I just have to say you're amazing. I'm a first-time mom to a 7-month old. Your recipes were my first guide to purées and healthy baby food in general.
I don't see how what you're doing could be wrong. Please keep doing it.
thank you for commenting xo also I loved that age so special
Your kid is a brat. Feel sorry for the kids
Talk less and take care of the kids
Our second daughter was born in 1983, and we never slept for about five years after. Back then, no sleep trainIng or help. I would have paid a lot of money for any kind of guidance. Keep doing what you’re doing, Nikole. You are an amazing mother. ❤️
sleep is so important for both parents and babies and there are so many methods but you need to find what workds best for you and your family. Every baby is so different and for Sage she WILL NOT sleep if were in the room or if we bring her into bed with us. A little crying to have her have many nights of amazing sleep is well worth it.
It’s hard to believe a person with a so-called therapist title would actually say you are traumatizing your child. I say this with tongue in cheek, my kid traumatized me. My darling baby and I really had to work it out - took a few years. She’s almost 40 now and we’re still working at it. Lol. You’re a wonderful mom. ❤️
I’m about to be a mom any day now. And I’ve already had to learn that everyone has an opinion and they love to share it with you. Do what’s best for your family. Sending all my support and well wishes!
A lot of back seat drivers out there. You will find your way and don't let them tell you it's wrong
Babies don’t come with a “Manual” under arm.. As parents, we try our best for our kids, it is a new world for us, we learn everyday. The most important is we make it for love. Nicole, never give power to people to make you feel bad for the way you rise your child, you and your husband are making an excellent work, and feel proud of your self.
thank you for saying this xo
Keep doing you! We appreciate you and all the helpful, informative, and entertaining content you offer us. 🙌🏼 Thank you. Sage is SO lucky to have you as her mama.
This is such a good reminder. Parenting doesn't look the same for anyone.
Youre an amazing mama! Thanks for taking the time to make these videos. ❤️
I'm so sorry you had to experience this. I am so grateful for the content you create! Sending love to you, Sage, Matt, and Cashew!!
I absolutely love your channel! I learn so much from you and when you show the realistic side of things, it makes me feel sane! Because life is difficult as it is, and we’re all trying to navigate the best we can. It takes a lot to raise children. Thank you for everything you do xx
I LOVE THIS … I REALLY struggled back and forth with deciding all this relating to our daughter especially sleep training. I support you 1000% with the beautiful decisions you make for your LO and your family ♥️
I’m so sorry about these comments!
I am always so inspired at how kind and patient you are with Sage.
I can’t bring myself to let my daughter cry for too long but I am definitely working on it the older she gets because mental health does matter! I actually give you a lot of credit for doing what is best for you and your family, because I think that sleep training is hard for moms too!!
Mom shaming is a real thing and it is very sad! We all do our best and what we believe what is best for our families. ❤️
We should be lifting one another up not putting each other down!
I appreciate your content so much. Thank you for all that you share! You’ve been a huge inspiration to me as a first time mom 🧡
always LOVE your videos and the way you pour yourself into raising Sage. thanks for opening up honestly ! please don't let people's obnoxious opinions discourage you from putting out your content. you are blessing and encouraging so many !!
You’re a great mum, I just found your channel and I’m binge watching your videos because I enjoy the positive energy that I feel from you and little Sage. You’re doing a great job as a parent ❤️
Thank you for putting yourself out there and sharing your experience. As you said, what works for some may not work for all. There's no need to shame or get upset at what another momma/family is doing. I have been absorbing your content for over a year now and fully appreciate your energy and sharing your opinion/research with the world. Go, Nikole, there are more who support you and what you do. There will always be naysayers especially the bigger and more successful you grow. Love you and the Health Nut Fam. Mommas let's support one another, the world needs us to be united and supportive of one another instead of pointing out divisions. Do what works best for you and don't shame others.
“Taking care of babies” has very similar concepts of sleep training you had mentioned. She was a life saver for us!!! My 8 month old (boy Sage) has been sleeping all night in his own room in his crib since he was 4 months old give or take a few regressions in between there and I never let him “scream and cry for hours” he would fuss here and there and I would go in and soothe him and let him know I’m still there and he’s not “abandoned” and within 2-3 weeks he learned to put himself to sleep! We are all so much happier has a family, I will do the same thing with my future children! Keep doing what your doing momma 💕💕
I've heard great things about that course as well. People have this old school idea of what sleep training is and there are so many variations of it
Thank you so much for sharing! I think you’re amazing mom! ❤️ I had postpartum depression/anxiety due to lack of sleep so I appreciate the awareness of mental health issues for parents. Excited for more of your content! 🥰
I always watch your UA-cam videos and always think to myself how much of an amazing mother you are. I always admire how dedicated you are to Sage. 💛
I'm so sorry about this!💔 I have been following your channel for a while and watched your baby videos even though I don't have kids of my own. Now that I'm pregnant I feel WAY more confident. Keep up the great content, I appreciate it😍
This was very powerful. Thank you for sharing. I haven’t watched the video in question but what you are describing is basically establishing good sleep routines in a supportive environment. Please keep up the amazing real life working mom content.
You guys are great parents! I’m so sorry anyone has shamed you. My mom told me the best advice when I was pregnant. A lot of parenting things that are preached are just recommended. Not law. What you say is law. How you want to parent is law. And if your baby is happy and bonded to you and you are comfortable and happy with how you parent then that is what matters.
I couldn't agree more! Every mom should follow what is right for them and their baby!
I really needed to hear all of that. I'm struggling with an anxiety disorder that bring lots of mom guilt, especially with complications with my current 2nd pregnancy led to decisions that allows me to rest MORE and rely on other closed family members and a bit more daycare time to take care of our 18months and I got shamed sooo hard by a reallyyyy good friend of mine. I couldn't believe it. I've been crying everyday. This was truly the video I needed today.
For the record, I think you guys are wonderful, inspiring parents
You're a frickin amazing Mom!! I love watching you & Sage, you inspire me & my little one 💕
I love all of your content. You are such an amazing mom:)
I have learned so much from you. Sleep training has worked for us too; I’m a first time mom and I’m so glad I watched your video because I was also starting to have postpartum depression due to lack of sleep. Now that I’ve sleep trained I’m a happier and better mom. Sage looks like she’s thriving and happy!
Good for you for standing up for your daughter and yourself. ❤️
I am having a 4 years old boy and I am still watching your channel and learning. You are super amazing. Way to go girl.
“You are amazing just the way you are” ♥️
Yesssssss!!! Thank you SO much for sharing this! We had a very similar experience! Mommas mental health is just as important! Happy momma happy babe 😊👌🏻
Thank you for the conversation! No one should have to defend their parenting choices. What matters the most is that you’re doing what’s best for your family, and that includes what’s best for your mental health as a parent. Random strangers may try to attack one small parenting choice, but they don’t know the whole picture.
First time mom here!! My son is 6.5 month old and I swear to you that being a mom has been a life lesson and has made me more empathic toward motherhood. We were struggling to make our son sleep through the night, I spend hours and hours researching (I know, I should’ve slept those hours instead) until I realized I just needed to follow his queues just like when he’s hungry. I was making out life harder by following sleep and nap schedules and most of the time he wasn’t ready to sleep.
He has been sleeping 12 hrs for the last two months now, waking up twice to eat but goes to sleep right after eating. Another tip I would give any new mom, got to bed right after your baby falls asleep.
“the knife” 😂 don’t listen to the internet. You’re a great mom and you’ve inspired me in so many ways.
I read this literally as she did that in the video! 😂
Hi, Nikole! Thank you for sharing your tips, advice and your life with us. I always learn something from you, and even though we don't personally know each other I trust you because you allow us to see almost everything in your life. Keep doing you!
I’m so glad I came across your channel. I have an almost 17 month old and truly feel everything you talk about 😅🥲 thanks for always keeping videos realistic and relatable ❤️
Love your content and appreciate your honest opinion and experience. I’m sorry some people are so harsh with their opinions. I understand some people are very passionate about their experience but everyone’s different and they don’t have the right to tell you your a bad mom . As long as everyone is happy then that’s the most important.
Your amazing don’t let others peoples opinion get to you please. It doesn’t matter! Sometimes people are just jealous, immature and just wants something to feel superior over.
I watch you because I love your perspective and I feel connected to how you are so loving and passionate towards your baby. You inspire me to be a more loving mom! 💗
New mom here and I couldn’t agree more with what you are sharing. I’ve also received passive aggressive comments about even the small things that I’ve chosen to do with my child and just like you’ve mentioned.. you can’t possibly know what you’d do in a situation unless you have personally been there, especially may I say, in parenting! I’m grateful for the amount of information that’s accessible to us but it also comes with others judging parents for what they do differently.. as if there’s one way to raise a child. I’m so glad you posted this, I really needed this as an encouragement! Also, as a reassuring reminder that others’ best efforts look differently from person to person!
Good on you for speaking up and sharing what is on your mind and heart. The truth is that as moms we are already SO hard on ourselves about the choices we make or the ones we didn’t and we don’t need other people adding to that! Especially, when no one asked! 👏🏽 👏🏽 I have 3 beautiful girls. 20, 19, and 16 and now that they are older I find myself thinking all the time - I should have held them more, I should have yelled less, I should have worked less and saved more and the list goes on and on. We need to support each other in one of the most important roles of our lives not break each other down! 💕
Been watching your videos for so long! I admire you as a mom, wife, and I enjoy watching your positive family. I would never categorized you as a "bad mom" .
Just know you have admires ! Stay strong and ignore the negativity ♥️
You are an absolutely amazing mother all around so kind, loving and take such great care of little sage in every aspect of her life. God bless you and have a wonderful day 💕
A parent always knows what’s best for their child! Your doing an amazing job!
thank you
I’ve got a 7 month baby & have been following your videos & advice since pre-pregnancy ♥️
you have so much wisdom & experience to share, you share your vulnerability & love, & impact the lives of many! you have way more amazing fans than the shamers.
To you & all the mama’s that are supporting & guiding our little ones to the best of our ability, everyday is an adventure ♥️
Thank you so much for your authenticity and sharing your story. Just wanted to say you're making a huge difference, especially in my life. I'm living in a new country away from my family and friends and I don't know ANYONE. I'm 30 weeks pregnant with my first baby (through IVF) and having your channel has been a life saver! It's like having a sister. Thanks again for sharing and providing a safe space to for me to prepare for my journey as a new mom. Lots of love💞
Hey Nik! You're an amazing mom, and I can see that you set a high standard for how you raise Sage. I know you do what's best for her and you! Keep up the great work, and thank you for always sharing amazing content. You're my favorite!
You’re a wonderful mom and I truly enjoy your channel, thank you for all you do.
Thank you for this. Before being a a parent I planned to sleep train, then I saw all the social media opposition to it and read about the “trauma” that would come with it…. We were miserable for over a year before I threw in the towel and, yes, gently sleep trained our son. We all are so much happier now and finally sleeping again, 13 months in. Listen to your mom instincts!
You’re a great mom! I’ve been watching your videos for over a year and I love your channel!!
I’m so sorry you went through this. I can completely relate. I wasn’t eating either or sleeping and decided to sleep train my child. It was the best decision I have ever made. Sage has awesome parents that love and care for her 😊
I had my baby about 8 months ago and I've binge watched your videos and looked to you for guidance regarding food for baby and life with a little one in general. I value you and videos a lot! Thank you for all you! You made post partum a little less lonely and trying for me and for that I thank you a thousand times!! 💙
I am a first time mom. Your videos have been a great help in this journey. Thank you! 💙
You are inspiring and motivational! Thank you for sharing your response to those comments. It’s helpful to hear how to kindly respond (minus the knife) to people that don’t agree with you and even attack your parenting. Thank you!
Oh my goodness preach regarding the sleep training! You do what works for your family! And like you said, Sage and you getting a full night of sleep is the healthiest thing for you both! How you get there isn't anyone to judge. You know your daughter best and what's best for her. 💜 Keep up the good work mama!
You’re the best! Keep doing what’s best for you and your family. Sage is a cutie !!
You are an AMAZING MOM. Your healthy happy thriving child is a testament to that 🤍 keep on keeping on!
Aww you were trying to help and got hell for it, gosh that legit put tears in my eyes, I have a 20 month old and to see someone so kind and loving like you get crap just hurts my soul as I've been there too. Thank you for sharing your days with us, and so sorry when you get nasty stuff, unfortunately the world is full of people who enjoy dishing that out. Love your content and your baby looks perfectly happy. Hugs
I LOVE your videos and I physically laughed when I read the title of this video. My 2 year old looked at me as if I lost my mind lol. You are an AMAZING mama and you can tell in seconds that Sage is not abused or neglected in ANY way. Y’all are amazing and people are just to much 🙄 keep doing what you do I look forward to these videos ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love how you're venting while chopping fruits, lol! You're an AMAZING mom!!!! And you're videos have been so incredibly helpful and informative for me...like, life saving helpful and informative! Ignore the haters. There will be many ;)
I’m 8 months pregnant and I’ve been watching your videos for the past couple weeks. LOVE LOVE LOVE your channel and how you share your experiences. It’s fine for people to have different views but it feels like people forget about respect these days. Not everyone is the same, you do what works best for you. Frankly I find your videos so helpful, inspiring and encouraging. You have been been bringing me some comfort when sometimes I feel overwhelmed awaiting my first child. Keep it up mama, you’re great 💛
Such a powerful video. As a new mother struggling with "sleep training" it is true, we are all doing the best we can & know how to. Thanks for all your awesome videos. I would love to get one of your baby foods cook books!
you go booooooo! what do they know?
you always inspire us❤
Very well said! Mom of four and I’m often alone as I’m a military spouse.
You are doing amazing. & I love how you articulated it all! I can definitely relate.
I never leave comments but girlllll you are an amazing mum and i LOVE your channel, alway looking for the next video to pop up. You inspire me daily to be a better, healthier mumma. Keep doing you 🥰
Nik and Mr. Matt, you two are the best! Sage is beautiful and such a loving girl. She is thriving and is so smart! Love it when she is on, in the videos. Don’t worry your heart & soul with those who hate, are judgmental and only desire to bring you down! Keep living, loving and laughing. Life is short! Those of us who follow you, appreciate you! Thank you for sharing your life with us! 💓
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I've being following you for like 4 years I guess and learned so much from you!!! You're amazing, smart and gorgeous mum and woman ❤️❤️❤️❤️
You are a fabulous mother! Look at us all following you and coming to you for advice that wouldn’t be the case if you were a bad mother. Some of us don’t have mums grandmothers or sisters to go to. You are honesty a life saver. I’m so glad your strong enough to understand these people are being ridiculous.. Love you work ❤️
I’m so sorry that you experience such negativity from that video :( you are an amazing mom! Don’t let anyone tell you any different ❤️
It is not a one size fits all!! It takes a lot of bravery to share and help others to understand how to help their child sleep better. To call it "abuse" is extremely sad for the children who are truly abused and need real help out of an unsafe environment. Thank you for sharing your story and methods to help other parents. God bless all those families going through challenging times
I wasn’t comfortable sleep training either until your video where you said you used a gentle approach. It solved my baby’s sleep problems! He would wake up every 2 hours but now he only wakes up maybe once or twice a night. It also helped me create a sleep routine. Don’t ever stop sharing your experience. It’s soooo helpful! & I think you’re doing an amazing job!
I really needed to hear this 😭😭 I’ve been going back and forth about sleep training my 6 month old and I have been so emotional about it because I have received so many negative opinions that have given me so much guilt. I just need to do it for our sanity because right now we have a 2+ hour bedtime routine. I think you are such an amazing mom and your daughter seems very happy and loved 💕
Im so happy to hear you say this because its for this reason I knew I needed to make this video. Do not feel guilty or shame it was the BEST thing we ever did and I learned so much about babies and sleep and Sage's preferences.
@@HealthNutNutrition Thank you! Your video gave me the motivation I needed and we started last night with the Ferber Method. It wasn’t as horrible as I imagined. I feel like it will work and we will be better off for it. Thank you for giving me that needed push and support. 💕💕💕💕💕
your 6 month old will grow up and not even remember so do what's best for you and your family
It was LIFE CHANGING for our family! No exaggeration. My daughter’s mood changed drastically- she is the happiest girl now that she’s sleeping well.
I loved this video! and I couldn't agree with you more about the parenting! You are seriously the best momma! Sending hugs to you and your sweet family!
Thanks to one of your sleep videos, we found Lily from Lil Baby Sleep, and it was the best thing ever! So thankful for your tip! It’s so sad that you can give so much help but then receive so much negativity.
I actually find your videos very helpful, as a mom of a toddler myself. Don't let the Internet hate get to you! Your videos are very motivating. Thanks so much for all the amazing content!
Hi, Nikole! I’m also a first time mom to a 7month old and I can’t thank you enough for sharing your journey to parenthood. It helps me to be the best parent to my son by being able to anticipate his needs and know what is normal at every age. There will always be that someone who thinks they know it all and I know how upsetting that can be. It’s okay. You don’t have to please everyone. There’s a lot of us that love watching your content and will always look forward to seeing how Sage, and the whole family grows! Thank you again!! 💕💕💕
such a fun age! Thank you for supporting and commenting xo
I’ve e learned so many good things from you! Keep it up, keep spreading the good and healthy habits you have and that this world needs 🙂
I can't imagine anyone saying that. You are an amazing mom. Some people might be intimidated by your motherly skills.
I totally agree with you and how sad that you had to feel that shame. I remember feeling that way sleep training my 2 and 1 year old. It is definitely in the top 10 hardest things you will do as a parent, my mental health was going down as well and there were SO many tears that would shed while I’d just rock my baby to start the next session of patting and sleeping. You are a fantastic mom!💕
My son coslept with us until he was 9 months old. I started a new job where I wasn’t going to be able to be home the whole night for his sleep every night, so cosleeping was not going to work anymore. He would cry for hours most nights even when we did cosleep. I attempted “gentle” sleep training where I’d put him in his crib and try to comfort him, but he just cried. I left him in there and went back to comfort him every 15 minutes or so and he would just cry hard every time I went back in. Eventually I realized the only thing that was going to work for him was to cry. It was almost like even if I held him, rocked him, nursed him, he needed to cry for a period of time before he’d eventually fall asleep. Once he started sleeping in his crib on his own he actually just automatically started sleeping a whole 12 hours straight. Yes he’d cried for a while before he’d fall asleep and still sometimes does, but he sleeps so much better on his own than he was when we coslept. For some people, and for some babies, CRYING HAPPENS!! Individuals have no right to shame and bully parents for their parenting choices when they don’t know the full story or all of the attempts made before they found what worked BEST for them and their baby. Ugh I’m sorry to any and all parents who are made to feel like they’re failing or harming their child for doing what they need to do for the betterment of the family as a whole.
thank you for sharing your story. I agree crying happens and it doesnt mean you're a bad parent. It took me a while as a new mom to be okay with Sage crying in order to get things done like use the bathroom or eat a meal. Its how they communicate and you start to learn their different cries.
I'm sorry you went through that. Always enjoy your videos.
You’re an amazing mom Nicole!! Don’t ever doubt that, keep up the great work! Sage is a beautiful child and your mothering shows strong. ❤️
I think you are an amazing parent. I started watching your videos when I was pregnant with my little one. She is now 8 months old and she is such a happy baby and I have your content to thank for giving me confidence as a fist time mother. As long as we know we are doing what is best that's all that really matters :) thank you for your videos :)
You are a great mom and inspired me a lot. I went to a in person yoga class today because of you!
I did gentle sleep training as well and never for one second regret it! Definitely the best thing for our family
I'm a new mum myself and I can't begin to tell you just how greatly all your vlogs have helped me...From pregnancy till now (my princesd is 4 months). You're a phenomenal woman and a wonderful mum. Thank you for all your timely content. Please keep it coming. I'm in SA by the way:-)
Clicked here bc Ive been FEELING like a bad mom and your video was just the reminder/pick me up I needed🙏🏼💛So glad you seem unbothered! I agree with you greatly...These kids will be alright and when they're not? That's ALRIGHT! We will get through it with Gods Help... Ya'll stay blessed🙏🏼✨
I have had such a hard time putting my little girl to sleep since she turned 6 months old. She’s approaching 13 months old now, and I still have to stay in the room and rock her for up to an hour for her to go to sleep. I try to let her tire herself out a bit and I always comfort her when she is super duper crying, but it does take a toll on my energy every night. The time I have with my husband when he is home I’m exhausted simply trying to put her to sleep. You are nothing less than a FANTASTIC mother and anyone who says differently doesn’t know you, your life, or doesn’t have kids! You’re doing a great job, keep that confidence in yourself! Us mothers need it. ❤️
Thank you for sharing this situation and supporting all kinds of parenting! Really like you're videos! I'm a mom of a boy of 21 months and also did sleep training.
Love this video!!!
There were lots of things I said I’d never do as a parent and have done it within the first year… mom guilt is real and hard, we know our children best.
Hey Nikole!! You and Matt are doing awesome as parents. There are things that you guys do with Sage that I wish I could’ve implemented for my boys to help them with sleep and other things like helping them love different foods.
You and Matt are an inspiration for many parents out there. There will always be people out there itching to comment and have something to say about how people parent their kids. We’re all doing our best to parent and so you are guys!! Keep up the wonderful job you guys are doing!!!
While I was pregnant I watched a lot of your videos on routine/sleep. When I had my baby boy I watched them again, early on we decided to follow the baby's rythm instead of having schedules ... then I watched them again as I was getting ready for the 4 month sleep regression you mentioned ... which never came. I watched your videos starting solids ... and he absolutely hated food, got him more enthusiastic until about 8 months. At 9 months, I still let him drink milk to sleep. I still wake at 2 or 3 am for a feed. We decided to go slower with solids although I would love to make the food you show us.
We have had completely different experiences but I will still turn to your videos for support. You're an AMAZING mom, and just because we chose to go through this differently does not make us better or worse parents. We all try to do what's best for our family ...
I watched your video for inspiration when you posted with my now 15 month old who was a boobie baby waking up all the time and at 6 months I was so exhausted and looking for any relief because my mental health was awful. My babe loves sleeping on his own and he started at 7.5 months thanks to me watching your video with several others... you are an amazing mama and doing what works for you, Matt and Sage. ❤
You’re an amazing mom and You helped me a lot with my little one… Thank you!!!
First things first, from everything you have posted regarding your parenting and family have been so positive and inspirational to me and countless other mothers. Everyone has their own parentling style and no one is perfect. There are good days and bad days. You are a great mother and I love watching your small family. 😄
Love you Nikole 💗 I think your an amazing momma. I watched your videos my entire pregnancy and you have helped us so much on our journey 💓💓💓 Thank you for all that you do 🙏
I definitely see how this can get to you especially when you know your doing your best as a mom.
I also was judged for sleep training my baby as a first time mom by my family or my in laws. At the end of the day i still stuck to it because it helped us a ton !! Just like sage my daughter would wake up every hour and a half on the dot !!! And after sleep training we all sleep so much better and she’s such a happy baby with a set routine . Your doing amazing and i look up to you as a mommy !!! Sending you tons of love and support .