Frankly, I feel ashamed because I being a man, did a lot of those things that she mentioned. Now I cannot change the society but I can definitely change myself. At least, I will try to. And I will raise my son and daughter appropriately, as individuals.
Janki Jan Are you living in a 3rd world Nation? Or just another 1st world man that doesn't realize that women in the 1st world have more rights than men?
Doesn't matter 1st world or 3rd world, gender discrimination exists everywhere. In some cases, men are discriminated and in some cases women are discriminated. Until there is self-realization, we cannot be better human beings. And I'm just trying to change my perspective for men and women and try my best to treat them equally. Is that a bad thing?
Fluffy Snatch Do you feel like a victim? Because I sure don't. If, (when?) war, system-state collapse and famine happens, I'll be on the preferable half of the psychopathic Mad Max foodchain.
I've been told alot of times by my teachers and mentors that I'm too ambitious and I will not get married because no man will have me under their roof. Today my career has been all about growth and I'm married. The modern man will love an ambitious woman for all she stands for. Dont ever let your ambition be disregarded because people believe you shouldn't be as successful as your counterpart. Thanks Chimmanda for speaking out!
@@KevinM88TR11 No. She might be married, but her husband is a feminine man. Not on the outside but within. This lady is full boss, in her relationship. That's not equality, but rather greed.
@@KevinM88TR11 Maculine men, agree that women should be equal, most certainly, (like women's lib) but manly men dont like this whining feminism stuff. Women in Canada gripped so much that are all way ahead of men now. Watch your pants
Except that from her speech, it's not her gender that made her do this speech so you don't need to be proud of being a woman because she did a great job. It's ability skill and talent and not gender that produced it. Plus her speech should not make us proud of Africa or womanhood but it's a gentle rebuke that we need to do better. In my opinion but I stand to be corrected.
@@mofimTV So stand to be corrected. The comment I felt was only expressing happiness foe being what she is and saying thanks to an inspiring woman. Is ALL!
Feminism has failed miserably. One and four American women are on anti-depressants studies has shown that they are the most unhappy they have ever been since they started doing studies.
Mikey Gray can you elaborate? Cause to me that quote is just about being a confident women, and wanting to be with a man who appreciates that about you
Mikey Gray yeah sorry your speaking in circles and just not making sense compared to what my original comment was. Maybe try reading my comment again? I think it speaks for itself.
Women consider their view of the world to be the only correct one and do not consider it sexism, and the male view of the world is considered sexism if it is not identical to the female view of the world. Conclusion: feminism is sexism, not equality.
“We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller, we say to girls you can have ambition- but not too much, you should aim to be successful but not too successful otherwise you will threaten the man” - Chimanda Ngozi. What a powerhouse, her simplicity in explaining this was immaculate.
@ Cassandro Steingo That butch in the video would like to "threaten" all men in order to feel an artificial power running through her body and mind , feeling extatic for a while and then crying like a baby that there are no men anymore .
As a 16 year old Afghan girl I really inspired by these speeches, first I read the book and then again I watched this, same issues are happening in Afghanistan. U can notice they are also deprived from education and work, it's not the first time, when the government was not from Taliban, we also had girls and women who couldn't do anything as a woman. Thank you for inspiring more and better 🥲❤😊
As an african, i pray for afghan women every day. I pray for a future where afghan women are free and respected. Not enough people are talking about you! I hope that changes. Love from africa x
@Rosa San Martin you’re not living in Nigeria so you’ll never understand. Nigerian men don’t like women earning their own money so that she can’t divorce him. Our country doesn’t really have alimony or child support laws since most people are married traditionally and divorce is a taboo
@Rosa San Martin Nigerian men prevent their wives from working so that no matter how much abuse she receives, she can’t divorce him, he’ll chase her out with the kids into the streets to fend for themselves. Nigerian laws are mainly governed by religions . In Nigeria the reason why women work is to earn money for herself so whenever he chases her away she can fend for herself. A Nigerian man can chase away his wife and 9kids to take in another woman without consequences.
I've finally found someone who understands my anger. It really breaks my heart that a lot of women just accept that. As long as I am alive, I will keep fighting
Agree we need more female miners, off-shore oil workers, sewer repairers, refuse collectors, commercial tyre fitters, abattoir works. Wouldn't you agree?
@@dh1474 if only it wasn’t look down on women to work on those jobs and joked about like there’s no women on those fields then this comment wouldn’t be necessary
@@saurabhm383 did you even hear to what she said and that's just about the orthodox mentality of some people. They still go on with the cliches. I fear how their future generations will survive with this kind of mindset. They should be treated as equals.
@@yourfavoriteoompaloompa139 Not nearly as well as a man though. How many female mechanics, electricians, plumbers, engineerrs, miners, fishermen, construction workers do you see?
Blown away. She is articulate, well-mannered and also clear on the points. She handles and expresses the problem effectively and fairly, emphasising both sides, in such a way that is not about defense, but about hope, and about uniting and celebrating the goodness in all genders. What a wonderful speech. Thank you.
***** I'm sorry, what? Did you not understand anything that was said in this speech? What part of articulate and well-mannered offended you, exactly? The fact that I am praising and appreciating someone's ability to perform a speech. Or should I have commented on how she looks? I'm sorry, what did you expect ME to have replied and commented on this video? If you are implying I have said something sexist, I beg you to please show me exactly how I have managed to do that. And if you are right I will apologise. But as far as I am aware, I did not say anything that related towards her gender, and if it is my glee and appreciation towards her delivery that makes you think it is implied sexism, then you are wrong. I do not expect anyone to give an immaculate speech, man or woman, and my appreciation for that has nothing to do even remotely with gender, and your reaction towards that is completely unwarranted and unnecessary. But even if I had expected something (hey it's a ted talk - so it must be great!), it is still part of me as a person to appreciate and celebrate that (the specific thing I even stated in my comment). Thank you.
Nanciefy Amber wasn't saying that your comment implied sexism, she was saying that it implied racism- the first sentence anyway. Historically if a white person says that a black person is "articulate" and "well-mannered" or anything of that nature it comes off as "Wow! I didn't know you people could form complete sentences and conduct yourselves with the rest of society!" I'm sure that's not what you were going for, but I'm 99.9% sure that is why she was offended.
What does that say about someone's expectations of me? For someone to take what I said and assume it had something to do with that, to twist a compliment, what does that say about their expectation of me, and should I also be offended by that? I won't be. But it's ironic. Thanks for explaining anyway. It's definitely not what I was going for. I do find it funny how she had to find something bad in my comment though when just a few comments down there are people blatently saying obscene things. Either way, I am sorry for anyone who interpretted it that way.
Nanciefy You're welcome! I don't think you should be offended, because people just process information through the prism of their own experiences. So, if someone has experiences with something negative (like racism), things that could be misconstrued as such will more than likely be viewed that way.
I laughed so hard at the part where Chimamanda shouted, "Thank you sir!"😂😂 I love the way she tells her story exactly the way it happened.❤ She didn't lost me for a single moment throughout the course of her 30-minute speech.🎉
You do realize that is a completely meaningless insight, right? Yes, people make the culture, and then culture influences people. If that impressed you, you need to get your lips pried off this lady's big backside.
+Evelance Fairchild True. What is considered as normal is only considered as such because it's what the majority are doing. The thing is that sometimes (not always) there are actually some good reasons for it being the way it is.
I feel bad for the people who stumbled upon this video and skipped it .. or heard the first five minutes and stopped.. it's the most positive way of talking about the subject
It's a boring video, she's just generalizing and doesn't consider different cases, she only is tryin' to make it look like all women have problems and are oppresed, which is not.
@@chlo_xo333 I don’t believe in equality, at least for me and my kin. Why should I, a pure blooded descendant of the first men of this continent, be equal to the likes of you? I also carry noble blood, so that should also be the more reason to grant me the privileges I rightfully deserve. Except I don’t have any privileges, I hate that fact because it is my right or at least it should be.
Thank you. In India and feminism is still a taboo. I feel angry and suffocated because nobody else is angry about the daily discrimination that happens here. This video has really re-instilled motivation in me
❤I know it is tough but i hope you will eventually be strong enough to stand up for the right cause to educate the people around you, don't give up India needs women like you angry women will change the world (:
Just because you can't get laid doesn't mean women shouldn't have rights, you basmenet dweller. Living in families and having 10 babies didn't bring us to the current level of advancement Edit : Great they deleted their comment
This reminds me of years ago, back in secondary school when a teacher divided my class into two groups for a quiz. Boys versus Girls and at the end of the quiz the girls won and he said to us (guys) "Why did you let the girls win?" I complained that he was being sexist by assuming that the girls won because we allowed them to win and he called me a woman and insulted me. Funny enough, everyone in class laughed at me, including the girls. Like Chimamanda expounds here, some African women aren't raised to be feminist, and I grew up believing everyone is equal, not just gender but race and sexuality. It is ok for a man to be feminist too, as John Stuart Mill supported the equality of women and the freedom of individuals.
"you should aim to be successful, but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten the man" so true! I'm studying to be a lawyer and I once got told that I should get married before I qualify as an advocate because it will be harder for me to find a husband thereafter. Is that all my existence as a woman is reduced to? A wife? Not a woman who is able to be strong, independent and impact her environment? I would rather die alone, an accomplished successful lawyer, than submit to the patriarchal standards of my society, thank you very much.
I certainly support you in your journey, but I have the funny feeling that you will be quite mad when you happen to wake up someday and realize that you are in your late 30's with a strong wish for children creeping into your head and no "suitable" man around to fulfill that wish. Just make sure that you are aware of the consequences and hardiness of stepping outside the beaten path and if that is truly what you want in your life. If that is not the case, then you set yourself up for a lot of late grief...just saying, you wouldn't be the first woman to regret. Biology can be a bitch, just keep that in mind.
Asto508123 adoption is a thing. Sperm donation is a thing. Single parenthood is a thing. Right now I'm following my dream first. Children can be future me's problem
As I began this video, I thought "what a gorgeous woman, I love her hair and her whole look" and as she spoke, I thought "she's a very confident speaker and I love her accent too" then at the end of the video I thought, "She's a gorgeous human being, she sees the truth of the injustice. She's not only beautiful to look at, like one would think of first of a woman, but she's beautiful inside, based on the things she says, because she's well-educated and smart." Such a great video.
ikr? i was watching an indian video on the same topic a while back and the comments were so toxic, i felt bad for the people in their lives from the way they treat other people
It seems weird to me that there are women in the comment section, claiming how they are anti-feminist. If it had not been for feminism, you wouldn't have the same rights as you have today. You are brushing off all of the actions done by feminist prior you, who dedicated their lives, to make sure that women got these rights that we have today. Just because you don't experience inequality in your every day life, doesn't mean that no one else doesn't either. What happened to empathy? And to the men sitting here complaining about how 'feminism is all about women', you clearly haven't listened to her speech before you commented. Feminism is about equality for all genders. Feminism is not flawless because it is made by humans, and humans aren't perfect, but it's the best thing that we have. The best hope for us, who don't want our dreams to be questioned because "Isn't that a man's job?" The best hope for us, who are questioned if we want "career or family?" I am a feminist. Not only because I want the same opportunities as my brother has; but because there are so many people out there, men and women, who should be free to be who they are and do what they want.
***** I don't really see what you see as flaws with feminism, and therefore I have a hard time understanding why you won't call yourself a feminist when you believe in equality of the sexes, and still see the differences in society. (Sorry for any mistakes btw, my first language isn't English)
***** Okay let me ask you something: How often do you see male politicians being asked what brand of shoes they are wearing? I'm just wondering, that's all. For the record, I'm from Denmark, where we have a woman as our prime minister, and she is constantly scrutinized for the brands her clothes, shoes and bags are. All of which she pays for herself. Her opponent is a male whom has his expensive suits paid by the party, and has loads of scandals (His name is Lars Løkke... You can look him up if you don't believe me.) and everyone just seems to shrug it off? I don't know where you're from of course, but I'll take the liberty to quote an American newspaper, describing Hillary Clinton: "She was wearing a rose-colored blazer over a black top. The neckline sat low on her chest and had a subtle V-shape. The cleavage registered after only a quick glance. No scrunch-faced scrutiny was necessary." This article was from Washington Post in 2007, but I really don't hope you'll go as low as to tell me that it 'has changed' because I can easily find other articles to prove you wrong. I'm just wondering if you have ever heard anything like that with a man? Women are being scrutinized for what they wear in politics, like it was some fashion show. No wonder Angela Merkel wears the same thing in different colors every day. When Theresa May (UK) in 2012 made a mistake in timing of the deportation of Abu Qatada, the main focus wasn't on the mistake in itself, but on her age and her gender - or rather that the implication that she had a feeble unreliable woman's mind. You are right that there are female mayors, senators, business owners, governors and whatever more, but if you look at the per cent of them all, then the numbers are ridiculously small. That's not the sound of equality, that's the sound of my dreams crushing.
***** "there are no laws preventing you, or any other women from being in those fields, so what is the big deal?" I'm glad you ask, because it brings up a very important point: legal rights and cultural rights are not identical. Women have the legal right to walk down an out-of-the-way city street at night without getting raped, but they don't really have that right in practice (and sure, she can prosecute, but that doesn't mean it didn't happen). Men have the legal right to wear a dress without being harassed or even assaulted, but they don't really have that right in practice (again, he can take legal action, but that doesn't mean it didn't happen). Now these are extreme examples to illustrate the point, but the same concept applies. Men and women are treated completely differently by our culture, and probably more importantly: they are raised completely differently by our culture, so having the same legal rights doesn't mean having equal opportunities.
***** 1. But it is important! It is a problem when half the population has to be rated on appearance before they can get heard. If they can't be heard, how are they supposed to get anywhere? Some manage to of course, but if you look at it statistically, you can see how underrespresentrated women are in places of power. Representation is one of the key stones in democracy, especially if you want to deal with issues that aren't just "rich people's problems" as you like to call them. 2. Denmark is a monarchy.
Yeah, men are now choosing women a LOT more carefully, since they now have the power to end the relahionship at will and get all the legal rewards afterwards
My younger brother came to live with me, will go to the kitchen and get his food, then drop the utensils for my niece to return from work and wash, because according to him washing plates is not for men. Of course I did not put up with that. You do the dishes and any other domestic work when its you at home or leave my house. He got the message clear.
of course you should do that, but while doing that make sure there is no "boys only" work like : cutting grass or fixing appliances in the house if not the societal effects would not be equal it will be reverse. Most of these domestic work stereotypes were actually created in african settings due to the fact that there are a lot of jobs like heavy farming, cutting firewood e.t.c that were heavily physical and so were exclusively male and so women took up other jobs in order to balance labor. It's important that while we are changing the society we do not break it
Once again, we get a chorus of ignorant dudebros crying their male tears of oppression after a feminist drops a whole ton of knowledge on them. Truth hurts, huh dudebros? Too bad. Deal with it. Great job, Ms. Adichie!
Feminists want men to be more open with their emotions. Why? So they can make fun of them! I would rather stick to "gender roles" and suppress my emotions.
Cool story bro, why don't you move to Sweden and see how you feel being a man over there.. that's what feminism does to societies. It isn't about equality, it's about man shaming, power, control and silencing dissent.
I was born in Russia. My dad is Chinese. My dad beat my mom, yells at her all the time, and thinks he's the boss. Because of this, my psyche collapsed. In Russia, they can't stand women, they are constantly insulted. Feminism is needed all over the world, especially in Russia, Asia and Africa. Western countries have passed the path of feminism, but there is still no full equality.
Lol, Russia is a hard-core matriarchal society. In all Russian families I know, the man is a c u c k who is being bossed around by his wife. And if you don't want to be bossed around by women, you are called a p*ssy. Russian women HATE independent men. Also, your father isn't even Russian.
"we praise girls for virginity but we don't praise boys for virginity and its always makes me wonder how exactly this is supposed to work out. Because the loss of virginity is usually a cause of involved....++" 👏👏👏👏👏
@@sheesh5591 science is how people think and react (someone says something then a chemical reaction happens in the brain making positive or negative reactions) aka psychology
***** We wouldn't HAVE to make them ''all about us'' if we had them in the first place. Give me a call when women stop being discriminated and treated as sexual objects that only exist for the pleasure of men.
I'm sorry,but you clearly have no comprehension of what feminism really is. Feminism does focus more on women,mostly because women face social injustice far more than men these days,but it's also concerned about men,especially male rape victims. The name has 'fem' in it because it was started by women,but it does not under any circumstance help only women. Why do you think we're so against patriarchy? Because it was PATRIARCHY that teaches us that men want to have sex all the time and therefore actually enjoy rape,as gruesome as it sounds. That's what we're against. What you're trying to call me has a name and it's a misandrist,which I'm not. ''Feminazis'' as you'd like to call them are misandrists,not feminists. It's not just about legal protection,it's about the way society percieves women.
***** Can't we just acknowledge that gender, or sex for that matter is still a big deal in society, and that we all experience problems, men and woman alike, but individuals to different extends?
I realized I was a feminist because of church. I was tired of the pastors preaching to women, as it we are the root of evil. From there I started noticing other things outside of church. I would speak up about it and getting people to notice what I was noticing. What angers me the most is the unequal pay. Thanks Beyonce for exposing me to Chimanada Ngozi Adichie!
could agree with almost everything you said until the pay gap nonsense. It has already been debunked numerous times. www.cbsnews.com/news/the-gender-pay-gap-is-a-complete-myth
Ask your women;s study teacher to update the curriculum because their teaching is making you look like a fool if you claim pay gap outside your classroom.
uunknown uunknown no, it really hasn't. it is ongoing and real. try college - it's fun. you may learn about the critical difference btwn research sources and the construct of a scientific study. good luck.
Sen Tra it is actually your woefully under-punctuated sentence and erroneous reply to an established fact that is making YOU look like a fool. read lots more of the scientific literature; speak less, till you're done.
beccahday English is not my first language and I can read, write and speak a total of 5 languages including english. You do sound like a typical feminist, when logic fails you attack grammar and language. Btw, what is established fact ? go and search gender pay gap and you will find the facts.
What i find funny is people commenting here that "feminists hate men" or "feminists want to be superior"... I mean, DID YOU EVEN WATCH THE VIDEO? wtf are you here for then? Haven't you got anything else to do besides hate on people fighting for equal rights? Ignorance doesn't give you free ticket to talk shit on the internet. Google feminism, please. And btw, keep in mind that feminism does favor men as well. Like Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie beautifully mentions in the video, you are all expected to be the one with the money, or to be extremly tough, to an extent that anything as little as carrying your girlfriend/wife's purse on the mall can damage and put to risk your masculinity/sexuality (that was just an example okay) Also, yes men are raped. But they are never blamed for it. "What were you thinking? Walking alone at that time of the night in a deserted street? You certainly wanted to get raped, (insert male name here)." THAT'S NOT SOMETHING YOU HEAR, although the other way around is pretty common. Also, if men are raped, the shame in assuming it is SO HUGE that most keep it a secret. It shouldn't be, since it wasn't the victim's fault. Again, patriarchy implies that men being raped is shameful. "Why should he admit it, if it probably damaged his masculinity, anyway?" Can you see where I'm getting at? So PLEASE PLEASE people, get to know a movement before judging it.
+lalaglaser I know! Seriously. As much as I support feminism because I care about the women in my life, like my wife and my daughter and countless other family and friends, I also know that I (a man) benefit directly from it. Much of what MRA's talk about are issues that feminism has been addressing for generations. Also, you suggest "google feminism." Here's an idea for critics of feminism -- try picking up a damn book! I've been reading "Feminist Theory" by bell hooks. I highly recommend it.
+Greg Pagel thank you! And I only recommend googling it cause I suppose the type of people that judges feminism by it's stereotypes wouldn't care to pick up a book. They are already wasting their time hating on the internet, why not waste a minute to really know what you're talking about? But books are always better, of course. I'm really glad there are some men who can see clearly (:
lalaglaser Sure. I knew what you meant. The obvious problem with google and the Internet in general is that it directs you to misinformation and simple-minded bloggers just as quickly as legitimate, informed writers. And since many information-seekers are angry to begin with, which sites do you think they'll visit first? Here's an interesting thing I read just today in the book I mentioned: She says that many women who have clearly and obviously benefitted directly from the feminist movement will almost invariably distance themsleves from it, and trash feminism. Even though they will agree with all of its aims, point by point. And this was published *in 1984!*
Feminists are against the fight for equal rights. Thats the last thing they want. Just because someone says they're something doesn't mean they are. I'm glad you're not a judge, you'd let everyone who says they're not gulity go.
I feel sad about the way women and men are afraid to say they are feminists. Chimamanda says, "a world of happier men, and happier women who are truer to themselves". Please, don't accuse all feminists of hating men. Focus on the love and positivity of wanting equality for men and women! I want a world where men can cry without being called "gay" and where women can ask for fairer pay without being called feminists in a negative way. Let us strive towards this equalism, to become better human beings. Much love, Morgan.
scootigger I dont know about you, but I have never heard one feminist talk about problems such as unfair custody or the fact that men make up 94% of work-related fatalities.
Ryan M I once campaigned for the equality of male and female nurses? Males are often assumed to be worse at nursing which is ridiculous, so I campaigned for them and with them. Now you can add a feminist who gives a damn about men to your list :) I care about everyone x
Feminism has failed miserably. One in four women are now on antidepressants. There are a lot of studies being done right now why women are the most unhappy in the history of keeping track of such things.
Brilliant speech!! If you watched the entire video and still think feminism means the supremacy of the female gender, you just didn't get the lecture... If you don't like gender supremacy, you should be a feminist. Simple as that.
+Yasmim Pessoa Or, you could be an egalitarian. Feminist itself is a gendered word in favor of females lol If you don't think feminism means the supremacy of the female gender, you just aren't paying attention. Your bias blinds you. As for Greg Pagel, anti-feminists respond to criticism and videos from feminists constantly. Can't say the same for feminists though. They just write off any criticism as misogyny, or people "not getting it" If you don't like gender supremacy, you should be an egalitarian. Simple as that.
+Yasmim Pessoa Let's not judge all feminist based on the words of Chimamanda. Chimamanda is one of the few sensible feminist out there, she is one of the few I will sit down to listen to. Having conversed with her before, you could tell she really cares about equality. Many of the people who tag themselves under the name feminist do not care about equality. I like Chimamanda, I'm not sure if I could say the same for most feminists.
I'm Nigerian myself (Igbo) and I can really relate to this this. All my life, my mother has always taught me to cook for everyone, clean everywhere, keep quiet, always worry about everyone else but your self, ect. What Chimanda has said has really touched me and no words can describe how I feel that someone can relate to me so well .
These hate comments against feminists honestly are quite sad. I am kind of shocked in this time and age people who want equality are shamed... PROUD MALE FEMINIST HERE :D
This video is such an eye opener. I see Nigeria (Africa) is soooooo soooooooo much similar to India. Word by word it's the same. The cultural perspectives, the expectation of gender roles....impossible!!!!
But we don't have bold and outspoken women like her here. Women here are demure and get controlled by patriarchy very easily. Nigeria is seeing a new wave of strong outspoken women who are making a difference. Name one woman from India who speaks like this. We still have a long way to go.
Be the change you want to see in the world. Be that bold woman and you will see there is a whole army of men and women who will support you. This is what I experienced. All the very best for your life journey🙏 And by the way, if you can't name an Indian women doing her own thing you are blind.
At 16 I was told by a friend that no honorable man will marry me because I want to make a documentary on prostitutes . I told her that I don't want to marry a man whose fragile ego is more important to than what an entire segment of society is going through.
Most guys probably don't care about that, but things which mark you as a flight risk matter alot. Guys get destroyed when a marriage ends, their suicide rate is 9 times higher than the average woman going through the same thing. So it's not the prostitutes, which should be a more respected industry than it is, it's about whether your behavior gives off red flags that you'll be a quitter down the line
"We have been raised to think ofwomen as inherently guilty and have been raised to expect so little of men that the idea of men as savage beings without any control is somehow acceptable" 👏👏
I don't know where you've been raised that it's taught like that. But I feel sorry for you, feel even more sorry for the people who were raised to think women are innocent until proven guilty and that men are guilty until proven innocent. Or in other words, our modern law
@@pieontoastsandloafs yaa alot of police most of the time arrest men even if they are innocent and the women is the criminal And men barely have any shelter in us there are only 1 shelter for men in India there is only 1 shelter per 4 states for men and the law isn't meant to privilege us it is made against us child support, divorce, and so on
We can't judge the whole activity by just a group of people. Women want equality for so long and it's normal for some people to act weird and turn crazy.
And by 'like this' you mean passive and shying away from the gritty realities of toxic masculinity and male privilege? Oppressors love having their balls sucked. No hon, it wasn't very effective back then. The fact that Feminism is much more well known now proves that it's much more effective.
Nicole Hart hi! I didn't get what was the problem with the comment you have commented on ; the one "freedom of speech is cool but can you find the person who asked?". I sincerely want to know as I didn't get the issue of their statement; might be a language problem but your clarification would help. Thanks
I came here because of seeing Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie talking in the wake of the US election. I think she is truly inspirational. I also went and found one of her novels that I'm now reading. Its amazing, thank you. I am white British.
Ha! So funny :) Maybe we will one day speak again. I pity you, because we do talk to each other, and we could have had a good time doing so. I know you will hate that
Now one in four women are on antidepressants. you should read some studies and peer reviews on how women are the awesome happy now of all time since keeping studies. feminism is the root of all unhappiness.
This woman aspired me alot. Am a girl and I don't hate men❌ I have been raised by a dad I loved ❤️ I have been a sister to a brother that I loved ❤️ And am hoping to marry a kind hearted person that I'll love❤️ I love men and respect them 💁♀️ I do believe in equality. And I believe that being equal doesn't mean by being harsh to the other gender. I know that men have been pressuring women but that doesn't mean that when you seek for equality doesn't mean to understimate men. I don't care about what men did in the past but am in the present and I've never met a guy who understimated me in my family nor in my school. Please excuse my English if you didn't understand 🙃
I cannot tell you the number of times I have rewatched this talk. so much of what Chimamanda says is so similar to Indian culture. Such an inspiration.
Alas, you'll find that abiding by her nonsense will only result in you dying bitter, alone and confused. Hardly inspirational. You will realize this some day, hopefully before it's too late.
She is very professional in delivering a fabulous talk in TED. It has been thousands times that I am listening to this speech. It is very useful and helpful to me in improving knowledge. In addition to this, it is improving my language skills in speaking and writing English. You are such a glorious lady to lead the Women Revolution. Thank you Chimamanda, Roman.
All the speech was amazing but when she started talking about culture and said “ culture doesnt make us, we make culture”, that line was brutal, in the good sense of the word.
Andrea maybe it’s just me, but could it be culturally they “get it” like an inside joke, where everyone else is “lost” because you don’t understand their cultural norms. IJS
1 in 4 women are now on anti-depressants. There are studies in peer reviews, showing women to be the most unhappy they have ever been since keeping studies. Feminism is meant to divided you will always stay angry and upset.
@@amandadavis8525 here is your reminder that one in four women are on antidepressants. Feminism is meant to divide you will always stay angry and upset.
BrightBlackDaylight He's not worth arguing to. If you look into his channel, he's a troll. You cant just talk sense into trolls. They are not interested in what's right or wrong, they're here for the attention.
By his replies, u can see Johnnie is contradicting his own words. By saying ''how are you discriminated against'' just shows that he's anti feminist and all the things chimamanda is saying in this speech about gender, males in specific, is disclosing him. You must be really blind and stupid not to understand what chimamanda is saying and/or is trying to say in this speech about how men and women and how they have built assumptions about gender differences. He's either not watched the whole speech or just haven't watched it at all and as Kasumi said, you can't just talk sense into trolls/ignorants. Enough said from me,have a nice day.
***** OMG, I can't believe you actually put effort to type down that bullshit. What? "women and men actually rape each other at similar rates."??? I don't know what kind of sick twisted way that you have to meticulously pick to define rape, even the sound of this is extremely ridiculous. Even if you are anti-feminist, pick something that are actually debatable. I don't reply to troll and feed them attention esp when they have lost all sense of logic. But I just can't believe that you think you can fool anyone with that terrible crap you made up. Seriously? I stop reading and skip the rest right after that. You're weak at reasons.
Kasumi Angel All he's doing is jumping in all argument to out his "equal rights" mumbo jumbo brethren who will all gang up on you and come up with so much b.s that you will question if they are even educated enuff to write this stuff lol when they cant argue anymore they start slinging swear words, labels and hate speech ;)
dskmb3 men are discriminated just as much for their age as woman. saying it's so true as if it doesn't apply to our society as a whole on how we construct an unrealistic reality for ourselves. should I elaborate more or did you get that?
This is true feminism. Women empowerment without pulling other genders down. I don't know why some people hate entire feminism just because of few deviated fringe elements.
It's not a few, it's dragging the entire Western society down the sewage. I'm sure it was started with good intention , but over the time it has been twisted and turned into the monstrosity we see today. (Communism and Nazism were also started with good intention btw )
I dont think its a few fringe elements It doesn’t care men and hurts women more Feminism ideology is based on victim mentality tool indoctrinated from marxim to fight illusionary patriarchy
feminism supports the murder, enslavement, and dehumanization of men. They should not have any platform anywhere, let along be allowed entry in the US. We don't let ISIS terrorists in the US, why should we let feminists?
I find it funny how people feel the need to spew their inner demons on the internet and don't have the guts to do so in real life. They make such cruel comments, simply due to the mindset that since they are behind a computer screen, they cannot be caught and be punished. Truly sad. It shows what a sad, pathetic, disgusting species we have evolved into.
It also shows what we truly are. Someone can be polite face to face, but if he/she has a mask, you can know what they really think and feel. Its sad to know what the real face of society is.
@zan zy you say that like women HAD the opportunity to accomplish all those things in history. But they did not. How will one build civilization when not even considered a full humanbeing? Also many inventions of today were created by women but they were not given any credit for them. Do you research.
I'm a Nigerian & a mother of 2 boys who are 10yrs & 7yrs respectively. My boys enjoy cooking with their dad most times and we all do the house chores together as they don't want anything to stress mum. There's truth to all you said about gender inequality mostly in Africa but I think times are changing
Honestly I am grateful that I found this through Beyonce at a young age. Without her this wouldn't have been exposed to me when I was 12, and has stuck with me up until now. And I will continue to come back to it.
judith amobi "....why do we tell girls to close their legs ➡and not tell boys the same..." > Because boys family jewels are different, call it Mother Nature, and it hurts boys to close their legs like girls do. Do you feminists care thou, heck no because feminism is all about women being victims thus they lack empathy for others. In fact a couple of men were jailed in NY City for not closing their legs like women do, yet no problem for women to take all the space they want. This is why feminism is poison and you support that.
After watching this talk, I felt a sense of pride. The events she cites where gender inequality is obvious are things I can't relate to, despite being a girl. Looking back at how I was raised, I felt grateful to my parents. They taught my brother and I differently; they raised us equally. My brother isn't pushed to "man up", nor am I pushed to get married. I was raised in a house where there was no such thing as gender roles. If only the rest of the world would raise the next generation like that, too.
I've been raised the same way! Only now, my brother has suddenly started talking to me about how feminists are weak women asking for special attention. He grew up just like me and assumes everyone did. He even asked me to watch some milo yanapolis videos. Whoever that is. Milo seems like an advocate for anti feminism. My brother doesn't realize that that just because our parents raised us equally doesn't mean all daughters had that privilege. I just realized this. Thanks for your comment.
I finally got around to watching this speech and all I want to do is scream from the rooftops, "I've been saying this for years!". It's truly amazing to hear all the experiences that we as Nigerian women have had to go through presented so eloquently. I only wish that my spirit never dies, because if there's one thing society does best, it is to kill the spirit of anyone who dares to challenge it's norms. Thank you Chimamanda, for this and for all you do.
Lol… short sightedness is a female condition. And your other feature of being the social glue of society makes you cheer each other on even when you’re heading for a cliff Lol. Smh
Feminism has failed women miserably. There are many studies and peer reports that show women to be the most unhappy they have ever been in the history of keeping these studies. One out of four women are on antidepressants.
Beautiful piece. Her message is very important. It is not about putting down men, however acknowledging that gender differences still occurs. Both women and men should address these issues. We should all follow Chimamanda's wisdom.
@@Ghost-fe1vp Feminism has never ceased believing in gender roles . But the only thing that plenty of people cannot see yet is that they want these gender roles to be reversed , perfectly knowing that it CANNOT work. Men become simps and women rule over them. Women want to rule but hate it when they rule ... Good luck with that !
Tell me that u are being sarcastic for the sake of hope for a world where the intelligence isnt declining . U choose the most absurd thing. Lets ask the question for the sane, Y?
I'm tired of being talked over, looked down on, and living in fear of being violently attacked on the street at any time of day. Please, feminism is necessary. It is not a grab for power. I just want to feel safe, seen, and heard. I don't want to be demonized because of my gender. I'm tired of seeing women accused of being whores because they seek pleasure and happiness like every other person on the planet.
I am also tired of being talked over, looked down on and living in fear of being attacked on the street. But sadly some people fail to recognise all these issues and will say that feminism is a grasp for power.
@@racheldixon5528 Yes. People like to say female oppression is "self inflicted", which, in my opinion, is the most delusional statement ever made about feminism.
@David Kinney technically your'e not wrong, offence can be associated with intimidation. But fortunately, your'e not right either. If I was intimidated, I wouldn't have commented at all. Good try though.
@David Kinney Your not wrong that people use the internet to make themselves feel bigger. But you're not right either, I am 6ft 2 and am rarely intimidated by anyone. The few people that do are family. How could I be intimidated by someone I don't know. (P.S. People that are intimidated in real life but feel big online are called bullies. An internet troll is just someone who fucks around online for a bit when in need of entertainment, and to do something new. It's actually really fun once in a while.)
While going through this video, I became so hopeful and inspired. However as I scroll through the comments I quickly got proven otherwise by the ignorant people out there. I don't understand how such an amazing movement can be so foreign to so many.
Just look through the comments, when you see that it is easy to generalize. When this is a topic near and dear to your heart and you see people talking without thinking, you get frustrated. Woman get generalizied all the time, it is wrong to do that to men, but falling in this trap is easy.
Hmmm. 1 out of 4 women are now on antidepressants studies and peer reports have shown that women are the most unhappy they have ever been in the history of keeping the studies. Turns out feminism was a lie.
" culture doesn't make people, people make culture." - I felt that! amazing words!
Yeah you right.
Maybe, but still very arguable.
Its really not that amazing its completely decent.
@@bo_kandar well its amazing to me, but that's your opinion.
C-2-RESH-18 KEK or for equality?
Frankly, I feel ashamed because I being a man, did a lot of those things that she mentioned. Now I cannot change the society but I can definitely change myself. At least, I will try to. And I will raise my son and daughter appropriately, as individuals.
Janki Jan
Are you living in a 3rd world Nation? Or just another 1st world man that doesn't realize that women in the 1st world have more rights than men?
Doesn't matter 1st world or 3rd world, gender discrimination exists everywhere. In some cases, men are discriminated and in some cases women are discriminated. Until there is self-realization, we cannot be better human beings. And I'm just trying to change my perspective for men and women and try my best to treat them equally. Is that a bad thing?
Fluffy Snatch
Do you feel like a victim? Because I sure don't.
If, (when?) war, system-state collapse and famine happens, I'll be on the preferable half of the psychopathic Mad Max foodchain.
your comment made my day . I'm so proud of people like you
we need more people like you who are open to suggestions and are actually willing to listen.
I've been told alot of times by my teachers and mentors that I'm too ambitious and I will not get married because no man will have me under their roof. Today my career has been all about growth and I'm married. The modern man will love an ambitious woman for all she stands for. Dont ever let your ambition be disregarded because people believe you shouldn't be as successful as your counterpart. Thanks Chimmanda for speaking out!
Agreed 100% you have good sense sis
Nice lie
@@KevinM88TR11 No. She might be married, but her husband is a feminine man. Not on the outside but within. This lady is full boss, in her relationship. That's not equality, but rather greed.
@@kimberleyjane2338 You don't even know them or know the guy what are you even talking about
@@KevinM88TR11 Maculine men, agree that women should be equal, most certainly, (like women's lib) but manly men dont like this whining feminism stuff. Women in Canada gripped so much that are all way ahead of men now. Watch your pants
This is the best speech I have ever listened to. I am proud to be a woman, I am proud to be African. Thank you Chimamanda!
Except that from her speech, it's not her gender that made her do this speech so you don't need to be proud of being a woman because she did a great job. It's ability skill and talent and not gender that produced it. Plus her speech should not make us proud of Africa or womanhood but it's a gentle rebuke that we need to do better. In my opinion but I stand to be corrected.
@@mofimTV So stand to be corrected. The comment I felt was only expressing happiness foe being what she is and saying thanks to an inspiring woman. Is ALL!
the ads are very disturbing!! I can't stand that!!! It's a form of violetion of our privacy. I never allow anyone to put ads into my watching videos
Feminism has failed miserably. One and four American women are on anti-depressants studies has shown that they are the most unhappy they have ever been since they started doing studies.
"a man who is intimidated by me is exactly the type of man i am not interested in"
Care to explain either of those points further, Mikey?
Mikey Gray can you elaborate? Cause to me that quote is just about being a confident women, and wanting to be with a man who appreciates that about you
Mikey Gray yeah sorry your speaking in circles and just not making sense compared to what my original comment was. Maybe try reading my comment again? I think it speaks for itself.
S. O. Pathetic woman !
Madison Grooters he is talking sense we men are logic you creatures are emotional!😭
I cannot express how much i apreciate this speech. She adresses everything that needs to be adressed, I wish more people could see this
Yeah if you haven't listened to Jordan peterson or more cleaver people. Omg grow up
@@el29 :0
@@el29 Shut up
@@el29 exactly...
Women consider their view of the world to be the only correct one and do not consider it sexism, and the male view of the world is considered sexism if it is not identical to the female view of the world. Conclusion: feminism is sexism, not equality.
“We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller, we say to girls you can have ambition- but not too much, you should aim to be successful but not too successful otherwise you will threaten the man” - Chimanda Ngozi. What a powerhouse, her simplicity in explaining this was immaculate.
@ Cassandro Steingo
That butch in the video would like to "threaten" all men in order to feel an artificial power running through her body and mind , feeling extatic for a while and then crying like a baby that there are no men anymore .
No one teaches girls to shrink themselves. At least not in Canada
@@mateosag4924 true. another scam artist preaching about problems she dreamed up.
Beyonce put that in a song
Now guess what happens
When you teach women to be ambitious like men and men to be soft like women , you end up flipping the table🤣🤣🤣🤣🤓🤓🤓
As a 16 year old Afghan girl I really inspired by these speeches, first I read the book and then again I watched this, same issues are happening in Afghanistan. U can notice they are also deprived from education and work, it's not the first time, when the government was not from Taliban, we also had girls and women who couldn't do anything as a woman. Thank you for inspiring more and better 🥲❤😊
As an african, i pray for afghan women every day. I pray for a future where afghan women are free and respected. Not enough people are talking about you! I hope that changes. Love from africa x
feminists as soon as WW3 starts 🚽🛁🧹
like fr
Amircan use fimenist to colonizes
@@maxt4138 what do you mean? Like tthe spelling is so bad i cant understand you
That's so on point "a man who would be intimidated by me is exactly the kind of man I would not be interested in"
We are not intimidated,just disgusted.
@R1 African men feel threatened when a woman earns more than him
@Rosa San Martin you’re not living in Nigeria so you’ll never understand. Nigerian men don’t like women earning their own money so that she can’t divorce him. Our country doesn’t really have alimony or child support laws since most people are married traditionally and divorce is a taboo
@Rosa San Martin are you an African? Are you a Nigerian?
@Rosa San Martin Nigerian men prevent their wives from working so that no matter how much abuse she receives, she can’t divorce him, he’ll chase her out with the kids into the streets to fend for themselves. Nigerian laws are mainly governed by religions . In Nigeria the reason why women work is to earn money for herself so whenever he chases her away she can fend for herself. A Nigerian man can chase away his wife and 9kids to take in another woman without consequences.
I've finally found someone who understands my anger. It really breaks my heart that a lot of women just accept that. As long as I am alive, I will keep fighting
Orinnnnnnn
You go girl!
Hahhahahahahhahahahahahahahahahhhahahhahaha
Same
True
My grandmother said there's no such thing as a man's job......you either can do it or you can't. Period.
periodt. i love ur grandma. :)
Agree we need more female miners, off-shore oil workers, sewer repairers, refuse collectors, commercial tyre fitters, abattoir works. Wouldn't you agree?
@@dh1474 yep definitely cause they're totally gonna do those jobs -_-
@@dh1474 if only it wasn’t look down on women to work on those jobs and joked about like there’s no women on those fields then this comment wouldn’t be necessary
@@weluvflash yup and the internalized mysogyny is just oozing out
"Boys and girls are undeniably different biologically. But socialization exaggerates the differences." 🙌🏻🙌🏻
Not really. Anything you can do, a male can do better.
@@saurabhm383 did you even hear to what she said and that's just about the orthodox mentality of some people. They still go on with the cliches. I fear how their future generations will survive with this kind of mindset.
They should be treated as equals.
@@saurabhm383 Anything you can do, a female can do better.
@@saurabhm383 and anything a man can do, women can do BLEEDING
@@yourfavoriteoompaloompa139 Not nearly as well as a man though. How many female mechanics, electricians, plumbers, engineerrs, miners, fishermen, construction workers do you see?
Blown away. She is articulate, well-mannered and also clear on the points. She handles and expresses the problem effectively and fairly, emphasising both sides, in such a way that is not about defense, but about hope, and about uniting and celebrating the goodness in all genders. What a wonderful speech. Thank you.
"Articulate" and "well mannered"?! How were you expecting her to sound/ behave?! Ugh
***** I'm sorry, what? Did you not understand anything that was said in this speech? What part of articulate and well-mannered offended you, exactly? The fact that I am praising and appreciating someone's ability to perform a speech. Or should I have commented on how she looks? I'm sorry, what did you expect ME to have replied and commented on this video? If you are implying I have said something sexist, I beg you to please show me exactly how I have managed to do that. And if you are right I will apologise. But as far as I am aware, I did not say anything that related towards her gender, and if it is my glee and appreciation towards her delivery that makes you think it is implied sexism, then you are wrong. I do not expect anyone to give an immaculate speech, man or woman, and my appreciation for that has nothing to do even remotely with gender, and your reaction towards that is completely unwarranted and unnecessary. But even if I had expected something (hey it's a ted talk - so it must be great!), it is still part of me as a person to appreciate and celebrate that (the specific thing I even stated in my comment). Thank you.
Nanciefy Amber wasn't saying that your comment implied sexism, she was saying that it implied racism- the first sentence anyway. Historically if a white person says that a black person is "articulate" and "well-mannered" or anything of that nature it comes off as "Wow! I didn't know you people could form complete sentences and conduct yourselves with the rest of society!" I'm sure that's not what you were going for, but I'm 99.9% sure that is why she was offended.
What does that say about someone's expectations of me? For someone to take what I said and assume it had something to do with that, to twist a compliment, what does that say about their expectation of me, and should I also be offended by that? I won't be. But it's ironic. Thanks for explaining anyway. It's definitely not what I was going for. I do find it funny how she had to find something bad in my comment though when just a few comments down there are people blatently saying obscene things. Either way, I am sorry for anyone who interpretted it that way.
Nanciefy You're welcome! I don't think you should be offended, because people just process information through the prism of their own experiences. So, if someone has experiences with something negative (like racism), things that could be misconstrued as such will more than likely be viewed that way.
“They grown up to women who have turned pretence into an art form” That’s where “IM FINE” comes from.
Yeah, men also do this though. I think everyone is pretending to be honest.
Divine Lia whatever you say is fine by me comes from
Yessss
*when you say the truth,people hate u*
That's exclusive to women.
"Marriage is a language of ownership rather than language of partnership".
It strikes me!
It can be, certainly. But I want to get married (eventually) and I've never thought about having "ownership" over my partner.
@@diegoarroyo1641 it depends upon our partners.
@@parvinbanu9203 Indeed.
wtf, no one owns anyone what clapped out world do you live in. Obviously not married.
@Lost your name suits you
I laughed so hard at the part where Chimamanda shouted, "Thank you sir!"😂😂
I love the way she tells her story exactly the way it happened.❤ She didn't lost me for a single moment throughout the course of her 30-minute speech.🎉
"Culture doesn't make people, people make culture" 😍😍💖❤
You do realize that is a completely meaningless insight, right? Yes, people make the culture, and then culture influences people. If that impressed you, you need to get your lips pried off this lady's big backside.
Thanks for pointing out the obvious, something that queen of kings completely missed somehow.
queen of kings told my friend same thing
It is not meaningless, or do you imply that culture cannot change ?
+Evelance Fairchild True. What is considered as normal is only considered as such because it's what the majority are doing. The thing is that sometimes (not always) there are actually some good reasons for it being the way it is.
I feel bad for the people who stumbled upon this video and skipped it .. or heard the first five minutes and stopped.. it's the most positive way of talking about the subject
It's a boring video, she's just generalizing and doesn't consider different cases, she only is tryin' to make it look like all women have problems and are oppresed, which is not.
@@thegreenwood6645 did you not watch the part where she talked about how men are oppressed as well?
@@thegreenwood6645 11:15
@@chlo_xo333 I don’t believe in equality, at least for me and my kin. Why should I, a pure blooded descendant of the first men of this continent, be equal to the likes of you? I also carry noble blood, so that should also be the more reason to grant me the privileges I rightfully deserve. Except I don’t have any privileges, I hate that fact because it is my right or at least it should be.
@@commanderoom-9269 i dont even know what you're talking about
Thank you. In India and feminism is still a taboo. I feel angry and suffocated because nobody else is angry about the daily discrimination that happens here. This video has really re-instilled motivation in me
Nishi Poddar
We have the same thing here in Saudi Arabia.
❤I know it is tough but i hope you will eventually be strong enough to stand up for the right cause to educate the people around you, don't give up India needs women like you angry women will change the world (:
@dskmb3 your mom ?
@dskmb3 Which part? Your dad?
Girl I feel ya. Tragically from India.
Thanks!
This is one of the best talks in feminism. I am really amazed at how she explains the idea of feminism? Great and Very helpful.
Bobs and vegana is that you?
Fake comment is fake.
longrider okrrr
Put a man's face on the comment to make it appear a man is agreeing with her rhetoric, if a fake post is necessary, then, Houston, there is a problem.
Just because you can't get laid doesn't mean women shouldn't have rights, you basmenet dweller.
Living in families and having 10 babies didn't bring us to the current level of advancement
Edit : Great they deleted their comment
This reminds me of years ago, back in secondary school when a teacher divided my class into two groups for a quiz. Boys versus Girls and at the end of the quiz the girls won and he said to us (guys) "Why did you let the girls win?" I complained that he was being sexist by assuming that the girls won because we allowed them to win and he called me a woman and insulted me. Funny enough, everyone in class laughed at me, including the girls. Like Chimamanda expounds here, some African women aren't raised to be feminist, and I grew up believing everyone is equal, not just gender but race and sexuality. It is ok for a man to be feminist too, as John Stuart Mill supported the equality of women and the freedom of individuals.
@@alansamuel2454 Why's that?
So much respect to you for that sir👏👏👏
@@alansamuel2454 lmao you're insecure
And exactly opposite happens in our school😂😂
so that was the point in time you got emasculated. what a sad story
"The higher
you go, the fewer women there are"
- Wangari Maathai
Deep stuff!
Toluwalemi Oluwadare wdym😂
This Quote is actually from the lady talking here
@@이수영-s2y that means we have gender issues, empowered by chauvinistic polemicists like you
Ecclip tikk lol good excuse. Get out of ur illusion
@@이수영-s2y no excuse, no illusion. This is like a baldy laughing at another baldy because he looks weird...
This is the most intelligent Nigerian woman that I have ever come across
I have a question
"you should aim to be successful, but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten the man" so true! I'm studying to be a lawyer and I once got told that I should get married before I qualify as an advocate because it will be harder for me to find a husband thereafter. Is that all my existence as a woman is reduced to? A wife? Not a woman who is able to be strong, independent and impact her environment? I would rather die alone, an accomplished successful lawyer, than submit to the patriarchal standards of my society, thank you very much.
I certainly support you in your journey, but I have the funny feeling that you will be quite mad when you happen to wake up someday and realize that you are in your late 30's with a strong wish for children creeping into your head and no "suitable" man around to fulfill that wish. Just make sure that you are aware of the consequences and hardiness of stepping outside the beaten path and if that is truly what you want in your life. If that is not the case, then you set yourself up for a lot of late grief...just saying, you wouldn't be the first woman to regret. Biology can be a bitch, just keep that in mind.
starlet russe
You didn't understand my comment, but that's not surprising considering your hysteric reply.
starlet russe
Jeez, can you at least TRY to understand ANY point I have brought forth? It really hurts to read your stuff.
Asto508123 adoption is a thing. Sperm donation is a thing. Single parenthood is a thing. Right now I'm following my dream first. Children can be future me's problem
Tesslyn Francis
Just make sure your future you won't hate your present you. ;)
"I have chosen to no longer be apologetic for my femininity" Amen and Amen to that🤗
@Leon Discuss so why are you here?
@Leon Discuss did you watch yhe video 😶
omg chimpanda so wise!
Why did you use to be apologetic?
awomen
As I began this video, I thought "what a gorgeous woman, I love her hair and her whole look" and as she spoke, I thought "she's a very confident speaker and I love her accent too" then at the end of the video I thought, "She's a gorgeous human being, she sees the truth of the injustice. She's not only beautiful to look at, like one would think of first of a woman, but she's beautiful inside, based on the things she says, because she's well-educated and smart." Such a great video.
Tjankes man/
+Cathy North. What injustice?
You should read her books, I recommend Americanah and Half of the Yellow Sun
Feminists are women masculinised by patriarchal way of thinking and carrying a lunatic ideology of equality.
Cathy North I neither find her beatiful nor do I like the way she speaks.
Gosh, she sounded so much like she's lived in India all her life. So much relatable.
ikr? i was watching an indian video on the same topic a while back and the comments were so toxic, i felt bad for the people in their lives from the way they treat other people
A women commenting on youtube that India is harsh place for a women ... the irony
@@arawnat2441 just because we aren't deprived of the internet doesnt invalidate any of the struggles women go through here
@@rwitabina Free education, free rides, free jobs, laws and police support in marriage court ... what a hard life you must have.
Men enjoy those things too. Still doesn’t mean there isn’t gender inequalities Lol. What’s not clicking?
It seems weird to me that there are women in the comment section, claiming how they are anti-feminist. If it had not been for feminism, you wouldn't have the same rights as you have today. You are brushing off all of the actions done by feminist prior you, who dedicated their lives, to make sure that women got these rights that we have today. Just because you don't experience inequality in your every day life, doesn't mean that no one else doesn't either. What happened to empathy?
And to the men sitting here complaining about how 'feminism is all about women', you clearly haven't listened to her speech before you commented. Feminism is about equality for all genders.
Feminism is not flawless because it is made by humans, and humans aren't perfect, but it's the best thing that we have. The best hope for us, who don't want our dreams to be questioned because "Isn't that a man's job?" The best hope for us, who are questioned if we want "career or family?"
I am a feminist. Not only because I want the same opportunities as my brother has; but because there are so many people out there, men and women, who should be free to be who they are and do what they want.
***** I don't really see what you see as flaws with feminism, and therefore I have a hard time understanding why you won't call yourself a feminist when you believe in equality of the sexes, and still see the differences in society. (Sorry for any mistakes btw, my first language isn't English)
***** Okay let me ask you something: How often do you see male politicians being asked what brand of shoes they are wearing? I'm just wondering, that's all. For the record, I'm from Denmark, where we have a woman as our prime minister, and she is constantly scrutinized for the brands her clothes, shoes and bags are. All of which she pays for herself. Her opponent is a male whom has his expensive suits paid by the party, and has loads of scandals (His name is Lars Løkke... You can look him up if you don't believe me.) and everyone just seems to shrug it off?
I don't know where you're from of course, but I'll take the liberty to quote an American newspaper, describing Hillary Clinton:
"She was wearing a rose-colored blazer over a black top. The neckline sat low on her chest and had a subtle V-shape. The cleavage registered after only a quick glance. No scrunch-faced scrutiny was necessary." This article was from Washington Post in 2007, but I really don't hope you'll go as low as to tell me that it 'has changed' because I can easily find other articles to prove you wrong. I'm just wondering if you have ever heard anything like that with a man?
Women are being scrutinized for what they wear in politics, like it was some fashion show. No wonder Angela Merkel wears the same thing in different colors every day.
When Theresa May (UK) in 2012 made a mistake in timing of the deportation of Abu Qatada, the main focus wasn't on the mistake in itself, but on her age and her gender - or rather that the implication that she had a feeble unreliable woman's mind.
You are right that there are female mayors, senators, business owners, governors and whatever more, but if you look at the per cent of them all, then the numbers are ridiculously small.
That's not the sound of equality, that's the sound of my dreams crushing.
***** "there are no laws preventing you, or any other women from being in those fields, so what is the big deal?" I'm glad you ask, because it brings up a very important point: legal rights and cultural rights are not identical. Women have the legal right to walk down an out-of-the-way city street at night without getting raped, but they don't really have that right in practice (and sure, she can prosecute, but that doesn't mean it didn't happen). Men have the legal right to wear a dress without being harassed or even assaulted, but they don't really have that right in practice (again, he can take legal action, but that doesn't mean it didn't happen). Now these are extreme examples to illustrate the point, but the same concept applies. Men and women are treated completely differently by our culture, and probably more importantly: they are raised completely differently by our culture, so having the same legal rights doesn't mean having equal opportunities.
*****
1. But it is important! It is a problem when half the population has to be rated on appearance before they can get heard. If they can't be heard, how are they supposed to get anywhere? Some manage to of course, but if you look at it statistically, you can see how underrespresentrated women are in places of power. Representation is one of the key stones in democracy, especially if you want to deal with issues that aren't just "rich people's problems" as you like to call them.
2. Denmark is a monarchy.
Siff Petersen So true!!
a man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the kind of man I'd have no interest in...
I bet there's an infinite number if men who are "intimidated" by you then.
That's not a bad thing
is there any guys interested in you ?
THAT PART!
Yeah, men are now choosing women a LOT more carefully, since they now have the power to end the relahionship at will and get all the legal rewards afterwards
My younger brother came to live with me, will go to the kitchen and get his food, then drop the utensils for my niece to return from work and wash, because according to him washing plates is not for men. Of course I did not put up with that. You do the dishes and any other domestic work when its you at home or leave my house. He got the message clear.
I need more people like you in the society
of course you should do that, but while doing that make sure there is no "boys only" work like : cutting grass or fixing appliances in the house if not the societal effects would not be equal it will be reverse.
Most of these domestic work stereotypes were actually created in african settings due to the fact that there are a lot of jobs like heavy farming, cutting firewood e.t.c that were heavily physical and so were exclusively male and so women took up other jobs in order to balance labor.
It's important that while we are changing the society we do not break it
@@ekenemadunagu1654 lol in my house my mother and I fix all the appliances, lift the furniture, and bring in the heavy objects
@Tbh Its sad most activists do not GO OUT MORE OFTEN
Your house is not a typical African or European setting
The exact same thing I've seen done by my female friends towards their maids.. Abuse of power, jealousy and sick entitlement
“Culture doesn’t make people, people make culture” these words hit differently!
Once again, we get a chorus of ignorant dudebros crying their male tears of oppression after a feminist drops a whole ton of knowledge on them. Truth hurts, huh dudebros? Too bad. Deal with it.
Great job, Ms. Adichie!
Feminists want men to be more open with their emotions. Why? So they can make fun of them!
I would rather stick to "gender roles" and suppress my emotions.
_"after a feminist drops a whole ton of knowledge on them."_
Knowledge stemmed from ignorance of feminism and its damage in the Western countries.
Cool story bro, why don't you move to Sweden and see how you feel being a man over there.. that's what feminism does to societies. It isn't about equality, it's about man shaming, power, control and silencing dissent.
MDOY79 Yes, men are so oppressed in Sweden. I'm sure you just pulled that comment right out of your ass, right?
Keep crying your tears, dudebro
MDOY79 Men aren't oppressed in Sweden. Hush.
I was born in Russia. My dad is Chinese. My dad beat my mom, yells at her all the time, and thinks he's the boss. Because of this, my psyche collapsed. In Russia, they can't stand women, they are constantly insulted. Feminism is needed all over the world, especially in Russia, Asia and Africa. Western countries have passed the path of feminism, but there is still no full equality.
Beautifully said! People forget that so many countries exist where certain groups of people lack any human rights
Say it louder for the people in the back! I can't believe men and some women can be so close minded to this horrible fact
the same here in latin america
Lol, Russia is a hard-core matriarchal society. In all Russian families I know, the man is a c u c k who is being bossed around by his wife.
And if you don't want to be bossed around by women, you are called a p*ssy. Russian women HATE independent men.
Also, your father isn't even Russian.
@@raytracer5726 yo thats messed up
"we praise girls for virginity but we don't praise boys for virginity and its always makes me wonder how exactly this is supposed to work out. Because the loss of virginity is usually a cause of involved....++" 👏👏👏👏👏
Because that's how tribes worked.
Its because a man want a woman with no past and a woman wants a man with a future. It's like mia Khalifa trying to be taken seriously
@@sheesh5591 all choices have a positive and negative reaction just because someone feels bad about it doesn't mean it's wrong science doesn't give af
@@sheesh5591 science is how people think and react (someone says something then a chemical reaction happens in the brain making positive or negative reactions) aka psychology
@@sheesh5591 np
All humans should learn to cook for themselves! My eldest brother cooked and took care of us. I dedicate this talk to him Charles A. Skinner.
Beyoncé brought me here, but chimamanda's power and eloquence kept me here.
Truly inspiring.
well put.
Your body, my choice 😂
The comment section is basically just men making this about them.
***** We wouldn't HAVE to make them ''all about us'' if we had them in the first place.
Give me a call when women stop being discriminated and treated as sexual objects that only exist for the pleasure of men.
I'm sorry,but you clearly have no comprehension of what feminism really is.
Feminism does focus more on women,mostly because women face social injustice far more than men these days,but it's also concerned about men,especially male rape victims. The name has 'fem' in it because it was started by women,but it does not under any circumstance help only women. Why do you think we're so against patriarchy? Because it was PATRIARCHY that teaches us that men want to have sex all the time and therefore actually enjoy rape,as gruesome as it sounds. That's what we're against.
What you're trying to call me has a name and it's a misandrist,which I'm not. ''Feminazis'' as you'd like to call them are misandrists,not feminists.
It's not just about legal protection,it's about the way society percieves women.
the video is basically women making it about them.
***** Can't we just acknowledge that gender, or sex for that matter is still a big deal in society, and that we all experience problems, men and woman alike, but individuals to different extends?
***** can you give an example of what you are talking about?
Also- have you ever hit a woman?
"The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are" 🗣🗣
@@minutemilitia6498 elaborate further please?
@@minutemilitia6498 sahikunillalle 😂
This speech is inspiring. A lot of what she talks about in Nigeria can be applicable everywhere. I realise I'm not doing enough to support feminism.
I realized I was a feminist because of church. I was tired of the pastors preaching to women, as it we are the root of evil. From there I started noticing other things outside of church. I would speak up about it and getting people to notice what I was noticing. What angers me the most is the unequal pay. Thanks Beyonce for exposing me to Chimanada Ngozi Adichie!
could agree with almost everything you said until the pay gap nonsense. It has already been debunked numerous times.
www.cbsnews.com/news/the-gender-pay-gap-is-a-complete-myth
Ask your women;s study teacher to update the curriculum because their teaching is making you look like a fool if you claim pay gap outside your classroom.
uunknown uunknown no, it really hasn't. it is ongoing and real. try college - it's fun. you may learn about the critical difference btwn research sources and the construct of a scientific study. good luck.
Sen Tra it is actually your woefully under-punctuated sentence and erroneous reply to an established fact that is making YOU look like a fool. read lots more of the scientific literature; speak less, till you're done.
beccahday
English is not my first language and I can read, write and speak a total of 5 languages including english. You do sound like a typical feminist, when logic fails you attack grammar and language. Btw, what is established fact ? go and search gender pay gap and you will find the facts.
What i find funny is people commenting here that "feminists hate men" or "feminists want to be superior"... I mean, DID YOU EVEN WATCH THE VIDEO? wtf are you here for then? Haven't you got anything else to do besides hate on people fighting for equal rights?
Ignorance doesn't give you free ticket to talk shit on the internet. Google feminism, please.
And btw, keep in mind that feminism does favor men as well. Like Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie beautifully mentions in the video, you are all expected to be the one with the money, or to be extremly tough, to an extent that anything as little as carrying your girlfriend/wife's purse on the mall can damage and put to risk your masculinity/sexuality (that was just an example okay)
Also, yes men are raped. But they are never blamed for it. "What were you thinking? Walking alone at that time of the night in a deserted street? You certainly wanted to get raped, (insert male name here)." THAT'S NOT SOMETHING YOU HEAR, although the other way around is pretty common.
Also, if men are raped, the shame in assuming it is SO HUGE that most keep it a secret. It shouldn't be, since it wasn't the victim's fault. Again, patriarchy implies that men being raped is shameful. "Why should he admit it, if it probably damaged his masculinity, anyway?"
Can you see where I'm getting at?
So PLEASE PLEASE people, get to know a movement before judging it.
+lalaglaser I know! Seriously. As much as I support feminism because I care about the women in my life, like my wife and my daughter and countless other family and friends, I also know that I (a man) benefit directly from it. Much of what MRA's talk about are issues that feminism has been addressing for generations.
Also, you suggest "google feminism." Here's an idea for critics of feminism -- try picking up a damn book! I've been reading "Feminist Theory" by bell hooks. I highly recommend it.
+Greg Pagel thank you! And I only recommend googling it cause I suppose the type of people that judges feminism by it's stereotypes wouldn't care to pick up a book. They are already wasting their time hating on the internet, why not waste a minute to really know what you're talking about?
But books are always better, of course.
I'm really glad there are some men who can see clearly (:
lalaglaser Sure. I knew what you meant. The obvious problem with google and the Internet in general is that it directs you to misinformation and simple-minded bloggers just as quickly as legitimate, informed writers. And since many information-seekers are angry to begin with, which sites do you think they'll visit first?
Here's an interesting thing I read just today in the book I mentioned: She says that many women who have clearly and obviously benefitted directly from the feminist movement will almost invariably distance themsleves from it, and trash feminism. Even though they will agree with all of its aims, point by point. And this was published *in 1984!*
The reason people are commenting that is because it happens more often than not, however you are right the women in the video is not like that.
Feminists are against the fight for equal rights. Thats the last thing they want. Just because someone says they're something doesn't mean they are. I'm glad you're not a judge, you'd let everyone who says they're not gulity go.
I feel sad about the way women and men are afraid to say they are feminists. Chimamanda says, "a world of happier men, and happier women who are truer to themselves". Please, don't accuse all feminists of hating men. Focus on the love and positivity of wanting equality for men and women! I want a world where men can cry without being called "gay" and where women can ask for fairer pay without being called feminists in a negative way. Let us strive towards this equalism, to become better human beings. Much love, Morgan.
Feminism is not pro-equality, because it selectively ignores the issues that men or transgendered people face.
Ryan M no, it doesn't.
scootigger I dont know about you, but I have never heard one feminist talk about problems such as unfair custody or the fact that men make up 94% of work-related fatalities.
Ryan M I once campaigned for the equality of male and female nurses? Males are often assumed to be worse at nursing which is ridiculous, so I campaigned for them and with them. Now you can add a feminist who gives a damn about men to your list :) I care about everyone x
Morgan Daisy If you give a damn about men, that means that you aren't a feminist, because what you did extends outside of the definition of feminism.
After 7 years of growth myself, I deleted my comment and believe all of us should be feminists. men should support women in all areas of growth
Fvck off, I don't owe you anything. I'm just trying to live my life and I'll support whoever I thinks needs support regardless of their gender.
Feminism has failed miserably. One in four women are now on antidepressants. There are a lot of studies being done right now why women are the most unhappy in the history of keeping track of such things.
Brilliant speech!!
If you watched the entire video and still think feminism means the supremacy of the female gender, you just didn't get the lecture... If you don't like gender supremacy, you should be a feminist. Simple as that.
The anti-feminists generally don't watch videos like this. They just post hateful comments and put up straw men. Sad.
+Yasmim Pessoa
She starts her propaganda with "The problem with gender is...", I call that supremacy.
+Yasmim Pessoa Or, you could be an egalitarian. Feminist itself is a gendered word in favor of females lol
If you don't think feminism means the supremacy of the female gender, you just aren't paying attention. Your bias blinds you. As for Greg Pagel, anti-feminists respond to criticism and videos from feminists constantly. Can't say the same for feminists though. They just write off any criticism as misogyny, or people "not getting it"
If you don't like gender supremacy, you should be an egalitarian. Simple as that.
+Yasmim Pessoa Let's not judge all feminist based on the words of Chimamanda. Chimamanda is one of the few sensible feminist out there, she is one of the few I will sit down to listen to. Having conversed with her before, you could tell she really cares about equality. Many of the people who tag themselves under the name feminist do not care about equality. I like Chimamanda, I'm not sure if I could say the same for most feminists.
Rotimi4 You waste your words friend. We judge feminists and people by their actions and words. Just as yasmin has done.
2020 anyone? This message is still powerful and relevant today!
Yeah
Definitely still powerful and relevant!
Yaaaaaas
Yaaaaaas
No its still bs
I'm Nigerian myself (Igbo) and I can really relate to this this. All my life, my mother has always taught me to cook for everyone, clean everywhere, keep quiet, always worry about everyone else but your self, ect. What Chimanda has said has really touched me and no words can describe how I feel that someone can relate to me so well .
Doing domestic duties... The biggest problem of world's society
Same in Ireland !
@Құралай Сұлтанева would you prefer to go out and work in the coal mines while the men stay home and do the dishes?
@@dukewilliam3660 Men build the world and don't complain while women wash dishes and cook and are told to believe they're oppressed how delightful
"Culture doesn't make people, people make culture" What a wonderful words 😍😍😍 I will always remember this😍😍😍😍😍
I disagree
I love how responsive the crowd she. She definitely deserved it
But do you put out on the first date?
@@mentosandcola9534 🤣🤣🤣🍆🍆🍆
This woman is awesome. The comments here make me cringe hard, people are so bitter. I am a guy and a hard supporter of feminism. Equality for all.
Feminism is not about equality, it's gynocentrism.
You guys should now the reason why it was called feminism. Search it
You can't pull birds on youtube!
adam zarbon all three of those support gender equality
Unfortunately modern feminism isn't equality
These hate comments against feminists honestly are quite sad. I am kind of shocked in this time and age people who want equality are shamed...
PROUD MALE FEMINIST HERE :D
Feminism has failed greatly
Anybody watching in 2024
No
Meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
@@benitaverse yeah 😙😙😙😙😙😙😙😙
I am actually wondering how this speech is eleven years old because it is totally current in 2024.
I am so upset a lot of times with the inequality.
No😊
I am an asian woman who is a feminist. i felt encouraged by watching this video. so thank you!
Eeeewhh
SH Karen Wish you could challenge those nerds in Saudi Arabia or Asian men are tolerable.
You are a misandrist.
Hello cancer
Antifeministische Aktion Kommt von jemandem der Antifeministische Aktion heißt... 🤔🤔
This video is such an eye opener. I see Nigeria (Africa) is soooooo soooooooo much similar to India. Word by word it's the same. The cultural perspectives, the expectation of gender roles....impossible!!!!
Yeah?
But we don't have bold and outspoken women like her here. Women here are demure and get controlled by patriarchy very easily. Nigeria is seeing a new wave of strong outspoken women who are making a difference. Name one woman from India who speaks like this. We still have a long way to go.
Be the change you want to see in the world. Be that bold woman and you will see there is a whole army of men and women who will support you. This is what I experienced.
All the very best for your life journey🙏
And by the way, if you can't name an Indian women doing her own thing you are blind.
@@elva136 It's why Nigerian women get described as 'loud' sometimes.
@@raylevi5343 Yeah, people hate people who call them out.
I have watched this speech countless times and I still can't get enough from it. Thank for sharing this truth chimamanda ❤️
At 16 I was told by a friend that no honorable man will marry me because I want to make a documentary on prostitutes . I told her that I don't want to marry a man whose fragile ego is more important to than what an entire segment of society is going through.
Most guys probably don't care about that, but things which mark you as a flight risk matter alot. Guys get destroyed when a marriage ends, their suicide rate is 9 times higher than the average woman going through the same thing.
So it's not the prostitutes, which should be a more respected industry than it is, it's about whether your behavior gives off red flags that you'll be a quitter down the line
Girl be you! ❤ Live a life u will never regret.
"We have been raised to think ofwomen as inherently guilty and have been raised to expect so little of men that the idea of men as savage beings without any control is somehow acceptable" 👏👏
I don't know where you've been raised that it's taught like that. But I feel sorry for you, feel even more sorry for the people who were raised to think women are innocent until proven guilty and that men are guilty until proven innocent. Or in other words, our modern law
You clearly only listen to one side.And,really,it's the exact opposite.
@@pieontoastsandloafs yaa alot of police most of the time arrest men even if they are innocent and the women is the criminal
And men barely have any shelter in us there are only 1 shelter for men in India there is only 1 shelter per 4 states for men and the law isn't meant to privilege us it is made against us child support, divorce, and so on
It’s the opposite for Western society 😶
Where were you raised? I assume Nigeria or India lol
Remember when feminism was more like this and taken seriously
Intersectional feminism is still like this. There are countless activist and public figures who still use this terminology and way of thinking.
We can't judge the whole activity by just a group of people. Women want equality for so long and it's normal for some people to act weird and turn crazy.
I y a n a Remember when it wasn't very effective?
And by 'like this' you mean passive and shying away from the gritty realities of toxic masculinity and male privilege? Oppressors love having their balls sucked. No hon, it wasn't very effective back then. The fact that Feminism is much more well known now proves that it's much more effective.
You mean when it was acctually a good thing and more useful then annoying
I feel bad for anyone that feeds into modern day feminism
She's so smart, beautiful and I love her accent!
lol
ok
Agreed
@Bruh Pg3D the fact that you’d act like that on a video like this :-/ if you can’t be nice, be quiet. So unnecessary.
Nicole Hart hi! I didn't get what was the problem with the comment you have commented on ; the one "freedom of speech is cool but can you find the person who asked?". I sincerely want to know as I didn't get the issue of their statement; might be a language problem but your clarification would help. Thanks
Hands down this is one of the best Ted Talks I've had the pleasure to listen to!!!
One in four women are on antidepressants and studies and peer reports show them to be the most unhappy of all time.
I came here because of seeing Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie talking in the wake of the US election. I think she is truly inspirational. I also went and found one of her novels that I'm now reading. Its amazing, thank you. I am white British.
Do you think anyone really cares what you think?
Well, you obviously don't Frank, why is that? I'd really like to know.
You are not answering me Frank in a way that means anything other than laughing at your offence. Give me something more practical please
Ha! So funny :) Maybe we will one day speak again. I pity you, because we do talk to each other, and we could have had a good time doing so. I know you will hate that
Frank Garrett you're an idiot. Log off
The fact that it was 8 years ago and still very relatable is just--
Ikr? yes its just sad af
Don't worry, feminism will be revealed as the hate movement that it is very soon.
A proof of women don't work
What m
Now one in four women are on antidepressants. you should read some studies and peer reviews on how women are the awesome happy now of all time since keeping studies. feminism is the root of all unhappiness.
This woman aspired me alot.
Am a girl and I don't hate men❌
I have been raised by a dad I loved ❤️
I have been a sister to a brother that I loved ❤️
And am hoping to marry a kind hearted person that I'll love❤️
I love men and respect them 💁♀️
I do believe in equality.
And I believe that being equal doesn't mean by being harsh to the other gender.
I know that men have been pressuring women but that doesn't mean that when you seek for equality doesn't mean to understimate men.
I don't care about what men did in the past but am in the present and I've never met a guy who understimated me in my family nor in my school.
Please excuse my English if you didn't understand 🙃
This deserves more likes.
Thank you! You are awesome 😁😁😁 Have a lovely day and thank you for making sure men aren't your enemy - our goal is equality!
Amal Ahmad just change aspired to inspire. great comment.
Exactly my thoughts..👍
Egalitarians support equality
I cannot tell you the number of times I have rewatched this talk. so much of what Chimamanda says is so similar to Indian culture. Such an inspiration.
Alas, you'll find that abiding by her nonsense will only result in you dying bitter, alone and confused. Hardly inspirational. You will realize this some day, hopefully before it's too late.
@hellogoodbye4061 what must you have experienced in this life to be completely oblivious to the truth when you see it
An inspiration indeed. Exactly as you say, similar to other cultures too. Mine Romanian...so many things similar.
She is very professional in delivering a fabulous talk in TED. It has been thousands times that I am listening to this speech. It is very useful and helpful to me in improving knowledge. In addition to this, it is improving my language skills in speaking and writing English. You are such a glorious lady to lead the Women Revolution.
Thank you Chimamanda,
Roman.
All the speech was amazing but when she started talking about culture and said “ culture doesnt make us, we make culture”, that line was brutal, in the good sense of the word.
This crowd is laughing at the wrong moments
Lol i thought i was the only one who was not in sync!
I thought te same
Andrea maybe it’s just me, but could it be culturally they “get it” like an inside joke, where everyone else is “lost” because you don’t understand their cultural norms. IJS
They laughed because they felt the truth of her words and had a burst of positive emotion towards her and collectively expressed it through laughter.
@MageKnight 40K 😐
"A man who is intimated by me, is exactly the man I would have no interest in"
This actually made me cry. Thank you so much for your words. ♡ Beautiful and inspiring speech that I'll have to listen to again.
Here’s your reminder to listen again :)
@@amandadavis8525 thanks :)
1 in 4 women are now on anti-depressants. There are studies in peer reviews, showing women to be the most unhappy they have ever been since keeping studies. Feminism is meant to divided you will always stay angry and upset.
@@amandadavis8525 here is your reminder that one in four women are on antidepressants. Feminism is meant to divide you will always stay angry and upset.
This is like a bible for feminists. I can quote this in any argument about gender discrimination. Thank god for Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.
Johnnie Blotus Do you ... do you pay attention at all to the world around you?
BrightBlackDaylight
He's not worth arguing to. If you look into his channel, he's a troll. You cant just talk sense into trolls. They are not interested in what's right or wrong, they're here for the attention.
By his replies, u can see Johnnie is contradicting his own words. By saying ''how are you discriminated against'' just shows that he's anti feminist and all the things chimamanda is saying in this speech about gender, males in specific, is disclosing him. You must be really blind and stupid not to understand what chimamanda is saying and/or is trying to say in this speech about how men and women and how they have built assumptions about gender differences. He's either not watched the whole speech or just haven't watched it at all and as Kasumi said, you can't just talk sense into trolls/ignorants. Enough said from me,have a nice day.
***** OMG, I can't believe you actually put effort to type down that bullshit. What? "women and men actually rape each other at similar rates."??? I don't know what kind of sick twisted way that you have to meticulously pick to define rape, even the sound of this is extremely ridiculous. Even if you are anti-feminist, pick something that are actually debatable. I don't reply to troll and feed them attention esp when they have lost all sense of logic. But I just can't believe that you think you can fool anyone with that terrible crap you made up. Seriously? I stop reading and skip the rest right after that. You're weak at reasons.
Kasumi Angel
All he's doing is jumping in all argument to out his "equal rights" mumbo jumbo brethren who will all gang up on you and come up with so much b.s that you will question if they are even educated enuff to write this stuff lol when they cant argue anymore they start slinging swear words, labels and hate speech ;)
So true about a woman who is not married by a certain age is seen as a negative.
It's 2018. We men have no privilege anymore.
just like a man becomes obsolete once he hits 30. your point?
dskmb3 men are discriminated just as much for their age as woman. saying it's so true as if it doesn't apply to our society as a whole on how we construct an unrealistic reality for ourselves. should I elaborate more or did you get that?
dskmb3 really? Because as a man I haven't seen any of the benefits that you speak about that is true. salad? now I'm hungry
A women who's not married does not matter anymore. Stop living in the past, damnit
This is true feminism. Women empowerment without pulling other genders down. I don't know why some people hate entire feminism just because of few deviated fringe elements.
It's not a few, it's dragging the entire Western society down the sewage. I'm sure it was started with good intention , but over the time it has been twisted and turned into the monstrosity we see today. (Communism and Nazism were also started with good intention btw )
I dont think its a few fringe elements
It doesn’t care men and hurts women more
Feminism ideology is based on victim mentality tool indoctrinated from marxim to fight illusionary patriarchy
@@veodebouev definitely its not few….
Only few good women
But not few bad feminists
Ugh. This is feminism . Something that pulls genders down is not feminism. That said, I am going to listen to this woman more
@@veodebouev Maybe not a few in strength, but relatively few.
Adichie can never go wrong in my eyes! I watched this two years ago and it spurs me through my feminism journey. Always fresh like a wine
She is truly a brilliant breath of fresh air. ❤️👊❤️
I can tell right off the bat there are people in the comments who didn't even watch the video and just responded to THE TITLE.
DeathKnight5608 im gay
LP15 Good luck with that.
feminism supports the murder, enslavement, and dehumanization of men. They should not have any platform anywhere, let along be allowed entry in the US. We don't let ISIS terrorists in the US, why should we let feminists?
Never change, General Troll.
LP15 WHO CARES
This is just... incredible. I'm speechless. This woman is amazing 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 A QUEEN.
count olaf My man, you deserve a cookie ; )
No please, call her "KING", that will make her feel more respected than anything which slightly points her out as female
How many women are queens anyway? According to Beyonce, every woman is, and by my knowledge, if every one is a queen, no one is.
Guess some men will never change sadly. But your un- understanding hearts, blinded eyes, arrogance, and persistently sexist mouths won't silence us.
@@billcosby2590 lol i guessed that worked
Just came across this and this is an entire gold mine.
I find it funny how people feel the need to spew their inner demons on the internet and don't have the guts to do so in real life.
They make such cruel comments, simply due to the mindset that since they are behind a computer screen, they cannot be caught and be punished. Truly sad. It shows what a sad, pathetic, disgusting species we have evolved into.
It also shows what we truly are. Someone can be polite face to face, but if he/she has a mask, you can know what they really think and feel. Its sad to know what the real face of society is.
we evolve and devolve at the same time. especially when technology is in the picture.
manhunt48 Fuck you for threatening to kill someone just because they have different views than you. Go to hell. #BlockedYourBasicAss
So very true
I'm a MRA in real life lol.
Beyonce used peices of this TEDx talk in her song Flawless... EVERYTHING SHE SAID IS SOOOO TRUE!
lol. read a book and go thank a man for building civilization for you.
I'm starting to understand where the dislikes are coming from.
Berly Henry yeah I peeped that
@@SummerzEVE brick head
@zan zy you say that like women HAD the opportunity to accomplish all those things in history. But they did not. How will one build civilization when not even considered a full humanbeing? Also many inventions of today were created by women but they were not given any credit for them. Do you research.
I'm a Nigerian & a mother of 2 boys who are 10yrs & 7yrs respectively. My boys enjoy cooking with their dad most times and we all do the house chores together as they don't want anything to stress mum. There's truth to all you said about gender inequality mostly in Africa but I think times are changing
Good for you. Many men are still stuck in the past.
You know your case is the minority right
I love that for you but that's not yet the reality of millions of African women...
Do you provide financial support for the family? Or you just sit there and share your tasks with your hus?
Honestly I am grateful that I found this through Beyonce at a young age. Without her this wouldn't have been exposed to me when I was 12, and has stuck with me up until now. And I will continue to come back to it.
I love this talk...I'm not a mother yet, but thank you for this, I know how I'll raise them empowered.
@Leon Discuss it doesn’t in most religions. It all depends on how you perceive the religion rather than the religion itself imo. Tho I get your point
Yea... It's time for this generation to think like you.
wish every nigerian could listen to this
Ekanem Ukpong
Brainwashing can be be very seductive.
judith amobi
"....why do we tell girls to close their legs ➡and not tell boys the same..."
> Because boys family jewels are different, call it Mother Nature, and it hurts boys to close their legs like girls do.
Do you feminists care thou, heck no because feminism is all about women being victims thus they lack empathy for others.
In fact a couple of men were jailed in NY City for not closing their legs like women do, yet no problem for women to take all the space they want.
This is why feminism is poison and you support that.
+Ekanem Ukpong wish every people of the world listen to this
Adèle Pannier
Propaganda often sounds sweet.
Nature also uses sweet smells and sweet looks to catch its prey.
+Ekanem Ukpong Not only Nigerians. Everyone
After watching this talk, I felt a sense of pride. The events she cites where gender inequality is obvious are things I can't relate to, despite being a girl. Looking back at how I was raised, I felt grateful to my parents. They taught my brother and I differently; they raised us equally. My brother isn't pushed to "man up", nor am I pushed to get married. I was raised in a house where there was no such thing as gender roles. If only the rest of the world would raise the next generation like that, too.
I salute you!
I've been raised the same way! Only now, my brother has suddenly started talking to me about how feminists are weak women asking for special attention. He grew up just like me and assumes everyone did. He even asked me to watch some milo yanapolis videos. Whoever that is. Milo seems like an advocate for anti feminism. My brother doesn't realize that that just because our parents raised us equally doesn't mean all daughters had that privilege.
I just realized this. Thanks for your comment.
How's it going for you in the 19th century?
Indrid Cold Submit to her husband? LMFAO. Dude, you might as well call her your slave and have her go "woof woof!" xD
hahaha gender roles are meant to be challenged!
I finally got around to watching this speech and all I want to do is scream from the rooftops, "I've been saying this for years!".
It's truly amazing to hear all the experiences that we as Nigerian women have had to go through presented so eloquently.
I only wish that my spirit never dies, because if there's one thing society does best, it is to kill the spirit of anyone who dares to challenge it's norms.
Thank you Chimamanda, for this and for all you do.
Lol… short sightedness is a female condition.
And your other feature of being the social glue of society makes you cheer each other on even when you’re heading for a cliff
Lol. Smh
Feminism has failed women miserably. There are many studies and peer reports that show women to be the most unhappy they have ever been in the history of keeping these studies. One out of four women are on antidepressants.
Beautiful piece. Her message is very important. It is not about putting down men, however acknowledging that gender differences still occurs. Both women and men should address these issues. We should all follow Chimamanda's wisdom.
Gender differences are issues? It's natural it's not an issue
@@КартоховыйРыцарь i think they mean gender discrimination, diffrent treatment
One of the only feminsm video where i don't lose my braincells reading the comments. Thank you guys. And amazing video 💕
Omg same 😭
SAME I LITERALLY JUST COMMENTED THAT
same
Soo true
Exactly!
“The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than reconsidering how we are.”
Kinda ironic being as feminism obsesses with gender.
It's like feminism keeps people believing in gender roles XD
@@Ghost-fe1vp
Feminism has never ceased believing in gender roles . But the only thing that plenty of people cannot see yet is that they want these gender roles to be reversed , perfectly knowing that it CANNOT work.
Men become simps and women rule over them. Women want to rule but hate it when they rule ...
Good luck with that !
"The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are".... This quote says everything about the matter ❤️
Tell me that u are being sarcastic for the sake of hope for a world where the intelligence isnt declining . U choose the most absurd thing.
Lets ask the question for the sane, Y?
Salut Madame je me nomme Sandrine et je cherche une correspondant qui pourra m'aider à parler l'anglais
The one TED talk, Beyonce definitely watched!
i thought same
Exactly
The first Ted Talk where I was not bored. Well spoken and beautiful!!
Definitely - her thoughts are well articulated and thought provoking.
Unfortunate for you that other ted talks make you bored. Says a lot about you.
brilliant! i'm a proud happy feminist! i hope that one day we are all gonna be chimamanda definition of a feminist!
Glorious Beaver ha
maya oli What's a chimamanda?
Glorious Beaver Depends if he was sticking his dick in her.
Glorious Beaver if she wants to have sex with him then that doesn't count as rape. Educate yourself a little bit please.
veronica perez
It does if she changes her mind later and had a couple of drinks. Educate yourself please.
When we all become Feminists, the Earth would surely be a more happier place to live in.
Thanks Chimamanda for this evergreen discussion!
One in four women are on antidepressants. Feminism has failed miserably.
Awwww! Her niece came! Such an auntie to give a shout out like that 😂
I'm tired of being talked over, looked down on, and living in fear of being violently attacked on the street at any time of day. Please, feminism is necessary. It is not a grab for power. I just want to feel safe, seen, and heard. I don't want to be demonized because of my gender. I'm tired of seeing women accused of being whores because they seek pleasure and happiness like every other person on the planet.
I am also tired of being talked over, looked down on and living in fear of being attacked on the street. But sadly some people fail to recognise all these issues and will say that feminism is a grasp for power.
@@racheldixon5528 Yes. People like to say female oppression is "self inflicted", which, in my opinion, is the most delusional statement ever made about feminism.
Bruv can we now talk about men being guilty until proven innocent and women being innocent until proven guilty?
@@dh1474 But I understand if you use this statement to condemn cancel culture.
"A man who would be intimidated by me is exactly the kind of man I would have no interest in. "😂😂😂😂✋✋✋✋✋✋✋
Ananda Birungi is there any man who’s interested in you or her or the thousands of other women that posted this exact same thing
I'm not intimidated by women. It's the fact that they expect me to be intimidated and are offended when they realise I'm not. That pisses me off.
@David Kinney technically your'e not wrong, offence can be associated with intimidation.
But fortunately, your'e not right either. If I was intimidated, I wouldn't have commented at all. Good try though.
@David Kinney Your not wrong that people use the internet to make themselves feel bigger.
But you're not right either, I am 6ft 2 and am rarely intimidated by anyone. The few people that do are family. How could I be intimidated by someone I don't know.
(P.S. People that are intimidated in real life but feel big online are called bullies. An internet troll is just someone who fucks around online for a bit when in need of entertainment, and to do something new. It's actually really fun once in a while.)
@David Kinney ah~ I see now. YOUR INTIMIDATED BY ME!
So intelligent, funny and profound. I am so grateful
This woman is literally everything I stand for yesss girll
The 23k people that disliked this video are probably still stuck in the 1800's because this world is evolving and I'm here for it.
Na, they just seem passed the BS
Evolving into degeneracy lmao
Its probably all boomers who don’t even try to understand it
I'd say it to all feminists who think they're living in unequal world during living in developed countries which are full of opportunities, bruh
@Gary Cute fairytale. I don’t see why Feminism is bad for women. If done correctly, it does no harm whatsoever.
While going through this video, I became so hopeful and inspired. However as I scroll through the comments I quickly got proven otherwise by the ignorant people out there. I don't understand how such an amazing movement can be so foreign to so many.
Yeah, it's always really disappointing how little men know about the issue. Oh well.
Just look through the comments, when you see that it is easy to generalize. When this is a topic near and dear to your heart and you see people talking without thinking, you get frustrated. Woman get generalizied all the time, it is wrong to do that to men, but falling in this trap is easy.
Whoever that raised this woman, is a Gold to this world 🌎🌍
Hmmm. 1 out of 4 women are now on antidepressants studies and peer reports have shown that women are the most unhappy they have ever been in the history of keeping the studies. Turns out feminism was a lie.