Hairdresser reacts to extreme DIY relaxer fails!
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- Опубліковано 15 тра 2024
- Hi Beautiful! Today we watch some people attempt to do their own relaxers at home... These girls ended up with an absolute mess on their hands. All their hair fell out!
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Hey its me the first girl! I was natural 10 plus years..loved it..my youtube was actually a hair channel! I also did natural hair for a living...I only decided to relax my hair because since having my son I have no time to do my hair..literally not a moment to myself. I walked around with matted hair a year while suffering from post partum depression and I just wanted to relax my hair so it would be easier to manage and I could stop looking a mess..I have older girls, and I didn't want them to start to think it's ok to not take care of yourself. So this was my failed attempt at taking care of myself 😔 ..currently still wearing a scarf because I have no sitter while I go to a salon, hence the reason I attempted the relaxer myself..but thank you everyone for your kind words and thank you Brad..next step is chopping it all off like u guys recommended
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Girl,you're AMAZING 💗 NEVER FORGET THAT💗🙏🏾
@@EN-mh6sr thank you so much ❤❤
Honestly, you would look soooooo bomb with short hair.
you are beautiful!!! i'm sending you and your son all the love and good feelings
When she said “I just want to feel my best self” my heart actually broke. She’s so beautiful she could definitely rock a pixie cut
She looks so good on her channel with her short fro
@@user-kq2we1ex3h if he didn't edit the videos, this video would be 1 hour long 🙄
Plus people watch it because they want to see the hair fails, not to hear the person's entire life story lmao
@@user-kq2we1ex3h if her hair was already falling due to post pregnancy that's another reason why she shouldn't touch the relaxer, i don't know why you're acting like that justifies something
@@user-kq2we1ex3h I don't think he took advantage of anything. That was her personal story to tell, he is here to talk about the hair itself. He didn't say anything wrong about why her hair was falling out or anything. It really doesn't matter WHY her hair is so compromised, what matters is that you shouldn't put in a relaxer while your hair is compromised (for any reason).
Yeah! I actually followed her channel after seeing this video. She is such a sweetheart, such a good person!
I felt the first girl so much when she said she just wanted to have her hair "done" and just wanted to feel her best self. Often as black women, we attach so much of our value to the way our hair looks. If we dont have loose curls or inches of hair that falls down our back or if our hair isnt styled and tucked in neatly, sometimes it makes you feel...less beautiful. It took me so long to love the way my hair looks and I know so many others who have felt the same way. It's a hard feeling to combat and I still fight with it everyday. But no matter what you're beautiful. Your hair does not define you, both girls were beautiful before and after ❤️
That girl looked beautiful with her natural hair and didn't need to modify it though....
@@peachydandy2570 Management for natural hair, especially textures more towards the 4c side, can be super stressful, so I kinda get why she wanted to relax it in the first place.
@@peachydandy2570 its a pain to maintain it though like i had to buzz my head two times after groming my natural hair to more than shoulder length twice coz of the stress of it sometimes oh and school too bt when i decided its time to grow it out i relaxed it from the get go to see what relaxer works for my hair... my mom has super long hair and it was a pain for her to go to the salon since they just destroyed it so she's been relaxing hers and mine now hers for abt 10yrs mine like two since i stsrted growing it (dont mind the profile that was like 2020 corona and it was when i stopped buzzing my head)
Anyway after a year i now know i need two conditioners in my hair and not to go to a hair dresser coz the three times i went i noticed my hair getting destroyed... im all for treat your own hair and i hate when people look at me weird since i decided to relax it like im beneath them or sth😂
@@ejuwera Oh ok I understand. As a type 3 who is good at doing so many things with my hair EXCEPT putting in a relaxer, I'm just one to give up and say relaxers suck. My hair is very time-consuming as well in its natural state because it's low in porosity and dries up easily. But relaxers of any kind never make my hair look better. The best thing for my hair is just to enjoy 3/4 of the colder part of the year living in one of the driest states and to keep it under a scarf or headband in the dry hot summers. I hate summer. But ugh, right now, one month later after using a relaxer, and my hair's godsend is aloe straight from the plant or I might not have any hair at all.
@@peachydandy2570 it’s damaged, it needed modifying but not to that extent. She could’ve gotten braids so it would help heal her hair naturally
I’m envious of how good she looks bald 😭 the amount of times I’ve been like ‘should I just shave my head’ but knowing I’d look AWFUL. She looks incredible!
Just do it :) you don't know what you're gonna look like until you try. I have a pretty "male" face and I just shaved my head, I feel more feminine than before. The feeling of having such short hair is incredible.
I thought I'd look terrible too cause I have a dent in my head. I did it and turns out the dent it not even noticeable and I loved it.
Same, looking good bald is such a flex. Baldness is so hard to pull off, people that can amaze me 😭
When the first girl said "I just wanted to feel my best self . . . I want to feel better. I miss the confidence I had." -- Oh my goodness, it tugged at my heart. She was strong enough to speak what so many people feel. ❤
Same, and when her hair was falling out and she said I just wanted to feel beautiful, my heart went
I straight up cried for her
My heart hurts
Poor baby girl
She's beautiful the way she is but I know what she means how she feels
My curly hair has given me confidence ❤️the con is I’m tall and my big fro gets stuck in shit or caught lol
It's sad because a lot of people don't feel confident in their natural hair because standards don't say you're pretty if you're natural. It's fine to want to feel confident in yourself but what she's saying is me and my natural hair doesn't make me feel pretty and If you look at the underlying reasons for that it's because natural hair isn't considered beautiful in mainstream society.
This guy makes me wanna actually read instructions
Lol I know right lol😁
@Filsi______💫 you go and get that bag girl 😂😂
😂😂😂 me too
Please do! 🥴
But yet us humans still don’t
the STRENGTH to look at what just happened and say "welp, this is what it is. i'll do better next time" is awesome. both of these beautiful ladies went through every stage of grief with their hair and came out stronger. hair is such an important part of a lot of people's identity and security, but it's also good to realize that it's just hair. you are still you and you are still beautiful no matter what your hair looks like 💛
First girl made me cry when she said "I just wanted to feel beautiful". Want to give her a hug, hope her hair made a recovery
I know she’s upset that she ruined her hair but at least she has the head and face shape to pull off a bald hairstyle. Not everyone can do that.
She is beautiful.🤩
They both did imo! Stunning women! They wouldn't be able to if they had my ears tho 😂
Period
@@hannahmitchell87 Oh god, I relate to that statement so hard
I didn’t think I had the head but everyone tells me I do. I think I have a big head/ears lol. So you never know.
Sidenote: even the pros used to tell us kids to wait for the relaxer to burn a bit. We were basically praised when we could take the burn longer because then we knew it was getting bone straight 😩😬😬 I don't miss those days
I had shivers thinking about all the times I was 12 and the relaxer was burning my head and I didn't say anything. I always had burnt scabs after I sat under the dryer. I will NEVER introduce that pain and sorrow to my girls EVER!
I or my mom never let my hair burn. It gets warm but never burn. My beautician doesnt want me to burn either.. I think one of the techniques of getting it bone straight was making sure you comb it straight and keeping the hair straight. I know your not supposed to comb through but there is a balancing act to it. A medium comb through sections and definitely not a fine tooth comb. The key was keeping the hair straight.
Chiiiiillllldddd😩 ive never had a relaxer/perm but ive heard stories about it. I knew too that it was a No No to get color and relaxed on the same day. You have to wait at least 3-4 weeks to do one or the other. So sorry for these young women
So true. And now I dont even like straightening my hair bc the heat feels like too much
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Can I please give that first girl a hug!?! The poor thing! My heart just broke for her!
She is stunning! I agree, shaved with color!
I can't believe that first girl actually said "This is how I look most days" acting like she look a hot mess. She's GORGEOUS and her hair looked beautiful. I can completely understand how one doesn't see themselves the way the world does but I really hope she's been able to see herself the way it seems like most people in the comments did because damn that really hit me.
I used to do hair and had a client that wanted me to do a relaxer on her. I told her we'd have to let her perm grow out first I because a perm and relaxer will make your hair fall out. She wanted to just do it on her own and I again tried to explain to her that Perm (Ammonium thioglycolate) + Relaxer (Sodium Hydroxide) are the 2 main ingredients that are used in hair removers like Nair. She didn't believe me and came in the next day bald. She did look cute in hats.
Some people have to learn the hard way
I’m sorry. I shouldn’t have laughed, but the hat comment killed me 😂
LMAOOOOO
My mom always did relaxers for me because of my curly hair. She only took me to hair salons to do perms cuz they knew exactly how much to put on and it always came out 100%.
Damn, you learn something mew everyday
Just wanna let y’all know YOUR HAIR DOES NOT DETERMINE YOUR BEAUTY. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL WITH AND WITHOUT YOUR HAIR❤️❤️
In Germany we have a saying "Nothing disfigures a beautiful person."
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Lemme just say your pfp is beautiful 😂
@@AlexandraVioletta I'm coming to Germany! 🥲
@@AlexandraVioletta What's the saying in German? don't think I heard it before
When second lady said I’m not mad and Brad is basically crying “you’re not mad???” I lost it
He is too funny unintentionally
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Yeah that’s true I’m dead lol🤣 💀
I remember doing relaxers in the hairdressers I worked in as an apprentice.
Literally, we were allowed to prep, that was it. We must've watched about 100 clients before even being allowed to mix the relaxer. The owner was THAT strict. He unapologetically refused to relax hair if the hair was not thick and healthy enough to 'live through it'.
He banned curly perms all together on European hair, which judging by the state of my mother's hair, I could see why. Lol.
Some ppl thought him a bit extra, were as I agreed with him that your hair and face are your beauty and he didn't want the responsibility put on him when it all went horribly wrong, which has been the case many a time with ppl who simply can't take advice then want to blame you when they turn into baldilocks. Lol.
Beauty is body + face
Hair can grow back
Baldilocks…😂😂😂I don’t know why but that made me LOL!😂😂
I'm a hairstylist and we had a client that was really annoyed that my boss refused to perm and colour in the same appointment, she walked out and told us she would get it done in a REAL salon, she was back 3 days later and asked if we could "fix it" ???
It looked horrible , she lost hair, it was partially coloured/curled.
It took my boss 3 hours to make it look reasonable , it took months to get it back to sort of "normal" !
@@Jeng4280 🤣 that was my aunties nickname for my uncle, poor sod lol
@@maryburger1232 We had quite a few of those. Your telling them " look your hair will literally frazzle at the root " and they give you the catty " well if YOUR not able to do it then I'll go somewhere else" speech.
Like, NO ONE can do it, unless you have horse hair , it can't be done.
2 days later they're back with their patchwork head, bleach burns and a bag full of extentions for you to perform miracles with 🤣🤣
Hair is such a personal journey and no one should feel pressured to do one thing or the other. Relaxer was so normal when I was a kid and I honestly got burned a few times from people who didn't know what they were doing. I went natural back in 2016 and it was also a journey (iykyk) . Decided to start my loc journey last year and I've never been happier with my hair.
I just did a full chop of mine, and I really like it. I might redo my hair care journey, but I had an unhealthy attachment to mine
I was relaxed for as long as I could remember but my mum decided I would stop. After having heard how much people complained about natural hair I was scared and upset, but my hair wasn't healthy. Now, however, I really couldn't be happier with my hair and myself as a person. It may sound silly but my natural hair did a lot for me personally and I feel more comfortable and more beautiful than I did with my relaxed hair. Yes it's high maintenance but because I fell I love with it after all the struggling and jokingly talking about chopping it off, it's all worth it. I big chopped 2016 after transitioning for 8 months and am going strong. Never regretted it. I'm not one of those naturals who believe we are better, hair is like a canvas, do with it as you will, it's yours. Do what makes you happy, so whether it's natural, relaxed, locked, short etc, be proud of it
Yes! I’ve been locked over 10 years and honestly wished I had done it sooner. I hated going to salon for a relaxer. I’d get burned every time! I only trusted my mom and aunties and after college they couldn’t do it so I just quit it altogether. But for the better!
Same. Just started my locs as well. So convenient and versatile
Yes loc tribe! ❤️
I think a shaved head is highly underrated! It's all about the confidence a woman exudes that makes it look great!
💁🏻♀️ been a year & I love it!
I LOVE a woman with a shaved head. If my hair wasn’t so light (natural strawberry blonde hair) I’d shave it 😭 it gives me goddess vibes 🖤
Yesssssss!
@@Reznic007 shave it and dye it.. 😍
YES I love women with shaved heads!! They’re so pretty!! I’d honestly shave my hair but I don’t think my face shape is right and I like my wavy hair anyways >
I want to give the first girl a hug so badly, :(
@lisajstyles shes happier now and her hair is soo healthy now
@@aleenabrown3472 that’s good!
My mom would perm my hair as a child just enough to style it and work with it (my hair was thick as shit lmaoo I was always breaking combs and it just wouldn’t corporate) but she knew what she was doing it was maybe like every 5 or 6 months and she’d leave it in for like 5 minutes if that. I had the most beautiful luscious thick hair. Well one summer I was going to my dads house and she permed it so she can do a cute style and she told my step mom (who braids hair) don’t perm her hair I already did etc. I even told her too that my mom already did. Well she thought that my mom didn’t know shit about hair cause she was the “professional” and forced me anyways to put a perm in my head. I remember her leaving it in for what felt like so long and I remember my scalp burning and she ended up damaging all if not most of my hair. It fell out. I was 8 years old. I am now 21 and is barely getting my thick Luscious hair to be what it was. To say my mom was pisses is an understatement.
I’m so sorry to hear that. I would be so mad. If i was the mom I would’ve gave that “step mom” an ass whooping. Why do step parents try to over step boundaries like that???
Yeeeeeeah, step mom would got stepped on
YOU.POOR.THING
Negative energy is real , people can put a spell on you, shave it off and pray to God
@@idkanymore2522 fr blows my mind. Don’t even talk to her or my dad no more for those reasons exactly
My sister permed her bleached hair on my birthday one year and it slid down the drain. She was out here looking like fire marshal Bill. We still cackle about that 😩😆
Did she come out and say "let me show ya somethin"
@@Anna_Anna92 lol.. damn
Lol not fire marshal bill!!!😂😂😂😂
@@Anna_Anna92 wait ! Gees comment had me dying but your has me dead!!!! Omg !
I just fell out🤣🤣
The neutralizer doesn't lock in the "straight", the neutralizer simply neutralizes the action of the chemicals that straightened the hair in other words, if you rinse the hair and don't neutralize it the LYE keeps going and melting and destroying the hair. The short version: the neutralizer deactivates the lye.
That’s just a long way of saying lock in the straight lmao 🤣
@@RhainwenoftheSea not necessarily. Folks have had to neutralize half way through the relaxing process becuz of burning or irritation....and that sometimes isn't fully straight. Or if they're smart they will stop when there's burning or irritation instead of continuing on when their scalp is irritated burning and the hair is melting but some folks can be stubborn from my experience. I also know folks who thought they could just use regular shampoo becuz the little 2 oz bottle of neutralizing shampoo was not enough instead of spending the extra 5.00 for a separate bottle of neutralizing shampoo to be sure to have enough... And trust me that does not end well.
@@peepla7 I’m not saying you’re wrong I’m pointing out that Brad is speaking in layman’s terms while you’re being super technical. Neither are really wrong lol. I agree he should explain deeper and then throw on the simplified version. That just shows where Brads an entertainer not an educator.
@@RhainwenoftheSea super technical! Haha I was trying to be simple! Hahaha Brad doesn't know much about relaxing hair...that's why he said the opposite of the application technique....you DO start at the roots....but he's genuinely trying to comprehend so I was trying to help.
@@peepla7 It’s not simple to someone who doesn’t do hair or who isn’t familiar with getting their hair permed. Also for VIRGIN application, you do not start w/ the roots. You apply to mids and ends first and then go back and apply the roots. For RETOUCHES you start w/ the roots. So it depends on which the client is getting… In fact, straight from the instructions you’re not even supposed to touch the chemical to the scalp at all. Obviously this doesn’t happen, but since we’re being technical. 🤷♀️
My quick relaxer saga: I’m half Dominican half white. My father is very dark skin and I got all his genes so my hair is a 3C/4A depending on the section. I was always taught my hair was not beautiful. And it was rough especially seeing all my white family with their blonde straight hair. So for years I was forced to relax my hair once a month and go to the salon 2 a month. I then would still have to straighten it almost everyday. My hair was fried. I eventually stopped and then there was a break. But a couple years ago I decided to do a chop. And start my natural hair journey. It was definitely an experience I never had anyone to teach me how to take care of my hair properly. So I’m still learning. Even to this day my Dominican family tells me that I’m lazy bc I keep my hair natural instead of straight. And it’s bc I simply don’t want to take the time to do it. There’s comments like my hair is bad hair and not good hair bc I keep it curly. I’m not mad at my family. My grandmother is an immigrant. Coming here she felt so forced to be American. And she felt if she straightened her hair it would help her blend in. I’ve never seen my grandmother leave the house without straightening her hair. It’s sad but it’s the truth. And I had to reteach myself how to look at my hair. All the inward racism I had hating my skin color and my hair, my eyes my everything. I had to learn that I was beautiful my brown skin, my coily hair is beautiful. But yeah, it’s difficult ppl pressure us to feel like this is our only option. I love my hair now, and it’s healthy and beautiful. And maybe it’ll never be as long as i want. Or will forever me frizzy and huge but it’s perfect.
Yes, 3c4a club!! You have gorgeous texture and versatility with your hair. Don't let racism and negativity get you down♡
Your father is probably mostly if not completely black. You are most likely half black and half white.
@@RacquelYoung
So we really going to embrace texturism, with hair type clubs?
Here I thought her comment was inspiring that all hair is beautiful even if it's not straight.
@Gabriella Woods
Okay, I see
Hmm
They're both so naturally beautiful. The girl saying she just wanted to feel good about herself tugged on my mom heartstrings 😭😭😭 I wanted to hug her
I have Alopecia, had it since I was 9 (now 25) and do feel for them because it’s such an emotional change when your hair falls out, I remember my mom having to shave the remains of my hair and it’s so profound that people really don’t understand the emotional side of hair loss. It’s more than ‘just hair’ it’s part of your identity! Xxx
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Hi sweetie, have you tried drinking or taking fenugreek herb supplements. Then a dermarolla on your scalp? This has helped others, even if the alopecia is hereditary.
I totally understand, I too suffer from alopecia. It's so hurtful when people say, "just wear a wig", "try this oil", or "take these natural supplements". Alopecia is so complex and there are so many different types. A lot of times we suffer all alone because the emotional side is so tough, it's like losing apart of yourself. And unless you experience it, you can't understand the depth of despair.
@@latrecia4811 I don’t think that all people are trying to be insensitive they are just trying to help. I had a form of alopecia way back when I was 13 years old and after a lot of medication, hair oils, change in diet, wearing wigs for protections, and meditation it all grew back stronger and healthier than ever! I hope that anyone with alopecia will know it is possible to grow your hair back better than ever 💖
I had 3 years of intense chemo for leukaemia as a teen. The chunks of hair coming out was so traumatic that when normal shedding happens in the shower now my stomach still drops a bit. My curly hair was such a big part of my identity as a black woman. It was the first thing people noticed about me. It's so much more than hair.
My stepdad (shaves his head bald all the time) sat me down to shave it when it got patchy. Just that moment of solidarity between us sticks in My head so much.
I definitely understand what the first girl is going through. I hated being natural and crying over my hair. I’ve been so much more happier since I relaxed. My hair broke off so badly when I was natural. Now my hair actually looks and feels healthy.
Mine too. I couldn't see the damage because of the curls, but I did take some of the things I learned being natural into my relaxed hair care routine.
Same here! I need a trim like nobody … but it’s better
@@sunkissed_potatoe thank you for sharing info I knew about from searching the web. But...I smoke. Nothing scares me. And if it looks good and I'm not bald, I'm gud. 😉
Same here, and I've heard a lot of people have the same experience. Despite what people like to say you *can* have healthy relaxed hair. Just like people can have healthy permed hair & healthy bleached hair. It all depends on you, your hair, and taking care of it.
Our relaxed/texlaxed hair will typically be weaker, but that doesn't mean it's "unhealthy".
@@sunkissed_potatoe Nah, you can absolutely relax at home and have healthy hair. Olaplex is a game changer for at home relaxing, my hair has never been better. My natural hair had way worse damage because it was such a pain to deal with that I didn't.
I really felt for the first girl, she was so pretty, hopefully once she got it fixed she felt better
Even though Brad has to repeat himself over and over again, cos PEOPLE DON'T LISTEN, he still remains sweet as candy and soooo patient. I loves him.🥰
The first girl needed a friend.
The second girl-I don’t know what to say. Not relaxing on the same day as bleach or color is the number one rule of hair care before not getting your hair wet after a curly perm. I’m not sure what she was trying to prove. And the way she did it. She wanted to be bald.
I honestly wanted to cry with both of them.
I had a look at her channel and she said in another video that she bleaches her hair with 40 or 50 vol.
I wanted to shake them like girl wtf are you doing 😩
@@3rdgensarah680 bitchhhhhhh I didn't even know there was such think as 50 volume Jesus yeah she wanted to be bald because wtf 💀 it's not even funny but I have to laugh because how tf did we get here
@@3rdgensarah680 oh my god. What was she thinking was going to happen?!
Girl, you are not lying. They both need friends.
Aww I feel so sad for them. They took it pretty well, and I give them massive props for staying calm! Like Brad said “hair means a lot to people”
I would’ve overreacted. I would have cried. Oh I would’ve been a mess
Girl, why? Do not feel sad. They wanted to get the straight hair you have naturally instead of embracing theirs.
@@AnAdorableWombat same reason why people with straight hair want thicker hair and curl patterns. People have preferences. One could not maintain her hair so she tried a perm. The next wanted a hairstyle she couldn’t achieve without straight hair. You don’t have to feel sad for them. She did and as humans she can feel sad if that’s how she felt.
@@AnAdorableWombat well because it didn’t turn out and they seemed upset. I love my hair I would be hysterical if it broke off/fell out, even if it was my fault.
@@MelissaEllen22 someone cut my hair by accident. It kept falling out because I trusted someone close to meme to help me take out a hairstyle. I care for my hair she didn’t. That was 2 years ago. I learned my lesson. Teachable moments. Won’t ever happen again. I’ll take the time to do what needs to be done with my hair.
The first girl, if she had a short cut with a side part and finger curls...*chef's kiss* Timeless beauty.
I sincerely hope she's doing okay. Depression and anxiety is no joke. I hope she feels fabulous about herself and living her best life. You've got this, cousin!
This is why I would NEVER perm my hair ever again!! I’ve been natural for 8 years 🙌🏾
same i stopped in 2009 chilleee & in hindsight i never even needed it in the 1st place.. it was just something my mom did bc my hair was hard for her to maintain smh i will never introduce my daughters to this mess lol
@@QueenMel_ how’s the state of your hair now ?
@@jordanjones7398 my hair is completely naturally curly, after having my second child it got a little thinned out but otherwise it's pretty healthy! i would never recommend anyone to get a perm or relaxer
Same!! When I first went natural it took me years to truly understand how to care for my hair, because I had never worked with my true texture. In the almost 15 years that I've been natural, I have never once considered getting a perm again. Nope nope nope
I have always been natural and proud ❤
“Today is not the day to work it in” brad you are unintentionally funny 😂
Omg she put so much on it! I felt so bad for her
Facts
Ugh, when I worked at Sally’s, the amount of people who came in wanting to perm or relax their SUPER damaged hair was appalling. No matter what I told them, they were dead set on ruining their hair😭 people need to understand how dangerous perms are!!
I work at Sally's and people treat perms like hair color when it's completely different. A perm should only be applied by someone who has been taught in school how to properly do it. Customers never listen cuz they think we're stupid. I would NEVER perm my hair.
Damaging your hair is dangerous? Lol
@@kenziehurlock A lot of people who work at Sally's have never been to school. People who work there aren't professionals.
I was a hairstylist who worked at Sally’s, people never listened to me. Had one girl come back bald and she had such beautiful long hair. It was sad but I told you so
Girlll same 😭 I worked at Sally’s 2019-2021 and I saw so much damage from relaxers and perms especially during the pandemic while salons were closed. Same with bleach. I left because their corporate is terrible and they didn’t care about the customer’s hair. You could get in trouble if they put the bleach, toner, and developer back and left with just a hair mask because you ‘let’ a good sale walk out of the door even though it was better for the customer
One thing I really learned growing up getting relaxers is that everyone’s hair reacts differently.
I have since gone natural (about 10 years) but I have very thick hair, but fine strands. And relaxers destroyed my hair! BUT my sister has coarse strands and her hair handles relaxers better- she’s still relaxed! So… be careful out there y’all! Get professional help before you do a relaxer!
I have coarse hair and a children's perm messed up my hair bad... Idk what a professional perm would do but I don't want to find out...
Yes my mom literally put on and wash the relaxer off like it's shampoo when she was relaxed and only relaxed every 6 months. While, me I had to let it sit over the recommended time and relax every 3 months because my hair is much coarser and much more denser. Density plays the biggest role imo
@@floreccent7497 children's perm ?
@@maryburger1232 *relaxer for kids
This video reminds me of why I don't miss relaxers at all. It was always stressful for me and my hair was dry and brittle. I love just being able to wash, detangle, and go. My hair is to the middle of my back.
I LOVE how he calls us beautiful, but we all are laying in bed with messy hair and with chips in our hands
Ain't that the truth 😂😂😂
Lots of salome and popcorn
Neistina, ja ne jedem cips🤣
Preach it,brother hahahah 🖤👽
Stop watching me😐
I know exactly how the first girl feels. I straightened my hair every month for years because I hated my hair. I hated being in a predominantly Asian school with friends who would call my hair "cotton" or stick pencils in it and make fun of me because the pencils would lock on to my coily texture. Learning how to love your natural hair is a process, especially when you're not around a lot of people who look like you
Omg I'm sorry you went through this. Natural hair will always be magical 💕💕 I wish more people saw that. I'm still on my natural hair journey. I hope you know how beautiful and brave you are. Much respect
Those people who stuck pencils in your hair to embarrass and degrade you were not your friends. There's a difference between someone noticing your hair texture and someone trying to hurt you using your hair texture as a weapon. I hope that you learned this lesson as well. *hugs
You should have slapped those b!tches.
I’m so sorry to hear you went through this kids can be so mean
Gurl I relate
Brads commentary with thr second girl while she as putting the relaxer on had me rolling. "Today is not the day we work it in" I am so sad for the end result for her
I grew up in the 80s and 90s when getting a relaxer was the standard and people who wore their hair naturally were shamed.
But here's the thing, relaxer will ALWAYS cause your hair to fall out. People (like me) who ONLY did a perm at professional salons STILL had their hair fall out. The only thing going to professionals did was delay the process. It happened to me. It happened to a random person who ran to the hairdresser crying while I was getting box braids on natural hair. It happened to my friends.
Perm = your hair will fall out. Period. Also, and I will put this in all caps, THE HAIR DOESN'T GROW BACK.
(It MIGHT if you stop immediately after your hair falls out the first time, but SO MANY PEOPLE see their hair grow back and perm it again. So the damage becomes permanent.)
So, I don't know if I do relaxer shaming, but if anyone around me mentions wanting to get a perm, I do everything I can to talk them out of it. Nothing is worth killing your hair like that.
The last thing I want to say is that the models on those relaxer boxes recently came out and ALL said that their hair weren't permed. Those were blow outs.
Relaxing, perming, lightening. Anything that changes the colour or structure of the hair. These are the things that I think it's worth spending spending money to go to a qualified, experienced hairdresser for, even if it's eye wateringly expensive.
I think it depends on the type of colour you’re using. If you mean bleaching/lightening, absolutely go to a salon. Permanent colour? Can be done at home, if you’re confident. Semi-permanent? Definitely can be done at home. Relaxing/perming? Definitely a salon job.
Do I know that I should be going to a professional for bleaching my hair? 100% yes. BUT AM I GONNA, NOO.
@@CyanidePusher bruh same lol. Always.
And what happens when that so called pro burns your hair? Then what? :/
Yes. And even professional hairdresser can fuck it up. So be suuuuper careful who you go to! Don't opt for the cheapest option because you're going to regret it later. I promise!
Lisa isn’t new to hair, she knew the mistakes she’s made. She’s a new mom, dealt with depression, and wanted a change. She’ll bounce back, she can rock any style. Her channel used to be about hair first, now it’s lifestyle. She’ll be ok, her true supporters know this.
She’s so beautiful it broke my heart but she embraced it bless herxx
I feel for her I truly do. I’m mixed Polynesian/Chinese/White and have typical curly Sāmoan hair. When I got really bad postpartum depression I shaved my head and wore wigs (profile pic for example). I just couldn’t take care of my hair. I have it shoulder length now and thinned it out a lot. Definitely a lot easier now.
I had a baby early last year, and my hair looks worse than it ever has. It used to be my pride and joy, long and healthy and shiny. After having my daughter it's limp and gross. I chopped about a foot of it off and now I keep it tied up in a bun to keep it from being pulled on by my little. I know exactly how she feels :/ it sucks losing yourself to motherhood and depression.
Exactly, and he admitted that he knows nothing about relaxers in black hair!
When I was 14 I had a relaxer done on my mega curly Puerto Rican hair. 🇵🇷 The lady put it on my scalp and I got blisters and burns. It was so painful and so bad. I lost hair in those spots. There are still small areas where some hair never came back. Luckily my hair is so thick you wouldn't know unless I pointed them out. I love my curls now and don't mess with relaxers. I feel bad for this lady who just wanted to look good and get out of her depression.
:( That's actually really sad.
"I just wanted to feel better about myself". Baby girl I hope you do. You're freaking gorgeous.
she’s STUNNING with a bald head! ugh it’s so powerful to me to see a woman rock and own that!! that alone screams confidence!! both ladies are beautiful and like brad said i was expecting a laugh but this was emotional!! hair really means a lot to a girl but i think even mistakes can create a beautiful outcome!
Tbh and not to sound offensive but I feel like hair means more to us black women because we work so hard for it to reach a certain length and to manage and to lose it drives us crazy.
By the way I'm not saying Black women can't grow our hair.👑
@@caprianderson7132 i completely understand! i know black woman do hold so much pride in your hair! i just think it’s still stunning how woman can shave their heads and look even more gorgeous in my opinion of course! i couldn’t imagine how they really felt after these!
@@peachhy you are so right too, she looked so royal lol.
I recent started watching Lisa
And I cried
She did the big chop later on and got herself back❤️
This is the first video from Brad that made me emotional. I feel really bad for them, but they’re beautiful people regardless of their outcomes.
I once permed my hair after years of being natural and then attempted to bleach and color it. I've never had a starnger get so mad at me than the hairdresser that had to fix it. She was like wtf did you do??!!!
Oh my god, where was your mom to tell you NO?
@@diamonda3253 The old folks home? She's an adult 😅
Did you let her know you had permed it prior to her bleaching it? All hair stylists know that if you previously permed or relaxed your hair there is an extremely high chance it will break/fall off if you bleach it on top of it, if you didn’t let her know before she did it and it did break off I would be extremely upset with you as well for not letting me know. That’s why we ask you your history and everything before doing your hair.
I’ve had it happen to me once where the girl lied to me about bleaching her hair before I permed it and it all broke off where she had bleached it previously and then died it back to her natural color and I was really upset with her(though I didn’t show it) I had to just give her a bob basically above where it had broken off, it ended up looking beautiful in the end but it wasn’t what she wanted, and it was all because she wasn’t honest with me.
@@kassidyquinn420 I can't imagine it wasn't obvious to their cosmetologist as there's zero probability that relaxed & bleached hair would appear to be unaltered. AA is extremely varied but that combination doesn't exist genetically.
@@annnee6818 my mama still be telling me leave your hair alone and I'm 28🤣🤦🏽♀️
I’m so grateful my parents never allowed me to relax my curly hair. I used to hate how hard it was to maintain my hair as a child but I love my hair now 💜💜
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Goal 2.5k
Children don’t have the patience or experience to handle a lot of thing. Your parents sound wise. I wanted long hair I mean like bum long hair. My parents made me have like boy haircuts. Eventually they told me I could grow it. But thing happened a trip to the hairdressers which gave me phobias of them where something bad happened we think she permed it but that’s not what I asked for and it had been like bra length now didn’t make it to my shoulders and was curly AF. Since then I’ve almost bald bits and bits that only get 6” so I never got to have the hair I wanted
frr like just imagining the pain of trying to get the natural healthy curls back now if u did 😭
@@linaboutin3265 There is no getting the curls back.. Just would have had to chop off the processes hair and allow virgin/unprocessed hair to grow in and take its place.. So many had to go down that road.. It's awesome the original commenter never had to..
I'm the complete opposite. My mum found it hard to maintain my hair so I was relaxed for the longest time, but once she realised how damaged it was making my hair we stopped. I was scared yes, had heard all sorts of things about natural hair , but I fell absolutely love with it from the big chopped and am never going back
Didn't get into this video expecting to cry but the first girl really fucked me up, idk who told her that her curls would make her look crazy in public but i just wish she was as confident as she is beautiful. I feel you girlie the "best self" mentality made me do a lot of shit to myself before learning the hard way that I'll be my best self whenever I'm FEELING the best about myself.
Love your content❤️ this is exactly why I treat doing my hair like a spa day: I wash and condition followed by a skin exfoliate and shave, then I deep condition while applying a fresh toe polish change. By the time my hair is dried and styled I have soft skin and pretty toes and ready for a sun dress and mimosa ☺️
I would love to see some relaxer success videos!! Relaxers were big back in the day due to a lot of societal stigma surrounding natural hair. I've been relaxed for YEARS, because I didn't want to big chop, and had a lot of ups and downs, and now my relaxed hair is thriving because I've learned how to take care of it. I'm around mid-back length, full hair, and most people don't think I'm relaxed until I tell them. Hairlicious is a UA-cam QUEEN on relaxed hair care. I also love the diversity of videos you're showing!!
HE did one before, just saerch for relaxer on his channel
@@ygltazanya he can do it again
Just in case you’re interested he has one from 2 years ago
Hairlicious is AMAZING!!!
Hair stylist here! Very familiar with relaxers (I also do my own)! And my hair is almost down to my butt.....
The first girl's issue, besides her hair already being damaged.... I suspect she left it in WAY TOO LONG! The timing of a relaxer starts as soon as you start applying it! Depending on relaxer strength and hair diameter (not tightness of curl!), it should only be in for 10-20 minutes start to finish MAX. And that includes having to go back through and smooth the product. There is no way she has enough time to just have it sitting in her hair while she talked to the camera.
Also! I've noticed people will select a strength that is way too strong for their hair type! They think the tighter their curl, they'll need a stronger relaxer. No, this is not correct! You need to look at the individual hair strand and assess is it fine (thin), medium (average), or coarse (thick). I've done a lot of relaxers and I have only once or twice needed to use a super strength relaxer. Most can get away with a mild strength, some need normal strength, but VERY RARELY will you need a super.
Another thing! Do not relaxer your hair more than every 7-8 weeks, unless you have a very short style that requires it. I won't do my own relaxer before 4 months have passed honestly. I know new growth sucks, but to prevent overlap, wait 2 months at least.
The second girl. Sigh. Just no. I refuse to bleach relaxed hair to be real honest. From what I've seen, it seriously compromises the integrity of your hair and causes breakage. Coloring is fine, just not on the same day (unless it's a semi or temporary) and even then I won't go above 20 volume.
Alright, I'm off my soap box!
Hairdresser here! Great advice 😊🤗. There is a lot to learn about relaxers, hair types and hair conditions. Hopefully people will read you comment. 🙏🏽 🙂
I’ve always used relaxers since I was 8! And now I’m 21, I’ve stopped 3 years ago and my hair is really strong now and longer than ever (medium length), but now that’s curly it’s just so much work. I keep on thinking of going back to relaxing my hair but I don’t wanna lose my hair, any advice on what to do?
@@idekhonestly5916 Don't relax it! I cut my hair off 3 times and now I rock an afro. It took years to get my thickness back. What hair type do you have? And how long is your hair?
@@JustMeVanessa maintaining a natural hair is such a struggle honestly but I’m trying so hard not to go back to relaxers, my hair is 4a and it’s shoulders length
@@idekhonestly5916 Hmm not too sure why you are struggling with that length - that's the best length 😅Maybe explain it to me please? What do you find difficult in general?
FYI - I will be starting my channel soon and will share curly hair tips.
These women are beautiful, no matter how much or how little hair they have on their head. I celebrate the attitude they had when it didn’t go as expected. I wouldn’t handle it with as much grace.
She is so calm and she sees the best in life, we need more people like this
While I was in quarantine I took out my room mates weave, what a process, and relaxed her hair. I was so nervous but knew I could do it so followed the directions to the letter & it turned out great (thank the hair Gods!)! It's like a 6-7 step process! I've got respect for all my ladies & gents out there dealing with weaves & relaxers!!
That is so sweet! You’re a star ⭐️
Glad the hair gods were at your side. Next time let her deep condition first & wait atleast a week. Otherwise it weaken the hair too much & its prone to breakage especially around the hairline.
You’re a great friend
@@beewest5704 Good to know! That absolutely makes sense.
Brad mondo is literally the reason I read the instructions thoroughly for EVERYTHING!
I feel for her so much. 😔 she's such a beautiful lady and she seems like she has a great personality and she can rock whatever look
These ladies are so amazingly positive after the, to out it nicely, unexpected results. I was almost crying for them just watching this! So, i feel it's extremely admirable that they didnt get upset, accepted they made a mistake and embraced it regardless! ❤
i remember having a relaxer from age 11-16 bc i was convinced my hair was extremely unmanageable. after going natural i’ve learned to love it & embrace the chaos that are my curls💙i understand how they felt bc it’s rlly a societal thing & i hope whatever they end up w/ they love.
Will you do a relaxer success video? Or a cool long natural hair styling video? Those would be great to react to! 😊
He did a relaxer success video back in February 2020, called "Hairdresser Reacts To Relaxer Treatment (Satisfying)". Enjoy!
Boring
Yes, I would really enjoy that👌
Thank you for not laughing at these women and helping educate people more cause that actually does more for the self esteem than if the process actually worked ❤
I love his soft "oooohhh noooooo"s. They seem so comforting and understanding.
Yes! Stop relaxer shaming. I went back natural by choice, but so many people tried to slander me for wanting a relaxer, yet didn’t know what I was going through with MY hair. We’re beautiful either way😭
This video sent me on such a roller coaster of emotions, especially the first girl; just wanting to feel better about herself. I know a lot of people say it's just hair, but it's not. Most of identify with our hair. The second lady, was heart breaking too. You know what? It was all heartbreaking :(
Brad, I could watch you react to videos ALL DAY LONG. Please never stop doing this.
Awwwwwwwww the first girl. I think that's all of our worst fears when we do our hair at home. Hugs to her. Poor thing ❤❤❤❤
My mom was a hairstylist who liked to experiment ony hair. Some things I learned the hard way:
-Do not relax and color in a short time.
-Protect your scalp from chemicals and your ends from heat.
-And condition, condition, condition!
My mom was a hair stylist too.. some days I looked like a damn poodle. I drew the line at letting her experiment with my eyebrows. 😅
@@toosense 😂🤣😂
I went to high school with a lot of black girls and we got on the topic of white vs black perms. I had gotten one before and I explained our process. Then they explained theirs and all the prep they did to protect their hair and then the process of the perm/relaxer. Relaxers are no joke! It was a job to prep and then do! This was in the 90s before natural hair so all the black girls permed their hair. They always came back after that weekend looking good. But knowing the process was something else. I am so glad we live in a time were black or white natural curls are embraced. 🥰🤗
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Well.. they’re not really that embraced but we try
@@SE-gs6gd wavy loose curls are embraced definitely not type 4’s
@@SE-gs6gd that’s a subjective opinion though, where I live natural curls are embraced by almost everyone
@@Bubzietown not were I live. 🤷🏻♀️
Omg , I love how he greets w "hello beautiful"..
He's so sweet, and beautiful.!!
That was so sweet of him trying to make her feel better about herself ❤just heart warming
I used to relax my hair the whole of middle school into the first semester of college. My hair was long but thin and it ate my hair line. I completely cut it all off and went back natural. I’ve been natural for 6-7 years now. It’s happy, healthy and my edges are back 😅
SAME!!!!!!!
LITERALLY from middle school to first semester also lol 🧡🧡🧡
OMG!! This reminds me of when I went to beauty school. I learned the HARD way that you should NEVER EVER use a relaxer, bleach and color around the same time. I practiced using relaxing hair on a mannequin and the whole entire thing fell out!!!! The hair was already bleached and colored. Thank God it wasn’t a real person! LOL! 😂😂😂
I feel for the first young lady. I've actually watched her video. Not only was her hair dry and brittle, I believe she was also going through post partum shedding.
But I feel her, as moms we get so caught up in taking care of our family, that we tend to lose ourselves in a way.
I love how respectful Brad is to everyone in his videos 🥰
I would love to meet him in person.
Definitely. He’s always that way no matter who it is....
I used a relaxer in my hair WAY back then in my high school years because where I lived people made fun of my curls. But so happy that my natural curls have come back
I’m glad I started to watch your videos because you give me a lot of hair tips on what not to do and what to do but this girl is BEAUTIFUL NO MATTER WHAT 🤍😊
My hair is VERY fine, and my aunt taught me in the early 90s about getting the relaxer in and OUT. That timer starts as SOON as you apply it to your hair. So we cheated, slathered it in quickly, smoothed it out…never had hair fall out. But after being natural for about 7 years, I relaxed my hair and it ALL broke off within a month. It was a nightmare. The smell of the relaxer made me so nauseated that I could only leave it in about 6 minutes. My hair was STRAIGHT. But just couldn’t handle relaxer
I definitely feel for the first girl. I have kids as well and even if you know how to care for your texture hair, it's still hard finding the time between your kids and professional life (school/work) to really give it the time and dedication it needs. It can be done but it's not easy. I considered the perm route but I had bad experiences as a child so I went to UA-cam university and learned how to do faux locs, Senegalese twist, sew-ins, and wig-making😂
yes ma'am!!! i have two girls and i would rather make time to do their hair and learn new ways to care for all of our hair tbh & youtube university has saved me many times 😂❤
Oh the first woman breaks my heart. I know where she's coming from and I can feel the pain so much. ❤️ And honestly who has time for wash DAY?! I'd probably have done the same thing if I was her.
I have 4c hair and work 2 jobs. I'm really thinking of relaxing my hair cause I just don't have the time. I want to loc my hair but I also like having different hairstyles and I know locs would limit a lot of hairstyles I like to do 😭
I cried
@@Sara-dp5dg You'd be surprised at what you can do with locs, especially once they get longer. I expected to just wear them down (and I do sometimes) but I can do more styles than I ever could with my hair relaxed, loose natural, or in an afro (and in less time too). Maybe try googling some loc styles and see if anything appeals to you.
Once, when I was about 13 years old, my mom insisted on putting the perm in my hair then dropping me off at my hair stylist's home (her shop was attached to the house). I was her first appointment of the day. So, it was early morning.
My mom left me outside of the door of the shop and said to call her when my hair was done. I was a child and left standing outside of my hair stylist's home/hair salon with a perm in my hair. The appointment was at 8am. The stylist overslept. The perm began to burn. Within a few minutes, I found the garden hose, turned that thing on and rinsed that fire out! 😄 🤣 it's funny now to think imagine me being this little girl using a water hose, rinsing a perm out of my hair in someone's front yard! Luckily, no damage was done to my hair, but omg! Haha
Aw, I just want to give them both a hug and tell them I’m proud of them for coming through it strong
This exactly why my momma didn’t play that relaxer stuff. After my oldest sister learned the hard way even after going to the salon, she never allowed me and my middle sister to get and now my oldest is natural. What many don’t realize is you have to be dedicated to your healthy hair whether relaxed or permed and a perm isn’t gonna make it any easier just changes what you need to do to protect your hair and it won’t make damaged hair better like you said brad.
Don’t ever do this especially on damaged hair! Plus patch test people! Patch 👏 test 👏!
I almost cried when she started talking about her doing this to feel better! Sis you are beautiful with those amazing facial features you can pull off any style! Plus there are certain products that react badly with perm and certain ones to use.
"i litteraly just want to feel better about myself" i feel so bad for her . I dont blame her for relaxing her hair . I can understand how much it can be to maintain 😣. Love your hair everyone!!💕🫶🏽
Wow! This saddened me! I’m glad they are ok with their new look. The hair will grow back. Be encouraged ladies. 🥰
My hairdresser used to put it on my scalp and I used to BEG her to wash it out it hurt so bad. Then my hair broke off from waist length to my ears 😔 I feel for these girls so much. It was devastating. They both handled it so well, though, and had such a positive outlook. The second girl ROCKED that.
I feel more sorry for the first girl - and I get why she wanted to do the relaxer. Caring for natural texture is much much much more intensive than caring for relaxed hair. I opted for relaxed for years for this reason. I didn't have to fight with so many tangles, my hair held moisture better and styles weren't a 2 hour process unless I wanted them to be. So I get why she went back to it without really stopping to think that her hair wasn't in the best shape. What sucks most though...is I'm certain a professional could have gotten her hair relaxed like she wanted so it wasn't impossible...just impossible at home in a rush
I had about 10years between going natural and actually learning how to take care of my natural hair, my relaxed my hair thrived because I wasn't ripping it out every time I tried to brush/style it, natural I couldn't grow it past shoulder length thanks to breakage until discovering Bianca Renee and manes my Mell, now I've got short back and sides because my buns/ponytails got too heavy to handle 😅
@@raheeeg I only comb my natural hair once every 2 weeks, when I’m washing and conditioning it. Finger comb it daily. Brushing just damages it. I struggled with relaxed. but we all find what’s best for us.
The funny thing is I feel like I had to do waaaaay more to keep my hair on my head with a relaxer than I do with my natura hair. All I need now is a good shampoo, deep conditioner, leave in, a mosourizer, shea butter and to detangle ... with a relaxer I needed all that plus a protein treatment, heat protection, more moisturizer, more deep conditioner, flat iron it, blow dry it, wrap it at night, unwrap it in the morning, touch up the roots, schedule all this sht, be extra gentle and my hair would still break off a bit. It's too much work. With my natural hair i literally do nothing but detangle, wash, then style once a week and it's longer than it's ever been. Lol
The few years I had a relaxer was way harder than the long years I've had my hair natural.
The number of scalp burns, bleeding scalp I had from family members relaxing my hair 💀😂
omg i just want to give the 1st girl a big hug
Going natural was stressful but I’m glad I did it. Nothing wrong with a perm at all. They look gorgeous just not for me. I got so much damage and my scalp was always having problems. It takes more work to care for it but feels stronger
Lesson learned. Thank you so much for the honest feedback. Also thank you so much for the compliment. 💛
I love his positivity🙏🏻
I’ve only just watched this now but I have 3c / 4a curls and I couldn’t imagine my life without my hair it means so much to me and I really feel for these people
Not kidding my scalp started burning 🔥 just watching this video and I haven't had a relaxer since I was like 12. I'm happy to have been natural for the past 20 years, but it's definitely not an easy journey! Relaxed hair can be much more manageable
Them chemical burns went crazy ...
I had scalp problems down the road because of relaxers, I left them behind 14 years ago and I am so glad!!!
Brad, you are seriously the most humble man I've ever seen on UA-cam. I love how you try not to judge and give advice at the same time. You find the positives in the negatives and you always try to make woman feel beautiful no matter what!!!! You have a good soul brad!!!! Much appreciated ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Shout out to all these women who shared their story. That's being BRAVE.
Girl. Your rocked the look at the end. It looks amazing. I hate that it turn out that way in the end, but you rocked the look perfectly
Relaxer application is scary. I did mine with a hairstylist and I was still scared. I didn't like the results. I missed my coils. I grew it out and chopped it off. I'm now growing locs and I love my natural texture in all it's glory. More power to those who relax it. It was too much for me.
If the first girl sees this - you would look SO GOOD with shaved/short hair! Rock it and feel amazing about yourself, I'm jealous of how gorgeous your face shape is and that you'd look amazing ❤️
Edit: (still watching haha) second girl, YOU LOOK AMAZING, I know you didn't want to shave it all off but it is SUCH a beautiful look on you ❤️❤️❤️