Agree there are lots of this cheating reasons about Covid/lockdown where it should be the time where the Spouse bond to each became more stronger since they mostly spends more of their time together in their home because it's lockdown, there should have been more lockdown babies between husbands and wives and not Affair Partners. 😅
Notice how cold and calculating the wife was to her loyal husband. She just crapped all over him! How damn dumb can a 42 yr old woman be by having unprotected sex with the AP and getting knocked up. Bravo to her ex
I read a horror story about a cheating wife. She didn't just have an affair with one man, her affair was with 3 men. All 3 men were friends of the husband. At different times, 2 of his friends would get him to hang out while the 3rd man was with his wife at his house. They each took turns doing that. Quite a few times when the husband was at work his wife entertained all 3 men at the same time. All 3 of his friends were married and it was one of his friends wife that discovered what they were doing with his wife and told him. They informed the other 2 wives what their husbands were doing. In the end the betrayed husband and the betrayed wives destroyed the lives of the 3 men and the cheating wife. One of his wife's lovers was a lawyer representing his wife. They got him disbarred and sent to prison.
Along with her 2 other kids who remain on good terms with her despite the fact that she didn't give a second thought about casting them aside in exchange for some younger sausage.
The relationship is over when a woman tells you there is someone else and then goes missing for days. She is too sure of the marriage to see him as weak, and if things do not work out, she can always come back home. This is just my opinion. She showed great disrespect for her husband and children. It seems like she got hurt and left alone."
I would have told her I’m dating a “real lady” who is 18 years younger than her with plans to remarry and have a daughter that I’ve always wanted. Then I’d watch her body language with glee as panic set in her face.
He made lemonade with the lemons she gave him. The woman doesn't give a hoot about her ex, she just wants a reliable man to take care of her and her son. He's better off without her.
The arrogance of this lady. She just upset and leaves. Won't talk to him. Brushes him off and abandons him. He isn't even worthy of a conversation. Now she is getting the same treatment in spades. Karma!
I mentioned in a previous post but I have seen so many women around this age also go crazy. I watched one 38 year old mother of 2, just decide she was going to start following a band around and go out with girls in their 20's and basically abandon her family. One of the kids was like 3 years old. Her husband was in shape and made a great living. She just went insane for a year. I saw another decided to leave her husband and 4 kids, and she was 38. She started dating one dude and then cheated on him with a dude that was 24. Man I could go on and on. All of these women 100% felt what they were doing was justified and that everyone else in the world just didn't understand.
I'll never comprehend why anyone is so willing to destroy her family and relationships for a few minutes of pleasure. Makes zero sense. I honestly believe women have less ability to delay gratification than a toddler does.
There's a literal disconnect in their minds between their actions/emotions, and the consequences. Some of it is selfishness, some of it is entitlement, some of it is lack of gratitude for what they have. And I'll keep saying it until it's accepted truth: women get more and more like the above the more promiscuous their past. They always come up with excuses for why they're like this; they were bored, the attention/validation felt good, we drifted apart, etc. But in reality all their hookups, situationships, FWB, and hoe phases destroyed their ability to bond strongly to a man and stay bonded. As a result, they're weak to ALL outside influences and temptation and are highly likely to stray or detonate their marriages.
She had a middle life crisis and wanted to feel young again. So she cheated to feel "excitement", but got a cold shower once she got pregnant and AP dumps her. The ex-wife just wrecked her life, now her sons a family has a low opinion of her.
Why is it that with men a mid-life crisis is buying a sports car or motorcycle whereas for women it’s finding some boy toy and blowing up the marriage?
@@jacksongunner7122 Especially them getting knocked up at 40+. WTF are they thinking? It's astonishing that she genuinely believe the husband would take her back when she's pregnant with a bastard. SMH.
@@jacksongunner7122 actually, a lot of men also cheat on their wives when they have midlife crisis. A lot of men blow up their marriages for the stupiest things.
Well Chad only has a mineral deposit into the relationship with her. She was just used for sex and nothing more. I really wished that women today were smarter than that to give it up raw on the first date.
I don't understand how these betrayed husbands can stand being civil with the ex-wife. If she asked me to reconcile, I'd laugh in her face, and tell her that she's damaged goods. That I only date women half her age now, but that I hoped she has fun being a mid-40's single mom raising her bastard alone.
The boys, even after the age of 18. Only reason. She has relatives and they are the boy's relatives. They may have good relationships with them. Being civil in many cases is easier in the long run than going scorched earth. Civil isn't even being nice. Just don't lose your composure and you are halfway there. I would imagine if her boys cut her out, he would not be as civil.
Their weakness is the main reason of their wives cheating and disrespect. He let things go unchecked and unchallenged. Of course she's a POS, but having no backbone is like wondering why a horse is gone when you didn't have a fence.
Well mainly because they become indifferent. It’s the ex wife by social viewpoint, but in their eyes it’s just another person. There is no emotion towards them. That’s actually worse because women respond to any emotion. Why do you think they say to keep your mouth shut and walk away? It drives them crazy when you don’t respond. In this case being “civil” is an indication to her that he has zero emotion towards her. Which is making her try harder but she’s wasting her time. Women are great at manipulating so if you have anger, they find a way to eventually turn it. I’ve seen it happen many times before including I think in his last video. When you’re indifferent, there is absolutely no chance as there is not emotion to work with.
Imagine, he takes her back, she contacts AP and says you don't have to financially support "our" kid. My "husband" will do that. We can get back together. She becomes again, ONE of AP's women. Husband is now stuck, because if he did support the kid, the courts will make him pay child support if, no, when they split again.
17:30 Why do single mothers always shame guys by saying their son needs a "strong man in his life," yet turn around and say they're strong and powerful and can raise their children without any man? Seems to me they just always want to be the protagonist - either the victim or the victor, but never the villain
Schrödinger's feminism: a woman is simultaneously a victim and empowered, until something happens. Then she can choose which state benefits her the most.
OP did well. But... - He went against his lawyer's advice. (He was lucky that didn't backfire--ALWAYS LISTEN TO YOUR LAWYER). - He didn't go no-contact with his ex-wife after the divorce. Always go no-contact with ab*sers. Talking to her just makes her think she has a shot. No man needs that kind of drama in his life. - He hugged his ex-wife after she proposed that he be a father to her affair partner's baby. This individual destroyed a *20 year legacy,* betraying her loving husband and sons, to have fun with a stranger... yet OP rewards her behavior by showing affection? This story has left a very bad taste in my mouth.
OP did not let her come back home and he didn't get back together with her either. But I would agree with you on one matter that is to go no contact with her after the divorce.
I will never understand these women who can screw over their husbands and kids, get knocked up by some loser then have the audacity to ask their betrayed spouse to raise another man’s kid.
It may look like audacity but it is probably mostly just desperation. A convicted murderer being dragged to the gallows will scream and cry for mercy which they denied to their victim. They know they deserve it. They justl want to get off the hook. A woman desperate for support will shamelessly do the same. Begging. Crying. Gaslighting. Guilting. Flattery. Anything but consequences.
Women don’t love men. They either love the respect they have for them or love the provision. If they are really lucky, they’ll have both the provision and respect, but few get lucky. That’s why many women “feel” like they settled.
Telling the relatives is a public relations move that needs to be done. Whoever gets their story out first is playing offense, whether true or not (true in this case). Once a story is told, the other party has to explain. If he sat on that, she could bad mouth to the point that the truth would never be believed.
I have become convinced that she did what nearly every Western woman age 24-60 fantasizes about, and they'd be jealous of her for following her heart and stepping out in bravery like she did. Some things cannot be walked back, and if she says she's sorry, then her ex-husband should not believe her. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
The only other thing that I would point to that I think he did wrong was when she asked him, at the graduation party, if he was seeing anyone. At that point, it's none of her business anymore, and that's exactly what he should have told her.
Great story, I think it's the better one in a few weeks. And yes the power in women is youth, purity, and agreeable just as a man's strength is tall, masculine and money
Facts of life: (1) Women live for the tingles. (2) Once they stop feeling the tingles the relationship is over, ever if she temporarily remains in it for the sake of security. (3) If she finds a new man capable of giving her tingles she will cheat with him 100% of the time. (4) She will feel no guilt or shame whatsoever about cheating because she thinks she is entitled to experience the tingles. (5) If she asks for her longtime partner to take her back after getting dumped by her AP, any apologies will be insincere and any explanations will be lies. (6) All women feel they are entitled to cheat. (7) Any man who marries a woman these days or who gets into a committed relationship with one is ignorant and naive, and headed for disaster.
This is why it’s absolutely pointless to get married. Unless she’s an absolute needed asset in your life, there is no point. Birthing your children is no longer a needed asset, you can literally get a surrogate.
He should file for divorce right away. Not give her 48 hours or something like that. The minute you hear she has an affair, you know your marriage is done.
"What I really want didn't work out, but since I faceplanted due to my stunning idiocy, I've decided to go back to you, even after betraying you, because disrespecting you while leeching off of you is infinitely preferable to me getting a damn job, and I have so little respect for you, that I actually think you'll agree."
Blunt but exactly right. OP is culpable because he allowed his wife to lose respect for him. I bet he never enforced strong boundaries and has or will entertain getting back with his betrayer.
Got the thumbs up on this when the lawyer told him to not report it to employers until after the divorce. Very well handled. You have to be fully aware of woman-kind weakness and shamelessness, and capacity to cause endless destruction to be able to recognize and act on those early red flags at the start of an imploding relationship when everything seemed to be good previously.
Then she comes crawling back because she realizes her affair child will never have that same relationship with his sperm donor. She wants the OP to provide the relationship she "hated." What a complete idiot.
The opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. Once you reach indifference, there is no going back. You lawyer was a great asset to your healing process. What you missed in the beginning was not the loss of your wife, but the loss of the dreams you had for your families future. Once you came to the conclusion that those dreams would never have happened with her, it became much easier to create new dreams and goals. My only disappointment in this story is that she should be paying you child support. After the second year, where you have a two year record of being an excellent father, that is when you request child support. Your boys need her support, she should be made to pay it. Nothing wrong with her paying for their groceries and a pair of pants now and then. You didn't create the mess, she did, and she should pay for the damages.
So he's just supposed to be her backup plan and raise some other idiots child? Do women actually think about these plans before they put them forward? Crazy!
Impossible relationship. I met a woman 8 years older than me and I was 31. It was 3+ years of pure lust and nothing more. I was young and full of libido so she got hooked on it. The woman of the story got blinded by lust, but the baby made her go back to reality.
@@R_W_Goodson I just left and said I did never commit. She was at her sexual prime and we had a lot of fun. There wasn't any bad feelings. It's your needs what dictate your behavior unless there is a commitment and exceptional bonding. However you must maintain your guard up in any relationship (a financial route out) and have plan B, regardless.
She said she sorry and misses you. Translation she wants you to be her clean 🧹 up man 👨 because Chad pumped and dumped her after making her a baby mama.
I am a firm believer that you don't allow horrible people to be in your life to any extent. No friendship, no fake small talk or pleasantries and if those were my boys they would understand my stance. The ex wife would be dead to me and she and her bastard child would be nothing but an afterthought. The fact this woman has not been completely ostracized from family and friends shows how morally defunct our society has become.
Exactly this. I'd go out of my way to be as unpleasant to her as possible, so she got the messaged and never bothered me again. The husband in the story was obviously a nice guy though, which is why he got cheated on in the first place.
"I don't hate your kid. The same way I don't hate some stranger's kid that lives 3 blocks away. Good luck and God's Speed. The boys are our only connection. The only way I will know anything about you and you about me is if they talk. I would prefer they don't. They may care, I do not".
The story does not say, but it is obvious she never "got wise". Her boyfriend got rid of her. If she can get him to take her back she can start to pretend to everyone that nothing really bad happened and rug sweep everything. She would not ever have to explain why her children have different last names for the rest of her life.
After she got used up, and got knocked up by her “Chad boy toy”’she has the audacity to call her betrayed husband for forgiveness and come home because she wants her family back??? As if she did nothing wrong and blame it on midlife crisis??? She must be delusional. Husband is great for standing his ground and not wanting to raise a affair product child and still divorcing her! Who in their right mind would accept that mess???
Just imagine, the fact that OP was too good of a father was the excuse she used for her abandonment of the family is the excuse she attempted to use as the rationale for her attempt to weasel her way back into his home and life. She sowed to the wind and she reaped the whirlwind.
I’ll tell you why this happened to this guy: he’s the kind of guy who when his wife suggested he take her cheating [butt] back and raise AP’s child he said basically “Thank you for your kind offer but I’m happy with my life as it is” rather than laughing in her face and saying “No way in hell I’m raising your bastard child!”.
There is a correlation between how a woman truly views her man and how she treats him. She stays out and doesn't feel she has to explain herself. Her tone with husband because she feels she has the higher ground with her new man by her side. Letting the AP take her in every which way knowing she would adamantly deny her husband. Letting AP play pickle ball with her ovaries to the point she ends up pregnant. The shit talking and disrespect she talked behind his back with the AP. Then the best of all, the ultimate chef's kiss was when she told her ex husband her child needed a good father. The excuse for her leaving was she felt ignored because he payed too much attention to their kids, so now let me add this daily reminder. This woman did all this because that is how she truly saw her husband. Eighteen years down the drain.
So guys, a quick observation from an old man like me. I have seen a LOT of women who are married that are around the age of 38 just loose it mentally. They start acting the teenage girls again and wanting to do stupid stuff. A LOT of them end up cheating on their husbands and most are at least decent to good looking. As far as men go, it seems to hit around 50. Dude suddenly has to buy that expensive sports car, or drop some other serious cash on something dumb. Once this crazy phase enters it is hard, no it is impossible to reason with them. My advice would be to discuss it ahead of time.
Well this starts by asserting your boundaries and let them know there is absolutely no BSing when it comes to you. Fear keeps people in check and if she fears that you don’t do BS, she’ll have a less desire to f-up. If she does, it will be all over her face.
Wasn’t she happy when the OP presented her with divorce papers? She probably ballooned up after the birth and the younger Chad didn’t want to be stuck with an older, bigger woman with baggage for the rest of his life. When she left and never came back the first time it would have been the end right there for the marriage.
Really underlines getting the divorce done while the cheater is still in the Affair Fog. His divorce got delayed to the point the cheating wife was waking up. Fortunately it was still too late. Chad may have bailed, but the ex could still drag him into court for at least 18 years of child support. Some very expensive funtime with a long term obligation. OP handled it as well as he could. Only point I would argue is when he gave her two days to come home before going to a lawyer. Get the evidence and get a lawyer ASAP.
I have a cousin who does the same thing the wife does in this story. I told her the young guy just wanted to sleep with her only and to end the affair because it was fun for the young guy. She left her husband and ended up getting pregnant. When she told the young guy, he broke up immediately. Now she has a 4-year-old, and she is forty-four. She is so sad and lonely now because her ex-husband only speaks to her, but nothing else. I forgot all about that until I listened to this story again.
"I made a big mistake, and I want to come back home, and have you raise Chad's kid for me, and I promise I won't cheat on you until next time". As they used to say back in the CB days: "That's a big negatory, and I don't want you at my 20. Signin' off, and have a good 'un".
She saying she is miserable speaks volumes. She hates her husband. She stil wants ap but ap left. There is a kid and we know each cost$ 100k average, she wanted him paying. So all her narrative is a LIE. There was no change of mind, it was ap leaving her. Husband is the worst is nothing after she is abandoned. I know these women. Mean and selfish. She left her kids, because her ap was first. Lying cheater.
I would rather have my worst enemy shoot me than someone like this women, who tells him she loves him, while betraying and destroying his life as he knew it.
Hope the children want to life with her. These weak men always tell their children to have a good relationship with their ex wifes. that explains why she cheated he is a nice guy.
She was bored and felt something totally different with her lover that filled her lust to explore his words, touches,and kisses were all different with no responsibility involved. In other words she was able to totally let herself go with the new guy he was probably a bad boy who challenged her in a way that excited her that she felt before. He gave her permission to do so but he also controlled it at the same time once he knew her hunger and her hunger was overwhelming. She lost it completely in the process and became very selfish even to her parents and friends Shit happens to many middle age females like them
That's not the end of the story. The ex will continue to try to weasel herself back into the guy's life. He needs to stop engaging with her and only keep conversations about their boys and nothing else.
Just from that thumbnail I can't stop laughing. She's got a hell of a lot of nerve trying to get her ex-husband back after stabbing him in the back and getting knocked up.
This kid is going to eventually ask where his daddy is to which OP, his sons, grandpa & uncles will tell him the truth. Because his mom won't she'll say OP is his dad & the kid will likely loose respect for his mom because she cheated & had him & OP wants nothing to do with him. She should be chasing her ap down for child support.
The "affair fog" in which every smallest piece rationality is thrown overboard and the woman follows her lower brain to a state in which she casually allows someone in raw. It doesn't need to even include actual affairs or cheating as she can be single and do that or even with her own husband if married.
Had she made it her goal to make her husband the happiest man alive before she got involved with the office Chad, we would not be hearing her sad story.
It sounds like clinical depression. People with this often act out in strange ways and don't act depressed. Only psychiastrists are trained to diagnoseand and treat it. Counselling will not help because it will take medication. It's often triggered by a life changing event. Losing a job, death of a parent, a major move away from familier surrounding, the lock down for covid would certainly qualify.
He waited way to long to start the divorce. Once a spouse cheats the marriage should be over. Never give a cheater a second chance. Just another example of why no man marries until divorce laws are changed to at fault for divorce.
Leaves him for younger man after 18 years, cuts heart out and stomps on it, has affair baby, AP pisses off, wants him to take her back and raise affair baby. Is that about it? I guess when you're desperate you have to play your last card; just a small black heart.
Why did this dude continue to hold off on taking action regarding his wife’s actions initially? He just made himself look weak. Thankfully the attorney he spoke to pointed him in the right direction. He was still foolish when he agreed to talk with her when the divorce was almost final. Lotta weakness in this guy.
In his defense, he may not have ever been cheated on so may not have recognized the signs. Also, who would expect to be cheated on for being ‘spending too much time with their kids’? He may have stumbled at first but he ended up doing the right thing.
I don't think her fog went away one day, at least on it's own. I bet the chad just had enough of her. She probably became moody during early stages of pregnancy and he just found her unattractive and treated her like dirt. Now she realised what she lost in OP she became desperate.
It is so funny how the ex-wife is so sorry that the AP left her, and she has a baby to raise and no help to her, no rest or support. She has learned that having a baby late in life is no fun, and you are always tired, as my cousin tells me about her baby now.
AP behaved like garbage, a scavenger breaks up a young family to get an older woman pregnant, he doesn't want a child with her so why did he do it, and now presumably he is paying child support for his child after leaving a broken family behind Never take back a cheater ever, no exceptions. Especially don't take back a cheater who is pregnant from some other dude. When she said she was having a 3 month affair and that's when her behaviour changed he learned later that she was cheating for at least 6 months. Her behaviour probably changed when we she discovered the pregnancy and decided she would prefer a family with AP.
I didn’t realise a symptom of Covid was turning a wife and mother into a 304.
Yes the CDC just updated that as a side effect, it also caused me to stub my toe last night.
This guy acted simpy AF!!! IMMEDIATE action is required. Tell EVERYONE IMMEDIATELY! Including the kids. No confusion. No mercy. No contact.
First I ever heard of it as well.
Endless side-effects.
Agree there are lots of this cheating reasons about Covid/lockdown where it should be the time where the Spouse bond to each became more stronger since they mostly spends more of their time together in their home because it's lockdown, there should have been more lockdown babies between husbands and wives and not Affair Partners. 😅
Notice how cold and calculating the wife was to her loyal husband. She just crapped all over him!
How damn dumb can a 42 yr old woman be by having unprotected sex with the AP and getting knocked up. Bravo to her ex
“You let him hit it raw. You didn’t have second thoughts. Now you a single mom… now you a single mom.”
She will definitely let the next guy hit it raw as well. She's a carousel girl, everyone gets a free turn. LOL
"You let him hit it raw. Now you a single mom" at 42 no less lol
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They all give it up raw to the affair partner. LOL. Especially married women. LOL
I read a horror story about a cheating wife.
She didn't just have an affair with one man, her affair was with 3 men.
All 3 men were friends of the husband.
At different times, 2 of his friends would get him to hang out while the 3rd man was with his wife at his house.
They each took turns doing that.
Quite a few times when the husband was at work his wife entertained all 3 men at the same time.
All 3 of his friends were married and it was one of his friends wife that discovered what they were doing with his wife and told him.
They informed the other 2 wives what their husbands were doing.
In the end the betrayed husband and the betrayed wives destroyed the lives of the 3 men and the cheating wife.
One of his wife's lovers was a lawyer representing his wife.
They got him disbarred and sent to prison.
If a husband accepts the Wife's Affair Baby, he no longer a man, just a Simp.
Worst than that he is a biological cuckhold. That is one of the ultimate forms of lacking masculinity
thats an insult to simps. that makes him a something worse: A Cuck.
Facts. Truly nothing in the world is more pathetic than that.
Cuck major for knowingly taking care of someone else's kid, more so of your cheating wife's lovers kid.
Even worse... A Fool..
Now the ex gets to be strong and independent. Just her and her child.
Her much-likely-higher-chance-to-be-autistic child. ;)
Along with her 2 other kids who remain on good terms with her despite the fact that she didn't give a second thought about casting them aside in exchange for some younger sausage.
... And the taxpayer coming in clutch with the welfare, EBT, section 8, WIC, and, and, and...
Her coming back then taking a bath or shower tells him all he needs to know.
She was trying to wash her affair partners seed out of her. LOL
@@gregorylyon1004 A bigger red flag is if she smells fresh and clean. Means she has already showed at his.
The relationship is over when a woman tells you there is someone else and then goes missing for days. She is too sure of the marriage to see him as weak, and if things do not work out, she can always come back home. This is just my opinion. She showed great disrespect for her husband and children. It seems like she got hurt and left alone."
The respect is gone.
Spot on.
When she asked if he was dating he should have told her it is none of her business.
I would have told her I’m dating a “real lady” who is 18 years younger than her with plans to remarry and have a daughter that I’ve always wanted. Then I’d watch her body language with glee as panic set in her face.
I would have told her that I am having it sucked on the regular, when she is not doing the cowgirl!
He made lemonade with the lemons she gave him. The woman doesn't give a hoot about her ex, she just wants a reliable man to take care of her and her son. He's better off without her.
She didn't care about her children with OP either, she neglected them during the affair.
The arrogance of this lady. She just upset and leaves. Won't talk to him. Brushes him off and abandons him. He isn't even worthy of a conversation. Now she is getting the same treatment in spades. Karma!
I mentioned in a previous post but I have seen so many women around this age also go crazy. I watched one 38 year old mother of 2, just decide she was going to start following a band around and go out with girls in their 20's and basically abandon her family. One of the kids was like 3 years old. Her husband was in shape and made a great living. She just went insane for a year. I saw another decided to leave her husband and 4 kids, and she was 38. She started dating one dude and then cheated on him with a dude that was 24. Man I could go on and on. All of these women 100% felt what they were doing was justified and that everyone else in the world just didn't understand.
@@SteveMichael It seems like very curious cases of Girl Power!!
I'll never comprehend why anyone is so willing to destroy her family and relationships for a few minutes of pleasure. Makes zero sense. I honestly believe women have less ability to delay gratification than a toddler does.
Because the other guy is new and exciting and the beginning of the newness overwhelms a woman's judgement.
This is why they should never be taken seriously. They're all for the streets
There's a literal disconnect in their minds between their actions/emotions, and the consequences. Some of it is selfishness, some of it is entitlement, some of it is lack of gratitude for what they have.
And I'll keep saying it until it's accepted truth: women get more and more like the above the more promiscuous their past. They always come up with excuses for why they're like this; they were bored, the attention/validation felt good, we drifted apart, etc. But in reality all their hookups, situationships, FWB, and hoe phases destroyed their ability to bond strongly to a man and stay bonded. As a result, they're weak to ALL outside influences and temptation and are highly likely to stray or detonate their marriages.
@@SalahP.Secondz not ALL women but the vast majority or for the streets. NO RELATIONSHIPS
It affects men also, but men tend to stray to stay in the marriage and women stray to leave the marriage.
She had a middle life crisis and wanted to feel young again. So she cheated to feel "excitement", but got a cold shower once she got pregnant and AP dumps her. The ex-wife just wrecked her life, now her sons a family has a low opinion of her.
Why is it that with men a mid-life crisis is buying a sports car or motorcycle whereas for women it’s finding some boy toy and blowing up the marriage?
@@jacksongunner7122 Especially them getting knocked up at 40+. WTF are they thinking?
It's astonishing that she genuinely believe the husband would take her back when she's pregnant with a bastard. SMH.
Well she gets to “feel” young again as she gets to relive the experience of raising a child for the next 18 years.😂🤣😂🤣
@@jacksongunner7122 actually, a lot of men also cheat on their wives when they have midlife crisis. A lot of men blow up their marriages for the stupiest things.
She was too stupid to realize that she got used from the git go by this guy. She is a pump and dump.
The nerve of this woman to do what she did and then want HIM to raise her affair child. 🤬
If she could, under different circumstances, she would have done the same as many other women and tried to convince him he's the father.
She's flat broke and has nobody else to turn to for help. She must have come from a crap family
Who's surprised that a Chad that would sleep with a married woman has no honor and would bale on his kid?
Not surprised Chad bailed. He's doing a lot of dirt and that will all come back to him in a bad way.
OP's ex-wife, that's who.
Well Chad only has a mineral deposit into the relationship with her. She was just used for sex and nothing more. I really wished that women today were smarter than that to give it up raw on the first date.
wonder if the dude that was tapping her paid for any of the upkeep of her affair baby
@@JohnMehana hell no
When betrayed, make the cheater suffer, and live with consequences. Lastly, try to go complete no contact as much as possible.
I don't understand how these betrayed husbands can stand being civil with the ex-wife.
If she asked me to reconcile, I'd laugh in her face, and tell her that she's damaged goods. That I only date women half her age now, but that I hoped she has fun being a mid-40's single mom raising her bastard alone.
Exactly! Some men are weak minded though. I wouldn’t of put up with the disrespect or anything ⚔️
"Sorry, I don't date old, cheating slags."
The boys, even after the age of 18. Only reason. She has relatives and they are the boy's relatives. They may have good relationships with them. Being civil in many cases is easier in the long run than going scorched earth. Civil isn't even being nice. Just don't lose your composure and you are halfway there. I would imagine if her boys cut her out, he would not be as civil.
Their weakness is the main reason of their wives cheating and disrespect. He let things go unchecked and unchallenged. Of course she's a POS, but having no backbone is like wondering why a horse is gone when you didn't have a fence.
Well mainly because they become indifferent. It’s the ex wife by social viewpoint, but in their eyes it’s just another person. There is no emotion towards them. That’s actually worse because women respond to any emotion. Why do you think they say to keep your mouth shut and walk away? It drives them crazy when you don’t respond. In this case being “civil” is an indication to her that he has zero emotion towards her. Which is making her try harder but she’s wasting her time. Women are great at manipulating so if you have anger, they find a way to eventually turn it. I’ve seen it happen many times before including I think in his last video. When you’re indifferent, there is absolutely no chance as there is not emotion to work with.
At the party the meak OP should have simply told her "NO".
Imagine, he takes her back, she contacts AP and says you don't have to financially support "our" kid. My "husband" will do that. We can get back together. She becomes again, ONE of AP's women. Husband is now stuck, because if he did support the kid, the courts will make him pay child support if, no, when they split again.
17:30 Why do single mothers always shame guys by saying their son needs a "strong man in his life," yet turn around and say they're strong and powerful and can raise their children without any man?
Seems to me they just always want to be the protagonist - either the victim or the victor, but never the villain
Now she appreciates the real strong man, but before she got knocked up the boy toy was the way to go.
And one of the reason's she got turned off was he was a strong man in her boy's lives.
That’s what Chad is for
So why don't they get children with strong, reliable men? Why always with Pookie or Ray Ray?
Schrödinger's feminism: a woman is simultaneously a victim and empowered, until something happens. Then she can choose which state benefits her the most.
OP did well. But...
- He went against his lawyer's advice. (He was lucky that didn't backfire--ALWAYS LISTEN TO YOUR LAWYER).
- He didn't go no-contact with his ex-wife after the divorce. Always go no-contact with ab*sers. Talking to her just makes her think she has a shot. No man needs that kind of drama in his life.
- He hugged his ex-wife after she proposed that he be a father to her affair partner's baby.
This individual destroyed a *20 year legacy,* betraying her loving husband and sons, to have fun with a stranger... yet OP rewards her behavior by showing affection?
This story has left a very bad taste in my mouth.
OP did not let her come back home and he didn't get back together with her either. But I would agree with you on one matter that is to go no contact with her after the divorce.
I will never understand these women who can screw over their husbands and kids, get knocked up by some loser then have the audacity to ask their betrayed spouse to raise another man’s kid.
Stop looking at it logically, then you’ll see why.
It may look like audacity but it is probably mostly just desperation. A convicted murderer being dragged to the gallows will scream and cry for mercy which they denied to their victim. They know they deserve it. They justl want to get off the hook.
A woman desperate for support will shamelessly do the same. Begging. Crying. Gaslighting. Guilting. Flattery. Anything but consequences.
@@aetank_yyteawu3436 look at it like a woman.
It's easy. This woman has absolutely nothing to lose by asking her ex to raise a losers child who bailed out
@@gregorylyon1004 Right on the mark, it's like throwing up a Hail Mary pass....hardly ever works but every once in a while....
She doesn't love or respect him, she just wants the security that he could provide.
Women don’t love men. They either love the respect they have for them or love the provision. If they are really lucky, they’ll have both the provision and respect, but few get lucky. That’s why many women “feel” like they settled.
She ain't got no money to raise her new love child she made with AP
OP telling the relatives and seeing a lawyer were alpha moves. Thank you for your work on this fantastic story.
Telling the relatives is a public relations move that needs to be done. Whoever gets their story out first is playing offense, whether true or not (true in this case). Once a story is told, the other party has to explain. If he sat on that, she could bad mouth to the point that the truth would never be believed.
I have become convinced that she did what nearly every Western woman age 24-60 fantasizes about, and they'd be jealous of her for following her heart and stepping out in bravery like she did. Some things cannot be walked back, and if she says she's sorry, then her ex-husband should not believe her. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Delusional AF...stay single my friends🤘
So the the man doesn't get any child support!? Stop the presses!🤦
Kids were 16 + 17. Even if, it wouldn't have been for the long haul. Not that I really care, but does the Baby Daddy pay anything? Money or attention?
Didn't you know. It's our two tiered justice system.
The only other thing that I would point to that I think he did wrong was when she asked him, at the graduation party, if he was seeing anyone. At that point, it's none of her business anymore, and that's exactly what he should have told her.
She'd find out from the boys.
After 18 years she act like this she don't deserve a second chance let the old 304 gone by her business and raise her little child.
Great story, I think it's the better one in a few weeks. And yes the power in women is youth, purity, and agreeable just as a man's strength is tall, masculine and money
Facts of life: (1) Women live for the tingles. (2) Once they stop feeling the tingles the relationship is over, ever if she temporarily remains in it for the sake of security. (3) If she finds a new man capable of giving her tingles she will cheat with him 100% of the time. (4) She will feel no guilt or shame whatsoever about cheating because she thinks she is entitled to experience the tingles. (5) If she asks for her longtime partner to take her back after getting dumped by her AP, any apologies will be insincere and any explanations will be lies. (6) All women feel they are entitled to cheat. (7) Any man who marries a woman these days or who gets into a committed relationship with one is ignorant and naive, and headed for disaster.
This is why it’s absolutely pointless to get married. Unless she’s an absolute needed asset in your life, there is no point. Birthing your children is no longer a needed asset, you can literally get a surrogate.
He should file for divorce right away.
Not give her 48 hours or something like that.
The minute you hear she has an affair, you know your marriage is done.
"What I really want didn't work out, but since I faceplanted due to my stunning idiocy, I've decided to go back to you, even after betraying you, because disrespecting you while leeching off of you is infinitely preferable to me getting a damn job, and I have so little respect for you, that I actually think you'll agree."
Blunt but exactly right. OP is culpable because he allowed his wife to lose respect for him. I bet he never enforced strong boundaries and has or will entertain getting back with his betrayer.
Now that chad left and left hwr pregnant she miraculously wakes up from the affair fog. So convenient 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Got the thumbs up on this when the lawyer told him to not report it to employers until after the divorce. Very well handled. You have to be fully aware of woman-kind weakness and shamelessness, and capacity to cause endless destruction to be able to recognize and act on those early red flags at the start of an imploding relationship when everything seemed to be good previously.
Paternity test ASAP
Love this channel
If the pandemic was so bad how was she able to go raw dog with two men during this horrible “disease “?
They wore masks so it was ok.
She blamed her own sons for cheating and the relationship they had with their dad her husband.
Then she comes crawling back because she realizes her affair child will never have that same relationship with his sperm donor. She wants the OP to provide the relationship she "hated." What a complete idiot.
It surprised me the two sons rushed back to forgive her and wanted to be brothers with the bastard child.
The opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. Once you reach indifference, there is no going back. You lawyer was a great asset to your healing process. What you missed in the beginning was not the loss of your wife, but the loss of the dreams you had for your families future. Once you came to the conclusion that those dreams would never have happened with her, it became much easier to create new dreams and goals. My only disappointment in this story is that she should be paying you child support. After the second year, where you have a two year record of being an excellent father, that is when you request child support. Your boys need her support, she should be made to pay it. Nothing wrong with her paying for their groceries and a pair of pants now and then. You didn't create the mess, she did, and she should pay for the damages.
So he's just supposed to be her backup plan and raise some other idiots child? Do women actually think about these plans before they put them forward? Crazy!
Nope! Emotions
No that would be logical.
Becoming a 304 -probably another side effect of covid vaccination 😂
"Warning COVID Jab may increase the need to get jabbed by some strange".
She got her COVID vaccination from her affair partner raw. LOL
Impossible relationship. I met a woman 8 years older than me and I was 31. It was 3+ years of pure lust and nothing more. I was young and full of libido so she got hooked on it. The woman of the story got blinded by lust, but the baby made her go back to reality.
How did you get rid of that old chic?
@@R_W_Goodson I just left and said I did never commit. She was at her sexual prime and we had a lot of fun. There wasn't any bad feelings. It's your needs what dictate your behavior unless there is a commitment and exceptional bonding. However you must maintain your guard up in any relationship (a financial route out) and have plan B, regardless.
She said she sorry and misses you. Translation she wants you to be her clean 🧹 up man 👨 because Chad pumped and dumped her after making her a baby mama.
Pump and dump. LOL
They always try to come back. We need to invest in better door locks.
Men,
Who else saw that his biggest mistake was tolerating her BS at the beginnning?
Yep...Being with my wife for 30 years now. I will not tolerate any B S from her. And she knows it too.
@@mikef2811
My marriage has not been as long as yours, but I know exactly what youbare talking about
He should have gone to the lawyer when she said “I met someone else.” Not waiting for her to comeback.
I am a firm believer that you don't allow horrible people to be in your life to any extent. No friendship, no fake small talk or pleasantries and if those were my boys they would understand my stance. The ex wife would be dead to me and she and her bastard child would be nothing but an afterthought. The fact this woman has not been completely ostracized from family and friends shows how morally defunct our society has become.
Exactly this.
I'd go out of my way to be as unpleasant to her as possible, so she got the messaged and never bothered me again.
The husband in the story was obviously a nice guy though, which is why he got cheated on in the first place.
"I don't hate your kid. The same way I don't hate some stranger's kid that lives 3 blocks away. Good luck and God's Speed. The boys are our only connection. The only way I will know anything about you and you about me is if they talk. I would prefer they don't. They may care, I do not".
100% 👊🏻🇺🇸
Amen brother, preach on.
Man thank you for stories like this, your literally saving men from putting ourselves in nightmarish situations.
She had a "What have a done moment" when AP started cooling things off and she had no where else to turn.
She knew what she did. She let her affair guy hit it raw for free. Cream pie
The story does not say, but it is obvious she never "got wise". Her boyfriend got rid of her. If she can get him to take her back she can start to pretend to everyone that nothing really bad happened and rug sweep everything. She would not ever have to explain why her children have different last names for the rest of her life.
Wasn't said but she could have kept her married name and given the child that. I would be pissed.
After she got used up, and got knocked up by her “Chad boy toy”’she has the audacity to call her betrayed husband for forgiveness and come home because she wants her family back??? As if she did nothing wrong and blame it on midlife crisis??? She must be delusional. Husband is great for standing his ground and not wanting to raise a affair product child and still divorcing her! Who in their right mind would accept that mess???
Pump and dump. LOL
Just imagine, the fact that OP was too good of a father was the excuse she used for her abandonment of the family is the excuse she attempted to use as the rationale for her attempt to weasel her way back into his home and life. She sowed to the wind and she reaped the whirlwind.
If she has to _snap out of it_ ,she never loved you
Great story as always!
I’ll tell you why this happened to this guy: he’s the kind of guy who when his wife suggested he take her cheating [butt] back and raise AP’s child he said basically “Thank you for your kind offer but I’m happy with my life as it is” rather than laughing in her face and saying “No way in hell I’m raising your bastard child!”.
They ALWAYS come back
This happened to me over 25 years ago. Don't ever take them back. Raising another man's child will never fix your relationship with your partner
Notice she never offers him anything but more obligations? What a POS.
Yuck….. NO!
I enjoy your stories. I would love to see you make a new story every day.
There is a correlation between how a woman truly views her man and how she treats him. She stays out and doesn't feel she has to explain herself. Her tone with husband because she feels she has the higher ground with her new man by her side. Letting the AP take her in every which way knowing she would adamantly deny her husband. Letting AP play pickle ball with her ovaries to the point she ends up pregnant. The shit talking and disrespect she talked behind his back with the AP. Then the best of all, the ultimate chef's kiss was when she told her ex husband her child needed a good father. The excuse for her leaving was she felt ignored because he payed too much attention to their kids, so now let me add this daily reminder. This woman did all this because that is how she truly saw her husband. Eighteen years down the drain.
So guys, a quick observation from an old man like me. I have seen a LOT of women who are married that are around the age of 38 just loose it mentally. They start acting the teenage girls again and wanting to do stupid stuff. A LOT of them end up cheating on their husbands and most are at least decent to good looking. As far as men go, it seems to hit around 50. Dude suddenly has to buy that expensive sports car, or drop some other serious cash on something dumb. Once this crazy phase enters it is hard, no it is impossible to reason with them. My advice would be to discuss it ahead of time.
Well this starts by asserting your boundaries and let them know there is absolutely no BSing when it comes to you. Fear keeps people in check and if she fears that you don’t do BS, she’ll have a less desire to f-up. If she does, it will be all over her face.
My kinda story. That's a solid man right there.
Wasn’t she happy when the OP presented her with divorce papers? She probably ballooned up after the birth and the younger Chad didn’t want to be stuck with an older, bigger woman with baggage for the rest of his life. When she left and never came back the first time it would have been the end right there for the marriage.
Really underlines getting the divorce done while the cheater is still in the Affair Fog. His divorce got delayed to the point the cheating wife was waking up. Fortunately it was still too late.
Chad may have bailed, but the ex could still drag him into court for at least 18 years of child support. Some very expensive funtime with a long term obligation.
OP handled it as well as he could. Only point I would argue is when he gave her two days to come home before going to a lawyer. Get the evidence and get a lawyer ASAP.
I have a cousin who does the same thing the wife does in this story. I told her the young guy just wanted to sleep with her only and to end the affair because it was fun for the young guy. She left her husband and ended up getting pregnant. When she told the young guy, he broke up immediately. Now she has a 4-year-old, and she is forty-four. She is so sad and lonely now because her ex-husband only speaks to her, but nothing else. I forgot all about that until I listened to this story again.
LOL I love the title pic, the woman with the "Help" sign. 😄😄
"I made a big mistake, and I want to come back home, and have you raise Chad's kid for me, and I promise I won't cheat on you until next time".
As they used to say back in the CB days: "That's a big negatory, and I don't want you at my 20.
Signin' off, and have a good 'un".
LOL
Very good story. I also enjoy your commentary after certain points in the story. Not too long but to the point.
The ex wife is a piece of crap. Props to the OP and his sons, wish them the best.
She’s chested so the marriage was already over.
FYA hope you upload more content , it’s informative .
She saying she is miserable speaks volumes. She hates her husband. She stil wants ap but ap left. There is a kid and we know each cost$ 100k average, she wanted him paying. So all her narrative is a LIE. There was no change of mind, it was ap leaving her. Husband is the worst is nothing after she is abandoned. I know these women. Mean and selfish. She left her kids, because her ap was first. Lying cheater.
She really tried to beta bucks him. 😂
Her statements aren't explanations, they're excuses. Don't take the words of a cheater seriously. They tell lie after lie.
Listen to your lawyers y'all
Cheaters are not friends and not allowed 🚫 in my house. Do not raise someone else son specially infidelity ones.
She's going to have to deal with it when her son asks where his dad is.
I would rather have my worst enemy shoot me than someone like this women, who tells him she loves him, while betraying and destroying his life as he knew it.
Hope the children want to life with her. These weak men always tell their children to have a good relationship with their ex wifes. that explains why she cheated he is a nice guy.
My man, happy to have another video from you
She was bored and felt something totally different with her lover that filled her lust to explore his words, touches,and kisses were all different with no responsibility involved.
In other words she was able to totally let herself go with the new guy he was probably a bad boy who challenged her in a way that excited her that she felt before.
He gave her permission to do so but he also controlled it at the same time once he knew her hunger and her hunger was overwhelming.
She lost it completely in the process and became very selfish even to her parents and friends
Shit happens to many middle age females like them
Yeah, it’s called consequences.
That's not the end of the story. The ex will continue to try to weasel herself back into the guy's life. He needs to stop engaging with her and only keep conversations about their boys and nothing else.
The only thing she loves and misses is the stability and resources he provided. She doesn't actually love him as a person.
Biggest slap in the face, to be expected to raise the child.
No shame at all.
Just from that thumbnail I can't stop laughing. She's got a hell of a lot of nerve trying to get her ex-husband back after stabbing him in the back and getting knocked up.
This kid is going to eventually ask where his daddy is to which OP, his sons, grandpa & uncles will tell him the truth. Because his mom won't she'll say OP is his dad & the kid will likely loose respect for his mom because she cheated & had him & OP wants nothing to do with him. She should be chasing her ap down for child support.
bros, don't be her retirement plan
The "affair fog" in which every smallest piece rationality is thrown overboard and the woman follows her lower brain to a state in which she casually allows someone in raw.
It doesn't need to even include actual affairs or cheating as she can be single and do that or even with her own husband if married.
Had she made it her goal to make her husband the happiest man alive before she got involved with the office Chad, we would not be hearing her sad story.
It's her bed, she made it, time for her to lie down in it. That's not a gold mine she sits on, it's a Hwy tunnel. Get out of her life.
It sounds like clinical depression. People with this often act out in strange ways and don't act depressed. Only psychiastrists are trained to diagnoseand and treat it. Counselling will not help because it will take medication. It's often triggered by a life changing event. Losing a job, death of a parent, a major move away from familier surrounding, the lock down for covid would certainly qualify.
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He waited way to long to start the divorce. Once a spouse cheats the marriage should be over. Never give a cheater a second chance. Just another example of why no man marries until divorce laws are changed to at fault for divorce.
Leaves him for younger man after 18 years, cuts heart out and stomps on it, has affair baby, AP pisses off, wants him to take her back and raise affair baby. Is that about it?
I guess when you're desperate you have to play your last card; just a small black heart.
Whose last name does the cheating affair baby have?
😂
Why did this dude continue to hold off on taking action regarding his wife’s actions initially? He just made himself look weak. Thankfully the attorney he spoke to pointed him in the right direction. He was still foolish when he agreed to talk with her when the divorce was almost final. Lotta weakness in this guy.
In his defense, he may not have ever been cheated on so may not have recognized the signs. Also, who would expect to be cheated on for being ‘spending too much time with their kids’? He may have stumbled at first but he ended up doing the right thing.
I don't think her fog went away one day, at least on it's own. I bet the chad just had enough of her. She probably became moody during early stages of pregnancy and he just found her unattractive and treated her like dirt. Now she realised what she lost in OP she became desperate.
It is so funny how the ex-wife is so sorry that the AP left her, and she has a baby to raise and no help to her, no rest or support. She has learned that having a baby late in life is no fun, and you are always tired, as my cousin tells me about her baby now.
Good guy with his boys and their half brother.
AP behaved like garbage, a scavenger breaks up a young family to get an older woman pregnant, he doesn't want a child with her so why did he do it, and now presumably he is paying child support for his child after leaving a broken family behind
Never take back a cheater ever, no exceptions. Especially don't take back a cheater who is pregnant from some other dude. When she said she was having a 3 month affair and that's when her behaviour changed he learned later that she was cheating for at least 6 months. Her behaviour probably changed when we she discovered the pregnancy and decided she would prefer a family with AP.