The Real Complexity of Mother's Day - I SEE U - IN AWE OF YOU ALL!!
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- Mother's Day is complex for many. I see you beautiful mamas that are struggling. I see you without your mamas. I see you single mamas!
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As the child of a very abusive mother who I have not spoken to in years, Mother's Day is rough for me. So for anyone healing from childhood dysfunction, sending hugs!!!!
Same here hugs and love to you ❤❤❤❤
Same here - she is 92 and I haven’t seen her in 10 years - she has 12 great grandkids (mine) and she hasn’t met 7 of them.
Sending love back
Ahhh a big portion of the recording was deleted addressing this
You listed a lot of things in this first 40 ish sec but you missed mentioning the main things that made it hard for me which I think you would've maybe remembered if you were talking about why Father's Day is complicated for people. That some mothers suck, to be frank. That everyone celebrating their wonderful mother is a trigger when you had a horrible one. If your mom was abusive or neglectful or in the rare case that she abandoned you it's not the best holiday for people. My mom displayed a lot of narcissistic rage and alcoholic rage as part of her abusiveness. Being forced to celebrate her growing up was pretty awful on top of being forced to deal with having no power to escape that abuse.
Having an abusive mother and finally having the courage to cut ties with her is so hard because people will judge you and say you are a bad daughter and justify the things she did by just saying "but she is your mother".
I haven't spoken to my mother in almost 3 years and i have never felt better
Not all mother's are good
Thank you for sharing this. Mothers day has been traumatic to me for the past 8 years. My first year of motherhood was nothing like I was told it would be. I was severely depressed and had PPOCD. That first mothers day, everyone posted on social media about how much they loved being a mom and I iust didnt feel that. My grandmother also hated mothers day, so I think some of it is generational, too. But I also grew up in a high demand religion where every mothers day the speakers praised their moms for sacrificing everything they were and erasing themselves. That was held up as the standard for a good mom. I truly believed for a long time that in order to be a good mom, I had to give myself up. I finally went back to school and finished my degree. I got my masters. And now I'm teaching college english--my calling and my passion. For so long I believed I had to sacrifice education and a career for my kids. While I was doing my masters I wrote and published a book, and then my daughter told me she wanted to write a book someday. And that showed me that I'd had it all wrong. I want my daughter to have dreams she takes seriously. I never took mine seriously until recently.
I've been doing ketamine trearment for my childhood trauma, and in my treatment this week I was thinking about mothers day. I had an ephipany. Motherhood isn't an identity. It's a relationship. It's all about what you have between you and your kids--no one else. Is that relationship healthy? Is it giving your kids love and connection? That's what matters.
Me and my friend was actually talking about this I'm a guy and I grew up in foster care so mothers was always a hard day for me but we were talking about pay leave I said mothers should have more time on paid leave and farthers should get a short time of paid leave twords the end of the pregnancy to help take care of the women who have a lot of emotional and physical strain
Thank you for this. I hate this day. It’s so stressful and I have no interest in it and no words for it. It’s not fun or relaxing or a celebration. It drama and stress and I avoid it all costs.
Hi mere thank you for talking about this. As a kid I used to wish my mom a Mother’s Day at age of 15 I didn’t at that time I didn’t realise that it’s alright not to wish her as a kid she treated me horribly. Now as an adult I am not alone in this. Listening to Taylor’s new album song Cassandra the line “blood is thicker than a payroll bet they never speared a prayer for my soul” is so powerful and who’s afraid of little old me hits me a lot Great video mere sending you love ❤❤❤❤❤
Hello mend with Mere. I send you love. I lovd your channel.iam from a senstive female from Australia. Iam 28 years Old. Iam not a parent myself i have a dog. Happy Mothers To you iam sorry that mothers day is a Hard and complex day for you. My Love to you Mere. My Love to Everyone who Has a hard Time with Mothers Day. Mend Mere. Mothers day is hard for Me Cause My parents hated each other and my mother is a toxic Person and she likes control so I wanna Send Love to people who have Toxic Mother. I hate the censorship on youtube
Mere Can you please do a Reactiok Video to the song and music Videos Called Concrete angel By Martina McBride its a country Song about child abuse its a very special song to Me. The music video is powerful it is a Sad Song
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@@rturney6376 hello Rturnery i send you love. That's soo Beautiful to connect with a another dog mum.i love dogs.
thank you for talking about this! i always get sad on mother's day because me and my mother don't have a very good relationship. i love my mom but she doesn't accept my sexuality, she's very religious and a lot of times she said awful things to me about it.
i can't get past that because she still thinks like that, sadly i have a big dependency on what she thinks of me, on making her proud... it's always hard for me to see everyone celebrating their relation with their mothers, while me and my mom have boundaries that only exist because of her. i always spend this day wishing everything was different.
Wow. All of the feelings with that commercial. That is EXACTLY what I experienced. "You are a mother, but never just."
Oh i wish i read this yesterday!! I cried all day on Mother’s Day. My husband is frustrated because he doesn’t know how else to comfort me. Even at 4am he was holding me and comforting my sensitive soul.
I have a beautiful relationship with my 24 year old son (I’m 52). We had lunch together on Friday and he gave me a beautiful gift and a card I will cherish forever. I feel so blessed!!! He spent Mother’s Day with his Dad who lives a few minutes away (my first husband). They all went out to dinner to celebrate 3 mothers: his (paternal) Grandmother, his aunt and his cousin. We all live in Dallas.
My second husband (my true soulmate), got me flowers and a beautiful gift and we went to church then out for brunch. It was a beautiful day, but then the tears started flowing when I got home and wouldn’t stop because my family is all in Boston. My mom is 86 and has always been cruel, my only sibling (older brother), married a “mean girl”, full of envy with a cold heart. They have 3 kids I hardly know anymore. I don’t even feel like an aunt and my son feels like he has no cousins, no aunt and uncle and no Grandmother (on my side of the family). My Dad passed away 7 years ago and was the only human being who I felt loved by my whole life. The grief was overwhelming.
My (new) husband, many years later, has filled a hole in me - more like a wound, and his extended family has welcomed me with genuine open arms, normalcy and love. I never knew what normalcy was like within a family before. I’ll spend the rest of my life finally surrounded by unconditional love, but yesterday, the wounds from. my past dysfunctional family really hurt me all over again. No phone calls, no texts or emails. Just silence, as if I don’t exist. I used to be the one to text or call, but the short, cold responses cut deep, so this year, for the first time, I didn’t reach out, and neither did they. It’s time to let go and focus on the beautiful love between my son and I and the love I now have with my new husband and his entire loving family.
My son is strong and wise and has healthy boundaries. He cut off ALL communication with my side of the family over 10 years ago. Good for him. He’s better off and he chose not to be around toxic people.
Thank you for this message of healing, support and comfort. Hope you had a happy Mother’s Day 🌸
I just lost my mother last month, so this Mother's Day was especially rough for me. She had early-onset Alzheimer's, so she was sick for the entirety of my early twenties. It hasn't felt like I've had a mother figure for a long time, to no fault of her own. Thank you for talking about mothers in a different light.
Thanks for posting this today. I feel like I ruined mothers day for my mom as I woke up at 2:30AM with my heart pounding so hard my teeth were chattering. Afterwards I had to go to the doctor today with my mom to get an antibiotic for my lingering cold/sinus's acting up. Today was rough but my dad and mom said later in the week we can do something and my sister's college graduation was enough of one for her. Sometimes Mother's Day is not always celebrated on the day but we'll have more days. God Bless all who are mother's.
Beautiful words today Mere.❤
Here in Brazil, maternity leave is an average of six months, something I am very grateful for! I'm not a mother yet, I'm actually 17 years old, but being a mother and having a family is a big future dream for me, but even so, I can imagine how complex and intense motherhood can be, especially in the beginning. My mother and I have a great relationship, we are best friends, but I know how difficult not having a mother (or a good relationship with her) can be. My grandmother (my mother's mother) died when my mother was 10 years old and Mother's Day in my family always has a bittersweet feeling. It's a very happy day for everyone, but I know that my mother misses her mother, so we watch a movie she likes and give her extra kisses. Sending lots of love to you and you're family. ❤❤❤
I love that you have poured love like this on your platform for Mother’s Day, Mere. From those who have miscarried all the way to bringing it back to mother nature. Your poem is lovely and your vulnerability fills me with adoration. You are a beautiful soul and so appreciated. You shed light on so many important topics and you shine light where there is darkness for so many on the complexities of a holiday. May you have a Mother’s Day that blesses you with all the wellness, warmth, happiness, and love. 🌿🦋
Also sending love to queer families ❤🏳🌈 Families with two moms, no moms, trans or nonbinary parents, donors, and any other relationships, you are amazing and deserve celebration! Wishing the best to people struggling to have a family due to their gender/sexuality.
I have a friend who lives in a country where her love isn't recognized, and she's not sure if she will ever be able to have kids. I hope LGBTQ+ rights keep improving so everyone can have the family they deserve.
Yes to all families!! Love is love is love ❤
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Thank you for this Mere! I have three girls, 1, 2, and 3. I literally never have down time.
That's part and parcel of motherhood and your blessed to be a mother as many never get the chance to be a mother like Sharon Tate who was looking forward to be a mother but her life and her unborn son Paul Richard life was snuffed out thanks to the Charles Manson Monsters on August 9,1969, at Cielo Drive, Benedict Canyon. 🤦😡😤💔😢