Thanks, Terry. I love how straightforward this is. Retaliation from the victim position ( we know when we're there) is pointless. It is like swallowing poison. And when retaliation is coming at me and the other person doesn't want to connect and work through issues, all I can do is recalibrate the space between us, hold my centre and be open to change.
Great point! In RLT we would call what you are describing as "Telling the truth to Power", and we are all about that! Retaliation in a relationship context would be more like eating the resentment, and then screwing up a key project at work behind your bosses back so they look really bad. Depending on how you got your boss fired it could be retaliation, or Standing Up To Power.
Hi Terry, Once the wise adult is back in the driving seat after the adaptive child is triggered by a partner, is it always essential to let the partner know what happened/talk through it with them? Love the videos!
Thanks, Terry. I love how straightforward this is. Retaliation from the victim position ( we know when we're there) is pointless. It is like swallowing poison. And when retaliation is coming at me and the other person doesn't want to connect and work through issues, all I can do is recalibrate the space between us, hold my centre and be open to change.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Retaliation can do wonders. My boss was a jerk. I retaliated. Our director talked to other of his employees and fired him. Retaliation worked great.
Great point! In RLT we would call what you are describing as "Telling the truth to Power", and we are all about that! Retaliation in a relationship context would be more like eating the resentment, and then screwing up a key project at work behind your bosses back so they look really bad. Depending on how you got your boss fired it could be retaliation, or Standing Up To Power.
Hi Terry,
Once the wise adult is back in the driving seat after the adaptive child is triggered by a partner, is it always essential to let the partner know what happened/talk through it with them?
Love the videos!
Such great information is always. But I don’t know why they have added music? It makes it so incredibly difficult to hear.
Thank you for the feedback, Sheryl - will take it into consideration for future videos.
@@realterryreal Thanks! Much appreciated! I don’t like to miss a word.