A Quadriplegic and his Caregiving Wife (
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- Опубліковано 16 тра 2021
- Cole is a spinal cord injury survivor who is now a quadriplegic. While rehabbing after his accident Cole saw Charisma, who worked at the clinic. He instantly experienced butterflies in his stomach and felt drawn to her.
Charisma is now Cole’s wife and caregiver. She hopes that when others hear their story, they see the two are in love and have a beautiful marriage.
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Now that you got your comments back, we had to come thank you again, here! It was such a pleasure working with you and we hope to see you again!
We love you guys!!!
absolutely love you guys!!
This video of you two made my day, and reminded me to stay positive which I have a hard time doing at times. Please do your best to ignore mean people.I am 68 years old and have never ever understood meaness.
Indeed! Was so happy I could finally comment on this video. You guys make me go awwww haha... love your channel too!
I went straight to this video to send my support! I'm subscribed to you guys, your channel is so fun!
"She just has a way of making me feel like I'm sixteen again" That's so sweet and genuine.
Very positive Vibes
that was totally corny
My wife is quadriplegic as the result of a car accident in 1984 - we just celebrated our 30th anniversary this summer. Watching this young couple makes me smile - my hopes for them are for as rewarding a life as a married couple as my wife and I have been blessed with. God bless 🙂
Youre very positive please start a youtube channel if possible
Gorgeous Charrisma
Dunkleguy, wow, that is amazing. Kudos to you sir congratulations to you and your wife, as a disabled person who was born this way, this is a extremely beautiful video, I am so happy for Cole!
Wow. 1984 is a very long time ago and 1984 is the year that I was born and I am almost 38 years old.
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Do not let ignorant people damage your relationship. I have been happily married to a ‘white man’ for 45 years! We have been racially slurred on many occasions, but LOVE prevails.
Cole and Charisma, do.not let jealous people destroy your relationship they see deeply love light and many opportunities in your both life and they try to pull you guys down, be very careful.
I love you guys ,l wish good luck.
amen
People are hurting inside and that’s why they hurt others. Pay them no mind, 45 years is a long time to be together and your love for each other is beautiful 💕
Don't ever let people stand in between you and your love
That's horrible and it sucks you have to go through that. Sending you lots of love and good wishes for your marriage xx
I'd disagree slightly on 'normal relationship' - it is very unusual to see so much mutual respect and such a deep connection between partners. I would call this an 'ideal relationship' instead... This really made me happy - diversity is indeed a blessing. Thank you for sharing your story guys! All the best
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Why can’t it be a normal relationship? Please update me on what’s normal? Normal is what the couple or individuals feel comfortable with. I absolutely know this because I am married to a quadriplegic & we met when he was already injured. Our love is ‘normal’, actually probably better than other ‘normal people ‘. So, 42 yrs later, I can brag about our life , it IS NORMAL!😜👍🏻💥🤗 Wake up, humanity!🤓
@@jeanineberna8458 as i said, it looks way too good to be ’normal’ - that’s why i named it ideal. At least i would like people to see something like that when i and my spouse interact and look at each other.
@@TK-pm9mx I am sorry, I think I misunderstood your comment. However, we can ask, what are normal relationships? They’re normal to the ones experiencing it!
@@jeanineberna8458 Jeanine, no worries and thank you for your kind reply! It is definitely true that we all define ’normal’ differently (or have different connotations) - for me, it is something average. And I would wish for everybody that their relationships be much, much better than that. Perhaps I also should be clear that in my opinion, disability definitely isn’t an obstacle for full, meaningful, compassionate and loving relationships.
These people saying that she couldn't have had 'any other white man if not a disabled one' and that 'he wouldn't be with her if he wasn't on a chair', HAVE THEY ACTUALLY LOOKED AT HER??? Girl looks like a super model, both of them are ridiculously good-looking..
Wows so there’s ppl in these comment that are mad that she’s with a white man
Charisma is very pretty and intelligent
I think persons are trying to understand why would someone that’s perfectly ok get married to someone who is a quadriplegic. I guess that’s why they say the things they do. I think the questions might be a bit offensive but naturally curious on their part.
Envy for sure
@@pinkladybathbody1127 who cares? He’s deserving of love too. Some people are just hateful and jealous.
My brother became a quadriplegic from the neck down at 26 yrs old and on a vent. (Bc his diaphragm was also paralyzed) I was his nurse and sister depending on the moment. When he saw this beautiful relationship, it gave him a lot of hope. They truly inspired him to want to try and live. He started doing much better after watching their channel. Sadly, he suddenly and unexpectedly passed away 2.5 years ago. We were extremely close and I miss him every day!
I’m so sorry for your loss! Brakes my heart knowing, that he started to be hopeful, and than he passed away! I’m truly sorry for your and your families loss 😢🙏🏻
I am so sorry.
I’m very sorry. He sounds like he was a good guy and deserved the best
😮 hugs x! I am glad he had hope x
@R Voit- She was talking about a ventilator machine. Her brother couldn't breathe independently due to the severeness his spinal injury. That's why he needed a ventilator or vent to help him breathe.
"She's cool..." With the blush. Oh my days he's still so smitten 🥰🥰🥰
Charisma is so beautiful. Her and Cole's whole union is just absolutely beautiful, they both seem like amazing people. I wish them the best of everything!
They're so wonderful
Keep it the way God ordained it to be. Love you both.
Beautiful couple..
This woman is GORGEOUS. She is so happy, so positive. What an inspiration this lovely couple is!
We don't fall in love with a body- we fall in love with a soul. And that's a good thing because our bodies are constantly changing as we grow older each day and at any time any one of us can have something happen that impacts our body and renders it different then it used to be. Cole and Charisma are two beautiful souls that fell in love. They both have such a beautiful humility about them it is a pleasure to see such a lovely, kind and caring relationship!
Amen!
Well said.
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Amen
So very well said. Thank you.
Im 35 with the same injury as Cole (injured for 20 years), they remind me of how great life can be with the right person. Thank you 😊
may I ask how you got your injury? I hope you have found, or find, your right person. you deserve to be loved
@@elip241 I did the same thing cole did in a way, i dove in shallow water and bad stuff happened. Thank you for the love appreciate that
Bro I can’t get over how attractive they both are. Such gorgeous people
Love this couple. They are so cute, so real about everything. I am saddened that Charisma is treated so horribly by ignorant people. I feel racism will never go away and that is a sad commentary about our world today.
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I don't even think it's about racism. It's just that there are people who like to see dirt everywhere. These people insult everybody. If she was white, they'd be still slurring her, they would just choose something else to pick on.
Bitter losers like to hit down on vulnerable targets, best to not pay attention to them as their opinion stems from spite and ignorance.
To Karisma: Do you really believe if the "shoe was on the other foot," you would be taken care of and treated the same?
"GET OUT!"
I just love how big they smiles get when they r thinking about each other
Her name being Charisma is just the greatest thing, it suits her SO WELL!
"Everyone is deserving of love" and they are so in sync and adorable
I love how hes throwing little jokes in there too. "I thought I just hit a nerve wrong. I did hit a nerve wrong, my spinal cord nerve." Idk why but that made me giggle the way he worded it
I love when someone has the ability to laugh at themselves. It's good therapy, kinda frees you in a way.
Shes truly one of those rare sweet people. She deserves all good things. Shes truly a kind person.
OMG!!! He has the most beautiful, adorable laugh I've ever listen. He's soooo handsome, and she's GORGEOUS!!!!
This video is so sweet. "People in love know." Glad Cole has felt so much meaning in the wake of such a trauma.
That said, I go to a new instagram friend's profile and like a bunch of their photos all the time... maybe I'm giving them the wrong idea. ha.
I look at you guys and my eyes water cause as a disabled person who feels like she has had nothing but failures in the romantic department, i want something like what you guys have. It's palpable, the love and ease you have with one another. It's so encouraging and makes my heavy heart feel lighter.
You'll find it dear, believe me, you will. Work on loving yourself and love will eventually come to you (this is the same advice I give to myself). I know it must be hard to have had so many disappointment but one day you'll meet someone who will make it all feel worth it 💛
@@BrandNewBlueShoes thanks for the encouragement. Lots of internet hugs your way! 💕
There is someone special out there for you… Work on loving yourself. Loving God and accepting yourself for the beautiful treasure you are. Love will find you when you least expect it 💕💝
As a guy in a wheelchair, I can relate
Never give up on love ❤️ you deserve it just as much as anyone!!
This is my third comment but- I admire so much the intentional listening Cole and Charisma practice , never speaking over one another, listening intently, smiling and nodding proudly. It’s a beautiful and inspiring thing to see. I’ll be taking this lesson to practice in my own life. Thank you both
👏👏👏👏❤exactly this.
Their love for each other is contagious
Even if she were his patient that's okay. My partner was my therapist at a rehab and we fell in love. We never dated until she no longer worked at that facility. We were essentially freinds for a year first. We celebrated 15 years together in March and I'm still as giddy as I was on our first date. We bought our first home her in Cali in 2014 and have 2 dogs and 2 cats. I struggle everyday, but her love has truly made it all worth it. I still struggle with the fact I have a disability and I don't tell anyone really....but I have love and my family. I have it all. Oh ya, she went on to get her LCSW and is a professor at a university and executive director of a wonderful non-profit serving impoverished women and children. She also created an art therapy class that should be in every school. She is the kindest person ever. In 15 years she has never been unkind to me. Never. I didn't even know that was humanly possible lol.
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Oh you are so blessed. Thank God daily for her constant love and try to be worthy of it. So glad for you both!
How do stop crying when I read lovely write ups like this one ? There are truly kind humans… we should all be your partner… send my love to her. Bless you both
Beautiful!!!
God is so good. Thank you for sharing your story. So beautiful.
20 years ago I had a 2 year, live in relationship with a man with the same level injury as Cole. He also had a diving accident. He was a handsome and charismatic man - all the women carers fancied him. Sadly he died at the young age of 47
So sorry for your loss.
Positive Vibes
I absolutely love Cole and Charisma! They are such a cute couple! I wish them very much health and happiness in life!!❤❤❤
She is beautiful and it's inside and out. She is an empath and you can trust her she is an old soul. God bless you both. Have a wonderful life.
They can’t keep their eyes from each other, this is what ‘in-love’ looks like, just beautiful!
the way they just visibly light up with love and admiration when they talk about each other is so pure and beautiful to see. i wish them all the happiness
It's kind of amazing that this couple, dealing with the racial and disability issue have such a better and healthier relationship than couples who deal with neither! God Bless you two always ❣️
I HAVE LOVED THIS COUPLE FOR YEARS AND STILL DO!
The way she looks at him absolutely melts my heart 🥺
The love these two share is so pure and beautiful. Two souls who came to this Earth together to find each other. Meant to be. ❤️
What a beautiful poetry you wrote, pretty woman.
Charisma has such a innocent and genuine vibe. I also understand why Cole love her lovely smile.
You can see the love hearts around these two
Most honest and authentic interview ever. They love each other deeply.
I was blessed with an amazing daughter In law who is black, and have me an amazing granddaughter who now has 2 beautiful girls. My family accepted them so sad people are prejudice, God is not prejudice. ALOHA
I hope they ACCEPTED your family, too?
They’re so darn cute!! The fact that she openly confessed she googled wheelchair weddings is cute!! When there is a connection, you’re literally excited to learn everything about them. They’re sucha strong couple! Love this!
Omg how can anyone not see how gorgeous Charisma is both inside and out!! Both of you have striking good looks and personalities! Racist and judgemental people are worthless in this world! Keep being wonderful people!❤
You said this so well. They are wonderful people. I remember thinking they are such a good looking couple; those dimples, blue eyes and both have beautiful smiles, but I also noticed they are beautiful on the "inside" too! 💞😊
Charisma is beautiful inside and out 😊🤗
Cutest couple ever!
i'm blushing just seeing these two have a conversation, seriously wholesome how both of them seem to be just as in love as the other, pure love!
Their relationship is so pure and cute😭🫶🏾
The intersection between racism and ableism is sooo hard to talk about and process.
I'm usually the only POC in a relationship, and the more disabled one, which makes it really hard to get my partners to understand all the aspects I'm battling.
While it's hard for both of you, there's probably a good chance to both understand each other because you both have your own experiences with isms, and you're both feeling effects of both isms (so he is experiencing how racism effects you both, and she is experiencing how ableism effects you both), which is an important thing for your relationship.
i'm so glad you're talking about this.
This exactly!
I see 2 young adults who love each other ,I don’t see colour or disability . This is a beautiful relationship and cole and charisma are soulmates, meant to be . 🥰🥰
How sweet...so glad that Cole and Carisma can have a dream marriage. Ive had Cerebral Palsy since birth and am 62. I have a wonderful caregiver and feiends. So thankful.
Omg, they’re so freaking cute. They’re the perfect couple!❤
It is so refreshing to see couples so in love with each other. May God bless you abundantly with a beautiful life together. Wishing you love always.
They are both so good-looking! And I appreciate them expressing the intersection of the different barriers and discrimination they both face.
What a beautiful relationship do you two have. Powerfull and loving.
I am white my late husband was African American. It was challenging at times. It was worth it! We were together for 25 years before he died this past Sept. The racial stuff is crazy but God is able
The very first thing I thought when I started watching this video was how cute they were and how hard it is to find a relationship like that. You can feel the looooove, the happiness, the willingness to be with each other. They made me feel happy just by looking at them.
They have such golden heart not a lot of people have that perspective on love. I’m in a wheelchair and hope to find something similar to them🔥
This video has helped me tremendously. Thanks to the both of you and SBSK for sharing this story. I've been so worried about my upcoming battles and surgeries from complications from radiation and breast cancer and that my husband will be my caretaker for the months to come and possibly for the rest of my life. You guys are amazing, inspiring and you've made a huge impact on my mental well-being. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Wishing you all the best, hodge podge! You got this.
Blessings.
I love how much you love each other, like you’re still on your honeymoon. And you talk to each other about everything.
You two are blessed!
You two are so awesome..❤❤❤❤
They’re a beautiful couple! I watch them on here! Cole looked so shy lol cute!
Such a beautiful couple! I'm so glad they found one another!
Thank you for addressing the issues you face because of racism as well as challenges of being in an interabled marriage.
I once thought we lived somewhat in a post-rascist society. It is better to discuss the issue than to sweep it under the rug. Blessings to all of you!
Thank you..
I can’t say enough good things about Charisma. What a woman of character!
Gosh…. I just cannot stop watching these two lovebirds glowing. The world is a better place with their mission in mind.
The way he looks at her! Wow. You really can see all the love he has for her. Same for her also, but his eyes are more expressive
Thank you! I’m 79 and I never met anyone that wanted to marry me. You give me hope😢
what a beautiful couple, you can see in their eyes how they love each other. god bless them
She’s so animated happy… animated… good4her gd luck to both x
Awww what a beautiful love they share awwww it's awesome
Charisma and Cole, you are ‘ MAGICAL ‘. God Bless You Both!
Wow!- Cole, I was 🙏Praying for you hard at the time of your accident, when the goal was just for you to Survive such a bad accident!!.. (I lived in Richmond & would go to the trails on the James River every week!).. I'm so overjoyed that you met such an intelligent, very Uplifting, Beautiful Angel & Wife, & have had such a great, special, Blessed outcome!!-🙏
I saw the beautiful wedding as of now. God is great. He is magnificent. The two of you are marvelous. You have his blessing in your life together. Congratulations on your union together. Continue loving one another. Jehovah God will continue blessing the two of you. Thumbs up 👍😻🤩💕🌹
I have Followed Cole and Charisma for a long time and it bothers me that people are mean to you guys - especially racial slurs towards Charisma ! She is pure positivity and love ❤️
I love Cole and Charisma ! I've followed them since before their wedding. What they show in this video is who they are! Their love is palpable, easily seen with just the looks between them and the smiles on their faces. Throw in their dialog and it's a win win relationship. I love you two ! Thank you SBSK for featuring them !!
Cole’s moment of honesty when he says all the things he’s not stoked about is so refreshing.
Charisma..... Amazing...... I can't even...... What a big soul
Love your love story! The love of my life, my husband, and I very unexpectedly fell in love. He's black. I'm white. And he is high functioning autistic, and the sweetest, most decent, genius, talented human being I've ever known. I'm a little bit annoying and crazy lol Sadly, his mother didn't come to our wedding because they were upset that he was marrying a white woman. And some questioned me being with an autistic man. Our love is strong, steady, and sweet. Congratulations and bravo to you!
Loser NO NEED TO BRING RACE N DIS
@@NiteDriv3r it was relevant to MY story
@@NiteDriv3r also, they brought up race as a factor in their relationship
@@debraholz9756 I am sorry you just got attacked for no good reason. Sweet story. Blessings to your love.
That’s awesome! Refreshing to hear stories like yours.
I just loved this interview, Cole and Charisma are an absolute delight, …… just so beautiful …. The love truly shines through❤️…
I am an an elderly person, this is the first time I ever hear such an aazing story. Everyone need to e loved irrespective of how he or she is.I am proud of you guys.May the Almighty bliss you.
People feel they can say anything because they are anonymous . It is so amazing to me to hear what is being said to you guys. Your life is so great sometimes i am jealous. Keep on doing what you do. Your love shines through.
This is real love. The two of them bring the best in each other. How glorious is this? They are growing together with extreme love for each other. Blessings eternally.
Im injured from a car accident. This helped out a lot. Thank you.
Beautiful couple, and Charisma really has a name that reflects her personality, here's the definition for that word: "compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others". It was a pleasure to listen to you, I wish you the best.
These two are SOOOO cute together!! Obviously perfect for each other. It's rare to see people so head over heels for each other! Just wonderful!!
I absolutely LOVE seeing the way they talk about each other and the way they talk WITH each other too, it's so beautiful!
Great interview
Charisma and Cole what a BEAUTIFUL COUPLE! It's really a joy watching your videos. You set a great example of how a marriage should work. May you have many many many more years together, happy and in love!
I saw a comment on one of your other vids where a guy said "Charisma is so beautiful and I wish I could have someone to love me like that..." even in non-disabled relationships things are so hard and so sad...God bless you both.
So glad the comments are back!! I wanted to express just how cute this couple is when I first watched the interview. 💗
They are so adorable I can't even handle it.
Such a sweet loving couple! So upbeat and optimistic. Charisma's lovely dimples and Cole's beautiful blue eyes. I wish you all the happiness you deserve...
I'm so glad he found her to be the most important part of his life ! ❤❤❤❤❤
The comments are back! This is relationship goals! 💕
What an adorable couple. You can feel the deep love they have for each other ❤️❤️❤️
These two are the real deal. They're so sweet to each other. I hope they stay together forever. ❤
Charisma lives up to her name!
A match made in heaven ❤️😁Thank you both for being so brave and so kind at the same time🙏!
This beautiful couple made me so happy and smile seeing the love they feel ...true soulmates ☺️🥰💗💕❤️
This is the embodiment of a couple glowing with the pure happiness of being in love with someone who loves you back as equally and fiercely. The look on each person’s face when they are speaking about the other is the type of genuine love everyone deserves to find.
A truly beautiful and inspiring relationship- not because of the differences or challenges they face but because of the incredible mutual respect, admiration and love they openly and freely share with each other. So many people are afraid to be vulnerable or to give of themselves wholly in a relationship, afraid of being hurt but to develop a true, genuine bond requires that we take that risk. You can see that being together genuinely lifts both of them up and nourishes their souls.
I’m shocked and dismayed that being an interracial couple is still an issue for some people in this day and age.
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her name is charisma, that says it all, damn what a sweetheart and a loving couple
Thank you Cole and Charisma for sharing your relationship with us! Love you both!
I think it's awesome you didn't shy away from important adult themes around that kind of relationship. It could all be naively about how happy they are and stop there, but not only the interabled but the interracial aspect was the obvious elephant in the room. Kudos. Great videos as always. Great people. They make my day.
this was such a sweet episode. he shared how people make assumptions but his life is fuller than he ever could have imagined.
God put you two together and regardless love conquers all !!!