A Mom with Cerebral Palsy (Overcoming Assumptions)
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- Опубліковано 9 вер 2024
- Elcana is a mom who is diagnosed with cerebral palsy. People often assume that the child belongs to someone else, or her partner forced her to become a parent. Elcana wants others to know that she is a willing and loving mom.
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She is beautiful and so well spoken, with incredible insight. I wish her, her son, and entire family the very best that life has to offer. She is such an inspiration.
true .. shes so intelligent!
@@NiteDriv3r evil 😈
@@larkhughes9740 BEST BELIEVE I'M DA DEVIL'S DADDY
@@NiteDriv3r Love trumps you, lol. Aren't you supposed to be in school?
@@larkhughes9740 BEST BELIEVE
My mother has cerebral palsy. She had 3 kids in the early 80s. Let's just say there's was no one like her. People kept saying how amazing my father was. I knew they meant having children with someone like her. She was thw strong one. He wasn't good enough for her. She deserves a lot of respect.
Aw no… I hope your mom is okay
I CAN TELL U LOOK LIKE U HAVE IT TOO
@@Ghostluvses WHAT IF STOP APPLYING IRRELEVANT SITUATIONS
@@NiteDriv3r I hope one day you find the love you desperately need
Guys, nowhere in this comment says the father was abusive. Stop thinking that the father is abusive
She just turned 38? WHAT? Wow, she doesn't look it at all. She is such a sweet person! She has so much positivity & so much love for her family. Loved getting to watch this.
Her husband getting comments that are “unfair” is a very nice way of putting it. She is lovely.
That was a very delicate way of saying it. My husband has Cerebral Palsy and while no one has ever said anything like that to me, I always worry about how we are perceived in public by those who don't know us. I always wonder if someone thinks I am "leading him on" or taking advantage of my husband in some way--they don't know that he's a lawyer, they just see someone who is visibly disabled.
@@storydates Right?? I agree 100% they assume that someone is being taken advantage of or something etc... It really isnt fair and its really nobodies business you know? Just like you said ! They dont know your husband is a freakin lawyer! They just assume stuff..
@@rae7864 Absolutely. I see it the most when we're holding hands in public and someone asks, "are you guys brother and sister?" and I say, "nope! We're married!" and they get really uncomfortable.
WE DON'T CARE WHAT OTHER'S SAY!! BLESSINGS TO ALL... PEACE/LIGHT
She is not lovely for it. She is timid after years of assumtions, negativity and verbal abuse from literally anyone. Its the same for me regarding my disability. If I would show people how I actually feel when they ask me prejudice questions, a.k.a. a normal response, everyone would assume I'm the issue because people dont want to be educated or shown that they are wrong so after a while you just try to act as you are not bothered when its not the case.
I am the child of a disabled parent, my father used a wheelchair... when you're growing up, your parent is your parent you love them unconditionally, and never think anything of it until people start pointing it out to you.
I never thought I was missing anything in particular because of my father's disability. He didn't run around with me, but we played cards, and table top games and made fun of bad movies together ... the running phase only lasts for a few months, but then you have the rest of your life to spend quality time with your kid and teach him what actually matters.
Glad the comments are back!
PRECIOUS ❣
@a00100a: Thank you for posting this. I am a disabled Mom of a active and precious 4 year old boy. He is my world. I have limitations with walking and can’t jump or run with him. But he keeps me active and on my toes. Like this young lady said being a Mom is a 24 hour job and EVERYTHING takes a back seat to it. Including a disability. My son inspires and motivates me to push past any obstacles my disability presents. From your post, I see your Dad did a great job!! I pray my little guy will have the same sentiments. God bless. ❤️
Same with me! Thanks for share!
It totally depends on the disability though... If I havnt slept for 5 days and have so much vertigo and muscle numbness that i need help with everything and need to stay in my bed in a dark room for a month, almost unresponsive, I would not be able to raise a kid or give it the attention it needs. The sad truth is some people are too physically ill to have children.
@@ThornyRoseV Yeah of course
Oh I LOVE this! My sister has CP and she gave birth to her first child last June.
Congrats to your sis!
Congratulations to the new addition to the family!
Amazing ! Hows she doing? Did everything go well?
Thats amazing. Congrats to your sister!!!
Congratulations!!
what a dope vibe this lady gives off
Positive as!
Ikr? I just wanna have a glass of wine with her and ask her about life.
Ikr I’d love to spend a day with her
Oops, I'm older so, when I was younger, "dope" in this context was mildly derogatory. Can someone tell me how it is meant here, please
@@loisdungey3528it means cool
When birth complications caused my nephew to be born with cerebral palsy, I was devastated because I had no idea what his life could be like. Listening to people with cerebral palsy like Elcana gave me hope. I learnt of all the amazing things that cerebral palsy can never stop - most importantly, happiness. Thank you Elcana for sharing your story. Thank you SBSK for bringing awareness on all sorts of conditions.
TLDR: The stories of people with cerebral palsy taught me that cerebral palsy will not prevent my nephew from living a happy life.
My son is 24 and has CP. While there has been tough times, the amazing times outweigh them. He has an amazing life and continues to be a blessing to all those around him! I wish your nephew all the best!
you should watch special on netflix!!
My mother in law had CP (she passed away last year) and raised 2 wonderful children. Her husband was in the air force and would sometimes leave for a yr at a time and she had to do it all. My husband is a wonderful man, so she did a great job!!!
Yay for comments! My husband has Cerebral Palsy and we have two kids who absolutely adore their daddy. I loved this video.
@@dayane8696 Thanks! :)
As a mother with cerebral palsy I just want to say, I'm glad we are getting recognized. We are capable of being great parents and this women, her mom and sister are magnificent. Keep kicking butt girl!!
Breaks my heart to hear that anyone would treat her poorly. She’s beautiful, kind spirited, intelligent, optimistic and beyond worthy of love & happiness! Thank you for sharing your story with us!
I love this story. But the question remains. Who is the dad?
Shes married(yes we can get married AND have kids while living with a disability)but regardless of weather or not she was how is it any of your business ??🙄
Yayyy the comments are open and she has such a sweet soul and a beautiful child ❤
i can finally comment and say that THESE THREE WOMEN irradiate so much love. The fact that her mother still accepted and took care of her EVEN when she was from Haiti, too, which must have meant living stuff that she believed in behind and just solely focused on the real love she felt for her daugher
I love this woman. She has such a beautiful personality AND SHE'S SO PRETTY
I am a quadriplegic and have a daughter. Just if anyone is curious, quadriplegic just means impairment in 4 limbs. I still have strong arms but no hand function. My girl and I are a great team
This is a genuine question. How do you utilize your arm strength if you haven't got hand function?
@@grootsyt good question. I still have very strong wrists. I actually have a video of how on my UA-cam channel.
@@rachelles_wheels oh interesting I'll watch that right away
What a beautiful woman and a beautiful soul. Her smile is amazing and she is very inspiring.
Also, I absolutely LOVE her outfit.
Who on earth would bully this gorgeous woman?! Just look at how beautiful she is! She’s a beautiful woman and mother. I admire her bravery for speaking so honestly and you can tell she’s an amazing mum. When her son grows up he will be such a credit to her. With love from England x
I would marry her in an instant 😍😍😍😍
But I’m too young sadly
As someone who also has CP and experiences the pain of muscle spasms, it makes me so happy to see an awesome mother who has endured so much and made it. She is such a brilliant light for her family and for her community as a Social Worker. Thank you so much for sharing 💜
She has the sweetest eyes. What a lovely mother! Her son will always know how much his mama loves him.
Hi! I am a 44-year-old woman with cerebral palsy who has a 14 year old beautiful young lady. I just started watching this video and I realize that we seem to have the same degree of ability. I wanted to let you know that you are doing a wonderful job. Your son will only benefit from your good mothering skills. Don’t give up and whenever you get frustrated, just remember to think outside of the box! Thank you for sharing your story with the world. I live with my partner too and he is able-bodied. So it’s nice to know that someone else out there in the world has a similar story to mine. Maybe we can converse or get together sometime. I would love that. :-)
This lady is incredible. She is so smart and articulate. I have a friend with Cerebral Palsy. She is 50 years old and would love to meet an understanding partner. I am wondering if I send her this video, if she would feel inspired?! I don't want to upset her.
She will certaily be inspired, as I think we all are! Maybe send her a message motivating your interest in sharing this video with her. Have a nice day!
@@denni95HM Thank you for your encouragement.
Send it, your kind for thinking of her
i'm sure she'd appreciate it
No. She would be inspired.
As a mom of 2, we all need help. What a wonderful mom 💕
UA-cam finally allowing this great channel comment section to be open?
I appreciate the work and the messages you and your team share with us. You helped me look pass disability and look at the individual and who they are.
Keep up the amazing job guys, you've know idea the impact your have in mine and others lives 💯❤🇯🇲
I’m so thankful !
UA-cam realized this channel can make them even more money. So yup, comments are enabled again.
Even though people have disabilities doesn’t mean that they can’t experience parenthood. Sometimes, i lose hope in humanity
Me also
I love her energy so much. It’s very positive and vibrational. She’s a very beautiful woman. ❤️
Dang, what an amazing mom. It's a high call to raise children. Doing it when you have even one chronic issue adds even more to your plate.
2nd comment I’ve made watching this…my mum was born with CP. when I was little before school and it was just me an her at home I would want to play games and do things. I don’t remember ever feeling like we missed out on stuff. My mum was and is an amazing mum. But I specifically remember this, and my mum does too and we laugh about it to this day still 😂 but when I was around 4 - 7 I would say “let’s play hide n seek mum” and I would throw a blanket over her in her chair and pretend I didn’t know where she was and look for her around the house. Lots of hours of fun for me, lots of hours of my mum thinking I was an insane child with a big imagination…which I was ahahahah.
Sweet memory!
This is the most wholesome comment I've read under this video:)
Omg I Love her sister if you have a sister like that you can achieve anything, she is so supportive and strong that vibbbeeeee
What a beautiful intelligent woman. The boy is lucky with such a wonderful mom. Just like her own mother and sister.
That kid is such a cutie pie. I’m glad he has such a loving mother to show him the world
I have a mild form of CP. And I can understand how people judge you sometime and think just because you have a disability means that you can't have a child. Those of us with CP can't have children and have a normal life. Just because we have a disability the we can't do things. We just have to find ways around doing stuff and doing things different ways may not be the same as everyone else but the job gets done at the end of the day. I love your story and thank you for sharing it with us. And you have a very handsome son. Best of luck in life hugs
Gosh this world would be such a drag if we were all alike…keep up the great work you do and Bravo 👏 to realize life is best when we can enjoy our differences 👁👄👁
Strong women like this raise strong, empathic, loving, and extremely insightful families.
Power to these Queens and those stand with them like Chris. They are here to bring light and knowledge to this world through this channel; thank you SBSK!!!
My best math teacher had CP and was awesome and so smart. She helped me so much for college
This channel is truly doing such an amazing thing for the world.
She's so understanding of her people and how they think and don't fault them for believing what they do when they don't know. She is so so strong and so is her family. Their love and strength radiates. My family is Creole and my Grandmother also believed the same about my aunt and that she was cursed because of something bad she did. I really relate to her background. Stay strong and much love! ❤️✨
Elcana's mother must be one of the strongest people I've ever sort-of met. She's certainly passed that on to her daughters and the three of them are GREAT role models!
She is so nice and positive. I wish I could be like that too. I admire her and her mother a lot, two very strong, very wholesome women
That boy has such an amazing mother, she has so much light and love in her soul. What a wonderful family.
She is so sweet. She seems so calm and gentle. So down to earth. I hope nothing but her and her family have many years of good health and fortune 💜 blessed be
She’s so beautiful inside and out! Such a sweet soul ❤️
This really hit something inside me. My whole life, my mom has had MS (Multiple Sclerosis), I have never seen her walk on her own. I had to grow up real fast, I did all the chores by myself, I learned patience and compassion like not many other children around me. My dad left shortly after I was adopted, I have no siblings, our family isn’t very helpful and it’s hard still as a 25 year old to try and have my own life but also still help out with my mom .
Your a really good daughter to keep helping ur mom when I’m sure u wanna live ur life too! Keep plugging away girl, good things will happen 4 u!
MS is tough. my grandma had it. you’re a good daughter
Bless you. May your burdens be eased.
The strength of these women! I am in awe.
I think people make unjustified assumptions about people's intellect when they see people with a visible disability. She is articulate, smart and considerate and I'm happy for her. I hope people will stop rudely going to her husband and treating her like a child.
I LOVE how real her sister is and i can COMPLETELY understand why she said her sister keeps her grounded. Such a strong woman and a great mom.
Beautiful bright intelligent and down to earth woman. Bless her.
2:40 I relate so much! My physical disability developed when he was about 3. It took him a long time to understand I couldn’t play like I used to but I still loved him. And watching him run around with others when I can’t even take him outside anymore just breaks my heart. Smiling on the outside but it hurts. You know it’s not your fault and you’re doing the best you can but missing out hurts.
Such a beautiful Momma, when he is able to understand see everything you do for him, he will appreciated even more!
Love her energy and the vibe she gives off. 🧡
So grateful that the comments are back on!!! Thank you Elcana for sharing your story, and opening up dialogue around disability & parenting. Your smile lights up the room while you're expressing yourself in regards to your journey of motherhood. Your son is so lucky to have you & know that sooo many mothers who are even able-bodied need help and assistance as well. We all need support from others, it truly takes a village, and you're doing a great job! Sending you and your family lots of love
These women are amazing. She is beautiful and i am so glad she has made it to America.
What a beautiful soul this mother has!! I would be grateful to have her as a mother, lovely lady
My cousin has cerebral palsy and we are best friends he has a hard time walking and talking but he is the sweetest guy so smart talented and hard working ☺️💪🏻 I feel like he has made me more empathetic and compassionate and I love that about him 💜
I'm so glad the comments are back. This lady here is a sunshine. I hope she's doing great
She is genuinely one of the prettiest women I’ve ever seen. Stunning!
Elcana is a great Mom ☺. She has a beautiful smile.
I adored this interview! It was so nice to meet you. I’m sure it’s so frustrating to get the assumptions that you do as a mom with a disability, but your voice is being amplified and teaching people! Your son has a great support system and a great role model in his mom and your family. ❤️
Her positivity is contagious
She’s so cute. Her smile is just infectious
What a beautiful woman, inside and out! Thank God your comments are finally turned back on!!!
she's such a wonderful person
She's incredible! Made my day!
This is amazing. I have been here around the same time that the comment were unfortunately taken off. I love you and your channel, you guys cannot imagine how much you have changed my life and have others. And what a wonderful mother! Such a beautiful video.
Wow what an intelligent, beautiful mother she is. Her little boy is adorable and her family is a blessing.
She has the nicest smile 😊
Anything is possible when you have a dream. That's a cute son you have.
So glad comments are back! 🥺 this story is so inspiring! 💕
What a great supportive family
So awesome to see comments back!! I especially wanted to comment how wonderful this woman is!! Ma'am I have so much respect for you and what you are doing. You deserve all the happiness and love you get from your son. Bless you!! ❤️🙏
She has such a kind soul
She reminds me of a friend's daughter who had same. Unfortunately, she passed a while back. Her older sister is autistic. She has dedicated her life to her kids. Its been tough but they received as much love as she is capable of giving.
She is so beautiful and she has gorgeous teeth. She’s so brave and she’s literally the definition of a super mom.
What a wonderful woman. Her family are as lucky to have her as she is to have them.
I could listen to this family talk about their lives in Haiti and their journey to the United States for hours. What a beautiful family. Thank you for introducing us to this family. Thank you for introducing us to every single person on this channel.
Going back on videos just because comments are back on!! She’s a beautiful and wise mom. ❤️❤️
My daughter is 4 and has a mild Cerebral Palsy. It’s so wonderful to hear Elcana speak her truth. What a beautiful wonderful woman! Gives me so much hope for my daughter’s future.
Her smile warms my heart. I hope no one ever tries to dull that shine and make her feel like she needs to hide her pain. Thank you for sharing yourself with us, Elcana.
Such a wonderful and supportive family. ❤
shes sooo beautiful inside and out ! she reminds me so much of my good friend in the way she carries herself and speaks ! one of my favorite sbsk videos of all time
Regarding Elcana’s comments on worrying about her kid being bullied or classmates/teachers not understanding…I wouldn’t worry toooo much. Your son is gonna grow up knowing that his mum loves him unconditionally and that’s all that’s gonna matter to him!
And if he’s anything like my brother and I, the second anyone says something or stares and oogles his mum, he’ll have a witty retort to throw their way! 😂
I have absolute faith in that, and in you Elcana. 💓🇦🇺💓
she's literally amazing wow
I cannot believe that at long last we will be able to send our messages to all our great friends. Thankyou soooooo much for persevering with the you tube authorities and changing their minds.
All best love Jan (UK) xxx
I will be commenting till you get fed up with me !!!♥️ best to you both 🤗
He is a cutieeeeee🥰 I love this interview ! And even now as a 27 yr old , I will STILL NEVER UNDERSTAND why people bully anyone. Like I never will get that, what is the purpose. Why you care about someone else that much to tear them apart.
Yeeeees commenting is back!!! Such a great video. Her eloquence is so heart warming! Love the way you keep a smile on your fave even through hard emotions!
Love this girl. So beautiful, handsome son. You are powerful lady. God bless. Namaste
Elcana is so beautiful, articulate and intelligent. This post was very informative and lovely to watch.
You and your gf have the most biggest hearts I have had the pleasure of seeing on social media. It gives me faith in our humanity again. Please keep up the great and wonderful things and video's you do......your a rarity and a angel here on earth. We are lucky to get these videos. ❤🦋🐕🐾
Her mom is soo beautiful and she is to dont listin to what they say about you GOD LOVES YOU WE LOVE YOU
WE CAN COMMENT ON THIS QUEENS AMAZING MOTHERING SKILLS! Keep killin’ it, sis! You’re wonderful and beautiful.
LOVE this woman! That spirit and smile
She is such an intelligent, beautiful, sweet, and loving mother! 💕
I Stan this mom
Being an amazing mom and not letting her disability keep her from doing so
And the love you can feel for her son and just wanting him to be happy
I love her spirit and I am glad you interviewed her. In the Caribbean especially Haiti I can relate to how there is still a lot of stigma and religious not Jesus based relational thinking when it comes to those with different abilities. She loves her son but she also gave him independence to play during the interview. She has goals and dreams still and she is THRIVING. Her mom and sister also are very supportive and loving. I am so grateful for her family.
She is so beautiful! She reminds me of Monica Calhoun. Many blessings to this strong family!
I hove her sister’s energy so much 😂 the pregnancy test story was hilarious ♥️ so happy we have comments again!
Tears to my eyes. This family is beautiful and I love their honesty. Blessings! So inspiring!
My heart is right there with her and aches dearly. I feel her pain and her joy - her joy radiates when talking about her son and their relationship, and I feel her heart break when limitations get in the way. She is so concerned for that little boy - I know that he is going to do great things in life, with an amazing Mama like her.
This lady is such a light, I love her positivity even through the things she can't do. As someone with CP myself, these videos of people with my disability make me know I'm not alone, as I felt alone with my disability for years, and still do sometimes, and people see it as strange that I have CP since I can walk and stuff (as most people with CP cannot walk/have difficulty) but I love this video so much!!
Peace and love everyone ❤