I have been celibate for seven years to heal from a traumatic relationship with a narcissist. He was and still is garbage. My daughter is going through so much because of him. I feel the first lady's pain. You have to set boundaries. It is very important that you do. I am in the process of leaving the state because of it. I need my peace and my children do too. He thinks life is a joke and I not going to be his anymore. My dad thought I was going to go back to him and it was hard at first, but I never went back. My self worth has improved. I love myself and my children more. Great Advice!
Wow, it is definitely the truth. I finally got the courage to walk away after 7 months of dealing with him. I not going to lie I miss him and still have feelings for him. But I know I deserve so much more.
This dude told me it was all in my head. I got tired of everything being made out to be my fault when all i asked for was time. Freed up his time and yet somehow he had less time. Smdh
Been there, done that! Ace, please tell you listeners to be.... Be Very Careful!!! They will do ANYTHING to keep that person or at least make sure they don't talk and ruin their image. Take what learn from your lesson and just keep walking.....
@@soysan34 that's exactly what happened too I was talking to my adult children and told him nothing bad but that he was a good man I just didnt think he was a good man for me. Ex got so mad at me because he didnt want my son to look at him in a different light. Like all he was worried about was someone elses opinion of him.
I believe every women who waited at least 3 months got to see his true self...A man who truly wanted YOU...waited. The others, well you know how that turned out.
My narc and I hung out EVERY DAY, for almost a year, as friends. But flirting hard core. 4 years before I got to hanging out w my narc, I was in a 10yr relationship w my sons father. It was 100% awesome and he was so amazing. He passed away from a heart attack in 2015. My narc and hun actually were best friends as kids. So when he showed up in my life trying to hang out I thought it was great cuz he cld share stories w my son that even I cldnt share. And for almost a whole year, little by little it built up to being on the very edge of friends, but hard tipping on a relationship. And then one night we went over the edge. I had been single for 4 years. I didn’t ever want another relationship cause losing my sons father about killed me. I loved him so much. And I didn’t want to know that pain for another person in one way or another. But I cldnt help myself when it come the the narc. I fell HARD. And I truly believe he did too. He was in a sorta similar situation, single for 4 years. Not trying to do anything serious. But we talked and talked and talked for another 4-5 months about how it wld have to be and what I needed and wanted and what he needed and wanted. I was in an abusive relationship before my sons father. I made it clear I’d NEVER stand for that ever again. Told him how proud I was for finally having thecourage to get away. And so after 9 months of hanging out everyday just about, to another 4-5 being very lightly more than friends, I was sure I knew him and that this was a really good thing…. Yaaaaa. Right after that 4-5 month beginning, it just FELL THE FUCK OFF. he started verbally tearing me apart. At this point I’m 3 yrs in. And last weekend he grabbed me by the front of my hair and ripped me off the floor into the next room. So we’re doing that now. Now it’s physical. And it’s awful. And I want to be done. But I also love him. And wish he’d get help. I need help too. I believe I’m borderline. 100%. So I’m not perfect by any means. I just can’t stand the thought that I went against myself and got into something again and THIS is what it turned out to be??? He’s not even a top tier narc. He’s low level. And it’s like damn cld I of at least got a top tier one? Furor fucks sake. And the way I found out, he had me thinking I was doing and saying shit that I WLD NEVER do or say in a million years. So not only did I think I was forgetting huge chunks of my life. But I thought I was literally having some kind of major personality change. I was googling brain diseases and what disorders cld cause these symptoms. He had me convinced I was wrong about the way I remembered big events and parts of our relationship. And that’s where I found out about gaslighting. And narcissists. It was a really really awful night. The thought of going back to being alone is so upsetting to me I think I’d rather be this unhappy w him than go back to life w no one. Fucking sucks. How cld it be that he enwve raised his voice or said a cross work for over a year to now physically doing shit to hurt me. How the fuck cld I ever trust my judgment again? It’s a wrap if I ever am single again. I will NOT put my self out there again for this bullshit to ever happen ever again. If this don’t damn near kill me in some way shape of form I’ll be surprised. For real. Sorry for the whole story. Just wanted u to see how long it can take for some ppl. And no, in hindsight, there were little to no ref flags that most ppl get. I was TOTALLY fooled
@@taranuzum8428 I had a narcissistic experience but it was with my in laws. If you aren't aware about NPD and other cluster B disorders, you will NOT see it coming. Dealing with a narcissist feels like you've entered the Twilight Zone and it leaves you with PTSD and narcissistic injury. It's no joke and only people who have gone through it understand.
@@saltycat662 that sucks, inlaws are bad enough by themselves sometimes lmao! Whats craZy is that i DID know about cluster b and narcs and all that, im a huge psychology nerd. However what the books say and what happens in real life are very diff. Of courze now word is getting around and more ppl are learning what i didnt get to. And its crazy cuz theyre all sp similar and go about relationships the exact same, youd think the stuff i read wldve been a lil betted at explaining. They tell u what a narc is, but they dont go into their patterns and what being around a narc might look like. U know what i mean? If i had read the article that showed me what i waa dealing w back then, i wldve recognized it right away. But i didnt know enough about it i guess. Just thought they were big headed jerks didnt know bout em making u think youre CRAZY like actually for real, who does that to a peraon??? Thats bat shit crazy and the dirtiest trick i think ive experienced myself. Im mean thats some psycho shit!
Oh this is sooooo true I felt like you were speaking directly to me. I felt behind the 8 ball but I just found out about the term gaslighting in recent months and realized I had been dealing with it for more than 10 years. Grateful to know how to recognize this now 🧠🙏🏽♥️✨ and really appreciate you sharing this kind of insight with everyone because we all need these reminders sometimes. Thanks again for pointing out the signs of the wolves before I feel any more teeth 😩😅🤣 love the analogies
You are right…. They stick around using the kids as an excuse… it happened to me. We had one child and cuz I let him half co-parent with me from a distance. Well… 2 kids later… I learned how I should of had “boundaries “. This was so many yrs ago . My kids are grown up now. To this day though their dad has not changed much since way back then .
For the girl with the daughter and her dad ghosted the baby. He’s right - draw boundaries… go to the court for legal violation. Mediators . Give space between you and him and he’ll show you his true colors. Give it time but, don’t let him back in your heart
THE LIFT: Do you feel the devil have you pinned down? Feel like he is suffocating you with worries and problems? He won’t let up so you are thinking of giving up. Well it’s time for you to look up and ask God to raise you you. Yes if you need a lift you should lift up your hands, lift up your praise and God will Lift up your Spirit and supply The Lift you need. Psalms 121:1 I will lift up my eyes to the hills whence cometh my help.
Loved today's session. Just wanted to encourage Heidi. You're not alone girl. Your best is yet to come and you have a lot of good things to come so set the boundaries for yourself, health and peace so your daughter can also have the best mom. She needs you, healthy, happy and strong. Heppier, my Girl! You're it, the whole package and keep it up! You aint missing out on anything! You'll definitely find the right man for you because you already know what you want and what you bring to the table! These jokers be clownin outchea but dont take that bait! Do you coz you know it'll pay off. we're in the same boat and I aint droppin my standards for any clown! And the best part is, I get to keep and maintain my peace, self-worth, happiness and self-love not only for myself but for my child. So clowns gonna be clowns but what goes up must come down and what goes around, comes around. It'll definitely be rewarding in the end. I'd rather have delayed gratification than short-circuit or sabotage my rewards.
This is me fulfilling my promise, he’s my favorite after so many heartbreaks. I thought it was time to give myself a break and focus on my job while trying to heal from my previous toxic relationship. After about a year and half I met a man who turned out to be my daughter’s boss , I was reluctant at first but his persistence and high spiritedness got me submissive. We started getting along so well , no day passes without constant communication, I fell in love and didn’t want to be hurt ever again; told him my weaknesses and he told me his, along the line he came across his ex and his attitude towards me started getting cold. Seemed like deja vu all over and so I couldn’t let the anxiety tear me apart. I met a colleague who introduced me to the best set of Private investigators ultimate hack , I contacted and hired them almost immediately and they requested a down payment to commence the job after targets cell number was provided. After few hrs they responded with all the deleted and recent messages , Whats App Facebook Instagram Snapchat gps and archives of pictures he has been sending out; I practically had access to his phone without his knowledge. Turns out he connived with his young sibling to test my patience and tolerance, all the info was carted to me , thanks to the hackers I now pass his test with ease, lol . For assistance on how to track or monitor your spouse email ultimatehack003@ gmail com or Whats App/call/text +17202954268 I wish you well as You find out the truth about your partner just like I did
Think it’s best you work on yourself first and enjoy the things you feel you weren’t or haven’t done for awhile travel , going out having a good time before you get into a relationship until your ready for a relationship
I feel you it’s going to be hard after the trauma I’ve gone through it myself but what I can strongly advice you on thou honestly, is that if your not up for sex don’t date cause men are after that after few dates and if it’s not something your ready to engage in don’t use him to spend his money taking you out. If you meet a guy who fits your criteria then boy question if he has a medical condition such as std etc or if it’s from a Christian perspective. Even so then Christian’s still gonna probably make some imitative too
People document every time u have contact.try to keep it via email,text,or on paper u will need proof when they accuse u of keeping u awau from kids THEY WILL when nothing else works.
I HAVE BEEN WITH MY GUY FOR 8 YEARS. AT THE BEGINNING HE TOLD ME HE WANTED TO DATE ME, BUT WE WHERE NOT GOING TO HEVE SEX AT ALL ANYTIME SOON HE WANTED TO GET TO KNOW ME FIRST. I HAD MAD RESPECT FOR THAT. WE HAD SEXUAL ENCOUNTERS 14 MONTHS IN.
I’m with a partner who is breaking my heart … I’m at an older age and I guess I’ve taken care of myself that this guy is wanting to be with me yet… he’s 14 yrs younger. His words do not match his actions . I’ve been 2 yrs in … he swears it’s me and I Expect too much
38:00, the type of men we want are most likely already having x.... yeah, and usually with multiple women bc that's what they do when they have options... and we're supposed to just accept it
Lamborghini?! She wants Volkswagen milage from a Lamborghini? With 2 kids and in her late '30's she may have to START with a Volkswagen and work. her. way. up...to a Lamborghini...unless she "hits the lottery" of men? You have to "Act Like A Lady, but THINK Like A Man" as Steve Harvey teaches us!
i have met a guy that wanted to wait to have sex, i was younger and i thought he was weird, we did everything slept in the same bed, spooned, he cooked for me and even shined my shoes lol, ( we were in the army together) he said we had a lot of time to be intimate and i bounced, 😆
That’s happened to me too, we ended up having a long term relationship and when I asked him why he didn’t try to have sex with me for the first 6 months, he told me that he wanted to make sure there was potential fir us to be in a serious relationship because he was looking for someone to marry. However, our relationship became strained with family getting too involved and he didn’t step up so 3 years down the line we were still as boyfriend and girlfriend. He was also not sensitive to my needs, and was very cold at times. I left and he trued to fight for me, he acknowledged his mistakes and I did too, but it was too late for me, I gad lost faith in him. I always pray for him and ask God to bless him with a lovely lady, children, health and prosperity.
Here is the thing you are making sex the pie and that's why who you attract is trying to get a piece. Men love a challenge so when you walk out the door on the FIRST date and say we are not having sex sets out an alert to say haha, ok!
"Toxic" is one of many insults that women use to attempt to shame a man because "He doesn't share the value she's assigned to herself" or "He's showing her that what she says is not always the truth she believes it is!!" Real talk... It all starts with S.I.G.N. language (Shame, Insults, Guilt, Need-to-be-right) if you disagree with her. The next move is to huff and puff in his face with N.O.I.S.E (Nitpicking, Overtalking, Irrelevance of men, Snide commentary, Evasive communication). From there she'll then go into trying to tarnish his reputation publicly using two familiar female plays, namely T.A.G'ng (Toxic, Abusive, Gay) or R.I.G'ng (Rumors, Innuendo, Guilt). Finally, if neither of those works, then she'll go all in by being L.O.U.D (Ludicrous, Onerous, Unruly, Disrespectful), which is to the point she'll now try and "Fight A Dude" to show everyone "She's That B*tch!!!" Anyone in here regardless of gender recognizes these movements women utilize all because "The choice SHE MADE did not bring the RESULT SHE WANTED!" Ladies, examine your toxicity levels you routinely ignore because the same results always has something to do with what YOUR are or are not doing... Obviously, the majority of you keep the (gas) lights on without men, so celebrate your independence because you keep that power bill paid!!!! 😁 ~Jon H.EN.R.Y.
@1970JonHENRY who has the energy to do all that real women just leave an go no contact that’s too damn much an a headache it’s 2024 if he ain’t acting move around lil buddy😂😂💯
@Tynisha691 If you all put less energy into fostering difficulty and more towards ensuring companionship and acknowledging your shortcomings, you wouldn't have to "move along," girlie... 😁
@1970JonHENRY all I’m saying in 2024 I’m not doing none of that you mentioned it’s a complete headache I’m just going to tell the man move around being single with a dog sounding better by the day
@@Tynisha691 Hey, all you're doing is demonstrating why you "don't qualify," thus making it easier for the next man to avoid. It's a mystery why black women would rather choose "independence" over "inter-dependence," but that's what you've been taught by "Your Spokeswomen" (i.e., Beyonce, Cardi B, Lizzo, Meghan Thee Stallion, Sexxy Red, Sukihana). **SALUTE**
Ivasion of the Body Snatchers, just got out partially of a very horrible situation. With this type...
I have been celibate for seven years to heal from a traumatic relationship with a narcissist. He was and still is garbage. My daughter is going through so much because of him. I feel the first lady's pain. You have to set boundaries. It is very important that you do. I am in the process of leaving the state because of it. I need my peace and my children do too. He thinks life is a joke and I not going to be his anymore. My dad thought I was going to go back to him and it was hard at first, but I never went back. My self worth has improved. I love myself and my children more. Great Advice!
Did you ever leave the state? I'm planning to move as well for the same reasons, especially to protect my daughters
Right now!!!!!! 😂😂😂 💯🙏🙏
@@I.AM.7.😮tn6u6hQa❤❤❤😢😮uuj😊
7 years. He took a lot from you. Sorry about your daughter. Well hope she’s doing better now. ❤❤
Worst part about having had a relationship including children with a narcissist is they will gaslight your children
Wow, it is definitely the truth. I finally got the courage to walk away after 7 months of dealing with him. I not going to lie I miss him and still have feelings for him. But I know I deserve so much more.
Standard is the safer bet! I didn’t stick to my standards and I regret it!
If I was dating a guy for 6 months and he didn't try anything, I would question if he's gay
Friends can be narcissistic too
.... and mothers
This dude told me it was all in my head. I got tired of everything being made out to be my fault when all i asked for was time. Freed up his time and yet somehow he had less time. Smdh
Been there, done that!
Ace, please tell you listeners to be....
Be Very Careful!!!
They will do ANYTHING to keep that person or at least make sure they don't talk and ruin their image.
Take what learn from your lesson and just keep walking.....
@@soysan34 that's exactly what happened too
I was talking to my adult children and told him nothing bad but that he was a good man I just didnt think he was a good man for me. Ex got so mad at me because he didnt want my son to look at him in a different light. Like all he was worried about was someone elses opinion of him.
I wish her the best of luck finding a man like that
Jack and Jill😂. Head over hills! 😎
I believe every women who waited at least 3 months got to see his true self...A man who truly wanted YOU...waited. The others, well you know how that turned out.
My narc and I hung out EVERY DAY, for almost a year, as friends. But flirting hard core. 4 years before I got to hanging out w my narc, I was in a 10yr relationship w my sons father. It was 100% awesome and he was so amazing. He passed away from a heart attack in 2015. My narc and hun actually were best friends as kids. So when he showed up in my life trying to hang out I thought it was great cuz he cld share stories w my son that even I cldnt share. And for almost a whole year, little by little it built up to being on the very edge of friends, but hard tipping on a relationship. And then one night we went over the edge. I had been single for 4 years. I didn’t ever want another relationship cause losing my sons father about killed me. I loved him so much. And I didn’t want to know that pain for another person in one way or another. But I cldnt help myself when it come the the narc. I fell HARD. And I truly believe he did too. He was in a sorta similar situation, single for 4 years. Not trying to do anything serious. But we talked and talked and talked for another 4-5 months about how it wld have to be and what I needed and wanted and what he needed and wanted. I was in an abusive relationship before my sons father. I made it clear I’d NEVER stand for that ever again. Told him how proud I was for finally having thecourage to get away. And so after 9 months of hanging out everyday just about, to another 4-5 being very lightly more than friends, I was sure I knew him and that this was a really good thing…. Yaaaaa. Right after that 4-5 month beginning, it just FELL THE FUCK OFF. he started verbally tearing me apart. At this point I’m 3 yrs in. And last weekend he grabbed me by the front of my hair and ripped me off the floor into the next room. So we’re doing that now. Now it’s physical. And it’s awful. And I want to be done. But I also love him. And wish he’d get help. I need help too. I believe I’m borderline. 100%. So I’m not perfect by any means. I just can’t stand the thought that I went against myself and got into something again and THIS is what it turned out to be??? He’s not even a top tier narc. He’s low level. And it’s like damn cld I of at least got a top tier one? Furor fucks sake. And the way I found out, he had me thinking I was doing and saying shit that I WLD NEVER do or say in a million years. So not only did I think I was forgetting huge chunks of my life. But I thought I was literally having some kind of major personality change. I was googling brain diseases and what disorders cld cause these symptoms. He had me convinced I was wrong about the way I remembered big events and parts of our relationship. And that’s where I found out about gaslighting. And narcissists. It was a really really awful night. The thought of going back to being alone is so upsetting to me I think I’d rather be this unhappy w him than go back to life w no one. Fucking sucks. How cld it be that he enwve raised his voice or said a cross work for over a year to now physically doing shit to hurt me. How the fuck cld I ever trust my judgment again? It’s a wrap if I ever am single again. I will NOT put my self out there again for this bullshit to ever happen ever again. If this don’t damn near kill me in some way shape of form I’ll be surprised. For real. Sorry for the whole story. Just wanted u to see how long it can take for some ppl. And no, in hindsight, there were little to no ref flags that most ppl get. I was TOTALLY fooled
@@taranuzum8428 I had a narcissistic experience but it was with my in laws. If you aren't aware about NPD and other cluster B disorders, you will NOT see it coming. Dealing with a narcissist feels like you've entered the Twilight Zone and it leaves you with PTSD and narcissistic injury. It's no joke and only people who have gone through it understand.
@@saltycat662 that sucks, inlaws are bad enough by themselves sometimes lmao! Whats craZy is that i DID know about cluster b and narcs and all that, im a huge psychology nerd. However what the books say and what happens in real life are very diff. Of courze now word is getting around and more ppl are learning what i didnt get to. And its crazy cuz theyre all sp similar and go about relationships the exact same, youd think the stuff i read wldve been a lil betted at explaining. They tell u what a narc is, but they dont go into their patterns and what being around a narc might look like. U know what i mean? If i had read the article that showed me what i waa dealing w back then, i wldve recognized it right away. But i didnt know enough about it i guess. Just thought they were big headed jerks didnt know bout em making u think youre CRAZY like actually for real, who does that to a peraon??? Thats bat shit crazy and the dirtiest trick i think ive experienced myself. Im mean thats some psycho shit!
See, self-awareness. You're not in love... you're in fantasy land. You see the red flags...you're just lonely
Actions speak louder than words... wishing and hoping in dream state
Oh this is sooooo true I felt like you were speaking directly to me. I felt behind the 8 ball but I just found out about the term gaslighting in recent months and realized I had been dealing with it for more than 10 years. Grateful to know how to recognize this now 🧠🙏🏽♥️✨ and really appreciate you sharing this kind of insight with everyone because we all need these reminders sometimes. Thanks again for pointing out the signs of the wolves before I feel any more teeth 😩😅🤣 love the analogies
Yessss a Aquarius man liesssss omggg 🤦🏽♀️
U are so right ✅️
Yessss why are they like that.
Talk on Gaslighting was perfect 👌
Such a confirming video for me.. thank God for mom’s wisdom and a man’s affirming lessons..
You are right…. They stick around using the kids as an excuse… it happened to me. We had one child and cuz I let him half co-parent with me from a distance. Well… 2 kids later… I learned how I should of had “boundaries “. This was so many yrs ago . My kids are grown up now. To this day though their dad has not changed much since way back then .
For the girl with the daughter and her dad ghosted the baby. He’s right - draw boundaries… go to the court for legal violation. Mediators . Give space between you and him and he’ll show you his true colors. Give it time but, don’t let him back in your heart
THE LIFT: Do you feel the devil have you pinned down? Feel like he is suffocating you with worries and problems? He won’t let up so you are thinking of giving up. Well it’s time for you to look up and ask God to raise you you. Yes if you need a lift you should lift up your hands, lift up your praise and God will Lift up your Spirit and supply The Lift you need.
Psalms 121:1
I will lift up my eyes to the hills whence cometh my help.
That true real talk but no can tell me what to do when i decide my mind a move up toxic ppl even family too .
Damn you hit that on the nose you are talking about my relationship 💔😭 that's want I'm going through right now ....
Gaslighting!
I wouldn't have sex while contemplating weather there is a future. Put on the brakes you don't get the cookies without some investment!
Loved today's session. Just wanted to encourage Heidi. You're not alone girl. Your best is yet to come and you have a lot of good things to come so set the boundaries for yourself, health and peace so your daughter can also have the best mom. She needs you, healthy, happy and strong. Heppier, my Girl! You're it, the whole package and keep it up! You aint missing out on anything! You'll definitely find the right man for you because you already know what you want and what you bring to the table! These jokers be clownin outchea but dont take that bait! Do you coz you know it'll pay off. we're in the same boat and I aint droppin my standards for any clown! And the best part is, I get to keep and maintain my peace, self-worth, happiness and self-love not only for myself but for my child. So clowns gonna be clowns but what goes up must come down and what goes around, comes around. It'll definitely be rewarding in the end. I'd rather have delayed gratification than short-circuit or sabotage my rewards.
This is me fulfilling my promise, he’s my favorite after so many heartbreaks. I thought it was time to give myself a break and focus on my job while trying to heal from my previous toxic relationship. After about a year and half I met a man who turned out to be my daughter’s boss , I was reluctant at first but his persistence and high spiritedness got me submissive. We started getting along so well , no day passes without constant communication, I fell in love and didn’t want to be hurt ever again; told him my weaknesses and he told me his, along the line he came across his ex and his attitude towards me started getting cold. Seemed like deja vu all over and so I couldn’t let the anxiety tear me apart. I met a colleague who introduced me to the best set of Private investigators ultimate hack , I contacted and hired them almost immediately and they requested a down payment to commence the job after targets cell number was provided. After few hrs they responded with all the deleted and recent messages , Whats App Facebook Instagram Snapchat gps and archives of pictures he has been sending out; I practically had access to his phone without his knowledge. Turns out he connived with his young sibling to test my patience and tolerance, all the info was carted to me , thanks to the hackers I now pass his test with ease, lol . For assistance on how to track or monitor your spouse email ultimatehack003@ gmail com or Whats App/call/text +17202954268
I wish you well as You find out the truth about your partner just like I did
Think it’s best you work on yourself first and enjoy the things you feel you weren’t or haven’t done for awhile travel , going out having a good time before you get into a relationship until your ready for a relationship
Maybe this love thing works better when you finally meet the right person ? Wrong person equals toxicity- unhappy relationship
Omg you just put me on a different level of thinking 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔 thank you ...
😂 Sex is for Marriage for Me!!!
he said he's never met a guy like that but tells her she'll find him at church. I think we've all tried the church strategy already
She isn’t ready to date….she needs to do the inner work to heal….she’s still really young….she needs to focus on herself
Thank you Ace. You speak with wisdom .
lol at him saying ole girl needs to find a disciple 😅
I feel you it’s going to be hard after the trauma I’ve gone through it myself but what I can strongly advice you on thou honestly, is that if your not up for sex don’t date cause men are after that after few dates and if it’s not something your ready to engage in don’t use him to spend his money taking you out. If you meet a guy who fits your criteria then boy question if he has a medical condition such as std etc or if it’s from a Christian perspective. Even so then Christian’s still gonna probably make some imitative too
She right, u dont have to go that far back... but the world has changed. Specially in America...
Listen Ace the narcissist is a free diagnosis for therapy because clearly you need to get right if you lovin on that demon
Her questions are exhausting you were extremely patient!🤦🏽♀️
Thanks
Love this Ace ❤
I'm 61 ,I want to try that now
😅😅😅yes indeed. Time
Be right back sings🤣🤣🤣🤣
Y feel the same way girl... like i been out the game that long,, why is thats why men date for?
So good and funny but real true!
People document every time u have contact.try to keep it via email,text,or on paper u will need proof when they accuse u of keeping u awau from kids THEY WILL when nothing else works.
I HAVE BEEN WITH MY GUY FOR 8 YEARS. AT THE BEGINNING HE TOLD ME HE WANTED TO DATE ME, BUT WE WHERE NOT GOING TO HEVE SEX AT ALL ANYTIME SOON HE WANTED TO GET TO KNOW ME FIRST. I HAD MAD RESPECT FOR THAT. WE HAD SEXUAL ENCOUNTERS 14 MONTHS IN.
ACE on point!
I’m with a partner who is breaking my heart … I’m at an older age and I guess I’ve taken care of myself that this guy is wanting to be with me yet… he’s 14 yrs younger. His words do not match his actions . I’ve been 2 yrs in … he swears it’s me and I Expect too much
Leave him now! People only do what you allow them to do.
He is manipulating you! Its not love. Nice game to get what he wants
38:00, the type of men we want are most likely already having x.... yeah, and usually with multiple women bc that's what they do when they have options... and we're supposed to just accept it
Switch the bait!! I like that !!!!!
The Devil has his trapped set for he know what you like.
How do I get to ask you questions on video Ace??
lol 😂I want that web page as well sis
Ace… is hard dating out there!
Thank you for this
Preach!
I'm tryin tell u I am n tht situation now
Pearl enjoys the nonsense. There is no room in her life for anyone else. I Would Not put up with that stupid BS. Stop wasting innocent people's time.
That is very cool
Preach!!🙌🙌
Yes it’s true
Men are visual people
Lamborghini?! She wants Volkswagen milage from a Lamborghini? With 2 kids and in her late '30's she may have to START with a Volkswagen and work. her. way. up...to a Lamborghini...unless she "hits the lottery" of men? You have to "Act Like A Lady, but THINK Like A Man" as Steve Harvey teaches us!
Pearle is Super Confused
Lol… men are difficult beings
i have met a guy that wanted to wait to have sex, i was younger and i thought he was weird, we did everything slept in the same bed, spooned, he cooked for me and even shined my shoes lol, ( we were in the army together) he said we had a lot of time to be intimate and i bounced, 😆
That’s happened to me too, we ended up having a long term relationship and when I asked him why he didn’t try to have sex with me for the first 6 months, he told me that he wanted to make sure there was potential fir us to be in a serious relationship because he was looking for someone to marry. However, our relationship became strained with family getting too involved and he didn’t step up so 3 years down the line we were still as boyfriend and girlfriend. He was also not sensitive to my needs, and was very cold at times. I left and he trued to fight for me, he acknowledged his mistakes and I did too, but it was too late for me, I gad lost faith in him. I always pray for him and ask God to bless him with a lovely lady, children, health and prosperity.
Here is the thing you are making sex the pie and that's why who you attract is trying to get a piece. Men love a challenge so when you walk out the door on the FIRST date and say we are not having sex sets out an alert to say haha, ok!
"Toxic" is one of many insults that women use to attempt to shame a man because "He doesn't share the value she's assigned to herself" or "He's showing her that what she says is not always the truth she believes it is!!"
Real talk...
It all starts with S.I.G.N. language (Shame, Insults, Guilt, Need-to-be-right) if you disagree with her.
The next move is to huff and puff in his face with N.O.I.S.E (Nitpicking, Overtalking, Irrelevance of men, Snide commentary, Evasive communication).
From there she'll then go into trying to tarnish his reputation publicly using two familiar female plays, namely T.A.G'ng (Toxic, Abusive, Gay) or R.I.G'ng (Rumors, Innuendo, Guilt).
Finally, if neither of those works, then she'll go all in by being L.O.U.D (Ludicrous, Onerous, Unruly, Disrespectful), which is to the point she'll now try and "Fight A Dude" to show everyone "She's That B*tch!!!"
Anyone in here regardless of gender recognizes these movements women utilize all because "The choice SHE MADE did not bring the RESULT SHE WANTED!"
Ladies, examine your toxicity levels you routinely ignore because the same results always has something to do with what YOUR are or are not doing...
Obviously, the majority of you keep the (gas) lights on without men, so celebrate your independence because you keep that power bill paid!!!! 😁
~Jon H.EN.R.Y.
@1970JonHENRY who has the energy to do all that real women just leave an go no contact that’s too damn much an a headache it’s 2024 if he ain’t acting move around lil buddy😂😂💯
@Tynisha691 If you all put less energy into fostering difficulty and more towards ensuring companionship and acknowledging your shortcomings, you wouldn't have to "move along," girlie... 😁
@1970JonHENRY all I’m saying in 2024 I’m not doing none of that you mentioned it’s a complete headache I’m just going to tell the man move around being single with a dog sounding better by the day
@@Tynisha691 Hey, all you're doing is demonstrating why you "don't qualify," thus making it easier for the next man to avoid.
It's a mystery why black women would rather choose "independence" over "inter-dependence," but that's what you've been taught by "Your Spokeswomen" (i.e., Beyonce, Cardi B, Lizzo, Meghan Thee Stallion, Sexxy Red, Sukihana).
**SALUTE**
Tired of hearing it is all in my head.
True
You’re too funny
🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂
🙏🏽
LM 12/3/23
Psych
See what happens... white t-shirt (Dancer) played. He saw her playing, and she got played...
Narcissists see what THEY DO
You're not lying?
Please move on from happier m3. She talks too much and says nothing. Waste of time