Morning Rebecca. Feel like I just had breakfast with you. I think this is a very brave and honest video. I had post natal depression which went undiagnosed for about 10 months. I fell into similar behaviours to you and I ate my way through it for years. I ate because food in my family represented love. My mum fed us well instead of hugging us. I have taught her how to hug now and she loves it. My turning point was when my friend who was originally my counsellor said over coffee one morning that I had been into self harm. I thought self harm was cutting yourself! He pointed out that I was hurting myself every day. I ate until I needed my gall bladder removing, I ate until I was in real discomfort, I ate until I was sick literally and I ate until I hate the body which didn't fit into my clothes anymore. Even more reason to stay indoors, close the blinds, put the child down for another nap and eat. He was right, I was self harming. My trigger foods were either fatty and salty or just plain sugar loaded. I don't indulge in these foods today. On my maintenance journey I have given myself permission to eat anything I want. The daft thing is, now it's not eating in secret, it has lost its power. I could have chocolate every day and now I choose not to. A miracle lol. Like you, the secret eating was going to start damaging others so it had to stop. I lied about it and I did not want to ask others to lie for me but, I was beginning to con people into getting me food. They weren't fooled. I was the fool! Living free from secret eating and binge eating is heavenly. However, I am fully aware that it is always only a 'choice' away. Today I am over 500 days without binging. I am so grateful for that. Look forward to more videos and love Eva's popcorn idea. There are some lovely genuine people in this community who reach out and give us fabulous love and support. Ciao for now Jane x
Thankyou for sharing that Jane. It must have been very tough for you going through that and you have really made me think about the self harm side of food. Especially when all of those types of food are advertised as a form of self care. Having a treat etc. :)
Joan McKee Thankyou Joan. Xx Times still get tough and I do struggle but absolutely nowhere near what it used to be. Slimming World has a great part to play as it gives me a great centre of control in an uncontrollable world. :) xx
It's great that you can make these sort of videos, chatting about thoughts and feelings like a kind of therapy if you don't mind me saying :) It's good to hear you're in a better place now and seem to be more in control. I know what you mean about eating the 'wrong' kind of foods for the sake of it: I used to work very stressful jobs and would comfort eat every day for years (although I was fortunate at the time I could eat whatever I wanted and it not impact on my weight)- it eventually caught up with me though! I also had some issues with my in-laws which made me overeat too but I think I'm over that now. Eating junk used to be mine and my husband's hobby! We try to make better choices now :)
Meant to add you can make your own popcorn in the microwave (very quick and easy) and healthy too: you'll need brown paper sandwich bags, put a tablespoon or two of kernels in the bag, make a few folds at the top and microwave for a couple of minutes...no oil is used! You can control the amount of sugar/salt, etc this way. I saw this on UA-cam x
Eva G Thankyou for you kind words. Me and my partner were very guilty of having a hobby of food. We still do in a way but it is all about healthy eating now instead. Thankyou for the tip on popcorn. I always burn my plastic containers trying to pop popcorn. I will try to find some paper bags. :)
Hi Rebecca thank up so much for sharing and taking the time to allow us into your journey. I truly could listen to you all day your voice is very calming. I am very unique because my body has no mechanism to tell me I need to eat so I used to go for days with out eating then I could wake up anytime of the night and eat what ever I wanted like chips made in the old way yes in the chip pan I would make them in a morning before I went to school. Both my parents worked and left the house early they had no idea I was cooking before I went to school. Eating the way I did did not put weight on me untill I became an adult then I used to have all the fad diets so I thought I was in control. Joining SW has shown me that I must eat daily not weekly and on the plus side I am eating a well balanced nutritional healthy way. X
Susan One and only Thankyou for sharing your past experiences with food. :) It is fascinating to find out that your issues are based around not knowing that you wanted to eat and would go a long time without eating. My partner has had similar issues growing up and would hardly eat anything. I am glad Slimming World has given you a suitable framework to use. :)
Clare Ginn I am glad the vlog was of some use to you. And I agree, Slimming World is a great framework to work within which allows a sense of positive control. :)
Rebecca, I feel you're so exhausted with looking after the children. Mentally and physically. I remember that stage in my life. I was exactly like you. Trying desperately to do everything myself, trying to be supermum and not looking after myself at all. Do you have anytime or little interests that get you out of the house to recharge your batteries? A walk on your own or with a pal? A class in pottery, art, whatever? My only time off when I was your age was a weekly exercise classes for an hour. My husband babysat my 2 young sons. He wasn't good with minding the boys on his own. He was an only child with no cousins and panicked minding them for one hour. It wouldn't happen today. I'd a hysterectomy at 34 and my husband had to mind the boys, he said he never realised just how much I had to do. I'm 61, a gran and now look back and wonder how I survived. I had post natal depression for 3 months. To be honest I don't think it was the right diagnosis. It was complete and utter exhaustion! I comfort eat when there's a drama, and secret eat when my husband goes to bed. Who am i fooling only myself! It was my reward for the shitty day I'd to put up with. So many times I've heard from friends that I'd to be good to myself but I didn't know how other than to have chocolate or crisps or biscuits or bread with thick butter and anything on it. With the sw plan there's no need for rubbish if we eat 3 filling meals daily with no snacking on rubbish in between, well I'm nearly there with the no snacking, I'm improving. I've had a few horrible yrs with family problems, ie my siblings challenged my mum's will, they lost and it left a split in the family. I ate and became sort of reclusive because of embarrassment, I felt everyone knew and I was ashamed of my brothers. My daughter in law is fairly strict with me on what the children eat. I'd very seldom offer them rubbish, it's just a bad habit. At the time I thought she was being hard on me as a gran, but now with the huge obesity problem, I know she is right. So maybe 2 jellies in a bowl each is a huge treat for them once a week. I no longer think I'm super anything, I ask for help, I actually say I can't do this. I keep everyday life as simple as possible, including my sw meals. Debbie sw is terrific, I watch her a lot, she's calm and patient and of course jane day. I'm learning and loving the sw community, I feel I've found a group of pals who are focused on having a much healthier lifestyle. I hope this is of some help to you. You're not on your own, we're here to help. Look how far you've come! I really really admire your honesty. Better to talk about it, looking forward to your next vlog. A big hug from me xx
Joan McKee Thanks for sharing your past experiences. And thankyou so much for your kind words, it was very kind of you. I was exactly in that environment you describe about 4 years ago I would say. Slowly it got better, especially once I could work in the business we own rather than just from home. I am in a much better place now. Stressful yes, but for a business purpose now. Both kids are now at school full time and I get to go to work at our shop 9.30 -2.30 Tuesday through to Friday which is a wealth of social interaction which has been a incredible help.
I use to over eat all the bad foods to mine where mostly takeaway food and cheese an onion crisps with white bread and plenty of butter i did it as a reward when i had a 12 hour shift at work the night before i would order and eat untill i couldnt eat any more then when i had finished my shift as a reward for completing such a rubish day i would go to the chip shop i think this was comfort eating and slimming world has really changed my life and the way i think of food i only started the end of feb this year but my lifestyle is very different now. Thank you for sharing this video it made me think about how i use to be and i hope i never go back x
Tanya Reynolds Thankyou for sharing your past experiences Tanya. I find it so useful to have opportunities to reflect on why I used to make the choices I did so I can be better informed on the choices I make now. And reading about how you used to bolster yourself up in preparation to endure the 12 hour shift and reward after rings true a lot for me. I used to eat before I went to pick up my kids almost to make the most of the time I had by myself. I don't what the term for that kind of eating is! I am very happy for you that you are further away from that time in your life now and that you are in a different place. :)
Morning Rebecca. Feel like I just had breakfast with you. I think this is a very brave and honest video. I had post natal depression which went undiagnosed for about 10 months. I fell into similar behaviours to you and I ate my way through it for years. I ate because food in my family represented love. My mum fed us well instead of hugging us. I have taught her how to hug now and she loves it. My turning point was when my friend who was originally my counsellor said over coffee one morning that I had been into self harm. I thought self harm was cutting yourself! He pointed out that I was hurting myself every day. I ate until I needed my gall bladder removing, I ate until I was in real discomfort, I ate until I was sick literally and I ate until I hate the body which didn't fit into my clothes anymore. Even more reason to stay indoors, close the blinds, put the child down for another nap and eat. He was right, I was self harming. My trigger foods were either fatty and salty or just plain sugar loaded. I don't indulge in these foods today. On my maintenance journey I have given myself permission to eat anything I want. The daft thing is, now it's not eating in secret, it has lost its power. I could have chocolate every day and now I choose not to. A miracle lol. Like you, the secret eating was going to start damaging others so it had to stop. I lied about it and I did not want to ask others to lie for me but, I was beginning to con people into getting me food. They weren't fooled. I was the fool! Living free from secret eating and binge eating is heavenly. However, I am fully aware that it is always only a 'choice' away. Today I am over 500 days without binging. I am so grateful for that. Look forward to more videos and love Eva's popcorn idea. There are some lovely genuine people in this community who reach out and give us fabulous love and support. Ciao for now Jane x
Thankyou for sharing that Jane. It must have been very tough for you going through that and you have really made me think about the self harm side of food. Especially when all of those types of food are advertised as a form of self care. Having a treat etc. :)
Thanks for reply rebecca. Delighted things are so much brighter for you. Onwards and upwards. Lots of love x
Joan McKee Thankyou Joan. Xx Times still get tough and I do struggle but absolutely nowhere near what it used to be. Slimming World has a great part to play as it gives me a great centre of control in an uncontrollable world. :) xx
It's great that you can make these sort of videos, chatting about thoughts and feelings like a kind of therapy if you don't mind me saying :) It's good to hear you're in a better place now and seem to be more in control. I know what you mean about eating the 'wrong' kind of foods for the sake of it: I used to work very stressful jobs and would comfort eat every day for years (although I was fortunate at the time I could eat whatever I wanted and it not impact on my weight)- it eventually caught up with me though! I also had some issues with my in-laws which made me overeat too but I think I'm over that now. Eating junk used to be mine and my husband's hobby! We try to make better choices now :)
Meant to add you can make your own popcorn in the microwave (very quick and easy) and healthy too: you'll need brown paper sandwich bags, put a tablespoon or two of kernels in the bag, make a few folds at the top and microwave for a couple of minutes...no oil is used! You can control the amount of sugar/salt, etc this way. I saw this on UA-cam x
Eva G Thankyou for you kind words. Me and my partner were very guilty of having a hobby of food. We still do in a way but it is all about healthy eating now instead. Thankyou for the tip on popcorn. I always burn my plastic containers trying to pop popcorn. I will try to find some paper bags. :)
Hi Rebecca thank up so much for sharing and taking the time to allow us into your journey. I truly could listen to you all day your voice is very calming. I am very unique because my body has no mechanism to tell me I need to eat so I used to go for days with out eating then I could wake up anytime of the night and eat what ever I wanted like chips made in the old way yes in the chip pan I would make them in a morning before I went to school. Both my parents worked and left the house early they had no idea I was cooking before I went to school. Eating the way I did did not put weight on me untill I became an adult then I used to have all the fad diets so I thought I was in control. Joining SW has shown me that I must eat daily not weekly and on the plus side I am eating a well balanced nutritional healthy way. X
Susan One and only Thankyou for sharing your past experiences with food. :) It is fascinating to find out that your issues are based around not knowing that you wanted to eat and would go a long time without eating. My partner has had similar issues growing up and would hardly eat anything. I am glad Slimming World has given you a suitable framework to use. :)
Very informative vlog, i can totally relate to the binge eating as evenings are the worst time for me. I need to re join SW to feel in control X
Clare Ginn I am glad the vlog was of some use to you. And I agree, Slimming World is a great framework to work within which allows a sense of positive control. :)
Rebecca, I feel you're so exhausted with looking after the children. Mentally and physically. I remember that stage in my life. I was exactly like you. Trying desperately to do everything myself, trying to be supermum and not looking after myself at all. Do you have anytime or little interests that get you out of the house to recharge your batteries? A walk on your own or with a pal? A class in pottery, art, whatever? My only time off when I was your age was a weekly exercise classes for an hour. My husband babysat my 2 young sons. He wasn't good with minding the boys on his own. He was an only child with no cousins and panicked minding them for one hour. It wouldn't happen today. I'd a hysterectomy at 34 and my husband had to mind the boys, he said he never realised just how much I had to do. I'm 61, a gran and now look back and wonder how I survived. I had post natal depression for 3 months. To be honest I don't think it was the right diagnosis. It was complete and utter exhaustion! I comfort eat when there's a drama, and secret eat when my husband goes to bed. Who am i fooling only myself! It was my reward for the shitty day I'd to put up with. So many times I've heard from friends that I'd to be good to myself but I didn't know how other than to have chocolate or crisps or biscuits or bread with thick butter and anything on it. With the sw plan there's no need for rubbish if we eat 3 filling meals daily with no snacking on rubbish in between, well I'm nearly there with the no snacking, I'm improving. I've had a few horrible yrs with family problems, ie my siblings challenged my mum's will, they lost and it left a split in the family. I ate and became sort of reclusive because of embarrassment, I felt everyone knew and I was ashamed of my brothers. My daughter in law is fairly strict with me on what the children eat. I'd very seldom offer them rubbish, it's just a bad habit. At the time I thought she was being hard on me as a gran, but now with the huge obesity problem, I know she is right. So maybe 2 jellies in a bowl each is a huge treat for them once a week. I no longer think I'm super anything, I ask for help, I actually say I can't do this. I keep everyday life as simple as possible, including my sw meals. Debbie sw is terrific, I watch her a lot, she's calm and patient and of course jane day. I'm learning and loving the sw community, I feel I've found a group of pals who are focused on having a much healthier lifestyle. I hope this is of some help to you. You're not on your own, we're here to help. Look how far you've come! I really really admire your honesty. Better to talk about it, looking forward to your next vlog. A big hug from me xx
Joan McKee Thanks for sharing your past experiences. And thankyou so much for your kind words, it was very kind of you. I was exactly in that environment you describe about 4 years ago I would say. Slowly it got better, especially once I could work in the business we own rather than just from home. I am in a much better place now. Stressful yes, but for a business purpose now. Both kids are now at school full time and I get to go to work at our shop 9.30 -2.30 Tuesday through to Friday which is a wealth of social interaction which has been a incredible help.
I use to over eat all the bad foods to mine where mostly takeaway food and cheese an onion crisps with white bread and plenty of butter i did it as a reward when i had a 12 hour shift at work the night before i would order and eat untill i couldnt eat any more then when i had finished my shift as a reward for completing such a rubish day i would go to the chip shop i think this was comfort eating and slimming world has really changed my life and the way i think of food i only started the end of feb this year but my lifestyle is very different now. Thank you for sharing this video it made me think about how i use to be and i hope i never go back x
Tanya Reynolds Thankyou for sharing your past experiences Tanya. I find it so useful to have opportunities to reflect on why I used to make the choices I did so I can be better informed on the choices I make now. And reading about how you used to bolster yourself up in preparation to endure the 12 hour shift and reward after rings true a lot for me. I used to eat before I went to pick up my kids almost to make the most of the time I had by myself. I don't what the term for that kind of eating is! I am very happy for you that you are further away from that time in your life now and that you are in a different place. :)
Thank you Rebecca x