1) Shop at thrift shops in good neighborhood's 2) Practice good etiquette 3) Visit free seminars and exhibitions at art galleries, museums, and networking events 4) Take elocution lessons 5) DIY pampering 6) Develop good character 7) Pick flowers from an outdoor garden 8) Feed your mind with elegance 9) Educate yourself on different topics 10) Live a healthy lifestyle. Eat well and work out 11) Be sophisticated. Self control when provoked is the litmus test 12) Spend more time outdoors 13) Develop and pursue a passion. Examine yourself
Ever since I became a Christian, the Word of God has been my guide to not only to know Him and how to please Him, but also a guide for refinement. These are all characteristics of a godly virtuous woman.
This video reminds me of my mother (she passed in 2016 at the age of 88). My mother was a child of the Great Depression in the United States. Despite her very humble upbringing, my mother was always beautifully presentable. Everyday, she would put on make-up, style her hair and put on nice clothes. She may not have had any designer labels but her clothes were always neat, clean, and pressed. She had a signature look with a headband and flower in her short hair. Every time we went out in public, people would come up to her and tell her how beautiful she was. She was a very classy lady. When I would visit her apartment building, and someone found out that I was Donna‘s daughter, they would tell me what a class act my mother was. You are absolutely right, Vivienne, you don’t need money to be elegant and classy. My mother was a perfect example.
@@princessirulancorrino4695 thank you for your beautiful reply. You described my mom beautifully. My mom had a kind and gentle spirit that gave her a beautiful glow and countenance. I truly believe that is what drew people to her. She was adorable, yes, but her spirit shined through her lovely face and people responded to that.
Thanks for saying this. I’m a man and have different perspective but my uncle was indeed a class act. He always look presentable whenever he stepped out. He’s no longer with us but his white shirts where crips and navy blue slacks where bone straight and shoes always polished and in fantastic condition. Even when casual he looked as elegant as ever in his belted denim jeans paired with white linen shirts. Some will say why use that word for a man, I say it’s the only word I would use to describe him. He wasn’t rich and he was a university student with a part time job and an old car but he kept it clean and looked like that guy who owned everything. He could fit in anywhere and knew all the important people in town, as they all wanted to be in his presence because he brought them so much joy. He made a huge impact in my life as a young boy and I thanked him so much for that. All these years later I look just like him. From manners to how I dress, everything is an ode to him and I carry this on in our family. He’s is my hero and one of the few relatives I just can’t get over their deaths. It took me a year after he passed to recover from losing him.
My mother was an elegant woman. She always looked her best. Never went to the nail salon, never had her hair styled professionally, or had a professional facial or mask. She did these things herself at home. She didn't have designer clothes but her taste in clothes and accessories was impeccable. Also, her speech and character were the best.
I’m a widow and I met a widower because he mentioned he had been watching me because I carried myself different from the other women at the senior center where I attend. He said, “ you come in do your activities then you would leave and not hang around gossiping”. He liked that about me. I’ve always been a nice conservative dresser, wise with money and health conscious. They say I don’t look my age. Line dancing is one of my passions along with working with justice organizations. I like to read and I have an eye for decorating. I treat people like I would like to be treated. I relate to a lot of the things you mentioned and have taught my daughters to be ladies. I aspire to become better. Thank you.
I started my “level up” journey immediately. First, I got my hair in a style that was easy for me to handle. And I have a weekly routine for my hair. Then I went to the thrift store and found used garments to wear to look presentable until I can lose the extra twenty lbs I am working to get off. You can start anywhere. We only have one income and I just shop frugally.
Wonderful start 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 see YOURSELF 20 pounds lighter and ponder on the excitement you'll feel once your goal is achieved. Nooo criticism of yourself. Affirm: I AM my perfect size...
My grandmother was an elegant woman of very modest means. Someone once referred to her as a "poor old woman". That was the wrong thing to say! She pulled herself up to her full height, looked them in the eye and corrected them by stating "I am NOT a poor old woman. I might be mature and financially embarrassed but I will always be a lady. And it would be in your best interest to remember that." Her example changed my life.
It often feels so hard to be elegant while being working class. My hands are rough and my back hurts but finding this channel makes me feel hopeful for the future. Especially as I work to get out of this dead-end job and focus more on my education.
Hello Belladonna, I have the same problem with my hands specially in winter. This is what I do: twice a week when I wash my hands I put a little bit of sugar to make a scrub, but be gently and only rub your hands for a minute or two. After that use a good lotion. Also you can visit a quiropractic at least twice a year 😉
I know what you mean. What I use to do when I felt unladylike with my profession was to make sure I dress well and pamper myself at least on the weekends or when I'm off. I also use church to dress up and feel more feminine. I have a habit of acting manly but im trying to get out of that.
I go to the dollar store for my pampering needs . Sleep bonnet Pretty hair pieces Lotion Nail care Makeup . Walmart and kohls and thrift stores for classic neat pieces .it’s more about presentation & attitude than anything else & it works well for me
There are free clothing events I go to as well I’ve found beautiful pieces . Keeping hydrated, eating clean & exercising & sunshine helps me feel well overall . Reading , watching this type of content is helpful too . We don’t have to be rich to be kind , put together & beautiful . I am now attracting higher quality people into my life . I was raised in trash , drama & abuse so that’s what I was accustomed to .
I totally agree, because before I got married I was soft, very kind, loved and enjoyed wearing dresses but as I was with a toxic partner those traits were forgotten. I had to toughen up to protect myself and lost myself in the process. It’s not only about wearing a dress or heels but I was a free spirited and and laid back. My advice just be who you are and we are all beautiful, find your self and be comfortable❤
It’s refreshing to hear a young lady, talk about refining oneself at a low cost or no money at all, too many people focus on material things, and brand names too and many extravagant things that they cannot afford and a lot of times the person that’s talking about cannot afford it themselves, and they do not practice what they preach , this is why I say this is refreshing to hear . Beautiful video.
My darling, you are the epitome of the "Virtuous Woman" of Proverb 31:10-31! I applaud you for unselfishly inviting us to share in this lovely journey of Leveling Up! As a young girl, I had always been teased for my "Proper Speaking", having had a Military father-- that made my sisters and I learn three new words out of the dictionary every day-- we also had to tell him what the words meant, how to spell them, and put them in a sentence, along with pronouncing them correctly! However, after perusing several of your videos-- I am appreciative for that discipline from my father, because he understood the value that enlightenment would mean to our lives as we grew into adulthood. I am an avid reader and I love doing research. My greatest passion includes helping others to learn how to read, to speak and spell better. So, when children ask me how to spell a word-- I excitedly say; "let's look it up in the dictionary"! And that enthusiasm rubs off on them😄
The refinements of life are disappearing. You are correct. If we don’t make a conscious effort to preserve them, they will be gone forever and our children will be clueless.
Beauty fact from an aesthetician: consistency is key! You can save the expensive and aggressive treatments for when you have big events coming up (not less than a month before ladies!)but a good daily practice will be the key to looking your best 24/7. *Wear less make up. *A good quality daily cleanser will be an investment you won’t regret. You really need a very small amount (pea to dime size) and any excess just dries your skin. Use it at night (and after sweating like the gym or the beach). You can find good ones for $10-$50USD that will last 4-6 months easily. *wear sunscreen daily. Even in winter. Even if you’ll be inside an office all day. WEAR IT.
I really do love your style, diction, how you pronounce your words and so much more. You inspire me to be elegant. Until I started following you, I used to think that pursuit of elegance is vanity. But lately , I have come to appreciate the importance of being elegant. Keep inspiring us Vivian🙌🙌 From Kenya 🇰🇪
Thank you for sharing, Vivian. Lately I’ve been beating myself by comparing myself to women on luxury instagram. I am working paycheck to paycheck at the moment so this video was very inspirational. ❤️
I don’t do fake gram, stay wishing your means trust me you are the ones who have to pay those bills. My Wardrobe is 80 percent luxury but that’s me I have always been like that I’m single and I take care of me. But I love dressing and I love giving. My little cousin come in my house to shop. Sharing is caring the Brooklyn . Sis do you . YOUR DOPE
Same I been comparing too much when I learned just to do everything they do myself till I can afford it so I do my own nails, lashes, hair etc it definitely therapeutic for me but also getting me together!
U R enuf however we all can benefit from Abit of tweaking also expanding vocabulary from goggling lists of expanded words & correct pronunciation..Free 😉
Ok Vivian, the Universe has put this video in my timeline because I have been praying and using affirmations to better myself physically and mentally. New subscriber!
I forgot to mention in my previous comments that I didn't come from a wealthy family (middle class, working parents) with seven children. This is what motivated me to be resourceful in using similar tactics to enrich my quality of life through spending my time reading , writing, attending events at libraries, museums, art fairs, and taking classes in dance, public speaking, etiquette, and foreign language. By the way, Your best tip 👌 was shopping at Thift stores (aka Vintage Boutiques) because this is truly where you'll get quality goods at great 👍 prices.
I happen to be an English Language teacher, currently doing a post graduate training course. I admire the broad vocabulary Vivian uses in her speech!!! What an inspirational woman!!!!!! I've been implementing almost everything she mentions for many years now, even before the Internet!!!!! It's inconceivable to me that women need to be reminded of their nature!! Respect to this beautiful woman, Vivian!
Thank you for this fresh perspective of elegance and leveling up. I truly feel more confident with the idea of leveling up with limited funds as a single mother
You are so on point! You can't buy character, style or integrity. Seeing a young lady like you with such poise & class is refreshing. Thanks for teaching this senior citizen, there's always something new to learn.
I wish when I was younger we had a class like this. I'm 64 and these are the best ways to learn about elegant without being rich. But being a elegant lady. I Thank you so much
Frugality and minimalism is key . I want to see money in my account and rental properties for my retired life . I have wasted so much money in my 20 and 30 on clothes shoes junk it’s nowhere to be seen now !!!!
Thank you Vivian for exhibiting true elegance in every sense of the word. Hi ladies, l know everyone who is listening to this channel has the intention to become a better version of themselves and l believe that can happen when you network with like-minded people. It'll be a pleasure to get to know and interact with you elegant ladies so kindly reach out to me! Thank you
I keep coming back to this video... I now wear makeup and perfume everyday to work.. (I'm a cleaner) I will not forget the day I went to work.. the client did a double take because he saw a different person compared to me just wearing sunscreen. (It does work) I got dressed up in a skirt. I got better treatment at the mechanic.
People who give up in life are people who lose in life, my first experience happens to be a failure but I never gave up cause I knew it was going to work out for me trying continuously, fortunately I'm smiling today by getting involved in investment.. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life too 🙏🙏🙏
Starting early is the best way of getting ahead to build wealth, investing remains a priority. I learnt from my last year's experience, i am able to build a suitable life because I invested early ahead this time.
I urge everyone to start somewhere now no matter how small, this is literally the time for that, forget material things, don't get tempted,i became more better the moment i realized this.
Yeah investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity but venturing into any legitimate investment without a proper guidance of an expert can lead to greater loss too
Thank you so much. This talk is like a breath of fresh air in a smoky room. Elegance can be achieved and maintained with a low budget and starts in the mind. I find listening to classical music or instrumental classics very calming and peaceful and allows me to focus my thoughts and make better decisions. Also being from a community of loud and vulgar persons doesn't mean that something is wrong with me for wanting to be elegant and sophisticated doing things that improves my posture, speech and lifestyle décor even if it isn't common within my environment right, now its a mindset and an achievable quality. I believe every woman should strive to be elegant simply because we were made to function efficiently this way and it does add structure, beauty and a complimentary dimension of value to our feminine roles.
Absolutely love this video. You radiate Elegance Vivian ❤ I'd like to make a suggestion /warning to all ladies who want to broadly educate them self. Please be cautious to not fall into the Trap of "poverty education only" almost everyone I went to college with....yes even the individuals that now have master's degrees, ninety-nine percent of what they studied in school in all areas of study was related to Poverty problems / crime in other parts of the world and how "horrible life is" only. They were not taught to seek Solutions, they were not taught to think positively, and none of them even volunteer/donate or do anything to resolve the problems that they are freaking out all the time about. They are angry, judgmental, jealous, and absolutely hate anyone who even appears to have money. The default assumption is "if you are doing well you trampled on someone else to have that." This is the new mark of being educated /civilized to many people. And it's NOT being educated. Learn valuable life skills, be a good person, make yourself happy, do not listen to people who want to "educate you" on "Why you should be in fear all the time."
Lot of times people think having the degrees means you’re above others. Those degrees in a specific subject won’t mask the requirements you need in life to live a meaningful, well rounded life of what Vivian describes in the video. I’ve met so many doctors and lawyers who are far far from refined and won’t be able to comport themselves in simple tasks. These are life skills which needs to be taught from a young age.
I just found you, Vivienne, and I love you!!! I love that you are focusing the fact that elegance and class is attainable without money. I have a wardrobe that looks like a million dollars, and all of which came from my local goodwill. I bought only the things of high caliber quality! And the most impressive is beautiful diction and broadened vocabulary. This is lacking in the world today where vulgarity is the norm and even sadly comes out of young children.
I just love this video. It is so practical and we all can benefit by it, especially the part about filling our minds with elegance instead of mindlessly scrolling through social media.
I love this, character can not be hidden. I also agree with you on learning. I have enjoyed visiting Annapolis and Cambridge Maryland museums, learning about history. It feels good to learn. It makes us more knowledgeable and able to have more intelligent conversations with others. Too much TV can work against us and make us intellectually deficient.
I do my own nails. I keep them short with clear varnish. I check them every day and rub in a heavy balm around the cuticle daily. I hate chipped varnish so using a cheap clear varnish works for me. I do my own keratin blow out every 3 months (costs £150 in the salon, DIY costs £15). I clean my face with olive oil, moisturise with Nivea, vaseline as a night cream. I'm 59 but look younger because of my routine.
Thrift shopping is so much better for the environment, as is making your own natural skin and hair care products, so while you are leveling up on a budget you are also giving the world a big hug.
Love this sentiment! I lost my fiancé to COVID when the pandemic first began and at the 6 month mark of his passing I started repurposing donated items to help improve the lives of children and families that have lost a parent to COVID and it GENUINELY has also blessed my life and my worldview and so many ways. I have a chronic illness so I’ve always had a unique world view, but through my grief process I’ve learned to appreciate this beautiful planet even more. So I’m terms of sustainability I absolutely LOVE your phrasing “giving the planet a big hug”.
Something that absolutely makes me smile about you is the way you speak. Not necessarily your accent, but the fact that you're always clear in enunciating. I listen to your videos just to practice allocutions. Thank you for being a fabulous example!
Oh goodness. The most productive 18min of this year for me. Thank you, Lady. 😊. I've just came across this channel/video and is exactly what I needed today. Have you ever gone to church/gathering and coming put feeling like "today's sermon was exactly what you needed"? Well, that's what this video just did. I apologize for the bad grammar...I'm actually not an English speaking country, but Spanish. Saludos desde Guinea Ecuatorial 🇬🇶 Africa.
your video really blow my mind, from learning etiquette to spending time wisely, going to museum, art gallery rather than go for shopping and cinemas are totally changing my mind what to do at weekends. I will come back and watch the video again. I learn a lot already for the first 5 minutes of your video. Thank You!!
I like the way you dress responsibly while teaching on elegance, unlike others who expose their bodies while teaching on this subject. I love you dear.
Thank you so much Vivian for guiding us and inspiring us to become better.I'm on a personal development & level up journey and your vlogs are really helpful.You are the epitome of what a woman of elegance looks like.Much love💖💖 and appreciation from Kenya🇰🇪🇰🇪
Beautifully said. All that you've mentioned is so very true and such a help. I'd like to thank you especially for encouraging the pursuit of an interest, a passion. It feels like therein lies the spark that can keep all the other fires burning. I want to also thank you also, in general, for all that you are doing. Now, more than ever, the world and her peoples need this. Lastly, thank you for reminding me of the kind of person I wanted to be. I am grateful for the work you are doing.
Thank you, thrift shopping is how I attain my elegant look, ie: sandals for $4.99, lace dress for $9.97 ect. I only buy quality pieces and get compliments like " oh I love your outfit" or " you always look so nice" .
You know, I have been becoming more interested in trying to cultivate a more elegant or sophisticated way of being and this video is so spectacular. Many of the videos I have come across have been very superficial. How to "look" more elegant. How not to "dress" inelegantly. This is one of the first videos that I've come across that actually makes a point to say "actually cultivate yourself, not just your wardrobe". Kudos to you and I will be watching many more of your videos. Thank you so much.
I loved this video. It was helpful. I feel as though I’ve lost my passions. I used to play the piano, create art, write poetry, and garden. I changed since Co.vid. 😢
New subbie! 🎉 I am here for all of these tips. Watching your videos make me want to sit up straight and talk proper at all times, not just in business settings. I enjoy your content so much! It’s very refreshing and uplifting.
4:50 To add, if you sign up for newsletters at smaller galleries and museums you may be able to attend free or low cost opening receptions of artists and/or exhibits. Open receptions are usually the beginning of an artists work being featured at the space, and usually draw the attention of fellow artists, curators, buyers, critics, journalists and enthusiasts. It is a great opportunity to network, especially since usually the artist/curator themself attends the event. Second, for some receptions they also have refreshments, usually light bites or drinks. If you want to go the no spend route you can have a heavy dinner at home and then eat/drink in moderation at the event. Third, going to such an event is also a great opportunity to be ‘seen’ in an elevated environment, you can snap photos of the work or yourself to add to social media or profiles to convey the lifestyle you’re working towards.
Vivienne, you are, in the truest sense, a woman of elegance. Thank you so much for being such a beautiful example of what a true woman is. You put it succinctly, when you made the point regarding a woman being more than someone concerned only with the externals. Bravo to you! Keep up the beautiful and elegant work.
Thank God I've come across you. I was looking for Ghanaian who teaches how to be elegant and frankly I didn't regret subscribing at all. This was what I was looking for. Thank you so much for the points, very helpful.
i really appreciate your content. I am 20 and starting my elegant feminine journey, this type of video really help me. I also appreciate the fact those advice come from a woman of color, i am mixed in france and wasn t exposed to a lot of black woman who succed in a sweet slow beautifull way.
Ladies…….I’m a man this video was absolutely amazing and valuable for men also . I watch these videos to keep a eye out for refinement in the people I interact with and elegant women
Looking elegant is good but it comes from within...and though it's a good thing to learn and better yourself... It's also empowering to feeling and looking how you want to be .
This is inspiring thank you woman of elegance. Deep down i have always desired to be a classy woman of grace who articulates herself well. I believe that is why I found this channel, it speaks to me in many ways.❤❤❤
I have purchased your books and am working through the videos. Elegance has always been something i have veered towards in my life. Thankfully I have already been implementing some things you have mentioned. I follow another elegance coach and am so blessed to have you both on my journey. Thank you xx
I just thank God for knowing this UA-cam channel nowerdays am getting time to know myself better ,thanks alot now am adapting and becoming a woman of elegant each day may God bless you Vivian you are just a blessing to me
When I was 14 years old I lived in a closet in a tiny one room studio apartment above a pizza parlor in Menlo park. I lived with my old hunchback disabled Father on SSI. I was so poor I had to thrift for school clothes. I collected vintage pieces and guess brand or anything else that was designer or just nice looking. I put outfits together and wore something different every day. I went to middle school in a very rich area. I had a girl ask me if I was rich because of my outfits! That sure made me feel good!
Your speech and elegance are mesmerizing. They are a lost art in our society. Recently found your channel, and really appreciate your approach. I love the BBC! Thank you.
Hello everyone! She is absolutely right especially about the DIY beauty care tip. Every day I use the pure skin care joystick for a daily exfoliation, then I wash my face with Dr. Bronner‘s eucalyptus capsule so, then I take a fresh piece of aloe straight from the fridge and I rub it all over my face to make a mask, after I get out of the shower and everything is washed off I use a apple cider vinegar toner that I make myself. You can make the toner using equal parts water and apple cider vinegar and I like to add a tea tree oil to it as well. It preps your skin very nicely for serum and moisturizer. I then go in with Jamison vitamin C serum which is pretty cheap as you can get it at most grocery stores and lastly I finish it up with Clinique dramatic difference anti-aging jelly. I use Neutrogena spot corrector in case I feel a pimple coming. Also do this at night it’ll make a huge difference! It’s great to have a morning/daytime routine but the magic happens at night.
I just found your chanel Viviane. I wish i had you like my coach when I was 20. Now I am 45. But I still can create a better version of myself. God bless you. Thank you.
Hi Viv, you are on point. We can do more, with less. We ladies we go out of our way and stressing ourselves unnessary, because we want to be like someone. Be yourself and stress less. Thanks Viv, this is so inspiring. 👏💕
I've basically been an observer for 27 years of my life, a lot of person who know me, may not think so.....but there's always room to improve, do better, a lot better. Time to Level up. So help me God.🙏🏾
The color that you are wearing in this video is absolutely perfect for you! You are a beautiful woman inside and out. Thank you for sharing very very wise advice.
Thank you for this helpful video. I'm doing some things differently in my life after watching your videos, that are helping me to level up and be more of an elegant lady. You are a beautiful example to follow! Again...thank you. Enjoy your holiday weekend.
I’m telling you!!! I’m obsessed with your videos. Thank you is not enough but it’s what I can say. I’m very grateful and lucky that I found your channel ❤
Vivian is like a sweet classy elder sister that's always looking out for us and helping us feel more lady-like 🥺♥️
Aww thank you my dear💜
Absolutely 💯
I can't be you but I'm happy to see this one
So sweet of you🥰
Yes Vivienne is a sweet classy lady but she is more like my really wise YOUNGER sister.
1) Shop at thrift shops in good neighborhood's
2) Practice good etiquette
3) Visit free seminars and exhibitions at art galleries, museums, and networking events
4) Take elocution lessons
5) DIY pampering
6) Develop good character
7) Pick flowers from an outdoor garden
8) Feed your mind with elegance
9) Educate yourself on different topics
10) Live a healthy lifestyle. Eat well and work out
11) Be sophisticated. Self control when provoked is the litmus test
12) Spend more time outdoors
13) Develop and pursue a passion. Examine yourself
Thank you 💞
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Thank you
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Ever since I became a Christian, the Word of God has been my guide to not only to know Him and how to please Him, but also a guide for refinement. These are all characteristics of a godly virtuous woman.
This video reminds me of my mother (she passed in 2016 at the age of 88). My mother was a child of the Great Depression in the United States. Despite her very humble upbringing, my mother was always beautifully presentable. Everyday, she would put on make-up, style her hair and put on nice clothes. She may not have had any designer labels but her clothes were always neat, clean, and pressed. She had a signature look with a headband and flower in her short hair. Every time we went out in public, people would come up to her and tell her how beautiful she was. She was a very classy lady. When I would visit her apartment building, and someone found out that I was Donna‘s daughter, they would tell me what a class act my mother was. You are absolutely right, Vivienne, you don’t need money to be elegant and classy. My mother was a perfect example.
@@princessirulancorrino4695 thank you for your beautiful reply. You described my mom beautifully. My mom had a kind and gentle spirit that gave her a beautiful glow and countenance. I truly believe that is what drew people to her. She was adorable, yes, but her spirit shined through her lovely face and people responded to that.
What a lovely memory/story! Thank you for sharing it with us. As my mother always said, "Class will out." Sounds as if your Mom was a class act.
Beautiful❤ so happy for you that you got to be such a classy mother's daughter!
That’s a really beautiful tribute to your mother. You were blessed to have such an example.
Thanks for saying this. I’m a man and have different perspective but my uncle was indeed a class act. He always look presentable whenever he stepped out. He’s no longer with us but his white shirts where crips and navy blue slacks where bone straight and shoes always polished and in fantastic condition. Even when casual he looked as elegant as ever in his belted denim jeans paired with white linen shirts. Some will say why use that word for a man, I say it’s the only word I would use to describe him. He wasn’t rich and he was a university student with a part time job and an old car but he kept it clean and looked like that guy who owned everything. He could fit in anywhere and knew all the important people in town, as they all wanted to be in his presence because he brought them so much joy. He made a huge impact in my life as a young boy and I thanked him so much for that. All these years later I look just like him. From manners to how I dress, everything is an ode to him and I carry this on in our family. He’s is my hero and one of the few relatives I just can’t get over their deaths. It took me a year after he passed to recover from losing him.
My mother was an elegant woman. She always looked her best. Never went to the nail salon, never had her hair styled professionally, or had a professional facial or mask. She did these things herself at home. She didn't have designer clothes but her taste in clothes and accessories was impeccable. Also, her speech and character were the best.
I’m a widow and I met a widower because he mentioned he had been watching me because I carried myself different from the other women at the senior center where I attend. He said, “ you come in do your activities then you would leave and not hang around gossiping”. He liked that about me. I’ve always been a nice conservative dresser, wise with money and health conscious. They say I don’t look my age. Line dancing is one of my passions along with working with justice organizations. I like to read and I have an eye for decorating. I treat people like I would like to be treated. I relate to a lot of the things you mentioned and have taught my daughters to be ladies. I aspire to become better. Thank you.
I started my “level up” journey immediately. First, I got my hair in a style that was easy for me to handle. And I have a weekly routine for my hair. Then I went to the thrift store and found used garments to wear to look presentable until I can lose the extra twenty lbs I am working to get off. You can start anywhere. We only have one income and I just shop frugally.
You are an inspiration...
You are doing great keep going don’t stop
Wonderful start 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 see YOURSELF 20 pounds lighter and ponder on the excitement you'll feel once your goal is achieved. Nooo criticism of yourself. Affirm: I AM my perfect size...
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My grandmother was an elegant woman of very modest means. Someone once referred to her as a "poor old woman". That was the wrong thing to say! She pulled herself up to her full height, looked them in the eye and corrected them by stating "I am NOT a poor old woman. I might be mature and financially embarrassed but I will always be a lady. And it would be in your best interest to remember that." Her example changed my life.
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It often feels so hard to be elegant while being working class. My hands are rough and my back hurts but finding this channel makes me feel hopeful for the future. Especially as I work to get out of this dead-end job and focus more on my education.
Hello Belladonna, I have the same problem with my hands specially in winter. This is what I do: twice a week when I wash my hands I put a little bit of sugar to make a scrub, but be gently and only rub your hands for a minute or two. After that use a good lotion. Also you can visit a quiropractic at least twice a year 😉
I know what you mean. What I use to do when I felt unladylike with my profession was to make sure I dress well and pamper myself at least on the weekends or when I'm off. I also use church to dress up and feel more feminine. I have a habit of acting manly but im trying to get out of that.
I go to the dollar store for my pampering needs .
Sleep bonnet
Pretty hair pieces
Lotion
Nail care
Makeup .
Walmart and kohls and thrift stores for classic neat pieces .it’s more about presentation & attitude than anything else & it works well for me
There are free clothing events I go to as well I’ve found beautiful pieces . Keeping hydrated, eating clean & exercising & sunshine helps me feel well overall .
Reading , watching this type of content is helpful too . We don’t have to be rich to be kind , put together & beautiful . I am now attracting higher quality people into my life . I was raised in trash , drama & abuse so that’s what I was accustomed to .
@@Christinesobsevations Lovely!
“Self control in the face of provocation, is the litmus test for refinement” what a brilliant quote!
I totally agree, because before I got married I was soft, very kind, loved and enjoyed wearing dresses but as I was with a toxic partner those traits were forgotten. I had to toughen up to protect myself and lost myself in the process. It’s not only about wearing a dress or heels but I was a free spirited and and laid back. My advice just be who you are and we are all beautiful, find your self and be comfortable❤
It’s refreshing to hear a young lady, talk about refining oneself at a low cost or no money at all, too many people focus on material things, and brand names too and many extravagant things that they cannot afford and a lot of times the person that’s talking about cannot afford it themselves, and they do not practice what they preach , this is why I say this is refreshing to hear . Beautiful video.
My darling, you are the epitome of the "Virtuous Woman" of Proverb 31:10-31!
I applaud you for unselfishly inviting us to share in this lovely journey of Leveling Up!
As a young girl, I had always been teased for my "Proper Speaking", having had a Military father-- that made my sisters and I learn three new words out of the dictionary every day-- we also had to tell him what the words meant, how to spell them, and put them in a sentence, along with pronouncing them correctly!
However, after perusing several of your videos-- I am appreciative for that discipline from my father, because he understood the value that enlightenment would mean to our lives as we grew into adulthood.
I am an avid reader and I love doing research. My greatest passion includes helping others to learn how to read, to speak and spell better.
So, when children ask me how to spell a word-- I excitedly say; "let's look it up in the dictionary"! And that enthusiasm rubs off on them😄
This is inspiring. We need to raise a community of elegant ladies
I agree wholeheartedly!
The refinements of life are disappearing. You are correct. If we don’t make a conscious effort to preserve them, they will be gone forever and our children will be clueless.
You could start a meetup group for elegant ladies.
Vivian may potentially consider setting up a membership for elegant ladies to communicate with each other!
Right? I am with you!
Beauty fact from an aesthetician: consistency is key! You can save the expensive and aggressive treatments for when you have big events coming up (not less than a month before ladies!)but a good daily practice will be the key to looking your best 24/7.
*Wear less make up.
*A good quality daily cleanser will be an investment you won’t regret. You really need a very small amount (pea to dime size) and any excess just dries your skin. Use it at night (and after sweating like the gym or the beach). You can find good ones for $10-$50USD that will last 4-6 months easily.
*wear sunscreen daily. Even in winter. Even if you’ll be inside an office all day. WEAR IT.
Thank you. "Money isn't everything and it shouldn't stop you from becoming elegant woman" 👏 Thank you once again.
I really do love your style, diction, how you pronounce your words and so much more. You inspire me to be elegant. Until I started following you, I used to think that pursuit of elegance is vanity. But lately , I have come to appreciate the importance of being elegant.
Keep inspiring us Vivian🙌🙌
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Thank you for sharing, Vivian. Lately I’ve been beating myself by comparing myself to women on luxury instagram. I am working paycheck to paycheck at the moment so this video was very inspirational. ❤️
Azra, NEVER compare your inside to someone else's OUTSIDE.
I don’t do fake gram, stay wishing your means trust me you are the ones who have to pay those bills. My Wardrobe is 80 percent luxury but that’s me I have always been like that I’m single and I take care of me. But I love dressing and I love giving. My little cousin come in my house to shop. Sharing is caring the Brooklyn . Sis do you . YOUR DOPE
Same I been comparing too much when I learned just to do everything they do myself till I can afford it so I do my own nails, lashes, hair etc it definitely therapeutic for me but also getting me together!
U R enuf however we all can benefit from Abit of tweaking also expanding vocabulary from goggling lists of expanded words & correct pronunciation..Free 😉
Thank you for sharing. I will start today
Ok Vivian, the Universe has put this video in my timeline because I have been praying and using affirmations to better myself physically and mentally. New subscriber!
Amen hun x
I forgot to mention in my previous comments that I didn't come from a wealthy family (middle class, working parents) with seven children. This is what motivated me to be resourceful in using similar tactics to enrich my quality of life through spending my time reading , writing, attending events at libraries, museums, art fairs, and taking classes in dance, public speaking, etiquette, and foreign language.
By the way, Your best tip 👌 was shopping at Thift stores (aka Vintage Boutiques) because this is truly where you'll get quality goods at great 👍 prices.
I happen to be an English Language teacher, currently doing a post graduate training course.
I admire the broad vocabulary Vivian uses in her speech!!!
What an inspirational woman!!!!!! I've been implementing almost everything she mentions for many years now, even before the Internet!!!!! It's inconceivable to me that women need to be reminded of their nature!!
Respect to this beautiful woman, Vivian!
Thank you for this fresh perspective of elegance and leveling up. I truly feel more confident with the idea of leveling up with limited funds as a single mother
You’re the mother I always wish I had ,thank you for all this things you’re teaching me 🥺🥺🥺.
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"Chew your words before you spit them out" Noted. Thank you beautiful, wise Vivienne. 🌹
You are so on point! You can't buy character, style or integrity. Seeing a young lady like you with such poise & class is refreshing. Thanks for teaching this senior citizen, there's always something new to learn.
I’m in my 60’s and so appreciate your content. You are absolutely exquisite🌹
I wish when I was younger we had a class like this. I'm 64 and these are the best ways to learn about elegant without being rich. But being a elegant lady. I Thank you so much
Frugality and minimalism is key . I want to see money in my account and rental properties for my retired life . I have wasted so much money in my 20 and 30 on clothes shoes junk it’s nowhere to be seen now !!!!
Thank you Vivian for exhibiting true elegance in every sense of the word.
Hi ladies, l know everyone who is listening to this channel has the intention to become a better version of themselves and l believe that can happen when you network with like-minded people. It'll be a pleasure to get to know and interact with you elegant ladies so kindly reach out to me! Thank you
I keep coming back to this video...
I now wear makeup and perfume everyday to work.. (I'm a cleaner) I will not forget the day I went to work.. the client did a double take because he saw a different person compared to me just wearing sunscreen. (It does work) I got dressed up in a skirt. I got better treatment at the mechanic.
People who give up in life are people who lose in life, my first experience happens to be a failure but I never gave up cause I knew it was going to work out for me trying continuously, fortunately I'm smiling today by getting involved in investment.. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life too 🙏🙏🙏
Starting early is the best way of getting ahead to build wealth, investing remains a priority. I learnt from my last year's experience, i am able to build a suitable life because I invested early ahead this time.
I urge everyone to start somewhere now no matter how small, this is literally the time for that, forget material things, don't get tempted,i became more better the moment i realized this.
Yeah investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity but venturing into any legitimate investment without a proper guidance of an expert can lead to greater loss too
exactly! That's my main concern and what kind of investment can someone do with this increase economy turndown
Hello I'm new here, what exactly kind of investment are you talking about here, I'm really interested too
Thank you so much. This talk is like a breath of fresh air in a smoky room. Elegance can be achieved and maintained with a low budget and starts in the mind. I find listening to classical music or instrumental classics very calming and peaceful and allows me to focus my thoughts and make better decisions. Also being from a community of loud and vulgar persons doesn't mean that something is wrong with me for wanting to be elegant and sophisticated doing things that improves my posture, speech and lifestyle décor even if it isn't common within my environment right, now its a mindset and an achievable quality. I believe every woman should strive to be elegant simply because we were made to function efficiently this way and it does add structure, beauty and a complimentary dimension of value to our feminine roles.
I want to listen to this kind of talk all day. You have such a skill. This is my kind of content. Thank you for bringing out the best of me.
Absolutely love this video. You radiate Elegance Vivian ❤ I'd like to make a suggestion /warning to all ladies who want to broadly educate them self. Please be cautious to not fall into the Trap of "poverty education only" almost everyone I went to college with....yes even the individuals that now have master's degrees, ninety-nine percent of what they studied in school in all areas of study was related to Poverty problems / crime in other parts of the world and how "horrible life is" only. They were not taught to seek Solutions, they were not taught to think positively, and none of them even volunteer/donate or do anything to resolve the problems that they are freaking out all the time about. They are angry, judgmental, jealous, and absolutely hate anyone who even appears to have money. The default assumption is "if you are doing well you trampled on someone else to have that."
This is the new mark of being educated /civilized to many people. And it's NOT being educated. Learn valuable life skills, be a good person, make yourself happy, do not listen to people who want to "educate you" on "Why you should be in fear all the time."
Lot of times people think having the degrees means you’re above others. Those degrees in a specific subject won’t mask the requirements you need in life to live a meaningful, well rounded life of what Vivian describes in the video.
I’ve met so many doctors and lawyers who are far far from refined and won’t be able to comport themselves in simple tasks. These are life skills which needs to be taught from a young age.
Woww yes, this should be pinned. I have observed this as well. Interesting times we are living in!
Yes absolutely!! Thanks for this comment! 💜
I just found you, Vivienne, and I love you!!! I love that you are focusing the fact that elegance and class is attainable without money.
I have a wardrobe that looks like a million dollars, and all of which came from my local goodwill. I bought only the things of high caliber quality! And the most impressive is beautiful diction and broadened vocabulary. This is lacking in the world today where vulgarity is the norm and even sadly comes out of young children.
I just love this video. It is so practical and we all can benefit by it, especially the part about filling our minds with elegance instead of mindlessly scrolling through social media.
I love this, character can not be hidden. I also agree with you on learning. I have enjoyed visiting Annapolis and Cambridge Maryland museums, learning about history. It feels good to learn. It makes us more knowledgeable and able to have more intelligent conversations with others. Too much TV can work against us and make us intellectually deficient.
True
Great places!!!
Your channel is one of the only legitimate and true "Elegance" channel I can find. Its very genuine. Thank-you ♡ Watching from Australia
Jennifer on The Daily Connoisseur is absolutely lovely too 🥰
@@queeniebaggins3732 oh yes!!! she is absolutely brilliant!!! thank-you!! I am a huge fan of her also
I am a man but I am hooked to this channel.
I do my own nails. I keep them short with clear varnish. I check them every day and rub in a heavy balm around the cuticle daily. I hate chipped varnish so using a cheap clear varnish works for me. I do my own keratin blow out every 3 months (costs £150 in the salon, DIY costs £15). I clean my face with olive oil, moisturise with Nivea, vaseline as a night cream. I'm 59 but look younger because of my routine.
Thrift shopping is so much better for the environment, as is making your own natural skin and hair care products, so while you are leveling up on a budget you are also giving the world a big hug.
Love this sentiment!
I lost my fiancé to COVID when the pandemic first began and at the 6 month mark of his passing I started repurposing donated items to help improve the lives of children and families that have lost a parent to COVID and it GENUINELY has also blessed my life and my worldview and so many ways.
I have a chronic illness so I’ve always had a unique world view, but through my grief process I’ve learned to appreciate this beautiful planet even more. So I’m terms of sustainability I absolutely LOVE your phrasing “giving the planet a big hug”.
Such a kind and wonderful thought to have!
Something that absolutely makes me smile about you is the way you speak. Not necessarily your accent, but the fact that you're always clear in enunciating. I listen to your videos just to practice allocutions. Thank you for being a fabulous example!
This was so important for me to hear. I’m loving the woman that God is allowing me to become.
Awesome 👍
Same here! God is good.
Oh goodness. The most productive 18min of this year for me. Thank you, Lady. 😊. I've just came across this channel/video and is exactly what I needed today.
Have you ever gone to church/gathering and coming put feeling like "today's sermon was exactly what you needed"? Well, that's what this video just did. I apologize for the bad grammar...I'm actually not an English speaking country, but Spanish. Saludos desde Guinea Ecuatorial 🇬🇶 Africa.
Watching these videos makes me feel like I found a new mentor and life-coach.
your video really blow my mind, from learning etiquette to spending time wisely, going to museum, art gallery rather than go for shopping and cinemas are totally changing my mind what to do at weekends. I will come back and watch the video again. I learn a lot already for the first 5 minutes of your video. Thank You!!
I like the way you dress responsibly while teaching on elegance, unlike others who expose their bodies while teaching on this subject.
I love you dear.
You have become my best friend.
Character is like perfume .....it follows you where you go...love this quote.
Thank you so much Vivian for guiding us and inspiring us to become better.I'm on a personal development & level up journey and your vlogs are really helpful.You are the epitome of what a woman of elegance looks like.Much love💖💖 and appreciation from Kenya🇰🇪🇰🇪
Appreciated Viv, Victoria South Africa
This was absolutely fabulous! We don't think enough about these areas of self-improvement, yet we should. What a marvelous video! Thank you.
Thanks so very much for your support.. you’ve really helped me organize my life 😘 from Ghana 🇬🇭
Beautifully said. All that you've mentioned is so very true and such a help. I'd like to thank you especially for encouraging the pursuit of an interest, a passion. It feels like therein lies the spark that can keep all the other fires burning.
I want to also thank you also, in general, for all that you are doing. Now, more than ever, the world and her peoples need this.
Lastly, thank you for reminding me of the kind of person I wanted to be. I am grateful for the work you are doing.
lol i found myself clapping at the end of the video. Time to pick myself up, thank you big sis😍😍😍😍😍
Thank you, thrift shopping is how I attain my elegant look, ie: sandals for $4.99, lace dress for $9.97 ect. I only buy quality pieces and get compliments like " oh I love your outfit" or " you always look so nice" .
You know, I have been becoming more interested in trying to cultivate a more elegant or sophisticated way of being and this video is so spectacular. Many of the videos I have come across have been very superficial. How to "look" more elegant. How not to "dress" inelegantly. This is one of the first videos that I've come across that actually makes a point to say "actually cultivate yourself, not just your wardrobe". Kudos to you and I will be watching many more of your videos. Thank you so much.
Look and appearance truly does matter. I have witnessed first hand different treatments I get based on the way I dress.
I loved this video. It was helpful. I feel as though I’ve lost my passions. I used to play the piano, create art, write poetry, and garden. I changed since Co.vid. 😢
New subbie! 🎉 I am here for all of these tips. Watching your videos make me want to sit up straight and talk proper at all times, not just in business settings. I enjoy your content so much! It’s very refreshing and uplifting.
Thank you Vivian. Glad to be here . Learning so much. Keep the good word. Following from KENYA
Hello, you're accent is a great asset. It makes you come across as elegant and refined effortlessly
This video has such a wealth of good information. Thank you. You exude elegance.
4:50 To add, if you sign up for newsletters at smaller galleries and museums you may be able to attend free or low cost opening receptions of artists and/or exhibits.
Open receptions are usually the beginning of an artists work being featured at the space, and usually draw the attention of fellow artists, curators, buyers, critics, journalists and enthusiasts.
It is a great opportunity to network, especially since usually the artist/curator themself attends the event. Second, for some receptions they also have refreshments, usually light bites or drinks. If you want to go the no spend route you can have a heavy dinner at home and then eat/drink in moderation at the event. Third, going to such an event is also a great opportunity to be ‘seen’ in an elevated environment, you can snap photos of the work or yourself to add to social media or profiles to convey the lifestyle you’re working towards.
Vivienne, you are, in the truest sense, a woman of elegance. Thank you so much for being such a beautiful example of what a true woman is. You put it succinctly, when you made the point regarding a woman being more than someone concerned only with the externals. Bravo to you! Keep up the beautiful and elegant work.
Thank you Vivienne. Love your speaking pace and tone. It's soothing and encouraging. :) 🌷 This flower is for you.
Vivienne, you are such a classy lady, it is a pleasure listening to you!
When I first read the topic, I never expected to be taken through this kind of enriching lecture. Thumb up Vivien
Elegance is using what I have, making the most of it. Being the best version of myself and giving myself to other people.
Thank God I've come across you. I was looking for Ghanaian who teaches how to be elegant and frankly I didn't regret subscribing at all. This was what I was looking for. Thank you so much for the points, very helpful.
i really appreciate your content. I am 20 and starting my elegant feminine journey, this type of video really help me. I also appreciate the fact those advice come from a woman of color, i am mixed in france and wasn t exposed to a lot of black woman who succed in a sweet slow beautifull way.
Thank you so much Vivian.May God continue to give you much strength and bless you more for guiding young ladies like us how to live our lives
I came here by accident but I'm definitely staying,thank you Vivian ❤️
Ladies…….I’m a man this video was absolutely amazing and valuable for men also . I watch these videos to keep a eye out for refinement in the people I interact with and elegant women
Every time I listened to you, I feel rejuvenated.
Thank you vivian I am on my way to level up,after watching this video I have no choice.
Looking elegant is good but it comes from within...and though it's a good thing to learn and better yourself... It's also empowering to feeling and looking how you want to be .
This is inspiring thank you woman of elegance. Deep down i have always desired to be a classy woman of grace who articulates herself well. I believe that is why I found this channel, it speaks to me in many ways.❤❤❤
Thank you Vivian for adding value to me in more ways than I can ever repay
Well said, thank you!👏
I love flowers and books it makes me happy. 🥰 Flowers always lifts my spirit. I'm working on self-control..
Thanks for sharing this lovely information
Thank you mrs elegance. I am glad to have found your channel
Love this video. The best tip was number 8: Feed your mind with lovely things and pay attention to what you watch on t.v. and listen to on the radio.
You're heaven-sent, Vivienne. More grace to your endeavors, I pray 🙏
I have purchased your books and am working through the videos. Elegance has always been something i have veered towards in my life. Thankfully I have already been implementing some things you have mentioned. I follow another elegance coach and am so blessed to have you both on my journey. Thank you xx
I just thank God for knowing this UA-cam channel nowerdays am getting time to know myself better ,thanks alot now am adapting and becoming a woman of elegant each day may God bless you Vivian you are just a blessing to me
Thank you for always reminding me to do better.
New subscriber here. I am 53 and shared this with my 4 daughters.
When I was 14 years old I lived in a closet in a tiny one room studio apartment above a pizza parlor in Menlo park. I lived with my old hunchback disabled Father on SSI. I was so poor I had to thrift for school clothes. I collected vintage pieces and guess brand or anything else that was designer or just nice looking. I put outfits together and wore something different every day. I went to middle school in a very rich area. I had a girl ask me if I was rich because of my outfits! That sure made me feel good!
These points are also applicable for both gender.
Thanks Vivan. I find your channel quite educative even as a man.
Indeed money is not everything Vivian you have said a mouthful. I like the issue of like minded - people in your circle 🔵
Your speech and elegance are mesmerizing. They are a lost art in our society. Recently found your channel, and really appreciate your approach. I love the BBC! Thank you.
Thank you. Woman of elegance ♥️
Hello everyone! She is absolutely right especially about the DIY beauty care tip. Every day I use the pure skin care joystick for a daily exfoliation, then I wash my face with Dr. Bronner‘s eucalyptus capsule so, then I take a fresh piece of aloe straight from the fridge and I rub it all over my face to make a mask, after I get out of the shower and everything is washed off I use a apple cider vinegar toner that I make myself. You can make the toner using equal parts water and apple cider vinegar and I like to add a tea tree oil to it as well. It preps your skin very nicely for serum and moisturizer. I then go in with Jamison vitamin C serum which is pretty cheap as you can get it at most grocery stores and lastly I finish it up with Clinique dramatic difference anti-aging jelly. I use Neutrogena spot corrector in case I feel a pimple coming. Also do this at night it’ll make a huge difference! It’s great to have a morning/daytime routine but the magic happens at night.
I just found your chanel Viviane. I wish i had you like my coach when I was 20. Now I am 45. But I still can create a better version of myself. God bless you. Thank you.
Hi Viv, you are on point. We can do more, with less. We ladies we go out of our way and stressing ourselves unnessary, because we want to be like someone. Be yourself and stress less. Thanks Viv, this is so inspiring. 👏💕
I've basically been an observer for 27 years of my life, a lot of person who know me, may not think so.....but there's always room to improve, do better, a lot better. Time to Level up. So help me God.🙏🏾
Yesss 1st tip i started doing that recently shopping at thrift store in expensive areas. Sometimes they have tags on it for less than $10
Youre a queen vivian. A good godly woman. Im trying to become a better person, by listening to your valuble videos. 🙏🙏🙏♥️♥️
The color that you are wearing in this video is absolutely perfect for you! You are a beautiful woman inside and out. Thank you for sharing very very wise advice.
Thank you for this helpful video. I'm doing some things differently in my life after watching your videos, that are helping me to level up and be more of an elegant lady. You are a beautiful example to follow! Again...thank you. Enjoy your holiday weekend.
I’m telling you!!! I’m obsessed with your videos. Thank you is not enough but it’s what I can say. I’m very grateful and lucky that I found your channel ❤