RENOVATING A RUIN: 9 Months Pregnant in the Most Stressful Week of Our Italian Renovation (Ep 31)

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  • @pliny8308
    @pliny8308 2 роки тому +444

    Kylie, I say this as an Italian born and bred woman, wife and mother, married to an Italian man for decades. With all due respect to Guido, whom you rightly adore, you really have to insist sometimes and say no, sometimes for your own well-being, that of your marriage, and in the future of your husband. When you're a hard-working, competent and uncomplaining woman, one's spouse can sometimes just assume that you are wonder woman and can do anything. No one can, and it's unfair to expect it. No woman who is nine months pregnant should be scrubbing away construction dust from a guest room and kitchen and then trying to cook for guests! What if your parents weren't there? Even with them there, you overdid. The guests can stay in an agriturismo, even if it's forty-five minutes away, and take "you" to dinner, or come next year. When you feel pain in your pelvis your body is telling you something; it's telling you to rest. The most important thing is that baby you're carrying, and some adjustments should be made as to who is doing what. It's best to get that settled now, because once the baby arrives, he will come first, which is another thing which requires some adjustments in a marriage. I don't want to sound like a know it all or to tell you how to manage your marriage. I'm just trying to share what little wisdom I, who was and is much like you, have gained along the way.

    • @celticwarrior777
      @celticwarrior777 2 роки тому +77

      I agree many men think us women can be on our feet sun up to sun down. At this point sheshould be doing very little and he can be cooking serving her the food. Her feet should be up. no offense Guido but your wife needs you to do much more for her over the next few months. She's going to be very exhausted.
      Italy inmy opinion is still a very sexist culture.
      Kylie stop and rest and do very little right now. Stop overdoing it. Your baby is coming soon .....REST. When your baby comes, all you should be doing is focusing on you and the baby, spending lots of time just being with the baby slow paced calm, with lots of calm,rest and doing very little.
      Guests should book somewhere take care of themselves their meals.its too much for you to be trying to play HOST x

    • @sharronlewis-watts8965
      @sharronlewis-watts8965 2 роки тому +23

      Well said!

    • @Kre8tif
      @Kre8tif 2 роки тому +45

      Totally agree. As a wonder woman married to a Frenchman, doing everything emasculates men eventually and Wonder Woman becomes a secretly bitter and resentful person because now she is expected to do it all. Take care of emergencies, etc.

    • @anelf9334
      @anelf9334 2 роки тому +22

      So very true. One must learn to say no.

    • @tzcleary
      @tzcleary 2 роки тому +56

      No disrespect to Guido, but he is the man in your relationship and he should be the one taking care of you and the baby. Stay behind in Florence and prepare for your delivery. Make us videos from your routine in the city. If necessary, stop construction for a few months, or let Guido do it on his own until you can join him again in the renovation. You and the baby are the priority right now, and you are the only one able to keep this priority in place. Best wishes for you all!

  • @ellenick7516
    @ellenick7516 2 роки тому +65

    Hi Kylie I love you ! Please take care of yourself too. Dont make excuses for your partner ( I can see he is lovely , I mean that in the best way) but it seems as if he is taking up alot of emotional space ( even stress is an emotion) and it is not allowing you to have the space to get out of survival mode and " feel" your own emotions before the baby comes as well. You are a light ! You nuture and acknowledge everyone around you. You deserve thr same! Everything a mother goes through physically or emotionally , the baby will go through as well. Take up space and let others nuture you! Love you

    • @lorieastside1
      @lorieastside1 2 роки тому +15

      Maybe he needs some anger management

    • @shur7318
      @shur7318 2 роки тому +1

      Excellent advice

  • @sharleenparrino2297
    @sharleenparrino2297 2 роки тому +205

    I’m speechless, as a mother of four son’s, I remember how it was the last 2 months of my pregnancy!
    I can’t imagine renovating in America let alone another country with such difficulties!
    My nesting instincts kicked in preparing for the baby!
    Your the sweetest, kindest, most understanding young woman!
    Bravo Kylie!
    You’re simply amazing!
    Please take care!
    Life is never the same once babies start coming!
    It’s a whole new world!
    Babies take priority and great energy!
    Be good to yourself sweetie!
    Much love and respect from Oregon, USA!
    ❤✝️🙏💪

    • @YourFriendAyana
      @YourFriendAyana 2 роки тому +4

      Hi fellow mama! I’m also in Oregon 9 months along next week 😊

  • @katiewright2232
    @katiewright2232 2 роки тому +154

    Many of us have to learn how to say “no“. For some it’s easier than others, but in order to maintain sanity in perspective in certain situations, it is necessary. When you are dealing with pregnancy and a major renovation, commuting and dealing with substandard supply chain issues to mention just a very few if your challenges, at some point you’re going to need to learn to just hold to what is necessary. When you have a baby in a young child, you will have to prioritize. You will have to learn to say “sorry, but I can’t deal with that right now“ A baby and your health needs to be put absolutely first, Above all!

    • @lauratohome
      @lauratohome 2 роки тому +6

      Yes she will learn to say no sooner or suffer the consequences, a hard birth and medical problems after the birth could happen, she needs to slow down, she has been doing for everyone and filming and editing.irreversible harm might be done by pushing to hard.small baby, weak baby.she needs to rest more.

  • @angelapa9513
    @angelapa9513 2 роки тому +146

    Your filmmaking skills are outstanding Kylie.

  • @Vicfric
    @Vicfric 2 роки тому +8

    “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger”. I love your attitude and your calm nature. You will make a fantastic mother!

  • @ThatsNotReallyHowThisWorks
    @ThatsNotReallyHowThisWorks 2 роки тому +290

    Personally, I would leave the beams rustic for a while and then, if you decide you’d rather have white, you can always paint later. If you paint now and wish you had left it, you’d have to strip all that off later. I’m biased tho because I love a rustic look and I love natural wood.

    • @cathyphegley7414
      @cathyphegley7414 2 роки тому +18

      I so agree. Leave it rustic for now. 💕

    • @gnarbeljo8980
      @gnarbeljo8980 2 роки тому +15

      Totally agree! Also, I prefer limewashed to painted white with full coveraged, it looks much nicer on an antique original beamed ceiling allowing all the charm but giving just a chalky transparent layer of white through which the natural materials textures shine through. That can be done later at will. I'd definately cut corners by doing any tiling myself. Tiling is a much easier job than many think, they could totally do that bit themselves.

    • @keagleeagle821
      @keagleeagle821 2 роки тому +7

      I agree with you

    • @EmilyBoltz
      @EmilyBoltz 2 роки тому +9

      Yes those beams are a beautiful feature!

    • @MzClementine
      @MzClementine 2 роки тому +7

      Oh how my heart aches when beams are painted. Sometimes I even shed a tear and they're not even my beams. 🤣😂😅💯🙆🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️ Keep them natural keep them rustic. Nothing shows the beauty of age, and true history like pure wood. Oh the vibrations so beautiful. The echoes of energy that come from them. Don't break the cast or spell. Leave it as nature intended.

  • @ertiebassy3612
    @ertiebassy3612 2 роки тому +7

    Oh Kylie almost crying when you describe doing all you can to help/care for/sooth your Partner bc he is so upset and "gets irrational". I'm so sorry you have to Deal with that on top if everything else. That type of behavior unfortunately will not disappear. Please do not try to "comfort" that bad behavior. You should be punishing him for it. So sorry you have to deal with that. ❤

  • @barber0611
    @barber0611 2 роки тому +5

    I'm glad the tile guy disappeared before you paid him!!!......Kylie my husband and I have been together 13 years.....we are 63 and 67 respectively.....we built a small house last year after years of planning....we are in the southern USA....it was so hard....so many obstacles...so many problems with supplies, workers and budget.....I feel you.....we get along very well usually but all this did try our relationship.....you are almost there....and when all is said and done you are going to be deliriously happy and proud of what you have achieved, which is a lot!!!!.....much love!

  • @RLH_ITALIA
    @RLH_ITALIA 2 роки тому +3

    The music during the sink segment was brilliant! I was on the edge of my seat like I was watching a Hitchcock thriller 😮

  • @DeeDee-vl1kt
    @DeeDee-vl1kt 2 роки тому +7

    Kylie .. WE ALL wish we had a "Kylie" in our lives 💗💗.... Even Kylie NEEDS a "Kylie" 💗💗💗🙏🙏🙏😊😊

  • @claireangier3322
    @claireangier3322 2 роки тому +5

    Oh my gosh Kylie, your a much better person than me, I would have absolutely hit the roof by now. My other half would be in no doubt how everything was getting way too much. As others have said in the comments, you and the baby are paramount! The renovations would be a huge undertaking for anyone who wasn't pregnant. Your mum and dad are great and thank God you have them with you, I'm sure they are worried for you.
    As with the episode with the Hare in the fridge .... I can't put it in words how I would have felt 😡😠😤😤😭😭
    Sending you lots of love and hugs. 💞🇬🇧

  • @samm2751
    @samm2751 2 роки тому +26

    I was the same way at the end of my pregnancy. I was so incredibly calm. It lasted until about 6 months post birth and then I developed severe post partum anxiety and ocd. Please take care of yourself Kylie. You and the baby are number 1 now. Saying “no” is going to be so necessary for your mental health.

  • @NancyHanna_forwordtv
    @NancyHanna_forwordtv 2 роки тому +9

    You are a brave woman to live & share your truth in this environment. After reading the comments, which are heartfelt, but also must be hard to hear, brava for not taking the video down and crawling into a quiet corner for some alone time. Praying for you and the wee one. Praying the love and acceptance of one another continues to flow in and thru your love story that has inspired us all! Hugs~

  • @pamogle488
    @pamogle488 2 роки тому +51

    You aren’t complaining - it’s exhausting, especially pregnant! The biggest rewards are coming!

  • @architektura204
    @architektura204 2 роки тому +4

    This olive press is a precious sculpture. What a magnificent inspiration to adjust other functions around it! Your house is shaping up to be a a true architectural treasure. I admire your vision and pliancy in those challenging times in your life. You both rock.

  • @claudettep212
    @claudettep212 2 роки тому +41

    I cannot believe Guido thought it’s ok to have guests stay over during your renovation - let alone these people agreed to come to your place knowing you are renovating!!! No, no, no! And a bloody hare dripping onto your cake? O-M-G
    I would totally lose it. I cannot believe what you have been going through. Thank goodness your parents are there with you.
    Can’t wait to meet your little bundle of joy! ❤️

    • @jessicabey275
      @jessicabey275 2 роки тому

      I 100% agree with the rabbit I would have a meeting with the builders and would ask the common courtesy to ask or at least put it in a bag or container... but guests to each their own you should not judge

  • @feewaybilz
    @feewaybilz 2 роки тому +3

    Whenever I'm overwhelmed in life I just repeat the Mantra "this too shall pass"

  • @erinferucci4314
    @erinferucci4314 2 роки тому +8

    i like it natural for the master bathroom! once you paint the beams- you’ll never get them natural again- no matter how much you strip them… (coming from a designer)
    stay strong ❤hang in there.. sending love and light from california !🌴

  • @graceful-shakti9019
    @graceful-shakti9019 2 роки тому +3

    As long as the care and nurturing is going both ways with equal measure, than it is beautiful, but none of us have the power to make anyone feel better or worse.
    You are definitely blessed, and the stress you feel if real, and it is ok for both of you to have an unflattering moment or even a few of them.
    When this project is done it will be stunning.

  • @tanyanicholls5304
    @tanyanicholls5304 2 роки тому +91

    Kylie you are amazing and so tolerate. I'm not sure I would have been OK with my husband going off for a break with his friends after expecting you to put up his friends during this renovation..cook clean etc..you are nine months pregnant and you should be the one having a break and resting not managing his man tantrums and dealing with the builders and putting his friends up. I hope he realizes how lucky he is to have you. I have been married 35 years and started married life much the same as you have being loving and kind tolerate and understanding. I have realized along the way that you must take time for yourself and that might mean disappointing people along the way..too bad..men can be selfish it's in their nature. Perhaps going back to Florence and resting there to prepare for the birth and more importantly what come after the birth would be a good idea. I'm sure after your husband's break with his friends he can deal with the builders now and anything that comes with it. You and your baby are the priority now Kylie and he should know that..thank you for the incredible films you make. We are raising our grandson who has ADHD and has behavioral issues and I look forward so much to your videos every week as a way to escape the stress even for a little while..blessings to you and your baby and your wonderful supportive parents..xox love from New Zealand

    • @reneeroberts6438
      @reneeroberts6438 2 роки тому +10

      I absolutely agree. You are in this together, and your patient nature is wonderful. But good luck keeping it while you work so hard to make sure everyone else is happy.

    • @kathya1956
      @kathya1956 2 роки тому +11

      Red flag?

    • @libertyblueskyes2564
      @libertyblueskyes2564 2 роки тому +12

      Yes, I would have told him to put his friends up in a hotel and pay attention to the builders himself.

    • @painterlefay
      @painterlefay 2 роки тому +9

      @@kathya1956 I am right there with the red flags. Unfortunately the knowledge of co-dependency in relationship structures and the patterns they create is gate-kept by the psychology world… in previous videos she says he needs to exorcise for his health, but he doesn’t like to run… but when the tough is getting tougher, he goes to play soccer? Do I have that right… her having to attend to all of that which followed… oof! My protector feels were out and wanting to get in there to help.

    • @eli_mc8721
      @eli_mc8721 2 роки тому +8

      @@painterlefay Finally I find comments seeing the red flag!! Thank you.

  • @adreaminfocus
    @adreaminfocus 2 роки тому +7

    I am the wife of a very wonderful and sensitive yet very temperamental grumpy Italian man. I could see the look in your eyes of love for him (yet possibly wanting to throttle him and shout “you do all this 9 months pregnant”) … it’s a skill in itself. I have always had to work on my being calm and the sensible Head to balance out his more…. Emotional side.
    Having children is such a blessing we have one wonderful son called Rocco.
    I love that you have shared some of the more tumultuous moments in your relationship. I really hope that Guido actually watches your last recount…. I also hope that he gave the builders a good telling off for ruining your chocolate cake… funny in hindsight yes in the moment a bit crushing.
    I love the exposed beams, but your good taste and your good judgement will guide you best.
    Sending you so much love and say many thanks for entertaining me x

  • @elizabethheatley22
    @elizabethheatley22 2 роки тому +11

    Heavens Kylie! Please be better to yourself. The fatigue you will feel when the baby arrives will be even greater than what you’re feeling now.

  • @sunalouw348
    @sunalouw348 2 роки тому +3

    Kylie, I would never have entertained guests in these circumstances. I don’t know how you did it all on top of calming your irate hubby. And then there is always Murphy to contend with! And your poor cake! You are an angel and an absolute superstar. Im sure things will only get better from here. Please have enough rest and take care. ❤

  • @cheriemoonquaker4215
    @cheriemoonquaker4215 2 роки тому +26

    I loved seeing the man in the bathroom with the cement and the trow in one hand , smoothing it out while holding onto his cigarette in the other, hurrying to lay it down before the sink came over to be set into place.. Cool craftsman.. So much work happening... Wow! That week sounds like a perfect storm that you made it through! You look so beautiful and happy no matter what is happening.. And During it all it is such a blessing.

  • @marysutherland8570
    @marysutherland8570 2 роки тому +1

    Nice to meet you, Kylee, and wow, you've had quite a time! You are a brave and gracious soul, but many times that opens the door to be taken advantage of by the selfishness of others, which if not responded to very wisely it will bring much derper sorrow in times to come. I did read down through several comments, so that's all I'll say since many addresses that quite thoroughly.
    What I DID want to mention though is about the chair for your room or nursery. Having breastfed 4 babies, the arms on the chair are VERY helpful for support. But have you thought of a ROCKING CHAIR, rather than just an armchair? Here in the States we wouldn't do without our rocking chairs to feed and soothe our babies! It's very relaxing to the Mommy as well! Hopefully they have Rocking Chairs there! All the best to you on your huge project! I will try to remember to pray for you!

  • @melindaferreira9879
    @melindaferreira9879 2 роки тому +6

    I think the natural materials look nice... I like the rustic look.

  • @lirazdemasure936
    @lirazdemasure936 2 роки тому +5

    Kylie, thank you for the video. The words about staying calm while your partner is having a meltdown resonates with me so much. The last months we are experiencing one of the most difficult periods of our lives, and to me as the mentally stronger one - it's just very difficult to stay clam and find peace while my husband is having a meltdown- it's just difficult.
    I'm sure people understand that you don't need to should show on youtube arguments and such. Much love.

  • @christinefrazier
    @christinefrazier 2 роки тому +3

    I'm for the white beams for the room to feel light and airy!!! Just find the right shade of white one that is not too cool toned! Maybe a more creamy warm white? That is a whole other thing as someone who has painted their apartment recently their are endless variations of the paint "white" lol Take care of yourself Kylie it's ok to say no to people especially in your condition. My baby is 7 months now and it was quite an adjustment. Only now I'm starting to feel a bit more normal 🙃 but in the beginning I had to say no to a lot of visitors who wanted to visit the baby when she was just born I was too overwhelmed but slowly started inviting people on my terms to come visit when I felt that I could handle it. Don't be too hard on yourself most important is your health and your sanity and of course your family and baby! Love the reno videos so excited for this final push to see it come together! Also for breastfeeding I would recommend getting a very good supportive breastfeeding pillow! You can sit in any somewhat comfortable chair, couch, bed and the breastfeeding pillow helps with supporting your arms and baby. In the beginning breastfeeding took over my life and that is my top baby item I believe would be the most helpful!

  • @vickijohnson8151
    @vickijohnson8151 2 роки тому

    You are beautiful .. competent … professional in all things… what a blessing you are … I enjoy your passion for everything .. love your healthy cooking… and I’m sure you are used to doing it all!! Lol. And you seem to be driven to FINISH things and pride in doing it well… it will all work out and I have found the joy is in the creating of a room or cooking or gardening!! Take time to rest your body …enjoy!! Pretty lady

  • @moirastanley7272
    @moirastanley7272 2 роки тому +7

    Ok, the story about the dead Hare dripping blood on your chocolate cake…..my jaw literally dropped!😮
    Seriously, you are a saint to have not lost it!

  • @autummsun
    @autummsun 3 місяці тому

    I know how you feel. I have to live in a hotel while my house was being renovated. Many nights crying because there is yet another delay. Frustration after frustrations. But it is now my oasis . I want to some more renovations after 8 years but I m so afraid of going through the same experience again. Living in a hotel and having a daily commute of 3 hours while dealing with a high stress job and contractors… it was almost hell for a year. I m glad things are moving along for you because being so pregnant while going through all this is a lot. I have been binge watching you vids and learning of your journey. You always have been positive and giving . Thank you for letting us into your wonderful life .

  • @jamesdellaneve9005
    @jamesdellaneve9005 2 роки тому +6

    The sink looks beautiful.

  • @gracegiven5093
    @gracegiven5093 2 роки тому +1

    Kylie, I hope you will keep the beams in their rustic state. People pay big bucks for such a lovely feature.

  • @martinethevenau69
    @martinethevenau69 2 роки тому +90

    You are so brave and so supportive in this renovation while been pregnant. Thankfully your parents are there for you. I admire your positive attitude and humour in the chaos that surrounds you. The bloody hare in the fridge may have pushed me over the edge. Praying for a healthy delivery.💗

    • @sofiawren
      @sofiawren 2 роки тому

      I would have lost it. Which wouldn't have been helpful! But how did Kylie solve it? Did the cake have to go or did you redo it?

    • @SpecialgiftsLA
      @SpecialgiftsLA Рік тому

      May...May, I would have gone on a killing spree, starting with the builders ...

  • @gnarbeljo8980
    @gnarbeljo8980 2 роки тому +1

    Oh one more thing.
    I watch a channel where a former designer i France did a collab with her local potter and painted her own tile from her own design beautifully. The easiest cheapest way is to use cheap bisque fired terracotta tiles (a potter can tell you which ones) then you simply glaze and use over or underglaze and paint (or oxides and water). You are good with a paintbrush, you'd 100% make beautiful tiles and if you can find a local potter I'm sure it wouldn't cost you alot to glaze and fire them if they agree (usually just a question of having space and time for a firing). I used to have a workshop, it's nontoxic and easy and ALOT less expensive than your Sicilian tiles. And if you like it you may be able to do all your kitchen tiles! It would be a gorgeous memory of this time in your lives, and save money! Italy has loads of potters and majolika workshops, go for it!

  • @denisescull4227
    @denisescull4227 2 роки тому +3

    My first child- I had a small rocking chair in my bedroom and got out of bed for each feeding. My second child, I co-slept for the first couple of months then transitioned. The main thing is to do what feels comfortable to you. Don't listen to what you "should" do, that is the only time I've not been happy with my choices. Do what feels right for you! I do recommend a bed in the nursery, along with the crib, for you to sleep if your child is sick or fussy. That way, at least someone will get sleep. Thank you for sharing your life with us!

  • @vickisanderson6684
    @vickisanderson6684 2 роки тому

    Yes! Keep the beams natural! Beautiful!

  • @justineashton9740
    @justineashton9740 2 роки тому +4

    Our newborn babies (3) always slept with us . I nursed them for at least 12 months . Nursing in bed was cozy loving and nurturing and I never got tired. I was with my young children 24/7 . they gradually moved into a separate bedroom with the bed mattress on a low floor frame Never used a crib .

  • @susanmarten278
    @susanmarten278 2 роки тому +6

    Bless your heart! You are just an amazing lady and I salute you! Just remember that you are only one person..... and there are two in a marriage. Guido needs to take care of you too. Hugs and kisses!

  • @arlenesuurd4203
    @arlenesuurd4203 2 роки тому

    You have a wonderful grace about you.
    My husband and I renovated 23 homes...23
    There were many moments I would wander out into our fields to compose myself.
    I never wanted to hurt my husband for anything.
    It worked..40 years married..well married

  • @chrisstef8004
    @chrisstef8004 2 роки тому +5

    Count 5 4 3 2 1..breath, smile and keep on going..😊
    Your baby will change everything..stay safe, good luck..Your all a beautiful family..🙏🌹
    Love from Australia..💖

  • @cathrynmccay6820
    @cathrynmccay6820 2 роки тому +7

    I suggest you stay in Florence now and let Guido deal with the renovations and long commute. If you can't just rest and need to do something, you can quietly shop for the items you need, but should be away from the construction chaos and dust. Breathing in that construction dust is not good for you or the baby. I love watching your videos and respect you and Guido very much!

  • @nahlamodita1498
    @nahlamodita1498 2 роки тому +4

    The beams natural way, only varnish them. They will look great ❤

  • @renakins5749
    @renakins5749 2 роки тому +1

    First - congrats on making it so far!
    I wanted to comment because 4 months ago I was 9 months pregnant - dealing with a lot of stress from work, my husband was in-between jobs and I was the bread winner - at the same time we where working on his mental health. I wasn't renovating a house for sure but I completely hear you when you say - you can't just stop stressing because you're 9 months pregnant and it's the recommended thing to do.
    I found a therapist (who I've realized is really a person who isn't there to push an agenda) who really helped me through a lot of things. She said to me that when someone needs you and you love them - you try your best to be there for them but then you must find your own support system too. She was apart of mine. As where my friends. The emotional outlet really helped and while physically I was still going at 101% - in hindsight I'm really glad I faught for us and pushed. I always believe that if you've got the mindset to do it - you will and the more you manage the stronger you are. I think this is bacially personal growth in a sense.
    Our baby came early and when she did come - things really shifted. My husband found some peace and everybody rallied around us. And having the baby - we've also realized that everything is a phase. Hang on to your socks cause it goes really really fast and when you're looking back all the tears and stresses go away.
    I firmly believe that if you don't have the bad - the good wouldn't feel so sweet so hang in there Mama! You've got this! 💕
    Also - extremely funny story. I also had terrible pelvic pain. To the point when we moved into our new apartment (I was 8 month pregnant) we bought a brand new $8k mattress. The first night I slept in it - my husband slept like a freaken rock and got up all happy and refreshed. I could not move I was in so much pain. My husband lifted me bawling my eyes out (of bed) and took me to the hospital to make sure that nothing was wrong (we also thought maybe I overexerted myself with the moving). I slept terribly every night after that too.
    It wasn't until the 1st night back from the hospital with our new baby - when I woke up the next morning having the most relaxed sleep (even waking up every 2 hours lol) that I realized the mattress was excellent.
    It was hilarious. I really thought we had wasted so much money

  • @jamesdellaneve9005
    @jamesdellaneve9005 2 роки тому +7

    Keep the natural beams and terra cotta ceiling. Looks beautiful.

  • @MetaMM
    @MetaMM 2 роки тому +1

    Your story of Guido’s irritability, it’s normal. Married to Italian for 29 years before I lost him 8 years ago. I know exactly what you are talking about . I’m from Indonesia, and by fate, I’ve been back living here in Jakarta in my beautiful Balinese villa ALONE! People wonder why I don’t even have a partner. Enough for me. Am beyond grateful in life and now I live with serenity. Doesn’t mean at times there’s no problem especially in maintaining this villa - financial wise -but c’est la vie. I don’t have children though with my Italian husband. Chin up!! You’re doing fantastically!! OMG sorry about the chocolate cake. I would have blown up!! Angry, that is!! Wow! You’re so good!

  • @bonniebriggs4121
    @bonniebriggs4121 2 роки тому +11

    Kylie, you have beautiful videos and I enjoy watching them. However, for the sake and health of you and the baby, please start saying NO! No to guests, tell the arguing builders to stop it, and stop trying to please everybody. You and the baby are what's most important right now. High levels of stress during pregnancy can cause problems for the baby in the future, I had that experience with my son 26 years ago. Please take care of you first. I know you love cooking, but the builders may need to work out some other arrangement for their food. It's nice that your parents were there to help! Blessings and rest during this birthing journey!

  • @andreiafernandes4422
    @andreiafernandes4422 2 роки тому +3

    Dear Kylie, please take care! You are always caring about other people and you have such a beautiful soul but please take care. I can't imagine a 9 month pregnant woman having such a hard work! I am sending you good vibes and hoping that you can have a rest! Kisses from Portugal!

  • @mariacasella6474
    @mariacasella6474 2 роки тому +21

    All the wonderful fruit trees-you live in paradise on earth-so beautiful-I love the natural wood and keeping the history of the home is a one of a kind-white is white on white is just white-the stone work is amazing-love the tile and the design it will look perfect-your eye for style is impeccable

  • @pennyyoung8820
    @pennyyoung8820 2 роки тому +2

    Kylie because of all the renovations and the last month of your pregnancy you both need not take on extra burdens such as entertaining guests. Right now you and the baby need to be priority. I am glad you vented your frustrations. So Kylie use your planning skills to throw out all the unnecessary things and only concentrate on that which is important.

  • @jerribarnes3450
    @jerribarnes3450 2 роки тому +14

    I like the natural wood look with the stones. It gives the ceiling a little more character.

  • @chelseasummers2365
    @chelseasummers2365 2 роки тому +90

    Leave the ceiling natural, it looks absolutely beautiful and complement the stone in the bathroom.

  • @kellyrose5122
    @kellyrose5122 2 роки тому

    Kylie… this was such a lovely video… I agree with those saying “it’s okay to say no”… but I in fact rarely ever do. Even when it’s hard I do try to give those I love experiences that make them feel special. You are a darling … I’m sure Guido feels blessed everyday❤❤❤

  • @DeeDee-vl1kt
    @DeeDee-vl1kt 2 роки тому +5

    You look gorgeous and I pray EVERYTHING GOES WELL as your pregnancy journey comes to fruition: ❤️💗💙❤️💙💗❤️

  • @calise8783
    @calise8783 2 роки тому +1

    Your drive and take it as it comes attitude is a joy to see! Even when it is tough. You and Guido are a team and that is what gets you through these trying times. I wish you all the best.
    I love when you spoke of a big bed! My boys are now just shy of 16 and 18 and still I love how we all congregate on our bed at night before we all actually go to sleep in our separate rooms. It is the best part of my day when my boys actually open up and share parts of their days, triumphs and most importantly concerns. When they were younger, it happened in the mornings. I look forward for that for you!

  • @mariacasella6474
    @mariacasella6474 2 роки тому +35

    The Olive press is such a statement-I would keep it as is-love the shelving too-Omgosh the animal,the ear and blood and cake and broken phone you are literally the most patient and loving person and wife,all you want is a nice relaxing bath and the water explodes I would of had a meltdown but you handled it with so much grace-🙏🙏🙏

  • @apollonia1000
    @apollonia1000 2 роки тому +1

    The builders who carried that double sink to the other end of the bathroom are heroes - really sympathised with them. It will be a luxurious bathroom Kylie. No pain no gain as they say.

  • @sandymorrow7477
    @sandymorrow7477 2 роки тому +28

    For heaven's sake Kylie..........GET SOME REST AND RECUPERATION! You're in your ninth month. Delegate.

  • @scrappysinger
    @scrappysinger 2 роки тому +1

    Prayers for all of you! I went through this… not pregnant, and I wanted to cry. I have no idea how you’re doing this, Kylie. Please put yourself first a little. I am worried for you.🙏🏻💗💗💝

  • @Crap873
    @Crap873 2 роки тому +7

    Oh leave it natural it looks amazing ! Most people would love to have such incredible history in their homes. You have incredible taste and know what ever you do it will be fabulous.🇨🇦💕

  • @deannaJesusIsLord
    @deannaJesusIsLord 2 роки тому +2

    Ciao Kylie. I am enjoying your videos. I see you have a Patreon page for supporting your work. Lately I have been seeing people with You Tube videos have a “Thanks” button right under their videos for those who want to say thanks financially for allowing us into your life. I think more people would think of contributing to your channel if they saw this on your page. Keep up the great work but hope you can get some rest!

  • @helengalassi6065
    @helengalassi6065 2 роки тому +3

    I think that the rustic ceiling looks lovely. it balances with the stone walls you've chosen to leave exposed. It's all coming together. Such a lovely home, full of light and love

  • @janicetutaki3839
    @janicetutaki3839 2 роки тому +1

    You dear sweet girl amongst all the chaos you are doing so wonderfully. You are so calm most of us women in your situation with renovations and being pregnant would be in a heap crying and that hot water busting its pipes would have been screaming material. You are such a STAR in my book. BRAVO.. Its all so stressful but so exciting to watch and just know its going to look beautiful. Bless you you have such strength and love within you. It must be so hard for Guido with so much going on and so many stops and starts, trying to get it all done. Big hugs and lots of love and many blessings to you both and the baby. xxxx

  • @Sandy-zr5hs
    @Sandy-zr5hs 2 роки тому +6

    That’s a huge renovation you are doing, if you didn’t lose your mind and your temper along the way that wouldn’t be normal! 🤯 Huge respect to you for being pregnant and going through this....and men just have no idea at times!

  • @sandrasedlik3372
    @sandrasedlik3372 2 роки тому

    Leave the natural wood! Its so beautiful!

  • @thinkforyourselfjohn3167
    @thinkforyourselfjohn3167 2 роки тому +6

    Think of the end results and how beautiful everything will look this will keep you and Guido motivated. How exciting and what a Blessing the baby will soon be arriving. Will be keeping all three of you in my prayers ♥️♥️. Dio vi benedica

  • @shraddashradda
    @shraddashradda 2 роки тому +1

    Ahh wow Kylie how intense 💕🦋 there’s a huge change coming to your life and it seems Guido is handling things in his way and you in yours. Compassion for both. You are both such perfectionists, but the most important thing is love, take care of each other, slow down, listen to each other; bathrooms can wait, some things are not that important 💫💫

  • @worldcapers
    @worldcapers 2 роки тому +3

    Very impressed by your honest account at the end of this vlog of some of the challenges you are facing renovating your beautiful farmhouse while nine months pregnant. It's a tough ask and inevitably exhausting and stressful for you. Please prioritise looking after yourself in these last few weeks before your baby is born. You need your all your energies not just for the birth but for the demands of looking after your beautiful new baby. Fatigue and sleep deprivation are very real issues for new parents. Wishing you all the very best.

  • @carollloydjones5735
    @carollloydjones5735 2 роки тому +1

    Oh Kylie! I'm exhausted just listening to the story! Try and rest sweetie, you're going to need it! 💕

  • @dianegriffith3006
    @dianegriffith3006 2 роки тому +20

    Oh Kylie-I feel for you and know soon you’ll be holding your son in your arms we’re all so excited for you. Take care and see you soon. ❤️

  • @helenogle9518
    @helenogle9518 2 роки тому

    Kylie and Giudò I have always said relationships are all about Love, Hate and Tolerate. You love, then at times you hate then there is always the need to tolerate because you are each your own independent person. It depends on what percentage and how you handle each that makes or breaks a relationship. You are both beautiful people and know what you want in in your relationship and life together so always keep keep those percentages in mind during stressful times. I look forward to the birth of your son in the near future.

  • @mtilford
    @mtilford 2 роки тому +78

    Oh my goodness Kylie! You are incredible! When you said the story about the hare and the cake, I felt like crying for you, and I'm 55! Hang in there, and remember that most of us think you are a super woman, with what you achieve, (especially when nine months pregnant), and with such grace. :)

    • @joyfairclough4686
      @joyfairclough4686 2 роки тому +3

      I really related to that story, in rural France, neighbours hunting on the land show up one one's doorstep with bloody dripping shopping bags stuffed with wild boar! And my husband just tosses them directly into the deep freezer; revolting.

    • @wmomente
      @wmomente 2 роки тому +3

      You are an angel - to deal with all of these obstacles - you have patience of a saint.

    • @rfs441
      @rfs441 2 роки тому +1

      I would've went ballistic! What kind of person thought that was ok?

  • @celestee.garcia2571
    @celestee.garcia2571 2 роки тому +1

    Everything looks fantastic including you! I would keep the beams natural with an oil stain. Just paint the plaster walls white, leave the stones natural with a sealer. Everything will look authentic and natural
    Thanks for the lovely vlogs. Best to you from USA

  • @norcal0076
    @norcal0076 2 роки тому +47

    Hang on Kylie! You will be so in love once your baby comes👍❤️❤️

  • @adrianlong6701
    @adrianlong6701 Рік тому

    You’ll never be able to please all of the people all of the time. So being your authentic selves is all you can do ❤

  • @SommelierForHire
    @SommelierForHire 2 роки тому +3

    That is crazy about the builders putting the dead bloody rabbit in the fridge with the chocolate cake. Che stupido!!!!! I would have been furious but of course you can't have a fight with them for fear they would walk out on the job. And, I can't believe your guests would insist on coming at such a chaotic time. How inconsiderate. If they were there to help that's a different story. But you cooking for all these people is outrageous. The tiles for the bathroom will look great. It sounds like you are working with a reliable woman who owns the hardware store. Thank God your parents are there to help. Hopefully, you did not have water damage in your bathroom. Mamma mia! Buona settimana e ci vediamo il prossimo fine settimana. Cerca di riposare dove possibile e chiedi aiuto. xx Gianna

  • @debragibes4044
    @debragibes4044 2 роки тому

    Leave the ceiling with the exposed Timbers. It’s beautiful and authentic.

  • @signeknudsen8513
    @signeknudsen8513 2 роки тому +14

    Wow, such a remarkable attitude you have considering the challenges you've been facing. What a story! You have my admiration and respect.

  • @evelynschomberg6917
    @evelynschomberg6917 2 роки тому

    Hey Kylie, I would leave the beams in their woodtone for now until the bathroom is finished. They might look just beautiful with the terracotta tiles and the exposed brick. If you don't like it after a while you can still paint them white.
    I honestly recognized my husband and I in your explanations and it seems that a lot of comments seem to distinguish between either caring for yourself or supporting Guido. I don't see it that way. I love my husband dearly and I know that he loves me just the same even though there are times when he gets irritable or angry or when he wants to tackle something - which I don't at the moment - but feel pressured to support him in over my own wishes. A lot of people have told my husband over the years that this is just how he is, calling him emotional sensitive as if that was a bad character trait and but him in a box. I started talking with him about it after his anger subsided, first trying to understand and telling him how those situations make me feel. He was always sorry, unhappy about himself and certainly not proud of his behavior. I am the calm one of us, being able to put emotions aside to find a solution for a problem, only because I know how to deal with my anger or irritation. I find it even more supportive to help my husband to figure out what helps him in dealing with his own anger, than just supporting him while being angry. I do both and encourage him to find out what helps him. You talked a lot of subconsciousness and what he told me when we started talking about it, was that me being able to handle my emotions apparently with ease was irritating him even more when he was unable to. While he needed me, it seemed to him that I was not needing him as much even though he wished to provide and protect me. We are happily married and both learning. I am learning to confide my limits to him before I reach them as well as accepting and asking for his help even in things I might be good at myself. Having trouble with these things is my current "character flaw" but I am able to learn too.

  • @BATgirl57
    @BATgirl57 2 роки тому +56

    It feels like the stress and chaos could be over the top but you handle it all with such grace and elegance! Please take care of yourself and get plenty of rest! Your baby will soon be here and then you’ll find out what being tired really feels like! I’m sending you much love and positive energy!❤

    • @tc7486
      @tc7486 2 роки тому +4

      Ain’t that the truth! Hope she has a baby that sleeps!😬

  • @ileanahulme9254
    @ileanahulme9254 2 роки тому

    Wow, wow, wow. I’m speechless and exhausted by just listen to you. Take care of yourself and the baby my dear because material things come and go. Enjoy your pregnancy because this nine months are never coming back. Hope everything workout for you.

  • @hoops8534
    @hoops8534 2 роки тому +6

    Hang in there Kylie! You’re amazing, and you’re beautiful home will be finished soon ❤

  • @cyama8679
    @cyama8679 2 роки тому +1

    Precious Kylie, take care dear... you time is almost complete and it will be plenty of work coming in your way, once the baby is in your arms, long nights and days... so please try to take it easier, we all know you are a hard worker but there is always a time for do something and right now is you and the baby who needs attention. We love you ❤

  • @lenoreadams7851
    @lenoreadams7851 2 роки тому +61

    I like the natural wood look, as long as it doesn't make it too dark. Hugs and prayers for you all. Hang in there it will be over eventually.

  • @GOINGCRAZYINTHEKITCHEN
    @GOINGCRAZYINTHEKITCHEN 2 роки тому

    I really appreciate your generosity. You are really fresh air in a UA-cam that is fixated with fame and monetization. Yes, of cause you are monetized too but there is a sincerity in your appearance. You are a storyteller and are using UA-cam as a means not as a goal.

  • @sweetpie7919
    @sweetpie7919 2 роки тому +29

    I'm breastfeeding my 9th baby and you don't need a fancy chair. I bought a rocking chair years ago and it's become where I stack blankets or throw a robe. Never worked out for me. I think a good, supportive breastfeeding pillow is very useful in those early months when your baby is still small. Don't know your height, but a very small footstool can be helpful for you so you're comfortable and not slouching, hurting your back. I've always breastfed in my room, crib is in my room, my husband and me both agree on this though. My babies often end up in bed with me because nursing on my side is very comfortable imo. It helps my babies fall right to sleep. Remember, the longer they wake up during the night and the harder they cry, the longer it will take to calm them down and put them back to bed. Every mom has a different opinion on where their baby should sleep, same room, separate room, crib, bassinet, side car sleeper, or bringing baby to bed in a safe way. Because we have several children my husband has often slept in another room with a fussy toddler and that just has to happen at times. And that's ok. We're all better people when we're not tired the next day. And honestly, the way he snores, he would often wake our babies up. After a certain age they don't seem to notice the noise. lol.

    • @queeniebaggins3732
      @queeniebaggins3732 2 роки тому +1

      Love this! We have separate rooms too (hubby and I). Co-sleeping and side feeding is the best ❤

  • @ErinAlbie
    @ErinAlbie 2 роки тому +1

    you are such a saint, half of that week's events would have made me crazy even without being 9 months pregnant! Guido is a LUCKY man!!

  • @rosaliedagler6729
    @rosaliedagler6729 2 роки тому +22

    When I was pregnant, especially 9 months along, my husband pampered me, treated me like a princess. Watching this makes me appreciate him even more. You will have wonderful times ahead as parents and I wish you all the best!

  • @tammiesanders5539
    @tammiesanders5539 2 роки тому

    I'm sure you have had a few good crys, can't even imagine, all these things happening, continuously, your so brave young lady, your suppose to be resting, angel, your moms a godsend, just like you both, be safe dear,

  • @lesley2110
    @lesley2110 2 роки тому +9

    OMG Kylie.....I don’t believe what a week you had! How did you stay sane? You are amazing! Best Wishes for a calm few weeks ahead....❤

  • @helenharper8448
    @helenharper8448 2 роки тому +2

    When it rains it truly pours, what a week you had! I sincerely hope that things are getting better for you now as you’re so close to labor and you need to be rested for that for sure, please get some rest! This weeks video was full of so many funny stories, especially the “hair” story, but I can’t imagine how hard it has been on you! You have so much energy you’re amazing! Regarding your question on the ceiling, I agree with the gentleman who said leave it natural for now, it’s beautiful and you can always paint it later if you change your mind. As for nursing, I feel a little unsure in giving advice because my boys are 30 and 28 now and things have changed so much. I kept both babies in a bassinet next to the bed, it made it so easy for the feed in the middle of the night as I just brought them into bed and laid on my side with them facing me. My husband slept through everything so he never got disturbed! (He still does) Lol 😘

  • @lheadland7628
    @lheadland7628 2 роки тому +4

    I think leaving the stone on the wall and the beams and terra cotta in the ceiling in the bathroom natural would be beautiful. Don't paint. Can't wait to see your precious baby!

  • @Rayleneg1
    @Rayleneg1 2 роки тому +1

    One of the most meaningful ways that I have to be strong in motherhood revolves around knowing how to prioritize and knowing when to say no. It is vital for a marriage, for children and to establish healthy boundaries all the way around. I say this respectfully and with a lot of love but right now the comfort should be on you because you are holding a precious blessing in your womb that requires calmness and peace. I hope that you allow yourself to rest and not worry about taking care of Guido. He can help you right now. At times one has to take care of the other more even when children are not involved. It starts with that. Perhaps one day you will have another one and he will need to take the reins and make sure that you are comfortable again. Either way this responsibility has to happen often. This is love, respect and good communication

  • @mariacasella6474
    @mariacasella6474 2 роки тому +7

    As gorgeous as always!!!I am so excited to see you hold your beautiful baby when that time comes!!your amazing always so hard at work and always with a smile and patience and finding humor in it always

  • @katherineh.6852
    @katherineh.6852 2 роки тому

    You're just lovely person and your personality and talents are a blessing unique to few. That is why you can be so calm.

  • @donnao6006
    @donnao6006 2 роки тому +4

    I personally love the beams in a natural finish, not painted. It’s plenty bright in there. And I am sure You never want to have to go through that sand blasting again!

  • @williamskywalker1
    @williamskywalker1 2 роки тому +2

    Kylie and Guido, I'm sending you Prayers and Best Wishes! When things become overwhelming take a little visitation of the Blessed Mother in your Chapel, it was placed on this property for a reason to southe anxieties of those who come to kneel at the altar! I'm so glad you didn't slip and fall when the pipe let loose, and I hope you didn't suffer any burns, I think probably you would have said so. These trying days will soon become a fading memory when you are, at last, holding your new baby! I prefer the rustic natural nuances of the wooden beams in the bathroom, it will be absolutely Beautiful either way! Hope you have a gentle delivery!

  • @gretchenmarrufo8897
    @gretchenmarrufo8897 2 роки тому +3

    I had three children about 20 years ago and sleep trained each of them. I have a two year old that we safely coslept with. I think you will find that every inch of you will want him right next to you (and every inch of him wants to smell you, hear your voice and heartbeat, and be right next to you. Baby sleeps so much better and breastfeeding Mommy gets so much more rest. So, my vote is for chair in the Master bedroom to start ❤

  • @indirajane
    @indirajane 2 роки тому +4

    Please take good care of yourself and get lots of rest 🤍I could relate so much to how you described dealing with an irritated person. It's not easy! Lol!