Why Are You Still Single? (And Other Questions To Keep To Yourself)
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"why are you still married?" yep that's gonna be my answer from now on 🙃
What if the one who asked isn't married?
@@funnyvideoguy3216 than ... why are you still in a relationship?
What would be an appropriate defense to "well because im still in love unlike you"
@@ozzyk558 well, so they know why then
But that answer is really easy. Because we're loyal, work together, communicate and are each others everything...totally different to being single as in you are alone and the connotation is you are defective in some way
I've been single for so long my relatives don't even bother asking anymore. They think I'm a lost cause at this point, its a relief honestly 😭
It's better that way. No expectations
Your not a lost cause, you clearly acknowledge that a life long commitment is not a race, instead you and your life are worth the time and effort to do well. Celebrate your resolve and self worth, it's fabulous!
It's hard to be single but once you try to embrace it and enjoy yourself, people take notice... Do things alone that you might feel too self conscious to do with others, it can be liberating 🤗 from one lonely soul to another...
This is assuming your single and lonely but still good advice 😁
Relatable
I feel like when people say "Why are you still single?" What they mean to say is "You know, you are so amazing that I'm surprised you haven't found someone you want to be with considering you are so attractive there is no way you're struggling for choices." But it ends up coming across as kind of the opposite in most cases.
The worst for me is "no one is deserving of you" as a compliment
Why is Donald Trump pretty and I am not? But why does he only have a wife but I have TWO HANDSOME GIRLFRIENDS who I show off in my masterpiece YT videos? Do you know the answer, dear dan
Most of the time its men saying it to attractive women they just met. Its not "wow youre an amazing person" its "wow youre hot"
To me it sounds like "Why haven't you lowered you standards yet?"
@@LauraSomeNumber to me it sounds like your hot...but what other flaws do you have that keep you single.
*Has anyone ever called you a beach?*
*M A N Y T I M E S*
has anyone ever called u to a beach? no...... no one has :(
They call me a WItch.....
deach the beach
shes single now because her last chad gave her herpes
Being asked " why don't you drink?" at every single party is the worst
Especially when everyone treats it like it’s so important, since it’s considered a big part of your country’s culture
Yup… get this all the time. Yes, let me rehash my generations of alcoholic family history with you! Ugh.
Yuuuuuuup!
I'm allergic and highly prone to liver disease due to genetics yay!
I just don't like drinking, but it seems to be the worst one because you don't have an "excuse" and they think they can keep pushing
Not building relationships on trauma bonds should be normalised.
not saying "X should be normalized" should be normalized.
@@americanhero8606 silence
@@americanhero8606 Careful He's an American Hero
All my relationships are based on trauma bonding tho... Damn
@@ushagadgil1963 Hope you spend some good time with yourself and realise your patterns/mistakes. All the best!
I've found that if a person really does want to talk about their trauma, and they feel comfortable with you to do it, they'll bring it up themselves, never need to ask them
Exactly, best thing to do if you're curious is to wait for them to bring it up while you "there there" them, biting your tongue. If you can wait for them to "get ready," you can wait for them to open up.
But beware of people who bring it up just....whenever.
I never pry.
As a philosophy
Yeah, and you could always say something like " if you ever need to talk about it, I'm here for you"
Socializing was an issue for me even before the pandemic. Being around too many people exhausted me, especially if they invited drama and stress that's unwarranted. I'm slowly getting back out there, but it's taking a bit of time
Sooooo...don't be around people that love drama. Trust me if they will talk to you about it then they will talk to others about you and you become the 'drama'
@@seankeenan2583 a valid point indeed. Gotta be mindful on who we confide to.
I deal with this too, you're not alone. Best of luck :)
If anything, people became better at socializing because of the isolation.
@@nickfierro3873 elaborate if you will please cause I've yet to see that...or perhaps I'm missing something
This is a really fine line, because if you don't ask any deeper or change the subject on those questions, it could be interpreted as you not caring and the person feels like their problems don't matter. All about how well you know the person and if you think they like to open up or not.
I find, if the situation is really uncertain and they brought it up first, asking them if they want to talk about it works pretty well. That way, you give the other person control of the conversation and make them feel like you're accounting for their feelings.
@@sosanmia3 same for me. Letting them know you're keen to talking about it if they want shows you're interested and you care, and letting them decide what they want to do shows you respect them.
Yeah, "do you want to talk about that? No pressure".
Everyone should know "Do you want to talk about it?" This gives a quick no at which time you change the subject allowing them not to dwell on it or they open up.
Definitely!!!
Ya, or the very simple how are you feeling?
Also, "Would you like to change the subject?"
this! because it acknowledges the thing that happened and just that and an offer to talk about it can help the person heal.
Yes. With the pregnancy one, I would feel very insensitive to just change te subject, unless the vibe would really be that that would be what she wanted. I would want to acknowledge and then check how much the person would want to share about it, or change the subject.
Normalize salary discussions! Don't let the moneyed trick us.
YES. If you talk about what you and other people make, it lets everyone know what's fair
yesss! (and unionize while you're at it!!)
no, people are assholes no matter what the number is
Can cause anxiety due to comparisons as some people don't have the best intentions but yup it needs to be normalised than what it is right now
Yess!!
I'm single because having fun alone is more fun than having fun and worrying the entire time if someone else is also having fun
cyberpunk 2077 cures my loneliness
"Why are you still married?" is a good response.
If you ask 'how's the baby' and she makes clear from her look that something went wrong, just apologize. Don't change the subject. Acknowledge her pain and offer to comfort her...
I congratulated my co-worker on her pregnancy. She wasn't. She still doesn't like me. I'm not good at conversations. So, in the future, someone can literally have a baby coming out of her and I'm not saying a thing.
That's awkward, but we'll done for reflecting and taking a lesson from the experience.
How long ago did this happen? Do you care to make amends?
Yes, unless you're her OBGYN, this is the best policy.
It’s okay. The other day on the bus this guy said to this other guy for this girl “let her sit , she’s pregnant” she said “I’m not pregnant”. These things happen, she had a little bump ish
How about you stop congratulating women on becoming pregnant as if that’s sort of accomplishment. All she did was spread her damn legs
It's crazy how I've related to most of her videos for years
...Don’t let her brainwash you
@@Americansikkunt why
@@ajithv5540 because racial discrimination, race-based wealth redistribution, and loss of Individual Rights is a bad thing.
@@Americansikkunt she has raised voice against all these problems
2 videos on 1 day? Not too bad
Yup, it’s private
@@siliaflo3645 WHYY IT WAS ON MY WATCH LATER😭
Her manager did smth wrong with uploading schedule
Good thing I've already watched the other one
Anna, your standard of integrity shows in your character of your videos. They are quite impressive young lady. Thanks for sharing your story with us that watch your channel. Yours truly Ed.
"when will you propose?" and "when will you get married?" are so awkward....
Why are Americans so uncomfortable with silence?
Good question ...
The same reason people ask passive aggressive questions,.., insecurity.
A "bombardment" consumerist temporary/disposable lifestyle turns us into material addicts.
If somethings not attacking our 5 senses or wallet, it feels out of the ordinary
I heard it best on tiktok. I'm not my types type. That's why I'm still single.
same and the type that does like me isn't my type
😂😂😂😂😂 Omgosh this is good
I'm going to start using this one.😅
100%. This.
Mind blown.
Not only couldn't they hold a conversation, they left after having placed their order, presumably without paying.
I think many people prefer being single of be in a toxic relationship
Please stop asking Disabled people for their private medical information, it can be traumatic and not something we want to relive for a stranger in a grocery store.
Agreed. Also, stop asking people if they're vaccinated. That's the same personal thing, that's no ones business.
@@factcheckingyourmum what
@@factcheckingyourmum No I think this matters bc some ppl don't wanna hang out irl with peeps who aren't.
@@jclyntoledo ah yes, the brain dead one's.
@@DahianaG if you csnt make the connection, I can't help you
Anna is spoiling us with two videos in a day, we dont deserve this brilliance
But it looks like the first one got hidden or taken down.
its gone /)_(\
@@sammym.6263 ):
That sad to hear .
here in Brazil with the slow vaccination the priority group includes high-risk people who have a number of conditions... The number of inappropriate questions people are getting about their conditions like we're supposed to divulge our entire medical histories to others is bizarre
nasty :) i just cut relations with such people, oh well my friends tend to be less crazy and more relaxed xD
Finally, you natural socialisers are on an even keel with us now
Can we appreciate the little tail dance happening in the background? 2:15 THANK YOU 😽😽
I'm still single because let's see I'm an introvert, anti-social, manic depressive, plus my last relationship ended so badly that it seriously scarred me.
Same
...twin...?
Yo same
You have to move on from your past to make your future.
The spontaneous oversharing also isn't helping :P
j/k
I just love how she demonstrates the topic she is talking about
Oh gods, why did you have to remind me how awkward it's going to be to socialize in groups now? *hides in a corner*
2 videos in one day!!!!!!!! You're amazing....but you already knew that.
What happened to the first one tho?
It got taken down. Happened a few days ago as well
Why you’re single is really no one’s business.
I don't wanna start a relationship over a trauma bond? So how was the abuse? Like what actually happened. I don't wanna relive my trauma at 11 AM. So brave of you for speaking up. Yeah We just thought like why are we protecting him!! Shivers Down my spain. So common sense. But gets cloudy some times. Brave adn honest ladies!!!
These questions were a problem BEFORE the pandemic
Your not the only one, it’s hard to find the right girl in my life.
Whenever anyone asks “Why are you still single?” it’s a lowkey passive aggressive dig at you. Period. If someone has to bother asking you why you’re single without the context, there’s no need to explain yourself
Sometimes I think it depends
@@rainbow9987 elaborate
@@EricGraham94 The love ain+t hugs and kisses and sex, as this world presents. /be not deceived nor naive.
What is unknown life fact? - parenthood is GOD given and love is not LUST.
John 15:13
Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
About being single:
1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
@@EricGraham94 no. Stop making black or white judgments on things. Not everything is one or the other. Conversations are nuanced. In the past people have asked me why I’m still single, and I took it as a compliment and wasn’t offended at all. Not only does it mean they think I’m desirable, it means they think other people should think I’m desirable too. And their intention was curiosity about how a person who is clearly desirable to many people would not have found anyone yet, because all logic says they would have found someone.
Stop the polarized thinking and realize that not everything is cut and dry. People are complex and could have a multitude of different intentions behind the things they say.
Me : having a bad day
Anna : here you go baby girl two videos in a day
Why bad day
Hope your day gets in better
Love Anna's face scrunch at 1:28 😂 thats the perfect reaction/expression to that
The one twin reminds me of Piper from the original Charmed series.
same!! the eyebrow arch!
I can see that!
"Okay, let me just relive my trauma at 11am.."
This sent me 🤣
Thank you for so many videos I'm so happy with these!!
i'm single because i'm odd, unintentionally creepy and broke.
You are just spoonfeeding us inside info. Thanks, Anna!
If they don’t want to answer, they can say they don’t, that’s fine.
Girl, some people feel pressured to answer even when they dont want to
Love it!!! Thank you so much Anna for speaking up and talk about that
When your friends are getting married and your just here single like yup this is fine .....
At least you can use the "why are you still married" line
Twentysomething at work: "When did you realize you were old?" Me: "About two seconds ago..."
When “why you still single” becomes the most offensive things ever said to me
Ahh, the before-times… I remember when that wasn’t a sentence…
I still haven’t relearned how to socialize, and it’s been like 2-3 years since we got back to some semblance of normalcy… but not me!🙃
Oh lord. This was a wake up call. Thank you!
half of those questions were completely fine. only like 2 of them were over the line.
Single and ready to be single
I opened about my SA and a friend asked me for details like it was a movie 😅
I'm autistic, I have no hope left.
But, for those who didn't socialize much, or were introverts, before all this started, didn't miss much, and will now just go back to their regular routine.
I don't think my ability to read the room has disappeared because of the pandemic, it did not even exist before
Two videos in one day!! We are truly blessed
Although it seems that first one isn’t available anymore.
Thank you.
I get that too they say I need someone sorry I need my own space got my kids don’t need a relationship
Crippling addiction to life not being on fire and having money in bank account.
The quality of her videos is out of this world!!!
Family Guy : "Men! We know how to be friends."
My rule is don't bring it up unless they do
Most of us have been through alot of turmoil in relationships through out our lifetimes. The reason most of us our single ,is that as time goes by, we are looking for more of a deeper connection with someone, and most of us dont want to waste our time in reconnecting with people, and end up just getting hurt again and again and again. As they say ,better safe then sorry.
You have to move on from your past to make your future.
Lol, I’m autistic and I have conversations like this before the pandemic... I honestly can’t understand why we can’t talk like that, I’m just trying to make a conversation and I never ask anything just because I’m mean, I could actually be concerned about you... if you don’t want to answer, you can just say I won’t answer and I won’t get mad, why is it so hard for neurotypicals to be honest?
We really need to create a culture where NTs a) understand the prevalence of ND people in society and b) are taught how to interact with ND people, instead of forcing ND people to mask all day every day.
@@rmdcade1717 amén brother haha
I think it's unfair to make the generalisation about honesty. As for why we can't just talk like that, it's because even if the other person doesn't answer, being asked questions about trauma or very personal subjects is painful. The question hurts, not just formulating a reply.
@@emilymartin5418 The point is that NTs tend to assume that the question was posed out of rudeness or lack of consideration. That position relies on the belief that NDs must conform to NT expectations of behavior, rather than NTs and NDs working together to create social norms and expectations that benefit everyone.
The thing is that some questions hurt or bring up past trauma, regardless of the intention they were asked with. So it doesn’t really matter if you were trying to be mean, or if you were concerned- the impact on the other person is the same. And while those obviously differ from person to person, there are some subjects (pregnancy, dating, abuse) where this is very likely. It‘s not necessarily that people are trying to be dishonest, or that they automatically assume bad intentions (although I‘m sure some do), but rather that they are too hurt and overwhelmed to react rationally in that situation. That doesn‘t mean it‘s your fault for asking or something (after all, none of us are mind readers), but it‘s also not the other person‘s fault for reacting that way, because they can‘t help themselves in that moment.
You're BEST!!
I've always spent a lot of time alone, lost in my hobbies and interests so the pandemic hasn't really been a problem at all. Barely an inconvenience.
Same here! Thank you for saying this.
You see... as an introvert I'm used to having to actively think about that kind of stuff so I haven't really noticed a difference.
I have found that a good thing to ask instead of asking for details about a traumatic experience (particularly if the experience is recent and they brought it up) is "do you want to vent about that?" or "do you want to talk about it?"
That way they know I'm there for them but don't feel pressured to divulge any more information than they want to.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Maybe it's because I've been remote working for years prior to this but going out and socializing feels equally as non-difficult. It's interesting to hear how people are struggling.
Some people have never had to be alone with their own thoughts until now.
Yeah...good luck to us all.
I'm getting second hand overstepping insensitivity from this.
good luck to us all truly I’m struggling to understand sarcasm online, imagine in person
In contrast to what some people think, not everyone is struggling in the pandemic.
Why do you want to be in love ? Thats something that we all need to embrase
My antisocial a** needed this LOL THANK YOU AGAIN ANNA
This was clever.
Thank you for this.
magic and insert funny word that describes nonsense within chaos.
As an autistic person, I have a hard time with nonverbal social cues (body language) and other nuanced social communication even before the pandemic. Though probably worse now, I’ve always had a tendency come off as insensitive and harsh when it is not my intention, but I’m likely unaware of it unless someone tells me. I end up doing a lot of advocacy for myself by letting people know that I genuinely appreciate people telling me when I’ve crossed a boundary and providing details about why it is an issue for them. Otherwise, I’m unlikely to know that I did anything wrong and they will build resentment towards me. One of the most ableist things I’ve come to understand is A.) We are taught to not talk about our feelings, B.) taught to assume that another person should know how we feel without telling them, and C.) disrespect our own and other people’s boundaries. Due to the pandemic, everyone is out of practice when it comes to nuanced social communication. I think this is an ideal chance to learn to clearly state our boundaries, hear others, and learn to respect them on either side.
I hate to say it, but to improve, you gotta put your own feelings out there and practice reading people's facial expressions. It's the music, and not the lyrics you'll have to work on. The good news is that you don't have to talk about personal stuff. Chatting about how you feel about anything will do, as long as you're sincere.
Same!!!!!!
And once again, Anna comes to rescue helping us with our antisocial problems
She was talking to me, not you.
It’s difficult to connect with the right person.
I’ve heard every insult and assumption in the book. I don’t understand why people can’t just leave you alone and let you live your life and then them live their own. Why does everyone expect you to be exactly like them?
I don't quite understand your upload schedule.
Nobody does
Once I asked “Oh, how many months pregnant are you?” smiling at her belly
The lady: “….I’m not pregnant”
Me: “… 😳”
I wished I could vanish on the spot and never asked that question ever again
I work at a restaurant, we all dread brunch as working it is atonement for all of our past and future sins.
lol, normal daily life for some of us, even pre-pandemic
You're Smart and Intelligent that's why you're single....
ive had UPWARDS OF 5 PEOPLE just OUT OF THE BLUE ask me “do you cut yourself?” when they notice my scars mid conversation.
Do you not understand why they ask you this? If they have just figured this out and are concerned for your well being do you just expect them to read your mind and know you will be upset if they ask?
I really like the way she shows herself to be the one at fault in many of these scenes, not just the victim of insensitive relationship status questions, etc. And she does a really great, sleazy guy too, so that one is an easy win/win. 👍
That lunch order was brutal. 😂 I’d definitely mess that up.
It's gonna be really fun in a few years when this generation of smart and aware women is old
You're videos are like practical therapy!
I felt the "it's intruiging as hell" so baaaaad. Oh my...
I was once out for dinner with two friends and one of them asked the other “if and when she’d consider getting a nose job” the rest of the dinner was very awkward.
Haha whaaat?
When i say "how are you still single?"my real questions are:
Why don't you lower your expectations?
What problems you have that make guys not date you? Do you even try to find someone?
IDK How girls normally talk, but I'm getting sister vibes from this conversation. Edit: obviously not about certain topics but ya, the word stabbing.
My answer: Because I'm insufferable to be around.
Why are you still married lmao that's a great comeback, im taking it