He's not strong enough to do that. Given how he was talking and texting with her for the entire divorce process, there's no way he'd have the stones to test his kids.
The kids most likely looked like him or his family and nothing like her lover. That would be the most likely reason he didn't go the dna route. Plus the lover was married and living in florida.
What would be the point? They will still be his kids as far as he's concerned. Why mess uo what presumably is a great relationship with them. Whats more concerning is he's hooked up with a much younger woman and seems to be going to have a kid in his mid 50's or later and going through child rearing in his 60's. He'll be showing his kids round college in his 70's. He'll have kids younger than his grandkids lol.
I will forever clown on people who say "I still love my partner even though I cheated". Bull-fucking-shit. If you actually loved your bf/gf then you would do everything in your power to stay loyal. But if the love is lost then leave, it's that simple. They call themselves mature adults yet they act more childish then actual kids.
Everything a cheating wife says is just lies, blame-shifting, self-justification and ruthless manipulation. If she genuinely loved her husband, she'd never dare risk her relationship with an affair. The fact that she was the instigator shows how little the wife respected the beta husband.
I've watched a lot of these types of videos. I've yet to come across any man or woman who had a valid reason for cheating, who could reasonably say they love their spouse but still cheated. You'd need to go into soap opera territory, like a guy whose wife has been in a coma for 10 years or something who slips up and sleeps with the hot nurse.
Let her go be with the AP since she was fine with destroying a loving marriage for him. OP deserves better and hopefully this new relationship partner will be worth his devotion.
Dude just can't be alone. Had the stones to kick the ex out, but jumped right back into a new serious relationship. A grandpa talking about having kids with his new gf! STUPID
Yes guys like this are so weak and desperate. It's OK to forgive but you never let them back or contact them again. I disowned my whole family because of GF cheating and kids knowing but not informing me and believe me when I say they are all dead to me for ever. I have learnrd to forgive them for my own sake but will still never have any of them in my life in any way, shape or form.
Seriously. After a woman cheats on me and I find out, I'm basically a eunuch with her. Of course, I often don't wait a month to drop fat man and little boy on her life either so......
You're expecting a LOT from a man that sees his cheating ex as his third child 🤦🏻♀️and is now wanting to marry the new love he just met and have kids with her....
Nah. Even Alphas get cheated on. This was just a selfish choice with someone shes familiar with. She was going to ask for divorce and move in with AP if she was an Alpha widow. "What happens in many stories
Once I went to a HIgh School reunion and was disappointed that a girl I once dated wasn't there. I asked about her and was told she didn't want to go to the reunion and she asked her address and phone number not be given out. She said she didn't want old boyfriends showing up and causing problems with her marrage! Now that was a very wise person!
This guy is a moron, she would never have stopped cheating if she hadn't been caught. The Ap never wanted her back he was just using her while someone else was looking after her. Once she was divorced Ap did not want the responsibility of her that is why she wasn't with him after the divorce.
9:34 No, No, No, NO, NOOO! Some at-fault states consider you to have forgiven your cheating spouse if you have intimacy with them after catching them cheating. Do NOT do this! If you find out your spouse has been cheating on you, always: 1) Find and consult with your lawyer; 2) Get an STD test; 3) If you have kids, DNA test them if you're the father; 4) Do NOT engage in intimacy with your partner. If you dodged the STD before, they might have since gotten one. It might invalidate your divorce petition. And who knows what other consequences! 5) Follow your lawyer's advice. YOU set the goals, your lawyer guides you on the strategy and tactics involved. 6) Have recordings going on around you at all times during and after your partner getting served. False accusations are a thing. It's sad you need to prove your innocence in such matters, but this is the reality we live in today.
Wow! This OP was willing to let her off the hook if she didn’t resume her affair!?!? His weakness was the reason she felt like she could get away with it in the first place!
The attorney got me infuriated because of how she didn’t want to immediately draft up the divorce papers, she either is a cheater herself or is someone who would want the victims of cheating to give the cheaters another chance. Is it normal for an attorney to behave like that?
I had a issue with a woman that I had been dating in high school, she was able to contact me through Facebook after not seeing her for more than thirty years. She was perusing me even though I was happily married and she was also married, I finally had to tell her that she was being inappropriate and if she continued I would have to let her husband know what she was doing, she got upset and she contacted my wife not understanding that my wife knew everything about the situation from the start, my wife explained that she had seen all the correspondence and that she was very upset with her and that she needed to get help. Lucky I was honest with my wife from the beginning and she understood that I had no intention of doing anything inappropriate with that person.
I had a 👵🏻 ex school friend, a few forms below me, some 40 years later contact a sibling asking after me. She told my sibling that she still remembers me and had kept a letter I wrote her in 1971. She also mentioned that she had been married 3 times and engaged 4 times. I didn’t hand on my contact details.
And it was obvious she was! She met him, she saw that he was focused on his purpose and women always love to screw things up when they encounter men who are ambitious and not concerned with chasing women. She latched onto him like a freakin' barnacle and he didn't give it a second thought.
After listening to the story again, the wife would have continued to cheat if she had not been caught and would most likely have left the husband if she thought AP could take care of her.
Man, what a rollercoaster of emotions! Finding out about your wife's affair through her forgotten social media account? That's like stumbling upon a landmine while innocently strolling through the park.
He's the classic relationship guy. Though I will say I wouldn't say he is a wimp. A wimp would have stayed with the cheating wife. He's no wimp, just kinda naive.
Cake eater thought she could have her boyfriend on the side and still keep her husbund. What infuriates me the most about this type Is they are so sure they'll get away with their cheating because they expect their spouse to trust them.
No sir. If she goes into hysterics and the cops get called, who are they taking to lockup? He was right to eliminate her opportunity to pull something like that on him.
This op. He is clearly still in love with her . He says he still cares for her. If he really had a little of self respect he would've gone no contact with that Woman
i have a co worker who's in his late 50s and his wife left him for a drug dealer. he would still go on dates w/his ex to mexico and he would white knight for her when her drug dealer bf gets abusive. some men just can't get over their simping programming.
I love my husband is how she expresses what she is really thinking. I love how my husband takes care of me, and how he lets me do what I want, and he pays for everything giving me the right to spend my pay check on myself. Sometimes a man's worse day ends up being the best day of his life.
This guy needs therapy. He hasn't let go of his feelings for her. Sounds like he is showing her he can have a relationship to get even, yet worries about her. Twenty seven years and it was a good run, but he was always second.
I am amazed that he actually went through with the divorce. From the way OP talks he sounds like a soft man who learned nothing from this experience. I guess for some people no pain is enough to learn.
Agreed. He comes across as very weak. The new relationship also bespeaks weakness and stupidity. I can’t believe the “worry about the ex”. Who cares! I wouldn’t give a flying f@rt if my ex bought the farm. Could not care less. And that’s healthy.
@@covertcounsellor6797 I would only worry about her because she is the mother of my children. So you put on your game face at family gatherings and muddle through. Just be civil and polite. Not for her, but for them. If there were no kids, 100% agree.
This doesn't make any sense, she hooks up with AP and after she got serve with divorce by OP, she cut all ties with AP, once she realized that there are consequences for her choices to cheat on her husband. Very pathetic.
They do it because the excitement of cheating is gone plus she probably tried to get back with the AP but has was having none of it. There was a reason he dumped her the first time.
Well, she wanted hubby's resources, support, and the image of being the perfect wife that everyone else saw. But she also wanted the thrill of getting her first love back between her legs. Since his resources were far less than hubby's, it was best to keep him on the side. However, like most cheaters, she wasn't the stealthy genius she thought she was, so hubby found out and the fantasy life imploded.
AP ended up living with a kid = AP broke. OP had resources she wanted best of both worlds. With out OP resources AP was not going to come thru for her.
She settled for him as her second choice in a relationship because she could never get over her first love. While she was young, she enjoyed the excitement of being with her former partner and felt free. Now, she only relies on her husband for financial and emotional support and has no romantic feelings towards him. The relationship is beyond repair, and no amount of counseling can change that. Once she started the affair, she only slept with her husband so he would not suspect that something was going on. The husband was in a no-win situation.
when someone points 1 finger at you, there's always 3 fingers pointing back, that is exactly what i told my ex wife and she wasn't happy, but it turned out to be true
This channel is the better SSM, no eating the words no coughing constantly no car noise no annoying intros, no spoiling the stories from the start and no shouting "smack" annoyingly etc.. keep up the good work.
OP needs to reach out to the old AP and play matchmaker with him and his ex... Make them see that there is nothing like their puppy love. OP is a bozo. 😂
I've discovered this, It takes about 4/1 for recovery after a divorce or death. It's a grieving process for both. for every 4 years it takes about 1 year of grieving (and that is with healthy condition, much longer if you don't acknowledge it. For some people they never allow themselves to properly grieve, which produces unhealthy future relationships. I've had my share of cheaters , What I have done is play dumb and line up my ducks to get revenge then allow the cheater to hang themselves with the belief that I'm being played. Then I hit them and smile and no matter what I never go back. This usually is a great strategy cause they are so caught up with their own lies they never see it coming.
The obvious is overlooked in this story. The AP was the one who obviously ended the relationship because he married first. She never got closure and this carried through in her life even though she chose to marry. His wife was the aggressor according to her messages but this guy was no alpha. His weaknesses were revealed early by hooking up with his wife and constant communication. He, at one point. was even willing to overlook the wife’s infidelity. Already he is aged and it’s quite obvious he can’t be alone because he is projecting a second marriage and offspring. Seriously. He should talk this out with a therapist
OP just a blanket of security, nothing more and nothing less, see how fast she was trying to get in touch with her AP and voila the instigator, a hard pill to swallow, and the claim she loves the OP to death is of course a blatant lie as she can throw it without even a little thinking the damage that will come from it, again she only loves what OP can provide for her, it's a shame OP know it later in a hard way that he was and only a beta bux provider for her, the itchy first love always come first, who cares about OP, kids and family that span over 27 years right?
Keeping contact with the ex will ruin your new relationship. Remember she didn't really love you during your marriage because she was still carrying a torch for her HS sweetheart
I can understand finding a new wife and starting a new family after getting divorced (at about OP's age). Soon after I caught my wife cheating, I was planning on how to get everything I wanted in my new life. That included having children and retiring at age 50 while protecting my assets. I was remarried to my now-wife within 3 years (of DDay). Our 20th wedding anniversary will be next month. We have been living in the Philippines for the last 16 years and our oldest child will be starting college soon. I can't conceive of a better way to have spent the last 23 years. Quite an adventure. Yet very purposeful. Having a life purpose has always been important to me.
No , there is something wrong with this guy . He got himself a rebound girlfriend and he is already talking about new child . Red flags all over , this fool need to see a shrink .
This is a good video particularly because with a lot of channels that cover cheating stories like this you see men who got married too quickly and they get chastised and told to wait. Not saying you shouldn't wait, but this goes to show that it just doesn't matter. It really just comes down to the person, you can spend a long time getting to know them and still be blindsided one day.
I think OP is still not over his cheating wife because of the all the contact he admits to. His serious relationship. Sounds like he is trying to convince himself he is moving on. Too soon to rush into a relationship. As the old adage goes 'Marry in haste, repent at leisure'.
Just about every guy I know gets played by a woman at some point in their life. Which is why I disagree with a lot of men's channels who say to forget about women and stay on their grind until the are successful and in their 30s. That is just setting those guys with pretty much no experience loose in shark infested waters.
The way OP has handled this, he may as well just stayed with his wife. They carry on like she didn't spread for her old boyfriend. She claimed to love her husband, and would do anything to keep him, but that anything didn't include foregoing the butterflies she got from her old high school boyfriend, the one that she THOUGHT she would marry, but settled for OP instead. He shouldn't be considering starting a new family, but I guess to each their own.
he learned what marriage is all about (being the hoars financial stooge) THEN jumped right in and did it AGAIN, gentlemen there are no GOOD and BAD women, only women
There is more wrong with this story. OP found out about the cheating by accident when he used the wife’s tablet. Presumably she kept possession of it after the discovery so how did OP find out about the planned tryst after the holidays? Did he sneak off with it without rousing suspicion?
14.21 so he says he has a new life, but doesn`t want to have family before his cheating ex sorts her life?🤔😒 this guy is lost, as using her as a rebound.
A bit of "Sunk Costs" going on with him. So much time in that he wanted and hoped for her to walk away. His lawyer initially telling him to slow his roll was good advice. It worked out well, but this was his first divorce rodeo and not the lawyer's.
Does OP have an issue of being alone for awhile? He gets out of one relationship & jumps right into another one then he's got his now ex living very close to him. Because she's not a young woman anymore her chances of finding another good man are slim so she's going to pull every trick in the book to get OP back. Also, he needs to dna test his kids.
Some important facts, Over 100 text messages from a 45 year old married woman...She was thinking/obsessed with her lover constantly and most likely feeling they were in love. Having sex on lunch breaks AND 3 times on weekends. How was she able to maintain a healthy loving and sexual relationship with her husband. It's really hard to believe the husband didn't get suspicious at some point. Her mind was somewhere else 24/7.
This story and others tells me getting a good honest faithful wife is a crap shoot. Even if you spend years getting to know her, and her family well doesn't guarantee anything anymore than meeting a girl and marrying her in six months does. If you marry you takes your chances.
He handled the situation in a good way but still worrying about her after the divorce is a no go don't dwell on your past do you want to get hurt by her again find another woman and take things slow and stop bringing up your ex that bridge was crossed it collapsed don't rebuild it find another place to build your bridge and start over easy as that 😂
Don't be shocked if his new love is a younger version of his Ex wife. His new relationship has zero chance of surviving with the Ex just down the road, however that may be a good thing for someone who plans to be an alimony/child support queen.
OP should DNA test kids. She's only sorry she got caught.
He's not strong enough to do that. Given how he was talking and texting with her for the entire divorce process, there's no way he'd have the stones to test his kids.
The kids most likely looked like him or his family and nothing like her lover. That would be the most likely reason he didn't go the dna route. Plus the lover was married and living in florida.
What would be the point? They will still be his kids as far as he's concerned. Why mess uo what presumably is a great relationship with them. Whats more concerning is he's hooked up with a much younger woman and seems to be going to have a kid in his mid 50's or later and going through child rearing in his 60's. He'll be showing his kids round college in his 70's. He'll have kids younger than his grandkids lol.
I will forever clown on people who say "I still love my partner even though I cheated". Bull-fucking-shit. If you actually loved your bf/gf then you would do everything in your power to stay loyal. But if the love is lost then leave, it's that simple. They call themselves mature adults yet they act more childish then actual kids.
As a cheater told me once, "I hate change"... but they certainly did "change"...right?
if she leaves Poindexter who's going to pay her bills? bc Tyrone won't do it
Eggsactly
Everything a cheating wife says is just lies, blame-shifting, self-justification and ruthless manipulation.
If she genuinely loved her husband, she'd never dare risk her relationship with an affair.
The fact that she was the instigator shows how little the wife respected the beta husband.
I've watched a lot of these types of videos. I've yet to come across any man or woman who had a valid reason for cheating, who could reasonably say they love their spouse but still cheated.
You'd need to go into soap opera territory, like a guy whose wife has been in a coma for 10 years or something who slips up and sleeps with the hot nurse.
Let her go be with the AP since she was fine with destroying a loving marriage for him. OP deserves better and hopefully this new relationship partner will be worth his devotion.
Don't worry! She'll start feeling sorry for herceloph and reconnect wither ol' flame !
"loving" was one way, not on her end
He needs to understand that she never loved him and it’s going nuts because she lost it all. She doesn’t deserve an ounce of pity.
Dude just can't be alone. Had the stones to kick the ex out, but jumped right back into a new serious relationship. A grandpa talking about having kids with his new gf! STUPID
Yes guys like this are so weak and desperate. It's OK to forgive but you never let them back or contact them again. I disowned my whole family because of GF cheating and kids knowing but not informing me and believe me when I say they are all dead to me for ever. I have learnrd to forgive them for my own sake but will still never have any of them in my life in any way, shape or form.
Grandpa....The guy is mid forties and has kids and grandkids. Maybe new gal was young.
There is no such thing as "a break". There is no pause button in a relationship.
I swear.
I don't know how this guy could have touched his wife knowing she'd been with another man.
Seriously. After a woman cheats on me and I find out, I'm basically a eunuch with her. Of course, I often don't wait a month to drop fat man and little boy on her life either so......
He doesn’t appear too bright, that’s for sure!
Well with all women your following some man
You're expecting a LOT from a man that sees his cheating ex as his third child 🤦🏻♀️and is now wanting to marry the new love he just met and have kids with her....
@@tludden Probably the only woman who ever gave him any attention ! Now he's sticking both hands back into the fire ? Brilliant !
Classic alpha widow. If he knew her history beforehand, he was a total fool for getting serious with her.
Nah. Even Alphas get cheated on. This was just a selfish choice with someone shes familiar with. She was going to ask for divorce and move in with AP if she was an Alpha widow. "What happens in many stories
Once I went to a HIgh School reunion and was disappointed that a girl I once dated wasn't there. I asked about her and was told she didn't want to go to the reunion and she asked her address and phone number not be given out. She said she didn't want old boyfriends showing up and causing problems with her marrage!
Now that was a very wise person!
She does not love her husband but just loves being married to her husband. Huge difference
100% true.
This guy is a moron, she would never have stopped cheating if she hadn't been caught. The Ap never wanted her back he was just using her while someone else was looking after her. Once she was divorced Ap did not want the responsibility of her that is why she wasn't with him after the divorce.
9:34 No, No, No, NO, NOOO!
Some at-fault states consider you to have forgiven your cheating spouse if you have intimacy with them after catching them cheating. Do NOT do this!
If you find out your spouse has been cheating on you, always:
1) Find and consult with your lawyer;
2) Get an STD test;
3) If you have kids, DNA test them if you're the father;
4) Do NOT engage in intimacy with your partner. If you dodged the STD before, they might have since gotten one. It might invalidate your divorce petition. And who knows what other consequences!
5) Follow your lawyer's advice. YOU set the goals, your lawyer guides you on the strategy and tactics involved.
6) Have recordings going on around you at all times during and after your partner getting served. False accusations are a thing. It's sad you need to prove your innocence in such matters, but this is the reality we live in today.
Wow! This OP was willing to let her off the hook if she didn’t resume her affair!?!? His weakness was the reason she felt like she could get away with it in the first place!
I have been married for over 40 years. If I was to find out that my wife had during that time cheated, I would be gone, scorched earth.
So what?? Squeeze out a few tears in front of a judge and still walk away with cash and prizes!
The attorney got me infuriated because of how she didn’t want to immediately draft up the divorce papers, she either is a cheater herself or is someone who would want the victims of cheating to give the cheaters another chance. Is it normal for an attorney to behave like that?
I had a issue with a woman that I had been dating in high school, she was able to contact me through Facebook after not seeing her for more than thirty years.
She was perusing me even though I was happily married and she was also married, I finally had to tell her that she was being inappropriate and if she continued I would have to let her husband know what she was doing, she got upset and she contacted my wife not understanding that my wife knew everything about the situation from the start, my wife explained that she had seen all the correspondence and that she was very upset with her and that she needed to get help.
Lucky I was honest with my wife from the beginning and she understood that I had no intention of doing anything inappropriate with that person.
I had a 👵🏻 ex school friend, a few forms below me, some 40 years later contact a sibling asking after me. She told my sibling that she still remembers me and had kept a letter I wrote her in 1971. She also mentioned that she had been married 3 times and engaged 4 times.
I didn’t hand on my contact details.
Oh dear, he married an alpha widow.
And it was obvious she was! She met him, she saw that he was focused on his purpose and women always love to screw things up when they encounter men who are ambitious and not concerned with chasing women. She latched onto him like a freakin' barnacle and he didn't give it a second thought.
Women that are 25+ are all alpha widows
After listening to the story again, the wife would have continued to cheat if she had not been caught and would most likely have left the husband if she thought AP could take care of her.
Man, what a rollercoaster of emotions! Finding out about your wife's affair through her forgotten social media account? That's like stumbling upon a landmine while innocently strolling through the park.
She wasn't concerned with yours op so she threw away 27 yrs away
He made the mistake of Marrying an alpha widow. He needs to get his kids tested for paternity. Once a cheater always a cheater.
Just divorced? And really think about getting married again??? Whats wrong with this wimp.
He's the classic relationship guy. Though I will say I wouldn't say he is a wimp. A wimp would have stayed with the cheating wife.
He's no wimp, just kinda naive.
He is a boomer
Exactly. What a moron.
No sooner did she get caught then all of a sudden AP didn't matter to her anymore. But that's the guy she was willing to ruin her marriage over.
Cake eater thought she could have her boyfriend on the side and still keep her husbund. What infuriates me the most about this type Is they are so sure they'll get away with their cheating because they expect their spouse to trust them.
As far as cheating is concerned. Nobody feels any remorse until they get caught cheating. They keep right on doing it until something happens
So glad you're back to uploading videos. FYA
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His new squeeze must be thrilled at his continued contact with his ex oinker
He packed his clothes and moved out WRONG she cheated and he should have moved her out.
No sir. If she goes into hysterics and the cops get called, who are they taking to lockup? He was right to eliminate her opportunity to pull something like that on him.
This op. He is clearly still in love with her . He says he still cares for her. If he really had a little of self respect he would've gone no contact with that Woman
Which means he's not doing his new love interest any favors. He's talking a good game, but the new woman is not getting his full attention.
Only kids, grandkids that's it
i have a co worker who's in his late 50s and his wife left him for a drug dealer. he would still go on dates w/his ex to mexico and he would white knight for her when her drug dealer bf gets abusive. some men just can't get over their simping programming.
@@dlewis9760 He's doing to his new gf what his wife did to him. He's become an alpha widower.
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I love my husband is how she expresses what she is really thinking. I love how my husband takes care of me, and how he lets me do what I want, and he pays for everything giving me the right to spend my pay check on myself. Sometimes a man's worse day ends up being the best day of his life.
This guy needs therapy. He hasn't let go of his feelings for her. Sounds like he is showing her he can have a relationship to get even, yet worries about her. Twenty seven years and it was a good run, but he was always second.
Ah, the Alpha widow shatters another family again!
I am amazed that he actually went through with the divorce. From the way OP talks he sounds like a soft man who learned nothing from this experience. I guess for some people no pain is enough to learn.
Agreed. He comes across as very weak. The new relationship also bespeaks weakness and stupidity. I can’t believe the “worry about the ex”. Who cares! I wouldn’t give a flying f@rt if my ex bought the farm. Could not care less. And that’s healthy.
@@covertcounsellor6797 I would only worry about her because she is the mother of my children. So you put on your game face at family gatherings and muddle through. Just be civil and polite. Not for her, but for them. If there were no kids, 100% agree.
Masochist.🤣
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Why do these clowns get divorced, then get into another relationship and talk about marriage again!
This doesn't make any sense, she hooks up with AP and after she got serve with divorce by OP, she cut all ties with AP, once she realized that there are consequences for her choices to cheat on her husband. Very pathetic.
They do it because the excitement of cheating is gone plus she probably tried to get back with the AP but has was having none of it. There was a reason he dumped her the first time.
Well, she wanted hubby's resources, support, and the image of being the perfect wife that everyone else saw. But she also wanted the thrill of getting her first love back between her legs. Since his resources were far less than hubby's, it was best to keep him on the side. However, like most cheaters, she wasn't the stealthy genius she thought she was, so hubby found out and the fantasy life imploded.
AP ended up living with a kid = AP broke. OP had resources she wanted best of both worlds. With out OP resources AP was not going to come thru for her.
She settled for him as her second choice in a relationship because she could never get over her first love. While she was young, she enjoyed the excitement of being with her former partner and felt free. Now, she only relies on her husband for financial and emotional support and has no romantic feelings towards him. The relationship is beyond repair, and no amount of counseling can change that. Once she started the affair, she only slept with her husband so he would not suspect that something was going on. The husband was in a no-win situation.
when someone points 1 finger at you, there's always 3 fingers pointing back, that is exactly what i told my ex wife and she wasn't happy, but it turned out to be true
This channel is the better SSM, no eating the words no coughing constantly no car noise no annoying intros, no spoiling the stories from the start and no shouting "smack" annoyingly etc.. keep up the good work.
The Strong Successful Sausage with the bug eyes is re-enacting the hand-clapping of his cheex by his boyfriend when he says “SssMACK!!!”
OP needs to reach out to the old AP and play matchmaker with him and his ex... Make them see that there is nothing like their puppy love. OP is a bozo. 😂
This channel never fails to find the good stuff 👍🏻
I've discovered this, It takes about 4/1 for recovery after a divorce or death. It's a grieving process for both. for every 4 years it takes about 1 year of grieving (and that is with healthy condition, much longer if you don't acknowledge it. For some people they never allow themselves to properly grieve, which produces unhealthy future relationships.
I've had my share of cheaters , What I have done is play dumb and line up my ducks to get revenge then allow the cheater to hang themselves with the belief that I'm being played. Then I hit them and smile and no matter what I never go back. This usually is a great strategy cause they are so caught up with their own lies they never see it coming.
The obvious is overlooked in this story. The AP was the one who obviously ended the relationship because he married first. She never got closure and this carried through in her life even though she chose to marry. His wife was the aggressor according to her messages but this guy was no alpha. His weaknesses were revealed early by hooking up with his wife and constant communication. He, at one point. was even willing to overlook the wife’s infidelity. Already he is aged and it’s quite obvious he can’t be alone because he is projecting a second marriage and offspring. Seriously. He should talk this out with a therapist
OP just a blanket of security, nothing more and nothing less, see how fast she was trying to get in touch with her AP and voila the instigator, a hard pill to swallow, and the claim she loves the OP to death is of course a blatant lie as she can throw it without even a little thinking the damage that will come from it, again she only loves what OP can provide for her, it's a shame OP know it later in a hard way that he was and only a beta bux provider for her, the itchy first love always come first, who cares about OP, kids and family that span over 27 years right?
The Father Figure aspect makes perfect sense and you are the only presenter that raises this very accurate issue.
Keeping contact with the ex will ruin your new relationship. Remember she didn't really love you during your marriage because she was still carrying a torch for her HS sweetheart
Right, also I might add that he’s repeating that cycle himself.
Eventually, she will give-up and fly away to Florida tour one TRUE LOVE !
It's all fun and games with these cheating wives until they get caught, then they cry beg and plead there husbunds not to divorce them.
I can understand finding a new wife and starting a new family after getting divorced (at about OP's age). Soon after I caught my wife cheating, I was planning on how to get everything I wanted in my new life. That included having children and retiring at age 50 while protecting my assets. I was remarried to my now-wife within 3 years (of DDay). Our 20th wedding anniversary will be next month. We have been living in the Philippines for the last 16 years and our oldest child will be starting college soon. I can't conceive of a better way to have spent the last 23 years. Quite an adventure. Yet very purposeful. Having a life purpose has always been important to me.
That wasnt the only thing she was rubbing in his face. 😂
No , there is something wrong with this guy . He got himself a rebound girlfriend and he is already talking about new child . Red flags all over , this fool need to see a shrink .
This is a good video particularly because with a lot of channels that cover cheating stories like this you see men who got married too quickly and they get chastised and told to wait.
Not saying you shouldn't wait, but this goes to show that it just doesn't matter. It really just comes down to the person, you can spend a long time getting to know them and still be blindsided one day.
I think OP is still not over his cheating wife because of the all the contact he admits to. His serious relationship. Sounds like he is trying to convince himself he is moving on. Too soon to rush into a relationship. As the old adage goes 'Marry in haste, repent at leisure'.
If all those cheaters could look into the future so many mistakes would be avoided
NAAH ! They'd still do it !
How the F do you hook up with your wife knowing she’s getting together with someone on the side?! Wow! No self respect
Just about every guy I know gets played by a woman at some point in their life. Which is why I disagree with a lot of men's channels who say to forget about women and stay on their grind until the are successful and in their 30s. That is just setting those guys with pretty much no experience loose in shark infested waters.
How could he think about "sweeping " her affair.
The way OP has handled this, he may as well just stayed with his wife.
They carry on like she didn't spread for her old boyfriend.
She claimed to love her husband, and would do anything to keep him, but that anything didn't include foregoing the butterflies she got from her old high school boyfriend, the one that she THOUGHT she would marry, but settled for OP instead.
He shouldn't be considering starting a new family, but I guess to each their own.
Ah you posted a video. I binge your content at work because it’s interesting and listenable so it’s always a great day when you upload!
She did it if She gets pregnant she had an alibi.
100%
"I'll give you anything you want".
Well... I wanted your loyalty... So that didn't happen lol
You are right.."It's a great story with many life lessons."
Damn what’s with people today??
he learned what marriage is all about (being the hoars financial stooge) THEN jumped right in and did it AGAIN, gentlemen there are no GOOD and BAD women, only women
They just have different cheating thresholds.
A new fya video is the highlight of my youtube month .
There is more wrong with this story. OP found out about the cheating by accident when he used the wife’s tablet. Presumably she kept possession of it after the discovery so how did OP find out about the planned tryst after the holidays? Did he sneak off with it without rousing suspicion?
I thought I had the video sped up, but FYA is just getting better at pacing 👌
14.21 so he says he has a new life, but doesn`t want to have family before his cheating ex sorts her life?🤔😒 this guy is lost, as using her as a rebound.
A bit of "Sunk Costs" going on with him. So much time in that he wanted and hoped for her to walk away. His lawyer initially telling him to slow his roll was good advice. It worked out well, but this was his first divorce rodeo and not the lawyer's.
Does OP have an issue of being alone for awhile? He gets out of one relationship & jumps right into another one then he's got his now ex living very close to him. Because she's not a young woman anymore her chances of finding another good man are slim so she's going to pull every trick in the book to get OP back. Also, he needs to dna test his kids.
The way I hurried up to click on this damn video! You don’t upload often enough.
She's an alpha widow.
12:57 I want you to know this is not her first time she most likely been sleeping behind this man’s back all through the marriage
She is still the mother of HIS kids. It will be devastating to THEM if something happens to her. That is prob the source of his concern.
Never worry about trollops and what happens to them.
Damn she really gambled with love for 2 times......
Some important facts, Over 100 text messages from a 45 year old married woman...She was thinking/obsessed with her lover constantly and most likely feeling they were in love. Having sex on lunch breaks AND 3 times on weekends. How was she able to maintain a healthy loving and sexual relationship with her husband. It's really hard to believe the husband didn't get suspicious at some point. Her mind was somewhere else 24/7.
This story and others tells me getting a good honest faithful wife is a crap shoot. Even if you spend years getting to know her, and her family well doesn't guarantee anything anymore than meeting a girl and marrying her in six months does. If you marry you takes your chances.
Its nauseating when the cheater tries to get with you sexually, YUK !!!!
I am a simple man; new video by my favorite channel FYA, I click and enjoy!
Thank you once again for validating my jadedness
There's always a man in her life that has permanent access.
He handled the situation in a good way but still worrying about her after the divorce is a no go don't dwell on your past do you want to get hurt by her again find another woman and take things slow and stop bringing up your ex that bridge was crossed it collapsed don't rebuild it find another place to build your bridge and start over easy as that 😂
No she didn't love her husband she only loved because he was providing for her she not having to work
"he is just a friend", "stop being controlling and insecure" 😂
It seems he wants a rebound marriage I don’t see that ending well.
Op is a huge simp who will get cheated on again
Agreed. He hasn’t learnt the lesson.
Great story 😊
Keep em coming!!!!!!❤
She promised she wouldn't cheat anymore. Sure because she got caught! Otherwise, she'd stll be cheating.
You know the world is crazy when grandmothers and grandfathers commit adultery!
Oh man the title has already intrigued me.
Don't be shocked if his new love is a younger version of his Ex wife. His new relationship has zero chance of surviving with the Ex just down the road, however that may be a good thing for someone who plans to be an alimony/child support queen.
Clearly, she's not sorry she had the affair, she's just sorry she got caught.
Typical Simp behavior. Who play the pick me dance. He should of pushed for divorce immediately.
Whats sad is the marriage was apparently going well for 20+ years and threw it away for a first love wow
Do not think of the holidays or special events, you confront when you find out; it shows you mean business and your respect trumps any special day.
I only hope he ran up all the cards and cleaned out the accounts first.
He's not over her unfortunately. I hope he didn't blunder things after the final update.
You k ow what will help this channel tremendously? If you are posting at least once a week...just my 2 cents...great story as always
Also, I keep getting unsubscribed! Anyone else have that problem?
What a simp...
Like i said many times, a woman is willing to give up of everything in exchange for a fleeting thrill
Thank you for this enjoyable well written post. OP you are delusional.
Even though I believe these stories are fiction, I still love listening to them.