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😢 the abuse is so bad that they leave you suicidal
You mean ur parents in law?
And also you want to leave islam since this abusive mother is someone who prays 5 times a day, does sadkah, reads quran, performs hijab/niqab etc
@@pearleunjoo5439 my mother is a nightmare but I believe it’s a test.
@@nusaibaumarmadaki3418 Yep...May Allah help us go through this....
@@pearleunjoo5439please dont let her distance you from Islam.. for me its exactly the opposite so every time we fight it draws me closer to Allah swt
I'm catholic and watch this guy.
Wow..!!🥺❤️ I really love the way of ur explaining everything..
Im going through this right now and its helping me. Thx mufti may Allah SWT bless u
My mother hates me and says that I’m not her daughter because I showed my father something and she didn’t see what it was
When she asked me I told her that she doesn’t has to know everything, I acknowledge that this may came off a little rude and I apologised but she made such a big drama out of it….
My mother doesn’t pray, doesn’t read Quran she just doesn’t do anything
In the past she used to do all those things but she changed
It’s the same with my father
None of my parents pray or do anything for Islam… it’s so emotionally drenching me
My brother is always so rude to her but she never nags him like she does to me
I could only say one word and she wouldn’t speak with me for days but my brother throws 1000 words at her and she still treats him like her son
I don’t know what to do anymore
May Allah make it easy for you, sister, and may Allah guide your parents and give them an understanding of what they're doing. Indeed, this is a test from Allah, so may Allah reward you for your hardships and grant you ease in this world and in the hereafter. Ameen.
I relate with you so much..
Leave. This isnt some test from Allah. You're just stuck with extremely shitty parents.
I'm so sorry sister. So many of us are in the same situation. It's heartbreaking. I am so proud of you and your extreme patience. May Allah grant you ease, mercy, peace, and blessings. You deserve it.
My mother is same as yours, she treats me so bad, very abusively, and my brothers so well despite them being so rude with her, she never acknowledges how much i help her in chores and when my brother does even a little thing she appreciates him as if he brought moon from sky. During my monthly cycle when I'm unable to help her in chores she shows me so much hate and call me names and doesn't show care about my pain I'm literally crying while commenting this hope anyone can understand. I hate her to the point where i end up disrespecting her and then regretting over it to the point where I lose my sanity. I might soon become a mental patient i feel
Heaven lies below your deeds, not your parents. That's what they told us to respect them.
It's 2023 parents aren't all that good anymore. And you can't deny the existence of toxic/bad parenting.
u can use ur mom to go to jannah
If you have new islamic law that says you can enter jenna without pleasing your parents and disrespecting them, then wait the time that Allah will question you about birel walidy, didn't you know it is among the biggest sin to disrespect parents, it is even considered worse than zina
May Allah grant us all guidance to what is best for us🤲🏽
"...whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word." (Quran 17:23)
Honour thy mother/father so your days will be longer
what if parent cheated lied betrayed and hurt the children socially emotionally physically what should the child do after finding out the truth and cheating of parent??
Personally, I think the child should first seek help and advice before doing anything. Inshallah everything will work out in the end.
The Quran states that you should obey your parents even if they are the worst of people. However, if what they command you to do is unholy and unrighteous, you must pretend to obey them but not do so in private.
@@HadiAnimations you can keep a distance if theyre abusive.
Keep some distance with respect
@@HadiAnimations With all due respect, I beg to differ. And, to offer such a generalized advice to a child without knowing the details of what he/she is going through at home, is reckless. The Quran is logical and it’s teachings makes sense when it comes to the steps to take when dealing with life’s troubles. This child should first go to a competent, trusted adult to discuss their home life situation before simply ‘pretending to obey’ especially since you have no idea what is actually going on. Subhan Allah!
Simply logic. I rather distance myself from a trouble mom or dad than to talk rudely Infront of them. In Jamaica respect is number 1. No 1 is perfect
I have been disrespectful towards my parents, because of my weakness and lack of patience. I have acted out unpleasantly. I feel this is why my life is upside down. I pray allah forgives me 😞
May Allah bless my mother in law !Ameen!
بارك الله فيكم...
اللهم اغفر لوالدينا و ارحمهما و اجمعنا معهما في الفردوس الأعلى مع الأنبياء و الشهداء و الصالحين و جميع موتى المسلمين..
اللهم احقن دماء المسلمين و انصرهم على من عاداهم..
رب إني مسني الضر و أنت أرحم الراحمين...
لا إله إلا أنت سبحانك إني كنت من الظالمين.......
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Wa alaikum salaam wa rahumathullahi wa barakathuhu bro. Aameen Aameen ya Rabbal Alameen. Jazak ALLAH khair for ur beautiful n powerful guidance. MAY ALLAH SWT bless them and guide them. Aameen Aameen ya Rabbal Alameen.
Asalamualiakum, let God continue to bless and keep you for long lasting.
Mashallah you made this video at the right time for me.
My mother had a confrontation with someone, and i understand the story from start to finish.
On a family gathering i pronounce softly that my mother is wrong,
Is like have add salt to injury, everybody was disgusted she is my mother i should always be by her.
I just reply to them that i should not say the truth light.
Thanks for this wonderful video, i would play it on my music set for them and others to learned
If you tell someone's fault in public know that Allah will show all your sins in public. Moreover she is your mother, that makes it the worst sin ever. Repent
Thanks for this useful and beneficial message
Brothers and sisters please pray for me I have a anxity panic attack
Do read qur an and do zikr.. thats only what i do during my anxiety and depression.. subhanallah allahoakbar
Quran~ last ayats of Al Baqarah, morning and evening Zikr, surah Ikhlas, Al Nas, Al Falaq, Auzbillah, and Kursi. These can help. may Allah make our lives easy, aameen!💙🤲🏽
Pls pray that my dua becomes accepted :(
Thank you so much for this advice i really needed this advice may Allah help with more advice for us❤❤❤
I view My Mom and Sister as ALWAYS right, Even when they are wrong!! I obey both of them fully.
Vaaleykum Assalam
Allah bless you
My mother knows exactly where I hide my "Uff" buttons and hits it any time she wants! 😅 Sometimes she succeed, sometimes my patience was stronger than my urge to say Uff 😅🤭🤣
And sometimes, I wonder, am I addopted? 😳😆🤪
Allah knows how I keep trying to be a better daughter everyday. I love my mother, unconditionally... May Allah always keep her safe and healthy. Aamiin YRA ❤🤲❤
@muftimenk If the parent is short tempered and they get angry at everything , even if the actual act makes no sense to ignite anger ? How do we respond ? How do we remain calm and respectful when going through anxiety and personal struggles ?????
I feel you.
Same here
Same
I have the same issue sister. Its everyday and my mom thinks I'm crazy when I distance myself, stay alone, keep it to myself and stay depressed. May Allah reward us we have to control it tho
Samo here… hope mufti respond ..
Allah always comes first in our lives! But don't disobey your parents if they're coming from Quran and Sunnah! Don't disrespect your parents no matter what! They were your entry into this world! Be respectful and humble yourselves before ALLAH!
Agreed
Well I never asked to be born.
@@izzy.i thats not the point go by the book and u wont have any problems
@@izzy.i i went by the book and my parents understand the issues i had with them
@@abdulbutt2850 which book ?
Alhamdulillah ☪️
It’s easy to say brother it’s hard it’s been 15 yrs I have seen my mother rude behaviour and injustice with me and now my wife and she always ignore mistakes or sins of my elder sister and younger brother My dad 😰 was angel but mom ufff it’s very
Bismillah
Subhanallah
Find the grandma and grandpa..that usually best friends for the grands...
They would give advices to the mother. And everything would be ok...
I welcome and encourage everyone to read and listen to the Holy Quran. Subhan Allah!
Muhammed was a paedophile and tortured people to death. Sahih Bukhari 5133; 233
Quran is full of scientific mistakes
@@JaegerLeMaserati scientific facts*
MasyaAllah. Alhamdulillah. Thank you for explaining, it is really helpful.
Honour thy mother/father so your days will be longer. Remember 1 day you may become a parent would you like your kids to be disrespectful to you???
It's hard for me to contrate at salaht what wouldn't help me to contrate
Stop listening to music and the things that distract you- turn away from them. And the most important tip of all- try to understand what you're actually saying while reciting the Quran in your salah.
I have a question, how should we react if for example your dad harms your mom? Is it okay to go against him so that your mother doesn’t get hurt? Here I am talking more about physical abuse, where you can’t be “respectful”.
MASHA ALLAH,
Very important topic these days
I love my mama till death. First thing when I wake up every morning, it is her text that I'll receive. And when my mind was uncertain the last time, I come out clearly to her. And asked for forgiveness which she accept apology. And I pray that this mistake will make bound between us as a mother and child even stronger ❤️❤️❤️
Don't like my parents I'm frustrated from both ..... I prefer "yateem" guys are better my mum always curse me on little things and I don't utter a single word to her what can I do 😫😫😫😫 plz suggest me something
But I respect Alhamdulillah
Ya Allah Forgive Us
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Pray for the best of Allah's creation, may Allah’s prayers and peace be upon our master and beloved Muhammad, may Allah’s prayers and peace be upon him, and his family and companions
صلوا على خير خلق الله اللهم صلي وسلم وبارك على سيدنا وحبيبنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم وعلى اله وصحبه وسلم
In my channel, his aim to present the sweetest aspects of Islam with the
Thank you for explaining and clarifying this matter, Sheikh!
Mashallah 💯 percent
What should you do when your mother is speaking bad about Islam and saying very bad things about the prophet Muhammad pbuh.
Brother I need help. I love my parents but they are extremely manipulative. How should I manage this ??
It's a blessing that kids recognise parental abuse and misdirect at early stages of their lives. Some people like myself could not identify because of the blink trust and love. As a result of it I ended up with severe traumas and other issues that not only impacted my livelihood but also my daughter who was just a few days old at the time.
Remember to pray the five obligatory prayers, and make your adkhar after Fajir and Asr.
I personally do not obey...if i know she is wrong. We are human and can be wrong at times. But i dont show it to her...I just say: ok ok....But i do the opposite🙈
Ur profile pic is the same as the emoji u used
I have anxiety and depression, i think my mental problems has damaged my brain.
when my mom nag me, i feel unable to focus, it actually hurts.. and i start feeling stressed it turn into anger, i try my best not to snap at her.. i try to explain but she doesn't get it.. i end up raising my voice.. may Allah forgive me 😢 i'm trying to be better.. it's hard, please pray for me
Exactly same happening with me , because of that iam facing severe anxiety and depression , i cannot explain them of my condition that iam having mental stress . When ever i raised my voice against them they started torturing me
My mom is constantly abusing me verbaly and no matter what i do is not enough! Then when sometimes happens to her in her life she blames me yells at me makes me feel bad,makes me have anxity due to her test that Allah swt gave her not me
She blames me! What should i do?
"My Lord, enable me to be grateful for Your favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to do righteousness of which You approve. And admit me by Your mercy into [the ranks of] Your righteous servants"
Salam Sheikh, My mother is of the same kind, she has caused so much damage within the family, that my life is in misery, she is the type of woman who doesn't adhere to major decisions made by my Father to which ultimately led to my family's miserable state, my father once told me that he wanted to divorce her long ago but I was already conceived so he endured patiently, I do not know if she is a hypocrite or just an Ignorant/Jahil in religion but my Father told me he taught her everything he knew of Islam, my father was widely known by everyone and within the family as a very religious man, I have tried teaching my mother by engaging in conversations that are deeply rooted in Islam and in Wisdom but She doesn't seem to learn from it, one trait that I couldn't bare seeing her do is her stinginess and her utter vulgar nature when she gets angry, to which I show her rudeness by it and expression of extreme dislike of what she does, I sometimes do not know what to do if I should do something to wake her up or just leave her, and by this confusion I resulted into doing both by following what is that I feel if it is better to snap at her or just leave her be.
I am a grown man on my 20's but still living with my parents because of her turning down my father's decisions, I always want to tell my father that he has to act with principle in front of her and not just agree with everything she says because it's causing us misery but I think he won't give an attention to it and more likely scold me, If I had followed my father, I would have been living my life and have been married long ago, but because my mother interferes with his decisions, I am now here open to all kinds of sins because of her, and another situation that made it worse is her siblings, my uncle and aunts are here living with us but they are not religious and are completely ignorant of the religion although they are muslims, I hate the sight of them here because they don't bother to know the religion despite of living with us for 5 years, and I can't help but feel like they are not planning in doing anything for themselves because my father is the only one who provides for the whole family, worse of it is that they are showing hatred to the teachings of Islam although not outwardly but discreetly, these are my problems to which I sometimes want my life to be taken away so that I may not commit sins in the long run by their influence.
my father is in his old age and I don't know what to do if he is gone and me to be left with her and her siblings, can I ask Allah for curse upon them? because they know what is right and what is wrong but they don't seem to follow the deen, my mother might be a hypocrite but she is very discreet about it although I could see through her schemes, I couldn't help my self but to feel extreme anger for them not following Islam fully.
I already told my father that he has my consent to divorce her whenever he wants to, because it's causing me deterioration upon my practice of the deen, I maintain my prayers and voluntary deeds but she and her siblings interferes when I do voluntary deeds when they happen to notice it and only does so out of stinginess at most times, I want to stay out of this and live in a place where Islam is practiced thoroughly, I wanted to study in Madinah but my father refused and wanted me to study Law and now halfway through my course I feel extremely troubled about the state of my deen because of the environment where I had to study and the studying of Law itself is somewhat causing me to have toxic attitude, I believe my father had fallen to my mothers ideals partially
wow whole novel backbiting about your mother
@@Als1822 Peace, this is a serious matter, but if you came here to make sarcastic remarks, leave
@@mohammednalg3802 i don't think you own youtube
@@Als1822 we don't know the identity of the woman, it's hardly backbiting. He is seeking help and advice from us.
Allah Hu Akbar
Did you guys recently see the News of a Mother in India who tied up her 6 year old daughter and tortured her by leaving her to bake in 50 degree heat under the Sun, simply for not doing homework. She screamed until she almost died.
Reminded me of the story of Bilal (R.A.).
Peace & Love ✌️🇬🇧
Ameen
What will happen to me if I said (you) to my mother if you now what I mean But inshallah allah will forgive me but can you answer please and thank you mufti Menk
Asalam alaikum Dear imam mufti menk. please I have a question. I’m a Muslim 25years old and I’m in love with a Christian woman 22years older than me we truly love each other and plan to get married in shaa Allaah. I really want to go about it.
They mentally abuse me what should I do
بارك الله فيك ، جزاك الله خيرًا ❤
After this video i know exactly how to react about these situations
May Allah Almighty grant us strength ❤️
وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻 👍👍👍
Subhan Allah! Strongly agree and love these lectures. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤Truly love my parents. Ya Allah forgives my parents and has mercy on them. Let me be of service to them with kindness and compassion. Accept their deeds and grant them to Jannah. Aameen!
Any indian here
Mufti menk my mother always want me to put haram things like charms and taking bath with haram things which is part of shirk
What do i do to reject it???
@MuftiMenk Assalamu'alaikum, Mufti, could you please give the verse of the ayah where we have to stand firm against injustices even when we're facing our own self or parents? I'm, like many others are trapped in this evil cycle where doesn't matter how many verses or videos or hadiths shown, she refused them all and blame everything on me. Please help,Ya Mufti. Jazakallah khair
Can you do a video about raging over games and gamer effects? If you can ofcourse you don't have too tho! Thank you for your help :)
I obey my Mom and my Little sister always....If they are wrong, I do not question or correct them. If they tell me something and it's wrong...I apologize to them for misunderstanding them. If they do something wrong towards me, I forgive them right away.
lahawlawalaquwatailabillah Allah forgive my family
Thank you mufti menk For this powerful message
daily dhikr
mashallah
lailahailalahu muhamdurasoolulah
allahu akbar
subhanallah
alhamdulilah
astaghfirullah
hasbunallahu wa nimal wakeel
la quwata ilal billahil aliyul azim
dont forget to recite
I have a question. Could i remove my unibrown. Please awnser it
Jazakallahkhair Shiek Mufti Menk 💞🤲
Kindness respect does not work
Thanks!
Can the devil or jinn use a mother to destroy her own children ?
جزاكم الله خيراً رجاء ترجمه عربي
Salam shaikh would you plz put some light on dropshipping I just start listening to imams learned that it is not halal if you can kindly tell us about it , Jazakallah
i am listening you because of my mother i respect my mother and i respect Mufti menk because my mother is also a Mufti menk she is illiterate 😊
You should do it lilahi ta'Ala, not respected brother Mufti Menk, wa Allahu alem.
what the
Assalaamu alaikum warahmatulahi wabarakatu. Can someone advice me please. My mother talks bad about me and lies about me and also gives my stuff away to people without asking. She is not muslim. I took shahada. She is really nice to my face but i hear her on the phone how she lies about me. I take care of her, live with her, sacrificed my marriage because of her lying but yet she talks bad of me. She tries to manipulate me to do Christmas and birthday and easter etc whivh i refuse to do and she says.. You have to make me happy you said as your a Muslim, so make me happy and do this and that. I refuse still but then she says she is depressed because of it and its emotionally hurting her. Is it haram for me to be upset with her and annoyed with her and her actions? I have even heard her tell people she doesn't love me or my sister but she tells us she does because she has to but she doesn't feel any love for us.
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A question to mr.mufti🥺
I wish a reply 😔
For our family reason nowadays the relation of my mom with me is not in good situation... Cause of the inner pain i got from my family whenever my mom came to talk to me unknowingly i end up misbehaving with her Everytime... I realised my mistake but i can't correct it cause in my life there are some huge mistakes my parents did which i can't forget..... so what i did later is I stoped talking with her so that i won't have to misbehave if i don't talk with her....BUT it has been 3 days and the situation seems more worst she put all the blams on me and calling me ungreatful daughter. Etc.
I am not talking with her still. Am i doing it right?
Allah Hu Akbar
Allāhu Akbar! Jazākh Allāhu khayran Yā beloved sheick 💖💖💖💖💖🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Jazak Allah you are my favourite mufti.from whom guidance my depression removes
salaam, is there a contact forum where I can reach you regarding a highly confidential matter regarding suicidal ideations? it’s urgent. topic: difficult unrelenting family
Allah bless help support uplift us all in matters issues problems, the children of Adam Havv'a /Eve regardless race culture colour nationality. Ameen
Sheik, can you please tell how a daughter should behave with her parents after marriage
Aoa mufti menk I need your help with something I don’t understand
Toxic mothers help me may Almighty help me deal wuth mine. Patience. 😀
my mother wished death on me and says she hates me
don't worry my mother told me that a lot, I really don't mind it, people say anything when angry take over them, they really dont mean it trust me.
Please subtitles add English
May God have mercy on them as they raised me when I was a child
"Webil walidey ihsana" no matter what will happen to me inshallah ❤
what do you do about people with anger problems that say things they don't mean
My mother is never nice to me. only when i give money she tries.. my father comes from wealthy homes does nothing for my mother
this people 3 times stolen and this people also want blame which I never do like " melempar batu sembunyi tangan " artinya mereka yang melakukan kesalahan dan kesalahan itu mereka ingin limpahkan kesaya bukan kah itu haram.
so what do i do if my father hit my mother infront of me and i used force to accidently hurt him
Jazakumllahi Khair. Just like my mum forcing me to do shirk💔
yh cant lie its the same in my culture we ask someone who was once a pious person to ask allah for forgiveness, like the person is dead but we ask him to ask allah like what. My mum has allowed me to stop tho so it fine now
@@maxlong9034 I don’t understand pls, can you explain better?
I feel you my mother tells me all wrong things and she is doing all for money and I keep listening from people obey her and respect her I don't know what to do she is very much toxic very much 😭😭😭😭😭
My mother teases me she blames me I am depressed by her .what I can do
My mother is REALLY TOXIC ! SHE KEEPS GOSSIPING/BACKBITING (Talking about me behind my back , when im in bedroom) with my WORST ABUSER - NARCISSISTIC ELDEST BROTHER , who abused me for 3 yrs ( WHILE i Sat/resting at Home with CHRONIC HEALTH DISEASES - pain in Scrotum, constant nightfalls, etc , & have SOCIAL ANXIETY DISORDER, Depression ) He constantly DRIVEN Me HOPELESS, HELPLESS towards suicidal state !
She keeps doing this even i tell HER IT REALLY HURTS & GIVES ME PANIC ATTACK everytime ! I feel "VERY LONELY 😢😭😞 " when she gossips with others about me !
What shud I Do ? Thinking of running away or Suicide when i can't take it ANYMORE !
I am also searching for answer, I cant give you advice but, be strong Allah knows and see everything. you are not alone,
Hard life.
I know what you going through may ALLAH MAKES IT EASIER FOR YOU
Salamualikum, is forex Haram or halal?
Subhan Allah