PSYCHOLOGICAL TRICKS To Be More Charismatic & Confident TODAY! | Vanessa Van Edwards

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  • @lewishowes
    @lewishowes  2 роки тому +409

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    • @angeliquevasinathan7538
      @angeliquevasinathan7538 2 роки тому +11

      Je m’y m

    • @wilhouts6173
      @wilhouts6173 2 роки тому +9

      not sure if you saw my other post: Kinda reminds me of the lady who gives herself a HIGH FIVE IN THE MIRROR every morning.!

    • @chandranimukherjee414
      @chandranimukherjee414 2 роки тому +2

      P

    • @Vancouvernuck
      @Vancouvernuck 2 роки тому +5

      Hand gestures .. like it !!!

    • @Mariaodgers
      @Mariaodgers 2 роки тому +11

      I've learned so much from you and your guests. Very informative! I am still striving to learn and grow at 57yrs old.
      Well Done. Thank you!!

  • @nowaybackvalorant8799
    @nowaybackvalorant8799 2 місяці тому +95

    She's a live example of every point she's making. Top tier content

  • @Dancing_Alone_wRentals
    @Dancing_Alone_wRentals 2 роки тому +2060

    She teaches with so much joy, it was a joy to listen to her words.

    • @vanessavanedwards8014
      @vanessavanedwards8014 2 роки тому +86

      Oh this made my day -- thank you!

    • @Dancing_Alone_wRentals
      @Dancing_Alone_wRentals 2 роки тому +14

      @@vanessavanedwards8014 will be looking forward to your next adventure...(book or talk...sounds so...well lets just say I want to live a little more Disney and a little less Library. So Whatever your next adventure turns out to be....please take us along!)

    • @IEVAKambarovaite
      @IEVAKambarovaite 2 роки тому +3

      @@Dancing_Alone_wRentals you've put it across so well.. 💕

    • @olguiq1013
      @olguiq1013 2 роки тому +4

      Love this... great vibe you too. Thank you.

    • @connectingthesciences4621
      @connectingthesciences4621 2 роки тому +18

      Yeah I have this catch-22 situation where I keep feeling like I'm falling for her but realizing that she is literally teaching seduction. So it's like verification that she's definitely a professional and knows what she's doing. It's like I have no idea who she really is but I keep feeling like I want to place more trust in her than I would for a normal stranger. Basically demonstrating how effective it could be used against me if someone did. The fact that she's able to verify everything she's saying while she's explaining it it's really effective. I really appreciated this topic being covered; it was a great Podcast.

  • @OCFitBabe
    @OCFitBabe Рік тому +554

    She’s just a perfect blend of competence and warmth. She’s adorable and we are fortunate to learn from her. ❤

    • @Walperion_Music
      @Walperion_Music Рік тому +14

      Yet, if she's teaching "competence+warmth" it means she tought herself for years to present that in herself, of course she's the best at that!
      Makes you question if she even remembers where are her real emotions where her learned emotions are.

    • @BettyCollins88
      @BettyCollins88 11 місяців тому +13

      She comes off as more competent than warm, whereas he comes off as more warm than competent. I think it comes down to something in their eyes, the rapidity of their respective speech, and their body language. He's sitting back and his body is open, for example.

    • @karimehendrix
      @karimehendrix 11 місяців тому +3

      @@BettyCollins88yes you can tell she’s reminding herself to remain sitting straight to exude confidence

    • @loveisreal7766
      @loveisreal7766 10 місяців тому +2

      She is very interesting. I am curious to learn about her journey to be competent and warmth.

    • @fishcanon8141
      @fishcanon8141 6 місяців тому

      @@BettyCollins88I think you’re right on. It might have something to do with the pace of the speech, and how quickly they each respond to things.

  • @abhijithajikumar8751
    @abhijithajikumar8751 2 місяці тому +42

    This is one of the best interviews I have ever seen. 1hr 40 minutes went in a flash.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 місяці тому

      Glad you enjoyed it! 🧡

    • @ScienceOfPeople
      @ScienceOfPeople 2 місяці тому +1

      That's wonderful to know! Thank you! 💗

    • @trexanuslot9570
      @trexanuslot9570 8 днів тому

      Would have been better if he hadn't interrupted her every 2 minutes

  • @ellelorde5487
    @ellelorde5487 2 роки тому +899

    To be successful we need a mixture of competence and charisma.
    To be charismatic:(trustable +reliable)
    1. Not standing too close to someone.
    2.Use your hands to express your words (not jazz hands)
    3. Gift people success words
    4. Point out similarities between you and the person
    5. Don’t do up talk. (Important how you say words not just what you say)

  • @juliejuju7419
    @juliejuju7419 2 роки тому +644

    This whole interview was absolutely AMAZING. I turned 51 yesterday and learned something new today. Wow. We are NEVER too old to learn🤩

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому +14

      So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here:
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    • @sunnygirl9691
      @sunnygirl9691 Рік тому +14

      Don’t be ridiculous! Of course you’re still learning! You’re still a baby!! Why do I say this … because I’m 50!! 😊

    • @hulamei3117
      @hulamei3117 Рік тому +16

      68 and still learning...

    • @GirishVenkatachalam
      @GirishVenkatachalam Рік тому +9

      Learning is oxygen of life and growth.

    • @katherine3107
      @katherine3107 6 місяців тому +2

      We never stop learning until the day Jesus comes! He is our perfector 💖

  • @relaxwithme__
    @relaxwithme__ 3 місяці тому +20

    She is the queen of body language education 👑

    • @ScienceOfPeople
      @ScienceOfPeople 2 місяці тому +2

      Oh! Thank you! 💕💕💕

    • @relaxwithme__
      @relaxwithme__ Місяць тому

      @@ScienceOfPeople you are so welcome! 🤗

  • @Introvertedalpha
    @Introvertedalpha 2 роки тому +30

    'If you show authentic happiness, you are more likely to infect happiness.' -- love this quote!

  • @vanessavanedwards8014
    @vanessavanedwards8014 2 роки тому +543

    This was so amazing to do! Thank you for allowing me to share

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому +32

      Thank you as well🧡

    • @soniasinghinternational
      @soniasinghinternational 2 роки тому +17

      Vanessa you are amazing!!! Loveeeed this interview and I learned so much. Lewis you are the best interviewer ever. Your energy together is wonderful to watch.

    • @xjessy5280
      @xjessy5280 2 роки тому +11

      I’m not even 10 minutes in and I’ve learned so much already! Your enthusiasm is contagious Vanessa. Thank you so so much for everything that you do. You’re a joy to listen to and I can’t wait to listen to the rest of the show ❤️🥰

    • @mitchharrington9427
      @mitchharrington9427 2 роки тому +3

      Great research and information from this interview. Love it thank you for so much insight on the things I need to be aware of.

    • @hienly8956
      @hienly8956 2 роки тому +4

      Loved your enthusiasm in all your sharings. Of course Lewis too did an amazing job as an interviewer. So fun to wacth. You two were on fire! ❤️

  • @NotReallyAEvilMorty
    @NotReallyAEvilMorty 2 роки тому +894

    This is easily your best episode Lewis. The chemistry between you two is amazing and the learning content is high quality. I'm 100% going to buy the book.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому +50

      Appreciate you! 🙏

    • @PaulinaMedia
      @PaulinaMedia 2 роки тому +28

      Lewis and Vanessa have always had amazing chemistry. 👏🏽👏🏽

    • @vahinipillay2660
      @vahinipillay2660 2 роки тому +17

      I could not agree more! I could feel myself learning from start to finish! ❤

    • @vanessavanedwards8014
      @vanessavanedwards8014 2 роки тому +55

      WOW! Thank you so much. I am so honored.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому +24

      Thank you 🙂

  • @dialaa.4001
    @dialaa.4001 10 місяців тому +7

    Around minute 11( charisma): perfect blend of competence and warmth

  • @kangkanabora5366
    @kangkanabora5366 4 місяці тому +10

    She is such a good charmer, Lewis was blushing the whole podcast ❤

  • @air_19
    @air_19 2 роки тому +293

    This talk held me until the very end. Every sentence mattered. Grateful for this. I especially learned how to be authentic with someone toxic in the work place.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому +2

      🧡

    • @jwallaby7895
      @jwallaby7895 8 місяців тому +1

      When was it said how to be authentic with someone at the work llace? Time stamp please?

  • @EveningTV
    @EveningTV 2 роки тому +36

    Charisma is why narcissists are so successful. Dr. Ramani Durvusula says she goes running the other way when she sees a charismatic person. She likes the quiet people in the corner. Judging by my two marriages I'd say she is on to something. 💕

    • @slchance8839
      @slchance8839 2 роки тому +1

      so people who watch this video, for self-improvement, and discipline themselves to become better....are now AVOIDED by Dr Durvusula? For getting better?
      interesting.

    • @Thenoobestgirl
      @Thenoobestgirl 2 роки тому +2

      Maybe you should start running the other way yourself lol

  • @Jananicholson874
    @Jananicholson874 Рік тому +102

    i think that these skills are very useful in relationships though. very single expereince is useful and in my opinion you're doing great job . and also my man is doing great job :-) he's a lawyer but i mean that he's great w spanish drops

  • @cherishparkhurst8124
    @cherishparkhurst8124 2 місяці тому +5

    When someone isn't to sure and question themselves I find that being encourageing to empower them to find their confidence in themselves is such a great thing

  • @8675-__
    @8675-__ 2 роки тому +8

    And this is why Italian people are so good at expressing their thoughts!
    They always use their hands and colorful language

  • @MD-yp7im
    @MD-yp7im 2 роки тому +146

    She’s incredibly likable and captivating, beyond her obvious beauty. She’s really selling her product. Great episode

    • @dennisrobinson8008
      @dennisrobinson8008 2 роки тому +6

      The personality is fun and bubbly

    • @2abalsys
      @2abalsys Рік тому +2

      i think it was over the top and contrived. got annoying after 5 mins or so. couldn't finish it...

    • @denisedoherty4909
      @denisedoherty4909 Рік тому +1

      Not likable at all. Very annoying. Keeps overtalking him.

    • @dennisrobinson8008
      @dennisrobinson8008 Рік тому

      @@denisedoherty4909 He has a habit of hard headed listening, so not giving the guest attention. Shes powerful in her area and that's what we hear.

    • @denisedoherty4909
      @denisedoherty4909 Рік тому +1

      @@dennisrobinson8008 Interesting. I think he is an excellent listener and interviewer. Very low key. As opposed to her over the top exuberance which seems forced and phony to me. Maybe some of the content is good but I cannot get through this because I find her extremely obnoxious. I guess perception really is everything.

  • @freshmintsky
    @freshmintsky 2 роки тому +129

    I love that she is generous with acknowledgments, gives credit where it’s due, and appreciates the work people do to support her presentations

  • @Soulenergy31
    @Soulenergy31 11 місяців тому +26

    5:23 when you express your vulnerability, you acknowledge then you are less afraid
    21:20 use gestures

  • @elfhririn
    @elfhririn 2 роки тому +110

    I never comment... I just came to say THIS LADY IS AWESOME. Like wow! I learned a TON and I 100% agree with EVERYTHING she said! That does NOT happen often. Very grateful for her sharing her wisdom and virtues with us

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому +4

      So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here:
      podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

    • @ScienceOfPeople
      @ScienceOfPeople 2 роки тому +3

      Thank you so much! I'm glad you enjoyed it 😀

    • @ashrichman9956
      @ashrichman9956 Рік тому +1

      Josh, she is awesome and so are you!! Let’s practice her tips to help us develop more confidence and then we’ll be awesome and warm 💕

  • @19daniellegut
    @19daniellegut 2 роки тому +12

    She has to be one of the most charming, engaging, insightful & beautiful individuals on the planet. Her smile can light up the universe. Her husband is so blessed… he won the lottery when she agreed to marry him!

  • @Jenls72
    @Jenls72 2 роки тому +221

    Omg as an introvert I feel like this has so many answers to my questions! She's amazing! I've bought the book and I'll watch this video every week for a while since there is an abundance of treasure in here!

    • @ChristianaSenibo
      @ChristianaSenibo Рік тому +4

      Really insightful conversation 🙂

    • @Michael-bf1dt
      @Michael-bf1dt Рік тому

      Hi Jenis how are you. Greetings from Ireland ☘️. It’s a good video. I love the pictures on your channel. Best wishes for a lovely day 😊🙏 Michael

    • @josegcondado
      @josegcondado Рік тому

      Yes, same here

    • @irmang4790
      @irmang4790 7 місяців тому

      Very informative, truly enjoyed this interview and learned so much. Grateful to you both for this video. Loved it, going to buy the book. Awesome ❤

  • @fatemehrostami4678
    @fatemehrostami4678 2 години тому

    Could any talk ever be any sweeter?! ❤❤❤❤

  • @daryl5379
    @daryl5379 2 роки тому +23

    I am 77yrs old. take no meds, played rugby for 20 yrs, worked in construction since I was 15yrs old, have no arthritis, sleep at least 8hrs a nite and sex at least 2 times a week. I never smoked, stopped drinking alcohol 40 yrs ago, have not had a coke, hamburger, mexican food or that type of rubbish in 50yrs.I go for my annual physical with these expensive doctors here in NB and they say, amazing, keep doing what you doing. But when I point out its all about diet and exercise they actually turn away, don't want to hear it. My contemporaries actually get very angry at me when i point out diet will help them but they would rather be sick and overweight with all their medications than be skinny and active like me. People say all the time, no way you almost 80, My apple watch said I walked 53 miles last month. Hope I don't sound egotistical, just want to point out diet and exercise are the answer at any age.

    • @DELERY2.0
      @DELERY2.0 11 місяців тому

      A year ago. Oops. I just replied to you and my reply didn't even post connected to your comment lol
      Hope you're still out there! Keep walking! We're going to run into each other eventually LOL teehee cuz I'm a walker too .
      Gnite! Stay safe out there

    • @IB4UUB4ME
      @IB4UUB4ME 11 місяців тому +1

      No matter what we do, we still die. However that is not normal and very soon now death will be no more and we will live like what our original purpose was from our Creator! What a great time that will be!!

    • @caspermoes6762
      @caspermoes6762 Місяць тому

      @@IB4UUB4MEmby

    • @shanashawl1024
      @shanashawl1024 29 днів тому

      You inspired me sir! 😮
      Great things in life like your health is really a product of discipline and consistency. Not that complicated .. but very hard to sustain.
      I guess it's never too late to regain and give honor to what's given to us as a gift. Our one life and one body. 😊 Man! I wanna be like you too.. Seems cool! Keep doing what you're doing ~

  • @Maxhindle
    @Maxhindle 2 роки тому +59

    Confidence is saying I am amazing… but not better than another, I recommend looking in the mirror daily until you can truly say you are amazing without ego 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️

  • @dushisoundsmeditationmusic
    @dushisoundsmeditationmusic Рік тому +80

    To the person reading this: THANK YOU for being here and adding value to our world 💖 Hope you have a blessed day filled with joy, happiness, health and love! 💖

  • @susymay7831
    @susymay7831 3 місяці тому +7

    Timestamps would help your nice videos.

  • @cutzymccall7675
    @cutzymccall7675 2 роки тому +222

    It helps to be feeling good about yourself - and life. I never feel vulnerable socially because I love life and people from all walks of life. I don’t “separate” myself from others. I enjoy meeting strangers because I don’t see anyone as a stranger. I believe that we are all One, from every place, culture, race, religion and every walk of life. Everyone is my friend until they prove otherwise and if they aren’t I might feel sad or down for a few moments but then quickly accept it and walk away. Also: humor is your best friend in making friends and connecting with others. Yes, warmth and confidence - and giving.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому +4

      👍

    • @mini_Pills
      @mini_Pills Рік тому +3

      Thank you for this very interesting perspective.

    • @fulol
      @fulol 11 місяців тому +6

      maybe that's because u haven't come across any murderers, rapists, perverts or crooks yet, i think once u do u might have a different view then about the so called "we are all one"

    • @piitaa108
      @piitaa108 11 місяців тому +2

      'We are all one', 'Everyone is my friend' is magical thinking, a fantasy.

    • @IB4UUB4ME
      @IB4UUB4ME 11 місяців тому

      Yeah but look at you, your very sexy looking, that makes it a tan bit more easier 😉

  • @littoy
    @littoy 2 роки тому +52

    Really good. She actually advances the body language and charisma subjects.

    • @vanessavanedwards8014
      @vanessavanedwards8014 2 роки тому +3

      Thank you thank you! I really wanted to deepen our knowledge of both.

  • @KimGonzalez-kt8uh
    @KimGonzalez-kt8uh Рік тому +51

    Is it just me or am I sensing some good chemistry between these two?!

    • @nadiavance3777
      @nadiavance3777 Рік тому +12

      Hahah his gaze!! Definitely! Seems really into her

    • @rovalq1
      @rovalq1 Рік тому +2

      @Nadia Vance and obviously she is noting his mesmerised 👀

    • @nadiavance3777
      @nadiavance3777 Рік тому +2

      @@rovalq1 maybe this is how charismatic people look like? Mesmerized, both haha

    • @XxDarkRaverxX
      @XxDarkRaverxX Рік тому +2

      She is married

    • @vanessajones3041
      @vanessajones3041 Рік тому

      off the charts

  • @vishalchauhan3007
    @vishalchauhan3007 Місяць тому +4

    She is wholesome ❤

  • @princessh2626
    @princessh2626 2 роки тому +45

    As a teacher, when I started watching you here, right away I thought “smart man!” Asking great questions to his guests…the right questions, questions I would ask, questions that make sense…bringing awareness and clarification to your audience. Thank you Lewis…YOU ARE GREATNESS!!!☀️📚💕☀️

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому +3

      You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

  • @seamasmanly
    @seamasmanly 2 роки тому +16

    My biggest takeaway is smiling at the sides of my eyes. I just used that during my performance, and I experienced better connection with my audience.

    • @ertongashi488
      @ertongashi488 2 роки тому +1

      If you do that yo will get wrincles...

  • @Cynthiadiddat2
    @Cynthiadiddat2 Рік тому +43

    I am so great full I stumbled across this video and just in time. My work environment is very toxic. The women I work with have given up and r very toxic. On Monday morning I go back to work and change this. I will no longer work in a toxic environment or with toxic people. I absolutely love what I do. I am filled with all this new confidence and knowledge from this inspirational and powerful video. Thank you from the tips of my toes to the palms of my hands and Thank u for reminding me that life is to short.🙏🏻💁

    • @elladapetrosyan9610
      @elladapetrosyan9610 Рік тому +4

      Sorry you have to go through that, Cynthia. Good luck with changing it, hope it works!

    • @ssgundes1
      @ssgundes1 Рік тому +1

      Good luck to you. Keep this attitude

    • @mlothiclan
      @mlothiclan Рік тому +2

      I wonder how this has progressed

  • @priscilagonzalez3273
    @priscilagonzalez3273 10 місяців тому +4

    She talks with so much excitement I love it

  • @robh3267
    @robh3267 2 роки тому +33

    There is so much information she is presenting it seems almost overwhelming to try and incorporate it all in daily interactions, some of the greatest liars and con artists have mastered many of these techniques, I've found that honesty, caring and true sincerity goes a long way when it comes to being charming and charismatic, Vanessa is a fascinating person and much of her charm comes from her enthusiasm of her work, she has an incredible amount of knowledge.

    • @vanessavanedwards8014
      @vanessavanedwards8014 2 роки тому +3

      Thank you so much! I know it is a lot -- start with one cue at a time = )

    • @IEVAKambarovaite
      @IEVAKambarovaite 2 роки тому +1

      @@vanessavanedwards8014 I find it amazing how you don't just repeat same stories over and over again in different interviews. I can't even imagine how challenging this must be when you're promoting your book and have to talk about it over and over. Loved every moment of this interview 💕

  • @lifecoachrosanna4934
    @lifecoachrosanna4934 2 роки тому +57

    Once I became more comfortable in my own skin and started living for me the easier it is is to engage others. I was watching this and thinking, I haven't experienced social rejection in the longest. Probably because I surround myself with others that care about self-love, self-development and are focused on being their best version. When I was blaming the world for my problems and being self-absorbed, i did experience many of the social rejection cues she mentioned.

    • @barry963
      @barry963 Рік тому

      Sad part is those filled with the most confidence are the biggest aholes ever on average.

  • @Xander.Wright
    @Xander.Wright 3 місяці тому

    She's very likeable , warm , smart , knowledgeable , enthusiastic AND physically very attractive. Such a winning combination.

  • @mamoako1521
    @mamoako1521 Рік тому +3

    35:57 Mutual Connection is highly competent (37:58 Amazing Life Changing Quote)

  • @dakotablueskies
    @dakotablueskies 2 роки тому +6

    So practical.
    She has a perfect balance of warmth and confidence.

  • @positivevibes3418
    @positivevibes3418 2 роки тому +6

    Words are Energy. Be impeccable.
    Great tools, and stay authentic!

  • @sirensguide153
    @sirensguide153 8 місяців тому +26

    this interview was so enthralling that i actually was excited with anticipation to hear every next word from the both of their mouths. not only was it exuding such a comfortable, wonderful energy, but it was also packed full of absolute GEMS. i even feel better after watching this because the energy was just that refreshing. such a beautiful and genuine chemistry between two intellectually stimulating human beings.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  8 місяців тому

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

    • @ScienceOfPeople
      @ScienceOfPeople 7 місяців тому

      Wow, thank you so much! I'm so happy to hear this ❤

  • @LindseyObrooke
    @LindseyObrooke 8 місяців тому +6

    This just helped me figure out why my senior manager is amazing, and why I look up to her so much -- she sincerely has the perfect blend of warmth and competence. I really hope I can morph into this!

  • @ambersnow9601
    @ambersnow9601 2 роки тому +28

    I love listening to Vanessa - she’s so charismatic,both warm and competent Thank you for this great video.

  • @BuddyLuv
    @BuddyLuv 2 роки тому +18

    I have a low attention span. I'm 23min in and you guys have still got me completely engaged. The topic and content are really interesting but they way you're presenting is everything. I'm learning so much - thank you!

  • @florinamarchis4081
    @florinamarchis4081 3 місяці тому +2

    Such a well-prepared lady

  • @ColinMahon19741
    @ColinMahon19741 Місяць тому +5

    Just be authentic. It’s really that simple. Stop aligning yourself with the person across from you and you will have a much better experience of life

  • @steveg3940
    @steveg3940 2 роки тому +6

    Idk about everyone else but I love this chick, I’m so fascinated with her research and expert knowledge on these topics. She’s so interesting and I love the passion you can see on her face.. 😍

  • @blueplanet8750
    @blueplanet8750 2 роки тому +156

    Hey Lewis (Hand wave, Full Face Smile) Lots of Gems in this interview. She says she is an introvert, but what comes through is nothing short of explosive charisma and confidence. Obviously practicing EVERYTHING that she preaches - total alignment. - Kudos Wil be reviewing the Transcript as well. Great job bringing her back to the Shark Tank Research findings, love your focus.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much 🙂

    • @eileenwatt8283
      @eileenwatt8283 Рік тому +1

      Oprah says she too is an introvert. Go figure.

    • @youngraymond9293
      @youngraymond9293 Рік тому +2

      I was a complete introvert. I learned to be an extrovert, it might be the same with Vanessa Van Edwards, she learned and adopted and practiced being more confident.

    • @DiscoveryWonders
      @DiscoveryWonders Рік тому +6

      Charisma and being introvert are two separate and independent -not related things. you can be a confident and a charismatic introvert. Or an ambiverted introvert. In that sense. You can also be an insecure overwhelmed with anxiety extrovert.

    • @richmondballer20
      @richmondballer20 Рік тому +2

      @@DiscoveryWondersthank you! It baffles me how people think introverted means you can’t be charismatic.

  • @scottfromsouthcarolina3185
    @scottfromsouthcarolina3185 8 місяців тому +1

    I read that Trial Lawyers study voice techniques, cadence, tone to have a hypnotic effect on the jury. They like to start questions with "Isn't it True that you did X and Y.

  • @analaurar7202
    @analaurar7202 Рік тому

    What a great combo and educational moment. My BF talks to me about gestures and I realized he got that corporal behavior on point. Loved this show

  • @sonjaglasklar7624
    @sonjaglasklar7624 2 роки тому +52

    Vanessa is such a lovely and competent person. I am so happy Lewis you invited her again ❤😀 I am so glad to have the opportunity to listen to your highly insightful talk. I learn so much from it. Thank you so much!!! I 'd be so happy to meet you one day insha'Allah

  • @rivkaestherkletski4184
    @rivkaestherkletski4184 2 роки тому +20

    The huge problem here is that if we have to be so conscious of all of this- we lose spontaneity and spontaneity is warmth. The truth is that true warm sponatneity comes from an inner core of really caring and empathy for all of humnatiy. This compassion can only be generated to flow out spontaenously when one practices a heart based meditation.

    • @annbotley8453
      @annbotley8453 2 роки тому

      OAlways ask the other person How are you& then really listen to what they have to say . Also give a big smile

    • @ChasingYonci
      @ChasingYonci 2 роки тому +1

      Yes!! Warmth comes out naturally when you ARE love.

  • @elizabethprovida1115
    @elizabethprovida1115 21 день тому

    Shes walking her talk! Thanks Lewis for having her❤❤❤.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  21 день тому

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @Thilosophocl3s
    @Thilosophocl3s 6 місяців тому +1

    Nodding up is a sign of respect and trust. Nodding down is acknowledging presence and objective respect. Direct eye contact and zero nod is a warning.

  • @missdaisydoodle
    @missdaisydoodle 2 роки тому +3

    So much of this changes when in international conversations. Culture must be considered.

  • @Dr.JudeAEMasonMD
    @Dr.JudeAEMasonMD 2 роки тому +60

    I don’t know what it is Vanessa, but whenever I listen to you just resets my nervous system to calm and content. Thx Lewis for this amazing platform.🙏🏽

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому +2

      Happy to hear this :)

    • @ScienceOfPeople
      @ScienceOfPeople 2 роки тому +3

      Thank you so much 🥰

    • @VG-qu3vb
      @VG-qu3vb 2 роки тому +5

      Yesss there’s something so authentic about her

  • @katt9208
    @katt9208 Рік тому +2

    Great reference to Dr. Ramani. She says often that she just doesn’t trust charismatic people because in her experience, they are almost always insincere and narcissistic. I’ve been told that I have good presence…and I strive for that balance of warmth and competence…but I am trying to make others comfortable and not necessarily to advance my own agenda. So respecting Dr. Ramani as I do, I’ve really been questioning this approach. Should I not be striving for charisma, but just for an appropriate level of warmth? But being a (small) woman in a logical male field, I worry about being “too warm.” I have been told, too, by other women and even warmer men, that I am too expressive and personal and “hand-gesturey.” I am concerned about being perceived as too smooth and manipulative or as “outside of my integrity.”

  • @SeanPerez101
    @SeanPerez101 Місяць тому

    Crossing arms is a self soothing body language - it’s you giving yourself a hug.

  • @animefigurejunkie
    @animefigurejunkie 2 роки тому +10

    This is phenomenal. I have severe trauma and OCD, and I think this may be a tiny step in getting my life back. I am OBSESSED with social cues. They can destroy me.

  • @connectingthesciences4621
    @connectingthesciences4621 2 роки тому +25

    The balance of warmth and competence makes perfect sense considering we have two hemispheres. Objective rational thought is only half your brain(logic, language, arithmetic ) the other deals in recognizing emotions, faces and melody. Basically our culture teaches to use half our brain to ignore the other and we wonder why people are depressed and anxious. Only thinking objectively is how you end up living a life of regrets.

    • @vanessavanedwards8014
      @vanessavanedwards8014 2 роки тому +2

      Very interesting! I had not thought about that aspect.

    • @connectingthesciences4621
      @connectingthesciences4621 2 роки тому +2

      @@vanessavanedwards8014 There is a lot on this subject that might interest you. I think I will make a video for you covering the science behind the things you have said, I think you might like it.

  • @rimelfallal4413
    @rimelfallal4413 7 місяців тому +1

    Her books read exactly as she speaks, this is how I imagined her voice to be!

  • @carisamartin4226
    @carisamartin4226 2 місяці тому

    I'm inspired and so proud of your will, and your words. You are a beacon of hope my girl ❤

  • @thecomplimentking
    @thecomplimentking 2 роки тому +7

    Thumbs up to her.

    • @thecomplimentking
      @thecomplimentking 2 роки тому

      Met her in real life in 2017. Powerful woman, good person.

  • @wanasong5611
    @wanasong5611 2 роки тому +17

    Beautiful Interview. One of the BEST 'Take Aways' for me was a WONDERFUL REMINDER.
    When WE receive A QUE from another... Wether it be Verbal, or subtle Body Language.... The KEY TO TRUE DIPLOMATIC COMMUNICATION is in ASKING OURSELVES: I See, Hear, and or FEEL that.... Now ' How can I HONOR IT' ? 😘💖🙏🌎✌🏼

    • @buddhaneosiddhananda8499
      @buddhaneosiddhananda8499 2 роки тому +2

      Most of society is based around supporting the negative EGO... rather than being spiritual...all kinds of selfishness... negative synergy/darkside...😰😰

    • @VessiTessi
      @VessiTessi 2 роки тому +1

      Beautifully said!❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому +1

      Glad you enjoyed it!

    • @vanessavanedwards8014
      @vanessavanedwards8014 2 роки тому +1

      Yes yes yes! You got it!

  • @bitarezaee6152
    @bitarezaee6152 Рік тому

    There is so much to unpack from this conversation! Wow. I have to listen to this one more time...

  • @sharonscheer7881
    @sharonscheer7881 Рік тому +1

    Warmth and Competence

  • @lauriecolon2414
    @lauriecolon2414 2 роки тому +47

    I’m a realtor and not a salesperson or extroverted by nature. I will definitely be implementing these. Thank you for sharing!

    • @johnames6430
      @johnames6430 2 роки тому +2

      I was a lot like you, we are similar. It takes a strong and friendly type of person to make it in realty.

    • @vanessavanedwards8014
      @vanessavanedwards8014 2 роки тому +2

      Woohoo! I am so so thrilled! And happy to help = )

    • @johnames6430
      @johnames6430 2 роки тому +1

      @@vanessavanedwards8014 Were there any presentations that were bad but the sharks ended up giving them a deal anyway?

    • @Nina-hk7ub
      @Nina-hk7ub 2 роки тому +1

      I'm an extrovert LO & long to leave my home office! Been awful.

  • @ryandeffley7652
    @ryandeffley7652 2 роки тому +10

    She's really engaging. She understands human nature, different forms of communication, and psychology. It's a good mix.👍
    It's also very attractive that she's warm and feminine (her dopamine list was 🔥) while being very logical at the same time. I've noticed women tend to communicate in feelings and emotion vs reason and accountability. Your best guest IMO. 💯

  • @frankG335
    @frankG335 Рік тому +2

    When I took exams in college, I would think in terms of mastering the material and winning the top grade, rocking the class, LOVING the material, feeling like I won the prize just by being able to go to this college and study what I had ALWAYS wanted to do all my life.
    I saw exams as a joy. I rewarded myself instantly by first answering all the ones where I knew the answers. That got my confidence racing.
    Once all those were done, I did the ones I wasn't sure about.
    It always worked.

  • @tabone888
    @tabone888 Рік тому +3

    Confidence is the belief in yourself and preparation.
    The more you practice the more confident you become.

  • @LizzoBlizzo
    @LizzoBlizzo 2 роки тому +74

    This was lovely and powerful! Loved Vanessa’s response on handling toxic people in a work environment that response was magnificent!!! 💥💥💥

  • @johnmcfetridge3974
    @johnmcfetridge3974 2 роки тому +7

    She is an absolute genius. Always so inspired by her.
    She was my first motivational speaker I followed.
    First choice . Best choice.
    She will make things fall in line just by listening to what she has to say.
    Her natural no nonsense is it...

  • @lauraaqui
    @lauraaqui Рік тому +1

    What i love about you Lewis is you always ask the great questions, which leads to a much more intriguing talk. the questions are just as interesting as the answers. Laura in uk

  • @mamoako1521
    @mamoako1521 Рік тому +1

    31:42 Prime Others With Warmth and Competence (Example: 33:26)

  • @rebeccarossi4012
    @rebeccarossi4012 2 роки тому +16

    Awesome interview. This is the first time I ever heard Vanessa Van Edwards speak!! I just bought her book thank you!!!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому

      Glad you enjoyed it!

    • @vanessavanedwards8014
      @vanessavanedwards8014 2 роки тому +1

      I am so honored! Thank you so much!

    • @rebeccarossi4012
      @rebeccarossi4012 2 роки тому +1

      @@lewishowesI soak this stuff up like a sponge. Every day learning more. If you ever want to do a show on viewers who's lives have been changed due to YOUR SCHOOL - count me in!

  • @sherryripepi6024
    @sherryripepi6024 2 роки тому +11

    Knowledge is power, understanding is wisdom. This is an educational video on the different cues of charisma. People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Charismatic leaders utilize a wide range of nonverbal warmth and likeability cues. They display genuine smiles, maintain positive eye contact, use a variety of gestures, orient their torsos toward those with whom they are engaging, touch others during conversations, and so forth.

  • @alexryan9869
    @alexryan9869 23 дні тому

    This is a great interview. I love how she teaches people how to communicate properly.

  • @DCayce
    @DCayce 8 місяців тому +1

    Sincerity is everything… once you can fake that, you’ve got it made.

  • @user-nt8ih7qq6t
    @user-nt8ih7qq6t 6 місяців тому +17

    What a great podcast that was! I am an introvert and work in communication. I was literally taking notes, along. Thank you Lewis, thank you Vanessa ❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  6 місяців тому +2

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

    • @ScienceOfPeople
      @ScienceOfPeople 4 місяці тому

      You’re so welcome ❤ Thank you for watching!

  • @debbieknight1224
    @debbieknight1224 2 роки тому +47

    I loved Vanessa and Lewis' interaction! They have a lot of chemistry and can really delve into the topics with examples. Great job!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому +1

      So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here:
      podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

    • @tanixatanixa
      @tanixatanixa 11 місяців тому +2

      Oh yeeeah! I was looking for this comment, the chemistry creates a different kind of synergy here, so beautiful

  • @chrismaki5456
    @chrismaki5456 4 місяці тому +1

    I enjoy being at the stage of my life (late twenties) where I can truly listen to discussions like this, still liking the speaker, while being actively conscious of the statements I disagree with.

  • @22K562
    @22K562 Рік тому +1

    She’s so smart it makes her more beautiful. I wish I could sit down and just pick her brain. She’s is deep and has many layers to her. I’m a fan

  • @habibanazeera
    @habibanazeera Рік тому +5

    The chemistry between two of you is awesome. And Vanessa you are soooo intelligent and sooo likeable. Thank you

  • @ladyinmauve
    @ladyinmauve 2 роки тому +25

    I didn't finish the interview; however, this has to be my favourite yet!. Thank you Lewis and Vanessa💛💛

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому +1

      So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here:
      podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

    • @vanessavanedwards8014
      @vanessavanedwards8014 2 роки тому +2

      Thank you!

  • @boutiquelove5391
    @boutiquelove5391 Рік тому +2

    You should be a couple
    Beautiful energy and honest and smart

  • @samli369
    @samli369 4 місяці тому +1

    This is the best thing I've ever learnt! ( Arms and chest opened, palms faced outward)

  • @johnhalcroft7283
    @johnhalcroft7283 2 роки тому +9

    Thank-you Lewis & Vanessa for the great interview!! Love the quote "People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care" Love it!!! Super Power

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому

      You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

  • @Jeh06
    @Jeh06 Рік тому +5

    Vanessa teaches actually useful tips we can put into practice to achieve charisma. She opens up a door for us and makes our goals tangible. It was a pleasure watching this video.

  • @okitopie
    @okitopie Рік тому

    My favourite episode/interview was absolutely joyfully, and I learn so much! Thank you Mr Lewies and Vanessa Van Edwards

  • @ganymeade5151
    @ganymeade5151 8 місяців тому +1

    See, spot, disengage is great advice for more understanding, less social anxiety, and more self confidence and empowerment.

  • @buddhaneosiddhananda8499
    @buddhaneosiddhananda8499 Рік тому +3

    The trick to being charismatic... like everything... is to ASK for it... "Ask and ye shall receive..."😇😇

  • @Forgiveness55
    @Forgiveness55 2 роки тому +10

    Thank you Lewis. I am grateful for you and the amazing guests you bring to the masses. I learn soo much about emotional intelligence and how to be a better human being.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 роки тому

      So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here:
      podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

  • @Gigi.973
    @Gigi.973 3 місяці тому

    I cant get over how much i enjoy her enthusiasm for her work ❤

  • @samotivationbysami
    @samotivationbysami 10 місяців тому +1

    Anytime I’ve compared myself to others, I’ve felt less than. Until I realized that the only person I should compare myself to, is the person I was yesterday. No matter what you compare, you will always find someone richer, better looking than you, has a nicer car, has a better (fill in the blanks). And it's totally pointless. When I began focusing on the idea of going to bed better than I woke up, basically making sure that throughout day I do things that make a better version than the one who woke up that morning, then life really began to change for me. Focus on you and your own progress. Run your own marathon!

  • @josuecastrog8456
    @josuecastrog8456 Рік тому +5

    Vannesa is so energetic, I am really want to know more

  • @brieocea
    @brieocea 2 роки тому +15

    so excited for our kids to start learning this stuff in school 🙌🏼

  • @Iam_ramankaur
    @Iam_ramankaur 2 роки тому

    her each and every information is so valuable and useful ! she is amazing