In love with your straight friend? Here's what to do
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What to do when you fall for a straight girl, or maybe even your straight friend?
It's a situation that many of us find ourselves in at some point, and it's difficult to navigate, especially when you have the feeling that she may not be that "straight" after all.
So, in this video we talk about how to deal with a straight girl crush and/or falling for your best friend.
We hope this was helpful!
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A + L
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Lesbians have 2 problems :
1. In love with a straight girl
2. In love with a very touchy straight girl
I got rejected before I said anything 😔
When they flirt as a joke....
@@kaga.mine. ngl that hurts so much
I've never seen such a relatable comment
@@kaga.mine.omg fr that shit hurts tho
I told my friend that I need it time away because I was developing romantic feelings. She told me that I was a very important person in her life and that she loved that I trusted her to talk about it, we saw each other a year later and our friendship is better than ever and we never acted weird with each other.
I was in a really similar situation! I feel like when confiding in your best friend about how you feel about them, it really depends on how close the two of you are. I told my bestie that I was developing feelings for her, and while she didn't reciprocate, she was grateful that I could be candid with her about how I felt about her and it ended up strengthening our friendship.
omg same!!! and now we are super besties!!!
@@cindybutay6543 you didn't even try. If you showed her how it is to be with girls, she'll learn that girls are far better lovers.
@@cindybutay6543 you didn't even try. If you showed her how it is to be with girls, she'll learn that girls are far better lovers.
@@dog-eb7sg I actually did it just happened that we weren't meant to be lovers 'coz she eventually had a girlfriend after that
Ah yes. My life is basically one big story of unrequited love for unavailable/straight women. It’s truly hell.
Mood 😭😭
+100
For me it's the reverse. Hurts all the same, and I'm just looking for ways to avoid making that mistake again
but why are there straight women at all?, personally don't think my sexuality is100% nature, I think there is a room for change, and I don't understand what's keeping any girl don't change in this era.
@@blackpinkjisoo4969 if I understand your question?, what makes a straight woman straight vs lesban?, well and this is actually funny in a way, because I swear to God I heard and read stories about what lesbians and straight women find attractive and it's a fn mess lol, I swear to God I heard about the lesbian who likes male organs and the straight girl who doesn't like the male organ or the lesbian who finds female organ ross and never wants to touch it, or even I swear I heard of lesbians who like x with men, and straight women who like x with women, but the only thing that makes all the difference is Voice...some women are xually aroused by male voices...it's something that I've never heard a lesbian say she is attracted to that, as I said I've known of lesbians who find D attractive but never a man's voice...it's safe to say that a straight woman? is a woman who finds a man's voice as one of the main things that attracts her to him..I have 4 sisters and 3 of them made remarks in my presence how they find deep voices attractive etc..interestingly one of them doesn't care how a man sounds at all...
so to answer or at least semi-answer your question...what keeps a woman straight is her attraction to masculine voices.
I lost a great friend after telling her that I had feelings for her.. the last words I remember from her were "I was so happy for having a friend like you but you(I) ruined it" . It's been 4 years and we never talked, she blocked me on IG and FB but not on whatsapp..
I am actually glad that she left because if she hadn't I wouldn't have met the best girl in the world who is my wife now.. God has plans for us..
this gave me hope, thank you🖤
This actually gives me hope
Hope
happy for u
I really need to leave my story here. Can I?
My best friend and I were soooo close for the last 3 years, supposedly too close, and I had no chance not to fall for her. I’ve always been so sure she was straight, she was (and still is) married with a guy. We were just friends and NEVER discussed our sexuality. Tree month ago she moved to another city to her husband and I felt so bad not having her around. And I realized I was so deeply in love with her this whole time. And I was so jealous of her husband and I didn’t know what to do with myself. It felt like I was drowning, I got into a deep depression.
So finally I decided to tell her that I cant live like that more, that I have feelings for her and really don’t know how we can stay friends. I was ready to let her go out of my life. I was so exhausted. I thought she would tell smt like “oh I’m so sorry but I don’t like girls” and I would move on. However, she said she has feelings for me too instead. She said she couldn’t imagine her life without me and that I was so much closer to her than her husband.
I was shocked and happy but only for a minute. Despite of how much she loved me she couldn’t choose to be with me and leave her husband because she loves him too. She even suggested me to become a threesome with her and her husband (WTF???). So many shit happened between us since then. The friendship and closeness were ruined, although we both pretend everything is ok. I ended up healing my broken heart by going on therapy trying to understand how I got into the situation like this; she decided to separate with her husband to figure out what she really wants. I guess it all for the best after all.
I got the lesson. I should be more open about my sexuality. I came out to so many people since this whole situation happened and I have never felt better about myself. I used to think about myself as pansexual. Now I think I was triyng to fit in the world were only straight relationships are normal (I’m from Russia and it’s even dangerous to be not straight here). I was fine about liking girls but I wanted to have options. Now I think I don’t have any, I only want to be with a girl. And I’m so fucking happy to admit and accept that.
Thanks, I got so relived :))
When she separated with her husband, did you and her got together? How is she doing? You and her are free to be together.
how did you tell her of your feelings? In person, phone, text, etc?
She lived in another city at that time so I wrote her a letter. It was a way we used to use to express our feelings before because we're both kinda shy when it comes to telling how we feel :) But I got scared so I didn't send it to her. So I told her a few days later while we were chatting via WhatsApp. Yeah I know it sucks but I was already on the bottom back then. Now its all over between us, she lives in my city again (with her husband 🤡) and we work together. I am no longer in love with her but I'm still angry at some point and don't know how to communicate with her. Sorry I dumped the whole shitty story on you, I guess I just need to talk to smb about it
@@user-pu9xb7xp1k hope your doing ok, she don’t deserve you :(
@@user-pu9xb7xp1k Привет(( omg this breaks my heart so sorry to hear that 😥😥😕😕😕😔😔😔😭😭😭😭😭 she doesn't deserve you your a good woman and honest but leave her it will pass Im sure u will find someone else😭😭😭😭😭😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😭😭😭😭😭 it hurts a lot l know the pain I experienced the same too. And how come its dangerous in Russia?? i have a lot of friends there and myself l am learning Russian language cuz l wanna live there its a super beautiful country interesting culture etc seems ok to me a friend of mine Dasha told me.
I am bisexual, and I developed feelings for my straight best friend. We met about a year ago and hit it off really quickly. I hang out with her all the time and we are very close. She likes to flirt with me a lot, and while she considers it a joke, I have a harder time because of my actual feelings. We have talked about sexuality, and she has said that she is straight. I don't want to lose our friendship because she means a lot to me, and other girls have admitted to liking her and she has distanced herself from then. I would struggle with making friends, and so I think if I confessed, it would affect our entire friend group. But I don't want these feelings to grow stronger. I don't know what to do.
same this is the exact situation I'm in now it's been 2 years since she joined in my school and a month ago she started flirting with me as a joke and that affects me so much qnd this is the first time I'm feeling this way towards a girl and I'm so scared that if I tell her about my feelings she'll never act the way she do bow with me and she's the only friend I have
(sorry for mistakes english is not my first language)
I’m in like the exact same situation and I have no idea what to do. She flirts with me too but I don’t wanna do it back so I’m not obvious. When we first became friends we were just friends but then I started developing a crush and then that crush became love. I am so in love with her and she doesn’t know it. We are now best friends and it’s really hard for me to even look at her without smiling. It sucks.
@@serendipity955 get rid of her if she keeps flirting with you. It's better for you. She's being disrespectful.
@@dualm2961 she changed her school and we are not in contact anymore
literally this exact situation, only here she flirts and i flirt back because it's fun and it's how i am with everyone i am friendly enough with. the problem is, she's now literally my only friend and idk what to do without her if i lose her
The best news ever: Lilian is covid-free! 🙌🙌🙌
THIS IS MY LIFE ,... falling for a FREAKING STRAIGHT girl AND frieeenndd,....GOD whyyyyyyyyyy !!!!!!!!
My heterosexual sister and her heterosexual female friend was courting each other for FIVE YEARS, because they was in love with each other, but they both know the other girl is straight too, and if she confess, she lose her friendship forever, blah blah. Then my wife spilled the beans, and it was a disaster, they are separated, the other girl moved to Norway, but my sister three months later follow her, and now they are having their first year anniversary together! They are so cute, always asking us how lesbians doing this or that. I recommended them this channel. :)
YES lesbian success story thank G-d AMEN!!!! Thank you for sharing :D
That's what I was saying for years. Girls are far better lovers.
We need a story on this
They are not heterosexual, they are bisexual.
@@hiphopknights Yeah, i forgot to use the "quotation marks"... :)
I went through this and think it's maybe because my boundaries are blurred. Because I feel close to friends and attracted to girls it's easy to get crushes on straight girls. Also it's accepting less then I deserve with someone who is unavailable. I did feel a shift in a friend looking at my social media alot and commenting. She's bi and then said she's just split from some guy she was seeing briefly. I wouldn't pursue this though as don't want to get hurt or make a fool of myself. I'm happy being single and waiting some someone who knows what they want. But it's hard when I'm getting the attention. I'm just grateful for friendship right now and don't have the energy to chase anyone anymore :) x
Never fallen for a straight girl but still watching the video because I love Alexis and Lillian !!
Same although it might happen in the future
THIS IS GOOD ADVICE! I’m 24 and sometimes i feel so embarrassed about how bad i am at confessing feelings or asking someone out because i feel like ‘i’m old i should know this by now’ like everyone else. But then i remind myself i only came out three years ago and all my straight peers had literally their entire adolescence (a span of like 6 years from age 14 to 20) to figure this shit out. Yeah i’ve said the “practice kissing” line before and I cringe thinking about it but at the same time i need to remind myself that probably 14, 15, 16 year olds did that too when they were learning all this stuff. I can’t compare myself to people who have had ten years of dating experience when i’ve only had three.
heyy I had only one relationship and it was a boyfriend when I was 15 for like 5 months and it was super weird...Well I am still figuring it out and I am 23...Higly likely bisexual.We basically didn't even kiss cause I hated it and I feel sooo weird like...Old and weird .Huh :/// :D
What type of girls do you like?
@@makyd6275 you're biromantic homosexual. You're romantically and sexually attracted to girls, and only romantically to guys. You do not want to be sexual with a guy. In that case, it's best to just date girls exclusively. I know girls who are like that and they just identified as lesbians just to make it simple.
Glad you're feeling better Lilian!
This is an under-discussed topic. Thank you
Ruined a 13-year friendship, because of this. After intimacy, distance, and her transformation into this hyper religious “straight” girl, I had to protect my well-being. Even despite her continued romantic gestures behind closed doors towards me, I decided to distance myself and eventually ended the friendship for my own sake. It’s been 3 years since we last spoke and I still find myself thinking of her from time to time. 😢
So true and really enjoyed your advice and really knowing what you need and what you want in life. Thank you so much for this great video and loved the role playing
This is so tough 😅
Our best friend was in love with her long time friend. She ended up telling her after 5 years and while it didn’t work out, they’re still besties ❤️
We love your videos 🥰
Why didn't your best friend tried to court her? The girl will give in eventually. Your friend just needs to do it nicely. She shouldn't be aggressive.
Thank you for being so honest about this, I really appreciate that this doesn't just say 'tell them' and doesn't pretend it will be okay, and acknowledged that you might lose the friendship. I have been in love with my really close friend for the best of the last 3 years, I also live with her which makes things really tough. We have talked about lgbtq stuff (she knows I've questioned my sexuality a bit, but not that I am into her, and I have actively made up crushes to put her off the scent) and I know she is super accepting but also definitely straight and has no interest in girls, and I know that if I told her it would make things really awkward , make my living sitch awkward, and we could never be friends in the same way. Buuut obvs it is also crazy painful, and it's near impossible to move on when we see each other all the time. So yeah basically I just really appreciate you guys being real.
this video actually helped a lot!
I've had a crush on this girl since high school and now we're in our 20s... In one hand we are friends but in another hand we are not really close close ... We see each other often in a year but she has her friends and I have mind. I don't know why I still have feelings for her it's insane. When we don't hang out I'm OK but then we see each other and I can't get her out of my mind. And all the other crushes that I've had in my life after her looked like her! I don't know if I have a type or if she was the blueprint. Every time I tell myself: stop ! She's straight! She sees you as a friend! She barely shows signs of liking you! She's straight! But then she shares lgbt pride things online, makes references to lgbt culture, and sends lgbt memes to me... She keeps calling our hanging outs 'dates' and playfully flirting with me. But I think thats just how our friendship is.... Except she doesn't act this way with any of her other friends and I don't blush around any of my other friends neither. I don't know what to do ... I even made the mistake of telling my friends about my crush on her in high school and recently one of my friend asked me if we were together because we looked like a couple. This made me paranoiac a little. I was like...what are we doing that makes us look like we're together? Is this a sign or...? I'm dying. But there are so many things she does that show she doesn't feel that way! She talks to me about her crushes (men), takes hours sometimes days to reply to my texts, forget our plans to hang out etc. This is what I always try to remember in order to move on but then we meet and she looks at me with her beautiful kind brown eyes and i forget everything. Uh. When will this be over. I feel like I want to tell her that I like her so that she can reject me and I can finally move on. Sorry this was so long but I had to say this somewhere
Tell me the update!
What happened? Did you confess your feelings?
For the sake of your poor heart, move on! She knows what she's doing and she's playing with you, boosting her own ego. You can do better - good luck 🤞🙏🍀🌻 😏
@@gillianslattery1765 I know this deep down but I still can't help it. It feels like the only option would be to put distance between us, which I've tried, but then she keeps reaching out and it makes me fall for her all over again. Like last time... she wanted to do something so we were texting. Then she stopped replying for weeks like she sometimes do. So I moved on. Next thing I know she's texting me and asking me to come over, trying again when I say I can't, saying things like it's fine if you're busy, you still deserve a kiss from me so this is me kissing you. Like who says that?? She kills me.. I know I deserve better but I can't help but think she's so smart and beautiful and even when I try to go on dates I just ...don't care about the others. How to move on from something that never happened lol. It's like I can't move on because there's still hope. Idk... I dont know if she's doing these things on purpose? I think she has to know that I'm head over heels for her it's always pretty obvious. I hate this :(
@@litlokin never! Maybe I should but it'd probably make it weird for all of us
Thank you SO very much for this video. So helpful!
Thank for this wonderful discussion and advice lilian and alexis, you guys are so amazing, I really love everything about you as a couple and your UA-cam channel. I really experience falling inlove with my straight friend and it's really hurtful at the same time happy to be with her. I was so good with her, i was so open with her even our convos are good also and now i don't why she block me in her all social meadia accounts?
But it's not worth it but my feelings are still present everytime i remember and dream about her. I hope i find like alexis who is worth it to be loved.:):):)
About a week ago I told my really good friend that I had developed feelings for her. It was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. I think about 5 months ago I started to realize that I had feelings for her, and I didn’t even know I could feel that way for a girl. So that was a first for me 😅 I wanted to tell her sooner, but in April she lost one of her friends to suicide like a week after I had realized my feelings. I didn’t have the heart to tell her about my feelings, and just tried to focus on being a good friend for her in this difficult time. The months went on and on, and I was just miserable!! Not only because I wanted to be with her all time, and couldn’t, but also because I didn’t know if she could possibly like me back. And then I finally told her, and she politely rejected me! She was very nice about it, and told me that she cared a great deal for me, but she could never like me in «that» way. Of course I was relieved to finally being able to be honest, but the next day I was totally heart broken. I felt so stupid for reading the signs wrong, and thinking that the «vibe» we had between us had been something special. I still care for her a lot, and I guess now I struggle with moving on and «killing» that last little hope inside of me that tells me that she will maybe change her mind someday. But I know that will not happen….Sorry for the looong post, but does anyone here have any advice to how I can get over it and how I should continue with our friendship now? Thank you so much 💕
"Politely" rejected can mean to try harder. You might have a chance. Be caring to her and always be there for her and shower her with love. Show her how great it is to be with a girl. You might regret not trying. There are many success stories even when the girl was already with someone else. Soul mates are soul mates. If you make her soul fall for your soul, gender and orientation wouldn't matter. Good luck.
What type of girls do you like? Do follow pretty girls on instagram?
The same thing I'm in rn
Exactly what I went through and still going through right now.
A little update from me: after a year of living abroad, I got the time and space I needed to get over my friend. We barely stayed in touch, even though I tried my best. I still cared for her as a friend, and wanted the best for her. But, our friendship, or whatever it was is very different from what it was a year ago. I barely see her now, and we are not close like we used to be. Honestly it has really been the best thing for me. I realize that the «vibe» I had felt between us was only real for me, and after a while I also realized that she doesnt have the emotional maturity or capacity to be a good friend, at least. But I actually dont care anymore, because I met this wonderful woman this summer, and we have been in a relationship for almost three months now. She has showed me what true affection and care means, and its funny looking back on how «hung up» i was on my friend last year, when she never really cared about me the way I did for her, not even as a friend. But, Im thankful for going through the prosess, because if I havent had the heartbreak last year, I never would have had the love that I have today 😊 and that makes it worth it 100%!
I absolutely adore you guys. I get so happy when I see you have a video out no matter what kind of video I just love itI kind of feel like you guys are my friends LOL
i confessed last year to my high school bff of 8 years that I had a crush on her. Let's just say it was awkward especially because the crush was bigger in high school and kinda non-existent in the present... we were already growing apart and I thought that "coming clean" about my previous crush would solve some of our issues... it absolutely didn't lol.
If you aren't IN LOVE with your best friend - don't tell her. It'll just be weird. (At least in my experience.)
completely agree. i told my friend from middle school when we saw each other again after years thinking it was funny and we would have a good laugh about it but instead it was so awkward holy shit 😂😂
Haha oh no!! I feel for you
soo this topic reminded me of my ex-friend who was also my ex-girl-friend, unfortunately. But also made me think of an amazing drama/romance movie I have recently seen: Love, Spells and All That. If you like gut-wrenching yet heart warming love stories, I highly recommend it.
This hit home for sure. I fell for a straight woman at work, like an intense crush, even though she is married. We just hit it off from the first day of meeting each other. Everything I shouldn't be feeling really, I just think I emotionally really connected with her and she was so touchy and clearly loved to flirt with me. I kept telling myself I was just being silly, that she was not really interested, but she was definitely showing all the signs of liking me. I couldn't help how intense I felt our connection was. So I finally felt I had to say something as I had hinted many times but still was none the wiser to if she felt something too. However, of course it all went wrong. Now we are so awkward yet at the same time she is still touchy feely with me every time we speak. I'm still confused. I feel I should not be interested anymore but I can't help it. It's hell falling for a straight woman. And I miss our friendship.
So glad you’re okay Lilian!! Alexis, which necklace do you have?! I looked online and there’s so many different kinds of chain necklaces and I love how simple yours is :)
Very good advice!!!
U guys...
Couple goals✨
5 months ago I was in denial. 4 or 3 months later I finally accepted that im bisexual (only my 2 best friends and my crush know about my sexuality). I even have a huge crush on a girl and I recently found out she is bisexual too!!
Congratulations! Now I hope you both will be dating soon!
(My personal story): I am bi too and 14 yrs old I've been crushing on a senior girl since 3 yrs... And now I'm prepping to finally ask her out but I don't know if she's bi etc... Anyways I'm praying for you both !
How lucky you are 😍
@@thehypothetical. best of luck dude im also developing feelings for a senior
It's an emotional nightmare having feelings you can't act on! I wish there was an easy fix to make your feelings go away! I'm trapped in a straight relationship i came out to my boyfriend a year and a half ago like I do still love him but I'm not in love with him! It's torture being in love with a les girl who you know you can't be with because of you circumstances and she knows it to😓😥
You should've gone for it. You might regret not making a move.
Lillian & Alexis I really liked all the points you brought out & yes, I have been attracted to straight women but I never act on them because I know they won't b able to give me what want. 🇬🇧 🇬🇧 ♥️♥️♀️♀️👍
If you get them wet, you can make them give you what you want.
It’s hard to get over it! Promise 🙂
I literally was making plans to admit to my friend that the crush I had on her in middle school never went away. Granted she’s aro-ace, but I still wanted to tell her. So opening UA-cam and finding this video-!
... had feelings for my gorgeous boss 13 years younger than me... i couldn't hide it after so long and became painfully obvious because there was a lot of tension between us because she just didn't understand me and i had strong feelings for her... I gave her a few subtle hints and she ended up figuring it out. to my utter surprise she completely changed and started flirting with me... in my opinion she was unbelievably out of my league just stunning and everyone is in love with her... shes the sweetheart of the whole operation site - 150 people.. everything was so intense between us and then without warning she was transferred to another location in a leadership capacity.. I don't think I'll pursue anything because she's so young and I'm pretty sure she was just loving the attention and could get over me pretty quick lol!! She's the sort of girl that guys will be throwing themselves at her feet for her entire life I can't deal with that kind of stress trying to keep her
Apart from all the info, which I can translate to my own bi/gay situation... I was curious after the whole COVID-situation and I'm glad it's all okay...
Absolutely love your videos, you guys are awsomeee 💕
I was on the other side first - one of my friends fell for me when I thought I was straight. It was really chill and we stayed friends; however, we came closer during the pandemic and when we saw each other in person again I fell for her and ended up coming out before her. However, I thought she wasn't and didn't tell her until after I had gotten over her, only to find she was into me again.
So yeah, incredibly all this brought us closer
Probably 'cuz we're both queer tho
Also, 200% agree with the danger of mistaking signs from a straight girl for real flirting.
Sucks so bad
And that's it really
Hope everything's great for you, in a nutshell
Stay safe everybody 💕
Oh, every time that I feel attracted to a woman and think that I sense some chemistry, I just HOPE that she'd hypothetically still be interested if I come out as trans.
My name is Cat ..Cathy..I love your channel. .it's awesome! ! Thanks for all th GREAT advice I'm bi...and needed certain questions answered..thankyou again
watching this after getting rejected🥲 first time ive ever asked anyone out but yk maybe this is a sign that I'm not ready for a relationship. and at least she was nice about it like even tho I feel sad about it, it feels better to have told her then keep it in and suffer. i now have closure. she replied saying "thankyou for telling me but im just not interested in dating girls (or boys lol) i dont want to disappoint you or upset you but i hope this doesnt change how we are as friends. i appreciate you telling me cause its good to share your emotions and feelings. i dont want to reject you but i am simply not into girls in general and it has nothing to do with you specifically" or something along the lines of that. ig it could have been worse, at least we're still friends and she's not gonna be werided out or anything
Emergency topic...😂 💯
I’m hopelessly crushing on a friend of mine who is straight and she keeps telling me abt all of her crushes and it’s killing me. She does that thing where she fake flirts as a joke and it’s actually gonna make me die🥲
I feel your pain!🙏🏾🤍
My story is quite the fun one, i had "given up" about 2 months ago but some of the feelings still remain
I tought i was fine but then we were at her place and she told me she was dating that one guy, i was so happy for her but..it all happend just so quickly, i could feel myself tearing up when we got into a similar topic and i've confessed that i liked someone on the previous year
"I liked you, actually" we didn't really talked much about it i just brushed it off like "oh but it's only friendship now haha dont worry" and made some inner jokes about it...god my heart was poundering but i couldn't feel myself present, i couldn't really look at her face at that moment, afraid her parents would show up at any moment haha
Still tho, i felt so reliefed afterwards that i cried, i'm bad at keeping secrets eh
we'll be meeting up at school tomorrow, no idea how it'll be, i feel like i need some time to process it all...
Well today I was at school my bestie proposed me I don't know what to do
Tell me what to do
❤️ frm india. This helped me a Little tq so much 🙏
Ugh, my heart was broken over a straight woman. I finally made a move over a year or so of mixed messages, but she denied me. She still texts me. 😅
Her still texting you might mean to try harder. Show her how women are better lovers. The sex is better too. She won't know until she tries. I exclusively date women. Best decision of my life.
Not all of us can be lucky like Ellen and Portia.
Soo, I don‘t think that she’s straight, but she’s in the best way to get a boyfriend and I‘m so happy every time she gives me attention and I’m the one she asks for advice and she‘ll Update me first. I‘ll be so happy for her because It‘s so cute and it melts my Heart when I See her smiling because of this boy. I‘m happy for her being so happy. But I‘m afraid I develop a crush on her… I had one for over a year, and now I think It could come back
So we are not gunna talk about the thumbnail
I told my friend that I have liked her for 4 1/2 years and she left my message on seen. what to do? she clearly doesn't feel the same way. :(
I am first: Gute Besserung Lilian!
umm can someone hep me here
actually me and my friend got pretty close and in love and made out more than once we wanted to date I also confessed to her and she said she loved me too and dint regret whatever happened between us .... but we were scared to lose each other if we started dating ...and I agreed to her when we talked this s...... sooooo should I ask her out ........
This has happened to me, I don’t know what to do. I am a bi, demiromantic girl and she is a straight girl but randomly I developed feelings for her and it became love and my friends did tell her and she did say she was not Interested as she was straight but I still like her and I don’t want to distance myself as I want to stay good friends and I don’t know what to do. I
Its not just a crush
Most ppl usually hv a type of ppl they r attracted to
My type is HER, and even if i got another perfect girl..it wouldnt feel right
I LOVE HER AND MY HEART JUST HURTS 😢
ill do anything for her
she is my first love and crush
So I don’t know if anyone will read this but, I hope someone can help me 😭
I like my best friend and I feel like I shouldn’t because she’s straight and it might be bad. She keeps flirting (I think) with me and it confuses me so much, I don’t know what to do. It hurts
Coworker. She’d stare at me for 10 seconds -she would mirror my movements - she would remember things I said months ago- all the attraction signs -I invited her for a beer she said she was busy and when she found out I was gay she stopped giving me any signs and distanced herself. I told her -she said she liked guys - I didn’t even know her that well but it crushed me - it made me feel crazy like everything that happened with us was a crazy fantasy and it wasn’t cause I was there like?! Now she left and I’m feeling gaslit and crazy.
I broke up with my first girlfriend because I'm in love with my straight bestfriend.....And she is the first one I have ever fallen in love with....I'm sure about that because I never had any kind of emotional attachment to anyone in my entire life.....we got super close in few months and i have never been this close to anyone and i can feel my heart is in pain when she does something small or when I see her with others.....i just tried to stop my feelings but everytime we talk and the way she cares for me make me fall in love with her more and more....we are not even the same age and we become bestfriends......and atlast i fall for her.....i don't want to ruin our friendship or i don't want to lose her or i just want her to be mine.....we both flirt with each other....and I'm falling for her over and over.....I just hate this feelings in my heart when I'm typing this......i don't know what to do....also she doesn't know I'm straight because I'm not ready to come out and I'm not even close to my illegal age....
But I hope that one day she will become mine / Also hope over time my feelings for her will fade away....it's really hard to figure out my own feelings.....And i don't know what to do or what is all this shits😑
this is my exact situation but my first girlfriend ended up leaving me instead because how close me and my straight friend I’m in love with are. I’m so sorry you have to go through this though, I know it sucks.
If u fall in love with a straight person... just move on. !!! Is not a good idea..!! No way...
Hi Girls have you watched serie on Netflix "Feel Good" if yes what do you think :)
this girl it straight, it was just a crush but i fell in love with her oh my god. we're just school students and she has a best friend who introduced her to me. she says she loves me everyday and is close to me but she's joking she's just joking. and it hurts.
If you find yourself repeatedly attracted to straight women, ask yourself why.
That’s me…
What does it mean?
Because I'm GAY... Dugh
Just savor the moments, if your close straight girl friend is flirting with you,go with the flow but don't let your feelings drown for it.
If your college friend confessed her feeling that she likes me by telling one of our friend. And this Friend came to me about it. And I was like oh okay..is it possible till now she likes me cos I wnna pursue her.if there's still a chance
I am streight and had a lesbian colleague fall in love with me. I agreed to stay casual friends with her at first when she asked me, but me sending signals that i thought normal but she received as flirting, her developing even bigger feelings over time, her sending big gifts, me doing stuff i had thought of being normal in friendships that she deemed misleading, her giving me the silent treatment when i was being too cought up in my actual life... I saw a casual friendship, not too deep, but more and more felt like i was in an emotionally draining relationship i didn't know of, which was very very hard. When she had told me about her feelings, but wished we stayed like we had before, i agreed, and that was it for me - i didn't give it a second thought - i just continued exactly as before, with no intentions whatsoever. It pains me to say this, and i cherished our good times a lot, but i should have ended it right in the beginning, for both our good. I could never be what se actually wanted from me, and i had given her false hope without even knowing it. Friendships and talks between streight girls can be very personal and deep, even if the whole thing is just casual & a one time thing. I'm now super concious getting close to people i don't intend to have a sexual relationship with, because i'm afraid of getting myself into another situation like this.
I think I’m in love with my straight best freind and I don’t know what to do we are hanging out on Friday and they found out earlier today
There’s a girl who I’ve known since the end of my junior year of high school, and today I’m graduating. If we don’t hang out over the summer, this will probably be the last time I ever see her. She’s said she only likes guys but I feel like recently she and I have been closer in a way I’ve never really felt before. I’m not sure if it’s in my head or if it’s real, but my intuition is telling me something. So I’m really not sure if I should tell her or not, but if I never see her again after today then I figure I should tell her, but I also don’t want to ruin our friendship :/
How do i do this
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I really loved this topic. Thank you Girls. Happy for ur covidfree status
I have this best friend and at first she thought she was bisexual and we were dating but today she said she was straight and wanted to break up honestly I have no idea how to feel and know it's really awkward
Hopefully no one I know sees this. I have been friends with this girl for a very very long time. I came out a little over a year ago and nothing has changed with my friends, especially not her. A couple months ago we started to get closer and I realized I did actually have feelings for her. She is an amazing friend and is perfect in every way. She has been flirty with me and acting different lately. She initiates plans and flirtatious moments because I do not, in fear of making her uncomfortable. She has been hinting to her sexuality being anything but straight. I don't know what to do.
How’s it going? ❤️
Same situation here, help
Welll...what if you and the 'straight' girl hookup and she really enjoys it....then you hook up again and she really enjoys it....and then ghosts you and says she only see's you as a 'friend' and is 'processing"???
I kinda had a big crush on my child hood friend but like i was afraid that she wasnt gay unlike me (all crushes/characters ive simped for have always been girls) so this kinda helped ill try asking her out someday
Im in love with à girl at work..but I think she is with someone..do you think I have to tell her..im from italie in à small town..and im married with à man..but I can t stop to think about her
Update?
So i have a crush on my girl best friend but yesterday she said she might be straight so i thought about something so i would tell her at october "my cousin wants to tell you something on discord but idk what she wants to tell you can she?" And i will make an acc pretending to be my cousin and tell her "Do you like Stella?If you do and you don't want me to tell her I won't tell her so do you like her?If you like her and your shy to say it don't worry she will confess soon" (btw im Stella) oh and i will tell her to don't ruin our friendship sorry if its kind of messed up! Any opinions about it?
Im bi and im in love with my straight friend and she thinks im straight 2 so idk how to tell her but i really really get the vibes that she also likes me but i dont wanna ruin our friendship😭
I today told my straight friend that I have a crush on her well nothing happened Idk how she felt we didn't talk for like more than 45 minutes and I was really over thinking and worried that she would feel uncomfortable but we actully talked pretty much naturally after some time but I am still kinda worried how she thinks. she was shocked knowing I have crush on her I am just unsatisfied that I can't be with her cause she is straight but you gotta respect everyone's decision 😄
I wonder whether the fact that I’m here is a sign it’s not platonic but I still can’t really tell
Yes, I have a crush on a P.A. at the hospital I do Security at. I find her always looking at me. I know this be cause I watch her as well. Naturally, she always looks away when I look back. What is so great to me is that she burns a small candle at her desk! She works out of the Emer. room, where I am often Posted. I have 'nonchalantly' given her small candles and told her how I love them too. She always is so nice and burns it all the time. I think she's married-or maybe not anymore?? Why does she always watch me and look away when I notice this? Is she simply flattered by the attention? I am feminine and don't act and no one knows at work. Help!
Mhm yeah… she’s Christian too! But I am boycotting dating till a certain age and I’m not there yet, but she was my first crush… we’re meeting up soon and I met her at camp so now we chat over the phone!
I'm watching this coz i have a crush with my class mate and obviously she's a girl and i like her she's nice and all she even follow me on Facebook and she's the first one to message me recently after our PE class i took a picture with her I'm so happy coz I'm so shy to ask her before but i did it! But she's being too friendly with other guys i know I don't have the right to be jealous but this is what I feel😔
Godi 'm falling for this close friend of mine who is also my neighbour and it feels exhausting coz it's like i can't do anything about it
I fell in love with this person, I thought they were gay , we flirted with each other and talked about stuff and I thought she would like me back . We were texting and I asked her stuff about the queer club at school and why she was a part of it and she said she’s just an ally. She looks so pretty and she looks gay but she’s not.
Mine is the type of real life sad love story where I fell in love with somebody that broke my heart. They loved me in the dark because they told me that they were never going to come out of the closet.
sooooo am terrible at reading signss sooo there is this girl'bestii' sooo shee gives mee ll the signs ahe would spend time wiyh me walk with me and even hold ands[gasps] sooo i asked her if she was into me she says no then she goes abt saying how ungratefull yada yada how she loves me and that if i am in a relationship or not am hers [i get confused] then she finds a boy crush and now ok i have tinny feelings but shes killing me and guess what she gives me all the signs in this video what to ddoooooooo
Same for me too.she is giving me all the signs that she loves me but she is in love with another boy in school and its hurting so badly🤝
I've fallen for my ex boyfriends ex he used to beat her and beat us both with bats metal pole and sexual assaults .I hated her at the start and attacked her many times on her say so. This girl have terrible choices of men and became my best freind and I feel it's my duty to protector as she is so slight beautifull. But with each message I'm falling for her .she's even asked me to move i.n with her I just want to hold her in my as and show her life doesn't have to be like this but not sure if it's right. Am I taking Advantage of her mental state. Cus it's all we've both ever known just don't want to ruin our friendship . Although I've never been with a women I see her as perfection and want to take care of her before the next new guy could end up killing her
I am in love with my friend But she hás a bf
I cant love anyone that was not my friend first. How can u love someone u never talk to?
I know that this comment is late but just REALLY need to tell somebody.
I'm in love with the girl who's been my best friend for years, and I don't know what to do. I was so proud when I came out to myself a few weeks ago and I really wanted to tell my friend that I was in love with her, but then I heard all of these stories online about how 'it will never work out' and that 'you'll lose them if you tell them'. I really love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her, but I don't think she's into girls. She's 20 now and has only dated one guy (and it was only because their other friends told them they'd make a good couple), I know she knows about LGBTQ+ stuff, but she's never expressed herself as queer. And we've never had a 'boys' talk, so I don't know what she's into. I watched your 'Signs she's into you' video, but I'm always the one showing the flags and I can't tell if that's me being me or her being shy. Whenever I ask her to cuddle, she does, and when I tease her, she joking stabs back with "Oh, whatever!" and a punch in the arm. I'm worried because, while I'm sure the hints are there, I haven't told anyone about my sexuality yet, and I don't want that 'what if she LIKES ME, likes me' thing to hang over our friendship, so now I'm not even sure if I wanna tell her. I know my best friend, and I know she's gonna be to shy to tell me if she's into girls or even LIKES, likes me, and that by the time she does come out (in this hypothetical situation) it'll be to late for me. She's my very best friend, I care for her in a way I've never felt about anyone else, and I can't imagine my life with her, but I don't wanna lose her to someone else.
I am going through the EXACT same situation, though im a little you younger! I really feel for you as I know its really tough to decide whether or not the risk of telling her would be worth it. I love my friend so much, and I could not imagine my life without her. Though it is sooooo hard to be with her as nothing more then a friend! I hope you were able to figure out your situation!!! And im here if you ever feel the need to update. I wish you luck!! (wish me luck as well) 💗
Go make a move! You might regret it if you don't. Just don't be aggressive. Do it nicely. Be caring and shower her with love and affection. Eventually, she'll fall for you too.
@@emersonparsons9431 any updates?
@@emersonparsons9431 Thank you for the comments (I changed accounts, but It's still me), I guess this is an update on what's happened. I just feel like telling someone. It's been over a year since I wrote this comment, and I'm still kinda in the same place. (God, now that I'm typing this out, I just realized how long it's been.)
I've fished for answers from her, and she says she's straight, but she also has no real experience, nor does she know what she wants from a relationship. I'm not really sure what that means.
We've gotten closer sence then; part of me is trying not to get too attached but I still love her and I can't help but try little things. I kiss her on the cheek when we say goodbye and when we see each other again after a while, she runs and jumps into my arms and I spin her around.
I'm planning on telling her how I feel, but I just haven't found the right moment yet. I think I'm going to ask her to Senior Prom. I don't know what will come of it, but I just want someone by my side. If she's not interested, I'll know I have to move on; if she wants to give it a chance, maybe I'll get what I'm looking for. I love her so much, and I want her to be happy, I just have to know if that involves me.
@@emersonparsons9431 I guess this is my final update...
I took her to prom and we had a fine evening. I confessed my feelings for her after the party and we talked about it on the drive home. Apparently, she was completely obvious to all of the signs I was dropping and shocked more than anything.
She wasn't interested... but she let me down in a very polite manner. By the end of the night, she kinda had me feeling better about myself than before. She explained to me that she is indeed straight and, even if she wasn't, she's not interested in dating right now. She also told me that, more than anything, she was simply flattered because she thinks I'm out of her league.
I did my best to stay strong, but I won't lie, there was a lot of crying on my part, and I felt like a completely idiot in the moment. We discussed things, there was some nerves laughter; she invited me in and we finished a movie we where watching earlier that day. The night ended with a hug and I drove home in my beautiful prom dress with my makeup smeared.
She hasn't really acted any differently towards me afterward (it's actually a little off putting, but I know her comping mechanism is to simply bury her head in the ground). There's a little bit more distance between us now, mainly on my part, but I'm not fishing for hints of romantic inclination anymore, so that is to be expected.
In conclusion, I would recommend to anyone going through what I've gone through: to just tell her. If you're situation is a bit different, then you should of course take that into account. But for me, personally, I couldn't of gotten over her without that conformation. It really has made me feel better, I've gotten the sense of closure I needed to move on. Not to mention, it means I don't have to worry about regrets or what ifs anymore. If she needs me, I'm still her best friend and vice versa; and it's okay that that's all there is to it.
Yes, it's gonna hurt and you're gonna feel stupid, you may even lose them. But at least you'll KNOW, and that's what I needed in the long run.
Thank you, for this space to talk, even if only a few people hear my story and read my advice; I'm glad I put it out there. It feels nice to have gotten all this off my chest.
I'm straight but I have feelings for a mutual friend who is lesbian. I don't want hurt her because she is genuinely lovely human being, shit is she likes me as well😭
Very hard if we like a woman,who is straight and got bf..Oh my..
Oh...I've had two crushes in my entire (not very long) life.
The first was on a guy. (I have no idea what his sexuality is) and we were best friends at the time. I never told him, I'm over him now, we're still friends.
And then there's this girl who I've been friends with forever. And I'm still totally, hopelessly in love with her and she never needs to know this because she is one of the straightest people I know.
I hate my life.
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Falling for a straight friend who is SO STRAIGHT
1. “I only like guys who have Edgar cuts or burst fades”
2. “I miss my man”
3.” I went to go walk around with someone…”
4. While playing a question game “I’ve never had an orgasm so how can I fake one ?”
5. “Do you believe in soulmates” while staring directly into my eyes
6. “Wanna be my partner for the lab ?” Checks my BP and it’s extremely elevated, then she suggest I leave my hand on her thigh for a more accurate and comfortable reading.
She shows 0 signs of being interested but I can’t help but want her deeply because she’s pretty and there’s no pressure for me to not be myself while we hang out like helppppp 🤬🤬🤬
My bestie said she had a crush on me today and I’m straight and her heart was crushed I could tell but we are still besties
Btw we are extremely close and inseparable so I was shook
Does Alexis speak German??! 🤔😲😂 She said a German word in the beginning of the vid😂😂
Sucks that the girl I'm liking more and more is my coworker and my best friend, in a new relationship with another coworker I'm friends with. I don't even think a relationship would work out, we have different interests, she's much younger, quite culturally straight and I wouldn't really feel comfortable in the dynamic it'd result in. Still, her personality and the way we interact makes my brain release all the happy chemicals and leaves me sad, sometimes on the verge of crying.
What makes it worse is that I'm trans, and she's the first girl who ever treated me with this nonchalant intimacy that you never get as a guy, unless the other person is into you. Random touches that linger, leaning onto me, compliments or grabbing my hand as she sings along with a romantic song, these all confused the hell out of me. Hell, last week I'm working next to his boyfriend, she leans on us then joins, and asks me to kiss her as a joke. I feel like I need to tell her my feelings to put up some boundaries because she just leaves my stomach in a knot. But I also don't want to lose her as a friend.
This was made a little too late 😊
Not necessarily a friend, but I have had a crush on my hormone doctor for a few months now. Despite barely knowing her, I like her so much it hurts. I don't know what team she bats for, but I do get some slight gay or bi vibes from her (i.e., femme girl with short, unpolished nails). I started seeing her a few months after I began transitioning (my original endocrinologist moved to another state to be with her husband) and now I can't get her out of my head. Been thinking of making a move, ethical issues be damned.
Maybe it's because I'm attracted to intelligent women. Maybe I'm turned on by the thrill of breaking a taboo, the allure of forbidden fruit. Maybe I'm looking for a sugar mama, to be set for life. Maybe I'm so easily attracted to women that I fixate on one woman while not considering others. Maybe I'm a little girl looking for a mommy. Maybe said doctor is a gateway to a world I'm not part of but should be. Maybe it's something else or a mix of these things.
Has anyone else here been in this kind of situation or similar before?
shit i related to this on a personal level
@Sun Kissed UA-camr I've given thought to telling her about how I'm now a year into transition and thinking of getting myself out there to meet some ladies. I don't know where to start. I've dated girls before but they were mostly in high school, long before I came out as a trans woman. But those were mere girls, and this doctor is a full-blown woman. Going from any of them to someone like her would be like going from McDonald's to one of Gordon Ramsay's restaurants. I don't want to settle for less at this point. I'm 35, most of my peers are married and/or have kids, and I'm not getting any younger.
Making a move would put her into an uncomfortable position at her place of work and out of all options it is most likely to backfire imo. Doctors have a strict code of ethics. If she participated in a relationship with you while you’re still her patient she could lose her entire practice and her license. And if she doesn’t she might advise you to seek out a different doctor. Maybe you should ask yourself and analyze why exactly you’re fixated on an unattainable woman? The 1% chance of it working out is enticing- but it’s like Lilian said there are SO many great women out there that you could like just as much, you just have to give them a chance, and it wouldn’t involve creating a compromising position for either of you. Best of luck x
@Sun Kissed UA-camr She doesn't look a day over 30, maybe 35 tops. On the high side, she might be around 40.
@@DrDonutWithCoffee There may be many other great women out there but there's only one of her. And how do you top (no pun intended) someone like that? Part of me wants no one else.