I know a woman who was sick for months and her dusty husband did not take her to see a doctor because he cannot afford it! She got so sick that she called her husband that she needs to go to the hospital. Dusty says "just take a cough syrup and a nap. It will go away". She finally calls her parents, and they admit her to a hospital, pays all the hospital bills and get her home. She had serious lung infection and dusty was not taking her to see a doctor. Her dad got mad at him and he got mad at her for "ruining his reputation". These dusties only care about their reputations ladies. They don't care about you
Sounds like he was hoping she'd die so he could get the life insurance and then get the woman he actually wanted and would rob a bank for to pay for her medical bills should she need them. Diabolical little demons they are.
People want to “humble you” and test you to see if you will drop your morals to be with them. Once you do, that’s when the real BS starts. I had one guy who didn’t have his life together and I told him call me when you do. 6 months later he called and was still in the situation. He wanted to see if I would be willing to settle. Blocked and Deleted 😂
But he knows where she comes from and what she is accustomed to. What did he think was going to happen? Honestly, I would have done the same thing. Why put a woman through the struggle?? Like what?
If you grew up very comfortable; having everything you wanted & needed, please don’t marry a man who doesn’t understand that/ can’t provide that for you. I never went cold or hungry under my fathers roof and I’ll be damned if I go cold & hungry under my husbands roof. That’s still her father and if he wants to do something nice for his daughter, he absolutely CAN. He doesn’t need to ask the husband for permission, it’s HIS daughter.
@@kevinc3342 that’s on her? But when a woman exclusively dates wealthy men people like you call her a gold digger. This guy has a fragile ego and wants her to accept less even if she has other means.
Just to add to the first stitch. The main reason why we should not listen to older married Christian women is because they are the OG pick me's. And we should all know by now how dangerous pick me's are, in general.
I guess my Mama was different. She was 35 when she married( I'm 64 so that was way back when 35 was considered ancient for a woman). My Daddy died when I was nine, and she never remarried. She never encouraged me to marry and outright told me never have children. She told me if I did marry to marry someone that loved me more than I loved them and to always keep some hidden money.😂
THAT PART!! A lot of people (Not all but literally a majority) in the older generations literally played a huge role in making black communities more misogynistic than other communities. Don’t get me wrong, many other factors contributed towards this point but not more than older black women (& men) themselves. Especially women who followed different christian practices, catholic traditions and etc.
@@juanita_rocksteady2761lol My mom had half of that mindset. As she got older and I grew up just observing her actions and behavior, I realized that her actions were different than her words. She was a pick me. My grandmother was also the same. The one person who wasn’t was my granny. I didn’t even grow up around her that much but things stuck out as I got older and she didn’t play into men’s BS.
ATTENTION MEN.....If you can't provide for a woman in the style she is used to from her parents, then DON'T MARRY HER. There is nothing wrong with her wanting her house furnished and decorated all at once. I would have asked my father for the money as well, knowing he will always give to his baby girl. 😊❤
This is another example of a man who goes after a woman just to humble her. It’s giving I want your life and since I can’t have it neither can you. They really be jealous of you and your lifestyle.
yeah! had a guy interested in me, started flirting, then ask me for 50/50 after he saw my LV wallet because he knew he couldn/didnt want to afford it, though he was a doctor but he was stingy with his money & financially illiterate I could tell, he was just starting out & spending too much money on his 4k apartment which he could have invested in a house instead, but yeah men live in the moment I guess, not my cup of tea either way
If he can only afford the house and not to furnish it, he can’t afford the house. It’s called being house poor. If I was the girl, I’d have gone back to my daddy’s house ASAP
More than likely the woman's daddy gave them a "gift" to help buy it. The woman's "credit" with her name on the loan application for the house cinched the deal. These dudes out here acting as though they're "providing" are grifters/gold diggers.
Never date down your standard's because he will try to act like he is the man of the house and the moment you decide to leave him in the dust he will get violent and lash out.
L L Q J. Ladies leave quietly, just do it. Don’t argue, don’t say you’re leaving, slowly start getting your support system ready, have a place to go. One by one, while he’s not home, slowly start mailing off/moving out your things (never let him see boxes if you move things, only make moves while he’s not home) to your friends or family members or to your new place. When none of your things are left. Leave the key, walk out & you be the very last thing to go. Block him on socials, on your phone, email, every where. Give him no info to find you. LEAVE QUIETLY. If you announce your plans, it only gives him the chance to escalate into anger, physical abuse, or death.
My first husband told me when we first got married that we couldn't eat meat in order to save money. I said oh no because in my father's house I ate meat. I continued to eat meat.
So let me get this straight, the woman should settle for less to protect a man’s ego? Don’t give me wrong the woman also chose to marry below her lifestyle, but dude also need to understand that he is suppose to give her a life close to what she’s use to.
I really don't see the issue here. He's just not able to furnish the house at a go. As long as they're able to get the essential furnishings, I'm okay with that
@@TOFFEETASTICCThen what's the point of me taking my husband's surname? I might as well have kept my dads name. My dad already has his wife and kids that he should be responsible for. It ain't fair on him.
Why is it insulting for him??? Is money the only thing he brings to the table? And that's why he is getting one upped on the one thing he is supposed to bring to the table?
@@crestfire8008don't you know mkst men think that they only need to have money and that's the only thing he should bring to the table? This is the real reason they are controlling and insecure when the woman earns more than him. Even if she is as sweet as humble pie.
@@crestfire8008 men need to feel useful/needed (see how “I don’t need a man” is the same as “you’re worthless” to them?) when you can do/afford things he can’t, it makes him feel worthless. It’s just how men’s minds are wired They
@@crestfire8008for a lot of dudes, yes! They seem mad that financially dominating women isn’t an option anymore and are mad that they need actual qualities and personality to keep a partner
Men expect and demand women to do all the compromising in relationships. Compromise is for small issues only, like berber vs shag carpeting. You don't compromise your lifestyle. If you're accustomed to getting what you want when you want, you shouldn't marry a man who wants you to lower yourself and accept a target handbag vs Gucci. Marriage should be between near equals in major things. Both must be career driven or not, want children or not, live lavishly or not, reside in the city/suburbs/rural or not. Compromise on major things leads to unhappiness/dissatisfaction with one partner and eventually erodes the marriage.
I can see it being a problem if she opened lines of credit and maxed out the cards in order to furnish the home but since her dad’s buying it what’s the problem? I wouldn’t want to go room by room when I know I have the means to do otherwise lmfaooo
Her husband maybe cannot afford her. He should have thought about that before marrying her. If you have a Dad that taught you that a man should be able to do XYZ then the adult daughter will expect that from her husband. The husband has to maintain the life that the father provided to his daughter. My father always told me don’t deal with a man with no car or NEEDS you to work.
Yeah see, that's the problem I have with these older generation women out here who think that a husband by default in some type of gift or blessing. I wish a man would tell me that because he's the man in my life, whatever he says goes. And then they wonder why more and more of us younger generation women have been choosing to stay single, and do our own thing. Why the hell would I want to be with a man that thinks he's going to be able to control me, and tell me what the hell I can and cannot do in my house when it comes to something like getting furniture?
I saw this with some of my peers in my early 20s. Their families would pay for everything so they could have a strong start at life and focus on their careers and marriages.
Exactly! And if they can't, they will gift you money to go and buy all of that for yourself and make your first big purchases as a couple with that money, and if you spend it well enough, it's usually enough for everything. And some guests will gift you appliances and such as well.
Some guys have a strange obsession with dating outside their league and try to humble her... Naw fella, she was already financially above you & you tried to bring her down to your tax bracket.
@@shaypope4732you are right. Most old pickmeishas are usually the ones with dusty sons. They need a woman to be subservient to their dusty sons the same way they are to them
But they want the lawyer woman to marry the bus driver man... meanwhile DV and unaliving cases are on the rise. Literally giving women the worst advice possible, misery loves them some company.
Imagine you raise a daughter you love with all your heart, and you work sooooo hard to for her to grow up in some form of privilege. She finds someone and you give your blessing for their marriage. Then her idiot of a husband, that you trusted, would rather have your beloved daughter live in an empty house than to ask for the money because of pride. 🙃🙃🙃 Your partners comfort is more important than your pride
Going behind his back sounds so stupid. That is her daddy and that grown woman can ask her father if she wants to. My mom and dad would give me whatever I ask if they have it. They love me and I would do the same for them. My spouse also gives me whatever I wany so its a win win....lol
@@Goosebumps1395 I know a woman who was sick for months and her dusty husband did not take her to see a doctor because he cannot afford it! She got so sick that she called her husband that she needs to go to the hospital. Dusty says "just take a cough syrup and a nap. It will go away". She finally calls her parents, and they admit her to a hospital, pays all the hospital bills and get her home. She had serious lung infection and dusty was not taking her to see a doctor. Her dad got mad at him and he got mad at her for "ruining his reputation". These dusties only care about their reputations ladies. They don't care about you
That sh it was worded so nefariously. She said it like the woman is a spoiled brat that just had to have her way. When I would bet my last pair of shoes her parents asked about the house and when they were going to furnish and she simply told them the truth that they couldn't afford it. My parents would do the same thing and not even blink about it cause they want their daughter to be happy and comfortable. I can't imagine letting my child struggle over some fragile mans ego especially when I got it to give!
These three are type of people that will let you be in a house without heating because your husband can only afford the electric bill 🤭 Asking family or friends? Absolutely not! Better let the company cut your heating so your husband feel like his the man of the house 😂
I noticed so much push back from my ex when I wanted to start eating healthy. I knew we were doomed when he’d go shopping for all of our groceries at the dollar store😂. Meanwhile I’m up here paying rent, buying organic groceries , sleeping on silky sheets,etc.
I was born with a golden, jewel-encrusted spoon in my mouth. As far as marriage was concerned, my dad's only request (besides the obvious) was that the guy be from a similar background. He did not want any of his daughters marrying down. A couple of my older sisters did this and it caused absolute chaos.
I married a man that didnt have as much as my " dad " but it didnt bother me I was married before and lost my husband and I am financially stable without a man ( I own houses, own my car have no loans on anything ). When ever I buy a new house my dad gifts me around 100 thousand to make it how ever I like it and he buys me a new car every 3/5 years. My husband cant do that for me and doesnt like that my dad does makes him feel like he isnt the man..😂
Loll “If I say we can’t afford it, it doesn’t mean we can’t. It just means not today” …sooo in other words…he can’t afford it ? Lmao ma’am be serious 😂😂
I’ll admit I’m slightly spoiled!! For me I’d rather stay single than be with a man who can’t match my lifestyle!! If I have to struggle rather do it alone.
Years ago an older gentleman told me when you marry, you are marrying a lifestyle. So if you marry a turkey farmer, for example, you are marrying that lifestyle. I felt like he was letting me know as a Christian woman, it is OK to want a better lifestyle and to choose the man and his lifestyle wisely. I think he told me that because another woman we knew did marry a turkey farmer and they were always fighting over not having enough money. The woman was used to living on little, just not that little.
If a father wants to help his child, why wouldn't he? Family helps family. In-laws or not. Are you telling me her husband WANTED to wait and take longer? The man of the house can still get help from family. It's not all about putting everything on your shiulders.
This is why women need to decenter marriage. If she was happy being single she wouldnt be dealing with this. She couldve went and bought a house, called her daddy to furnish it, and lived happily ever after without all this drama and male ego. My next call to Daddy wouldve been to ask him how to get a marriage annulled.
EFF THAT😂😂😂 She doesn’t have to wait to obtain things from her father because her husband said “Since I can’t provide it, don’t go get it because it’s a hit to my ego”. SMH “Man of the house” bs, he wants an obedient bangmaid who will settle for his less-than antics. Her father is the example of a real provider and her husband cannot measure up. He wants her to struggle, be humbled, she’s in for it.
It's crazy how older generations of women went out of their way to consider a man's ego, while those same men don't give a fu¢% about a woman's feelings.
Old pickmes, they probably remember when women couldn't own their own bank account, and have formed their steadfast opinions from that era. We no longer have to make a man happy to stay fed. We can have jobs, go to college, own property
I get it, but that's a man problem for him to deal with within himself. If my daughter expressed that she wanted a bedroom set but it wasn't in the budget right now, we'd buy it for her. Full stop. Her husband wouldn't even have to thank us because that's something we did for our child, no awkwardness necessary. If he can't deal with being with a spoiled only child whose parents have more money than him, he was never with the right girl. If it's not a money issue, you're trying to humble my daughter by making her wait and I don't like that at all.
I think that this was more about respect vs control. But I do agree, if you are aware that the woman you are marrying is used to a higher lifestyle and you can’t provide that…. You should wait until you can meet the standards or find someone else. On the flip side what happened to building together, she furnished it without his input. It’s their home, not her home. She too, knew who she was marrying.
In response to your last two sentences, then she should put him out of the home post haste, as he doesn't match the decor. He got no input because he isn't man enough (as his attitude before and after showed). Who has the patience for a whiny 😩 crybaby fouling up the place?
Completely agree with this take, the other takes are just wild and only exist on the internet. There is no way so many people don’t understand why this would be an issue in real life. They’re husband and wife, the decisions they make have to be made together, the ladies in this comment section would be up in arms if the husband was making decisions about their home with his mum, but they can’t see how her going behind her back to his father would be a problem? This just doesn’t make sense. She chose the man she wanted to be with, why didn’t she choose somebody who could afford everything she needed all at once if that’s what she wanted? You cannot choose a partner who can’t afford your lifestyle, then make it an issue when he asks you to pace yourself according to your household means.
@rebirthed4674 But we don't know what he could afford. The video only stated he told her she could only do one room at a time. That sounds pretty controlling to me, as if he will dole out money to her as he sees fit. So she went to daddy. I don't blame her.
I told my partner that I don't lower to her standard. I want a house and to go on nice vacations, so that's exactly what I'm going to do and we are going to do, because I can afford it. I'm not getting to settle for less because it's not the lifestyle she's accustomed to, and I'm also not going to metaphorically sit in first while she sits in coach, I'm taking my partner with me. So partners either need to get used to the dynamic or not be in the relationship.
My mama always tell that when we were kids, my dad would scold her if we were not wearing nice clothes. It's okay for my dad to wear worn out clothes (usually freebies from suppliers) but not for us. It's a sense of pride for him for us to wear nice clothes. (Not expensive or branded, I don't think we even knew the concept of branded clothes back then. Just decent clothes.)
She should've known better marrying him. I hope she has a prenup. She need to let him do anything now " man the house or ship ⚓" . Don't ask her parents for nothing. Frfr since he's the man of the house😅😂
Marry a man who makes more money than you ladies 😂❤🎉 because when he makes more he’ll generously give you whatever you need. These problems shouldn’t have to exist but they do 😢
Yeah NO! Im not going to be controlled by your lack of funding or fragile ego. I will continue to live in the manner I am accustomed to unless it's an upgrade..Fawk all dat.
@crash92la98 then his broke ahhs should not have married her or informed her of the b.s prior to. I bet dollars to donuts he wasn't talking that b.s until AFTER the wedding. I have ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM GETTING GONE!✌️ BYE🤷♀️
@notorioushebrew4793 I can bet dollars to donuts that dad wasn't in the same tax bracket at husband's age that he is now. It takes time to build money. Once again, she agreed to marry him. She can also agree to leave and go back to Daddy's credit line if she so chooses. I just don't understand the logic of expecting a younger adult to be at the same financial status of someone who has had years more time to build their finances. It's just not logical.
@@crash92la98 by your own logic.... that's on him! He married her, he knew her background, family, and wealth, he has NO right to complain now! It's not her or her fathers problem that he is broke! If he doesn't like that, he can either leave, get a second job, or a new degree to earn more money!
@jesmey4902 Lawd, I worry about reading comprehension. You realize that him getting that second job or degree is part of that time it takes to build wealth that I was talking about, right?
This is so weird to me my in-laws are always jumping at the chance to pay for something. They just told my husband the other day to have me renovate the bathroom and send them the bill.
The worst part of the scenario is not his income, budgeting plan or failure to factor in the expense of furnishing into the house purchase price, but his machoism. He simply declared that his way goes because he's "the man of the house." Most modern women want emotionally intelligent men who can respect, listen, discuss, share, compromise and see women as human. He's not it (most aren't). She has a father in her life. It's common for parents to occasionally help out or give newlywed and housewarming gifts. He got triggered and had an existential crisis over nothing. Guys with such deep insecurities who need complete control without discussion are unsafe. They tend to escalate (overtly or covertly). Just put him out at this point. He doesn't match the home's decor.
Marrying a broke dusty will never NOT be a recipe for disaster. She should get out while she still can. That man will ALWAYS be in competition with her father and will use her as a pawn to flex what little " power and control" his fractured ego allows him to think he has. SN this is what happens when you marry just to be married cause you think any man will do. I hope she sees how that relationship is going to go and has her rainy day fund already established. He's showing her who he is and it will NOT get better.
This I maintain myself well and if shit hits the fan which it hasn’t my dad will help men hate that they can’t have me down bad because I run everything nyc my dad single since 2018 less drama and headache
I also doubt he bout the house. Either they both bought that house or daddy contributed to it via gift or something. No way that husband alone bout that house.
Hey, look, if you marry somebody who's accustomed to a certain lifestyle, be prepared to either financially subsidize their lifestyle or sit quietly to the side while they subsidize it themselves.
NOT HAVING FURNITURE SUCKS & IS EMBARRASSING. GROWING UP MY MOTHER DIDN'T HAVE FURNITURE FOR US IN MOST PLACES. SHE HAD 3 OF US...I NEVER WANTED FRIENDS OVER. AS AN ADULT IN A FEW PLACES I HAD NOTHING FOR A WHILE...GOT IT LIL BY LIL. NOW IN LIFE EVEYTHING IS FURNISH & LOVELY. THE HUSBAND THAT WOULD ALLOW HER TO GO WITHOUT IF HE CAN'T DO BUT HER FATHER COULD HELP HIS DAUGHTER. U HAVING YOUR EGO SO FAR UP YOUR A** IS CRAZY. DON'T MAKE HER GO W/OUT NOTHING...smdh
Behind his back? As if she cant go ask HER FATHER to furnish where she stay. The delulu of that statement alone is crazy. As if she need permission to talk to her family. 😂
You best believe, if my daddy got money, but my broke husband is telling me we need to wait to furnish the house one room at a time, I'm calling my daddy for the $$$! Ufck u mean?
It’s not about her hearing the word “No” it’s about her going “without” how you phrase things are important She isn’t spoil this is what a well rounded family unit looks like (-minus the husband)
I don't understand why people act that way. Obviously, don't take advantage of her parents, but asking for something you need (like a table or bed) isn't a bad thing. Be grateful and if it's a loan pay them back. Pride will mess up your life if you don't keep it in check.
Sis , go to the back of any store , they will explain lay a way to you . Nope , nope , you can't take it home today . Maybe , if it doesn't rain , y'all can get it in 6 weeks . 🤔 . Sis 😳 " Do people actually live like this ? " 😢 Us." Yes , that's high living for middle-class folks . " Poorer folks have to wait until next year tax season . 🙄 Sis : passes flat out 🤦🤕
This new bride needs to get an annulment. He knew she was wealthy and classy educated background and upbringing. Like All black mayles they believe they deserve women way out of their league. Annulment is the way to go. And she needs to only vet men on her financial level of ALL races.
Broke men love to humble financially stabled. Women, especially when she was born and raised in a financially stabled household. When he's struggling to even provide for himself, he thinks he has the funds to buy a house. You need to take care of yourself. First, before you even dare, try to marry someone and buy a home and can't even fully furnish it. You're making a fool of yourself. Honestly, it's really sad and as a Christian. At the end of the day, I'm loving myself and my heavenly father, I dare a broke man. Walk into my life and try to humble me. When my finances are growing flourishing, every step of the way that aint going to happen. Now I understand when you marry someone. You accept them if they're rich poor Through sickness and health and there's nothing wrong with that. But if you're walking fresh into the marriage and you don't even have the funds to buy a house. Fully furnished. You're making a fool of yourself the Wife was not in the wrong because she's used to a certain lifestyle. And if her husband I can't provide that, what was he thinking in the first place? What was going to happen
What I disagree with is her going behind his back. If she disagreed with his opinion she should have said so and suggested a loan from the father as a solution. If he said no to that plainly state that this is what needs to be done. Don't ever go behind your partner's back
This is the bottom line to all of this if a man who seeks a wife doesn't have his financial stability in total check that single female doesn't need to marry him ! He can't take care of his wife himself household then later on children .
This happened to one of my friends… But Her dad to told “If You Need to ask Me for Financial Help with a Man, You don’t need that Man. And He’ll Help With anything once She get rid of Him!”💅🏾 I was like Go Dad, You tell Her
I grew up spoiled by my Dad and even now he still pays for a lot of my expenses even though I’m almost 30 😂 who gets mad that their partner has wealthy parents? Just saved himself a lot of money I’m sure. A lot of men seriously do the absolute most 😭
Let's be honest some of these women have sons that don't have much to offer r they get the bare minimum n want u to get the same thing cause y else u don't want others getting what they want out of life
I wasn't born w/a silver spoon but I was raised w/standards. Not having a furnished home after just getting married sounds so ridiculous, even I'm not used to something like that! Like no, at the very least I need a mattress, a couch, a table, and 4 chairs. If I can ask my dad, I will, he ain't rich but he's resourceful af. He remodels houses for rich folk sometimes after they up and leave, they leave all their stuff there. So him and my uncle take all the things they can, he would get it, clean it, and deliver it to me. If a man can't do the same then why marry him? That being said, since I'm non-straight, I like the idea of spoiling each other and building w/someone. I wouldn't go for someone affluent af and try to bring them down a notch, that's just silly and disrespectful
If he doesn't want rich and generous in-laws, I'll take them 🤣
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Girl my husbands parents would do anything for him 👀... who am I to argue. Its not my money 💀
Right 😂😂😂
Okayyy 😂
Lucky asl my husband parents are crackheads they steal our stuff
Moral of the story: Never marry a brokie or marry down.
Simple.
I don't believe he was broke at all. Just cheap as heck and trying to humble her.
@@Childfree334he's mentally broke... That's even worst 😕
Say it louder for the people in the back!
A rich woman should NEVER EVER EVER MARRY POOR. Look at all the broke men getting alimony.
Lol notice how all of a sudden fathers shouldn’t be listened to when his ego is negatively impacted. Men despise active fathers. 😕
Abusive men especially do
That's WEIRD!!! The husband proved he was deadbeat.
Yes because she actually has a father they can’t use the normal abusive points they normalize against BLK women…
When a man attacks the woman’s protector, he’s a predator ❗️
Sooooo true 💯
I know a woman who was sick for months and her dusty husband did not take her to see a doctor because he cannot afford it!
She got so sick that she called her husband that she needs to go to the hospital. Dusty says "just take a cough syrup and a nap. It will go away". She finally calls her parents, and they admit her to a hospital, pays all the hospital bills and get her home. She had serious lung infection and dusty was not taking her to see a doctor. Her dad got mad at him and he got mad at her for "ruining his reputation".
These dusties only care about their reputations ladies. They don't care about you
I'm never surprised by these stories. He also sounded like a narcissist!
That means either he didn’t have a job or was dumb enough not to sign up for insurance! Tradhy
Sounds like he was hoping she'd die so he could get the life insurance and then get the woman he actually wanted and would rob a bank for to pay for her medical bills should she need them. Diabolical little demons they are.
What the actual hell!? That's criminal negligence at this point. I hope she left him because she is NOT safe in his care.
Oh nah he was tryna pull a Dateline... probably got a GOOD insurance policy!!
This is why you date/marry someone that you're equally yoked. You don't date someone who you'd have to lower your lifestyle and level of comfort. 😒
Actually, it's marry someone who has more!
People want to “humble you” and test you to see if you will drop your morals to be with them. Once you do, that’s when the real BS starts. I had one guy who didn’t have his life together and I told him call me when you do. 6 months later he called and was still in the situation. He wanted to see if I would be willing to settle. Blocked and Deleted 😂
This is when I hit them with “this is not what my dad wants for me!”🤷🏽♀️
The au-trashcity
@@niratomas579I love this and will be using it next time someone tries to play with me lol
@@niratomas579😂😂😂😂😂
I heard that….
#staystrong
He definitely married the wrong type of woman. He married out of his class. He is looking for someone that can handle the struggle.
Yup. Shoulda chose better. 😕
Hmmmhmmm.
Orr- he married UP. so he can get exposed to social circles and opportunities he wouldn't have being broke. Clubs.
But he knows where she comes from and what she is accustomed to. What did he think was going to happen? Honestly, I would have done the same thing. Why put a woman through the struggle?? Like what?
Should've married @reginayfavors she's the perfect struggling pickme
He couldn't even just say thank you to his wife's dad... ego is too big!
That older generation really kills me standing up for the husband no matter what. What if it was a wedding gift?
Yeah true.
Chile… they are just jealous of the wife… they couldn’t wait to humble her.
Misery loves company
That is exactly what I thought. With that kind of money that's a normal gift. Some people give them children house.
or a house warming gift...
Funny how he wasn't man enough to confront the dad. 😂
Boop 👀
😂😂😂😂😂❤
That part!!
This!
He didn’t want that smoke 💨😂
If you grew up very comfortable; having everything you wanted & needed, please don’t marry a man who doesn’t understand that/ can’t provide that for you. I never went cold or hungry under my fathers roof and I’ll be damned if I go cold & hungry under my husbands roof. That’s still her father and if he wants to do something nice for his daughter, he absolutely CAN. He doesn’t need to ask the husband for permission, it’s HIS daughter.
Exactly. I wish my husband would say I couldn't accept money and gifts from my own father. We would be divorced so fast.
He's already saying it's him over her father she just doesn't see it yet
He resents her father’s protection. He can’t financially abuse her. 😕
Ding ding ding! This is the real reason. He does not have complete control over her.
THIS!!!
This is the sad truth 💯 percent!
That part!
Daddy’s card never declines 😂😂😂❤❤❤
🗣️Evah!!!!
or mommy's...mommy has all the big money cards...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂
But she need to let him do anything now. Don't ask her parents for nothing. Let him man the house 😅😂. Hope she got a prenup
LOL! Proud Stay-at-home Daughter forever~ ❤
I disagree here. He is supposed to be able to provide at the level in which she is accustomed. Sorry bro. You need more money.
She married him - that's on her.
@@kevinc3342And he married her. It’s on both.
@@kevinc3342she will divorce him fast.
And he married her ain't no telling if he sold her empty dreams 😂 @@kevinc3342
@@kevinc3342 that’s on her? But when a woman exclusively dates wealthy men people like you call her a gold digger. This guy has a fragile ego and wants her to accept less even if she has other means.
Just to add to the first stitch. The main reason why we should not listen to older married Christian women is because they are the OG pick me's. And we should all know by now how dangerous pick me's are, in general.
Say no Pickmeishas and Mammies 💯💯💯
I guess my Mama was different. She was 35 when she married( I'm 64 so that was way back when 35 was considered ancient for a woman). My Daddy died when I was nine, and she never remarried. She never encouraged me to marry and outright told me never have children. She told me if I did marry to marry someone that loved me more than I loved them and to always keep some hidden money.😂
THAT PART!! A lot of people (Not all but literally a majority) in the older generations literally played a huge role in making black communities more misogynistic than other communities. Don’t get me wrong, many other factors contributed towards this point but not more than older black women (& men) themselves. Especially women who followed different christian practices, catholic traditions and etc.
@@juanita_rocksteady2761lol My mom had half of that mindset. As she got older and I grew up just observing her actions and behavior, I realized that her actions were different than her words. She was a pick me. My grandmother was also the same. The one person who wasn’t was my granny. I didn’t even grow up around her that much but things stuck out as I got older and she didn’t play into men’s BS.
and they have been brainwashed for years
ATTENTION MEN.....If you can't provide for a woman in the style she is used to from her parents, then DON'T MARRY HER.
There is nothing wrong with her wanting her house furnished and decorated all at once. I would have asked my father for the money as well, knowing he will always give to his baby girl. 😊❤
Right my dad would tell me to come home until he can afford it
He was dating outside his league typical men
Then your father is really your husband.
@@reginayfavors
No, her dad wants his daughter to maintain the same lifestyle he raised her on & doesn't want broke down men lowering her standards.
@@reginayfavors is the wife his mom for cooking and cleaning for him?
He thought, “if I say no, that means no.” Meant something 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
and to a rich girl? Oh hunty please 😂😂
@@ulquiorraisawesome a joke 😂😂😂
The fool 🤭
😂😂😂😂
This is another example of a man who goes after a woman just to humble her. It’s giving I want your life and since I can’t have it neither can you. They really be jealous of you and your lifestyle.
yeah! had a guy interested in me, started flirting, then ask me for 50/50 after he saw my LV wallet because he knew he couldn/didnt want to afford it, though he was a doctor but he was stingy with his money & financially illiterate I could tell, he was just starting out & spending too much money on his 4k apartment which he could have invested in a house instead, but yeah men live in the moment I guess, not my cup of tea either way
If he can only afford the house and not to furnish it, he can’t afford the house. It’s called being house poor. If I was the girl, I’d have gone back to my daddy’s house ASAP
More than likely the woman's daddy gave them a "gift" to help buy it. The woman's "credit" with her name on the loan application for the house cinched the deal.
These dudes out here acting as though they're "providing" are grifters/gold diggers.
a house without a washing machine is not worth the price if you know what I mean
Never date down your standard's because he will try to act like he is the man of the house and the moment you decide to leave him in the dust he will get violent and lash out.
L L Q J. Ladies leave quietly, just do it. Don’t argue, don’t say you’re leaving, slowly start getting your support system ready, have a place to go. One by one, while he’s not home, slowly start mailing off/moving out your things (never let him see boxes if you move things, only make moves while he’s not home) to your friends or family members or to your new place. When none of your things are left. Leave the key, walk out & you be the very last thing to go. Block him on socials, on your phone, email, every where. Give him no info to find you. LEAVE QUIETLY. If you announce your plans, it only gives him the chance to escalate into anger, physical abuse, or death.
My first husband told me when we first got married that we couldn't eat meat in order to save money. I said oh no because in my father's house I ate meat. I continued to eat meat.
Guess what he after years of marriage can use these money to spend and younger woman. 😂😂😂
What!! Now I'm curious, did start with meat?? Or was it electric, watching the AC, taking the bus and THEN no meat?
WAIT-- WHAT????? Come again? No meat??? Glad you kept on eating it. The effing AUDACITY 😂
That's wild
@oliviaw.2842 it started with meat and then when to buying clothing for myself.
Imagine the designer labelled furniture!😂😂😂 He knew what he was marrying!
So let me get this straight, the woman should settle for less to protect a man’s ego? Don’t give me wrong the woman also chose to marry below her lifestyle, but dude also need to understand that he is suppose to give her a life close to what she’s use to.
Yes they both matched wrong.
Right. A woman should refuse her father’s protection to accommodate her husband’s ego lol.
I really don't see the issue here. He's just not able to furnish the house at a go. As long as they're able to get the essential furnishings, I'm okay with that
@@TOFFEETASTICCThen what's the point of me taking my husband's surname? I might as well have kept my dads name. My dad already has his wife and kids that he should be responsible for. It ain't fair on him.
@FoAl-h2b So because you took your husband's surname, you are now his legal slave?
When you have more money than your husband, stuff like this happens. Day to day decisions are awkward for you and insulting for him
That last sentence 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Why is it insulting for him??? Is money the only thing he brings to the table? And that's why he is getting one upped on the one thing he is supposed to bring to the table?
@@crestfire8008don't you know mkst men think that they only need to have money and that's the only thing he should bring to the table? This is the real reason they are controlling and insecure when the woman earns more than him. Even if she is as sweet as humble pie.
@@crestfire8008 men need to feel useful/needed (see how “I don’t need a man” is the same as “you’re worthless” to them?) when you can do/afford things he can’t, it makes him feel worthless. It’s just how men’s minds are wired
They
@@crestfire8008for a lot of dudes, yes! They seem mad that financially dominating women isn’t an option anymore and are mad that they need actual qualities and personality to keep a partner
He’s the man of the house but can’t even provide? What a joke.
She would've been better off being alone or getting with someone who could actually take care of her.
Exactly
Right!
I remember my ex telling me that he didn’t have to give me money. I said that’s ok, I’ll ask my dad. That 💳 came out so fast 😂
Those with the higher standard win. It is okay to raise someone up, but it is not ok to drag someone down. This goes for cleanliness as well.
That's right!!
Speak on it🙌🏾
Men expect and demand women to do all the compromising in relationships. Compromise is for small issues only, like berber vs shag carpeting. You don't compromise your lifestyle. If you're accustomed to getting what you want when you want, you shouldn't marry a man who wants you to lower yourself and accept a target handbag vs Gucci. Marriage should be between near equals in major things. Both must be career driven or not, want children or not, live lavishly or not, reside in the city/suburbs/rural or not. Compromise on major things leads to unhappiness/dissatisfaction with one partner and eventually erodes the marriage.
I can see it being a problem if she opened lines of credit and maxed out the cards in order to furnish the home but since her dad’s buying it what’s the problem?
I wouldn’t want to go room by room when I know I have the means to do otherwise lmfaooo
Her husband maybe cannot afford her. He should have thought about that before marrying her. If you have a Dad that taught you that a man should be able to do XYZ then the adult daughter will expect that from her husband. The husband has to maintain the life that the father provided to his daughter. My father always told me don’t deal with a man with no car or NEEDS you to work.
I also blame the dad too aswell. He should have guided her to men that were just like him
@@FoAl-h2bhe probably did but she is hard headed
@@FoAl-h2b he probably did but she watched too many Disney movies and lost her common sense
He knew what he was in for guess he should have chosen better 🤪
Yeah see, that's the problem I have with these older generation women out here who think that a husband by default in some type of gift or blessing. I wish a man would tell me that because he's the man in my life, whatever he says goes. And then they wonder why more and more of us younger generation women have been choosing to stay single, and do our own thing. Why the hell would I want to be with a man that thinks he's going to be able to control me, and tell me what the hell I can and cannot do in my house when it comes to something like getting furniture?
Other cultures will gift their newly wed kids, new homes, vacations, cars, furniture, etc.
In Africa, there are dowries and bride prices that go to the brides family. There is no excuse for the dusty behavior anywhere in the world!
I saw this with some of my peers in my early 20s. Their families would pay for everything so they could have a strong start at life and focus on their careers and marriages.
Exactly! And if they can't, they will gift you money to go and buy all of that for yourself and make your first big purchases as a couple with that money, and if you spend it well enough, it's usually enough for everything. And some guests will gift you appliances and such as well.
Some guys have a strange obsession with dating outside their league and try to humble her... Naw fella, she was already financially above you & you tried to bring her down to your tax bracket.
LISTEN TO THOSE PICKMES
IN THE BEGINNING OF THE VIDEO
😂😂😂
THEY ADVOCATE STRUGGLE LOVE 😂😂😂
Like sis you ain’t tired of carrying this big ol’ cape! Put the mf cape down already
@@niratomas579cape lady u gonna hurt ur back capping for bum broke men that don't have no cash
They must have a son that don't have crap that they need to pawn off to somebody daughter
@@shaypope4732you are right. Most old pickmeishas are usually the ones with dusty sons. They need a woman to be subservient to their dusty sons the same way they are to them
Peep the jealousy- how you bringing up your “friends” story as a lesson- even the silver spoon statement was telling
People look down on arranged marriages but this is why parents get so up in arms. Why marry my daughter if you can’t even furnish the home?!?!
Good parents that care about their daughters happiness
Her daddy probably told her not to marry him.
I agree ,but he allowed her to find for herself
That part. Especially if you have a father in your life that’s not a dusty listen to him.
Men always want to be the man of the house without having man of the house money.
😂😂😂 that part‼️
Girl 😂😂
But they want the lawyer woman to marry the bus driver man... meanwhile DV and unaliving cases are on the rise. Literally giving women the worst advice possible, misery loves them some company.
Literally two female doctors recently had their lives snatched from their partners... wild.
Imagine you raise a daughter you love with all your heart, and you work sooooo hard to for her to grow up in some form of privilege.
She finds someone and you give your blessing for their marriage.
Then her idiot of a husband, that you trusted, would rather have your beloved daughter live in an empty house than to ask for the money because of pride. 🙃🙃🙃
Your partners comfort is more important than your pride
“I’m the man of the house.” 😂 So?
& im the woman of the house haha
Going behind his back sounds so stupid. That is her daddy and that grown woman can ask her father if she wants to. My mom and dad would give me whatever I ask if they have it. They love me and I would do the same for them. My spouse also gives me whatever I wany so its a win win....lol
Right. That is her FATHER, not some random other man she is getting money from.
@@Goosebumps1395 I know a woman who was sick for months and her dusty husband did not take her to see a doctor because he cannot afford it!
She got so sick that she called her husband that she needs to go to the hospital. Dusty says "just take a cough syrup and a nap. It will go away". She finally calls her parents, and they admit her to a hospital, pays all the hospital bills and get her home. She had serious lung infection and dusty was not taking her to see a doctor. Her dad got mad at him and he got mad at her for "ruining his reputation".
These dusties only care about their reputations ladies. They don't care about you
Imagine having to ask permission to talk to your own parents ew
That sh it was worded so nefariously. She said it like the woman is a spoiled brat that just had to have her way. When I would bet my last pair of shoes her parents asked about the house and when they were going to furnish and she simply told them the truth that they couldn't afford it. My parents would do the same thing and not even blink about it cause they want their daughter to be happy and comfortable. I can't imagine letting my child struggle over some fragile mans ego especially when I got it to give!
These three are type of people that will let you be in a house without heating because your husband can only afford the electric bill 🤭
Asking family or friends? Absolutely not! Better let the company cut your heating so your husband feel like his the man of the house 😂
Yeah stupidity at it’s finest 😂😂😂
No one is sitting on the floor waiting for your come up.
That's kinda what she chose to do by marring him, yes?
Okay?? Id have back problems before he did....and what if he never did?? We can't have that!
I noticed so much push back from my ex when I wanted to start eating healthy. I knew we were doomed when he’d go shopping for all of our groceries at the dollar store😂. Meanwhile I’m up here paying rent, buying organic groceries , sleeping on silky sheets,etc.
🤣🤣
@@crash92la98no she chose to have her daddy furnish it 😂😂
I was born with a golden, jewel-encrusted spoon in my mouth. As far as marriage was concerned, my dad's only request (besides the obvious) was that the guy be from a similar background. He did not want any of his daughters marrying down. A couple of my older sisters did this and it caused absolute chaos.
Women...stop dating down. Date your equal or higher class.
I married a man that didnt have as much as my " dad " but it didnt bother me I was married before and lost my husband and I am financially stable without a man ( I own houses, own my car have no loans on anything ). When ever I buy a new house my dad gifts me around 100 thousand to make it how ever I like it and he buys me a new car every 3/5 years. My husband cant do that for me and doesnt like that my dad does makes him feel like he isnt the man..😂
That last sentence is EXACTLY why I always speak so HIGHLY of my dad to ANY man!
@@niratomas579they face get screwed up when they realize they can't compete
Loll “If I say we can’t afford it, it doesn’t mean we can’t. It just means not today”
…sooo in other words…he can’t afford it ? Lmao ma’am be serious 😂😂
I’ll admit I’m slightly spoiled!! For me I’d rather stay single than be with a man who can’t match my lifestyle!! If I have to struggle rather do it alone.
Years ago an older gentleman told me when you marry, you are marrying a lifestyle. So if you marry a turkey farmer, for example, you are marrying that lifestyle. I felt like he was letting me know as a Christian woman, it is OK to want a better lifestyle and to choose the man and his lifestyle wisely. I think he told me that because another woman we knew did marry a turkey farmer and they were always fighting over not having enough money. The woman was used to living on little, just not that little.
If a father wants to help his child, why wouldn't he? Family helps family. In-laws or not. Are you telling me her husband WANTED to wait and take longer? The man of the house can still get help from family. It's not all about putting everything on your shiulders.
Exactly. Which tells me this isn’t about money. This is ego and this idea that he doesn’t have complete control over her.
This is why women need to decenter marriage. If she was happy being single she wouldnt be dealing with this. She couldve went and bought a house, called her daddy to furnish it, and lived happily ever after without all this drama and male ego.
My next call to Daddy wouldve been to ask him how to get a marriage annulled.
EFF THAT😂😂😂 She doesn’t have to wait to obtain things from her father because her husband said “Since I can’t provide it, don’t go get it because it’s a hit to my ego”. SMH “Man of the house” bs, he wants an obedient bangmaid who will settle for his less-than antics. Her father is the example of a real provider and her husband cannot measure up. He wants her to struggle, be humbled, she’s in for it.
My dad would have gave him the receipt with a invoice asking for his money back since u da man of da house
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
If I had rich father too I wouldn't hesitate to ask my Dad
It's crazy how older generations of women went out of their way to consider a man's ego, while those same men don't give a fu¢% about a woman's feelings.
Old pickmes, they probably remember when women couldn't own their own bank account, and have formed their steadfast opinions from that era. We no longer have to make a man happy to stay fed. We can have jobs, go to college, own property
I get it, but that's a man problem for him to deal with within himself. If my daughter expressed that she wanted a bedroom set but it wasn't in the budget right now, we'd buy it for her. Full stop. Her husband wouldn't even have to thank us because that's something we did for our child, no awkwardness necessary. If he can't deal with being with a spoiled only child whose parents have more money than him, he was never with the right girl. If it's not a money issue, you're trying to humble my daughter by making her wait and I don't like that at all.
My dad always said
‘Don’t marry a man who cannot provide you with a life better than the one I provided for you.’
I think that this was more about respect vs control. But I do agree, if you are aware that the woman you are marrying is used to a higher lifestyle and you can’t provide that…. You should wait until you can meet the standards or find someone else. On the flip side what happened to building together, she furnished it without his input. It’s their home, not her home. She too, knew who she was marrying.
I don't know many men who even care how a woman decorates a home just as long as he has his private space.
Thank you. An actual nuanced take on the matter.
In response to your last two sentences, then she should put him out of the home post haste, as he doesn't match the decor. He got no input because he isn't man enough (as his attitude before and after showed). Who has the patience for a whiny 😩 crybaby fouling up the place?
Completely agree with this take, the other takes are just wild and only exist on the internet. There is no way so many people don’t understand why this would be an issue in real life.
They’re husband and wife, the decisions they make have to be made together, the ladies in this comment section would be up in arms if the husband was making decisions about their home with his mum, but they can’t see how her going behind her back to his father would be a problem? This just doesn’t make sense.
She chose the man she wanted to be with, why didn’t she choose somebody who could afford everything she needed all at once if that’s what she wanted? You cannot choose a partner who can’t afford your lifestyle, then make it an issue when he asks you to pace yourself according to your household means.
@rebirthed4674 But we don't know what he could afford. The video only stated he told her she could only do one room at a time. That sounds pretty controlling to me, as if he will dole out money to her as he sees fit. So she went to daddy. I don't blame her.
Him: *safe money by buying on room at the time* Her: *safes even more money by asking daddy for help* Him: 😡
I told my partner that I don't lower to her standard. I want a house and to go on nice vacations, so that's exactly what I'm going to do and we are going to do, because I can afford it. I'm not getting to settle for less because it's not the lifestyle she's accustomed to, and I'm also not going to metaphorically sit in first while she sits in coach, I'm taking my partner with me.
So partners either need to get used to the dynamic or not be in the relationship.
My mama always tell that when we were kids, my dad would scold her if we were not wearing nice clothes. It's okay for my dad to wear worn out clothes (usually freebies from suppliers) but not for us. It's a sense of pride for him for us to wear nice clothes. (Not expensive or branded, I don't think we even knew the concept of branded clothes back then. Just decent clothes.)
Has he never heard of housewarming gifts?
They live in lack so they wouldn’t know this!
She should've known better marrying him. I hope she has a prenup. She need to let him do anything now " man the house or ship ⚓" . Don't ask her parents for nothing. Frfr since he's the man of the house😅😂
Ladies. STOP MARRYING DOWN! That's it.
Marry a man who makes more money than you ladies 😂❤🎉 because when he makes more he’ll generously give you whatever you need. These problems shouldn’t have to exist but they do 😢
Yeah NO! Im not going to be controlled by your lack of funding or fragile ego. I will continue to live in the manner I am accustomed to unless it's an upgrade..Fawk all dat.
Then she shouldn't have married him. It's equally on her in this situation.
@crash92la98 then his broke ahhs should not have married her or informed her of the b.s prior to. I bet dollars to donuts he wasn't talking that b.s until AFTER the wedding. I have ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM GETTING GONE!✌️ BYE🤷♀️
@notorioushebrew4793 I can bet dollars to donuts that dad wasn't in the same tax bracket at husband's age that he is now. It takes time to build money.
Once again, she agreed to marry him. She can also agree to leave and go back to Daddy's credit line if she so chooses.
I just don't understand the logic of expecting a younger adult to be at the same financial status of someone who has had years more time to build their finances. It's just not logical.
@@crash92la98 by your own logic.... that's on him!
He married her, he knew her background, family, and wealth, he has NO right to complain now!
It's not her or her fathers problem that he is broke!
If he doesn't like that, he can either leave, get a second job, or a new degree to earn more money!
@jesmey4902 Lawd, I worry about reading comprehension.
You realize that him getting that second job or degree is part of that time it takes to build wealth that I was talking about, right?
I will always call and ask my daddy for something, if my man can’t get it. Sorry. Not sorry.
This is so weird to me my in-laws are always jumping at the chance to pay for something.
They just told my husband the other day to have me renovate the bathroom and send them the bill.
My in-laws are quick to fix and help with anything!!! His family helps each other point, blank period!
That was an awesome thing for her father to do for them! He needs to shut up and thank the man for his generosity!
Some dudes need to stay in their lane and quit trying to downgrade your partner.
The worst part of the scenario is not his income, budgeting plan or failure to factor in the expense of furnishing into the house purchase price, but his machoism. He simply declared that his way goes because he's "the man of the house."
Most modern women want emotionally intelligent men who can respect, listen, discuss, share, compromise and see women as human. He's not it (most aren't).
She has a father in her life. It's common for parents to occasionally help out or give newlywed and housewarming gifts.
He got triggered and had an existential crisis over nothing. Guys with such deep insecurities who need complete control without discussion are unsafe. They tend to escalate (overtly or covertly).
Just put him out at this point. He doesn't match the home's decor.
He wanted a champagne woman on a beer budget.
OH....you got it EXACTLY right!🤣🤣🤣
Marrying a broke dusty will never NOT be a recipe for disaster. She should get out while she still can. That man will ALWAYS be in competition with her father and will use her as a pawn to flex what little " power and control" his fractured ego allows him to think he has. SN this is what happens when you marry just to be married cause you think any man will do. I hope she sees how that relationship is going to go and has her rainy day fund already established. He's showing her who he is and it will NOT get better.
This I maintain myself well and if shit hits the fan which it hasn’t my dad will help men hate that they can’t have me down bad because I run everything nyc my dad single since 2018 less drama and headache
I also doubt he bout the house. Either they both bought that house or daddy contributed to it via gift or something. No way that husband alone bout that house.
It’s been purchased by daddy. She can’t even afford furniture so she hasn’t bought it or her dusty man.
Hey, look, if you marry somebody who's accustomed to a certain lifestyle, be prepared to either financially subsidize their lifestyle or sit quietly to the side while they subsidize it themselves.
They get so mad when you call your daddy 😂 but any slight inconvenience. “Never mind I’ll just call my Daddy.” 😅 no Daddy issues here I have a Daddy!
these are the same men who say they don't want women who were raised in fatherless homes.....well here ya go!
NOT HAVING FURNITURE SUCKS & IS EMBARRASSING. GROWING UP MY MOTHER DIDN'T HAVE FURNITURE FOR US IN MOST PLACES. SHE HAD 3 OF US...I NEVER WANTED FRIENDS OVER. AS AN ADULT IN A FEW PLACES I HAD NOTHING FOR A WHILE...GOT IT LIL BY LIL. NOW IN LIFE EVEYTHING IS FURNISH & LOVELY. THE HUSBAND THAT WOULD ALLOW HER TO GO WITHOUT IF HE CAN'T DO BUT HER FATHER COULD HELP HIS DAUGHTER. U HAVING YOUR EGO SO FAR UP YOUR A** IS CRAZY. DON'T MAKE HER GO W/OUT NOTHING...smdh
Behind his back? As if she cant go ask HER FATHER to furnish where she stay. The delulu of that statement alone is crazy. As if she need permission to talk to her family. 😂
Exactly!! Question, do you watch Charlotte Dobre? Im wondering is delulu is a common term that wasnt coined by her
Hubby needs to STEP up then.😒NEVER date or marry BENEATH your station.😊
You best believe, if my daddy got money, but my broke husband is telling me we need to wait to furnish the house one room at a time, I'm calling my daddy for the $$$! Ufck u mean?
It’s not about her hearing the word “No” it’s about her going “without” how you phrase things are important She isn’t spoil this is what a well rounded family unit looks like (-minus the husband)
He resents her father’s protection smh. 😕
Like why would I give up everything for a man who has nothing , just no.
I wish a ninja would say he was the man of the house. If you're then man where the f*ck is my furniture!
I would tell him not to use the furniture then. I would leave one room empty and let him sleep in there
😅🤣
I don't understand why people act that way. Obviously, don't take advantage of her parents, but asking for something you need (like a table or bed) isn't a bad thing. Be grateful and if it's a loan pay them back. Pride will mess up your life if you don't keep it in check.
So will going into thousands of dollars worth of debt.
Sis , go to the back of any store , they will explain lay a way to you . Nope , nope , you can't take it home today . Maybe , if it doesn't rain , y'all can get it in 6 weeks . 🤔 . Sis 😳 " Do people actually live like this ? " 😢 Us." Yes , that's high living for middle-class folks . " Poorer folks have to wait until next year tax season . 🙄 Sis : passes flat out 🤦🤕
This new bride needs to get an annulment. He knew she was wealthy and classy educated background and upbringing. Like All black mayles they believe they deserve women way out of their league. Annulment is the way to go. And she needs to only vet men on her financial level of ALL races.
Broke men love to humble financially stabled. Women, especially when she was born and raised in a financially stabled household. When he's struggling to even provide for himself, he thinks he has the funds to buy a house. You need to take care of yourself. First, before you even dare, try to marry someone and buy a home and can't even fully furnish it. You're making a fool of yourself. Honestly, it's really sad and as a Christian. At the end of the day, I'm loving myself and my heavenly father, I dare a broke man. Walk into my life and try to humble me. When my finances are growing flourishing, every step of the way that aint going to happen. Now I understand when you marry someone. You accept them if they're rich poor Through sickness and health and there's nothing wrong with that. But if you're walking fresh into the marriage and you don't even have the funds to buy a house. Fully furnished. You're making a fool of yourself the Wife was not in the wrong because she's used to a certain lifestyle. And if her husband I can't provide that, what was he thinking in the first place? What was going to happen
What I disagree with is her going behind his back. If she disagreed with his opinion she should have said so and suggested a loan from the father as a solution. If he said no to that plainly state that this is what needs to be done. Don't ever go behind your partner's back
This is the bottom line to all of this if a man who seeks a wife doesn't have his financial stability in total check that single female doesn't need to marry him ! He can't take care of his wife himself household then later on children .
This happened to one of my friends…
But Her dad to told “If You Need to ask Me for Financial Help with a Man, You don’t need that Man.
And He’ll Help With anything once She get rid of Him!”💅🏾
I was like Go Dad, You tell Her
Her dad is 💯 correct
Old head mammies. These the type of old heads to let the "funny" relative around the kids "just cause hes family"
Dangerous women to listen to
He was probably going to invite his friends over without anywhere for them to sit, no plates, no cups 😂😂. Man just don't think things through
I grew up spoiled by my Dad and even now he still pays for a lot of my expenses even though I’m almost 30 😂 who gets mad that their partner has wealthy parents? Just saved himself a lot of money I’m sure. A lot of men seriously do the absolute most 😭
This is what happens when you marry beneath your pay grade. they are not equally yoked.
That guy is one of those guys who want to have a trophy wife and control them. They want power. It feeds their ego
Let's be honest some of these women have sons that don't have much to offer r they get the bare minimum n want u to get the same thing cause y else u don't want others getting what they want out of life
I wasn't born w/a silver spoon but I was raised w/standards. Not having a furnished home after just getting married sounds so ridiculous, even I'm not used to something like that! Like no, at the very least I need a mattress, a couch, a table, and 4 chairs. If I can ask my dad, I will, he ain't rich but he's resourceful af. He remodels houses for rich folk sometimes after they up and leave, they leave all their stuff there. So him and my uncle take all the things they can, he would get it, clean it, and deliver it to me. If a man can't do the same then why marry him?
That being said, since I'm non-straight, I like the idea of spoiling each other and building w/someone. I wouldn't go for someone affluent af and try to bring them down a notch, that's just silly and disrespectful
I would HOPE one could go to ones parents for help at any age for help 🙄 get outta here with that.