I restored my natural curls with this curly hair routine! (2C/3A curls with curly bangs)
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
- I have had curly hair my entire life, but once I got pregnant with. my son, my hair grew completely straight for the entire 9 months, and then a year after that while I was nursing. I have been on a journey for the last couple of years to find my curls and re-learn how to do them. It has been a really emotional but successful process (and at times, really frustrating!) I wanted to make this video to share everything that I've learned over this past year, as well as share why it's so important to me to rediscover my curls. Links to all the products and tools that I used in this video can be found below. This is not a sponsored video, these are all products that I own and have purchased with my own money and love so much!
Transform your postpartum hair with this easy-to-follow tutorial for natural curls! In this video, I'll show you how to style your natural curls with simple techniques that will leave you with bouncy, beautiful curls every time. From pre wash treatments, to washing and conditioning, to diffusing and styling, I'll guide you through each step of the process. Whether you're a seasoned curly girl or just starting out, this tutorial is perfect for anyone looking to enhance their natural curls. Get ready to fall in love with your curly hair maybe for the first time, or all over again!
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I’m a hairdresser and I just want to commend you on doing such a great job of explaining your routine! This is one of the clearest hair tutorials I’ve seen. Well done Elyse!
I have two children that have curly hair and I have not found anyone that could explain the process except they weren't supposed to wash daily or every other day, only once every three weeks or so. And lots of grease buy their hair is not the same. So now going to make 2 girls work through a routine with me because they want their curls to look amazing.
@@mamagraywolfe1952 A tip from my own experience: check the product ingredients as well. For me, it's not just that washing too often is an issue but also that using shampoo or conditioner (and other products now) with certain ingredients messes up my hair. There are a few that make my hair very greasy, while others dry it out. Some of each are in the products I was brought up using.
While curly girl method helps with this, I put off trying it for a long time due to how overwhelming it was for me. I found the "wavy girl method" information very helpful, not because my hair is not really curly or kinky but just from the information being much more approachable and flexible. There's one website/blog for it that explains what to do (written & video), what product names mean, order of products, good considerations in being flexible, how to do this economically, and more. That made me finally start.
Now, I like to get things that are CGM "approved," but I'm not severe with it. There are a few websites to check things, which I find from searching "curly gurl method product check" or similar. If it's not "approved," they list why. Sometimes it's something I care about, other times it's not important to me or actually something I'm looking to have in the product. At one point, I was annoyed that I couldn't find an approved product with a certain ingredient I wanted to try... turns out the ingredient isn't approved. It is, however, great for my hair!
If you're looking to try things and want to keep costs low, I have had a lot of luck with things from that blog and others taking about affordable options. I've also had a lot of luck using cantu products, especially in terms of seeing if I even like a certain type of product (like curl activator or mousse). I feel okay learning and experimenting with it at that price point, which might help with you and your daughters (hence mentioning it). While I planned to then try other brands, for some items I've bought more of the same given how it works.
Also, thank you for helping them with this and being open to learning. My own journey world have been a lot better and healthier with someone like you in my life, so I love seeing when others have that. It's about the hair but so, so much more.
Good luck!
Please don't feel pressure to respond to this. If you don't mind, though, would you share a few tips/resources for cutting wavy, curly, and kinky hair?
@@musictherapy3976 would you be so kind as to share the online resource you mentioned for wavy hair approach to the curly girl method? I’d love to explore it :)
TOTALLY agree 💯 👍
as a mixed raced dude my dad would turn the car around and make my brothers and i brush our hair straight so it wouldn't be messy for school. now my oldest bro straightens his hair, my middle bro shaves his head, im trying to learn how to respect the curls my mom gave me and it is so much information and work. thank you so much for these tutorials.
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Such an emotionally loaded experience to just get ready in the morning.
Wow.. that's unfortunate .. maybe he was just old school and couldn't break his brain out of the box of what you do with Caucasian or even Latino hair that's straighter.. by combing it down.. my kids are also biracial.. I'm Latina and hubby is black.. both my kids have inherited curl.. my daughter more tight dense ringlets and my son more lose thicker hair..i would get up by 5 every school morning to work with thier curls.. on my daughter all of her hairstyles even pony tails or left loose i would finger curl while wet to get these gorgeous perfect curls and on my son just making sure his curls looked prominent and well defined not frizzy.. but thier hair was important to me and I wanted them to love it and they do.. hope you start to enjoy your curls and maybe once they take note of how nice they can look your brothers will get on board.. people don't know how serious hair can be in our self love journey and the view we have of ourselves..
@@perlitabonita185 yeah he was just old school. back in the 40s his teacher would send him home to comb his hair so he expected the same in the 90s. thanks for the reply and i hope your kids appreciate what you're teaching them and that they can do it themselves soon so you can sleep in a little haha.
Your hair needs may be different from hers. Of all of my siblings, 4 of us are biracial, same father, two different mothers.
My mother's hair was baby fine but also had a little bit of curl to it. It wasn't obvious because it was so fine, but when her hair was wet it did curl up a little. The younger two, their mother's hair is stick straight and not fine. It's not coarse. It's just not fine.
Our father's hair is very definitely 4C, but also ridiculously soft.
My sister can use heat to perk up her curls. If I use heat to curl my hair it will be straight by the end of the day.
My hair is also a lot drier and curlier than hers (It's actually gotten less curly as I've gotten older, not sure why), so it doesn't do the same thing.
My brothers are also very different. The one I share a mother with has hair that can hold it a really nice 'fro. The other one just basically has a bunch of curls.
All that is to say that if what she's using doesn't work, you may need to take a look in the black hair care aisle. You won't necessarily need the heavy grease, but you may want to add a very light oil to your hair after you wash it.
Drying it with a t-shirt and squeezing rather than rubbing, that's pretty much good for most of us.
“I was really afraid to take up space.” That really resonated with me. What a perfect way to articulate that feeling. I feel that so much.
Isn’t it so sad so many of us felt this way? Then our frizz just added to it.
This comment hit me so hard. 😢😢
Agree
The afraid to take space, seems to resonate with so many. Honestly, this is part of exactly what I felt when I was young; I never heard it put that way! Thank you! As far as this routine, I love it and has worked on my 50+ year old hair, I tend to avoid it because it takes so long! I’m not very patient with my routine.
How the heck did a instructional video on hair becomes so therapeutic? Thank you. I really freaking needed it.
I struggled with the EXACT same thing, two brothers and not feminine. Picked on. And hating my curls then. I started loving my hair in my 30's. I'm you. I'm crying. THANKS! ❤️ 😊🫂
Your curls look stunning!! So happy you like wavetech wave foam too 😊
Checking online to see where to buy this
@@LisaAllenmakeupaddict You can have mine! 😄 The scent gives me migraines, and the Xmondo Wavetech line was very drying on my hair.
@@KayoEll if she passes I’d happily take it!😊
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I enjoy what it does to my hair, but the smell is intense... I wish he'd make a scent free or low scent option.
As someone else who didn't want to be noticed or take up too much space, I tell you: being who you are is glorious. So proud of you.
I couldn’t say it any better @LaundryFaerie. Elyse thanks for being so candid and vulnerable with all of us. Your curls are lovely and congratulations for allowing them, and yourself, to take up space.
It's so glorious. Seeing people who always felt like they needed to hide, finally bloom as who they feel they were meant to be... Now I'm tearing up too, it's just so nice 🥹
I'm just gonna tuck my concurrence back behind here, y'all've expressed the sentiment so eloquently and sensitively, and I don't want to take up any more room than is necessary. Actually, this is awkward, mental note, come back to delete this for anxiety relief..
As a boy with curly hair who really wants to take better care of his hair, but is afraid of getting juged for it. I feel you and thank you so much.❤
It's wonderful to care for yourself! Love your hair and ignore any judgment, "What others think of us is none of our business." Good luck finding a haircare routine that works for you Sir❤
Judgement comes mostly from the jealous. Be you, and the right people will find you 😀💛
As a man with curly hair, do it! The man version of you will thank you. It's your hair, kid, not theirs. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Thanks, have a nice day.
Do it! Guys with curls are the best❣️
Another hair stylist here just wanting to commend you! You made this SO easy to understand. I love the visuals you gave (visual learner here)! Your hair is stunning and you have such a sweet spirit. You were made to shine!
I have had curly hair my whole life and tried to watch a million videos. Elise did in 15:15 what others have failed to do my whole life time. I love how simple and easy she makes this for us fellow curly haired friends!
literally I've never master the denmann brush curl, but this makes it look easy? Will definitely try along the video!
I was 6 feet tall, curly haired, awkward girl at 14 and the part where you talked about being afraid to take up space was so relatable to me. I am emotionally right there with you.
Same! I remember clearly one day in class a bully said "I can't see the blackboard behind this mess." I was mortified. I chemically straightened it for years and I hated my hair. I've been in the same journey as many other curlies have and now I love how big and pretty it is. I receive so many compliments for my curly hair now! Remember, it's a process, but if you learn how to love and care for it, it'll give you love back, and it will get beautiful and healthy 😊
Yes
No one talks about the emotional aspect of having curls as a child as a teenager🥺 i felt every single word you said♥️
Same. I listened to a few of her podcasts and realized I relate to her a lot! Several times I was like, “is that Me talking!?”
same ❤
Same 🥲🥲🥲 especially in the 90s and 00s when that pin straight hair was back in style...
I was so obsessed with straightening my hair as a teen now I am thirty realizing I want long curly red hair like Merida from Brave. My daughter has beautiful curls and I hope she always embraces them.
I hear ya! Same here 😊
This is the best curly hair tutorial I’ve watched. You condensed like 30 videos I’ve watched into a clear and concise video.
Thank you for talking about how “not taking up space” translates into downplaying our curls. That really hit home.
Yeah. This is my first full length video I've watched by Elise, but it's also the simplest, clearest explanation of the curly routine that I've seen. I think I might try it.
When you spoke of not being perceived and taking up space, I choked up. I have never been able to put into words how I have felt my whole life, but here we are. You are amazing. Im done making myself small.
It wasnt until I was 30+ years old that I realized I had curly hair because my mom refused to deal with my hair. She always told me my hair was messy when it was just curly. Now I'm trying to figure out how to take care of my curls. This was honestly the nicest and easily broken down tutorial that I've seen.
My mom just didn’t know. My twin and I were told until I was 16 or so that we had “thick”, “frizzy”, “coarse” hair. Low and behold we had been brushing out our curly hair 😮
I was 50ish when I learned I had curly hair. I had always blown my hair out into a bob or some other style & when I was tired of doing it, I cut it super short so I didn’t have to do it & just wanted to wash & go. I waited to schedule a haircut & as it was growing, I realized then that my hair was curly & so I’ve been embracing the curls since. 🙂
It's crazy how many of us go through this! I was in my 40's when I stopped straightening my hair. My mother always brushed my hair out and told me how difficult it was to "fix". I have beautiful curls that I embrace everyday. I'm so glad we're all getting to this spot in our lives where we see and embrace ourselves. Love your hair Elyse!!
Me too! I didn’t realize I had natural curly hair until I was in my early 30’s. I always relaxed it but wanted curly hair. I was so happy when I found it. I love my hair.
Saaame. My mom has very straight hair. She would just brush my hair, it would be huge and frizzy, and she would put that V05 hairdresser ointment on it. I’m 38, and have been doing the CGM for almost a year. I’m a 2C 3A.
71 y/o and still trying to learn to “rock my curls”. Hate my curls one day, then love them the next. I love that you shared your feelings, and love your curls!
Same here. Was told to straighten my hair my entire life, but my curly mane suits my personality much better. Learning to embrace them!
totally agree, carolturner1976.....thank you elyse, for your instruction and candid curl talk
❤l love your curls.
My hair became straight when I was pregnant. I had 4 children and it got straighter with every pregnancy. I’m 72 now and it is very curly again. I really understand where you are coming from. Proud of you.
Thank you for your response! I’m glad to know we’re not alone! My hair turned curly when my hit puberty. Then, with my first pregnancy, it decreased a level. Fourteen years later I was pregnant for my second time. Again my curls decreased, but this time it was significantly. I just barely had some waves left. Then just about a year later I was pregnant with my third and final son. And I lost what little wave I had left! I was miserable with my hair because I didn’t know how to manage straight hair! I wore a lot of braids. My hair did increase its speed of growth! In two years it grew from shoulder length to just below my waist! That’s the longest it’s ever been! About six years ago I had a complete hysterectomy. Not long after, my hair started growing in with waves. So my conclusion is that it has to do with hormones! Anyone else have a related experience/opinion?
I also had mine get curly with puberty. Two of my sisters also. With my first my curls got much curlier and then with my second pregnancy a year later it got more straight. It felt like it went limp. Hormones have a huge role in curly hair. I think your health and nutrients do also.
I turned 30 and suddenly I had spiral curls. Will try because I’m interested to see what happens. You are lovely and the end was amazing. 14:49
I have curly hair, but it became so much thicker and way more curly with all 3 of my pregnancies. Now it's thin and brittle and not as curly. I hope it gets better as I get older.
Mine was the opposite!!! Stick straight until pregnancy! Now I have super thick, wavy and curly hair and I’m clueless about what to do with it
My curls haven’t been the same since pregnancy. The curl training with the brush handle has been a game changer. Thank you for making this.
This video is edited and produced SO WELL. I am shook. The text, images, wow. I don’t even have curly hair and I watched it all. Kudos.
Same!!
I agree.. this is the first time I've understood this method.
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Same
😂 same! I have straight hair ...but it's such a good video
"I was afraid to take up space." That really hit me because even as an adult I tell myself "don't be a bother, don't be annoying." I think many of us feel your statement although in different ways. As someone with straight hair I always wished mine was curly! I had a friend when I was in Middle School who had hair with beautiful chunky curls and I was always so jealous!
Same here. I can relate to all of it apart from not having curly hair
I have seen countless curly girl videos and have always left feeling completely overwhelmed and have yet to try to embrace my natural curls. Yours is the first video I’ve watched that makes the process not only make sense but feel approachable. For the first time since I was a teenager; you’ve made me decide to go for it and get my curls back. Thank you for taking the time to put this together. It was brilliantly done. ❤️❤️❤️
Check out Manes by Mell if you never have she is also excellent
Do it!! You can even switch back and forth between Curly Girl Method and conventional, just make sure to do a sulfate wash in between to remove silicones and other products. I learned the hard way that oily Curly Girl products and heat styling don't mix. My hair literally got cooked and horribly damaged and frizzy.
Me at the beginning of this video: "Maybe I should do this."
Me at the middle of this video: "I don't have time to do this."
Me at the end of the video: "I'm worth taking time to do this." ♥
if u did, did it work??
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Same! 😂
I definitely agree with this line of thinking. Especially since I’ve had my daughter 5 months ago
How long did it take?
“I was afraid to take up space.” Wow, I related to this! I wore my hair in a ponytail every single day, even in my own home, from the age of 11-18. I was terrified of people seeing my hair and commenting on it because I was so insecure. This was also the early/mid 2000s when pin straight hair was super trendy and I felt like a frizzy mess compared to all the other girls at my school. I’m 28 now and I love my hair more than ever! Thank you for this tutorial and the little therapy session at the end! 💕
Omg I could have written this comment. I wore my hair up for YEARS, I was so insecure of my hair!
Wow, I’m 28 too and for me it was a perfectly curated low “messy” bun. No one in my high school knew I had absolutely ringlets. I feared that frizz would make people think I was the opposite of put together
Oh man I completely relate to this. I’m very shy and I stuck out like a sore thumb in school so naturally I began to straighten my hair to blend in. It also didn’t help that I’m the only person in my family with curly hair!
I’ve gone through curly journeys a few times but I’m still struggling with fully accepting it. My roots are extremely curly so I hope to one day do a big chop and start fresh with my curls
I think so many women are ‘taught’ by society to be small. 😢
Wow, we have the exact same hair timeline. I'm 28 as well, and I wore a ponytail exclusively from 11 until college when I felt like I could wear my hair down because no one knew another version of me. It's so freeing now!
As a fellow curly girl who was afraid to take up space I feel this! Now I rock giant curls and so does my daughter who got them from me :)
Same! My son has curly hair and everyone asks where he got it from. Now I show them it’s me!
Your hair is FABULOUS! I’m 67 and just now, for the first time,realized I have curly hair. I’ve struggled with “frizzy, puffy hair” my whole life. But, that’s because I didn’t realize it’s curly and needs special handling. Your tutorial is exceptional and I will use your techniques this week. Thank you!
How did it go???
@@sarahsavagebassett7134 I’m still learning! I’m going today to get a “curly cut”. I’m hoping this will help with my hair shape.
OMG! My curly cut experience was AMAZING! The stylist not only cut my hair, but spent 2 hours with me teaching me everything I needed to know to create gorgeous, soft curls. My curls are set free!
@@brendarothchild2104 im so happy for you!!
@@brendarothchild2104 this makes me so happy!!! 🎉❤
I can't begin to tell you how unintentionally you are hitting the raw spots I have needed to allow myself to expose. I too was a bigger kid and when you said " I was really afraid to take up space" l felt that so deeply...even still... You are so impactful, and for that I am grateful ☺
The struggles of what you went through as a kid both in struggling to accept and embrace your femininity as well as being afraid as a bigger person to take up more space, to draw attention to yourself and to stand out because of them I feel on a spiritual level with you and I am so happy to see you loving that part of yourself openly. Thank you for sharing this with us
“I was really afraid to take up space, in every way.” Oh man, that line alone brought me to tears. It felt so raw and true, and it really hit home for me. A lifetime of being told my wavy, frizzy hair was too big. That I was too thin, and then “nice and chubby” after having children. That I laughed too loud, and smiled too big. The list goes on, and it makes me sad to even read now! The “how dare you?” and “you’re a liar” are things I’ve thought countless times, but you always think you’re alone. So thank you for being so vulnerable 💕
PS. My hair became MUCH straighter during my pregnancies… plus I lost a TON post-partum. Now I find myself missing my “poofy” hair!
so much imposter syndrome ❤️ when will it go away and let us be????
I relate to this so much. Never wanted to take up space. Always wanting to make myself smaller.
This is not only the best hair tutorial I’ve ever seen but the best UA-cam tutorial period. I don’t have curly hair but I do make instructional content for a living and this video is impeccable. Everything from the progress guide, to the why’s for each step, I’m truly inspired. Not only does Elyse seem like the kindest person but she’s amazing at what she does, I’m never not impressed.
Same girly.. I am a South Indian curly haired girl and most of the girls my age are around 5 to 5'2 feet something tall but I am 5 foot 6 with long black curly hair and I am a curvy girl, many people mistake for being older and even my own family and mom say that I standout too much so they try to cover me up with extreme modest clothes and always ask me to speak and laugh in a "lady like " manner, to this day it hurts me ( I am senior in highschool) but now I am tryna stand up for me and luv myself.. glad to find someone relatable❤
I’ve never run across your content before, but I got emotional right along with you because your story is so similar to my own. It’s true what they say: “If you ask a curly girl about her hair, she’ll tell you about her life.” It is so true that the process of accepting and loving your curls can actually be a process of accepting and loving yourself. I enjoyed this video so much and your curls are gorgeous. You found a new subscriber in me 😊
Not gonna lie, for me this was one of the best curly hair tutorials I’ve watched. You explained the reason for each step. Your entire life journey has been a blessing to watch ❤️
As a mama of a 7 year old daughter with your same hair type, it broke my heart to hear how you felt as a child. And reminded me of why I (with only 2a waves myself) immediately started reading and studying up on curls when she was turning 2, so I could help her love them always. I’m so glad you’re having this experience now. I’m crying right along with you. ❤
I would love to see a kid friendly version of this tutorial. Like, what is realistic for a young child to sit through for styling and manage? Should the products/ styling change with curly haired kids as they grow?
@@NightwingAquaman definitely my daughter’s routine is much more simple, and it always has been. You can find kids curly hair routines if you search! But at a certain point they can just use small amounts of regular adult products and have a simplified pared down routine. You definitely have to accept and embrace the frizz with kids, in my personal experience. But I don’t speak for any other textures of hair than mine and my daughter’s.
@@NightwingAquaman we only air dry, and my styling routine for her takes under a minute. I just get her to sit and read, or sit and play with some stationary thing for at least an hour to get a start on drying. Then after that, kids are going to be kids, and I don’t stress about the hair being perfect. Biggest styling ‘rule’ I had to teach her was to never touch her hair when it’s drying. So she just keeps her hands off, doesn’t put on hats etc when it’s wet.
Thank you for the awesome tutorial and your vulnerability. I feel most of us curlies have hated our hair and then grown to accept and love it. It is a crown on our heads. You are beautiful and take all the space that you can!
"Why not change something about myself so that I can be loved by others." That is so honest and real. Thank you for sharing this!
I’m 41, grew up without a mom, just men. I feel seen and understood by your explanation of the fear of perception/taking up space. Got super emotional with you while watching. Thanks for helping me with the courage to try this out and accept my curls. ❤
you’re glowing elyse. you’re not only allowed, but encouraged to take up space. thank you from the bottom of my heart for posting this, im grateful for your story and tutorial in every way. this was such a helpful and amazing video. i can speak for all of us when i say that you’re so beautiful and worthy to feel that within your curls.
I swear to god if i ever got a chance to meet her and like I was at some table with a handicapped spot (I’m in a wheelchair) I would offer to make room for her to sit because I would just love to talk to her.
Woa, your sincerity & vulnerability are incredible. This goes beyond a comprehensive how-to video and hits on something deeper and more introspective. As someone who has curly hair and is just now (30’s) truly understanding how to care and style and embrace my hair I’m feeling inspired and seen. Thank you truly 💜
My hair turned curly at about 12-13. I'm 39 now and still struggling with how to manage it. Thank you for this video. It's so clear, concise, and easy to maintain. I'd love a video on non-wash day hair. That is the one I just cannot get a handle on. ❤️
I realized my hair stupid frizzy hair was actually just curly when I was 14. I saw a commercial for frizz-ease. My mother couldn’t be bothered so I convinced my dad to buy it for me. He was great. He bought me the entire line. It only took a few days for my curls to show up.
Mine did that too before the age of about 11 or 12 I had straight "Marcia Brady" hair and then it turned curly and it was horrible because no one knew what to do with it and it was frizzy nightmare.
For 2nd and third day hair just mist your hair with a mister like she shows in the video! It reactivates the product and the curls and helps tone down any frizz that shows up over night. Then you can scrunch in more product and re-diffuse/air dry.
This is huge for me!!!! I am 65 years old and just started to embrace my curly hair. I grew up thinking it was the worst part of me! Can’t wait to try it out. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!! Love you❤
I’m also 65 and was the only person in my family with curls. I grew up with my mom calling it frizz though. I was taught to brush it and try to make it straight. I was born in Seattle and grew up not for from the Olympic Rain forest. Frizz, frizz, & more frizz. So anyway I grew up thinking that I only had curl in the very back of my head at the nape of my neck. I straight ironed and even ironed my hair on the ironing board with an iron.
Not once has a hairdresser ever mentioned me giving into the curl. I never knew my whole head had curl. My hair now is naturally salt and light pepper. It’s very long with long layers. I’m still learning products but it has quite a bit of wave and curl to it.
I’m going to cut it this weekend and for the first time grow curly hair. I hope anyway.
You are not only worthy of taking up space, you enhance the space and those around you! Your honesty is refreshing and you not only taught me things about taking care of my hair, you touched my heart in so many ways. Keep on learning how to love yourself - you are wonderful! 🥰❤
i'm going to try this, i've always put my hair in a hair bun because everyone always told me i looked ridiculous, but no one taught me how to take care of it. now i'm 30 and i still put my hair in a bun. i am finally ready to stop thinking about others and take this time of my fiancé dumping me to learn this. i have to love myself. thank you. I'll let you know.
Dear Elyse,
You are an inspiration!! Truly. You have been such an inspiration to me. As a woman with ADHD. As a socially awkward person. As someone with anxiety. As a mom. As an indecisive person. As someone who struggles with insecurities. As someone who battles people pleasing. As someone who struggles with depression and has been suicidal. As someone who has fought her curly hair for over two decades. Thank you for sharing your experiences, opinions, and life with the world, as well as this tutorial!! I enjoy all your videos and podcast and love how sincere you are. Keep being your authentic self and don’t let anyone make you feel less than the exceptional person you are!! 💕
Wow, this is so powerful!
Thank you for sharing. I am so grateful for Elyse and her voice in this world - having the courage to be vulnerable and share challenges, struggles and victories. This video is about the hair but it’s also not about the hair it’s about - many things, including noticing ways we seek to please and might lose ourselves in the process, learning to listen to our own voice and growing the courage to be ourselves in a world that wants conformity. 💜
@@rachelforshee6014I can understand if this is your first and only video you’ve seen of Elyse, my comment may seem silly for this particular video. However, I’ve been following her content on Instagram, TikTok, and UA-cam. What she shares is funny, honest, open, uplifting, embracing, and many things she said or gone through are things I’ve also experienced, yet felt so alone in those experiences. It’s very relieving to know there are others out there with similar experiences, most of which are rarely mentioned in our society.
I’ve lived in Alaska and Idaho. Im a few years older than Elyse and am very thankful for her content. ☺️
I have very straight hair, but I decided to watch this anyway to see what you have learned. I am so glad I did! What an amazing journey you have been on! Congratulations on finding that love for who you are.
I just had the same experience. It's so lovely to see some one grow and really come to love themselves. Elyse is the best!
Same here, as well. 🤍
SAMEEEEEE!!! Had to come watch the evolution & self acceptance. Just lovely.
At 57 I started letting my hair curl in 2020, of course when no one was around. My hair is long and curly and now I am considering letting my grey come through. I am glad you learned to love your hair at a younger age. I think my inhibition began in high school when all of my sisters had extreme straight hair and called my curls messy if not combed out. Funny they all got perms for decades. Love your content!.
I embraced my grey during covid and I love it! I do have a long mohawk with pink tips,but I'm so glad I embraced my silver side
I’m 41 and doing the long hair. The grays are coming through and I’m loving it!
I'm 38 & let my Gray grow out bc it's expensive to get hair colored. I have wavy hair but am trying to train the waves bc some are really curly. I get compliments from older women that still color their hair. They all say they wish their Gray would look good "like mine" but I think we all have such beautiful patterns, if we let it grow out. My Gray now looks like balayage to me & I don't mind it at all. I trip out that the Gray stands grow long now bc I used to have so much breakage. I actually like seeing a full length Gray strand. It makes me smile. I feel like it's my Glitter & that makes me happy. 😊
You are such a sweet soul! Your voice, is so soothing! Thanks for the tips! I'm 68 years old and I'm still trying to figure out the best routine for my curly hair...
I've bought many many products, but still haven't found the one that works best for my hair. That's why I watch so many curly hair videos! Thank you for taking the time putting yours online! I love your curls! Looking forward to your other videos!
Elyse as someone who grew up with big frizzy curly hair I identify with all of what you said and actually cried when the Disney movie Brave came out because I finally saw a Disney princess with hair like mine. I just love you for sharing this with us so vulnerably. I just used your method and my hair looks great!❤
"I am allowed to take up space" 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 so much power in this! Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability, Elyse! Your insight helps me learn to love myself too
SAME! 💓
Your emotions around your curly hair & around taking up space resonate with me on an incredibly deep level. My mom had pin-straight dark hair. She and my sister both got perms at times to make their hair curly (I’m an 80’s/90’s kid). I had this thick frizzy red mop of hair that no one seemed to know what to do with except constantly try brush out and de-tangle. When I was just out of college, I got a professional haircut & let my hair dry without messing with it & it curled! It still didn’t saw on my that I actually had naturally curly hair, though, and I just thought it was some kind of years-long fluke. I got my hair permed straight at one point because I didn’t know what to do with it & whenever I tried brushing it out, it just poufed up into a frizzball. When COVID hit, I randomly didn’t try to “fix” my hair & it dried curly. After nearly two years, it finally dawned on me that I have curly hair & I started this journey of embracing my natural curls. It’s been emotional, healing, and empowering, to say the least! Sending you so much love and light as you continue you’re journey as well! 💖✨
It's amazing how much something as "silly" as hair can impact our whole life. It's not just about vanity, it's self acceptance, and realizing that we've been fighting against something that's a natural part of us, and how that connects to so many other parts of our lives. It's also funny/heartbreaking that others try so hard to have attributes that come naturally to us, yet we're trying to get what others have too! Sucks that it takes us til our 30s/40s to realize this stuff! 😢😅
Thank you this got me emotional too - after straightening my hair for about 16 years I am finally letting my natural curls do their thing so am in learning mode and the end of your video resonated with me lots. ❤
I’m a mom of a 14 year old girl who struggles with her curls. I loooove her curls and I so want her to feel happy and proud of her own natural self. I’m excited to share this with her. Thank you!
Love it so much!! ❤❤❤ Your hair is looking so stunning!
Came here to understand my natural hair again...over 40. And just wow. Thank you for the super detailed how to, but more importantly...bless you, woman. The vulnerability you showed in mentally dealing with the hurdle of learning to love yourself as you are was just what I needed to hear! Loved this so much! ❤❤❤
I spent so much of my childhood exactly where you were for exactly those reasons . You didn't expect to get emotional explaining your routine, I certainly didn't expect to get emotional watching it. I don't have the word to express how not alone you made me feel. You rock! Hugs to you!!❤
Same here....❤
I wanted to say the same thing! Same history, same feelings. So glad we are not alone in this.
I don’t even have curly hair, but I couldn’t stop listening. Your story, your journey, is so beautiful Elyse.
I so admire how honest and authentic and vulnerable but most importantly forward moving you are. You reflect, emote and then keep going with newfound wisdom. I’m easily 10 years older and definitely envy your inner and outer beauty because it seems so genuine.
Thank you for discussing this. As a teen in the early 2000s who was also an emo kid, straight hair was it. I HATED my hair. I hated that it felt like EVERYONE had an opinion on it too. I was never taught how to take care of my hair. It always looked like a frizzy mess until I got a hair straightener at 14 and fried it every day. Now I’m in my 30s trying to figure it out and frustrated for the little girl in me who deserved better.
I relate so much. I was always told that it was my fault for not caring for my hair, but... I tried. The actually problem was that I was only ever told how to care for thin, straight hair. Even getting haircuts, I'd get yelled at when my hair wasn't even (cut wet) afterwards. My family members would get irritated by frizz or dryness (where I couldn't even see) and insist I brush it. I now realize that's why it got worse, not me. I've been leaning into my hair, and it's so much better. It's still a struggle and a process to accept it (especially with certain family still commenting their ignorance).
Literally exact same boat. You got this! ☺️
it can be so healing to your inner child to embrace and master the thing that caused you hurt and feel beautiful in the process
Hey, I'm a chick in her 30s who has only JUST started to embrace her curls and try and do a more indepth routine for accentuating and loving my curls as they are. Like others I really appreciate the straightforwardness and detailed routine you've shared. Always something new to learn- thank you so much!
Elyse, you are such a light in this dark world. Please, if you have the time, make a video on how you style your hair on a non-wash day! Those are the most tricky for me and my curls. I’ve been on a similar journey for the past 6 months and this really hit me in the feels ❤
I second this request. I’m still learning about my curly hair - always thought it was just ‘frizzy’ and messy and was trying to make it straight and smooth most of my life. But now the off-days are hardest for me as well. Although I am still finding the right products. I really LOVE my Beekman 1802 shampoo & conditioner, but as far as styling products I’m still open to trying new things, although the Unite Boing gel is okay.
And yes…as a person who doesn’t take up a small amount of space physically, embracing my curls has been a challenge emotionally, but definitely part of my healing journey. Thank you so much, Elyse - seeing you and your kindness always makes the world feel like a better place to be alive in🫶🏽🥰
I started my journey of embracing my curls about 5 years ago. I have watched HUNDREDS of videos, and this is by far the most helpful. Thank you!! ETA: just finished your video, you are so real and raw and a JOY. Thank you for taking up space. Thank you for being here and sharing yourself.
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Thank you for taking up space is well said!
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TOTALLY agree 💯👍
I’m in my mid 40’s. My 17 y/o daughter introduced me to one of your shorts. I just want you to know that even in this stage of my life, I can relate so much to your experiences. You express many of the same thoughts I find myself having. I’m really enjoying your content! As a mom
of a teenage girl, I approve! You are a gem! Keep sharing and creating, Dear!
They know so much more than what we knew at their age,,,I love to learn little things from the young ones
WOW. Absolutely STUNNING. Your curls are GORGEOUS! You’ve been blessed, dear.
The emotional toll of being a bigger girl with curly hair is so hard to recognize! Then when I finally started to accept and heal my body image, I got pregnant and lost my curls too! My first pregnancy is what inspired me to look into CGM and now that I’m pregnant again I miss my curls so much! I have to keep reminding myself they’ll come back.
When I watch youTube I heard some else comment about "losing" their natural curls while pregnant. I was shocked !! I don't have children but (until the person on the video made that comment) I had never heard of such a thing. Is it related to the huge shift in certain hormones ?? Why does this happen to some woman ♀️ and not others? That is very interesting to me. When your curls finally come back are they the same size and pattern ?
I hope yours will do what mine did...fall out (well, I don't wish you the falling out part!) after each pregnancy and then regrow curlier with a vengeance. I even lost hair after surgeries with general anesthesia and had the regrow be curlier. Wishing you the best luck!
I completely understand this. I was just feeling comfortable wearing (and feeling cute in) crop tops and "tighter-ish" clothes while also healing my curls...then I got pregnant and everything just went away. But I can't wait to meet my little boy and get back to where I was and this video will definitely help me out with the hair portion
Did they come back after the first pregnancy and how long did that take? I miss mine too.. :/
@@jeaninecousin8916, but hormones for sure! And post-partum hair loss got weird too!
I've been in and out of the curly girl stuff for forever. 10 years now. I could never find out how to make my 2c 3a curls work. And as I'm on a self love journey, I'm committed to trying this routine for myself! You have the curls I always dreamed of, but no one seemed to have a solid routine that would work for me. The too soft=more product tip is fugggin goolllddd!!!
I don’t even have curl hair and I watched EVERY SECOND of this video. Elyse - you are awesome. Thank you for sharing your journey and your heart ❤️
I am so incredibly glad I stumbled on your video... I'm 42 and I'm only about a month into this journey... I either straightened or just put it up and back.... I have always fought and hated my hair... And now I have a daughter. And I saw her hating her hair, and it crushed me.... Because she is soooo beautiful with her curls. I want to teach her to love them. So I knew I had to learn on myself so I could help her.... It's been life changing - and it feels like an insignificant thing to be so incredibly self conscious about .. just going through a day with the hair I've always hid. I don't recognize the face in the mirror. I still feel like I'm taking up way too much space. But knowing I'm not the only one to feel so MUCH about hair .. it made me feel vain - but you validated my feelings, and your vulnerability is endearing. Thank you for the tutorial. I'll follow you. But thanks for your honesty. Thank you so much for putting yourself out there. You're beautiful! And... As a self proclaimed Tom boy - you're really beautiful, and far more feminine than you realize. There is an inmate softness to you that is very sensitive and compassionate. That to me is feminity. I'd love to feel sexy in a dress, I just feel like a giant clown - so .. I'm the chick that likes pants and conservative tops, where I feel safe... At least now I can have fun with my hair. Step one, right?! Always be a work in progress... This section... The hair. Lol... Thanks again.
Me, a person with stick straight hair that won't even hold an artificial curl, here watching a curly hair tutorial and loving it because Elyse 🤷♀️
You're great, lady! And curls look awesome
I am 32 years old and have spent my entire life wishing my hair smaller. I accepted it was naturally frizzy and awful and embarrassing until a stylist recently told me it was actually extremely curly. I haven’t gotten to the place where I can rock my curls - don’t totally know how to do it on my own and I’m still battling my feelings about how it looks- but I am motivated to try after your tutorial and your super honest words at the end. Thank you very very much. ❤
I hope you come to a place where you're able to love your hair. ❤️ I started my natural hair journey one year ago. It's really hard at first! I was so self conscious. The curly tutorials and curly influencer videos were also really intimidating at first. I wish I would have seen a video like this when I started my journey. If you decide to go natural just stick with it! It's going to be hard at first, but you will eventually start feeling more confident. I'm finally able to love my hair as it is! It's a good feeling.
I totally understand where you are coming from. My life is very similar!!! I am now 65 and love my curls to distraction 😊. You go girl!!!
curls are awesome and know that you'll turn heads because people are jealous of your awesome locks!
@@indiecowan33 I agree! I have straight hair, but I would love to have naturally curly hair. The grass is always greener as they say lol! Whenever I see someone with beautiful curly hair, I always try to complement them on their curls because I've seen how much work goes into maintaining them.
Rebecca, you’re gonna look great ❤ try it out here and there and then gradually get into it (that’s what I did) I haven’t had straight hair in years now and feel like I would look so weird lol
I have followed your journey through the years, and I’m 100% sure that when I grow up I want to be like you (doesn’t matter that I’m 45); you are an inspiration to those of us who can greatly relate to you. Thank you for being transparent and courageous. You are beautiful! 🥰
I'm 43, and same! 😅
Holy Moly! How you ever figured this out - is amazing. I love curly hair! I wanted curly hair my whole life (I’m 70 now). Your beautiful curls are stunning! Thank you so much for sharing. You are truly beautiful inside & out. 🐣
I’m just coming across this video and teared up when you talked about not wanting to take up space with your body, hair, or voice. as someone who has always been in a plus size body my entire life who also has curly hair, that really hit home for me. so proud of how far you’ve come and love that you’re embracing your curls! ❤
I can’t tell you how many “curly girl” routines I’ve watched and felt so overwhelmed and like I’d never be able to do it. Also.. the overstimulation with products, I’ve never heard someone else feel that way. I so feel like I’m suffocating and instantly regret doing my hair. I’m hopeful to try these products or to find some that don’t make me feel that way! Thanks for taking up space to teach and share your voice. ❤❤❤
There is a warmth about you that is so wonderful.
I actually don’t have curly hair, but my sister does. And I KNOW she has had the same feelings about her hair being the only one in the family with curly hair.
Thank you so much Elyse for providing this video so I can send it to my sister. I’ve never known how to help her or encourage her with her hair because I legitimately don’t understand.
I’m so excited. She’s gonna LOVE it
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I was just wondering how in the world you managed this curly hair transformation, it is STUNNING! I haven't felt like other curly hair tutorials were realistic for me as a routine but I feel like I can try this out - thank you so much for the easy to follow explanation!
Same! This is the first realistic, clear tutorial I’ve seen! And now I actually understand how to plop!
@raneesamaniego8080 omg me too... My hair isn't long but it isn't short either and I never understood the plop until today!!!
My daughter went from a natural blonde to medium brown after her first pregnancy.
Ima 2abc girl, with short hair, and I’m tired of straightening my hair. My hair wants to separate into thin strings when I go curly, so I think I need the Denman brush. I also think your demonstration was the best I’ve seen on how to work with curly
I have had curly hair my whole life and I’ve never heard anyone explain all the steps in the curly girly process so well and so in detail as to why you only plop for so long or why you want the casing on your hair. Thank you so much Elyse. I love all your content, and am so honored we get to grow and learn while we watch you grow and learn. You are an incredible teacher and just an all around beautiful person. Thank you for taking up space. I will continue to visit all the spaces you fill so I can experience the beautiful space you create with your presence!!
This was so wonderful, thank you! I implemented some of the tips into my routine, but the best part of the video is you and your lovely soul. I cried. Being yourself and loving it, learning to love it...that is what we are here for.
I was the only person with curly hair in my family growing up (which I got from my late great aunt) so the knowledge of curl care didn't exist, I brushed and blew dried my hair as I was taught and I felt TERRIBLE because it never lasted like the other girls in class. Big frizz ball mess that made me extremely self conscious. It took me all the way after college to understand that I have real curly hair and how to take care of it! Curls have a mind of their own, so sometimes I just have to accept the way they want to be that day. They're still mine and so they are beautiful. So happy you have found peace and love for your natural beauty!
This was my story too! The sad part is that I’m 65 and only now learning to have curls.
Also my story. Made me terribly self conscious as a kid/teen. It took me until about age 45 to let my curls do what they wanted to do and love them.
I also spent my childhood and young adult years thinking I just had wonky 'thick' hair. I had NO CLUE that I had curls. As a child I was given haircuts that would have required me to use product and straighteners, when I was only armed with a fine toothed comb. You can imagine the shapeless frizz that produced! I can't believe I've spent my whole life thinking my hair was 'messy' instead of type 2c.
@@thewintering It’s amazing that we weren’t clued in, right? It blows my mind how we could have gone so many years and not have known but it’s true!
@@karlamaxine It seems like the most simple thing, but when you're told and treated like you have straight hair as a kid and don't have any curly-haired friends...
I’ve spent most of my life struggling with frizzy hair, I have like a mix of 2C 3A and my hair only looks good one day, and it’s after I wash it, so I’m really glad to finally be learning better techniques to be happier with it
I hated my hair until I was 27. I didn’t understand my curly hair and just threw it in a ponytail all the time. Learning to love and care for your hair really is life changing 💕
i finished doing this and….my 3b curls are back…my curls are back….THANK YOU so so much for this tutorial it’ll now be my go to wash day routine from now on. thank you so much elyse. youve practically helped me save and replenish my hair
I never knew someone else felt this way about their curls. I was the only one I knew with big, boofy, curly hair and I felt like it was too much, it made me stand out, people commented on it way too much, they made me so self conscious and my mother had no idea to look after them. I hated them and shaved them off once I got old enough. I'm now 37 and found a great hair care line that has taken the frizz out of my hair and I'm now, all these years later learning to love my curls. Thank you for such a well-put-together tutorial and vulnerability about something that others seem to not see as a big deal - curly hair and learning to love & take care of their curls.
Ugh! You done did it! You helped me overcome something I've ALWAYS struggled with for the EXACT SAME REASONS YOU EXPRESSED! I'm looking forward to washing my hair in the morning and letting my natural curls curl. Thank you for loving yourself the way you do because now I want to love me. I LEARNED IT FROM WATCHING YOU!!! 😂 😭 ♥
I LOVE YOUR CURLS! I fought my curls my entire life. I’m 49 now and about 15 years ago, I decided to be true to myself. When I was pregnant with my daughter, my hair grew in more straight as well. That’s when I realized that I missed my curls and that’s when I took action to love them again. Thank you for your tutorial. I know that you struggled with this, but it was wonderful. It was so good to see your journey. Thank you for sharing
I can’t say enough about how much I appreciate your genuineness, humanness (sp?), humility, humor, and generosity of spirit.
The details you gave is seriously going to help those with curly hair be able to achieve those magnificent curls! I've always had stick straight hair and envied those with curls, lol. Thank you for being so real, it's so refreshing!!!
“Afraid to take up space” = me too.
Elyse you are so lovely and open and honest. Thank you for all that you do to show me how it’s ok to take up space and to love my curly hair.
“I am allowed to take up space.” 👏🏼🎉 I couldn’t agree more! So honored to witness a part of your journey to loving your self/curls.
I’m just learning my waves for the first time in my life, but it’s because I grew up and had straight hair for the first 30 years of my life, and then after kids, my hair got wavy! We’ll see what my hair does after I deliver this one 🥰
And there is menopause that can change your hair. But that's a long time away for you.
was not expecting to be crying over a tutorial. thank you for feeling your feeling and sharing them. 😊
I feel like a mom, and feel so proud of you for finding confidence to take up your well deserved “space”. Get it girl!!!
I also had straight hair growth during pregnancy! I was previously so proud of the work I put into my curly hair and when it stopped responding I was so confused and felt like it was one of many mini identity crises that come with being a new mom. It has made me totally reevaluate my hair and honestly I’ve lost some interest in trying. Thanks for the inspiration to get back to it and find my gorgeous curls again.
Mine grew straight as soon as my baby was born and I hate it, it's just an identity thing when your hair suddenly stops being curly. Ughhhh how do I fix it???
I found this while looking for Denman tutorials. First, your technique was precisely what I was seeking, but I’m emotionally wrecked rn from watching this whole vid! I feel like you were telling me my own curly hair story that I didn’t know I had. Like a repressed memory or something. I’m crying with you in the vid because I’ve felt the same way about my curls and you articulated what I didn’t realize was there in the recesses of my mind!. Bodies and being perceived. Curls and taking up space. I’ve been repressing myself my whole life in these ways! Full on gobsmacked and calling my counselor in the morning!
Same!!
I was just watching because I have been liking her bouncy hair lately ( and always love her bouncy personality)
I didn't realize I would be crying by the end
Holy smokes girl I wasn’t expecting you to share exactly what I struggled with in my life. Being afraid to take up space. Literally and metaphorically. And when you said why would I take the time to love something about myself that no one else likes rather than just change it to what everybody else wants and be loved by everyone else. Daggers. You are a beautiful person and I’m so happy you have found your voice 🩷🩷🩷🩷
Thank you! So happy for you. I’m 62 this is my first year letting my curls go curly. People stop me and tell me how beautiful I am. I relate about not wanting to take up space. Let yourself shine, take up space, you’re amazing, be as beautiful as you are. So glad you’re not waiting till your 62!😄
I'm your age and starting my journey. I've tried before, but the other popular methods didn't yield a good result, so I always went back to blowing it out straight. The products seem better now, and fantastic tutorials like this one have me excited to accept and embrace what I've been fighting my whole life.
You are an absolute ray of light. My curly hair has becoming less curly as I move into perimenopause and I don’t want it to stop being curly. This is the most concise curly hair tutorial I think I’ve ever seen and I’m going to implement some new tricks to my routine to see if that brings the curl back! Thank you for taking up space and being exactly who you are.
I am super proud of you for being strong enough to share your story. I don’t share emotions very easily, and I wish I could.
I had the opposite experience. I had fully straight hair until I got pregnant. Now I have curly hair in the back and on the sides, and flat on top.😢
Elyse, as a curly haired girl myself, I feel this so much!!! I was told my whole life that my curly hair wasn’t professional and to blow it out to be taken seriously. I love that girls are taking back their natural styles and rocking them proudly! Thank you for sharing.
Imposter syndrome is so real and can impact all facets of our lives. Your curls are gorgeous and I’m so glad you’ve allowed them and yourself take all the space they need. I’ve got poker straight hair and am SO inspired by your journey.
I've been following you on TT for quite some time and remember seeing the first video of you with your curls and I was like, "Whoa! When did that happen?" I'm SO glad you're learning to embrace and love a part of yourself that you've struggled with that you were born with. Just one thing, no... two: 1. Don't apologize for being emotional! That's what the journey is all about. 2. YOU'RE GORGEOUS!!!
You are beautiful and deserve a HUGE amount of space! Your emotion was so touching and relatable.
I resonate with this so much, was crying and yelling “YES!” when you mentioned being afraid to take up space and feeling like “How dare I?!”; feeling like a liar/imposter. Thank you for helping others feel seen and validated in these feelings. You’ve moved me to take better care of my own curls, and to GO BIG!
Everything you’ve described about how you felt growing up with curls I can relate to. I spent many many years fighting and hating my natural curls, until my daughter was born. I was determined that she would love her fabulous, luscious curls (she’s had them since day one) so I slowly learned to be at peace with and take care of my hair, and you’re so right, it’s so freeing. I’m letting my hair go naturally grey and I can’t wait to see my fully grey curls! Thank you for sharing this!