Top 8 Italian Unspoken Rules

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  • @alessandrapagliarani8600
    @alessandrapagliarani8600 3 місяці тому +16

    Thank you for this little guide to Italy. As an Italian, I appreciate the respect you show for our country, its people and their ways. Those who will follow your advice will enjoy being respected and very welcome tourists. I agree with most of what you say, but I would like you to observe better people who are queuing up for whatever it may be... they do, sometimes, have a small conversation with a stranger, or exchange a smile or an "uffa" expression referred to the waiting ; it isn't considered bad manners, and most people don't mind being spoken to.
    Have a nice day!

    • @aguidetoitaly
      @aguidetoitaly  2 місяці тому

      I agree! Grazie and thanks for the comment 😊

  • @johnny11415
    @johnny11415 6 місяців тому +60

    i have been living in Italy for more than 30 years now and most of what you said is correct, however I see the younger generations are more 'informal' let's say so they are saying 'ciao' to everyone, even the younger shop attendants I think its a good idea to learn a few words in Italian, they will appeciate it and will go out of their way to help you and understand you. If you only speak Englsih and don't even say 'buongiorno' the Italians tend to not be as helpful to tourists.

    • @aguidetoitaly
      @aguidetoitaly  6 місяців тому +5

      Grazie! I appreciate your input. I agree that leaning a few words makes a good impression. 😊

    • @alfredodallalibera5091
      @alfredodallalibera5091 4 місяці тому +5

      Se un italiano va nei paesi di lingua inglese, loro si aspettano che tu parli inglese, lo stesso fanno quando vengono in Italia.😮 Si aspettano che tu parli inglese.
      If an Italian goes to English speaking countries, they expect you to speak English, they do the same when they come to Italy.😮 They expect you to speak English.

    • @TartarianTreasures
      @TartarianTreasures 4 місяці тому

      Hi frkm commie canada 🇨🇦... What area are u in? Need to leave asap trying to source expat areas xo ❤❤

    • @alessandrapagliarani8600
      @alessandrapagliarani8600 3 місяці тому +2

      @@alfredodallalibera5091 Tempo fa, davanti al banco di un fruttivendolo al "mercato contadino", una signora Inglese diceva a una sua amica "these people - ( si riferiva ai venditori del mercato) - don't speak English." 😲 Gli Inglesi non ricordano più quali Paesi facessero parte del British Empire e quali no, in realtà non ricordano di non avere più il loro Impero e, tanto meno di essere stati sudditi dell'impero Romano 😂.
      The Brits don't seem to know that Italy was never under British rule, whereas They were part of the Roman Empire 😊😂.

    • @EmperorMaximus66
      @EmperorMaximus66 3 місяці тому +2

      Absolutely! Basic manners are what you are noting and that applies to anywhere you travel to.

  • @dilvabresciani5623
    @dilvabresciani5623 Місяць тому +4

    All correct. Good job, dude.

  • @GianniVicenza
    @GianniVicenza 4 місяці тому +28

    I am Italian (Veneto Region) and I can basically confirm everything you have said. I would only add one thing: we Italians are generally well-disposed (is that how you say it?) towards everyone, but we can't stand rude people. The "cafone" n Italy almost always gets an equal and opposite reaction. Be polite and respectful (even with monuments) and everyone will be friendly to you.

    • @aguidetoitaly
      @aguidetoitaly  2 місяці тому

      Grazie! It’s wonderful to hear an Italian perspective 😀

  • @virginiabotha3545
    @virginiabotha3545 4 місяці тому +7

    Italy sounds lovely.❤😊 Greetings from South Africa.🙂

  • @patriciawond4382
    @patriciawond4382 6 місяців тому +9

    Grazie, very useful info, I am going to Italy soon to visit my Italian partner's family and it is good to remember these basic rules

    • @aguidetoitaly
      @aguidetoitaly  6 місяців тому +2

      Grazie mille! I hope you have a wonderful visit 😄

  • @donaldrossignol5237
    @donaldrossignol5237 5 місяців тому +11

    SOOO TRUE. LOVE ITALY(10 VISITS AND 5 YEARS RESIDENT) RESPECT AND ENJOY!!!!!

  • @jeffwessman
    @jeffwessman 4 місяці тому +9

    Buon giorno is the greeting, buona giornata is the "goodbye "

  • @allenmontrasio8962
    @allenmontrasio8962 5 місяців тому +8

    Quite accurate, but on working days lunch is between 1.00 pm and 2.00 pm and is dedicated to your meal.
    Aperitivo will take place from 7.00 pm onwards.

  • @wandajarabo1793
    @wandajarabo1793 6 місяців тому +11

    Exactly the same goes for the Spanish and Spanish habits. El ultimo is what you ask when joining a line waiting at post office or pharmacy etc. Smiling at strangers in the street is looked at as odd too, I'm English and do it with women my age, but they don't normally smile back. Love it when I go back to England where I get a smile and a greeting.

    • @aguidetoitaly
      @aguidetoitaly  6 місяців тому

      Thanks for sharing. I can see how there could be some similarities among customs in Spain. I agree, while being away is wonderful, there’s something special about coming home.

    • @steveabrams777
      @steveabrams777 4 місяці тому

      same for Greeks …

  • @NoraLuzCalugas
    @NoraLuzCalugas 5 місяців тому +13

    Mindset, Dress, Paseggiata, Italian Traditions, Socializing, Waiting!Greetings, Bongiorno, Buona Sera, Grazie Mille, Smiling☺

  • @MikeLyson-b9z
    @MikeLyson-b9z 4 місяці тому +10

    I’m in Italy now in Abruzzo and I see lots of Italians wearing shorts and even sports wear. Also, many people are saying ciao in shops etc. I think some concepts of this video need updating.

    • @yeshetsogyalling
      @yeshetsogyalling 4 місяці тому +6

      I'd rather stay with the video tips. As an Italian, I do get upset when someone I don't know greets me with "ciao". Ciao is for friends and treating you as a friend is considered a breach of boundaries. Try not to do it by imitating bad mannered Italians!!

    • @alessandrapagliarani8600
      @alessandrapagliarani8600 3 місяці тому +3

      @@yeshetsogyalling I totally agree. And the wearing shorts in town is not viewed, by most of us, as proper.

    • @Liaros_
      @Liaros_ 3 місяці тому +2

      Saying "ciao" in a shop where you know no-one is bad manners, as well as it is bad manner with people you don't know. You should say "buongiorno" or "buonasera" to be polite and proper.
      And wearing shorts is just for young people or certain places. In cities is not exactly proper, unless you are a tourist or a young one.

    • @AthelstanEngland
      @AthelstanEngland Місяць тому +1

      ​@@yeshetsogyallingis Salve ok seems a little less formal than buongiorno?

    • @yeshetsogyalling
      @yeshetsogyalling Місяць тому +1

      @@AthelstanEngland Salve is neutral, not too formal not too unformal. My preference is to use Salve when I do not know a person but that it seems we can switch to an informal "tu" or "ciao" shortly.
      I use buongiorno/buonasera when formality is required. However, quite often I say "buongiorno" rather than "ciao" (which would be perfectly ok) when I meet a friend who I see quite often and I want to wish a good day or happy "morning wake up" !!
      I agree, Italian can be a very trick language, but don't worry, we are very forgiving with foreigners 🙂

  • @naveconterosso
    @naveconterosso Місяць тому +3

    Being a tourist in Italy is stunning. Being a resident of Italy is a nightmare for many reasons, 1st of all because is a lawless country.

    • @yeshetsogyalling
      @yeshetsogyalling Місяць тому +1

      quite the contrary. It is a country where you have so many laws and regulations that drive you nuts, starting with italians.

    • @naveconterosso
      @naveconterosso Місяць тому +1

      @@yeshetsogyalling lawless with the meaning that rules are not enforced

    • @yeshetsogyalling
      @yeshetsogyalling Місяць тому

      @@naveconterosso it depends on who you are!!!

  • @WinstonSmithGPT
    @WinstonSmithGPT 4 місяці тому +11

    Italians view being hungry as a minor medical emergency. In an Italian eating establishment, you will be served very quickly, but in a ristorante for example, no one will try to turn the table. It’s yours.

  • @FabioLuizBraggio
    @FabioLuizBraggio 5 місяців тому +25

    Italians know how to enjoy life!

  • @oemolokupano4512
    @oemolokupano4512 5 місяців тому +4

    Very useful information. Thank you. Greetings from a Melanesian living in Holland.🌞

  • @typower9
    @typower9 3 місяці тому

    Well done, I hope lots of Americans watch this!

  • @surf01er66
    @surf01er66 3 місяці тому +1

    Great advice from a vet from Napoli

  • @tracyaskew1651
    @tracyaskew1651 2 місяці тому

    Mindset is so true. I lived in Florence and I have lived in Sicily...sooooo different! They will talk about each other with a slight nose-up air, at times. LOL I loved both places, but Sicily stole my heart more. They were just so much more open. One golden rule to getting in is to be respectful. Always, speak when you make eye contact or walk into a business and bring patience. Do not rush Italians. Also, at least learn the pleasantries if nothing else before going to any part of Italy.

    • @aguidetoitaly
      @aguidetoitaly  2 місяці тому

      Grazie mille! Thanks for sharing your insights. I agree patience is so important!

  • @jmorourke66
    @jmorourke66 3 місяці тому +5

    Italians are awash in excellent wine however they seem to drink less than other European nationalities. Good for them!

  • @juliamacdonald3767
    @juliamacdonald3767 3 місяці тому

    Good video. Well done.

  • @ladybarbarapinsonartist431
    @ladybarbarapinsonartist431 6 місяців тому +2

    Well done!

  • @robd7934
    @robd7934 5 місяців тому +13

    Italian men really know how to dress well. I can't say the same for the Americans.

    • @Julia-fo4tk
      @Julia-fo4tk 4 місяці тому +4

      They often wear baseball caps at breakfast whilst dining indoors in 5 * hotels.

  • @minervaminerva7906
    @minervaminerva7906 2 місяці тому

    Grazie! Excellent summary 😊

  • @M.C.K.111
    @M.C.K.111 2 дні тому

    Lunch finishes at 3/4?? Mayve a wedding lunch..in the North you hv 45/60 minutes lunch break ( sometimes even 30 min( and nowadays most shoes don't close for lunch!!)

  • @Torncanto
    @Torncanto 3 місяці тому +4

    Great tips! DO learn a few words, but just as important, do your best to pronounce them correctly! Making the effort to properly say Grazie (not "gratzee"), Buon giorno (not "bon") etc. will go a long way towards your having a great experience.

    • @aguidetoitaly
      @aguidetoitaly  2 місяці тому +2

      Grazie mille! I appreciate hearing from you 😊

  • @AbraXas-bi9ux
    @AbraXas-bi9ux 23 дні тому

    I come from the most Northern region of Italy and the alcohol consume is a bit more out of control than in other areas 😅

  • @iamauntmeem
    @iamauntmeem 5 місяців тому +10

    As a young child I was frequently ill. My parents did not imbibe. When my Dad would take me to visit my Italian grandparents they would send him on an errand and present me with a small glass of my grandfather's red wine. They'd say, "Drink, it's good for the blood" in their Italian accents. They wanted me to be healthy! My dad figured it out and told my grand parents to stop.

  • @sergeyd5777
    @sergeyd5777 4 місяці тому

    The Pimsleur audio course of Italian that I am listening to now clearly says "mUlto", not "mOlto". This is confusing.
    Also, most videos on UA-cam about Italy feature this phrase: "Parla Inglese?" The Pimsleur course instructs that "Inglese" is just an adjective, while "L'Inglese" is the English language. Confusing again.

    • @yeshetsogyalling
      @yeshetsogyalling 4 місяці тому +5

      "Parla Inglese" is perfectly ok. "Parla l'Inglese" is correct but sort of old-fashioned.

    • @naveconterosso
      @naveconterosso Місяць тому +1

      MOLTO is the correct word. "Parla inglese?" is also correct because the term "inglese" is both an adjective and a noun. It refers to English language and to English citizens. Contact me for any further question.

  • @lornova79
    @lornova79 Місяць тому

    When leaving "arrivederci" is always a good way to greet people

    • @yeshetsogyalling
      @yeshetsogyalling Місяць тому

      not always. The most respectful and correct is arrivederla. Arrivederci is for plural or for single people you would say ciao as well

  • @dcartier1692
    @dcartier1692 2 місяці тому +3

    9. DRIVING - a disproportionate number of male drivers secretly harbour a belief that they could/should have made it in Formula 1. You and your car, therefore, are merely an obstacle to their continual obsession with passing at all costs. As they disregard most laws and common courtesies (lines, what lines; speed limits, HaHa) and linger inches from your rear bumper at highway speeds, just take a deep breath, give them room and cheer them on (or flip them the bird on their way by) - but let it stress you not!

    • @naveconterosso
      @naveconterosso Місяць тому

      This is particular true in centre and south Italy, where laws (any law!) are an optional

    • @nathalienurse3336
      @nathalienurse3336 22 дні тому

      LOL vero - true 😂

  • @paolomargini7904
    @paolomargini7904 2 місяці тому

    When you enter you should say buongiorno or, in late afternoon, buonasera.
    When leaving you cam say arrivederci, (to when we'll see again), corresponding to see you later.

  • @martiwilliams4592
    @martiwilliams4592 6 місяців тому +5

    Agree!!!! Thank you! :0)

    • @aguidetoitaly
      @aguidetoitaly  6 місяців тому

      Graze a te! I’m glad it’s helpful.

  • @vintagelove2373
    @vintagelove2373 6 місяців тому

    Grazie

    • @aguidetoitaly
      @aguidetoitaly  6 місяців тому +1

      Grazie mille! It’s my pleasure.

  • @heidihubbell3504
    @heidihubbell3504 Місяць тому

    In the EU, over 59 million tones of food waste (132 kg/inhabitant) are generated annually (Eurostat, 2024). So think twice about leaving food to be tossed out in a restaurant the next time you go out and eat. Take it with you or ask for half the portion!

  • @stephencoury9411
    @stephencoury9411 4 місяці тому +1

    Ben fatto.

  • @QNEGRO1
    @QNEGRO1 9 місяців тому +19

    OMG! 😂 I'm here in Vicenza in northern Italy the dress code here is more like a damn religion (everybody must be dressed in black, grey or white, like at a funeral or something, otherwise your seen as oddball or homosexual or lesbian), it's like their gonna die if they even go outside of their own house door in the countryside without dress clothes and elegant shoes on because their scared their neighbor might see them.
    Then for conversations wow another point to make, most Italians here act like conversations with strangers even in a mall is flirting or most are just outright terrified about being seen in a public space talking to someone they don't know like their significant other or the palpac**zzi is watching their every move and interaction, maybe it's because I'm black IDK? 😂😅
    I personally haven't been further down then Rome but already in Emiglia Romagna or Rimini people are way more friendly and chatty even towards foreigners colored or not.

    • @WilliamBenson-ir3iz
      @WilliamBenson-ir3iz 6 місяців тому +5

      Colored? There are many colors other than black

    • @patriciawond4382
      @patriciawond4382 6 місяців тому +1

      Interesting

    • @alfredodallalibera5091
      @alfredodallalibera5091 4 місяці тому

      In Vicenza, they are accustomed to people of color: since the end of World War II, there has been an American base in the city center, and on the outskirts, there is a village for American military personnel. People don't want to be bothered by strangers or foreigners, especially if they are dressed in a dirty and shabby manner.

    • @jmorourke66
      @jmorourke66 3 місяці тому +1

      POC

    • @AthelstanEngland
      @AthelstanEngland Місяць тому

      It's cos you're black buddy. If you're offended for gawd sake don't go to Eastern Europe. 😅

  • @anrn5303
    @anrn5303 Місяць тому

    buonasera's used for good afternoon as well, after 12 noon...

  • @dreznik
    @dreznik 5 місяців тому +1

    brazil = italy = lovely mediterranean mess

  • @resortpoint
    @resortpoint 2 місяці тому +1

    Don’t wear short. #5. Everyone wearing shorts. 😆

  • @wizoHC
    @wizoHC 4 місяці тому +4

    I'm in Rome rn, there's 38 degree celsius with 90% humidity, no way I'm gonna wear long pants. I don't have a single friend regardless of social class, that wear anything other than shorts during the daytime and possibly at night too. Maybe only if you are invited to a fancy restaurant or a night at the opera. In the south (i'm from sicily) we pride ourselves in being able to wear short for three quarter of the year. The entire idea of italian being obsessed with fashion is one of the most stereotypical BS I see spouted on YT. It really stops to No naked torso in city centers, possibly no pajama out of your house. That's it. Kids gonna be kids and dress exactly like kids in the UK or Germany, we have all the subcultures you can expect coming with their looks, you'll come to Rome you'll see punks, bboy with baggy pants, emo with fishnets and what not. I'd avoid blanket statement, hell I literally only wear short and vans, my favorite brand is Volcom or a dixxon flannel, F*ck Armani and all that crap

  • @elinannestad5320
    @elinannestad5320 4 місяці тому +2

    As a young woman, I was put off Italy for life by the attitude of men - who felt free to touch and pinch my bottom. There seemed to be men on the street and women nowhere to be seen. I still feel sick thinking about them.

    • @antonellacastelli6770
      @antonellacastelli6770 4 місяці тому +4

      Ma dove sei stata? Io vivo al nord e non mi e' capitato

    • @JessicaDainese
      @JessicaDainese 4 місяці тому +1

      I live in North Italy and this sounds very strange.

    • @alfredodallalibera5091
      @alfredodallalibera5091 4 місяці тому +1

      Forse prima gli avevi sorriso e tanti anni fa era un segnale di disponibilità; non si sorride agli estranei per strada o in qualsiasi altro posto.

    • @Liaros_
      @Liaros_ 3 місяці тому +6

      @@alfredodallalibera5091 Questo commento è indegno di una persona civile. Sorridere non è affatto il via libera a ricevere le mani addosso. Colpevolizzare lei invece di chi tocca senza permesso peggiora solo il problema. Rivolta la risposta: non si tocca qualcuno che ti sorride. MAI.
      Piantiamola con queste idee da medioevo.

    • @Liaros_
      @Liaros_ 3 місяці тому +1

      What happened to you is not normal in Italy. You were unlucky and I'm sorry it happened to you.

  • @D-bk7lc
    @D-bk7lc 5 місяців тому +3

    Just returned from my 5th and probably last trip to Rome. I know a little Italian, We are respectful, dress appropriately. We are not loud. Only eat dinner after 8:00 pm. And then after all that, restaurants serve garbage food, ask if we want coffee in the evening, have extra Parmesan cheese on the table , are rude to us. Breaking all of the supposed rules, not to mention if we want full American breakfast! . Mi scusi , I will take my vacations elsewhere. You can have the day cruise ship people spitting on the ground and eating frozen pizza on a paper plate. Restaurants we used to frequent, and were very nice have changed noticeably in the last year, and not for the better. Tired of all of the rules that only apply to tourists while Italians prostitute themselves for a buck.

    • @mark971-e8g
      @mark971-e8g 5 місяців тому +7

      You don't know Italian well and before defining junk food, tell me where you are from and what you usually eat. then I thank you because it will be the last time, we already have too many haters. Frozen pizza in Italy can only be found in the supermarket and it doesn't do much. I don't understand the part about the passenger who spits, but it's okay, goodbye and never again

    • @michelecorazza1735
      @michelecorazza1735 4 місяці тому +9

      Dear sir, spell the name of the restaurant that served you garbage and Frozen food for dinner. If you leave such of feedback, witch Is in your right to do so, you must take your own duty . Furter more , I never heard someone saying that people were so rude to spit on tourists. I am Sorry , but as italian this bothers me very much. I am 54 years old and i Guess i should be considered a globe trotter, since my job gave the chance to visit 92 countries already among four of the five continents. I Guess i can sentence to have a certain experience in travelling , but the respect for different colture and habit It s a must . I can stand a list of inconvenient and un confortable situation ,those happened to me world Wide, in airports...hotels....restaurants...drunk taxi drivers...terrorists attacks and consecutive restrictions, but i never generalized. Maybe because i am lucky to speak several languages , and this helping me a lot . Thank you for the five times you decided to visit my beloved country. It means to me that you have been enjoying at least the previous four. I Hope you finally matured the decision do not come back again, and i Wish you to find elsewhere in the lovely polite sweet world , the great kindness and services that your person deserves.
      Kind Regards
      Michele Corazza

    • @alfredodallalibera5091
      @alfredodallalibera5091 4 місяці тому +1

      Ti mancano: il burro di arachidi, le ciambelle fritte, i distributori di ghiaccio gratis, le bibite zuccherose, vero?

    • @caterinazanetti4320
      @caterinazanetti4320 4 місяці тому +3

      I'm afraid those inconveniences that you complain about are the result of overtourism. I was born and raised in Venice, and I can assure you that we the natives hate those inconveniences as much as you do and even more. May be some of us - living and working in the most overcrowded tourist destinations - sell ourselves for a buck, but mostly we are given away for free. You are wise to stay away from Rome ever after.

    • @TheOwlsarewatching606
      @TheOwlsarewatching606 3 місяці тому +1

      @@caterinazanetti4320 may I take this moments to thank you and your wonderful city for the lovely and inspiring visits I have enjoyed. I understand your difficulties and can only wish you have better times ahead