Let's hope you will find a gf who likes you and not your cash..... And kids... Man they cost a lot (time and $$$) but at the end they are a blessing. Keep it up and check the red flags.... 😆
Who knows, maybe you'll run into someone there who also made the decision to eat cans of beans in the woods -- and voila! might find someone who shares the same values and lifestyle and y'all could hit it off 🤔🤭
Been married almost 10 years. And the best advice I heard about relationships came from a kid in college that was high 90% of the time. We were sitting at a table and one of our friends was complaining about his current girlfriend. And they were all petty complaints. Our high friend said in his relaxed tone, “man… I hear you. But you know, it will always be like that and I find myself always looking for the next relationship, or I could just enjoy the current relationship to its fullest.” The table was very quiet after that.
People say that, just like new years resolutions.. and never stick to it, very few.. ladies get offered a lot often, especially if they are fit for one day a week..so you can be rich and atill good looking alsp, and she will want an experience with a different kind of person.. is what it is, even models cheat
yeah i remind my self all the time I know exactly what I have with my wife, and I do not want to trade it in for anything else. the devil you know is better then the devil your dont.
@@mikezerker6925 the second half of your comment is coming off quite douchey mate. I mean if your feel the need to self proclaim you ain't a douche... chances are
I clicked on this video half expecting Humphrey to show how strategically staying single has increased his net worth 😂 Jokes aside, I'm lucky enough to be married but I have to ponder a lot how much luck played a factor. I'm all about self-improvement, introspection, etc. However, I met my wife before starting the work I do today. Had that not happened, I wonder how likely it would be for me to date today. I also commonly say "If it weren't for the existence of one person, I'd probably be single right now." and also think that's true. Sometimes we just haven't met the right person, I think. If I could give advice to my single self, I'd try to give him the confidence to recognize that. In some ways, it's quite hard! Still watching the video as I'm typing this, but I think a lot of people can find the video relatable. Very interesting topic!
Been single since I was 28. I'm 35 now and accomplished more goals than I've ever had been. Zero debt, bought a house in 2019, and working on my well-being. If the right person comes, I'll think about it.
100%. I think that's the healtheir approach. Especially now. It's harder to take care of and learn "us" let alone, with two. As a guy, I think it's best to wait, women..um.....not sure...lol
I'm better off single... Dating over the span of 15 yrs (20-35) was a drain on my physical, mental and emotional health, not to mention all the money I wasted on dates... I gave up dating and now I'm wealthier than I've ever been with zero stress and at peace!! I have embraced my single lifestyle.
Totally agree. We should be a separate category on its own. I’m done with marriage and relationships, I have a son, a house, a good tech career, life has been so much better and easier just being single, not having to service another person feels great lol
free to travel to wonderful vacation destinations too! go to South America, Asia, Europe, Australia, Hawaii, Vietnam, Thailand, Spain, Korea, and go meet girls there.
Props to you for not forcing a relationship or feeling the pressure to get in one if you didn’t feel the timing in your life wasn’t right and you wanted to feel more established.
On Okcupid these days, I could send a message to any number of women currently living in Kenya, the Philipines, or Singapore. Everyone in the UK has apparently just given up, or is on their their marriage, fourth kid, and has an entire menagerie of cats and dogs.
As someone married for almost fifteen years, sometimes when we talk with other married people about what dating is like now for our single friends, we agree that it's like we caught the last helicopter out of 'Nam.
Although I agree with you, I still had to date in this current environment. It is the worst 😬. Thank goodness for my current boyfriend. He's such a a great dude and I feel like I found a unicorn in the wild (I met him at work).
Happily married woman here 🙂 You brought up good points! Just give it time and the right lady will come into your life. I do think one factor that is important in a relationship is making sure that your partner has a similar mindset when it comes to money and handling finances. My husband and I openly talk about spending habits, financial goals and everything in between. I think it’s a huge factor in building trust, confidence, and openness in our relationship.
My 2 cents for a happy relationship. * be honest with each other * be intentional with the time you spend with each other * be considered of each others struggles * discuss your finances with each other * want to help your partner develop, succeed and grow personally and or their career. * have similar interest when it comes to intimacy * be kind to yourself and your partner. You are going to f things up at some stage, but if you have done the above it will merely be a stumble in the relationship and will make you stronger. *
Wow some really spot-on commentary on the challenges of modern dating. Have felt these things too and it's become so clear to me how much better IRL interactions are (usually). And couldn't agree more that the right person will come along when you least expect it if you're doing all the things to improve YOURSELF as a person first (and putting yourself out there, also important). You got this Big H
I'm an outlier, but I've been with my husband since high school. Timeline: met in 2007, started dating in 2009, married in 2021. When we started dating, both of us were broke as a joke and his family was facing the threat of foreclosure, but I had faith in him. I used to ask my dad to help pay for his SATs or AP exams since my dad always believed in education. My husband has always been intelligent and prinicipled, and even when he was unemployed or making little money, it was true that he had direction. Same for me. I wasn't always making much financially, but I kept studying and pushing forward with my MSN. Now, our household income is $200k, and this is from a couple who spent their first date sharing a combo at Carl's Jr.
You stood by him when he was building himself, that says a lot about your character. He's got one of the good ones lmao. I wish you a long happy life together ! God bless you !
I met my wife in San Francisco when I was 23. We were both broke and decided to move out together. We were fortunate to be able to find good jobs and purchase a home. We have been together for 30 years and have two kids in college. We were also able to save enough in a 529 plan to cover each of their college costs. Now we are on track to retire early. I am not sure if I necessarily want to. retire in the Bay Area though. The homelessness, crime, traffic, high taxes, cost of living and rude people all make me want to relocate.
Woman here. While there are women that want someone that makes money, i was one that wanted to find someone that believed in personal growth and has realistic expectations about money and the amount of work it takes. I was also, and still am, someone that was going to compete in salary and my significant other would be a partner and be ok if i made more sometimes. An equal partner with an open and growth mindset who was kind was the most important thing and i found him pretty quickly through online dating. Weve been together for 10 years, each making nice tech salaries and still argue over whos paying when we have shared accounts. Find someone who's kind and who wants to be an equal partner, then check their ambition. Youll be good approaching it like that.
the word partner is a big problem in business you search for a partner in a relationship you search for a girlfriend wife ... men dont care about women careeer or degrees i want a wife a good mom for my kids a plesant and fun person
@@pentrubarbatiThe word partner literally means two people engaging in the same activity. So nope not at all a problem to say partner for an intimate relationship. Both should be supported, loved, and both give and take from each other. The way you say it makes it seem like she’s a slave to take care of everything and what she wants doesn’t matter.
@@BeeTimesTwo and your response and use of the word slave îs why dating in the west this days îs not worth it no point in any explanation You know better ...
As a women, I agree with all that you said of what women like and less about how much money a man makes and where he is in life. Growth mindset, personality, and potential matters. I think that goes with the whole "growing old together" because the goal is to grow together and you need ambitions and commitment to each other to make that happen. Even during rough times.
Female here, I agree completely with what you said. I’ve been single for about 6-7 years as well. Ive tried dating apps but it’s not for me so I’ve basically given up 😂. Good luck finding your partner and wishing you all the best ❤
If it happens, it happens. Things always work out for a reason. Been married for 43 years. She’s has the most beautiful heart & soul in the world. I’m lucky & blessed to have her in my life.
I did my own version of speed dating in 2012, quick coffee shop dates after meeting on apps that gave me good insight to see if I wanted to go on a second date. Then I found my soon to be husband and we talked and texted for two days straight. I actually went to his house for our date (on a military base so it was safe-ish lol) and we started talking about marriage after two weeks and got married after six months. This coming May will be our 11th anniversary. Sometimes you can over analyze a potential relationship to death before it even gets started and you forget to just be in the moment and feel if someone is right for you. There is no perfect person, there’s just two people that are committed to loving each other first. Trust me, after a decade, you will be different people no matter what you do. You need someone to that will change with you, support you, and always be your biggest fan. ❤
Met my now wife on Tinder and I feel so blessed everyday to have miraculously found someone with the exact same outlook on life and values as me. My previous relationships all started with common interests, and with my wife we had very few to begin with (read: none). Those things can build and grow over time, but it’s much more difficult to adjust views on money, family planning, and career. Once you have that compatible foundation I feel that the rest of those relationship “pieces” can be obtained with a little elbow grease. Thanks for sharing Humphrey, and good luck out there!
Same here! Met my wife on Tinder in 2020. She had no "slutty" pics and that was probably how I found a good one. Kindest girl I ever met. We now have identical twin boys...and two rental properties too haha. Bless Tinder.
As one of the women that is subscribed to your channel (and a tad older than you lol), we just want someone we can trust, that isn't going to gaslight us, be supportive and have a great sense of humor. There are always these superficial people who only care about money and things. I'm sure she is out there and you will meet her when its time 💗
I agree! I’m in my 20s so I don’t expect a guy to have a lot of money because I don’t either and have just started my career. It would be nice to build with someone but it’s hard these days because many people don’t want to commit and want to stay in their own lane so it feels like easier to just stay single.
Exactly. I'm turning 38 soon. I would date someone compatible earning ok money. I think wise people understand that money can't be the glue. However, I run into the same problems: where to meet decent men. I don't want to use apps. I don't even use social media. On the other hand, I'm very fulfilled with my life. I have pretty much everything, except a romantic partner.
Humphrey, what a great video. I have been watching your videos for a while now and didn't realize you were single. I think you are adorable! I am far too old for you and probably live too far away, in Chicago, but I think this was a great testament to a "good" guy who is willing to put himself out there and actually meditates and journals about becoming a better person. You are more than good enough as you are Humphrey. Good luck on your journey to love :)
Thanks for being so honest. I love your balanced opinions. I found SF / Bay Area a bit like Neverland where nobody wanted to grow up... at least socially or romantically. Probably as a result of people being more mature career-wise earlier. That's why I moved back to Ireland... and just so happened to meet my wife within a few months.
Money isn’t everything. You worked hard for it and now you’re at the point that you need to be with someone that brings value to you. Look for someone that brings you up and not down.
Woman here - confirm regarding we want someone who is kind and supportive. Having a relatively stable man with a good head on their shoulders and sense of humor is really all we need. Dating apps have pros and cons but I agree with it creating a “grass is possibly greener” mindset which prevents both party’s from giving it a real shot.
How old are you? I’m in a similar position as you just 26. Finally found someone that has the same feelings I do on dating. This was a refreshing watch.
Humphrey, you definitely have your priorities right. You are a good looking young man. The lady that you choose to be by your side is a lucky lady. Wishing you the best
Woman here, I think what you said about what women want is correct and shows your high EQ. Surprised you're single since you're a good catch with a good head on your shoulders, so thanks for this video and "normalising" us single ones! Hope you find your solid equal partner in life 😊 Personally, I'm single since forever but for mainly a different reason. It's the thing that no-one talks about: battling with depression. It has been and is far easier to prioritise my career, not date, and spend all my time with my family and solid friends, hobbies, travel, pets, etc.
As a women, I really appreciate your perspectives. I think one of your best qualities going into dating is that you acknowledge the emotional work in yourself to be a better partner and how that matters more than your income. I think you're spot on that women want to be with someone who has a positive mindset that they can grow in life with.
I can relate. When I was 26, I thought I found “the one” but broke my heart when I discovered she cheated. I moved on to focus on my career and get my life back together for the next ten years. Eventually found “the one” and got married two years ago at 38
I'm a woman, introvert and single. I really resonated with everything you said. Dating Apps are overwhelming to me, and quite unpleasant (though for different reasons than men, I get that). I've quit, after giving it a good try. My friends insisted I "go straight for the meet", that is was a quantitative game, and that was a very, very miserable 6 months. Going back to my initial plan of hoping to meet someone in the library, or because they have a cute pet.
Amazing video! Female here and you are correct. Women want what you suggested and money alone won’t keep them unless that was all they were after. You seem like a great person and will find someone easily.
Hi Humphrey! I am Hui Ming from Malaysia. As your female watcher, I truly admire your authenticity and boldness in sharing something so dear to your heart! Keep doing what you are doing 😊
You.Are.Wonderful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am part of your 14.1% female subscribers. I hope you find someone DESERVING of you!! Keep up the great work. you are amazing (as we all know). Please, don't change, you are a rare one!
Thank you for sharing Humphrey. I know what it's like, dating is hard. I'm single myself. You're a smart handsome guy. She's just around the corner. Good luck with everything and can't wait for your next video.
You work for 40yrs to have $1M in your retirement, meanwhile some people are putting just $10K in a meme coin from just few months ago and now they are multimillionaires.❤️
I agree. I don’t believe a person can be an equal contributor to a healthy relationship until they are happy with who they are and where they are in life. Once those issues are resolved or resolved satisfactorily, the couple can move on and achieve life goals as a team. 😊
I met my husband at a party. I was quick to recognize he is kind (to me at least), has my back, and we have the same vision when it comes to our future. Back then we did not have very much. I am so glad we had the chance to grow up together, find our footing, and look forward to our next adventure!
Effort is very attractive. Money is important, sure, but it’s not everything. I date them for as they are now, not what they say they’ll become. I’d say focus on cultivating friendships and growing yourself, the rest are side quests, and the relationship will come when you least expect it. Best of luck
You provide a good talking point with this video! I got together with my partner when we were still young, he was still in undergrad, I had just graduated and so we never expected that the other would financially take care of the other for trips or dates or whatever it is, but we went through it anyway. There will be people out there who wants their partner to be financially stable when they first start dating, but there is something about growing together when you’re young (and financially unstable lmao) to when you finally can be financially stable together. Absolutely agree with finding a partner that has the good characteristics that you described! Also, I wouldn’t completely knock dating online lol! I’m biased since that’s how I found my partner, but we would never have crossed paths otherwise (even if we were in the same area hah!).
Hi. Admittedly, this was an unexpected video for me but I'm glad you made it. I'm a 35 year old female and I've always been single. I didn't have good relationships modeled to me when I was a kid and I basically just dived into education and making a career, putting personal life on a back burner. Now I feel like I don't even know what I'm doing as I'm just starting online dating and so far, the results are not encouraging. And a huge part of the equation is my own lack of self confidence in the dating world. We've sadly all got our own demons to deal with ☺️ Good luck on your search to all those still searching for your other half!
As a woman, I did look for someone with similar values, morals and communicates well. Unfortunately, while LA is a fun place to be, dating in LA is not fun. I think being happily single is good. If I meet someone that is happy as well and we can be happy together, even better.
The unusual way I found my now 13 year relationship was through writing a screenplay together. I’m sure this isn’t common. But what I learned was, finding a common interest and common project can really cut through the insecurities which dating brings out. Good luck to you on your journey!
We were forced into it...Can't believe how long it took (decades) for men to realize the dating/marriage system is broken and to change their behaviour. Think the internet allowed men to exchange notes, and free/shameless porn.
I never thought that you are a single man. My impression is that you have a family and prefer to take it privately. I'm turning 30 this year and still single, I can relate to you on that.
9:32 woman here. Can confirm! Expanding on “a good head on their shoulders”- a woman wants to feel supported, where you are the leader in some situations and also push her to take lead in others. As a married woman, I cannot understate how important communication, emotional intelligence and self awareness is in a relationship. For all my friends that are single girls, they’re just looking for someone with a stable job, some type of ambition, and makes them feel seen. They’ve told me some stories where dates will pull out their phones mid dinner to watch TikTok, and it was super unattractive. 😂
I agree. I find dating multiple people at a time emotionally exhausting. It's old school, but focusing on one person at a time and genuinely getting to know that person is far more interesting compared to spreading yourself thin trying to get know several representatives 😅.
I'm on the same boat: immigrant, working on my career and building a better me. I think it's better to have relationship in your 30's when you're already mature enough to know about yourself clearly. Great thing takes time. Best of luck Humphrey!
After numerous attempts at an online/in person relationship, I was fortunate to meet my now fiance and we share the same goals. I’ve been watching you for several months and I’ve started to mature financially thanks to your wisdom. There’s someone out there for you, sometimes you gotta sift through the sands a bit.
Speaking as someone happily married for 5 years with 2 awesome kiddos, I think you pretty much nailed it. I don’t think income matters all that much as long as you’re aligned in your values (e.g., FIRE asap, enjoy life to the fullest right now, have a large family with lots of kids, one partner being the financial breadwinner so the other can prioritize child rearing, etc.) and your partner makes enough to take care of themselves and isn’t looking to be a drain in any way. I also love what you said about having a growth mindset and passion/ direction being more important than having everything figured out right now. That is definitely true! I hope you find what you’re looking for! Having the right partner in life is so important, a tremendous gift.
I stopped dating when I turned 35 and finally started making decent money. I’m completely disgusted by the fact that my dates treated me differently when I picked them up in a Porsche vs. Honda and all of the sudden wanted to explore boutique stores and expensive restaurants expecting me to pay (I never did). It’s also normal these days for women to date and sleep with another guy every day treating us like disposable trash. I’m so done with this and probably never going back to the dating market again. When I want sex, I know where to go!
we were in the same class in middle school and I found your videos last year. I was so surprised at first to see you UA-cam famous but it was so delightful too! I am so pleased to see your success and I gain a lot of value from your content. I have been wondering why you are single! you have become the whole package as a man and I you will inevitably attract a woman of equal value.
I'm single as well and I'm well to do as well.... I just wanna encourage you that you should hold onto your values and beliefs. Don't let the world define you... the way you look at relationship/dating is exactly how a good man and a high valued man would look at dating 😂❤
I relate this this so much. I’m in my 30’s and have been single most of my adult life minus my early 20’s. Things have changed so much with dating over the past 10 years and it’s tough out there. At this point I enjoy being single but that is looked down on by most of society.
The struggles that women go through in online dating is different for men. Online dating is amplified. Just about all women online have tons of options. Men, (even fairly decent looking ones) have very limited options online vs in person. Women have to deal with creeps online who would not otherwise approach them in real life. Even the most average looking woman is bombarded with messages (good and bad) by tons of men. Online dating does not work for the vast majority (bottom 75 %) of men.
It’s downright dangerous to approach women in public anymore. Myself I enjoy not being in jail too much to risk interacting with the average modern woman. I don’t interact with them unless necessary at work and I definitely don’t mentor female interns anymore. There is nothing but risk there
I can’t believe I’d learn something from your channel about dating.😆 It’s good to learn things from a man’s perspective. I’ve always thought that meeting people face-to-face is better than online dating, but I think that’s just close to impossible nowadays. Love this video and I completely agree with what you said. Attitude and values > money. ❤
love the different content humphrey! as a woman, i agree w your take that ambition, growth mindset, and generally being a kind, thoughtful, caring, and funny person are the things that matter to me the most. just do your best to be honest and brave in love and you will be happy in the end no matter the result.
Your journey of dating is pretty relatable and sounds real. I am retired single no kids. A good marriage a lot has to do with luck, meeting a person with mutual attraction, similar values, long term goals, and matching life style. Even then, illness and accident can break up the union. Don’t be too picky and enjoy each day together. Wish you luck.
That was a brave video to put out there, but I think you hit the nail on the head. I am so grateful that I met my wife in high school, just before the era of MySpace, as modern social media makes the dating scene a wreck. Good luck on your search. Best advice I could offer is to seek social groups within activities, such as cycling, hiking, academics, art, etc.
Yes, I will confirm. Hope to find a good guy, with a good head on his shoulders who has a general idea of what he wants. Sometimes it seems like a tall order, but I believe it's not too much to ask. Glad I found your channel and that I can learn from you. I love your content but I love that you chose to diversify with this video.
You’re right! I am happily married and my husband’s positive mindset and loving personality is definitely what makes it work! Before we met he was working ALL the time and now he works around 6h per day and makes twice as much - if you find someone who is truly important to you and that makes you happy and that you want to continue to impress and care for the money will come…it’s not either or!
When I had a steady romantic partner, I would inevitably ask myself, "Why am I in this relationship?" Now that I've been single for a couple of years, my friends ask me, 'Why aren't you in a relationship?' Can't please everyone. When you find someone, make sure you are taking care of each other's needs, including the need for time apart.
As a woman, Same ! All I need is MONEY for my personal project and being HEALTHY ! Happy and peace for being SINGLE ! I don’t need the right or wrong person in my life !
Reasonable women that wants a good guy that can provide at least the following lifestyle : - a 50k wedding - a 700k house - instagram vacation twice a year - a nice car - private school for children - fancy restaurants. But money doesn't matter.
very good understanding of reasonable women nowadays. Humphrey, you should come to China for the top girls in the world with much much less competition in the supply side of guys.
Answering the question at 8:55 At least for me all that you're saying is correct. It's financially hard on all of us nowadays, and while it's nice to dream of a sugar daddy to solve all our financial woes, as I get older I notice I care a lot more about a guy's character (especially if I'm going to be spending the next X amount of decades with him). Is he disciplined, reliable, and dependable? Does he have values he strives to uphold, and approaches challenges with a growth mindset? Is he open-minded? Even if he doesn't have the money now, do I see he has a plan and is actively executing on it? (in reference to what you talked about ambition and a good head on their shoulders) Do I feel safe and comfortable around him? Do we approach problems as a team instead of unreasonably blaming the other? And ultimately, do we get along and share the same excitement for life? Can I see us building out something together? Poor finances is often a point of contention in relationships. Having a certain level of solid financial standing helps avoid that. But beyond that, yeah -- all of the above about character holds true.
Dating apps hurt me so much. Getting 900 swipes did not improve my life. I'm 30 and I met an average looking guy at a party with $90k income but the hugest heart. I couldn't be more satisfied.
😂😂😂😂 definitely nosy, I agree with your perspective on drives and potential rather than the figures. Have gone through the online dating phase, and now content and accepted that the new model just does not work for me and that’s ok 😊 but definitely appreciate the freedom to make self-aware decision that is granted to us in this era. Best of luck to you!
the advice on the money & dating section is great! it's def about values alignment, self awareness, communication, and confidence. imo often your financial situation matching can be a proxy to shared background and values that led you both to making similar career and financial decisions (especially when you are dating laterish in life, 20s/30s/40s/etc). which is why i think in the dating app-led world, a lot of people use career and money as an initial filter.
Bro literally pulled up graphs while talking about love. You need to stop thinking about it like "man seeking woman" and start thinking about it like "best friend seeking best friend". How did you meet your best friend? Do that again, but with someone you're attracted to. Find a way to find people (host a party, your friends have friends you've never met), find a person that makes you really happy, and try it out. Often when we let go and stop trying so hard, we find what we're looking for :) There are no rules pie charts graphs attractiveness salary who cares, your happiness is not a statistic. If that's being single that's okay too! Everyone is unique, it's all about being happy and finding people that make you happy. You get one life and sometimes it sucks, make the most of it.
Plz subscribe so I can get a girlfriend and live my double income no kids dream for a few years 🙏
before i have a kid i mean, not because of divorce. lol
😂. ❤
Let's hope you will find a gf who likes you and not your cash..... And kids... Man they cost a lot (time and $$$) but at the end they are a blessing. Keep it up and check the red flags.... 😆
thats the dream
You hit the nail on the head with this video, everything you feel like women want you mentioned! Hope you meet someone soon!
Dating is exhausting. I'm just going to move into the woods and eat cans of beans for the rest of my life
bruh really said he the ted kaczynski of the finance youtube game 💀💀💀
Who knows, maybe you'll run into someone there who also made the decision to eat cans of beans in the woods -- and voila! might find someone who shares the same values and lifestyle and y'all could hit it off 🤔🤭
Fresh vegetables are important too.😂
Look, the guy who doesn't read his emails
@@thebookofbrendaAnd her name would be Brenda.
Weird way to propose but “yes” 😊
hahaha :blush:
Congrats 🎉
I spit out my food when I read this
😂😂😂
Hahaha
Been married almost 10 years. And the best advice I heard about relationships came from a kid in college that was high 90% of the time. We were sitting at a table and one of our friends was complaining about his current girlfriend. And they were all petty complaints. Our high friend said in his relaxed tone, “man… I hear you. But you know, it will always be like that and I find myself always looking for the next relationship, or I could just enjoy the current relationship to its fullest.” The table was very quiet after that.
Crazy right? Focus ur mind and energy on enjoying it to the fullest wull work out better yet many don't
Facts!
People say that, just like new years resolutions.. and never stick to it, very few.. ladies get offered a lot often, especially if they are fit for one day a week..so you can be rich and atill good looking alsp, and she will want an experience with a different kind of person.. is what it is, even models cheat
yeah i remind my self all the time I know exactly what I have with my wife, and I do not want to trade it in for anything else.
the devil you know is better then the devil your dont.
You do know that we're going to need updates on your relationships now!
I'm invested.
hahaha yes
Wow didn't think you were single. You a good looking guy and don't seem like a douche
this comment 🤣 appreciate it, im workin on it
I'm a good looking guy and not a douche, yet I'm single... Women these days want all the "sixes" even average girls!
@@mikezerker6925 the second half of your comment is coming off quite douchey mate. I mean if your feel the need to self proclaim you ain't a douche... chances are
@@admiralgoodboy ??? I'm a douche cuz I said I'm not a douche?
I’m a douche and I own that shiz
I clicked on this video half expecting Humphrey to show how strategically staying single has increased his net worth 😂
Jokes aside, I'm lucky enough to be married but I have to ponder a lot how much luck played a factor. I'm all about self-improvement, introspection, etc. However, I met my wife before starting the work I do today. Had that not happened, I wonder how likely it would be for me to date today.
I also commonly say "If it weren't for the existence of one person, I'd probably be single right now." and also think that's true. Sometimes we just haven't met the right person, I think. If I could give advice to my single self, I'd try to give him the confidence to recognize that. In some ways, it's quite hard!
Still watching the video as I'm typing this, but I think a lot of people can find the video relatable. Very interesting topic!
That's why I stopped listening 3 minutes in.
Lol I was think the exact same thing. "More Single = More Net Worth". Is that a thing? ha
Been single since I was 28. I'm 35 now and accomplished more goals than I've ever had been. Zero debt, bought a house in 2019, and working on my well-being. If the right person comes, I'll think about it.
100%. I think that's the healtheir approach. Especially now. It's harder to take care of and learn "us" let alone, with two. As a guy, I think it's best to wait, women..um.....not sure...lol
I'm better off single... Dating over the span of 15 yrs (20-35) was a drain on my physical, mental and emotional health, not to mention all the money I wasted on dates... I gave up dating and now I'm wealthier than I've ever been with zero stress and at peace!! I have embraced my single lifestyle.
Totally agree. We should be a separate category on its own. I’m done with marriage and relationships, I have a son, a house, a good tech career, life has been so much better and easier just being single, not having to service another person feels great lol
Mike Z, you sound like a really good guy with a big heart.
free to travel to wonderful vacation destinations too! go to South America, Asia, Europe, Australia, Hawaii, Vietnam, Thailand, Spain, Korea, and go meet girls there.
Hell yeah 👍
I feel exactly the same. I have been single for 10 years now and I have become richer than ever.
Props to you for not forcing a relationship or feeling the pressure to get in one if you didn’t feel the timing in your life wasn’t right and you wanted to feel more established.
Indeed, it is true about online dating. So many choices and options, people really think they have “options” when they actually don’t.
Right!?
@@humphreyAlso, I don’t think gold digger girls really watching financial advice UA-cam channels, but who knows 😄
Options only apply to ladies and 5% men
@@elenaderevyanko8272 Right? Lol. That's about as common as seeing a school bus stop for gas.
On Okcupid these days, I could send a message to any number of women currently living in Kenya, the Philipines, or Singapore. Everyone in the UK has apparently just given up, or is on their their marriage, fourth kid, and has an entire menagerie of cats and dogs.
Damn I know this mans feeling the single pain post valentines… we feel ya brother!!
you are... spot on brotha haha
lol mid
Man how you gonna call me out on being nosey lmfao you got me
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I thought the same thing......🤣
As someone married for almost fifteen years, sometimes when we talk with other married people about what dating is like now for our single friends, we agree that it's like we caught the last helicopter out of 'Nam.
Fr lol
get to da choppppppaaaaa
@@humphrey😂
Although I agree with you, I still had to date in this current environment. It is the worst 😬. Thank goodness for my current boyfriend. He's such a a great dude and I feel like I found a unicorn in the wild (I met him at work).
I met my husband at 16 and we been together 14 years. I completely agree. It sounds like the dating scene out there is a mess, for everyone.
Happily married woman here 🙂 You brought up good points! Just give it time and the right lady will come into your life. I do think one factor that is important in a relationship is making sure that your partner has a similar mindset when it comes to money and handling finances. My husband and I openly talk about spending habits, financial goals and everything in between. I think it’s a huge factor in building trust, confidence, and openness in our relationship.
My 2 cents for a happy relationship.
* be honest with each other
* be intentional with the time you spend with each other
* be considered of each others struggles
* discuss your finances with each other
* want to help your partner develop, succeed and grow personally and or their career.
* have similar interest when it comes to intimacy
* be kind to yourself and your partner.
You are going to f things up at some stage, but if you have done the above it will merely be a stumble in the relationship and will make you stronger.
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Relationship is not about you it’s about we. It’s like I am a safe driver, till you’re blindsided.
“It is now the most difficult time to live in to feel like you are enough.” Amen 🙏🏻
Wow some really spot-on commentary on the challenges of modern dating. Have felt these things too and it's become so clear to me how much better IRL interactions are (usually). And couldn't agree more that the right person will come along when you least expect it if you're doing all the things to improve YOURSELF as a person first (and putting yourself out there, also important). You got this Big H
what a thoughtful comment! thank you Taylor
I'm an outlier, but I've been with my husband since high school. Timeline: met in 2007, started dating in 2009, married in 2021. When we started dating, both of us were broke as a joke and his family was facing the threat of foreclosure, but I had faith in him. I used to ask my dad to help pay for his SATs or AP exams since my dad always believed in education. My husband has always been intelligent and prinicipled, and even when he was unemployed or making little money, it was true that he had direction. Same for me. I wasn't always making much financially, but I kept studying and pushing forward with my MSN.
Now, our household income is $200k, and this is from a couple who spent their first date sharing a combo at Carl's Jr.
You stood by him when he was building himself, that says a lot about your character. He's got one of the good ones lmao. I wish you a long happy life together ! God bless you !
I met my wife in San Francisco when I was 23. We were both broke and decided to move out together. We were fortunate to be able to find good jobs and purchase a home. We have been together for 30 years and have two kids in college. We were also able to save enough in a 529 plan to cover each of their college costs. Now we are on track to retire early. I am not sure if I necessarily want to. retire in the Bay Area though. The homelessness, crime, traffic, high taxes, cost of living and rude people all make me want to relocate.
@@mocheen4837I hear Sacramento is nice, but that's from a nursing perspective for pay and COL.
Woman here. While there are women that want someone that makes money, i was one that wanted to find someone that believed in personal growth and has realistic expectations about money and the amount of work it takes. I was also, and still am, someone that was going to compete in salary and my significant other would be a partner and be ok if i made more sometimes. An equal partner with an open and growth mindset who was kind was the most important thing and i found him pretty quickly through online dating. Weve been together for 10 years, each making nice tech salaries and still argue over whos paying when we have shared accounts. Find someone who's kind and who wants to be an equal partner, then check their ambition. Youll be good approaching it like that.
Beautifully said!
the word partner is a big problem in business you search for a partner in a relationship you search for a girlfriend wife ... men dont care about women careeer or degrees i want a wife a good mom for my kids a plesant and fun person
@@pentrubarbatiThe word partner literally means two people engaging in the same activity. So nope not at all a problem to say partner for an intimate relationship. Both should be supported, loved, and both give and take from each other. The way you say it makes it seem like she’s a slave to take care of everything and what she wants doesn’t matter.
@@BeeTimesTwo and your response and use of the word slave îs why dating in the west this days îs not worth it no point in any explanation You know better ...
As a women, I agree with all that you said of what women like and less about how much money a man makes and where he is in life. Growth mindset, personality, and potential matters. I think that goes with the whole "growing old together" because the goal is to grow together and you need ambitions and commitment to each other to make that happen. Even during rough times.
Female here, I agree completely with what you said. I’ve been single for about 6-7 years as well. Ive tried dating apps but it’s not for me so I’ve basically given up 😂. Good luck finding your partner and wishing you all the best ❤
How you doin Leanne? I dig your smile 😊
It's your chance Humphrey, don't be shy
If it happens, it happens. Things always work out for a reason. Been married for 43 years. She’s has the most beautiful heart & soul in the world. I’m lucky & blessed to have her in my life.
Hey Humphrey... make your move playa 😉😅
@@deej628 Solely based on her profile photo and the comment, I will make an assumption that she is bipolar.
Great perspective on the social media part! FYI you still have my heart Humphrey! 😂❤
ahhh man thank you man, I love you and my satoshis
I did my own version of speed dating in 2012, quick coffee shop dates after meeting on apps that gave me good insight to see if I wanted to go on a second date. Then I found my soon to be husband and we talked and texted for two days straight. I actually went to his house for our date (on a military base so it was safe-ish lol) and we started talking about marriage after two weeks and got married after six months. This coming May will be our 11th anniversary. Sometimes you can over analyze a potential relationship to death before it even gets started and you forget to just be in the moment and feel if someone is right for you. There is no perfect person, there’s just two people that are committed to loving each other first. Trust me, after a decade, you will be different people no matter what you do. You need someone to that will change with you, support you, and always be your biggest fan. ❤
I love that. "Your biggest fan" there's really a lot of truth to that in a relationship.
I wish you both a long and happy life together ! God bless you !
Met my now wife on Tinder and I feel so blessed everyday to have miraculously found someone with the exact same outlook on life and values as me.
My previous relationships all started with common interests, and with my wife we had very few to begin with (read: none). Those things can build and grow over time, but it’s much more difficult to adjust views on money, family planning, and career. Once you have that compatible foundation I feel that the rest of those relationship “pieces” can be obtained with a little elbow grease.
Thanks for sharing Humphrey, and good luck out there!
Same here! Met my wife on Tinder in 2020. She had no "slutty" pics and that was probably how I found a good one. Kindest girl I ever met. We now have identical twin boys...and two rental properties too haha. Bless Tinder.
As one of the women that is subscribed to your channel (and a tad older than you lol), we just want someone we can trust, that isn't going to gaslight us, be supportive and have a great sense of humor. There are always these superficial people who only care about money and things. I'm sure she is out there and you will meet her when its time 💗
or better stay single. lol
I agree! I’m in my 20s so I don’t expect a guy to have a lot of money because I don’t either and have just started my career. It would be nice to build with someone but it’s hard these days because many people don’t want to commit and want to stay in their own lane so it feels like easier to just stay single.
Exactly. I'm turning 38 soon. I would date someone compatible earning ok money. I think wise people understand that money can't be the glue. However, I run into the same problems: where to meet decent men. I don't want to use apps. I don't even use social media. On the other hand, I'm very fulfilled with my life. I have pretty much everything, except a romantic partner.
Humphrey, what a great video. I have been watching your videos for a while now and didn't realize you were single. I think you are adorable! I am far too old for you and probably live too far away, in Chicago, but I think this was a great testament to a "good" guy who is willing to put himself out there and actually meditates and journals about becoming a better person. You are more than good enough as you are Humphrey. Good luck on your journey to love :)
thank you
Thanks for being so honest. I love your balanced opinions. I found SF / Bay Area a bit like Neverland where nobody wanted to grow up... at least socially or romantically. Probably as a result of people being more mature career-wise earlier. That's why I moved back to Ireland... and just so happened to meet my wife within a few months.
Money isn’t everything. You worked hard for it and now you’re at the point that you need to be with someone that brings value to you. Look for someone that brings you up and not down.
appreciate that. yes looking exactly for that.
The odds of finding someone like that for someone so successful like him is really hard
Woman here - confirm regarding we want someone who is kind and supportive. Having a relatively stable man with a good head on their shoulders and sense of humor is really all we need. Dating apps have pros and cons but I agree with it creating a “grass is possibly greener” mindset which prevents both party’s from giving it a real shot.
How old are you? I’m in a similar position as you just 26. Finally found someone that has the same feelings I do on dating. This was a refreshing watch.
26 here too, I agree this was refreshing to watch!
Humphrey, you definitely have your priorities right. You are a good looking young man. The lady that you choose to be by your side is a lucky lady. Wishing you the best
I appreciate that
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When I saw this notification I was like yo why yall asking him this wuestion
hahaha
Woman here, I think what you said about what women want is correct and shows your high EQ. Surprised you're single since you're a good catch with a good head on your shoulders, so thanks for this video and "normalising" us single ones! Hope you find your solid equal partner in life 😊
Personally, I'm single since forever but for mainly a different reason. It's the thing that no-one talks about: battling with depression. It has been and is far easier to prioritise my career, not date, and spend all my time with my family and solid friends, hobbies, travel, pets, etc.
As a women, I really appreciate your perspectives. I think one of your best qualities going into dating is that you acknowledge the emotional work in yourself to be a better partner and how that matters more than your income. I think you're spot on that women want to be with someone who has a positive mindset that they can grow in life with.
My GOODNESS Humphrey! A slew of excuses, and behind every one if them is fear. THAT is the root.
You’re not just calling him out 🥺
I can relate. When I was 26, I thought I found “the one” but broke my heart when I discovered she cheated. I moved on to focus on my career and get my life back together for the next ten years. Eventually found “the one” and got married two years ago at 38
Not the video I expected but I’m glad you made it and hope to see more content like this going forward
I'm a woman, introvert and single. I really resonated with everything you said. Dating Apps are overwhelming to me, and quite unpleasant (though for different reasons than men, I get that). I've quit, after giving it a good try. My friends insisted I "go straight for the meet", that is was a quantitative game, and that was a very, very miserable 6 months. Going back to my initial plan of hoping to meet someone in the library, or because they have a cute pet.
Amazing video! Female here and you are correct. Women want what you suggested and money alone won’t keep them unless that was all they were after. You seem like a great person and will find someone easily.
thank you ashley!!
Hi Humphrey! I am Hui Ming from Malaysia. As your female watcher, I truly admire your authenticity and boldness in sharing something so dear to your heart! Keep doing what you are doing 😊
Love this video man. Relatable as hell. Everything u said i agree with it.
You.Are.Wonderful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am part of your 14.1% female subscribers. I hope you find someone DESERVING of you!! Keep up the great work. you are amazing (as we all know). Please, don't change, you are a rare one!
You just nailed all of the talking points on "men going their own way". Not sure if that's intentional or not but I hope you find someone!
Thank you for sharing Humphrey. I know what it's like, dating is hard. I'm single myself. You're a smart handsome guy. She's just around the corner. Good luck with everything and can't wait for your next video.
You work for 40yrs to have $1M in your retirement, meanwhile some people are putting just $10K in a meme coin from just few months ago and now they are multimillionaires.❤️
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I agree. I don’t believe a person can be an equal contributor to a healthy relationship until they are happy with who they are and where they are in life. Once those issues are resolved or resolved satisfactorily, the couple can move on and achieve life goals as a team. 😊
Good luck Humphrey, keep us posted!
I met my husband at a party. I was quick to recognize he is kind (to me at least), has my back, and we have the same vision when it comes to our future. Back then we did not have very much. I am so glad we had the chance to grow up together, find our footing, and look forward to our next adventure!
Effort is very attractive. Money is important, sure, but it’s not everything. I date them for as they are now, not what they say they’ll become. I’d say focus on cultivating friendships and growing yourself, the rest are side quests, and the relationship will come when you least expect it. Best of luck
thank you for your comment! :)
Great advice, I agree!
Female here and agree with your statement. It is a balance on both people in the relationship on wants and needs.
You provide a good talking point with this video! I got together with my partner when we were still young, he was still in undergrad, I had just graduated and so we never expected that the other would financially take care of the other for trips or dates or whatever it is, but we went through it anyway. There will be people out there who wants their partner to be financially stable when they first start dating, but there is something about growing together when you’re young (and financially unstable lmao) to when you finally can be financially stable together. Absolutely agree with finding a partner that has the good characteristics that you described!
Also, I wouldn’t completely knock dating online lol! I’m biased since that’s how I found my partner, but we would never have crossed paths otherwise (even if we were in the same area hah!).
Hi. Admittedly, this was an unexpected video for me but I'm glad you made it.
I'm a 35 year old female and I've always been single. I didn't have good relationships modeled to me when I was a kid and I basically just dived into education and making a career, putting personal life on a back burner. Now I feel like I don't even know what I'm doing as I'm just starting online dating and so far, the results are not encouraging. And a huge part of the equation is my own lack of self confidence in the dating world.
We've sadly all got our own demons to deal with ☺️
Good luck on your search to all those still searching for your other half!
As a woman, I did look for someone with similar values, morals and communicates well. Unfortunately, while LA is a fun place to be, dating in LA is not fun. I think being happily single is good. If I meet someone that is happy as well and we can be happy together, even better.
bro your not half bad you could probably pull on of them insta baddies
wow thank you my brotha
😂😂 this comment made me laugh. What exactly is an insta baddie? 😅
@@Bella_0303he said “insta baddie” which are girls who have thousands of followers and are very pretty/hot/cute
The unusual way I found my now 13 year relationship was through writing a screenplay together. I’m sure this isn’t common. But what I learned was, finding a common interest and common project can really cut through the insecurities which dating brings out. Good luck to you on your journey!
MGTOW is a growing trend. 😢
We were forced into it...Can't believe how long it took (decades) for men to realize the dating/marriage system is broken and to change their behaviour. Think the internet allowed men to exchange notes, and free/shameless porn.
I never thought that you are a single man. My impression is that you have a family and prefer to take it privately. I'm turning 30 this year and still single, I can relate to you on that.
9:32 woman here. Can confirm! Expanding on “a good head on their shoulders”- a woman wants to feel supported, where you are the leader in some situations and also push her to take lead in others. As a married woman, I cannot understate how important communication, emotional intelligence and self awareness is in a relationship.
For all my friends that are single girls, they’re just looking for someone with a stable job, some type of ambition, and makes them feel seen. They’ve told me some stories where dates will pull out their phones mid dinner to watch TikTok, and it was super unattractive. 😂
The blue pill is still strong in this one... 🤣
I agree. I find dating multiple people at a time emotionally exhausting. It's old school, but focusing on one person at a time and genuinely getting to know that person is far more interesting compared to spreading yourself thin trying to get know several representatives 😅.
I'm on the same boat: immigrant, working on my career and building a better me. I think it's better to have relationship in your 30's when you're already mature enough to know about yourself clearly. Great thing takes time. Best of luck Humphrey!
What do you think about the concept of Sheng Nu then
Now days being single is a norm.
After numerous attempts at an online/in person relationship, I was fortunate to meet my now fiance and we share the same goals. I’ve been watching you for several months and I’ve started to mature financially thanks to your wisdom. There’s someone out there for you, sometimes you gotta sift through the sands a bit.
Speaking as someone happily married for 5 years with 2 awesome kiddos, I think you pretty much nailed it. I don’t think income matters all that much as long as you’re aligned in your values (e.g., FIRE asap, enjoy life to the fullest right now, have a large family with lots of kids, one partner being the financial breadwinner so the other can prioritize child rearing, etc.) and your partner makes enough to take care of themselves and isn’t looking to be a drain in any way. I also love what you said about having a growth mindset and passion/ direction being more important than having everything figured out right now. That is definitely true! I hope you find what you’re looking for! Having the right partner in life is so important, a tremendous gift.
I stopped dating when I turned 35 and finally started making decent money. I’m completely disgusted by the fact that my dates treated me differently when I picked them up in a Porsche vs. Honda and all of the sudden wanted to explore boutique stores and expensive restaurants expecting me to pay (I never did). It’s also normal these days for women to date and sleep with another guy every day treating us like disposable trash. I’m so done with this and probably never going back to the dating market again. When I want sex, I know where to go!
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I’m a single guy too. House paid off, car paid off, no credit card debt, fat 401k and stock portfolio. 🤑💵💵
Thanks for being so honest about your feelings. This makes you more relatable than just some successful investor on UA-cam 🥰
I appreciate that!
we were in the same class in middle school and I found your videos last year. I was so surprised at first to see you UA-cam famous but it was so delightful too! I am so pleased to see your success and I gain a lot of value from your content. I have been wondering why you are single! you have become the whole package as a man and I you will inevitably attract a woman of equal value.
I refuse to use dating apps. I'll hire a matchmaker and meet someone amazing.
I'm single as well and I'm well to do as well....
I just wanna encourage you that you should hold onto your values and beliefs.
Don't let the world define you... the way you look at relationship/dating is exactly how a good man and a high valued man would look at dating 😂❤
Resonates for single women as well
Exactly.
I relate this this so much. I’m in my 30’s and have been single most of my adult life minus my early 20’s. Things have changed so much with dating over the past 10 years and it’s tough out there. At this point I enjoy being single but that is looked down on by most of society.
I thought you were a financial UA-camr…not a therapist 😂 This is probably the best video I’ve ever watched!
The struggles that women go through in online dating is different for men. Online dating is amplified. Just about all women online have tons of options. Men, (even fairly decent looking ones) have very limited options online vs in person. Women have to deal with creeps online who would not otherwise approach them in real life. Even the most average looking woman is bombarded with messages (good and bad) by tons of men. Online dating does not work for the vast majority (bottom 75 %) of men.
It’s downright dangerous to approach women in public anymore. Myself I enjoy not being in jail too much to risk interacting with the average modern woman. I don’t interact with them unless necessary at work and I definitely don’t mentor female interns anymore. There is nothing but risk there
Being single is hard, because it you from experiencing love and affection.
I can’t believe I’d learn something from your channel about dating.😆 It’s good to learn things from a man’s perspective. I’ve always thought that meeting people face-to-face is better than online dating, but I think that’s just close to impossible nowadays.
Love this video and I completely agree with what you said. Attitude and values > money. ❤
love the different content humphrey! as a woman, i agree w your take that ambition, growth mindset, and generally being a kind, thoughtful, caring, and funny person are the things that matter to me the most. just do your best to be honest and brave in love and you will be happy in the end no matter the result.
I’m 22 making almost 6 figures and I am single. Just saving and investing. The right women will come in time.
Your journey of dating is pretty relatable and sounds real. I am retired single no kids. A good marriage a lot has to do with luck, meeting a person with mutual attraction, similar values, long term goals, and matching life style. Even then, illness and accident can break up the union. Don’t be too picky and enjoy each day together. Wish you luck.
That was a brave video to put out there, but I think you hit the nail on the head. I am so grateful that I met my wife in high school, just before the era of MySpace, as modern social media makes the dating scene a wreck. Good luck on your search. Best advice I could offer is to seek social groups within activities, such as cycling, hiking, academics, art, etc.
Yes, I will confirm. Hope to find a good guy, with a good head on his shoulders who has a general idea of what he wants. Sometimes it seems like a tall order, but I believe it's not too much to ask. Glad I found your channel and that I can learn from you. I love your content but I love that you chose to diversify with this video.
Quickest way to become rich: Stay Single 😂
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Apparently I like the way you analyze and break any topic down even if it’s not finance 😂
You’re right! I am happily married and my husband’s positive mindset and loving personality is definitely what makes it work! Before we met he was working ALL the time and now he works around 6h per day and makes twice as much - if you find someone who is truly important to you and that makes you happy and that you want to continue to impress and care for the money will come…it’s not either or!
It’s time, Humphrey. SF has a good collection of professional matchmakers, do it or at least consider it.
When I had a steady romantic partner, I would inevitably ask myself, "Why am I in this relationship?" Now that I've been single for a couple of years, my friends ask me, 'Why aren't you in a relationship?' Can't please everyone. When you find someone, make sure you are taking care of each other's needs, including the need for time apart.
As a woman, Same !
All I need is MONEY for my personal project and being HEALTHY !
Happy and peace for being SINGLE ! I don’t need the right or wrong person in my life !
Reasonable women that wants a good guy that can provide at least the following lifestyle :
- a 50k wedding
- a 700k house
- instagram vacation twice a year
- a nice car
- private school for children
- fancy restaurants.
But money doesn't matter.
very good understanding of reasonable women nowadays. Humphrey, you should come to China for the top girls in the world with much much less competition in the supply side of guys.
Love this kind of video, you should do more relationship videos! Keep being unbiased 🔥
Humphrey's DMs go brrrrr
haha i hope so
I totally agree with you. It's so much harder to date. Good luck.
Answering the question at 8:55 At least for me all that you're saying is correct. It's financially hard on all of us nowadays, and while it's nice to dream of a sugar daddy to solve all our financial woes, as I get older I notice I care a lot more about a guy's character (especially if I'm going to be spending the next X amount of decades with him).
Is he disciplined, reliable, and dependable? Does he have values he strives to uphold, and approaches challenges with a growth mindset? Is he open-minded? Even if he doesn't have the money now, do I see he has a plan and is actively executing on it? (in reference to what you talked about ambition and a good head on their shoulders)
Do I feel safe and comfortable around him? Do we approach problems as a team instead of unreasonably blaming the other?
And ultimately, do we get along and share the same excitement for life? Can I see us building out something together?
Poor finances is often a point of contention in relationships. Having a certain level of solid financial standing helps avoid that. But beyond that, yeah -- all of the above about character holds true.
Dating apps hurt me so much. Getting 900 swipes did not improve my life. I'm 30 and I met an average looking guy at a party with $90k income but the hugest heart. I couldn't be more satisfied.
😂😂😂😂 definitely nosy, I agree with your perspective on drives and potential rather than the figures. Have gone through the online dating phase, and now content and accepted that the new model just does not work for me and that’s ok 😊 but definitely appreciate the freedom to make self-aware decision that is granted to us in this era. Best of luck to you!
the advice on the money & dating section is great! it's def about values alignment, self awareness, communication, and confidence.
imo often your financial situation matching can be a proxy to shared background and values that led you both to making similar career and financial decisions (especially when you are dating laterish in life, 20s/30s/40s/etc). which is why i think in the dating app-led world, a lot of people use career and money as an initial filter.
Thank yoy for being real on social media, this is very rare! Best of luck, and I'm pretty sure the right person will come along soon!
Bro literally pulled up graphs while talking about love.
You need to stop thinking about it like "man seeking woman" and start thinking about it like "best friend seeking best friend". How did you meet your best friend? Do that again, but with someone you're attracted to. Find a way to find people (host a party, your friends have friends you've never met), find a person that makes you really happy, and try it out. Often when we let go and stop trying so hard, we find what we're looking for :)
There are no rules pie charts graphs attractiveness salary who cares, your happiness is not a statistic. If that's being single that's okay too! Everyone is unique, it's all about being happy and finding people that make you happy. You get one life and sometimes it sucks, make the most of it.