SAME Q&A 2 YEARS APART - 3 Kids, Speech Delay & Leaving London & My Job...how'd that go?! SJ STRUM

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  • Опубліковано 15 лис 2024

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  • @ashleywoodall458
    @ashleywoodall458 4 роки тому +50

    Just wanted to share my news! I just found out that I'm having my first girl! I have two boys, Kellen and Ronan, and I'll have a little Dorthy(spelled that way because it's the way my grandma spelled her name). ❤️

    • @phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690
      @phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690 4 роки тому +2

      Congrats i have 2 daughters . You will have lots of fun . My gram is also banned dorothy that's a cute name

    • @morwennas9247
      @morwennas9247 4 роки тому +2

      oh congratulations!! and those are all such cute names!! i love them!!

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +4

      Wow Ashley!! That's amazing, the same as me! I'm so happy for you all and gorgeous name xx

    • @hellybelle5
      @hellybelle5 4 роки тому +2

      How fab! I know a Dorthy 😊 I kept spelling it with the other o, and was mortified when I realised 😳 I've been told the best way to tell people is to say the name, then spell it immediately, before the person asks. My children all have names that people struggle with, so that's what I do now 😊

  • @becomingbindy
    @becomingbindy 4 роки тому +15

    I'm a speech and language therapist and it's so interesting and useful to hear a parent's perspective on how difficult it can be to accept ❤ so glad he's doing well!

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +3

      IT really can, and it's really hard to be their at home 'teacher' and also their one 'safe person' who does understand them. xxx

  • @charlottehardy1158
    @charlottehardy1158 4 роки тому +7

    I remember you talking about Finns speech delay. I messaged you, i had the same problem with my little boy, he is now 6 and speaks amazingly and all the time 💞
    It really helped me knowing i wasn’t the only mum going through speech delay so thank you xxx 😘😘

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +2

      Ahhhh I know!! Can you believe they're out the other side....it's actually something that felt so so far off but time does fly doesn't it. And they'll be such kind empathetic people due to it, I can see how much Finn looks out for vulnerable kids and I'm sure its because he got so good at body language!

    • @charlottehardy1158
      @charlottehardy1158 4 роки тому

      😘💞😘

  • @gemmadriver4166
    @gemmadriver4166 4 роки тому +10

    Looking forward to your update on Finn! I watched your first videos about his speech delay when my eldest was 1. He is now almost 3 and turns out he also has a speech delay. Thankfully he is finally making progress now but rewatching your videos made me feel much better about it 🙂

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +1

      Gemma D that’s brilliant! It’s so hard at first to get to grips with and I’m so happy it helped; honestly makes me so pleased I chatted about it xx

  • @mrskfk6492
    @mrskfk6492 4 роки тому +4

    I have a nearly 3 year-old girl and a 9 year-old boy, and there are lots of big plus points, but sometimes it’s tricky to satisfy two kids of such different ages at the same time. And agreed - the elder child going to bed later is hard. I miss the 7pm bedtime! 😬 But they are a lot of fun, too - and you can have proper conversations. He blows my mind on a regular basis!
    I’d love Mrs Meldrum and Emily Norris to do this video 💫
    And finally, it’s so kind that you reached out to that new school mum. I’m sure it meant SO much to her! x

  • @LaraJoannaJarvis
    @LaraJoannaJarvis 4 роки тому +2

    Really enjoyed this! You've carved out an incredible job during your "mat leave" 😂 and always give the very best advice, I cherish our friendship and can't wait to see what the next 2 years brings you!! xxxx

  • @RitchAbility
    @RitchAbility 4 роки тому +1

    You are incredible!! I am in total awe of you. Your style your parenting your vivacious personality and sass I love watching every video you do but especially your baby names Q&A and your charity shop shopping I’ve been watching some of your easy cook things on Instagram I’d like you to do more of this on your channel as you know I have a disability and they are really easy meals for me to create so thank you xx

  • @shazypops
    @shazypops 4 роки тому +14

    I used to live in Surrey and we moved to the Midlands. It aaaaaalways makes me laugh when people compare Surrey transport to London and say there's nothing. If you live in my parent's village, they litterally have 2 buses out... PER WEEK 😂 If I miss the train to our main shopping town, it's at least an hour to the next. This one always makes me laugh on the tube, when people miss one and have two wait a whole 120 seconds for the next 😂😂 it's just so funny how it's so different in one place to another.

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +3

      My parents used to live in a tiny village and when I visited them from London I walked everywhere so so fast - ha ha ha! They were always like 'slow down there's nowhere to be' - definitely hard to slow down and get used to the one bus an hour!

  • @luciainthesky9700
    @luciainthesky9700 4 роки тому +7

    Thanks for a lovely open and honest video! Really enjoyed it xx

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +1

      Lucia In the Sky ah thanks Lucia!!! Xxx

  • @emmamp6212
    @emmamp6212 4 роки тому +3

    I remember your video 2 years ago, my son was also 1 then - he’s now 3 and we are dealing with a speech delay! So it’s lovely to have followed your story and know we will make it to the other side :) so thank you to you and Finn for sharing xxx

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому

      Ahhh that's amazing isn't it - I was so worried about Finn's speech delay and scared for his future at school but it's so different now, it feels like we're coming out the other side xxxx

  • @bibliophilelady6106
    @bibliophilelady6106 4 роки тому +3

    This was lovely. I enjoyed hearing about your personal journey with your son's speech delay. I am a teacher and so often when parents come in and there is something going on with their child that is not exactly on the schedule their parent books told them to expect they become so defensive and resistant. When you see thousands of kids in your career though, you really see that everyone gets to where they need to at their own pace. You seem like a great mom, and I am sure you son will have a beautiful and successful life. On a different topic, I live in the States, so I had to google how far it was from London to Surrey to understand your moving story. If that feels way too far from your friends, you really shouldn't consider coming to the US or Canada. Many of us drive that far for daily commutes. Our sense of distance is very different from yours!

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +1

      Bibliophile Lady I heard a really lovely saying once that children are like popcorn and they all pop at different time’s 😂🥰🥰🥰 it helped me a bit :-) and yes totally!!! I’m 40 minutes drive from my old town on a bad traffic day and I felt so displaced 😬

  • @TheRashidies
    @TheRashidies 4 роки тому +5

    Thank you for sharing that speech delay isn’t our fault as a mum. I’m a full time working mum and my 2 year old isn’t talking and I cry so much that it’s my fault. But being a second child people keep saying it will happen when it happens. Mum guilt is real but it’s rarely our fault!

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +1

      OMG I cried each and every night blaming myself, I also thought his speech improved so quickly when I had a week off with him etc. BUT I think I'd just 'tuned in' and there wasn't really any change. It's totally not our fault, does he have any allergies at all? I"m sure Finn's was originally linked to allergies but I also learnt there's NO point looking for WHY's as that just stumped me with the guilt...when I just put one foot in front of the other it was fine. Like Freddie needs glasses now, that's not my fault - so why would I blame myself for speech delay? It's hard but you are not to blame and DO get help asap as it doesn't just happen sadly xxx

  • @bennet8388
    @bennet8388 4 роки тому +10

    Can we see your entire kitchen? It looks lovely :)

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +2

      Yes I'll film a tour next week! xxx

  • @staceyheim4955
    @staceyheim4955 4 роки тому +1

    Aw I’m sorry that was so hard! It definitely has basically nothing to do with parents. I mean obviously sometimes when children are neglected and come into foster care, you see delays. But for the normal situation, some kids talk a ton when they are one and some are still hard to understand when they are three and THATS OKAY. They are still brilliant, they are still loved and they still have awesome personalities

  • @ellenfisher2252
    @ellenfisher2252 4 роки тому +5

    Hello! I'm not a mum but my childhood has always been that, even though I don't have as much time with my parents as my sister (whose younger), I know that I still had that same time when I was her age. Just always remember that they can sort themselves out as well and even if you don't spend as much time with your eldest, remember that they are older and they are getting more independent, each child needs something different and maybe encourage them to read on their own before bed and say good night earlier, then you get your evening back but they are still staying up a little later. Hope that makes sense :)

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +3

      Ellen Fisher yes it does; I just need to adjust to his age and him being the oldest he will always be the first to do these changes; it’s all a big curve! X

    • @ellenfisher2252
      @ellenfisher2252 4 роки тому +2

      SJ Strum yes exactly. I still know my parents love me: there are so many different ways of showing love, you could even have a few hours each Saturday (alternating) to do something they really want to do :) xx

  • @julia.carino
    @julia.carino 3 роки тому

    I have a 7 year age gap between myself and my brother and I loved it! it’s so valuable to have an older sibling set an example and help you navigate through the world💜

  • @lifewithlisaonyt
    @lifewithlisaonyt 4 роки тому +1

    Such a great idea to do an update on a Q&A. 💗

  • @helengrant6310
    @helengrant6310 4 роки тому +5

    I agree.. having 10 year old is tough, but a lot of laughs. I'm very similar in that my oldest is 10 and my youngest is 3. It's difficult because they have such different needs and don't often play together.. more just annoy each other! 🤣

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +1

      It's so different isn't it at this gap! I feel like once Evelina is 10 and has a 16 year old brother the whole house will be so much more grown up, whereas he still comes to soft play and goes to bed early. So so strange to imagine!! x

  • @sophbev88
    @sophbev88 4 роки тому +1

    Oh I totally relate to the speech delay. My sons 7 and is totally fine now he was signed off from speech therapy age 5 but it was so hard. More so from other people. They would make so many comments. It's so stressful at the time.

  • @jeanbb3283
    @jeanbb3283 4 роки тому

    SO interesting, thank you SJ! You are you’re family are such lovely human beings x

  • @rachaelwilson9935
    @rachaelwilson9935 4 роки тому

    Makes me very happy to hear how well Finns speech is developing, not that I ever doubted it would with such a supportive family around him 💙

  • @katiequirk4899
    @katiequirk4899 4 роки тому +1

    Amazing video as always SJ xx

  • @234justdance
    @234justdance 4 роки тому +2

    I currently study Creative Advertising at university and I can’t believe I never knew that’s what you did! It’s my absolute dream!

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +1

      Ahh it's so much fun! You'll love it - such great people in ad agencies too. xxx

    • @234justdance
      @234justdance 4 роки тому

      SJ Strum I know I’ve got so much hard graft ahead of me to actually get into the industry but I’m so excited !x

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +1

      @@234justdance I started on reception at an Ad Agency after my degree, then did admin for a team and then convinced them to put me on the Graduate Training Scheme which was brilliant. I learnt a lot doing the basics xx

    • @234justdance
      @234justdance 4 роки тому

      SJ Strum Thats such a fab way of doing it! I’m starting to put my book together and trying to win placements! Honestly though, my goal is to bring more females into the industry, to have female icons to look up to, as we learn pretty much solely about men.

    • @234justdance
      @234justdance 4 роки тому

      You’ve only inspired me more!x

  • @houseofhutton3294
    @houseofhutton3294 4 роки тому

    Just want to say I’m watching this while eating on of your genius stir fry bag wrap things 😄

  • @khbarrelracer12
    @khbarrelracer12 4 роки тому +7

    Hey SJ!! 😍

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +5

      Ah hey Kara!! Thanks for watching my late upload!! :-)) xxx

  • @amay4203
    @amay4203 4 роки тому

    Ahhh I live in Richmond! Didn't know you used to live here.

  • @carolinewall4182
    @carolinewall4182 4 роки тому +2

    Omg it’s taken me two years to feel at peace with our move to the country!!! But my work and business is going crazy in Adelaide so we may be moving back! Gah all our couple friends live in different states! I feel ya! Haha 😆

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому

      Ahhh that's so exciting though!!!! And you've had those 2 years, change is good! xxxx

  • @midnightmnrise
    @midnightmnrise 2 роки тому

    Maybe you should do this again, it’s been another 2 years since this one

  • @rpark5605
    @rpark5605 4 роки тому +2

    ❤️🇨🇦 Canada is a great place to live. I would love to live in Scandinavia, however the language is a bit of a problem.

  • @CrazyLady-NoCats
    @CrazyLady-NoCats 4 роки тому +1

    I’m a future video or here in the comments can you talk about the age gap & relationship of your boys 9 and 6? How do you find they play together and are their needs on the same playing field?

  • @vee6800
    @vee6800 4 роки тому +7

    I remember that q & a

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +4

      Eva Daniels ah no way!! I remember filming it and it was all so new in my new area x

  • @tegan-annwall5166
    @tegan-annwall5166 4 роки тому +2

    I’m about to have my first (due 13th of May but being induced early) and I already know I have to find work at the end of the year. I’m not sure how I feel about it at the moment, he will be 6 months and I just feel it’s to young to leave him especially as I want to breast feed, but my husband can’t support us on his own

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому

      Exactly, you'll need both incomes and my only advice is to find childcare super early (you can even book in pregnancy) so you don't feel that pressure at the end of Mat Leave. Unless you have family to help, we loved our childminder - she was so gentle and kind and became a great support to me getting Freddie into a good routine etc. xxxx

  • @anny7408
    @anny7408 4 роки тому +3

    What do everybody think of Liam for a girl? I feel like it sounds sweet and cute :)

    • @Jellybellyirish
      @Jellybellyirish 4 роки тому +1

      😬

    • @SJ_Strum
      @SJ_Strum  4 роки тому +2

      Liam, it's so popular for boys it might be a hard one but them James is used for girls now so why not! It sounds very feminine!

    • @anny7408
      @anny7408 4 роки тому

      SJ Strum thank you!! I will think abou it❤️

  • @staringanime
    @staringanime 4 роки тому

    💜💙

  • @DrinkingByMyShelf
    @DrinkingByMyShelf 4 роки тому +1

    This whole time I thought you DID live in Sweden I don’t know why!