NATURAL HOMEBIRTH STORY WITH COMPLICATIONS | BIG BABY BORN AT HOME

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  • @jodyporter6086
    @jodyporter6086 Рік тому +7

    My last baby was 11 lbs 8 oz. She came home wearing size 9 months clothes. I had her with a midwife but in a military hospital. I had her without pain medication. We had a contract with the midwife for low lighting and soft music playing. It was a great choice at the time. I was in labor 4 hours and she was the easiest birth I had of my 3 children. All during my pregnancy they kept saying, this baby isn’t going to be as big as your last 2. They weighed 10 lbs 8 oz. and 10 lbs 3 oz.
    I am so happy your son came through this without brain damage and he is healthy. I know what you’re talking about with the shoulders being a problem. They checked my daughter out for any displacement, but she was fine.
    Best of luck to you and your new baby.❤

  • @ELH603
    @ELH603 11 місяців тому +3

    I didnt know an 11lb baby was even possible! Glad you and baby are safe and healthy. 🙏❤

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  11 місяців тому +1

      haha! I never thought I would have one that big! Thank you so much for your kind comment!

  • @skullgarden2417
    @skullgarden2417 11 місяців тому +7

    This comment section makes me so sad. Most trained midwives should know what to do in a case like this. I had a home birth with a team of licensed midwives (granted he was a small baby) and I’m glad I did it that way, being im a Native American and the hospitals in my area are very cruel to WOC and women get a lot of birth injuries in my area. Things happen during births- whether in a hospital or at home.

  • @pamowen3452
    @pamowen3452 Рік тому +20

    So grateful to our Savior for the miracle of you having a midwife at home. I’m a retired OB nurse and think you and your 2 month size newborn are beautiful. You would have had a c-section at the hospital for sure and shoulder dystocia scares me but everything is good. Congratulations to all of you, midwife included.

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +5

      Thank you for your kind comment! And congratulations on your retirement!

    • @horselady4375
      @horselady4375 11 місяців тому

      💙💗💜💙💗💙💜

  • @isabellelittle932
    @isabellelittle932 Рік тому +8

    Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable story 💗 things like this happen in hospitals all the time, these comments are nasty. You’re amazing mama, I’m glad you and baby are well and I hope you feel healed soon!

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  11 місяців тому +1

      Thank you! We are doing great now. He's 8 months today and we are healed and doing wonderful.

  • @MissLauren20
    @MissLauren20 11 місяців тому +6

    My Mom’s last baby (1971) weighed in at 13 pounds. Sadly the little man was stuck and the doctor could not dislodge the shoulder and he passed away. My Mom said it was the worst experience birthing she ever went through with five kids. I’m glad you had someone to help you and your son arrived safely.

  • @paulabrown6840
    @paulabrown6840 Рік тому +17

    I’d considered home birth with my only child. Thank God I decided to deliver at the hospital. My midwife delivered her but she got stuck in the birth canal and required an emergency suction intervention.
    She was ok a 10 Apgar. But I began hemorrhaging severely
    and lost 1/3 of my blood volume.
    If it weren’t for emergency surgery and blood transfusions I would have died that morning.
    It’s wonderful and romantic to deliver at home but no one can predict last minute complications.
    Be safe...let your desire to deliver at home take second place to your baby’s and your own life. You just never really know!

    • @Rachel65431
      @Rachel65431 Рік тому +6

      Thank goodness someone that can reason. We need more people speaking to out

    • @skullgarden2417
      @skullgarden2417 11 місяців тому +3

      @@Rachel65431 ok. We get it. You don’t agree with home births. You say it over and over in the comments. Maybe you should educate yourself on the rising maternal death rate in the US

  • @ML-pe7ed
    @ML-pe7ed Рік тому +14

    We have CHM also, they are real God send! And midwives, the salt of the earth. I loved that you had Brooke Ligertwood playing at the beginning of your labor. We had 4 home births: 9.4, 9.2, 9.5, 8.10, and my husband delivered the last one. Midwife couldn't get there in time! We have home schooled 20 yrs and are on our last 2!! So glad you are okay. That's a big boy, and you are a hero. Carry on sister, homeschool and homebirth isn't for the weak 😅

  • @radixdudette
    @radixdudette Рік тому +8

    Hospital births are risky. Super Bugs are found there. The American Way of birth is to practice “ just in case obstetrics”. This male, medical model dishonors the marriage bond. Often, the meddling of male, patronizing OBs instills low levels of fear which cause iatrogenic dysfunctional labors which end in more remunerative caesareans for “ failure to progress” or suspected cephalo/pelvic disproportion. As the saying goes, you can never be sued for an unnecessary C- section but you can always be sued for failing to do one. This is why our C-section rate climbs steadily in the US.
    I am a strongly committed Christian woman in my mid seventies. I am unashamedly PRO LIFE. BUT, when it comes to birthing, l am PRO CHOICE ALL the WAY. A woman has the right to choose where she feels the safest for her birthing place. She has the right to choose her own birthing team and the people who will be privy to one of the most sacred and holy times of her life.

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  11 місяців тому +1

      I could not love your comment more!

  • @unraveledmotherhood
    @unraveledmotherhood Рік тому +5

    Praise God for that protection over you and baby I just gave birth on Tuesday evening and we gave him the middle name Theodore such a sweet name! Congrats!

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +2

      How cool is that! Congratulations to you 🎉

  • @roisinokane7172
    @roisinokane7172 Рік тому +16

    This is what can happen, every birth is different. I had one emergency section, three normal births and the last another emergency section. This is why you should always have a midwife or doctor. You can never assume each birth will get easier, especially as we age. He is vey beautiful baby ❤

  • @louisianna5524
    @louisianna5524 Рік тому +3

    Just found this.
    Just by looking at you, you can tell he was a big bubba, what a beautiful babe, and congratulations
    You are an absolute star 🌟 ❤🎉

  • @angiedavis7148
    @angiedavis7148 Рік тому +11

    Shoulder Dystiotia Life and Death situation. I had an emergency csec due to this! 11lbs 10 oz! He is 6'5" 40 yr old now!!🎉

    • @hollyhollifield2500
      @hollyhollifield2500 Рік тому +4

      Most midwives are trained in shoulder dystocia and have maneuvers to get them out, I had one with my home birth as well and thankfully my baby girl was totally healthy! It is definitely an emergency though!

    • @hollyhollifield2500
      @hollyhollifield2500 Рік тому +2

      My baby was not 11lbs tho she was only 8 LOL! No way could 11lbs fit out of there haha

    • @angiedavis7148
      @angiedavis7148 Рік тому +1

      @hollyhollifield2500 aaahahahahaha .... me either!

  • @hannahschenkenberger9408
    @hannahschenkenberger9408 Рік тому +16

    So thankful everything turned out positively! I had a similar home birth with my 10 lb. 9 oz. boy but thankfully he was long so not super wide shoulders. He did get stuck but he wasn't purple when he came out. I can only imagine how scary that would have been! Midwives are heros! ❤

  • @reflectionsinthebible3579
    @reflectionsinthebible3579 Рік тому +16

    Wow so yeah the midwife was there from your point of crowning and slowing contractions and sleeping and it took your husband to see the blood? And you pushing without even telling them? That was all wrong. Thank God you and baby are even alive.

    • @pamowen3452
      @pamowen3452 Рік тому +2

      Are you a professional licensed to make these assessments by video?

    • @paigewilson7893
      @paigewilson7893 Рік тому +3

      ​@pamowen3452 Really, I know the standard of care and this is way below the standard of care that is considered safe? How about you, what is your medical background????

    • @pamowen3452
      @pamowen3452 Рік тому +1

      @@paigewilson7893 yes, 31 years experience in a hospital and I know the standard of care but I found no reason to judge the situation after the fact, not in the moment to make my own assessment or most importantly to possibly make a new mom question this at this time. Plus that’s not my place.

    • @pamowen3452
      @pamowen3452 Рік тому +1

      @@paigewilson7893 18 years in OB

  • @jennaflint977
    @jennaflint977 Рік тому +6

    Just found you mamma of 7 here! HELLO🙋‍♀️ so glad everything turned out great!!! 🙏🙏💖 sorry for the physical trama! My second child was huge too! It was a crazy natural hospital birth! 11lbs12ozs lol I pushed for him for 30 straight mins! He was just big no hang ups… however my 4th baby did get hung up sort of lol I had to push her head and entire right extended arm together!!! 8.9lbs my 3 rd baby was an emergency C-Section Dr Trauma and extreme stress from the dr ended up stressing out my baby we were 8cm and dr told me to hold him in! 😡😡😡 his heartrate was 210bpm for 2HOURS!!!😭😭😭😡😡😡😤😤😤 they put the heartbeat head thing on him cause he was soo active they got lazy with try to keep finding his heartbeat… that was extremely stressful! I fired the dr! Terrible terrible experience I have very deep PTSD from that! My 7 th baby was induced because my BP started rising and they didn’t want an emergency I was a week late anyhow as I usually end up lol 😂 baby 5 was 3 weeks late! She was perfectly healthy and wrinkled and peely lol like a prune all over lol
    💖💖💖 my 6th baby was awesome! Haha we rushed to the hospital (45mins drive) after 2 weeks of prodromal labor lol 😆 we get there I asked for the wheelchair I couldn’t straighten out had to be bent over.. she thought I could walk still I was labor moaning and contracting every like 4 mins! Lady get me the wheelchair this is my 6th baby!!!! I get in the building despite calling when we left (45 mins to prepare for me) they weren’t READY!!🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ they checked me all in, check me I was 9cm with a bulging bag!!! Haha 10 mins after getting my IV! I’m pushing!! He came flying out!! Haha 😂 and the bag EXPLODED EVERYWHERE!! Hahaha 😂😂😂🥳🥳🥳 hilarious!!! Was awesome!! Almost had him in the truck! Haha! 😂😂

  • @krystalgardiner5591
    @krystalgardiner5591 Рік тому +7

    I had a 9 pound 14 oz 23 1/2 inch long boy that gave me 4th degree tear and put me in the ICU. I actually coded on the table bc I had a severe hemorrhage.. Whats crazy is I seriously contemplated having him at home.

  • @sarareimold3151
    @sarareimold3151 11 місяців тому +2

    I was also grateful for the expertise of my midwife with the fourth baby.. All of my labors were fast and easy but the fourth baby didn't breathe well after birth and she knew just what to do to keep him safe and healthy.

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  11 місяців тому

      That's so awesome! Good for you!

  • @ginabaker9764
    @ginabaker9764 Рік тому +4

    I love how he smiles while you're telling his story.❤❤❤

  • @leighh4145
    @leighh4145 Рік тому +5

    Please no more home births. You are so lucky he is alive with prolonged shoulder dystocia. This is so dangerous and does not end well for mom and baby.

  • @a_autumn_brown
    @a_autumn_brown 11 місяців тому

    His shoulders are as long as my babies are when they are born! So strong an I’m glad you both made it out ok!

  • @bookishbeantown
    @bookishbeantown Рік тому +13

    I’ve been checking in to see if you’ve had the baby! So exciting! And so thankful you had. A midwife this time, wow that sounds scary! He looks so perfect, look at that snuggle bug! Can’t believe he was over 11lb! Good job momma!!

  • @lisatague305
    @lisatague305 Рік тому +66

    I was scrolling and the title caught my attention . I’m a NICU RN and your story is terrifying . Your lucky your sweet baby is alive , knowing you have big babies the chances of shoulder dystocia increases . To put a baby at risk like this is just crazy .

    • @Rachel65431
      @Rachel65431 Рік тому +10

      Thank you! The risk for baby and mom is just not worth it! It doesn’t matter how many times it “works out” Those that lose
      In the russian roulette of homebirth, Im sure they wish they could go back. It’s statistically less safe than hospital births. Not that hospitals are perfect but you have a much better chance.

    • @shavonnadeephraimisrael4126
      @shavonnadeephraimisrael4126 Рік тому +13

      Just saw your comment..what would have made it safer in the hospital? Getting a c section? The midwife did a fabulous job with the tools she used.

    • @pamowen3452
      @pamowen3452 Рік тому +15

      I’m a retired OB nurse who has not retired to keeping up on education. I wonder why people think judging what happened in such a unloving way will help. I think this lady is smart enough to figure out that she should make different decisions in the future. Please be careful with new mothers hearts, just saying.

    • @frederikac.5153
      @frederikac.5153 Рік тому

      What would have made it safer? Everything a hospital birth can provide! Advanced birth assistance, episiotomy, fetal scalp monitoring, oxygen monitoring and CPR....this baby could have been admitted to NICU and Mom would have been considered for C-section.@@shavonnadeephraimisrael4126

    • @nadineforlizzi9597
      @nadineforlizzi9597 Рік тому +1

      @@shavonnadeephraimisrael4126the midwife did do an amazing job. And she was lucky that she was able to get the shoulder unstuck. In a hopital, yes a C-section would’ve probably been done when your birth stalled. They are better equipped in a hospital to deal with situations like this. I am so happy mom and baby are healthy. Like she said in her video, 2 lives could’ve easily been lost that day

  • @jenniferbakeberg-iq5mq
    @jenniferbakeberg-iq5mq Рік тому +3

    I am so thankful you had the support you did there with you! Praise Jesus! 0:59 🙌🏼❤️ So happy you are all doing so good!

  • @emeraldbrown1406
    @emeraldbrown1406 11 місяців тому

    Congratulations and good job to you and your whole team!! I had a very similar birth with my last baby, my 7th. He was 11 bps but was born white, no HB or breathing. Being an apprentice midwife myself we kicked into action and he is absolutely ok and things were handled beautifully!❤

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  11 місяців тому

      Great job! I'm so happy for you!

  • @anniecastiel1632
    @anniecastiel1632 Рік тому +3

    Sorry, but at what point was someone going to call 911?

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  11 місяців тому

      I was initially contemplating it because I have already done it. Not illegal in therUS

    • @anniecastiel1632
      @anniecastiel1632 11 місяців тому +1

      Correct, not illegal in the US, but what if your baby or you continued to be in distress? By the time you called emergency medical services and they got there, it would have been too late. Quite a gamble and fortunately, you are both fine…but it was just that…a gamble. Speaking from the point of a retired paramedic.

  • @moon_cricket_
    @moon_cricket_ 11 місяців тому +4

    I guess all the ignorant people on youtube have decided to converge on this one video.... anyway...
    Good job mama! My niece had a shoulder distocia and the OBs decided to vaccum her out which caused her collar bone to break (which they provided no care for and decided to not tell my sister) and caused my sister to hemorrhage and have a 3rd degree tear. Seems like your midwife did a good job considering the difficult circumstance. Baby Theodore is beautiful ❤

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  11 місяців тому +1

      Oh that poor girl!!! 💔
      Thank you for your comment. I'm not too concerned about all them watching and commenting because it helps grow my channel so my videos get seen more 😉 The more people that watch and comment, the more youtube pushes out all my videos.

  • @horselady4375
    @horselady4375 11 місяців тому

    JESUS was definitely taking care of you all the way thru. This from the start with the Chritian ministries girl.bless you all.

  • @laurarose6829
    @laurarose6829 Рік тому +1

    Congratulations on getting a beautiful baby boy. Sounds like a rough go.

  • @donitawhite8111
    @donitawhite8111 Рік тому +9

    Shoulder dystocia is no joke. I had it with my last child (boy nine and a half pounds). Thankfully, I was at the hospital delivering with an obstetrician. He finally had a nurse on one side and my husband on the other side push down as he pulled and my son came out. He was rushed to the NICU for respiratory distress and I had a broken and displced rib fracture. A small price to pay for him to be ok by day 3.

  • @TheFabFarmer
    @TheFabFarmer 11 місяців тому +1

    You did great! A beautiful healthy boy. Your body is not going to grow a baby it cannot birth unless you have some kind of health problems ie diabetes. Please ignore the people that live in fear of birth. You know well that birth works after having 6 babies! Don’t forget to take time to heal from the trauma of this birth, having someone’s hands inside you during such a special and vulnerable time can be a lot to process mentally.

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  11 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for your kind comment!

  • @katencoliving821
    @katencoliving821 Рік тому +5

    I have had large babies: 8.10-12.10. The smaller ones happened when I only ate small amounts of simple carbs during pregnancy (I quit gluten so I didn’t each much bread, etc). I never had GD, just big babies. Glad it all worked out well.

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  11 місяців тому +1

      It is amazing how fast everyone goes to blame GD. Some of us just have big babies 🤗

    • @aqua6613
      @aqua6613 11 місяців тому

      ​@1898Mama I'm a 6ft tall and 260lbs woman. Guys always said I had birthing hips...never had a baby tho 😅. My mom had the most difficult time with my big big head 😊.

  • @InterwebUser-ps7ju
    @InterwebUser-ps7ju 11 місяців тому

    Praise the Lord, He was with you and baby. He is good! Bless you and your family 🙏

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  11 місяців тому +1

      Thank you so much!

  • @louisebrooks977
    @louisebrooks977 11 місяців тому

    Praise God! You're so right, the midwife was there because you needed her! I had 5 live births, my first born in the hospital where I was an L&D nurse, with a midwife, but medically managed! My next 4 were born at home, 2 in the US, 1 in Okinawa, the last in Germany! My 3rd baby was my biggest! He was born in Okinawa with a midwife. He weighed 10 pounds, and I pushed for 45 minutes, using a upright position!! I, too, used the wonderful Japanese tub for a while, but my contractions slowed so I got out! Thankfully I pushed him out over an intact perineum and he was crying and pink! I did have a retained placenta and went to the Japanese hospital but was discharged later in the day, at my insistence!! I was grateful for my midwife, my husband, and my friend who went with us because I was never separated from my baby and well treated. My son is now 33 years old!! My oldest is 38 and my youngest is 23!! I was so grateful we were able to have our homebirths. I'm so glad you had the help you needed and trusted. Praise God!

  • @mykaelaorwig9646
    @mykaelaorwig9646 Рік тому +8

    Wow, praise The Lord for a safe delivery of your sweet baby!! That is incredible how big he was, I’m so happy it worked out. I’ve had two little boys, both born at home, and I am so thankful for that opportunity because home births are so amazing. My first son was only 7lb, 10oz, and my second was 8lb, 8oz, which I felt like was really big. 😂 Not compared to your little guy!! 😅 I am definitely going to have to check into the Christian Healthcare ministries, because our insurance rates recently skyrocketed, and we are hoping to switch soon! 😅

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +1

      You should, we save over $500 a month by using them instead of my husbands work insurance. We’ve used them twice now (my son had an eye surgery) and both times they have been amazing!

  • @catherinee.millard1831
    @catherinee.millard1831 Рік тому +2

    I hope you meant that his shoulders were 17 centimeters wide, not inches! He's adorable.

  • @nadineforlizzi9597
    @nadineforlizzi9597 Рік тому +2

    Home births scare me for this very reason. If she was not able to get him unstuck, there’s no OR ! No dr. And at that point 911 is going to be too late. I’m glad you AND baby are happy and healthy

  • @evelynbeightel2246
    @evelynbeightel2246 Рік тому +3

    THAT IS A VERY BIG BABY. ❤❤

  • @emoriu4253
    @emoriu4253 Рік тому +4

    Wow. Sounds like you had terrible midwives. Are you saying they never checked a number of times through the pushing stage? Especially with labor stalling. That right there is a red flag. And why did they not quickly do an episiotomy to help that shoulder come out?

    • @wendivenable7717
      @wendivenable7717 Рік тому +5

      The shoulder was most likely behind the pelvis bone...an episiotomy would have done nothing.

  • @drstarship777
    @drstarship777 11 місяців тому

    I had three large sons 2002-2006. Two shoulder dystocias. Third born, midwife in hospital, was at 4 minutes and boy oh boy. It was very close. The midwives Saved Everything.

  • @mariemenard4447
    @mariemenard4447 11 місяців тому

    This was a scary birth. It was a close call, but I’m glad you and your son are doing better now.

  • @talapeanutbutter4250
    @talapeanutbutter4250 11 місяців тому +1

    Thank you, God!

  • @marygarcia2814
    @marygarcia2814 11 місяців тому +1

    Unfortunately for Christian healthcare ministries, you have to start paying for the gold plan before you even conceive. I tried joining after conceiving at 16 weeks because this was their cutoff for any coverage but I couldn't get the gold plan. So I just never continued with them. I'm 26 weeks now

  • @erikaplante-jean7745
    @erikaplante-jean7745 11 місяців тому

    Oh my god! So happy to live in Canada

  • @helenvalentine8372
    @helenvalentine8372 Рік тому +9

    Horrendousbirth story and midwife should be out of practice! Lady, if you have more, go to the hospital!

    • @mbwilson8592
      @mbwilson8592 Рік тому +7

      Oh psh. Majority of home births are perfectly smooth. Do some unbias research lady.

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +5

      I’ve had 3 hospital births. This one was still better than those.

  • @ellenweber7174
    @ellenweber7174 Рік тому +2

    So lucky you had a good outcome. Could have gone terribly wrong.

  • @karabritch7834
    @karabritch7834 Рік тому +2

    So happy everything is good now. Praise the Lord he set you up to have a midwife

  • @ericagoehring1089
    @ericagoehring1089 Рік тому +1

    Congratulations! Well done! He is beautiful.

  • @reflectionsinthebible3579
    @reflectionsinthebible3579 Рік тому +5

    My 13 year old said his shoulder’s were stuck from the point you mentioned he was crowning and nothing was happening. She knew and your midwife didn’t for so many hours?!?!?!

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +2

      Sounds like your 13 year old needs to be in this field!

  • @mamieriggins8871
    @mamieriggins8871 Рік тому +3

    Praise the Lord, you are both healthy!! Congratulations, he is so cute 😍

  • @dianefoster4472
    @dianefoster4472 Рік тому +3

    Man did you get checked for gestational diabetes? I’m wanting to know why nobody called 911!! If you can’t afford a midwife then why keep having all these kids?

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  11 місяців тому +3

      Yes, I got checked, and didn't have it. All of my babies have been big, this one was just much bigger. And I keep having kids because I love them.

  • @Jfkdabombk
    @Jfkdabombk Рік тому +1

    Great job and congrats on your new addition!

  • @OurLifeHomeschooling
    @OurLifeHomeschooling Рік тому +1

    Congrats! He is beautiful! I've been waiting to hear the news. :)

  • @Sabouma28
    @Sabouma28 11 місяців тому +2

    sorry, but a home birth with an extremely big baby is very irresponsible...

  • @kathleenmiller516
    @kathleenmiller516 11 місяців тому

    Sounds horrific.
    I had to have an emergency c section w my second. Literally butt up in the air, being wheeled down the hall while the nurse was trying to put in a catheter, & the anistiologist was putting me under. My obgyn (in practice 25 yr) said she had never seen a baby that tangled. It turned out fine & I'm happy ya'll are ok! But would never risk mine or my baby's life by not having a hospital, Dr's & a full staff.
    Prayers aren't enough sometimes.
    Enjoy your new bundle 😊

  • @colettemurray1234
    @colettemurray1234 Рік тому

    Your beautiful boy congratulations ...hope its all plain sailing from now on xxxgod bless Theodore

  • @DonnaPeel-k5z
    @DonnaPeel-k5z 11 місяців тому +1

    I checked into a midwife with my 2 son but the risk wasn't worth it. No amount of money is worth a baby's life or the mother's.

  • @lindamagee9584
    @lindamagee9584 Рік тому +2

    I am amazed they didn't call 911

  • @marycrosbie546
    @marycrosbie546 Рік тому +2

    I would assume you might have had some gestational diabetes with him weighing over 11#. Was his blood sugar low when he was born?

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +1

      no it wasn't low. I tested around 20 weeks and never had anything pop up. All my babies have been "big" compared to others. This one just took the cake.

    • @ellenweber7174
      @ellenweber7174 Рік тому

      Unlikely it was checked by the midwife.

    • @skullgarden2417
      @skullgarden2417 11 місяців тому

      @@ellenweber7174midwives always check blood sugar. They usually check everything, a full panel, to make sure the pregnancy is low risk.

  • @mpatey63
    @mpatey63 Рік тому +1

    Did I misunderstand, or was she initially contemplating having the baby at home without assistance ?!! That would be illegal in the UK ...

    • @lizey6341
      @lizey6341 11 місяців тому +2

      It’s not illegal in the UK. It’s called ‘free birthing’. It’s completely legal to choose to have an unassisted home birth.

  • @couchpotato3589
    @couchpotato3589 Рік тому +3

    Congratulations🎉 So happy you both are doing well.

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +1

      Thank you! We are doing great!

  • @jhutch1681
    @jhutch1681 Рік тому +3

    Mother of two, both mid-wife attended homebirths, both 43 weeks. I am smallish.
    Baby number one labored from Friday morning until early Monday morning, hitting transition late Sunday evening. Three hours of pushing a posterior baby with asynclitic presentation, on my back (which I wouldn't do again), a tear and a long 8.8 baby with good Apgars. 45 minutes of stitching before I got to nurse my baby. I was exhausted, and had a rough start with breastfeeding that took three weeks to overcome, with constant support from my mid-wife and an incredible LC. Ligament damage left me with a cystocele, which complicated the healing of the tear for about four months. I didn't sit comfortably and couldn't stay on my feet for prolonged periods for about eleven months. A consult with an Ob told me it would never feel better, but it did.
    Baby #2, went from mild labour at 4 cm, to water broken, followed immediately by four intense contractions with involuntary pushes. In the midst of that, my mid-wife told me to squat, which I initially resisted until she insisted. I remember the commanding sound in her voice that made me realize that it was not an option, and the position change made all the difference. Baby was in my arms in 12 minutes (from water break), despite turtling due to shoulder dystocia and no rotation. Second mid-wife had not yet arrived. Immediately following the birth, lol, the midwife was giving herself rescue remedy. 10.6 round baby with slightly lower first Apgar, ate like a pro a few minutes later. My BP took a bit to normalize. After the first feed, I had two hours of stitching by the second mid-wife (steadier hands), having narrowly escaped a fourth degree tear. This time despite a rectocele, I had less of the aching pain after and a shorter recovery.
    I LOVED giving birth, but on top of having been clinically ill during pregnancy (on IV for many months), postpartum took a lot out of me. I have had to be careful about lifting, avoid tight waistbands and do some inverted exercises. Occasional counter pressure needed for stooling. Decades later I have had no repairs, but shouldn't delay when I get the urge to pee.
    ALL births should be planned for assistance, because you just never know and it is a big risk to take without trained help.

  • @loricreed
    @loricreed Рік тому +1

    Congratulations ❤

  • @monicaf.4257
    @monicaf.4257 Рік тому +1

    We're you past your due date with him?
    Also, congrats, he's ADORABLE, and you are a boss!

  • @bree1726
    @bree1726 Рік тому +1

    where is the girl with the list!

  • @poooaaa1111
    @poooaaa1111 Рік тому +1

    do you have the whole videos about it🥰

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому

      I dont 😩 i had the cameras set up and filming in the room I planned on birthing it, but things changed so fast that there wasn’t even a thought to get the cameras

  • @desert_moon
    @desert_moon Рік тому +4

    My 8th (of 9) baby's homebirth was just like that and he was 11 lbs with a 16+ inch head and huge chest/shoulders (I'm 5'2"). We were shocked he was so large. We thought he was around 9lb12oz like my 4th. We took him for his two-day check at the Navy hospital and he was 11 lb 4oz.
    All of my home births were covered 100% by Tricare.

  • @reflectionsinthebible3579
    @reflectionsinthebible3579 Рік тому +26

    So the midwife just let you be crowned for that long? That’s insane. And if your contractions slowed on top of that and they just let you sleep? What was the miad wife even thinking? Was your mid-wife even there at that point? That is hugely dangerous.

    • @paigewilson7893
      @paigewilson7893 Рік тому +11

      Totally irresponsible care. I have been doing this for 26 years, not safe.

    • @maryortega8808
      @maryortega8808 Рік тому

      "Not safe"
      yet everyone involved is healthy and fine lol 😆

    • @maryortega8808
      @maryortega8808 Рік тому +6

      And shoulders getting stuck .. happens in the hospital too. Has a lot to do with the size of the baby. My oldest son got stuck and I had a hospital birth. Same thing could have happened in the hospital and the doctors would have done the same thing.

  • @robbiemarcum8878
    @robbiemarcum8878 Рік тому +1

    I have had 3 babies at home. The first one at home the paramedics came 5 minutes before she was born. I would never not have a midwife with me.

  • @reflectionsinthebible3579
    @reflectionsinthebible3579 Рік тому +4

    I’m theory nothing. Not every labor or pregnancy is the same and the fact you said you would have done it without help if it weren’t for the financial break you got-your baby would have died and you could have too. Sigh.

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +2

      You're right. Thankfully I have CHM now because even with our old state insurance, we wouldn't have been able to afford paying the hospital bills.

  • @susanmahr6068
    @susanmahr6068 Рік тому +2

    I'm wondering why are you keep having babies when you cannot afford any health insurance. You are very lucky.

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  11 місяців тому +3

      Because when we did have health insurance, we barely ever used it. It was not worth paying such extreme amounts for. But, even when we did do hospital births with very good insurance, we still had to pay $4k plus per baby after insurance. And I keep having babies because I want to raise nice human beings to place into the world.

  • @lindaforstoffer1289
    @lindaforstoffer1289 Рік тому

    My 2nd baby was with a midwife. I was transferred to the hospital because baby was too big. 10 La 12.5 ounces delivered by c-section

  • @Carol-xp8tb
    @Carol-xp8tb Рік тому

    Congratulations 🎊 👏 💐 🥳 ❤

  • @reflectionsinthebible3579
    @reflectionsinthebible3579 Рік тому +2

    Sounds like gestational diabetes which is more common in older women.

  • @carau7237
    @carau7237 11 місяців тому +1

    😳 this happened to me with my 4th a severe shoulder distotia, thank God i was in hospital! I also hemmoraged and it took a team of about 10 to deal with the situation of myself and my son to resuscitate him he was stuck for so long 😭. We nearly died and would have if we were at home. Scariest thing ever i had to have a major operation after also and a broken bone. If you can go to a hospital please do ❤

  • @a.mysticpearl4146
    @a.mysticpearl4146 Рік тому +5

    This is deeply disturbing

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +2

      Then why are you watching it?

    • @a.mysticpearl4146
      @a.mysticpearl4146 Рік тому +3

      @@1898Mama I didn't know it was going to disturb me until I watched it. I'm sorry that happened to you and your baby.

  • @loripolston6695
    @loripolston6695 Рік тому +1

    Wow! This could've gone so bad.

  • @Suebearish
    @Suebearish Рік тому +16

    This is why home is a much safer option. Midwives are trainer to know what to do , in hospital the only option is C section which is major surgery and always risky

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +2

      👏👏👏👏👏

  • @donitawhite8111
    @donitawhite8111 Рік тому +2

    There's a reason insurance companies don't cover home births....

    • @skullgarden2417
      @skullgarden2417 11 місяців тому +1

      They did with mine. Medicare at that.

    • @mbwilson8592
      @mbwilson8592 8 місяців тому +1

      Ha. Look into the difference in costs/billing of a hospital birth versus home. THAT is the reason. Check out the documentary called "the business of being born."

  • @reflectionsinthebible3579
    @reflectionsinthebible3579 Рік тому +2

    Sounds like maybe he was getting less oxygen as the placenta was coming loose for so long.

  • @lm6424
    @lm6424 11 місяців тому

    This shoulder dystocia probably took years off your midwives life btw.
    Has no one watched the horrible story of the couple that home birthed because of the visitor restrictions due to covid, because they wanted Dad to be present when she had a horrible shoulder dystocia and the baby died!
    This could have happened!!

  • @donnaruswinkle4396
    @donnaruswinkle4396 Рік тому +1

    Anyone. Suck out any of the mucus. You have know idea how lucky this little guy is alive. Lack of oxygen could be an issue

  • @kariconover4036
    @kariconover4036 Рік тому +50

    Home births to me are to risky. I would never get over having a doctor say to me, well had you had this baby in the hospital we could have saved your son. Nope, no way. This isn’t the dark ages.

    • @MsKgren
      @MsKgren Рік тому +8

      Right? 100% agree.

    • @JessicaGarcia-hi2te
      @JessicaGarcia-hi2te Рік тому

      Baby's born in hospitals die too

    • @kristinanderson8270
      @kristinanderson8270 Рік тому +31

      Statistically home births are safer than hospital births. Lets respect others choices. Congratulations on your new addition!

    • @Tarwesmoothie
      @Tarwesmoothie Рік тому +19

      Midwives are VERY well equipped for medical emergencies. Home birth is even considered safer than giving birth in a hospital and is significantly less likely to cause trauma to the mother

    • @MsKgren
      @MsKgren Рік тому +6

      @@Tarwesmoothie homebirth is not safer than hospital births. What a lie.

  • @marygoertzen2192
    @marygoertzen2192 Рік тому +1

    My daughter would not be alive today if she had been born at home

  • @vanessahinds8320
    @vanessahinds8320 Рік тому

    OUCH!!! I will stick with 5# babies ! Not likely to have another due to hysterectomy and my last baby being 30!!!

  • @carolynhamilton3316
    @carolynhamilton3316 11 місяців тому

    Did midwife check babys heart rate while he was stuck? You are lucky hes ok. Wow. I never wanted home birth but everyone has their own views.

  • @MsKgren
    @MsKgren Рік тому +8

    I don't understand this culture of homebirths. I've read too many stories of babies ending up dead, or with severe disabilities resulting from home births gone wrong. Women need to stop putting their romanticized ideal of a perfect natural birth above the safety of their own babies. You are lucky to be alive, and so is your son. Hopefully there is no long term complications from this.

    • @embum79
      @embum79 Рік тому +3

      Agree. Oxygen deprivation is no joke. This was such a useless risk to take. Other babies haven't been so lucky.

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +7

      You should check what the American College of OBGYNs said recently: "Recent studies have found that when compared with planned hospital births, planned home births are associated with fewer maternal interventions, including labor induction or augmentation, regional analgesia, electronic fetal heart rate monitoring, episiotomy, operative vaginal delivery, and cesarean delivery"

    • @MsKgren
      @MsKgren Рік тому +6

      @@1898Mama it's those very interventions that save babies and mother's lives when things go wrong. Labour may be a natural thing, but things can and do go wrong. Your quote discussed higher interventions, not the safety of the baby, which is what my comment was about. Midwives are great and highly trained, but the fact is they can't do everything an obgyn can do, like perform an emergency cesarean. Minutes count when babies aren't getting oxygen, and waiting for an ambulance can result in help that comes too late. Mother's need to make decisions based on the health of their baby, not on their personal wishes for a romanticized home birth. And then they put pressure on other moms to follow in their footsteps.

    • @embum79
      @embum79 Рік тому +3

      @@MsKgren I thank god every day that I was in the hospital when I had a sudden placental abruption. If I had been at home, we'd both be dead. They immediately put me under for a c-section and my baby was out in minutes. Even then, she had oxygen deprivation in those few minutes, and the fear of not knowing whether your baby will have brain damage is not something I would wish on anyone.

    • @MsKgren
      @MsKgren Рік тому +2

      @@embum79 thank you for speaking out! I am so glad you and your baby are ok. This is exactly the type of situation that can happen, and it's not that rare. Maybe your story will make another Mom think twice if they are considering a homebirth.

  • @melissaosullivan4585
    @melissaosullivan4585 Рік тому +1

    They broke my tale bone because my son was too big

    • @jeanecottam9977
      @jeanecottam9977 Рік тому +1

      Me, too! My son was only 9.4 but had a large head. He was stuck once he crowned and even though there wasn't enough room for the baby to come through easily the doctor tried using forceps. The forceps did not help with the delivery. They did leave me with a cracked tail bone and my son with a pocket of fluid on the side of his head that had to measured and monitored for weeks. No one told me that my tail bone was injured until I complained about the pain at my 6 wk check up. He wasn't my first baby but he was my last because they kept getting bigger!

  • @SherryLemon-g6y
    @SherryLemon-g6y Рік тому +11

    Glad it’s all ok now but listening to your story I got really mad u could have lost your baby by having a home birth. When babies are as big as yours u need to be in a hospital. It’s hard to birth a baby that big it should hav been a c section

    • @tammymoore9584
      @tammymoore9584 Рік тому +1

      I was pregnant with my first baby at 17. I was in labor for 17 hours and pushed for almost 3 hours. Finally had him, he was 10.6lbs 23 & 3/4" long. No medications but afterward I needed some pain relief. His head broke my tailbone when he came out, an episiotomy that took over an hour to stitch up. Dr. came in the next morning and said, "we should have c-section that baby". All that to say things go wrong in hospitals too. The baby boy is a grown man and is extremely tall with 8 kids of his own. ❤

  • @Sharon-yr6th
    @Sharon-yr6th Рік тому

    You might want to breast feed in a calm manner out of the limelight of the world -- the baby just keeps being jiggled and what is with the constant tapping on his arm! He looks so uncomfortable! What is with all the hand gestures in the wind? I get dizzy watching you but no more!

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +4

      Thanks for your parenting advice. I'll put it in the book I'm writing about all 6 of my breastfeeding journeys.

  • @pkmagic
    @pkmagic Рік тому +1

    Time will tell. Don't do that again!

  • @lm6424
    @lm6424 11 місяців тому

    Also, if this was an unassisted delivery your baby would have died. FYI.

  • @jehouse61
    @jehouse61 Рік тому +3

    Jesus. We have hospitals for a reason. Has he even been to a pediatrician? Is six enough?

    • @mbwilson8592
      @mbwilson8592 8 місяців тому

      Why would someone like you be watching anything more natural-minded, anyway ? Just to be an internet troll.

  • @reflectionsinthebible3579
    @reflectionsinthebible3579 Рік тому +5

    No one should have their babies unassisted and no one should give birth at home. Midwives are welcomed in hospitals and you can do the Tub birth at hospitals too. There are way too many home birth influencers that glorify this making it look good and some with no assistance and they glorify that they did it on their own. No one should follow people like that. Sorry-not sorry.

    • @thetreasureinthefield
      @thetreasureinthefield Рік тому +5

      Quit trolling her comments. Home birth is safe, there are some circumstances we just can’t predict or change. Get off of her comments fear mongering and lecturing.

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +3

      They don’t allow tub births or midwives at the hospitals in my area.

    • @mpatey63
      @mpatey63 Рік тому

      @marisaovarets : you are very naive, birth in general is risky. Modern medical interventions were developed precisely to save maternal and baby deaths. Learn some history!

  • @Patty-jj4en
    @Patty-jj4en Рік тому

    🌹

  • @dawno8605
    @dawno8605 Рік тому +4

    It takes a very ignorant women to have a home birth! It’s so unsafe! Why would anyone put their baby at risk like this??!!

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +6

      Because I’ve done the research. I’ve had hospital births. I’ve had homebirths. And I’m thankful I had a midwife this round instead of a typical OB.

    • @dawno8605
      @dawno8605 Рік тому

      Your a selfish women and I feel sorry for your children.

  • @horselady4375
    @horselady4375 11 місяців тому

    O and your feet on the bed knees up and together with feet apart.

  • @NancyAlvarez-kr6bn
    @NancyAlvarez-kr6bn Рік тому +7

    Can't believe there are people that still do this, why not go to a hospital instead of exposing babies to complications/death

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +9

      ….because some have had bad hospital births. This would have ended in C-section at a hospital. Midwife handled it fantastically.

    • @reflectionsinthebible3579
      @reflectionsinthebible3579 Рік тому +1

      EXACTLY!!! Too many sheep following influencers and bleeting their oh how lovelies.

  • @MrsSherrymcm
    @MrsSherrymcm Рік тому

    God knows what He’s doing. He knew you were going to need the midwife

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  Рік тому +1

      We said the same thing! Isn't that insane?!

  • @shellyfish9046
    @shellyfish9046 Рік тому

    Hope no more.

    • @1898Mama
      @1898Mama  11 місяців тому +1

      I'm going to go try to make another one right now and if we conceive, I'll name him or her after you.

    • @mbwilson8592
      @mbwilson8592 8 місяців тому

      ​​@@1898Mama😂 Shelly fish. Poor kid.