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My guest this week, Pete Walker, is a man who has travelled far physically and metaphorically. A Vietnam War veteran, he sought spiritual salvation in India before finally confronting his inner grief at an Encounter group workshop.
Learning to feel and grieve deeply set Pete on a path to dealing with his Complex PTSD. He has since written several books on these themes and treated hundreds of others as a deep feeling therapist.
Pete and I have walked similar paths and talk frankly about the joys and pain of deep work.
We cover:
- Pete's LSD trip that opened new possibilities
- His path to grieving
- Complex PTSD explained
- Getting started with grieving
- Why real men cry
Links:
Pete Walker's Books - amzn.to/3HkKyK7
Pete Walker's Website - www.pete-walker.com/
Chapters:
00:00:00 - Introduction and Defining Complex PTSD
00:05:16 - The Development of Perfectionism and Hyper-vigilance
00:09:48 - Flight response and the use of psychedelics in healing
00:14:11 - The Essential Nature of Life
00:18:58 - Learning to Metabolize Pain
00:23:27 - Healing through Catharsis and Emotional Release
00:28:08 - The Power of Crying and Emotional Release in Therapy
00:32:39 - The Benefits of Psychological Androgyny
00:37:09 - Exploring Humanistic Psychology and Therapy Approaches
00:41:26 - Paying Attention Takes Energy
00:45:55 - The Power of Vulnerability and Authenticity
00:50:35 - Self-Reparenting and Healing Childhood Trauma
00:55:09 - The Power of Noticing Negative Thought Patterns
00:59:32 - The Power of Attention to Detail
01:03:55 - The Value of the Conversation
01:08:41 - The Unfairness and Injustice of the Past
01:13:18 - Conclusion and Farewell - Розваги
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Pete walker's book is life changing.
You got that right!
All 3 are!
Truly. The power of words is undervalued by too many.
100%
YES!!
“You never had anybody soothe you. You were alone.”
Now we self soothe with binge watching, binge eating, binge scrolling, binge playing video games. Anything not to be left alone with our feelings.
I have discovered that writing forces me to face and express my feelings. Perhaps on day there will be a book.
It seems that since we're all doing that now, we're no longer alone. Hugs
What’s so sad is people just don’t want to be bothered these days. It’s impossible to find a friend or support group who we can run too. I went to NA, that was a joke, there motto, we love you until you learn to love yourself. I befriended a couple there, they robbed my money when I turned my back.
@@joannabrites6288 That's terrible! I'm sorry that happened to you.
My feelings or my bioolar or my add meds wearing off or all of the above.
I live with immense physical emotional pain for hours if not most of the day. I’ve learned to sit with it because nothing helps
But most of my life is spent doing this🙏
When I had no one , no family no friend , I had Pete walker’s book, he saved my life
Cindy A ❤
I need to get this book🙌😊
CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving is my mental health bible
I find the book exactly the same like a bible. I even read it like a bible, any chapter, at any time. Amazing book!
Because God creats Pete to save the World survivors.... It's his life purpose
@@sll110 exactly!
@@aniachat1097 its so useful!
The same...a lifesaver.
This man and his book have literally saved my life. Trust me.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Mr Walker.
Me 2!
Me too. Amazing books.
Me too
Me too!
Everyone should pay attention to this man, he should be famous. His book is so accurate and life changing everyone should read it because let’s face it: Almost everyone has bad childhood experiences
‘Being on your own side’ 💕
That’s a long long journey when you’ve been shamed for feeling pain. Often by the people inflicting the pain. You totally blame yourself because you believe you are the problem.
Then there’s this whole culture of putting huge pressure on people, disguised as empowerment, to ‘not be a victim’ - when many people have in fact been hugely victimized and this pressure prevents them from identifying and processing that.
I am getting teary with these comments. This shows me that kindness is supposed to be the norm.
YES!!! 🙌
Love this comment there is so much victim blaming and shaming against the real survivors why cant these ppl give it a rest they have not been in our shoes or lived our life or those moments its so tormenting and stops our growth for healing
You hit the 🎯. Thank you.
I couldn't have said it better! I was severely wounded by important people in my life and when I got mental problems I was the problem. They shamed me for my anxiety, my sadness and even anger. I was a "drama queen" and "the one who always created the problems in our family" and "the one who was always trying to get attention the negative way". So I stopped talking and feeling. I wasn't even able to speak about it to a therapist, which only procrastinated my recovery, which is now (at 40 years old) still work in progress. Sometimes the ones who wounded us are the only point of reference we have and we believe them, thinking we were/ are the problem. This could lead to us getting stuck and prevents recovery. It's a lonley road and often other people don't even believe you or support you. First thing we need to learn is to be our own support system, but many therapies don't focus on that. They focus on outcome, on results : like having a good job, having a family and friends, being succesful in all kinds of ways, but the only real success is us becoming ourselves, becoming who we were born to be and to be released from the trauma being repeated in our bodies over and over again. It takes a therapist who is aware of that, but those ones are hard to find.
I wish Pete Walker was interviewed more, or even started his own podcast. I love the book, but it's great hearing and seeing him, too.
Yes, the world needs a Pete Walker podcast!
Which book did you read.
As a woman I was never protected, defended, judged endlessly. I learned as he said to be hard and to suffer alone. No one is coming anyways. When i finally moved on my own. That first cry was like a dam broke. The rush of emotions and release was a bit scary. I have to often remind myself to feel and its ok im safe now. I can cry no one is going to attack. My goodness. This man and his self awareness is amazing.
That is beautiful. I hope you’re doing well
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As a man I have same experience. I think it is human issue, not gender related issue.
Men are even suppose to go to war to kill other men if politics so decide. How grazy is that?
So well said ! Thay first cry for me shook my whole being .. to fall part in a place where I couldn’t be assaulted , mocked or insulted for being vulnerable was transformative . I now cry in a much healthier way and connect to my inner child who was abandoned long ago. I try to promise him I’m here now . I’m going to be here for you and use all my resources to protect and love you
I have never had a safe, secure, stable, no egg shells, attachment or authentication.
It''s so soothing to see these two men talk WITH each other. There is no competition and no cross talking. Thus, I get to pick up all their salient points. What a relaxing learning session.
I was just thinking the same.
Pete Walkers book ‘Complex PTSD ; from surviving to thriving is brilliant! I was raised by evangelical father . Beaten for first 14 yrs .. harassed and threatened daily . To my flesh is the ‘work of the devil ‘ ..told my bare legs were the work of satan ! Beaten for wearing cutoffs outside . Told ‘if your eye offends thee , pluck it out ‘ ., same with my tongue ..same with my hand .. living in terror . Afraid to look up at table. Unable to ask for help . Injured at school, ignored and shunned by father & mother .
This is utter nightmare...😢
Fycking hell. So sorry man, hope you're on your way to loving yourself and redirecting that hate back to where it came from
I got ptsd from drug use .a bad trip .at the age of 20..now im 46 and the struggle i still on . This illness ruin my life and Betray by everbody
Walker’s book is indeed life changing stuff.
Very few can describe CPTSD and how it works.
It is an awful thing and yet so so hard to explain to someone who has not lived it.
I've not come across Pet Walker before, but like what he says. I've been watching a lot of videos by Anna Runkle, who calls herself the Crappy Childhood Fairy. She makes a lot of sense to me, and there's no contradiction between her and Mr Walker - you might look her up. I like her way of explaining stuff.
I'm drawn to her as well.
The Crappy Childhood Fairy is a big proponent of Pete Walker.
Hi Pete, I've recommended your book to one of my patients who subsequently decided to write to you. Your very personal and compassionate reply meant so much to him! Thank you! 😊 Greetings from Scotland!
I got a reply from him, as well, after a therapist decided he would or could be a potential therapist for me. I wrote a book to him. He asked me to write a few lines and then write back. I was super excited and surprised. But gave me hope
Wow. 💕
Pete Walker, you're life's work will and has saved thousands of lives no doubt.....including my own. Thankyou for providing knowledge about C-PTSD & how to combat this disorder.
I went from being an overly sensitive child who was ridiculed for crying, to an adult who never cries but is filled with anger and self hate. I watch these really sad movies now that reduce me to tears and have a good cry. It is therapeutic because afterwards, I'm good for days. Thanks for pointing out that this is a life long process. So many don't realize that are beat themselves up when they relapse.
It took decades to develop self-neglect and self-sabotage. Now over 60 I learn to be patient and permit myself to be Gentle in the process of real daily living in self compassion and love.
This is so true. And such an important message that gets lost. It is a lifelong process to recovery. That doesn’t mean we can’t experience happiness and joy and all those positive feelings throughout the process, along with the negative ones.
you just described me
Pete Walker, Thich Nhat Hanh and Pema Chodron saved my life, rescued me from complete disassociation and helped bring a sense of hope and wonder to my life. Thank you Pete 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
I was diagnosed with C-PTSD in my mid sixties and with help from a great trauma therapist traced it back to early childhood trauma and repeated long term damaging relationships with narcissists. Since then there have been others including Gabor Mate, Wim Hof (cold water therapy) and Mary Oliver, and myself! I am slowly becoming my own hero, finding self compassion and the courage to feel, and to be physically and emotionally uncomfortable in order to learn how to (re)connect with myself. I now know it’s life long, but each phase brings new light.
Jan, what an awesome story and to be taking this on in your sixties, just shows that it is never too late to start The Work. You're an inspiration!
You are my kinda gal Proof that we CAN get better🎉Life is much more beautiful than I ever thought it could be!!
"a child in a loveless place." I feel that. it was hard to be a child without much extended family, with busy and distracted (I bet also traumatized and frozen) parents, with teachers who often found me frustrating, with "friends" who bullied me. love was sometimes available, but not consistently - hence, I suppose, my largely anxious attachment style today.
I’m 59 yrs old and trying to heal on my own because there are no therapists trained in this properly in trauma. I found a trauma informed therapist who wouldn’t allow me to talk about my family experiences. I needed a witness, I needed someone who believed me and supported me. I can’t get over the trying to make them see or explaining myself to them. U know it’s pointless but I cannot stop. I can’t stop the depression and start living my life. All I want to do is sleep and not feel. I’m getting tired now.
I am with you. You and I are healing at the same time. You are not alone I am here. I understand all you’re saying. Screw those therapists. I once had a therapist tell me to kill myself when I was about 22. Keep reading the book. I got a book to teach myself how to meditate & that helps me. For me there will be no “healing” but there can be managing and if I really take care of myself and that will be just fine. I really want you to stay in this thing with me.
Same,
I was doing well yet the last year or so im trapped in neglecting myself & addictions which i thought id healed 12 yr ago 😢
I'm sorry you both had such horrible experiences with therapists. I had similar experiences but chose to believe good people are out there. I hope you've managed to find a good one along the way like I have.
I'm 72 and just found out about this in Jan. Geez CPTSD explains my whole life. The revelation was somewhat healing in itself.
Non of the therapists in my town take Medicare, so I'm working this on my own. No expectations for the future...just trying to learn and understand a little more every day.
@@traciemchugh3114 It is your SUB conscious driving your behaviour. It is trying to help you survive but in a dysfunctional way. I suggest hypnotherapy. That is how you can reprogram this part of your mind. Take care. 🫂😴💖
This man has become one of my "gurus" recently, along with Gabor Maté.
great heroes
Yes, both are amazing
Wild. These are the 2 authors currently on my nightstand! It's good to know I am on the right track.
They are great, also Alice Miller (whom he mentioned toward the beginning) - she is #1 to me.
I started my inner healing with psychedelics. It interrupted the patterns enough that i could alter my programming. I chose to do it alone so I'd be forced to deal with my fears. And that's exactly what happened. I was also able to walk away from all other drugs with psychedelics. It ended a 37 year addiction.
I’m 23 and knew about Pete since about last year. after stalling for so long I’m finally reading his book and finishing!! And yes this is an epidemic that needs to be talked about. Folks really out here potentially ruining people’s lives and causing their own children to commit su*cide. My heart breaks for anyone healing from CPTSD, but we will heal & heal together 🤍
I hope 🙏🏼
Sure
So happy for you getting this book by 23! Keep going
Pete walker is very important in my life. He has done more me then parents have.... (apart from childbirth)
@My Art Junk Was about to say this. Our 'debt' to parents was repaid more than fully by our birth.
@@jackdeniston59 I partly agree. What you ever owe abusive parents? Even if they don't say it, they blame you for them being born themselves.
This man from start to finish is believable and builds confidence. What a privilege to have this man as your therapist! Excellent discussion!
I never thought about the Catholic connection..because I had nice Catholics around me I never thought about the teachings where you had to be absolutely perfect.
This was very helpful...a lifetime of "ambush" at home from a crazy "mother"...
My father was wonderful..but SHE mocked him for being a loving parent until he barely ever came home.
Fricking hell
I started with Pete Walker's C-PTSD book (which helped me learn that I am a fawner), but it was The Tao of Fully Feeling is what helped with my emotional breakthrough. I didn't think I could allow myself to feel, I didn't feel safe to feel. But through practice and expressing my anger and sorrow, then accepting myself and the process, I am feeling more peace than ever. Thanks Pete Walker!❤
I would not know where to start learning how to "feel" my tramas. It is a lonely place to be.
Oh I'm thinking about getting that book based on how much the cptsd one helped, but feeling sceptical because how can one man create 2 books that are life-changingly useful 😂 could you go into more details as to how the Tao one helped you? Doesn't the cptsd book already explain you need to sit with your emotions and is the Tao of fully feeling touching on that?
@@deadean1891 i wrote a reply yet cant see it where i shared Pete Walker's C-PTSD audio. I also was going to add the Tao audio link but cant seem to find my reply (wrote it less than 10mins ago) maybe cos i shared a link ?
Anyhow heres the Tao book link ✌
ua-cam.com/video/wMdtvaX1TlI/v-deo.htmlsi=MfBT3fH4av56EDtv
While CPTSD helps explore the many complex issues of emotional flashbacks, The Tao goes into more detail about the nature of our feelings. If I were to choose one, I would go with the Tao because it gets to the bottom of why one could get emotionally stuck. The CPTSD helped me fully understand my type of triggers (or 4F Response) and how my reactions are a trauma response. Believe what you will, they just helped me. @@deadean1891
@@traciemchugh3114Is that the full book?
More than an interview. A creative session: reinhabiting. Going back to be that child and expressing what it was not possible/safe to express back then
Pete Walker what a beautiful human being you are. ❤. Thank you for this interview. I listened one of Pete Walker books which helped me understand reactions of my body and my daughter's body. I wish he could come to Poland and teach psychologists here. His work is very much needed. Greetings
Pete Walker has such an amazing way of opening up stuck places and allowing grief to come. The way he uses his words is just so profound and poetic, like when he says "there was something in my nature [his parents] couldn't kill". So thankful for his work and for this discussion. Thank you.
Nothing has ever resonated and made me stop in my tracks like what was discussed here. I cried randomly throughout because the emotions rose up, because I felt the validation, and I let those emotions come up as I listened.
And now I’m just sitting here kind of in shock and in a sort of cathartic feeling. The only place I’ve been able to find human vulnerability and honest openness so far have been online support groups, and it was just so shocking to me right now seeing this happen outside of that space. I didn’t think I’d find something so helpful and grounding on UA-cam.
My body is in pain, I can feel it, my back, my shoulders, my neck and head, but my mind was able to ground itself in such a beautiful natural way, as I listened because I could identify and resonate with what was being said on such an honest level. I’ll probably keep crying randomly until I go to bed and how reassuring to know that that is OK.
The simple things in life really are the most important, to connect once again to that beautifully vulnerable human being within us. Not only with ourselves in our inner worlds but as a society and outwardly, the way this video did for me.
Prof Fibi I'm so glad you felt validated and were able to cry, which is extremely healing! ❤
Thank you Pete Walker, you have done much good for people seeking to heal their childhood wounds. I have found that research says the average age for recovering serious abuse memories is 52, and for me that was the exact age. Since then I have chosen to work through these deep issues and there is freedom on the other side. Everything you say is true, but - I think we need the ability to trust ourselves and life before we can let down our guard and go inward to heal. After starting in recovery groups at 25 years old, it wasn't until my 50's that I really began to heal deeply.
I want to look as good as you at 74, and living from the inside out is the way to go -
so tearing, Thank you for your words from deep heart 😢😢😢😢😭😭😭😭
Hello Martha thank you for sharing this ! It was the same for me, I was 54 when the amnesia gave way
I am 54 now and my recovery just started!
Yes he looks great. He looks and seems sooo much younger. The world needs him. 🌿
Me too. Just turned 53. Really becoming aware now.
Pete’s books should be compulsory reading at every school. Thank you for being relentless in your recovery and sharing it with us. You’re a real hero/saint/angel
THIS IS THE FIRST TIME I'VE SEEN PETE WALKER ON UA-cam! I WOULD LOVE TO SEE HIM MORE B/C HE HAS MUCH TO SHARE & HIS BOOK IS VERY HELPFUL FOR SO MANY OF US OUT HERE. THANK YOU FOR HAVING HIM ON YOUR PODCAST!
Omg, I can totally relate myself to Pete Walker. I have lived in 4 different cities, has traveled every time I could and those escapes has helped but just temporary…You can’t hide from what inside of you. CPTSD is so terrible and hopefully his book and some therapy will finally help me to come out from the hell..
The Tao of Fully Feeling is truly an excellent book, in terms of its ability to give you the ability to get into your body and grieve and shake and feel, fully
I read pete's book month ago and it has changed my life .Before reading it I even didn't know that I have c ptsd and thought for years that I had social phobia and was feeling exhausted and disappointed cause I was still depressed and suffering .Although It was extremely painful for my to know that I have a lifelong illness and to take a close look of how much trauma I went through .AT the same time It's eye opening to know that I am not alone or just overreacting and I can get better . I deeply wish you "fellow survivors" rewarding /peaceful lives that you deserve
Hi R S - yes, you're not alone and you can get better. You've taken the first step.
@@RichardKingDoesOne Thanks for your kind words 🤍🤍
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Reading this book helped unfold so much damage internally.
Pete returned my call today! I was so excited! Although he’s not adding clients but I’m happy to get referrals from him and the fact that such famous doctor care to call back means a lot. I bought his book, arrived today, can’t wait to read it!
I'm happy you have Pete's books, they are life saving, much more useful than a bunch of psicologysts.
Reading his book you will feel his honesty and you will fell accompanied in your path.
I wish you all the best
@@atiger4716 Thank you very much.
That's great Shirley.
I was similar in that I pushed my father away at a young age and thought my mother was my protector. Then I ended up pushing her away in my teens. Both of my parents are borderlines but I think my father expresses his in much more narcissistic, almost sociopathic ways. My mother is much more clingy and more vulnerable/covert in her narcissism. Father is more grandiose/overt. Both obviously have more than 5 of the borderline traits though so I am certain they must likely have it, they just express it differently. My mother did the most damage on me though. Covert narcs/vulnerable narcs/malignant borderlines tend to do the most damage to their children and others because of the extreme gaslighting and enmeshment trauma. With grandiose/overt narcissists it's just a lot easier to break free from their bullshit. At least from my experiences.
wow thats exactly how my parents are!
I was finally discarded by my narcissistic mother 3 yrs ago when she turned 80. I'm so thankful this sick world is finally collapsing. What's the point of life when society encourages one to discard their family rather than seek resolution?
@@sterlingray3982 exactly. That’s so abnormal
My parents can’t handle it if we have an argument or just a small disagreement. They stop contact with me for months. If I defend my self or say something that they don’t like to hear or want to admit then they don’t talk to me for long periods of time then come back to me pretending nothing happened and that I should be talking to them and forget the abuse they gave me
@Peni Joni Thts sad to hear
My parents don’t even talk to my kids or meet them. If they have issue with me they stop contact with kids too. I feel bad for my kids that they don’t have grandparents in their life anymore. And they didn’t even do anything weren’t involved in any of this but kids still suffering n getting neglected by grandparents just because we adults have issues it’s not fair to not see n punish the grandkids
It's a problem when you have one of each; i.e., one malignant narcissist parent and one covert. They can enable each other and triangulate at other times. You get to experience just about everything in the narcissistic abuse playback that way. Pretty much a living Hell, especially if they both join together in designating you as the family scapegoat.
Learning about emotional flashbacks has altered the course my life for the better, I highly recommend From Surviving to Thriving.
I discovered Pete Walker through the work of Richard Grannon. :)
same!
Me too!
The only person I've noticed who mentions the four F's in his C-PTSD book. Defence mechanisms for those with CPTSD: Fight, Freeze, Flight and Fawn.
Commenting before watching the video: this comment section is so great and giving me hope! I wish there was a support group like this... people who understand what I went through. Not many people in real life do. It's hard even for my therapist, and she's doing her best. Also, happy to hear some people say they found healing in their 50's. I'm 43, been on my healing journey since my 20's, done a lot but still sometimes feel so stuck and lost. But I'm not giving up as long as I live.
Lastly, I'm so happy Pete Walker has done an interview and I found it! 😊
Hi Here comes the sun - yes, I like the idea of a support group. I was thinking of setting a Telegram group as a first step. What do you think?
@@RichardKingDoesOne oh wau, that sounds great! I didn't know you were planning on setting up that kind of group. I would be interested to join. English is not my native language but i think I could manage. This interview helped me to understand the power of groups in addition to individual therapy. Where will you put information if you start the group?
THANK YOU FOR THE .5 SECOND SHOUT OUT FOR THOSE OF US HEALING FROM MORMON UPBRINGING AND MAINSTREAM LDS FAMILIES! I had to stop my walk and kneel FOR BEING SEEN because LDS families are soooo good at pretending they raised their kids RIGHT (mostly cause they are free from inibriating substances... They have a strange elitism).
I can’t believe Peter is 74??? I seriously would have guessed 62 at most! I also really liked that Peter emphasized the importance of truly allowing yourself to grieve & that “grief work” is his passion & is really the most important thing about processing trauma. Thank you to you both!!! 🙏❤️🌈
Thank you Red Rocks
74 wow ! Never guess that.
What a beautiful man. I am healing, thanks, in part, to Pete Walker.
Pete’s book was, by far, the most helpful to my healing and understanding what I was experiencing…I’ve recommended it to SO many people.
Pete Walker, thank you
Pete! How nice to see you! Pete helped me with CPTSD, first by identifying it and then for almost 2 years on the phone, working through it. He nailed something that no one else did before. Pete is so spot on!! Excellent description of CPTSD
Glad you liked it Elisa
@@RichardKingDoesOne You are a great host.
@@elisaferzacca1775 Thanks!
I came across Pete Walker's work by happenstance, when I was reading something else related to self-development. I've been on a deep healing mission this past 2 years now. When I finished Complex PTSD , I felt like I was in therapy reading it. It really helped me cope with my anger issues towards my family and the abuse i encountered, not just from my narcissistic dad but also my older sister. It really allowed me to validate my feelings and to further understand why they were the way they were. I just finished Homestead yesterday while nursing my flu and had a really good cry afterwards. I cried because it gave me hope that I could be in a healthy, trusting, loving relationship one day (I'm 47, never married, and no kids because I kept dating men like my father). I'm about to start The Tao of Fully Feeling and hope that I can really dig deeper and heal further. Thank you for the Reddit suggestion Pete! Love your work. You've changed my life!
Dear Sister you are beautiful. God bless you & thank you for sharing this. Resonated 100% - may you be blessed with love. 💕💚🧡💯
that's me Constantly on edge. I never knew when my father was going to lose his temper and get slapped or thrown down the stairs.
"Learning how to metabolize pain!".
Uau!!! Pete Walker on YT!
My twenties were about survival. Abandonment no roots and no interest from parents I was on my own with little money moving from bed sit to bed sit. Weirdly enough my parents went from not interested and treated me like I was there problem to bragging to others like everything was rosy.
Exactly.I remember thinking" Who the f are you people".
@Raja Palaparty I agree. Bad intent and pre meditated abuse is prevalent I’m glad you got out
I wouldn't be surprised if they took credit for what success you have. They sound narcissistic.
My twenties as well. For other reasons. But you know what, it's over. Let's better talk about the good things. Me for example I tried cooking a new, unknown dish today and it tasted wonderfully delicious and I still have enough left for tomorrow. What was good in your last months :)?
@@Gandalf_the_quantum_G well said, life is for living and not looking over your shoulder all the time. We can be who we chose to be once we know different. You didn’t say what the dish was you cooked but it sounded lovely.
Pete's book was able to help me put every phase of my traumatic early life into context.I spent 14 years on in off in therapy but was told I had Dysthymia.The therapist was very good,but I bounced around from topic to topic and crisis that occurred after starting therapy.I wish this book was out 30 years ago.I am starting to feel like a new person.Thank You Pete!
Amazing. I only hope 3 years since this post it is even better
Saint Peter Walker walking on Earth!😇
How blessed and privileged are we to have had an enlightened person like Pete Walker perform this heroic task of descending to the deepest regions of his traumatized psyche to rescue the wounded child that had been trapped there for decades- and then, share his experiences with us human beings and bring a ray of hope to those of us who also have had painful childhoods!!
Like Prometheus- who brought the gift of fire to the human race to help improve our lives on Planet Earth- likewise, Pete Walker has brought an incredible Light in his books to help illuminate the way for those of us who have chosen the path of emotional and Spiritual recovery.
I read Pete Walker's Complex PTSD book about 10 years ago, and it completely changed my life for the better! 💖
Delightful interview!
What a true Blessing this man is!
This is really encouraging to me guys. Overall, my father didn’t like having me as a son and he was repulsed by sensitivity and grief.
I’d describe the few true cathartic experiences I’ve had as feeling re-unified with “The Glory”.
Just ordered Pete’s book.
Thank you for sharing.
Pete Walker is speaking my language. He has given me a path to take in a world where nobody else seems to fully understand. A viet vet as well! God bless him 😇💕
After my divorce and after my kids grew up moved out I began having constant flashbacks and overwhelming nightmares that I had a complete mental and emotional breakdown. The myriad of psychiatric medications that I now take have stopped all of the paralyzing flashbacks and deadly nightmares....my days are good and I don't have to struggle for a sense of well being. My physical health is still a disaster, but my mental health is good.. I'm being treated with three mood stabilizers, antidepressants, and medication for ADHD. On occasion I might need a pill for anxiety, but nothing like I used to need. ...I have finally been able to breathe and smile and enjoy life again.
Thank you so much for this podcast. This book and Pete’s genuineness have helped to change my world. I emailed Pete thanking him for his work and I was very surprised and sincerely moved that he wrote me back. He’s the real deal and his works on complex PTSD should be shared with everyone.
He is definitely the real deal! Thank you for the comment @thejenfo
I think the hardest part about the process of living your misery internally and surviving it is LETTING GO and MOVING ON from it after it became a weaved in part of your life. It is not living WITH it, is living WITHOUT it is the hardest part
I will be thankful to Pete all my life for helping me through his books and in doing so, helping my sons and my wife.
Thanks to Pete, the toxic of many generations in the family I grew up, have come to an end.
Im so incredibly happy for you, that you were able to do that not only for yourself but for your family. Thank you! The future generations will thank you too, truly beautiful work.
A Tiger It's beautiful that you and your wife, along with your precious sons, have been helped by Pete Walker! It takes immense courage to do the extremely painful healing work and this video validates what I've been doing for many years now. 😊
I found this very helpful. Great contributions from both parties ❤🙏. Healing is lifelong. Sometimes I think I'm fixed and it takes a while to realise things are unravelling again as I haven't kept up the good practices 😮.
Thank you for the appreciation.
Pete Walker what a thrill to see and hear you. So grateful for your work. Currently reading Homesteading in the Calm Eye of the Storm. Found your writing through Richard Grannon. It would be amazing to listen to a conversation between the two of you.
He iZ spot on. 🙏🏼🌎🙏🏼💞
It would be great if you did a part 2 with Pete, talking about co dependency in childhood and more of his wisdom.
Thank you Sarah. I'll give that some thought.
When it comes to the fight response, I think it depends on the context as to whether it's narcissistic or not. There are appropriate times to stand up for yourself.
Men are not the only ones who feel shame for crying.
By healing ourselves we heal our collective soul and from this healthier, wiser place we WILL set our world right as a matter of course. Thank you for sharing and informing! ♥️
Pete walkers book literally changed my life I am so extremely grateful for him. I’ve also shared his book with others ❤️
Lovely interviewer and interviewee, thank you. I’ve had a lovely morning painting and listening to this lovely conversation between two beautiful souls ❤
Pete's book is invaluable. His upbringing was incredibly similar to mine, and seeing how much progress he's made is inspiring and comforting to me
'''"killing me softly with his song, telling my whole life with his words". Thank you!
Thank you Pete Walker! You are the man ! I have read your books twice and you are undoubtedly the single most genuine therapist/writer on cptsd. Your leading us into the somatic and emotional levels has been life changing for me. I am in the long process of recovery from a lifetime of abuse/neglect from a malignant narcopath mother. It's so refreshing to hear that it's healing and justified to express righteous anger and outrage to the abuser, since so many Acon's find it almost impossible to express their anger. I am so glad to see you in this conversation, and a huge thanks to Being Human.🌞
SO TRUE! LOVE YOUR WORDS
A beautiful man Pete Walker is thank you for doing this video forever grateful for his work.
Thank you Penelope.
@@RichardKingDoesOne I have spoken to him on a few phone sessions on learning to help others through my own past trauma. His books and work is an outstanding contribution to the world.
@@PenelopeRyder Indeed it is, and great to hear that you're finding ways to help other work through their own past trauma. I think every time each of us heals a little, we help others to heal.
@@RichardKingDoesOne the most powerful thing I read that Pete wrote was "Healing is not all or nothing". Knowing that saved me from trying to heal perfectly and from trying to be perfect.
@@PenelopeRyder Wonderful quote. Another related quote I love from France Janov is that trauma release work is like 'emptying a bathtub with a teaspoon.' That helped me accept that it's a lifetime's work and that, that's OK.
74?! Next book: Pete Walker’s Fountain of Youth Methods. Much gratitude for all he has written and shared❤
..."an unflappable fierce ally to yourself" beautiful!
My older brothers had what you had Pete. Christian Brothers beating them up, savage priests, ragaholic home.
Dr Pete, ur the best. Your story was very helpful to explain the hypervigilance I struggle with. And the cycle of "one narcissist after another", it hurts to even think about it. But now I can't get out of the grieving rut.
I feel crying now because so much I can relate
I grew up with an abusive, emotionally unstable, unhappy mother and struggling until now. Thank you for this amazing video!
Sorry to hear that Lulu - and my pleasure Lulu, I hope it helps in your healing.
Bad trips were what i call "processing trips". I did a crash course of weekly trips for 2 straight years to work through most of the trauma. Many trips i cried the whole time, but i always felt better afterward. I welcomed those type of trips. You gotta stop resisting what the medicine wants to show you. All your unresolved stuff WILL come up on these medicines.
This interview is fantastic. Thank you both!
A good cry AND a good laugh. Control your brain or your brain will control you. Both you guys impress me as really being in control of your brain and humanity. I got therapy just listening to this. I felt better afterwards. I read Pete’s book and it was very helpful. Part of me still wonders if I suffered abuse and neglect.
Wonderful to hear that Tom.
Really enjoyed listening to this
Need to let peter talk more as his words are golden.
Saved my life too, thank you Pete and yes it is a lifetime work but it gets easier....
I don't know, listening to this podcast here today feels so emotional. Thank you so much I found this🌸 I'm on my healing journey & with your shared words of perspectives and conversation here I learned from both of you.
Other than psychedelics, primal therapy, and the group you mentioned, how to the rest of us who do not have access to such rare therapies learn how to cry? I was also in the military. I am a woman, but the "suck it up and drive on" motto runs very deep. I was taught that it was essentially unethical for a leader to cry. It is very, very difficult for me to let go of that training.
Pete Walker's books have been my bedside bibles for over a year.His insights and guidance have been a torchlight in my life's path.Totally indebted to him.
[" 39:40 Affirmations can be a gateway to total narcissism. People who constantly submit to affirmations are often very abusive to themselves and others but they don't see it because 'all Im doing is saying nice things'. "]
For those who take the narcisistic path to coping, Positive Affirmations are prolly not the most effective modality. They might actually benefit more from Shadow Work.
But I suspect that as we recover, we eventually need to be able to use all modalities so that our old coping habits can come close without triggering the pathology.
@@DarkMoonDroid [" Your belief in 'shadow work' exposes you you cultist. "]
Brilliant!
@@sine8811 LOL
Ohhhhhhh-kayyyyy.
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Love Pete!
I like Pete's open window. 🪟
I'm reading it right now.
This man’s book is amazing. It has helped me so much!
This is such a great conversation! I am so happy what I'm dealing with isn't unique and there's hope!
Richard, thank you so much for this interview with Pete Walker. I have heard so much about him but hadn’t seen him interviewed before. The sharing of your own experiences was very helpful. The insight about crying is phenomenal! I cry daily, many times a day. I can see how this discussion will help me not be so self critical, feeling weak and worthless for the amount of tears I shed. Keep up your good work.
Regards
Thank you GypsyRuth - crying is the cure.
Turned onto Walker by Crappy Childhood Fairy. His book is tattered, underlined, and circled. Better late than never. Every page has aha moments.
That's great to hear Cynthia.
I love Anna Runkle!!(aka crappy childhood fairy) I swear the clinicians and people/techniques I've found on UA-cam have helped me more than any therapist has. And it doesn't nearly cost as much!!
It's nice to know the world was eventually kind to you.
Pete Walker is a gem, his book changed my life. Now I want to read The Tao Of Fully Feeling. Thank you for having him on!
This man is a genius, you can’t change my mind. His book has helped me in ways i didn’t think was possible. I’m so grateful since I’m finally able to understand my intrusive thoughts and their origins.
Wish I could have him as a therapist - so life changing
Me too
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