Detangling 13 year old matted hair.
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- Опубліковано 31 бер 2022
- Over 1 months of matted hair. She is living in group home for kids, and staff brought her in to get her hair Detangled. It took 2 days of Detangling and a lot prayers to accomplish this mission 🥰
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When I was a very little girl, a neighbor brought me into her home, she bathed me, she washed my hair, she brushed my hair and got every tangle and mat out. I didn't speak Spanish, she didn't speak English, but love and compassion transcends language.
I will never forget her kindness ♡
Aww thats an great memory. You never forgot that kindness❤
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Aww that’s beautiful
i understand the thoughtfulness but i would be on the kill if my neighbour touched my daughter let alone bathed her!
As a child of abuse and neglect I PROMISE you… the way you spoke to her with such love and respect meant the WORLD to her! ❤
I'm sorry that you were abused and neglected. Hope you get the support and the love you deserve. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I have asian perents sooooooo
I am so sorry about the way you were treated. I agree this was a happy video
U truly are a Godsend❤❤you untangled her hair but you also ministered to her Spirit & soul..I felt the love, patience & understanding you gave to tend to her needs..hopefully she takes that love & it uplifts her in every way.. You made a lil girl a princess🥰🤗💕💕 I hope she takes that into her new life..I just felt the need to thank you cuz u r amazing🙏🏿🙏🏿God Bless❤😇
going through that right now people only care about us when were kids like under 18 but once we pass 18 99.9 % percent of people wont care about us anymore and treat us good...
I had my hair cut into a bob recently as my hair was matted from depression. When I went to the hair dressers, she asked if I had tried to brush it all, very disparagingly and acted strangely for the rest of the session. I was so shamed and embarrassed. Thank you for helping her, you're a sweet soul, wish there were more people like you!
She sounds awful. I also have been unable to brush my hair for weeks sometimes. It isn’t like we don’t want to take care of ourselves. Wish people had the minds to understand that.
Judgemental af. I lost most of my teeth to depression and neglect, those kinds of tasks are the first to go when depression hits.
I had to get all my hair cut off due to depression. The matting happens so fast. It really was fast, in about a week of not brushing I could no longer get a brush thru it and the shame set in on top of the depression. I also have been neglecting my teeth so if I ever get better and start to care again I would think dentures are in my future. I struggle to shower as well. I havent been able to work in 6 months. I have never experienced depression like this and it's really debilitating. I have zero desire to do even the fun things i used to enjoy. All i want to do iis sleep. I barely leave the house because I think I gave agoraphobia too which is new to me. It started with the pandemic and I thought when the pandemic was over I wouldnt be afraid to leave the house anymore. Nope, uts even worse. I am sharing all of this so people can know the agony we depressed people go thru. The gal that took dare of my matted hair was so kind and gentle and that appointment helped the depression lift a little.
I've knotted my hair so many times from depression, and I have THICK past my bum hair, its terrible. My hair has always knotted easy too. Sometimes it would literally solidify into one whole piece of hair, almost like a wig. I've always been able to get it out but it would take days and days. I've learned techniques to do it since its happened so many times. Best is to use your hands and pull out strand after strand, and I do many strand after strand, very time consuming. But this last time I've actually damaged my hair really bad I have a whole side that's a few inches shorter than the other, I also have smaller pieces on the inside that's literally half the length of the rest of my hair, its not noticeable luckily since I have so much hair. But that experience scared me straight. But I totally get you, depression is so hard to explain to people. Just know there's other people out there that get you.
I’m sorry they made you feel bad, there are so many with you know that I’m sending hugs❤
First of all props to the group home for actually bringing her to you and yall are angels for this! Seriously so amazing 👏
Absolutely. I was in a group home and I caught lice. They sent me into the bathroom with scabies cream and told me to figure it out. Didn’t help me apply it, comb it, nothing.
@@brookecaudill9392 thats awful sorry u went through that
Right? That all by itself warmed my heart. So glad they reached out.
I love this. After my coma, my hair looked similar to this, and my sister tried, but couldn’t detangle it. We really thought we were going to have to cut it all off. When I was finally able to shower, I used a ton of conditioner and came to one of the hospital techs a bit embarrassed and asked if she could help detangle, as I couldn’t get it. She sat with me for a long time and worked until I could get a comb through it. I legitimately cried because it meant so much. I remember it and her name years later, because it meant the world to me. I didn’t have to chop it off, and it made all the difference in my mental recovery.
Thank you so much for this.
Bless you - all the best in future.🙏🏾
such a beautiful story, most don’t realise how important hair can be to women and their identity..
@@mariyastoyanova31 For sure. Especially if you’re already feeling vulnerable.
@@litespeedway6538 Thank you. You too!
If I may ask, what is it like to be in a coma? I heard that can still hear, but can't say anything back. Are you awake or in some kind of deep sleep?
To help an adult detangle their hair is one thing but to do it to a child is something very different. She will never forget you and your kindness or the sweet, inspiring words you told her.
Tangle teasers work too
My hair use to get like that all the time when i was kid not that big of a deal my dad was best at detangling it
@@JO-sk7fo her parents should never let her hair get that bad
@@notmyrealname4978 What parents? Did you read the title?
@@notmyrealname4978 She's in a group home after her family fell on hard times. Can happen to adults too where depression kicks in and you don't feel like you're deserving of love or kindness to your own self, don't judge just because you can't understand hard times and trauma, and mood changes that are severe enough to have something like this happen. I'm an adult, my hair gets SUPER bad when my depression kicks in and I don't feel like I deserve love or to treat myself with kindness. Sad you think this is all a "parents" fault, especially when it's a TEENAGER.
This had me in tears immediately. Never in a thousand years would it have crossed my mind that detangling people's hair would be such an act of love, care, kindness, and PATIENCE. You are an amazing person ❤❤
This is beautiful! At the hospital I worked, we were the assigned Covid Unit for 2 years, I had a pt who came from ICU, she had matted hair this bad. Took almost 6 hours of my 12 hour shift to detangle her hair. I found oil worked best. I couldn't believe it was down past her buttocks. Took her 16 years to grow, so I know that feeling when helping a lady get herself back! Thank you for all you do xo
You are an ANGEL. Thank you for taking such good care of her.
Bless you! What a genuine and amazing human you are. Thank you for the work you do. I hope your life is filled with joy
*tears. Thanks for being you.
What oil?
As someone who had this issue as a child with neglect, depression, and such- I got yelled at by my hairdresser and lectured for the Matt. I appreciate how gentle you were, consistent, and very sweet and compassionate overall with her, you’re a blessing😭❤️❤️
that‘s horrible! I'm sorry you had to go through this! ❤️🙏🏼
That hairdresser was bang out of order... You were a child! What caused that matting was neglect and depression - & *neither* of those were your fault.
I'm so sorry that you went through this. Negative experiences from childhood are a heavy load to carry. It's important to realise that it wasn't your fault 💖 Wishing you happiness and healing x
This is so sad 😞 I can't imagine not tending to my daighters beautiful hair 😢 I'm sorry you weren't given the same care. I hope you have healed and are not at a place in your life where you can practice self care ❤
Same.
@@georgina-a for real!!! even if a hairdresser yelled at or scolded a grown ass adult it would be SO out of line omg straight up derangement. you're being paid for a service, nobody is paying to be judged 😥
God bless you. What a gift you gave her - not just what you did with her hair, but how you treated her, with such comfort and kindness. Being in a vulnerable housing situation can quickly make you feel like you’re not a real person and not deserving of love and attention. You showed her that isn’t true. And she has such beautiful hair! Do you take donations in order to do this work?
Thank you for your support. We will be accepting donations in the very near future.
@@love518salon wonderful. Can't wait to donate x
cant wait to donate!!!
This girl had TRAUMA to her. You were SO good to her!
Honestly, this is so sweet. And the way she got excited when they hyped her up and did the big cut 🥺❤️
9:07 almost made me CRY. you made this girl feel so welcomed, safe, and hopefully worth it. you treated her with SUCH kindness and compassion, from the pizza party to the countless assurances that she can do and be anything
I bawled my eyes out at that part 🥹
So lovely ❤❤❤
@@Miranda0625Yes- I LOVE this channel. Hadassah and Co treats the whole person-not just the hair. It is amazing!
Right!! I almost cried hearing they threw her pizza party on the second day ❤️ Soo sweet
wow i teared up when you showed the pizza party. i can't believe someone as good as you exists, what an amazing heart you have.
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I hear so many horror stories about group homes, and I think it's absolutely incredible that the staff took this girl's hair seriously, found a solution, and helped her make it happen. So proud of EVERYONE who was involved in getting this girl's hair detangled & manageable again, including her!
But shouldn't they have helped her to prevent this in the first place?
@@Tegdirb64 sounds like it was like that when she came to them already.
@@Tegdirb64 as Everly Nevins says below: "Sometimes life doesn't let you think about personal care."
The staff can't physically force her to comb her hair. She was likely traumatized, depressed and in some sort of shock and just wasn't ready to deal with it yet. I've worked at facilities like that and most of the people I worked with really cared. But part of healing is not forcing someone beyond their physical/personal boundaries. It's impossible to "help" if someone isn't ready for it.
Look at the kids nails, do you still believe that she has been neclected so much as they try to make you believe .. ?
@@no.name.required it happens every single day of children going through neglect and @buse. Why wouldn't we believe a child?
When you feel depressed....self care can feel overwhelming. I've been there. You guys did a wonderful job!! Her hair is beautiful!!!
I have depression and at first I wasn’t taking care of my hair at all it looked so bad my mom had to cut my hair short in November I was in tears and I didn’t like the way I looked but my mom found pills that helps hair grow fast so I started taking them and now my hair is already close to my shoulders I love to play with my hair and now I get to do that again I’m never letting my hair get that bad again I don’t like having short hair but at least it’s really easy to take care of short hair
@@Manderz89 what pills? I've been trying to find good supplements.
also as a life hack sort of, i siggest braiding your hair into pigtails or even a low braided pony. if youre struggling really badly with taking care of you hair, the braids will at least keep the hair together
@@nyct0phile The braiding will also help keep the hair from knotting up.
So so true. You let yourself and your surroundings go. It's hard to reclaim it too but when you do it feels so much better, like taking a shower after days. It's a hard road with mental illness.
@@Manderz89 their are NO pills that make your hair grow !
I had no idea a child so young could get that depressed, how heartbreaking. I’m so amazed that the people from the group home could come together with you and you all care about her well-being and helped her keep her gorgeous hair. Amazing. Bless you all.
As a hairdresser that specialises in neurodiverse/queer/vulnerable clientele, this is so special! I'd love to sit in for any detangling training if you do more lives :) Love from Australia !
Wow, what a cool job! I love that specialized hairdressers exist. I never heard of it but admire you so much for providing this service! 💖
So glad that you take care of the special needs cases, going to the hairdresser with sensory problems is hard
I’m not a hairdresser, but I do get called in to help a lot of people who go in as like a sort of therapy. I talk to them and keep them company and let them know they’re not alone. Because in my city there’s a lot of stigma to be perfect. To never let the world see you down. And that’s unfair. I’ve been through so much and I know how hard it is to not blame yourself for how you’ve been treated. I’ve made so many great friends by doing what I do. And I’ve helped close to 400 people just feel better about themselves and give them the support they’ve needed. I don’t get paid for this, this is something I started when I was in high school as a nonprofit with my neighbor who is a social worker and got permission and got me certified
@@xLadyBanana here's your award!! no one cares
wait they have specialized hairdressers? that wouldve been great growing up, my stylist just threatened to shave it off
As someone who had this issue as a child due to neglect, depression, and my own tenderheadedness, from the bottom of my heart thank you for what you've done for this girl. Not only for doing it with as much gentleness as it can be, but for boosting her up and also giving her a MANAGEABLE LENGTH due to her wishes after it was done. So many stylists only ever cared what my mother wanted and what they projected onto my hair no matter how hard it was on me, and it hurt my self esteem and sense of autonomy horribly and thanks to many years of having my hair ripped out when it was finally too unpresentable to her, to the point I was even afraid of brushing at all, until the day I was finally able to get it cut. She will never forget you.
Same. My mother cruelly always made me keep my hair long (it was past my butt) but she never wanted to comb or wash my hair so it was always severely matted and had lint in it. I was also tenderheaded. It was miserable and I was made fun of in school because of it. It was such a weight off my shoulders when I finally cut it off. Now I cut it into a short Bob when it reaches my elbows.
When I was 13, I had a phase where I was just really depressed. My hair ended up super matted and I had the worst dead skin build up. I eventually showed my mom (I was very clever at hiding the state of my hair), and she and my aunt tried to de-tangle and cleanse.
They managed to make my hair beautiful again. Eventually I went to go get my hair cut into a bob, and it was the most amazing feeling not having to worry about my hair getting matted again.
I feel for this girl. Sometimes life doesn't let you think about personal care. No judgement.
Does the hair not get matted when it's short into a bob? . I have very long hair but struggle with personal care and my hair is matted right now
@@bettyjones5375 For me it was easier. Even a cute pixie cut. Requires very little brushing. The shorter the hair, the less care it needs in terms of styling or combing. Also easier to wash. As I say, in my personal experience, chopping my hair off was the best choice. It can always grow back once a person is on the road of recovery. 💗
Not to be that person but also I personally feel like saying "a phase where" implies clinical depression is just that, a phase.
@@maplemilkie Hence why I was talking about myself and my experience. It was a phase in my life due to various circumstances. Not to mention the context in which I used it is completely different to what you're implying.
@@everlynevins I see, I just think using the word "depression," which is actual mental illness, shouldn't be used to describe a state or feeling anymore as it implies it's just a simple state of mind but I believe I get what you're saying
It was SO lovely to see how excited she was, she was stimming so hard after it all came out! You've changed this girl's LIFE, and it's an AMAZING thing you've done for her!
not everything is stimming yk, I'm neurotypical but have habits and behaviours that look similar to stimming
@renthemen. hey! Neurotypicals also stim, it's short for "self-stimulating behaviours," and it's an umbrella term for anything that falls under a repetitive motion or sound. So think knee bouncing and pen clicking, those are also stims. So yes, she is stimming. She is excited and expresses that excitement through the hand shaking as a means to self regulate. (This is coming from an autistic individual, I have a very dense relationship with stimming, and I also have tourettes, which can present similarly in some cases. So yes, I do know that not everything is stimming.)
@@renthemen. you can be neurotypical and stim lmao. its not a neurodivergent only thing, it's just more prevalent with them.
You’re such a wonderful person. We tend to believe that being a preteen/teenager is so easy. The truth is it’s one of the hardest times for us. We’ve got hormones going through us, school, friends, and bullies. Then add living in a group home and dealing with adult situations makes it harder.
You made it life easier for her and gave her the love, attention, and compassion she needed.
Watching and learning from you saved my daughters long hair this morning!! She wrapped a comb into it and she came down crying. I thought, at first, I was going to have to cut all her hair off. Instead I took a deep breathe and channeled my inner Hadassa. I got out wire cutters for the comb, leave in conditioner, and a rat tail comb. I slowly picked the hair until I could move it enough to cut chunks of the comb away. After 45 mins of comb cutting,I got it all out. I was left with a tightly knotted chunk of hair that was so tight it was touching her scalp. I slowly used the rat tail comb to pick small bits and broke up the large knot. About another 45 mins, and her hair was brushed out!! You are not only an amazing stylist and person. You are also an amazing teacher!
I’m so happy to hear that… 🥰 Thank you for sharing this with me.
Lol I luv that! ❤️
@@love518salon I'm also a foster and adoptive mother. We've closed our home now, because we have 7 kids and my cancer is back, but I still do outreach with teenagers. The change you made in this child is so palpable. People see these kids and think they are no good because they don't have a "good" family, their clothes may not be great, or their behavior is not great. They are just kids though. You broke through some real walls in her emotional barriers. I'm crying just typing this. Thank you so much.
Wow
@@MSANTHR0P3 I am sorry to hear you have had cancer and that it has returned. I hope you are surrounded with love and support. I always ask if it is ok to pray for someone. If you would like me to, just let me know.
Thank you for treating that baby with respect. When I was 11, my mom stopped taking care of me. At 12, she decided to take me to a stylist who was just as kind and patient as you were. What you do is so important and Im so glad this video was recommended to me ♥
Well, you can't brush your hair when you are 11 or what? Why have to so depend on mom, even on brushing? When im at 11, i even know to cook for myself because my mom is working so hard to earn some money to feed and pay the bills. Stop blame everything but not yourself.
@@adw6894 calm down my man it's not that serious
@@UlalaGo I mean they have a good point. You don't need your mom to brush your hair for you at 11 years old. If she stopped taking care of you, why would she have spent the money to go to a stylist? It more often than not is pretty expensive, especially spending hours of work like they did on this girl's hair.
@@adw6894 Sometimes parents don't teach their children basic skills. I had a cousin whose mom would still bathe him well into his teens. My boyfriend had no idea how to take care of his curly hair and his parents refused to teach him because they wanted him bald. I ended up teaching him even though I don't have curly hair. It just happens.
@@shutup6731 she took me to the stylist to avoid having CPS called on her ass lol but go off
Kudos to the group home for seeking you out and compensating you to ensure that this teen can have her life back. And you are truly a miracle worker! 💗 You gave this teen a new beginning and a new lease on life! 💞
What a sweet girl. She has some of the most beautiful hair I've ever seen, but I think it was a smart decision to cut it shorter. It will be much easier for her to maintain, and it's amazing that she chose to donate it. I hope the future comes much easier to her, she deserves so much peace and happiness.
This poor lass has trauma most of us cant imagine. I'm so glad the support workers at the group home brought you together. I hope she and her mum get the support they deserve to be together in a safe, secure home soon. Thank you for making a difference in her life 💕
i wish all support homes were like this. sadly, there are terrible stories and some simply lack funding. we need to do better in making sure we provide well for such unfortunate children.
as an adult who recently tested in range for aspergers, it crossed my mind it's possible she's got undiagnosed issues such as autism maybe? I feel for kids in the system, deeply. And to have undiagnosed issues you have to mask just adds to the challenges. Thanks to this hairdresser and her coworkers/friends for caring for her so beautifully.
Autism until recently was studied only in the context of how it affects males.
So females never fit the profile because they are brought up very differently.
Society has very specific, sometimes strict, requirements for girls and women regarding dress, behavior, interests, and expression. Today it is thought that instead of the ratio of autism being 4 boys to 1 girl, it is closer to 1:1.8. Girls are still highly under-diagnosed though. And the old stereotypes remain. "She doesn't look autistic. She doesn't act autistic" Because the brainy nerdy boy social outcast is what people picture.
What you do is so important. Thank you! For a 13 year old to stop brushing their hair and let things get so bad you know she has to be hurting so bad inside. Poor girl, I hope she's doing a bit better and is getting the help she needs. Thank you again for what you do. 💖💖💖
U don't even think about it .that mother figure is so m.i.a ur just dealing through life and consistent mental stressers. These types abuse lead to bad adult choices . I hope she stays humble and true to her energy. These women have probably thought her so much in this scenario especially now she's puberty age. I know embarrassingly this happened to me from very toxic alcohol mom..gives me tears to see this ❤
But no one else around her couldn't do it? She had to pee during the day..she couldn't run a brush thru during?
It's pretty profound, when you think about it. Instead of cutting her hair off and making her start from zero, they salvaged it through patience, kindness, and gentleness. When bad things happen, you don't always have to lose everything.
@@leilanilogan40 have you ever been so depressed and lonely and hurting you stop caring for yourself? this poor child is probably struggling, she isnt thinking oh i should just run a brush through my hair. and we never know, its possible she went a few days and the damage was already done so she just didnt bother anymore.
@@leilanilogan40 We don't know the conditions in her home. When your self esteem slips so low you feel there is no point brushing your hair, nobody loves you, you're ugly anyway so why bother? And then it slips further because you haven't been looking after yourself. It's similar to overeating. Both are consequences and emotional protection from trauma. It didn't sound like she had any responsible adults in her life, nor any close friends outside school. It may be hard for you to understand how a 13 year old would end up like that, but that's lucky for you that you've not been in a similar place.
Hey girl, don’t know if you remember me but I was going to fly into see you, my hair got exactly that way when I was in the hospital w Covid for a long time plus tons of depression but my best friend ended up being able to detangle my hair which was down to my waist and everyone said “cut it off” but you put faith back in me that it could be done so you see in my pic how awesome my hair is.
You are truly a beautiful soul and I’m so thankful you are still touching lives 1 hair at a time. ❤ This little one has beautiful hair and our hair is life changing when we have it or we don’t so thank you again for your blessings. Truly one of a kind❤️
You will be repaid for the DIGNITY you allowed this baby girl. She will never forget how you taught her all this and were so GRACEFUL. 😭😭😭😭😭😭🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Im a parent of a disabled child and I can tell you this is a huge problem in our community, Thank you for your hard work
Best wishes ❤️
I'm a dog groomer & KNOW what matted hair is like to work with. So hard on the hands & body but these ladies did the most incredible work 👏 her hair is thick & beautiful 🥰
as a disabled adult, i used to have an incredibly hard time brushing my hair thoroughly as a kid. as i grew older i realized it would be easier to keep i shorter, and so i got it cut short. best decision of my life. i now keep it buzzed down most of the time
@@partyinthecloudkingdom different reason but my autism makes hair touching my face a real sensory issue, so i buzzed mine too!! much love
One time when I was 13 I had really baaaaad tangled hair. Maybe not as bad as this but really close to it. My hair was starting to be matted. I was staying with my dad for an extended period of time when I was used to my mom brushing my hair all the time. It was during Christmas vacation. Everyone kept making fun of me for it when I was just going through a tough time and I didn’t feel like brushing my hair. I finally untangled everything by myself. Spent at least an hour conditioning my hair in the shower. I finally did it, but it wasn’t an easy feat. It hurts and it is so frustrating when you try to detangle hair like this!! Amazing work
As a therapist I am so encouraged by your gentle, trauma sensitive approach to not only to provide a service but to empower her to be herself. What a beautiful transformation. 💜💜💜
She has the same hair type as mine, and we're similar ages (I'm just on 15). I'm really glad that you did this for her, I can't imagine what she's been through. I hope things get better for her.
Not even halfway through this video and want to cry. As a kid who come from the system, people who truly care are few and far between. This girl will forever have the kindness you showed her clear in her memory. You gave her much, much more than you could imagine. How absolutely beautiful. You are AMAZING.
Hair plays such an important part to our self-esteem, whether people admit it or not. So the fact that this girl went through so much in her life and was treated with respect, love, and compassion while getting her hair de-matted is so heartwarming to see. I really hope she's doing well ♥️
In addition to making her hair comfortable again you also gave her the BEST gift - the sense that she is worth caring for and spending time to help her.
This is such an important message that she's receiving by someone taking the time to help her.
You gave this young girl her confidence and life back. I could cry for her! She’s so deserving of being free of that physically and emotionally. You and your coworker are incredible women! Thank you so much for being so compassionate and empathetic! So much love to you guys!♥️
As a teen in psych hospital I stopped brushing my hair for a while. It got really matted. One of the staff sat down with me one evening and brushed and untangled it for me. I wasn’t very comfortable with most people touching my hair but she made me feel comfortable and cared for. Thank you to that staff member and thank you Love518 for such moments of tenderness 💚
I love how much care you put into keeping her identity anonymous 🖤🖤🖤 really shows that you understand how sensitive and difficult this kind of trauma can be. Nobody wants to be recognized in that state- and you are amazing to make her feel like her beautiful and best self is the only self that people will remember.
That’s what i was thinking.
Being in a group home means she's in the foster care system.
I know if you're fostering children you're not allowed to show their faces on social media. I don't even think they're allowed to have their own accounts.
I guess that carries to this situation too. Or maybe she was just being considerate, but I don't think most people would think that in depth. The girl probably knew she wasn't supposed to be on social media and told the hairdresser if I had to guess.
@@mirrors8913 owhno! This person always respects people their privacy and does it all anonymously.
@@mirrors8913 as a former foster child and someone who was in a group home and still talks to ppl working at said group homes, thEy are allowed to have their own fb accounts and whatever. And the group homes actually have picture albums of old kids who lived there. Foster parents aren’t allowed to show pics of kids under the age of 12/14 dependent on the child, then they can with their consent.
Yes!! This👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽💕💕
Oh, honey! That girl's hair is beautiful and healthy! She's just gorgeous! The people who tell you to just cut it off don't understand. That's years worth of growth. And to lose that without it being your decision, that's devastating to a young girl. Instead, she made it through the fire and didn't lose a piece of herself. You are a wonderful person to give her that gift. What a transformation! ❤
You are an absolute magical creature!!! I'm in tears watching her hands go up the more excited she gets! Also, HATS OFF TO YOU for keeping all the hair and then cutting it **after** she was free to pick whatever shape she wanted instead of what "had" to happen because of the knots. The difference. The ministry of JOY! You are a saint walking with magic hands and hard work. I'm amazed and impressed.
This can happen even in a well adjusted loving household. My daughter use to wear her hair in a low bun as a 13 year old. She showered every day and her hair was always neat but what I failed to realize is that she wasn’t always taking her hair down and brushing it out but rather smoothing the top with a comb while it was still tied up. I spent 6 hours and a lot of oil to get the matting out.
when I was a kid my mum would come and check if I brushed my hair... I didn't I just did what you kid did. She threatened to cut it all of since I don't deserves having long hair. I started brushing after that
My nine year old does brush but has trouble getting every spot. She gets this massive tangle at the back of her head under the top layer of hair if I don’t brush her hair for her at least once a week. She wants it long and it’s just so thick and wavy. I don’t mind helping her out but sometimes life gets busy and I forget to check on her hidden knots! Then it can take a long time but we have fun with it and pick a movie to watch sometimes while I work.
@@lindsaymoore5852 you're a good mum bless you ❤️🌞❤️
@Lindsay Moore This was my problem as a child! My hair is the exact same way and the brush wouldn't always go through enough and I'd have the same. They took me to a salon to get hair cut and they ended up having to shampoo my hair to get the knot out and my parents were embarrassed and mad at me, but I couldn't get it out on my own. I didn't want to go get my hair cut ever after that, not because of the person but my parents. Once they knew the problem though, my mom had to do the same and help me with my hair. Eventually they realized my brush bristles we're too short. So thank you for helping her brush that out and avoid the situation I went through.
I used to get the "nape knot" too, and my hair wasn't long either. I remember my mother basically tearing it out with a brush and comb..it hurt.
Omg the way you talk to her. Bless your heart. You know that child is going to grow up and ALWAYS remember the impact you had on her. Not just because of the hair. But hearing those words of encouragement from another woman. That touched my heart ♥️
So many young girls need the warm loving environment that you created for her. You could take charge of a group home.
This made me cry, as a mom of a 14 yr old young lady, seeing her excitement when she saw her hair just made my mom heart happy. I hope she is doing good and her situation has gotten better for her and her momma.
You two girls will stay in her memory for ever! Not only did you made her hair look amazeing agan, you also pushed her ego as far as you could! She will think of you a lot, i'm sure about that! I wish i could meet such lovely and comforting wemon as you are when i was that age. Just to hear you are worth it when you are at such a low point at age 13 really can make a difference in the teens life ❤️ hope you will see her again ❤️
As a grown up foster child.... Wow. Love this. My hair had to get cut off 2 years ago in the hospital because of my heroin addiction. I'm 24 and clean now. My foster mom is the one who brought the hair stylist to the hospital from an hour drive away. I love my foster mom so much. And that hair cut tho I didn't want to cut my hair... Was better than the knotted mess I had. Way worse than this child's hair I hadn't brushed in a couple years probably.
I am really happy to hear that you have a loving foster mom and are two years clean- an extremely difficult feat! I’m sure it doesn’t mean much to hear from a stranger on the internet but I am really proud of you
So glad you're clean!!!
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Well done on getting clean!!
I got in H at 15, now in my 30's. In methadone.
I can't believe I lost 20+ years to that drug.
you and your foster mom sound so sweet, proud of you for staying clean, mate
My abusive mother never brushed my hair. I learned as a nurse that kids don’t have the motor ability to get to the back of their head with a brush til age 9.
Which explains why when I first went to school in kindergarten, the kids made fun of my knotted hair and said that I stunk. It was crushing.
My next door neighbor, a mom herself, had me come over one day and she was able to untangle half my head by the time my mom came back home and found me and told me I could never go back over to see that woman again.
She had been so kind to me, having me sit on her couch and watch TV with her. She was incredibly gentle. It was completely foreign to be touched and treated with kindness. Thank you Mrs Ysevez (so?), I will always remember you. This vid is beautiful ❤️
Could not imagine the discomfort, poor girl, I really hope the future is bright for her. My neighbours hair was like this, it took me a whole week to get it all out and then she had it cut at the salon after, as they had all turned her down before. She was so happy. Your doing awesome work 👏
I absolutely loved that you guys didn’t just do your job and keep it robotic
I loved that you added so much of your personality and care into her appointments with small touches like pizza party, playing movies, and especially having her repeat those affirmations to herself, not to mention reminding her to sit up straight and hold her head high
I know this will be something she remembers even as an adult
Her dropping her guard was a sign that you made a safe space for her
Ive suffered from severely matted hair after being bed bound for weeks after my ex beat me nearly to death. YOU ARE DOING GODS WORK.
I'm so sorry that you suffered that. Women should not be targets for men.
@@mellie4174 Nobody should be targets of anyone.
@@Teuwufel Yes, but please understand people are allowed to talk about one thing in particular at a time, without invalidating others.
@@ARGhostie It goes both ways.
@@Teuwufel Alm supoorters be like
This is going to jumpstart so much healing for this baby. Plus you killed that long baaaawb ❤ thank-you for your compassion and dedication to your clients
it may have been difficult for her to trust some people, from her situation. I'm glad you reinforced to her that there are adults she can feel safe with and drop her guard, rather than making it a stressful and traumatic experience. I bet she will carry this experience with her for her entire life, thank you for making it a good one. Also thank you for being so mindful of her privacy and blurring her face in the few shots where it would have been visible in the mirror.
I hadn’t had my hair cut or touched by anyone in 5ish years, and I’d spent the last couple years locked inside with my dissociation getting worse and feeling awful about myself. But I recently bit the bullet and went to see a stylist. It wasn’t nearly this bad, but she was patient and kind and funny. Gave me a whole photo shoot after, and I cried going home lol. Haven’t worn a beanie in awhile. Y’all are awesome. I want to do something like this for people.
A volunteer organization would love to have your help.
I refused to take mine off for the longest time.
my hair looked like this at times when i was younger bc my mom never taught me how to brush my hair. she would scream at me when it would get bad like this. what you are doing for this child is amazing and i know she thinks about you from time to time, you're truly amazing :)
Kokichi kokichi kokichi
Why were our moms like this
my mom was the same way, but with doing my laundry.
@@daniiiakasha4711 a lot of moms have internal issues they have never worked through. They may have gone through the same thing growing up, learned to address a problems by yelling, and passed it on. There is a crisis in society with toxic femininity (yes I believe it is a more common problem than toxic masculinity but doesn’t show physical scars so isn’t talked about). I grew up with and am still surrounded by female bullies as a woman in my 30’s due to this issue. Ladies, we are more than how our mothers and women have treated us. It is possible for us to learn to be loving and nurturing even to ourselves!
My mom doesn’t yell.
You are not a hair-dresser. You are a Hair THERAPIST.
I am cheesing so hard and tearing up at the same time.
Never seen your vids before, but I am LOVING it. The way you care for the person, and not just heir hair is just heart-warming.
Be blessed, lovely. Because all the blessings you give will come right back to you.
Spread the love 💖
OMG. I cried with this one. This girl is so young to be going through so much. You really did free her. You freed her heart, mind, and spirit. Way to go. Thank you for giving so much of yourself.
It sounds like this girl has been in survival mode for a while. When a person is in that mindset, It's easy to stop believing that one deserves the kind of treatment you gave her: the kindness, love, time, and commitment. It can also feel safer to fear such treatment, but you managed to break through all that. Thank you.
that wasnt just detagling that was an entire therapy session wow major props for the two hairstylists for doing this 💞💞
This is sooo amazing!!!!!! And Im so glad that the group home didn't just decide to shave it all off, because that would just serve as a constant reminder to her about wat she went through! You guys are so amazing, and that girl deserves the world!!❤️
I had this video recommended to me and although it's normally something I'd never watch, I'm glad that this showed up on my feed. You gave this young girl such a beautiful experience. Not only by helping with her hair, which you two did an amazing job with btw, but with the way you treated her. You likely made her feel special with her pizza party, watching movies with popcorn and making a normally embarrassing experience in to a fun one! You were so gentle and patient and showed her that there are good people in the world who will treat her with the respect that she deserves. Loved the way you told her to be confident, that she's beautiful and raised her spirits. God bless you!
This is so beautiful. As someone who struggled with depression and anxiety my entire life my hair would get so matted like that. And they would always cut all my hair off and make me feel so terrible. :(
I am so sorry that happened to you and no one was there to show you your value. You are loved and a valuable person.
@@vickycash1643 thank you so much ❤️🥺
I have also struggled with depression. Chronic & acute to be specific, with anxiety as a side dish that noone asked for. Although I haven't had mats like this, my hair was the last thing I cared about. I can understand how this can happen.
I sure hope that this young lady can come back and visit the Beautiful Soul that was able to give her this gift. Shout out to the other person that assisted her & the group home. Sending Love from Mo.
Same 😔
I'm clinically depressed and have bad anxiety issues.
My hair got like this, so I just shaved it off. Nothin' wrong with it.
I had some matted clumps in my hair when I was a child. My hairdresser was very nice and de-tangled it, with minimal cutting. The other hairdressers in the shop laughed at me and were talking about me behind my back. At the time I felt great shame. Looking back I feel shame for them, laughing at a child who showed signs of possible neglect. I love the lack of judgement on your channel. I'm happy to see people like you exist. 💕
Oh my god that poor little baby! Thank you so much for giving her a great three days and making her feel loved and special! That’s so wonderful! That’s so lovely! I’m really glad her group home sent her to you and paid for it. That was really good on them
Your team is SO kind and sweet and persistent! I love that not only did you all work so diligently to do this for her, but you also went out of your way to make a personal connection with her and build up her confidence. Amazing!!!
She will remember you for the rest of her life, this is so lovely 💜
when you first see these people's hair, it's so easy to have a negative gut reaction and blame them. but as you have said, we all come from different circumstances, and carry our pain in different ways. i could say "i can't imagine my hair getting like that" but someone else probably couldn't imagine cutting, beating, and starving themselves like i did.
truly a reminder to be kind.
This just randomly came in my recommended, but I just wanted to say thank you for doing stuff like this ♡
When I was in high school, I went through a LOT of traumatic experiences and got really depressed. My hair god almost as bad as hers did, and I remember my mom shamed me and made feel so awful and embarrassed for it.
I'm sure she is super super grateful for your compassion
You are doing a healer's work. I respect the heck out of that.
Also, I just wanted to say that I think it's absolutely wonderful that you are so careful to protect your clientele's identities. That is professional and caring. Thank you.
Let's be real, after 2 days of that, anyone would be tender headed and their scalp hurt. You brought so much life back to her! Y'all did an amazing job and I appreciate that you don't judge because mental health is rough sometimes. ❤️ I wish her the best in life and hopefully she's thriving in school.
Also her haircut is so cute! She looks so stylish!
As someone who has dealt with embarrassing situations as a child, thank you. Thank you for putting your love and time into this child, thank you for helping her heal her past hair trauma, thank you for treating her like a person and not a problem. You don't need to see her face to feel how good she feels about herself by the end and that is so purely beautiful.
It's all in the body language. That little girl was *giddy.*
This happened to me after a divorce. I was so depressed and it got bad. To this day I take better care of my hair I have ever in my life. I can’t go an hour without brushing it from the trauma I had from having that heavy feeling of mat of your head. God bless you!!!!!
This young lady will never forget you. You may have saved her life. I hope you stay close. You are so amazing and I wish you both lots of love and success.
This is how you change someone’s life for the better. The world would be a better place with more people like you and your team ❤️
her running her fingers through her hair and doing a little dance... i remember being that age and feeling so vulnerable and im happy for her. thank you for this. i hope her life gets better.
Bless her heart! A child her age doesn't just decide to let her hair go like that - there is some trauma/ pain behind it. You didn't just detangle her hair, you helped heal her heart! When I was around her age, I had hair past the waist long, and (during summer months) would see how long I could get away with not taking care of it before I was told to. It was 100% an effort to get basic attention, to prove anyone realized I existed - that's how neglected I felt. You showed her love, and she will always remember that.
You ladies are absolutely amazing!
She joy she expressed when her hair was de-matted was beautiful. “She is free”-indeed she is❤
I feel her pain, I was in a group home I had hair down to my bum it was dyed black they wouldn't let me keep dying it. So it was too embarrassing for them they forced me to cut it, I had a super short haircut right before having to start a new school. I don't have the face for short hair, it looks so bad on me. So yeah I can see how this could happen
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I'm sorry. I hope your life is happier now
Get out of group home. Group home is not good.
@@catladynikki2024 I mean at that point why not just say "don't be an orphan" most people don't want to be in group homes you sound very ignorant
I know that girl will never forget this experience. You made her feel like she was worth something, all that effort makes a world of difference.
❤️❤️❤️ you have such compassion
What you did for this young lady is amazing! When you told her to repeat after you that she was beautiful, I teared up. Thank you for being such a kind, loving person and helping her! ♥
im happy to hear that the group home actually tried to do what they could and also asked for help instead of just cutting her hair. So happy you were there for her and provided and calm and safe space as well.
I love your compassion when working with her. Since I have autism, i still get anxious going to the hair dresser. I can tell you that you did her trauma a favor and built up a memory that will keep her faith in kindness for a long time. Never stop glowing! Thank you for doing what you do! I would hug you if I could!
My 11 yr old (au) child struggles with hairdresser, she dislikes that they talk and she doesn't want to talk. During lock down I started cutting the hair myself, and they much prefer it. But I can't style to save myself 😐. Do you have any tips for trips to the hairdresser to ease my childs stress so they can have the haircut they want?
@@aquaenigma6285 Autistic adult here! The problem is probably a combination of being unsure what's happening, and sensory issues. Ask the hairdresser to tell your child what they are doing to the hair and what the next step will be, if your child wants that to happen, of course. If your child doesn't want any talk at all, maybe just ask the hairdresser to stay quiet. If the hairdresser dislikes the silence, maybe let them agree on some music? If you're usually at a bigger place, maybe switch to a smaller salon with less people. Also ask your child if there are any other parts of the process that are worse for the senses and see with your hairdresser if you can skip or adapt some steps. For example my hairdresser used to use hair dryers on me at the end, but I hated the heat and the noise, so I asked her to just let me leave with half wet hair and let it air dry. Talk things through with your child BEFORE leaving the house so that you know the two of you are in agreement on what will happen.
(Also sorry to Kathleen for derailing your lovely comment)
@@martaj7614 thank you for your response, I appreciate it. I know my child just hates anything to with their hair, its definitely sensory and the same as you, the noise of the hairdryer is too much for them. I wonder if a home appointment might be less stressful? I can maybe get the hairdresser to visit first to talk things through 🤔. Your comment has definitey helped me think more outside the box, thank you 😊
Can I ask what helps you when you go to the salon to handle all the stimulation and noise?
@@aquaenigma6285 So sorry I missed this! (Please note, I know you have a lil' girl so the next few mention hims and he's are generic, speaking broadly about an autistic kid) . Tips I would recommend is conditioning them to be comfortable with earbuds (noise cancelling or swimming also cancels noise) maybe if you can play music through them, do it at a soft level or one good for stimmin' (every kid has a preference and the earbuds in ear won't stop the hairdresser's job).
Then, kitted with my earbuds, I bring something to squeeze or work my hands with. The worst part is the hairdresser trying to make conversation, so maybe controlling the conversation so it's the adult and the hairdresser talking and not the person in the seat. Thinking I have to mask my rocking, or trying to act right when also having the vibrations of very sharp scissors near my ears and skin is very difficult... But these things help. If your kid needs to rock, suggest that the hairdresser leaves the footway open for nervous foot wiggling and teach the kid how high he's allowed to wiggle for safety. My foot bounce thing drives people up a wall but keeps me sane LOL (Speaking of earbuds, you might be able to find tracks online that tell him a story that's just long enough for a hair appointment, and you can gamify it by saying "I want you to tell me the 3 names of the main characters" or tell him "Can you tell me what color shirt?" And he'll focus on listening for that- that's another way you can make the appointment fun.
If they have a haircut they want to go for, you can take breaks every 1/4th of the way through to do Grounding techniques such as Patty cake or some other hand to hand stim that doesn't rely on words. Check in with the lad or lass, let them know how far along they are, and reassure them that it's looking good so far! For grounding techniques in summer, small cracked ice cubes are great for holding onto and letting melt to keep focused on the task at hand. Plus, it's water and doesn't make a mess.
We do really well with knowing times, so if you make a game out of waiting (IE: Alright, the first break he gets a sticker, second break he gets to look at ice cream flavors and pick it out ahead of time? Maybe helping relieve some pressure of making a decision at the ice cream parlor.. The third and second to last break could be another tactile game and hyping up "We're almost done! Last part to go!" Then the last time can be whatever jubilation or maybe offering a new play toy from his favorite franchise. Although this can't happen every time, from that moment on you can do the 1/4 method or a 1/2 and 1/2 method to check in, and he can have a way to measure his comfort zones and expectations.
By normalizing the breaks, if needed, you can help ease the anxiety of not knowing how long to wait.
I think for your lil' girl, the earbuds might do the trick. I would talk to her about the scissors, see if it's how the hairdressers might move too fast and poke.
It could also be due to extrasensory sensations for the hair and head, sometimes getting the hairdresser to give a head massage with no shampoo can help re-callibrate the sensitivity of the head. When we think something bad might happen, just like soldiers, we get super sensitive to tactile. By dumbing down the sensory via tapping, massages, ect prior to a stimulating activity, we can calibrate and knock off the over reaction to pressure in some cases by not feeling it as pain but instead as pressure. Your girl might be super sensitive to her head and hair, I am too! Letting the hairdresser know "She's tender headed" can give them a protocol that makes it clear just as if they were working with an adult. *thumbs up*
You ladies are absolutely amazing ❤
You are amazing - thank you for what you do! Also. Sounds like her group home is amazing too. Prayers for her and her family . And what a brave young girl.
I was in a group home as a teen, and they treated me with the love, care, and kindness I needed at that time. They were my saving grace, one of the only reasons I'm still alive to tell this to y'all. The love this little girl deserves was given by this salon and group home, and I hope she continues to know that she's loved and valued and worthy of all the good things in life❤️ Sending so many well wishes to her and everyone caring for her while her family is on hard times. Community support is crucial in helping these families thrive when help is needed ❤️
I was in a group home and we weren’t allowed to have seconds ….
Thank you so much for doing this for her. Depression knots are the worst, and detangling them can be an even more traumatic experience- due to the self chastising, the pain, and the shame. Can't thank you enough for this service.
I’m crying. God bless you💕
You’re an Angel for this ❤ thank you for making her feel so comfortable ❤
Thank you so much for saving this sweet baby's hair, I'm literally in tears right now. My step daughter was dropped of with her hair matted like this as a preteen and the amount of time, energy, oil, and conditioner it took to get her hair presentable again was immense. The work it took to repair her self esteem was an entirely different battle all is own. You are an absolute angel for helping this sweet girl in some of her darkest moments, bringing a smile back to her face and instilling so much confidence in her throughout the process. ❤️
I love what you do. My daughter didn’t brush her hair for almost a year and it became a curly matted mess. It took us 2 months to get all done. Now she takes care of it every day.
How did you not notice she wasn't brushing her hair
@@romanaa7070 hats and other coverings possibly, but you also can't force someone dealing with executive functioning issues to deal with things like this, even a child. They have to do it in their own time, and there's a reason for it
I’m so glad you were able to help her!
That cut is so beautiful! Great job!
Oh my gosh, I audibly GASPED at how amazing her hair looked at 5:10! Whoa!! I'm about to cry, you treated this girl with the dignity that she deserves and I can't even begin to imagine how thrilled and happy she felt. Bless you!
This video randomly popped up on my feed and I can honestly say that you’re such a wonderful human being. Helping someone in a situation like this must be so difficult, yet you’re doing it. ♥️
Same. And I'm so happy it did. These ladies are angels
Thank for your kindness and compassion.
This is so amazing! You are such a blessing. It takes so much strength and patience to not make them feel bad for the way their hair looked and it warms my heart to see how you treat your clients with so much love and compassion. Thank you for your work and for being such an amazing human being ❤
Y’all are the positive changes we need in this world! Thank you for being so kind, and caring so much about others.
YES!!!
I'm so glad you did this AND cut it to a shorter length in a positive way. I was so afraid it would be left long and it would soon end up in this state again. I am a former social worker with CPS and children's homes. I also had very long, thick and wavy hair as a kid. Even as an adult, who styles their hair every day. I have had to cut out tangle clumps in the back when I've been sick, in bed for a few days and didn't brush it . My niece and I both have similar hair and tangles/clumps are a battle .Thank you for doing this and helping her get it to a length that may be more manageable.
So kind of you. She looks beautiful❤️
Love your interaction with this young girl, building her up and teaching her mantras