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- Опубліковано 24 вер 2024
- How can we learn from #MeToo to shape the next generation of men?
Join the conversation with Justin Baldoni, Matt McGorry, Tony Porter, Lewis Howes, Scooter Braun, Jamey Heath, Susan Brison, Alma Gonzalez and Yazmin Monet Watkins.
Stay tuned after the episode for a special message from our partner, Child Safety Pledge.
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The older Black man, Tony Porter, is articulating knowledge in a digestible way these men are understanding. We can't judge, criticize, or ridicule. Speak, listen, process.
Exactly!!
Imani Grant why did u capitalize black
He's a real ass dude
As a gay man, this is refreshing to see masculine, straight men sit around discussing these topics with depth and compassion. Understanding we all play a part in the larger cultural sense, it’s not just about pointing the finger, but looking within truthfully as well.
so.... agree with you
FUF👊
"Masculine" - "Straight" - bit of a stretch bud.
@@tu-shey2307
Is a requirement for masculinity a balding head like Tim Pool?
This is disgraceful and that so many of you buy these lies is pathetic. I could take it apart 100 different ways but let's make it simple. Nearly 60,000 American men were killed in combat deaths in Vietnam. So many more had life-altering injuries. ONE American woman was killed in a combat death in Vietnam. Most of these men were so young they never lived long enough to have families, to experience aspects of peacetime life. Give me a break.
Readers, viewers, think for yourself. It may feel good to be compassionate but you are not being compassionate by Not thinking critically.
Note: Reading the Vietnam history, how many times have you heard any man complain that women did not do their part? Answer: None. It's in our nature to serve women and be heroes without needing recognition.
This is brilliant. In my lifetime I never thought I would hear men talking about such a sensitive topic.
What is "brilliant" about it? Do you just enjoy hearing men "open up"? They seem to be catering to the modern narrative that men are bad and women are angels. Offering no solution. This video is an emotional train wreck. Its all just speculation. Please help me understand because I have never been more confused, about what we should do... Be diligent? Be aware? That is a pretty vague solution.
A vague solution is still better than none. Unless you have a better solution please do not undermine the efforts of people who are trying. As to the whole "men are bad and woman are angels" thing, I *personally think* that's not the take-away of the video but maybe it's the message you interpreted. Also, why dude? Why would you want to take away the comfort that woman received from watching this and being reassured? I can't speak for her or anyone, but I personally felt some comfort watching men speak about this openly. I have never heard men in my culture, in my world, in my sphere, talk about this so for me this actually helps negates the men are bad argument because hey at least these guys are aware it. It might not be a solution, but it is a step in the right direction. As cheesy as it sounds a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, and it kind of feels like your comment is saying "back up and wait until someone can invent a teleportation device". As to what men should do, *I* would suggest starting by not assaulting women (not saying that you do), do not be a bystander when you witness it on smaller and bigger scales (as the episode suggests), and finally deprogram your kids (boys and girls alike). These are all good places to start, but your comment definitely isn't. I hope I've helped you understand.
@@Ray.of.solskin there is no solution. There will never be a solution. Equality of the sexes is an impossible objective. It would mean removing the womb from all females. Telling men not to assault women is equally absurd. Criminals will always exist. A perfect world is not even desirable. Look at the mouse utopia experiment. Social structure and integrity inevitably fails resulting in horrific conditions such as infertility, cannibalism, etc. Without stress nature collapses.
JohnPaul Ingress really? You're confused? Are you confused by choice?
No if you read my many other posts you'll see I'm confused by the double standards you women seem to be trying to establish. About how it's OK to judge men but its not OK to judge women etc... Not to mention that you seem to want something for nothing. I'm pretty sure I've been very clear about this, jus keep reading.
#MeToo- I am a guy who is 22 years old now. I was abused when I was 5 years old by one of my relatives. Nobody knows about it.
Thank you for making this and keep making more.
Thank you so much for sharing here. I am so very sorry that this happened to you and I hope that you are able to find more ways to unburden yourself and find freedom. It was not your fault. I hear you and I support you.
Thank you so much for hearing me and supporting and understanding the situation.
Its disgusting, im honestly sorry you had to go through that, I m glad you find comfort in sharing this part of your life now. Your story is a testimony that can help so many people going through/went through the same thing that you did.
Don't worry about it. I shared my story to help the community to give more attention of their children and ask them about how their children's day was and so on. It's strange that someone abuses innocent children, and this thing exists.
Healing to you. 😭
Very proud of the black men in this conversation. Empathy is off the charts.
Personally, I 'm proud of them all, all were very open-minded and I thought it was great to have a group of multicultural men, Humans, discussing these things.
This video was rough to watch, so much so, in fact, that I had stopped watching it twice. The first time I told myself "This doesn't really pertain to me. I'm not 'that guy'." & the second time was because it made me feel so incredibly uncomfortable. I did force myself to come back to it for a third time though because, on some fundamental level, I understood how important the content of this video truly is. -- This video truly is something rare and special. --
Thank you so much. As a woman it means a lot to hear that.
The truth is uncomfortable. Well done for watching!
Tena Waters The truth I can handle. I can even own my truth and hold myself accountable. What I found uncomfortable about it were the emotions behind their accounts. My natural reaction is to try and make people feel better, but I don't know these people, nor is it within my power to make them feel better. That's all I meant. Lastly, thank you for your reply.
It's hard to know someones personal story of pain but now I know u cared enough to know the truth
im just genuinely asking in a conversational way - do you not think that women who enjoy being catcalled are not entirely aware of the terrifying mindset that allows one to behave in such a way? because it's not a compliment in any way... so i just dont understand those people that 'dont mind it'
Scooter at 28:00 got it right.. 👏🏻👏🏻 You're not just doing women a favor by respecting them, you're doing yourself a favor by being a respectful human being 👍🏻
W B it shows that he really doesn't care about women he is selfish and just cares about himself
@@ratherbenapping10 I don't think you get the point 🤔
says the virgin
doesn't that dude degrade women? He doesn't give a shit about respect, gross lies.
He needs to walk that out with Taylor Swift. That man is not an ally.
i've never heard a group of men speak so positively and articulately about women before, and not in a way so they could steal their voice, or talk over them or excuse their own / friends / coworkers behaviour. it's honestly so refreshing. this is honestly ground breaking, and we need more of it. thank you justin baldoni for creating this space.
This is disgraceful and that so many of you buy these lies is pathetic. I could take it apart 100 different ways but let's make it simple. Nearly 60,000 American men were killed in combat deaths in Vietnam. So many more had life-altering injuries. ONE American woman was killed in a combat death in Vietnam. Most of these men were so young they never lived long enough to have families, to experience aspects of peacetime life. Give me a break.
Readers, viewers, think for yourself. It may feel good to be compassionate but you are not being compassionate by Not thinking critically.
Note: Reading the Vietnam history, how many times have you heard any man complain that women did not do their part? Answer: None. It's in our nature to serve women and be heroes without needing recognition.
@@Michael-te7fj that is so irrelevant to this discussion about sexual assaults. It IS an important issue and I think you’ll find people also do not agree with wars and killing other humans for meaningless conflicts between leaders. But implying that men have this issue so that negates all women’s issues? No. Both are important and worth talking about.
@@nondescriptbeing5944 My point about the war is to show that men are protectors. Bad, evil men commit rape, the rest of men prioritize women over themselves for the most part. If a man sees a man and woman fighting, 99 out of 100 he will blame the man, even when it's a verbal conflict.
Jada Smith and Amber Heard are two examples of women that were just horrible to their spouse. Johnny Depp got away, finally, whereas Will Smith is still being brainwashed.
This video clip has an undertone of Women are from Venus, Men are from Hell. It's akin to a big lie.
You in turn, comment making this about sexual assault as if that's all these guys were speaking about. If it were just about sexual assault, that would be different but this is about how bad men are hence I don't like it and have to speak my mind so that other viewers will get a counterpoint.
"If we are such good guys, how are these men doing what their doing in our presence?"
The "Man Enough" episodes on this channel, including this video, are all great initiatives to begin an honest dialogue, which is the first step toward finding long-term solutions. Kudos to Justin Baldoni and everyone else who is speaking up.
Thank you for posting this. As a Father of a 5 year old son I plan on teaching him what real respect is, what real consent is and what real love is. I hope one day all women will feel safe and respected where these types of videos aren't even needed. I hope the be the example.
thanks you
Youre still looking through a male lens and men are not the victims here sexual urges can be satisfied in non harmful ways alone sex with a partner is reserved for consenting people
yes it is about a womans lens its a womens movement men have had supremacy for centuries youre defensive because you enjoy the power and are afraid its being taken from you because it is. Control yourself, focus on improving your life and being the best you...leave us girls to figure this one out we didnt invite you.
Oh believe me, men are leaving you girls to figure this one out on your own... Good luck with that. Women can stay away from me, thanks...
Shaileen and Kurt Vlogs thank you it is on the parents to shape the men of the future or else there will be no change
I have two male friends who have opened up to me about their sexual abuse as kids. One was abused by his grandmother. The other was abused by a male sitter (and this sitter's friends) for years. Both are grown men now and both still struggle because of their experiences. Thank you so much for making this episode and thank you all for being real and honest. Being vulnerable takes the greatest amount of strength and this was a beautiful conversation to witness. Believing a person when they share their story of sexual abuse or harassment is indeed a step toward healing. Thank you all for having this conversation. #MeToo
Grandmother?! That's so shocking and sad.
My ex told me his aunt sexually abused him and when he told his mom she told him to " shut up" he has a hatred towards women and disdain towards women. When I met his mom she said he's angry because he's been hurt
People like Tarana Burke are miserable in their personal lives and they want everyone else to be in misery also!..
Grandma 😰😭
"Women shouldn't need to be protected by their men from their men."
Like these men, I unfortunately am also guilty of being a bystander and not saying anything when my male friends have verbally denigrated women, objectified them, etc. I'll be a bystander NO MORE. It's time women are treated with the respect and dignity they deserve and I wanna be part of the solution that helps us get there. We also need to believe and support abuse victims when they come forward, and once and for all, abolish every statute of limitation on rape and sexual assault.
@TheRealMVP - as a woman, i want to thank you for this.
Thank you 👏👌❤
TheRealMVP I’ll believe them when there is evidence.
@@gyver471 very convenient. To start looking for the evidence you have to first start taking the stories seriously. Also, evidence in these cases is very difficult to find.
You’re epic
As the mother of a 25 year old daughter and as a woman I am so very grateful to know that there are men like you 6 who are willing to go there. Thank you and please continue to work with men, particularly young men, they NEED you right now.
Totally agree. U 6 are real. Real talk .
I'm 18 minutes in and I'm so conflicted. I see absolute value in what these men are doing, trying to redefine a healthier concept of masculinity, trying to come to terms with their moral aspirations. But I just can't help but also feel like this is a group of men trying desperately to find a dry spot for themselves, so that they don't have to go down with the group. And the reason I feel this way is because I am cynical, because I myself was assaulted, BECAUSE of a man plus bystanders. This is just so endlessly hard for me. I'm always conflicted, suspicious, hyper alert, anxious, nervous, looking over my shoulder - simply living with the effects of trauma. I don't want that to be my reality or my identity. I want to be able to look at men and see good in them and not have to question it constantly. But I also need men to prove it to me. That's just where I'm at. I don't like this situation any more than most men do.
43 minutes in... I changed my mind completely. Sorry for ever questioning these guys. It's powerful to see them speak up about their own experiences.
REEEAAAL MEN !!! BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Thank you for sincerity. Sincerity for yourself, about yourself and in regard of these men.
I'm so glad you found this valuable at the end! I understand where you're coming from. I am a gay man, I'm surrounded by women, and so many of them have shared with me the exact same thing you are talking about, that place of constant suspicion towards men. And I feel it too; sometimes my life is also at risk just by being around straight men. I found this video so helpful, so insightful in how painful can be for a straight man in this patriarchal order we are all living in. Sending you love and I really hope you can get through and see the light in all of this, because there are good men out there!
thanks *nema ibligg* and *Juan Bertini*
I guess there's a fine line between sincerity and performance and often it's hard to tell where people stand, especially when you've been through an experience, where you completely misjudged someone and the consequences were that horrific. To me, figuring out who people really are, is one of the most important aspects of preventing something from happening to me again.
I felt the same way at the beginning of this video; I was totally skeptical. But as the video went on I was appreciative of their conversation and their acknowledgement that it's messy and they are not innocent, but well-intended and committed to change.
I found out that even my dad, the guy I thought was the most respectful of women ever, condoned horrible behavior. A coworker saw a picture of my mom and said that he needed to come over every so often and “take care” of himself in front of her picture and my dad just laughed. I was disgusted... This is just one of the hundreds, even thousands, of cases in my everyday life that haunts me as a woman.
This is what divine masculinity looks like! Knowing that men are having this discussion amongst themselves and holding each other accountable for our culture of toxic masculinity makes me feel hopeful and valued as an equal. This was truly a great round table of men trying to piece together their own experiences and culpability in the abuse of girls and women...and young boys.
@Cicerone Cultism you've made a very reasonable argument, but unfortunately these people are only interested in circle-jerking about how men are evil and women are perfect and don't need to change a thing. They are not interested in debate, only circle-jerking.
Cicerone so define it except abusive mothers aren't apart of the current or even classic definition of femininity.
Knowing the feeling it instills in men? So a guy sees a nice looking girl and then... he looks appreciates the view and keeps walking or he talks to her, assesses her availability and interest and tries to get her number or a date and fails. The end. That is the normal way it should go so what is your point?
London They actually talked a good bit about topics that if the listener is male or raising a male could lead to individiual changes and also future discussions with others that would lead to changes in their lives. That is how change happens. The message of what they've done to contribute and what can be changed to check their own behavior and start raising generations of guys who aren't defining masculinity as forceful behavior, certain levels of crude behavior being normalized, etc. has a ripple effect and leads to societal change. It's not like they're the only one or as if they or someone listening is going to stop there.
Yasar What is this need to see it as man bad woman good? The topic that they are discussing is not about good or bad women. It is about men's behavior. The same way that I wouldn't bring up the responsibility of guys when it comes to tampons and pads is the same way that the faults of women aren't really a topic of discussion.
Where do you think the behavior of women fit into their talk?
I never comment on this kind of thing but I just saw what you said....How can you remove socialisation as a factor? We live in society... it effects our behaviour. That is unavoidable. I can't quantify the pain that victims of abuse go through as I am not one, (Thank God) but your comment seems to discourage these men who are speaking about the issues in a way to make progress. What would you prefer? That men admit they are bad people? These men in my opinion weren't trying to hale themselves as good people, they are simply acknowledging a problem and outlining that they desire to achieve "goodness". It is that very attitude that achieves progress. To focus only on the suffering caused as a result of abuse will not fix it. This video was inspiring and I hope it engages more openminded conversations amongst men.
@ London xx
it’s hilarious to me that these men are speaking about a feminist movement whose backbone is against the objectification of women while scooter braun sits at that table and nods along.
Finally someone said it !!!
What’s wrong with him?
@@JaneDoe-ii2iw he’s been selling Taylor Swifts masters (the rights to the music that SHE wrote) without her knowledge for the past 3 years and won’t allow her to buy them back essentially treating her like an object
Lool omg i was just thinking, wasnt scooter one of the abusive guys in the industry? But this just goes to show that the oppression and abuse of women isnt going to end because there are no repercussions for the perpetrators. WHAT IS HE EVEN DOING HERE?! WHY ARE THEY LETTING HIM SIT AMONGST THEM?!
@@ranjanakumari3315 it's not ruthless business, in any industry, what he did to taylor was unethical more so because of how the industry treats women.
Watching this video made me realize that I also have been discriminating what men say about this movement, I didn't believe their good behavior, I didn't believe their good intentions, I didn't believe they undertood.
And by the end, I realize how much I'm affecting the society and culture by thinking like this.
We are all human beings, we all feel, realize, love, reason, thank you for doing this video and for making me take steps to change my opinions.
And also thank you to the men who shared their story and mostly, thank you to the survivors of abuse who were there to explain what happened in their case
the women in this video are so so brave - we need to commend them aswell as the men
One of the problems is that parents and schools don't teach children the ethics of using power, why and how they should use power for common good, and how to treat others when they have the power. Helping children see the value of moral courage is also important.
Ned Thumberland Absolutely and emotional intelligence should be teached in school and by parents in general.
What are you on about? Power of what?
david marwood said, _What are you on about? Power of what?_
*If "power" is defined as the ability to control, with another person's permission or submission, on how that person interacts with oneself, then there is "power" involved in every social relationship -- the power one has over her/his subordinates at work, the power a parent has over her/his children, the power one has over her/his spouse/life partner, the power one has in a relationship, the power one has over friends, the power a teacher has over students, the power one has as a customer over a customer service representative, etc.*
Because people feel very, very, very comfortable misusing power towards children. I will never understand people's confusion about high rates of sexual assault and domestic violence. We indoctrinate children into violence by hitting them every time they piss us off, then telling them they deserve it. Are we really surprised when we see men (and women) return to using physical violence to get their way? We humiliate, ridicule, emotionally and physically violate the trust of children, teaching them over and over and over that 'big' people may do whatever they want to 'small' people. 'Small' can mean size, position of power, range of influence, or a combination of all three. It is endlessly frustrating to me to watch people question why their child never told them he/she was being abused, or to to see parents so shocked during those social experiments where children immediately go off with a stranger. Children are taught that adults are magical creatures, to be obeyed, respected, and trusted. That little lecture about stranger danger is 1000000 times less prevalent than the constant message that you must respect/listen to adults, and the resulting punishment when they do not. And eventually, those children become adults who believe authority means freedom instead of responsibility, and they treat those "beneath" them accordingly. It's why there is hazing in fraternities.The way we treat children is abysmal and psychologically damaging, but people don't like to admit that because that means they have to actually start treating children like people. It's a shame because I genuinely believe it could revolutionize the world to do so.
Centuries of that ideas of power are also why and how our society works, there are many little things that need to be change and education is a big part of it. A prove of it is that what you all have said is not that discussed or commented on.
Tony Porters point on 'Good Men sleeping easy at night with no loss to them' at 9:21 was beautifully put I have never heard a man even acknowledge this point.
Justin baldoni is a rare breed, appreciate him!
"I had to come back with dominance to show that no one could be more man than me." - Lewis Howes explaining the archetype of the male jock who are aren't viewed as a possible victim of abuse.
“We can love each other, and hold each other accountable at the same time” 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
He kept it in the edit, and now I’m crying. This is probably the most important thing on UA-cam right now.
THIS NEEDS TO GO VIRAL
I really love this and even as a woman I never really thought of accountability from good men as being an anchor of reducing this experiences from occurring. Very thoughtful and uplifting video to see men wanting to see change for the next generation and themselves where they can help
Around 55:00 I like how there is a topic of female-male friendship brought up. My best friend since we were little 3 year olds is a guy. The only time we didn't hang out as much it was when we were at school together because people didn't understand it and the culture kind of did its thing of putting us in different groups that didn't allow us to just spend time with eachother. The most intelligent and iluminating talks I have are with him because we have gone through the things that are specific to those "groups" and we can share and understand eachother and other people more. What is frustrating is that so many people can't understand that both of us are straight male and female and we are just best friends. We grew up in little village in Poland, people think that if you are talking to eachother you have to be together. The worst thing is my own father can't stop talking about hoping that we will be together because he likes him and that and I quote: "I need to find someone because I am getting older".......I am 22......
I've been raped. Twice. It is amazing once you say that to people you've known for years how many then reciprocate with their own stories. This is one of the most nuanced, intelligent discussions I've heard. Some places and people are going too far and unintentionally belittling the issue they're trying to raise awareness for, but this sort of platform is exactly what can help things really change for both men and women. Bringing it full circle to the next generation is the most important part. Faith in humanity +100.
#MeToo
I'm sorry that happened to you
I wish ALL men on this planet could receive the education from this talk but of course there will always be the ones in denial, disillusioned, or straight up angry that these men are even discussing this like it's an issue.
Speaking Truth break up with him
Speaking Truth
Maybe not now. You should first find out why he's angry about the suggestion of it.
It would make my anntenas stand up and alter me that a man I'm seeing would be angry at the suggestion of watching something educational.
@Speaking Truth
Maybe a bit of time and explanation on your end will pacify his anger.
I don't believe it's grounds for a break up or separation yet. If you see one to many events of him being anger then that would be a red flag.
This is also just my opinion and how I tend to make decisions about relationships. Do what you feel in your heart is right.
I think it's important to have open and honest conversations about things like this. Some may feel otherwise and we still have to respect that.
@@marcohumbakic7568
Thanks for your hope.
How do you feel you are meant to be as it relates to this comment and video?
Generally just curious, no judgment.
@@marcohumbakic7568
Yes. It surely is. ✌
I remember this friend telling me how she reported her husband mistreating her, the thing is that his way to be aggressive to her was not physical so she had a hard time explaining that he actually never beat her, but he would bring her self esteem down whenever he could , through other news of men beating and killing their wives in many horrible ways. I never thought of that way to be abusive or aggressive to someone.
Women kill their husband for life insurance
@@danerichards4582 Actually, I believe 80% of women who kill their husbands kill them because they're being abused by him (I'll fact check it and get back to you) while men who kill their wives usually beat them to death for no reason. Again I'll fact check this and get back to you with the numbers and a link :)
Edit: This doesn't have the numbers but it has the information www.penalreform.org/resource/women-who-kill-in-response-to-domestic-violence/
I feel ice cold reading this.
He was threatening her and pretty much saying that could happen to her. That's scary.
This series is everything. So incredibly important. I'm so touched and feeling hopeful after seeing this.
This is disgraceful and that so many of you buy these lies is pathetic. I could take it apart 100 different ways but let's make it simple. Nearly 60,000 American men were killed in combat deaths in Vietnam. So many more had life-altering injuries. ONE American woman was killed in a combat death in Vietnam. Most of these men were so young they never lived long enough to have families, to experience aspects of peacetime life. Give me a break.
Readers, viewers, think for yourself. It may feel good to be compassionate but you are not being compassionate by Not thinking critically.
Note: Reading the Vietnam history, how many times have you heard any man complain that women did not do their part? Answer: None. It's in our nature to serve women and be heroes without needing recognition.
The fact that you had Scooter Braun took the importance of this video to a different level...
A rare, honest look at this situation and where we are and how we got here. Great to see these men talking about this stuff because it's important for YOUNG MEN especially to see these men talking about this issue. This is important. Like they said, which side of history do we want to be on, and what are we teaching our sons (and daughters)? Great video.
Really nos. Honest look? Teach your children the following:
Nearly 60,000 American men were killed in combat deaths in Vietnam. So many more had life-altering injuries. ONE American woman was killed in a combat death in Vietnam. Most of these men were so young they never lived long enough to have families, to experience aspects of peacetime life. Give me a break.
Readers, viewers, think for yourself. It may feel good to be compassionate but you are not being compassionate by Not thinking critically.
Note: Reading the Vietnam history, how many times have you heard any man complain that women did not do their part? Answer: None. It's in our nature to serve women and be heroes without needing recognition.
this series should get much more recognition. great concept
I just wanted to say Thank You. Thank you for listening, thank you for talking, thank you for taking the time to care and the bravery to do so. Men like all of you give me hope for the future.
I don't know Who the guy with the glasses is, but he reffered about so many things that so many of us know or can recognized but almost never address or just don't take part of it, but "neutrality helps the opressor never the victim"...not doing anything is not enough, and the real challenge is when is Hard to step up, a thing most of us have to put our attention to and work on in the way we can.
"We can love each other and be accountable at the same time."
Beautiful conversation. Thank you for your vulnerability, honesty and willingness. Your light IS changing things.
I'm a survivor. This episode had me in tears.
"Men who do those things don't do it without the permission of the rest of us." OOF.
I'm grateful for all of you! I have 3 sons, so I'm trying to be as proactive as possible to inform me and teach them. My appreciation and admiration to all of you!
This isn't my story but it needs to be heard.
My friend was taped seven times.
When she told me it was with a group of friends and apparently I was the last one to find out.
We turned it into a joke, I asked ignorant questions and she exaggerated how misogynistic I sounded.
But in the end it always brings me to tears when I talk about this.
I've only known her for three years yet she has become one of the most important people to me.
I can't hug her because she has this constant wall around her.
A hug from her is like a once-in-a-blue moon *event* and it shakes me more when I realise that.
I've never been more open to listening than after I heard her story. It was mind-blowing to me.
Even though I had seen first hand violence, and gun fights and bloodshed. What shook me was her story.
I always had a gift for listening but it was never more important in that moment than it was anywhere else.
If there was anything I'd say it would be just listen and shut up.
Keep me on this side of the algorithm. Thank you for your candor and vulnerability. I remember listening to Tony Parter at a Ted Talk on "Man Box" I was so moved. These men are paving the way, and I hope this helps create and transform healthier men and we can see what healthy masculinity looks like.
Absolutely, absolutely loved this. Thank you Justin for sharing this and for having these men open up about #metoo.
This video gives me hope. Thank you for making it.
Wow. I am so incredibly touched by everyone who was speaking or involved with this project. Watching a group of men sit down, and openly and honestly talk about sexual violence against women and sexual violence against men, and how that has in turn affected their lives directly or indirectly is exactly what I have wanted to see for so long. I also want to extend a personal thank you to everyone who shared their stories of sexual violence in this video, because in order to share these experiences, in some ways you must relive them and that takes an incredible amount of courage and strength. This is the most important thing I have seen this year and I am going to share this with everyone. Just, thank you.
i LOVE this discussion. Its really going to change how men understand. There is something i'd like to point out though, which is said at around 23:00 - assuming we withhold our experiences to protect men's comfort is not why we don't tell you things. If I'm dealing with the aftermath of harassment part of it is just that I don't want to add dealing with or regulating your reaction on top of what I already am. In a way, sure, that protects you. It would be a mistake though for a man - S.O, family member, whatever - to think that that's my main priority in my decision not to say anything.
On one hand, it's possible we HAVE told you, you just weren't aware enough to take it seriously. And on the other, even if part of me wants your help, I also don't want to worry about you when I'm already worried about what got me in that situation in the first place and how to avoid it later. Because then we have to make sure you don't get into an unsafe situation or don't unintentially make things worse in another way, and frankly that takes energy I don't want to deal with if i'm already feeling upset, degraded, irritated, fed-up, etc.
Gena Brigham yeah men only want sex but think they need it. Men less likely to speak or even worry to about unwanted attention from when not the mood. Hopefully men at being while to hold hypcritrs accountable and while face their own Justice.
Carolyn Duham Bryant only Recently Admitted she wasn't being truthful . Back when she first made her claims you just had to BELIEVE HER Today She Can go on Twitter Facebook and get her girlfriends to say he wistled at me to
I totally agree. Plus: my boyfriend has this reaction where he wants to prohibit me from running late at night when it's already dark out (even though we live in the suburbs). But I need to feel like I can walk this earth freely, just like any man can. As a survivor of assault I don't need a constant reminder that I'm a walking talking target. Even the best men are really good at making us feel smaller and it sucks. The real reson i run, is because I need that time to deal with what happened to me. If that's taken away from me, I fall apart. My depression comes back and my life-quality drops immensely. Telling me I can't run when I need to run, is like telling me I can't live like a full human being anymore. But I also understand his fear and protectiveness...
Im guessing they dont care for you either lol
what im curious about is why you are watching a video like this if your heart is so closed and cold?
A. Bonella where did I say I didn't care? Anyway, my heart is neither of those things but thanks for the concern!
I appreciate this conversation that's been a very long time coming and I am grateful for the men who have the courage and compassion to speak about it openly so thank you! Most of the women I know have been either sexually assaulted, raped, harassed and or abused more than once, for me it's been at least six times from the ages of two and sixteen with the threat always around me. For a lot of women the threat is always in the air and that is a very scary and unsafe way to feel most if not all the time. I'm in constant fight or flight. I have isolated myself in my home for the last 26 years due to depression and struggle every day ... still. I am fifty-eight years old and still don not leave the house. My life has been of loneliness and isolation for almost half of my life.
I'm 44 and this is the first time I feel seen, as a woman in the world. In terms of men speaking of the daily fear that women go through and recognising the conditioning women live in, in order to protect themselves. We need SO MUCH MORE of these conversations everywhere.
I am learning so much. This was a very much needed conversation. As a person who has been thru so much in my early age this really helps me understand a lot of things. Thank You!
As a woman, it is very uncomfortable for me to go out walking alone. I live in a rural area and I will not walk down the road unless one of my two large dogs is with me or my husband is with me. I’ve also experience strange, sexual comments directed at me by strangers. I’ve been followed through stores by groups of men, it started when I was a young teenager. I had an instance where a man yelled at my now husband because he was purposefully obstructing the mans view of me. There was a creepy old man that attended the church my dad pastored and he was blatantly creepy toward young girls. He’d try to get you alone or box you in to corners, he’d say very inappropriate things, he once dropped of a plastic bag of used steak knives at my house. The church was made away of his behavior and decided to do nothing because he tithed a lot of money. My dad refused to do anything because he’s a power hungry, emotionless, narcissist of a man. I’ve spent my 25 years making sure I’m the “good girl”, so if I get raped and take the man to court, his defense has very limited things they can try to say about me. I know they’d lie and try to defame my character though. These things are very depressing to talk about, but it’s not unusual. I think every woman has been at least harrassed or made to feel uncomfortable in certain situations.
This is amazing. It’s amazing to see men start to get vulnerable and talk about the things men don’t usually talk about. It was very interesting to get a man’s perspective on the #MeToo movement
Unless that perspective is negative right?
JohnPaul Ingress why so much hate?
Such an important video! Priceless, honest and open conversation. Would be great to view in schools and open up the discussion even more among teens and young adults. I have hope for the healing of the divide between men and women. That relationship is the foundation for creating peace in the world. Thank you men for your openness, courage, and desire to grow, and share. It will change the world. Thank you!
in appreciation for all of these men and this kind of conversation... contemplation, reflection... More, more... more!!
You guys are BEAUTIFUL... THANK YOU.
What you are doing on this platform is revolutionary
It's going to be exhausting for both sides until change starts taking effect and we see the positive effects on the world. Its always been exhausting. It will become less exhausting when every single person, regardless of age or sex can feel safe in the world, in their bodies, in their homes, etc. Not that it will ever not be an issue (that will be the ultimate goal but how realistic a goal?) but it will become more and more like breathing, which is less exhausting when we all put in the work.
Honestly I am happy this video has been made, because so much shit is happening and nothing is really happening to change that. This video gives hope that there are people who are actually trying to make the world a better place, it literally makes me sick to think that this is even a problem. Thank you to those people who are positively changing the world, and thank you for this video. This is hope!!
4:45 the expression of laughter lightness and ridicule on this mans face when talking about his own sister getting raped scares me to the core of my being.
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That comedian has a team of writers. The story is very likely fabricated. It is appalling nonetheless.
Daniel tosh gets off from the shock factor his comedy has on the audience. He knew exactly what he was saying and the polarizing effect it would have. It was intentional. Doesn't make rape jokes ok though....
Right like the point my brother has said since Daniel Tosh first came under fire for that joke is of the joke is that "of course he isn't actually telling a true story, of course it would be horrible if she got raped for lack of pepper spray because of a practical joke," but the juxtaposition of what you wouldn't expect him to say so casually and what is actually happening is supposed to make the audience laugh. The problem is he's treating rape like something that never happens, that is so outlandish for a woman to be afraid of, it shows such a disconnect between reality and the fact that people hearing his joke might've been raped, and what he's saying up on stage. I mean I'm not ok with the rape joke but it's not as creepy to me as something I believe is real.
The way Woody Allen reacted just a few sec earlier in the video about his ex-wife being violated is much more horrible to watch though. And the Louis C.K. moment too, probably more creepy as he basically admits to being a rapist and no one noticed.
Louis CK is a rapist? I think you need to look up the definition of rape again. What he did isn’t even classed as sexual assault. Was it inappropriate? Yes. Was it rape? Definitely not.
And rape jokes are just like any other joke. Sometimes they can be funny and at other times they aren’t.
The saddest part about all of this: the majority of men won't even bother to listen.
It is really nice to see men talking about this movement and what is means to them and also their personal experiences with sexual assaults. All the courageous woman in this video. So proud of you and thank you so incredibly much for sharing your story - it touched so many people. I started dating a guy friend after college and one night he was really drunk and tried to rape me after I had already been sleeping for 2 hours. I had bruises all over my arms from trying to twist and turn so he couldn't rape me since he ripped off my pants and underwear. This whole time he is yelling at me for resisting. I had no idea who that guy was, never saw him behave that way before, it was incredibly terrifying. It was the scariest experience and I couldn't believe it was happening. I drove home and immediately told my brother who was also living at home at the time. He called a cop friend of his and asked what we could do and the cop said unfortunately there is not a lot to do since he didn't rape me. It is heart breaking to know that there isn't clear lines of accountability in our society for various accounts of sexual assault. It was so hard to just accept that the society I live in protects these people and the victims are left to what? Move on with their lives and get therapy to work past it. Unfortunately 5 years later my 18 year old cousin was raped by 3 guys at her high school and she had video proof enough where the boys were arrested...but still nothing - they were released. Are you kidding me? Let's work together to change this! I really enjoyed this video and that this movement exists. We need a better society structure to hold people accountable and work towards raising men to not see women as objects and to respect them as equals.
I can’t believe that cop didn’t tell you he could be charged with physical assault with intent.....you had bruises and he ripped your clothes off...even if it’s just getting a restraining order to draw a line in the f#@% sand...something to tell others who love you they don’t have to step up where our system fails...I have sincere respect for your brother instantaneously getting that call made that action from men needs to happen more...too often they react first instead of responding...opening the possibility of a status transfer that is then big enough for the system to intervene with them charged...I truly don’t believe we know yet the magnitude of this movement The possibilities are Huge.....A new societal level of evolution...a higher consciousness permeating, the ripples in the pool...my hope is that we women will continue to evolve alongside trailblazers like these men as fellow travellers....l pray that hyper vigilance doesn’t taper the lengths that this could go in our history
You do realized people can lie
@@danerichards4582 Why do you assume everyone is lying? Men can lie about being falsely accused just as much as a woman can falsely accuse a man. And the result is just as devastating.
Justin, I've watched this four times now. Thank you for doing this. I hope it's helped as many people as much as it's helped me. It gives perspective. And it's raw and honest. And it is IMPORTANT.
Also I’m glad they talked about fitting in and how showing affection was considered gay in school because that will also help with the stigma that male victims face
I have never in my life witnessed men not only show the compassion and understanding, but not deny or belittle the existence of these things because they see themselves in it. To see you all so honestly take responsibility for the parts you’ve played (no matter how big or small) is so refreshing. We need to change this world to where we raise boys and girls the same and where both women and men feel safe talking about their experiences. Thank you, I honestly feel that everyone should take the time to watch this.
Thank you. I am proud of you and men like you who are having this conversation.
God I love each and every person participating in this video
Kudos to everyone involved in making these video series. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
In this video particularly, the different point of views have brought so much clarity and insight on this topic and it will definitely help open conversational dialogues between us when we are around friends to increase awareness on the issue.
THANK YOU
These are the kind of fruitful conversation that we should have in our daily life; with our family, friends...We need to speak, to voice our problems and don't feel ashame of the good and bad experiences we have been through... because shame loves: secrecy, silence and judgment... Shame loses control when it is spoken...We have to speak our problems and don't be afraid of people's reaction....
Be you and don't let them put words in your mouth...
Thank you #Me Too.
Why doesn't this have more views! Thank you for this 💙
I've always wondered if men who stood still and let things slide, ever felt responsible ... Thank you for this. Thank you for becoming aware of it and then promoting change.
I came to this video really motivated, till I saw Scooter Braun which hurt Taylor. Can’t stand this man serious. I’m sorry
As a woman, this puts me into so many new perspectives on any level of sexual abuse. It's not that I don't know about the #metoo movement, but it just feels so distant from my life. Watching this for an hour has made me realize that growing up, I actually experienced many cases of abuse, and I never in my life have a serious conversation about them. Thank you for letting me see that it is important to have conversations about this and be mature, compassionate human as we listen.
i'm in tears again: this series is wonderful
This is so beautiful, thankyou so much to this wonderful circle of men for being so raw and vulnerable. This is very affirming for me.
AMAZING!!!!! This is what needs to happen to make the world a better place. PLEASE CONTINUE!!
Its January 1st, 2023. I just found this. I HAVE BEEN PRAYING FOR SUCH A CONVERSATION TO HAPPEN. Thanks guys. I was worth the wait.
This is so important.
I watched this as a mom and as a teacher. Thank you, thank you. It raises my awareness of assumptions and societal acceptance of roles with the 'creation of the collective socialization of manhood." I wish as a single mom, I had had role models like this for my son when he was little.
I have no words ..Bless you and your Company..
I'm so happy I found this video... Its message is so important, everyone should watch it. Thank you. Thank you all for being such amazing human beings.
I hope you could add subtitles in different languages because this is a topic that affects all nations, I'm from Chile (We speak spanish here) and I would love to share this with everybody I know, specially those with children. It's really important to speak up, not just after something has happened, but before, and the parental culture is not to talk about this in the open, parents feel uncomfortable and think sex is only something to be discussed (if it is ever discussed) once the children become teenagers, and it is something that must be address since the beginning.
Also we got to change the way we react in front of any type of sexual or inappropriate behavior, to not only act after something has happened to us, but also when we see something that shouldn't happen, to teach respect to ourselves and to each other. This is something that has happened for so long that we don't even see how is currently occurring right now, right next to us.
I constantly watch this video to remind myself of the obligation I have as a man in this crumbling society we live in, mainly because of us men. I’m always inspired everything single time I watch this.
This was a great segment! Thing won't change until Men check (holds other men accountable) other Men.
I don’t even know how I came across this channel. I’m at a loss for words. I really, really needed to hear and see this video.
Thank you you so much, to the host and his guests, for being “man enough” to speak on this topic. I appreciate each man’s perspective and ability to reflect on his past behaviour as well as his new behaviour towards being an advocate for girls and women 🙏🏾💗
Are you gonna produce more episodes? There are so many topics that you could cover and they are all so very urgent. I really hop that you will.
I am a teacher at challenging school. I love my school, co-workers and kids. I wish you and the other amazing men would be able to visit schools to speak to candidly. Young boys and teenagers, I feel, have warped concept of what a man is. Thank you for showing what men look like. Much love...
I absolutely loved this video, it really made me feel I wasn't alone with my thoughts.
I think this is exactly what we need, a calm and open discussion about what is okay and what isn't. And we need to reintroduce personal boundaries, telling people what you are okay and aren't okay with, without being ashamed.
Thus far the ‘Friend Zone’ is the most vile thing...
If you don’t value her friendship why would she date you?
Justin Baldoni is just....brilliant and magnificent and just so whole and pure and honest. Thank you for creating this platform and for creating a safe space for men alike to be truthful and vulnerable
People need to demand that media and movies and music match family values since we are trying to create healthy, strong families in this country that then lead to healthy, strong individuals who don't harrass each other. It has to start in the home, and our culture is not supporting parents who are trying to teach their children good values.
No, fiction has to be free. It's intertainment, it's not supposed to educate us. Belive it or not, having free fiction is important, we can't have people screaming "sexist, racist etc" about characters in movies. There would be not much room for creativity and interesting characters if we banned flawed characters and flawed storylines. Yes, we should talk about problematic stuff, but leave entertainment TV out of it
This is so refreshing to see actual men in Hollywood share their experiences and how they too can help make a difference. I loved every bit of this
All I can say is THANK YOU, THANK YOU THANK YOU. With all my heart, Thankyou
I cried more watching you all in this than I have in a long time. Thank you for having this conversation and owning your part in this ugly world. Now move forward and call your fellow men to the carpet and protect each other (male & female).
Seeing this again this year..... I see these men still clearly struggle to respect women. And these men are nice. And even they have it difficult to not see women as objects. How many men do you know in your life would sit and talk like this...... it should be done more and more. It’s very powerful to watch. But it still is sad to see how difficult it is for them.
This video made me cry in a good way multiple times. I'm so glad this video exists and UA-cam had this as a related vid to SOMETHING I was watching. It is so powerful and important.
Just amazing... thank you for making and sharing this content
God I love Matt McGory so much. He seems to be a genuinely good man.
Edit: I say "seems to be" not because I doubt he's actually as genuine as he seems in this video but because I don't personally know him.