So many therapists and professionals have come and gone😢 I DEFINITELY don’t want to tell my story anymore. I ONLY want to heal. Thank you for your help, Anna
03:39 🤝 Complex PTSD is an injury, not an identity; understanding this is vital for effective healing. 06:38 📝 Daily practices like expressive writing and meditation can significantly aid in trauma recovery. 09:55 🗣 While talking about trauma can be helpful, it's essential to recognize when it triggers further distress. 11:41 🚫 Using isolation to control triggers is not a sustainable solution; gradual exposure and healing strategies are more effective. 16:00 💪 Take control of your triggers instead of expecting others to manage them for you; setting boundaries is key to healthy relationships.
I binge watched all of your videos this last week. I suffer from CPTSD, ADHD and anxiety. I have been going through a romantic obsession - although my therapist and I both have agreed on the fact that he was also keeping me trapped in the situationship long distance by begging me to come back when I decide to cut contact. However, your videos have helped me so so much in overcoming that and I am so grateful! Thank you!
@@sparklingloveandlight I’m so sorry! It’s the worst thing. Never in my life has a hyper fixation lasted this long! Usually I get over it in a month, but now that it’s ROMANTIC and toxic too, it’s been so so so difficult for like 6 months now. Especially with abandonment issues and not receiving a lot of care, love and support as a child.
@Sally150 I have went through emdr, it actually made mine worse, I also used another form one that I don't remember the name that helped though. I have seen 4 different therapists specially trained in trauma. Sometimes it isn't the best option. And it isn't bc we don't try. I get that you're trying to say there are great tools and I agree with that but I already tried those tools and they weren't the best for me.
I grew up in an alcoholic home atmosphere where my parents were afflicted with terrible domestic violence problems. My mom divorced my dad and took us kids to another place • where her next husband was a wife beater and a child abuser. I'm a 'grateful recovering alcoholic' • and have been saved and sober for 42 years. Praise God.
Hope God gives you the strength to make it through this process. I know it hurts but it is time to heal. You need to be the best version of yourself for yourself and your community. We need more healthy minded people. Not lost broken humans.
I love listening to you. You are so soft spoken with a huge impact on how to make a positive change. Thank you so much for sharing and caring for others. You are truly amazing. God Bless you…🙏🏻🙌🏻🕯️
I agree with you! I’m so grateful for her support. Her UA-cams are really impactful. Sending you healing waves and bliss. I wish I could repay her. She is in my prayers❤️🙏
I was recently broken up with in a very upsetting way. It’s still going on now because they still have things to come get from the apartment they left me in. I’m experiencing a lot of self loathing because I messed up the relationship a lot with my trauma. I really cared about this person but sometimes my actions would contradict that. They fell out of love with me and their friends are all against me now. They also had trauma and acted emotionally distant often which was a trigger for me. I’m tired of repeating these cycles and I’m ready to heal. Playing your videos in the background while I’m trying to get tasks done has been a life saver. You offer relatable scenarios, give us useful tips and tools to help us and you tell us how we will feel once we start healing. It’s encouraging 🙂 thank you
Thank you for sharing your experience. One good tool to help with getting regulated is the Daily Practice. You can try it in the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice and if you'd like to work on improving a romantic relationship in the future, you may like "Dating and Relationships for People with Childhood PTSD" course: bit.ly/3IBbrv7 Nika@TeamFairy
Dwelling is different from acknowledging, taking small habits of improvement, taking small steps, goes a thousand miles. Input positivity, create new neuroplasticity, mixed with spirituality.
if u dont mind i will share a realization about myself i literally JUST had: i have to isolate and severely guard myself and hide my true self bc i dont know my bourndaries and i dont trust myself to keep them, so therefore i have to push everyone away so i dont get hurt again. i hope this helps!
I'm happy that you create content to help us all. At some point I got tired of channels that dwell on the idea of what is wrong with other people. That has it's own benefits for a some time, but content that focuses on your own healing and responsibility give so much more on the long run. Nowadays I feel a bit icky whenever I watch or read that former kind of content, although it could be fine and professional, but I feel I need something else. About the talking about the trauma and the neuropathways activated - I think it's healing if you can get experiences where you get trauma related pathways activated, but at the same time you activate some healing, relaxing or social joining pathways. Usually when trauma is triggered, you just shut down so much that the more positive pathway just doesn't open. And then you just rant or hide away or attack. But if you find the right person to talk to, or have positive experiences in life in general, it could happen. I'm not sure about the theory, but isn't in emdr that they are trying to activate vagus-nerve at the same time with the trauma memories? Same happens, when you learn new ways to behave yourself, and get positive social feedback from that, you get different results, more positive ones.
Thanks for this. It is solid and sane. Listening to this makes me see that I am improving and healing and my life is changing for the better, that the work I'm doing is helping. And yes, I am not my trauma. Good to remember that
Thank you so much. I really needed this. I have been doing the techniques that are in the daily practice and it is so calming. I have recently made the decision to go no contact with my mom and have noticed a lot of pent up feelings and remembering things that had happened to me as a child that I had forgotten about. That before I don't think I would have been able to process because the ranting made me so anxious prior but so appreciative that I can now without so much struggle.
Thank you for watching! Connection Bootcamp -- a course Anna developed -- provides a structured way to start working on friendships and social life. bit.ly/CCF_Connection Give it a try, if you're interested. Nika@TeamFairy
Hi, could you make a video specifically for men with Crappy-PTSD ? Reading forums and comments for years I noticed women with C-ptsd are able to find a good husband as it is ok for a woman to be vulnerable or fragile (she doens't lose attractivness in men's eyes), though for men we are expected to be strong emotionally so that the our woman can rely on us. I feel like being a man with cptsd is a double punishment as no woman (but weirdoes) will want a man that is not emotionally stable, so it is even harder to find support. Thanks
So true. Noticing a lot of videos telling women to stay away from men showing the symptoms of childhood ptsd. I get it, we have baggage. But we're good people, and doing the healing work. Would be great to see more content around helping partners to understand their partners past truama and how to work with it, instead of run packing, or even worse trying to 'save/fix' them.
forget it. oh wait, no, you have a hidden disability. In your case all you really need is money to wave around. it's amazing the flaws they'll overlook for a chance to get that off you. seriously even people who are physically violent with their partners, as long as they're rich, someone will want them. as long as you don't have an obvious physical disability you're fine, just rip off stupid people until you're rich enough to flash it around.
Talking about it didn't help and got yelled at by a therapist, also a college professor, for not having been given the code to enter before my session. I was having a bathroom emergency 😢. She dropped me after that. I only had one session with her.
If you'd like to share your story and ask Anna a question, feel free to write an "Ask the Fairy" letter. You can do it from here: bit.ly/CCF_Letters Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you so much! I just recently discovered this Page and i must say it gives me hope and less despair to change my patterns 🙏
my therapist is using EMRD i have using a few times and i have more sessions with the machine and i dont like but i believe its for healing . what is your opinion about this?
Isolating myself because of trauma just made me worse. Do NOT make my mistake. I also thought trauma was my identity, but it is just an injury that I can heal. I can still go on and heal, and with my limitless determination, healing is guaranteed, no matter how hard it is.
Amazing how some trauma survivors are INTOLERANT of those who still need to talk and understand and process … as if their point in the process is the only acceptable place to be…
The talking about the events that resulted in trauma is too much for me. I find I’m way more disregulated afterwards, and that I need some time to regroup. It’s exhausting, retraumatizing.
I had to move back to my hometown recently after 17 years away, as the result of a severe mental health episode. I don't know many people round here now so it will be a case of finding new connections. But I don't feel chatty or social right now. I am going to one or two places and taking things slowly. Grateful to have found this channel 🙏
I told my story for the first time to someone I trusted and it changed everything for me. It felt like the doors of my life were flung wide open. I started doing the daily practice and it gives me the power to manage my symptoms and move forward, a little bit every day. Thank you so much for the Practice, Anna, it has helped me so much.
@@kathymcnamara7186 Google Internal Family Systems. This channel is censoring the words; Internal Family Systems --- Psychology Today has articles about it.
Really inspiring video, and a lot of food for thought. I need to check out the daily practice, talk therapy has been good but I can't really afford it for much longer...
This channel has helped me so much. I was one of those ppl who thought that my childhood was fine because we weren't poor and there was only occasional physical abuse, deceit and emotional neglect. Well...i have ALL symptoms of cptsd so i guess thats all it takes. I have 2 ex husbands, who weren't great, but well, neither was I. I have 3 degrees and no grand career. I believe I've been misdiagnosed as bipolar, and, I've actually been on ssdi for 12 years!! I actually think i CAN work again and am taking steps to get a job job. I took your Daily Practice course and have been doing it but man, I'm resistant...sitting and meditating is so hard! I love reading all the comments and its great to have this community ❤❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing and being a part of our community! Hope you can continue the Daily Practice. I encourage you to attend our free Daily Practice Calls when we practice together and learn more about the technique. Maybe it will help you find a way to meditate easier. Contact our customer service team at hello@crappychildhoodfairy.com to get access to the DP Calls. Nika@TeamFairy
"Trauma is an injury, not an identity" - wall plaque and coffee mug!
Yes I don't identify with victim or the label "I have CPTSD" I say, I am challenged with CPTSD symptoms and am on the journey to find wholeness.
Yup, it's really sinking in.
Yes, well said
So many therapists and professionals have come and gone😢 I DEFINITELY don’t want to tell my story anymore. I ONLY want to heal. Thank you for your help, Anna
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Amen!
Many therapists are literally gaslighting us ... that the sad reality
AMEN🎉
03:39 🤝 Complex PTSD is an injury, not an identity; understanding this is vital for effective healing.
06:38 📝 Daily practices like expressive writing and meditation can significantly aid in trauma recovery.
09:55 🗣 While talking about trauma can be helpful, it's essential to recognize when it triggers further distress.
11:41 🚫 Using isolation to control triggers is not a sustainable solution; gradual exposure and healing strategies are more effective.
16:00 💪 Take control of your triggers instead of expecting others to manage them for you; setting boundaries is key to healthy relationships.
Grateful 🙏 for this guidance. Wish I had it in my 20s. Thank you 💜 Anna.
Isolation is the worst thing 😢
I binge watched all of your videos this last week. I suffer from CPTSD, ADHD and anxiety. I have been going through a romantic obsession - although my therapist and I both have agreed on the fact that he was also keeping me trapped in the situationship long distance by begging me to come back when I decide to cut contact. However, your videos have helped me so so much in overcoming that and I am so grateful! Thank you!
Sounds like you're on a good path 😊
@@flower_7890it’s still not over, but I’m so much better!
I can relate with this and also I have the same diagnoses as you.
Wow, I'm so glad the channel has been helpful! We're all sending you encouragement! -Calista@TeamFairy
@@sparklingloveandlight I’m so sorry! It’s the worst thing. Never in my life has a hyper fixation lasted this long! Usually I get over it in a month, but now that it’s ROMANTIC and toxic too, it’s been so so so difficult for like 6 months now. Especially with abandonment issues and not receiving a lot of care, love and support as a child.
I have felt this way for years and everyone says I need to go back to therapy. I'm so tired of talking. So thank you
There are therapists that have special training for trauma patients - they use EMDR, IFS.
@Sally150 I have went through emdr, it actually made mine worse, I also used another form one that I don't remember the name that helped though. I have seen 4 different therapists specially trained in trauma. Sometimes it isn't the best option. And it isn't bc we don't try. I get that you're trying to say there are great tools and I agree with that but I already tried those tools and they weren't the best for me.
Same for me. EMDR made it worse. But I think it was the therapist that was the problem. Best wishes for your healing, internet stranger!
Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
@@grat2010 --- I understand it doesn't work for everyone. It flipped the narrative in re-imagining the abuse from an adult's point of view.
Jeezus...Yes. The talking to my therapist is having some serious triggers...today was a day that spiraled out. I'm glad this came into my feed today.
Thank you for watching!
Nika@TeamFairy
I grew up in an alcoholic home atmosphere where my parents were afflicted with terrible domestic violence problems. My mom divorced my dad and took us kids to another place • where her next husband was a wife beater and a child abuser. I'm a 'grateful recovering alcoholic' • and have been saved and sober for 42 years. Praise God.
May God continue to bless and guide you! Stay strong in your walk, remember you are loved!
Hope God gives you the strength to make it through this process. I know it hurts but it is time to heal. You need to be the best version of yourself for yourself and your community. We need more healthy minded people. Not lost broken humans.
I love listening to you. You are so soft spoken with a huge impact on how to make a positive change. Thank you so much for sharing and caring for others. You are truly amazing. God Bless you…🙏🏻🙌🏻🕯️
I agree with you! I’m so grateful for her support. Her UA-cams are really impactful. Sending you healing waves and bliss. I wish I could repay her. She is in my prayers❤️🙏
I was recently broken up with in a very upsetting way. It’s still going on now because they still have things to come get from the apartment they left me in. I’m experiencing a lot of self loathing because I messed up the relationship a lot with my trauma. I really cared about this person but sometimes my actions would contradict that. They fell out of love with me and their friends are all against me now. They also had trauma and acted emotionally distant often which was a trigger for me. I’m tired of repeating these cycles and I’m ready to heal. Playing your videos in the background while I’m trying to get tasks done has been a life saver. You offer relatable scenarios, give us useful tips and tools to help us and you tell us how we will feel once we start healing. It’s encouraging 🙂 thank you
Thank you for sharing your experience. One good tool to help with getting regulated is the Daily Practice. You can try it in the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice and if you'd like to work on improving a romantic relationship in the future, you may like "Dating and Relationships for People with Childhood PTSD" course: bit.ly/3IBbrv7
Nika@TeamFairy
Dwelling is different from acknowledging, taking small habits of improvement, taking small steps, goes a thousand miles. Input positivity, create new neuroplasticity, mixed with spirituality.
You are an Angel on this earth plane. I see me in you! Ty for your efforts to help and serve others like myself. ❤
Time to get back to the daily practice!
I think I’ll try doing it first thing in the morning! 👍👍🌳
How can trauma not be WHO you are when your very identity, your ego, was developed during the trauma in infancy?
Isolation makes me feel better. Period. No one's attacking me!
Something I found helpful is the book "Safe People".
if u dont mind i will share a realization about myself i literally JUST had: i have to isolate and severely guard myself and hide my true self bc i dont know my bourndaries and i dont trust myself to keep them, so therefore i have to push everyone away so i dont get hurt again.
i hope this helps!
Hahaha, isolation = protection and extreme loneliness. I need help
Isolation keeps people who thrive on hurting others away from me, hurting someone else. I don't care who that is, as long as it isn't me.
@@Some1inFNQ alright,
I'm happy that you create content to help us all. At some point I got tired of channels that dwell on the idea of what is wrong with other people. That has it's own benefits for a some time, but content that focuses on your own healing and responsibility give so much more on the long run. Nowadays I feel a bit icky whenever I watch or read that former kind of content, although it could be fine and professional, but I feel I need something else.
About the talking about the trauma and the neuropathways activated - I think it's healing if you can get experiences where you get trauma related pathways activated, but at the same time you activate some healing, relaxing or social joining pathways. Usually when trauma is triggered, you just shut down so much that the more positive pathway just doesn't open. And then you just rant or hide away or attack. But if you find the right person to talk to, or have positive experiences in life in general, it could happen. I'm not sure about the theory, but isn't in emdr that they are trying to activate vagus-nerve at the same time with the trauma memories? Same happens, when you learn new ways to behave yourself, and get positive social feedback from that, you get different results, more positive ones.
Thank you kind soul
Thanks for this. It is solid and sane. Listening to this makes me see that I am improving and healing and my life is changing for the better, that the work I'm doing is helping. And yes, I am not my trauma. Good to remember that
That's wonderful! Thanks for sharing this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you so much. I really needed this. I have been doing the techniques that are in the daily practice and it is so calming. I have recently made the decision to go no contact with my mom and have noticed a lot of pent up feelings and remembering things that had happened to me as a child that I had forgotten about. That before I don't think I would have been able to process because the ranting made me so anxious prior but so appreciative that I can now without so much struggle.
I would like to improve my social skills in order to fight isolation...
Thank you for watching! Connection Bootcamp -- a course Anna developed -- provides a structured way to start working on friendships and social life. bit.ly/CCF_Connection Give it a try, if you're interested.
Nika@TeamFairy
Oh man! Dont be isolated! Ahhhh
I agree with you on that
I love being alone
No drama or stress
I feel a tremendous freedom in my isolation.
How ? Can you help me ?
This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear today!
Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
Hi, could you make a video specifically for men with Crappy-PTSD ? Reading forums and comments for years I noticed women with C-ptsd are able to find a good husband as it is ok for a woman to be vulnerable or fragile (she doens't lose attractivness in men's eyes), though for men we are expected to be strong emotionally so that the our woman can rely on us. I feel like being a man with cptsd is a double punishment as no woman (but weirdoes) will want a man that is not emotionally stable, so it is even harder to find support. Thanks
So true. Noticing a lot of videos telling women to stay away from men showing the symptoms of childhood ptsd. I get it, we have baggage. But we're good people, and doing the healing work. Would be great to see more content around helping partners to understand their partners past truama and how to work with it, instead of run packing, or even worse trying to 'save/fix' them.
forget it. oh wait, no, you have a hidden disability. In your case all you really need is money to wave around. it's amazing the flaws they'll overlook for a chance to get that off you.
seriously even people who are physically violent with their partners, as long as they're rich, someone will want them.
as long as you don't have an obvious physical disability you're fine, just rip off stupid people until you're rich enough to flash it around.
Talking about it didn't help and got yelled at by a therapist, also a college professor, for not having been given the code to enter before my session. I was having a bathroom emergency 😢. She dropped me after that. I only had one session with her.
That college professor therapist may need therapy!
But when you have no one and no money to get a hobby! I nothing and no!!😢
I have actually grown tired of talking about my past...
How can someone submit a question?
If you'd like to share your story and ask Anna a question, feel free to write an "Ask the Fairy" letter. You can do it from here: bit.ly/CCF_Letters
Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you so much! I just recently discovered this Page and i must say it gives me hope and less despair to change my patterns 🙏
it just seems funny to be writing the same stuff day after day after day. Am i doing it right?
If you feel the same fears and resentments, there's nothing wrong with repeating them on paper.
Nika@TeamFairy
my therapist is using EMRD i have using a few times and i have more sessions with the machine and i dont like but i believe its for healing . what is your opinion about this?
Isolating myself because of trauma just made me worse.
Do NOT make my mistake.
I also thought trauma was my identity, but it is just an injury that I can heal.
I can still go on and heal, and with my limitless determination, healing is guaranteed, no matter how hard it is.
Thank you for sharing this! Hope many others will read your comment, it is very encouraging. Keep up the great work!
Nika@TeamFairy
Amazing how some trauma survivors are INTOLERANT of those who still need to talk and understand and process … as if their point in the process is the only acceptable place to be…
The talking about the events that resulted in trauma is too much for me. I find I’m way more disregulated afterwards, and that I need some time to regroup. It’s exhausting, retraumatizing.
We understand as few others can. You're in the right place! -Calista@TeamFairy
I had to move back to my hometown recently after 17 years away, as the result of a severe mental health episode. I don't know many people round here now so it will be a case of finding new connections. But I don't feel chatty or social right now. I am going to one or two places and taking things slowly.
Grateful to have found this channel 🙏
We're all sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Your advice is so relevant and objective, thank you.
So glad it was helpful! Thanks for taking the time to comment :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I told my story for the first time to someone I trusted and it changed everything for me. It felt like the doors of my life were flung wide open. I started doing the daily practice and it gives me the power to manage my symptoms and move forward, a little bit every day. Thank you so much for the Practice, Anna, it has helped me so much.
This is a very good channel. You cover the subjects in a way I understand. And also I would say, I like your voice. It is nice and easy.
Find a therapist who knows EMDR and IFS.
What is ifs?
@@kathymcnamara7186 (IFS) Internal Family Systems --
@@kathymcnamara7186--Internal Family Systems...--- you can google it.
@@kathymcnamara7186 Google Internal Family Systems. This channel is censoring the words; Internal Family Systems --- Psychology Today has articles about it.
Really inspiring video, and a lot of food for thought. I need to check out the daily practice, talk therapy has been good but I can't really afford it for much longer...
We're all sending you encouragement! Here's a link if you want to sign up: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
-Calista@TeamFairy
This was invaluable information. God puts u in places to hear things & see things.
Does anyone know a good channel similar to Anna's wonderful channel that's designed to help teens with their emotional health and wellbeing?
When parents learn to re-regulate, it helps teens.
This channel has helped me so much. I was one of those ppl who thought that my childhood was fine because we weren't poor and there was only occasional physical abuse, deceit and emotional neglect. Well...i have ALL symptoms of cptsd so i guess thats all it takes. I have 2 ex husbands, who weren't great, but well, neither was I. I have 3 degrees and no grand career. I believe I've been misdiagnosed as bipolar, and, I've actually been on ssdi for 12 years!! I actually think i CAN work again and am taking steps to get a job job. I took your Daily Practice course and have been doing it but man, I'm resistant...sitting and meditating is so hard! I love reading all the comments and its great to have this community ❤❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing and being a part of our community! Hope you can continue the Daily Practice. I encourage you to attend our free Daily Practice Calls when we practice together and learn more about the technique. Maybe it will help you find a way to meditate easier.
Contact our customer service team at hello@crappychildhoodfairy.com to get access to the DP Calls.
Nika@TeamFairy