Control: A problem for men and women. An individual who needs control is 'out of control', nothing will satiate that need. Avoid these people. Imagine the following: purchasing control by giving away your punany is purely transactional and doesn't work; putting up with a complainer will never fill their void ....
My wife did this - constant picking and complaining. Right up to the day where I told her, very bluntly, that if she carried on I would end our relationship. Guess what? She just had to test me and see if I meant it. We are now divorced. Never been happier...
You corrected your mistake by divorcing her, she didnt correct her mistake and behave, that's a big difference between us, we as men learn from our mistakes and by observing others, women never learn til it's too late
I had a lesbian friend come over to cry on my shoulder after a breakup with a girl. Her exact words: "I never felt so bad for men until I started dating women. Mean are easy: you feed 'em, you f*** 'em, and you pat him on the head once in a while and tell him he's doing good. With women, nothing works consistently!" How I wish I had that recording in a woman's voice - it would be literally priceless.
My sister said the same thing when she was looking for new friends on bumble. She moved to Dallas and wants a friend group. The level of flake, neediness, crazyness, and ghosting she encountered opened her eyes. She told me "I now understand your problems, all I am trying to do is have a friend I can go to coffee with a couple of times a month and this is insane".
You know women are truly Fd up when even a lesbian sides with men and admits relationships with women are crazy and can be a nightmare on so many different levels.
Why do you need a chick to get you to believe in yourself ? ...you were born a complete being with nothing missing. GTF up off the ground and dust yourself off and keep on keeping on. If you want to rely on someone, speak to your Creator.
@user-se2zg5he4q I call out my wife every time she does this to me. I even pull the old woman trick of digging up incidents that prove my point from several months back. Usually its something stupid like complaining I didn't ask her first before substituting a different brand of cheese because her preferred brand is sold out... then when it happens again a few weeks later and I ask her what she wants she complains I can't make a decision without asking her first. 😂😂😂
As a Dad it's tough. Even little girls figure out they can get their way by being a big enough PITA. As guys we're doing the "is this fight worth the costs calculation" and often forget the long term consequences of a short term win.
@@JimiJames528 I married "daddy's little girl" and every time I enforce my boundaries she gives me a tantrum. He rarely said no. He's apologized for that but unlike him, I don't have the ability to discipline her.
Or see. But be careful in the work place with women around. I know for a fact that you may say something that makes her/them FEEL a certain way. Nothing rude or vulgar etc. But she FEELS its time to go on a reputation assault. They will bend the truth, lie or intrerpret things in a way that fits their psychotic narrative. And boom ! here you are in H.R. or having a meeting with the boss. Be strong, confident etc but be careful if you want to hang on to your job around them. Not all of course. But you only need one and there is more than one of that sort around in most cases. Silence is gold. But if they need/want something that too could get you in trouble. (ignoring them or just being minimal) cheers.
We gave them too much executive function and they are not able to handle it. They are naturally too high in anxiety and therefore cannot just be still and sit in peace. That constant need to push, test, prod, fiddle, and interfere. That is exactly why our ancestors didn't let them vote or hold positions of authority.
@@John_Wood_I had a lesbian friend come over to cry on my shoulder after a breakup with a girl. Her exact words: "I never felt so bad for men until I started dating women. Mean are easy: you feed 'em, you f*** 'em, and you pat him on the head once in a while and tell him he's doing good. With women, nothing works consistently!" How I wish I had that recording in a woman's voice - it would be literally priceless.
I have a very badly injured back, old and permanent injury. The other day I worked a 16 hour shift. My girlfriend knew I was in pain, very sore and tired, I told her so. But she still threw a tantrum after I refused to help her empty the dishwasher and help cook & clean. Why would I want to Marry a person like that? How can I trust her to appreciate the sacrifices I would inevitably end up making for the benefit of our relationship & family?
Women who grew up with strong, competent fathers can still end up with "daddy issues." That is because children in the modern era are not actually raised by their parents; they are raised by the other children in their peer group. In pre-industrial societies, children DID pick up most of their social cues by observing the way their parents and other close family members like aunts and uncles behaved toward each other. There was a strong cross-generational transfer of knowledge in pre-industrial societies, and children tended to view the world through the same lens as their parents. After the industrial revolution, modern societies adopted the public school system as we know it today; children were thereafter isolated from their parents and segregated into peer groups with other children around the same age for hours each day, five days a week, for months out of the year. The children in that setting look to other children for the social cues on how to behave toward other human beings. That is why modern societies are dominated by transitory behavioral trends (e.g., popular music and clothing styles) and by inter-generational conflict. The rise of internet culture has exacerbated this trend; smartphones and social media have encouraged young people to look even more to their peers for social cues and to disregard the accumulated social wisdom of their parents. As a consequence of this pernicious peer influence, a girl who grew up with a good father figure who provided his family with strong leadership may still reach adulthood believing that men are "trash" and that strong male leadership is "toxic" because that is the belief that is trending among the other women in her peer group. TL:DR: When you are trying to assess whether or not a woman is relationship material, don't just consider the quality of the father figures in her life; you need to pay attention to what sort of women she hangs out with and whose opinions she respects. She might have a great dad, but her peers are the ones she looks to for social cues.
Dead right. One of the things I hated most growing up was affluent suburan white women who hate their fathers. In reality their fathers are good men. But these girls were too weak to resist the social conditioning and found some reason here or there to make their father the enemy, and then a decade of bad decisions later, they are 25 and turned out like a bums pocket.
Spot on. They hate it either way. - If you're leading, she will hate it overtly, challenging your decisions, threatening to leave, creating drama, tears, fights, but she will bang you. - If you're being agreeable, you might have some sort of peace and stability, but she'll hate you covertly, finding ever smaller reasons to nag and there definitely will be no bedroom action (not with you, that is) Choose one
The second scenario happens when they are selfish and are mainly driven/possessed by their ego and narcissism and thus in some level believe that you should make your life about her, about making her life more fun and easy. It shows that she isn't nurturing and cating and that she wants to help others and work together as equal humans, which it means that she won't be a good friend and by extension she won't be a good wife and mother.
My kids mom pulled that crap. Went no sex for months to the point moved out, and constantly demanding, draining, putting me down in front of the kid, prob cheating with her ex husband or ex boyfriend and knew it but 2 year old needed me stayin close and tried way too long to work it out. Told me didnt want it and find someone else to bang, left. The next day went to see blues traveler with the ex she hated second most. Texts the next day while im workin tryin to use the kid to get me to come over and cook dinner knowing she would turn btch after. Said sure, but im gonna reek of my ex and id just assume take him for the night. Suddenly she was begging and offering butt stuff while sober tryin to keep me on the hook padding her lifestyle. 3 weeks later i walk in and shes got fresh hickies on display and all i said was huh, ex husband or brought some stranger round my kid? Eh whatever, think Chili Peppers is this weekend and went to cookin for my kid as shes dumbfounded i had zero fks left to give. Bout half hour after dinner i hear her screaming at her phone after she found out her ex had decided to stay with the new girl instead. Again the begging. Now that shes hittin the wall and her crash diets are messin with her metabolism, she lookin like an overly pierced whoopie goldberg more by the day. Screwed on custody for now but least things are peaceful now and shes some idiot she baby trapped's problem.
The problem is when a woman perceives a man as "weak" they choose to "dominate" qnd "crush" him. That shows a level of immorality and sociopathy that basically makes them the female equivalent of a "bad boy". If they find a man "weak" the only two choices is to either keep their distance or better yet, if said man is a friend or family member, to help him and assist him into becoming the type of man she would not consider weak. The latter is the ideal and I would say necessary because that way they can make sure that the people around them, in their immediate social circle, are strong and capable of helping and protecting them in problematic situations, while the former will just ensure that nobody would want to be around them, let alone help them. Now the reason most of them today don't show "support" to the man or helps him "built himself up" is because most of them are, as alexander said, selfish to the point point of narcissism and solipsism. They at some level believe that the wirld and other oeiples lives revolve around her and that means she doesn't have to do anything to make her life and above all others lives better, itvis others job and obligation to make her life better and uf they can't di that then they shouldn't exist.
I cannot get past their responses. They talk about "crushing" or "crumbling" someone as if she doesn't have a choice. It's as if accountability for their own existence and choices never enters their mind. It's been the great irony about feminism. The original founding principle of feminism, from the mouths and writings of it's creators, was that "women are inherently morally superior to men." *_All evidence to the contrary._*
Absolutely. All the psychological rational is nothing but do for me and I don’t do for you. It’s not normal, biological or natural. It’s lack of emotional development. The Chads can have it😅
Society expects and apologizes for sociopathic, manipulative, and destructive tendencies in women. Their character traits, no matter how dark and immoral, are either ignored, forgiven, or excused. Time and time again, zero accountability is required by the modern woman. Meanwhile, men are demonized for the very product of their natural hormonal balance. Hence why we have drugged entire generations of young boys to keep them docile, to sit quietly and talk all day, just like the little girls do naturally.
Women: I want to be independent... I want to make decisions... Also women: I want to be take care of... I don't want make decisions... So what is it, ladies?
Excatly. And this whole idea that man should be the leader in relationship is BS nowadays. Modern women want all the upsides of traditional man while they have none of the upsides of traditional woman.
Women generally want the guys they already like to look them in the eyes/compliment them/talk to them/etc. If she doesn't like you, then you're the creep looking at her, talking to her.
Women will badger a man constantly and he will ignore it and she will call him weak, up until the day she physically attacks him and he decks her. Then she will cry like a baby and run to her lawyer. Women have no clue why men don't bother to answer trivial babble. Happened to me.
I know it mate. Smacked mine in the ass with a serving spoon, and she ran away with the kids. If she had stayed in her own lane I would not have lost patience, but you know women. They think they know better.
The word no? Ohh i told my ex once "when you try to argue with me for entertainment.. it makes me think you look fat" might be the only time i ever shut her up.
I used to take my GF to the movies, just to shut her up for a couple of hours. When I was married, the only way to shut her up was to ask, "What do you want?" She couldn't say, "A pointless fight", so she shut up.
@@chuck8094sht that one i was like 16 and 3 years younger, pretty well knew i was her side piece and was for the best. flat said she liked arguing when she got mad i would just brush her off or say theres the door then. On one occasion she managed to irk me and wouldnt leave, kept standing in the doorway demanding a kiss first. Planted one on her, wrapped my arms round her, picked her up off the ground all romantic like... *Click* opened the screen door, sat her down on the porch, walked back in locking the door as i hear her go WTF... Ok fk you. Fine im leaving.. but, that was pretty funny. I cant stand arguimg and bickering esp when i know theyre just using me for a ego fix. Problem is the quiet girls are worse, less predictable when theyre gonna blindside ya with bs.
I have two daughters. I wasn't always home. I worked abroad and missed some of their childhood, but when i was here I was 100% involved. Its difficult working against the gynocentric propaganda they are always consuming.
Women in today's world live in delusion about their "worth" and capability. They think they should rule the relationship instead of be a part of the relationship and would rather argue at every turn to get there way but that's ONLY a recipe for being alone.
My ex had a weak father and dominant mother, as a result she tried to dominate me, I kicked her out. I know one another girl whose father was jobless and physically weak while the mother did the earning and was mentally and physically strong, the daughter later filed a false case against her husband to get alimony. so yeah, weak father or no father is a true problem.
Unfortunately, The last example utilised is THE most frightening to every male in the West. The opportunistic cowardly woman who knows that the laws will favour. E.g. these fatherless women won't care and will fire feaux domestic violence charges and then Alimony. It turns Judg3s instantly against the man.
My wife (separated) has a VERY dominate mother and weak father. When she couldn't dominate me she she left. Problem I had was that for all her mothers faults she could at least run a house and be a competent leader. Her daughter (my wife) wanted to be the big boss without any capability or leadership qualities.
Yep. I married a woman who didn't have a relationship with her father. I always thought she would get to the point where she would trust me and not be constantly testing me. There was no amount of time where that was going to happen.
Without the role of positive masculinity in women's life it's easy to fall prey to lies of a functioning Sociopaths and Psychopaths. Both sociopath & psychopath can mimick the qualities of masculinity, confidence and extrovertness. Its easy to fall to their general charms without realizing how badly damaged they're underneath. So having a strong father in childs life is of utmost importance.
A woman will always test a man. She's unhappy when the guy doesn't listen and doesnt do what she's complaing about. But she becomes miserable when he's doing everything whatever she's asking or demanding. The fact she is now leading the relationship and he's following her when it should be the other way around.
I've never once witnessed a woman leading a relationship. They can claim it all they want, but from what I've seen nothing changes and they're just claiming to be "leading". Practically speaking, it usually just means that she got a new job that pays more money and she takes that to mean that she's suddenly "in charge"
@@decwowit sounds like you've never witnessed nor been in a relationship with a deeply narcissistic and/or BPD woman. These type of horrible women WILL (eventually) emotionally, mentally and spiritually destroy even the most masculine confident and strong male. They are truly toxic to any relationship.
@@decwow he is fully responsible and has zero authority, she leads and dominates via proxy power, the level she dials it up is on a sliding scale and up to her where it lands.
I told this to my wife and daughters. Your woman basically wants to melt into you. She wants to submit because that's what makes her happy. Women want two things in a relationship, and that is vulnerability and security. She's not going to feel safe with you without being vulnerable. When a woman breaks down and cries in your shoulders to vent, that's a good thing. It means she trusts you. She just wants to held and listened to. Men want loyalty and respect. In order to receive it, you have to break down her walls. That's why women test. The best way to pass the test is to say, "Cut the bullshit. I know what you're doing. I don't do tests. You do that again. You're gone." Show her where her suitcase is to express the point. Then, disengage with her. The way it works is this. Don't reward bad behavior and reward only good behavior. If she's the type to yell, walk away from her and tell her the behavior shown is unacceptable. Tell her to leave, or I'm gone and done. If she loves you, she will come to you in a timid voice and even apologize to you. She'll start to vent and want to get close to you. It's a battle, but after 13 years of marriage, I have peace. I have 2 daughters. I am surrounded. There are consequences for crossing dad. I also don't let anyone mess with my women. A woman wants in the end to surrender to you. Part of the reason we're in this situation is because men let women railroad and disrespect us. Men let women domineer them.
To play devils advocate, you are also lucky she wasn’t the type file false abuse charges. Some women come back in a timid voice and apologize. Some “get even”.
Very good advice. Two daughters here as well so I know what you mean. (One in college and a teenager) The good thing about the one in college…. When she comes home and tries to spread her academia B.S., My younger daughter is picking up on it. I think younger females need to hear it from the source if you know what I mean. Sometimes I want to run away , lol, But you’re right.
@hellaspoicey2280 that's called someone that's an attention seeker and a toxic woman. I don't get involved with women that way. Not every woman is likely to do this. I have been with my wife for 13 years for a reason. Also my wife is my wife for a reason. It's because she earned it. My wife has been through homelessness with me. Why would my wife go through all this crap to throw me away? She's very loyal to me. I never thought of getting married, but she earned my trust and respect. She is my backer.
@@abraynor84 Awesome👍 I said I was playing devils advocate… Obviously I think it’s a small minority of men who get caught up in that situation or I wouldn’t have said that. I wasn’t implying anything about you or your family. Stay strong.
This is why my father left my mother. Endless s*it tests. And I don’t blame him. Its exhausting. There’s quite literally never any peace. Who wants to deal with that their entire life? And if he lost a job?? Forget about it.
If you don't figure out how to pass the tests, you will keep getting them. You have to pass the tests to settle them down so they can feel safe and secure. They don't do it because they want to, but because they have to.
@@j.p.5716 Passing the same test over and over is the problem here. Nobody cares if she does it once or twice. Even a dozen times. It’s when you’ve gone through this countless times, that’s when men accept that she won’t change for him, for herself or for god. It’s a waste of everyone’s time.
This is why they also treat short, unfit, and/or unattractive in general men like they are barely human. Then, even when they get with a perfect guy who gives them everything they want, they suddenly get disgusted because when you give her everything, you also give her control. This is why the real man they want is a man who makes her give him everything he wants, and even if it's low-key abusive, she also likes it because now they get something to gossip about at brunch.
This was the root of my divorce. My ex’s father is a completely emotionally unavailable robot and my ex never had love from him. She turned into a control freak batshit crazy person after we got married and she stopped working. Her days were spent fighting me for control and needing constant reassurance of things that didn’t need to be discussed. The more I didn’t allow her control, the more drama. She wasn’t able to allow me to lead her. No matter how many times it was discussed, she couldn’t. She turned into a tantrum throwing child. Throwing doors, throwing things and ultimately throwing punches. I left.
People who mentally bully others are mostly egotistical, shallow control freaks who are not deserving of attention or affection. Manipulators are easily seen and should be ignored. One upmanship in a relationship only leads to heartache and break ups.
If a guy is easy going and not highly opinionated (personally I am like that) then he is either weak or he is chill depending on how the women sees you (your status etc). To many of us guys, we don't sweat the small stuff but that small stuff is a major issue to women. Mountain out of a mole hill....
@@highlanderknight Agree completely. I can't tell you the number of times women mistook my easy going attitude for weakness. They always had a "come to Jesus" moment when they hit a boundary and the consequences were instant. "But wait, you're the nice guy." LOL.
Today, I do not give women a second look, unless they turn in my direction, and even then, I'll move away from them. I prefer as little contact with them as possible. Ladies, remember, it was you, who told men to leave.
I got challenged 💯 of the time. After 15 years I started to crumble and just agreed. When I got good at avoid fighting she said she wanted a divorce. I was tired of fighting to have a relationship that was about fighting
9:39 The reason why men have become incompetent and "don't supply the same level of security as before" is due to no longer having a reason and thus the motivation to work and too want to protect and provide for a family due to now having an overbearing state/ruling class offering to do that in their place (in exchange for people's silent and obedience concent). How did it get that way? Women, due to their natural desire for being provided and protected, blindly gave support for the increasing/centralization of the power of the state (over people's lives) because they've been dupped into believeing that a distant ruling class, made up of people who by the nature of the job sees them as lesser and themselves as superior to the general public, are better suited to protect and provide for them than loving husbands and fathers with an actual emotional bond (incentive) to do those things. This essential makes the state an artificial substitute for fathers and husbands that most women welcome with open arms because they no longer have to raise themselves to the standards of beign a good person in order to be a good wife and mother.
They started with the black community in America and look at them now… Welfare replaced the working man. Kids became fatherless. The community never recovered. They were the lab rats. That community saw the highest economic increase out of every demographic in America before the 50’s. Then the women started to compete with the men instead of working together. It was a recipe for disaster. And now it’s spreading across all western nations. The powers at be want people divided. Complacent, tired and submissive people are easy to control. Strong men aren’t easy to control and strong women will heal and inspire those men to fight again and again. Can’t have that.
I've been married to the same woman for over 20 years. She is a good woman, but thinking you can train or "parent" her to trust is delusional. She can not change, and it will not be worth it. No matter how strong you are, she can and will wear you down.
Unfortunately, I agree. I think some women are just born that way - to be dominant and controlling. It's not as simple as "the man taking charge." Whenever I finally took charge with my ex-wife, our marriage fell apart and we (luckily) divorced. She remarried to a beta, and is happy (as is he).
Jesus that's grim. But I don't doubt it. I think there is a reason our ancestors kept just a physical and dominant control of them, because they knew they would be worn down otherwise. Also, all the heroism of womanhood was in the pregnancy and the extraordinary risk it posed. Today, women are crapping out kids at 40 and other than the risk to the child, there is almost no risk to the mother. So what does that leave them worthy of admiration? They aren't winning wars, running into burning buildings, or inventing things that leap humanity forward 100 years. Hell most women wont even make a sandwich for their husband, the idea of sacrifice for the sake of honor couldn't be more foreign to them.
3:45 let's keep this analogy further - it's not that simple because maybe there are women that just want to look out the window and not worry about the destination but there are MANY women (I'd argue even most women these days) that constantly nag about the way you drive, how you are either driving too fast or too slow, complain about the destination that they don't like it or they want you to magically get there this instant and fault you over the bumps and potholes in the road that can't even remotely be considered your fault. And best part is, you can even be Lewis Hamilton behind the wheel - doesn't matter, they just want to nag even if you are the best driver in the world! So yeah, Alex, great analogy - it fits really well 😂 EDIT: And there are maaany women that jump out in the middle of the drive for no reason and then blame you for getting bruised and that they can't get into another car ever again 😂
@@SeekerGoOn2013 maaany? That was intentional to emphasize the number and by "jumping out during the drive" I meant divorce rate of who initiates it which is 80+% for women.
If she is combatitive & undermining to him Then a man wont care to stand up for her.. Cause problems for me & I've no motive to stand up for U.. More like popcorn time to see how u like it .
@@kelly_bayside True. There has to be an element of worthiness. I think that's a big part of why men are now going overseas in massive numbers. Western women are programmed to hate men at a young age so they can't empathize with them, they blow out their oxytocin at a young age so they can't pair bond with them, and I'm running into a lot of women who don't know what their own fertility window is so they can't give them children. That last one does my head in. But, yes, the woman has to be worth the effort. One of the best sayings I've heard in recent years is: "Chivalry must be inspired, if you're not getting it you're probably not inspiring."
That's what they think, but you know what's funny? In my young nice guy phase I was far more likely to let a woman run over me AND far more likely to stand up for her. Now, I'd never let a woman run over me, but I'm also FAR less likely to care enough to stand up for her. 😂
If a woman rejects me. I never talk to them again and blank them, but now their start pursue me to point of being a stalker, but a desperate woman is no longer attractive,
this is one more reason why older men are attractive to younger women. An older man is more likely to know enough, have enough resources to fulfill that leasdership role and he WANTS to protect and teach that younger woman. She knows this, either consciously or not.
If you think you're too old, then you're too old. It's that simple. One woman's opinion determining your truth with that quote is why you're too weak to pull them anymore. She pushed you around, planted that seed, but you nurtured it to life. There are plenty of beautiful young women out there interested in having experiences with men significantly older than they are.
@@user-2Hteyasizyc Dont worry about how 'into" you they are. The instant that they percieve you as being inferior to some other choice that's open to them, they'll drop you like a bad habit. Just keep getting "new' ones every 3-4 years from the third world. Nobody but you is offering them US pell grants and college loans, along with US citizenship and they wont get that in less than about 6 months before getting a green card and 6 months after having one for 4 years.
@@user-2Hteyasizyc to hell with US beeches. I'm 71 and can still get 20 yo's in the third world Dont worry about how 'into" you they are. The instant that they perceive you as being inferior to some other choice that's open to them, they'll drop you like a bad habit. Just keep getting "new' ones every 3-4 years from the third world. Nobody but you is offering them US pell grants and college loans, along with US citizenship and they wont get that in less than about 6 months before getting a green card and 6 months after having one for 4 years. You'll get 4 years of the good stuff, it'll cost you nothing and if you know to have everything either portable-hidden (ie, gold coins) or in the name of a NV corporation that she doesn[t even KNOW about) she cant hurt you. There's millions more just like her, so divorce and go get another one. This should be an agreed upon thing right from the start (in a written, witnessed contract).
Imagine a world in which women truly are just like children and we've given them more responsibility and encouragement and freedom than is warranted. Blaming the adults in the room(men) is the correct response.
The fact that you jump to immediately only blaming women is part of the problem. Both men and women making bad choices have led to our society today. A deadbeat, lazy, or absent father can absolutely wreck a woman's life. That doesn't mean she isn't responsible for her actions now, but it explains why she is acting the way she is. The question then is do you want to deal with the effort to fix that problem or do you go your own way. That's your choice. However, the problem is it is going to require men doing the hard work to fix this problem if we ever want to break the cycle. Yes, it sucks that this generation has to deal with that, but what is the other option? Just ignore it and hope it goes away? Sure, then you are just condemning the next generation to even worse problems. And...here's the thing, you can do that if you want. No one is forcing you to do anything. But, if we ever want to fix this problem, men are going to have to step up. Women are never going to just magically stop acting like this. Even if we had a better society, the mentality expressed in a lot of these types of videos is still there in the background and if men get lazy, it will just start to creep back in and we will end up exactly where we are at again.
@@wesandell *”The fact that you jump to immediately only blaming women is part of the problem.”* That’s not what my post said, genius. The fact of the matter is there’s too many people like you who believe women have no agency.
To be honest… as a guy… I’m not keen on weak men, either. I used to climb, and I tried to explain to a woman once that there are two kinds of men. The guys I would trust to hold the other end of my belay, and the guys I wouldn’t. It didn’t mean I couldn’t be close friends with the latter type… It was just, I don’t want to end up having to rely on them in a dicey situation. Not that they for sure wouldn’t step up… just that it was iffy as to whether they would. On the other end of that rope you need the kind of man you are certain will hold fast no matter how deep the rope burns.
I've dealt with women who are too independent and too masculine before. They would say "No man, so far, could handle me." It's not because of the tantrums, because they didn't have them - it was those moments where the man knew where to go. Almost all of them had issues from growing up. For example, they never had their own space, privacy, available parents, or family. I have had almost all of them say that I treated them better than their family - close to being family. However, I didn't want to be a brother, I wanted them to be my wife. It really sucks for me, as I never ended up with them in a relationship. However, because of me and my questions, they did go into therapy to resolve their issues. Most of them felt unsafe in their environment. They also felt that they had to lead all the time. I mean, their job was either project manager or a director of a department. But when they returned home, they wanted to feel like a girl. They wanted to feel like they didn't go to another place to lead. So, when they felt safe with me and felt that they didn't need to lead all the time, it exposed their issue. Some of them were absolutely hot and attractive - but yeah, unfortunately, they entered therapy and I finding another woman.
I was at a job where they told us there was a 3 second rule, meaning don't look at a woman for more than 3 seconds. Predatory? Flirting? I'm not sure what the reason was and they never said.
Because if a woman doesn't find you are desirable, then looking into her eyes for more than a few seconds makes you creepy. Then management has an issue on their hands. I'm guessing.
I think businesses should do everything in their power to not hire people who are going to cause that sort of trouble. Oh some new outrageous draconian rule? Nah I think just not hiring women is more reasonable
@@tannagra works in the gym too. Occasionally there are these girls with yoga pants working out so i don't look at them. Last week there was one that moved almost in front of me while there was a big open space without people where she could have moved to as well lol. I just walked elsewhere.
@@j.p.5716 that ISN'T the "only chance to win". You just exposed the problem right there; Scarcity mindset. You don't wait until it becomes exhausting, then attempt to check her. You check her bull ish FROM JUMP! If she fails to comply, then YOU bounce! You spared yourself undue stress = WIN. You didn't waste time putting up with that nonsense only for the relationship to end anyway = WIN. If she DOES comply and you don't have to deal with it again = WIN. A male puts up with that crap, it's because he fears losing what he's inevitably going to lose anyway or he fears being alone...again.
My ex g/f was 100% this woman. She couldn't shut it off, it was some desperate need to dominate every interaction. Cue a cycle of her saying something intended to imasculate or dominate, I call it out, a fight begins that isn't resolved for days because she would NOT back down or admit wrongdoing. Only after it ended did I realize I was mentally exhausted. Now I'm not particularly interested in dating an "empowered" woman.
Waaaw. My ex girlfriend was exactly like this. She started from being super cute submissive and gentle to arguing all the time even tho she was wrong 99% of the time and she knew it. I did drop the ball at one point, huge mistake on my part, that i think changed her to this when i said she should help me plan trips and stuff more why i have to do all the thinking. What happened later in relationship is she took on her every aspect of planning but the ones i felt were really important. And she did it only so she could say back to me i am not helping enough. When i look at my relationship its truly amazing how we actually stayed together for 8 years. She didnt have father in her life, and her brother is well...absent to say the least. And i knew that from the beginning its gonna be hard. But she wanted our relationship to work out, its just the way she switched was for me impossible to contain. She always said no to my suggestions, always argue about anything i say and while i knew she is testing me i was always trying to be supportive towards her while she did the opposite. Started calling me names and being disrespectful more and more. After that switched in her only time we had peace and love is was when i left her and told her to think about her actions and then we can proceed. Sadly it lasted only a week before another disrespectful or aggressive behavior occurred. I still love her to this day, but had to leave, i felt like after years of struggle i was so spent emotionally that i could break down and cry at any point. I wasnt like this at all. All my life i saw these people weak, and not stable, but she broke me like nothing i could have imagined. We still meet time to time and i can tell we love each other and we both cry hugging and talking how we miss times together, but after so many tries it just doas not work. I think she wants father figure in her life and she doas not see me as one nor i want to be. I dont want to treat my partner as a child. Irony is when i do that, she ether loves it and goes with it or hates it and says why i treat her like a child. Weirdest stuff i have ever experienced in my life.
Its disgusting to think that person can vote... hold positions of authority and responsibility. I wouldn't trust her to wrap a burrito for me. It's grotesque the level of weakness we except and expect from women
So they would rather go down that road rather than be honest with those men and say, "Thanks, but I'm not interested". That's a waste of everyone's time and energy. Not cool.
I doubt Alex was encouraging men to wife up broken women (just so they could fix them). Instead he gave a possible prescription for men already in a t0xic marriages and a cautionary tale for everyone else.
The one thing that bothers me is women want this from a man and wants you to be taken care of emotionally, and physiologicaly. But if I had kids then that's pretty much another kid I have to take care of and im not for that. I already got enough stresses in my life.
The clip with that woman who said "you never hit a man where he's weak" was SOOOOOO true! When you "hit" a man when he's vulnerable and being open about it is when women react with anger at his "weakness", and he will NEVER forget that you kicked him when he was down. He will instantly, and irrevocably, lose ALL respect and trust for you. Your relationship will NEVER be the same again. He will pull back from her, put up walls between you both, and stop being open and eager for her. The only way to undo this is for her to give HIM what he used to give HER - a LOT. She has to PROVE that she wants him and loves him and she will NEVER DO IT AGAIN or he will leave emotionally, mentally, and possibly even physically. The pain he feels in his SOUL, when the person he trusts and has given everything of himself to can treat him like that, is unbelievable until it happens. It turns LOVE into HATE, and results in apathy and indifference. "Loving people" DON'T TREAT EACH OTHER LIKE THAT.
Once you are weak for some periods of time, they will push their boundaries because they like being stronger at someone else's expense, that's their nature, and once she gets close to your level of strength, it's over.
@@Lenny_HondoBut it can give you temporary leverage. Which is just another tool at their disposal. The only thing stopping someone from using that tool is integrity…
Me as well. The moment I sense adversity, she is gone. Real men do not want a co-pilot, they want a flight attendant. Beta cucks want a co-pilot. I would rather fly the plane alone.
So... she intentionally fucks with the relationship. Kills her own attraction to you. Makes herself resent you. Changes her personality towards you based on her "new" emotions. Takes her anger out on you. Demands you give her all she wants if SHE ends the relationship. And its the MAN'S fault?? These ridiculous women play mind games and worp their own sense of realty, just to blame the other person.
it can be a thing about control but it is also a psychological thing, women who had a sad childhood, daddy issues, BPD love drama, love to argue, they thrive on this...
A lot of women just like to argue. Men like agreement to maintain order. Then men can sit back and either rest or advance their state. But a woman likes conversation, and that is often in the form of debate. For a tired man, debate is argument. If a tired man gives in and concedes the argument to shut up his shrew, he is seen as weak. If he forces a win, he is seen as overbearing and controlling. If you want proof about a woman wanting to argue, look at your nearest hair salon or woman dominated business. When there are no customers, they will be fighting and snipping at each other when the place is empty.
What requires constant strength and demonstrated power? A competitive environment 😮 do you want to live that way constantly? Being in a war or in pro sports 24.7?😢
I guess I'm old school. I always tried to nip things in the bud very quickly in the beginning by saying things like "don't talk like that to me again" or "don't do that again". Not yelling, or in public, but calm, low and in a deep voice. Worked...
This is a function of trust and respect. If I lead and I am constantly nagged, tested picked at and fought, then it shows a lack of respect and trust. I would be out of there as soon as I could.
Girls who brag about their ''worth'' fail to notice THEY are the ''diminishing asset''. Men pay a lot for that beautiful, sexy car. What do they do with it later on ? A woman who chooses to be mean to you, is no diff than a car that always breaks. Is YOUR ride too noisy, undependable, or high maintenance ? Time to TRADE.
The more right summary of this video is... A woman wants you to take care of everything and make all the decisions as long as she gets what she wants and gets her way.
The part about learning that she needs to learn to trust you is so true. It is double duty and very difficult I can attest. Very confounding from my perspective. Like some bizarre alternative multi dimensional reality I am trying to engage with simultaneously. Where they may be some brief sliver that opens up where I can try and relay this. It is wild to observe.
Martial arts. Being raised by her may make you underestimate the benefits of rigorous physical exercise. You will figure out so many things while honing your body. You will find the solution to many of your internal issues when stop focusing on them and start focusing on your body. Martial arts and weightlifting will give you plenty of “aha” moments even though working out has nothing to do with the problems in your head. Start working on the body and the mind and spirit will follow. Also get away from her. Try to leave silently. Get some money and get a place to live. I had to live in my car at 18. You may have to sacrifice comfort to get results. The truth is, nobody is going to take you where you want to go. You can suffer alone while you work towards your goal or you can stay with these people and never achieve those goals ever. Both are shitty options but at least one has a light in the tunnel. I personally wouldn’t trust anyone enough to tell them where the light is at. They might try to trip you while you’re still in the dark. Plan in silence. Leave in silence.
@@hellaspoicey2280this comment could have written by me. Martial arts and weightlifting really is a good answer. It will be much more than what you anticipate it to be.
Crazyness is in the nature of woemean, no pill needed to bring this up. But you are right, the pill does alter her brain chemistry. And this can lead to various outcomes, some severe, some crazy. And stopping the intake can have effects too! All in all it can have detrimental consequences. For her man too. And of course it is his fault😂
Between hormonal birth control and the fact that 2/3 of women in my generation are on some form of pych meds, I am shocked we take any of them seriously. I mean they aren't even themselves. If they start on some pych med and some BC in high school between 16-18 and you meet them at 25, they are so far removed from who they actually are, like organically. That you might as well be meeting a ghost
Andrew great video but I'll keep my dogs and pass on "training" a woman. The juice is not worth the squeeze anymore. My peace and quiet is too good now. I spent 23yrs married to a covert narcissist who was never happy. I've worked too hard in the past 2 yrs on myself to give it all up. I have my own business now and can do what I please. If I want "companionship" I'll pay for it, then go home.
Women desire and are only attracted to strength, no matter what they say. It's innate. That's why it's so important for you as a man to be confident and lead at all times. She can't love you if she doesn't respect you.
What stops those annoying chihuahua from yapping at big dogs? Not only are they immature, even if they found a "weak point" the chihuahua is effectively irrelevant, even if there was some point to the constant yapping it could never in all of its wildest dreams execute any real dominance over the bigger dog.
'they like to submit', sure they like to burden the responsibility on someone else's shoulders, but when it comes to power, they will never actually give that up. the minute their submission doesn't go exactly the way they dictate, then they sky will fall. That's not real submission, that's just levying accountability on someone else's shoulders so they can continue to be responsibility free. Remember guys, no matter how high a pedestal you can place her on, she'll still place herself on a higher one.
My ex did this so many times, I was walking on eggshells, I still haven't recovered, the thought of a relationship even terrifies me, I am so scared of ever being in a relationship, it genuinely felt like prison. I'm only 25 and I am so afraid of getting married.
Math doesn't add up.50y ago women could be housewifes with regular men with normal jobs. But now, to have a house and a wife at home you need to work more harder than ever before meanwhile as this blond lady said, so she can spend time learning recipes and do whatever.Thats nice but being 12+h at work so she can cook and be bored then cheat and leave you anyway is really akward equation.People say its stupid to get students loan. Getting a mortgage on a house is stupid as well then, if there is like 50% chance you will lose it. I am really trying to be somewhat positive but ....there is nothing.
Not sure if it was on this channel or not but it's such a HUGE thing to remember masculinity is MANDATORY to functioning in life. Feminity is a luxury. Lots of women are forced to become men just to pay thier bills.
It would be great to allow these women to go on and confidently explain how they smell weakness, and how it's an incredible turn off, and then after they're done let them know that it's the exact same thing when they show masculine traits to a man. As a man, if you don't learn how to portray strength, good luck attracting women. As a woman, if you're going to display your masculine energy until someone proves to you that they can lead you and take charge and then you'll slip into your feminine energy.....good luck keeping a man. If you're pretty, you're going to attract them...that's a given. Good luck keeping them after you speak.
What happened to just, I like you, you like me, let’s hangout together? Yeah, I get that you can’t be a pushover, but I’m also not going to let that affect the kindness and compassion I treat others with. I’m not going to be a dick to pass some dumb tests for women I don’t give two shits about.
I was always taught that it was disrespectful to hold eye contact in most situations because it's a sign or que that you're intent on domination. I still find this to be true. At the same time, it can also be a sign of respect as you're giving your full attention to that person. For both of these reasons I still look people dead in the eyes because chances are wherever I go I am working to grow and am intent on dominating and working with others.
The need to control the man and then completely ignore or push him away is typical for women with narcissistic tendencies who have raised themselves (!) to have everyone chasing after them. Such women do not see the man (or ppl in general) as a person per se, but as a supply of attention. They have no emotionally maturity or responsibility. And above all, the man always has to play the shark in the fish tank, which is extremely tiring in the long run. It's okay for a while if you know what you're getting into and realize how much energy it will take, if you play this game. But at the end of the day it's a dead end. It's not worth it. A woman and a man with a healthy perception, with empathy and self-worth will not allow such a dynamic, but will simply quietly move away.
"Let me drive the car" "No" Result: 😡 "I said let me drive!" 😤 "I said NO." Result: 😡😡 "Let me drive, dammit!!" "Ok" Result: "Actually I'd like to get out, I'm not attracted to you anymore."
If I had the opportunity to give my younger self advice I would tell him to have a conversation with my wife before engagement about who is going to take the lead in the relationship. Then make commitments about it. It'll make easier to maintain boundaries.
The only girl that I've been really, really attracted to was a very sweet and very feminine girl who made me feel more masculine. And since that made me more masculine, that in turn made her more feminine. A two way street. I despise these modern so called "strong women" who are the exact opposite and try to challenge men etc.
Absolutely! My ex was abused as a child.. I didn’t know till just a few years prior to divorce.. it ruined our marriage.. and I just couldn’t figure out why it was so toxic..
Mistakes guys make with women: *Being Middle Eastern. *Being short. *Being poor. *Being ugly. *Being a student. *Living with your parents. *Wearing briefs. *Having a cat. *Listening to heavy metal.
I asked my mom why she and my dad have made it so long 50+ yrs when others got divorced, she said because I gave my word when I took the vows and dad did the same. Unless you approach marriage this way (duty) it won't last. They said it's the little victories that sustained them for the long run, gutting through arguments together.
Somehow, it's practically impossible for women to understand quiet confidence. The dude that knows he's tough doesn't need to prove it, but the cocky guy who's loud, stupid, and obnoxious (the one that knows he's not a man so he trys really hard to convince orhers) is the one women think is tough, then get surprised when the only thing he can beat up is her.
I think you did make it make sense. She doesn't want the car to go off a cliff. She wants you to drive it and keep it on the road going somewhere worth going. If she doesn't trust you to make the right choices, to keep the car from going off the cliff, she has to take the wheel. You have to convince her that you drive well. That you make the right choices. That you know where you're going, how to get there, and can drive the car. If she *thinks* you've made a wrong choice, even if you agree, you always have to keep her confident that you'll choose right the *next* time. That you're a good bet for making those decisions. If she *wants* a different choice, you can accommodate her preference as her whimsy, because women like to be accommodated too. But she was not right and you were not wrong. You were accommodating her preference. And you can't accommodate her whimsy all the time, because that indicates you didn't really have a clear view of her welfare in the first place. You'll stop for ice cream *sometimes*, as a *treat*. But you should have a bigger agenda and plan for where you want to take her that's more important and effective than those side trips.
This *ONLY WORKS* with high quality women, as a lot of modern women are continuously fighting against any form of dominance/leading. My very last ex was *CONSTANTLY* combative, it is impossible to be "the man" when you are constantly battling with a girl who you love (but obviously shouldnt love). Low quality women are on the rise, and EVERY low quality women will behave this way.
I got to the stage of avoiding eye contact with my wife (separated) because it felt like she was an energy vampire. In general I even lock eyes with people who appear genuine and positive.
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Control: A problem for men and women. An individual who needs control is 'out of control', nothing will satiate that need. Avoid these people. Imagine the following: purchasing control by giving away your punany is purely transactional and doesn't work; putting up with a complainer will never fill their void ....
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I don't give a shi* what women 'think'.
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My wife did this - constant picking and complaining. Right up to the day where I told her, very bluntly, that if she carried on I would end our relationship. Guess what? She just had to test me and see if I meant it. We are now divorced. Never been happier...
Her loss...
Good for you, mate.
You sir deserve a standing ovation.
You have to mark your limits right from start. Otherwise, there would be no way back.
You corrected your mistake by divorcing her, she didnt correct her mistake and behave, that's a big difference between us, we as men learn from our mistakes and by observing others, women never learn til it's too late
I had a lesbian friend come over to cry on my shoulder after a breakup with a girl. Her exact words: "I never felt so bad for men until I started dating women. Mean are easy: you feed 'em, you f*** 'em, and you pat him on the head once in a while and tell him he's doing good. With women, nothing works consistently!"
How I wish I had that recording in a woman's voice - it would be literally priceless.
My sister said the same thing when she was looking for new friends on bumble. She moved to Dallas and wants a friend group. The level of flake, neediness, crazyness, and ghosting she encountered opened her eyes. She told me "I now understand your problems, all I am trying to do is have a friend I can go to coffee with a couple of times a month and this is insane".
You know women are truly Fd up when even a lesbian sides with men and admits relationships with women are crazy and can be a nightmare on so many different levels.
It doesn’t seem to matter what it is they eventually want the opposite. That’s my experience. It’s just too much hassle and not fun just stress.
Why do you need a chick to get you to believe in yourself ? ...you were born a complete being with nothing missing. GTF up off the ground and dust yourself off and keep on keeping on.
If you want to rely on someone, speak to your Creator.
@user-se2zg5he4q I call out my wife every time she does this to me. I even pull the old woman trick of digging up incidents that prove my point from several months back.
Usually its something stupid like complaining I didn't ask her first before substituting a different brand of cheese because her preferred brand is sold out... then when it happens again a few weeks later and I ask her what she wants she complains I can't make a decision without asking her first. 😂😂😂
Fathers, make your daughters hear the word "NO" often. Women, remember that when you see your husband's flaws that you're equally flawed.
As a Dad it's tough. Even little girls figure out they can get their way by being a big enough PITA. As guys we're doing the "is this fight worth the costs calculation" and often forget the long term consequences of a short term win.
@@JimiJames528 I married "daddy's little girl" and every time I enforce my boundaries she gives me a tantrum. He rarely said no. He's apologized for that but unlike him, I don't have the ability to discipline her.
Likely more so
Equally!?!?!
@@bazookacat8421 not in exactly the same ways but men and women have complimentary strengths and weaknesses.
I no longer care whether they like what they hear.
I only tell women the truth, the ones that cry let em cry
Me also, I don't really care myself!! A different animal that's for sure!
Me too, so glad you typed that
For real. I speak honestly, and if they don't like it well it's just not my problem
Or see. But be careful in the work place with women around. I know for a fact that you may say something that makes her/them FEEL a certain way. Nothing rude or vulgar etc. But she FEELS its time to go on a reputation assault. They will bend the truth, lie or intrerpret things in a way that fits their psychotic narrative. And boom ! here you are in H.R. or having a meeting with the boss. Be strong, confident etc but be careful if you want to hang on to your job around them. Not all of course. But you only need one and there is more than one of that sort around in most cases. Silence is gold. But if they need/want something that too could get you in trouble. (ignoring them or just being minimal) cheers.
Women can never just "be" - they always be testing, expecting, looking for problems.
Can't they just chill a bit? So tidious honestly.
100% - Nothing can be simple and easy with them. Everything is competitive and over analysed.
No.
@@John_Wood_ Facts!
We gave them too much executive function and they are not able to handle it. They are naturally too high in anxiety and therefore cannot just be still and sit in peace. That constant need to push, test, prod, fiddle, and interfere. That is exactly why our ancestors didn't let them vote or hold positions of authority.
@@John_Wood_I had a lesbian friend come over to cry on my shoulder after a breakup with a girl. Her exact words: "I never felt so bad for men until I started dating women. Mean are easy: you feed 'em, you f*** 'em, and you pat him on the head once in a while and tell him he's doing good. With women, nothing works consistently!"
How I wish I had that recording in a woman's voice - it would be literally priceless.
I have a very badly injured back, old and permanent injury. The other day I worked a 16 hour shift. My girlfriend knew I was in pain, very sore and tired, I told her so. But she still threw a tantrum after I refused to help her empty the dishwasher and help cook & clean.
Why would I want to Marry a person like that? How can I trust her to appreciate the sacrifices I would inevitably end up making for the benefit of our relationship & family?
You mean ex girlfriend?
If you know it won't work now, imagine if you are older. Don't go through that
@@inverted_real_it_y seeming like it
@@ceoatcrystalsoft4942 you're dead right about that
Dude, you need to be done with her.
Women who grew up with strong, competent fathers can still end up with "daddy issues." That is because children in the modern era are not actually raised by their parents; they are raised by the other children in their peer group. In pre-industrial societies, children DID pick up most of their social cues by observing the way their parents and other close family members like aunts and uncles behaved toward each other. There was a strong cross-generational transfer of knowledge in pre-industrial societies, and children tended to view the world through the same lens as their parents.
After the industrial revolution, modern societies adopted the public school system as we know it today; children were thereafter isolated from their parents and segregated into peer groups with other children around the same age for hours each day, five days a week, for months out of the year. The children in that setting look to other children for the social cues on how to behave toward other human beings. That is why modern societies are dominated by transitory behavioral trends (e.g., popular music and clothing styles) and by inter-generational conflict.
The rise of internet culture has exacerbated this trend; smartphones and social media have encouraged young people to look even more to their peers for social cues and to disregard the accumulated social wisdom of their parents. As a consequence of this pernicious peer influence, a girl who grew up with a good father figure who provided his family with strong leadership may still reach adulthood believing that men are "trash" and that strong male leadership is "toxic" because that is the belief that is trending among the other women in her peer group.
TL:DR: When you are trying to assess whether or not a woman is relationship material, don't just consider the quality of the father figures in her life; you need to pay attention to what sort of women she hangs out with and whose opinions she respects. She might have a great dad, but her peers are the ones she looks to for social cues.
Good observations.Thanks.
Dead right. One of the things I hated most growing up was affluent suburan white women who hate their fathers. In reality their fathers are good men. But these girls were too weak to resist the social conditioning and found some reason here or there to make their father the enemy, and then a decade of bad decisions later, they are 25 and turned out like a bums pocket.
If she says “sprinkle sprinkle” then don’t walk away, run away.
It takes a village to raise a child. I am African and 100% agree on that. Nowadays kids are raised by social media influencers
@@GandalfTheWise0002 interesting theory
Spot on. They hate it either way.
- If you're leading, she will hate it overtly, challenging your decisions, threatening to leave, creating drama, tears, fights, but she will bang you.
- If you're being agreeable, you might have some sort of peace and stability, but she'll hate you covertly, finding ever smaller reasons to nag and there definitely will be no bedroom action (not with you, that is)
Choose one
Basically , women display traits of a personality disorder
The second scenario happens when they are selfish and are mainly driven/possessed by their ego and narcissism and thus in some level believe that you should make your life about her, about making her life more fun and easy.
It shows that she isn't nurturing and cating and that she wants to help others and work together as equal humans, which it means that she won't be a good friend and by extension she won't be a good wife and mother.
Can't win. They self sabotage themselves, always.
Neither. Done both, neither were worth it.
My kids mom pulled that crap. Went no sex for months to the point moved out, and constantly demanding, draining, putting me down in front of the kid, prob cheating with her ex husband or ex boyfriend and knew it but 2 year old needed me stayin close and tried way too long to work it out. Told me didnt want it and find someone else to bang, left. The next day went to see blues traveler with the ex she hated second most. Texts the next day while im workin tryin to use the kid to get me to come over and cook dinner knowing she would turn btch after. Said sure, but im gonna reek of my ex and id just assume take him for the night. Suddenly she was begging and offering butt stuff while sober tryin to keep me on the hook padding her lifestyle. 3 weeks later i walk in and shes got fresh hickies on display and all i said was huh, ex husband or brought some stranger round my kid? Eh whatever, think Chili Peppers is this weekend and went to cookin for my kid as shes dumbfounded i had zero fks left to give. Bout half hour after dinner i hear her screaming at her phone after she found out her ex had decided to stay with the new girl instead. Again the begging. Now that shes hittin the wall and her crash diets are messin with her metabolism, she lookin like an overly pierced whoopie goldberg more by the day. Screwed on custody for now but least things are peaceful now and shes some idiot she baby trapped's problem.
The problem is when a woman perceives a man as "weak" they choose to "dominate" qnd "crush" him. That shows a level of immorality and sociopathy that basically makes them the female equivalent of a "bad boy". If they find a man "weak" the only two choices is to either keep their distance or better yet, if said man is a friend or family member, to help him and assist him into becoming the type of man she would not consider weak. The latter is the ideal and I would say necessary because that way they can make sure that the people around them, in their immediate social circle, are strong and capable of helping and protecting them in problematic situations, while the former will just ensure that nobody would want to be around them, let alone help them.
Now the reason most of them today don't show "support" to the man or helps him "built himself up" is because most of them are, as alexander said, selfish to the point point of narcissism and solipsism. They at some level believe that the wirld and other oeiples lives revolve around her and that means she doesn't have to do anything to make her life and above all others lives better, itvis others job and obligation to make her life better and uf they can't di that then they shouldn't exist.
I cannot get past their responses. They talk about "crushing" or "crumbling" someone as if she doesn't have a choice.
It's as if accountability for their own existence and choices never enters their mind.
It's been the great irony about feminism. The original founding principle of feminism, from the mouths and writings of it's creators, was that "women are inherently morally superior to men."
*_All evidence to the contrary._*
They choose violence
Main character syndrome.
Absolutely. All the psychological rational is nothing but do for me and I don’t do for you. It’s not normal, biological or natural. It’s lack of emotional development. The Chads can have it😅
Society expects and apologizes for sociopathic, manipulative, and destructive tendencies in women. Their character traits, no matter how dark and immoral, are either ignored, forgiven, or excused. Time and time again, zero accountability is required by the modern woman.
Meanwhile, men are demonized for the very product of their natural hormonal balance. Hence why we have drugged entire generations of young boys to keep them docile, to sit quietly and talk all day, just like the little girls do naturally.
Women: I want to be independent... I want to make decisions...
Also women: I want to be take care of... I don't want make decisions...
So what is it, ladies?
Whatever is most advantageous for the current situation.
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They don’t know
"Whatever they like, cuz this is all what matters" 🤡
Both.
The worst thing is that you can't be strong all the time, everyone slips from time to time
that's why living under the same roof is a bad idea
Try telling women that they expect a man to be a combination of superman and james bond.
Thats true but you dont have to SHOW it to anyone. Supreme Lord is right about never cohabitating too.
True.
Excatly. And this whole idea that man should be the leader in relationship is BS nowadays. Modern women want all the upsides of traditional man while they have none of the upsides of traditional woman.
Women generally want the guys they already like to look them in the eyes/compliment them/talk to them/etc. If she doesn't like you, then you're the creep looking at her, talking to her.
Women will badger a man constantly and he will ignore it and she will call him weak, up until the day she physically attacks him and he decks her. Then she will cry like a baby and run to her lawyer. Women have no clue why men don't bother to answer trivial babble. Happened to me.
I know it mate. Smacked mine in the ass with a serving spoon, and she ran away with the kids. If she had stayed in her own lane I would not have lost patience, but you know women. They think they know better.
This is why our ancestors took such an intolerant approach. They knew where all this "equality" would end up.
@@FirstLast-gk6lgfuckin facts 😂
The word no? Ohh i told my ex once "when you try to argue with me for entertainment.. it makes me think you look fat" might be the only time i ever shut her up.
I used to take my GF to the movies, just to shut her up for a couple of hours.
When I was married, the only way to shut her up was to ask, "What do you want?" She couldn't say, "A pointless fight", so she shut up.
This is gold. Thank you for the entertainment. You look slim.
@@chuck8094Why did you marry her then?
Because vvomen never change from the time they meet you to the time they turn into witches. Right?@@hellaspoicey2280
@@chuck8094sht that one i was like 16 and 3 years younger, pretty well knew i was her side piece and was for the best. flat said she liked arguing when she got mad i would just brush her off or say theres the door then. On one occasion she managed to irk me and wouldnt leave, kept standing in the doorway demanding a kiss first. Planted one on her, wrapped my arms round her, picked her up off the ground all romantic like... *Click* opened the screen door, sat her down on the porch, walked back in locking the door as i hear her go WTF... Ok fk you. Fine im leaving.. but, that was pretty funny.
I cant stand arguimg and bickering esp when i know theyre just using me for a ego fix. Problem is the quiet girls are worse, less predictable when theyre gonna blindside ya with bs.
I have two daughters.
I wasn't always home.
I worked abroad and missed some of their childhood, but when i was here I was 100% involved.
Its difficult working against the gynocentric propaganda they are always consuming.
Women in today's world live in delusion about their "worth" and capability. They think they should rule the relationship instead of be a part of the relationship and would rather argue at every turn to get there way but that's ONLY a recipe for being alone.
My ex had a weak father and dominant mother, as a result she tried to dominate me, I kicked her out. I know one another girl whose father was jobless and physically weak while the mother did the earning and was mentally and physically strong, the daughter later filed a false case against her husband to get alimony. so yeah, weak father or no father is a true problem.
That's why it's advisable to date a girl who has good relationship with her father. 304s always have daddy issues and general contempt of men.
@@rajakghosh6602 definitely. I learned the hard way. But was enough to break my delusion and illusion
Unfortunately,
The last example utilised is THE most frightening to every male in the West.
The opportunistic cowardly woman who knows that the laws will favour.
E.g. these fatherless women won't care and will fire feaux domestic violence charges and then Alimony. It turns Judg3s instantly against the man.
My wife (separated) has a VERY dominate mother and weak father. When she couldn't dominate me she she left. Problem I had was that for all her mothers faults she could at least run a house and be a competent leader. Her daughter (my wife) wanted to be the big boss without any capability or leadership qualities.
Yep. I married a woman who didn't have a relationship with her father. I always thought she would get to the point where she would trust me and not be constantly testing me. There was no amount of time where that was going to happen.
Without the role of positive masculinity in women's life it's easy to fall prey to lies of a functioning Sociopaths and Psychopaths.
Both sociopath & psychopath can mimick the qualities of masculinity, confidence and extrovertness. Its easy to fall to their general charms without realizing how badly damaged they're underneath. So having a strong father in childs life is of utmost importance.
The hero and the villain share many qualities
A woman will always test a man.
She's unhappy when the guy doesn't listen and doesnt do what she's complaing about.
But she becomes miserable when he's doing everything whatever she's asking or demanding.
The fact she is now leading the relationship and he's following her when it should be the other way around.
They refuse to follow and are incapable of leading. What's a man to do?
I've never once witnessed a woman leading a relationship. They can claim it all they want, but from what I've seen nothing changes and they're just claiming to be "leading".
Practically speaking, it usually just means that she got a new job that pays more money and she takes that to mean that she's suddenly "in charge"
More proof that it's impossible to make most women happy. The words "content" & "peaceful" do not exist in their vocabulary
@@decwowit sounds like you've never witnessed nor been in a relationship with a deeply narcissistic and/or BPD woman. These type of horrible women WILL (eventually) emotionally, mentally and spiritually destroy even the most masculine confident and strong male. They are truly toxic to any relationship.
@@decwow he is fully responsible and has zero authority, she leads and dominates via proxy power, the level she dials it up is on a sliding scale and up to her where it lands.
I told this to my wife and daughters. Your woman basically wants to melt into you. She wants to submit because that's what makes her happy. Women want two things in a relationship, and that is vulnerability and security. She's not going to feel safe with you without being vulnerable. When a woman breaks down and cries in your shoulders to vent, that's a good thing. It means she trusts you. She just wants to held and listened to. Men want loyalty and respect. In order to receive it, you have to break down her walls. That's why women test. The best way to pass the test is to say, "Cut the bullshit. I know what you're doing. I don't do tests. You do that again. You're gone." Show her where her suitcase is to express the point. Then, disengage with her. The way it works is this. Don't reward bad behavior and reward only good behavior. If she's the type to yell, walk away from her and tell her the behavior shown is unacceptable. Tell her to leave, or I'm gone and done. If she loves you, she will come to you in a timid voice and even apologize to you. She'll start to vent and want to get close to you. It's a battle, but after 13 years of marriage, I have peace. I have 2 daughters. I am surrounded. There are consequences for crossing dad. I also don't let anyone mess with my women. A woman wants in the end to surrender to you. Part of the reason we're in this situation is because men let women railroad and disrespect us. Men let women domineer them.
To play devils advocate, you are also lucky she wasn’t the type file false abuse charges. Some women come back in a timid voice and apologize. Some “get even”.
Very good advice.
Two daughters here as well so I know what you mean. (One in college and a teenager)
The good thing about the one in college…. When she comes home and tries to spread her academia B.S.,
My younger daughter is picking up on it.
I think younger females need to hear it from the source if you know what I mean.
Sometimes I want to run away , lol,
But you’re right.
@@carljohnson6264 mine too.
@hellaspoicey2280 that's called someone that's an attention seeker and a toxic woman. I don't get involved with women that way. Not every woman is likely to do this. I have been with my wife for 13 years for a reason. Also my wife is my wife for a reason. It's because she earned it. My wife has been through homelessness with me. Why would my wife go through all this crap to throw me away? She's very loyal to me. I never thought of getting married, but she earned my trust and respect. She is my backer.
@@abraynor84 Awesome👍
I said I was playing devils advocate… Obviously I think it’s a small minority of men who get caught up in that situation or I wouldn’t have said that. I wasn’t implying anything about you or your family. Stay strong.
This is why my father left my mother. Endless s*it tests. And I don’t blame him. Its exhausting. There’s quite literally never any peace. Who wants to deal with that their entire life? And if he lost a job?? Forget about it.
Relatable
If you don't figure out how to pass the tests, you will keep getting them. You have to pass the tests to settle them down so they can feel safe and secure. They don't do it because they want to, but because they have to.
@@j.p.5716 Passing the same test over and over is the problem here. Nobody cares if she does it once or twice. Even a dozen times. It’s when you’ve gone through this countless times, that’s when men accept that she won’t change for him, for herself or for god. It’s a waste of everyone’s time.
@@hellaspoicey2280 - If she keeps testing you over and over again, you are not passing the test. If you were, she would settle down and stop.
@@j.p.5716 Sometimes it goes beyond into personality disorder territory.
This is why they also treat short, unfit, and/or unattractive in general men like they are barely human. Then, even when they get with a perfect guy who gives them everything they want, they suddenly get disgusted because when you give her everything, you also give her control. This is why the real man they want is a man who makes her give him everything he wants, and even if it's low-key abusive, she also likes it because now they get something to gossip about at brunch.
So you think that my wive tells everyone (including the therapist) that I am too dominant is a good sign?
Never confuse kindness with weakness. And never confuse a55hole behavior with strength.
Too bad women learn this lesson way too late if ever.
This was the root of my divorce. My ex’s father is a completely emotionally unavailable robot and my ex never had love from him. She turned into a control freak batshit crazy person after we got married and she stopped working. Her days were spent fighting me for control and needing constant reassurance of things that didn’t need to be discussed. The more I didn’t allow her control, the more drama. She wasn’t able to allow me to lead her. No matter how many times it was discussed, she couldn’t. She turned into a tantrum throwing child. Throwing doors, throwing things and ultimately throwing punches. I left.
The issue is her mother. Girls must be raised by chaste mothers and strict fathers. Her mother is trash or non-existent.
People who mentally bully others are mostly egotistical, shallow control freaks who are not deserving of attention or affection. Manipulators are easily seen and should be ignored. One upmanship in a relationship only leads to heartache and break ups.
Pretty much every woman I've been involved with has seemed determined to knock me down rather than build me up
Have you been dating traditional women?
@@hellaspoicey2280 Fake traditional women exist too and they seem to outnumber most genuine traditional women.
@@hellaspoicey2280traditional women do this too. You have to vet and find the right one
If a guy is easy going and not highly opinionated (personally I am like that) then he is either weak or he is chill depending on how the women sees you (your status etc). To many of us guys, we don't sweat the small stuff but that small stuff is a major issue to women. Mountain out of a mole hill....
... And the reason women seek control, is because they LOVE THE DRAMA. Why do you think they love gossip and all those reality love show? Drama!!!
@@highlanderknight Agree completely. I can't tell you the number of times women mistook my easy going attitude for weakness. They always had a "come to Jesus" moment when they hit a boundary and the consequences were instant. "But wait, you're the nice guy." LOL.
@@somewhat.random Typical experience for a lot of kind , good guys. A lot of females confuse that with weakness.
@@guntertorfs6486 yeah, somehow along the way decency is disgusting to women now.
@@somewhat.randomToo bad that line for me is them getting kicked out. They always try to switch up last minute. It’s simply too late.
Today, I do not give women a second look, unless they turn in my direction, and even then, I'll move away from them. I prefer as little contact with them as possible. Ladies, remember, it was you, who told men to leave.
I got challenged 💯 of the time. After 15 years I started to crumble and just agreed. When I got good at avoid fighting she said she wanted a divorce. I was tired of fighting to have a relationship that was about fighting
9:39
The reason why men have become incompetent and "don't supply the same level of security as before" is due to no longer having a reason and thus the motivation to work and too want to protect and provide for a family due to now having an overbearing state/ruling class offering to do that in their place (in exchange for people's silent and obedience concent). How did it get that way? Women, due to their natural desire for being provided and protected, blindly gave support for the increasing/centralization of the power of the state (over people's lives) because they've been dupped into believeing that a distant ruling class, made up of people who by the nature of the job sees them as lesser and themselves as superior to the general public, are better suited to protect and provide for them than loving husbands and fathers with an actual emotional bond (incentive) to do those things. This essential makes the state an artificial substitute for fathers and husbands that most women welcome with open arms because they no longer have to raise themselves to the standards of beign a good person in order to be a good wife and mother.
I see that in women who live in northern Europe. They naively believed in the government that doesn't jail the immigrants who committed grape.
304 inflation
They started with the black community in America and look at them now…
Welfare replaced the working man. Kids became fatherless. The community never recovered. They were the lab rats.
That community saw the highest economic increase out of every demographic in America before the 50’s. Then the women started to compete with the men instead of working together. It was a recipe for disaster. And now it’s spreading across all western nations. The powers at be want people divided. Complacent, tired and submissive people are easy to control. Strong men aren’t easy to control and strong women will heal and inspire those men to fight again and again. Can’t have that.
I've been married to the same woman for over 20 years. She is a good woman, but thinking you can train or "parent" her to trust is delusional. She can not change, and it will not be worth it. No matter how strong you are, she can and will wear you down.
It's clear you need to get out.
Unfortunately, I agree. I think some women are just born that way - to be dominant and controlling. It's not as simple as "the man taking charge." Whenever I finally took charge with my ex-wife, our marriage fell apart and we (luckily) divorced. She remarried to a beta, and is happy (as is he).
I’ve never seen a woman be happy as the dominant. All my mom’s sisters are married to beta’s except 1, and she is the only one that is happy
@@louisbee7923a lot of women take this trait to the extreme after the birth of a baby. “Getting out” is not an option
Jesus that's grim. But I don't doubt it. I think there is a reason our ancestors kept just a physical and dominant control of them, because they knew they would be worn down otherwise.
Also, all the heroism of womanhood was in the pregnancy and the extraordinary risk it posed. Today, women are crapping out kids at 40 and other than the risk to the child, there is almost no risk to the mother. So what does that leave them worthy of admiration? They aren't winning wars, running into burning buildings, or inventing things that leap humanity forward 100 years. Hell most women wont even make a sandwich for their husband, the idea of sacrifice for the sake of honor couldn't be more foreign to them.
3:45 let's keep this analogy further - it's not that simple because maybe there are women that just want to look out the window and not worry about the destination but there are MANY women (I'd argue even most women these days) that constantly nag about the way you drive, how you are either driving too fast or too slow, complain about the destination that they don't like it or they want you to magically get there this instant and fault you over the bumps and potholes in the road that can't even remotely be considered your fault.
And best part is, you can even be Lewis Hamilton behind the wheel - doesn't matter, they just want to nag even if you are the best driver in the world!
So yeah, Alex, great analogy - it fits really well 😂
EDIT: And there are maaany women that jump out in the middle of the drive for no reason and then blame you for getting bruised and that they can't get into another car ever again 😂
Most versatile analogy ever 🤣
Your misspelling of “many” is a wonderful mistake!
@@SeekerGoOn2013 maaany? That was intentional to emphasize the number and by "jumping out during the drive" I meant divorce rate of who initiates it which is 80+% for women.
It's a simple rule: If you won't stand up to her, you won't stand up for her.
Only works til ya have a kid. Then the rules all turn in her favor and becomes a lose lose
If she is combatitive & undermining to him
Then a man wont care to stand up for her..
Cause problems for me
& I've no motive to stand up for U..
More like popcorn time to see how u like it .
@@kelly_bayside True. There has to be an element of worthiness. I think that's a big part of why men are now going overseas in massive numbers. Western women are programmed to hate men at a young age so they can't empathize with them, they blow out their oxytocin at a young age so they can't pair bond with them, and I'm running into a lot of women who don't know what their own fertility window is so they can't give them children. That last one does my head in. But, yes, the woman has to be worth the effort. One of the best sayings I've heard in recent years is: "Chivalry must be inspired, if you're not getting it you're probably not inspiring."
@@noahbodhi4349”worth the effort”
Harsh truth.
That's what they think, but you know what's funny? In my young nice guy phase I was far more likely to let a woman run over me AND far more likely to stand up for her. Now, I'd never let a woman run over me, but I'm also FAR less likely to care enough to stand up for her. 😂
If a woman rejects me. I never talk to them again and blank them, but now their start pursue me to point of being a stalker, but a desperate woman is no longer attractive,
this is one more reason why older men are attractive to younger women. An older man is more likely to know enough, have enough resources to fulfill that leasdership role and he WANTS to protect and teach that younger woman. She knows this, either consciously or not.
If you think you're too old, then you're too old. It's that simple. One woman's opinion determining your truth with that quote is why you're too weak to pull them anymore. She pushed you around, planted that seed, but you nurtured it to life. There are plenty of beautiful young women out there interested in having experiences with men significantly older than they are.
@@user-2Hteyasizyc Dont worry about how 'into" you they are. The instant that they percieve you as being inferior to some other choice that's open to them, they'll drop you like a bad habit. Just keep getting "new' ones every 3-4 years from the third world. Nobody but you is offering them US pell grants and college loans, along with US citizenship and they wont get that in less than about 6 months before getting a green card and 6 months after having one for 4 years.
@@user-2Hteyasizyc to hell with US beeches. I'm 71 and can still get 20 yo's in the third world Dont worry about how 'into" you they are. The instant that they perceive you as being inferior to some other choice that's open to them, they'll drop you like a bad habit. Just keep getting "new' ones every 3-4 years from the third world. Nobody but you is offering them US pell grants and college loans, along with US citizenship and they wont get that in less than about 6 months before getting a green card and 6 months after having one for 4 years. You'll get 4 years of the good stuff, it'll cost you nothing and if you know to have everything either portable-hidden (ie, gold coins) or in the name of a NV corporation that she doesn[t even KNOW about) she cant hurt you. There's millions more just like her, so divorce and go get another one. This should be an agreed upon thing right from the start (in a written, witnessed contract).
So now it’s the father’s fault. Simps are incapable of holding women accountable. They always have to find a man to blame.
He’s as toxic as all the other guys on this side of the issue. He just doesn’t do the usual douchey things that the others do in their videos.
@@davidjackson6475pandering to women…
What else is new?
Imagine a world in which women truly are just like children and we've given them more responsibility and encouragement and freedom than is warranted. Blaming the adults in the room(men) is the correct response.
The fact that you jump to immediately only blaming women is part of the problem. Both men and women making bad choices have led to our society today. A deadbeat, lazy, or absent father can absolutely wreck a woman's life. That doesn't mean she isn't responsible for her actions now, but it explains why she is acting the way she is. The question then is do you want to deal with the effort to fix that problem or do you go your own way. That's your choice. However, the problem is it is going to require men doing the hard work to fix this problem if we ever want to break the cycle. Yes, it sucks that this generation has to deal with that, but what is the other option? Just ignore it and hope it goes away? Sure, then you are just condemning the next generation to even worse problems. And...here's the thing, you can do that if you want. No one is forcing you to do anything. But, if we ever want to fix this problem, men are going to have to step up. Women are never going to just magically stop acting like this. Even if we had a better society, the mentality expressed in a lot of these types of videos is still there in the background and if men get lazy, it will just start to creep back in and we will end up exactly where we are at again.
@@wesandell
*”The fact that you jump to immediately only blaming women is part of the problem.”*
That’s not what my post said, genius. The fact of the matter is there’s too many people like you who believe women have no agency.
To be honest… as a guy… I’m not keen on weak men, either. I used to climb, and I tried to explain to a woman once that there are two kinds of men. The guys I would trust to hold the other end of my belay, and the guys I wouldn’t. It didn’t mean I couldn’t be close friends with the latter type… It was just, I don’t want to end up having to rely on them in a dicey situation. Not that they for sure wouldn’t step up… just that it was iffy as to whether they would. On the other end of that rope you need the kind of man you are certain will hold fast no matter how deep the rope burns.
Well I’m Mr nice guy to women but I still do extrem sports, got money etc etc… I get your point but it’s not transferable to women.
I've dealt with women who are too independent and too masculine before. They would say "No man, so far, could handle me." It's not because of the tantrums, because they didn't have them - it was those moments where the man knew where to go. Almost all of them had issues from growing up. For example, they never had their own space, privacy, available parents, or family.
I have had almost all of them say that I treated them better than their family - close to being family. However, I didn't want to be a brother, I wanted them to be my wife. It really sucks for me, as I never ended up with them in a relationship. However, because of me and my questions, they did go into therapy to resolve their issues.
Most of them felt unsafe in their environment. They also felt that they had to lead all the time. I mean, their job was either project manager or a director of a department. But when they returned home, they wanted to feel like a girl. They wanted to feel like they didn't go to another place to lead. So, when they felt safe with me and felt that they didn't need to lead all the time, it exposed their issue. Some of them were absolutely hot and attractive - but yeah, unfortunately, they entered therapy and I finding another woman.
So they once again assign all the responsibility to the man. What a surprise
I was at a job where they told us there was a 3 second rule, meaning don't look at a woman for more than 3 seconds. Predatory? Flirting? I'm not sure what the reason was and they never said.
Because if a woman doesn't find you are desirable, then looking into her eyes for more than a few seconds makes you creepy. Then management has an issue on their hands. I'm guessing.
There's a simple solution to that, just don't look at them. Though then theyll probably complain about you not looking
I think businesses should do everything in their power to not hire people who are going to cause that sort of trouble. Oh some new outrageous draconian rule? Nah I think just not hiring women is more reasonable
@@tannagra works in the gym too. Occasionally there are these girls with yoga pants working out so i don't look at them. Last week there was one that moved almost in front of me while there was a big open space without people where she could have moved to as well lol. I just walked elsewhere.
WTH. Just tell them that you have a 3 second rule for helping women. 3 seconds is how long you will help them.
That ad in the middle was wild to hear on speaker with my family in the next room
Why on earth do you have this on speaker 🤣🤣🤣 your family definitely thinks you’re weird
And then when you "put her in her place", you are now labeled as "abusive".
Yes but this is the only chance a man has to win. If it works, the relationship will be good., if it doesn't', it was hopeless to begin with.
@@j.p.5716 that ISN'T the "only chance to win". You just exposed the problem right there; Scarcity mindset. You don't wait until it becomes exhausting, then attempt to check her. You check her bull ish FROM JUMP! If she fails to comply, then YOU bounce! You spared yourself undue stress = WIN. You didn't waste time putting up with that nonsense only for the relationship to end anyway = WIN. If she DOES comply and you don't have to deal with it again = WIN. A male puts up with that crap, it's because he fears losing what he's inevitably going to lose anyway or he fears being alone...again.
It's deflection. She doesn't know how to follow, regardless of your leadership skills. Doomed before it started.
My ex g/f was 100% this woman. She couldn't shut it off, it was some desperate need to dominate every interaction. Cue a cycle of her saying something intended to imasculate or dominate, I call it out, a fight begins that isn't resolved for days because she would NOT back down or admit wrongdoing. Only after it ended did I realize I was mentally exhausted. Now I'm not particularly interested in dating an "empowered" woman.
You should have never wanted that kind of woman. Traditional women are the best.
@@hellaspoicey2280 She didn't lead with that. Traditional ones don't seem to exist in the west
@@Mr.McWatson True. They are few and far between. Good luck out there, pilgrim.
Waaaw. My ex girlfriend was exactly like this. She started from being super cute submissive and gentle to arguing all the time even tho she was wrong 99% of the time and she knew it. I did drop the ball at one point, huge mistake on my part, that i think changed her to this when i said she should help me plan trips and stuff more why i have to do all the thinking. What happened later in relationship is she took on her every aspect of planning but the ones i felt were really important. And she did it only so she could say back to me i am not helping enough. When i look at my relationship its truly amazing how we actually stayed together for 8 years. She didnt have father in her life, and her brother is well...absent to say the least. And i knew that from the beginning its gonna be hard. But she wanted our relationship to work out, its just the way she switched was for me impossible to contain. She always said no to my suggestions, always argue about anything i say and while i knew she is testing me i was always trying to be supportive towards her while she did the opposite. Started calling me names and being disrespectful more and more. After that switched in her only time we had peace and love is was when i left her and told her to think about her actions and then we can proceed. Sadly it lasted only a week before another disrespectful or aggressive behavior occurred. I still love her to this day, but had to leave, i felt like after years of struggle i was so spent emotionally that i could break down and cry at any point. I wasnt like this at all. All my life i saw these people weak, and not stable, but she broke me like nothing i could have imagined. We still meet time to time and i can tell we love each other and we both cry hugging and talking how we miss times together, but after so many tries it just doas not work. I think she wants father figure in her life and she doas not see me as one nor i want to be. I dont want to treat my partner as a child. Irony is when i do that, she ether loves it and goes with it or hates it and says why i treat her like a child. Weirdest stuff i have ever experienced in my life.
Now you have some perspective
Stay in peace brother. They are not easy to handle, really...
They hate weakness because they know how incredibly weak and vulnerable THEY are.
Thats why ive learned to be Mellow and Ignore most things, but Stern and somewhat Scary. But Wise when shes Worried
Cowards target weakness.
Do you know a woman that fights above the belt? Any at all?
The grown woman throwing her tantrum in the passenger seat was funny to watch, probably not so funny to experience first hand though
Its disgusting to think that person can vote... hold positions of authority and responsibility. I wouldn't trust her to wrap a burrito for me. It's grotesque the level of weakness we except and expect from women
Men, it doesn't matter what you think They will always be unhappy because you are not her top choice of men.
So they would rather go down that road rather than be honest with those men and say, "Thanks, but I'm not interested".
That's a waste of everyone's time and energy. Not cool.
That whole lecture about reparenting your wife begs one simple question: why?
Indeed. Why do we need to fix them. I am not being paid for therapy.
All that unpaid emotional labor?
I doubt Alex was encouraging men to wife up broken women (just so they could fix them). Instead he gave a possible prescription for men already in a t0xic marriages and a cautionary tale for everyone else.
Sorry, but that is just sociopathic behaviour to me. How is this considered ok?
The one thing that bothers me is women want this from a man and wants you to be taken care of emotionally, and physiologicaly. But if I had kids then that's pretty much another kid I have to take care of and im not for that. I already got enough stresses in my life.
The clip with that woman who said "you never hit a man where he's weak" was SOOOOOO true!
When you "hit" a man when he's vulnerable and being open about it is when women react with anger at his "weakness", and he will NEVER forget that you kicked him when he was down.
He will instantly, and irrevocably, lose ALL respect and trust for you.
Your relationship will NEVER be the same again.
He will pull back from her, put up walls between you both, and stop being open and eager for her.
The only way to undo this is for her to give HIM what he used to give HER - a LOT.
She has to PROVE that she wants him and loves him and she will NEVER DO IT AGAIN or he will leave emotionally, mentally, and possibly even physically.
The pain he feels in his SOUL, when the person he trusts and has given everything of himself to can treat him like that, is unbelievable until it happens.
It turns LOVE into HATE, and results in apathy and indifference.
"Loving people" DON'T TREAT EACH OTHER LIKE THAT.
Once you are weak for some periods of time, they will push their boundaries because they like being stronger at someone else's expense, that's their nature, and once she gets close to your level of strength, it's over.
Playing mind games does not put you at the same level of strength.
@@Lenny_HondoBut it can give you temporary leverage. Which is just another tool at their disposal. The only thing stopping someone from using that tool is integrity…
I broke up with a girl the moment she started acting up and picking fights. She started crying and I never looked back
Me as well. The moment I sense adversity, she is gone. Real men do not want a co-pilot, they want a flight attendant. Beta cucks want a co-pilot. I would rather fly the plane alone.
0:10 It's not intimidation, it's fear about being attacked for the natural human response to seeing someone attractive.
So... she intentionally fucks with the relationship. Kills her own attraction to you. Makes herself resent you. Changes her personality towards you based on her "new" emotions. Takes her anger out on you. Demands you give her all she wants if SHE ends the relationship. And its the MAN'S fault??
These ridiculous women play mind games and worp their own sense of realty, just to blame the other person.
The mental gymnastics are exquisite
@@hellaspoicey2280 Olympian, I would predict.
It's not "your fault" but you are part of the problem. Just like she needs to take accountability for who she is, so do you.
@@bluebutterfly5062 He doesn’t need to take accountability for her mental disorders…
@@hellaspoicey2280 everyone needs to take responsibility for themselves, including you. How is that so hard to understand?
it can be a thing about control but it is also a psychological thing, women who had a sad childhood, daddy issues, BPD love drama, love to argue, they thrive on this...
A lot of women just like to argue. Men like agreement to maintain order. Then men can sit back and either rest or advance their state. But a woman likes conversation, and that is often in the form of debate. For a tired man, debate is argument. If a tired man gives in and concedes the argument to shut up his shrew, he is seen as weak. If he forces a win, he is seen as overbearing and controlling. If you want proof about a woman wanting to argue, look at your nearest hair salon or woman dominated business. When there are no customers, they will be fighting and snipping at each other when the place is empty.
Sometimes they do it in front of the customers.
Why zero responsibility for the woman who chooses cowardice & pretending to be masucline? They make every good time less & every problem worse.
Alexander always panders to women because he believes he can “open their eyes”
What requires constant strength and demonstrated power? A competitive environment 😮 do you want to live that way constantly? Being in a war or in pro sports 24.7?😢
I guess I'm old school. I always tried to nip things in the bud very quickly in the beginning by saying things like "don't talk like that to me again" or "don't do that again". Not yelling, or in public, but calm, low and in a deep voice. Worked...
This is a function of trust and respect. If I lead and I am constantly nagged, tested picked at and fought, then it shows a lack of respect and trust. I would be out of there as soon as I could.
This is also the damage of feminism hey. Counternatural.
Girls who brag about their ''worth'' fail to notice THEY are the ''diminishing asset''.
Men pay a lot for that beautiful, sexy car. What do they do with it later on ?
A woman who chooses to be mean to you, is no diff than a car that always breaks.
Is YOUR ride too noisy, undependable, or high maintenance ? Time to TRADE.
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The more right summary of this video is... A woman wants you to take care of everything and make all the decisions as long as she gets what she wants and gets her way.
They want a puppet with strings connected directly to her brain
"Friends I have. Be well." Since I told my GF that line, we've been married for 30 years.
Not sure you didn't waste 30 years of your life.
Still, if it bought you peace it's a win.
The part about learning that she needs to learn to trust you is so true. It is double duty and very difficult I can attest. Very confounding from my perspective. Like some bizarre alternative multi dimensional reality I am trying to engage with simultaneously. Where they may be some brief sliver that opens up where I can try and relay this. It is wild to observe.
My stepmother has always attacked me where I was weak since I was 3 years old. I have virtually no self-confidence.
Martial arts.
Being raised by her may make you underestimate the benefits of rigorous physical exercise.
You will figure out so many things while honing your body.
You will find the solution to many of your internal issues when stop focusing on them and start focusing on your body.
Martial arts and weightlifting will give you plenty of “aha” moments even though working out has nothing to do with the problems in your head.
Start working on the body and the mind and spirit will follow.
Also get away from her. Try to leave silently. Get some money and get a place to live. I had to live in my car at 18. You may have to sacrifice comfort to get results. The truth is, nobody is going to take you where you want to go. You can suffer alone while you work towards your goal or you can stay with these people and never achieve those goals ever. Both are shitty options but at least one has a light in the tunnel. I personally wouldn’t trust anyone enough to tell them where the light is at. They might try to trip you while you’re still in the dark. Plan in silence. Leave in silence.
@@hellaspoicey2280this comment could have written by me.
Martial arts and weightlifting really is a good answer. It will be much more than what you anticipate it to be.
We underestimate the role of birth control on modern women's masculinity.
I'm convinced the pill is driving them all crazy.
Crazyness is in the nature of woemean, no pill needed to bring this up. But you are right, the pill does alter her brain chemistry. And this can lead to various outcomes, some severe, some crazy. And stopping the intake can have effects too! All in all it can have detrimental consequences. For her man too. And of course it is his fault😂
Between hormonal birth control and the fact that 2/3 of women in my generation are on some form of pych meds, I am shocked we take any of them seriously. I mean they aren't even themselves.
If they start on some pych med and some BC in high school between 16-18 and you meet them at 25, they are so far removed from who they actually are, like organically. That you might as well be meeting a ghost
I’ve herd this causes
attraction to less masculine dude’s or attraction to other females.
Wow.... This has answered SO MANY questions that I have been seeking for years! Thank You!
This guy is 100% correct. And, I will NOT deal with people like that at a personal level ever again. These new vv0men will ALWAYS do this.
Andrew great video but I'll keep my dogs and pass on "training" a woman. The juice is not worth the squeeze anymore. My peace and quiet is too good now. I spent 23yrs married to a covert narcissist who was never happy. I've worked too hard in the past 2 yrs on myself to give it all up. I have my own business now and can do what I please. If I want "companionship" I'll pay for it, then go home.
Women desire and are only attracted to strength, no matter what they say. It's innate. That's why it's so important for you as a man to be confident and lead at all times. She can't love you if she doesn't respect you.
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What stops those annoying chihuahua from yapping at big dogs? Not only are they immature, even if they found a "weak point" the chihuahua is effectively irrelevant, even if there was some point to the constant yapping it could never in all of its wildest dreams execute any real dominance over the bigger dog.
Chihuahuas can’t file false animal abuse claims with the police…
'they like to submit', sure they like to burden the responsibility on someone else's shoulders, but when it comes to power, they will never actually give that up. the minute their submission doesn't go exactly the way they dictate, then they sky will fall. That's not real submission, that's just levying accountability on someone else's shoulders so they can continue to be responsibility free.
Remember guys, no matter how high a pedestal you can place her on, she'll still place herself on a higher one.
0:30 - the sheer contempt on that women's face screams narcissist/sociopath..
My ex did this so many times, I was walking on eggshells, I still haven't recovered, the thought of a relationship even terrifies me, I am so scared of ever being in a relationship, it genuinely felt like prison. I'm only 25 and I am so afraid of getting married.
Math doesn't add up.50y ago women could be housewifes with regular men with normal jobs. But now, to have a house and a wife at home you need to work more harder than ever before meanwhile as this blond lady said, so she can spend time learning recipes and do whatever.Thats nice but being 12+h at work so she can cook and be bored then cheat and leave you anyway is really akward equation.People say its stupid to get students loan. Getting a mortgage on a house is stupid as well then, if there is like 50% chance you will lose it. I am really trying to be somewhat positive but ....there is nothing.
Not sure if it was on this channel or not but it's such a HUGE thing to remember masculinity is MANDATORY to functioning in life.
Feminity is a luxury.
Lots of women are forced to become men just to pay thier bills.
5:10 - She is so completely right.
We were smarter in the old days... So much smarter.
It would be great to allow these women to go on and confidently explain how they smell weakness, and how it's an incredible turn off, and then after they're done let them know that it's the exact same thing when they show masculine traits to a man. As a man, if you don't learn how to portray strength, good luck attracting women. As a woman, if you're going to display your masculine energy until someone proves to you that they can lead you and take charge and then you'll slip into your feminine energy.....good luck keeping a man. If you're pretty, you're going to attract them...that's a given. Good luck keeping them after you speak.
What happened to just, I like you, you like me, let’s hangout together?
Yeah, I get that you can’t be a pushover, but I’m also not going to let that affect the kindness and compassion I treat others with. I’m not going to be a dick to pass some dumb tests for women I don’t give two shits about.
Then don’t date modern xx
I was always taught that it was disrespectful to hold eye contact in most situations because it's a sign or que that you're intent on domination. I still find this to be true.
At the same time, it can also be a sign of respect as you're giving your full attention to that person.
For both of these reasons I still look people dead in the eyes because chances are wherever I go I am working to grow and am intent on dominating and working with others.
The need to control the man and then completely ignore or push him away is typical for women with narcissistic tendencies who have raised themselves (!) to have everyone chasing after them. Such women do not see the man (or ppl in general) as a person per se, but as a supply of attention. They have no emotionally maturity or responsibility. And above all, the man always has to play the shark in the fish tank, which is extremely tiring in the long run. It's okay for a while if you know what you're getting into and realize how much energy it will take, if you play this game. But at the end of the day it's a dead end. It's not worth it. A woman and a man with a healthy perception, with empathy and self-worth will not allow such a dynamic, but will simply quietly move away.
Solipsist
The only wining move is not to play. Elon, Brad Pit, Will Smith these men could not keep their marriage correct. What chance does the average man has.
They chose poorly, very poorly
"Let me drive the car"
"No"
Result: 😡
"I said let me drive!" 😤
"I said NO."
Result: 😡😡
"Let me drive, dammit!!"
"Ok"
Result: "Actually I'd like to get out, I'm not attracted to you anymore."
If I had the opportunity to give my younger self advice I would tell him to have a conversation with my wife before engagement about who is going to take the lead in the relationship. Then make commitments about it. It'll make easier to maintain boundaries.
they often say whatever is necessary to get the marriage and children, then change.
The only girl that I've been really, really attracted to was a very sweet and very feminine girl who made me feel more masculine. And since that made me more masculine, that in turn made her more feminine. A two way street. I despise these modern so called "strong women" who are the exact opposite and try to challenge men etc.
Absolutely! My ex was abused as a child.. I didn’t know till just a few years prior to divorce.. it ruined our marriage.. and I just couldn’t figure out why it was so toxic..
Mistakes guys make with women:
*Being Middle Eastern.
*Being short.
*Being poor.
*Being ugly.
*Being a student.
*Living with your parents.
*Wearing briefs.
*Having a cat.
*Listening to heavy metal.
Eating yogurt
Breath
Having problems in life (as like people don’t have any)
Its the list of female ick's.
Damn I don't have any of those problems, nor do I carry around a weak, victim's mindset....funny how that works.
I asked my mom why she and my dad have made it so long 50+ yrs when others got divorced, she said because I gave my word when I took the vows and dad did the same. Unless you approach marriage this way (duty) it won't last. They said it's the little victories that sustained them for the long run, gutting through arguments together.
They always have at least two backups.
One of your best videos yet Alexander! Well done and thanks mate! I'm sending this to all the woman I care about.
Somehow, it's practically impossible for women to understand quiet confidence.
The dude that knows he's tough doesn't need to prove it, but the cocky guy who's loud, stupid, and obnoxious (the one that knows he's not a man so he trys really hard to convince orhers) is the one women think is tough, then get surprised when the only thing he can beat up is her.
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Women are emotional which means they have no emotional intelligence, contrary to what they say.
I think you did make it make sense.
She doesn't want the car to go off a cliff. She wants you to drive it and keep it on the road going somewhere worth going. If she doesn't trust you to make the right choices, to keep the car from going off the cliff, she has to take the wheel.
You have to convince her that you drive well. That you make the right choices. That you know where you're going, how to get there, and can drive the car.
If she *thinks* you've made a wrong choice, even if you agree, you always have to keep her confident that you'll choose right the *next* time. That you're a good bet for making those decisions.
If she *wants* a different choice, you can accommodate her preference as her whimsy, because women like to be accommodated too. But she was not right and you were not wrong. You were accommodating her preference. And you can't accommodate her whimsy all the time, because that indicates you didn't really have a clear view of her welfare in the first place. You'll stop for ice cream *sometimes*, as a *treat*. But you should have a bigger agenda and plan for where you want to take her that's more important and effective than those side trips.
Life is viewed through power and control and it’s annoying and boring
This *ONLY WORKS* with high quality women, as a lot of modern women are continuously fighting against any form of dominance/leading. My very last ex was *CONSTANTLY* combative, it is impossible to be "the man" when you are constantly battling with a girl who you love (but obviously shouldnt love). Low quality women are on the rise, and EVERY low quality women will behave this way.
I make good eye contact with everyone. The only problem is men think you're staring at them and women might take it as predatory.
I got to the stage of avoiding eye contact with my wife (separated) because it felt like she was an energy vampire. In general I even lock eyes with people who appear genuine and positive.
Woman: "I want a man to lead me."
*Man starts leading*
Woman: "He's too controlling!"