It is very hard to take your own advice. You are beautiful. Being a woman is freaking hard. Take baby steps. It will not come all in one day. Take it one hour or one minute at a time. Left foot, right foot breathe (my most fav saying). You know who you are…your compassion comes through in every video. You are helping. You are helping people feel not so alone in this world.
You’re absolutely beautiful human being inside out. You do you and I know it doesn’t help much saying that, but I really appreciate your reactions and input on discovering new things on some songs. I laugh to the older men eye rolls and when you blush about something. It’s your pure reaction and it’s part of you. And it’s enough to be just who we are. We can disagree on older men, or blush “issues”(language barrier), BUT I respect your opinion! Hope you feel better 💐
My daughter has an addiction and it DOES hurt and affect me It is a rollercoaster of emotions. It is causing me mental health issues. I appreciate you putting yourself out there. You are helping me.
please don’t leave!!!! it is such a pleasure to get to know you even if through the screen and not in real life. life is hard sometimes way should it be different for you? if you don’t feel like posting take your time, don’t pressure yourself or let yt algorithm pressure you, and come back another day ;) you do help people you know. my dad is an addict as is my stepdad. as a result i have shown psychosomatic symptoms all my life, developed anxiety and got diagnosed with ptsd a few years ago. you (being as open and vulnerable as you were/are) have made me feel seen and have helped me cope!!!!! i flee into my own world if it gets too overwhelming and your reactions/comments/analysis of music is a way to look at the darker stuff in my life without having to face it spot on
Taking a break=self love ❤️ only you know when you MUST take a break bc being a psychologist is heavy duty work. Refresh yourself and you’ll feel better than ever. Are you getting into some new clothes..?
As a 56-year-old woman, 250 lbs, with a buffalo hump, who doesn't wear makeup, I can tell you that life is great. What I look like means NOTHING about my value, my happiness, or my beauty. This is not to say that I always loved myself. When I was younger, I definitely didn't. I think it partially comes with age and just REALLY UNDERSTANDING, slowly, that my friends and family don't love me because of what I look like. They love me for who I am, and I love them for who they are, without even thinking twice about what they look like. I think this is common with age, as most of my friends are the same. We learned to love ourselves as we are, warts and all. I don't find it necessary to wear makeup anymore, as I love who I see in the mirror. She's a kind, loving person who tries her best to do the right, kind thing. That's so much more valuable to me than being a size 2 or not having a buffalo hump, or being considered "a beauty". You ARE a physically attractive young lady, but even if you weren't, you would still be just as beautiful. I have faith that someday, you will truly feel that in your soul. 🙂
Thank you for these words and I know that I’m getting closer, just needed to share why videos don’t always come out. I’m annoyed with myself that I struggle with this stuff and I hope/know I will have confidence like you someday. The inner critic is loud and sometimes, I never hear it. Life is something else. ❤
Being human is hard. Bodies are weird. Life can really beat you up. You can know all the right things to do, and feel it deep down, but sometimes you just can't do it. It's very refreshing to see a therapist struggle with this too. There's a lot of pressure to be perfect, always look at things positively, always deal with things in the healthiest way, and not "let" things get to you, but it doesn't work like that. You can't just skip the part where it hurts. Sometimes you've got to break down and recognize that shit feels shitty. At least that's what I've experienced and learned. I love a good cry. You are incredibly strong, but you've been through a lot, and have got to give yourself some slack. Having a disease is a whole different thing than hurting people around you, refusing to see it as a problem, and not getting help. I have so much compassion for things my family members are struggling with (not addiction related), but when they don't treat me well and don't want to change, I can't just keep excusing it, and it's really hard. I'm sorry you've had to deal with this in such a major way. Of course it's going to affect you and your reactions, and that's ok. You are absolutely gorgeous, and have been in all of your videos. Reminds me of Tied Together With A Smile "Seems the only one who doesn't see your beauty / Is the face in the mirror looking back at you" I know that you know why you're doing this channel. I hope you can see how many people you're helping. The hardest videos are the most important ones, and we're all so grateful for them. About rolling your eyes at old men... I would love to see you react to Dinosaur by Kesha, I think you would find it funny, and a good break from Lana. At least give it a listen.
Mere, you are so beautiful, both inside and out. Women go thru so many issues. I had a full hysterectomy about two yrs ago, at only 47 yrs of age. But, all in all now I am feel8mg so much better. Be you…that’s all we want. You have helped sooo many people, including me. Please take good care of you. And please keep us all posted. ❤❤
I will keep you all posted! Already starting to feel a lift in just being honest. I’m leaning toward the hysterectomy after hearing how much better so many people feel. Thank you for sharing and I feel your support ❤
You are helping! I've been spending a lot of time alone after I had to end my law studies because of PTSD, I've been living a level below my abusive "father" who basically destroyed my mother who died in a car accident when I was 16. So please take care of yourself. And know that you are helping.
It's easier to help others than it is to help ourselves. We are far more critical of ourselves than others are (with exception of bullies). No one should be commenting on your looks. You are a beautiful woman. Maybe rather than focusing on your looks, just focus on your message. The message is the important thing.
@@mendwithmere Just remember haters are more likely to comment than lovers. The ones commenting on looks aren't really listening to how well you break down or analyze the songs. You are wonderful and the fact that you make yourself vulnerable and share your life and your area of expertise is a gift. So please don't let those people live in your head.
I was hoping to catch a video like this. As someone with ADHD I look for content like body doubling, and it helps a lot with cleaning. I already am on therapy for about three years and seeing other people talk about their feelings and perceptions of themselves makes me get in the mood to look into myself and reflect.
Not a therapist, but just wanted to say how much I enjoy your videos, commentary, personal takes, and editing. Im a guy and I watch your videos almost daily. I really enjoy your reactions to Lana and Taylor especially. Your videos make me laugh and smile at times, and they help me fall asleep when I’m really anxious. Thank you for all your postings, I really enjoy your content and I’ve been subbed for a while! Also I don’t mind when you “yuck” at all the old men hanging with Lana, it’s ok we stan 😂❤️
You are beautiful. You are amazing. You are strong and powerful woman who helps a lot of people aroung the world with your videos and books. Feeling odd happens, but dont let it get into you. It gets better!!!! I love you and your content. Thank you for just being yourself
You are so so beautiful, inside and out!! I promise you that you are helping others, I can assure you that you have helped me. I adore your personality and compassion for others, your warmth as a person radiates through your content and it is blatantly obvious how much of a sweet and down to earth human being you are. You give me a different outlook on life. I am generally so happy that I found your channel and I think that the community that you have built is amazing. I am so proud of you. Sending you all my love
oh also, being cheating on affects your brain chemistry for a long time (at least did in my experience). don't doubt or deny your feelings/experience from that. those people saying those things just haven't been through it!...
Late to the comment section, but I am inspired by what you do for others, and you are making a difference. This vulnerability you are sharing is scary and uncomfortable, and I know that most if not all women can relate to what you are feeling. You are doing great things with the pain you’ve experienced and that, I am sure, can feel like a heavy burden to carry at times. You are seen, understood and appreciated. Thank you for being you and opening yourself up to a community of people that need what you give.
you’re so beautiful Mere, in every single way possible, and tbh unless you’re actively harming other people or just doesn’t take responsibility for your actions, as i like to say, fuck it, bc there are so many people who loves you and shows appreciation when you act like yourself and if someone doesn’t like that or if they just hate you for no reason then it’s not your problem, it’s not like anyone knows what’s the true meaning of life or the right way to live to be preaching about it. we love to see real people and it’s so tiring to go through your social media feeds with fabricated lives, and i’m glad that you’re so brave to show us what goes on behind the scenes. you’re such a wonderful and inspiring human being in so many ways and i really hope you know that.
Mere, thank you for all the help you have given me. You have made a huge difference in many of our lives. We are here for you and I can truly relate to what you are saying. Please put yourself first and prioritize your healing. You are the best! Your vulnerability, courage, compassion and integrity always shines through and brightens our days. I love the way you show that music and therapy can go hand in hand.
This was an incredibly brave video to put out. Thank you for doing it. Because it's also incredibly relatable. How I dress and in particular whether I wear makeup or not directly correlates to how good I think I look and it changes my whole demeanor. Which in anyone else I would recognize as problematic but literally until writing this comment did not realize my personal blind spot there. So I have work to do, and I'm grateful to know it. If you wanted to help one person, you did!! Thank you for being so vulnerable. I am sure you are aware the impact that warching videos like this, that normalize the uncomfortable parts of being human, have. Shame thrives in secrecy and all that. But knowing that intellectually does not make it any less painful, uncomfortable or brave for you to be so honest about your insecurities. I truly thank you for it. This video will continue to help going forward, I'm sure of it.
Thank you! You totally get what I meant and this is why I put it out. It’s a frustrating but real struggle. I’ve been wanting to take this down tho but your comment helps bc you get it, even if not being totally conscious of it before. Means so much that we can help each other❤
Thank you for sharing this with us and for being so real and pushing through even if you’re not feeling good. Health issues are scary and not knowing what’s wrong with you or how to fix it’s overwhelming. Sending all the good vibes and hopefully you’ll soon have some answers. * I do need to mention that I think you’re GORGEOUS and I do believe I’m not the only one with this opinion* 100 % agree with the addiction, it is a choice and we need to stop finding excuses for it. Admitting you’re an addict it’s probably the hardest part but it’s a necessary step in recovery.
I have tried to tell my wife that she does not need to wear makeup. I think society (and cosmetic companies) has conditioned women to believe that makeup is necessary. I prefer no makeup. I've seen a lot of content creators struggle to get past negative comments. Just know that there are those of us who enjoy your videos. If you can, ignore the mean comments.
Thank you for this! It really is this sick conditioning like you said. I’m hoping that talking about it can help change it for me and others. Thank you for the ❤
please don’t stop doing what you’re doing! i want you to never forget that we gain a lot from your videos and i’ve been a follower of you since your first reactions and sometimes i revisit your older videos and i truly see the difference in good ways! you’ve come such a long way and i’m so glad that you trust us enough to be vulnerable like this with us! we all have our moments and periods of life where we are harsher to ourselves and that is completely okay! there’s a reason why you’re here and you’re helping all of us so much. we all feel connected to you through a screen and that is such a special thing to accomplish! even when you don’t upload, i rewatch your videos all the time! and i wouldn’t change it for anything. i adore your eyerolls, your emotional moments and every other thing that you feel insecure about! i think you putting this video out here is really brave and shows how brave you really are! i love you so much and i adore watching you. having moments are part of all of us, i want to thank you a lot for everything. you are truly one of the most beautiful women i’ve seen, inside and out. keep doing what you’re doing, we love seeing your reactions and your vulnerability! you’re more than enough girly❤ sending you lots of well wishes and love
THANK YOU! I trust you all to be vulnerable and honest and I’m not going anywhere. I do feel bad when I don’t put out videos so I feel better that you all have an idea why lately. Thank you for the kind words, this motivates me!
Cheating is horrible. So sorry this has happened to you! Some of Lana's song must be really tiggering for you, remember you mentioned the age difference of ur husband and the mistress. Yeah guess sometimes when it's hard is OK to accept the struggle and our feelings. I am a recovering insomniac, after had a hard time with health anxiety. What i leant with insomnia that i had to make friends with being awake cos that's what kept me awake, the struggling of not sleeping. I feel like this lesson has really helped me with other areas of life as well. How I try to make friends with things that bother me, and just be OK with how I feel from time to time. We are humans, it is completely normal to feel not too good from time to time, but is that relationship to those feelings our our thoughts and our bodies. Life is confusing sometimes, but would be really boring if it was perfect. Hope u find peace with your struggles and wish u all the best. Also thanks for the awesome videos but if YT is making u feel not good, it's OK to take a break from it too, and just focus on u x whatever makes u feel better inside ur body. Love
hearing you talk about the way you feel ab yourself just made me tear a little. I mean, I'm a 14 yo girl and i wanna be like you so bad, and its so sad that you don't see how amazing you are. I was watching ur video ab "cola", and i literally thought like "wow, how gorgeous Mere is", then i click in this video and then its you saying this :( anyways, i hope you can have a good time and realize how much of a beautiful and smart person you are🤍🤍
Could you please do a series of reactions to Lady Gaga's songs, especially from the albums: The Fame Monster, Joanne and Chromatica? Many of her songs helped me and lots of other people in difficult moments of life, their texts often reach deep into the soul. For me, she is a unique artist who carries an important message in her songs that covers many topics. Listening to your song analyzes also helps me a lot, so I wanted to ask if this is possible. You could start with a famous song like: 911, Perfect Illusion or Alejandro. I would be very grateful.
In all reality, anyone judging you is projecting their own insecurities, weak people fear strong people, when weak people see a strong confident individual, they project their insecurity, just find gratitude you are not as sick as them and pray for their growth and healing, I never noticed a thing your talking about here cause truthfully I’m only listening to your beautiful thoughts, I admire your strength, vulnerability, honesty, and empathy. And your amazing beautiful mind!! But seriously, sportscruiser Lana del Rey, let’s go 😉😉🤣🤣🤣💜
I was deeply touched by seeing your vulnerability and bravery. Watching you hold back your emotions and tell what is happening, I also deeply felt how difficult it is to break through all this from the far side. I just want you to know that it’s okay to care about other people’s opinions. it's ok . That makes humans unique. And you are brave enough to tell us what humans can achieve . You are beautiful when you confess yourself, this is what I ‘m Seeing ❤ Bless You 🙏🏻
I’m 39 but they are saying I’m fertile since my FSH and LH are low. They found cysts so exploring other areas now. I was totally thinking that at first
Sounds like a hormonal imbalance messing with your perimenopausal state. My gyno put me on a timed released hormone that zapped me into shape very quickly. I felt like a human again. You need a complete workup
It sounds like your thyroid or another type of endocrine issue…I’m so sorry you’re struggling🥺 I hope you’re seeing your doctor and getting it figured out!! I got hurt and almost became paralyzed 6-ish years ago and I gained over 100lbs…I still know I’m beautiful but it’s a lot of work for me to take care of myself, let alone put on makeup or do my hair because going out also takes a lot out of me, so I really struggle feeling that way sometimes, plus the weight gain has been a struggle with my confidence as well. I had to learn how to love me in new ways because I know that my life will never be the same as it was. BUT, figuring out why your body is fighting you and how to help it will help you to feel better just by understanding what’s going on…the mystery is usually the hardest part! You are beautiful and we love you🫶🏻
Thank you for sharing this! It is so hard to give your body love when it changes so much. I have 2 cyst on one of my ovaries and they are doing more tests. It could be so many things. I love your confidence with your body changes, it’s making me feel like I can get there. Thank you ❤
Be kind to yourself. It's ok for you to be honest and real, it's ok to feel your feelings. I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Sending you good juju from Australia. You're helping me
Your helping me mere💜💜💜 I think your amazing and I just care about your thoughts and views and I love hearing everything, I’m telling you, sportscruiser from Lana’s poetry book, seriously. Listen to it. It’s what you need to hear right now. Sending all the love💜 I have all the tools in the toolbox as well from being in therapy and programs for far too long. I know the answers to a lot, and as you struggle but know what you would say to someone sitting in front of you, we are human. Just because we have all the tools, does not mean we feel nothing. It’s refreshing to hear your struggle as it’s similar to mine, and how my brain is like no Kyle, your not worthy of good, but all my learning tell me at the same time, no Kyle it’s just a thought just let it go, meditate, breathe, but the thoughts still come. We must fight💜 we are here for each other💜
I hope you get to see this, unfortunately I am late to watching this video. I could be clichéd and say you are beautiful as you are, but who am I to say that? You wouldn’t know if I was being honest or not. Plus seeing you at the end of a camera lenses does not represent total reality. It doesn’t seem like the best way to respond. It sounds trite but beauty isn’t all that it is cracked up to be. It doesn’t last and boy do I know that is true. I am 62 and getting old sucks big time. Once I was reasonably looking, now not so much. I have dated some really beautiful women, I have dated a model. I once traveled with and dated a Dutch girl who was the most beautiful woman that I have ever met. The model was forgettable. the Dutch girl wasn’t since she had the intelligence and personality to match. But we were young and neither of us was ready to settle down. When I met my wife she wasn’t the most beautiful woman that I have ever seen. She was cute and lovely but not a stunner. She also wasn’t my type in the looks area. I never intended to be with her on a permanent basis. Yet she was great to be around. She had heaps of personality; she was great to talk to and I really enjoyed her company. Despite myself I fell I love with her. I found that she became my type. Intellectually and on a completely rational basis I knew that she couldn’t compare with other girls that I had known, but to me, to my heart she was and is the most beautiful woman that I have ever known. If I ever find myself thinking that another woman is attractive, I have noticed that she resembles what my wife looks or looked like when she was younger. Now I have seen that video of you exercising. Personally I think that you look great in it. Are you an absolute stunner - no, but are you beautiful - yes, I think you are. But more importantly your inner soul that shines through is captivatingly beautiful. Now I can recognise intellectually that Taylor Swift is beautiful. I can see why a lot of guys find her attractive. Even though I love the person that she is and can see that she is beautiful I don’t find her attractive. At least for me beauty doesn’t work that way.
I always find the more you explain yourself the less you are heard. Just look at Taylor swift. I appreciate your vulnerability, it's not easy putting yourself out there
Get an ANA blood test from your doctor. It sounds like you might have an autoimmune disease like lupus or hashimotos or something. I'm going through the same symptoms as you. My ANA test showed that I do have an autoimmune disease. I'm going through the process of finding out which one it is now.
I have a loved one who is an addict and I have personally struggled so much in my life. These past couple of years, knowing I had your channel to come to when I needed to hear words of encouragement or just someone to cry with, has been so helpful. You are truly a safe space for people and have helped others so much with your information and empathy. I am so sorry you are feeling this way now. You are so strong, kind and you deserve the world. Things WILL get better!!
This feeling is passing and it is so important for loved ones of addicts to have each other and if you can find that here, that means everything. Thank you, sending you love and I feel the ❤
Thank you for your bravery and honesty in this video! Videos like this one are helpful to many of us! You can do hard things and you have done hard things. We all love and support you. Good vibes forever and a day.
I have PCOS which causes all the symptoms you talked about and it is so hard to deal with and It takes a real toll on mental health. If you or any other woman here watching has something that might be related to hormones, just know it can improve. I have had great success working with a registered dietician to better understand my hormonal issues and I recommend the book called “fix your period” by Nicole jardim. You aren’t alone and the medical system is soooo undereducated on women’s issues… part of why it took me years to even begin to understand how to help my condition. Sending love to all women. ❤
Thank you for this! They are testing me for PCOS. I have 2 complex cysts on my left ovary right now. All my symptoms have already been downplayed. It is maddening. Your comment makes me feel better. I’m going to order that book! ❤
@@mendwithmereI hit rock bottom before I took the step to reach out to a dietician (out of network 😢) and I’m so glad I did and so thankful to have the resources to do so. You aren’t alone. I also found the Ovie app super helpful and there are quite a few good podcasts for pcos. I recommend these ones as good free sources on information: PCOS explained, the imperfect PCOS podcast and hormonally yours with the hormone dietician. All are by registered dieticians who are specialized in PCOS. (I know this is a lot of info but I just want anyone who feels like they are stuck with PCOS to know that it can improve)
i love how you are honest and ik you're a therapist and it's one of the first things you learn when studying to become one but being sort of peaceful with feelings that often judged as negative, is something to be looked up to just because by being at peace with these feelings is one less thing to worry about in life in general. having said that i think it's important to acknowledge that and be with yourself where you are right now. we appreciate you for who you, who you've shown yourself to be. i love your videos having a therapist's input on pop music is something im sure a lot of people appreciate - me included. i hope you'll be patient with yourself as you would a friend or a client or just anyone is general who was having a hard time and im sure you'd at least try to help them. i know im just a stranger on the internet talking about things that maybe idk what's like to feel them but at the end of the day i choose to believe we're connected as human beings first before anything. hope you find it in you to feel some sort of peace throughout these times and i truly truly hope you'll be alright physically and mentally wise. be safe and be patient. we'll wait for you and we're rooting for you ❤
You should get your thyroid checked. I had the exact same thing happen to me. They call it a thyroid storm. My thyroid had to be radiated to get rid of it and now I am on Levothyroxine to replace the hormones the thyroid affects. They need to do blood work to check your TSH levels in your blood.
They are saying thyroid is fine. I just found out I have a complex cyst on my ovary with a daughter cyst. My FSH LH testosterone and hemoglobin are all very low and no one can explain what those combos mean. I need answers but it’s taking forever. Thank you for sharing this and I’ve thought thyroid for a long time too.
@@mendwithmere, It's weird for real how so many things can happen to your body and cause the exact same symptoms. I feel for ya. sister. I would really hate if you left FB, but I would understand if it's just too much. Seeing you and your content in the last 6 months made me go and check out your older vids. You rock it. If I am in a bad mood 10 minutes with Mere and I have a smile on my face. I hope you get well soon.
@@mendwithmerehi Mere. I highly recommend getting help from registered dietician. They are so well trained on actually understanding those test results and helping get things back on track. I’ve had much more progress with them than my doctors or even endocrinology. I hope you get help soon and know you aren’t alone.
Oh my god, I have like exactly the same issues for the last several months. Exactly the same. And I also don’t understand what’s going on in terms of health issues and diagnosis. Thank you so much for sharing it 🥺 i felt for so long that I’m the only one having it and thinking that no one really knows how it feels.
Hello mend With Mere i send you love iam a Senstive female from Australia. I Pray that God takes away your struggles. Your a Beautiful person you have a caring heart. Your a human being Mere. Its ok i respect you For being soo honest. I have body image struggles too. I have disabilities its hard to feel beautiful when i have physical pain. I DO agree wity you No matter what illness You have people Still have chocies i Have a anxiety disorder and depression. Thankyou for being soo honest. Its Not easy to be a senstive person in this world
@@mendwithmere thankyou Mend with Mere for replying to my Comment thankyou soo much for your love. I Send it back.. I do want to also say that in my domestic violence experience with my dad and his wife I went through physical abuse physical scars heal but the memories are harder to Heal in August I will be 9 years out of that
When we don’t feel well, especially when we’re trying to figure out new health problems - it’s really hard to feel good about ourselves. I started having weird symptoms mostly pain back in 2012 and over the next few years experienced really low self esteem from body changes related to my illness and the meds I kept trying. It took me a very long time to get back to a place of want to take better care of myself and try to be happy in my body again. It’s completely normal and valid to feel self conscious in these types of circumstances. Also you can’t please everyone. Your videos are wonderful. They don’t have to be for everyone. Addiction is a very complicated personal subject and for some people no matter what you say it’s gonna upset someone. As for older men, it weirds me out how it’s been normalized in our culture for them to date younger woman. It is gross. I hope you figure out your health issues and start feeling better soon. I suggest a long soak with your favorite scented bath soak and your favorite calming music.
Thank you so much for sharing! Sometimes is incredibly hard to take our own advice and look at ourselves with the same kindness we look at others. I definitely relate to a lot of what you said, I have struggled with body image and self worth my whole life, growing up in the “heroin chic” era while also doing ballet at the time definitely didn’t help and recently I’ve started to unpack so much in therapy! Also about mental illness, I have a BPD sister who has hurt our family and each of us individually so much, she’s not to blame for being mentally ill but she’s absolutely responsible for all the harm that she’s done because unfortunately she refuses to seek treatment of any kind. You made me feel validated regarding this situation, I used to feel very guilty, “she’s sick, it’s not her fault.” I don’t feel guilt about feeling angry and frustrated anymore. Thank you Mere❤
Thank you for sharing this! It’s so hard for people to understand that two things can be true at the same time. Yes, she has a disorder and she can be harmful. Sending you love!
Thank you, I really needed this right now. I've been struggling with anxiety and low self-esteem lately, and I don't know why exactly. I just wanted to let you know that I love your videos. It's like listening to a friend talking, relating to their problems, and feeling uplifted by their wisdom ❤
That means so much! I’m already feeling better. It’s so weird how certain things can throw you off and you don’t even know why. Sending you so much love and thank you for sharing
I recognize everything you talk about! Remember that you have been through a trauma, and probably had high levels of cortisol. I’m chronically ill and when I have flare ups or bad periods I often lose hair. Rosemary oil is amazing to use for hair growth. When the central nervous system is out of balance you can experience loads of weird symptoms. I know it’s hard to see yourself in the mirror or on picture/video when your body is changing and you don’t feel like yourself. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with all this! Please do what’s best for you. Regardless of what that is. We love to see it your videos but you don’t owe us anything. Do videos when you want to and how you want to and if you don’t want to make videos that’s ok to. We are here for you regardless! All the best!
Thank you for this! I do feel like I need permission to put them out when I have the energy to but admittedly, I’ve been so used to having deadlines or the fear of disappointing a boss if I don’t do something one time but that isn’t the case with UA-cam and I have to remind myself of that. I don’t have to do things the way I used to and how I used to do it was problematic anyways! Haha. I do think the cortisol has something to do with it. It’s all been a lot and I’m frustrated bc I want to be totally healed already! Haha but in due time. I’m trying to have patience. Thank you for the love and support ❤
Writing this to state how I very much appreciate you and all the positive things you've been doing. I really hope you feel better, heal and feel how amazing we all think you are. Thank you for being raw and putting yourself out there. You make me feel seen and be okay with being me. I really really hope you don't leave
I’m def not leaving! It was a feeling in a moment. I love this and I also have feelings around it bc of my own stuff. It’s crazy how just talking about it kind of relieves me of it so I’m glad I shared. ❤❤❤
I just want to take you for keep posting videos as one of them you said there is a reason why your watching this video and please know that your worth staying on this earth I don’t have many adults around me who say that, my mum died in 2020 and I miss her soo much and of course my kids want and need me. Life is hard and when I saw that video I was like someone wants me to stay 🥺
You are doing just fine, Mere. ❤ don’t let people who disagree with you make you feel bad. You know how you feel and are allowed to feel that way. I can tell you are a gentle soul, I think you should definitely give yourself a lot of credit. Be gentle with yourself, you deserve it. And if you’re having inflammation issues, you could possibly have a food allergy or irritation. I’m a chef and I know food allergies, so it could be an outside source and there’s possibly nothing wrong internally (hopefully) 💜 I think you and I are around the same age so you and I know things are going to be hard, but that doesn’t mean we have to be hard people. Sending loooove your way!! ❤❤
I’m starting to think about food allergies. I know I have the gene for Celiac from a 23 and me and just unsure what to do next to figure it out. I’ll take any advice!
@@mendwithmere I would suggest some blood tests to be sure. I hope you are well, Celiac is treatable thank goodness. It may also be a soy allergy because some soy products cause high inflammation. And even if you don't eat a lot of soy, some animals are fed a soy diet and grain diet too so definitely do some research into the sources of your food. I hope this helps. Sending lots of love & light! 🤍
My heart aches so so deeply with the hurt you share; and, I pray you continue to see your beauty inside and out as I do and all us supporters of you do. You are a living and transparent example to us all in so many ways sharing coping mechanisms and the everyday struggles that like you pretty much mention are taboo in society. You radiate and exemplify love, acceptance, kindness and all the things that are good in this world through the difficult stuff. I am team Mere “forever & always”. I hope that is apparent. Sending you much ❤ and support always. None of us are okay 100% of the time and you sharing that as a therapist on life normalizes that so much in my opinion. I got that Glennon Doyle book from your amazon storefront and am enjoying the bit I have read so far! Thank you for using your platform to make a safe space to come to and I pray it continues to be for you too.
@mendwithmere People give a lot more to less deserving. My words aren't working, but you have been helping me tremendously and I appreciate you, expect more.
It’s so hard to hear that you sometimes feel like what’s the point of doing this but I really just want to reassure you that you are helping me through so much everyday I go on UA-cam and check to see if you have a new video because I find so much comfort in watching you but while saying this i also want you to feel good and happy and if you need a break just take one I promise you are not letting anyone down you are just doing what is best for you mere also you are honestly so gorgeous but it really doesn’t matter what the outside looks like the inside is what is beautiful and you are beautiful inside and out mere ,even though I am saying that I really struggle with self image even though im only 14. Sending lots of love and good vibes take care of yourself that’s what matters most ❤
This was a momentary, well more than a momentary feeling but there definitely is a point, I’ve just been lower. I’m so glad I’ve helped and I want us all to come together and you are helping me by saying this. We have to strive toward self love as much as we can ❤
It is very hard to take your own advice. You are beautiful. Being a woman is freaking hard. Take baby steps. It will not come all in one day. Take it one hour or one minute at a time. Left foot, right foot breathe (my most fav saying). You know who you are…your compassion comes through in every video. You are helping. You are helping people feel not so alone in this world.
Thank you 🤍
You’re absolutely beautiful human being inside out. You do you and I know it doesn’t help much saying that, but I really appreciate your reactions and input on discovering new things on some songs.
I laugh to the older men eye rolls and when you blush about something. It’s your pure reaction and it’s part of you.
And it’s enough to be just who we are.
We can disagree on older men, or blush “issues”(language barrier), BUT I respect your opinion!
Hope you feel better 💐
My daughter has an addiction and it DOES hurt and affect me It is a rollercoaster of emotions. It is causing me mental health issues. I appreciate you putting yourself out there. You are helping me.
I’m so glad it helps you! I hate that I need validation, but I do. It’s such a hard topic but loved ones need support!
please don’t leave!!!! it is such a pleasure to get to know you even if through the screen and not in real life. life is hard sometimes way should it be different for you? if you don’t feel like posting take your time, don’t pressure yourself or let yt algorithm pressure you, and come back another day ;)
you do help people you know. my dad is an addict as is my stepdad. as a result i have shown psychosomatic symptoms all my life, developed anxiety and got diagnosed with ptsd a few years ago.
you (being as open and vulnerable as you were/are) have made me feel seen and have helped me cope!!!!! i flee into my own world if it gets too overwhelming and your reactions/comments/analysis of music is a way to look at the darker stuff in my life without having to face it spot on
I’m definitely not leaving! I just have times where it gets hard, especially bc my hormones are all over the place. Thank you for the love
@@mendwithmereits always ok to take a break ❤️
Taking a break=self love ❤️ only you know when you MUST take a break bc being a psychologist is heavy duty work. Refresh yourself and you’ll feel better than ever. Are you getting into some new clothes..?
As a 56-year-old woman, 250 lbs, with a buffalo hump, who doesn't wear makeup, I can tell you that life is great. What I look like means NOTHING about my value, my happiness, or my beauty. This is not to say that I always loved myself. When I was younger, I definitely didn't. I think it partially comes with age and just REALLY UNDERSTANDING, slowly, that my friends and family don't love me because of what I look like. They love me for who I am, and I love them for who they are, without even thinking twice about what they look like. I think this is common with age, as most of my friends are the same. We learned to love ourselves as we are, warts and all. I don't find it necessary to wear makeup anymore, as I love who I see in the mirror. She's a kind, loving person who tries her best to do the right, kind thing. That's so much more valuable to me than being a size 2 or not having a buffalo hump, or being considered "a beauty". You ARE a physically attractive young lady, but even if you weren't, you would still be just as beautiful. I have faith that someday, you will truly feel that in your soul. 🙂
vulnerability is a beautiful and terrifying thing. thank you, from another human
Thank you for these words and I know that I’m getting closer, just needed to share why videos don’t always come out. I’m annoyed with myself that I struggle with this stuff and I hope/know I will have confidence like you someday. The inner critic is loud and sometimes, I never hear it. Life is something else. ❤
Being human is hard. Bodies are weird. Life can really beat you up. You can know all the right things to do, and feel it deep down, but sometimes you just can't do it. It's very refreshing to see a therapist struggle with this too. There's a lot of pressure to be perfect, always look at things positively, always deal with things in the healthiest way, and not "let" things get to you, but it doesn't work like that. You can't just skip the part where it hurts. Sometimes you've got to break down and recognize that shit feels shitty. At least that's what I've experienced and learned. I love a good cry. You are incredibly strong, but you've been through a lot, and have got to give yourself some slack.
Having a disease is a whole different thing than hurting people around you, refusing to see it as a problem, and not getting help. I have so much compassion for things my family members are struggling with (not addiction related), but when they don't treat me well and don't want to change, I can't just keep excusing it, and it's really hard. I'm sorry you've had to deal with this in such a major way. Of course it's going to affect you and your reactions, and that's ok.
You are absolutely gorgeous, and have been in all of your videos. Reminds me of Tied Together With A Smile "Seems the only one who doesn't see your beauty / Is the face in the mirror looking back at you"
I know that you know why you're doing this channel. I hope you can see how many people you're helping. The hardest videos are the most important ones, and we're all so grateful for them.
About rolling your eyes at old men... I would love to see you react to Dinosaur by Kesha, I think you would find it funny, and a good break from Lana. At least give it a listen.
Thank you for every single word written here. I will react to Dinosaur for sure now. Thank you for being so understanding 🤍
Mere, you are so beautiful, both inside and out. Women go thru so many issues. I had a full hysterectomy about two yrs ago, at only 47 yrs of age. But, all in all now I am feel8mg so much better. Be you…that’s all we want. You have helped sooo many people, including me. Please take good care of you. And please keep us all posted. ❤❤
I will keep you all posted! Already starting to feel a lift in just being honest. I’m leaning toward the hysterectomy after hearing how much better so many people feel. Thank you for sharing and I feel your support ❤
You are helping! I've been spending a lot of time alone after I had to end my law studies because of PTSD, I've been living a level below my abusive "father" who basically destroyed my mother who died in a car accident when I was 16. So please take care of yourself. And know that you are helping.
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It's easier to help others than it is to help ourselves. We are far more critical of ourselves than others are (with exception of bullies). No one should be commenting on your looks. You are a beautiful woman. Maybe rather than focusing on your looks, just focus on your message. The message is the important thing.
I know it totally is more important. Just hate that may body stuff and make it hard to put it out. Thank you for understanding and giving me support ❤
@@mendwithmere Just remember haters are more likely to comment than lovers. The ones commenting on looks aren't really listening to how well you break down or analyze the songs. You are wonderful and the fact that you make yourself vulnerable and share your life and your area of expertise is a gift. So please don't let those people live in your head.
I was hoping to catch a video like this. As someone with ADHD I look for content like body doubling, and it helps a lot with cleaning. I already am on therapy for about three years and seeing other people talk about their feelings and perceptions of themselves makes me get in the mood to look into myself and reflect.
I can't do anything without body doubling. ❤
Not a therapist, but just wanted to say how much I enjoy your videos, commentary, personal takes, and editing. Im a guy and I watch your videos almost daily. I really enjoy your reactions to Lana and Taylor especially. Your videos make me laugh and smile at times, and they help me fall asleep when I’m really anxious. Thank you for all your postings, I really enjoy your content and I’ve been subbed for a while! Also I don’t mind when you “yuck” at all the old men hanging with Lana, it’s ok we stan 😂❤️
You are beautiful.
You are amazing.
You are strong and powerful woman who helps a lot of people aroung the world with your videos and books.
Feeling odd happens, but dont let it get into you. It gets better!!!!
I love you and your content. Thank you for just being yourself
You are so so beautiful, inside and out!! I promise you that you are helping others, I can assure you that you have helped me. I adore your personality and compassion for others, your warmth as a person radiates through your content and it is blatantly obvious how much of a sweet and down to earth human being you are. You give me a different outlook on life. I am generally so happy that I found your channel and I think that the community that you have built is amazing. I am so proud of you. Sending you all my love
oh also, being cheating on affects your brain chemistry for a long time (at least did in my experience). don't doubt or deny your feelings/experience from that. those people saying those things just haven't been through it!...
Late to the comment section, but I am inspired by what you do for others, and you are making a difference. This vulnerability you are sharing is scary and uncomfortable, and I know that most if not all women can relate to what you are feeling. You are doing great things with the pain you’ve experienced and that, I am sure, can feel like a heavy burden to carry at times. You are seen, understood and appreciated. Thank you for being you and opening yourself up to a community of people that need what you give.
you’re so beautiful Mere, in every single way possible, and tbh unless you’re actively harming other people or just doesn’t take responsibility for your actions, as i like to say, fuck it, bc there are so many people who loves you and shows appreciation when you act like yourself and if someone doesn’t like that or if they just hate you for no reason then it’s not your problem, it’s not like anyone knows what’s the true meaning of life or the right way to live to be preaching about it. we love to see real people and it’s so tiring to go through your social media feeds with fabricated lives, and i’m glad that you’re so brave to show us what goes on behind the scenes. you’re such a wonderful and inspiring human being in so many ways and i really hope you know that.
Love you!
Mere, thank you for all the help you have given me. You have made a huge difference in many of our lives. We are here for you and I can truly relate to what you are saying. Please put yourself first and prioritize your healing. You are the best! Your vulnerability, courage, compassion and integrity always shines through and brightens our days. I love the way you show that music and therapy can go hand in hand.
This was an incredibly brave video to put out. Thank you for doing it. Because it's also incredibly relatable. How I dress and in particular whether I wear makeup or not directly correlates to how good I think I look and it changes my whole demeanor. Which in anyone else I would recognize as problematic but literally until writing this comment did not realize my personal blind spot there. So I have work to do, and I'm grateful to know it. If you wanted to help one person, you did!!
Thank you for being so vulnerable. I am sure you are aware the impact that warching videos like this, that normalize the uncomfortable parts of being human, have. Shame thrives in secrecy and all that. But knowing that intellectually does not make it any less painful, uncomfortable or brave for you to be so honest about your insecurities. I truly thank you for it. This video will continue to help going forward, I'm sure of it.
Thank you! You totally get what I meant and this is why I put it out. It’s a frustrating but real struggle. I’ve been wanting to take this down tho but your comment helps bc you get it, even if not being totally conscious of it before. Means so much that we can help each other❤
Thank you for sharing this with us and for being so real and pushing through even if you’re not feeling good.
Health issues are scary and not knowing what’s wrong with you or how to fix it’s overwhelming. Sending all the good vibes and hopefully you’ll soon have some answers.
* I do need to mention that I think you’re GORGEOUS and I do believe I’m not the only one with this opinion*
100 % agree with the addiction, it is a choice and we need to stop finding excuses for it. Admitting you’re an addict it’s probably the hardest part but it’s a necessary step in recovery.
Love you ❤
You are beautiful 🫶
I honestly love your videos so much!
Awww this is so, so, so relatable Mere, thank you, this helps me so much with similar feelings I've been having!! Sending hugs
I have tried to tell my wife that she does not need to wear makeup. I think society (and cosmetic companies) has conditioned women to believe that makeup is necessary. I prefer no makeup.
I've seen a lot of content creators struggle to get past negative comments. Just know that there are those of us who enjoy your videos. If you can, ignore the mean comments.
Thank you for this! It really is this sick conditioning like you said. I’m hoping that talking about it can help change it for me and others. Thank you for the ❤
please don’t stop doing what you’re doing! i want you to never forget that we gain a lot from your videos and i’ve been a follower of you since your first reactions and sometimes i revisit your older videos and i truly see the difference in good ways! you’ve come such a long way and i’m so glad that you trust us enough to be vulnerable like this with us! we all have our moments and periods of life where we are harsher to ourselves and that is completely okay! there’s a reason why you’re here and you’re helping all of us so much. we all feel connected to you through a screen and that is such a special thing to accomplish! even when you don’t upload, i rewatch your videos all the time! and i wouldn’t change it for anything. i adore your eyerolls, your emotional moments and every other thing that you feel insecure about! i think you putting this video out here is really brave and shows how brave you really are! i love you so much and i adore watching you. having moments are part of all of us, i want to thank you a lot for everything. you are truly one of the most beautiful women i’ve seen, inside and out. keep doing what you’re doing, we love seeing your reactions and your vulnerability! you’re more than enough girly❤ sending you lots of well wishes and love
THANK YOU! I trust you all to be vulnerable and honest and I’m not going anywhere. I do feel bad when I don’t put out videos so I feel better that you all have an idea why lately. Thank you for the kind words, this motivates me!
@@mendwithmere take your time girly, we love you no matter what! 💕
sending u love ❤
Cheating is horrible. So sorry this has happened to you! Some of Lana's song must be really tiggering for you, remember you mentioned the age difference of ur husband and the mistress.
Yeah guess sometimes when it's hard is OK to accept the struggle and our feelings.
I am a recovering insomniac, after had a hard time with health anxiety. What i leant with insomnia that i had to make friends with being awake cos that's what kept me awake, the struggling of not sleeping. I feel like this lesson has really helped me with other areas of life as well. How I try to make friends with things that bother me, and just be OK with how I feel from time to time. We are humans, it is completely normal to feel not too good from time to time, but is that relationship to those feelings our our thoughts and our bodies.
Life is confusing sometimes, but would be really boring if it was perfect.
Hope u find peace with your struggles and wish u all the best. Also thanks for the awesome videos but if YT is making u feel not good, it's OK to take a break from it too, and just focus on u x whatever makes u feel better inside ur body. Love
hearing you talk about the way you feel ab yourself just made me tear a little. I mean, I'm a 14 yo girl and i wanna be like you so bad, and its so sad that you don't see how amazing you are. I was watching ur video ab "cola", and i literally thought like "wow, how gorgeous Mere is", then i click in this video and then its you saying this :(
anyways, i hope you can have a good time and realize how much of a beautiful and smart person you are🤍🤍
Could you please do a series of reactions to Lady Gaga's songs, especially from the albums: The Fame Monster, Joanne and Chromatica? Many of her songs helped me and lots of other people in difficult moments of life, their texts often reach deep into the soul. For me, she is a unique artist who carries an important message in her songs that covers many topics. Listening to your song analyzes also helps me a lot, so I wanted to ask if this is possible. You could start with a famous song like: 911, Perfect Illusion or Alejandro. I would be very grateful.
In all reality, anyone judging you is projecting their own insecurities, weak people fear strong people, when weak people see a strong confident individual, they project their insecurity, just find gratitude you are not as sick as them and pray for their growth and healing, I never noticed a thing your talking about here cause truthfully I’m only listening to your beautiful thoughts, I admire your strength, vulnerability, honesty, and empathy. And your amazing beautiful mind!! But seriously, sportscruiser Lana del Rey, let’s go 😉😉🤣🤣🤣💜
I was deeply touched by seeing your vulnerability and bravery.
Watching you hold back your emotions and tell what is happening, I also deeply felt how difficult it is to break through all this from the far side.
I just want you to know that
it’s okay to care about other people’s opinions.
it's ok .
That makes humans unique.
And you are brave enough to tell us what humans can achieve .
You are beautiful when you confess yourself, this is what I ‘m Seeing ❤
Bless You 🙏🏻
I'm not sure how old you are, but I was thinking maybe perimenopause? I know for a while a lot of doctors didnt even believe it existed.
I’m 39 but they are saying I’m fertile since my FSH and LH are low. They found cysts so exploring other areas now. I was totally thinking that at first
@@mendwithmereI hope you get some answers and a resolution.
Sounds like a hormonal imbalance messing with your perimenopausal state. My gyno put me on a timed released hormone that zapped me into shape very quickly. I felt like a human again. You need a complete workup
I am going through some of the same issues. Could it be pre-menopause? I have been insecure my whole life. My mind is my worst critic. Big hugs. ❤
It sounds like your thyroid or another type of endocrine issue…I’m so sorry you’re struggling🥺 I hope you’re seeing your doctor and getting it figured out!! I got hurt and almost became paralyzed 6-ish years ago and I gained over 100lbs…I still know I’m beautiful but it’s a lot of work for me to take care of myself, let alone put on makeup or do my hair because going out also takes a lot out of me, so I really struggle feeling that way sometimes, plus the weight gain has been a struggle with my confidence as well. I had to learn how to love me in new ways because I know that my life will never be the same as it was. BUT, figuring out why your body is fighting you and how to help it will help you to feel better just by understanding what’s going on…the mystery is usually the hardest part!
You are beautiful and we love you🫶🏻
Thank you for sharing this! It is so hard to give your body love when it changes so much. I have 2 cyst on one of my ovaries and they are doing more tests. It could be so many things. I love your confidence with your body changes, it’s making me feel like I can get there. Thank you ❤
Be kind to yourself. It's ok for you to be honest and real, it's ok to feel your feelings. I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Sending you good juju from Australia. You're helping me
Your helping me mere💜💜💜 I think your amazing and I just care about your thoughts and views and I love hearing everything, I’m telling you, sportscruiser from Lana’s poetry book, seriously. Listen to it. It’s what you need to hear right now. Sending all the love💜 I have all the tools in the toolbox as well from being in therapy and programs for far too long. I know the answers to a lot, and as you struggle but know what you would say to someone sitting in front of you, we are human. Just because we have all the tools, does not mean we feel nothing. It’s refreshing to hear your struggle as it’s similar to mine, and how my brain is like no Kyle, your not worthy of good, but all my learning tell me at the same time, no Kyle it’s just a thought just let it go, meditate, breathe, but the thoughts still come. We must fight💜 we are here for each other💜
I hope you get to see this, unfortunately I am late to watching this video. I could be clichéd and say you are beautiful as you are, but who am I to say that? You wouldn’t know if I was being honest or not. Plus seeing you at the end of a camera lenses does not represent total reality. It doesn’t seem like the best way to respond.
It sounds trite but beauty isn’t all that it is cracked up to be. It doesn’t last and boy do I know that is true. I am 62 and getting old sucks big time. Once I was reasonably looking, now not so much.
I have dated some really beautiful women, I have dated a model. I once traveled with and dated a Dutch girl who was the most beautiful woman that I have ever met. The model was forgettable. the Dutch girl wasn’t since she had the intelligence and personality to match. But we were young and neither of us was ready to settle down.
When I met my wife she wasn’t the most beautiful woman that I have ever seen. She was cute and lovely but not a stunner. She also wasn’t my type in the looks area. I never intended to be with her on a permanent basis. Yet she was great to be around. She had heaps of personality; she was great to talk to and I really enjoyed her company. Despite myself I fell I love with her. I found that she became my type. Intellectually and on a completely rational basis I knew that she couldn’t compare with other girls that I had known, but to me, to my heart she was and is the most beautiful woman that I have ever known. If I ever find myself thinking that another woman is attractive, I have noticed that she resembles what my wife looks or looked like when she was younger.
Now I have seen that video of you exercising. Personally I think that you look great in it. Are you an absolute stunner - no, but are you beautiful - yes, I think you are. But more importantly your inner soul that shines through is captivatingly beautiful.
Now I can recognise intellectually that Taylor Swift is beautiful. I can see why a lot of guys find her attractive. Even though I love the person that she is and can see that she is beautiful I don’t find her attractive. At least for me beauty doesn’t work that way.
I always find the more you explain yourself the less you are heard. Just look at Taylor swift. I appreciate your vulnerability, it's not easy putting yourself out there
Get an ANA blood test from your doctor. It sounds like you might have an autoimmune disease like lupus or hashimotos or something. I'm going through the same symptoms as you. My ANA test showed that I do have an autoimmune disease. I'm going through the process of finding out which one it is now.
I have a loved one who is an addict and I have personally struggled so much in my life. These past couple of years, knowing I had your channel to come to when I needed to hear words of encouragement or just someone to cry with, has been so helpful. You are truly a safe space for people and have helped others so much with your information and empathy. I am so sorry you are feeling this way now. You are so strong, kind and you deserve the world. Things WILL get better!!
This feeling is passing and it is so important for loved ones of addicts to have each other and if you can find that here, that means everything. Thank you, sending you love and I feel the ❤
Oh goodness if you agreed with everything everyone else thought we’d all just read Wikipedia and never sing or think or talk. 😅
sending you love
Thank you for your bravery and honesty in this video! Videos like this one are helpful to many of us! You can do hard things and you have done hard things. We all love and support you. Good vibes forever and a day.
I have PCOS which causes all the symptoms you talked about and it is so hard to deal with and It takes a real toll on mental health. If you or any other woman here watching has something that might be related to hormones, just know it can improve. I have had great success working with a registered dietician to better understand my hormonal issues and I recommend the book called “fix your period” by Nicole jardim. You aren’t alone and the medical system is soooo undereducated on women’s issues… part of why it took me years to even begin to understand how to help my condition. Sending love to all women. ❤
Thank you for this! They are testing me for PCOS. I have 2 complex cysts on my left ovary right now. All my symptoms have already been downplayed. It is maddening. Your comment makes me feel better. I’m going to order that book! ❤
@@mendwithmereI hit rock bottom before I took the step to reach out to a dietician (out of network 😢) and I’m so glad I did and so thankful to have the resources to do so. You aren’t alone. I also found the Ovie app super helpful and there are quite a few good podcasts for pcos. I recommend these ones as good free sources on information: PCOS explained, the imperfect PCOS podcast and hormonally yours with the hormone dietician. All are by registered dieticians who are specialized in PCOS. (I know this is a lot of info but I just want anyone who feels like they are stuck with PCOS to know that it can improve)
i love how you are honest and ik you're a therapist and it's one of the first things you learn when studying to become one but being sort of peaceful with feelings that often judged as negative, is something to be looked up to just because by being at peace with these feelings is one less thing to worry about in life in general. having said that i think it's important to acknowledge that and be with yourself where you are right now. we appreciate you for who you, who you've shown yourself to be. i love your videos having a therapist's input on pop music is something im sure a lot of people appreciate - me included. i hope you'll be patient with yourself as you would a friend or a client or just anyone is general who was having a hard time and im sure you'd at least try to help them. i know im just a stranger on the internet talking about things that maybe idk what's like to feel them but at the end of the day i choose to believe we're connected as human beings first before anything. hope you find it in you to feel some sort of peace throughout these times and i truly truly hope you'll be alright physically and mentally wise. be safe and be patient. we'll wait for you and we're rooting for you ❤
I'm glad u shared this! It's real life! Ur teaching...
I know this doesn't fix anything but I just wanted you to know that I think you're really beautiful.
You should get your thyroid checked. I had the exact same thing happen to me. They call it a thyroid storm. My thyroid had to be radiated to get rid of it and now I am on Levothyroxine to replace the hormones the thyroid affects. They need to do blood work to check your TSH levels in your blood.
They are saying thyroid is fine. I just found out I have a complex cyst on my ovary with a daughter cyst. My FSH LH testosterone and hemoglobin are all very low and no one can explain what those combos mean. I need answers but it’s taking forever. Thank you for sharing this and I’ve thought thyroid for a long time too.
@@mendwithmere, It's weird for real how so many things can happen to your body and cause the exact same symptoms. I feel for ya. sister. I would really hate if you left FB, but I would understand if it's just too much. Seeing you and your content in the last 6 months made me go and check out your older vids. You rock it. If I am in a bad mood 10 minutes with Mere and I have a smile on my face. I hope you get well soon.
@@mendwithmerehi Mere. I highly recommend getting help from registered dietician. They are so well trained on actually understanding those test results and helping get things back on track. I’ve had much more progress with them than my doctors or even endocrinology. I hope you get help soon and know you aren’t alone.
Can you do the lyrics to 24 by Lana Del Rey.
Oh my god, I have like exactly the same issues for the last several months. Exactly the same. And I also don’t understand what’s going on in terms of health issues and diagnosis. Thank you so much for sharing it 🥺 i felt for so long that I’m the only one having it and thinking that no one really knows how it feels.
It’s so hard. I just want answers and hate that I don’t get my body right now. Glad we can relate on this!❤
@@mendwithmereyeah, it is, I understand this 100%. I hope it will resolve for us both soon 🥺🫂
Can you listen to Salvatore bye lana del rey
Sending big love and hugs.
Do a reaction for my poetry ep😔
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Hello mend With Mere i send you love iam a Senstive female from Australia. I Pray that God takes away your struggles. Your a Beautiful person you have a caring heart. Your a human being Mere. Its ok i respect you For being soo honest. I have body image struggles too. I have disabilities its hard to feel beautiful when i have physical pain. I DO agree wity you No matter what illness You have people Still have chocies i Have a anxiety disorder and depression. Thankyou for being soo honest. Its Not easy to be a senstive person in this world
100% agree! Sending you so much ❤
@@mendwithmere thankyou Mend with Mere for replying to my Comment thankyou soo much for your love. I Send it back.. I do want to also say that in my domestic violence experience with my dad and his wife I went through physical abuse physical scars heal but the memories are harder to Heal in August I will be 9 years out of that
When we don’t feel well, especially when we’re trying to figure out new health problems - it’s really hard to feel good about ourselves. I started having weird symptoms mostly pain back in 2012 and over the next few years experienced really low self esteem from body changes related to my illness and the meds I kept trying. It took me a very long time to get back to a place of want to take better care of myself and try to be happy in my body again. It’s completely normal and valid to feel self conscious in these types of circumstances.
Also you can’t please everyone. Your videos are wonderful. They don’t have to be for everyone.
Addiction is a very complicated personal subject and for some people no matter what you say it’s gonna upset someone.
As for older men, it weirds me out how it’s been normalized in our culture for them to date younger woman. It is gross.
I hope you figure out your health issues and start feeling better soon. I suggest a long soak with your favorite scented bath soak and your favorite calming music.
Thank you so much for sharing! Sometimes is incredibly hard to take our own advice and look at ourselves with the same kindness we look at others. I definitely relate to a lot of what you said, I have struggled with body image and self worth my whole life, growing up in the “heroin chic” era while also doing ballet at the time definitely didn’t help and recently I’ve started to unpack so much in therapy!
Also about mental illness, I have a BPD sister who has hurt our family and each of us individually so much, she’s not to blame for being mentally ill but she’s absolutely responsible for all the harm that she’s done because unfortunately she refuses to seek treatment of any kind. You made me feel validated regarding this situation, I used to feel very guilty, “she’s sick, it’s not her fault.” I don’t feel guilt about feeling angry and frustrated anymore. Thank you Mere❤
Thank you for sharing this! It’s so hard for people to understand that two things can be true at the same time. Yes, she has a disorder and she can be harmful. Sending you love!
Thank you, I really needed this right now. I've been struggling with anxiety and low self-esteem lately, and I don't know why exactly. I just wanted to let you know that I love your videos. It's like listening to a friend talking, relating to their problems, and feeling uplifted by their wisdom ❤
That means so much! I’m already feeling better. It’s so weird how certain things can throw you off and you don’t even know why. Sending you so much love and thank you for sharing
I recognize everything you talk about! Remember that you have been through a trauma, and probably had high levels of cortisol.
I’m chronically ill and when I have flare ups or bad periods I often lose hair.
Rosemary oil is amazing to use for hair growth. When the central nervous system is out of balance you can experience loads of weird symptoms.
I know it’s hard to see yourself in the mirror or on picture/video when your body is changing and you don’t feel like yourself. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with all this!
Please do what’s best for you. Regardless of what that is. We love to see it your videos but you don’t owe us anything.
Do videos when you want to and how you want to and if you don’t want to make videos that’s ok to.
We are here for you regardless!
All the best!
Thank you for this! I do feel like I need permission to put them out when I have the energy to but admittedly, I’ve been so used to having deadlines or the fear of disappointing a boss if I don’t do something one time but that isn’t the case with UA-cam and I have to remind myself of that. I don’t have to do things the way I used to and how I used to do it was problematic anyways! Haha. I do think the cortisol has something to do with it. It’s all been a lot and I’m frustrated bc I want to be totally healed already! Haha but in due time. I’m trying to have patience. Thank you for the love and support ❤
Writing this to state how I very much appreciate you and all the positive things you've been doing. I really hope you feel better, heal and feel how amazing we all think you are. Thank you for being raw and putting yourself out there. You make me feel seen and be okay with being me. I really really hope you don't leave
I’m def not leaving! It was a feeling in a moment. I love this and I also have feelings around it bc of my own stuff. It’s crazy how just talking about it kind of relieves me of it so I’m glad I shared. ❤❤❤
vulnerability is a beautiful and terrifying thing. thank you, another human
It really is!
I just want to take you for keep posting videos as one of them you said there is a reason why your watching this video and please know that your worth staying on this earth
I don’t have many adults around me who say that, my mum died in 2020 and I miss her soo much and of course my kids want and need me. Life is hard and when I saw that video I was like someone wants me to stay 🥺
Yes, I want you to stay. I want us all to be able to release the hurt and pain 🤍
You are doing just fine, Mere. ❤ don’t let people who disagree with you make you feel bad. You know how you feel and are allowed to feel that way. I can tell you are a gentle soul, I think you should definitely give yourself a lot of credit. Be gentle with yourself, you deserve it. And if you’re having inflammation issues, you could possibly have a food allergy or irritation. I’m a chef and I know food allergies, so it could be an outside source and there’s possibly nothing wrong internally (hopefully) 💜 I think you and I are around the same age so you and I know things are going to be hard, but that doesn’t mean we have to be hard people. Sending loooove your way!! ❤❤
I’m starting to think about food allergies. I know I have the gene for Celiac from a 23 and me and just unsure what to do next to figure it out. I’ll take any advice!
@@mendwithmere I would suggest some blood tests to be sure. I hope you are well, Celiac is treatable thank goodness. It may also be a soy allergy because some soy products cause high inflammation. And even if you don't eat a lot of soy, some animals are fed a soy diet and grain diet too so definitely do some research into the sources of your food. I hope this helps. Sending lots of love & light! 🤍
Hey queen
My heart aches so so deeply with the hurt you share; and, I pray you continue to see your beauty inside and out as I do and all us supporters of you do. You are a living and transparent example to us all in so many ways sharing coping mechanisms and the everyday struggles that like you pretty much mention are taboo in society. You radiate and exemplify love, acceptance, kindness and all the things that are good in this world through the difficult stuff. I am team Mere “forever & always”. I hope that is apparent. Sending you much ❤ and support always. None of us are okay 100% of the time and you sharing that as a therapist on life normalizes that so much in my opinion. I got that Glennon Doyle book from your amazon storefront and am enjoying the bit I have read so far! Thank you for using your platform to make a safe space to come to and I pray it continues to be for you too.
As always, love you so much Alex!
@@mendwithmere love you back 🤍
Thanks!
Whaaaaat?! Wow! You didn’t need to do that but I’m incredibly grateful for that!!
@mendwithmere People give a lot more to less deserving. My words aren't working, but you have been helping me tremendously and I appreciate you, expect more.
It’s so hard to hear that you sometimes feel like what’s the point of doing this but I really just want to reassure you that you are helping me through so much everyday I go on UA-cam and check to see if you have a new video because I find so much comfort in watching you but while saying this i also want you to feel good and happy and if you need a break just take one I promise you are not letting anyone down you are just doing what is best for you mere also you are honestly so gorgeous but it really doesn’t matter what the outside looks like the inside is what is beautiful and you are beautiful inside and out mere ,even though I am saying that I really struggle with self image even though im only 14.
Sending lots of love and good vibes take care of yourself that’s what matters most ❤
This was a momentary, well more than a momentary feeling but there definitely is a point, I’ve just been lower. I’m so glad I’ve helped and I want us all to come together and you are helping me by saying this. We have to strive toward self love as much as we can ❤
@@mendwithmere forever proud of you mere your so strong ❤️