What we got wrong about bay area dating (SF vs. South Bay)

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  • Опубліковано 19 січ 2022
  • Bay area dating is the hardest in the world. Here's why and what you can do about it as a single guy.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 38

  • @HighIntegritySkills
    @HighIntegritySkills  2 місяці тому

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  • @donaldcodes
    @donaldcodes Рік тому +24

    I’ve seen this. Travel to LA often and dating is 10x easier there as opposed to the Bay where it’s basically dating on hard mode.

    • @HighIntegritySkills
      @HighIntegritySkills  Рік тому +2

      i had the same experience when moving from bay to san diego then LA!

  • @nothinleader
    @nothinleader Рік тому +8

    Holy crap, I've been living in the Bay Area my whole life and this was eye opening to watch

  • @alexandertaffe227
    @alexandertaffe227 Рік тому +9

    Dude thank you! Living in SF as a single male, I’ve been feeling like I had this image of myself as an average looking guy, and dating here has like shattered that image along with my self esteem 😂. But looking at the data helps a lot!

  • @willd4777
    @willd4777 2 роки тому +14

    Dang... I live in the bay and you're right. If you can date well here you can date well anywhere.

  • @MSMisLying2u
    @MSMisLying2u Рік тому +5

    Woman here, wanting to get married and care about my looks… so you’re saying I should go to the Bay Area. I was already thinking about it and this was great news. I’m in a state I don’t want to live in so I don’t really want to date here then get stuck here. I’ve always been drawn to California. The crime and new world order vibe concern me a great deal so we’ll see. Great message to the men by the way! Don’t take rejection personal. A lot of women have trauma and aren’t emotionally open, but it is a numbers game and it’s very important to approach women, a lot of us are highly feminine and waiting for you to approach! Good luck everyone ❤

    • @TheMsIoulia
      @TheMsIoulia Рік тому

      Honestly I wouldn’t move here to find a husband lol but that’s just my opinion as a woman that just moved to the Bay Area, who’s already trying to leave. I also thought I would do that, there’s definitely quantity but quality idk or maybe not for my preferences but I have heard many other women here having horrible time dating even if there are more men 🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @bevs9995
      @bevs9995 Рік тому

      @@TheMsIoulia you should write a blog.

  • @deadcalifornia
    @deadcalifornia 4 місяці тому +2

    im from san jose and was living in LA for 3 years …. had a very active and eventful love life put there. i moved back home a couple months ago… and i hate it. dating here is so trash😢

  • @jj-bv3ui
    @jj-bv3ui Рік тому +6

    If techies who wanted to date women worked from home, elsewhere, then it would be an easier dating pool for them. Good job using citations and stats, I appreciate that.

  • @mushroomt0p
    @mushroomt0p Рік тому +8

    Moving back to the bayyyyyyy. Yay 😊

  • @deadendbetting8982
    @deadendbetting8982 Рік тому +3

    Those single man/woman ratio maps are awesome. I saw they are from 2012 though. A lot can happen in a decade. I saw somewhere that the disparity between single men and single women in NYC has been decreasing over the last 30 years. I'd be interested to see if ratios in NYC are less favorable for men today vs a decade ago. But current data is hard to find..

  • @wessee427
    @wessee427 2 роки тому +1

    great vids!!! i might have missed it but what sitte is that you are using for checking out the ratios? i wanna use it on my local arizona and when i'm booking for future trip

    • @wessee427
      @wessee427 2 роки тому +1

      @@HighIntegritySkills thnks

    • @HighIntegritySkills
      @HighIntegritySkills  Рік тому

      @@wessee427 check the beginning of the vid I forgot. Visualize . nyc i think

  • @durf2753
    @durf2753 8 місяців тому +1

    Just head to Pittsburgh, Minneapolis and LA: dating women is a breeze.

  • @CodeMilkMan
    @CodeMilkMan Місяць тому +1

    The bay area is truly a hellscape for dating lmao even a fresh account on a dating app will get like 1-5 likes a week for an average guy.

  • @PlumbNutz
    @PlumbNutz Рік тому

    I'm from the Bay Area and I can confirm this. Now I live on Kauai and it's just as bad. While there are a lot of young single transient women in their twenties here, trying to find a halfway attractive single woman over age 35 here is about impossible. It's nearly impossible just to find one you can hit on. It's really bizarre it's as if a plague has come through and wiped them out. When you combine that with the low population of the island it's an impossible situation. Tinder will literally show you nobody. I'm sure most people have never seen that, it says "we suggest you expand your geographical boundaries" or something like that.

    • @durf2753
      @durf2753 8 місяців тому

      Was in North Shore recently in Hawaii. Great and nice looking single women. Choose your picks. Downtown San Jo at 11:30 at bars: wall to wall dudes with few women thinking it's cool to be mean.

  • @kelcat34
    @kelcat34 4 місяці тому +1

    It's all the techies fault! The tech jobs made all the men gravitate toward the bay area! Before the tech industry men and women ratio imbalance didn't exist!

  • @vulnerablegrowth3774
    @vulnerablegrowth3774 2 роки тому +5

    I feel like this is a response to my comment on your "best cities" video. Hah. Yeah, I'm at a crucial point where I need to decide whether I go to SF or NYC. Need to think about the tradeoffs. Like, I probably like the mind of SF women, but prefer that NYC women take pride in their appearance.
    The data is obviously not as horrible as in the past. But it seems like empirically people find it easier in better ratio cities.
    I'm at the point where I want to get married within the next ~5 years. And I feel that I'd be shooting myself in the foot if I go to SF over somewhere like NYC.
    (To be clear, I can find jobs elsewhere, but the highest impact jobs are in SF for me since I work in a very specific area in AI and there's only a handful of places to go and they are mostly in SF and prefer working in office.)

    • @latitudeselongitudes1932
      @latitudeselongitudes1932 2 роки тому

      The mind of San Francisco women is a crazy one. They are not fit for marriage, same with New York women

    • @cwhonkhonk
      @cwhonkhonk Рік тому

      SF would be the better choice. NYC is a shell of what it once was pre-Covid. Also, crime and cost of living has gotten a lot worse in NYC.

  • @clauaome25
    @clauaome25 26 днів тому +1

    Looking for a husband in the Bay Area

  • @stephaniecha4898
    @stephaniecha4898 Рік тому +2

    I live in the Bay Area, actually in the heart of Silicon Valley…. I don’t see any men…😂😂😂
    Omg… that’s silly. You guys are way too smart to be rejected. But I will say that many women come to the Bay Area to meet men because of their high salaries, not realizing that silicon men are intelligent and smart, so if you have no brains and only depending on your looks. Good luck ladies. You need both. For me as well, it’s difficult to engage with men that aren’t smart, because silicon men are intelligent. I love technology, having open minded conversations, when I leave the Bay Area, I find men outside if this area don’t have too much passion.

    • @wilkesmcdermid7906
      @wilkesmcdermid7906 Рік тому

      For males you have to be white to get dates in the Bay Area. Bay Area is the most white supremacist place in the USA.

    • @deadcalifornia
      @deadcalifornia 4 місяці тому

      everyone is aisan or indian in SJ…😅

  • @latitudeselongitudes1932
    @latitudeselongitudes1932 2 роки тому +15

    Both NY and San Francisco females are not worth the trouble

    • @BRBallin1
      @BRBallin1 Рік тому +1

      They be opportunistic

    • @jj-bv3ui
      @jj-bv3ui Рік тому +1

      *women

    • @deadendbetting8982
      @deadendbetting8982 Рік тому

      How would you characterize single women in SF and NYC? And in what city would you say they are worth the trouble?