The people I've found who tend to use terms like "spongers" and who show a contempt for those who are on government benefits and who don't work, have been the very same people who bully them out of the workplace to begin with.
also, if you have an invisible disability, colleagues get jealous of your accommedations and don't take the fact that you need them seriously, which can lead to bullying and people trying to get you in trouble because they see you as getting "special treatment".
Narcissism. Most bullies are narcissists. When a narcissist sees someone getting accommodations for their disability they see it as an attack to themselves so they bully them to make themselves above them. They don't always realize this is the case though, they think that it's because of a different reason like them getting favorable treatment like a parent favoring a child over another
Terrible..... And the above is one of the BEST case work scenarios! Lol In order for the above to apply to you, you need to have both an official autism diagnosis so that you can even access support and/or accommodations from society and/or at the workplace. Cannot ask for accommodations at work with a self-diagnosis. Without an official diagnosis your autistic traits may get written off as you being weird at best or a rude, selfish or an all round bad person at worst. Also issues with executive functioning, burn out or shutdown, fatigue, and any issues or skills you struggle with can be written off as laziness or stupidly or just you wanting to use autism as an excuse to get away with it. Also even with an official diagnosis, that doesn't automatically guarantee that your boss and workplace will accept you as your unique autistic self and actually accommodate that. A lot of the time autistic adults struggle on with out an actual diagnosis and are either unemployed or are stuck on toxic jobs getting bullied.
My ex friends from highschool once got upset that I get to do my english orals during breaktime even tho they knew I stutter. They really said "but everyone has anxiety". Like what the hell man. Are you serious?
I have an incredibly difficult time starting to urinate. Most times it takes me 10minutes to an hour or more at the worst. I have gone through so many appointments to get this resolved, but they continue to not find anything wrong.. but my difficulty is REAL, and I have NO control over it. Plus I feel the need to urinate very often.. it's currently preventing me from getting a raise because they would rather not pay me more for the time I'm using the restroom. Which is sort of understandable, but very frustrating to me that I have no control over my problem, yet I'm being held back because of it. Not to mention the way my coworkers see it. The biggest part is people not believing me, thinking I'm just jacking off, or wasting time on purpose. It's just seen very weird due to spending long periods of time in the bathroom throughout the day. I absolutely hate it, and it's cause me so much embarrassment, and people just don't get it. It just makes me look bad, and not having a reason from the doctor just makes it all the worse. I still don't know what is causing this... I've been dealing with it for about 18 years now... YEARS.. and have gone to the doctors more times than I care to mention, only to leave with no answers. Until I can solve it, I guess I just have to accept that I'm going to be seen as lazy and dishonest, or weird. People wouldn't think how lucky they are to be able to do something so simple as to urinate at will. I can't even imagine what that would be like.
There are also hidden/invisible disabilities which are physical, which I think isn’t mentioned enough. My under-active thyroid gland has always caused physical issues, problems with balance, co-ordination and stamina, especially when I was a child, but I think this gets overlooked too much. It is especially hard to be bad at physical stuff when you don’t outwardly look disabled - too much expectation of achievement in PE, for example, and then people implying you’re messing around or not trying hard enough when you genuinely can’t do what’s being asked of you despite your best efforts!
Yep, i have a mild muscle condition called bethlem myopathy and i would definitely consider it a “hidden disability”. its frustrating for example as im a young man sometimes bus drivers wont lower the bus properly for me (as they assume im able and i dont want to be awkward) and then i have to awkwardly pull myself up which is pretty embarrassing
Recently had a stroke which affected sight and movement. This is combined with lifelong dyspraxia. Amazed how many people give me the evils for sitting in 'wrong' seat
Your video production is brilliant. Your commentary is brilliant and certainly not hostile. Your observations describe my long life. I trust few these days.
@zinzincoetzee1934 If you dont mined me asking what you fined offensive or problematic about how I used r word or me using r word in general? Youtub deleted my comment, but if I remember correctly, it was about peapal online calling me r word for spelling. I don't remember if I mentioned I was on Spectrum or had learing disability. I don't mean this in a asshole way, but I don't see the problem using it being on the spectrum as long as I'm not using it to margenlise outhers especially when sharing my personal experience of people calling me that.
@@misssheltered1081The r word is a slur often used as a form of discrimination towards neurodivergent people. Many people have used it in a derogatory manner for a very long time.
They affect innocent people like myself who have a hidden disability whose employers made every job so intolerable for me that i had no choice but to leave.
Ooof! Thank you for this! Incredibly powerful! I have numerous "hidden" disabilities that have impacted every aspect of my life since birth. I've experienced nearly everything you mentioned here (including being called multiple slurs, even "sponge," within the past week alone). I wiped a tear away multiple times watching this!
im currently awaiting a diagnosis , as a bullied child , growing into n adult , i can never sit and watch bullying , and i always stand by those classed as the little man , they are only littleman because they dont fit in to socioeties normal scene ,i like your finnishing statement and the answer is no , never
You mentioned a majority of my issues one I can’t get officially tested for autism but because of my site and because of my reading and writing skills because I have dyslexia and I’m legally blind and I have multiple mental health disorders and self diagnosing with autism and I also am transgender you can imagine all the stuff I get I’ve been harassed already on UA-cam and I’ve had to block people so yeah threat harassment all that stuff what’s bad is even if you get threatened or harassed online you can’t report it to the authorities because it’s not an actual crime and I really wish that the law regarding cyber bullying and cyber threats could be prosecuted and people arrested for it I know I’m probably not the only one that gets it and also just to let you know blind people no longer wear sunglasses that’s a stereotype that is not excepted anymore but I wear sunglasses because of my sensory processing issues that I have not been professionally diagnosed yet with sunglasses keep my eyes from really bothering me a lot also sound is super irritating and said touch and taste sometimes is an issue for me as well but most people don’t know this part and I can care less if people know anyone that harasses me I just block I prevent them from seeing any future post or from leaving comments
Yeah. I have scoliosis and a colostomy bag. Constantly called weird etc. Sick of it. It's tough. But I am now more detrmibed than ever to fighr back and not be a victim
I never past a school grade and went to 3rd year hight ,was never diagnosed as being dyslectic I believed that I was simply dumb, school was my most difficult time of life.l have been self-employed for more than 45 years ,love my working life. I have server rheumatoid arthritis sever osteoarthritis, and asbestosis.only just started working with a walking stick . I don't care what people say and I don't have time for it , I've done the best i can do , i still consider I've had almost fortunate life I have the best family from a early age my goal was to know what happiness is and to strive for it
I wanted to watch this but I couldn’t because of that crazy background. I have an invisible disability that makes me sensitive to visual motion so you may want to omit that ❤
Thanks for commenting. I stopped using animated backgrounds and switched to plain, single colour backdrops shortly after this episode was made. The next video I'll be uploading actually discusses the tricky balance between being engaging enough for a general audience without hitting too many sensory or perceptory barriers, among other things😊
Wow a video about hidden disabilities and mine doesnt even get mentioned. I think its safe to say my disibility has transferred from the hidden disability category to straight up unacknowledged. I received lots of ableism in my life so far. Most of which from my own family.
Since there's only a couple of examples mentioned, most will have been missed, but that doesn't mean there's no interest. If your hidden disability is under-represented and you feel it should be talked about more, I'm listening. Let's start the conversation here and now 👍
@@Autistamatic My disability isnt even that unheard of. The problem is people dont acknowledge it as being a disability because theres very few representation or even acknowledgement that it is a disability. You not mentioning my disability in this video literally proves my point. A lot of abled people are always so biased towards "non mainstream" disabilities. I am a person who stutters. I didnt even know it was a disability until I was 18. I was a child with a disability but I wasnt raised as child with a disability because the bracket of what a disability is, is so narrow to society and people in general. The ableism had effected my in ways I didnt even realise until I actually did research about my condition. Also Im not upset with you even if it sounded like it. I scowered youtube to find videos about the disrespect towards hidden disabilities and the one video that I found(it was a great video by the way) didnt even mention mine. I was really frustrated when I typed that comment but everything I said was true. Basically everybody knows what stuttering is but not many regard it as disability. Im just tired of the ableism.
What If I am the ableist angry person, but I am also the one with Autism and I am ableist because I had to suffer through it, why can't everyone else? yeah my life completely failed and I ended up on permanent disability but I didn't make waves about it.....oh... hmm.. thinking.. ok.. that's why..... damn.
I came to this video for more understanding of “ableism “. I first heard this term in the 90s but now it’s more prevalent and it used more by younger people. Basically “ableism” can be summarized by saying “prejudice and discrimination towards disabled people”. Which is very wrong rather its face to face to behind a computer. Here’s the thing, it’s wrong to be prejudice or discriminate against anyone in general. Disabled, race, religion, sex orientation, or age. Here’s my issue, when people use their disability as an excuse for sympathy. Victimhood or pity. Doesn’t matter who you are, it’s pathetic. Im a 44 year old man with a bad back and busted knees after years of football and working in EMS. Sure I can’t lift, stand or walk long periods of time, does that make me disable? Yes But never used it as an excuse for not doing something. I can get hit by a car today and become blind and paralyzed…I still have a family to feed and a kid to raise. A disability check ain’t going to cut it, so I’ll still find work as my hands, ears, and ability to talk is all still functional. I don’t speak in a condescending tone but being disabled is a perspective view. Many people who are disabled don’t see themselves as disabled. Different but everyone is different.
I am very glad you can still provide for your family given the various physical challenges you mention, however other disabled people particularly those with differently wired brains may genuinely not be able to find and maintain gainful employment despite wishing to. In such cases, it isn’t an excuse.
The people I've found who tend to use terms like "spongers" and who show a contempt for those who are on government benefits and who don't work, have been the very same people who bully them out of the workplace to begin with.
This happens a lot in the Netherlands 😔
Very true.
And who have no problem with the government giving benefits to kings and bankers and those who already have money…
Yea
also, if you have an invisible disability, colleagues get jealous of your accommedations and don't take the fact that you need them seriously, which can lead to bullying and people trying to get you in trouble because they see you as getting "special treatment".
Narcissism. Most bullies are narcissists. When a narcissist sees someone getting accommodations for their disability they see it as an attack to themselves so they bully them to make themselves above them. They don't always realize this is the case though, they think that it's because of a different reason like them getting favorable treatment like a parent favoring a child over another
Terrible.....
And the above is one of the BEST case work scenarios! Lol
In order for the above to apply to you, you need to have both an official autism diagnosis so that you can even access support and/or accommodations from society and/or at the workplace.
Cannot ask for accommodations at work with a self-diagnosis. Without an official diagnosis your autistic traits may get written off as you being weird at best or a rude, selfish or an all round bad person at worst. Also issues with executive functioning, burn out or shutdown, fatigue, and any issues or skills you struggle with can be written off as laziness or stupidly or just you wanting to use autism as an excuse to get away with it.
Also even with an official diagnosis, that doesn't automatically guarantee that your boss and workplace will accept you as your unique autistic self and actually accommodate that.
A lot of the time autistic adults struggle on with out an actual diagnosis and are either unemployed or are stuck on toxic jobs getting bullied.
My ex friends from highschool once got upset that I get to do my english orals during breaktime even tho they knew I stutter. They really said "but everyone has anxiety". Like what the hell man. Are you serious?
Have had that happen at every job.
I have an incredibly difficult time starting to urinate. Most times it takes me 10minutes to an hour or more at the worst. I have gone through so many appointments to get this resolved, but they continue to not find anything wrong.. but my difficulty is REAL, and I have NO control over it. Plus I feel the need to urinate very often.. it's currently preventing me from getting a raise because they would rather not pay me more for the time I'm using the restroom. Which is sort of understandable, but very frustrating to me that I have no control over my problem, yet I'm being held back because of it. Not to mention the way my coworkers see it. The biggest part is people not believing me, thinking I'm just jacking off, or wasting time on purpose. It's just seen very weird due to spending long periods of time in the bathroom throughout the day. I absolutely hate it, and it's cause me so much embarrassment, and people just don't get it. It just makes me look bad, and not having a reason from the doctor just makes it all the worse. I still don't know what is causing this... I've been dealing with it for about 18 years now... YEARS.. and have gone to the doctors more times than I care to mention, only to leave with no answers. Until I can solve it, I guess I just have to accept that I'm going to be seen as lazy and dishonest, or weird. People wouldn't think how lucky they are to be able to do something so simple as to urinate at will. I can't even imagine what that would be like.
There are also hidden/invisible disabilities which are physical, which I think isn’t mentioned enough. My under-active thyroid gland has always caused physical issues, problems with balance, co-ordination and stamina, especially when I was a child, but I think this gets overlooked too much. It is especially hard to be bad at physical stuff when you don’t outwardly look disabled - too much expectation of achievement in PE, for example, and then people implying you’re messing around or not trying hard enough when you genuinely can’t do what’s being asked of you despite your best efforts!
Yep, i have a mild muscle condition called bethlem myopathy and i would definitely consider it a “hidden disability”. its frustrating for example as im a young man sometimes bus drivers wont lower the bus properly for me (as they assume im able and i dont want to be awkward) and then i have to awkwardly pull myself up which is pretty embarrassing
Recently had a stroke which affected sight and movement. This is combined with lifelong dyspraxia. Amazed how many people give me the evils for sitting in 'wrong' seat
See no evil hear no evil is a great comedy film about people's propensity to hide their disability
Your video production is brilliant. Your commentary is brilliant and certainly not hostile. Your observations describe my long life. I trust few these days.
5:47 That describes pretty nice my antipathy to religion and dogma. Thank you for that sentence.
Great video once again. Keep up the good work.
If you mention that you have a "hidden disability" like autism, people will sometimes accuse you of seeking attention.
I havent had that but I have had peaple call me retarded even though those 2 things difrent things.
@@misssheltered1081 please dont use the r-word again.
@zinzincoetzee1934 If you dont mined me asking what you fined offensive or problematic about how I used r word or me using r word in general? Youtub deleted my comment, but if I remember correctly, it was about peapal online calling me r word for spelling. I don't remember if I mentioned I was on Spectrum or had learing disability. I don't mean this in a asshole way, but I don't see the problem using it being on the spectrum as long as I'm not using it to margenlise outhers especially when sharing my personal experience of people calling me that.
@@misssheltered1081The r word is a slur often used as a form of discrimination towards neurodivergent people. Many people have used it in a derogatory manner for a very long time.
They affect innocent people like myself who have a hidden disability whose employers made every job so intolerable for me that i had no choice but to leave.
You have the most amazing voice. You sound so much like that animal documentary guy
Ooof! Thank you for this! Incredibly powerful! I have numerous "hidden" disabilities that have impacted every aspect of my life since birth. I've experienced nearly everything you mentioned here (including being called multiple slurs, even "sponge," within the past week alone). I wiped a tear away multiple times watching this!
Thanks for commenting. "Sponge"?! that's just nasty.
im currently awaiting a diagnosis , as a bullied child , growing into n adult , i can never sit and watch bullying , and i always stand by those classed as the little man , they are only littleman because they dont fit in to socioeties normal scene ,i like your finnishing statement and the answer is no , never
You mentioned a majority of my issues one I can’t get officially tested for autism but because of my site and because of my reading and writing skills because I have dyslexia and I’m legally blind and I have multiple mental health disorders and self diagnosing with autism and I also am transgender you can imagine all the stuff I get I’ve been harassed already on UA-cam and I’ve had to block people so yeah threat harassment all that stuff what’s bad is even if you get threatened or harassed online you can’t report it to the authorities because it’s not an actual crime and I really wish that the law regarding cyber bullying and cyber threats could be prosecuted and people arrested for it I know I’m probably not the only one that gets it and also just to let you know blind people no longer wear sunglasses that’s a stereotype that is not excepted anymore but I wear sunglasses because of my sensory processing issues that I have not been professionally diagnosed yet with sunglasses keep my eyes from really bothering me a lot also sound is super irritating and said touch and taste sometimes is an issue for me as well but most people don’t know this part and I can care less if people know anyone that harasses me I just block I prevent them from seeing any future post or from leaving comments
Always appreciate your work.
Thank you very, very much for this.
Great note to end the video on
Yeah. I have scoliosis and a colostomy bag. Constantly called weird etc. Sick of it. It's tough. But I am now more detrmibed than ever to fighr back and not be a victim
I never past a school grade and went to 3rd year hight ,was never diagnosed as being dyslectic I believed that I was simply dumb, school was my most difficult time of life.l have been self-employed for more than 45 years ,love my working life. I have server rheumatoid arthritis sever osteoarthritis, and asbestosis.only just started working with a walking stick .
I don't care what people say and I don't have time for it , I've done the best i can do , i still consider I've had almost fortunate life I have the best family from a early age my goal was to know what happiness is and to strive for it
This! So much this! 💜
Thank you
I wanted to watch this but I couldn’t because of that crazy background. I have an invisible disability that makes me sensitive to visual motion so you may want to omit that ❤
Thanks for commenting. I stopped using animated backgrounds and switched to plain, single colour backdrops shortly after this episode was made. The next video I'll be uploading actually discusses the tricky balance between being engaging enough for a general audience without hitting too many sensory or perceptory barriers, among other things😊
thanks for your response @@Autistamatic
@@Autistamaticthank you for stopping. I'm autistic and i hated it 😅 i only continued watching because i enjoyed the topic 😊
Wow a video about hidden disabilities and mine doesnt even get mentioned. I think its safe to say my disibility has transferred from the hidden disability category to straight up unacknowledged. I received lots of ableism in my life so far. Most of which from my own family.
Since there's only a couple of examples mentioned, most will have been missed, but that doesn't mean there's no interest. If your hidden disability is under-represented and you feel it should be talked about more, I'm listening. Let's start the conversation here and now 👍
@@Autistamatic My disability isnt even that unheard of. The problem is people dont acknowledge it as being a disability because theres very few representation or even acknowledgement that it is a disability. You not mentioning my disability in this video literally proves my point. A lot of abled people are always so biased towards "non mainstream" disabilities. I am a person who stutters. I didnt even know it was a disability until I was 18. I was a child with a disability but I wasnt raised as child with a disability because the bracket of what a disability is, is so narrow to society and people in general. The ableism had effected my in ways I didnt even realise until I actually did research about my condition. Also Im not upset with you even if it sounded like it. I scowered youtube to find videos about the disrespect towards hidden disabilities and the one video that I found(it was a great video by the way) didnt even mention mine. I was really frustrated when I typed that comment but everything I said was true. Basically everybody knows what stuttering is but not many regard it as disability. Im just tired of the ableism.
@@zinzincoetzee1934i understand how you feel 😢
Agreed
How about schizoaffective disorder and arthritis and being in ones 60s. Part of it is hidden.
People usually don't consider all the things they take as given, in light of average people who contribute to their convenience all the time.
Yeah 😔
I'm not ableist and never will be. I hate ableism (Even the conception of it)
Neurodiversity is not a problem
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Pretty much perfect production IMO, jus sorry that you has to broach this-subject ..
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What If I am the ableist angry person, but I am also the one with Autism and I am ableist because I had to suffer through it, why can't everyone else? yeah my life completely failed and I ended up on permanent disability but I didn't make waves about it.....oh... hmm.. thinking.. ok.. that's why..... damn.
I came to this video for more understanding of “ableism “. I first heard this term in the 90s but now it’s more prevalent and it used more by younger people. Basically “ableism” can be summarized by saying “prejudice and discrimination towards disabled people”. Which is very wrong rather its face to face to behind a computer.
Here’s the thing, it’s wrong to be prejudice or discriminate against anyone in general. Disabled, race, religion, sex orientation, or age.
Here’s my issue, when people use their disability as an excuse for sympathy. Victimhood or pity. Doesn’t matter who you are, it’s pathetic.
Im a 44 year old man with a bad back and busted knees after years of football and working in EMS. Sure I can’t lift, stand or walk long periods of time, does that make me disable? Yes But never used it as an excuse for not doing something. I can get hit by a car today and become blind and paralyzed…I still have a family to feed and a kid to raise. A disability check ain’t going to cut it, so I’ll still find work as my hands, ears, and ability to talk is all still functional.
I don’t speak in a condescending tone but being disabled is a perspective view. Many people who are disabled don’t see themselves as disabled. Different but everyone is different.
I am very glad you can still provide for your family given the various physical challenges you mention, however other disabled people particularly those with differently wired brains may genuinely not be able to find and maintain gainful employment despite wishing to. In such cases, it isn’t an excuse.
@@camellia8625yes and their feelings and choices are valid.