WOW who knew this video would reach so many people! It was one of my first ever created. Thanks for the amazing comments everyone. I just created this update about my relationship status (I'm 40 years old now): ua-cam.com/video/TuVTWv8ckvU/v-deo.html
The worst part of being single is when your family members constantly question you why you’re not married with kids🤦♂️. They even give you advice that you didn’t ask for.
Just turned 38 and single. Most of my guy friends are stuck in misearble marriagies or divorced with kids, custody battles/alimony etc. The grass is always greener. I'm not settling down unless I meet an my absulute queen, 10/10 in all categories
but marriage is about compromise, and once both ppl in the marriage stop compromising or being understanding/ respectful, things start to fall apart. you'll never find a woman that is 10/10 in all categories because she doesn't exist, it's about finding someone who is willing to make compromises and you also gotta be open to doing the same
living single is good make money and enjoy it yourself and if you have family take care of them and the problem is single in older age but if you have younger siblings not problem
Being single and poor is an absolute nightmare, I feel trapped in a cage, you hear all these advises about enjoying your time and freedom to travel, practice hobbies, meet new people but the problem here is you need money to do those things.
@@JustinBrownVids maybe because it took 4 minutes to start actually talking about the reasons and the theory.. At around 4 minute Mark you start taking about the first type of relationship.. that's what he meant by 'you can't get to the point' .. too much filler stuff with your brother etc
Thank you!!! 3min in and he's still going on about his brother and his muscles and his youtube channel. It's 2018. People have short attention spans and will click on the next video if you don't get straight to the point.
Aaarrghh! I’m not sure. I’m also 36, single and have been single for most of my adult life. I thought the same as you - be happy and the person will come (this is also reinforced by friends, family and everyone else). I very much want a parter, but I’m also pretty comfortable alone and it takes a lot of effort to date. Thanks. I’m going to do some reading and research.
I normally don’t like to piggyback on other people’s comments... but this one basically says word for word what I wanted to express! I think I’m type 3 too btw. Thanks for the video!
That's where I am. I have an AMAZING life, and it's going to take someone equally or more amazing to take me away from it. Share with someone? Sure, we all want that, but getting into a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship is just going to lead to unhappiness and lack of fulfillment. That's the avoidant type in me. I have a great career, building a charity foundation, have a side job, traveling the world now just to take pictures (heading to Australia and New Zealand next so his accent was AWESOME :) )... I don't have time for games or someone who needs to "figure themselves out". Call me when you know who you are. I know it sounds harsh, maybe even bitter, but I've got a pretty good thing going on here. Not ready to mess it up.
I'm single and 36 and it most definitely isn't my decision. Peoplr seem to think you choose either or, but it isn't always like that. Women just plain hate me and always have
I'm 30 and I have only had one relationship that went for a year. I found myself emotionally suffocating and subsequently my confidence dwindled as my ex towards the end of the relationship started micromanaging everything I was doing until she got me at the breaking point where I called it off. The only advice I have to say is that it is better to be single than be with someone who is possessive.
@@Bobobaggins1380 Definately not alone mate, in fact I think that feeling is more common than I thought, and seeing all the breakups in my social circles is proving that it's an issue.
@@kithu1231 Yeah it's quite a common feeling. I think the issue is that alot of women see a man as a project and try to change them. I find this to be a very toxic way to handle a relationship.
Omg I thought I am alone at age 36 still single never met anyone, but you guys made my decision stronger than ever before. I will go on like free man. Come on guys single life is full of enjoyment.
@@natevic1867 I personally think that the idea of being in a relationship is selfish to me. It is mutual since both want companionship and security. My hobbies bring all that for me.
I am 32 . I feel 22. I look 25. Energy level is 30. I m getting good options. I am happy. I m improving month by month. I m attracting better every month. I look better than i looked a decade back. I carry myself better. I can afford better. Life is rocking. I avoid drinking and partying. I have a friend circle a big one. But i hardly meet them cuz i m so busy with myself and watching such videos :p
I'm also 36, still single and been single most of my life. Well it's hard to figure out life. But the point is that i had so much disappointments that i finally evolved as the anxious avoidant person. And no matter how hard I tried to find someone, if the vibe isn't there, you can't do anything about it. It doesn't depend on you. It's there or it's not. It also has a lot to do with modern day society, this technology distract us too much. It's like there's lesser and lesser place for love these days. It's also because of the dating apps, all this abundance of pple, and the fear of missing out. Well it's a big pile of reasons, most of them we don't even realize. Thanks for the vid. :)
I think for me it was never wanting to settle, just to say I have a boyfriend. Society puts so much pressure on us. Like, if we dont meet the " Norm" their must be something wrong with us. I have always been content being single. If I happen to meet someone I'm crazy about then great, but, I'm not looking. This video was definitely helpful though. Being in a relationship, I would definitely be more the secure type. 🤓👌
I disagree. It's just that Jane Austin and Walt Disney ruined us all with unrealistic expectations about finding an ideal personal match. In reality marriage was just a convenient financial arrangement for the division of labor and bringing up children prior to technology. It was usually arranged within your social class as was deemed most beneficial to you, or more likely the family, and the community, or the kingdom. Or it was forced due to impropriety resulting in pregnancy. Both parties were more or less forced by the community, and the harshness of nature, to just make it work regardless of the quality of the match; even if he was abusive or a player, even if she ran up endless debt and continually f**ked every dude in the neighborhood other than her husband. Although small communities tended to police both parties from getting too crazy with such behaviors as it could easily disrupt the entire community. The idea of soul mates, personality matches, attraction, and love being a factor is mostly an extremely recent creation by idealists like author Jane Austin and the Walt Disney movies within just the last couple hundred years. Now that men and women aren't directly dependent on each others labor for survival, and we are rich enough from technological advances that society relaxed social and legal enforcement of monogamy, every relationship is just a luxury that can, and statistically will be, disposed of whenever it is convenient, usually by the woman as women initiate 70+% of divorces and are of higher sexual market value than most men due to being the limiting factor in reproduction. The reason relationships don't work anymore is because we aren't forced to make them work. Half of marriages end in divorce, about 2/3 of the "successful" ones are just held together for the sake of the kids or because it's cheaper to keep her. Only about 10-15% of "successful" marriages are actually happy. It was never about your/my/our happiness. Tldr, there is nothing wrong with you. We are all just to rich and spoilt and socially atomized to make relationships work anymore. The collapse of religion is also a factor, but religion itself has been failing for the same reasons.
Disney love is what everyone would want ;) and everyone can make it real lol... btw when people fall in love, they act exactly like that)) so they just should keep it with hard work! 90-year-old happy couples exist.
Attachment theory was such an eye opener for me. I was an anxious codependent who kept going after avoidants who reminded me of my parents distant ness when I was a kid. I realised I had to stop looking to partners to fill the void and work on healing my inner wounds myself
“Yes, the problem is you” lol I know...I’m 33 and I am still single, too. I used to be anxious+avoidant, the worst you can be. However, I dated a guy this year for over three month and after that I see where my problem is. At first, I concentrated on his problem, and then I finally realized I have problems and they are real lol most of it stems from insecurities. And insecurities really just a by product of not loving myself. So I went on a journey of self-love! It took me little over six months of meditation, introspection to know myself once again and learn to love myself. My goal is to get to be the secure type, there is a way out so is all just time, perseverance, and mentality.
@@wasimh2104 I think the self-love journey actually bring me peace and that’s the best gift I can give myself. Peace is very hard to reach in life. I was able to dissect and heal my childhood wounds, inner child issues. I am definitely happier than before, but I’m not concentrating on finding partnership in life or even friendship. Not sure why, I don’t have a need or want for that. I’m open and happy to know someone but again, I am very introverted, I don’t really go out and meet anyone lol okay with that though. Happy and content with my life right now, I guess I’m just living in the moment. And I’m not even going to try to be someone I’m not, just for friends or lovers. A “lifetime” is too long to try to be someone you are not just so you are not single. People who loves you will love your true and authentic self, not your masked self. I’d rather be my true self and live my life, but I am open to build friendship or love, whatever will come will still come 😆
I've only learned about the term co-dependant, and that's why many women stay in abusive relationships unfortunately. That's why women need to begin to like themselves and not be driven to seek approval at any cost, even though society has tried to condition us this way.
I was dating someone who was almost just like you. Avoidance issue, living all around the world and built a lifestyle to justify his non-commitment. He was 41 and still single. Never had a long meaningful relationship. It was very hard for the both of us to try to make it work. 150 days is how long we managed. The relationship ended and I ended up blaming myself for the entire situation. Thank you for the video. It is refreshing to see someone like that admitting to it, trying to understand and adjust. Somehow it helped me a little to let go. Good luck :)
Rine C me too, I may think that people that travel a lot is really escaping from themselves, but It’s like the dog pursuing its own tail at the end. I was devastated and feeling unworthy It took me a long time to heal because I’m really anxious. How old are you Rine?
Im 39 and single. Throughout my 20's, I was lucky enough to meet and date some awesome ladies. I do look back and wonder if I messed up and let someone special go. The truth is, I was immature and always thought I had my whole life to settle down with someone. Even when someone I really liked dumped me, I didn't dwell. I,m social, confident and friendly, so keep thinking one day I will meet that special someone. I think if you go looking to hard, you will end up with the wrong person. Im 40 next year. Where did the time go?
I can relate :). Will be 37 soon. Late 20s and early 30s I met some good women, but I didn't pursue them. Kept thinking I can always find someone better. What an arrogant fool I was.
Comments like these are so very helpful. Thank you for opening up giving us a glimpse into the life of introverts. You've given me so much to consider. You deserve to find someone special and I pray you have or you will.
I took a step back at 36 and saw a landscape full of attractive but with "ugly personalities." I stopped dating at 16 because I wanted to graduate High School on-time. As I've gotten older a stability was there but I wasn't grasping it. My dad asked why I chose to stay single but at the time I just did not have words for an answer. Unfortunately, I found that answer weeks before he died unexpectedly an ocean away.
I fee ya, bro... Alot of times, even living parents wouldn't understand; let alone DEAD ones. They dun understand how ya feel cuz they just can't see you at all. And things can get even alot harder to see when they're 6 feet under. Just save up yer money 'n dun let NOBODY stop ya from livin' a happy free life!
32 and I stopped looking for a girlfriend about 4 years ago due to moving back into my parents after a bad house share experience. Since then, I have been saving for a home and have been without transport to cut costs:- I felt that sacrifice to save made my situation unpractical to date at the time. I did a lot of jet setting and travelling in my mid 20's until covid as well, but I am increasingly feeling I need to start dating and settle down at my age. Not so much fun anymore, everyone my age in my town is paired off and on the weekends I'm becoming increasingly isolated in young bars as I'm too old for the student crowd now and am ending up drinking to excess in older social cliques.
I'm currently 36 and single but I'm not proud of it. I didn't do anything wrong but I've been sabotaging myself most of the time under the illusion I still have time. Now I'm 36 trying to mentally scrub off whatever the duck happened to me once more
Its not bad at all. Problems comes from society, parents, family pressure, society looks at you like at idiot or monster, and they are still being 20 years straight in toxic relations, i know some men, whose lost their homes, hundred thousands of euros after divorce. I think if u are happy in relationship u are - be in relationship, but dont try to reanimate relationship that died 5 years ago. If u are alone and happy? Great. If u are not happy and alone? Find something that gives you a joy. Learn how to live alone;)
In my 30s n yet single single nearly 5 years “ “ no man likes or interested in me” I got no friends since years been alone so many years” I love my life bein single “ sad ☹️ world” is hard bein single but it the best way to stay safe!!
I've been single since 2017 and the problem is the more I get used to having my house to myself the harder it gets lol, I've almost created and comfort barrier ,its always easy just to relax in your own company after work😂
I am 36 and single too. This video was great. I am the secure type but now as l get older km getting lonely and l now need companionship more than ever. Thank you for this video
Show me the way Mustang GT! Show me the way! 🤣👍 But yeah what's your experience in ending up with a life like that? If you don't mind me asking... And do you get to get laid with different people or one other person?
I'm 39 single most of my life as well. Read that more than 50% of people in my country the USA are single. I would say I am the secure attachment type. The reason I'm single is I just don't put effort into changing it. I don't ask people for dates ever, as a bisexual man I see lot's that interest me too. As a Christian man foremost I surrender it all to Jesus, I'm fine if I spend the rest of my life single Jesus is enough. My house just became empty when my Mom went to be with the Lord a few weeks ago, the singleness thoughts are more profound now in my grief so I found this type a video thanks up loader.
I pray Lord give you strength to carry your lost. And your story is amazing. How you survive in early 25s to 39 in the majority of "marriage" community? The perception and intimidation get so often and how?
I'm Age 36 myself and the main reasons I'm single are the following: Diagnosis of Aspergers Syndrome as a teenager in secondary school meaning I don't have strong enough social skills for a relationship. I've NEVER embraced the drinking culture in the small country of Ireland where I'm from.
I'm single because I'm not pretty and very introverted lol. Not all women have unrealistic standards :) All I would want in a guy is similar worldviews & lifestyle, similar humour, cares about his health & cute smile. Is that a lot? Edit: and loves animals 😄
Even on the dating apps all these woman want is someone funny, holding convos, genuine, likes to laugh. I do all that and I get nothing so wtf and I’m cute too. Lol
I mirror you. Definitely a workaholic and really into my work. Avoidance of intimacy is me, number 3. Hopefully I can dig deeper now having this awareness and be more aware if my patterns. Thank you!
Somewhere deep down my heart, I already knew I am 'avoidant' type. I always felt that I was different than others so people couldn't relate to me. This video help me to find out why I am the way I am right now. Thanks for sharing!
I'm type 4, had a really bad abusive childhood so that type makes sense. 36 and been a alone most my life, had some really terrible luck too. Given up on finding somebody now & hardening myself to the lonely painful reality of it. Good video, all the best.
No no, it will happen. If you're anxious and avoidant you can re-program yourself in becoming more assertive and comfortable. But you have to get active, do things you really feel uncomfortable with, make a fool of yourself, fall and stand up again. Repeat this and you will get less anxious. Doing this already makes you less avoidant. Good luck!
@@JustinBrownVids I have trust issues with women and I always hold back when women give that eye contact like (I want you ) and these type of woman are mostly married or have boyfriend .I hold back cause my mind say if she is ready to cheat for you she will cheat on you too. also most women now a days they are single mothers I stay away when it comes with kids. so which type do I fit in ?
Justin. I am 59 yrs , alone and single but I realized to be me and to live happy by myself. Intimacy well I good by myself. Tired of people want to tie me down.and run my life. I am happy being myself most of the time.🇧🇧☺
Gentleman! Focus on what's great about being single - Time to chase your goals, travel without responsibility, move to improve career prospects... and best of all complete FREEDOM. :D
Sir ur my inspiration I just make mind I will living single forever I just decided that whatever save for money my whole life half I will give to my family and half I will donate for poor people needs
If you're a single woman at 36 .. Your to picky.. If you're a single man at 36 your not tall or rich .. Do to women are to picky .. Girl power boys .. It's all that matters..
I read the book few months ago. It was interesting to do a self-assessment and I think age, experiences, and growth moved me from the 4th to the 1st-secure type. Still single but I am at peace where my life is, and I won’t settle for the sake of companionship. Same values are not easy to find at certain age, but I live my life happy and with open heart, as you never know where God will allow you to cross paths with your special ONE. Never close your heart :) Life is beautiful and even as single you have a purpose. 😁
All i need is financial stability, screw the relationship. Love yourself doesn't mean you become selfish. In today's economy who the fuck wants to go through painful divorces and then pay child support and alumni. Women have figured out a way to survive. What western societies favor and cater to women.
Wow i just have literally gotten to the end of my tether.. so many of the things you said are what ..im going thru and ..im 36 and single.. self sabotage.. anxious and avoidant.. i want to change this crappy habit
There comes a point in time where intimacy does not matter anymore. i woulk like to have it, but i simply dont care about it anymore. Its become a "meh" factor
I don't think it is wrong to be alone and single it is OK.. everyone is made different we must not change to fit stereotypes that everyone shd have partner
I don’t like this idea that being single is a problem. It’s not a problem. Most people are in either co-dependent or in toxic relationships. I find it that most single people don’t fall into these toxic patterns and they are actually looking for healthy love and fulfilling relationships. Even when I see my circle of friends, they are married either for convenience (just easier financially) or because they are too afraid of being alone. These aren’t the best reasons to be in a relationship. I’ve been in two long term relationships and I can’t say I was all that happy in them. 😂. Much better to be single than to be in an unhappy relationship.
I don’t know how to be anything other than single. Parents passed away young, had no one to turn to, so I had no choice but to learn everything on my own and accomplished everything that I have today on my own. Probably wouldn’t even trust someone enough to be in a relationship either…
Same here. I'm 36 years old. I've dated, but never really been in a relationship. From reading these comments, I am happy to see that I am not the only one, but unlike all these brave people who are so happy being single, I very much want to be in a relationship. My problem is that I am very judgmental and as soon as a girl that I am into likes me back, I stop myself. I start judging her, and start finding all the reasons why she is not someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. And while I am overthinking and over analyzing, she leaves me, and I start regretting what I did and I go into bit of a depression and a phase of self-hate. This has happened TWICE now. And regret is not an easy thing to process. I am still struggling with it. And now it's so hard to meet women, and time goes by so quickly. I am trying though... what else can I do? At least I am now aware of what my problem is.
When you begin to find yourself being judgmental, think about the last two instances, how it made you feel, and change your thought process from being judgmental to one of grace and mercy. Embrace the imperfection in the individual, as none of us are perfect. Focus on the goodness of the person, the qualities that attracted you initially (unless the bad outweighs the good, of course). I have a habit of self-sabotaging and talking myself from moving forward with good prospective partners who genuinely cared about me. Keep trying. Put yourself out there. Even alone. The right woman will find you. No one will ever find you hiding in your home all alone. Be well, and best wishes.
Im still single at 23 and still pure going strong cuz I choose to be. I wont settle for anything less and actually you have more time and less BS to deal with
I m 36 and single too.actually problemz will arise when we will cross 40....... Still hopes are here to find a person in life. Once we turn 40, most of hopes will languish. Thinking about the old age and alone. Was i so adamant could not find a partner. Or it was my family responsiblities what did not allow me think about me........atleast now no more sacrifices
31 and never been in a relationship. Age 23 I've quit looking for a relationship and learned to focus on the most important person in my life, Me. The majority of ppl in relationships seem to have more cons than pros..... soooooo no thanks ladies I'll stay single thank you very much :)
I'm secure style and I apparently gravitate towards avoidant or anxious-avoidant. I am changing that!! You hit the nail on the head, I carry the relationships emotionally and it's exhausting!
Its very different for a woman too. If you're over 29 & single, no kids, never married they all assume u smashed around in your 20s something else is wrong with u. Sad.
I had the same cognitive distortion about meeting someone. Although I still believe that passion is important, having a passion is all about loving yourself.
I'd rather be single and be sexually available to all women, although these days I never get offers from Women anyways. I am young and like to learn about my likes/dislikes, interests, and develop myself accordingly. I often find the people who are in relationships are the ones with serious insecurities and personal issues.
Thanks a lot for this video! It is one of the most realistic assertions on this topic that I have seen. I also got to similar conclusions lately. When I was young, I was more of the anxiety type, mainly due to family issues while growing up. I have become wiser and life experiences brought me to the secure type of person. Now what happens is that I attract too many avoidance type of persons., therefore, same age as you, still single. I guess there is something more to learn here :) Keep up with the videos and all the best!
Wow. I think I've been a combo of anxious and avoidant, yikes. I spent a period alone and now I believe I'm the secure type. Human behavior is so interesting, we are blessed that once we "know better, we can do better." Another great and informative vid!🙌
Hello. Thank you for sharing this video with/for us. I am from Romania and for sure the attachement problems are universal, like the emotions are. I am not sure wich type I am, but in the funny way, I was single most of my life...like they said, maybe we are over qualificated for a true relationship :))).
How are you beautiful? I am 36 year never married ,no kids. Would you like to start new relationship with you .if you interested then contact me here.. online.8788@gmail.com. take care. Thanks
I'm the anxious avoidant one. I hate getting close to anyone for the fear of being hurt. The problem is me and always blamed the other person. But now I know it's me and the lack of trust I have in people. It's stems from my child hood where both parents were always fighting, I was thrown from pillar to post around the family. My mum never hugged me or told me she loved me and grew up thinking it was normal. So with relationships in my past I've ran away from them before I get too hurt. The only things I got right in life and knew couldn't be taken away are my 5 beautiful children whom I absolutely love and adore. Both my marriages broke down because of the fear of intimacy, my 1st marriage was violent I was only 18 that ended really bad. My 2nd marriage was lacking communication both ways it lasted 11 years how I'll never know. We were always fighting verbally because of this. I've had a few relationships since then but I've always ended them as the fear of getting close was dreadful and the other stuff forget it. I've been single 3 years now and intend to stay that way forever. I'm working on my insecurities but to open my heart to any man frightens me
Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you NOW it means you're pretty sexy and you're taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with
I am luckily the secure type. That’s why it’s easy for me to meet women. Whenever a woman is not into me, it’s nothing personal. I also don’t mind being alone and independent. Never could understand why people needed others too much. It’s because I come from a loving family. I know I will have a girlfriend in the future, but it has to be mutual interest. I also have a great group of friends instead of relying on quantities of friendships. It’s all about quality and having a good time in life with people that are simply good.
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Transparently brave personal vlog, I hope you'll get to be whole when you seek first the God who knows our imperfection yet loves us the most. May you allow Jesus in your life! :) God bless
WOW who knew this video would reach so many people! It was one of my first ever created. Thanks for the amazing comments everyone. I just created this update about my relationship status (I'm 40 years old now): ua-cam.com/video/TuVTWv8ckvU/v-deo.html
Keep living it up dude lol 🤣🤙
Justin you have created a great online discussion that is insightful and very relatable 😀
Are you still single????
Because being single is not a problem. Not knowing how to be alone is.
Lmao stfu
John-Sebastian Barrera yes! So true
One word MGTOW
Something bout a red pill
Being single is not bad at all. I've had like 5 or 6 gilfriends, and im now 25 and single. Im way happier alone now, than with wrong person.
I'm 44, single for almost 19 years. It's no problem, I think I'm going to stay that way the rest of my life!
The worst part of being single is when your family members constantly question you why you’re not married with kids🤦♂️. They even give you advice that you didn’t ask for.
@F*CK Kayfabe Divorce ruins men financially and most marriages end in divorce.
You just ignore them
@F*CK Kayfabe hahahah please tell me a better joke
Correct
I get it all the time seriously 😒 wtf I don’t want to marry
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THANK YOU!!! Jez! 5 minutes of intro for a 10 minute video!?!? Come on!
U earned my respect.
Thanks
I wondered if it was ever going to! Thanks for that.
Thanks!
Single and lonely is the new normal in today's era. All the best .
It’s not so bad, be comfortable by yourself
It’s normal for me. 1 month single
Why today
In history, present and future
People, saints, sadhu lived single, healthy, spiritual
And happily
Absolutely I don’t need a relationship in order to be happy ❗️‼️
Just turned 38 and single. Most of my guy friends are stuck in misearble marriagies or divorced with kids, custody battles/alimony etc. The grass is always greener. I'm not settling down unless I meet an my absulute queen, 10/10 in all categories
but marriage is about compromise, and once both ppl in the marriage stop compromising or being understanding/ respectful, things start to fall apart. you'll never find a woman that is 10/10 in all categories because she doesn't exist, it's about finding someone who is willing to make compromises and you also gotta be open to doing the same
Absolutely true
For me being single is NOT problem, but to others it seems to be very big problem!
Society likes to make everyone live identical lives with no deviation
living single is good make money and enjoy it yourself and if you have family take care of them and the problem is single in older age but if you have younger siblings not problem
Until you're well off and if you're mentally, physically and financially able to handle it then don't stop from getting married ✌️
@@samiuddinomer2538 Easier said than done. How do some people find romance so damn easy?
Fuck others.
Maybe you're single because you're not stupid.
Lol
Being single and poor is an absolute nightmare, I feel trapped in a cage, you hear all these advises about enjoying your time and freedom to travel, practice hobbies, meet new people but the problem here is you need money to do those things.
I completely understand you
I know how you feel. Similar lifestyle
Better than being poor with kids. You'll be trapped forever.
@Pablo V check out "The Richest Man in Babylon"
@@accidentalindigo7916 me too
It's because you can't get to the point!
What's your point? 🤔
@@JustinBrownVids maybe because it took 4 minutes to start actually talking about the reasons and the theory.. At around 4 minute Mark you start taking about the first type of relationship.. that's what he meant by 'you can't get to the point' .. too much filler stuff with your brother etc
Thank you!!!
3min in and he's still going on about his brother and his muscles and his youtube channel.
It's 2018. People have short attention spans and will click on the next video if you don't get straight to the point.
@@JustinBrownVids you are slow, did you Mom hit you on the head? Maybe beat you with wet socks?
Gez!! Right!?!?
39 & still single here. Spent most of my adult life being single. Interesting view on personal responsibility and types etc.
Make youtube video so can watch
Yeh come live on YT
39 too
@@stpatrickcentre7694 go fish anywhere else
Jonathan nnnnnnnn
Aaarrghh! I’m not sure. I’m also 36, single and have been single for most of my adult life. I thought the same as you - be happy and the person will come (this is also reinforced by friends, family and everyone else). I very much want a parter, but I’m also pretty comfortable alone and it takes a lot of effort to date. Thanks. I’m going to do some reading and research.
Also... the finding of the computer cable kept me watching!! Ha ha ha
Haha glad the cable helped ;-)
I normally don’t like to piggyback on other people’s comments... but this one basically says word for word what I wanted to express! I think I’m type 3 too btw. Thanks for the video!
Boba I know exactly what you mean 😉
Im a 36 year old virgin myself and will be one for the rest of my life.
I also know why I'm single... Because I love my life! :)
Don't want to ruin it just yet...
Keep on loving it!
That's where I am. I have an AMAZING life, and it's going to take someone equally or more amazing to take me away from it. Share with someone? Sure, we all want that, but getting into a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship is just going to lead to unhappiness and lack of fulfillment. That's the avoidant type in me. I have a great career, building a charity foundation, have a side job, traveling the world now just to take pictures (heading to Australia and New Zealand next so his accent was AWESOME :) )... I don't have time for games or someone who needs to "figure themselves out". Call me when you know who you are. I know it sounds harsh, maybe even bitter, but I've got a pretty good thing going on here. Not ready to mess it up.
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I’m with you on that. I’m 38
@@JustinBrownVids $$$YEARGH$$$
Am 28 single and so scared of falling into arms of a lousy person,I love myself so much ,I dont want to be messed up ,its weird
I completely understand! I'm extra careful because I have a kid..
It's OK.
“I love myself so much I don’t want to be messed up” ...... 💯 so perfectly put! And that’s exactly me!
take your time you'll love someone
You are actually normal .The world set up this shit so we destroy our lives living up to those fake standards.
I'm 36 and single also, best decision ever!!
I'm single and 36 and it most definitely isn't my decision. Peoplr seem to think you choose either or, but it isn't always like that. Women just plain hate me and always have
I'm 27 and single and I've had a few girlfriends. Being in a relationship just isn't as good as you think it would be.
Hi
Who cares if somebody wants one , let them decide if it's right or not
I'm 30 and I have only had one relationship that went for a year. I found myself emotionally suffocating and subsequently my confidence dwindled as my ex towards the end of the relationship started micromanaging everything I was doing until she got me at the breaking point where I called it off. The only advice I have to say is that it is better to be single than be with someone who is possessive.
Wow I turn 30 this upcoming month and I just went through the same thing. Glad I am not alone.
I have to say the same thing brother ..
@@Bobobaggins1380 Definately not alone mate, in fact I think that feeling is more common than I thought, and seeing all the breakups in my social circles is proving that it's an issue.
@@kithu1231 Yeah it's quite a common feeling. I think the issue is that alot of women see a man as a project and try to change them. I find this to be a very toxic way to handle a relationship.
Yeah I get this
I'm 42 and never had a girlfriend. So its doable. I just focus on my purpose and passion and lift weights like an animal. Red pill all day bitches 😎
Omg I thought I am alone at age 36 still single never met anyone, but you guys made my decision stronger than ever before. I will go on like free man. Come on guys single life is full of enjoyment.
Your comment comes off like you’re in denial
how you please yourself? toys? isnt hugging real man better?
Most men are on the red pill factor so MGTOW.
I'm currently 36 and still single. I am actually proud of it and wouldn't change it for a thing.
Same it’s not all bad. At least my life is peaceful. I spend most days relaxing in bed. People need to be comfortable with being alone
@@natevic1867 I personally think that the idea of being in a relationship is selfish to me. It is mutual since both want companionship and security. My hobbies bring all that for me.
what a Chad (no pun intended)
@@chadguindon6909 don't you feel a crave for human touch? In the emotional level
@@Joao-de9gl Why would I want a partner?? Oh, for companionship, sexual satisfaction and financial security...But that is selfish to me!!!!
I am the anxious avoidant type as well... if I get in a relationship I become codependent and loses my head.. :(
Same
I am 32 . I feel 22. I look 25. Energy level is 30. I m getting good options. I am happy. I m improving month by month. I m attracting better every month. I look better than i looked a decade back. I carry myself better. I can afford better. Life is rocking. I avoid drinking and partying. I have a friend circle a big one. But i hardly meet them cuz i m so busy with myself and watching such videos :p
I’m 32 years old as well and I’m loving it
I'm also 36, still single and been single most of my life. Well it's hard to figure out life. But the point is that i had so much disappointments that i finally evolved as the anxious avoidant person. And no matter how hard I tried to find someone, if the vibe isn't there, you can't do anything about it. It doesn't depend on you. It's there or it's not. It also has a lot to do with modern day society, this technology distract us too much. It's like there's lesser and lesser place for love these days. It's also because of the dating apps, all this abundance of pple, and the fear of missing out. Well it's a big pile of reasons, most of them we don't even realize. Thanks for the vid. :)
I think for me it was never wanting to settle, just to say I have a boyfriend. Society puts so much pressure on us. Like, if we dont meet the " Norm" their must be something wrong with us. I have always been content being single. If I happen to meet someone I'm crazy about then great, but, I'm not looking. This video was definitely helpful though. Being in a relationship, I would definitely be more the secure type. 🤓👌
Yes!
Trish Silva yes you most definitely spoke for me! Thank you! 😁❤️🙌🏾
I disagree. It's just that Jane Austin and Walt Disney ruined us all with unrealistic expectations about finding an ideal personal match. In reality marriage was just a convenient financial arrangement for the division of labor and bringing up children prior to technology. It was usually arranged within your social class as was deemed most beneficial to you, or more likely the family, and the community, or the kingdom. Or it was forced due to impropriety resulting in pregnancy. Both parties were more or less forced by the community, and the harshness of nature, to just make it work regardless of the quality of the match; even if he was abusive or a player, even if she ran up endless debt and continually f**ked every dude in the neighborhood other than her husband. Although small communities tended to police both parties from getting too crazy with such behaviors as it could easily disrupt the entire community.
The idea of soul mates, personality matches, attraction, and love being a factor is mostly an extremely recent creation by idealists like author Jane Austin and the Walt Disney movies within just the last couple hundred years.
Now that men and women aren't directly dependent on each others labor for survival, and we are rich enough from technological advances that society relaxed social and legal enforcement of monogamy, every relationship is just a luxury that can, and statistically will be, disposed of whenever it is convenient, usually by the woman as women initiate 70+% of divorces and are of higher sexual market value than most men due to being the limiting factor in reproduction.
The reason relationships don't work anymore is because we aren't forced to make them work. Half of marriages end in divorce, about 2/3 of the "successful" ones are just held together for the sake of the kids or because it's cheaper to keep her. Only about 10-15% of "successful" marriages are actually happy. It was never about your/my/our happiness.
Tldr, there is nothing wrong with you. We are all just to rich and spoilt and socially atomized to make relationships work anymore. The collapse of religion is also a factor, but religion itself has been failing for the same reasons.
Disney love is what everyone would want ;) and everyone can make it real lol... btw when people fall in love, they act exactly like that)) so they just should keep it with hard work! 90-year-old happy couples exist.
I love this comment its soo true
100% A+
A grown men blaming cartoons for their decisions
I should sue walt disney
Attachment theory was such an eye opener for me. I was an anxious codependent who kept going after avoidants who reminded me of my parents distant ness when I was a kid. I realised I had to stop looking to partners to fill the void and work on healing my inner wounds myself
Im 29 years old female and a little bored right now because of the lockdown with me myself and i 😂 been single for 3 years 😂
I’m here for u what’s good
I'm also single, tired of headaches in my life just decide to move on with my life alone, free stress
You did well
“Yes, the problem is you” lol I know...I’m 33 and I am still single, too. I used to be anxious+avoidant, the worst you can be. However, I dated a guy this year for over three month and after that I see where my problem is. At first, I concentrated on his problem, and then I finally realized I have problems and they are real lol most of it stems from insecurities. And insecurities really just a by product of not loving myself. So I went on a journey of self-love! It took me little over six months of meditation, introspection to know myself once again and learn to love myself. My goal is to get to be the secure type, there is a way out so is all just time, perseverance, and mentality.
Any tips Gee? Also single and curious to find out what up with me too lol
@@wasimh2104 I think the self-love journey actually bring me peace and that’s the best gift I can give myself. Peace is very hard to reach in life. I was able to dissect and heal my childhood wounds, inner child issues. I am definitely happier than before, but I’m not concentrating on finding partnership in life or even friendship. Not sure why, I don’t have a need or want for that. I’m open and happy to know someone but again, I am very introverted, I don’t really go out and meet anyone lol okay with that though. Happy and content with my life right now, I guess I’m just living in the moment. And I’m not even going to try to be someone I’m not, just for friends or lovers. A “lifetime” is too long to try to be someone you are not just so you are not single. People who loves you will love your true and authentic self, not your masked self. I’d rather be my true self and live my life, but I am open to build friendship or love, whatever will come will still come 😆
Hello am asingle looking go a relationship if you are interest message me on hangout js3838165@gmail.com
I've only learned about the term co-dependant, and that's why many women stay in abusive relationships unfortunately. That's why women need to begin to like themselves and not be driven to seek approval at any cost, even though society has tried to condition us this way.
@@KitKat-ob6nz for real…! We need not focusing on external validation from outside world. We should see our own self worth. That changes the game!
I was dating someone who was almost just like you. Avoidance issue, living all around the world and built a lifestyle to justify his non-commitment. He was 41 and still single. Never had a long meaningful relationship. It was very hard for the both of us to try to make it work. 150 days is how long we managed.
The relationship ended and I ended up blaming myself for the entire situation. Thank you for the video. It is refreshing to see someone like that admitting to it, trying to understand and adjust. Somehow it helped me a little to let go. Good luck :)
Rine C me too, I may think that people that travel a lot is really escaping from themselves, but It’s like the dog pursuing its own tail at the end. I was devastated and feeling unworthy It took me a long time to heal because I’m really anxious. How old are you Rine?
Im 39 and single. Throughout my 20's, I was lucky enough to meet and date some awesome ladies. I do look back and wonder if I messed up and let someone special go. The truth is, I was immature and always thought I had my whole life to settle down with someone. Even when someone I really liked dumped me, I didn't dwell. I,m social, confident and friendly, so keep thinking one day I will meet that special someone. I think if you go looking to hard, you will end up with the wrong person. Im 40 next year. Where did the time go?
I can relate :). Will be 37 soon. Late 20s and early 30s I met some good women, but I didn't pursue them. Kept thinking I can always find someone better. What an arrogant fool I was.
Comments like these are so very helpful. Thank you for opening up giving us a glimpse into the life of introverts. You've given me so much to consider. You deserve to find someone special and I pray you have or you will.
Being single is ok. You will meet your match soon.
Life is boring without a partner
@@willstaxx0730 life is more boring with a partner. I've done both, single is much better for freedom.
I am 38 and still single..I can relate to this..thanks..
Glad you can relate
Gemini 1980 Are you in the United States?
Im 36 and a virgin myself.
I'm 38
💑👫👪💏😍❤am single
Being single allows you to live life to its fulliest!
I took a step back at 36 and saw a landscape full of attractive but with "ugly personalities." I stopped dating at 16 because I wanted to graduate High School on-time. As I've gotten older a stability was there but I wasn't grasping it. My dad asked why I chose to stay single but at the time I just did not have words for an answer. Unfortunately, I found that answer weeks before he died unexpectedly an ocean away.
I fee ya, bro... Alot of times, even living parents wouldn't understand; let alone DEAD ones. They dun understand how ya feel cuz they just can't see you at all. And things can get even alot harder to see when they're 6 feet under. Just save up yer money 'n dun let NOBODY stop ya from livin' a happy free life!
I think this video is more about your bro getting a laptop cable which I am happy he got 😀
Glad you enjoyed that side of the story!
I'm also single
I don't want to marry
Single + alone = happy life.
Single means completley single virgin
32 and I stopped looking for a girlfriend about 4 years ago due to moving back into my parents after a bad house share experience. Since then, I have been saving for a home and have been without transport to cut costs:- I felt that sacrifice to save made my situation unpractical to date at the time. I did a lot of jet setting and travelling in my mid 20's until covid as well, but I am increasingly feeling I need to start dating and settle down at my age. Not so much fun anymore, everyone my age in my town is paired off and on the weekends I'm becoming increasingly isolated in young bars as I'm too old for the student crowd now and am ending up drinking to excess in older social cliques.
Yeah, dating after age 30 becomes way worse and it won't improve.
I'm currently 36 and single but I'm not proud of it.
I didn't do anything wrong but I've been sabotaging myself most of the time under the illusion I still have time.
Now I'm 36 trying to mentally scrub off whatever the duck happened to me once more
and why is being single a problem?
I don't think it is a problem
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It's only a problem if you make it one
@@Kenroy_Tatoute Of if you don't want to be single.
Its not bad at all. Problems comes from society, parents, family pressure, society looks at you like at idiot or monster, and they are still being 20 years straight in toxic relations, i know some men, whose lost their homes, hundred thousands of euros after divorce. I think if u are happy in relationship u are - be in relationship, but dont try to reanimate relationship that died 5 years ago. If u are alone and happy? Great. If u are not happy and alone? Find something that gives you a joy. Learn how to live alone;)
In my 30s n yet single single nearly 5 years “ “ no man likes or interested in me” I got no friends since years been alone so many years” I love my life bein single “ sad ☹️ world” is hard bein single but it the best way to stay safe!!
Thank you dear but i suggest you redo the video in a quiet place away from loud music and lots of distractions
lama zeitoun Agree 🤨
How are you doing lama
I've been single since 2017 and the problem is the more I get used to having my house to myself the harder it gets lol,
I've almost created and comfort barrier ,its always easy just to relax in your own company after work😂
Absolutely.
@@mrsrdrgz its going to be so hard to give this freedom up,
Straight from work to my tv at home haha how do you change that
@@danbruno5945 I have no idea either. Let's find out how. 😩
@@mrsrdrgz we must find another woman you also loves living alone and that drives,
A 2-3 times per week relationship haha
@@danbruno5945A man rather for me. lols.
Yes, I am. Been used to being alone and kinda love it.
I am 36 and single too. This video was great. I am the secure type but now as l get older km getting lonely and l now need companionship more than ever. Thank you for this video
Life is boring without a partner
@@willstaxx0730 some people doesn't have a choice
37 and single here too. I don't regret it one bit since I get laid every now and then and get to still have all the freedom to explore new things.
do you live in a society/ country where free-perception of "single is a bad thing" or conservative society?
How :)
Show me the way Mustang GT! Show me the way! 🤣👍 But yeah what's your experience in ending up with a life like that? If you don't mind me asking... And do you get to get laid with different people or one other person?
I'm 39 single most of my life as well. Read that more than 50% of people in my country the USA are single. I would say I am the secure attachment type. The reason I'm single is I just don't put effort into changing it. I don't ask people for dates ever, as a bisexual man I see lot's that interest me too. As a Christian man foremost I surrender it all to Jesus, I'm fine if I spend the rest of my life single Jesus is enough. My house just became empty when my Mom went to be with the Lord a few weeks ago, the singleness thoughts are more profound now in my grief so I found this type a video thanks up loader.
Nice
I pray Lord give you strength to carry your lost. And your story is amazing. How you survive in early 25s to 39 in the majority of "marriage" community? The perception and intimidation get so often and how?
I'm Age 36 myself and the main reasons I'm single are the following:
Diagnosis of Aspergers Syndrome as a teenager in secondary school meaning I don't have strong enough social skills for a relationship.
I've NEVER embraced the drinking culture in the small country of Ireland where I'm from.
When you are redpilled you are automatically a secure type
❤THIS!!
Same here 30 yrs old and single. Some of my friends just stopped talking to me as they see no value in me since I’m with no one.
Yeah, so many women nowadays with their very high unrealistic expectations.
I'm single because I'm not pretty and very introverted lol. Not all women have unrealistic standards :) All I would want in a guy is similar worldviews & lifestyle, similar humour, cares about his health & cute smile. Is that a lot?
Edit: and loves animals 😄
Even on the dating apps all these woman want is someone funny, holding convos, genuine, likes to laugh. I do all that and I get nothing so wtf and I’m cute too. Lol
Yeah, I am 6'6 30 years old and single all my life xD Guess height doesn't help also.
@@rudy1999 lol your single by choice
@@rudy1999 it’s luck too.. I’m in my 40’s & single life is boring without a partner believe me
I mirror you. Definitely a workaholic and really into my work. Avoidance of intimacy is me, number 3. Hopefully I can dig deeper now having this awareness and be more aware if my patterns. Thank you!
Somewhere deep down my heart, I already knew I am 'avoidant' type. I always felt that I was different than others so people couldn't relate to me. This video help me to find out why I am the way I am right now. Thanks for sharing!
get to the point. watching this video reminds me all the damn time i have to wait for my ex putting on makeup when we went out.
Glad I remind you of your ex
In an austarilian accent...lol
I'm type 4, had a really bad abusive childhood so that type makes sense. 36 and been a alone most my life, had some really terrible luck too. Given up on finding somebody now & hardening myself to the lonely painful reality of it. Good video, all the best.
Thanks for sharing
No no, it will happen. If you're anxious and avoidant you can re-program yourself in becoming more assertive and comfortable. But you have to get active, do things you really feel uncomfortable with, make a fool of yourself, fall and stand up again. Repeat this and you will get less anxious. Doing this already makes you less avoidant. Good luck!
@@JustinBrownVids I have trust issues with women and I always hold back when women give that eye contact like (I want you ) and these type of woman are mostly married or have boyfriend .I hold back cause my mind say if she is ready to cheat for you she will cheat on you too.
also most women now a days they are single mothers I stay away when it comes with kids.
so which type do I fit in ?
i give advice to men to stay single.Women rip men off.I know i have there.I rather have my beautiful car.At least ican trust her.
Justin. I am 59 yrs , alone and single but I realized to be me and to live happy by myself. Intimacy well I good by myself. Tired of people want to tie me down.and run my life. I am happy being myself most of the time.🇧🇧☺
Bro ur my inspiration
My Goddd.........at 59 I believe uve dated
Gentleman! Focus on what's great about being single - Time to chase your goals, travel without responsibility, move to improve career prospects... and best of all complete FREEDOM. :D
❤this! Great advise!
Sir ur my inspiration I just make mind I will living single forever I just decided that whatever save for money my whole life half I will give to my family and half I will donate for poor people needs
If you're a single woman at 36 .. Your to picky.. If you're a single man at 36 your not tall or rich .. Do to women are to picky .. Girl power boys .. It's all that matters..
I read the book few months ago. It was interesting to do a self-assessment and I think age, experiences, and growth moved me from the 4th to the 1st-secure type. Still single but I am at peace where my life is, and I won’t settle for the sake of companionship. Same values are not easy to find at certain age, but I live my life happy and with open heart, as you never know where God will allow you to cross paths with your special ONE. Never close your heart :) Life is beautiful and even as single you have a purpose. 😁
All i need is financial stability, screw the relationship. Love yourself doesn't mean you become selfish. In today's economy who the fuck wants to go through painful divorces and then pay child support and alumni. Women have figured out a way to survive. What western societies favor and cater to women.
All the single guys just travel the world
I'd like to but don:t have that money to spend to.
@@dmmentopa5754 you can go on a bike tour or walk😂
I could but I am afraid of not getting food and place to work out
I have figured out why I am single. Because I am short.BTW I am type 4. Very simple.
Wow i just have literally gotten to the end of my tether.. so many of the things you said are what ..im going thru and ..im 36 and single.. self sabotage.. anxious and avoidant.. i want to change this crappy habit
Katie Galbraith-Evans really happy to hear you want to make some changes!
There comes a point in time where intimacy does not matter anymore. i woulk like to have it, but i simply dont care about it anymore. Its become a "meh" factor
It's good to be single we came alone so I leave alone
I don't think it is wrong to be alone and single it is OK.. everyone is made different we must not change to fit stereotypes that everyone shd have partner
46, single most my life. Keep on with your vid's. Everyone has their own path.
Man, fuck that path
Gr8
please tell your story and struggle and path light
I am east asian, 43, single, and i know why I am single, I am broke. no offence.
Learn pick up social skills that come from the heart and become a more sexually attractive person as a daily long term life goal
May you be blessed
I don’t like this idea that being single is a problem. It’s not a problem. Most people are in either co-dependent or in toxic relationships. I find it that most single people don’t fall into these toxic patterns and they are actually looking for healthy love and fulfilling relationships. Even when I see my circle of friends, they are married either for convenience (just easier financially) or because they are too afraid of being alone. These aren’t the best reasons to be in a relationship.
I’ve been in two long term relationships and I can’t say I was all that happy in them. 😂. Much better to be single than to be in an unhappy relationship.
I don’t know how to be anything other than single. Parents passed away young, had no one to turn to, so I had no choice but to learn everything on my own and accomplished everything that I have today on my own. Probably wouldn’t even trust someone enough to be in a relationship either…
Hi
Fumador Caroline Hi
Am i the only one telling in some points he looks the same as Hrithic Roshan,celibrity😀
Your honesty is appreciated. Im a 35 year old single guy and your video shows that I'm not alone. Thank you.
Hi Ashley I'm Also Single
Just a cope, Gray hair, balding, glasses at 36...Sorry but It's over for you bro
😂
Same here. I'm 36 years old. I've dated, but never really been in a relationship. From reading these comments, I am happy to see that I am not the only one, but unlike all these brave people who are so happy being single, I very much want to be in a relationship. My problem is that I am very judgmental and as soon as a girl that I am into likes me back, I stop myself. I start judging her, and start finding all the reasons why she is not someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. And while I am overthinking and over analyzing, she leaves me, and I start regretting what I did and I go into bit of a depression and a phase of self-hate. This has happened TWICE now. And regret is not an easy thing to process. I am still struggling with it.
And now it's so hard to meet women, and time goes by so quickly. I am trying though... what else can I do? At least I am now aware of what my problem is.
When you begin to find yourself being judgmental, think about the last two instances, how it made you feel, and change your thought process from being judgmental to one of grace and mercy. Embrace the imperfection in the individual, as none of us are perfect. Focus on the goodness of the person, the qualities that attracted you initially (unless the bad outweighs the good, of course). I have a habit of self-sabotaging and talking myself from moving forward with good prospective partners who genuinely cared about me. Keep trying. Put yourself out there. Even alone. The right woman will find you. No one will ever find you hiding in your home all alone. Be well, and best wishes.
People have unrealistic expectations, the expense of living is too high, and also due to racism, your soul mate may be someone of a different culture
Im still single at 23 and still pure going strong cuz I choose to be. I wont settle for anything less and actually you have more time and less BS to deal with
Stupid piano in the background, video sucks , 5 minutes to get started?
I’m a new subscriber thanks for the information ❤️
First class lady how are you doing
I m 36 and single too.actually problemz will arise when we will cross 40....... Still hopes are here to find a person in life. Once we turn 40, most of hopes will languish. Thinking about the old age and alone. Was i so adamant could not find a partner. Or it was my family responsiblities what did not allow me think about me........atleast now no more sacrifices
Where r u from.bro
Whether you have a partner or not, we all die alone.
Jesus just go MGTOW, it’s cheaper and a drama free life.
MGTOW is stupid. It's the male version of modern feminism. Just take it as it is. No need to join a club or think in extremes.
31 and never been in a relationship.
Age 23 I've quit looking for a relationship and learned to focus on the most important person in my life, Me.
The majority of ppl in relationships seem to have more cons than pros..... soooooo no thanks ladies I'll stay single thank you very much :)
More cons and more to lose overtime and less to gain as well
I'm secure style and I apparently gravitate towards avoidant or anxious-avoidant. I am changing that!! You hit the nail on the head, I carry the relationships emotionally and it's exhausting!
😍😍❤❤💑👫👪💏
How are you doing Hannah
Its very different for a woman too. If you're over 29 & single, no kids, never married they all assume u smashed around in your 20s something else is wrong with u. Sad.
I had the same cognitive distortion about meeting someone. Although I still believe that passion is important, having a passion is all about loving yourself.
2 reasons you are single.... 1. you are a nice guy and 2. you don't try to talk to women. Easy way to never have a woman.
im 37yrs old and fight that part mostly traveling by myself
I'd rather be single and be sexually available to all women, although these days I never get offers from Women anyways. I am young and like to learn about my likes/dislikes, interests, and develop myself accordingly. I often find the people who are in relationships are the ones with serious insecurities and personal issues.
Thanks a lot for this video! It is one of the most realistic assertions on this topic that I have seen. I also got to similar conclusions lately. When I was young, I was more of the anxiety type, mainly due to family issues while growing up. I have become wiser and life experiences brought me to the secure type of person. Now what happens is that I attract too many avoidance type of persons., therefore, same age as you, still single. I guess there is something more to learn here :) Keep up with the videos and all the best!
Glad to hear that the video is useful and that you've got a good level of self-awareness.
Raquel how are you doing
I'm 33 still single
Wow. I think I've been a combo of anxious and avoidant, yikes. I spent a period alone and now I believe I'm the secure type. Human behavior is so interesting, we are blessed that once we "know better, we can do better." Another great and informative vid!🙌
thanks! Looks like we are similar types :-)
Hello. Thank you for sharing this video with/for us. I am from Romania and for sure the attachement problems are universal, like the emotions are. I am not sure wich type I am, but in the funny way, I was single most of my life...like they said, maybe we are over qualificated for a true relationship :))).
How are you beautiful? I am 36 year never married ,no kids. Would you like to start new relationship with you .if you interested then contact me here.. online.8788@gmail.com. take care. Thanks
I'm the anxious avoidant one. I hate getting close to anyone for the fear of being hurt. The problem is me and always blamed the other person. But now I know it's me and the lack of trust I have in people. It's stems from my child hood where both parents were always fighting, I was thrown from pillar to post around the family. My mum never hugged me or told me she loved me and grew up thinking it was normal. So with relationships in my past I've ran away from them before I get too hurt. The only things I got right in life and knew couldn't be taken away are my 5 beautiful children whom I absolutely love and adore. Both my marriages broke down because of the fear of intimacy, my 1st marriage was violent I was only 18 that ended really bad. My 2nd marriage was lacking communication both ways it lasted 11 years how I'll never know. We were always fighting verbally because of this. I've had a few relationships since then but I've always ended them as the fear of getting close was dreadful and the other stuff forget it. I've been single 3 years now and intend to stay that way forever. I'm working on my insecurities but to open my heart to any man frightens me
after some bad relationship in past , i enjoy my 36 single life lol
Mareta Kusumaningrum me too!
I’m 37 and I’ve learned to do the exact same thing I am happily single and at total peace.
it must be hurt af sigh --"
Mareta how are you doing
Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you NOW it means you're pretty sexy and you're taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with
Helpful insight. Stil.single for 31 years.😂
I am luckily the secure type. That’s why it’s easy for me to meet women. Whenever a woman is not into me, it’s nothing personal. I also don’t mind being alone and independent. Never could understand why people needed others too much. It’s because I come from a loving family. I know I will have a girlfriend in the future, but it has to be mutual interest. I also have a great group of friends instead of relying on quantities of friendships. It’s all about quality and having a good time in life with people that are simply good.
Transparently brave personal vlog, I hope you'll get to be whole when you seek first the God who knows our imperfection yet loves us the most. May you allow Jesus in your life! :) God bless
Thanks for sharing!
U pretty 😍
36 look 63
#cap