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Yeah I have this catch-22 situation where I keep feeling like I'm falling for her but realizing that she is literally teaching seduction. So it's like verification that she's definitely a professional and knows what she's doing. It's like I have no idea who she really is but I keep feeling like I want to place more trust in her than I would for a normal stranger. Basically demonstrating how effective it could be used against me if someone did. The fact that she's able to verify everything she's saying while she's explaining it it's really effective. I really appreciated this topic being covered; it was a great Podcast.
To be successful we need a mixture of competence and charisma. To be charismatic:(trustable +reliable) 1. Not standing too close to someone. 2.Use your hands to express your words (not jazz hands) 3. Gift people success words 4. Point out similarities between you and the person 5. Don’t do up talk. (Important how you say words not just what you say)
Yet, if she's teaching "competence+warmth" it means she tought herself for years to present that in herself, of course she's the best at that! Makes you question if she even remembers where are her real emotions where her learned emotions are.
She comes off as more competent than warm, whereas he comes off as more warm than competent. I think it comes down to something in their eyes, the rapidity of their respective speech, and their body language. He's sitting back and his body is open, for example.
When someone isn't to sure and question themselves I find that being encourageing to empower them to find their confidence in themselves is such a great thing
This is honestly one of the best psychology based interviews I have ever seen! As someone who's always wanted to improve my social skills, I find all of this information incredibly helpful!
This is easily your best episode Lewis. The chemistry between you two is amazing and the learning content is high quality. I'm 100% going to buy the book.
This talk held me until the very end. Every sentence mattered. Grateful for this. I especially learned how to be authentic with someone toxic in the work place.
Omg as an introvert I feel like this has so many answers to my questions! She's amazing! I've bought the book and I'll watch this video every week for a while since there is an abundance of treasure in here!
I never comment... I just came to say THIS LADY IS AWESOME. Like wow! I learned a TON and I 100% agree with EVERYTHING she said! That does NOT happen often. Very grateful for her sharing her wisdom and virtues with us
It helps to be feeling good about yourself - and life. I never feel vulnerable socially because I love life and people from all walks of life. I don’t “separate” myself from others. I enjoy meeting strangers because I don’t see anyone as a stranger. I believe that we are all One, from every place, culture, race, religion and every walk of life. Everyone is my friend until they prove otherwise and if they aren’t I might feel sad or down for a few moments but then quickly accept it and walk away. Also: humor is your best friend in making friends and connecting with others. Yes, warmth and confidence - and giving.
maybe that's because u haven't come across any murderers, rapists, perverts or crooks yet, i think once u do u might have a different view then about the so called "we are all one"
Most charismatic personality I have ever seen in my life, Vanessa van 😊 lot of love from the State of Azad Jammu and Kashmir, Pakistan ❤ keep transforming people's lives. Our best wishes with you🥰
This just helped me figure out why my senior manager is amazing, and why I look up to her so much -- she sincerely has the perfect blend of warmth and competence. I really hope I can morph into this!
Once I became more comfortable in my own skin and started living for me the easier it is is to engage others. I was watching this and thinking, I haven't experienced social rejection in the longest. Probably because I surround myself with others that care about self-love, self-development and are focused on being their best version. When I was blaming the world for my problems and being self-absorbed, i did experience many of the social rejection cues she mentioned.
@@dennisrobinson8008 Interesting. I think he is an excellent listener and interviewer. Very low key. As opposed to her over the top exuberance which seems forced and phony to me. Maybe some of the content is good but I cannot get through this because I find her extremely obnoxious. I guess perception really is everything.
this interview was so enthralling that i actually was excited with anticipation to hear every next word from the both of their mouths. not only was it exuding such a comfortable, wonderful energy, but it was also packed full of absolute GEMS. i even feel better after watching this because the energy was just that refreshing. such a beautiful and genuine chemistry between two intellectually stimulating human beings.
As a teacher, when I started watching you here, right away I thought “smart man!” Asking great questions to his guests…the right questions, questions I would ask, questions that make sense…bringing awareness and clarification to your audience. Thank you Lewis…YOU ARE GREATNESS!!!☀️📚💕☀️
There is so much information she is presenting it seems almost overwhelming to try and incorporate it all in daily interactions, some of the greatest liars and con artists have mastered many of these techniques, I've found that honesty, caring and true sincerity goes a long way when it comes to being charming and charismatic, Vanessa is a fascinating person and much of her charm comes from her enthusiasm of her work, she has an incredible amount of knowledge.
@@vanessavanedwards8014 I find it amazing how you don't just repeat same stories over and over again in different interviews. I can't even imagine how challenging this must be when you're promoting your book and have to talk about it over and over. Loved every moment of this interview 💕
Great reference to Dr. Ramani. She says often that she just doesn’t trust charismatic people because in her experience, they are almost always insincere and narcissistic. I’ve been told that I have good presence…and I strive for that balance of warmth and competence…but I am trying to make others comfortable and not necessarily to advance my own agenda. So respecting Dr. Ramani as I do, I’ve really been questioning this approach. Should I not be striving for charisma, but just for an appropriate level of warmth? But being a (small) woman in a logical male field, I worry about being “too warm.” I have been told, too, by other women and even warmer men, that I am too expressive and personal and “hand-gesturey.” I am concerned about being perceived as too smooth and manipulative or as “outside of my integrity.”
I am so great full I stumbled across this video and just in time. My work environment is very toxic. The women I work with have given up and r very toxic. On Monday morning I go back to work and change this. I will no longer work in a toxic environment or with toxic people. I absolutely love what I do. I am filled with all this new confidence and knowledge from this inspirational and powerful video. Thank you from the tips of my toes to the palms of my hands and Thank u for reminding me that life is to short.🙏🏻💁
I have a low attention span. I'm 23min in and you guys have still got me completely engaged. The topic and content are really interesting but they way you're presenting is everything. I'm learning so much - thank you!
Idk about everyone else but I love this chick, I’m so fascinated with her research and expert knowledge on these topics. She’s so interesting and I love the passion you can see on her face.. 😍
I enjoy being at the stage of my life (late twenties) where I can truly listen to discussions like this, still liking the speaker, while being actively conscious of the statements I disagree with.
When I took exams in college, I would think in terms of mastering the material and winning the top grade, rocking the class, LOVING the material, feeling like I won the prize just by being able to go to this college and study what I had ALWAYS wanted to do all my life. I saw exams as a joy. I rewarded myself instantly by first answering all the ones where I knew the answers. That got my confidence racing. Once all those were done, I did the ones I wasn't sure about. It always worked.
Beautiful Interview. One of the BEST 'Take Aways' for me was a WONDERFUL REMINDER. When WE receive A QUE from another... Wether it be Verbal, or subtle Body Language.... The KEY TO TRUE DIPLOMATIC COMMUNICATION is in ASKING OURSELVES: I See, Hear, and or FEEL that.... Now ' How can I HONOR IT' ? 😘💖🙏🌎✌🏼
Most of society is based around supporting the negative EGO... rather than being spiritual...all kinds of selfishness... negative synergy/darkside...😰😰
Lewis you are such a gift to the entire word. You are stunning inside and out. We are blessed that you found yourself. Thank you for giving us so much. Sending you love and support ❤❤❤
Vanessa you are amazing!!! Loveeeed this interview and I learned so much. Lewis you are the best interviewer ever. Your energy together is wonderful to watch.
I’m not even 10 minutes in and I’ve learned so much already! Your enthusiasm is contagious Vanessa. Thank you so so much for everything that you do. You’re a joy to listen to and I can’t wait to listen to the rest of the show ❤️🥰
I don’t know what it is Vanessa, but whenever I listen to you just resets my nervous system to calm and content. Thx Lewis for this amazing platform.🙏🏽
To the person reading this: THANK YOU for being here and adding value to our world 💖 Hope you have a blessed day filled with joy, happiness, health and love! 💖
I have listened to many videos of all kinds of things and I hv to say this is the most important and powerful video I hv ever seen/listened to. I hv forwarded this video to so many people. Everything about this video is amazing. Just hearing Vanessa’s voice is a joy. You can feel in her voice that she’s upbeat and happy since u feel ever cue we send out. Body language does not lie. The only thing about this video I don’t agree on is it’s very easy to detect a narcissist bc the truth will always come out. There are many signs coming out from a liar…no one can keep up with lies long term.
Vanessa is such a lovely and competent person. I am so happy Lewis you invited her again ❤😀 I am so glad to have the opportunity to listen to your highly insightful talk. I learn so much from it. Thank you so much!!! I 'd be so happy to meet you one day insha'Allah
Knowledge is power, understanding is wisdom. This is an educational video on the different cues of charisma. People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Charismatic leaders utilize a wide range of nonverbal warmth and likeability cues. They display genuine smiles, maintain positive eye contact, use a variety of gestures, orient their torsos toward those with whom they are engaging, touch others during conversations, and so forth.
i think that these skills are very useful in relationships though. very single expereince is useful and in my opinion you're doing great job . and also my man is doing great job :-) he's a lawyer but i mean that he's great w spanish drops
She is an absolute genius. Always so inspired by her. She was my first motivational speaker I followed. First choice . Best choice. She will make things fall in line just by listening to what she has to say. Her natural no nonsense is it...
Confidence is saying I am amazing… but not better than another, I recommend looking in the mirror daily until you can truly say you are amazing without ego 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️
In all her brilliance, it’s hard to pick a favorite moment, but for me the true highlight of the interview is when Vanessa addresses the “question inflection,” something that has driven me crazy for such a long time, but I never really understood why until now. So insightful…I love this interview!
This is phenomenal. I have severe trauma and OCD, and I think this may be a tiny step in getting my life back. I am OBSESSED with social cues. They can destroy me.
I love everything about this episode, but MAINLY how she expresses her gratitude and acknowledgement to Lewis. The world would be such a better place if we could simply share how appreciative we are!
Hey Lewis your content is better than a college can ever teach. I listen to these podcasts and walk away with knowledge wisdom and an overall well-being. I'm so happy that I found this channel. I have recommended it to others and they all say the same thing. They say wow why isn't this taught in high schools why isn't this taught in colleges it's amazing I want to thank you for bringing this content to the masses. Keep doing what you are doing it is awesome.
Hey Lewis (Hand wave, Full Face Smile) Lots of Gems in this interview. She says she is an introvert, but what comes through is nothing short of explosive charisma and confidence. Obviously practicing EVERYTHING that she preaches - total alignment. - Kudos Wil be reviewing the Transcript as well. Great job bringing her back to the Shark Tank Research findings, love your focus.
I was a complete introvert. I learned to be an extrovert, it might be the same with Vanessa Van Edwards, she learned and adopted and practiced being more confident.
Charisma and being introvert are two separate and independent -not related things. you can be a confident and a charismatic introvert. Or an ambiverted introvert. In that sense. You can also be an insecure overwhelmed with anxiety extrovert.
The slightest opportunity to go into anger and then the quickness with which they intend to apologize indicates all I need to know. An opportunity to see their ability to exercise responsibility and respect for their effects on others.
What fantastic, easy-to-understand, clearly communicated insights. She is amazing. And Lewis I love how, in your interviews in general, you always make sure to ask questions to make sure that you - and the audience at the same time - understand what the guest is saying. It's rare that I watch a video and really feel like I'm easily going to implement the lessons in my daily life, but that's how I feel with this one. I am only a fraction of the way through and am already amazed. Thank you!
Thank-you Lewis & Vanessa for the great interview!! Love the quote "People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care" Love it!!! Super Power
The balance of warmth and competence makes perfect sense considering we have two hemispheres. Objective rational thought is only half your brain(logic, language, arithmetic ) the other deals in recognizing emotions, faces and melody. Basically our culture teaches to use half our brain to ignore the other and we wonder why people are depressed and anxious. Only thinking objectively is how you end up living a life of regrets.
@@vanessavanedwards8014 There is a lot on this subject that might interest you. I think I will make a video for you covering the science behind the things you have said, I think you might like it.
I am literally watching an interview I did and nodding at ALL my cues that I had no idea I was even doing. The humble hands, the hands in general (showing numbers), the distance between ear and neck and the more comfortable I got the more I opened up. My voice. OMG!!! Major majorrrrrr MINDBLOWN!
I use my hands so much that I feel self-conscious when I notice people looking at my hands. Good thing to learn that it's a positive way to communicate my point!
I found this interview full of easily accessible & impactful information. Giving examples of each idea physically and verbally was so helpful and fun to watch. Thank you for shining your light to illuminate the darkness and for helping others to shine theirs.
❤️💕💜 Vanessa, you are amazing and I absolutely love your energy!! 😀 Vanessa , you even acknowledged your team! How awesome is that! Spread that energy everywhere!! We need more people like Vanessa and Lewis in the world 🌎!!! #LewisHowesForPresident !! 🙏 😁
That was a great interview. I really enjoyed it and I learned so much. Please remember, that “introversion” doesn’t mean “shy”. Those are two different qualities that often get conflated. Yes, many introverts can be shy, but introverted simply means that we get drained easily by other people. Does not mean we are shy. We can be both, but one is separate from the other. Thank you so much for your show!! 😊
💯 It's annoying when these qualities get conflated in pop psychology! Also extroversion and social skills. You can be introverted and have great social skills. You can be extroverted and have poor social skills (and I have met plenty in the latter category! 😂)
Vanessa teaches actually useful tips we can put into practice to achieve charisma. She opens up a door for us and makes our goals tangible. It was a pleasure watching this video.
This was a great and informative interview! I learned a lot that will help me improve my nonverbal communication with others and pick up on cues they give me.
This was so helpful. I'm an introvert and always look at extroverts with envy; wishing I could be like them. I hope these tips will help me to be seen and heard differently. Thank you! Also, the point at the end of this was so important. Gratitude.
@@lewishowes I remembered when Oprah did a show on things people dont know about her. She said she was an Introvert. She would rather spend her time reading books than interacting with people . She really has one friend. Gail.
I freaking LOVED when she was talking about recognizing and then honoring other people and the gift of feeling heard 🥰🙏🏼❤️❤️ I just think the world needs so many more people like you!
Charisma is why narcissists are so successful. Dr. Ramani Durvusula says she goes running the other way when she sees a charismatic person. She likes the quiet people in the corner. Judging by my two marriages I'd say she is on to something. 💕
so people who watch this video, for self-improvement, and discipline themselves to become better....are now AVOIDED by Dr Durvusula? For getting better? interesting.
Unbelievably amazing! She is pretty, She is talking psychology and doing it extremely well, so much so that it’s addictive to listen to her… isn’t that the idea? A rare gift!
She's really engaging. She understands human nature, different forms of communication, and psychology. It's a good mix.👍 It's also very attractive that she's warm and feminine (her dopamine list was 🔥) while being very logical at the same time. I've noticed women tend to communicate in feelings and emotion vs reason and accountability. Your best guest IMO. 💯
Lewis Howes, I find your vides really really helpful. I have studied psychology, and I always learn so much new and interesting content from watching your interviews :) Thank you
So so powerful 💗 I absolutely love Vanessa’s enthusiasm. Lewis, you are the best person to interview her, you have fantastic nonverbal cues and are a great example of charisma and power. I’m excited to read this new book. Thank you both for what you are putting into the world.
I've worked in sales and read several communication books but alot of these nuances are very interesting. I think we may intuitively do these gestures, but with this knowledge I'll be more cogniscent of cues. Look forward to listening to her book. I like her take on narcissists and lying. I've had challenges weeding those out and her tips are useful. Thankyou Vanessa. ❤
wow! thank you both. to call that mandatory viewing would be an understatement of extraordinary magnitude. one of the best ways you can spend an hour fourth. unless you have no desire to see the rest of your life and the relationships within it benift. I'll be watching that a few more time . my humble thanks.
Thank you Lewis. I am grateful for you and the amazing guests you bring to the masses. I learn soo much about emotional intelligence and how to be a better human being.
This is more than just learning how to be charismatic. Last few minutes of this vlog is just 🔥 The verbal and non verbal cues she teaches is not for us to manipulate people but to spread warmth. Wow! Amazing!!!
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Hand gestures .. like it !!!
I've learned so much from you and your guests. Very informative! I am still striving to learn and grow at 57yrs old.
Well Done. Thank you!!
She's a live example of every point she's making. Top tier content
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She teaches with so much joy, it was a joy to listen to her words.
Oh this made my day -- thank you!
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@@Dancing_Alone_wRentals you've put it across so well.. 💕
Love this... great vibe you too. Thank you.
Yeah I have this catch-22 situation where I keep feeling like I'm falling for her but realizing that she is literally teaching seduction. So it's like verification that she's definitely a professional and knows what she's doing. It's like I have no idea who she really is but I keep feeling like I want to place more trust in her than I would for a normal stranger. Basically demonstrating how effective it could be used against me if someone did. The fact that she's able to verify everything she's saying while she's explaining it it's really effective. I really appreciated this topic being covered; it was a great Podcast.
To be successful we need a mixture of competence and charisma.
To be charismatic:(trustable +reliable)
1. Not standing too close to someone.
2.Use your hands to express your words (not jazz hands)
3. Gift people success words
4. Point out similarities between you and the person
5. Don’t do up talk. (Important how you say words not just what you say)
Thank you
@@charles910 np 😊
Thanks for this 👍🏻
Great summary here!
@@vanessavanedwards8014 thank you ☺️
She’s just a perfect blend of competence and warmth. She’s adorable and we are fortunate to learn from her. ❤
Yet, if she's teaching "competence+warmth" it means she tought herself for years to present that in herself, of course she's the best at that!
Makes you question if she even remembers where are her real emotions where her learned emotions are.
She comes off as more competent than warm, whereas he comes off as more warm than competent. I think it comes down to something in their eyes, the rapidity of their respective speech, and their body language. He's sitting back and his body is open, for example.
@@BettyCollins88yes you can tell she’s reminding herself to remain sitting straight to exude confidence
She is very interesting. I am curious to learn about her journey to be competent and warmth.
@@BettyCollins88I think you’re right on. It might have something to do with the pace of the speech, and how quickly they each respond to things.
When someone isn't to sure and question themselves I find that being encourageing to empower them to find their confidence in themselves is such a great thing
This whole interview was absolutely AMAZING. I turned 51 yesterday and learned something new today. Wow. We are NEVER too old to learn🤩
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Don’t be ridiculous! Of course you’re still learning! You’re still a baby!! Why do I say this … because I’m 50!! 😊
68 and still learning...
Learning is oxygen of life and growth.
We never stop learning until the day Jesus comes! He is our perfector 💖
She is the queen of body language education 👑
Oh! Thank you! 💕💕💕
@@ScienceOfPeople you are so welcome! 🤗
This is one of the best interviews I have ever seen. 1hr 40 minutes went in a flash.
Glad you enjoyed it! 🧡
That's wonderful to know! Thank you! 💗
Would have been better if he hadn't interrupted her every 2 minutes
As a very socially awkward person, this was very powerful and helpful.
This is honestly one of the best psychology based interviews I have ever seen! As someone who's always wanted to improve my social skills, I find all of this information incredibly helpful!
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Around minute 11( charisma): perfect blend of competence and warmth
This is easily your best episode Lewis. The chemistry between you two is amazing and the learning content is high quality. I'm 100% going to buy the book.
Appreciate you! 🙏
Lewis and Vanessa have always had amazing chemistry. 👏🏽👏🏽
I could not agree more! I could feel myself learning from start to finish! ❤
WOW! Thank you so much. I am so honored.
Thank you 🙂
This talk held me until the very end. Every sentence mattered. Grateful for this. I especially learned how to be authentic with someone toxic in the work place.
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When was it said how to be authentic with someone at the work llace? Time stamp please?
Omg as an introvert I feel like this has so many answers to my questions! She's amazing! I've bought the book and I'll watch this video every week for a while since there is an abundance of treasure in here!
Really insightful conversation 🙂
Hi Jenis how are you. Greetings from Ireland ☘️. It’s a good video. I love the pictures on your channel. Best wishes for a lovely day 😊🙏 Michael
Yes, same here
Very informative, truly enjoyed this interview and learned so much. Grateful to you both for this video. Loved it, going to buy the book. Awesome ❤
5:23 when you express your vulnerability, you acknowledge then you are less afraid
21:20 use gestures
The way he looks at her is...full of admiration.
I never comment... I just came to say THIS LADY IS AWESOME. Like wow! I learned a TON and I 100% agree with EVERYTHING she said! That does NOT happen often. Very grateful for her sharing her wisdom and virtues with us
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Josh, she is awesome and so are you!! Let’s practice her tips to help us develop more confidence and then we’ll be awesome and warm 💕
I love that she is generous with acknowledgments, gives credit where it’s due, and appreciates the work people do to support her presentations
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It helps to be feeling good about yourself - and life. I never feel vulnerable socially because I love life and people from all walks of life. I don’t “separate” myself from others. I enjoy meeting strangers because I don’t see anyone as a stranger. I believe that we are all One, from every place, culture, race, religion and every walk of life. Everyone is my friend until they prove otherwise and if they aren’t I might feel sad or down for a few moments but then quickly accept it and walk away. Also: humor is your best friend in making friends and connecting with others. Yes, warmth and confidence - and giving.
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Thank you for this very interesting perspective.
maybe that's because u haven't come across any murderers, rapists, perverts or crooks yet, i think once u do u might have a different view then about the so called "we are all one"
'We are all one', 'Everyone is my friend' is magical thinking, a fantasy.
Yeah but look at you, your very sexy looking, that makes it a tan bit more easier 😉
Most charismatic personality I have ever seen in my life, Vanessa van 😊 lot of love from the State of Azad Jammu and Kashmir, Pakistan ❤ keep transforming people's lives. Our best wishes with you🥰
This just helped me figure out why my senior manager is amazing, and why I look up to her so much -- she sincerely has the perfect blend of warmth and competence. I really hope I can morph into this!
I love that!
And this is why Italian people are so good at expressing their thoughts!
They always use their hands and colorful language
Once I became more comfortable in my own skin and started living for me the easier it is is to engage others. I was watching this and thinking, I haven't experienced social rejection in the longest. Probably because I surround myself with others that care about self-love, self-development and are focused on being their best version. When I was blaming the world for my problems and being self-absorbed, i did experience many of the social rejection cues she mentioned.
Sad part is those filled with the most confidence are the biggest aholes ever on average.
She’s incredibly likable and captivating, beyond her obvious beauty. She’s really selling her product. Great episode
The personality is fun and bubbly
i think it was over the top and contrived. got annoying after 5 mins or so. couldn't finish it...
Not likable at all. Very annoying. Keeps overtalking him.
@@denisedoherty4909 He has a habit of hard headed listening, so not giving the guest attention. Shes powerful in her area and that's what we hear.
@@dennisrobinson8008 Interesting. I think he is an excellent listener and interviewer. Very low key. As opposed to her over the top exuberance which seems forced and phony to me. Maybe some of the content is good but I cannot get through this because I find her extremely obnoxious. I guess perception really is everything.
She is such a good charmer, Lewis was blushing the whole podcast ❤
this interview was so enthralling that i actually was excited with anticipation to hear every next word from the both of their mouths. not only was it exuding such a comfortable, wonderful energy, but it was also packed full of absolute GEMS. i even feel better after watching this because the energy was just that refreshing. such a beautiful and genuine chemistry between two intellectually stimulating human beings.
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Wow, thank you so much! I'm so happy to hear this ❤
As a teacher, when I started watching you here, right away I thought “smart man!” Asking great questions to his guests…the right questions, questions I would ask, questions that make sense…bringing awareness and clarification to your audience. Thank you Lewis…YOU ARE GREATNESS!!!☀️📚💕☀️
You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡
'If you show authentic happiness, you are more likely to infect happiness.' -- love this quote!
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There is so much information she is presenting it seems almost overwhelming to try and incorporate it all in daily interactions, some of the greatest liars and con artists have mastered many of these techniques, I've found that honesty, caring and true sincerity goes a long way when it comes to being charming and charismatic, Vanessa is a fascinating person and much of her charm comes from her enthusiasm of her work, she has an incredible amount of knowledge.
Thank you so much! I know it is a lot -- start with one cue at a time = )
@@vanessavanedwards8014 I find it amazing how you don't just repeat same stories over and over again in different interviews. I can't even imagine how challenging this must be when you're promoting your book and have to talk about it over and over. Loved every moment of this interview 💕
Great reference to Dr. Ramani. She says often that she just doesn’t trust charismatic people because in her experience, they are almost always insincere and narcissistic. I’ve been told that I have good presence…and I strive for that balance of warmth and competence…but I am trying to make others comfortable and not necessarily to advance my own agenda. So respecting Dr. Ramani as I do, I’ve really been questioning this approach. Should I not be striving for charisma, but just for an appropriate level of warmth? But being a (small) woman in a logical male field, I worry about being “too warm.” I have been told, too, by other women and even warmer men, that I am too expressive and personal and “hand-gesturey.” I am concerned about being perceived as too smooth and manipulative or as “outside of my integrity.”
I am so great full I stumbled across this video and just in time. My work environment is very toxic. The women I work with have given up and r very toxic. On Monday morning I go back to work and change this. I will no longer work in a toxic environment or with toxic people. I absolutely love what I do. I am filled with all this new confidence and knowledge from this inspirational and powerful video. Thank you from the tips of my toes to the palms of my hands and Thank u for reminding me that life is to short.🙏🏻💁
Sorry you have to go through that, Cynthia. Good luck with changing it, hope it works!
Good luck to you. Keep this attitude
I wonder how this has progressed
I have a low attention span. I'm 23min in and you guys have still got me completely engaged. The topic and content are really interesting but they way you're presenting is everything. I'm learning so much - thank you!
Happy you enjoyed it!
I love listening to Vanessa - she’s so charismatic,both warm and competent Thank you for this great video.
Amber you are the best!
Idk about everyone else but I love this chick, I’m so fascinated with her research and expert knowledge on these topics. She’s so interesting and I love the passion you can see on her face.. 😍
Glad you enjoyed it!
The way she does the intervieuw makes me fall in love with her. She is so enthusiastic in her talking/performance. She is amazing.
I enjoy being at the stage of my life (late twenties) where I can truly listen to discussions like this, still liking the speaker, while being actively conscious of the statements I disagree with.
So practical.
She has a perfect balance of warmth and confidence.
When I took exams in college, I would think in terms of mastering the material and winning the top grade, rocking the class, LOVING the material, feeling like I won the prize just by being able to go to this college and study what I had ALWAYS wanted to do all my life.
I saw exams as a joy. I rewarded myself instantly by first answering all the ones where I knew the answers. That got my confidence racing.
Once all those were done, I did the ones I wasn't sure about.
It always worked.
Beautiful Interview. One of the BEST 'Take Aways' for me was a WONDERFUL REMINDER.
When WE receive A QUE from another... Wether it be Verbal, or subtle Body Language.... The KEY TO TRUE DIPLOMATIC COMMUNICATION is in ASKING OURSELVES: I See, Hear, and or FEEL that.... Now ' How can I HONOR IT' ? 😘💖🙏🌎✌🏼
Most of society is based around supporting the negative EGO... rather than being spiritual...all kinds of selfishness... negative synergy/darkside...😰😰
Beautifully said!❤
Glad you enjoyed it!
Yes yes yes! You got it!
She is wholesome ❤
Lewis you are such a gift to the entire word. You are stunning inside and out. We are blessed that you found yourself. Thank you for giving us so much. Sending you love and support ❤❤❤
This was so amazing to do! Thank you for allowing me to share
Thank you as well🧡
Vanessa you are amazing!!! Loveeeed this interview and I learned so much. Lewis you are the best interviewer ever. Your energy together is wonderful to watch.
I’m not even 10 minutes in and I’ve learned so much already! Your enthusiasm is contagious Vanessa. Thank you so so much for everything that you do. You’re a joy to listen to and I can’t wait to listen to the rest of the show ❤️🥰
Great research and information from this interview. Love it thank you for so much insight on the things I need to be aware of.
Loved your enthusiasm in all your sharings. Of course Lewis too did an amazing job as an interviewer. So fun to wacth. You two were on fire! ❤️
I don’t know what it is Vanessa, but whenever I listen to you just resets my nervous system to calm and content. Thx Lewis for this amazing platform.🙏🏽
Happy to hear this :)
Thank you so much 🥰
Yesss there’s something so authentic about her
My biggest takeaway is smiling at the sides of my eyes. I just used that during my performance, and I experienced better connection with my audience.
If you do that yo will get wrincles...
@@ertongashi488 Oh no... aging naturally. Anyway...
To the person reading this: THANK YOU for being here and adding value to our world 💖 Hope you have a blessed day filled with joy, happiness, health and love! 💖
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And, the same to you 🙏
Thank you for your positive energy
God bless you ❤
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I have listened to many videos of all kinds of things and I hv to say this is the most important and powerful video I hv ever seen/listened to. I hv forwarded this video to so many people. Everything about this video is amazing. Just hearing Vanessa’s voice is a joy. You can feel in her voice that she’s upbeat and happy since u feel ever cue we send out. Body language does not lie. The only thing about this video I don’t agree on is it’s very easy to detect a narcissist bc the truth will always come out. There are many signs coming out from a liar…no one can keep up with lies long term.
Amazing ♥ Thank you for your kind words!
Really good. She actually advances the body language and charisma subjects.
Thank you thank you! I really wanted to deepen our knowledge of both.
Vanessa is such a lovely and competent person. I am so happy Lewis you invited her again ❤😀 I am so glad to have the opportunity to listen to your highly insightful talk. I learn so much from it. Thank you so much!!! I 'd be so happy to meet you one day insha'Allah
Thank you so much Sonja! You are so kind!!!
Knowledge is power, understanding is wisdom. This is an educational video on the different cues of charisma. People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Charismatic leaders utilize a wide range of nonverbal warmth and likeability cues. They display genuine smiles, maintain positive eye contact, use a variety of gestures, orient their torsos toward those with whom they are engaging, touch others during conversations, and so forth.
Nodding up is a sign of respect and trust. Nodding down is acknowledging presence and objective respect. Direct eye contact and zero nod is a warning.
i think that these skills are very useful in relationships though. very single expereince is useful and in my opinion you're doing great job . and also my man is doing great job :-) he's a lawyer but i mean that he's great w spanish drops
Words are Energy. Be impeccable.
Great tools, and stay authentic!
She is an absolute genius. Always so inspired by her.
She was my first motivational speaker I followed.
First choice . Best choice.
She will make things fall in line just by listening to what she has to say.
Her natural no nonsense is it...
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Confidence is saying I am amazing… but not better than another, I recommend looking in the mirror daily until you can truly say you are amazing without ego 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️
Don't be afraid of being honest about who and what you are...🥳🥳
@@buddhaneosiddhananda8499 So true.
Perfectly worded
But I am BETTER than you all😀😀
@Brittany Carnes Then you must not be that good at it😀✌
I listened to this while working and was able to stay engaged the entire time .
Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂
In all her brilliance, it’s hard to pick a favorite moment, but for me the true highlight of the interview is when Vanessa addresses the “question inflection,” something that has driven me crazy for such a long time, but I never really understood why until now. So insightful…I love this interview!
You're welcome🧡
This is phenomenal. I have severe trauma and OCD, and I think this may be a tiny step in getting my life back. I am OBSESSED with social cues. They can destroy me.
I love everything about this episode, but MAINLY how she expresses her gratitude and acknowledgement to Lewis. The world would be such a better place if we could simply share how appreciative we are!
Hey Lewis your content is better than a college can ever teach. I listen to these podcasts and walk away with knowledge wisdom and an overall well-being. I'm so happy that I found this channel. I have recommended it to others and they all say the same thing. They say wow why isn't this taught in high schools why isn't this taught in colleges it's amazing I want to thank you for bringing this content to the masses. Keep doing what you are doing it is awesome.
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for listening.
Fantastic information. I have taught the power of words for over 30 years. New words changed my life. I am grateful for this information you shared.
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This was lovely and powerful! Loved Vanessa’s response on handling toxic people in a work environment that response was magnificent!!! 💥💥💥
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Very 👍 nice
Hey Lewis (Hand wave, Full Face Smile) Lots of Gems in this interview. She says she is an introvert, but what comes through is nothing short of explosive charisma and confidence. Obviously practicing EVERYTHING that she preaches - total alignment. - Kudos Wil be reviewing the Transcript as well. Great job bringing her back to the Shark Tank Research findings, love your focus.
Thank you so much 🙂
Oprah says she too is an introvert. Go figure.
I was a complete introvert. I learned to be an extrovert, it might be the same with Vanessa Van Edwards, she learned and adopted and practiced being more confident.
Charisma and being introvert are two separate and independent -not related things. you can be a confident and a charismatic introvert. Or an ambiverted introvert. In that sense. You can also be an insecure overwhelmed with anxiety extrovert.
@@DiscoveryWondersthank you! It baffles me how people think introverted means you can’t be charismatic.
Vanessa Van Edwards is AMAZING! Thank you Lewis Howes for the insightful interview!
Yay! Thank you so much! That means a lot to me! 🥰 I definitely enjoyed this interview with Lewis!
@@ScienceOfPeople of course! As a traumatic brain injury survivor, it’s crucial for me to relearn how to read people and you’re helping me do that 😇
She talks with so much excitement I love it
Thank you ❤
I cant get over how much i enjoy her enthusiasm for her work ❤
I’m a realtor and not a salesperson or extroverted by nature. I will definitely be implementing these. Thank you for sharing!
I was a lot like you, we are similar. It takes a strong and friendly type of person to make it in realty.
Woohoo! I am so so thrilled! And happy to help = )
@@vanessavanedwards8014 Were there any presentations that were bad but the sharks ended up giving them a deal anyway?
I'm an extrovert LO & long to leave my home office! Been awful.
I loved Vanessa and Lewis' interaction! They have a lot of chemistry and can really delve into the topics with examples. Great job!
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Oh yeeeah! I was looking for this comment, the chemistry creates a different kind of synergy here, so beautiful
The chemistry between two of you is awesome. And Vanessa you are soooo intelligent and sooo likeable. Thank you
You are so kind! Thank you ❤
What an Amazing Person!! She is incredibly intelligent and a fantastic teacher. A wonderful presentation.
Wow, thank you so much!! I'm honored.
The slightest opportunity to go into anger and then the quickness with which they intend to apologize indicates all I need to know.
An opportunity to see their ability to exercise responsibility and respect for their effects on others.
What fantastic, easy-to-understand, clearly communicated insights. She is amazing. And Lewis I love how, in your interviews in general, you always make sure to ask questions to make sure that you - and the audience at the same time - understand what the guest is saying. It's rare that I watch a video and really feel like I'm easily going to implement the lessons in my daily life, but that's how I feel with this one. I am only a fraction of the way through and am already amazed. Thank you!
Happy to hear this :)
Thank-you Lewis & Vanessa for the great interview!! Love the quote "People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care" Love it!!! Super Power
You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡
The balance of warmth and competence makes perfect sense considering we have two hemispheres. Objective rational thought is only half your brain(logic, language, arithmetic ) the other deals in recognizing emotions, faces and melody. Basically our culture teaches to use half our brain to ignore the other and we wonder why people are depressed and anxious. Only thinking objectively is how you end up living a life of regrets.
Very interesting! I had not thought about that aspect.
@@vanessavanedwards8014 There is a lot on this subject that might interest you. I think I will make a video for you covering the science behind the things you have said, I think you might like it.
I am literally watching an interview I did and nodding at ALL my cues that I had no idea I was even doing. The humble hands, the hands in general (showing numbers), the distance between ear and neck and the more comfortable I got the more I opened up. My voice. OMG!!! Major majorrrrrr MINDBLOWN!
OMG VOLUME TONALITY TOO!!!! I AM LITERALLY SCREAMING!!!
Glad this was helpful for you🧡
I use my hands so much that I feel self-conscious when I notice people looking at my hands. Good thing to learn that it's a positive way to communicate my point!
It really is!
I found this interview full of easily accessible & impactful information. Giving examples of each idea physically and verbally was so helpful and fun to watch. Thank you for shining your light to illuminate the darkness and for helping others to shine theirs.
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Thank you!
❤️💕💜 Vanessa, you are amazing and I absolutely love your energy!! 😀 Vanessa , you even acknowledged your team! How awesome is that! Spread that energy everywhere!! We need more people like Vanessa and Lewis in the world 🌎!!! #LewisHowesForPresident !! 🙏 😁
Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️
That was a great interview. I really enjoyed it and I learned so much. Please remember, that “introversion” doesn’t mean “shy”. Those are two different qualities that often get conflated. Yes, many introverts can be shy, but introverted simply means that we get drained easily by other people. Does not mean we are shy. We can be both, but one is separate from the other. Thank you so much for your show!! 😊
Yes, absolutely. Introverts have to recharge their batteries alone, that doesn’t mean that we can’t be communicative or so.
💯 It's annoying when these qualities get conflated in pop psychology! Also extroversion and social skills. You can be introverted and have great social skills. You can be extroverted and have poor social skills (and I have met plenty in the latter category! 😂)
yup, I have no problem talking to people for a little bit. After a while I need quiet.
What a great podcast that was! I am an introvert and work in communication. I was literally taking notes, along. Thank you Lewis, thank you Vanessa ❤
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
You’re so welcome ❤ Thank you for watching!
I watched the entire show and I was all smiles afterwards. What have you done to me.
Love that :)
Vanessa teaches actually useful tips we can put into practice to achieve charisma. She opens up a door for us and makes our goals tangible. It was a pleasure watching this video.
Confidence is the belief in yourself and preparation.
The more you practice the more confident you become.
This was a great and informative interview! I learned a lot that will help me improve my nonverbal communication with others and pick up on cues they give me.
So happy to hear that! 🙏🏻
I could listen to Vanessa all day! She’s such an inspiration! Thanks for this conversation Lewis ❤
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Thank you for your kind words! ❤
My favorite part is at minute 39:17 when Vanessa teases that she will share a compliment, immediately after the discussion on building dopamine. Win!
This was so helpful. I'm an introvert and always look at extroverts with envy; wishing I could be like them. I hope these tips will help me to be seen and heard differently. Thank you!
Also, the point at the end of this was so important. Gratitude.
You're welcome🧡
@@lewishowes I remembered when Oprah did a show on things people dont know about her. She said she was an Introvert. She would rather spend her time reading books than interacting with people . She really has one friend. Gail.
I freaking LOVED when she was talking about recognizing and then honoring other people and the gift of feeling heard 🥰🙏🏼❤️❤️ I just think the world needs so many more people like you!
Thanks for being here! 🧡
Charisma is why narcissists are so successful. Dr. Ramani Durvusula says she goes running the other way when she sees a charismatic person. She likes the quiet people in the corner. Judging by my two marriages I'd say she is on to something. 💕
so people who watch this video, for self-improvement, and discipline themselves to become better....are now AVOIDED by Dr Durvusula? For getting better?
interesting.
Maybe you should start running the other way yourself lol
Quiet people can be the most dangerous. Passive Aggressive personality types are very manipulative
Unbelievably amazing! She is pretty, She is talking psychology and doing it extremely well, so much so that it’s addictive to listen to her… isn’t that the idea? A rare gift!
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I love this womans presentation, she always looks smart, well groomed, feminine and well presented
She's really engaging. She understands human nature, different forms of communication, and psychology. It's a good mix.👍
It's also very attractive that she's warm and feminine (her dopamine list was 🔥) while being very logical at the same time. I've noticed women tend to communicate in feelings and emotion vs reason and accountability. Your best guest IMO. 💯
Lewis Howes, I find your vides really really helpful. I have studied psychology, and I always learn so much new and interesting content from watching your interviews :) Thank you
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So so powerful 💗 I absolutely love Vanessa’s enthusiasm. Lewis, you are the best person to interview her, you have fantastic nonverbal cues and are a great example of charisma and power. I’m excited to read this new book. Thank you both for what you are putting into the world.
Glad you enjoyed it!
I've worked in sales and read several communication books but alot of these nuances are very interesting. I think we may intuitively do these gestures, but with this knowledge I'll be more cogniscent of cues. Look forward to listening to her book.
I like her take on narcissists and lying. I've had challenges weeding those out and her tips are useful. Thankyou Vanessa. ❤
wow! thank you both. to call that mandatory viewing would be an understatement of extraordinary magnitude. one of the best ways you can spend an hour fourth. unless you have no desire to see the rest of your life and the relationships within it benift. I'll be watching that a few more time . my humble thanks.
Thank you Lewis. I am grateful for you and the amazing guests you bring to the masses. I learn soo much about emotional intelligence and how to be a better human being.
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I didn't finish the interview; however, this has to be my favourite yet!. Thank you Lewis and Vanessa💛💛
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Thank you!
Such a well-prepared lady
This is more than just learning how to be charismatic. Last few minutes of this vlog is just 🔥
The verbal and non verbal cues she teaches is not for us to manipulate people but to spread warmth. Wow! Amazing!!!
I’ll use to manipulate
@@jtamagiof course you will.
@@IB4UUB4ME at least he's honest about it.
This is the best thing I've ever learnt! ( Arms and chest opened, palms faced outward)
I hope it’s helpful ❤