In some families, communication and arguing meant to disobey. Sometimes, it slapped because " why do you have argued?" You must keep quiet in every case. 😊 .
الحمدللہ ہمارے معاشرے میں اچھی مثالیں موجود ہیں بہت سی ماؤں ،بہن اور بیٹیوں نے اپنے اخلاق سے بتایا ہے کہ وہ بھی اسی معاشرے میں رہتے ہیں اور خاندانی لوگ ایسے ہی ہوتے ہیں
Asslamualaykum Sir... I always resemble my Father in you... Since my childhood I m listening the empowerment of women from my father and he real did it because today I am Gov. teacher... I had the same types of long conversation with my father before some years but Now -a days due to MOBILE..... I lost this conversation but, whenever I listen you I have the same feeling... Thank you sir.....
Assalamualaikum sir boht khob bola ap ny Khuda apko lambi sehat wali Zindgi dy Ameen Suma ameen main apk sath boht sari batao sy agree krti hu sir mery pass boht c batain hy ortao ko ly k Mera Dil hy apk sath share kro taky boht sari aisi batain hain Jo agr ap kry to shayed Kisi k Dil main utr jaye Kisi ke Zindgi sawar jaye
Sir also add fourth point of any psychological disorder of husband it should be point of no return . That man cannot fulfill responsibility of a husband
Respected sir attended one day vipassana seminar teacher said it doesnot matter if you use white salt refined oil etc food should be neat and clean hygienic
Dr sab me ap ki bht ezat krte Hun or agree bhi Hun ap ki bat sy , lekn Kuch log bht kameeny hoty hn meri mama ny bhi mje yeh sb sikhaya tha or me yeh sb keya lekn phr bhi mje divorce huie qk k meri olad ni huie bht Bura behave krty thy mery sath 😢
😢😢 Allah Pak app k liye aasani kry ...meri sister k sath b yehi hua zulm hua us k sath ...wo depression me Hy baat b ni krti ... buhot zyada mushkal me Hy wo.... Allah Pak us k liye aasani kry 😢😢
Amazing 👏, but Maa baap khud hi apni poori zindagi guzaarne ke baad bhi unhe khud nahi pata nahi hota hai tu kiya batayenge Ju acchi tarbiyat karna chahte hain tu wahi log aap ke our sub ke lectures sunte hain Baqi sub ku tu sub Pata Hai Isliye wu kisi ki nai sunte
Sb sy phly parents hi usy force krty hy sb brdasht kro lrki ko support krny ki bjaye dbaya jata hy or i think 60 percent lrkia is situation sy guzr rhi hy
I don't agree with Dr. Sahib. I have been extremely respectful, giving and tolerant of my husband and in - laws for last 26 years but they took me foregranted and considered me a doormat. I now repent for being so nice and not setting any boundaries.
@@rafirdosh3908 Kis kis tarah nahin samjhaya lekin jis ki aankhon pe apnay pichhlon ki muhabbat ka parda iss tarah say parra ho ke woh andha ho chuka ho tau usay jitna bhi samjha lo woh asal mein samajhna hi nahin chahta
Usually baap bhaii baad mae husband , beta sirf oosi waqt females ki voice kogawaara karte haen jab wo koi acha kaam kar aaye haen. Agar females bolein to kisi aur cheez mae interest lein ge news paper mae tv mae phone mae cricket mae Lekin ghar ki awaaz jab tak problems mae na ghir jae sun ne raazi nhn hote
Respectedsir whether daughters and sisters are loosing respect app achey teacher hein web site par communicate kaar saktey hein with regards my vipassana teacher said make list in night and seva yeh jeevan kisee key kaam ayyen thanks
Dear dr. Sb Story from my neighbourhood If husband is addicted to drugs nd given chance by partner 5 to 6 times … he is still doing addiction to drugs .. her kids nd she is living vigorously in hell.. kia ethically forcefully ussy us hell mei rehna chahiye? Jahan aik pal survive krna like impossible ho?
Sir maray khayal main Kahan ap beteon ki bat Ker rahay hein wahan main ap KO suggest keron ge kah Pakistan ki taleem Kay nasab main baton or bastion dono KO terbiat ki zarorat he main khud panch beteon ki maa hon
What about the guy's parent unn ki training hono chahiya ka larkay ko kaisa rakhana hai apni biwi ko.... wo physically hit bhi karta hai aur galiyan bhi daita hai air eo bhi sahee aur uss ka ghar walay jo sab karwatay haon ka tumhara husband hai mar raha hai tou hum kia karain 😢😢😢😢😢
Your no return points are acceptable but there is little confusion about one and that is if he signs second marriage with another girl who’s Bewa or Mutaliqa (and he’s giving full rights of his first wife, fulfill her every need) then what’s your opinion bcz then he’s not in haram relationship or cheating his first wife that’s his right. Any person can share his/her opinion.
Masha Allah But zaroori baat khi he apn aur agar ladki pr bhi bht see zulm hotel rahte Hain Aksar jahil ghron me to harass ment bhi hoti he wahan bhi shoher stand nhi late to khud le Deen pr chale hadeeson ko madde nzr rakhe
Sis, if he gives you respect, is loyal to you.. So, you should give him some space to cope with the situation... And you should be supportive to him.. But, if he doesn't give you respect, beats you, is not loyal to you, or give you mental torture... Then first negotiate with him... If it doesn't work, involve your elders... And if it seems impossible to survive there.. You should take a final decision.. Do believe in Allah.. He will help you, inshaAllah... I'm mother of Muttahir... Your sis.. You can ask without hesitation, whatever you want.. I'll try to guide you my best..
DR SAHAB AAP KO MARDU KO BI KUCH BAATEIN BATANI CHAIE JESE KAE AAJ KAL AURTU EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIR MEIN INVOLVE HO RHI HAN IS KA KIA MTLB KAE 4 4 BACHU KI MAA BHI YE KAM KR RHI HAI KIA EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT ITNI ZARURI HAI KA KI BAGARAT JU HAI WO HUS BAND WIFE KAE BEECH MEIN AA JAE
Agreed but dowry ki jo bat ki that shouldn't be part of marriage, i think should also be said, but unfortunately it is. There is NO concept of dowry in Islam
Bs esi wjha sy orten jism froshi or zana kr rhi hn eska koi Hal b TU hona Cathy Jo beqs9r orat h usk ley safety or panah gah b honi cahiy tak wo zna sy bachy or mehnat kar k Zindagi guzar saky
Ladka aur ladki ku apne apne farz k bare me train kraya jae... Aur sasral walon ku b train karaya jae ki unka akhlaqi farz ky hota h ek ladki k sath rehne ka aur aur behavior kesa hona chahiye... Kyu ki sasral walon ku pata hona chahiye ki unka koi haq nhi hota h.. Sirf ladki acha behave kr sakti h unke sath... Fir v agr ladki sasral walon ka kaam kare sath rahe to itne kaam k baad ladki k sath unlogon ka kesa behave hona chahiye wo batana chahiye... Kyu ki.. Wolog jo farz nhi h.. Usku farz bana k bojh daldete hain... Aur bad behave b krte hain.... Training sab ki honi chahiye shadi se pehle... Sasral wolon ki aur ladka aur ladki ki.. Apne apne farz ki. .. Aur fir parenting ki dono ku
سب سے بڑی خرابی بھی یہی ہے باپ کو چاہئے کہ وہ اپنی بیٹی کو رخصت کرنے سے پہلے اس کی تربیت کرے جو مولوی بھی کسی کی بیٹی کی تربیت نہیں کر سکتا وہ باپ کرے گا۔
*اگر اونچی جگہوں پہ ہی تعلق بنانے کا شوق ہے تو عرش کا مالک اللّٰہ سب سے اونچی جگہ ہے۔*
In some families, communication and arguing meant to disobey. Sometimes, it slapped because " why do you have argued?" You must keep quiet in every case. 😊 .
Bitter reality!!
True
g mostly ghron me yehi hota
Empowering women transforms societies and shapes a brighter future for all.
الحمدللہ ہمارے معاشرے میں اچھی مثالیں موجود ہیں بہت سی ماؤں ،بہن اور بیٹیوں نے اپنے اخلاق سے بتایا ہے کہ وہ بھی اسی معاشرے میں رہتے ہیں اور خاندانی لوگ ایسے ہی ہوتے ہیں
Asslamualaykum Sir...
I always resemble my Father in you... Since my childhood I m listening the empowerment of women from my father and he real did it because today I am Gov. teacher... I had the same types of long conversation with my father before some years but Now -a days due to MOBILE..... I lost this conversation but, whenever I listen you I have the same feeling... Thank you sir.....
R hmare yha sirf beton ko value di jti ha
Respect is very important
Yes. Respect must be a point
My father and my father in law both were incredible.... because of them I was able to resolve some issues .... regarding joint family system....
@@saeedashafiq4524 So lucky
Assalamualaikum sir boht khob bola ap ny Khuda apko lambi sehat wali Zindgi dy Ameen Suma ameen main apk sath boht sari batao sy agree krti hu sir mery pass boht c batain hy ortao ko ly k Mera Dil hy apk sath share kro taky boht sari aisi batain hain Jo agr ap kry to shayed Kisi k Dil main utr jaye Kisi ke Zindgi sawar jaye
Nice guidance. Well done Dr. Shb.
Amazing explanation
Thankyou sir for selecting this topic
Thank you ,
Start following Islam and Sunnah and leave typical CULTURE which we r following since ages😮
Sir also add fourth point of any psychological disorder of husband it should be point of no return . That man cannot fulfill responsibility of a husband
Point👍
Husband and his family must respect her and give her due right if not this should also be point of no return
Bilkul
Salut Dr sb ap ko🎉🎉🎉🎉
Very Impressive. Kindly give guidance in reverse case, for men.
My mother taught me this...never indulge in love for things.....
v well said sir
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Bhat khub👍
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Marriage is a sacrifice.
Not compromise.
Sir kindly early marriages p b bt kijiye Jo parents kr daity aksr hmary muashry mn ye BHT bra msla hb
98% mard disloyal hyn. Phr Kya karen? Mostly narcissist personality hyn phr kya kiya jaye
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Respected sir attended one day vipassana seminar teacher said it doesnot matter if you use white salt refined oil etc food should be neat and clean hygienic
💯 prcnt agreed with Dr Sahib 😊❤
Dr sab me ap ki bht ezat krte Hun or agree bhi Hun ap ki bat sy , lekn Kuch log bht kameeny hoty hn meri mama ny bhi mje yeh sb sikhaya tha or me yeh sb keya lekn phr bhi mje divorce huie qk k meri olad ni huie bht Bura behave krty thy mery sath 😢
😢😢 Allah Pak app k liye aasani kry ...meri sister k sath b yehi hua zulm hua us k sath ...wo depression me Hy baat b ni krti ... buhot zyada mushkal me Hy wo.... Allah Pak us k liye aasani kry 😢😢
Aameen summa Aameen
Sir May Allah bless you, we need like this frame work,ma ny ap k ye 3 principle lelye palu sa band k😊
Add 4th one that is respect
Amazing 👏, but Maa baap khud hi apni poori zindagi guzaarne ke baad bhi unhe khud nahi pata nahi hota hai tu kiya batayenge
Ju acchi tarbiyat karna chahte hain tu wahi log aap ke our sub ke lectures sunte hain
Baqi sub ku tu sub Pata Hai
Isliye wu kisi ki nai sunte
What about mental torture 😢
Sb sy phly parents hi usy force krty hy sb brdasht kro lrki ko support krny ki bjaye dbaya jata hy or i think 60 percent lrkia is situation sy guzr rhi hy
Absolutely right!!
I don't agree with Dr. Sahib. I have been extremely respectful, giving and tolerant of my husband and in - laws for last 26 years but they took me foregranted and considered me a doormat. I now repent for being so nice and not setting any boundaries.
You should set boundaries for Ur mental peace ....
Sacrifice according to your mental peace, don't try to make everyone happy but remain respectful to all.
Agr boundaries set b krle ladki usper b problem hone lgti h sasral walon ku ki..ye to selfish h@@AhmadMalik-hb5cq
@@rafirdosh3908 Kis kis tarah nahin samjhaya lekin jis ki aankhon pe apnay pichhlon ki muhabbat ka parda iss tarah say parra ho ke woh andha ho chuka ho tau usay jitna bhi samjha lo woh asal mein samajhna hi nahin chahta
Usually baap bhaii baad mae husband , beta sirf oosi waqt females ki voice kogawaara karte haen jab wo koi acha kaam kar aaye haen. Agar females bolein to kisi aur cheez mae interest lein ge news paper mae tv mae phone mae cricket mae
Lekin ghar ki awaaz jab tak problems mae na ghir jae sun ne raazi nhn hote
What about mental health??
Majority of the problems starts from
Intimacy and joint family
I can understand abt joint family problem, but what is intimacy problem?
Can u elaborate?
I think sir lastly you give the best solution is to able the females" how to communicate your issue"
Yaha to young larkon ka bara ma nhi socha jata.Lakiyan 3025 tak khud ka bara ma faisla laina ka soch sakti hain😢😢😢😢
Respectedsir whether daughters and sisters are loosing respect app achey teacher hein web site par communicate kaar saktey hein with regards my vipassana teacher said make list in night and seva yeh jeevan kisee key kaam ayyen thanks
Sir baten krna asaan h lkn susral Waly na samjhy ghr Waly na rakhy phr orat kia karn
Sir main aap sey batt karna chahti hoon
Dear dr. Sb
Story from my neighbourhood
If husband is addicted to drugs nd given chance by partner 5 to 6 times … he is still doing addiction to drugs .. her kids nd she is living vigorously in hell.. kia ethically forcefully ussy us hell mei rehna chahiye? Jahan aik pal survive krna like impossible ho?
It is mututal respect saas kabhi bhi maa nahin ban sakti
Sir maray khayal main Kahan ap beteon ki bat Ker rahay hein wahan main ap KO suggest keron ge kah Pakistan ki taleem Kay nasab main baton or bastion dono KO terbiat ki zarorat he main khud panch beteon ki maa hon
Jis lrki ki apni family acha lasok na kare beti k sat is k sosral mai bhi koi qdar nhi hoti itni c baat hai apni betiyn ki qadar kare
Sir what if the other side is not giving you the same respect
Sir respect b honi chahiye 😢
Or
Apni hr zimadari poora kr rha ho
What if husband dont give respect at all.although she is giving her 100%
In every relation n with work.
Worst form is emotional abuse which cannot be proved.
True
What about the guy's parent unn ki training hono chahiya ka larkay ko kaisa rakhana hai apni biwi ko.... wo physically hit bhi karta hai aur galiyan bhi daita hai air eo bhi sahee aur uss ka ghar walay jo sab karwatay haon ka tumhara husband hai mar raha hai tou hum kia karain 😢😢😢😢😢
Your no return points are acceptable but there is little confusion about one and that is if he signs second marriage with another girl who’s Bewa or Mutaliqa (and he’s giving full rights of his first wife, fulfill her every need) then what’s your opinion bcz then he’s not in haram relationship or cheating his first wife that’s his right.
Any person can share his/her opinion.
What if husband is torturing mentally and abusive. Always make taunts on wife's family. Always have issues with wife's family.
Add one more no return point if the husband is abusive and insults the wife in front of others as a habit.
Masha Allah
But zaroori baat khi he apn aur agar ladki pr bhi bht see zulm hotel rahte Hain
Aksar jahil ghron me to harass ment bhi hoti he wahan bhi shoher stand nhi late to khud le Deen pr chale hadeeson ko madde nzr rakhe
jis shadi me shohar ki zabardasti shadi ki gyi ho emotional blackmail ker k us ladki ko kya kerna chahiye
Aap ke sath aapka husband kaise rehte hai... muhabbat hai apke darmiyan
Sis, if he gives you respect, is loyal to you.. So, you should give him some space to cope with the situation... And you should be supportive to him..
But, if he doesn't give you respect, beats you, is not loyal to you, or give you mental torture... Then first negotiate with him... If it doesn't work, involve your elders... And if it seems impossible to survive there.. You should take a final decision.. Do believe in Allah.. He will help you, inshaAllah... I'm mother of Muttahir... Your sis.. You can ask without hesitation, whatever you want.. I'll try to guide you my best..
DR SAHAB AAP KO MARDU KO BI KUCH BAATEIN BATANI CHAIE JESE KAE AAJ KAL AURTU EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIR MEIN INVOLVE HO RHI HAN IS KA KIA MTLB KAE 4 4 BACHU KI MAA BHI YE KAM KR RHI HAI KIA EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT ITNI ZARURI HAI KA KI BAGARAT JU HAI WO HUS BAND WIFE KAE BEECH MEIN AA JAE
Agreed but dowry ki jo bat ki that shouldn't be part of marriage, i think should also be said, but unfortunately it is. There is NO concept of dowry in Islam
Bs esi wjha sy orten jism froshi or zana kr rhi hn eska koi Hal b TU hona Cathy Jo beqs9r orat h usk ley safety or panah gah b honi cahiy tak wo zna sy bachy or mehnat kar k Zindagi guzar saky
Ladka aur ladki ku apne apne farz k bare me train kraya jae... Aur sasral walon ku b train karaya jae ki unka akhlaqi farz ky hota h ek ladki k sath rehne ka aur aur behavior kesa hona chahiye... Kyu ki sasral walon ku pata hona chahiye ki unka koi haq nhi hota h.. Sirf ladki acha behave kr sakti h unke sath... Fir v agr ladki sasral walon ka kaam kare sath rahe to itne kaam k baad ladki k sath unlogon ka kesa behave hona chahiye wo batana chahiye... Kyu ki.. Wolog jo farz nhi h.. Usku farz bana k bojh daldete hain... Aur bad behave b krte hain.... Training sab ki honi chahiye shadi se pehle... Sasral wolon ki aur ladka aur ladki ki.. Apne apne farz ki. .. Aur fir parenting ki dono ku
Hm ne tu sari umar compromise ki
AP satisfied hein kya
سب سے بڑی خرابی بھی یہی ہے باپ کو چاہئے کہ وہ اپنی بیٹی کو رخصت کرنے سے پہلے اس کی تربیت کرے جو مولوی بھی کسی کی بیٹی کی تربیت نہیں کر سکتا وہ باپ کرے گا۔
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Dr SB apko Javed Choudry k sth dekh k bara dukh hua.. Lifafon Sy apko dor rehna chahye
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