How To Resolve Toxic Relationships - Lisa Nichols

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  • @annamundy7205
    @annamundy7205 5 років тому +209

    After listening to this, I am the toxic in my relationship and TODAY I choose to make the change and live on the high road and not get stuck in the petty things. Thank you Lisa!

    • @smtahere79
      @smtahere79 5 років тому +1

      Anna Mundy #YANA! #metoo

    • @maquesha47
      @maquesha47 4 роки тому +2

      Me too sister I stand with you.

    • @nicolefaye3536
      @nicolefaye3536 2 роки тому +2

      update ?

    • @faithstephen6644
      @faithstephen6644 2 роки тому +1

      I have never come across a great and wonderful spiritualist like *Dr Ase coven* I contacted him through face book and and my ex came back because of his great work.

  • @cloweeist
    @cloweeist 5 років тому +39

    I am the toxic energy in my relationship.i am owning it and I am going to make the change.my partner is not perfect but I take the responsibility to make the change first . Thank you so much.i asked the universe for a guide and I get your mail from no where. I know it's all ads and algorithms but still this means a lot. Thank you

  • @sharandhillon1138
    @sharandhillon1138 5 років тому +47

    Biggest lesson I learned from this is that I need to clean up my relationships. I choose to live in this positive consciousness where gossip and negativity does not reside. I will declare my intentions before going into meetings and having important conversations. This lesson has come to me at the most perfect time 🙏🏽 I feel blessed to receive it from you Lisa xxx ♥️

  • @daemonai7799
    @daemonai7799 5 років тому +36

    My problem is/was.. I close my mouth too much, and as a woman I’m fed up. As a individual I’m saddened because that lets others know they can walk over me. But I’ve come to a place of faith in God.. I’m not afraid to lose people anymore. So this video helped me realize I’m hurting myself by letting others do/say what they please and I choose to stay silent. I’m going up in my home of integrity.. and if they want to be here, they can move into the neighborhood and if not they can pack a overnight bag and visit but I will not be evicted from my higher self and move into the same toxic home I know I don’t belong in.
    Thank you so much for this video.
    You’re a physical image of the same verbal message I read in my horoscope and bible today. I appreciate you!

    • @GabeLive.
      @GabeLive. 3 роки тому

      I have a question for you what If you told the dude hoe you feel and it actually clicks to him and he wants to stop being toxic but you want give him another chance and he loves more than anything what does that mean as women

    • @alfredjohnson5647
      @alfredjohnson5647 3 роки тому

      I am learning to love me more

  • @lovinaamadi6222
    @lovinaamadi6222 2 роки тому +3

    *YOU ARE TRULY WHAT PEOPLE SAY YOU ARE... DR ASE COVEN KEEP IT UP. SHE CAME BACK THIS MORNING* *I found him on his face book page*

  • @wbton5052
    @wbton5052 3 роки тому +4

    My observation is: "Relationships are like puzzle pieces that keep changing shapes" Some exciting - some exhausting. I do my best to avoid negative people.

  • @vicksplash8833
    @vicksplash8833 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much *Dr Ase coven* I’m so greatful for what you have done by bringing my wife back. Thank you sir.

  • @janiecejary
    @janiecejary 5 років тому +1

    what i learned is 4 years ago i slipped into lowering my residence for someone for lies, love and empathy, and in addition, that i am hated and my daughter suffers for other's hatred for my boundaries to not engage in childish, petty, ugly smallness to the point police are involved . i've learned that elevation doesn't come without consequences, but the knowledge that my heart hasn't always been pure, the actions taken were with an elevated heart and mindfulness to clean up what needs to be cleaned, live in my decisions to set boundaries; therefore, happily feeling dignity and respect by those who are aware and play in integrity. I can sleep at night knowing others have had to reside in less with their like kind, and i'm not a subject to their negativity.

    • @mariaandy6084
      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

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  • @justcallmeebonee
    @justcallmeebonee 4 роки тому +3

    One thing I love about you: you are about building and maintaining relationships. Most inspirational speakers promote break up and find someone better. But not you, you are the difference. You are the powerful differences. I just like the person you are and how you teach!

  • @debm6186
    @debm6186 5 років тому +2

    My relationships are empty, they take from me, because I give, and when I pull back, they seek me out and pull me back in. they don't want me fully, but they won't let me go. my fault, allowing myself to walk in the middle. it feels like a peek a boo, ghosting. knowing when to just let go and say no more. This message was for me.

  • @payalsarkar8617
    @payalsarkar8617 3 роки тому +1

    I love when you said, "if you ocassionally visit smallness, it's okay, own it!"❤️

    • @chainsean7990
      @chainsean7990 3 роки тому

      Hello do you need help why don’t you try dr oba he was the one that help me get my ex back

    • @chainsean7990
      @chainsean7990 3 роки тому

      Text him on whatzapp

    • @chainsean7990
      @chainsean7990 3 роки тому

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  • @justcallme_cobi
    @justcallme_cobi 5 років тому +10

    Its like I knew this and I acted upon it, but I still allowed the toxic relationships around me hoping these people would change and perhaps I could be some help in that...but then it got down deep inside me because I fell in love with the parts that weren't toxic and overlooked the parts that were toxic for far too long hoping they'll get it someday. Now I have to pick up the pieces of a broken heart because I allowed it knowing it wasn't right for me from the start, I just didn't know how to fully walk away. I always get caught in thinking I have the power to help someone through their transition of coming into a better version of themselves and I end up hurt after they've healed, never fully healed though; just enough to break me down with the negative energy they never let go and go on about their business afterward. Thank you for what you do Lisa. Please continue to get more and more detailed so that we may move forward in our lives💕

  • @angelitominez684
    @angelitominez684 5 років тому +1

    I have been around toxic people that have been so negative and depressed that it made me upset on the inside because I didn't want to be around that. But I still kept on living with them. But God has given me the strength to set a higher standard, and now I always spend my time consciously around toxic people because it takes away alot from me when I'm around them.

  • @movance6824
    @movance6824 5 років тому +2

    I’m around toxic people and I’m sometimes that toxic energy! I’m going to elevate my game! It’s time to grow.

    • @mariaandy6084
      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

      Hello friends, I really want to help you with your relationship problem. I had very bad conditions in my relationship for more than 5 years and my ex-girlfriend left me yesterday. I meant this very powerful pastor who helps me to do some special prayers and my ex girlfriend just came back to me, if you want him to help you send him messages on WhatsApp +2348064539246 or you can leave your WhatsApp number so that i help you give it to him

  • @Kellyzeye
    @Kellyzeye 5 років тому

    hi lisa,i am in a 43 year old women who live in the uk,i am battleing drug dependency,im nearly there ,you have helped me so much with the words you speak as i feel it in my heart ,when i hear you speak the tingles through my entire body tells me this lady is te true life experienced women i love you so much and i will continue to watch learn and make better choices for myself .xxxxxx

  • @fatibent1379
    @fatibent1379 5 років тому +1

    Hy lisa! I think that if we are arounding by toxic people, it's a signal of a problems with our selves: for example: we are not respecting our needs, and loving our selves enough, we don't give our selves the real value we deserve, then we attract a bad relationships;
    When we change, toxic people go away. I love you too lisa!

  • @Patricianeel
    @Patricianeel 18 днів тому

    Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

  • @massagebymonay
    @massagebymonay 5 років тому +1

    BOL, dont just make a decision, LIVE THE DECISION!!! Come through Ms. Nichols!

    • @mariaandy6084
      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

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  • @vickymasterson3003
    @vickymasterson3003 5 років тому +7

    I’ve definitely been guilty of slipping down into anger and negative behaviour and felt awful doing it . I’m aware and have raised my consciousness . I’ve felt the shift recently in myself and feel so much better within . Thank you Lisa ...words of wisdom as always ❤️

    • @mariaandy6084
      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

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  • @carolinegoodwindickinson5724
    @carolinegoodwindickinson5724 5 років тому +7

    I own that I forfeit conscious, empowered, high vibe living sometimes. I get huge waves of anger that wash over me related to not being listened to, not being heard, being disregarded. And I own that I allow these waves to kick me right out the door of conscious awareness. I acknowledge it. I accept this about myself in this moment. I am aware now so that I can CHOOSE to make a different choice next time, thereby elevating my consciousness and my relationships. Thank you, Lisa! You are magnificent!

    • @billykaylee3574
      @billykaylee3574 4 роки тому

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    • @mariaandy6084
      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

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  • @hughclark4058
    @hughclark4058 3 роки тому

    As a young adult trying to become better I realized that I used to live the high road. But recently I have not been and it has cost me an important relationship. I WILL live the high road once and again and STAY there. Never again will I go back and be a toxic monster. Thank you so much!

  • @genarakinard3611
    @genarakinard3611 5 років тому +1

    Today I choose not to be toxic and not to let others be toxic to me, around me, nor with me. I am making a definitive decision to Live In My Purpose and gossiping, judging others, thinking my crap doesn't stink and need fixing. I choose to be Better; A better ME. If I move, to make sure my moves are the right moves geared to making Me be Great!! Thanks Lisa for having the guts to step out of your comfort zone to inspire so.eone like me. You are a great inspiration to me, and I looking forward to transforming into the Great Me that I was always meant to be, before I let others put out my light or before I dimmed my own light.

  • @TheMarywood08
    @TheMarywood08 5 років тому +3

    I been leaving my neighborhood and visiting toxic relationship. I must stay living up high like I know God created me to live. Abundantly.

  • @tjsproles4992
    @tjsproles4992 5 років тому +8

    A speed bump ran in to a brick wall in my last relationship, unfortunately. We were both in need of some internal work and lacked the skills, patience and wherewithal to course-correct together. Since then, divine intervention and direction has led me to you and numerous other UA-cam motivational speakers, pastors and even people in my daily life who have helped to heal the damage that allowed me to enter in that experience in the first place. I have a #BOL and #YANA experience each and every time I hear you speak! I thank you for helping me in my personal journey to self-actualization. I pray that one day our paths will cross, and we can look in to each other's eyes and know that we are indeed divinely connected! 😊 Peace and Blessings to you and your inner circle! 🙏

    • @mariaandy6084
      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

      Hello friends, I really want to help you with your relationship problem. I had very bad conditions in my relationship for more than 5 years and my ex-girlfriend left me yesterday. I meant this very powerful pastor who helps me to do some special prayers and my ex girlfriend just came back to me, if you want him to help you send him messages on WhatsApp +2348064539246 or you can leave your WhatsApp number so that i help you give it to him

  • @lizbethbrady8308
    @lizbethbrady8308 5 років тому

    I decided a few years ago that I would not continue the toxic relationship and my home. So I changed me radically, I corrected me, went to all ministries and got so much help. Now I got over my speed bump and the others are still too toxic. So I have a solid plan in place. Do all I can do to be nice, but place boundaries.. Get myself together and move away from the smallness as it is hindering me. I see the light now. I choose to participate to daily meditate, I now course correct and now I am quite when I need to be , and I now live way up and engaged on the higher level. I not live in my highest integrity. I choose to live higher .Amen 😁😁😁😁😁😁.

  • @thestaceysappington
    @thestaceysappington 5 років тому +1

    Wow!! Yes. Sometimes it is us. For me, if I can get a hold of my thoughts immediately (as soon as I hit the off ramp) they won't spiral out of control. If I allow it, it gets out of control quick!

    • @mariaandy6084
      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

      Hello friends, I really want to help you with your relationship problem. I had very bad conditions in my relationship for more than 5 years and my ex-girlfriend left me yesterday. I meant this very powerful pastor who helps me to do some special prayers and my ex girlfriend just came back to me, if you want him to help you send him messages on WhatsApp +2348064539246 or you can leave your WhatsApp number so that i help you give it to him

  • @natashataylor7211
    @natashataylor7211 5 років тому +8

    Definitely an eye opening episode! I admit I do become toxic at times, I try so hard not to go back to that place I’m growing from. Lately my son & I have been having problems. I feel like you brings me down or he’s holding back for some reason. It’s hard to say if this relationship is on a verge of really ending. I love him to the end. But he wants to leave and this time I can’t stop it. I’ve come to peace with the situation. And I’m going to let it play out, I put it in God’s hands!!!!!!!!!!

  • @olgaivyalvarez6914
    @olgaivyalvarez6914 5 років тому +1

    The toxic and unhealthy people in my life have been two family members. I have been a giver to both for years which has trained them to treat me the way they do. This past year I have been working very hard to not allow that toxicity around myself or my children. It’s been a difficult road to say the least...but I’m committed to staying in my neighborhood!

  • @shaleiigavesti4510
    @shaleiigavesti4510 5 років тому +2

    Used to be in ALOT of toxic friendships - it hurt to break them off, but it was the best thing I ever did and continue to do so as I've gotten older. It works for a healthier life and to have space for more positive, thriving relationships I'm in now!

    • @mariaandy6084
      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

      Hello friends, I really want to help you with your relationship problem. I had very bad conditions in my relationship for more than 5 years and my ex-girlfriend left me yesterday. I meant this very powerful pastor who helps me to do some special prayers and my ex girlfriend just came back to me, if you want him to help you send him messages on WhatsApp +2348064539246 or you can leave your WhatsApp number so that i help you give it to him

  • @juanagrier5661
    @juanagrier5661 5 років тому +3

    OMGoodness! I found myself in a conversation that I knew was toxic and I knew I needed to exit quickly, however I was also apart of the dialogue. DOL: I have been elevating my awareness and I feel so free not having to listen to foolishness.

    • @mariaandy6084
      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

      Hello friends, I really want to help you with your relationship problem. I had very bad conditions in my relationship for more than 5 years and my ex-girlfriend left me yesterday. I meant this very powerful pastor who helps me to do some special prayers and my ex girlfriend just came back to me, if you want him to help you send him messages on WhatsApp +2348064539246 or you can leave your WhatsApp number so that i help you give it to him

  • @winegyalfitness5757
    @winegyalfitness5757 5 років тому +8

    I’m literally going through this NOW!!! I NEEDED this realization and reality check. Lisa I’m tired of getting IN MY OWN WAY....
    Help me to Keep what I have and not mess it up. I have replayed this video 3 times this morning and will keep replaying it...
    I’m getting it and your voice is feeding in my spirit. I need you to deal with me one on one and give it to me straight!!!

  • @ralucaborza3336
    @ralucaborza3336 5 років тому +8

    "I don't visit this place, I LIVE here!" - Awesome !

  • @MsLove804
    @MsLove804 5 місяців тому

    This episode was valuable to my current relationship. Being involved with someone that is pessimistic (toxic) on almost any topic being discussed causes more harm than good.

  • @lafonizodunlap4299
    @lafonizodunlap4299 5 років тому +1

    Listening to this channel for 1st time, I'm in a toxic marriage! My wife is critical and judgmental, and she identify my mistakes with who I am as a person. She impose and demand that her feelings are to be heed to, while mine, are to be ignored, and that's why I play the passive aggressive role at times. My wife gossip about me to her family members telling them I have a mental disorder and trying to convince me that I have too. We no communication with each other without it turning to anger and aggression! I scream at times only for my wife to hear me and understand me when I'm ignored as though what I'm saying doesn't matter. Emascation is my biggest issue with my wife, it hasn't stopped! To speed this up. I've been listening to the art of communicating on UA-cam and it helped me to repent from certain things within to communicate better with my wife, and it went sour! Her hatred, anger has build blockages for her not hear me! She doesn't like my responses or answers! In cases such these, i start recording our conversations to see how they go southbound! Over 600 text messages and over 100 audio recordings, and it does nothing but intensify her anger and hatred of me! She doesn't want a divorce as what she tells her siblings, but I'm feeling she wants to punish me for hurting her feelings when she asked me, what can I tell her how she hurts me? And that started it!

  • @monikavirat4839
    @monikavirat4839 5 років тому +1

    Lisa this is Monica from India (Bangalore city)
    You don't know how much you inspire me to think positively in life and take right decision.
    It's midnight 1:30am here and I am waiting for your video and watching it....
    Though I am tired and sleepy..
    I have watched Ur dimming your light video a 100 times...
    I just love it
    It gives me energy to look forward in life.. and not to quit
    Love you Lisa....

  • @Jesusventures
    @Jesusventures 5 років тому +2

    This is what God told me that I should never lower my standard for anything or anybody.
    I love the way you spoke on this
    I should never leave where I live

  • @70moonflower
    @70moonflower 5 років тому +6

    Listening to this, my #BOL moment was the importance of the decision to consciously CHOOSE more productive, intentionally high evolving and encouraging conversations.

  • @jowairiyyaabdollah5117
    @jowairiyyaabdollah5117 5 років тому +2

    You have been and still are my great mentor. Glory be to God.
    BOL. Visiting vs. Living on higher road. It's ok, to live in the higher road at risk of losing the relationship.

  • @cutie4evr
    @cutie4evr 5 років тому +15

    #BOL - I had to pause to speak on this back to you... "When you're not speaking up for what you want, when you're holding on and living with a bunch of withholds, that's still engagement."
    Wooooow.... I've been wanting to work so hard at stopping my passive- aggressive behavior and you have helped me see how prevalent it can still be in ways I don't notice - even if I think I'm saving myself heartache. That's really not what it leads to and only causes further harm. Thank you, and can't wait to see you in Arlington next month!!!!

  • @GegeP1804
    @GegeP1804 5 років тому +1

    Wow that was deep, even when you don't speak you are contributing to the toxicity. I have played the role where i don't say anything. I am as much guilty when i dont say anything.

  • @soul-etude
    @soul-etude 5 років тому +2

    In my 2 to 3 years of personal research into toxic relationships, negative and positive attitudes, or even into the notion of a vibrational match, this is the simplest and most powerful advice for the defence of your values, your attitudes and your right to be where you are and stand your grounds without judging and critisining others. Marvelously explained. This explanation IS the mastery of communication, thank you so much Lisa.

    • @mariaandy6084
      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

      Hello friends, I really want to help you with your relationship problem. I had very bad conditions in my relationship for more than 5 years and my ex-girlfriend left me yesterday. I meant this very powerful pastor who helps me to do some special prayers and my ex girlfriend just came back to me, if you want him to help you send him messages on WhatsApp +2348064539246 or you can leave your WhatsApp number so that i help you give it to him

  • @neesha025
    @neesha025 5 років тому +6

    Biggest lesson I learned was HOW TO cut off the gossiping conversations. When you said that I saw the people I need to let go! Thank you!

  • @dennisdavis5639
    @dennisdavis5639 2 роки тому +2

    I've watched this video over 10 times in the past 2 hours. Your delivery, words, and reasoning is so great. Rebuilding my marriage from a bad place. Almost married three years been separated over two months. She's the toxic one but I'm learning now that my passive decisions have actually is more toxic than what she's done. I allowed myself to be lowered and it taught her to become accustomed to it. Now that I'm working my tail off to put things right she's struggling with me being more assertive.

  • @gdot5747
    @gdot5747 3 роки тому

    i have such a HUGE complete different outlook about my relationship that’s been feeling more tough than usual lately... not sure how you did that in 7 mins. but you’re right, its easier to quit when you dont have the toolset for course correction and easier to make shit worse when you dont stay and live in your high vibrational neighborhood no matter what... much deference to you for this insight 🙏🏾

  • @celiciashand4921
    @celiciashand4921 5 років тому +1

    I'm so glad I watched. I live in my consciousness until someone pisses me off. Learning how to be the oak tree standing tall and firm regardless of the outside storm.

  • @fida6166
    @fida6166 2 роки тому

    Yes Lisa. I am living in a place of peace and honor. I am not afraid to let others know where i live and they are welcome to my home and neighborhood 😊

  • @AngelicaFWhite
    @AngelicaFWhite 5 років тому +1

    In the process of getting out of a toxic relationship I come to realize that it is my power to set me free.

  • @DailybreadwithBreeMinistries
    @DailybreadwithBreeMinistries 3 роки тому

    #BOL when we don't turn the conversation to what Is higher you will fall through the cracks"

  • @Iwish387
    @Iwish387 5 років тому +5

    Omg that’s exactly what happened in my relationship. He’s not just happy not with me necessarily but happy with himself. He’s trying to find himself and I feel as though we both had to let go. I was willing to be more patient with him but he was now. I hope that we can get back together in the future when he finds himself.

  • @lcorellegreen8833
    @lcorellegreen8833 3 роки тому

    Wow after listening to what you said I realized I let myself live in the bottoms by being quiet and letting things that I know don't align with my beliefs pass by me I will no longer let that happen thank you

  • @dorcasidowu6027
    @dorcasidowu6027 5 років тому +1

    OMG!!!!! BOL!!!!!!! I AM CONTINUALLY BLESSED BY THIS TRIBE I FINALLY FOUND MY TRIBE... THIS BLESSED MY SOCKS OFFFFF!!! My BOL Was in knowing I DONT have to STAY STUCK, I CAN SIMPLY CHOOSE TO CLEAN IT UP AND LIVE IN MY HIGH PLACE AND STOP VISITING IT💯💪🏽💝

    • @mariaandy6084
      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

      I know a powerful spellcaster who can bring your ex-love back if you want him to come back to you, just call or send him a WhatsApp +2348064539246

  • @chickenortheeggphotography
    @chickenortheeggphotography 5 років тому +1

    “Don’t make a decision. LIVE a decision.” How impactful.
    It’s funny. This video is perfect timing. Having dealt with some toxic relationships that fell apart in the last couple months I see how it happened over the course of year or so. After talking to a friend who lives 4 states away and is a completely third party to everything. He stopped me and said “You have to tend to the garden you grow.” So, Lisa, your wise words and honest manner of speaking and being...have transformed my garden from and abundance of weeds to an abundance of non-invasive pollinators that help not only me, but also the life around me. I’ve become more positive and goal focused. And it feels good. I’ve seen an actual change and witnessed opportunities come my way because I wasn’t in the business of saying “yes” to everything anymore.

  • @ThePinkDiary1988
    @ThePinkDiary1988 4 місяці тому

    When the shantae comes out....I like that. Don't allow yourself to come down from your level to fit theirs.

  • @Chrysanthemum808
    @Chrysanthemum808 5 років тому +9

    Love you, Lisa! 💗❤️💗❤️💗❤️💗❤️ I really needed this. I’ve been in some toxic relationships, and I felt so bad for hurting others when I was in a dark place. I want to turn it around now to be a better person, and treat people better than I had when I was in my pain. I desire to spread love, not hurt. I am raising that bar day by day. 💗 Thank you, Queen.

  • @proelmoluver13
    @proelmoluver13 5 місяців тому

    5 years later and couldn't have heard this at a better time!! Love your story and appreciate you sharing your wisdom it's timeless! ❤

  • @kungfupanda2213
    @kungfupanda2213 5 років тому +3

    Wow...BOL...that is the answered to my prayers sista!! I was contemplating what to do with a dear friend who I gave her the truth after she has asked about her new relationship with her new man. She then freezes me out. All the while I knew deep down that something about our friendship that weren't genuine. At time it was so darn hard to get in touch with her when she was in her dark places. Another time eventually when she decided to comes out of her shells, she could be the nicest person I'd even met. There were always two sides to her & our friendship. Thank you for explaining about the high places that I should be living at all times. I'm now reassured that I'd done all I could to let her knows I love her & valued our friendship without compromising the standard I'm living upon.
    Thanks again sista.

  • @monalisawm
    @monalisawm 5 років тому +3

    This message so resonate with my recent action I had to cut off toxic relationships and with no regrets I'm in harmony and balanced.

  • @carrierautmann3805
    @carrierautmann3805 5 років тому +3

    I like the level of responsibility you bring forward....just because I see the poison, I don't have to take it. I like the phrase "are you just visiting" or are you living it....thank you for bringing "the right attitude" to living a life of higher consciousness into my life, where I do navigate toxic human conversations.

  • @vanessaevora7196
    @vanessaevora7196 5 років тому +2

    What you said touched me my marriage has become toxic because of things I did in the beginning, I cried because having no one to talk to this video touched me it’s like hearing advice right in front of me. Thank you I am going to put into practice what your saying. 🙏🏾

  • @jamiero1325
    @jamiero1325 5 років тому

    OOOOO, LISA!!!!! Woman, when you NAIL IT, you NAIL it!!! "I dont visit integrity, I live there." Thank you for that. I needed to be reminded. Integrity is NEVER passive; it NEVER sits by and watches when toxicity is happening. It STOPS it. Thank you!

  • @raymonabowen606
    @raymonabowen606 5 років тому

    I raised my bar and the people I allowed to manipulate and use me are angry because I woke up, my Family and Associates said I've changed... YES, I did and I LOVE the new me!! Thank you, Lisa, for the confirmation.

  • @Nostalkingwelcome
    @Nostalkingwelcome 3 роки тому

    I’m lowering my bar for others smallness knowing I’m meant for greatness. I will no longer stay there❤️❤️❤️thank you for reminding me

  • @nadiaseghrouchni1111
    @nadiaseghrouchni1111 5 років тому +1

    Hello from France. I really liked your episode. I realized that the key for me is to stand and live where I belong to instead of visiting the place where people who seem to be toxics are. Thanks you

  • @healthcoachtammytaylor7609
    @healthcoachtammytaylor7609 5 років тому

    Let my light shine regardless! Live above the line and stay there!! Boom

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      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

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  • @vikkicooke9260
    @vikkicooke9260 3 роки тому

    I choose my conscious high road as the place I live!!

  • @nadiyaqt4219
    @nadiyaqt4219 5 років тому +1

    That's me!!!...I'm being honest. I love being on top and being integral, but I find myself visiting lower levels. I fear being on top may force me to be alone and limit my interactions.

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      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

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  • @Bribric116
    @Bribric116 4 роки тому +1

    Amen 🙏🏾 Stepping over smallness to live in my true home of Integrity. I used to allow myself to slip into smallness, but knowing that I can still love without allowing myself or others to bring me lower is so freeing and helps guide my interactions with hope and positivity that cannot be stolen or shaken! 🙌🏾🦋

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      @alysonlentini1615 4 роки тому +1

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  • @ericabarnes6495
    @ericabarnes6495 3 роки тому

    "..if that time costs you something.." That struck me. I have just recently learned about setting boundaries and having choice in relationships. I just came across your videos and I am here to learn and grow.

  • @klstepney
    @klstepney 5 років тому +1

    I'm so very happy to have stumbled upon this. Thank you! I prayed for understanding because, even though I vowed a year ago to not get caught up in toxic draining relationships anymore, I found myself thinking that I was just lending an ear, but instead was becoming emotionally drained. The more I come back with a positive, the more I felt pulled into their negative world. It's exhausting! Then I'm like the bad person because I take time for myself. I give a person so much of venting their negativity, but when I feel like they're stuck in it, I began distancing/ limiting how much time I give them. I'm even beginning to feel drained in my relationship with my guy of less than a year because he always wants me to fix this problem or that in mostly everything. I appreciate his confidence and trust in me, but I'm tired of being just the 'fix it' woman in his life...when I meet him, within a few moments I get hit with problem-solving conversations. I try changing the subject to something positive and upbeat, but he eventually goes right back to it. I told him to not allow so much negativity to invade his life - it's like he doesn't listen. He wants to get married, but I come back to my house for peace of mind and don't want to give that up. Getting hit from so many that I've started to step back and look at the people in my life and look at where my support system is. Thanks, millions!

  • @shaedixon4767
    @shaedixon4767 5 років тому +2

    This lesson has shown me how much more I have to grow but also once the change occurs keep it (the growth) if it is taking me in the positive and more meaningful directions I want to pursue.

  • @donnaraeschwartz5457
    @donnaraeschwartz5457 5 років тому +1

    Lisa, you are always amazing. Listening to you talk about a relationship is like tennis. You hit the ball and the others returns. That really sums it up beautifully. I have a friend that I'm finished with because of just that. She has a victim mentality. I will not be a part of it anymore. She brings nothing to the table as a freind. Thank you for making it so crystal clear. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

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      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

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  • @patsy128
    @patsy128 5 років тому +1

    Yes YES! I needed this to aid me in my continued journey of loving myself even more. I have been listening to to on a regular basis some PowerJam 2019 several weeks ago. St that time, I shared with you and your audience that I am a 70 yr. old woman who has gotten up off of the couch. I also shared that my first workshop, “Are You A Good Partner” will take place on March 30th. Since then, I have passed my Certification for Master Life Coach. Though tears at times and fear I go. I lustrous you while I’m working. I writing out the script for my Workshop/Seminar at this moment. I just wanted to stop by and say, “thank you” once again for your coaching and the inspiration it yields. I’m not new to Coaching as I have been doing it all my life. Little did I know, I was Coaching. Whatever the reason, people have gravitated to me in this capacity. I finally have faced the truth and am now will to serve. “It’s late, but not too late...became I’m still breathing” ~ Pat C. I am also an author/poet of, Life & Love: The Journey In Verse by Pat C.
    Much Love to you Lisa!

    • @mariaandy6084
      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

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  • @monalisajohnson36
    @monalisajohnson36 5 років тому +4

    I may have been spending a bit to much time with family members leaving my higher vibration and lowering myself after having worked on myself and done so well over the past few years. Glad I know now what this emotion is and how not to keep going there. Sharing on all my channels. THANKS LISA Love you back.

    • @mariaandy6084
      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

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  • @abcsofhealthwellness-coach3036
    @abcsofhealthwellness-coach3036 5 років тому +1

    OMG Lisa, this just slapped me in the face. I have been following you since last year when you spoke to the My Year Of Miracles group. I just finished a group call and my intention was to welcome positive and joyful people in my life. So the question is: What have I been contributing to having negative unhappy people in my life? I will work on my barriers on this. Thank you for your UA-cams. Always, always inspiring when most needed. xoxo pb

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      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

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  • @Markworship2012
    @Markworship2012 5 років тому

    I decided to leave the neighborhood of the negative and abide in the community of encouraging, edifying people who want the best.

  • @meganmayyyy
    @meganmayyyy 5 років тому +10

    This speaks to my family's situation right now, now I know how I can respond to those toxic family members. Thank you!

  • @smtahere79
    @smtahere79 5 років тому +1

    WOW
    Lisa thank you for breaking this down, I have been avoiding people who I find myself slipping into the mud with and it has caused some hurt, now I know how I must re-engage while remaining at a higher integrity level without making an announcement. Thank you for helping me identify this negative habit. I own it and I’m evicting it! Yes! Yes!!!

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      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

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  • @clea-rosecellie80
    @clea-rosecellie80 5 років тому +1

    Hi Lisa
    Watching your video today hit the nail on the head for me. I live in my space of honour integrity honesty & love with conscious awareness. Pain has been my greatest teacher. My last experience (in a relationship that WAS amazing) was my greatest teacher. He changed due to the people he started to hang with & the manipulation of friends & family as they realised how much he trusted me. I did not leave my place of integrity but I became very hurt & sick in the process.
    Like you said relationships are like a tennis match.... he shut down on me because of outside influences. I now know that was still a choice for him. I’m still in a space of healing at the moment & am looking forward to how I can help others from what I am learning.

  • @amcgee0668
    @amcgee0668 3 роки тому

    ... I'm still working things out with myself. . . gently, firmly & lovingly💙💓💚

    • @jeniferryan4077
      @jeniferryan4077 3 роки тому

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      @jeniferryan4077 3 роки тому

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      @jeniferryan4077 3 роки тому

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  • @cherylsvideos1183
    @cherylsvideos1183 5 років тому +1

    I enjoyed your topic. After self-assessment, I realized sometimes my internal attitude (not expressed to others) can toxic. I'll hold my tongue so as not to appear petty, but am truly bothered. And that decision to do nothing is really not the truth. I'm still engaging, just not in the most positive way - long-term. You're amazing!

  • @bubby78
    @bubby78 5 років тому +3

    Thank you Ms Lisa for this content! I’ve definitely come to realize that I’ve been surrounding myself around negativity and toxic relationships that I thought were truly genuine Coming to realize it never was or receiving lots of negativity towards me. I pray and continue to have faith. Watching this have really gave me confirmation to keep believing and to choose me to refocus in all areas of my life and to truly step into the woman I will become and to one day meet you in person!

  • @cherylh2000
    @cherylh2000 4 роки тому

    My sister in calming my soul. Thank you. For years my parents toxic relationship has been a burden on my heart and I am learning to disengage...to step back. I am unable to save them by jumping into their storm. I am learning how to love without becoming entangled.

  • @antdog6996
    @antdog6996 5 років тому +2

    Lisa Nichols you are amazing thank you I am looking for life changing tools to change my results and I know I have to put the work in I recently in the past 4 months have shifted my attitude and it's been amazing as I look into myself for every problem that I have and see what my role is in it when I feel disappointment in my relationship with my significant other or in any other relationships I look at what is it in myself that's making me feel this way I'm learning that I contribute way more to my problems than I even imagined I thank you from the bottom of my heart your spirit stood out to me from the secret and I looked you up recently on UA-cam your story is inspiring and amazing the meek shall inherit the earth

  • @juliabernbaum1756
    @juliabernbaum1756 5 років тому +1

    Thank you for reminding all of us that we can become mature enough to move through difficult interactions and choose the high road to save relationships that matter to us.

  • @mrsaussiefletch
    @mrsaussiefletch 5 років тому +2

    This is exactly what I needed to hear today, make a commitment on where I live and own it if I go down to other people's level to try and bring them up, instead of quietly, but firmly showing them that this is where I live. I also need to learn to walk away from toxic people, including toxic members of my family, even though it is the last thing I want to do. What I have also learned about dealing with toxic people us that is is more than okay, and even Biblical to walk away from toxic people and NOT God-honouring or honouring to myself to do otherwise. ✝🙏💜

  • @rita030222
    @rita030222 5 років тому

    I use the word Try a lot when it comes to my weight loss goals. I'll try to get to the gym this week, I'll try to cut back on sugar, I'll try to eat more veggies. Now when I try to get into my jeans they won't zip up. I needed to hear this.

  • @nickyd7843
    @nickyd7843 5 років тому

    Honestly, I do try my best to be conscious and positive avoiding the negative chatter and such yet, I do faIl at times. The moment you made mention of this my inner girl screamed for a sec there was no denying it. But you're so right and I love it. I WILL DO BETTER.

  • @gregjbonin
    @gregjbonin 3 роки тому

    BOL!! This is amazing. The struggle is real. It is with intention as to where I want to live. The old tapes create the boomerang to go to where is comfortable. The fact that I know better makes those lapses in judgement so uncomfortable. The problem was that I didn't/wasn't recognizing it. This video was so eye opening and I watched it several times. Thank you for the gift of healing when it was really needed. Big bear hugs

  • @erickadennis9244
    @erickadennis9244 5 років тому +1

    Hi Lisa # Bol
    Choosing conversations that is hi enough, big enough and stop engaging in conversations that you or someone else are spiraling down. Own, make a choice, and never go outside your neighborhood

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  • @laneikajoiner2790
    @laneikajoiner2790 5 років тому +1

    This really touched me I don’t know how and who may have signed me up to receive your email for this message and I don’t know how you knew of my second name. However, this whole video touched me because this is exactly how I have been feeling . I have been seeking to filter out the toxic people in my life and built positive relationships. I only want to attract positive energy and I want to unblock all my chakras. I want to be able to let go of everything that has hurt me and change my way of thinking , change certain decisions: I just want to find my true identity. I want to live the life I’m destined to live. I want to be the Me I was in the past. I knew who I was I just wanted to be someone else and now that I’m working on myself ........

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  • @nancykamau2189
    @nancykamau2189 5 років тому

    after this session, i realize that am not perfect and it is time to correct my problem and lve up there other than visiting it,time to ask for forgiveness and own my faults.love you Lisa

  • @renethomas6575
    @renethomas6575 5 років тому +1

    Thank you! This is good my relationship hit a speed bump for the first time and than it completely stop 🛑! After being together for almost three years. I stopped communicating for a week just to give him time to think; thinking we could talk it out but it stop with no further communication.
    I just refused to go low and argue over petty issues or have a man nitpick with me that was causing me stress... my goal is to stay on a spiritual plane where there is love truth and understanding and tried to be that but this person was still dealing with pass hurts and betrayal; which I could not change or fix for him.

  • @donnakornegay2646
    @donnakornegay2646 5 років тому +1

    Yes,YES!!! Stay at my level and allow others to grow!... instead of coming down to theirs... You better speak it Lisa!!

    • @mariaandy6084
      @mariaandy6084 4 роки тому

      Hello friends, I really want to help you with your relationship problem. I had very bad conditions in my relationship for more than 5 years and my ex-girlfriend left me yesterday. I meant this very powerful pastor who helps me to do some special prayers and my ex girlfriend just came back to me, if you want him to help you send him messages on WhatsApp +2348064539246 or you can leave your WhatsApp number so that i help you give it to him

  • @karlasilis-cruz3682
    @karlasilis-cruz3682 5 років тому

    I choose to be around non-toxic people! Thank you Lisa!

  • @CynthiaMcQuade
    @CynthiaMcQuade 5 років тому +1

    Lisa, you are so inspiring! You are a beautiful reflection of the Word of God. 💙 I struggle with the need for validation & inclusion. When I seek the filling of those (perceived) needs through people instead of Christ, I become toxic to myself (and eventually others). I see myself falling off the mountaintop at times. The reminder that our job is to call people up toward the Summit not crawl back down the mountain was timely & impactful. Keep reminding us of Whose we are so we walk a life knowing Who we are. Thank you!!

  • @angelalkennedy4656
    @angelalkennedy4656 5 років тому

    Thanks Lisa, I choose to live up high and will not never again go down low to keep others happy! I'm in a happy & empower mode of life! It's my turn... 🙏🏽❤

  • @TheLashaydupree
    @TheLashaydupree 5 років тому +2

    This was amazing. I chose a few years ago to live in my own consciousness because I found myself being weighed down by other people baggage. I feel relieved to not engage and carry stuff that doesn't even belong to me or matter to my own mental health. Great episode!!

  • @enyahreed03
    @enyahreed03 4 роки тому

    I just prayed about this, and the Lord led me here! #BOL

  • @Beka-Nique
    @Beka-Nique Рік тому

    I’ve learned- or got confirmation rather. I am the toxic energy when I feel hurt, anger… I want to live in my highest integrity, not just visit there!

  • @sisandadlakavu2659
    @sisandadlakavu2659 5 років тому +1

    Thanks Lisa I liked the part of choosing where you want to be. Many times I have lowered my bar to accommodate people that took me for granted and never valued me in the end I get hurt and my effort for nothing but a disappointment. Indeed if someone is looking for me he will have to raise his or her bar to be even with me thanks for reminding me to be frank and honest about my feelings and not dwell on toxic relationships.