Thank you for sharing and being so transparent about relationship changes after baby. My spouse and I had also been together for almost ten years before we felt ready for baby (after grad school, stable careers, finances, etc.) and now have 6 month old twins. We knew it would be stressful and felt prepared with a rock-solid partnership. But, oof! The bickering over tiny things related to our twins is something we didn’t anticipate and it totally amplifies with other factors such as lack of sleep and busy work schedules. Definitely a new challenge for us. So glad to hear that we’re not alone!
I really love and appreciate the part where you guys talked about how things change in your marriage with a child! You both really nailed it on the head in my opinion. Also, I think ‘Sit Down Sunday’s’ is cute!
First time dad here. LO is 6 mo old and is the light of my life. One thing that I've had to do recently is that I have to split my attention between my wife and my son. I was lucky to have a good bit of parental leave so we were doing everything together for 6 weeks she was recovering and I was very present for my son. 6 months in and Ive notice that my attention has been more focused on him and less on my wife. We have to find a balance between being husbands and fathers. Figuring out that dynamic of being a father and being a husband away from the baby is hard. Long story short having a baby comes with changes to your entire worldview and how you interact with your spouse or significant other. We need a break sometimes. How do you find time for intimacy and togetherness when you have a little human that needs constant care and love?
I have heard from other dads and mom's that you remember the spouse was before the child....and you will be with your spouse after your child leaves the nest. So nurture your wife. You can nurture and make time for both child and spouse. The most important thing you can give your child is a secure home. Also, as a Dad, you are modeling how to treat your wife to your son as he grows.
I’m so glad you’re doing a video on baby sleep. I’m in desperate need of help in that department and we can’t afford professional sleep trainers 😔 my nine month old shares a bed with us because he wakes literally every 20 to 30 minutes! And I’m about to start school-full time! I seriously cannot wait for the sleep video. Thank you both truly ❤️
If you can’t wait for the video, we found a book called The Good Sleeper by Dr Janet Kennedy massively helpful in getting my two to sleep independently. Gives you the science behind different methods of training and how to do them but doesn’t judge or tell you you have to do it one way. Good luck, it really helps you be a better parent once you are getting a good night’s sleep.
You guys are just such awesome wholesome honest people! Thanks for talking so openly on how parenthood has affected your marriage, especially since you are both in love with your careers and both need to adjust.
Excited to see your “sleep training” (although I prefer the term “sleep learning” since it is a learned skill) video! We did a modified Ferber with my oldest at 5 months and then had to re-do again at 11 months after finally getting ear tubes. My youngest is now almost 3 months and we’re “practicing” some of the skills (letting him fuss for a couple minutes before intervening, laying him down drowsy sometimes to see how he responds, etc) but obviously still too young for anything more.
My baby is 12w+2days, so looking forward to your sleep video so that I can help my baby to master sleep skills in a loving and supportive way when she turns 4 months!
I felt so bad sleep training my June 2021 baby! I can’t wait to watch your video to make sure I did it right and for reassurance that what I did to help her sleep isn’t going to affect her long term! Also, to see how I should sleep train a possible next baby!💜
A sleep training video please!! Also how to use or not use the pacifier during this time. Also how to take pacifier away around 6-7 months if baby uses it to fall asleep
I have a 3.5 month old baby girl whom I love DEARLY, but the comment about not being able to binge Ozark on a Saturday because your child has needs and is a constant responsibility was all too relatable! It is so worth it, but sometimes the sense of always needing to be "on" is a lot.
Hello Doctors Bjorkman! 🙂 This segment is fun and interactive. Really like and appreciate it. Would like to ask if there are books you can recommend to new mums regarding infant/child milestones in relation to their age. Fx developments/delays one need to be aware of on a specific age/stage. And also books about on how to enhance their development in all aspects (physical, cognitive, emotional and social). Thank you i advance amd more power to your UA-cam channel, career and parenthood. ❤️
Really nice of you to to share the real experience of having a baby in parenting by the way do you think having an epidural is worth it at some point what would you do if you had To give out a birth plan to anybody just a question thank you Dolores
Hi, First of all i love your channel it has helped me through my first pregnancy. I want to ask if you can cover flat head syndrome and Protruding ears. My baby has both and there is not that much info out there.
Ho there ! I climb (bouldering do no ropes) and I was wandering whether I falling can impact trying to conceive ! It is just to know when to stop climbing in the process: after or during conception. Thank you !
Question. Is it possible to breast feed after breast augmentation with a lift. I had one several years ago and am pregnant. I would love to breast feed but do t know if it is possible.
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman would also love a video on cerclage management. Can we exercise? Is bedrest required? I am almost at the end of my pregnancy but still don't know what I am or am not allowed to do.
I have a question, hopefully it helps others but it is quite specific. My husband will be away for 6 months. He left yesterday and my son is 8 months old. We will have the ability to call and video call every day, and he may have two four day breaks he could come home for the holidays on. I’m wondering if by then, the baby is old enough, especially with the contact, that he will better remember his dad when he comes back home.
Video chats are amazing, and allow little ones to get to know and stay in contact with family like never before. Hopefully, your little one will have no problem remembering dad in real life.
Please my baby is 10 months and my son does not sleep through the night I’ve tried everrrrrything. No screen time, a heavy meal one hour prior to bed, a bed time routine, sleep machine dark room etc and he still wakes up every 3 hours 😩
You have my maximum respect Dr Igudia, I am now negative from HSV2 after I did the test, I wonder what might have become of me it I didn't get the herbal cure From your UA-cam channel. God bless you sir.
I was a Nanny 20 years before having my baby( after years of infertility). I had parents who had me sleep train and parents who didn't want to. I know it is controversial, but my honest experience is the babies who were sleep trained were the happiest. Because they were getting rest. The parents against sleep training were the most stressed. I had 2 Mom's who hated Motherhood because they had toddlers and older babies who woke and kept up Mommy all night over a year old. I wish people who were against it would understand......you meet All needs before laying them down. You aren't laying them down hungry etc....People have the wrong idea of what it is. I planned to sleep train my daughter and on her own she started sleeping through the night around 8 weeks. That being said, there were times w sleep regression as she was 6 months and 9 months we did let her cry it out. But, I always checked on her first. Nobody wants their baby to cry or be upset. I really feel for the Mom's who hate motherhood because their 1 year old can't sleep. It breaks my heart. My wish as a former Nanny is people would research sleep training and all the methods before assuming you aren't meeting a baby's needs.
Totally! Sleep training saved my husband, me, and the baby! After a few weeks, she cried so much less getting to sleep, and she can get to sleep faster on her own than I could rocking her to sleep. She’s rolls over, hand in mouth, and falls to sleep very quickly now. She went from sleeping 11 hours at best, to about 14.5 hours when we sleep trained at 4.5 months. She was so much happier and less fussy! The crying was hard, but after the first time we put her down, she would fall to sleep or back to sleep within fifteen minutes.
Sooo excited for your sleep training video. Baby girl is due 9/12 (AHHH! 😱) so my husband and I will be looking forward to learning how to sleep train in a few months.
I love you guys and have really appreciated the science based advice you’ve given. Would love you to talk about the blind spots in sleep training research and some of the downsides (eg requires redoing after regressions often many times, often doesn’t work). Personally, I don’t really believe in the modern form of “sleep training” which generally encourages night weaning/removing the breast association of sleep, strict schedules, avoidance of eye contact, wanting your baby to sleep alone and independently at crazy young ages, and ultimately reducing or removing natural parental response to the baby resulting in crying (sometimes to the point of vomiting). Sleep training research is fraught with issues, could you talk about that? For one it often centers on parent’s self reporting the reduction of night wakings. Self reporting is generally poor data, and also, babies are MEANT to night wake and night wakings/arousals are related to a reduction in SIDS risk. In the US we also don’t talk about co sleeping through a risk lens, instead we take a “zero tolerance” approach rather than acknowledging most parents will end up sleeping on an unsafe sleep surface with their baby rather than being empowered to follow the Safe Sleep 7 and safely co sleep (with co sleeping being a way to help make night wakings easier on parents and also is frankly the global/historical norm). Finally, my personal experience of responsive parenting and following my baby’s cues has made me WAY less anxious. Parents - your baby’s sleep is developmental not behavioral. Yes you can have sleep associations and if they work for you great. But if they don’t, you absolutely don’t need to follow “sleep trainers” (TCB is just Ferber, make no mistake). If you’re looking for alternative views on sleep training check out @heysleepybaby on IG.
Interested in this. I broke down and have started cosleeping (with the safe sleep 7!) with my LO. I am a breastfeeding mama and felt like I was breaking at the cracks with all the night wakings and feedings until we changed our sleep situation, and I could safely bring baby into bed with me. Both baby & I actually get rest at night now. 💗 But, we do struggle with getting baby down for nap time. 😵💫 Very excited to hear about sleep from your perspective!
I had a tummy tuck 9 months ago and I found out I am 14 weeks pregnant a few days ago. I’m wondering about exercise and am I able to diet ? My belly fells so tight and I know it’s because of the tummy tuck. I’ve had five pregnancies and wasn’t tight until towards the end. I am so concern. What do you guys recommend so I can keep my body from not gaining too much weight as I have in the past.
Thank you so much for sharing. My husband and I never really argued either, but we do nitpick about stupid things now. However, I still want one more. 😆
My daughter is 5 months now, she sleeps between us cause she wakes up about every 3hrs hungry. Another thing i noticed about her is that she likes to rub her face alot on the sheets which makes us nervous cause I feel like she can suffocate.
One thing that helps reduce night feedings is do regular feedings during the day. At her age, she can get most of her feedings in a 12 hour period. Example 7:30am to 7:30 pm. She may still need a " dream feed" a few hours after bedtime, but if you figure out how much sheneeds, space out the bottles in increments through the day with ALL her oz requirements. Then she won't be hungry through the night. My daughter did 24 oz. She had a bottle at 7am, 11am, 3pm and 7pm. 6 oz . But she slept through the night. Also, you can add cereal or some vegetables for dinner. Baby food helps too!
Thank you for sharing and being so transparent about relationship changes after baby. My spouse and I had also been together for almost ten years before we felt ready for baby (after grad school, stable careers, finances, etc.) and now have 6 month old twins. We knew it would be stressful and felt prepared with a rock-solid partnership. But, oof! The bickering over tiny things related to our twins is something we didn’t anticipate and it totally amplifies with other factors such as lack of sleep and busy work schedules. Definitely a new challenge for us. So glad to hear that we’re not alone!
I really love and appreciate the part where you guys talked about how things change in your marriage with a child! You both really nailed it on the head in my opinion.
Also, I think ‘Sit Down Sunday’s’ is cute!
First time dad here. LO is 6 mo old and is the light of my life. One thing that I've had to do recently is that I have to split my attention between my wife and my son. I was lucky to have a good bit of parental leave so we were doing everything together for 6 weeks she was recovering and I was very present for my son. 6 months in and Ive notice that my attention has been more focused on him and less on my wife. We have to find a balance between being husbands and fathers. Figuring out that dynamic of being a father and being a husband away from the baby is hard.
Long story short having a baby comes with changes to your entire worldview and how you interact with your spouse or significant other.
We need a break sometimes. How do you find time for intimacy and togetherness when you have a little human that needs constant care and love?
I have heard from other dads and mom's that you remember the spouse was before the child....and you will be with your spouse after your child leaves the nest. So nurture your wife. You can nurture and make time for both child and spouse. The most important thing you can give your child is a secure home. Also, as a Dad, you are modeling how to treat your wife to your son as he grows.
I’m so glad you’re doing a video on baby sleep. I’m in desperate need of help in that department and we can’t afford professional sleep trainers 😔 my nine month old shares a bed with us because he wakes literally every 20 to 30 minutes! And I’m about to start school-full time! I seriously cannot wait for the sleep video. Thank you both truly ❤️
That sounds like a really tough spot to be. Hopefully our upcoming video will be of some help to you.
If you can’t wait for the video, we found a book called The Good Sleeper by Dr Janet Kennedy massively helpful in getting my two to sleep independently. Gives you the science behind different methods of training and how to do them but doesn’t judge or tell you you have to do it one way. Good luck, it really helps you be a better parent once you are getting a good night’s sleep.
You guys are just such awesome wholesome honest people! Thanks for talking so openly on how parenthood has affected your marriage, especially since you are both in love with your careers and both need to adjust.
Excited to see your “sleep training” (although I prefer the term “sleep learning” since it is a learned skill) video! We did a modified Ferber with my oldest at 5 months and then had to re-do again at 11 months after finally getting ear tubes. My youngest is now almost 3 months and we’re “practicing” some of the skills (letting him fuss for a couple minutes before intervening, laying him down drowsy sometimes to see how he responds, etc) but obviously still too young for anything more.
Really appreciate your transparency how things shifted in your marriage with parenthood. 👏
Can't wait for the sleep training video!
Yes!!! We’re going to work to have it ready in the next 1-2 weeks.
My baby is 12w+2days, so looking forward to your sleep video so that I can help my baby to master sleep skills in a loving and supportive way when she turns 4 months!
Yess, please I'd really like to see your sleep training video. Would love to hear your experience and any evidence based research you've found.
I felt so bad sleep training my June 2021 baby! I can’t wait to watch your video to make sure I did it right and for reassurance that what I did to help her sleep isn’t going to affect her long term! Also, to see how I should sleep train a possible next baby!💜
A sleep training video please!! Also how to use or not use the pacifier during this time. Also how to take pacifier away around 6-7 months if baby uses it to fall asleep
Yes!
Ugh I’m so exhausted I can’t wait to see the sleep training video. My baby is the middle of the 4 month sleep regression
So am I Melissa... You're not alone and good luck!!!
@@brandischroeder267 you too 💕 coffee can only do so much especially since I’m limited with breast feeding.
I have a 3.5 month old baby girl whom I love DEARLY, but the comment about not being able to binge Ozark on a Saturday because your child has needs and is a constant responsibility was all too relatable! It is so worth it, but sometimes the sense of always needing to be "on" is a lot.
So worth it… so much more work than we anticipated. 😂😂
I like sit down Sundays
I looove the name SIT DOWN SUNDAY
Hello Doctors Bjorkman! 🙂 This segment is fun and interactive. Really like and appreciate it. Would like to ask if there are books you can recommend to new mums regarding infant/child milestones in relation to their age. Fx developments/delays one need to be aware of on a specific age/stage. And also books about on how to enhance their development in all aspects (physical, cognitive, emotional and social).
Thank you i advance amd more power to your UA-cam channel, career and parenthood. ❤️
These are great questions! We should absolutely be able to address normal development/milestones and how to help your little one along the way.
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman Thank you so much! ❤️ looking forward to it ☺️
Really nice of you to to share the real experience of having a baby in parenting by the way do you think having an epidural is worth it at some point what would you do if you had To give out a birth plan to anybody just a question thank you Dolores
Thanks for sharing so much valuable information with us. I’m due in 10 weeks, so I have been binge watching your channel for sure ☺️.
Thanks so much for this video! I need a sleep video ASAP time is it guys I can’t wait to hear about what you guys did.
Really looking forward to the sleep training video! I needed it like yesterday lol😂
Hi, First of all i love your channel it has helped me through my first pregnancy.
I want to ask if you can cover flat head syndrome and Protruding ears. My baby has both and there is not that much info out there.
Yesss PLEASE the sleep video. Love your channel
I need the sleep training video ASAP! 😘
Can you all do something on belly bands? Like if it’s good to use it or how to use it
Ho there ! I climb (bouldering do no ropes) and I was wandering whether I falling can impact trying to conceive ! It is just to know when to stop climbing in the process: after or during conception.
Thank you !
Sunday Sit Down(s)
I followed the babysleepdr guide it was amazing for sleep training! What are your thoughts on the Ferber method for sleep training?
Question. Is it possible to breast feed after breast augmentation with a lift. I had one several years ago and am pregnant. I would love to breast feed but do t know if it is possible.
I like Sunday Sitdowns. Thanks you for the video!
Thanks for the feedback!
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman would also love a video on cerclage management. Can we exercise? Is bedrest required? I am almost at the end of my pregnancy but still don't know what I am or am not allowed to do.
I had subchorionic hematomas with all 3 excersize wouldn't have been good for me
I have a question, hopefully it helps others but it is quite specific. My husband will be away for 6 months. He left yesterday and my son is 8 months old. We will have the ability to call and video call every day, and he may have two four day breaks he could come home for the holidays on.
I’m wondering if by then, the baby is old enough, especially with the contact, that he will better remember his dad when he comes back home.
Video chats are amazing, and allow little ones to get to know and stay in contact with family like never before. Hopefully, your little one will have no problem remembering dad in real life.
Thanks!
Please my baby is 10 months and my son does not sleep through the night I’ve tried everrrrrything. No screen time, a heavy meal one hour prior to bed, a bed time routine, sleep machine dark room etc and he still wakes up every 3 hours 😩
Great talk very important information 🇦🇺💕💙🤗🎬
You have my maximum respect Dr Igudia, I am now negative from HSV2 after I did the test, I wonder what might have become of me it I didn't get the herbal cure From your UA-cam channel. God bless you sir.
My son is going to be 5 months in a week. Definitely needing to sleep train soon! Looking forward to the sleep training video!
I was a Nanny 20 years before having my baby( after years of infertility). I had parents who had me sleep train and parents who didn't want to. I know it is controversial, but my honest experience is the babies who were sleep trained were the happiest. Because they were getting rest. The parents against sleep training were the most stressed. I had 2 Mom's who hated Motherhood because they had toddlers and older babies who woke and kept up Mommy all night over a year old. I wish people who were against it would understand......you meet All needs before laying them down. You aren't laying them down hungry etc....People have the wrong idea of what it is. I planned to sleep train my daughter and on her own she started sleeping through the night around 8 weeks. That being said, there were times w sleep regression as she was 6 months and 9 months we did let her cry it out. But, I always checked on her first. Nobody wants their baby to cry or be upset. I really feel for the Mom's who hate motherhood because their 1 year old can't sleep. It breaks my heart. My wish as a former Nanny is people would research sleep training and all the methods before assuming you aren't meeting a baby's needs.
Totally! Sleep training saved my husband, me, and the baby! After a few weeks, she cried so much less getting to sleep, and she can get to sleep faster on her own than I could rocking her to sleep. She’s rolls over, hand in mouth, and falls to sleep very quickly now.
She went from sleeping 11 hours at best, to about 14.5 hours when we sleep trained at 4.5 months. She was so much happier and less fussy! The crying was hard, but after the first time we put her down, she would fall to sleep or back to sleep within fifteen minutes.
Sometimes they just want love and cuddles tho or to be rocked
@@Mrscreamcheeselover Yes. And so do that before bedtime!!
My baby girl was so much happier after we sleep trained.
What's sleep training?
Sooo excited for your sleep training video. Baby girl is due 9/12 (AHHH! 😱) so my husband and I will be looking forward to learning how to sleep train in a few months.
I love you guys and have really appreciated the science based advice you’ve given. Would love you to talk about the blind spots in sleep training research and some of the downsides (eg requires redoing after regressions often many times, often doesn’t work). Personally, I don’t really believe in the modern form of “sleep training” which generally encourages night weaning/removing the breast association of sleep, strict schedules, avoidance of eye contact, wanting your baby to sleep alone and independently at crazy young ages, and ultimately reducing or removing natural parental response to the baby resulting in crying (sometimes to the point of vomiting).
Sleep training research is fraught with issues, could you talk about that? For one it often centers on parent’s self reporting the reduction of night wakings. Self reporting is generally poor data, and also, babies are MEANT to night wake and night wakings/arousals are related to a reduction in SIDS risk. In the US we also don’t talk about co sleeping through a risk lens, instead we take a “zero tolerance” approach rather than acknowledging most parents will end up sleeping on an unsafe sleep surface with their baby rather than being empowered to follow the Safe Sleep 7 and safely co sleep (with co sleeping being a way to help make night wakings easier on parents and also is frankly the global/historical norm).
Finally, my personal experience of responsive parenting and following my baby’s cues has made me WAY less anxious. Parents - your baby’s sleep is developmental not behavioral. Yes you can have sleep associations and if they work for you great. But if they don’t, you absolutely don’t need to follow “sleep trainers” (TCB is just Ferber, make no mistake).
If you’re looking for alternative views on sleep training check out @heysleepybaby on IG.
Interested in this. I broke down and have started cosleeping (with the safe sleep 7!) with my LO. I am a breastfeeding mama and felt like I was breaking at the cracks with all the night wakings and feedings until we changed our sleep situation, and I could safely bring baby into bed with me. Both baby & I actually get rest at night now. 💗 But, we do struggle with getting baby down for nap time. 😵💫 Very excited to hear about sleep from your perspective!
I had a tummy tuck 9 months ago and I found out I am 14 weeks pregnant a few days ago. I’m wondering about exercise and am I able to diet ? My belly fells so tight and I know it’s because of the tummy tuck. I’ve had five pregnancies and wasn’t tight until towards the end. I am so concern. What do you guys recommend so I can keep my body from not gaining too much weight as I have in the past.
pregannt 32 weeks.... can't wait for the sleep training video!
Sunday snippets
That nit picking part got me giggling
Thank you so much for sharing. My husband and I never really argued either, but we do nitpick about stupid things now. However, I still want one more. 😆
Please do the sleep training video as soon as you can. Really looking forward to it
Looking forward to the sleep training video!
36 + 3 with my first. 2 ying stepsons. Love your pregnancy and baby content
Looking forward to more Sunday videos
Looking forward to your sleep video!!!
Coffee with the Doctors
I loved this...
My daughter is 5 months now, she sleeps between us cause she wakes up about every 3hrs hungry. Another thing i noticed about her is that she likes to rub her face alot on the sheets which makes us nervous cause I feel like she can suffocate.
Well, she can. You can practice safe sleep 7 to reduce the risk, but babies can suffocate with a regular sheet.
One thing that helps reduce night feedings is do regular feedings during the day. At her age, she can get most of her feedings in a 12 hour period. Example 7:30am to 7:30 pm. She may still need a " dream feed" a few hours after bedtime, but if you figure out how much sheneeds, space out the bottles in increments through the day with ALL her oz requirements. Then she won't be hungry through the night. My daughter did 24 oz. She had a bottle at 7am, 11am, 3pm and 7pm. 6 oz . But she slept through the night. Also, you can add cereal or some vegetables for dinner. Baby food helps too!