the fear of being loved

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  • @yookjaldo7503
    @yookjaldo7503 9 місяців тому +5956

    "I want to be watched but not to be seen" hits me right in the face

    • @coreyroberts47
      @coreyroberts47 9 місяців тому +86

      I’ve never had my headspace so accurately described, even by myself (I’m musician and writer, it’s kind of the whole point)

    • @baridakara
      @baridakara 9 місяців тому +59

      for me i would hate to be watched. i feel like being watched has way too much superficial judgement

    • @harvey5531
      @harvey5531 9 місяців тому +52

      I’m the other way around

    • @vanleeuwenhoek
      @vanleeuwenhoek 9 місяців тому +22

      Eyes without a face describes the condition of a lot of people. If you spend your time alone interacting through screens this is a likely outcome. It was mine. Schedule things that put you out of your comfort zone for limited amounts of time. You can acclimate to other settings and mindsets.

    • @dartingralaughter9781
      @dartingralaughter9781 9 місяців тому +2

      Yeah, but like, backwards

  • @keilajalinous9642
    @keilajalinous9642 9 місяців тому +10674

    never though i could be so intrigued by a bee and flower discussing the existential crisis of love and vulnerability

    • @peinin
      @peinin 9 місяців тому +8

      ​@@HeisenbergIsHereIt's very smart way to not get banned for spam, but truely it's still spam, so no

    • @pancake3885
      @pancake3885 9 місяців тому +1

      me neither

    • @nepetaleijon7643
      @nepetaleijon7643 9 місяців тому +5

      Ye heard of the midnight gospel purr chance?

    • @SmileOlderBro_GodsBrother
      @SmileOlderBro_GodsBrother 9 місяців тому +2

      Never the less a PVZ sunflower

    • @marco_4043
      @marco_4043 9 місяців тому +4

      You will love midnight gospel

  • @MrTheBroMoe
    @MrTheBroMoe 9 місяців тому +7277

    This gives midnight gospel vibes and I’m fully here for it

    • @Dragon_Turtles
      @Dragon_Turtles 9 місяців тому +164

      Literally, I hope they continue to make more like this!! I also feel like it's easier to share than other forms of content

    • @Hushiix3
      @Hushiix3 9 місяців тому +58

      exactly what i thought, get pendelton ward to do a collab with him

    • @Neburenn
      @Neburenn 9 місяців тому +23

      beat me to saying it

    • @naffy3327
      @naffy3327 9 місяців тому +2

      quit comparing things
      cut it out

    • @Neburenn
      @Neburenn 9 місяців тому +75

      @@naffy3327 no comparison is how people understand information contextually, quit policing people comparing media

  • @LossyInput
    @LossyInput 9 місяців тому +4391

    I fear no man.
    But that... thing... (genuine emotional connection with and putting my guard down for another human being)
    It scares me.

    • @kingofravens215
      @kingofravens215 9 місяців тому +48

      This 1,000,000% this

    • @anusha2465
      @anusha2465 9 місяців тому +87

      Considering the amount of betrayal I had gotten in life, I cannot do it

    • @markumoeder
      @markumoeder 9 місяців тому +38

      Probably because of all the condoned and normalized abuse in your life or past.

    • @roxination7176
      @roxination7176 9 місяців тому +11

      Felt that

    • @juf9055
      @juf9055 9 місяців тому +32

      the best feeling on earth is being fully comfortable with someone else

  • @Quinold
    @Quinold 9 місяців тому +1920

    I’ve always had the fear that once people get to know me more that they will want absolutely nothing to do with me.
    I’ve had tons of friends that had always distanced themselves from me after a while. So I just found it easier to not let people get any closer.
    I’ve been improving day by day tho and I’m starting to find the real friends I can rely on.

    • @jaimebm816
      @jaimebm816 9 місяців тому +45

      Me too, I don't know why it always happens to me. I wish to think that it's them and not me, but when it happens so often, either they are all mistaken, or I am doing something wrong, and the most likely is the latter, I suppose."

    • @thedragonofthewest5789
      @thedragonofthewest5789 9 місяців тому +14

      Same. I fear that I would bore them

    • @ltmonga
      @ltmonga 9 місяців тому +30

      most times it’s not the “essence” of the person, but the unhealthy behaviors that they might lean into that can cause others to draw boundaries or need some space. in this case, healthy self-reflection and the council of a trustworthy, neutral party is helpful in realizing you are a dynamic human capable of changing the patterns of your life

    • @athenayres2434
      @athenayres2434 9 місяців тому +28

      "Do you ever get the sense that to know you more is to love you less?" - Hollyhock Manheim-Manheim-whatever
      I don't think this statement is true. I think sometimes we meet people and the more they get to know about you the more they realise that you're not necessarily meant to be friends. And that's okay. We're not going to get along with everyone. I think being yourself simply allows those who do like you to stick around and those who don't, their time isn't wasted.

    • @shocktg7963
      @shocktg7963 9 місяців тому +3

      Same man. Hurts reading you write how I feel I need to change.

  • @nerd26373
    @nerd26373 9 місяців тому +3206

    As an introverted person, people may look at me and say that I'd be difficult to love. I don't really share my vulnerabilities and sometimes I can get cold towards people, even the ones I'm close to.

    • @ScabiousGarde
      @ScabiousGarde 9 місяців тому +171

      I'm an extroverted person who never shares their vulnerabilities. I come off as warm and people like me, but they love the character of Me I'm playing. I think the How can be a lot more varied than the Why, and I think we probably have a similar Why: we're afraid. I know I am. Absolutely terrified out of my wits

    • @oshing9
      @oshing9 9 місяців тому +142

      Note- Not all introverts are stand-offish, cold or not vulnerable (infact it's the opposite because introverts usually stand with less people or none making us easy to pick on).
      Being an introvert does not mean not liking people or company or being cold, it's that we prefer majority of our time to be by ourselves to recharge since we tend to lose energy in crowded places while extroverts gain energy from the crowd. Being an introvert does not give us the excuse to be "cold" where as healthy detachment is always encouraged.

    • @Vlad-Ra
      @Vlad-Ra 9 місяців тому

      @@HeisenbergIsHere As a person, I don't remember asking

    • @daisukye
      @daisukye 9 місяців тому +10

      And what do you do when your close ones feel bad because you were cold towards them?

    • @peinin
      @peinin 9 місяців тому +3

      ​​@@daisukyeou beat me to ask it! It's such a big problem, even if I were/had been right, because almost every close ones thinks that I totally think like them. It's so awful!

  • @Yashhh02
    @Yashhh02 9 місяців тому +468

    How many of us all can just agree that everyone who's afraid of love and vulnerability now, has been hurted once just cause you let your guard down ? So we just don't wanna get hurt anymore.
    (Edited)
    Guys, this approach is shit, I observed that my inability to express love, be vulnerable around the people I love, Made them drift away from me.
    we need to learn how to love ourselves enough to be able to love others without getting hurt. Basically healthy boundaries.

    • @FrootKat
      @FrootKat 9 місяців тому +17

      Yeah I guess it all stems out of the need for survival. Feeling accepted is sooo important for us to feel safe so no wonder we shut down so quickly when we’re rejected. I really want to learn to, well, just simply care less I suppose.

    • @user-vq3lx9rp5w
      @user-vq3lx9rp5w 9 місяців тому +6

      love it how you show us your journey in this. Put yourself first and love yourself no matter what happens and have people around you can talk to about this fear of rejection (plot twist: most of the people have that fear). once you realise this and see your vulnerability and softness as a power and not a weakness you'll be okay eventhough nothing is permanent. Life is flowing like river, to learn to ride a boat though the rapids is the art to learn. don't fight against the stream and don't let yourself be drawn under water by each wave. but hei its not easy and first step is always conciousness and realising ones position. wish you and everyone who reads this all the best. you can do it. believe and trust. :)

    • @suspicious2delicious
      @suspicious2delicious 7 місяців тому +1

      I actively sabotage myself when someone tries to connect with me romantically. Like before I noticed they try to the relationship is great and genuine.

    • @marrrweee
      @marrrweee 7 місяців тому +1

      @@FrootKatyou can care less by training yourself more to care what you think than others, until it becomes automatic. This happens over time when you do actions no matter how small, but consistently every day that proves to you that you love you & you can trust yourself.

  • @madelinewerner7544
    @madelinewerner7544 9 місяців тому +787

    I’m only rejected when I’m vulnerable and act like myself. My false confident and upbeat mask has no such problem

    • @kdavis6722
      @kdavis6722 9 місяців тому +40

      Is "yourself" negative etc.? I know that sometimes some people think that theirself is just who is left when the mask comes off, so if joy etc is part of the mast, it "must be dropped" with the mask. I'm sure that once you get like really comfortable with your skin, you'll find people who flow the same way and you can be authentic. Maybe it's who you're around?

    • @FrootKat
      @FrootKat 9 місяців тому +26

      But isn’t that a good thing? You can’t be liked by everyone, so if some people naturally fall away when you are your true self - I say take it as a good sign. It’s cheesy to say, but your true crowd will stick around for who you are. Sure - work on yourself, become better and more valuable, more virtuous , but leave that mask off.

    • @coreyroberts47
      @coreyroberts47 9 місяців тому +13

      I’ve found a medium. Too much mask is off putting, but full disclosure/openness turns people’s off with my weird gallows humor. My true friends love that part tho, we’ve been tight since middle school and I’m 31 now. But for mid friends acquaintances it’s a bit of a dance

    • @dartingralaughter9781
      @dartingralaughter9781 9 місяців тому +3

      This hits harder than it should.

    • @cornerstone2449
      @cornerstone2449 9 місяців тому +18

      It's because you have a deep seated and probably unconscious expectation that your unregarded self will be attacked/disliked.
      I have the same issue.
      Deep down, in the belly of your ego, for whatever unknown reasons, you don't really want to be loved and accepted.
      And it is probably related to fear of your own greatness; fear of uniqueness because of this dull herd-mentality society, and laziness because you know how much more would be expected of you if you really went for it.
      On a deep level there is an identification with the base, banal, mundane, negative and the closed,
      Instead of identification with the miraculous, beautiful, true, good and open.

  • @DarthPhroge
    @DarthPhroge 9 місяців тому +701

    I wish for everyone to find a persob like that once. But the fear of someone seeing your worst flaws (which are probably many) is completely reasonable I think.

    • @muhammadsallie1447
      @muhammadsallie1447 9 місяців тому +25

      its normally the unconditional love one would receive from a parent, in adulthood love will most probably not be unconditional.

    • @TheFunniestFool
      @TheFunniestFool 9 місяців тому +33

      ​@@muhammadsallie1447 Love is never truly unconditional. This might sound bad but its actually pretty good, as unconditional love sounds like an impossible goal to set. Just because it can never be unconditional though, doesn't mean it can't be good

    • @muhammadsallie1447
      @muhammadsallie1447 9 місяців тому +4

      @@TheFunniestFool fair enough some of us (myself) won't meet the criteria to be loved.

    • @kclarke5796
      @kclarke5796 9 місяців тому +3

      ​@muhammadsallie1447 You're not alone, I feel the same way every waking moment.

    • @muhammadsallie1447
      @muhammadsallie1447 9 місяців тому +2

      @kclarke5796 that sounds like a symptom of depression, get help #don't self delete.

  • @gunplasm86
    @gunplasm86 9 місяців тому +313

    I've had to develop a strong sense of individuality over the past two months. I'd say I did it out of survival. It was either figure out who I was when nobody else was in the room, or vanish completely.
    It's made me wonder if I'd be a different person had my sense of self been nurtured from a young age. As I am now I feel very functional, but in the same way that a concrete bunker could function as a house. I'm stable, secure, and will last a long time, but who the hell would want to live in here?

    • @yosukehanamura3507
      @yosukehanamura3507 9 місяців тому +35

      I don't know about you, buy every house I've been in has been built on top of a strong concrete foundation.

    • @cookies23z
      @cookies23z 9 місяців тому +4

      Huh... pretty similar to myself although mine has been more slow burning then just a few months... I wish you luck and freedom

    • @MADPunkyHeartLESS
      @MADPunkyHeartLESS 9 місяців тому +1

      Dang, you described my situation perfectly. 😕

    • @FrootKat
      @FrootKat 9 місяців тому +3

      I guess I’d see the bunker as the early stages, the foundation to build on. Time and experience itself will enrich you, and sounds like you have an awesome place to start from - stability and knowing yourself is kinda hard these days.

    • @aiiiia9971
      @aiiiia9971 9 місяців тому +2

      This is a very powerful comment thank you for sharing this

  • @Sooth0
    @Sooth0 9 місяців тому +350

    this hit me on a personal level SO hard I don't even know where to begin with, I relate to everything being said here

    • @wrenbyrd1093
      @wrenbyrd1093 9 місяців тому

      Everything Bee-ing said here. 😊

    • @dimitriosdesmos4699
      @dimitriosdesmos4699 9 місяців тому

      @@wrenbyrd1093 where-is-Alex

    • @farrukhharoon673
      @farrukhharoon673 9 місяців тому +1

      Same , does this this happen to you too that you imagine ppl around you as if they are watching you?

    • @ums-sesang9558
      @ums-sesang9558 8 місяців тому

      ​@@farrukhharoon673yes it does and sometimes it makes me scares of my own self

  • @LonkinPork
    @LonkinPork 9 місяців тому +170

    The bee stopping mid-sentence to take a slow blink made me giggle, I love this so much.
    If you're willing/able to sift through some of the podcast back-catalogue to make more of these, I will watch them all

  • @chaoticfloralarrangement8741
    @chaoticfloralarrangement8741 9 місяців тому +78

    I often try to be that person who comes in and wants to see the deeper part of someone to truly love them regardless yet I’ve never met anyone who would do the same for me. It’s almost as if people don’t like the intensity or the ugliness that comes with vulnerability. To me being vulnerable is a beautiful thing and makes the person and the connection stronger. Maybe I just give too much of myself. Possibly even care too much at all. But is that such a bad thing? Since what I truly want is for someone to know me as deeply as I would love to know them?
    Alas. Haven’t met anyone like me. Cest la vie

    • @neawilliams7204
      @neawilliams7204 9 місяців тому +3

      Same here. It’s tough out here and I’ve seen/been with people I’ve tried to love but either I got hurt in the end or they rejected it in different ways.

    • @aurea.
      @aurea. 9 місяців тому +4

      Same. It's hard for me to imagine someone other than close family and friends caring about me to that extent.

    • @chaoticfloralarrangement8741
      @chaoticfloralarrangement8741 9 місяців тому +4

      @@aurea. im happy you have that going for you, honestly. i cant relate tho. i dont trust my family with any authentic part of myself. cherish what you have. its all you got

    • @azukib2230
      @azukib2230 5 місяців тому +1

      I used to be like you as well, until someone who I thought would do the same showed up, then abandoned me without saying anything. Then when my life falls apart and I was at my darkest times and needed people to be there with me, like how I have been showing up for the darkest times of others, nobody cared enough to stayed. I've been slowly coming out of the reactive self-centered apathetic phase. I can even sense that deep down that loving compassionate person still exists, but I'm scared of ever being that trusting and giving towards others again.

    • @chaoticfloralarrangement8741
      @chaoticfloralarrangement8741 5 місяців тому +5

      @@azukib2230 something i learned in October from a friendship i had even at the time i wrote that comment, is that its not your fault for being who you are. a phrase i picked up from a tarot reader ages ago is you can be as closed off as you want with others and only allow a limited number of people in, but a snake will always be a snake (and bite)
      objectively, you did nothing wrong. being a compassionate person is a core aspect of your essence that you shouldn't shame. honor that shit, worship it even. its who you are.
      some people just happen to be cruel or unevolved and don't honor that you are a person who is deserving of basic respect.
      i realized even after my anger for the situation went away, that who i am is not an angry person, im a loving person and enjoy my peace. my default is to show love to others. even to people i know i dislike. i don't know why, but i am the way i am. and my anger towards them means i recognize i deserved better treatment.
      at the end of the day, i gave that love willingly and I learned I can still be me while having boundaries.
      i hope this helped in some way

  • @icantthinkrn
    @icantthinkrn 9 місяців тому +13

    To be loved means to be recognized as existing. - Thich Nhat Hanh

  • @mohirender
    @mohirender 8 місяців тому +4

    The thought of someone inevitably seeing through me is actually really comforting

  • @mattschnell4933
    @mattschnell4933 9 місяців тому +60

    I think about my instantaneous defensiveness whenever someone playfully points out a pattern of behavior or interests in me that I hadn’t noticed or hadn’t crafted as a part of my image.
    It’s a fear of being seen, even lovingly. Where did these protective walls come from?

    • @Rowdyranger01
      @Rowdyranger01 9 місяців тому +2

      I do this too

    • @Oldschoolfille
      @Oldschoolfille 9 місяців тому +4

      “It’s fear of being seen even lovingly” completely felt this line. In my case, even seriously heard is intimidating to me.

  • @Spailon
    @Spailon 9 місяців тому +176

    You stumble across a new Sisyphus video, it fills you with DETERMINATION.

    • @daffariansyah6147
      @daffariansyah6147 9 місяців тому +9

      Ayo UT reference

    • @spadeiguess
      @spadeiguess 9 місяців тому +8

      Never knew Flowey was able to befriend a bee and hold a conversation like a normal rational person until now!

    • @Spailon
      @Spailon 9 місяців тому +4

      @@spadeiguess I know right?

    • @SoraiaTorres167
      @SoraiaTorres167 8 місяців тому

      @@spadeiguessyes 😂 I just feel for Toriel haha

    • @SoraiaTorres167
      @SoraiaTorres167 8 місяців тому

      That reference XD

  • @victorjun2421
    @victorjun2421 9 місяців тому +105

    This hits me on a personal level, and it's not even love but relationships in general. I don't understand what's wrong with me anymore, i keep pushing everyone away in my life. I did this for so long that by now i have no real life friends left, no family members that care about me, and honestly if i dissapeared no one would notice, no one would care.

    • @loveriver29
      @loveriver29 9 місяців тому +17

      It’s fear. You’re fearful of something. When did this start for you? Why? Find the root. Dig until there’s nothing to dig anymore.

    • @victorjun2421
      @victorjun2421 9 місяців тому +9

      @@loveriver29 I don't know if there's a cause since it's always been like this my whole life, i remember all the way back when i was 6 years old i still did this, i still pushed the few friends i had away.
      But it might've been my family. They did give me a plethora of other traumas i'm trying to deal with one by one, still trying to overcome these habits and coping mechanisms.

    • @loveriver29
      @loveriver29 9 місяців тому +19

      @@victorjun2421 it’s one thing to be reserved or shy, but it sounds as if you are completely avoidant. Usually that stems from a traumatic experience in one’s life. Usually it stems from a fear of something. Ex: you’re scared to let someone see you, so you push people away; you might feel suffocated. I’m not saying that’s the absolute case for you, but maybe an ideal one. I’m happy you’re healing from other traumas though, maybe healing from them first will lead you to your absolute answer on why you’re this way.

    • @user-vq3lx9rp5w
      @user-vq3lx9rp5w 9 місяців тому +6

      @@victorjun2421 it is very strong to break trauma cicles in families its hard work but it makes not just life easier step by step but also the world a better place. i wish you the best and keep in mind that there are professionals and support groups in a lot of communities. you dont have to walk this path on your own. :)

    • @victorjun2421
      @victorjun2421 9 місяців тому

      @@user-vq3lx9rp5w it feels like i do. The more i try to find help the more damage i cause on others, like i'm always sabotaging myself and hurting everyone around me. I'd rather be gone honestly, no one would have to bother whether i'm alive or not anymore.

  • @hugs4drugs205
    @hugs4drugs205 9 місяців тому +178

    This feels very midnight gospel inspired, keep it up!!! Infotainment is the way of the future

    • @snazzyfeathers
      @snazzyfeathers 9 місяців тому +13

      It was a lot easier to focus on what's being said in the video in comparison to the absolute chaos of whatever is happening in that show

    • @SoraiaTorres167
      @SoraiaTorres167 8 місяців тому

      @@snazzyfeathers I used to watch it in 2 ways( first seeing the storyline and then rewatching just the lines in 2nd plan). It worked for me

  • @pedrosalles9273
    @pedrosalles9273 8 місяців тому +6

    "Someone is going to discover you..." Love that phrase. I was talking to my roommate earlier and she told me basically the same thing, like, you can run and pretend, but people will see through you. My veil has never been thinner. I was so good at leaving people in the mist, but now I am confused and exposed. It doesn't feel good, but I've never been this present. I'm in the swing of things :)

  • @tonothingandbeyond
    @tonothingandbeyond 9 місяців тому +40

    This simple cute cartoons are soo relaxing i think. Big eyes, lil movements makes it lovely and it shows pure emotions.

  • @Satisfyerism
    @Satisfyerism 9 місяців тому +4

    the empty sound of wind makes me cry

  • @ToddDouglasFox
    @ToddDouglasFox 9 місяців тому +8

    The bee had an answer for why when he was home he could not be himself. His answer was he was still hiding in social media. That wasn’t what the flower meant when she said “home”. When she explained home is someone who loves you through and through. He was stumped and shaken to his core by this. The fear of being loved is the fear of being seen and known which is a result of devaluing our own worth. Yes, it all starts with self love. Know thyself, know self love, know love from others.

  • @dream-sn5op
    @dream-sn5op 9 місяців тому +13

    I'm an introvert with also social anxiety, and its really hard to express myself and to open up, and because of how awkward I was, and also coz I don't speak up much, people misunderstand me a lot, mostly not in good way, even if I wanted to explain myself, my anxiety/shyness stops me from doing so. Its really hard. I might come off as cold, but really I'm just trying my best to survive the whole thing, and be as normal as possible, basically pretending I'm not feeling the anxiety that I'm feeling at that moment.

    • @lucia-fj6nc
      @lucia-fj6nc 5 місяців тому

      i relate to this so much

  • @UWAGAGA
    @UWAGAGA 9 місяців тому +38

    processing genuine love and care after being hurt over and Over is a genuine struggle . it's hard , because there's VILE people out here that would otherwise discourage and aren't always easy to identify . but some just want to love . so , it's definitely a personal journey to be had .

  • @na-vi704
    @na-vi704 9 місяців тому +72

    This was oddly wholesome. Found me at a perfect moment when I decided to quit drinking.

    • @larap71300
      @larap71300 5 місяців тому

      I hope you kept this mindset! Rooting for you :)

  • @Jotaaaa_
    @Jotaaaa_ 9 місяців тому +85

    the point you made about needing an audience in order to feel like you have a purpose is something i feel like most artists/creators (regardless of medium) struggle with at some point. as a graphic designer there’s a constant pressure i put on myself to share nearly everything i make, when that pressure shouldn’t exist to begin with

    • @aiiiia9971
      @aiiiia9971 9 місяців тому +7

      So true. I am an artist myself and I often question what the meaning of purpose of my work is if it isn't shown to anyone
      Of course sharing one's ideas can be good, it's just the fact I ought to recognize there is inherent value in the act itself regardless of whether other people are affected by it directly. In other words, I would like to change my thinking and find out who I am when the lights are off

    • @juliavdsman
      @juliavdsman 9 місяців тому +3

      ​@@aiiiia9971 same story here. it's nice to hear that I'm not the only one wondering about this. I hope you'll find out what art is 100% yours and not influenced by others:)

    • @aiiiia9971
      @aiiiia9971 9 місяців тому +1

      @@juliavdsman thanks you too

  • @nabieladrian
    @nabieladrian 9 місяців тому +66

    I really miss such short-animation that respects their audience, especially adults.

  • @Ami483
    @Ami483 9 місяців тому +6

    Recently my coworkers asked me some stupid questions like why don't you wear dress at work? why you always tied up you hair? why don't you spend time with us after work? why don't you tell us about your private life? why you never celebrate your birthday at work? etc. Well the answer is I am introvert and at work I only do my stuff. I just want to go home and enjoy my time with a few special people I have. Yes, I wear dresses, left loose my hair, even like make-up.I guess my coworkers would not recognize me on the street

  • @Mormegil66
    @Mormegil66 9 місяців тому +57

    This reminds me of Midnight Gospel. Very experimental, intimate, and ultimately beautiful.

  • @Reletr
    @Reletr 9 місяців тому +87

    Transcript:
    Flower: But when you go home, that's the most important. When you go home, it's like, you should take off the mask. So it's not about everyone else- you can show the part of you and it's correct, because you don't have to be 100% yourself with your coworkers. But when you go home, you really need to be candid because... that's _home,_ if not it's not going to be home if you're going to like always (be) wearing a mask.
    Bee: Yeah. I think like sometimes when I'm alone it's like I feel kinda... not empty, but kinda "things don't matter as much" I think, which is like I need people to - which is like I'm a UA-camr so this makes sense - but I need people to watch me or to be aware of what I'm doing for the actions to make sense, or else there's no meaning behind them, which I think can be a good thing but can also be a like a very bad thing, 'cause then there's no stable sense of like who I am I think sometimes.
    F: Well the things that you enjoy when you are like- Who are you when the lights turn off, you know? But in a way it's very contradicting 'cause in a way you like everyone to watch, but you don't want no one to _really, REALLY_ see you, you know?
    B: Yes. Yeah, like I want to be watched but not to be seen I guess.
    F: But you know, even when you hide yourself, one day someone is going to discover you. Like, even if you don't want to? Someone is going to be able to see through you, and you are going to need to learn that that is not someone trying to [get] through your life and trying to [destroy] everything; they're just trying to love you and taking the time to actually see because they care about you. It's not- they don't want to attack you, you know? It's not fear, nobody is going to destroy, it's just someone really caring.

  • @Oldschoolfille
    @Oldschoolfille 9 місяців тому +8

    Sometimes it’s strange to think how many different personalities we all have. We show different shades to different people and we are all alone, we are completely different. We can be who we are actually without fear of any gaze, or judgement.

  • @henrybp797
    @henrybp797 9 місяців тому +6

    I’ve learned that body language is the most important and controlling the body will put you in any position you desire whether it’s mental, spiritual, or physical

  • @MrSandChess
    @MrSandChess 9 місяців тому +47

    Props to the editor! Great video as always!

    • @ukustev3775
      @ukustev3775 9 місяців тому +1

      @Housecat00 animated this video

    • @MrSandChess
      @MrSandChess 9 місяців тому +1

      @@ukustev3775 well that makes sense! Thank you for letting me know!

  • @bluepaintsmells
    @bluepaintsmells 9 місяців тому +2

    the meaning with the flower and the bee getting nectar from the flower is fucking deep bro. awesome symbolism

  • @nt-jm4pn
    @nt-jm4pn 9 місяців тому +8

    I'm a sociology student at uni and this video reminded me of the "I and Me" concept by George Herbet Mead. The self is both the 'I' - the active and spontaneous self, and at the same time, it is the 'Me' - the identity we have as a reflection of societal norms, communities we belong to, and our interactions. There's also the "Looking-glass Self" by Charles Horton Cooley that has a similar premise.
    In my interpretation; there are definitely situations where we don't feel like we can be authentic or 'natural', but that doesn't necessarily mean that we will never be "ourselves" as long as there are other people around. I don't believe that being alone is the most authentic self. I feel authentic with my family and friends, even if I can't share everything with them. Because it's still an authentic part of me.
    I have a personal example that I think many POC / immigrants (first gen, second gen, etc) can relate to: I feel like myself when I'm talking to my parents in our native creole / accents. But I also feel like myself when I'm with friends and joking around in the local language with a different accent. And those two are pretty different sides of my identity, and code-switching / accent-swapping definitely comes naturally to me. While code-switching can be uncomfortable and a method of survival for POC / immigrants, I also find that it's just who I am. That's how I know that I can change in different social contexts AND still be authentic. :)

  • @stephenbailinC7GS
    @stephenbailinC7GS 9 місяців тому +16

    I have many friends and many acquaintances. I have a good family. I don’t really think it’s possible that I could be loved as much as I love others. No concept of it at all.

    • @sierraa.bryant9322
      @sierraa.bryant9322 9 місяців тому +2

      THIS. FUCKING. THIS.
      Holy SHIT this is so real and true

  • @kentuckyfriedegg3409
    @kentuckyfriedegg3409 9 місяців тому +16

    Just saying for all the people that don’t read the description,this is from sisyphus 55’s film “ITS ALL ABOUT ME” and the full thing is worth a watch, this moment hits a lot harder when amongst the rest of the film.

  • @cptkochill
    @cptkochill 9 місяців тому +4

    Sounds like the same connection that happend when my husband and I met - we saw thru each other and for the first time ever saw each other clearly ..... like minds , souls in sync it was amazing - still is when I think about it all... going on 9 years together and it still feels new and appreciative for one anothers honesty , open communication about anything. Ups , downs - we are cool with our imperfections and vibe wonderfully together while walking along this path of life together , side by side ,🙌

  • @cookietiti2115
    @cookietiti2115 9 місяців тому +21

    It feels as if my objective in life is to be me. But I should already be myself.

  • @KalebPeters99
    @KalebPeters99 9 місяців тому +55

    This is wonderful. I'd love more animated shorts like this, though I'm aware that UA-cam doesn't incentivise this format. The audience clearly loves it tho!

    • @peterrosqvist2480
      @peterrosqvist2480 9 місяців тому +1

      Oh hi Kaleb funny seeing you here!

    • @KalebPeters99
      @KalebPeters99 9 місяців тому +1

      @@peterrosqvist2480 Hi Peter! Yeah I'm a big fan of Sisyphus 55!

    • @peterrosqvist2480
      @peterrosqvist2480 9 місяців тому

      @@KalebPeters99 Same here! Great minds thing alike lol

  • @cs5a
    @cs5a 9 місяців тому +8

    what an intriguing conversation between a flower and a bee

  • @Monroestevens306
    @Monroestevens306 9 місяців тому +9

    This was so simple, yet so powerful. This video definitely spoke to the hurt, abused and neglected child in me.

  • @Chris-jw8vm
    @Chris-jw8vm 9 місяців тому +8

    Dat sunflower smiling tho. Very cute.

  • @skybug1706
    @skybug1706 9 місяців тому +2

    the crazy thing is sometimes being seen by someone you trust teaches you about who you are. there are many special moments in which someone dear found a habit or a pattern in me I didn't know was there, or recontextualized something i perceived as bad/meaningless and i realized it was an illustrative quality of mine. The truth is we're not empty, we might just be disconnected from ourselves and bad observers without realizing it. But there's a whole story to you whether you see it or not, and everything you do is a projection of how you've internalized your experiences, even the "numbness" or "emptiness". I prided myself on being self aware but I still had blind spots, things I overlooked, and things my brain censored out. Someone discovering and celebrating you can teach you how to do that to yourself and it's a wonderful gift.

  • @ANYTHINGISPOSSIBLEAPRIL
    @ANYTHINGISPOSSIBLEAPRIL 7 місяців тому +2

    this is so beautiful and i’m fully intrigued by the artwork

  • @flam7836
    @flam7836 7 місяців тому +1

    I don’t know why but like this voice for the flower just makes so much sense

  • @sasquatchii6621
    @sasquatchii6621 9 місяців тому +7

    holy shit the animation is so good!! I loved the full convo you had with Camila, was very fun to listen to and definitely made me think

  • @humza4808
    @humza4808 9 місяців тому +10

    This gives me hope and anxiety at the same time

  • @loveriver29
    @loveriver29 9 місяців тому +16

    I really hope a lot of ppl here heal. Know that it’s okay to be yourself and anyone that makes you feel otherwise is not meant for you (not to mention might be insecure within themselves). Just as there are evil, hurtful people in this world, there are also good people that are loving and will never even think about hurting you. They’ll value you for who you naturally are. 9/10 you just haven’t met them yet, but they exist. Don’t give up and focus on you. Become so confident in being your authentic self that nobody can make you feel ashamed. Your tribe/soulmate(s) will be revealed when it’s time. 🎀💌

    • @Gloroxsocks
      @Gloroxsocks 9 місяців тому

      Love you

    • @loveriver29
      @loveriver29 9 місяців тому

      @@Gloroxsocks awe I love you too boo 🫶🏾🩷

  • @dreadcircumference
    @dreadcircumference 8 місяців тому +1

    i want to jump out of my skin every time i even think about forging any sort of relationship with anybody.

  • @hankevin2315
    @hankevin2315 9 місяців тому +4

    There’s something in this video that makes me so relaxed and happy

  • @TheSelfCenter
    @TheSelfCenter 9 місяців тому +34

    Your videos are always fantastic! You're wonderful to listen to and I always end up agreeing with things you say! 💯✨

    • @TheSelfCenter
      @TheSelfCenter 9 місяців тому +1

      @@HeisenbergIsHere On mobile so can't 😉 But if you're not shy you can just say it.

  • @teenywhatever
    @teenywhatever 7 місяців тому

    This is exactly what type of content I need more of thank you.

  • @blue-bi8cn
    @blue-bi8cn 9 місяців тому +5

    I love how much you're uploading, just take care of yourself. :)

  • @johny_mo8318
    @johny_mo8318 9 місяців тому

    this was really nice, thank you for sharing

  • @soupafleye
    @soupafleye 8 місяців тому +1

    what an adorable animation. the shot at the end 😭🥺 guys the solution to this problem is loving and accepting yourself. in doing so there is no external validation you’re seeking. you’re simply existing and being happy and satisfied with who and what you are.

  • @Fjcorsello
    @Fjcorsello 8 місяців тому

    Watching this video is so comforting it’s like a warm cup of tea

  • @Uranos_UA
    @Uranos_UA 9 місяців тому +7

    Sisybee is so adorable😭

  • @aiiiia9971
    @aiiiia9971 9 місяців тому +2

    I really relate to the thing he said about nothing feeling important if no one else is acknowledging it. It's so strange I could be doing the exact same thing but if no one notices then it feels unreal like a dream

  • @idontknowijustmakingmusic880
    @idontknowijustmakingmusic880 9 місяців тому

    Strong video,I love it and I appreciate it.
    Really like the artstyle and the message, it made me feel something.

  • @bluecheesehasmoldinit
    @bluecheesehasmoldinit 9 місяців тому

    This helped me see myself clearer. Ty for this ❤

  • @lm5608
    @lm5608 8 місяців тому

    Beautiful 🥹 thank you❤

  • @emperorlelouch5696
    @emperorlelouch5696 9 місяців тому +1

    This is very true. When people are so used to behaving in one way they feel as if behaving another way that they're not used to isn't their true self, so they get scared of when others might see them as they really are.

  • @TAB00
    @TAB00 9 місяців тому +2

    The universe tryna tell me sumn bc these videos always come at the exact moment when I need them

  • @fuzzyfeels5041
    @fuzzyfeels5041 8 місяців тому +1

    I love this, really gave me some deep perspective

  • @Parsa0
    @Parsa0 9 місяців тому +3

    this is the most wholesome thing I've seen all year

  • @milkcolm4616
    @milkcolm4616 9 місяців тому +6

    i love your videos so much it really helps me better understand how i feel sometimes :)))

  • @bedivineclub
    @bedivineclub 8 місяців тому

    This is soooo cute! My inner child is loving it! Thank you for such a creative content!

  • @dullingbearfish1913
    @dullingbearfish1913 9 місяців тому +1

    I love the art style so much, especially the lip syncing!
    The mood reminds me so much of the Creature Comfort series😌

  • @cryingfairy
    @cryingfairy 9 місяців тому

    The cutest video i've seen this year for sure

  • @zalimeleni
    @zalimeleni 8 місяців тому

    these always show up when they’re needed 😅

  • @internetfrnd6496
    @internetfrnd6496 6 місяців тому +5

    Man the mask I wear day to day is so different from how I am at home. The idea of someone loving me unconditionally for just being me scares the shit out of me.

  • @miyahnicole1966
    @miyahnicole1966 9 місяців тому

    I love stumbling upon videos. I was confused on what this meant but then I really understood. Good video. Great message.

  • @ellieinwonderland444
    @ellieinwonderland444 9 місяців тому

    omg this is so cute and so helpful, tysm

  • @nadaelali7168
    @nadaelali7168 8 місяців тому +1

    i can’t even imagine having someone enter my life without the risk of them troubling my peace at any given time point. even if i like them, a lot. i don’t think anyone is that smooth a sailor or maybe it’s just me.

  • @CalmingChris
    @CalmingChris 9 місяців тому

    that hit the soul, I have the fear of never finding love because i’m a huge introvert with chronic anxiety so i’m afraid no one will find me or whatever.

  • @pudims2758
    @pudims2758 8 місяців тому +2

    I could watch hours of this

  • @giogorgonio4984
    @giogorgonio4984 4 місяці тому

    I watch this video every few months, and it never gets bad (it's always great and necessary), thanks

  • @duckdashwood
    @duckdashwood 9 місяців тому +2

    i think the dialogue that the flower is delivering comes from a place of trauma. "always having a mask on" is something i hear from people with unresolved trauma, which not everybody has. so to anybody who feels like they respect the art in this video but dont relate to it, ur valid

  • @fromesang7193
    @fromesang7193 9 місяців тому

    i needed this to hear

  • @cesiliamaravilla2983
    @cesiliamaravilla2983 9 місяців тому

    I like this very much thank you for your content. This animation is soothing and I enjoyed the topic. Make more please thank you!

  • @robotvoid.
    @robotvoid. 9 місяців тому +1

    i havent felt this relatable to a bee since bee movie

  • @crunchycrunches
    @crunchycrunches 9 місяців тому

    This gives me "Waking Life" movie vibe which is my favorite movie of all time and I freaking love it! Please keep them coming

  • @burpie3258
    @burpie3258 9 місяців тому

    Bless this

  • @RohitKumar-qt1hr
    @RohitKumar-qt1hr 9 місяців тому

    It was just a few heartbreaks here and there. And now, here I am, watching a flower and bee talking the most relevant things and nodding along.

  • @Simson616
    @Simson616 9 місяців тому

    That's why I feel at home when I shut the door and I am finally on my own. My dream homestead is a garden with many spots where you will have a hard time finding me unless I tell you where I am.

  • @Weirdcorewindows
    @Weirdcorewindows 9 місяців тому +2

    this is really good, I love the art

  • @alfredbanana8017
    @alfredbanana8017 9 місяців тому +4

    nah man, why do they hit me with this while im dealing with this shit, smh

  • @hanon6437
    @hanon6437 9 місяців тому

    This is so true, very recently "Home" now feels like home. I could not be happier now that I can be completely honest with my family.

  • @kidnappednapkin
    @kidnappednapkin 9 місяців тому +1

    ohh my god i need more of this duo.

  • @Jao_O_Ser_Humano
    @Jao_O_Ser_Humano 9 місяців тому

    i am trying to come up with a comment
    i have nothing
    this is one of the only videos that make me really truly think about life, and i can't really find the words to put it in a youtube comment.
    this video is really incredible
    thank you for making this

  • @immxnty
    @immxnty 9 місяців тому +1

    i haven't been truly, fully seen by anyone in my life so far. recently i met a person who was not just willing to open themselves up to me, but also to ask the kind of questions that let me open up to them too. idk how they managed to get through me, but they did and it felt scary at first. i wanted to shun their questions, brush them off. but i've been overlooked for so long that i just couldn't keep away. i've only known them for a few months, and been talking closely for even less, but they've made such a profound impact on me, it's choking me up thinking about it. i just hope i don't mess this up. they're so pure, i'm scared i might hurt them.

  • @mansilahoriya5824
    @mansilahoriya5824 7 місяців тому

    This sums up me so well

  • @andy41514
    @andy41514 9 місяців тому +1

    Beautiful

  • @vivlodia
    @vivlodia 9 місяців тому +6

    I think I crave being loved and cherished and missed by people, but I'm afraid of loving people and trusting them
    I have to protect myself but I fear being abandoned

  • @fasyaamila9236
    @fasyaamila9236 9 місяців тому

    I JUST LOVE THISSS❤

  • @sunnni_
    @sunnni_ 7 місяців тому

    Well who knew I needed to hear this

  • @EC777
    @EC777 8 місяців тому

    I just went through this with someone I really wanted to know and love. Hit home.

  • @ms.wealthyy
    @ms.wealthyy 9 місяців тому +1

    I admire people who can see right through me they would be the perfect people to help you grow

    • @ms.wealthyy
      @ms.wealthyy 8 місяців тому

      @@Yerofey_KhabarovsiocmpJKAShmri yes they do