How To Deal With Imposter Syndrome
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- Опубліковано 27 бер 2024
- Conquering Imposter Syndrome: Strategies and Insights
Imposter Syndrome, a pervasive feeling of self-doubt and fear of being exposed as a fraud, affects many, especially those in creative and professional fields. This video delves into the heart of Imposter Syndrome, showcasing how even acclaimed actress Meryl Streep struggles with these feelings. It highlights the importance of vulnerability in creativity and the danger of letting our egos dictate our self-perception. The video offers practical advice for overcoming these insecurities by embracing a learner's mindset, focusing on growth, and employing non-violent communication to objectively evaluate one's work without self-judgment. By acknowledging our true selves and our core skills, irrespective of the field, we can navigate through the oscillation of taste and skill, ultimately reducing the gap between perceived and actual abilities. The speaker, sharing personal breakthroughs and mental strategies, encourages viewers to compare themselves only to their past selves, not to others, as a measure of growth. This empowering narrative urges us to find joy in our journey, emphasizing learning and authenticity over perfection and external validation.
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Host: Chris Do (Bald Asian Guy Talks About Business)
The speed at which I clicked on this notification 😅
Love that level of commitment!
Same here. Already recommending it to my designer friend
I actually stopped the video I'm editing to watch this 😂
If I can get this mindset, 2024 will be the best year of my life. Thanks Chris
I am guessing because you are an imposter and looking for a good excuse to not feel like one? 🤔 Made up 'syndrome'.
A quote I read some years ago that really. cheer me up when considering myself ready to sell my skills: you don’t have to be the best in the world to do something, you just need to be better than your client
That's a good one, i had to copy that to keep it for later.
Amen
"when you compare, look backwards, not forwards" 🗣️
thank you Chris and team for your wisdom!
Meryl Streep fearing she'll be seen as talentless hits hard. Even legends doubt themselves. It’s all about embracing the journey, learning, and growing.
She could also just be saying that to be more likable to her audience 🤷🏻♂️ she is an actor after all
"Comparison is the thief of joy", that's a great quote.
I think about this one a lot. Good to remind yourself regularly.
Chris is really the only bald guy with a mic that I listen to on the internet
Haha there's a lot of us out there now, so thank you.
Joe Rogan reference
V Sauce HERE!!!
Sometimes the imposter syndrome hits me hard and I become paralyzed. Thank you for your words, the comparison really is a big villain.
What bothers me is when I share stuff with family that's way more interesting then what they look at and they act like it's boring, but then expect me to be into the boring crap they like..
You can tell he really has dealt with that emotion before. He almost never shakes while speaking, but he did a little bit when he said that he dealt with it. Dude is authentic and I’m here for it 👍
"Comparison is the thief of Joy" Quote of the day for me.
Perimenopause had me thinking I’m an imposter & that I suck at what I do!
It’s been a real struggle for the past few years, but my mind is clearing & I’m finally able to believe in myself again. I miss being creative… slowly but surely it’s making a come back. Videos like this, help me keep pushing forward. Thanks, Chris!
Rooting for you.
Stay focused on what the child inside you loves❤
Thanks for talking about it, feel in the same boat and can attest to it Chris if anxiety comes in and I try to force it, it all goes chaotic and doesn't serve my higher self. Baby steps to get back my design mojo.
This honestly has been an Achilles heel for me.
I'm glad someone else, that is a creative, understands this and I'll do my best to trust me more
Thank you so much. I've been beating myself up for a mistake i made during the photoshoot of my 1st collection. I compared my photos and designs to some well-known designers who have been in the game for more than 30years.
Now i realise I'm pretty good for a self-taught designer. I clearly cannot compare myself to them. I've made massive progress in 3 years. I didn't even know how to use a sewing machine 3 years ago, today I'm making haute couture garments. 🙏🙏
That's awesome, sounds like you have come a long way.
U sound like the last person who should have imposter syndrome! Look at what u told us about ur life, u have basically performed alchemy on urself. 🤷🏽♂️💪🏽
@@d2dar459 thank you
It's even better to not think about yourself at all. Just do what you're doing, including public speaking. Do not evaluate yourself. Do not focus on your perception of yourself. If someone is listening to you, it means you are worth it.
This made me tear up fr 😭 almost 6 years in my career, lucky enough to have held the same job yet I still feel this looming, dreadful feeling. Thank you for these reminders!
Compare yourself to your previous self, not some imagined future self that has achieved.🙌🏾
For me, 'Don't look at it from where you'd like to go' hit the nail.
Marshal Rosenberg, Non-violent Communication: A Language for Life. I bought both of my adult kids that book for Christmas this past year. I’ve been recommending the book for decades, if you want to communicate better in your relationships
Agreed. That book changed the way I talked to myself and communicated with others. I am wondering where the free workshop is that he mentioned in this video. 🤔
Goodness gracious Chris, you have no idea how much I needed this right now. I'm a noob in a field which I LOVE with all my heart, and man, how it breaks 💔 when I make all those (totally expected) beginner screw-ups. I'm not close to my family here, and all my elders are either in the next life, or too frail to be burdened. This felt like a talk with a wise Uncle that was really needed right now. Go well Chris, and thank you 🙏
Glad to help!
I relate. Skateboarder. Neurodivergent. Wanting to learn and wanting to provide for a family. Imposter. Much love Chris.
The moment at 1:22 was profound. The explanation of the separation of our two selves is beautifully simple. Understanding and embracing it at the age of 41 feels incredibly liberating. Thank you for sharing such a powerful wisdom with illustration.
Watching vids while working and this has been posted for only 2 minutes? NICE
Hope you enjoyed it!
@@thefutur Of course! I always take away something when watching these vids
Ya boy blew my mind with that 8 minute piece. Dear lord, let the truth set us all free. That added something of value to my life. Thank you.
Loved the bit in the beginning about creative people being in connection with their feelings and tappning into them
I'm beginning a job as a teacher in a couple of weeks ( audiovisual and photographic design) and I'm kinda scared shitless to start this new career. But lately I've been thinking you know what: this time I am NOT going to make it so hard on myself. I am good enough. No more perfectionism and self doubt. I know lots and lots by working the field for more then 10 years and I'm bringing that to the table and I am here to keep learning. Might as well enjoy that journey.
When is it enough to feel confident and calm about your own abilities and talents, you know ? Damnit this imposter syndrome has sucked me into a good amount of depression before and i refuse to stay stuck in that pattern. While watching this video I was thinking: my god this hits home.... I wish someone had helped me back then and told me this before.
That is why I wrote every word of this down and I feel excited to teach my new students to think this way as well. I love this message, and I know lots of people need to hear this. Wholeheartedly; Thank you.
My Achilles Heel, Analysis Paralysis and Imposter Syndrome 😢😢😢
Thank you for the video. I really really needed this! 🙏
You got this!
Truth be told, this is really impactful Chris. "Compare yourself with the previous version of yourself". Thank you
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Chris what I love about your philosophy and teachings is that I can really feel your love doing it, you just feel really comfortable and confident and that is inspiring for me! Thank you for this video, amazing!
I love how honest you are. Love the strategies and insights your presenting, we all in some degree place to much pressure on being this imaginary person we portray for ourselves and end up falling short.
The best part was the fact that this topic was talked about.
Can't explain how hard it is being self taught (well, watching UA-cam tutorials to learn graphic design) and the feeling of "is this right?", "am I getting it right?", "what if it doesn't work out?", "what if after so much time trying to learn... I'm still not good enough?". Ahhh man, so many questions.
Truth is, I've thought a lot about the things Chris has said even before hearing him say them, but it's just like he spoke in one of the videos with Ben Burns where he said, "sometimes we just want someone who we respect, who has more experience than us to give us the go ahead..." (I'm paraphrasing).
Anyway, you guys are a blessing🙇
😅😅just poured out my thoughts in a small comment section. Sorry about that🙇
Thank you so much again Chris, that words of "compare yourself to where you came from" struck hard with me. Cheers!
Great timing for this. I just had an album project rejected from Artlist which was a bit of a punt as I've dabbled in music production for a decade and a half and have never tried to monetise it. Put out a video about it, dusted myself down and now I'm onto the next creative project with a bunch of new skills and a 12-track album I wouldn't have finished without taking on the challenge.
That growth mindset has got me through so many 'failed' creative projects and even though I'm not at the standard I'd like to be at with my music, I can look back a decade and see how far I've come.
Thanks for the video Chris and the Futur crew. It's helped me feel like I'm on the right path!
This was just the video i needed today. There are probably other videos that talk about imposter syndrome, but hearing these words from you is more reassuring. Thanks Chris🙏
Such a great point that the "imposter syndrome" feeling surfaces again with every phase in your career or life. I'm struggling with this as a Senior especially in a market that's changing so quickly. Thank you! We need this right now.
"Compare yourself to the person you were just a few years or months ago." That is really good advice!
Sometimes a few days or even hours is enough.
I coach people to facilitate online. One of the things I tell them to get over many of the hang ups they might have is that it's not about you, it's about them. Once we get out of our own heads and understand that we're all looking for some kind of benefit, help, support or guidance in this crazy world the path becomes a bit more clear. If someone can help them achieve those things, great! Keep em coming. No one thinks about any of those things going around in your mind, that might be stressing you. Keep the learnings coming, Chris. I'm happy to keep listening, on my learning journey.
I’ve watched so many of your videos. You have to be the most emotionally intelligent person I’ve ever felt like I’ve met.
Thank you for this 🙏
It’s definitely the biggest obstacle that has stood in my way all these years. Even today 😕
Regardless of the facts.
I know it’s irrational, but I still struggle.
Thanks for sharing! We all struggle with this at some point.
That really hit home.. ALOTT of amazing advice, you never really think about it in that type of context and with that type of perspective. Definitely gonna be applying this in my day to day
I really appreciate all the value that you’s offer!
OMG😮 this showed up at times when I needed it most. Today I visited 157th Annual International show of American Watercolor Society. The reason being one of the paintings in exhibit was mine. I know, It's a big deal to be one of the exhibiting artists. But when I was in NYC admiring other artists' work, I thought the most unsuitable piece of art is mine in the entire exhibit. The other paintings are way better then me, off course those artist are senior and accomplished and this was the first time my painting got accepted, but for moment I kinda forgot that. This video encouraged me to think positively about my work. Even though I am not there, I haven't give up 😊
Thanks so very much Chris, every now and then I run into the darkest forest of Imposter Syndrome but now I can see I am not alone here. The part which really stunned me is 7:12
«Look at all these people, Who the hell invited me?» Is exactly what I’m going through right now. Going to talk next week, just a bit, and I there was so much in this video that was just right on the money.
There was a lot of really good advice for me here, and I really appreciate the visual description of inverting the lens. That image should be manageable to hold onto when I’m in the middle of it, thanks!
@7:12 I replayed this a couple times, and each time I replayed this sequence, it made more sense and helped with my own understanding of imposter syndrome.
It sucks, yes. But hearing it outloud, helps make it more manageable.. and palpable
of the struggles it is to be an artist in our own works, and able to work through day in and day out.
No matter what; persistence, we get there to our destination and dreams 💕
You’re fast becoming one of my top favourite people to listen to 🤙🏻
Cried hearing this entire talk. Really needed this. Thank you.
Absolutely resonates with me! Imposter syndrome is such a common struggle among creatives. Embracing our true selves and focusing on growth rather than comparison is key. Thanks for sharing these insights!
Absolutely! Thanks for watching and always dropping a comment.
thank you for replying each time ^^@@thefutur
What a timely upload! Thank you so much Chris ❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
There was mo best part of this video. Literally beginning to end is GOLD. Very helpful and motivational - thank you for this video
How can you guys read my mind?
Maybe this is the most important piece of content i needed to watch right now!
Thanks Chris and The Team❤
I really needed this Chris, thank you so much.
I am a Graphic Design student who really struggled with Imposter Syndrome during my second year of Graphic Design. My first year I was a solid honour student but second year I struggled really relate to not being grounded and basically holding ourselves to a high standard when really the learning has just begun and I am going to spend many more years learning. Had to get grounded for sure.
I believe sometimes people confuse imposter syndrome with doubt, by not realizing that doubt can be an emotional habit always present, questioning and judging everything, even if the person is sure of their knowledge and intentions and moves forward with certainty.
With imposter syndrome the person fears to be caught as they are presenting themself as more than they are or that others might be seeing them as more than they are (it can be a fact or just limiting beliefs) but most often it's just the habit of doubt arising in everything they do. Probably because so often they were told they were no good, they learned to justify and explain themselves. Basically doubt is this cenario of 1. Accusation - You're not good!, 2. Questioning - Is this not good?, 3 - Confirming - yes, this is good!, over and over in our own minds.
Love this. Fashion Designer here and yea imposter syndrome is definitely something I deal with. Sat in my postgraduate program and felt like an imposter
I love this Chris, as someone who has also suffered from imposter syndrome as long as I can remember this really resonated.
Thanks for sharing your valuable wisdom.
Feeling this. Needed this. 🙏🏼
Joined a startup last year which went bankrupt 6 months ago and I can’t “get back in the game” with all the layoffs, competition, employers market, etc. I’m a senior product designer btw. Had a career on a roll for years until now. Has got me seriously thinking about “me” - thinking I should change course…
Saving this video to remember where I came from. Such great words and advice, priceless. Thank so much for all that you and the team do!
Been going through a rough month so I really needed to hear this, thank you 🙏
This was one of the most helpful things I have watched in a long time. Thank you
I feel so at peace watching this. Very stabilizing🙏 You are such an authentic speaker; I really appreciate this message and the way you’ve offered it.
Thanks for this. Really helpful. I'll have this one on repeat whenever I need to hear this and remind myself. Much thanks!
Seeing Chris Do so vulnerable almost made me cry. I remember watching him explaon all these top-notch design concepts for Graphika Manila back in high school, and I thought I could never achieve that sense of calm and professionalism. After this, I realized that we all start somewhere. That those depressive nights weren't worthless after all.
Thank you for sharing your story:)
This was very needed, and I saved this video to come back to in a time of doubt!
Thank you so much for sharing this. i had to hear that at this point in time.
It's fascinating how, despite often advising others about personal, professional, and mental growth, I found myself falling into the very trap of feeling unworthy of what I’ve achieved so far. It seems that having accomplished a significant amount up to now has paradoxically made me feel pressured to achieve even greater things, instead of simply continuing to take the next steps and showing up again.
I guess this also stems from the feeling that I am just before a big step, which makes everything I've done so far seem like just a warm-up, even though these achievements are substantial both personally and in comparison to others.
Your insights were a timely reminder for me, and I appreciate it.
keep up the fresh and valuable content.
✊✨🙏🛸
I think this is the best episode ever made from this channel. [no ego, no profit margin talking , no ‘im better than you, im worth it” scenario ]
This was good. 🎉
Thank you so much Christian Do. I love the last part about comparison
Thank you for sharing-this message is so helpful: comparing to past self and focusing on progress rather idealized self or other people. I’ve felt way out of my element sometimes at work and beat myself up over every mistake-but trying to remember this is a learning and growing process.
Chris, has anyone ever told you, throughout your life, that you had a talent for teaching or whatever? I am fairly confident that MOST of the best to have ever done it at their respective fields displayed talent at a young age.
For example, my kids are 6 and 5, and display great talent for music. If they continue, I imagine they will be professional violinists/pianists.
They were fortunate to have been nurtured by their environment to reach their potential. I think most people, including me, struggle with Imposter Syndrome because we have to work harder to even gain a fraction of the success.
I think I’ve secretly known that my calling is teaching.
This topic really resonated with me, thank you for sharing! I think it’s a topic everyone may or may not be aware of and you did a great job explaining what it is and how you dealt with it in the past.
I am dealing with impostor syndrome the most because i just launched a tiktok marketing agency despite having a background in IT. But i learned from youtube, tiktok and implement all the strategies the coaches teaches. And it worked. Now it landed me in a spot where i am in a network of other great agencies who are doing 6-7 figures per month. And here i am, still learning but they think that i am doing great.
Watching this video really helped me. If i was to compare myself to 6 months ago, yeah i progressed a lot.
The part where it makes sense the most for me was when u said "When you compare look backwards not forwards"
Thank you.
Not sure which part is my favourite. Actually it was a huge relief to find out that I am not alone , that many people are struggling with the same feeling. Half a year ago I figured out that my biggest inner enemy is the thought that I am boring, worthless, that I cannot offer nothing interesting or valued. Which is awful for a designer. And I am fighting since then with it. So this video is really helping me in my inner journey.
A huge thank you ❤
Imposter syndrome is a sign of real internal and external growth, if it's genuine, and it's also an imposter itself because you aren't nothing, there is nothing for anyone to find out, you are you, just keep going and keep getting better
This was SO GOOD. I love real and raw. And I love listening to the wisdom Chris shares. More of this style please
Thankyou so much Chris! I was going through the same thing today but your this video gave me strength & clarity. Have a great day!
So glad!
Something I really needed to hear... thank you 😊
7:35 I love the part where he said to not compare yourself to the best version Gary V.
This are 8.45 min of pure Chris Gold! 🏆
Really needed to get this today. Thank you
So many hits in this video. Love this! This was what I needed! Thank you 🙏🏻 God bless!
Wow! Wow! Wow! I needed this! Thank you!!
Thanks for the productive authenticity!
This came in time. Thank you😭
Love you Chris. I needed this today!
BLESSED YET AGAIN
About the ending quote, I would add: try to not even compare backward. Because sometimes you’ll think you were better before (less anxious, more sociable, healthier,etc). But the self is in constant evolution and to compare backwards is to compare with a different person. Maybe your environment was totally different and you had different challenges then. You’re still on a path and you’re still learning and making progress. You can do this.
This video changed my day, thank you! Very wise ❤
Much needed! Thanks for this Chris.
I needed to hear this. Thank you Chris. Great reminder for me. 🙏🏻
The amount of time I'd send a project to a client and thinking how garbage my work was and how disappointed they will be, yet they always were extremely happy about it, I'd send my work to many people I know before to make sure it wasn't as bad as I thought it was, it's hard to let go !
I'm actually trying to find a permanent position to not be a freelancer anymore and maybe feel less often (or as much) that need to always grow, outwork anyone and learn new things every second possible to stay relevant but the imposter syndrome is a b*tch that's for sure 🤧
Tame the beast
This actually applies to all people. what a great video.
This might be your most important video 👏 always such an inspiration, Chris.
Glad you think so!
I needed this. Thank you ❤
Thanks 👍 Chris. I really need this.
Love the resources you always give!
I’m here to learn! Interesting power behind it. Thank you to remind us Chris for that simple phrase! That’s what I learn here again!
Taste/skill has been kicking my azz and its time for me to stop the madness!
This is something I needed to hear today! Thank u so much
You are so welcome!
Thank you so much Chris.
This was very healing.
Thank you.
I recently discovered you Chris. I’m so glad I did. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Welcome!