The One Thing That Will Make Everyone Like You

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  • Опубліковано 9 чер 2024
  • Welcome to Lesson #3 of the BeeFriend Course. In this video we're going to talk about the one thing that will make everyone like you. It's a concept that is often referred to as the golden rule of friendship and it's the deciding factor as to whether or not you develop friendships with others or make enemies.
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  • @chanoj13
    @chanoj13 5 років тому +21554

    Stacy's mistakes you should avoid:
    1. Bad body language.
    2. Make everything about yourself.
    3. Too much negativity.

    • @optimicist7774
      @optimicist7774 5 років тому +75

      Jaime Rodriguez thank you brou

    • @jaysant6958
      @jaysant6958 5 років тому +17

      Jaime Rodriguez Thanks.

    • @lmao.3661
      @lmao.3661 5 років тому +104

      Man the title really contradicts number 2

    • @augustaverbian
      @augustaverbian 5 років тому +204

      4. Never learn how to play Fortnite
      5. Crush her neighbor's garbage weekly
      6. Never watch anime
      7. Didn't have any K-Pop Bias

    • @Kohaku-om1wi
      @Kohaku-om1wi 5 років тому +9

      Thanks for the summary

  • @cake1478
    @cake1478 3 роки тому +16815

    Eating lunch alone at our school's cafeteria is the most awkward feeling that I've ever felt as a student with no friends.

    • @blobfish1829
      @blobfish1829 3 роки тому +1845

      Same. I literally skip lunch and just sit in the library because I don’t have friends to sit with.

    • @youcannotspeaktomeanyhow
      @youcannotspeaktomeanyhow 3 роки тому +856

      Have you ever tried to just ask somebody to sit with them because even if you don’t talk at least you won’t feel awkward eating alone.

    • @mysoundofficial1047
      @mysoundofficial1047 3 роки тому +660

      Thats the worst tbh when I have to eat in school i eat in the school bathroom, horrible

    • @strawberrydaurto3366
      @strawberrydaurto3366 3 роки тому +582

      Ah that is literally traumatizing for me, like no joke. I sat alone for a year but then the other two years I sat with a teacher in school during lunch to work on work! The best advice I could give is just be a little bit more open with people. I took baby steps, very small steps and now a couple years later I no longer eat by myself in lunch. Just be yourself and you will find your group, people you didn’t even think would be your friends might turn out as your friends. Be more open, in the sense of smile more, be more friendly towards people, and if your brave enough compliment someone! These helped me over the long run. Also just revisiting these videos once in awhile help a lot too! That’s what I’m doing lol

    • @gc2951
      @gc2951 3 роки тому +228

      Maybe if you see another person sitting alone you can sit with them, or if you find a small group who looks nice you can ask to sit with them

  • @CherryPascalle
    @CherryPascalle 2 роки тому +317

    There is another much more important rule for all this to be achieved: Love yourself. "When you are content to be simply yourself and don't compare or compete, everybody will respect you." - Laozi

  • @user-ww4gz7wx4t
    @user-ww4gz7wx4t Рік тому +53

    In conclusion, don't be a negative person. Be a ball of joy.

    • @Notyomamaa
      @Notyomamaa 18 днів тому +1

      The fact that the popular girls at school called me a ball of joy and a ball of sunshine but I’ve literally never talked to them in my life 😭😭😭

  • @madeleneberg3197
    @madeleneberg3197 5 років тому +13271

    But everyone should remember that there are people out there who just wont like you. No matter what you do, even if you’re completely innocent. So don’t waste your time trying to get them to like you.

  • @rohitsharma306
    @rohitsharma306 5 років тому +9234

    Be the person that your dog thinks you are!!😊

    • @dustinarroyo8005
      @dustinarroyo8005 5 років тому +92

      De Lord Potato lol

    • @Stacy_white
      @Stacy_white 5 років тому +594

      Treat people like dogs

    • @earffquakee_
      @earffquakee_ 5 років тому +78

      Alright lemme ask you how we can determine how our dogs perceive us?

    • @rabidmonkey1344
      @rabidmonkey1344 5 років тому +154

      An animal abuser?

    • @theramchepser7644
      @theramchepser7644 5 років тому +59

      My dog bit my ring finger it was almost fully separted I was rushed to the hospital.

  • @Juliet.09
    @Juliet.09 Рік тому +335

    For people who do none of this and have little to no friends:
    It’s okay. Sometimes people just DONT CARE. But sometimes they do.
    What you can do:
    Always be there for people who are there for you and be yourself. They befriended you because of how you are NOT how others are. So don’t try to be just like others around you, and your friends are allowed to have other friend too.
    I understand what this feeling can be like as someone who has lost friends due to my past mistakes and sometimes just for NO REASON. This is just how life is sometimes.
    But it will get better, you got this. 💜

    • @Snivybug
      @Snivybug 9 місяців тому +4

      Thanks for this.. :)

    • @complexx_scam617
      @complexx_scam617 8 місяців тому +2

      what if friends just stopped talking to you without a reason even though there its not your fault, you know you didn’t do anything that hurted your friend, why is it like that?

    • @SalamiSelimbo
      @SalamiSelimbo 7 місяців тому

      ​@@complexx_scam617 Because sometimes we don't see people for who they are but for who we imagine them to be and it leads to situation you don't understand like when people you thought you could depend on always "forget about you" when in truth most of the times they don't even do it on purpose, it just comes naturally to them to forget about you and if they keep not doing anything to make an effort in the relationship too, even when you told them it's hurtful then you should stop engaging first with them and eventually if they never call you back and keep forgetting, you will just become acquaintance who knew each other at worst and see each other only when invited to the same party at best, it's sad but it's better like this and maybe it's not forever and someday they will come back thinking about you by themselves but better not count on it to be surprised and not dependent on doubtful hope.

    • @glennso47
      @glennso47 6 місяців тому +3

      I’m 76 years old and I remember when my wife died in 2021 many of my classmates from school sent me sympathy messages but when I was younger they didn’t seem to have any time for me except to make my life miserable.

    • @sheebamanoj3273
      @sheebamanoj3273 4 місяці тому

      Thanks for this bro. I will save this in my heart❤❤❤

  • @hindustanilegendyuvraj6523
    @hindustanilegendyuvraj6523 2 роки тому +222

    Friendship is not just a word it's a feeling , all the memories that u and ur friends spent with each other . Friendship is very precious and is very important in life ✨

    • @sparklenights5421
      @sparklenights5421 Рік тому +2

      @@Jaball.. I get that, I've got trust issues and think I only need myself, but friendships are based on respect, justice and loyalty( which is trust and honesty) that is precious. But most people (NOT ALL, MOST) ive met, especially teenagers are the worst and suck.

    • @kythe4353
      @kythe4353 Рік тому +3

      I'm in this situation where a new friend joined our friend group but she hates me and says bad things about me to my friends and my friends seems to not care or not notice??HAHAHSH it hurts because i was the original friend.

    • @hindustanilegendyuvraj6523
      @hindustanilegendyuvraj6523 Рік тому +1

      @@kythe4353 you be true and loyal with her. She will get her Karma u should not do like her
      Beleive on karma ...!

    • @sta982
      @sta982 Рік тому +1

      Yes

  • @mingi1489
    @mingi1489 2 роки тому +3667

    Personally I find it easy to make friends especially in school but having conversations or keeping contact with them is the hard part because usually we don’t share the same interests

    • @user-ud8lf8dz9r
      @user-ud8lf8dz9r 2 роки тому +36

      tell me how to

    • @jaredwaynesantiago3811
      @jaredwaynesantiago3811 2 роки тому +25

      Hi Nctzen

    • @randomdude611
      @randomdude611 2 роки тому +8

      Realtalk

    • @hxxdiec428
      @hxxdiec428 2 роки тому +102

      @@user-ud8lf8dz9r just what the video says basically. you know, have a likable personality. I'm very popular in school though I have no friends. I can sit with anyone I want, but I decide to sit alone. As I feel lonely sitting with people. To each is own, I'm sure you'll have a eaiser time.

    • @MScienceCat2851
      @MScienceCat2851 2 роки тому +42

      I have social anxiety, and its impossible for me to find friends irl

  • @Hamppariranskis
    @Hamppariranskis 2 роки тому +2250

    I want to remind everyone of this: even if you follow ALL the rules, even if you're perfect, kind and lovable and helpful, there still will be somebody who doesn't like you and that's okay. To avoid being desperate, love yourself always and give yourself the attention and approval you crave!

    • @user-ej6nz3yp9n
      @user-ej6nz3yp9n 2 роки тому +3

      Yeah that true

    • @sukhrajama9959
      @sukhrajama9959 2 роки тому +1

      Yaaa

    • @user-oy6mz4zp5k
      @user-oy6mz4zp5k 2 роки тому +6

      Hm.3 years ago,one girl in my class dislikes me ao much.She was popular in class and all my friends are her friends too. I just called her everyday and greeted her and just ended the call. It was weird.😑i was soo desperate. IDK how now she is one of my best friends now🚶‍♀Some people do change tho

    • @user-cb4sg3cq9g
      @user-cb4sg3cq9g 2 роки тому +6

      I do all of these thing yet no one likes me. I guess I’m just supposed to be alone forever 😔

    • @stirrncook7889
      @stirrncook7889 2 роки тому +5

      @@user-cb4sg3cq9g no it's not gonna be like that it's only temporary

  • @BlackCat-qr6gy
    @BlackCat-qr6gy 2 роки тому +36

    It’s sad for me to see all of you people in the comments struggling to make friends. I just wanna let any of you who feel abandoned or alone out there know that you are not nearly as bad as you think you are, and you are loved by me even if you don’t have anyone now. I love all of you. Please don’t feel sad, life’s tough but you can make it, please don’t give up ❤️

    • @madelinewhitley14
      @madelinewhitley14 10 місяців тому

      ❤🤗

    • @KingLarrY4k34
      @KingLarrY4k34 8 місяців тому +1

      I kinda hate it when you feel betrayed because i have an app called discord and some people i go to school with they always say they wanna fight me and that we arent friends but then when we go to school its all chill and i hate tha because im very emotional and ive been heartbroken by so many people and have been laughed at by so many kids. One time these kids took a picture of me and made me look like a old ugly women i hate it so much

    • @Buzzybee469
      @Buzzybee469 3 місяці тому +1

      Thank you so much buddy...❤❤

    • @TheRealCalijokes01
      @TheRealCalijokes01 2 місяці тому

      Yea it’s bad out here

  • @swiftielizabeth
    @swiftielizabeth 10 місяців тому +42

    The best way to make friends is by talking to them first. They don't want to talk to other people, so you're doing the job for them when you do this. Make sure you listen to them and expand on what they are saying, don't only say things that have to do with you, like if the other person recently moved from Washington, ask them what it was like there, why they moved, and so on. The best person to start a conversation with is someone who isn't talking to many people or seems as lonely as you. If they are relatively popular it still works, it may be harder to make a long-term relationship. If you liked this comment or agreed then...
    LIKE
    👇

    • @gabeguzman9478
      @gabeguzman9478 5 місяців тому +1

      Yes, but sometimes it's a gamble because if you talk to them first and they don't ask anything about you or try to get to know you then it's just a waste of time

  • @ayoubmezoury4134
    @ayoubmezoury4134 5 років тому +13675

    The person that everyone loves to be around, they have these factors.
    They tend to be genuinely interested in people
    They smile
    They're funny
    They remember and call people by their name
    They are good listeners
    They encourage people to talk about themselves
    They talk in terms of other people’s interest
    great informative content,shit load of value, keep up the good work!

    • @GiovanniSanvito
      @GiovanniSanvito 5 років тому +187

      Somebody read Dale Carnegie's work here

    • @omaxshendy5732
      @omaxshendy5732 5 років тому +199

      and the last thing ..they never cut connections with people(being socially active with them with no demands or needs)

    • @danishteo6991
      @danishteo6991 5 років тому +277

      And that's just tiring... U can't be yourself and engage in all that

    • @youthsuf
      @youthsuf 5 років тому +124

      J Bones
      So true. That kind of thing is rlly rlly hard to fake and act. My only suggestion is to genuinely have that personality by not acting , but just tweaking the way you see things ☝️👍

    • @sofiamadlangbayan1922
      @sofiamadlangbayan1922 5 років тому +7

      Dale Carnegie approves.

  • @Karim-ud9kl
    @Karim-ud9kl 5 років тому +852

    I don't have a cheerful face and when I try to be joyful I just feel weird and not bein myself

    • @M20videos
      @M20videos 5 років тому +31

      Same!

    • @elsie4802
      @elsie4802 3 роки тому +129

      Yeah me to people always think I look mad and then no one approaches me but that’s just my resting face

    • @donkeykong3340
      @donkeykong3340 3 роки тому +5

      Same

    • @tindras9282
      @tindras9282 3 роки тому +115

      Omg same, i can’t like smile unless someone actually makes me smile otherwise It feels so fake and unnatural

    • @aaronherrera4240
      @aaronherrera4240 3 роки тому +25

      Same bro people say I got mean eyes and when I look in the mirror I see why they’re slanted downwards always looking mad

  • @idarao8298
    @idarao8298 Рік тому +21

    no matter what we do, we will always be the villain in someone’s story

    • @kaziabirhasan1150
      @kaziabirhasan1150 4 місяці тому +2

      be hero/heroin of your own story 😊😊😊

  • @DrSP1800
    @DrSP1800 9 місяців тому +7

    You dont need everyone to like you, you need the right people to like you.

  • @adebolaoyedele1206
    @adebolaoyedele1206 5 років тому +2025

    I laughed when I saw Kanye's face 😂😂😂😂

  • @Katie-kb7et
    @Katie-kb7et 3 роки тому +1225

    How painfully ironic to see that if you’re depressed and in a rough place where you need friends the most is when you’ll have the hardest time making any🙃 which leads to fueling the cycle even more

    • @PichuElric
      @PichuElric 3 роки тому +78

      If your depressed and in a rough place, then obviously other people won't want to catch it from you, so it makes sense to not want to be friends with a depressing person.
      But if you already had friends from when you weren't so depressive and draining, I've seen people stick around to support because you were there with them before

    • @sophiesleeps12
      @sophiesleeps12 2 роки тому +60

      That's why you keep the negativity inside and only talk about your positive feelings
      ...pretty sure that's unhealthy as heck. Didn't stop me :')

    • @tori4730
      @tori4730 2 роки тому +38

      I mean it makes sense that people don't want to share the burdens of complete strangers, you have to wait until you actually get closer and become friends before opening up completely, and friends are not therapists either

    • @BTSArmy-kc7pp
      @BTSArmy-kc7pp 2 роки тому +2

      Same buddy same

    • @jenza4
      @jenza4 2 роки тому +15

      So will no one want to be my friend because I’m depressed?

  • @EB-bk4kv
    @EB-bk4kv 2 роки тому +39

    I 100% agree & I can relate to the example you gave. I’ve always been pretty popular & friendly to everyone but I have noticed over the years that If im just passing thru or going about my business I can have a certain demeanor that can come off as intimidating at first glance. I never realized the importance it has until recently. It’s plays a big role in first impressions, meeting people, networking… I have made it a priority to actively think about and be conscious of in my day to day interactions. This has made a even greater improvement in my interactions and overall mood!!

    • @TheRealCalijokes01
      @TheRealCalijokes01 2 місяці тому +1

      But how to look less intimidating? Think this my problem and being negative

  • @newself3180
    @newself3180 Рік тому +8

    It's easy to make friends. Just act like you've been friends with the other person for a long time. My problem is that i want to be friends with authentic people. Those I'm surrounded with talk about others behind their backs and are highly judgemental.

  • @anthonysabierre8826
    @anthonysabierre8826 5 років тому +851

    Lmao who’s here because social interaction doesn’t come naturally to you

    • @JuanVega-re1jg
      @JuanVega-re1jg 3 роки тому +3

      Yhup

    • @Lee-qy8zs
      @Lee-qy8zs 3 роки тому +25

      Please love the Holy Spirit :D❤️

    • @dawidoo3o532
      @dawidoo3o532 3 роки тому

      What's up

    • @Hey9846
      @Hey9846 2 роки тому

      haha same

    • @miepmaster25
      @miepmaster25 2 роки тому +3

      I guess I watch this because i feel like i’m just after the wrong things after i spent a few years “improving” myself because I wanted to be “mysterious”, “cool” and above all, superior to other human beings

  • @SSJ_Doffy
    @SSJ_Doffy 4 роки тому +7429

    Just watch anime and you'll learn everything about friendship

    • @SSJ_Doffy
      @SSJ_Doffy 3 роки тому +724

      @@madelynspam1507 I don't watch it to be popular, I watch it cause I enjoy it tf

    • @Sunflower28384
      @Sunflower28384 3 роки тому +192

      madelyn spam stfu

    • @TheDonkyGamePlay
      @TheDonkyGamePlay 3 роки тому +452

      Yes this definitely doesn't work

    • @frida_3196
      @frida_3196 3 роки тому +125

      Not really •_•

    • @donkeykong3340
      @donkeykong3340 3 роки тому +28

      Mitsuri San another zero two simp I’m getting bored of this

  • @Army247-
    @Army247- Рік тому +14

    My old friend that isn’t my friend anymore did this she doesn’t realise how mean it sounds as she is just brutally honest and says what’s on her mind

  • @AverageRoblosEnjoyer
    @AverageRoblosEnjoyer 10 місяців тому +7

    it’s really awkward if you’re in the middle of a chatty group at school lunch and you’re silent.

    • @Swo0sh21.
      @Swo0sh21. 27 днів тому

      Sometimes but I personally like sitting with a group of people silently js like observing what everyones onabt

  • @pancake-
    @pancake- 5 років тому +343

    I swear UA-cam is trying to roast me with my recommendations

    • @2KREDK
      @2KREDK 3 роки тому +2

      LMAO

    • @violetvettie4502
      @violetvettie4502 3 роки тому +4

      Tiktok always roasting me when i open my page it's all about share this to your friend all about best friend

    • @Brass_Buckle
      @Brass_Buckle 3 роки тому +2

      With that profile pic I dont blame it BOOM GET REKTED
      For legal reasons I must tell you this is a joke

    • @fabianhebakana7675
      @fabianhebakana7675 2 роки тому

      😂

  • @LukaHauptmann
    @LukaHauptmann 5 років тому +3094

    so what about stacy's mom?

  • @samsurimusa3776
    @samsurimusa3776 Рік тому +4

    Don't waste ur time to fit with people ,cuz real friend always accept u , no matter how u are

  • @t79f._.5
    @t79f._.5 Рік тому +7

    1:00 I absolutely destroyed this rule, explains a lot

  • @aoinguin
    @aoinguin 3 роки тому +1386

    I have one other rule:
    "You have to consider them as friends"
    If you don't feel like you deserve them as friends, or simply don't think them as friends, you'll unconsciously push them away.

    • @blobfish1829
      @blobfish1829 3 роки тому +27

      Thank you.

    • @alimarri3347
      @alimarri3347 2 роки тому +15

      So True

    • @user-ej6nz3yp9n
      @user-ej6nz3yp9n 2 роки тому +3

      True 💟💟💟🖤🖤🖤😊😊😊💖💖💖

    • @blayd2425
      @blayd2425 2 роки тому +77

      I'm always so scared when it comes to that. I'm scared that I'll call someone my friend but they don't like me back

    • @user-ej6nz3yp9n
      @user-ej6nz3yp9n 2 роки тому +12

      @@blayd2425 ohhh i had this

  • @hellraiser6494
    @hellraiser6494 5 років тому +2902

    Make a video on introverts ... hit a like if u guys want

    • @funut2541
      @funut2541 5 років тому +9

      same bruh

    • @aftaabmuhammed3007
      @aftaabmuhammed3007 5 років тому +2

      Introvert??

    • @AromonChannel
      @AromonChannel 5 років тому +38

      I'm introvert, i sometimes still got anxiety, but i just found something weird how to stop that anxiety, i just start thinking about my surroundings and stop to feel about environment, i know it's weird but to me it works just start using your brain, feel that you have a brain, and think all about possible income if you do this, but not just that, predict what people will do, just think don't let your feeling got you, just think idk how to describe this again think, and feel your brain

    • @nathanmanju5232
      @nathanmanju5232 4 роки тому

      Ha

    • @ae.r3704
      @ae.r3704 4 роки тому

      @@partlycloudy2526 so underrated

  • @razz9034
    @razz9034 Рік тому +2

    Thank you! It's been a year that I have watched this I now have friends that are pretty loyal thank you!
    I used to sit in my class alone and can't even get sit into groups and I eat alone I used to cry when I just think that nobody will helped me thank you

  • @Anniecurls
    @Anniecurls 9 місяців тому +3

    body language
    no saying negative
    make them feel better ab themselves
    listen to them don't cut what they say.
    Observed and just listen.
    don't share personal emotions. Negatives

  • @leedleleedlelee0531
    @leedleleedlelee0531 3 роки тому +475

    So basically don’t be a squidward.

    • @Kaiizerr_
      @Kaiizerr_ 3 роки тому +31

      Yeah... be more like Spongebob

    • @SquidCena
      @SquidCena 3 роки тому +7

      Squidwards cool. Oh wait...

    • @Gtmann
      @Gtmann 2 роки тому +20

      All Spongebob characters have something wrong with them

    • @albertalberto2288
      @albertalberto2288 2 роки тому +3

      @@Kaiizerr_ or patrick

    • @spooky5346
      @spooky5346 2 роки тому +1

      @@SquidCena Lmaoo

  • @anvime739
    @anvime739 5 років тому +431

    This mentality is the reason why depressed people feels so lonely. You should fake smile all the time, not talk about your problems and pretend that you are always happy... If you show your real emotions people abandons you...

    • @allygotchannel3563
      @allygotchannel3563 5 років тому +58

      I got transferred to new place at my work and for past 3 months felt really depressed. My boss talked to me about not being able to be a part of the team. Now I smile all the time a pretend to be super positive... I want to quit every single minute because I feel miserable and I really started to hate my work.

    • @guccion
      @guccion 3 роки тому +10

      Yeah that sound sad

    • @endgamez7621
      @endgamez7621 3 роки тому +1

      Hmm

    • @simontj8800
      @simontj8800 3 роки тому +34

      @@allygotchannel3563 I hope your doing better and that you're happier and that you're not depressed at least at the moment I might be a year late but I hope you're doing better love

    • @swiggtyswoo9393
      @swiggtyswoo9393 3 роки тому +11

      The reality is once you have people close to you, it's up to you to determine who you actually talk about your issues with. This I think is more so how to make and keep friends

  • @smyrnasstory
    @smyrnasstory Рік тому +33

    “as you look out not only for your own interests, but also for the interests of others”
    Thank you for this wonderful video

  • @how2sr591
    @how2sr591 Рік тому +6

    no matter how nice i was to everyone
    no matter how much i cared bout others instead of myself
    no matter how much i complimented them
    literally all my classmates all my life
    nothing worked out
    do we really need friends? im at the point to where i dont really care much bout friendships anymore
    no matter who it is, they really dont wanna be my friend so i’d rather just focus on myself instead of others

    • @LawAbidingSociopath69
      @LawAbidingSociopath69 Рік тому

      That's right

    • @rondonnis6588
      @rondonnis6588 2 місяці тому

      Well when your in your 40s I realised that and I didn't like people much in life before my 40s so it is easy to really hate people

  • @Kurostyle21
    @Kurostyle21 5 років тому +511

    I always thought the reason why Stacy doesn't have lasting friendships is because of her mother who is all everyone wants

    • @brazox
      @brazox 5 років тому +8

      Kurostyle21 can somone explain this one pleasd

    • @chonacastillo4777
      @chonacastillo4777 5 років тому +1

      @@brazox yeah me too

    • @wildprodigy
      @wildprodigy 5 років тому +39

      There's a popular song called Stacy's Mom. So it's a joke referring to the song.

    • @notutuber0797
      @notutuber0797 2 роки тому +1

      @@ImprovementPill 😂

    • @DeadpoolPlayz
      @DeadpoolPlayz 2 роки тому +9

      Stacy's mom
      Has got it going on

  • @thesci-chick4057
    @thesci-chick4057 5 років тому +511

    I always thought, "friendship has no rules." but, today i came to know, "its all about formality boi."

    • @ajjaja892
      @ajjaja892 3 роки тому +4

      Boiiiii

    • @muhaiminrahi1301
      @muhaiminrahi1301 3 роки тому +27

      Now i understand why i am alone.😂😂😂😂

    • @idkidk3424
      @idkidk3424 3 роки тому +11

      I don't really abide by any rules I just talk to people you know?
      I think the first step is to be happy. If you're sad then find out why and find a solution to it. If you have depression that's a different story so just take your medication until you get through it I guess

  • @xalexks
    @xalexks Рік тому +2

    My goal in high school is to become friends with everyone. I don't have to be close to them, I just want to be able to talk to everyone. I enjoy having friends! Plus, I just want to be known as the person who's friendly and open minded. I want to easily become friends with people and help others that have issues/struggle to make friends!!

  • @maureen4566
    @maureen4566 Рік тому +17

    You can't make some people like you no matter how hard you try, so just focus on doing you. Plus, you don't want everyone to like you. You are just not for everyone and everyone is just not always for you either.

  • @unsimplemulticellularlifef5739
    @unsimplemulticellularlifef5739 5 років тому +304

    When you get anxiety every time your friend comes near you

    • @olivialew8175
      @olivialew8175 4 роки тому +8

      Omg me

    • @jrd7_
      @jrd7_ 3 роки тому +21

      my friend says i give her anxiety so now i don’t talk to her unless she comes up to me 🧍‍♀️

    • @richelleong1306
      @richelleong1306 2 роки тому +16

      @@jrd7_ same there’s one there’s one friend that says that I’m making her uncomfortable and that word changes a lot I stop talking to people

    • @bluemorphors517
      @bluemorphors517 2 роки тому +8

      @@richelleong1306 same, sometimes I tend to overthink that leads me to some mindset changing.

    • @falcxn8824
      @falcxn8824 2 роки тому +10

      That ain’t normal 😭😭

  • @shyjovi4898
    @shyjovi4898 5 років тому +460

    I follow the “golden rules”, I just have a mental illness that convinces me that I’m a burden and I don’t deserve to have friends so I don’t talk to people anymore. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @haziqsumagi2310
      @haziqsumagi2310 5 років тому +14

      send me an email.. maybe we can be friend

    • @stxarryeyed9523
      @stxarryeyed9523 4 роки тому +27

      Same. Except that every single friend of mine left cause I self harmed.

    • @debbie6373
      @debbie6373 4 роки тому +35

      I have a lot of friends thinking their a burden and i can tell you it is highly possible that you aren't and even if, there is ALWAYS someone who doesn't see you as one. Stay positive and maybe try to open up and honestly tell people about that. They will understand

    • @TimmyTurnersDad.
      @TimmyTurnersDad. 4 роки тому +2

      Dingleberg!

    • @louiseleite3866
      @louiseleite3866 3 роки тому +6

      I suffer from Avoidant Personality Disorder and have no friends......tough. Hope you're well ♡

  • @saltNpepper952
    @saltNpepper952 Рік тому +4

    I genuinely have a hard time trying to be interested in other people. I realized that I'm often selfish, think of myself a lot, which is why I'm often shy or stand off-ish because I always feel like I need to be the main character of everything for me to give a damn. Talking bout myself gives me an ego boost, but it depresses me sometimes because i realized that I don't have any genuine friends around or don't even know how to genuinely spend time with those closest to me.
    I want to change this, and I'll be working on doing so.

  • @indridcold8433
    @indridcold8433 Рік тому +2

    I require no approval from anybody. Thus, I have no friends nor require any. I learned the hard way. The modern version of what a friend is happens to be a low level enemy in disguise, waiting for you to show weakness. Upon finding that weakness, the, "friends," will attack you and take what they can from you. Being social offers very few benefits and a tremendous amount of negatives. Realizing this, deleting of that needless aspect of life out of my existence seemed the logical thing to do.

  • @lifesucketh4923
    @lifesucketh4923 3 роки тому +159

    I broke every rule, I'm gonna start changing, holy fawk, this just gave me a boost on self awareness, thank you

    • @los3r426
      @los3r426 2 роки тому +5

      Same

    • @suhtangwong
      @suhtangwong Рік тому +6

      Just be positive, and if no one likes you, well, just be positive 👍

  • @Visnetter
    @Visnetter 2 роки тому +389

    I always find myself pretty weird and I often ask myself how I still have a lot of friends, even some friendships that are more than 14 years old (I'm 18 btw) but the thing is, I have those friends because we listen to eachother's stories and we laugh and have fun. We introduce ourselves to other friends of friends and that gives you even more friends. Even though I find myself pretty weird I always try to be fun to hang around with, I'm friendly and I care about how they feel. Friends aren't just for 1 day so you should try to keep them. If you notice you're losing a friend because you're life's are changing, accept it. Friendship can't come from one person, both people need to put time in it. I've lost one of my best friends because we grew away from eachother but I still greet him when I see him. The point is, that you shouldn't worry to much about making friends, just be nice and it will happen eventually. Even if you lose a friend there are plenty of other who also love you

    • @LuneKidYT
      @LuneKidYT 2 роки тому +12

      great to hear your story, gotta say it rlly gave me better insight on friendship-making!!

    • @tangybeanff9641
      @tangybeanff9641 2 роки тому +5

      This made my day🥲❤️

    • @abhijithrejeesh1917
      @abhijithrejeesh1917 2 роки тому +5

      Nice comment btw

    • @youssefayadi1684
      @youssefayadi1684 Рік тому +6

      bro you just improved my life rn i will try to follow your advice and tell you the results

    • @youratwinklingstar5644
      @youratwinklingstar5644 Рік тому +5

      This is so true, almost the same thing happened to me. Thank you

  • @anotherpersonontheweb5558
    @anotherpersonontheweb5558 Рік тому +1

    People want to be heard and feel valued. Thats key

  • @JenniferRokks
    @JenniferRokks 6 днів тому

    Its true, I hate when im telling someone something about myself and they just cut me off and start to talk about themselves as if my story didn't matter. Thats why I don't do this to others because its truly a bad feeling.

  • @shayalmaj5543
    @shayalmaj5543 3 роки тому +53

    Stacy needed therapy and someone to listen to her for once and comlpliment her. Girlie was clearly depressed

  • @rohitvarmabhupathiraju5238
    @rohitvarmabhupathiraju5238 5 років тому +564

    See that’s the problem, I can’t make other people feel good unless the situation creates it or impress them. I can only express my views and unbiased views with honesty and most people hate that, majority of people love to hear stuff that they want to hear and not the actual fact, is wt I noticed among numerous conversations.

    • @chiguernaoufal4446
      @chiguernaoufal4446 5 років тому +21

      read the book the 48 laws of power and thank me later

    • @rohitvarmabhupathiraju5238
      @rohitvarmabhupathiraju5238 5 років тому +1

      Chiguer Naoufal sure will read it 👍🏼

    • @cloudlessvision4192
      @cloudlessvision4192 5 років тому +22

      ROVA Honestly just be yourself, stay positive and stop complaining and if people still dont like you then that's their own problem and you should move on with your life 🤷‍♂️

    • @rohitvarmabhupathiraju5238
      @rohitvarmabhupathiraju5238 5 років тому +3

      Cloudless Vision That’s what I have been doing

    • @DusBeforeDawn2008
      @DusBeforeDawn2008 5 років тому +7

      Maybe don't bring up depressing stuff all the time and talk about stuff they enjoy as well. Do you ever talk about the stuff that interests the other person and things they enjoy?

  • @zayd8977
    @zayd8977 Рік тому +4

    No matter how much generous, how much polite, how much kind you are to that person or anyone, you cant get them into your circle. Its people. You cant control them, so best advice is use your mind, find out the "real ones" and set it as your task. Dont waste your time on ones that dont seem to even like you a bit even after your tiresome act of kindness and innocence.

  • @Michu2cutee
    @Michu2cutee 11 місяців тому +9

    Idk if this would actually help anyone much but my tips are:
    - Compliment people more but in the nicest way possible, please don’t make it sound back-handed or weird/random 😭 Especially if you compliment the smallest changes or details about someone while talking to them it would be a great way to make someone like you more!
    - Always be the first to text/talk or start the convo! You don’t always have to be but I’m sure most people would appreciate it! Because who knows maybe they feel the same as you do!
    - Literally talk about anything that flows through your mind but if it’s a weird ass topic or something real sus, best to keep that to yourself or things will get akward (would be fine with certain friends or close friends)

  • @randomperson3242
    @randomperson3242 5 років тому +467

    I feel like I already do this (which is a good confidence booster!). My problem lies with consistency. I befriend someone one day and ask for their social media and the next day, I'm off to finding a new person. Repeat this cycle a couple times and you see me with a ton of acquaintances, confused as to why we're not friends yet. I realize that I have to actually text/hang out with them and talk frequently to establish a friendship (shocker!!! Lol sorry, I was sheltered). I'm still not oh so comfortable with it but I'm actively trying to have a regular hang out if I wanted to deepen a friendship.

    • @sleepieste
      @sleepieste 4 роки тому +20

      I can relate to your problem! It's a wonder to see something I've been struggling with, get put into words. Workplaces and school helps make friendships consistent, cause you're practically seeing them every day. Though, it has been a year since you commented this, so have your problem lessened? Have you gotten more consistent with it?

    • @meg5661
      @meg5661 2 роки тому +6

      I can relate!

    • @emmaleia173
      @emmaleia173 2 роки тому +7

      that's still me and I know that it doesn't work. I guess I am just scared of being vulnerable or I'm scared of starting conversations without following through which I often do :v

    • @randomperson3242
      @randomperson3242 2 роки тому +19

      @@sleepieste hi! I just saw your message now but here’s a little update :). It’s definitely easier for me to stay consistent with reaching out to someone and befriending them. I realized I was scared of not being the ‘perfect friend’ to someone & that they’d spend more of their time with someone else that was better when they realize all of my flaws. But now I think friendship is based on your interests or accepting & respecting the other person’s beliefs. I have a solid friend group that I talk with almost everyday and some friends I’ve met through different means that I don’t talk with as much but I care for just as much ❤️.
      I just graduated college so everyone’s trying to find jobs & are starting to get busier but I noticed people appreciate it when you remember their birthday or greet them during holidays :). Now I find myself taking a mental note of who I want to maintain friendships with & continue to check up on them once every few months so I can maintain that friendship :)
      (& I realized a lot of ppl are scared to make the first move so I don’t take it personally & reach out first. If they want to maintain friendship w me, they’ll reply & be open to catch up for a bit. If not, it’s no big deal at least I tried)
      Sorry it’s gotten long but I hope it helped a bit!!

  • @livasommar5775
    @livasommar5775 4 роки тому +46

    That's exactly how you get "friends". Friends that will let you down in hard times, friends that won't help you with your house moving, friends that are only around you when you fake happiness. Just tell people what's on your mind. Sure, don't complain about little things, but if you have a problem, talk to people! Being popular is by far not as important as your mental health.

    • @gogglestransparent9720
      @gogglestransparent9720 Рік тому +2

      Being aware that you're making conversations all about yourself and knowing you spread too much negativity doesn't really make you gain negative friends, you just get friendd

  • @nhr840
    @nhr840 Рік тому +1

    Wow never realized how much Stacy and I are the exact same person. Now I understand a lot. I cant control to make everything about me and i always think what im going to say next even tough i shoud be listening to the speaking person. Thanks for the tips hope i could use them.

  • @fadilatoumoumouni8579
    @fadilatoumoumouni8579 Місяць тому +1

    Dude, you just described me without the self talk

  • @jenettemerlini6035
    @jenettemerlini6035 4 роки тому +30

    Sometimes you're just not in a positive mindset but forced into a social situation. Faking it is just too draining. That's when you get judged and it creates a destructive loop and it's really not fair 😓

  • @waukeganhighbrooksidecampu119
    @waukeganhighbrooksidecampu119 2 роки тому +22

    Your main focus should be being the best version of yourself and not trying to get others to like you. People should like you for who you truly are.

  • @walkingpleb7394
    @walkingpleb7394 2 роки тому +2

    honestly, this just made me feel worse about myself plus knowing that i need to fake emotions to gather friends that won't last forever

  • @dr0wn484
    @dr0wn484 Рік тому

    best tip of all: be yourself!

  • @JustinMarc
    @JustinMarc 5 років тому +181

    Improvement Pill is absolutely incredible ! Hopefully you’ll be my friend one day :)

  • @AlwaysImproving1
    @AlwaysImproving1 5 років тому +208

    1:07 Mistake #1: Bad Body Language
    2:05 Mistake #2: Make Everything About Yourself
    3:36 Mistake #3: Too Much Negativity
    Such an awesome video, thank you so much! I’m loving this course.
    I love the quote from the book “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman: “Life’s deepest meaning is not found in accomplishments, but in relationships”.
    It’s so true and your course is helping me to find new relationships, thank you!

  • @Odesztiny
    @Odesztiny 2 роки тому

    am so grateful for modern day youtube. i’m so grateful that there are humans out there teaching other people how to be more human 😅 it just makes me feel less alone. 2011 me on would be so happy for this progress 🥰

  • @pannerbiryani3002
    @pannerbiryani3002 2 роки тому +3

    Thanks so much man... there was this one bad habit in my personality I always knew I had but I couldn't find it ..now I DID!
    I always interupt when some1 is talking about there story and start talking about mine.. I have this over talkative habit about mine .. I talk more.. litsen less
    Glad I finally realised it today 😅

  • @jayleakpeter7093
    @jayleakpeter7093 5 років тому +12

    This video slapped me in the face. Literally what I've been doing since my teens. This is why I have less friends.

  • @maracachucho8701
    @maracachucho8701 5 років тому +35

    Those are things indicative of a few deeper issues within us, so it's not enough to try to 'hide' this behavior, we have to work on ourselves and how we view the world so they can feel a naturally positive vibe instead of a forced one.

    • @adrxiyakhan5863
      @adrxiyakhan5863 3 роки тому +1

      true i always fake my positvity and i hate

  • @Bbqbbq13
    @Bbqbbq13 Рік тому +1

    I have a resting face, even when I feel distressed and forward my eyebrows, it’s so subtle it’s not even there. So I try too smile and comment on everything my not close friends say.

  • @Populist.
    @Populist. Рік тому +2

    Your every step is relatable

  • @aynossan
    @aynossan 3 роки тому +6

    I dont need everyone to like me, just one specific person

  • @itsmeyaboy
    @itsmeyaboy 2 роки тому +6

    This video has opened my eyes. I have lost 3 friends this year and all of them were caused by me doing these things.

  • @kafkavadanta
    @kafkavadanta 2 роки тому

    THIS IS THE VIDEO THAT I REALLY NEED FR

  • @afonsoreis3635
    @afonsoreis3635 Рік тому +1

    Just be humble, people love that

  • @m.serdardemiral8691
    @m.serdardemiral8691 5 років тому +22

    Thank you, man. You helped me clear out a few things in my life. This three video was definitely educative. Looking forward for the fourth one.

  • @bethmarzurita8342
    @bethmarzurita8342 5 років тому +3

    Improvement pill ! I want to thank you for everything,all your videos are just everyone needs , I will Love to take all your courses . Once again thank you !

  • @mehdiSB-mb3uc
    @mehdiSB-mb3uc 8 місяців тому +1

    I cut off my friendship with many people because they was doing stuffs like that, I wish to get back our relationship.🙏

  • @ringchingtuithung3450
    @ringchingtuithung3450 Рік тому +8

    Thank you for your explanation 😊

  • @YlL-ji2sl
    @YlL-ji2sl 2 роки тому +7

    And there are moments where you have to talk about your feelings and that’s the moment where you discover your real friends.

  • @eyeriottt
    @eyeriottt 3 роки тому +37

    I keep on screwing things up with my friends and I don’t know how to keep a stable friendship so I think I’m going to binge watch some of these videos haha

    • @qy-exotic7717
      @qy-exotic7717 3 роки тому

      how u doing

    • @renee187
      @renee187 3 роки тому

      Jeongin as your pfp🥰

    • @kratos9643
      @kratos9643 2 роки тому

      Hey ... anyone wann be friends...I know asking in social media is bit weird ..😅

    • @heypassthecheesecake4413
      @heypassthecheesecake4413 2 роки тому

      @@kratos9643 do you play Minecraft?

  • @dizzyxoxoo
    @dizzyxoxoo Рік тому +5

    Who sits alone in the cafeteria, awkwardly waiting for someone to come but nobody does
    👎 ( I liked )

  • @EB-bk4kv
    @EB-bk4kv 2 роки тому +1

    Don’t try so hard to be cool or liked, it comes off as try hard & not genuine. Just be yourself, spread love and positive vibes

  • @ancientbloodlineoflight
    @ancientbloodlineoflight 5 років тому +33

    You guys are always spot on for what I need, and you’ve helped me a lot, thank you so much!

  • @dikhed1983
    @dikhed1983 5 років тому +10

    Oh damn, I broke the Golden Rule so much last year. I was really depressed and my self esteem was plummeting, and I didn't try to hide it. I didn't try to fix ot, either. At the same time, I was always talking about my own interests (I think I was looking for validation).

  • @Ryan_Shah
    @Ryan_Shah 13 днів тому +1

    U guys are lucky u get to go to school, u guys literally have the opportunity to make friends…. Don’t take it for granted like i did. I was homeschooled through high school. Worst mistake I ever made.

  • @stefan6884
    @stefan6884 2 роки тому +1

    crazy thing is everytime i want to talk with somebody, they just don't talk about themselves too much, i don't know why

  • @shynan252
    @shynan252 5 років тому +110

    This isn't Stacy...
    This is my ex-friend.
    Hah

  • @simonefremius4823
    @simonefremius4823 5 років тому +3

    Wow. This course helps me understand the big concepts in the book “The Like Switch” much better now! Thanks.

  • @daniele._.orlandini1345
    @daniele._.orlandini1345 6 місяців тому

    As an introver person i find this video super usefull, i'll do everything you said not to do so people wont talk to me😌

  • @TutkunDzgn
    @TutkunDzgn Рік тому +2

    Okay I say this one thing just be yourself. People who want to be around you will be around you and the ones that don’t probably didn’t want to be around in the first place. You can try as much as you want you can’t make people do things they don’t want so stop trying to fit in and be yourself try to be happy and peaceful that’s more important than having fake friends around you.

  • @iheartseattle
    @iheartseattle 5 років тому +3

    Dude this is THE BEST channel i've found in a long time! Super helpful thank you so much 😁

  • @sidhikkabajpai4537
    @sidhikkabajpai4537 5 років тому +12

    This actually makes me regret all of the things i have done. Thanks....you taught me something.

  • @_picazo_15
    @_picazo_15 9 місяців тому

    Felt amazing not being friends, with someone who’s always negative. Felt amazing not being with someone who brings people down. Always complaining and I try to lift him up, and give him encouragement, he’ll rub it off.

  • @Kosmo_On_Pawzzz__
    @Kosmo_On_Pawzzz__ 2 роки тому +2

    Oh no I broke the golden rule but I will try again tomorrow on getting my friend back your such a nice youtuber:)

    • @PradHuym
      @PradHuym Місяць тому

      Did u get ur friend back?

  • @shubhamkulkarni964
    @shubhamkulkarni964 5 років тому +5

    You are doing very good job bro... Because of u I am what I am today... U give very practical advises which I have applied throughout my last 6 months.. Keep making vids like this... Hats Off..

  • @Mischapeska
    @Mischapeska 2 роки тому +6

    Legit if you're watching this the only thing that will make you happy in this existence is your own self appreciation

  • @winonadaphne6445
    @winonadaphne6445 2 роки тому +15

    this is genius. there was a time where i was at a nightclub with friends, and one new friend asked me a question that i didnt intend to discuss, but i felt like i owed her an answer for the sake of authenticity. which led to the other person trying to fix my problem, but they had a limited view of what was happening, so i felt like i had to explain the whole situation, which resulted in me dominating the conversation. and it was weird bc i didnt really want to be talking about it in the first place. now in the future, i should just give a vague, positive answer so we can change topics and talk about something that's actually fun.

  • @AnoNymous-dh2sv
    @AnoNymous-dh2sv 2 роки тому

    Videos like this break the golden rule of life itself. If you lie that you are interested and you're not, you will eventually break and if you don't break you'll live in a hell of acting.

  • @nshk7163
    @nshk7163 4 роки тому +4

    Smiling is so important, it makes you 10 times more attractive, you should always smile while meeting or seeing someone :)

  • @maureenw.m2677
    @maureenw.m2677 5 років тому +13

    I have a natural frowning kanye face, my friends often tell me that they thought i was intimidating and mean when they first met me. They tell me that am the total opposite now that they know me. Its hard when you have that kind of face but am still working on it by being more self aware 🙂

    • @jgmoney
      @jgmoney 4 роки тому

      I look in the mirror, and all I see is rbf! I'll try to be more aware too.

  • @tropicalforts5849
    @tropicalforts5849 Рік тому +1

    Whatever you do some people will always dislike you and you can't do anything about it

  • @SamKenDa1
    @SamKenDa1 Рік тому +5

    Ok so people who have depression Never get any friends, got it